Well said. And given the mother abandoned OP to go on vacation with her new family; if someone got wind of that, they would contact social services to remove him from her, place him in foster care, and then with a kind and loving adoptive family.
Well, depends on the kid! If the kid is an a-hole then that is justified, but according to the description this guy wasn't. It's not like you sign your life away when you have a kid, hell the best parents IMHO are those who (while willing to make sacrifices for their kids) don't give up on being their own person, with hobbies, even dreams! Yes, you might not get as far as you might have without a kid and you should (within reason) do a lot for the kid, but you should also not always put yourself second! Hell, my own father (note: I hate my lying, cheating, thieving mother, so yeah I am quite focused on my dad) had hobbies (he still does! Hell, the guy has more stamina than I do and he's 65 (!)) while raising me (with my stepmother).
@@danacarter9147 Yes this sucks - my own mother did something similar! She went on rehab after surgery and basically left me with the key to her apartmen, her dog and a few hundred bucks for food! I made it about a week (loved being on my own for a while)...after that I called my dad to fetch me (I had no driver's license and no car back then) and he did...I dropped the key off with a neighbour my mother designated as "she'll help you if need anything" (would have talked to the neighbour, but she was not there when I rang) ps: Wouldn't social services call the father (joint custody - which would then give him custody if she's removed from joint custody, right?) to get him?
@@girl1213 Except the "reason" was all based on a lie. That is the point they were making above. Essentially he was being an ass only to find out he had not reason to be
The mum using the fact that she sacrificed so much as emotional manipulation is disgusting not only that every parent sacrifice's for their kid it doesn't make her special.
I think if we dig further we'd find it's only the dad who made sacrifices to live in the same city. The mom probably never got any big job opportunities or a romantic relationship either. Men normally knows when a woman is nuts. That stepfather Jake didn't know because he's a 42 years old man child. That's why he didn't treat op bad because he isn't a bad man but also not an adult either.
Reminds me of something I was thinking about a few weeks ago. I'd been joking with my little brother about how he "owes me his life" because I saved his life twice when he was a toddler. Right as I said that though, I was disgusted with myself for saying it, even as a joke. I didn't save him so that he'd be indebted to me, I did it to save him. My brother, who's currently 9, doesn't owe me shit, and I told him as much right after making that joke. The fact that this mom tried to say "I gave up so much for you" is disgusting.
I was taught various guns and knives by the age of 10. There's PLENTY a 16 year old can do to defend his home turf with that knowledge. You are the weak spot in this one, sad to say.
@@zarroth you're wrong because we don't know if he's done self defence or trained to fight. how the hell would an inexperienced kid be able to fight armed robbers? seems you are the weak spot, sad to say
@@zarroth huh? I was taught various guns and knives from age 8, doesn't mean I had complete access to the guns, a knife can only do so much if there's multiple people which there usually tends to be. Your brain is the weak spot of your life
To begin with, isn't going to vacation with her family, and without OP, the definition of ABANDONMENT OF A MINOR, also the treatment towards OP from Jake and Co. count as a form of abuse?
@@kos2919 i was asking because, wouldn't that be enough to file a report to the police? Because así de from abandonment it could potebtially count as endangerment of a minor as well. Dad should have called the police as well aside from demanding( and obtaining) full custody. After all the mother is a monster for subjecting her child to all that.
I would reply saying "you spent three years around me infront of my mum and alone, in those three years did you ever think this is wrong? That I have never done or acted in anyway like how she described, how your own kids hated me because of what you told them but they never came to you about me treating them wrong. You may have been lied to but your actions are your own, you are an adult and you chose not to change in years. Your kids however are still children and their faults still lay with you, they watched you be cruel and thought that is the right way to treat others. I hope they can grow up and change and be better than the pair of you" If op sends something like that it might remind him he made his own kids just as bad as him over something between adults and didn't correct it in years.
The new man is jealous of the attention that you get from mom. He will sabotage you, every chance he gets, watch your back. Also he wants to be the only grown male telling your mom what to do.
@@Chuckakhan Indeed! Don't make MY mistake! My own mum is similar to that mother and I frankly never sued her...should have, but my own dad is too good-natured and always talked me out of it (I don't get my dad! She cheated, she hurt him, she used me to hurt him, too (note: He had full custody, but she had visitation, so she used that to hurt him by for example flying to France with me, without telling him first and by allowing me to basically go wild while I was staying with her, so I came back expecting the same freedoms at home, which my dad of course didn't grant, which led to many - partially even justified IMHO because having strict rules sucks if none of your friends do - arguments and fights! Still, he didn't want me to take her to court, something I'll never understand!)
There is a high probability that he would have been there when it was robbed, and he could have been injured or killed. But all she cares about is the items taken....bye mom, see you never
"You should have been home when the robbers came after seeing me and my new husband and kids leave for vacation! Maybe you'd scare them off, maybe you'd get killed. Now we'll never know and we lost the TV. This is all your fault!" - Mother of the Year.
Her logic was that robbers will usually stay clear of a house with clear signs of activity, which is not wrong tbh. But her behaviour and abandonment of her kid is still abject and she fully deserved to have her house emptied. Robbers probably saw the house completely left alone and got a payday for it.
So here is something i don't understand- If Jake thought OP was this terrible horrible delinquent why DID he decide to leave OP alone in his house for a whole week? why didn't they go on their holiday when OP was with dad or demand OP go back to dad while they went away? As for mom's 'she wanted them to be a HAPPY family' how could they be a happy family when she was sowing distrust and suspicion?
@mnomadvfx There's a good chance it is, but humans are inconsistent quite often. Sometimes because they're leaving something out, they're emotional and can't write quite right, etc. But there is a good 50/50 chance it's AI.
OP's dad should go full scorched earth. Full custody, no visitation and she has to pay child support. Jake is massive C U Next Tuesday. Not even bothering to talk to OP? He didn't even try to establish a relationship? Well OP's mom is proof that a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness
There was one story on Reddit where an OP (who was a cop) arrested a guy for SA’ing his teenage stepdaughter. And when they told the girl’s mother what her husband had done, the woman asked the cops to take her daughter away instead.
Mom is an evil tart, but Jake! He's a complete ah! This started when op was 13y/o. In 3 yrs he didn't realize his wife was lying? He was complicit in mistreating a child. What a dummy.
Even worse given the fact that she was the cause of it all, and he wouldn't have been treated like that to begin with if she didn't pin him as the reason why Jake's sick mother couldn't live at her house, instead of just being honest.
The mom is the particularly bad one in all of this but the fact that Jake didn’t sit down with him even once for a whole three years to try to fix things with him is also pretty insane.
He is a type of person who once hearing that some talked crap behind him, doesn't confront and sort things out. Tis not a good habit to have and not a crime itself. Many people have this bad habit of just sulking and not working out on solutions, so we cannot say this to be criminal act.
The email (a written evidence) is pretty damning itself, if op was pettier he could've used it to screw over Jake's divorce because of the knowing mistreatment can be used against his children. Was probably only apologizing in email to save his ass during the divorce proceedings
So Mom is mad at OP for leaving the house??? She ABANDONED HER CHILD!!!! And what’s worse, what is OP was home when the robbers came???? She is just as bad as her husband
I don't know why people keep on saying Jake should have just talked to him when all Jake had to do was pay attention because with all his mama said that he was doing and saying would have not added up actions speak louder than words
My Mom used to tell me that her Husband didn't want me around. Made a big deal out of it, as if he'd mistreat her or something. I plainly asked her Husband about it. (He'd always been welcoming to me.) He looked shocked when I mentioned it. He told me that she has been telling him not to invite to functions & he's been ignoring her. She looked like she wanted to fight him afterwards. Psycho shit, for Attention & Control. She's a Narc & I'm the Black Sheep. Yeah, they divorced not long afterward. With those types of issues you have to take it to the source to air out. It breaks whatever bubble of control that's supposed to be gained by keeping you away from speaking to the other person.
The audacity she has to talk about "safety" while not even thinking about OP's safety. Like what makes her think some 16yr old guy would be able to do if a group of armed huge robbers broke in. It would have just put OP and his life in grave danger. Just shows how she cares more about her marriage and the stuff her husband(ex) provides/has over her own son's life. Such a horrible excuse of a human being is she
Exactly! What ‘safety is she to talking about when she didn’t even discuss being gone? If he had been home, worse than a missing tv would be the least of the argument happening and what we are listening to, real or not.
Wow. Did she use the phrase "apologize to me and my family?" You don't just leave. You don't just leave without saying anything. You certainly don't portray your own child as a selfish beast who is to blame for everything. Though points to Jake for at least apologizing. He didn't handle this well, but that at least was a decent thing to do. But this mother is a narcissistic monster.
@@Dustin81tbh I think he kinda does. Not for leaving him at home but rather for the silent treatment. He only ignored OP because he was repeatedly told OP was a thug that had it out for him and would harm his mother if they met. He was so heavily manipulated that he never even observed OP's behavior. Jake is a victim too.
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The mother pitted everyone against each other and then it blows up in her face. Also blaming her child that it is their fault a break-in occurred…. Mother of the year right there… OP sounds too serious for his age but that happens when you have to raise yourself.
Three letters CPS. You abandoned your child for a damn week to relax. It a good thing OP did leave cause, I'd fear what would have happened if he actually stayed in that house. Plus like OP said, your a 43 year old man, grow up
it sounds to me she used her son to score points with her new husband,and he was just dumb enough to believe her blindly,regardless of what his own eyes and ears told him.
How’s a fully grown Middle Aged man got beef with a 16 year old 🥲 is the stepdads frontal lobe still underdeveloped as he’s behaving like a teenager. And the mums “sacrifices” are not answerable by the child, as a parent you choose to make sacrifices for your kid as a big part of parenthood is being selfless.
At first I thought Jake was the bastard here but after hearing the lies that your own mom said about you, she’s the real asshole here and good on Jake for apologizing to you at least. Good for you for sticking up for yourself kiddo, and you’re better off being with your dad if you ask me
Wow the mum totally neglects her son and she expects her son to be ok with it, also her new husband and his kids are abusing OP by sending him to Coventry for no reason. I'm so glad that OP has a decent dad and he can turn to him, OPs mum is the useless one and caused all the hate in the new family situation, if I was OP I'd go NC with his mum and let her deal with the consequences that her actions caused and of that means she spends the rest of her life alone and miserable then so be it it's what she deserves
If I was OP, his father, or Jake then I would question everything about her. 1. Is OP's father actually his real biological father? 2. Did his father and mother sacrifice better jobs to stay near each other? 3. I wonder if OP's was dating a lot of men that he didn't know about, then it would make sense for her to create a story about OP to hide her history and it was also used to block Jake's mother from moving in. 4. Jake told OP about his mother and father giving up a lot for OP, he felt she was a saint and even though she was a single mother changed his criteria and accepted her. This would explain why he felt like being with her was not rushing into things. 5. Jake would have been confused as to why she was so against his mother moving in when she is so caring, finding out that OP is a monster (according to her lies) would have been devastating. 6. I would not be surprised if a lot more shady information was uncovered about her if OP, his father, and Jake have a discussion about everything. She is so good at manipulation that no one questioned her, not spoke up and even now she is creating a new image of herself as a victim. 7. If 2 or more separate people say a person is a monster then they likely are, but if it's only one person who keeps you informed and they try to isolate you from them and their friends then you need to thoroughly question that persons motives and try to find out the truth
'It's a matter of safety!' Yeah, the KID'S safety! If the place had been robbed while the kid was IN the house? What would have potentially happened? What if the kid had gotten hurt? What if the thief had had a gun? What if he'd been killed? What would she have said then? I guess it would have been the kid's fault. An absolute terrible mother and person.
While I don't blame Jake for believing his partner and being mad with OP, I DEFINITELY fault him for at least not talking to him about ANYTHING. The moment he heard OP allegedly had something to say about his mother and children, he should've confronted OP and the truth would've came out much sooner. I mean why would even still bring your kids to live with a person who, allegedly, hates them and talks bad about them??? Like this whole scenario sounds so unrealistic, especially with the other kids being involved because you KNOW kids can't hold water
How actually mental it is that a fully grown adult literaly ignores his step child & involves his own children in the same kind of behavior AND the mom just lets that happen because of the old I raised you card? Call cps ffs
People are so naive. The mother is the covert abuser that receives it's supply on watching what is happening and playing both sides. She thinks she has hands clean so there is no guilt on her. What Jake is telling OP is what his mother tells him. She is also creating the situations where Jake has the power to attack OP. She is the middle man and strategist. Edit: The "I made so many sacrifices for you" tactic using vague, distant and unproven situations is a classic for abuser worldwide.
Well it seems the Mom had enough love for OP in her heart to not disown him, and admit that she lied about him to her Husband... But not enough to NOT do it in the first place, and allow him to be mistreated through having to deal with the passive emotional abuse from her husband, and his two sons, via the silent treatment for over 3 years... ALL BECAUSE she didn't want to tell her SO that she didn't have the room to house his sick mother, so she blamed him for it, because it didn't make her look as bad, and made it look like she was doing her a favor by keeping her out of her house. She was completely selfish throughout all of it, she chose her own image over her own son, and allowed him to take the fall. Good on Jake for owning up to it, and apologizing for it, though he should've had the maturity to talk to OP about it in the first place. Furthermore, good on him for divorcing her ass after finding out she lied about HER OWN SON. I can't imagine how guilty he would've felt about treating him the way he did (as well as telling his sons to do the same), when he didn't even do anything wrong. Hell, I would too! I'm sure the other reason for the divorce would be because if she was willing to lie about her own kid, and then allow me, and my own kids to mistreat him just so she could cover her own ass... What else was she willing to lie about? Was probably the question, and the other major reason for why he made the decision to divorce her, ontop of the guilt of having mistreated her kid over that lie. So anyway, if I were OP, I would forgive her, but I would never forget about how she lied about me to her boyfriend (just so she didn't have to tell him she didn't have enough room for his Mother, who is also sick) and allowed me to be mistreated for years, because of it, and how took him telling her to disown me after leaving the house, after they left for a week long road trip, and didn't bother telling me about it until I called her to ask where they had gone, since they couldn't be bothered to tell me about until after, then blames me after they got robbed, even after I told her how pissed I was, and how I was leaving to go to my Dads, but she kept hanging up, and made it clear she didn't want to talk to me, or hear what I had to say (so for that reason, I wouldn't have bothered texting her either). The thing that irks me the most is that it never had to be this way, if she was honest to Jake from the get go, but she was too selfish, and too cowardly to do that, and while I may Forgive her, I would never forget that, and I could never get close to her ever again (at least not for a very long time), after she betrayed me like that, over something that could've been resolved in a much more harmless manner that didn't involve anyone taking the fall, much less ME, her own damn Son. Absolutely Deplorable.
People need to teach their children that it is okay to talk to them about people hurting them, even if it is the other parent hurting and abusing them. That witch was emotionally abusing her child, and she let a man abuse her child for her gain.
Nah but if i dated a woman and she even THOUGHT about treating my kid like that, instant break up and blocked, no questions asked. Who the fuck lets a complete STRANGER treat their children like that?
This reminds me so much of my mother. She left my dad for a new man but loved to lie about and come up with all sorts of stories. She wouldn't defend us when he yelled at us for no reason and expected us to be sympathetic. I was 14 and am glad I decided that I would stay with my dad. It was hard enough to visit. I feel for OP.
Honestly, this woman is absolutely messed up and I’m so happy OP at least has a wonderful father to look after them. Because I agree this woman made her bed now she has to lie in it. She doesn’t get to try and make your out to be her personal skape goat then expecting the OP to want to stick around to play happy family with her much as expect her soon to be stay with her, she lied when she could’ve just been honest with him, but made her out the punching bag. People this manipulative, toxic,selfish don’t deserve to have children.😓
His “ mother “ , I use that term loosely, knew about Jake’s animosity towards her son BEFORE she married him , and she still did. She tried to emotionally manipulate her son telling him she passed up numerous men to put him first, yet she married a scum bag who hated her child. You need to cut her out of your life, she chose a new family over you and doesn’t give a damn about you . Stay with you father, he loves you .
Shoulf apologise. "I am sorry that you are so blind to see how terrible of a mother you are, and that you abandoned a literal child on their own for a week without telling them anything. I'm sorry you ignored my calls, and didn't call me back when you got to the hotel like you said, I'm sorry your actions caused you to be robbed, I'm sorry that you will soon have to pay my dad child support since I'm still a kid and living with him full time". See, apologies can help get things off your chest
That Jake probably hates that he has to share your mom's affection and time, there is douchebags who get with women who have kids and then "complain" about them showing their kid affection and spending time with the kid!
What kind of hirrible dad moves his kids in with a child he believes to be a juvenile delinquent who hates his kids and old people? If Jake really believed all that then he would be knowingly putting his kids in harms way.
If you are forced to spend time with her (due to being a minor) just ignore her and not talk to her the way she forced you to live due to her lies. The fact that she was not charged for neglect and abuse shows either she had a good lawyer or you and your dad are good people who didn't force the issue.
When the house got robbed he could of been killed, a few belongings got stolen and she didn't even consider that fact that she could of came home to him dead after the robbery.
It sounds crazy.. biggest problem is communication. If you don't speak up and tell your dad, it will never be cleared up. And that Mother should be held accountable for leaving children alone at home.
"trust and Safety" yes leave your son alone in the house by himself because he's supposed to ward off robbers xD. Whether he believed her lies or not, the cognitive incompetence to think the 16 year old boy was somehow terrorizing her boyfriends when he had done literally nothing to him is astounding.
The mom really tried to talk "safety" of their house?? What about OPs safety should they have been present when the robbers broke in and were the violent type? What if something else happened?? Disgusting
if someone ever does something that horrible to you and asks for forgiveness, you say to them "hey, if you were in my position, would YOU forgive you?"
Thats honestly pretty bad advice. 9/10 times they would say yes simply because they want you to forgive them as it's the easiest route back to the status quo.
My mom didn't lie but she tried to get me to live with her and her boyfriend who beat her years later she was saying how she always wanted me to live with them so I told her very bluntly he beat you all the time right her: yeah me: what the fuck did you think would happen to me? Her crying I never thought of that yeah you were selfish and my grandparents and I both always said no I was very aware as a kid and I knew it would have been miserable.
Honestly felt she was a trash mom from the moment he said how he was being treated and his mom allowed it and now that we know the reason i feel even more so. Im glad the mom got her karma.
He was kind enough to lock the house up. I would probably not have bothered. I was a horrible and angry kid around this age. I know i would have lashed out if my mother pulled something like this.
Dude move in with your father and block your mother she ain't worth it, any mother who would be ok with this is wicked and a viper, I bet she is spending his child support money on them, this is why dudes need to be ruthless when being used and abuse same for woman.
This kinda hits home for me. I have a narcissistic mother who emotionally manipulated me to make choices that were to my detriment for many years, even as an adult. It's a shame that you can only love your mother because she's your mother but not because she's a great and wonderful person. If she were a complete stranger, I would have nothing to do with her.
She left a 16-year-old alone in a house while they slept. Imagine trying to tell a judge that you abandoned your underage child at home while they were asleep. never told them you were going on vacation without them. They ran to their dads for shelter and you believe that they should pay because your house was robbed. I wonder if Mom sacrificed anything to stay in that town? She acts like she sacrificed nothing. I bet the Dad was the only one that gave up careers and maybe love for the son. If you had sacrificed for a child all that time. You would never marry someone who was even slightly hostile toward your kid. How desperate are you to have a man that you don't run when he suggests moving in together after 3 months?
Honestly thats a W of a father. He respected his sons privacy not to prod at the going ons at his mothers until his son finally spoke out and once he did he stepped up immediately. Sucks this all happened tho
Admittedly, he shouldn't have left the key under the plant pot if the house was going to be empty for a week (I presume that's how the thieves gained entrance) but that's nothing in light of the way the OP was treated for years, all at the instigation of his mother. I'm glad the stepfather apologised and didn't forgive the mother for it, but surely he saw with his own eyes that the OP was always polite and well-behaved. It's a shame the OP didn't tell his father everything sooner but I understand that at that time he still wanted a relationship with the mother who he thought loved him. I just hope the OP is doing well emotionally and mentally now.
Here's the thing why should a MINOR worry over a home and take the spare key himself when he shouldn't be the one looking over a home when he's underaged
@@BernadetteAnneChua Even as a teen I knew not to leave the key outside. I wouldn't have gone to check on the house (not my responsibility) but there's no need to invite thieves in.
Yeah nah.. The mom is a horrible person. OP owes her nothing, and Jake is a dick to mistreat a teenager on her word. He should of tried to get to know OP himself.
Mom was emotionally manipulating. Jake was emotionally neglectful. Both of these are emotional abuse. These are facts. Commenters saying they are not are speaking emotionally, which is okay but is not the facts.
Oh boy, OP's mom is a Covert Narc enabler of a Covert Narc. ONLY the weirdest kind of Covert Narcissist would play such a cruel dehumanizing "game" on a LITERAL CHILD as not only not speaking to OP and pretending OP isn't even present, but also training their own children to do so. The stepkids are equally awful and probably Clusters Of Bees-in-Training just like their dad (ONLY refers to abusive instances of Cluster B, and BOY is this ABUSIVE AF). Problem with being raised by a covert narc, is people get conditioned to not complaining about clear mistreatment. The covert narc mom's excuses are just that; excuses. She is complicit while not participatory by not explaining wtf is going on with Jake (and his kids). NOTHING OP did 'set jake off' or whatever. Jake just found him a convenient Invisible Child to abuse in the most passive-aggressive way possible.
@@uraloser5553 i do tend to make replies halfway through, but yeah you're right, but I stand by what I said about Jake. (and yeah i did see the whole thing eventually) Jake is some kind of idiot for simply blindly going so far as to NOT TALK TO OP EVER and then telling his kids not to either! Instead of like, y'know, talking to OP about it.
@@shebakoby I agree, Jake was being extremely immature (and gullible as well) especially for a man his age, but in the end, he at least owned up to it, and apologized to OP (even though the damage was done), and showed some guilt and remorse over his treatment of OP, if him divorcing OP's mother ontop of the apology was anything to go by.
honestly don't blame my stepdad for favoring his children and doing things for them he wouldn't do for me. My mom wanted to send me to the same private school as his children because I was highly gifted and his children were just average students. But I went to public schools that weren't very well run and was bussed across town to a fairly violent and poor inner city highschool where I was beaten nearly to death.. we got in a fight right before my 18th birthday and I moved out.. That was my father's choice to not be involved, (and it was his choice, you can't force love,) not my stepdad who did alright by me my mom and my sister and I do miss him (he died a few years ago).
With teens of his own, anyone over 40 having issues with another person's teen has issues of the worst kind, most obviously. The mother really screwed up. Aw.. the house was robbed... poetic justice. And on hearing the lies the mother told "Jake"... wow.... "Jake" being used.. and his kids as well...
ok so his house got robbed but would there any bigger difference if he was at home..!? I mean, if the robber took lots of things along with a freaking TV then definitely he could've been dangerous for the OP.. He is infact lucky to have coincidentally made a decision that probably save him from any injury or harm from the robber or robbers...!!!
As an adult, we are supposed to be more mature. If we are taking on someone else's children and living with them, we have a responsibility to try to get along with them and if there are issues, as a mature adult, we are supposed to make an effort to talk through any problems so we can all come to an understanding. I'm sorry but the Mum is a narcissistic and manipulative cow with the maturity of a tadpole. Jake should have gone to speak to his step son to iron out their differences one on one regardless of what the Mum said. That is how we conduct ourselves as adults. The only person who showed any level of maturity was the son. Absolutely shitty parenting on both their parts. Glad he's living with his Dad now and seems to be doing well. And also glad Jake finally grew a backbone and left that toxic cow bag.
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that mom is an evil narc. Anyone who dates someone new and ignores their kid for their new life is evil
Well said. And given the mother abandoned OP to go on vacation with her new family; if someone got wind of that, they would contact social services to remove him from her, place him in foster care, and then with a kind and loving adoptive family.
both are narcist.... sorry stepdad does not get a pass on his behavior
Not only did she mistreat her son, she mistreated Jake by lying to him.
Well, depends on the kid! If the kid is an a-hole then that is justified, but according to the description this guy wasn't. It's not like you sign your life away when you have a kid, hell the best parents IMHO are those who (while willing to make sacrifices for their kids) don't give up on being their own person, with hobbies, even dreams! Yes, you might not get as far as you might have without a kid and you should (within reason) do a lot for the kid, but you should also not always put yourself second! Hell, my own father (note: I hate my lying, cheating, thieving mother, so yeah I am quite focused on my dad) had hobbies (he still does! Hell, the guy has more stamina than I do and he's 65 (!)) while raising me (with my stepmother).
@@danacarter9147 Yes this sucks - my own mother did something similar! She went on rehab after surgery and basically left me with the key to her apartmen, her dog and a few hundred bucks for food! I made it about a week (loved being on my own for a while)...after that I called my dad to fetch me (I had no driver's license and no car back then) and he did...I dropped the key off with a neighbour my mother designated as "she'll help you if need anything" (would have talked to the neighbour, but she was not there when I rang)
ps: Wouldn't social services call the father (joint custody - which would then give him custody if she's removed from joint custody, right?) to get him?
This was so embarrassing on Jake's part. Imagine not only having beef with a teenager, but finding out you were doing it for NO reason 💀
Exactly. Wtf what kind of mom is that.
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No, there's a reason
It's called "because I want to show you that I can make you miserable" reason. It's a power play
@@girl1213 Except the "reason" was all based on a lie. That is the point they were making above. Essentially he was being an ass only to find out he had not reason to be
Jake was acting like an ass to punish a child only to find out he’d turned into an ass and that was his fundamental character now.
The mum using the fact that she sacrificed so much as emotional manipulation is disgusting not only that every parent sacrifice's for their kid it doesn't make her special.
I think if we dig further we'd find it's only the dad who made sacrifices to live in the same city. The mom probably never got any big job opportunities or a romantic relationship either.
Men normally knows when a woman is nuts. That stepfather Jake didn't know because he's a 42 years old man child. That's why he didn't treat op bad because he isn't a bad man but also not an adult either.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
Female solipsism is a feature of women, not a bug. This is basic observable reality
Reminds me of something I was thinking about a few weeks ago. I'd been joking with my little brother about how he "owes me his life" because I saved his life twice when he was a toddler. Right as I said that though, I was disgusted with myself for saying it, even as a joke. I didn't save him so that he'd be indebted to me, I did it to save him. My brother, who's currently 9, doesn't owe me shit, and I told him as much right after making that joke.
The fact that this mom tried to say "I gave up so much for you" is disgusting.
Those aren't sacrifices, they are obligations
The the fuck is a 16 year old Gonna do against robbers while alone
Manned the 7.62 machine gun?
besides exist? LOL
I was taught various guns and knives by the age of 10. There's PLENTY a 16 year old can do to defend his home turf with that knowledge. You are the weak spot in this one, sad to say.
@@zarroth you're wrong because we don't know if he's done self defence or trained to fight. how the hell would an inexperienced kid be able to fight armed robbers? seems you are the weak spot, sad to say
@@zarroth huh? I was taught various guns and knives from age 8, doesn't mean I had complete access to the guns, a knife can only do so much if there's multiple people which there usually tends to be. Your brain is the weak spot of your life
To begin with, isn't going to vacation with her family, and without OP, the definition of ABANDONMENT OF A MINOR, also the treatment towards OP from Jake and Co. count as a form of abuse?
Yes.
The silent treatment is a form of Passive Emotional Abuse.
Why do you think the ex-husband win the full custody? Men usually fail to gain custody unless the women effed up hard
@@kos2919True, but if the women are unfit, they lose custody, when the kids go into the foster care system.
i was wondering this too
@@kos2919 i was asking because, wouldn't that be enough to file a report to the police? Because así de from abandonment it could potebtially count as endangerment of a minor as well.
Dad should have called the police as well aside from demanding( and obtaining) full custody.
After all the mother is a monster for subjecting her child to all that.
In a few years, it'll be "Why doesn't my son come to visit me?".
what i don't understand,if she dosen't like her son,why does she want him around.
Prior to these events, it's so she doesn't have to pay child support. It was clear that the dad was the better parent all along.
@@runeingebretsen8378 either money or to save face
@@runeingebretsen8378 Probably want someone to care for her in her old age.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
Regardless instead of talking to op Jake decided to give him the silent treatment for years. I say don't respond. Also go no contact with her.
How do you spend years with the kid and not notice all the supposed bad behavior?
I would reply saying "you spent three years around me infront of my mum and alone, in those three years did you ever think this is wrong? That I have never done or acted in anyway like how she described, how your own kids hated me because of what you told them but they never came to you about me treating them wrong.
You may have been lied to but your actions are your own, you are an adult and you chose not to change in years. Your kids however are still children and their faults still lay with you, they watched you be cruel and thought that is the right way to treat others. I hope they can grow up and change and be better than the pair of you"
If op sends something like that it might remind him he made his own kids just as bad as him over something between adults and didn't correct it in years.
Jake is a morron. He believed the mother while living with the kid and not witnessing any misbehavior.
@@Dustin81 One word (woman) they like toxic because it's not boring.
The new man is jealous of the attention that you get from mom. He will sabotage you, every chance he gets, watch your back. Also he wants to be the only grown male telling your mom what to do.
Your mother needs to be taken to court for abuse!!!
And libel
@@Chuckakhan Indeed! Don't make MY mistake! My own mum is similar to that mother and I frankly never sued her...should have, but my own dad is too good-natured and always talked me out of it (I don't get my dad! She cheated, she hurt him, she used me to hurt him, too (note: He had full custody, but she had visitation, so she used that to hurt him by for example flying to France with me, without telling him first and by allowing me to basically go wild while I was staying with her, so I came back expecting the same freedoms at home, which my dad of course didn't grant, which led to many - partially even justified IMHO because having strict rules sucks if none of your friends do - arguments and fights! Still, he didn't want me to take her to court, something I'll never understand!)
Op probably could get their mom on pain and suffering.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
There is a high probability that he would have been there when it was robbed, and he could have been injured or killed. But all she cares about is the items taken....bye mom, see you never
If she tries to sue even a delusional judge would've laughed her out of the house because what was she thinking leaving a minor to watch the house
"You should have been home when the robbers came after seeing me and my new husband and kids leave for vacation! Maybe you'd scare them off, maybe you'd get killed. Now we'll never know and we lost the TV. This is all your fault!" - Mother of the Year.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
Her logic was that robbers will usually stay clear of a house with clear signs of activity, which is not wrong tbh.
But her behaviour and abandonment of her kid is still abject and she fully deserved to have her house emptied.
Robbers probably saw the house completely left alone and got a payday for it.
Classic single mums
So here is something i don't understand- If Jake thought OP was this terrible horrible delinquent why DID he decide to leave OP alone in his house for a whole week? why didn't they go on their holiday when OP was with dad or demand OP go back to dad while they went away?
As for mom's 'she wanted them to be a HAPPY family' how could they be a happy family when she was sowing distrust and suspicion?
Jake is an abusive jerk, and he just wanted a punching bag.
bet she talked him into it like "i told him that if he fucked up i'd disown him" type of shit
I had the same thought. If he's a bad kid, then why leave him with everything? That's not how that works.
They're AI stories, don't expect continuity or sense.
@mnomadvfx There's a good chance it is, but humans are inconsistent quite often. Sometimes because they're leaving something out, they're emotional and can't write quite right, etc. But there is a good 50/50 chance it's AI.
OP's dad should go full scorched earth. Full custody, no visitation and she has to pay child support. Jake is massive C U Next Tuesday. Not even bothering to talk to OP? He didn't even try to establish a relationship?
Well OP's mom is proof that a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness
There was one story on Reddit where an OP (who was a cop) arrested a guy for SA’ing his teenage stepdaughter. And when they told the girl’s mother what her husband had done, the woman asked the cops to take her daughter away instead.
@@Mia-dt3gl Why? What happened next? Is that girl alright now?
@@smsff7 that was how the story ended.
@@smsff7 I'm wondering the same thing, too.
What a crappy mother to treat your kids this way.
Mom is an evil tart, but Jake! He's a complete ah! This started when op was 13y/o. In 3 yrs he didn't realize his wife was lying? He was complicit in mistreating a child. What a dummy.
Mother's like this are worthless. Neglecting their kid for the new man and his family smfh
Even worse given the fact that she was the cause of it all, and he wouldn't have been treated like that to begin with if she didn't pin him as the reason why Jake's sick mother couldn't live at her house, instead of just being honest.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
The mom is the particularly bad one in all of this but the fact that Jake didn’t sit down with him even once for a whole three years to try to fix things with him is also pretty insane.
He is a type of person who once hearing that some talked crap behind him, doesn't confront and sort things out. Tis not a good habit to have and not a crime itself. Many people have this bad habit of just sulking and not working out on solutions, so we cannot say this to be criminal act.
Well what reason would he have to NOT believe what he was to
Jake is an adult he should have tqlked to op instead of mistreating him
The email (a written evidence) is pretty damning itself, if op was pettier he could've used it to screw over Jake's divorce because of the knowing mistreatment can be used against his children. Was probably only apologizing in email to save his ass during the divorce proceedings
@BernadetteAnneChua no he made it clear jake was fine with him until his mom started lying about it
@BernadetteAnneChua the fact that the mom lied continously makes her look worse in a divorce. She was the reason for friction in the home.
I agree Jake is not innocent in this
These mothers are pathetic! And for a grown man to ignore his partner’s child is absolutely embarrassing
also what kind of mama's boy is he,for wanting his mother to live with him and his new wife.
@@runeingebretsen8378 it's not really that surprising to want to take care of your sick parent.
So Mom is mad at OP for leaving the house??? She ABANDONED HER CHILD!!!! And what’s worse, what is OP was home when the robbers came???? She is just as bad as her husband
Jake should've apologized in person. Felt the unease in knowing he played a part in emotionally abusing a child.
jake is only angry he got manipulated....his actions show him to be just as evil as her
I don't know why people keep on saying Jake should have just talked to him when all Jake had to do was pay attention because with all his mama said that he was doing and saying would have not added up actions speak louder than words
jake is only angry he got manipulated. he is just as scummy as mom
The supposed problem child was polite and kept to himself for 3 years.
@@petervanettinger2566 this tbh, only Apologized because the lawyer was probably asking questions about OP
The mom kept lying that OP got in trouble at school..so they probably thought he acted one way in front of them but another behind their backs.
My Mom used to tell me that her Husband didn't want me around. Made a big deal out of it, as if he'd mistreat her or something. I plainly asked her Husband about it. (He'd always been welcoming to me.) He looked shocked when I mentioned it. He told me that she has been telling him not to invite to functions & he's been ignoring her. She looked like she wanted to fight him afterwards. Psycho shit, for Attention & Control. She's a Narc & I'm the Black Sheep.
Yeah, they divorced not long afterward.
With those types of issues you have to take it to the source to air out. It breaks whatever bubble of control that's supposed to be gained by keeping you away from speaking to the other person.
The audacity she has to talk about "safety" while not even thinking about OP's safety. Like what makes her think some 16yr old guy would be able to do if a group of armed huge robbers broke in. It would have just put OP and his life in grave danger. Just shows how she cares more about her marriage and the stuff her husband(ex) provides/has over her own son's life. Such a horrible excuse of a human being is she
Exactly! What ‘safety is she to talking about when she didn’t even discuss being gone? If he had been home, worse than a missing tv would be the least of the argument happening and what we are listening to, real or not.
had i been OP i would have texted her back "going back to dads, all the windows and doors are open, oh no...." then blocked her
Wow. Did she use the phrase "apologize to me and my family?"
You don't just leave. You don't just leave without saying anything. You certainly don't portray your own child as a selfish beast who is to blame for everything. Though points to Jake for at least apologizing. He didn't handle this well, but that at least was a decent thing to do.
But this mother is a narcissistic monster.
Mom and Jake are evil. OP is a good kid but an absolute doormat. Pops is the real OG
Jake isn't evil the mother lied to him and made horrible story about her own son!
@@TheDevourerOfTheDark Yet he still treated him poorly while the OP never showed him any bad behavior. He doesn't get a pass on this
@@Dustin81 honestly if someone told me that I would do that same but atleast I would have confirmed that instead of just treating him like that
@@Dustin81tbh I think he kinda does. Not for leaving him at home but rather for the silent treatment. He only ignored OP because he was repeatedly told OP was a thug that had it out for him and would harm his mother if they met. He was so heavily manipulated that he never even observed OP's behavior. Jake is a victim too.
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She plays to many damn games. I couldn’t be with her either
Acting more childish than the teenager. And the teenager being more of a responsible adult than the grown woman.🤦♂️
The mother pitted everyone against each other and then it blows up in her face. Also blaming her child that it is their fault a break-in occurred…. Mother of the year right there…
OP sounds too serious for his age but that happens when you have to raise yourself.
Three letters
CPS. You abandoned your child for a damn week to relax. It a good thing OP did leave cause, I'd fear what would have happened if he actually stayed in that house.
Plus like OP said, your a 43 year old man, grow up
step father is just as guilty as mom and should be investigated along with mom
Op was 16, reckless endangerment of a minor, intentional abandonment of a minor.
it sounds to me she used her son to score points with her new husband,and he was just dumb enough to believe her blindly,regardless of what his own eyes and ears told him.
Wanted to have a "happy family" when you told your husband your child hates your mother in law and he refuse to talk to your child
How’s a fully grown Middle Aged man got beef with a 16 year old 🥲 is the stepdads frontal lobe still underdeveloped as he’s behaving like a teenager.
And the mums “sacrifices” are not answerable by the child, as a parent you choose to make sacrifices for your kid as a big part of parenthood is being selfless.
The Mother is an AH. Who put their kid through that! No way! Cut ties!
At first I thought Jake was the bastard here but after hearing the lies that your own mom said about you, she’s the real asshole here and good on Jake for apologizing to you at least.
Good for you for sticking up for yourself kiddo, and you’re better off being with your dad if you ask me
Wow the mum totally neglects her son and she expects her son to be ok with it, also her new husband and his kids are abusing OP by sending him to Coventry for no reason. I'm so glad that OP has a decent dad and he can turn to him, OPs mum is the useless one and caused all the hate in the new family situation, if I was OP I'd go NC with his mum and let her deal with the consequences that her actions caused and of that means she spends the rest of her life alone and miserable then so be it it's what she deserves
I have been there before, was spoken to about things I had no idea about. I had to trip the wire in front of her to find out why Mother was mad at me.
@@jnicoulakos it's so wrong when parents abuse their kids this way 😢
@@emily.letsendbslintheuk554 This is so true, Father wonders why I'm low contact with them.
If I was OP, his father, or Jake then I would question everything about her. 1. Is OP's father actually his real biological father?
2. Did his father and mother sacrifice better jobs to stay near each other?
3. I wonder if OP's was dating a lot of men that he didn't know about, then it would make sense for her to create a story about OP to hide her history and it was also used to block Jake's mother from moving in.
4. Jake told OP about his mother and father giving up a lot for OP, he felt she was a saint and even though she was a single mother changed his criteria and accepted her. This would explain why he felt like being with her was not rushing into things.
5. Jake would have been confused as to why she was so against his mother moving in when she is so caring, finding out that OP is a monster (according to her lies) would have been devastating.
6. I would not be surprised if a lot more shady information was uncovered about her if OP, his father, and Jake have a discussion about everything. She is so good at manipulation that no one questioned her, not spoke up and even now she is creating a new image of herself as a victim.
7. If 2 or more separate people say a person is a monster then they likely are, but if it's only one person who keeps you informed and they try to isolate you from them and their friends then you need to thoroughly question that persons motives and try to find out the truth
Ohhh wow 😮 The triangulation is strong in this one
Mom really blamed bro for not stopping the robbery. If he stayed there he was a dead man.
'It's a matter of safety!'
Yeah, the KID'S safety! If the place had been robbed while the kid was IN the house? What would have potentially happened? What if the kid had gotten hurt? What if the thief had had a gun? What if he'd been killed? What would she have said then? I guess it would have been the kid's fault. An absolute terrible mother and person.
While I don't blame Jake for believing his partner and being mad with OP, I DEFINITELY fault him for at least not talking to him about ANYTHING. The moment he heard OP allegedly had something to say about his mother and children, he should've confronted OP and the truth would've came out much sooner. I mean why would even still bring your kids to live with a person who, allegedly, hates them and talks bad about them??? Like this whole scenario sounds so unrealistic, especially with the other kids being involved because you KNOW kids can't hold water
How actually mental it is that a fully grown adult literaly ignores his step child & involves his own children in the same kind of behavior AND the mom just lets that happen because of the old I raised you card? Call cps ffs
People are so naive. The mother is the covert abuser that receives it's supply on watching what is happening and playing both sides. She thinks she has hands clean so there is no guilt on her. What Jake is telling OP is what his mother tells him. She is also creating the situations where Jake has the power to attack OP. She is the middle man and strategist.
Edit: The "I made so many sacrifices for you" tactic using vague, distant and unproven situations is a classic for abuser worldwide.
Safety, what about OPs safety had he been home when the house was robbed.
if he had been home,he could have ended up hurt or worse,by the robber(s).
Well it seems the Mom had enough love for OP in her heart to not disown him, and admit that she lied about him to her Husband...
But not enough to NOT do it in the first place, and allow him to be mistreated through having to deal with the passive emotional abuse from her husband, and his two sons, via the silent treatment for over 3 years...
ALL BECAUSE she didn't want to tell her SO that she didn't have the room to house his sick mother, so she blamed him for it, because it didn't make her look as bad, and made it look like she was doing her a favor by keeping her out of her house.
She was completely selfish throughout all of it, she chose her own image over her own son, and allowed him to take the fall.
Good on Jake for owning up to it, and apologizing for it, though he should've had the maturity to talk to OP about it in the first place.
Furthermore, good on him for divorcing her ass after finding out she lied about HER OWN SON.
I can't imagine how guilty he would've felt about treating him the way he did (as well as telling his sons to do the same), when he didn't even do anything wrong.
Hell, I would too!
I'm sure the other reason for the divorce would be because if she was willing to lie about her own kid, and then allow me, and my own kids to mistreat him just so she could cover her own ass... What else was she willing to lie about? Was probably the question, and the other major reason for why he made the decision to divorce her, ontop of the guilt of having mistreated her kid over that lie.
So anyway, if I were OP, I would forgive her, but I would never forget about how she lied about me to her boyfriend (just so she didn't have to tell him she didn't have enough room for his Mother, who is also sick) and allowed me to be mistreated for years, because of it, and how took him telling her to disown me after leaving the house, after they left for a week long road trip, and didn't bother telling me about it until I called her to ask where they had gone, since they couldn't be bothered to tell me about until after, then blames me after they got robbed, even after I told her how pissed I was, and how I was leaving to go to my Dads, but she kept hanging up, and made it clear she didn't want to talk to me, or hear what I had to say (so for that reason, I wouldn't have bothered texting her either).
The thing that irks me the most is that it never had to be this way, if she was honest to Jake from the get go, but she was too selfish, and too cowardly to do that, and while I may Forgive her, I would never forget that, and I could never get close to her ever again (at least not for a very long time), after she betrayed me like that, over something that could've been resolved in a much more harmless manner that didn't involve anyone taking the fall, much less ME, her own damn Son.
Absolutely Deplorable.
100% his mom now wishes she agreed to cut ties with OP and maintain her lie
People need to teach their children that it is okay to talk to them about people hurting them, even if it is the other parent hurting and abusing them.
That witch was emotionally abusing her child, and she let a man abuse her child for her gain.
That mother belongs in Jail for neglect and mental cruelty. Should have told his Dad. Heartbreaking.
Nah but if i dated a woman and she even THOUGHT about treating my kid like that, instant break up and blocked, no questions asked.
Who the fuck lets a complete STRANGER treat their children like that?
This reminds me so much of my mother. She left my dad for a new man but loved to lie about and come up with all sorts of stories. She wouldn't defend us when he yelled at us for no reason and expected us to be sympathetic. I was 14 and am glad I decided that I would stay with my dad. It was hard enough to visit. I feel for OP.
Should never treat your child like this. Terrible parents raise terrible people.
Honestly, this woman is absolutely messed up and I’m so happy OP at least has a wonderful father to look after them. Because I agree this woman made her bed now she has to lie in it. She doesn’t get to try and make your out to be her personal skape goat then expecting the OP to want to stick around to play happy family with her much as expect her soon to be stay with her, she lied when she could’ve just been honest with him, but made her out the punching bag. People this manipulative, toxic,selfish don’t deserve to have children.😓
So the lad has been punished for, something, for three years!! Ouch.
Sheesh, she threw her own son under the bus for a guy? That's just low.
His “ mother “ , I use that term loosely, knew about Jake’s animosity towards her son BEFORE she married him , and she still did. She tried to emotionally manipulate her son telling him she passed up numerous men to put him first, yet she married a scum bag who hated her child. You need to cut her out of your life, she chose a new family over you and doesn’t give a damn about you . Stay with you father, he loves you .
Shoulf apologise.
"I am sorry that you are so blind to see how terrible of a mother you are, and that you abandoned a literal child on their own for a week without telling them anything. I'm sorry you ignored my calls, and didn't call me back when you got to the hotel like you said, I'm sorry your actions caused you to be robbed, I'm sorry that you will soon have to pay my dad child support since I'm still a kid and living with him full time". See, apologies can help get things off your chest
Abandonment off child
That Jake probably hates that he has to share your mom's affection and time, there is douchebags who get with women who have kids and then "complain" about them showing their kid affection and spending time with the kid!
What kind of hirrible dad moves his kids in with a child he believes to be a juvenile delinquent who hates his kids and old people? If Jake really believed all that then he would be knowingly putting his kids in harms way.
What kind of mother does that? Lady you made that bed. Now sleep in it cupcake.
If you are forced to spend time with her (due to being a minor) just ignore her and not talk to her the way she forced you to live due to her lies. The fact that she was not charged for neglect and abuse shows either she had a good lawyer or you and your dad are good people who didn't force the issue.
Forgive but never forget. At least in Jake’s case.
Mother deserves to be cold and alone, manipulating everyone for her selfishness.
The mom is the definition of a self inflicted wound!
When the house got robbed he could of been killed, a few belongings got stolen and she didn't even consider that fact that she could of came home to him dead after the robbery.
It sounds crazy.. biggest problem is communication.
If you don't speak up and tell your dad, it will never be cleared up.
And that Mother should be held accountable for leaving children alone at home.
I agree with OP.
I can completely understand OP
Sounds like the mom didn't sacrifice relationships for OP, she just has shitty choices in men who didn't commit.
There are those in this world that don’t deserve to be parents, this lady is one of em.
"trust and Safety" yes leave your son alone in the house by himself because he's supposed to ward off robbers xD. Whether he believed her lies or not, the cognitive incompetence to think the 16 year old boy was somehow terrorizing her boyfriends when he had done literally nothing to him is astounding.
The mom is a total B. She lied and manipulated both of them so that they could not even get along and then she blamed both of them for it
It shocks me that the mother would still date a man who treats her kid this way. Wth.
A man will sacrifice his happiness for his family, but s woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.
The mom really tried to talk "safety" of their house?? What about OPs safety should they have been present when the robbers broke in and were the violent type?
What if something else happened?? Disgusting
if someone ever does something that horrible to you and asks for forgiveness, you say to them "hey, if you were in my position, would YOU forgive you?"
Thats honestly pretty bad advice.
9/10 times they would say yes simply because they want you to forgive them as it's the easiest route back to the status quo.
This is why my son is not with his mother. I always feared some bs like this would happen
My mom didn't lie but she tried to get me to live with her and her boyfriend who beat her years later she was saying how she always wanted me to live with them so I told her very bluntly he beat you all the time right her: yeah me: what the fuck did you think would happen to me? Her crying I never thought of that yeah you were selfish and my grandparents and I both always said no I was very aware as a kid and I knew it would have been miserable.
Honestly felt she was a trash mom from the moment he said how he was being treated and his mom allowed it and now that we know the reason i feel even more so. Im glad the mom got her karma.
He was kind enough to lock the house up. I would probably not have bothered. I was a horrible and angry kid around this age. I know i would have lashed out if my mother pulled something like this.
Dude move in with your father and block your mother she ain't worth it, any mother who would be ok with this is wicked and a viper, I bet she is spending his child support money on them, this is why dudes need to be ruthless when being used and abuse same for woman.
This kinda hits home for me. I have a narcissistic mother who emotionally manipulated me to make choices that were to my detriment for many years, even as an adult. It's a shame that you can only love your mother because she's your mother but not because she's a great and wonderful person. If she were a complete stranger, I would have nothing to do with her.
Should have told dad years ago, Mom dont care and guilt trip op with her bs. Mom is filth
She left a 16-year-old alone in a house while they slept. Imagine trying to tell a judge that you abandoned your underage child at home while they were asleep. never told them you were going on vacation without them. They ran to their dads for shelter and you believe that they should pay because your house was robbed.
I wonder if Mom sacrificed anything to stay in that town? She acts like she sacrificed nothing. I bet the Dad was the only one that gave up careers and maybe love for the son.
If you had sacrificed for a child all that time. You would never marry someone who was even slightly hostile toward your kid. How desperate are you to have a man that you don't run when he suggests moving in together after 3 months?
Honestly thats a W of a father. He respected his sons privacy not to prod at the going ons at his mothers until his son finally spoke out and once he did he stepped up immediately. Sucks this all happened tho
He wanted your mom to himself and wanted your mom to raise his kids and not you, the fact that your mom let it happen is very telling
Admittedly, he shouldn't have left the key under the plant pot if the house was going to be empty for a week (I presume that's how the thieves gained entrance) but that's nothing in light of the way the OP was treated for years, all at the instigation of his mother. I'm glad the stepfather apologised and didn't forgive the mother for it, but surely he saw with his own eyes that the OP was always polite and well-behaved. It's a shame the OP didn't tell his father everything sooner but I understand that at that time he still wanted a relationship with the mother who he thought loved him. I just hope the OP is doing well emotionally and mentally now.
Here's the thing why should a MINOR worry over a home and take the spare key himself when he shouldn't be the one looking over a home when he's underaged
@@BernadetteAnneChua Even as a teen I knew not to leave the key outside. I wouldn't have gone to check on the house (not my responsibility) but there's no need to invite thieves in.
Yeah nah.. The mom is a horrible person. OP owes her nothing, and Jake is a dick to mistreat a teenager on her word. He should of tried to get to know OP himself.
I’d take that email to the police as proof of his mistreatment of OP and have him charged with a slew of abuse allegations.
At least Jake was humble enough to apologize to OP.
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"Her and her family" I think this is pretty telling what OP's mom thought of OP
Mom was emotionally manipulating. Jake was emotionally neglectful. Both of these are emotional abuse. These are facts. Commenters saying they are not are speaking emotionally, which is okay but is not the facts.
Oh boy, OP's mom is a Covert Narc enabler of a Covert Narc. ONLY the weirdest kind of Covert Narcissist would play such a cruel dehumanizing "game" on a LITERAL CHILD as not only not speaking to OP and pretending OP isn't even present, but also training their own children to do so. The stepkids are equally awful and probably Clusters Of Bees-in-Training just like their dad (ONLY refers to abusive instances of Cluster B, and BOY is this ABUSIVE AF). Problem with being raised by a covert narc, is people get conditioned to not complaining about clear mistreatment. The covert narc mom's excuses are just that; excuses. She is complicit while not participatory by not explaining wtf is going on with Jake (and his kids). NOTHING OP did 'set jake off' or whatever. Jake just found him a convenient Invisible Child to abuse in the most passive-aggressive way possible.
You clearly didn't watch the full video, it was the Mom who instigated the whole thing.
@@uraloser5553 i do tend to make replies halfway through, but yeah you're right, but I stand by what I said about Jake. (and yeah i did see the whole thing eventually) Jake is some kind of idiot for simply blindly going so far as to NOT TALK TO OP EVER and then telling his kids not to either! Instead of like, y'know, talking to OP about it.
@@shebakoby I agree, Jake was being extremely immature (and gullible as well) especially for a man his age, but in the end, he at least owned up to it, and apologized to OP (even though the damage was done), and showed some guilt and remorse over his treatment of OP, if him divorcing OP's mother ontop of the apology was anything to go by.
@@uraloser5553 yeah at least there's that, at the end of the day.
honestly don't blame my stepdad for favoring his children and doing things for them he wouldn't do for me.
My mom wanted to send me to the same private school as his children because I was highly gifted and his children were just average students. But I went to public schools that weren't very well run and was bussed across town to a fairly violent and poor inner city highschool where I was beaten nearly to death.. we got in a fight right before my 18th birthday and I moved out..
That was my father's choice to not be involved, (and it was his choice, you can't force love,) not my stepdad who did alright by me my mom and my sister and I do miss him (he died a few years ago).
It seems that once the step dad “secured” the mom he decided he didn’t need to pretend anymore
With teens of his own, anyone over 40 having issues with another person's teen has issues of the worst kind, most obviously. The mother really screwed up.
Aw.. the house was robbed... poetic justice. And on hearing the lies the mother told "Jake"... wow.... "Jake" being used.. and his kids as well...
What a sorry excuse of a "mother". Good on the father for actually BEING A DECENT PARENT.
It’s no way a man, woman, or child would treat my child like they don’t exist. That’s sad.
ok so his house got robbed but would there any bigger difference if he was at home..!? I mean, if the robber took lots of things along with a freaking TV then definitely he could've been dangerous for the OP.. He is infact lucky to have coincidentally made a decision that probably save him from any injury or harm from the robber or robbers...!!!
I mean by the time they went on holidays OP was 18 so he's an adult and can live where ever he want's.
I find it crazy that she calls to yell at him when she should be glad he wasnt there alot of people have been killed in robberies gone wrong
Is it just me, or does it seem like a lot of single dads are WAY better at looking after/raising their children than most single moms?
I hate parents who put people over their OWN kids. Excuse me ?
As an adult, we are supposed to be more mature. If we are taking on someone else's children and living with them, we have a responsibility to try to get along with them and if there are issues, as a mature adult, we are supposed to make an effort to talk through any problems so we can all come to an understanding.
I'm sorry but the Mum is a narcissistic and manipulative cow with the maturity of a tadpole. Jake should have gone to speak to his step son to iron out their differences one on one regardless of what the Mum said. That is how we conduct ourselves as adults. The only person who showed any level of maturity was the son. Absolutely shitty parenting on both their parts. Glad he's living with his Dad now and seems to be doing well. And also glad Jake finally grew a backbone and left that toxic cow bag.