3 Negotiation Mistakes That Are Hurting Your Deals | Chris Voss

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  • Опубликовано: 12 июл 2024
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Комментарии • 94

  • @richers99
    @richers99 5 месяцев назад +7

    Totally agreed. Customer service people who mindlessly respond with “I understand” when I express a concern on a situation has become one of my many pet peeves.

  • @roboliver9980
    @roboliver9980 4 месяца назад +3

    That’s a valid point about listening to respond and useful to life beyond negotiation.

  • @RyseMaxwell
    @RyseMaxwell 2 года назад +8

    I need like a 20 to 100 go-to no-oriented questions.

    • @thomasr1051
      @thomasr1051 Год назад +2

      I hear that you want a way to apply this new knowledge. My guess is because it's about listening a list would keep you in your head and focusing on your desires. I definitely responded imperfectly but I hope this perspective helps

  • @CriminalScrutinyTV
    @CriminalScrutinyTV 2 года назад +14

    This guy is the man, this information is so crucial I don’t think people get how crucial it is.

  • @SwarfcastPodcast
    @SwarfcastPodcast 2 года назад +2

    "Yes" Bad! No "good"! I use this every day! "I understand" so true.

  • @gabigabi9248
    @gabigabi9248 2 года назад +10

    Been a Black Swan student for a while and I still make these mistakes.

    • @ury2936
      @ury2936 Год назад

      What is the collor of a young black swan?

  • @sbmh2001
    @sbmh2001 2 года назад +25

    Great video, Chris!
    A video with tips on negotiating with Narssicists would be great!

    • @margaretk5783
      @margaretk5783 2 года назад

      No shit Sherlock! That would be great!

    • @HowtoRestoreHeadlights
      @HowtoRestoreHeadlights Год назад +2

      Best way to negotiate with a narcissist is to delete their contact from your phone.

    • @andyn6053
      @andyn6053 3 месяца назад

      what if the narcissist is your boss?
      @@HowtoRestoreHeadlights

  • @bubbles7806
    @bubbles7806 2 года назад +10

    Happy Thanksgiving Chris and Brandon. "Voss is Boss". My gift to you.

  • @zeropain9319
    @zeropain9319 2 года назад

    Love your videos, thanks Chris

  • @carloseduardonaranjosuarez5917
    @carloseduardonaranjosuarez5917 2 года назад +3

    Thank you very much Chris, great content you have recorded on this video, thank you

  • @kjo7256
    @kjo7256 2 года назад

    Chris, you are the master!!

  • @allanmeloam93
    @allanmeloam93 2 года назад +1

    I watch and laugh. I am really happy to hear you Chris.

  • @AfricanFlightStar
    @AfricanFlightStar Год назад

    Absolutely brilliant stuff, much appreciated Sir! 👍🏼👍🏼💥💥👏🏼👏🏼

  • @bubba0701
    @bubba0701 2 года назад +1

    Love the content Voss is boss!

  • @kirkhepburnmiddleagedwhiteguy
    @kirkhepburnmiddleagedwhiteguy 2 года назад +13

    Is this a bad time to wish the Black Swan team a Happy Thanksgiving?

  • @markg5986
    @markg5986 2 года назад

    Thank you.

  • @Julie-ns3vh
    @Julie-ns3vh 2 года назад +6

    Happy thanksgiving 🍁 could you do a video on how to communicate with toxic family during the holidays?

  • @clifblake
    @clifblake Год назад

    Thank you !

  • @DianeLeon
    @DianeLeon 2 года назад

    Ola. MR. Voss,
    Gracia for sharing and Feliz thanksgiving to you and your familia.🙏

  • @jt4369
    @jt4369 2 года назад +10

    Thanks, Chris. As someone who is more inclined towards engineering and philosophy, this all makes complete sense: I've been doing pretty much exactly the opposite of what I'm "supposed" to be doing. Basically, this tells me that sincerity and honesty are not sought. Says a lot about human beings.

  • @shaundowling
    @shaundowling Год назад +4

    I like these negotiation tips Chris. Thanks. One thing you should consider is that the majority of people in the world who negotiate in English are not 100% fluent in understanding. And I would suggest that negotiation between different cultures requires a more subtle view in able to teach people these strategies. Listening to understand is the first step for many non English speakers, then a listening to respond is the second. Time is needed and also time to think is a strategy we can benefit from. There was an article in the economist a few years ago explain the different cultures and strategies used by people whose first language is not English, which its about 90% or all people who need to negotiate I would guess, in the world. The article showed how much better non natives are at negotiating. Sorry I do not have the link but I used it with my diplomats. Listening requires an aspect of thought and silence or pausing, for want of a better word, and I would like to know, as a negotiation strategy, if you have anything that could help these people. Thanks again.

  • @figward
    @figward 2 года назад

    Thanks for sharing.

  • @Dabu-Dabu
    @Dabu-Dabu 2 года назад +14

    This stuff is awesome. I've been droping No oriented questions at work; looks like stuff that previously wouldn't even budge, way above my paygrade will now change signifficantly (it was about delegating entire process to anohter team, so that ours could focus more on core responsibilities). And that knowledge is free.. I mean, come on

    • @jabezkikurui
      @jabezkikurui Год назад +2

      You sound like you will be using this stuff in the future because you loved how it made your team stay focused on core responsibilities at work.

  • @Mista1deep
    @Mista1deep 2 года назад

    Steel-manning the other sides argument.
    Great bits of information.

  • @donnalesiv5079
    @donnalesiv5079 Год назад +1

    True. Don't you hate it when someone is only listening to respond.

  • @joryiansmith
    @joryiansmith 2 года назад

    Thank you boss man!

  • @yshchrist3015
    @yshchrist3015 Год назад +1

    Stems from ecclesiastical training: removing all of the vanity; me, my, mine, & I out of one's speech.
    So in word: to deny self in the pursuit of our LORD Jesus Christ to adorn the master's perfection like armor and be an acceptable offering to our heavenly Father.
    For if the good LORD God could be for us, Who could be against us in any negotiation?
    God bless black swans.

  • @EJSimonsen
    @EJSimonsen 2 года назад

    That's right!!

  • @kamaalmcilwain3449
    @kamaalmcilwain3449 Год назад

    Thank you man 🙏🏾

  • @xpansionteam1537
    @xpansionteam1537 2 года назад

    Amazing thanks chris

  • @mrdibujante
    @mrdibujante 2 года назад +1

    That's right

  • @ekahlanuza7421
    @ekahlanuza7421 2 года назад

    Happy Thanksgiving to the Black Swan Group

  • @jabezkikurui
    @jabezkikurui Год назад

    I'm from kenya 🇰🇪 and it seems you are the kind of persom that would look to hear 'that's right' from the person you're talking to just to make them feel understood.

  • @add_Ilija31
    @add_Ilija31 2 года назад

    It seems like you've given up all your energy to make this video successful ? Professor Voss, you are unstoppable. Keep moving forward. I am rooting for you! :)

  • @baconseggs
    @baconseggs 2 года назад

    Happy thanksgiving Mr V!

  • @awalton9024
    @awalton9024 2 года назад +2

    Worse than "I understand" is "I hear you". That always irritated me! On the surface I thought: What are you usually deaf or am I a low talker? But the real problem is what it says underneath: "Yeah, yeah, I hear your B.S. and I don't care".

  • @karengates925
    @karengates925 2 года назад

    So awesome...

  • @Cheesecake99YearsAgo
    @Cheesecake99YearsAgo 2 года назад +1

    9:32 Great examples

    • @AlexDonnett
      @AlexDonnett 2 года назад

      What made you pick your name?

  • @beanrunnerWA
    @beanrunnerWA 2 года назад

    Voss is boss!

  • @danieljduchesne
    @danieljduchesne 2 года назад

    Good stuff my friend

  • @zivatouitou1196
    @zivatouitou1196 10 месяцев назад

    Brilliant 👏

  • @munyabrownn
    @munyabrownn Год назад

    The way you speak alone is enough to capture me... Thank you for the channel. It has helped me a lot in my businesses

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Год назад

      Glad we can help! For more incredible and ground breaking information visit our website www.blackswanltd.com. Thank you for watching!

  • @dontaesteel5748
    @dontaesteel5748 2 года назад

    There Definitely is a top 3.

  • @rml1643
    @rml1643 2 года назад +1

    Great! When is your next book coming?

  • @YoshevElazarMikael
    @YoshevElazarMikael 6 месяцев назад

    Listening is the tool that drives empathy, and empathy is the key, to getting the most out of the deal, for everyone who is involved.

  • @nathanbanks2354
    @nathanbanks2354 2 года назад +2

    Biggest Takeaway: seeing Ego, Authority, Failure featured prominently on the bookshelf. I've only read Never Slit the Difference.

  • @T..C..M
    @T..C..M 2 года назад +2

    I had to up the speed to 1.25, audio seems slow on this one. Good info as always!

  • @mimo1983
    @mimo1983 2 года назад +2

    IS it ridiculous for me to say that I enjoyed this video immensely and got a lot from it?

    • @Words_in_Action
      @Words_in_Action 2 года назад

      Yes! Because I know what you are doing. Lol

  • @T..C..M
    @T..C..M 2 года назад +7

    Question! Is there gonna be a sequel to NSD? Even about another topic? I've listened to the book around 35 times and know it by heart, it's like I'm chasing the dragon to get that feeling I had during the first read in 11/2019! Life changing book!

  • @anthonyborg1990
    @anthonyborg1990 10 месяцев назад

    Late to the game. In order to get me out of the habit of i understand because everything you said about it is true.
    I substituted it with. my understanding with what your saying is...

  • @davidlinehat4657
    @davidlinehat4657 Год назад

    "I understand" is a great phrase when your boss has given you your marching orders, not during a negotiation

  • @TheBusinessRenovator
    @TheBusinessRenovator 2 года назад +2

    I have been a fan and a student for about 3 years - The Masterclass is gold , recommend and I coach others on the Chris' Black Swan methods, oral and written has been a game changer... Thank you Chris

    • @dbultrowicz
      @dbultrowicz 2 года назад

      What did you learn and what did it give you?

    • @thequeenofwitches7943
      @thequeenofwitches7943 2 года назад

      Oral and written has been a game changer?...

    • @TheBusinessRenovator
      @TheBusinessRenovator 2 года назад +2

      @@dbultrowicz was able to get all of the proposed amount on a 6 figure contract. It’s given me a way to diffuse resistance in possible conflicts and moved people along the buyers journey with ease, low if any resistance.

  • @abrahamshabatee4384
    @abrahamshabatee4384 2 года назад

    thank u mr. voss
    where can i get personal traning ?
    thanks in advance

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  2 года назад

      We're slated to have brand new courses for 2022! You can see a list of our current courses here: www.blackswanltd.com/services/training-for-individuals

  • @omare5383
    @omare5383 2 года назад

    What is a good alternative for " I understand" ?

    • @deltaraider87
      @deltaraider87 2 года назад

      A label would work... It (or you) sounds/seems/looks like...

  • @OutVista
    @OutVista 2 года назад

    Hi there Can anyone suggest what Late Nigh DJs sounds like? any DJs recommended by The BSG

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  2 года назад

      Here's how to do the Late-Night FM DJ Voice: ruclips.net/video/RJjnkxvbxaI/видео.html

  • @oleopathic
    @oleopathic Месяц назад

    Hard life in Brooklyn, Voss? ;)

  • @dividedwefall652
    @dividedwefall652 2 года назад

    “ Happy Thanksgiving 🍁!” Chriss! Are you okay?

  • @thequeenofwitches7943
    @thequeenofwitches7943 2 года назад +4

    I wonder if this works on someone with a Narcissistic Disorder.

    • @TheBusinessRenovator
      @TheBusinessRenovator 2 года назад

      On Narcissistic Disorder?

    • @thequeenofwitches7943
      @thequeenofwitches7943 2 года назад

      @@TheBusinessRenovator I am going to recommend you a You Tube channel, it is called, Snake diet with Cole Robinson.

  • @shortdog876
    @shortdog876 2 года назад

    Are there other words or phrases that we should remove from our brains? Removing "I understand" is going to be very useful.

  • @user-mj6sl9qv8j
    @user-mj6sl9qv8j Год назад

    Great content as always - delivery seems strangely sleepy/ drunk - everything ok?

  • @dividedwefall652
    @dividedwefall652 2 года назад

    We are dealing with criminals, these people have no ethics!!

  • @ingridchristensen9523
    @ingridchristensen9523 2 года назад

    It seems like there is a lot of Sun Tzu mindset and skills in your method.

  • @laurahankins8183
    @laurahankins8183 2 года назад +1

    Will I ever meet you

    • @TheObserver567
      @TheObserver567 2 года назад

      Ask yourself how can i and work on making it happen

    • @Cheesecake99YearsAgo
      @Cheesecake99YearsAgo 2 года назад +1

      Become his next customer to meet him lol

    • @chuckMvideos
      @chuckMvideos 2 года назад +2

      Open ended question 👆. "Is it a ridiculous idea to meet face to face soon?"

  • @outlaw1179
    @outlaw1179 2 года назад +1

    Let's go brandon

  • @artofverity8791
    @artofverity8791 2 года назад

    The book should be called
    "Like your life depends on it"
    Never split the what? Confuzzling..

  • @user-pw8fd6ce8e
    @user-pw8fd6ce8e 2 года назад

    Someday Someday you'll be at 69 comments 😄

  • @MikeHunt-rw4gf
    @MikeHunt-rw4gf 2 года назад

    Algorithm.

  • @JohnOwensgoogle
    @JohnOwensgoogle Год назад

    Can you please make some new videos instead of repurposing the old clips.

  • @ivyking4149
    @ivyking4149 2 года назад

    How about that übermacho manner of speaking. I wonder of that hurt any negotiaton he's been in?
    Black swan....pfff