I'm 27, I started this when I was 13. I'm tired of living like it, feeling sorry for myself. One of my triggers is my the pain in my heart, what I dealt with in life, from being bullied when I was a kid for being overweight to my ex girlfriend who broke up with me last year in November. I want change, even though I've been working on myself, being physically fit now, climbing mountains, and having talents. I still have yet to go. Thank you, whoever you are for listening.
Say this Prayer to ask God for Freedom in Christ Jesus. ●Say: Jesus Christ i ask you to please come into my heart and be my Lord and Saviour, please Bless my soul and make me a true child of God. Thank you for saving me and setting me free. In Jesus name. Amen . GOD LOVES YOU❤️❤❤
For me the trigger is often just being bored. My mind tends to go to porn because I've made it a habit (probably during quarantine), it's getting better tho. I've tried quitting cold turkey many times but it didn't work for me so now I'm trying to ease into it, making the gap between relapses longer. I've managed to stretch it to around 2 weeks for now 🎉. Good luck to everyone who reads this, feel free to comment here, I'll try to help you / keep you accountable if I can. ❤ Love brothers
same for me bro, just boredom, the urge gets really strong especially when you dont have many options of things to do to keep yourself occupied and distracted
@@stackswopomannn I'm still trying to overcome it. For me its a long battle as I've struggled with porn abuse for almost 10 years now. Sometimes I relapse every few weeks and sometimes every few days. The important thing is that it's better and doesn't feel that tiring anymore
social media, especially when you scroll and nothing entertains you, getting bored and searching it up just to feel something. Or going through social media and seeing something we shouldn't have. Social media the problem for me.
For me, my trigger is often times just thinking. The internet gives access to things like the hub that ruins and takes over your mind. It has taken over mine and others minds, but we’re all climbing out of this hole, no matter how deep it you are. Personally, I’ve made a lot of progress in controlling my urges, and I hope everyone reading this is too. Thank you Shimon, from the bottom of my heart❤
Not gonna lie, after deleting social media, the causes of my relapses have just been my thoughts. It's always certain videos that I watched while I was in the deep depths of the addiction that randomly pop up in my brain and give me the urges to go back to them. I know how to control my urges now more than ever though, partly thanks to you. The work you do is appreciated.
I am 32 and smoked weed last night even though I promised my gf I would stop. I am absolutely devastated that I let her down and let myself down. It is such a horrible feeling. I hope I can learn from this and remember this feeling next time when I’m thinking of relapsing. Stay strong everyone! This is not the life I wish to have for myself.
It is pretty sad to recognise that I was doing great doing amazing in my journey towards freedom, but I couldn't control my mind after 2 months of struggling. And now I need to start climbing again, but I learn a lot from my past mistakes, and now I will do whatever it takes to succeed. thanks to you my brother 💪 hope you all the best Stay hard!
Hey man, just did it today, was almost a month free, but I fell. Anyways, I’m going to take responsibility, and climb back up. At the end of the day, I made a mistake and Jesus forgave me. God Bless ✌️
I think its better to not think of it as falling. You're not starting the climp again, you merely stumbled a bit and stopped where you were. You carry on climbing from where you are, relapsing isn't failure because slowly but surely the relapses will become less and less frequent.
My trigers are just thinking, social media, going to shower. After I relapse after 14 days and more, I can relapsing every day, because I very disapointing in myself. Thank you Shimon
Currently 18, I started dating the most amazing girl a little more than 9 months ago. Ive been addicted since about 12 and Im now learning that I have PIED. My girlfriend, being the amazing person she is, has unconditionally supported me through recovery but it's still the most disheartening thing to not be able to sexually provide for someone I love so much. This addiction has consumed the past 6 years of my life, and is now affecting someone who I wish I could give the world to. The next time you feel urges, remember that continuing down the path of your habit/addiction could affect more than just your own well-being(not that that isnt important though). Hopefully someone finds this helpful. Im just glad to get it out there! goodluck to everyone trying to recover!
I went thru that w my first girl too except this was like 5 years ago n i didnt know the reason for goin soft all the time. Im 20 now and still healing gang dont be like me try to nip that shit before it evolves into the third decade of ur life.
Thank you for the energy bro ❤ I’m a week through without p*rn, i’m looking to be more close to god, care about my health, look and dreams, my highest peak was at 2020, and now things feel different, i’ve learn a lot with your videos, and i feel an awesome energy and blessings coming for me, cause after 3 years, i finally feel that i can reach and conquer all that i dream. God Bless You 🙏 And God Bless every earth brother that is still fighting this war 🫶 trust god, and be a soldier for him guys! One day you will find yourself, and all that is going to be worthy.
People need to understand that bad times should be looked at as a lessons. My favourite MC of all time once said: It's universal, you play with fire it may hurt you Or burn you, LESSONS ARE BLESSINGS YOU SHOULD LEARN THROUGH - Guru RIP GURU! My man was ahead of his time! Keep learning every day new thing, and be grateful for all the knowledge you get! Stay strong brothers! Don't quit! One love
I had gone over 500 days without relapsing and then fell down into a pit for a few weeks and relapsed. I’m climbing out now, but it really taught me that highs and lows are a part of life and no matter how well, how perfect you could keep something up for, you’re still vulnerable to falling off. That, plus why I relapsed which probably stemmed from thinking about getting into a relationship or getting a gf in general for the month before. It really distracted my mind. But thank you Shimon. Your words are changing how I live every day for the better.
@@koolfooltech6431 there’s no apparent benefits other than the fact you’ll be a lot happier with your life. you’ll appreciate life and the experience you go through, good or bad. my experience was pretty much that. it was tough to break off the relapses and finally quit, but once i did, shit was worth living for yk? now i got a girl i’m talking to so that problem is probably fixed lmao
Shimon! I know you don't know me but I love you like a brother. Like many others who have stumbled upon your channel, your words have inspired me and helped me in so many ways. Thank you sir, may you prosper and continue to heal the world with your very presence.
And it's always important to remember this! As much as we are doomed to always make mistakes. It is always important to know why we fall and what triggered this
i relapsed multiple times and i thought i would never stop buh i found your channel and you’ve been a guiding light through these dark times. prexiate you for all the good work you doing mane and stay on yo path 🖤
For me it’s when I’m alone , home by myself & bored. Social media & such. I’d block it & go back. & relapse just about every 7 days. But I’m committed, I’ve already won the battle. Life just has to catch up. 💯
I relapsed this morning and felt like shit afterwards and was really contemplating my decisions so im a really glad that you posted this video and I love you so much and I'm am healing and becoming better slowly ❤❤
The funny thing is that last time it happened, which was a few days ago, it wasn’t even necessarily a trigger. It was that I was so happy with where I was at and moving forward in life that I felt like it wouldn’t affect me when I had the urge, even though I told myself it would. And all it took was a little bit of soft core porn here and there on social media to finally end up on pages and leaked photos and forums and all that. And then finally relapsing. It’s truly disgusting. And I’ve been using what you said in your other video, “porn will not make you reach your goals.” Even after caving into the temptation I will still continue to say that because it’s such a good and true statement. It’s a battle! And I will win it! Thank you for this video man on what to do after relapsing. Hearing that I’m not a failure means so much
I was good for a month then a few days ago i stumbled across a video on yt and i went down the hole of searching and scrolling for hours. But i will rise stronger from this thanks to videos like this thank you man.
What I noticed was that each time an argument came up I tended to go to corn, it was a way to kind forget about it that's my way. Lonely is one of them ofc, and women I need to work harder and just stop like you said we need to learn from our losses I usually get sad but hearing you made me feel better also accountability
Its similar to you davis, its the movies and mainly social media that trip me up. Truly social media and self image are the only things holding me back with a lack of focus on my goals.
Shimon, my man thank you so much. My triggers are social media, a misunderstood full bladder, Anime like One Piece, and telegram/social media. I don’t know how many days it has been but what I can say is the dance is with the urges has become easier as time went one. I actually got to know a girl and what i realised is the the touch of a woman has been missing in my life like hugs and kindnesses, genuine conversation. The fact is that the Icing on the cake is sex and the cake itself is the bond between you and your partner. Thank you so much. LG ArkMan
What i needed to hear ,thank you bro i am all tears now ,i relapsed after being on semen retention for 6 months ,now thinking about starting over literally crushes my soul,but we got no choice but to continue and to start over again,semen retention is the most valuable journey
Social media and imaginations tied into it all brother. Accountability is key, and thank you for this video. It was crucial, and mentally, I tear myself apart when relapses happen. However, I just have to learn, and become better. Thanks brother 🤝🏾❤️
What makes me relapse is relaxing/chilling and letting my dirty mind control me, into doing these things. Seeing this video really helps a lot. Keep on doing these videos, and more people are going to stop their dirty reaction.
i relapsed and it was social media that triggered me, i was scrolling on tiktok and saw something that stimulated me. i’m not proud as i’m more than aware of my actions and i’m slightly disheartened that i did relapse but watching this video really hit it home for me. I know i can overcome this, matter fact i WILL overcome this. many thanks shimon
My triggers were social media as well mainly tiktok and snapchat eliminating your triggers is spot on and I’ve noticed it was really hard at first but the more I say no and not view my triggers it feels like it is getting easier
I’ve always recognized that the causes for my relapses have always involved me getting bored and scrolling through social media. As of recently I’ve fallen out of favor with little to do since the beginning of my final school semester has started, With that, I don’t particularly have any main hobbies I find myself doing on a daily basis and, on the days in which i’m off work, I become receptive to these negative influences. I’ve always found that boredom is the #1 cause for me.
My trigger is almost always social media. My last relapse which was yesterday I saw some shit on Snapchat and it was downhill from there. After the relapse I blocked every lustful account and I’m confident that that was the last step in beating my addiction. I have already deleted insta and TikTok
Sometimes the sense of hopelessness after a relapse is a trigger in itself. Spirals into more or give up easier next time. So thank you for saying its about how you recover. Reminded me of Proverbs 24:16 "For the righteous one may fall seven times, and he will get up again..."
Honestly I’ve been trying over and over again to just stop but always found myself going back to it, I relapsed again today for the 3rd time in a row and it never makes me feel better or complete after. If anything it just tears me down and makes me feel weak. I always stay strong though and continue on my journey no matter how many times I fail, I’m gonna get closer to God eventually and that’s what keeps me going. Thank you.
I struggled with using coke and watching porn as a distraction from being bored and unfocused. I’ve decided to stay focus on my goals and refrai from all addictions
You can do it brother!!! I used to do coke every weekend and just sit in my room after being with my mates and just watch porn for hours, I cut off all my coke mates and I’ve been sober for the past 4 months. Just cut off the distractions that’s making you do coke and you’ll be okay bro. I relapsed today watching porn because I was low key having urges to sniff coke but I just watched porn instead to take away the coke urges if that make’s any sense
Thank you so much. Even if this isn’t about my addiction, self harm, this still helps, because i struggle with relapsing and urges to relapse. I get triggered really easily by media. I’m a girl so I don’t know specifically about this addiction, but I relate to the urge to fall into my addiction for comfort, or honestly just for boredom. I feel weak all the time for wanting to cut over small things but this helped. Stay strong! ❤
I just started watching Shimon 4 days ago he is really helping i love this guy bro i always watch him when i come from school and these videos has been helping❤
i relapsed today because of a movie i was watching it had a lot of women in bikinis but it was a horror, i put on a horror movie to watch and the next thing i know i was milking, i tried and fought off these thoughts for like 30 minutes but they got the better of me
So im 29 now.. first rehab progam i completed was at 19.. my entire 20s i spent distracting myself with relationships and drinking.. it wasnt until covid i found heavier substances.. so these past 4-5 years have been get 6-12 months clean then relapse.. go out for 3-6 months and clean up. i just relapsed a month ago after 3 months.. ive lost count how many times ive relapsed but here i am finalling understanding emotionally maturity is everything. Its how well you let your emotions take control. So i didnt want to wake up at 6am and run.. boohoo.. oh my ex is dating someone new after a couple months.. big deal.. life will go up and then go down.. no matter what.. how badly do you want this? If its not worth everything and more youre gonna relapse.. sucks to sucks when you have addiction issuss but man i wouldn't have it any other way.. i can now look back at my 20s and finally accept, let go and grow from it all. thanks for the video man. Needed this.
I don't know how long I been clean But all I know is to stay foces and try not to fall into this hell hole void and thx to this guy to keep me away from my addiction his videos really helped me alot ty bro ty for everything you the best 👊
Mann, I’ve been struggling with lust for 2 years now and I’ve been trying to stop for a while now. Your vids and advice have helped me a lot and changed my life. My triggers were definitely social media and being bored. When I deleted TikTok and twitter it helped a whole lot. Thanks man for the advice and tips. God bless ya brother🙏🏾.
Remove the desire and then triggers won't matter. The word trigger may make you think it has control over you. You have free will. Take responsibility for your actions. The whole understanding of addiction in western culture makes it difficult, makes you think it has control over you and you don't have control over it. Take back the power of your choice. I'm still working on changing how I think about pmo, I relapsed today but it is getting easier as the days go on.
Thank you so much Shimon. This is just on point. I just relapsed and followed your advice to figure out what triggered me. It was something I really like to do, going to the sauna (but alone this time). It was a super stimulus that instantly made me wanted to get more and more. So it pulled me right back in. I guess there is one thing to do now, not going there (at least alone) again even though I like it so much. It's hard and I might fail in between but I know, it's still worth it and it will pay out for me to abstain from it. Thanks again bro, I appreciate what you did here and it helps me a lot🤘🏻
Hey brother I relapsed today, that post nut clarity hit like a train. My mind honestly told me "So you want fall to your demons? Yeah, you'll never be free from me." I think I'm ready to start working now. I want mental peace, great video timing btw
man, I've been on a personal journey too of moving past a hyper sexual mindset. I'm currently 29, i found some dirty magazines with dvds on the side of the road one day when i was 13, and that set it off for me. Personally i think there's a crazy amount of content out there being pushed to all kinds of minds. definitely gotta stay on top of personal urges and thinking deeper about those chemical reaction pulls and dopamine hits. being with friends has been nice when i can set up time, and working on stuff that's productive over just passive has been a good direction too, for me.
My trigger is often just thoughts i have when im alone, i find meditating and reflecting is a great way to cleanse my mind of these thoughts and think the way i want to.
I trade forex and I’m still in the struggling phase..when im in a losing streak, I get so emotional and I don’t have anyone to talk too cause the people around me don’t believe in it. So it makes relapse each time. But I know I would overcome Trust ❤
I really needed this. I been trying to stop for a long time and it’s so hard. Seeing that stuff ruined my last relationship, I didn’t find satisfaction with her, only videos and I have a couple of videos saved on my and when I try to delete them it’s hard. I was hesitant to write this but everyone seems so supportive in this community and thought I would share mine. I’m going to delete the videos and stop watching it. I want to take ahold of my life again
My 8 step mantra: 1. I’m addicted to porn because I cant choose not to indulge. 2. I am disgusted with myself that I do it, the fact that it can control me like that. 3. I can change. 4. No one else is gonna reprogram my mind for me. 5. I choose not to indulge. 6. I have commitment. 7. I know who I am. 8. I’m still a cool guy, just misled. But I don’t have to be.
Being 17 and in my last year of school, my biggest trigger by far is hearing from others around me that watching this stuff and behaving like that is normal. And I gotta keep reminding myself that just because something is normal don’t mean it’s good.
brecki hill and my mind got me i was actually thinking about what i was going to tell my therapist and i wanna ask abt my addiction and the past thoughts got me man
Social media, was a week clean but I decided to download ig and check up on some friends and well the rest is history. I just want to say thank you, you helped me start this Journey and hopefully one day I’ll be 500 days clean like some other person in your comments was.
for me a trigger is social media and having a hyper sexual mind, I really dislike this part of myself and I am going to change for the better. I was clean for a while and then I relapsed, now ever since then I have been so poisoned that I considered my addiction my destructive device wasn't something that bad. I will change.
You Have Such An Amazing Way With Words Watching Your Videos, I Feel Like Not Just A Subscriber But A Friend. You Speak Freely With No Hesitation And I Like That. You Seem To Be At Such A Higher Vibration, You Seem To Have A Better View About The World, About Yourself, About Life. Thank You For Teaching Us And Keeping It Real ❤
I stopped watching porn and sexual conent overall in February last year, but in August, I started watching it again for some pretty specific reasons. I was back home for an extended length of time, I was not attending any classes for the first time in two years, and I had other stresses with apartment searching, finding classes, etc. But when I watched it, I was pretty conflicted inside. I eventually grew too disappointed in myself and pulled myself up again, but it was a real learning moment for me. Thanks for all your content, Shimon, you’ve built such a great space for young men specifically who want to better themselves❤
Imaginations bro and alcohol was an aspect for me I went a good month without fapping and I slipped last night I drank too much and I had no control over myself and decided to do the deed in the moment not thinking We are making a promise from here that we grow from here and we do better
Shimon I thank you for everything you do you have been helping me so much on my journey to quit. I've been very off and on with Instagram deleting it redownloading it so on. But i just recently relapsed and had to delete it again cuz the triggers are sooooo bad its crazy because a year ago i would love to see stuff like that but now I've changed and realized just how disgusting it is.
For me my trigger was multiple things. It was the door being closed, my curtains closed and not being preoccupied. So what I've been doing is keeping my doors and curtains open and play a game. Play something like darksouls or like a really hard game that will keep you playing but wont be too boring to make you just want to leave. I hope this can help one of you guys. I love yall and I believe in you guys
It’s happened a lot recently 120 days down the drain then every two weeks. Although I got rid of most of my triggers it’s my mind that leads me to it and idk how to stop it
Thanks for your time you give me hope and encouraged me to think twice about my relapse which happened yesterday and founded out is he's so fucken pissed off at me asking me what do I really want in life and I had no answer because I was feeling so bad and lost all my good progress
Starting now at 2024/6/30 1:22 am Doin Monk mode RN IMMA COME BACK IF I RELAPSED I relapsed at 10/3/2024 8:14 sorry guys i let myself down My trigger is when going to the bathroom i go watch porn because i made it a habit when in the bathroom i always watch it and when i just lay down on my couch doing nothing and its so bored i tend to watch porn so what i learned is 1.Don't bring my phone to the bathroom and 2.block the person i always watch 3.always do something in my room like cleaning repairing the door or gaming with my friends or talk to my friends so that's what i learned (i will come back again if i relapse again)
I have the same triggers you do, and you can add manga in to it too, today i deleted all my social media apps(not whatsapp because my mother would kill me and work of course) and removed all anime manga related stuff from my cellphone and pc, dawg you're a lifesaver for real and i will keep on questioning all the things i do before doing it once again thank you for the knowledge.
For me, my trigger was a youtube short where it was a summary of a movie where there was an intimate scene. Firstly, it was okay but after sometime, there were a lot of thoughts and urges and I relapsed. I talked to myself and that helped me a little and then I did some of my work. After that I slept and then waking up I again had urges and I relapsed again. I'm fed up of these urges and relapses. I'm trying my best to make myself better but after sometime I get back to those darkest trenches of my mind. It's a new beginning from now, from level 0 and I hope I don't give up to my urges💗
Bro I was binge watching on twitter and ig and on google. I went on a 11 day streak then I relapsed 22 hours later. Bro thank you I will keep goin to get my self out of this addiction. I been exposed to sex since I was 6 years old and I’m 23. Been trying to quit for years bro but it seemed impossible until now. Look at the small growths. I know this Time I will be able to go a month for sure.
Just uninstalled Instagram for this exact reason. Whenever I would scroll for a while, eventually I'd come across somrying triggering. At some point i cracked. Fell back into the addiction after a 10 day streak. Been back to watching almost daily now for about a week... Its no longer 8 hours of my day like it used to be. I let myself go into it, but rushing through it to avoid turning this addiction into a part-time job. But im no longer victimizing myself. Im no longer hating myself to my core. I realize the triggers. I take accountability. 20/01/24
I'm gonna talk about this so maybe it will help somone else. If you are horny or prone to acting out allot. DO NOT DRINK. conditions like myself (ADHD ADD) ex ex. if you mix alcohol with these conditions its a recipe for disaster and relapsing is extremely likely . So save the drinks for when you are out with friends or family. drinking on my own has only brought me problems. Hope this helps a few of ya'll out. Stay strong guys.
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I'm 27, I started this when I was 13. I'm tired of living like it, feeling sorry for myself. One of my triggers is my the pain in my heart, what I dealt with in life, from being bullied when I was a kid for being overweight to my ex girlfriend who broke up with me last year in November. I want change, even though I've been working on myself, being physically fit now, climbing mountains, and having talents. I still have yet to go.
Thank you, whoever you are for listening.
Say this Prayer to ask God for Freedom in Christ Jesus.
●Say: Jesus Christ i ask you to please come into my heart and be my Lord and Saviour, please Bless my soul and make me a true child of God.
Thank you for saving me and setting me free. In Jesus name. Amen
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GOD LOVES YOU❤️❤❤
The fact i just relapsed today and i see this video means a lot man your truly and inspiration❤️
Be strong brother, learn from mistakes, like he said
We all going through this bro, just keep on fighting
I relapsed too 😞
@@Caleb-DH its ok man just dont stop trying
@@aransatu ❤️
For me the trigger is often just being bored. My mind tends to go to porn because I've made it a habit (probably during quarantine), it's getting better tho. I've tried quitting cold turkey many times but it didn't work for me so now I'm trying to ease into it, making the gap between relapses longer. I've managed to stretch it to around 2 weeks for now 🎉. Good luck to everyone who reads this, feel free to comment here, I'll try to help you / keep you accountable if I can. ❤ Love brothers
same for me bro, just boredom, the urge gets really strong especially when you dont have many options of things to do to keep yourself occupied and distracted
@@djflugame Exactly, I found you have to keep yourself occupied and snap out of the 'horny state' just because you're not thinking clearly then
@@TommyIce101 no social circle, no friends and no job leads to pornn addiction
how’s it going did you overcome it and if so how many times did u relapse? i’m on day 6 and the urge is crazy
@@stackswopomannn I'm still trying to overcome it. For me its a long battle as I've struggled with porn abuse for almost 10 years now. Sometimes I relapse every few weeks and sometimes every few days. The important thing is that it's better and doesn't feel that tiring anymore
social media, especially when you scroll and nothing entertains you, getting bored and searching it up just to feel something. Or going through social media and seeing something we shouldn't have. Social media the problem for me.
For me, my trigger is often times just thinking. The internet gives access to things like the hub that ruins and takes over your mind. It has taken over mine and others minds, but we’re all climbing out of this hole, no matter how deep it you are. Personally, I’ve made a lot of progress in controlling my urges, and I hope everyone reading this is too.
Thank you Shimon, from the bottom of my heart❤
Please tell me some of your practices when your thoughts are just pushing you
@@Castiel1218 Honestly then I go to sleep or go out to the living room. I also just fall asleep too
"Appreciate the loss its a lesson, appreciate the pain it's a blessing" - Jay-Z
Not gonna lie, after deleting social media, the causes of my relapses have just been my thoughts. It's always certain videos that I watched while I was in the deep depths of the addiction that randomly pop up in my brain and give me the urges to go back to them. I know how to control my urges now more than ever though, partly thanks to you. The work you do is appreciated.
Yeah same thing keeps happening to me bro. I’ve deleted alot of my social media as well
That's real bro
I am 32 and smoked weed last night even though I promised my gf I would stop. I am absolutely devastated that I let her down and let myself down. It is such a horrible feeling. I hope I can learn from this and remember this feeling next time when I’m thinking of relapsing. Stay strong everyone! This is not the life I wish to have for myself.
You got this man
Bro you can do it I believe in you.
It is pretty sad to recognise that I was doing great doing amazing in my journey towards freedom, but I couldn't control my mind after 2 months of struggling. And now I need to start climbing again, but I learn a lot from my past mistakes, and now I will do whatever it takes to succeed. thanks to you my brother 💪
hope you all the best
Stay hard!
Hey man, just did it today, was almost a month free, but I fell. Anyways, I’m going to take responsibility, and climb back up. At the end of the day, I made a mistake and Jesus forgave me. God Bless ✌️
I think its better to not think of it as falling. You're not starting the climp again, you merely stumbled a bit and stopped where you were. You carry on climbing from where you are, relapsing isn't failure because slowly but surely the relapses will become less and less frequent.
My trigers are just thinking, social media, going to shower. After I relapse after 14 days and more, I can relapsing every day, because I very disapointing in myself. Thank you Shimon
Currently 18, I started dating the most amazing girl a little more than 9 months ago. Ive been addicted since about 12 and Im now learning that I have PIED. My girlfriend, being the amazing person she is, has unconditionally supported me through recovery but it's still the most disheartening thing to not be able to sexually provide for someone I love so much. This addiction has consumed the past 6 years of my life, and is now affecting someone who I wish I could give the world to. The next time you feel urges, remember that continuing down the path of your habit/addiction could affect more than just your own well-being(not that that isnt important though).
Hopefully someone finds this helpful. Im just glad to get it out there!
goodluck to everyone trying to recover!
I went thru that w my first girl too except this was like 5 years ago n i didnt know the reason for goin soft all the time. Im 20 now and still healing gang dont be like me try to nip that shit before it evolves into the third decade of ur life.
Not being able to fall asleep is a deep one for me.
Thank you for the energy bro ❤ I’m a week through without p*rn, i’m looking to be more close to god, care about my health, look and dreams, my highest peak was at 2020, and now things feel different, i’ve learn a lot with your videos, and i feel an awesome energy and blessings coming for me, cause after 3 years, i finally feel that i can reach and conquer all that i dream.
God Bless You 🙏 And God Bless every earth brother that is still fighting this war 🫶 trust god, and be a soldier for him guys! One day you will find yourself, and all that is going to be worthy.
for me, it’s mostly sadness. feeling lonely, laying down and overthinking. wanting to feel something
People need to understand that bad times should be looked at as a lessons. My favourite MC of all time once said:
It's universal, you play with fire it may hurt you
Or burn you, LESSONS ARE BLESSINGS YOU SHOULD LEARN THROUGH
- Guru
RIP GURU! My man was ahead of his time!
Keep learning every day new thing, and be grateful for all the knowledge you get! Stay strong brothers! Don't quit! One love
I relapsed last night and instantly thought of one of your videos. So imma keep trying till I get it right 🙏🏾
Nearly relapsed today, but I decided to watch one of your videos and it got me out of that mind state of momentary satisfaction. Thank you
I had gone over 500 days without relapsing and then fell down into a pit for a few weeks and relapsed. I’m climbing out now, but it really taught me that highs and lows are a part of life and no matter how well, how perfect you could keep something up for, you’re still vulnerable to falling off. That, plus why I relapsed which probably stemmed from thinking about getting into a relationship or getting a gf in general for the month before. It really distracted my mind.
But thank you Shimon. Your words are changing how I live every day for the better.
soo true brother ! keep going
Can you explain your experience and benefits
@@koolfooltech6431 there’s no apparent benefits other than the fact you’ll be a lot happier with your life. you’ll appreciate life and the experience you go through, good or bad. my experience was pretty much that. it was tough to break off the relapses and finally quit, but once i did, shit was worth living for yk? now i got a girl i’m talking to so that problem is probably fixed lmao
I’m really tired of relapsing
Don't lose hope. You have to win for yourself ❤
Same
Same my brother. Same
Me too man I’m done with this shit
@@joshuaanthony16 let’s win this fight
Shimon! I know you don't know me but I love you like a brother. Like many others who have stumbled upon your channel, your words have inspired me and helped me in so many ways. Thank you sir, may you prosper and continue to heal the world with your very presence.
And it's always important to remember this! As much as we are doomed to always make mistakes. It is always important to know why we fall and what triggered this
i relapsed multiple times and i thought i would never stop buh i found your channel and you’ve been a guiding light through these dark times. prexiate you for all the good work you doing mane and stay on yo path 🖤
Thank you for helping me heal after my breakup. I might have lost her but she taught me thousands of lessons that fit into 3 years.
For me it’s when I’m alone , home by myself & bored. Social media & such. I’d block it & go back. & relapse just about every 7 days. But I’m committed, I’ve already won the battle. Life just has to catch up. 💯
I relapsed this morning and felt like shit afterwards and was really contemplating my decisions so im a really glad that you posted this video and I love you so much and I'm am healing and becoming better slowly ❤❤
The funny thing is that last time it happened, which was a few days ago, it wasn’t even necessarily a trigger. It was that I was so happy with where I was at and moving forward in life that I felt like it wouldn’t affect me when I had the urge, even though I told myself it would. And all it took was a little bit of soft core porn here and there on social media to finally end up on pages and leaked photos and forums and all that. And then finally relapsing. It’s truly disgusting. And I’ve been using what you said in your other video, “porn will not make you reach your goals.” Even after caving into the temptation I will still continue to say that because it’s such a good and true statement. It’s a battle! And I will win it! Thank you for this video man on what to do after relapsing. Hearing that I’m not a failure means so much
I was good for a month then a few days ago i stumbled across a video on yt and i went down the hole of searching and scrolling for hours. But i will rise stronger from this thanks to videos like this thank you man.
What I noticed was that each time an argument came up I tended to go to corn, it was a way to kind forget about it that's my way. Lonely is one of them ofc, and women I need to work harder and just stop like you said we need to learn from our losses I usually get sad but hearing you made me feel better also accountability
Its similar to you davis, its the movies and mainly social media that trip me up. Truly social media and self image are the only things holding me back with a lack of focus on my goals.
Shimon, my man thank you so much. My triggers are social media, a misunderstood full bladder, Anime like One Piece, and telegram/social media. I don’t know how many days it has been but what I can say is the dance is with the urges has become easier as time went one. I actually got to know a girl and what i realised is the the touch of a woman has been missing in my life like hugs and kindnesses, genuine conversation. The fact is that the Icing on the cake is sex and the cake itself is the bond between you and your partner.
Thank you so much. LG ArkMan
What i needed to hear ,thank you bro i am all tears now ,i relapsed after being on semen retention for 6 months ,now thinking about starting over literally crushes my soul,but we got no choice but to continue and to start over again,semen retention is the most valuable journey
Social media and imaginations tied into it all brother. Accountability is key, and thank you for this video. It was crucial, and mentally, I tear myself apart when relapses happen. However, I just have to learn, and become better. Thanks brother 🤝🏾❤️
What makes me relapse is relaxing/chilling and letting my dirty mind control me, into doing these things. Seeing this video really helps a lot. Keep on doing these videos, and more people are going to stop their dirty reaction.
Thanks shimon for opening up and making these topics of discussion relevant on RUclips truly an inspiration and soldier of god. Stay blessed.
i relapsed and it was social media that triggered me, i was scrolling on tiktok and saw something that stimulated me. i’m not proud as i’m more than aware of my actions and i’m slightly disheartened that i did relapse but watching this video really hit it home for me. I know i can overcome this, matter fact i WILL overcome this. many thanks shimon
Social media is definitely my biggest trigger. Especially when you combine it with sleep deprivation.
My triggers were social media as well mainly tiktok and snapchat eliminating your triggers is spot on and I’ve noticed it was really hard at first but the more I say no and not view my triggers it feels like it is getting easier
I’ve always recognized that the causes for my relapses have always involved me getting bored and scrolling through social media. As of recently I’ve fallen out of favor with little to do since the beginning of my final school semester has started, With that, I don’t particularly have any main hobbies I find myself doing on a daily basis and, on the days in which i’m off work, I become receptive to these negative influences. I’ve always found that boredom is the #1 cause for me.
My trigger is almost always social media. My last relapse which was yesterday I saw some shit on Snapchat and it was downhill from there. After the relapse I blocked every lustful account and I’m confident that that was the last step in beating my addiction. I have already deleted insta and TikTok
Sometimes the sense of hopelessness after a relapse is a trigger in itself. Spirals into more or give up easier next time.
So thank you for saying its about how you recover.
Reminded me of Proverbs 24:16 "For the righteous one may fall seven times, and he will get up again..."
Amen 🙏 Whenever I think about relapse and all that, I think of that same verse.
Just Realapsed Today and immideatly after I saw your Vid. Thank you man and God bless you
Honestly I’ve been trying over and over again to just stop but always found myself going back to it, I relapsed again today for the 3rd time in a row and it never makes me feel better or complete after. If anything it just tears me down and makes me feel weak. I always stay strong though and continue on my journey no matter how many times I fail, I’m gonna get closer to God eventually and that’s what keeps me going. Thank you.
My trigger is being lonely and I will take responsibility
I found out why I released it’s my thoughts and I pray to God so he can help me
I struggled with using coke and watching porn as a distraction from being bored and unfocused. I’ve decided to stay focus on my goals and refrai from all addictions
You can do it brother!!! I used to do coke every weekend and just sit in my room after being with my mates and just watch porn for hours, I cut off all my coke mates and I’ve been sober for the past 4 months. Just cut off the distractions that’s making you do coke and you’ll be okay bro. I relapsed today watching porn because I was low key having urges to sniff coke but I just watched porn instead to take away the coke urges if that make’s any sense
Slipped up after 6 days,i feel good because i know that i am slowly quitting it compared to others,so ill try again
My trigger is social media.
Thank you so much. Even if this isn’t about my addiction, self harm, this still helps, because i struggle with relapsing and urges to relapse. I get triggered really easily by media. I’m a girl so I don’t know specifically about this addiction, but I relate to the urge to fall into my addiction for comfort, or honestly just for boredom. I feel weak all the time for wanting to cut over small things but this helped. Stay strong! ❤
I just started watching Shimon 4 days ago he is really helping i love this guy bro i always watch him when i come from school and these videos has been helping❤
i relapsed today because of a movie i was watching it had a lot of women in bikinis but it was a horror, i put on a horror movie to watch and the next thing i know i was milking, i tried and fought off these thoughts for like 30 minutes but they got the better of me
So im 29 now.. first rehab progam i completed was at 19.. my entire 20s i spent distracting myself with relationships and drinking.. it wasnt until covid i found heavier substances.. so these past 4-5 years have been get 6-12 months clean then relapse.. go out for 3-6 months and clean up. i just relapsed a month ago after 3 months.. ive lost count how many times ive relapsed but here i am finalling understanding emotionally maturity is everything. Its how well you let your emotions take control. So i didnt want to wake up at 6am and run.. boohoo.. oh my ex is dating someone new after a couple months.. big deal.. life will go up and then go down.. no matter what.. how badly do you want this? If its not worth everything and more youre gonna relapse.. sucks to sucks when you have addiction issuss but man i wouldn't have it any other way.. i can now look back at my 20s and finally accept, let go and grow from it all. thanks for the video man. Needed this.
Much love for you Shimon and everyone on their journey ❤️
Relapsed today and felt sick about it then your video came up im happy i found you a while back man we will win this war
I don't know how long I been clean But all I know is to stay foces and try not to fall into this hell hole void and thx to this guy to keep me away from my addiction his videos really helped me alot ty bro ty for everything you the best 👊
I was thinking about doing it and giving in but I watched this and I help me not to give in you a real one
Mann, I’ve been struggling with lust for 2 years now and I’ve been trying to stop for a while now. Your vids and advice have helped me a lot and changed my life. My triggers were definitely social media and being bored. When I deleted TikTok and twitter it helped a whole lot. Thanks man for the advice and tips. God bless ya brother🙏🏾.
Remove the desire and then triggers won't matter. The word trigger may make you think it has control over you. You have free will. Take responsibility for your actions. The whole understanding of addiction in western culture makes it difficult, makes you think it has control over you and you don't have control over it. Take back the power of your choice. I'm still working on changing how I think about pmo, I relapsed today but it is getting easier as the days go on.
Thank you so much Shimon. This is just on point. I just relapsed and followed your advice to figure out what triggered me. It was something I really like to do, going to the sauna (but alone this time). It was a super stimulus that instantly made me wanted to get more and more. So it pulled me right back in. I guess there is one thing to do now, not going there (at least alone) again even though I like it so much. It's hard and I might fail in between but I know, it's still worth it and it will pay out for me to abstain from it. Thanks again bro, I appreciate what you did here and it helps me a lot🤘🏻
Hey brother I relapsed today, that post nut clarity hit like a train. My mind honestly told me "So you want fall to your demons? Yeah, you'll never be free from me."
I think I'm ready to start working now. I want mental peace, great video timing btw
man, I've been on a personal journey too of moving past a hyper sexual mindset. I'm currently 29, i found some dirty magazines with dvds on the side of the road one day when i was 13, and that set it off for me. Personally i think there's a crazy amount of content out there being pushed to all kinds of minds. definitely gotta stay on top of personal urges and thinking deeper about those chemical reaction pulls and dopamine hits. being with friends has been nice when i can set up time, and working on stuff that's productive over just passive has been a good direction too, for me.
My trigger is often just thoughts i have when im alone, i find meditating and reflecting is a great way to cleanse my mind of these thoughts and think the way i want to.
I trade forex and I’m still in the struggling phase..when im in a losing streak, I get so emotional and I don’t have anyone to talk too cause the people around me don’t believe in it. So it makes relapse each time.
But I know I would overcome
Trust ❤
I feel u bro
@@ArcaneClairaudience thanks brother
We gon make it through 💜
I really needed this. I been trying to stop for a long time and it’s so hard. Seeing that stuff ruined my last relationship, I didn’t find satisfaction with her, only videos and I have a couple of videos saved on my and when I try to delete them it’s hard. I was hesitant to write this but everyone seems so supportive in this community and thought I would share mine. I’m going to delete the videos and stop watching it. I want to take ahold of my life again
Your content is definitely binge worthy, I've been watching you everyday now the content keeps getting better🤘
My 8 step mantra:
1. I’m addicted to porn because I cant choose not to indulge.
2. I am disgusted with myself that I do it, the fact that it can control me like that.
3. I can change.
4. No one else is gonna reprogram my mind for me.
5. I choose not to indulge.
6. I have commitment.
7. I know who I am.
8. I’m still a cool guy, just misled. But I don’t have to be.
bro, im loving these videos. you tell it how it is. im working on turning my life around and have found these videos helpful
The accountability for me was social media, endless thinking, not giving myself a break to live life.
« You have way more control than you think, but you have to take it back »
Being 17 and in my last year of school, my biggest trigger by far is hearing from others around me that watching this stuff and behaving like that is normal. And I gotta keep reminding myself that just because something is normal don’t mean it’s good.
Somehow my biggest trigger is being home alone. The anticipation of my girlfriend leaving the how and then doing the deed once she is out the door.
brecki hill and my mind got me i was actually thinking about what i was going to tell my therapist and i wanna ask abt my addiction and the past thoughts got me man
Wow this was posted right after I relapsed after 5 days. Thank you❤
Social media, was a week clean but I decided to download ig and check up on some friends and well the rest is history. I just want to say thank you, you helped me start this Journey and hopefully one day I’ll be 500 days clean like some other person in your comments was.
for me a trigger is social media and having a hyper sexual mind, I really dislike this part of myself and I am going to change for the better. I was clean for a while and then I relapsed, now ever since then I have been so poisoned that I considered my addiction my destructive device wasn't something that bad. I will change.
You’re so inspirational Shimon
You Have Such An Amazing Way With Words Watching Your Videos, I Feel Like Not Just A Subscriber But A Friend. You Speak Freely With No Hesitation And I Like That. You Seem To Be At Such A Higher Vibration, You Seem To Have A Better View About The World, About Yourself, About Life. Thank You For Teaching Us And Keeping It Real ❤
I stopped watching porn and sexual conent overall in February last year, but in August, I started watching it again for some pretty specific reasons. I was back home for an extended length of time, I was not attending any classes for the first time in two years, and I had other stresses with apartment searching, finding classes, etc. But when I watched it, I was pretty conflicted inside. I eventually grew too disappointed in myself and pulled myself up again, but it was a real learning moment for me.
Thanks for all your content, Shimon, you’ve built such a great space for young men specifically who want to better themselves❤
I relapsed yesterday i feel horrible i couldn't control my urges i did not even tempt myself 😞 thank you for helping me
damn the exact time when i just relapsed today i see this video i got to get back to work ty for this vid it mean a lot man ❤
Imaginations bro and alcohol was an aspect for me I went a good month without fapping and I slipped last night I drank too much and I had no control over myself and decided to do the deed in the moment not thinking
We are making a promise from here that we grow from here and we do better
Shimon I thank you for everything you do you have been helping me so much on my journey to quit. I've been very off and on with Instagram deleting it redownloading it so on. But i just recently relapsed and had to delete it again cuz the triggers are sooooo bad its crazy because a year ago i would love to see stuff like that but now I've changed and realized just how disgusting it is.
you and HealthyGamerGG are some of the best creators there are, always appreciate you man
The timing is crazy, I know this may be about a certain topic but I interpreted it regarding my situation.
For me my trigger was multiple things. It was the door being closed, my curtains closed and not being preoccupied. So what I've been doing is keeping my doors and curtains open and play a game. Play something like darksouls or like a really hard game that will keep you playing but wont be too boring to make you just want to leave. I hope this can help one of you guys. I love yall and I believe in you guys
It’s happened a lot recently 120 days down the drain then every two weeks. Although I got rid of most of my triggers it’s my mind that leads me to it and idk how to stop it
Thanks for your time you give me hope and encouraged me to think twice about my relapse which happened yesterday and founded out is he's so fucken pissed off at me asking me what do I really want in life and I had no answer because I was feeling so bad and lost all my good progress
Fail Just Mean First Attemp In Learning you may have lost a battle but you can still win the war!
Better title can be: what should you do after relapsing or what you should do after relapsing, btw thanks for the advice ❤
Starting now at 2024/6/30 1:22 am Doin Monk mode RN IMMA COME BACK IF I RELAPSED
I relapsed at 10/3/2024 8:14 sorry guys i let myself down
My trigger is when going to the bathroom i go watch porn because i made it a habit when in the bathroom i always watch it and when i just lay down on my couch doing nothing and its so bored i tend to watch porn so what i learned is 1.Don't bring my phone to the bathroom and 2.block the person i always watch 3.always do something in my room like cleaning repairing the door or gaming with my friends or talk to my friends so that's what i learned (i will come back again if i relapse again)
I have the same triggers you do, and you can add manga in to it too, today i deleted all my social media apps(not whatsapp because my mother would kill me and work of course) and removed all anime manga related stuff from my cellphone and pc, dawg you're a lifesaver for real and i will keep on questioning all the things i do before doing it once again thank you for the knowledge.
For me, my trigger was a youtube short where it was a summary of a movie where there was an intimate scene. Firstly, it was okay but after sometime, there were a lot of thoughts and urges and I relapsed. I talked to myself and that helped me a little and then I did some of my work. After that I slept and then waking up I again had urges and I relapsed again. I'm fed up of these urges and relapses. I'm trying my best to make myself better but after sometime I get back to those darkest trenches of my mind. It's a new beginning from now, from level 0 and I hope I don't give up to my urges💗
The one sided love for someone and social media would be my trigger
Bro I was binge watching on twitter and ig and on google. I went on a 11 day streak then I relapsed 22 hours later. Bro thank you I will keep goin to get my self out of this addiction. I been exposed to sex since I was 6 years old and I’m 23. Been trying to quit for years bro but it seemed impossible until now. Look at the small growths. I know this Time I will be able to go a month for sure.
My triggers is loneliness and my mind I actually let thoughts get to me and look up things on RUclips and boom. It's very subtle
Social media and TV shows and sometimes RUclips were my triggers and sometimes still is, but I still fight
bro how are you dropping these in times of need bro, you never have missed
My trigger is having the time to be alone with myself and the succubus
Just uninstalled Instagram for this exact reason. Whenever I would scroll for a while, eventually I'd come across somrying triggering. At some point i cracked.
Fell back into the addiction after a 10 day streak.
Been back to watching almost daily now for about a week... Its no longer 8 hours of my day like it used to be. I let myself go into it, but rushing through it to avoid turning this addiction into a part-time job.
But im no longer victimizing myself. Im no longer hating myself to my core. I realize the triggers. I take accountability.
20/01/24
These videos are a blessing man you’re doing great work brother. I got triggered by a Tv show, time to be better
I'm gonna talk about this so maybe it will help somone else. If you are horny or prone to acting out allot. DO NOT DRINK. conditions like myself (ADHD ADD) ex ex. if you mix alcohol with these conditions its a recipe for disaster and relapsing is extremely likely . So save the drinks for when you are out with friends or family. drinking on my own has only brought me problems. Hope this helps a few of ya'll out. Stay strong guys.