Gabby Petito: The Untold Story | Full Episode
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- Опубликовано: 26 янв 2023
- “48 Hours” explores Gabby Petito’s final days and the missed warning signs that might have saved her. "48 Hours" contributor Jericka Duncan reports. Watch more full episodes of "48 Hours" on Pluto TV.
"This broadcast highlighted domestic violence in relationships and also brought awareness to how missing persons cases are not always covered the same, depending on the race, age and sex of the victim." - Jericka Duncan on why this story is important.
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She got "News Attention " bc she was on RUclips & had a following already. That makes sense and this story is making me cry.
The News stations choose to ignore missing and abducted people therefore the public isn't away of most cases. It's not like they don't care about people who are missing..
The MSM hides how many children go missing & ignore Child Trafficking and the question is why?
Currently the Biden Administration is engaged in child trafficking.
Appreciate ya
Dayton Ohio❤️
Doctor Chris is a very intelligent man FairPlay to him
He explained what he knew and no lies whatsoever!!
Rest in peace gabby you were a good looking as any high up model because you were just a very good looking young lady
Sad that you parted so young but not your fault gabby !!
For ever young girl,,
After learning about Gabby's death, I got myself and my pup into a domestic violence shelter. I left an abusive relationship that left me with brain damage. Leaving was the best thing I ever did. Rest in peace Gabby.
I hope you are okay. I wish all the best for you and your pup.
@@emira5009 thank you. It was the best choice I ever made for us. And a lil over a year later, I am now married to a wonderful man and I'm pregnant with our baby boy. My pup is with us and very loved. Thank you. God bless
@@whatabreeze i am so happy for you. It gives me hope.
I am so proud of you. I hope you, the pup, and your new family are doing well
Yup, Gabby's death helped countless women find the courage to get away from abusive partners or see all the patterns & red flags, warning signs of a toxic manipulative abusive man, god bless.
The caller reporting the domestic dispute is the true hero. Most people would be ignore it or “mind their own business”
He was slapping her.
I got a domestic when I was younger. My ex boyfriend threw me around and hit me and I sucker punched him and got him right on the bone beneath his eye so he had an instant bump. I was Told there’s a mark on him I have to go!! It is the law!!! I never had any issues with any other man. He was abusive and the one time I stuck up for myself I went to jail. He even tried to drop the case bc he knew I didn’t deserve all this stuff but the state picked it up bc it’s a domestic. Most victims don’t report their abuse that’s what I was told. State will take over even if y’all want to drop it. That’s Florida. I’m actually in the same county as Brian’s parents. I wish it would have happened here and NOt in Utah. Florida doesn’t mess around.
It's unfortunate that the hero's efforts to save her were squashed when the cops bromanced Brian with - Yeah, my wife's crazy too. Let me get you the hotel room so you still know where you're little woman is (back in the van instead of protecting Abby by putting her in a safe place overnight, except there would have been a bigger risk of him stealing her van and abandoning her - better than killing her! Those cops failed!!!)
@@supportvawa2213 you can’t pin this in the police.
Sooner or later even if he was arrested or her , they would get back together and he would attempt to harm her
@@Karamelaki very true - the police can't control other people's choices. However, in this specific situation, the cops validated Brian which gave him a boost in getting away with abusing her. In general, in domestic violence cases where a woman files for a restraining order on her abuser but then drops the charges, that gives the abuser the message - I'm getting away with abusing her! And then the abuse amplifies. The cops failure in this situation, compounded with their brotherhood of all men vs those crazy females energy gave Brian the same message. So you are correct. I'm not pinning the blame on them for her death. I'm just pointing out how extremely wrong they were to subliminally encourage the abuse.
The amount of people in these comments saying that Gabby Petito's story could have been their own... is frightening. We live in a really scary world. But for what it's worth I'm happy you all are still with us. RIP Gabby.
Could have been me , just hoping and praying that what happened to gabby will help someone else from becoming a victim
In my opinion that’s why Gabby’s case gained so much attention. As someone who was in an abusive relationship in the past I felt that could have been me.
A former investigator said that this type of scenario plays out more than 3x a day for women in the US.
I was in an abuse relationship. Kept making all the excuses in the world. We need to teach people what relationships look like. Love doesn't hurt. It's the opposite. I'm glad he was arrested for bank fraud, I may have never gotten out of that relationship. Glad we didn't have kids together. 20yrs later I wish I wasn't so dumb in my 20s.
Him taking her ID because she wanted to go out with her friend was triggering
Yes!!! Huge red flag!📍📍❌❌
The most charitable thing I can think of about Laundrie is that he had all the insecurities of an adolescent, and at age 23 he was still far far too immature to be in this sort of a relationship
which if i was her BFF i would have had a issue with that thats not normal whatsoever
He probably got tired of her coming back. And because she kept coming back, he didn't want to cross contaminate "dna" from another man.
Girls night out aint nothin nice
except that if she goes out drinking that likely makes her erradic behavior worse and he didn't want to have to deal with her coming home like that
"she was the aggressor" "she hit him first" 'he may have been trying to defend himself'
they're asking HER if she intended to hit him and hurt him, and if she said 'yes' she is under arrest for domestic violence
they put HIM in a hotel next to an abuse shelter
the fact so many others saw this story and got away from abusive relationships, i'm sure gabby would be happy that at least her story helped others.
Didn't help Gabby tbh
I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be. Cause she's dead.
@@ko7577 Shouldn't be so sure. Life after death is far from disproven, though we've no idea what form it would take other than what we hear from those who have died temporarily.
She was the abuser don't be fooled
@@Lemonarmpits wow, didn't knownvictim blaming was still a thing
When you are looking at your friends’ social media accounts and feeling envious because their lives seem so perfect, remember Gabby Petito.
99% of what you see online is a lie.
So very true. A photo is a split second of a 24 hour day.
Amen
Yep, sometimes people's lives are near perfect, but a ig photo is a small second snapshot of a long 24 day, rarely tells the whole story...
@@ryanfraser167 everything on social media is fake.
He was a murderous coward and if his parents knew and didnt report it, then they should be in prison for aiding and abetting a murderer, son or not.
They got sued by her parents and settled. I believe they sued for 2M
They lost their son for not telling the turth. They have to live with this. He should be in jail
The parents of Gaby shoul suing the police for let them go, knowing what he did to her.
Makes a big difference when people lawyer up. They become untouchable.
Her story actually saved my life. My ex strangled me and abused me for years and then I saw her story on the news and someone said women who stay with men that strangle them are 8x more likely to die at the hands of their partner. I was on the other side of the world with my ex at the time and I realized if I didn't leave and fly back home to my family I would be another Gabby . I packed my stuff and ran away. 1 year later I met the man I married and we have a beautiful family and he treats me like a princess. Comparing my treatment from my ex to my now husband I realized how brainwashed I was and how much hatred my ex had for me and how that wasn't love at all but a life of slavery and abuse. My ex always tried to get me back and begged me to stay and promised to change and I fell for it every single time. But he loved the control he had over me , he didn't actually love me. I realized when I met my husband now my self worth and how I deserved better and happy life. Running away was the best decision I ever made and it's because of Gabby's story. I felt I saw myself in her eyes. I knew I would never had a happy life if I stayed and he would never change. I was ashamed of being abused but found it impossible to leave because I was so dependent on him living abroad away from my family. I wanted to prove to my family that I could make it anywhere and was ashamed to tell them I was dependent on a man that was abusive. When I finally asked for help to fly back home my family with open arms and unconditional love were there every step and I couldn't be more grateful. Her story will always haunt me because it's sooo close to home for me.
I am so happy for you you have a wonderful life ahead of you 🥹
Thank God you got out of that situation that many don’t. You should be very proud of yourself. I’m happy that you are safe and with someone who treats you well. God Bless
You are incredibly strong for getting yourself out of there. We may not know each other but I’m proud of you.
Honestly I just don’t get how survival doesn’t trump asking for help
So happy you got away ♥
What her friend said at the end was so touching …. “Gabby will do everything to bring the light out in you, and if she can’t, she’ll give you some of hers.”
Unless you are "bummer boy". Why was she with him if she didn't like his personality and had to trash him and go find a friend online to have fun with?
Other friends said she was controlling and abusive.
@@sr2291 bummer boy?
@@mr.mclibtard5015 That is a huge lie. Stop telling lies about a person you don’t know.She was in a controlling situation with an abusive controlling abuser who killed!!! She was not the controller. If you knew anything about abusive situations you’d know that!!
@@deborah9775 false
Brian's parents behavior is appalling. No wonder their son is a monster. No humanity
Best way to describe it
Nor humility.
The apples don't fall to far from the tree's
shocked they were never arrested for covering it up and hiding what they knew
The BALD truth
The victim of domestic abuse ALWAYS tries to protect her abuser. The abuser ALWAYS blames the victim. And she comes to believe it. It’s called GASLIGHTING.
Sure kathy
@kathleenkelly378 Exactly.
Without that control, no one would stay through the violence. I think it’s weird that people don’t put those things together.
Gabbys story saved my life. After she was reported missing and he became a suspect I left my abuser.
I am so happy for you. You and and any other survivor inspired by Gabby, you make Gabby's memory more meaningful. Bless you and please take care.
so happy for u!! stay safe, you are loved ♡
Good for you. For real life.
Good for you
I’m really happy for and proud of you for doing that, I can’t imagine how scary that must have been!
I hope you are doing well
If only we searched for all missing the way we did for her. They found 9 bodies of other missing people while looking for her. Makes you wonder if we searched that hard for everyone how many less missing people there'd be. Glad they found her and she didn't remain missing. 9 other families finally got answers too so 10 families got answers in that search.
Yes, even dog the bounty hunter got involved. I'm sorry for what happened to gabby. All missing people/children deserve that kind of attention. I can only imagine what families of the missing that have not been found feel about the media attention that was given to gabby?
Well if they had over 2 million followers " that actually WATCHED THEM DISAPPEAR" ,and reported them missing. AFTER A POLICE STOP" they would be found too.
Let's not act like " they only looked for Gabby and NOONE else. Her people went hard for her. That's why she was found
@@kaydubya6347 thank you. What I was just about to say.
@@kaydubya6347 out of all the people saying that you shouldn't be talking at all.... yeah her family went hard for her but there are other factors that played into it to why her case blew up besides her being influencer btw...
@@joannemarquez2085 Dog got involved with finding the perpetrator of a local Moab couple that was murdered and missing, Kylen Schulte and Crystal Turner.
I know they will never see this but I want to say thank you to the man who reported the dispute, I'm sure they were heart broken when they learned of her death but they honestly did the best thing
I always think of the cops that interviewed the couple when this case comes up. They broke the regulations on DV encounters. How do they feel about their lack of action?
Thanks for anyone who will help people in need.
@@I_AM_TEMPLE The correct training when dealing with such situations would have made all the difference and Gabby would still be alive in my opinion..
@@I_AM_TEMPLE Gabby and Brian didn't live there, so the police couldn't have held either of them for more than 24 hours. They were separated for the night, there wasn't much else the police could so. There was however a female Park Ranger there on the scene who had given Gabby her card and told her that if she wanted to talk in private, to just give her a call. Gabby never called the Park Ranger. ---It's just Really hard to save people sometimes when they're given a golden opportunity, and they don't respond.
yes. it would’ve been an even bigger mystery if they hadn’t called in.. so awful 😢
When the police pulled them over, Gabby is the one who is really upset. Brian doesn't seem to show anything. Wouldn't that be a big warning sign?
Bald should be a warning sign too
@@posticusmaximus1739 they were having a big argue and Brian is like he came straight from a yoga class.
Wouldn't that be a big warning sign? For real life.
Controversial opinion: it all shows the classic signs of male domestic abuse at the hands of a female abuser.
she's a huge narcissistic control freak though
My husband's abuse was carefully and cunningly curated to look, feel and appear to everyone around us like love and safety. It started when I was 15 and he was 21. Fast forward to April 2023, my last straw was his confession to sleeping with prostitutes that were likely human trafficking victims for over a year. I still had to build up the courage to leave and get my babies to safety. In the process, my husband became violent and I had no choice but to defend myself. Days later, he told police I assaulted him. It took months for the leading prosecutor to finally see that I have been his victim for 27 years. He's still blaming me for his choices because he lost the person he loved to hurt the most, but I am officially "No Contact" and raising our youngest son alone without any support from him. I'd rather die a thousand violent deaths than ever spend another moment in my husband's presence. I'm only holding off on the divorce proceedings until I find out if they're going to charge my husband with perjury and falsifying a police report.
This is a lesson to any young people. If a man this much older than you is pursuing you as a teen, this is NOT NORMAL and is not okay. They are not a good person and are after you because you are easy to manipulate, they do not want a partner on equal footing. Run far away
My psycho girlfriend used to do the same kind of things. Glad I got away before it was too late.
Her apologizing over and over in the body cam footage proved to me she was a victim of abuse as I did the same thing with my ex-boyfriend.. Truly saddening he took her from this world she seemed like a truly amazing human being
Yes! The only reason I didn't out the sexual predator who abused me two years ago was because he has text messages where I blame myself and apologize to him over and over for reacting in an angry manner.
Set
This should have been obvious to anyone and yet the officers didn’t know
Consequences for choosing poorly when it comes to a partner.
I did the same.
1 time out of 10, a hysterical tearful woman standing next to an extremely calm and pleasant male partner is simply a dramatic/hysterical woman. 9 times out of 10, a hysterical tearful woman standing next to an extremely calm and pleasant male partner is a victim of narcissistic abuse. Period. The “calm” partner is usually the abuser.
So true
This story is a lie
Then why did the police officer ask Brian if he was on drugs and if he was always that hyper?
You’re not wrong.
Why?
I was trapped in an abusive marriage for almost a decade. I never once cheated, I never physically harmed him, and I never even screamed at him. And yet, like Gabby, I always found myself taking the blame. I always took the fall. People just don't understand the phycological impact that abuse has and how it can trap and change a person.
yes because they begin to systenatically run off any one who loves you, parents, siblings, friends, then they isolate you furthr like by getting you to move awayfrom your family or go on a tip where no one knowswhere you are at half the time. They will hack your phone, intercept mesages, email, real mail to stop people from staying in your life until they give up, thinking you are ignoring their efforts intentionally. They at the same time begin being crueler & crueler to you, lil bit by lil bit but always usingexcuses like I dranktoo much, or it's mydad's fault he beat me that's wy I'm a nut when drink too much or they'll just deny what happened , happened. They'll be lying, hitting on your griends, family even to run them off, they'll steal from your family, their family, work if they work, while charging thousands to credit cards they stole or that belonged to their last victim, or even new credit cards that they've used your info (they copied down from your wallet while you took a bath, or slept or...) to take out cards in your name & charge on them. You won't suspect such a level of 2 faced, rottenness that these kind of people operate in all their lives, in pursuit of their addictions & their hedonistic selfishness. TThey have no conscience, they never regret the misery inflicted on their victims because hey aretoo busy feeling sorry for themselves, for no reason. But they hook you good then slowly keep pushing more and more boundaries, to get you to put up with the inexcusable, forgive the unforgiveable and do for them, alays not caring what they do to you. The more you take, the harder they will work to destroy you.
Gabby’s story helped so many other women and men get away from abusive and toxic relationships. I remember being upset about it and I immediately knew it was the fiancé. He looked suspicious and his family was protecting him, I bet they bad mouthed her. Brian is an abusive, toxic, and a narcissist. His family is no better and deserved to be charged as well.
I dated a guy like him. He was so nice but sometimes he would get mad and when he did, he changed in a way that was hard to describe. It gave me chills and my gut said I had to get him out of my house. I kept saying “no, he’s ok he’s just upset, don’t overthink it”.
But Vibes don’t lie. If someone scares you, get away from them even if they’re the “nicest person”.
Yep. You must be glad that you didn't stay with him. If the hair stands up on the back of your neck, RUN. Also sometimes little red flags. My sister's boyfriend got mad at her because she walked out of the room he was in, talking to someone on the phone. That romance didn't last much longer. The way Gabby's boyfriend took her ID to prevent her from going to a bar was really possessive and controlling.
Or maybe you didnt give him a chance. Could've been the love story of a lifetime.
i agree he should have kicked her out , she abused him by hitting him , maybe she went reallly mad but that is no excuse to hit their partner
@@Tangga1boy01 Love story of a lifetime does not normally contain anger and a gut feeling to get out of it. Even a marital contract and love or children should not neglect that. Way too much domestic violence and kids growing up in dysfunctional families to keep ignoring things.
@@TH-eb5ro factssssss couldn’t have said it any better!
Gabby's case helped me get away from my abuser. Rest in peace sweet girl you are forever loved 🙏
****EDIT:
TO THE PEOPLE COMMENTING THAT GABBY WAS THE ABUSER, PLEASE GO ELSEWHERE WITH THAT IDIOTIC BS*********
Your comment sent a literal power surge through my body! And now there are tears in my eyes. Gabby is an 😇😇😇!!!
@@thegreatone11 that's an interesting source of inspiration. Would you mind chatting about the details of your testimony, if you are comfortable? What changes did you make in your behavior?
good for you! stay safe
She the dam abuser, not him
They were both toxic
There’s a petite girl crying hysterically in your backseat trying to take the blame and her boyfriend is over talking to your partner “cool, calm and collected. Those officers must not have any sisters
Those officers have zero responsibility for the tragic ending. Crying doesn't prove innocence or guilt.
Woman extremely upset, taking blame. Man calm calling her crazy. Typical domestic violence move on the mans part. Why do the police keep falling for this?
Because they are undereducated
For all of you brave Ladies who walked away from your abusive partners, after watching Gabby videos.
Wow! She would have been so proud of you all.
God bless you and keep yourself safe
Wish I could but most of us don’t have money and a place to go to
@@JesusCross144 Please don’t wait for God to come to your rescue? He’s not coming. God wants us to get out of our bad situations on our own! Most abusers use all kinds of manipulating tactics, to keep women prisoners, in there own life. You have the keys to your freedom in your pocket. You just have to get the strength to get them out and use them, to free yourself. Women stuck in abuse relationships remind me of criminals that sneak up on women in parking lots and threaten them with violence if they don’t do as there told. The weak women obey and usually are murdered. The strong women scream, and the attacker flees! Why? Because they don’t want a strong women that wants to defend herself, they want the weak minded ones. So don’t be weak!! Speak up and get out of there!! The odds are, he will eventually stop contacting you, especially if he’s found another weak women to manipulate! Right now YOU ARE THAT WEAK WOMEN!!!
@@gracegonzalez0620 phone a church
It's not bravery. It's survival. I wasn't going to be a man's personal punching bag.
@@gracegonzalez0620 I'll keep praying for you Grace 🙏
Even if they had arrested Brian or Gabby, they would have still gone back to each other. Remember, Gabby told the officers that she and Brian were a team. They were consenting adults. It’s horrible what happened to Gabby-do know that getting out of abusive relationships are extremely difficult.
Blaming the cops is silly for this reason and because she took responsibility.
@@admiralkrankandhismightyba158 Totally agree. The police were obviously trying to give the kids a break. DV charges affect future employment and can cause a variety of other lifelong problems. Shoulda coulda woulda. Hindsight 20/20 and all that.
As long as it is remembered that they were 'both' abusive to each other...
@@l.mpatamali8738 the difference is that she was the one who was murdered.
I know, it's pathetic. Women are so scared of being alone, they'd rather stay in an abusive relationship than risk not having a boyfriend/husband.
Everytime I see Gabby crying during that road stop with the officers really breaks my heart 💔💔💔😭😭😭
Even if the police arrested Gabby that day, the two of them would have united again. They were together, miles and miles away from home and they only had each other as support. Whether or not this would have prevented an ultimate date with fate, that being the demise of Gabby, no one knows.
This guys parents need to be thrown in jail for harboring a criminal, why this hasn't happened yet is beyond me.
i agree with that viewpoint of yours . you go back to the abuser way too often. 15 years for me then i left, even my children were begging me. three times in an abuse shelter. now my life is amazing. thank you Lord!
arrest her? why not him? you’ve lost it mate
because she was the one who admitted hitting the guy. Get back to the story dude, then you'll be ok. @@adamnxx
@@iamric23 you know she was lying for him right?
I felt that she was telling the truth, I am very surprised that you don't see it that way.@@adamnxx
I freed myself of my ex husband. For years I lived an abusive life for the simple fact I was so terrified of him. I was so afraid of him, that I was afraid to leave. He controlled my every thought and movement. One day he choked me out unconscious THREE times in front of my daughter. Three times. Because I did not have the laundry done on time for him to have fresh clothes for the gym…he left for the gym eventually and I left him for good. My daughter and I are free 😭😭😭😭 we are free 😭😭😭😭
proud of you, more than you know!
Gym bros. Stay away from them
Good for you. It’s not your fault, he is crazy. Pray that he doesn’t do this to another woman 🥺
OJ was called on multiple times for abusing Nicole, the police were familiar with it. She'd come running out screaming, from behind the bushes. One time for not having his dinner ready as soon as he walked in the door, another time for leaving her shoes out, and for gaining over 7 pounds when pregnant, yes seven.
File a restraining order
When she said "I'm sorry I'm so mean" just breaks my heart like I knife in my soul. I know what it's like as many of do
I agree. She shouldn't have been so mean....
@@nickvargas3907 I agree. your daddy didn't mean to do that to you at such a young age.
@まさき uhhhh, are you promoting pedophilia or is this some kind of veiled put down?
Its very disturbing to hear he wrote he ended her life as an "act of mercy". Wtf 😡
I married a narcissist. The crazy-making they do to you is almost indescribable. You know something is wrong, but at the same time they have manipulated you to think it’s your fault. Any time you speak to them calmly, collected, to address a problem, they escalate the discussion until you snap-and then they blame you for being the one to lash out, therefore “proving” their, abuser’s, point that you in fact are the problem.
Damn, Sucks to be you😂😂
Exactly.
Reactive abuse
THIS. and the reactive abuse is turned on you to make you look crazy. I cannot believe I have to go through a similar situation. Sending hugs to you
@@MissMelissaD sending hugs back 💐
That police stop was the perfect example of how the narcissist can twist things around to make themselves the victim
She was stating she was hitting him. Ohhh right she was taking the blame for him. She had more than ample opportunity to zip back to her parents when they put him a hotel. Did she? No!! She was right back with him posting on the internet in the next fews laughing it up.
Twist things? She gave her statement to police FIRST. Was Brian supposed to lie and say she didn't smack him after she already admitted to it? She was acting a fool while he was driving to the point he was running over the curb and he's the narcissist? Yeah okay 👍
@@yurmabeechaudits3522you really don’t know how those types of relationships work
@@adriannavarro2536 STFU.
We do know.
Women need to be held accountable too.
She was also an abuser and paycho.
@@adriannavarro2536 she hit him first because he told her to "calm down". She's an insane person. Brian might be too....but she admitted to domestic abuse.
The fact that Brian and his family wouldn’t say anything makes my blood boil. And the police couldn’t do anything about it? Infuriating .
Apparently you don't like our laws.
@@sr2291 The right to remain silent and they used it.
@@coolchoicebro Yes.
In the 2001 case Ohio v. Reiner, the U.S. Supreme Court held that "a witness may have a reasonable fear of prosecution and yet be innocent of any wrongdoing.
The [Fifth Amendment right against self-incrimination] serves to protect the innocent who otherwise might be ensnared by ambiguous circumstances."Dec 29, 2021.
@@sr2291 that law saved what could have been a 15 yr sentence to 1 yr in the county bc I was INNCOCENT but not innocent at the same time I was in fear for my life and did what I had to do to get away from him and made myself surrounded on purpose. He was following me in the car I took to get away with a shotgun!
@@coolchoicebro Wow. I'm glad you are ok and the law helped you.
This doesn’t just happen to women. I walked away from an abusive woman more than fifteen years ago. I was in that abusive relationship for more than three years. At the time, as a man, I felt powerless. Who would side with a man? I finally worked enough courage to leave and it was the best decision I have ever made. Recognize that you’re not alone, and this isn’t normal. Tell a friend and get help. Get out.
Nobody says it only happens to women, but femicide is a huge problem in our society.
The true crime phenomenon is interesting because of the bias our society expects. Going by these videos, mostly white pretty little women are murdered. While intimate partner is seen as more urgently a female problem (men are usually bigger and stronger), it is most certainly a problem for all races and genders.
I’m sorry it happened to you. I’m glad you got out and that you talk about it.
Glad you're ok and made it out safe.
I’ve been in such a relationship… these people are evil. Narcissistic abuse is the real hell on earth
Gabby's story helped me finally leave my abuser. I'm so sorry this happened to you I know you helped me and countless people not share the same fate. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Gabby admitted to being the abuser.
@@brendanbloomberg3283 yet eye witness saw different.
@@jenniferb2763 nope they didn't. They saw him hit/push her. But according to gabby she started the physical altercation & eyewitnesses saw him hit her AFTER she started assaulting him.
@@brendanbloomberg3283 yet she's the one dead, murdered.
Well, she was murdered, which gives us extra information.
It is very predictable that domestic violence victims will lie to protect their abusers. That being known, professionals need to be able to ignore the words in these cases and look at the actions critically. You can look at different signs to get a full picture. And sometimes you can’t tell, but there are certain indications. If you look at different trainings online for professionals,, you can see that scratches at the face are typically defensive wounds. And grabbing someone’s face like that is a warning sign. If someone is trying to hurt someone, a natural reaction isn’t to scratch the face. But, let’s say they are being held down or strangled, they are going to try to get that person off of them. Scratching the face or hands is how they can get them off. So, those types of wounds are suspicious. EVEN if the person is saying they started it, you ignore them, because you already know they’ll lie and size up the situation.
Now, you can’t assume things 100%c but if you see certain signs, it can direct your actions to accurately determine the question. With how common domestic violence is, the training should be provided. Body language is important, reading between the lines is important and that kind of toxicity shouldn’t be minimized. Two people called the police because they were concerned. They were swerving the car. I mean…. That’s dangerous.
These police seemed really nice to me, just not trained. The police were VERY helpful when I was in a domestic violence situation. I was already at the point, where I was getting help. But they came multiple times to allow me to get myself and my kids out of the house safely.
They didn’t write reports, he didn’t get in trouble, but I don’t know that I could have gotten out without them. I mean. I couldn’t have.
I guess I’m just saying is that if you know someone saying it’s their fault can actually be an indication that they are the victim, you’ll take that information differently.
I really hope that Gabby’s parents win their civil case against the Laundries and their lawyer. I escaped an abusive relationship years ago, and it is heartbreaking that Gabby wasn’t able to do the same. Rest in peace Gabby. 💗
What do you mean, "The Laundries and their lawyer."? The Laundries ARE LAWYERS.
@@RPhTom What are you talking about?!
Toxic love kills 💔 ☠️🪦
No good can come from suing the police or his family. Neither are responsible for Brian Laundries actions. I know her parents are hurting and want some kind of justice, but unfortunately that isn't possible and I hope they lose their lawsuit. All these frivolous lawsuits ultimately harm this nation, and slowly and gradually serve to eviscerate liberty and freedom (in concert with a lot of other horrible corrupt acts/ actions/ laws/ tyranny/ treason).
The police has nothing to do with it.
Accountability is what’s missing in today’s society. Brian killed her. That’s it.
Stop trying to blame every other person who did nothing.
I remember following this story in real time and my heart breaking for Gabby herself.. then months later got into a second domestically violent relationship. I got out, she did not and I pray every girl that feels like they can’t- can.
I like to listen to true crime often, but some cases hit so close to home for me it’s scary to imagine I could’ve been one of these stories..
RIP sweet girl & the Petito family💕
When Brian was talking with the Moab police, he offhandedly described Gabby, the woman he supposedly loves, as "crazy." Any time a man nonchalantly or laughingly describes his highly upset wife or girlfriend as crazy, that is a clear sign that he has so traumatized and abused her for so long that she is reacting in ways that show that trauma and abuse. Abby was a victim of narcissistic abuse and all the signs were there in both of them. Narcissists are charming, engaging, disarming, and tremendously manipulative. They know how to frame any situation to their advantage and bring others into assuring their desired results. I've lived this and barely made it past him alive. When a narcissist makes accusations, they're actually confessions. May we all learn from this as we live longer than Gabby did.
I can't help feeling an arrest in Moab would've amounted to nothing. She may very well have still stayed with him and fallen victim another time. He was such a dropkick
It wouldn't have made any difference.
@@QuicksandontheTrail I agree.
Exactly
Agreed. Abuse victims more often then not will stay with their abuser.
If the cops had actually listened to the 911 call they would have known she was in danger. What good is the call if they don't hear it??? Lousy police work. They have blame.
I know someone who got out of a bad relationship because of Gabby’s story. ❤
I think Gabby's parents don't realize that she would have been the one arrested on that day. She was the one that confessed to hitting him multiple times, she was the one that minimized what he did, saying it was in response to her hitting him. We can look at it and say she was just protecting him, and the cops should have known it was really him, but given her statements she appears to be the aggressor and so she would have been the one taken into custody. They really were showing her compassion. Also the hard reality is that even if they had arrested her and taken her into custody that day when she got out she most likely would have gotten back together with him, and in future conflicts the cops would be less likely to take her side because she will have the previous DV on her record. Most domestic violence victims don't leave. Especially when you realize the cops did separate them that day, but they still got back together. She was handed the keys to the van. She could have just driven away and never looked back, but she went back to him. I'm sure a lot of people out there will flame me, but I've been through this situation before with a family member (except the death) so I feel I do have experience with the reality of what would have happened if they had made an arrest that day, and I don't think it would have gone any better for Gabby ultimately.
The police said as much, so it is possible her parents are aware of that. However, had they gotten more involved it is possible the outcome would've changed. Of one of them had been charged they wouldn't have been reconnected to soon. The 20 something-year-Olds might have called their parents. Her parents might have gotten through to her, so on and so forth.
At last !! A sensible factual comment ..!!
Gabby looks so sweet and kind, hearing her speak in the videos reflect that. This case just sticks with me… my heart breaks for the loss of her. She did not deserve any of this. I can’t stand Brian’s parents.
If her family missed the signs, and her friends missed the signs, and Gabby wasn't saying anything--you can't blame the police. The people closest to her who knew her best didn't do anything (or weren't aware of what was going on); how can you expect the police to evaluate the history in a 5 min stop on the road? Tragic ending; the abusers and their victims are often the only ones who really know what is happening.
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The police stopped them for domestic abuse and tried to play cool. "Oh, it was just a kid that hit his girl, he just lost his temper." Wrong! He was an abuser that became a killer short after the police stopped them. And don't forget the horrible job that the police did AFTER he came home alone. He escaped from his house under surveillance and the police missed it!
@@MartineH1 being under surveillance doesn't mean you can't leave the house. He was a free man at that point. He could have legally left the country and police couldn't have stopped him.
What kind of man hits a woman? He was so much bigger and stronger than her. An abuser is typically a Narscissist. He groomed Gabby through gaslighting her that she was the problem. His parents would have seen it, she didn't live with her family with him but his family are possibly Narscissist also. My parents would have turned us in to try police if we killed someone or broke the law.
Hindsight is 20/20. We all know the outcome already watching this so it’s easy to judge. I don’t blame the officers.
The worst part of this is that this issue is only being addressed as a “woman’s problem”, that we need to teach our daughters how to avoid being a victim, and how to get out of the situation. When are we going to address teaching our sons to never do this at all??? It takes two, people!
I don't think verbally telling your son not to do this would prevent it, there are much deeper implications such as childhood trauma that form abusers.
@@trevthegamedev As I said, “teach.”. We as a society need to teach children that it’s okay to ask for help and then provide it. It is not okay that the police at the roadside thought that this young woman was just a bit overwhelmed and that it was okay for the young man to say “she’s crazy”. But I understand your point as well. Thanks for your input.
@@msk4795 I appreciate your input too, but I do have to disagree on blaming the police here. These are standard officers who handle all sorts of calls. I think only a high-level detective would have been able to know she wasn't telling them the truth. If I were them with the same knowledge they had, I highly doubt I would have known either.
@@trevthegamedev And again, I said to teach our children (nor did I blame the police here), so then the police will have learned before they become adults. Plus it is a sad thing that you would not have known, while just about every woman watching cringed (trained or not) when he called her crazy. I think this just makes my point, don’t you?
@@msk4795 I'm afraid not. If a person with their level of training and the knowledge they had hears the man say the woman is crazy, and the woman apologize for "being so mean" and admits she "hit him first", then I think the logical conclusion is that they're telling the truth.
But I'm not sure what that even has to do with your initial point, you said we need to "address teaching our sons to never do this at all". My point is that our society already makes that clear with the laws and the general sense of morality. Abusers are formed from bad upbringings that cause issues deep in their subconscious mind, not a lack of teaching against this sort of behavior.
I can't even imagine what it's like to be the good Samaritan who thought they were witnessing a serious enough incident to call police, only for the girl to turn up missing and then dead. They both admitted there had been violence and officers sent them on their merry way. I hope this will change the way police deals with recognizing and responding to DV
They should have had a female cop to talk to her alone
Mandated arrest don’t work. There’s really nothing the police could do for a traveling couple. Gabby didn’t see it as a problem until it was too late and the cops couldn’t have convinced her. They’re talking about it like she was kidnapped and needed a safe place to tell someone. That’s not what it was. She’s not even surprised by his violence.
It’s tragic and I get why people want someone to blame, but it’s just Brian.
And if they hadn't given them a break you'd be the same person that says police aren't human, or cops are power mongers. I wish they had taken them both away in handcuffs because on that day she was the abusive party. She even admitted to hitting him.
A sane person with a logical opinion @@TheGooglyminotaur
I hope anyone who watched this, who is in an abusive relationship, will act accordingly . What a terrible and terrifying documentary. May she rest in peace💗
You mean, the abusers?? Educate yourself about coercive control and trauma bonds. There's no such thing as 'standing up and just leave.'
Was with an extremely narcissistic fiancée when her story dropped
A year later, after trials and hurt and a year and a half of abuse, Im safe and away.
Gabby’s story touched so many people. Rest In Peace Angel.
May the Coward burn for what he did to you.
I'm glad you're safe❤
Where’s your comment for GP causing the physical fight? Yeah I didn’t think you would be fair and unbiased
@@AngelSanchez-du8ze wtf
You are the coward for sticking up with an abuser for a year and a half no offense, but truly you guys make no sense it's like you like being abused or something. It's very odd behavior
@@JesusGodHolySpirit3with someone who has Jesus and God in their username, you sure don’t exhale that “christian kindness or not judging others.”
Shame on you☺️
He was jealous of her because she was so beautiful, vibrant and talented! she will always be remembered while he will be completely forgotten!! That’s Justice for our GABBY ❤️
I've called the police on several abusive partners and have always come across as the aggressor because I was loud and acting 'crazy' and they were calm and polite. I'm over 5 years sober now and I like to think I make better choices. One of the things that being in an abusive relationship gives you is a 6th sense to know when others are in a bad relationship. I don't believe for a second she hit him so he would stop calling her crazy, I think she did it in self defence. Rip Gabby. ❤
Exactly this. They’re so quick to label the victim the aggressor bc the victim is understandably upset while the abuser is clearly gonna act calm and manipulate the situation. I hate that so many of us have experienced this
It is not always immediately clear who is the abuser, you’re exactly right. My half sister hits to fight. If you make her mad and she doesn’t have a comeback, she’s throwing a hand. She’s had two long term relationships. The first, a small, quiet man. The second, a tall, animated felon. Watching dispassionately (I don’t like her), I believe she was abused by the little guy and abuses the big guy. No one would come to either of those conclusions in 15 minutes.
I’m sincerely glad you’re in a better place now. I wish the big felon was too. His background would curl your toes and he’s trying his best to be a productive member of society. Sadly, his mother treated him just the same, so he thinks it’s normal to be beaten down mentally and physically.
I hate when someone tells me to calm down especially if I am already calm. My ex used to say this to me all the time, it’s such an abusive tactic to make you feel like your crazy.
Gaslighting to infuriate...narcissism 101
Yes, my other half says that and yet pretends he has no understanding of why I am upset
My boyfriend say that and I hate it .and he is the only who talks and I can't even speak
Having been in a abusive relationship, this whole thing just makes my guts churn. I hope young ladies learn from this, her family, the police, and his parents.
Same here
Why do the young ladies have to learn? Why can’t men be held accountable? Both her abusive boyfriend and the policemen who could have saved her - but didn’t.
@@deltabourke1005 can't save someone who doesn't want saving. Or isn't ready to be saved.
@@stairwaygoddess what did you want her to do? She gave the hand signal for DV as well. And she confided in 1 close friend. She did enough. She should be here.
@@deltabourke1005
That's complete bull. 15 seconds before the stop she was punching Brian as he drove, she's suddenly "afraid" to talk? Why would she have to give a "signal"? They were completely separated and she begged, almost demanded, that they not be separated. She behaved as a typical female abuser with her tears, baby talk and anything else to control law enforcement.
Gabby wasn't afraid of Brian, she was afraid of being alone. That's why she lost her marbles when he suggested a "breather". They should have arrested her.
It’s so sad, how she automatically blames herself & takes all the blame. I remember doing this in my first marriage. Sweet Gabby, gone too soon
Zzzzzzzz
What makes you think she wasn't to blame?
Doing this? Did you fly into hysterics and physically abuse your spouse?
Right like how could the cops not pick up on that , that’s psychology 101
@Drey Anastasio Because Gabby was swinging and hitting him to the point of injury while he was driving and she admitted to hitting him first. She said she was trying to get him to stop telling her to calm down. The police were behind them with their lights flashing.
These were Brians Injuries according to the Moab Report.
Gabby left scratches and bruises on Brian. The bruising and bleeding was from her hitting him with her phone _while he was driving_
From Investigative Review of Aug. 12, 2021 Petito-Laundrie Incident in Moab
Park Ranger Ryan Kral, points out scratches on the left side of Brian’s neck, left side of his nose, scratch near the center of his face, and bruise and bleeding on the right side of his head. Officer Robbins finds an additional injury on Brian’s right bicep/tricep area. Brian said he was not in any pain, and that he "wasn’t complaining.”
Gabby was Trauma Bonded from her Sociopatic boyfriend's manipulation and gaslighting tactics. She felt like she was going crazy. She didn't want to be with him or without him. These devils threaten you and abuse you physically, emotionally and mentally. The mental abuse stays with you always. God bless her sweet heart. RIP Gabby... ❤️🙏🏼❤️
Not sure what qualifies you to diagnose sociopathy or use all the psycho buzzwords about things after the fact, or to mind read someone who's no longer here
She lived about 20 minutes away from me… ❤ RIP Gabby ❤
You're practically the main character lol
If my husband ever saw me crying like that and wasn’t visibly and actively disturbed, I would know he didn’t love me anymore
Yes, I'm sure you'd punish him very much for not chasing you headfirst off an emotional cliff. I'm sure he's very happy and not at all aging like milk.
@@aschlamishowsup yes you know everything 🤣
You mean...you would know you couldn't manipulate him anymore???
@@Master...deBater you know exactly how to read between the lines!
@@alannagilmore8982 Yep...sure do!
Everyone’s blaming that cop but I think the cop did the best he could with the information he had. He seems like a cop that’s not just trying to ruin people’s lives. He did separate them for the night. And it still happened. People are like “well he should’ve arrested one of them” ok you really don’t think it would’ve happened later? This was gonna happen. Their relationship was too toxic
He was not taking it seriously
You fail to understand that rates of domestic violence are highest among law enforcement. Far higher than the population at large. There are clear red flags & warning signs that cops should be aware of. And while yes, there can be women abusers- literally 95% of the time it is the males. For anyone who has any experience with this- the red flags were BLARING that Brian was full of 💩. The cop, as nice as he sounds- clearly IDENTIFIED WITH BRIAN & made it personal.
Yeah everyone playing Monday quarterback like they know best is troubling in society also Gabby would’ve be the one that went to jail in the footage and experience I’ve had and would of just hooked back up about the same time if not earlier. Sad story though for sure
@@liligh not taking it seriously? He tried his best to not ruin either of their lives. He believed it was just a normal young couple fight where both weren't able to control their emotions, which resulted in slapping, etc.
He would have definitely considered the fact that they were young, engaged, with a huge future ahead of them. Making an arrest would obviously ruin everything and he didn't want that.
That's why he thought: maybe separate them for a day, let them cool down and hopefully they will work things out. It's a perfectly reasonable response.
Unless you make it a hard and fast rule to immediately arrest anyone who laid a hand on their partner, you will always expect such response from the cops. Cuz it's human tendency to not want to ruin relationships
“ unless you deem it a rule to arrest anyone who laid a hand on their partners”. Are you for real? Dont even breathe in my direction.
I followed so much of this case and nonpoint does anyone talk about what Brian and Gabbys relationship was like before the trip. It's bewildering that he would just turn abusive only on that road trip
Wish we knew more
Forever she has her Wings..and helps us all fly....
Law enforcement separated them and he went to a hotel. She has the van, the keys, and the van is in her name. If she decides to reunite the next morning, what more could the officers have done? If they had “issued a citation”…that wouldn’t have done anything to stop this tragedy. If they had arrested either one of them, they would have bonded out the next morning and same result. There’s not always someone to blame for our own bad choices, as unfortunate and unfair as that may be.
Unfortunate that the law is do legalistic about “adults”. They should have called their parents.
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Any time for her to get to think about this, determine whether Brian was the right guy for her, to talk to her mom on the phone, to do anything may have changed the course of this. An arrest should have absolutely been made - the thing they didn't show was the body cam footage where the officers were talking about "crazy girlfriends" with Brian. Their own misogyny was a factor, too (which isn't really surprising when you find out the rate of domestic violence in police households). Regardless, no one will ever truly know. But I'd like to think they could have set things on a different track had they just arrested one or both of them.
@@alteredcatscyprus they were over 18. I don't think legally they could call their parents. Maybe they could have offered resources to both of them for domestic violence. Maybe she would of called ..
@@kimberbell4238 and that legality needs to change...no matter the age, there should be a legal option to call reinforcements in these cases
I remember watching that video with the police and thinking this woman is a victim of domestic abuse straight off. Her excuses, apologising etc is clear examples of someone who has been gaslighted, and look at his behaviour!
there's no way of knowing that. you only able to say that cause you knew what happened in the end and you now have information about brian's behaviour and their relationship. these policemen has got nothing.
@@mr.brightside6576 I agree. Monday morning quarterbacking at its best
@@mr.brightside6576 respectfully, I disagree. Once you’ve been a victim of abuse you recognise that behaviour like looking in a mirror. It’s chilling and massively uncomfortable to watch. My guess is Tamith 🔝 has experienced abuse also or watched someone very close to them go through this to say what they said.
I hope this helps others reading this understand *why* it was obvious. Many people recognised it, and sadly that is because abuse is far more prevalent than people would like to think. It’s not something that is easy to talk about at all due to shame, fear and lack of self esteem and leaves the person as a shell of what they used to be. Sad but true.
@@sjpercy1334 no worries...i just think it would be very hard for authorities to arrest the boyfriend when she herself admitted that she started it by slapping him a couple of times while he was driving.
@@sjpercy1334 i have a question. in case the boyfriend was arrested, do you think that they wont get back together?
I want to know more about the “other” victims that were discovered in the wilderness while people were searching for Gabbie.
Yes!!!!!
Where was this mentioned in this documentary? I must have missed that…
@@tdpmayhemyt it is not specifically mentioned in this piece. I would suggest googling: bodies found during search for Gabby Petito
This story left a lot out
Her best friend put it perfectly at 2:30 "A lot of couples look nice on instagram." Social media is the perfect place for someone to pass themselves off as normal/innocuous at the surface.
What scares the crap out of me is that this was my first marriage. The abuse, the cries for help and no one saw it. After 22 years I was able to get out. Thank God.... but this brings out so much fear in me of what could have been!
cries for help? did you come out and tell someone directly what happened?
I was also in an abusive marriage. I remember ringing my Nan and asking for help, she had a spare room and I hoped to move in with her. She said "it's a shame he doesn't hit you as then you could go to a woman's refuge".... 1 year later I left him and rang her and said "I'm coming to yours, I've left him. I have nowhere else to go.". She was lovely and helped me for a few months. Now, I'm in a wonderful relationship and moved almost 1500 miles away to North Europe and am back in university. My ex tried so hard to destroy me, he failed. I'm flourishing thanks to my amazing current partner of 5 years.
@@craigime Don't know about her, but yeah I did, plenty of times. Every time the police arrived, my ex was calm and collected while I was tearful and emotional. My mental instability and my part in the altercation was used by my ex to convince the police that he was the patient long-suffering husband of a neurotic hysterical woman, and that me to going to jail would only further exacerbate my mental illness. Each time they left, he was no longer percieved as my abuser, but rather my protector, and I would end up apologizing and thanking him for saving me from being arrested. So many people have no idea how domestic abuse batters the victim's psyche, or what a cry for help sounds like.
He was slapping her.
It's so insidious how they chip away at your psyche. You don't even realize it's happening until you do.
That dude is a punk. She was such a beautiful girl and a beautiful soul. She should still be alive today. I’m sorry for her family!
police officers did not make a mistake. everything was ablsolutley correct. all they knew about this guy, gaby told them.
The smile he has when getting out of the police car at the hotel is sickening. Knowing his narcissistic charm worked once again. The whole situation was so sad all the way around.
He was probably happy to get away from his codependent abuser who he had been arguing with him all morning. He got some rest away from her.
She was the abuser in the first place... she literally admitted it several times to the police
@@sr2291 He could have flown back home the next day and gotten away from her if he really wanted to.. except he had nothing and no life without her, and was living off of Gabby..
the guy was a narcissistic loser and killed himself because he knew he murdered the only person who really loved him.
His whole ‘mercy killing’ story was such bullsh!t! But just proof of the narcissist he was and that he couldn’t take responsibility or blame for murdering her.. but tried to play the hero 🙄 It wasn’t the first time he strangled her, Gabby said that he did it that day to the police, which is why she hit him.. but she was trying to cover for him.. it’s what victims do to lessen their abuse
@@sr2291 obviously you have no clue about abusive relationships.its clear to me from all the videos and pics that she has been abused
@pannochka11 Obviously I have because I ran from one. I wasn't dumb enough to stay or dumb enough to hit and injure a man.
I was with my abusive ex the same exact time as this case was going on. I finally left him November 2022. Everything is even harder when you have zero support system, nobody who cares about you, not even family. I have tons and tons of trauma to be healing from.💔😖
Love and take care of yourself. Become your own parent.
Oh dear please get well. I know what you are going through but I pray you get past it
Glad u left. Curious though about your family? You left them first or they did?
@@krism5125 Thank you so much baby💖 that means the world to me, more than you know💖
@@HayleeFox15 sending you love and hugs. You are your own happiness no one can change that the key and lock are always in your hands however much you maybe freshly New to your ownself of freedom and independance finding. it may take time but stay focused on you, it shall be well. I was in a relationship for two years and it's taken me three years to get over it and feel myself and confident again. Give yourself time it's not easy I know but your happiness and a healthy mind is better than anything. Hugs dearest
Such a sad story. Leaving an abusive relationship is always the right thing to do.
It’s very hard to leave an abusive relationship . Constantly blaming yourself for something you don’t deserve. I️ know .
Me too oxo
I followed this case very closely as it was unfolding & I was absolutely devastated when they found her. I've endured alot of abuse in my personal life & I felt so much pain for Gabby. I was her age when I was involved in my first abusive relationship & I finally walked away from the guy after he almost shot me one night; He was tweaking on meth & he thought someone was breaking into our home. The bullet flew over my head & went into the wall behind me. While that was a wake up call at that time, I ended up in another abusive relationship when I was 29 & that relationship/marriage went on for 12 years. It destroyed my life & I'm now a 42 y.o. widow fighting to take my life back. To all of you young men & women who've experienced abuse (in any form), please understand that you deserve so much better. Unfortunately, most people don't change for the better & no matter how much you love them, no amount of love is worth losing your life over ❤️.
Sorry to read your story.. Stay strong and keep smiling ☺
Sorry you went through that. Glad you're fine now. ❤
I’m single and have been through abusive relationships with men who are not emotionally there now I’ve been spending time with God…(lots of time with him) and it’s been refreshing.
And you’re right most people don’t change, change is hard.
She abused him and he eventually snapped. That's what happened
I was in an abusive marriage in my early twenties. When I saw the video of Gabby (in this video at 19:21) when I first heard she was missing, I knew she was being abused. Her face is smiling, but her eyes are full of pain and sorrow. I lived this way, too. Everyone thought I had the perfect marriage. I never told anyone while it was happening. My heart breaks for her and her loved ones.
Im sorry that happened to you. Im glad you are still here, I’m glad you’re ok.
He was slapping her.
@@2281Dee thank you. I got out 34 years ago after 6 years of marriage. I’m so very grateful.
Yeah sure.
Every female says "he was abusive"
every male says " she was crazy"
One thing I need to say- any beautiful young woman with a social media following would have received the same attention regardless of skin, hair color or eye color. She had a popular following and was charismatic- this is why there’s was so much attention and a cry for help… are there many similar cases- where a beautiful young lady with popular social media account and history of police interaction caught on tape disappeared but we ignored it bc she wasn’t white and blonde with blue eyes? I’d like to know… genuinely curious. This is so sad.
Also want to add if everyone adores and protects pretty blonde haired blue eyed ladies the police may have had a biased that protected her when they pulled them over with reports a dark eyed man was hitting her…. All I know is I would be looking for a beautiful charismatic young woman in this situation regardless of her race.
Beautiful Gabby ..what a terrible heart breaking story ,I really hope many lessons were learned R.I.P. Gabby .
It feels like couples/people who are always posting happy moments on social media outlets are the ones that have hidden toxic lives and noone knows about the darkness until it is too late. Such a young joyful spirited young woman gone too soon.
True. My sister and her fake marriage is one of them. Pretending to be happy on social media but in real life her marriage is a mess.
Just like Family Pictures hung on people's walls. At least my family were not hypocrites and never got those taken.
I don't know how Brian's family could have kept silent. My God, your son just killed someone that you had living with you. I understand you love your son, but he took an innocent life. Why would you want to protect someone like that? They should have a lot of guilt and I hope they get punished.
My thoughts exactly. I know my parents love me, but if I told them I had killed someone I am pretty sure they would call the cops on me right then and there. Which is what they SHOULD do!
I hope they never feel peace again. I'm sure they've had to move since things first popped off.
You are sure that they knew before he was found?
@@amina-pr8xtthere was a letter in Brian’s mom’s possession that eluded to his crime. It said to burn the letter after reading, but it wasn’t burnt. Talked about in the end.
I agree and his parents should have told him to turn himself In. I expect that he told the same story to his mom as he wrote down. That it was an accident - she hurt herself and was in agony and he put her out of her misery. I hope his mom will contemplate every night on her son with a bullet through his brain - because she did not turn him in when she had the chance.
This story hurts my heart I have 5 girls and can't imagine the pain
she’s so sweetly honest. her ocd is key to her past trauma (i’m thinking her mom). he is belittling her.
I know I'm not the only one to feel this way: I took one look at Gabby, crying and cringing and making excuses for Brian, shifting the blame onto herself and trying to absolve him, and I knew _right then and there_ he was abusing her. Because that's what people who are abused do, they try to defuse the situation so that they won't be punished later, in private.
Brian's mother is absolutely vile.
A female police officer spoke to her and gave Gabby her phone number in case she wanted to talk in private. Apparently, she never called the officer and got back together with Brian the next morning.
@@sr2291that's what abused people do. They don't ask for help because they think is normal for these stuff to happen.
@@sr2291are you saying this to try and blame her?
The police officer who sent Laundrie to the motel and gave Gabby the vehicle was, I believe, hoping she would leave and go home. He could not force her to do this. She would be alive today had she made that choice.
The police should've arrested gabby for assault. She'd still be alive today if police treated women like they do men.
I agree, she should of just left & headed home, leaving him there in Utah, very sad
Totally agree..the officers did their job..she chose death
They most likely let her go with the van because it was in her name and not Brian’s. I wish she did just go home and leave him there..
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This is a story that I can't take hearing one more time. It was days and weeks of dread. IT Never Had To Happen IF she had just rang her parents, tefused to get back in the van, or said to anyone, "Get me out of here," BUT SHE DIDN'T. She betrayed herself bc she was afraid to stand up for herself. That was not love. Teach your girls to think world of selves - it is their own strength. They won't tolerate staying one second where there is any disrespect of them, nor go anywhere near it in the first place. Do you love self? Better start asap. RIP Gabby. 🙏😪💖💫🌱🌏
As a parent, this just breaks my heart. I sent positive prayers to her parents who will need them every day.
“He doesn’t really believe that I can do any of it”
That is an indication that he criticises/puts her down and should have been a big red flag.
Hate to say it but Gabby’s family blaming police is ridiculous. They knew the couple MUCH longer, they had FAR MORE opportunities to intervene, to realize this was a dangerously toxic relationship. But they want to blame the police for not realizing this after just meeting them? Sorry but there is clearly a sense of guilt that they are projecting onto others.
Right. Like the police are suppose to know the ins and outs of people's private lives
I'm not even a fan of the police and I agree with you.
I completely agree with you. One hour spent with this couple by the police is supposed to solve an abusive relationship that had been going on for quite some time. Didn’t the parents see any of this? If they didn’t see it how were the police supposed to see it? Everyone always wants to blame everybody else.
@@QuicksandontheTrail and why aren't you fan of Police?
Gabby was just as toxic
If you meet a guy who lives in a van (down by the river) and he says to you - let's go travel to some places in the middle of nowhere, maybe you should think about it very hard. Before you get in his no-windows van....
Did Gabby s family ever see evidence of an abusive or manipulative relationship or even Gabby s friends who might have been around them both or have been ears to listen to anything she said to them about him??? This is what I’d like to know
I saw his manipulative trait at the ‘traffic stop.’ Being a former abused victim, I learned abuse, separation, isolation, manipulation, body language, & many other signs. The officers should have noticed some of those things. Brian ‘pulled’ the officers right into ‘his’ side. One officer ‘high 5’d’ him. And Brian smiled the majority of the time with being in the presence of the officers.
Brian made a deal with the cops that if he went to a motel room paid for the women's shelter they would not arrest her and give her the van keys to drive away.
You're projecting. It's impossible to see the facts while projecting.
The red flags were coming from Gabby, particularly her continued attempts to control Brian. Victims don't do that, abusers do. He looked thankful for the separation.
So what should Brian be doing in the scenario, be wailing and crying lamenting to the officers she hit him first?
His vibe is so bad at the traffic stop, she's so upset and he's laughing and smug.
@@alisonchaplin8641 Men usually cover their anger and hurt behind a false veneer because it's not manly to act like a female and cry. You can see that Brian was having a hard time admitting that she was swinging and hitting him.
You can’t live like you are in a movie 😢. I wish kids would understand this more. Keep a tight community of safety and protection. Friendship is a product of that community. Documenting things excessively makes even the author forget reality when looking back. Your life is way more precious than looking like you have a perfect life.
Stay safe everyone. 🙏🏾
@Jane Smith. I totally agree with your statement. I think that Gabby was receiving subscriber funds to help support her adventure. She had to post the Van Life so that they could gain more subscribers and support.
"You can’t live like you are in a movie"
Tweets, facebook posts, and youtube videos are the "movies" of our modern time, and the Internet is the modern day "Hollywood". In a way, Gabbi is the Marilyn Monroe of our time. In the end, Brian and Gabbi got exactly what they wanted. They became internet superstars, though perhaps not exactly in the way they wished. Fame always comes at a price.
I saw the traffic stop video back when she and abuser were announced missing
Sister and I just looked at each other. She dead, and he killed her. Seen all that behavior a thousand times as a bartender.
Brian should’ve be arrested for felony speeding down that road while the cop was behind them!
He was driving over 20 mph over the speed limit.
Her situation reminded me so much of mine.
Abusive marriage for over a decade. Broken bones. Being raped. times where I was convinced... this is it... I'm going to die. I had nothing. Too scared to leave.
It wasnt until my childhood grade school sweetheart literally helped me escape. Got us a place. I was still stalked but it thankfully stopped after a few years. I'm 33 now I've been free for almost 4 years
But I'll forever broken, nasty teeth. An ugly smile. from abuse and never will I be able to afford to fix it. So it's a constant reminder. It sucks.
But I'm free.
There’s plenty of ways to fix them. Get a credit card and care credit, you go girl 😘
You are so sweet.
I JUST started establishing my credit shortly after leaving. It's been a few years I escaped. So I will hopefully have good enough credit soon to get care credit.
Thank you for caring and giving advice. It means a lot. Truly.
@@mysticdragon111 at 12% per month. No thanks.
so glad you're safe and hopefully happier. i hope you can heal and get better now that you're away from such a terrible situation. be strong! ❤
Thank you for sharing. Many young girls and women read these stories and choose to stay single instead of being with narcissistic men brought up by a patriarchal society.
People need to look up narcissism. And people need to support people choosing to stay single. Too many narcissists and psychos out there.
Schools need to educate their young ones about domestic violence - how to avoid it, how to report it....RIP, beautiful Gabby.
It's just so sad
Mine did, I am thankful for it.
While that's true, I think is even more important to teach boys to respect women.
I agree, but its not always shown in Violence. A toxic person is always a Narcistic Person, we should learn those signs and not have a realtionship with those who re toxic cause they never love, those toxic people only control, blame, shame outhers, and need the outher person so much that they manipulate them to stick with them.
Schools? That's tough at home. If a man is abusing me and I let it happen, what kind of message will I be giving my daughter and my son?
That's ok for a man to hit a woman and a woman to hit a man?
I try really hard to understand why will anybody allow a partner to hit them, specifically when your kids are witnessing it all.
It is unacceptable.
I offered help to a friend that was being abused and she refused all my help. She loved that man more than herself.
All parents of missing children and people need to take notes from her family they were excellent at keeping the media informed and interested they were the squeaky wheel and as a result they got answers 😢❤
I was with an abusive man like him. He just couldn't control his temper. People like him have to be in control and when they end up meeting resistance to that control then they start to turn violent. Notice that it was HE that was driving her vehicle that she owned around and he even locked her out of the vehicle at one point. He was controlling things around her and abusing her to lock her under his control mentally. Unfortunately, she like many victims of this fought back instead of leaving him cold turkey and that cost her life. He probably hit her in the head with something which killed her. Poor thing.
she was the control freak, hellllooooo
And to know that they found so many other dead bodies in searching for Gabby, although her story ends sad, it sure helped a lot of people. Especially the ones who got out of abusive relationships! Rest in Paradise Gabby ❤️
Who goes to paradise? There's this collective socially accepted RIP philosophy that if you die a certain way you go to heaven. I'm not saying she didn't, but you can't say she did. Jesus said unless you are born again you can't enter into the kingdom of God. Without looking that up, ask yourself, how do you become born again.
@@Halcyon1861
GET A CLUE DUED!!
My point is exactly, I can't say she went to heaven or not. I said rest in Paradise which means rest peacefully! Regardless where she went, please don't comment under my comment talking about stuff that will start sh*t! Move past my comment and read along. I'll never get it understand why people like you do this stuff!
You "all my exes are narcissists and sociopaths" types are a bunch of jokes. 😂😂
@@jackchop1576 ??
I don't understand how people can put lovely videos and pictures on social media platforms but suffer terribly in personal lives 😢
Do you see all of those family portraits on the walls of their homes? Same thing.
Sadly I think it’s a way for them to believe that everything is good and perfect but in reality it’s the opposite.
welcome to fake life
Facade is important to insecure people
It is the difference between you want to have and what you have.
My heart still breaks over this horrific story . Way to young to be stolen from life in such a horrific manner . My heart breaks for her and her family. 🙏🏻🌻