Stress-Free Socializing: Do’s and Don’ts for Introverts
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- Опубликовано: 25 июн 2024
- 9 tips on how to socialize without extra stress if you’re an introvert, an HSP, or have had a serious emotional burnout 🌜 Extra videos every week (this week, it’s about my art therapy session): / anagoldberg
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Chapters:
00:00 Why introverts hate socializing
02:18 Tip No. 1
03:11 Tip No. 2
04:13Tip No. 3
06:14 Tip No. 4
07:40 Tip No. 5
08:26 Tip No. 6
09:41 Tip No. 7
10:10 Tip No. 8
11:03 Tip No. 9
This is good information for extroverts to know about introverts. Extroverts gain energy when interacting with people. Likewise, Introverts may also benefit by and even enjoy socializing. But, one major difference is that after socializing or interacting with people at work all day, introverts may need to take time alone to “recharge their batteries.”
I always test as an extrovert on every type of personality assessment but I am exhausted when I spent a lot of time around people. I am very outgoing and I do well in crowds as a general rule and enjoy public speaking and keeping a crowd entertained. However, I am completely wiped out when it’s over and I need to be alone. I feel a constant need to make other people comfortable, to fill up awkward silences, to manage a situation when two people aren’t getting alone, etc, so I take on the task of keeping a social event “working” for everyone
@@GrayWithMe You could be a highly sociable introvert. Or maybe you’re just expending a ton of people-pleasing energy (?)
I’m a socially awkward extrovert (anxiety over putting foot in mouth, don’t always fit in),but get energy from being around people, never exhausted after leaving an event.
@@GrayWithMe socializing is exhausting for most people (though some people tolerate more of it); modern theories of extraversion usually emphasize sensitivity to social reward as a core component.
People must need understand personality is like sexuality, is also a mostly incontrollable inclination or attraction. People tend to think specially introverts and also shy ones, like me, can be or must be "fixed" as if there is something inherent wrong being less socially attracted and or more inwardly oriented.
Dearest Ana, in my younger years I was very much an extrovert. I felt as though people were interested in listening to what I had to say. As I got older I felt shrinking away from everyone and feeling that nobody cared for my opinions and ideas. Thus I know I only feel comfortable when I am alone. People don’t seem to care whether I am there or not. I’ve also been diagnosed as having social anxiety. Can someone become an introvert when once they were very much an extrovert? Just seeing you warms my heart my dear friend, Ana. ❤️
I think our personalities can change over time, but in your situation, your change could be related to generalized anxiety disorder or social anxiety and when that anxiety grows over time, your brain works to avoid circumstances that trigger anxiety. Even if it’s something you used to enjoy. My father’s anxiety increased as he got older. He went from an engaging extrovert to an agoraphobic where he didn’t want to see anyone and that wasn’t healthy. Had he been on medication and received therapy I think he would have maintained extroverted tendencies
I am an introvert and force myself to fellowship with people because I know it is mentally healthy for me. I do enjoy it for short spurts. When I am tired, I prefer to be alone. I do place a very high value on friendship. I have a lot of acquaintances but few I consider 'close' friends. xoxo You're amazing!
Thank you for sharing your perspective, Debbie ❤️
This was so helpful and well put together, thankyou 😊 I am an introvert, but I do give talks and workshops - I just need to prepare well and have enough recovery time afterwards. And even if socialisation is stressful, it will sometimes make me feel very much alive and give me stimulation that is not easy to get if you spend a lot of time in your own head.
I can see people, but it must have a strict time limit, and there must be a clear and easy escape hatch. I have people who demand long catch ups, a whole day, and its too much for me. Coffee at my Church is perfect.
To hear you say all these things that describe my experiences with social interaction somehow makes me feel validated for who I am. Thank you for that. I can play my flute for a crowd, but can hardly say a couple of coherent sentences to anyone who approaches me afterward! The negative self-talk is probably what I struggle with most, like everyone in the room is judging me somehow. Also the fact that I have a very quiet speaking voice makes me want to just not participate. I love the idea of being free to leave whenever I need to and yes, no guilt for those made-up excuses to retreat back to my own friendly surroundings again! Thank you for your insights as always, dear Ana. ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience, dear Gayle 🌷
I am an extroverted introvert. I can do a crowd if I am on stage doing a presentation (usually singing some aria) but afterwards, I have to have my down time. I never know what to say to people, unless they're my friends. And your tips are even good for soloists or people who do other kinds of presentations.
As much as I love my husband, I even want to kick him out from time to time! Lol!
Thanks so much for your tips!
Ana I have been very emotionally drained my life has consisted of highly stressful situations and it’s taken my confidence away from me and my latest set of circumstances is I have to see a cardiologist on 3rd of April and also a CT scan for chest ovaries and kidneys different hospitals on the same day I’m hoping it’s going to be possible to attend both appointments thank you for your video dear Anna
Wishing you the best of luck with your health appointments, Margaret.
@@anagoldberg thank you Ana on the brighter side I have doing some decluttering over the last few days and I’m feeling good about that thanks again for your well wishes I really appreciate it 🪴
Hello dear Ana, thank you for your advise. For many years now I do avoid certain situations or gatherings like parties, where it's expected to be talkative and there is no distraction. When I'm sometimes in a situation where I'm not quite comfortable either I get so nervous that I speak a bit more in order to hide my nervousness or I try to leave/escape asap 😉. It's an urge and I feel it strongly. When I know people well I'm more extroverted, but I need my alone time to recharge. Stay safe 🙏
So good to see you, my friend. I am sure that your tips are helping many people! It took me years to figure out that if I set a time limit for myself before I even leave for an event it eliminates half the stress for me! And I make sure I have at least one full day alone the next day to recouperate.
We are leaving for my husband’s home country for at least six months and I’m worried about socializing. This is very helpful. I wish you and I could socialize together! Thank you, Ana.
A marvelous video Ana. You hit this one out of the park!
This really spoke to me as I'm starting a new life in a new community and striving to balance making new friends and having a small social life but not being the hermit my nature would draw me toward or overwhelmed.
I need people. But I don't need "too much" people.
I have found playing the elegant game of pétanque with a local club fulfills my need for socialization.
We all have the same focus --the game--so engaging in small talk (which I dislike and have no talent for ) isn't an issue. We just simply talk about the game, give each other encouragement and are more or less silent during play. As someone with autistic tendencies I have to remind myself to keep myself in check and not to overshare if personal questions are asked.
Playing well gives me the boost of self esteem I need, as do the greetings of fellow members. We play no more than 2 hours on a thrice a week basis. After 2 hours I'm ready for rest and quiet recovery.
Excellent tips. I'll be rewatching this video!!
I'm so glad the video was helpful, dear Laura!
Thank you so much for sharing this very wisdom Ana ❤❤
I am in the middle of the scale, have lived as an extrovert in my worklife, being a nurse.
I don’t work anymore, due to illness and have realized how much own space and social boundaries is essential for my being. Have burned out 3 times at least in my career never understanding really why.
Came to know myself since I became, that I am not here just to please others. Never filling up my own needs and recharging my batteries.
i love how u mention natural calming remedies. I love taking ashwagandha to calm me down :)
Great video.! You know the struggles of an introvert… Have a nice week❤
Hey Ania, just a little compliment about your look. The makeup you have on is enhancing. Doesn't overpower your face, just gives pretty definition. Very nice!
Thank yout for your kind compliment, Shelly.
Excellent presentation
Hello dear Ana 🌷 Thank you for your wonderful insight of this deep subject ! How I wished I could have heard it when I was 18 and years after (and before... my beloved grand-pa used to say I was like a little wild animal who hide himself when strangers would come ☺️) ! Warm hugs and love to you dear friend 💛🌿🌸
This was an interesting video. As I think about what you say, I think I changed from an extrovert type to more of an introvert type after the death of my husband. And I'm not sure why that is. I never thought about that until I saw your video. I Don't know if that's good or bad or neither. I'm just saying it's something that came to mind as I watched your video. As I think about it a little more, I'm not sure if I'm the one that changed or if people treated me differently now that I was a single person and not part of a couple anymore. Interesting thought. At any rate, thank you again for the video. You make me think about things that have never entered my mind and about the way other people think.😊
Thank you for sharing such an important experience, dear Shelia ❤️
Intrusive thoughts saying me to write a negative review after reading that title. I don't even know why am i offended😤
So your feeling of offense is probably about yourself, but not about the video that I've made.
Great video Ana have a great week
Such great, practical advice! I especially like tip no. 5 re not having to talk! It's been a slow process for me to realise that. I feel like I learnt to overcompensate some natural shyness with always trying to talk lots and 'perform'. It's exhausting! It's only lately that I've been trying more consciously to tell myself I'm allowed to be quiet, watch, observe, listen in a social context - and leave more space for others. Somehow so much insecurity dwells in that place! (If I don't speak, perform, be, shine - then I'm not worthy.. etc.)
Thank you!🍒🍓
This was exceptionally helpful ❤thanks so much!!! I really appreciate your advices they make so much sense. ❤have a lovely week ahead 🙏🇮🇱❤️
Thank you Ana, much interesting..
I think this is the most helpful video you have ever made. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I really enjoyed this presentation .❤
Thank you😊
Thank you so much for making this video. It really helped me!
I give it one half of an hour…. If I have not warmed up to the gathering by then, I just go🙂
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ana,
could you please spell out the words you are saying when you sign off? is it baca-baca? i just love it!
I asked my Russian friend this! She’s saying “bye bye” in Russian (don’t know how it’s spelled though)
how does it sound to you?
do you think it starts with a B, a D or a V?
In Russian ; Bye Bye is Poka-Poka. So, it’s the p sound you hear (paca paca) ✌️
@@Wanderlustwaltz🤍ty🤍
You've already got the right response, my friend 😊And yes, it's paca-paca or paka-paka
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