I Have So Many Goals I Can't Focus... What Should I Do?
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I Have So Many Goals I Can't Focus... What Should I Do?
21st Century. We have a lot of things going on, projects to do and things to handle. We need to be able to cope and maintain our career, family, social life, dream projects, etc.
All of these things can turn out to be pretty consuming. All of these things can drain your time and energy and make you completely lost.
When you get lost however, you lose focus. And when you lose focus, you're screwed.
So, what should you do when you have so many things going on, so many things to focus that you can't simply focus on anything? What is the best place when you're in this type of situation?
Watch this video and find out!
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I wish I had had that attitude when I was that age. Too busy drinking beer and unsuccessfully chasing women. Still, as the saying goes "best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, second best time is now".
True true
Too bad I was not born yet 20 years ago
I'm in high school and i'm already making the change, its hard to build up a strong discipline mind set, i noticed that i'm very weak at focusing on multiple tasks, i noticed when i wanted to buy something new and i kept procrastinating other important things like studying, because i'm constantly thinking and focusing on getting or buying that new thing.
@@yahyasaady1674 exactly the same case bro ...so the sellotion is to focus on the main important thing or two things not more till u accomplish them then move to the next goals!
@@taufikahmedniloy5621 so you've missed that chance then :) lol
I tried juggling between learning programming, music, Japanese and walking. Turned out it's impossible with a full-time job. So I didn't cancel any of them but rather prioritized them. Programming is the serious stuff and takes most of the spare time, music became just a hobby and takes 10 mins to an hour depending on the time and the mood, walking is essential and takes one to half an hour a day, and Japanese is also a hobby and takes half an hour a day that I can squeeze in during the day. And at the end of the day I have to mainly learn programming and walk.
So you made a disciplined routine to do all these things everyday a little ?
And did it worked?
It becomes even impossible when there are a lot of programming language you wanted to learn ...
@@abhiraj5646 how do you study?
Thank you , you are right. I can't give equal time to all of my goals.
Hi Xeno. How are you doing at the moment?
This is what I needed to hear. I have the same problem. I have so MANY hobbies/interests, they often get in the way of success. I'm considering focusing on only a few things.
same bro....the saying "a jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one" keeps ruining my motivation to achieve my goals.
Finally found that I am not the only one who stressed about this
Honestly I have been having the same problem for a long time and these past few weeks i just decided to do whatever is possible at any free time i get. And after watching this video i want to just choose one thing at a time and be patient. I am also twenty and have been feeling like i am missing out or been left behind so Hopefully with more time i put in Programming i will be best at it. Thanks again John.
Same..
same here brother
If you can learn at 19 to stay focused at one thing at a time you will go far, and accomplish more. The age of information has created the might set that to many things can be done. Specialization first is key. Stay focused on one direction, and usually the success from the first direction can more often than not guarantee success in the second direction... That's my story and I wish I stuck to it at times. lol Good luck friend!
Fantastic advice.
True. it's a flaw of our times the overwhelming ambition and responsibility weighting on a single individual
I'm also 19 and I struggled with the same thing, I recommend the One Thing by Gary Keller!
This is also a great book. Powerful in its message
Summary?
Thanks a lot man.
I am also struggling with same thing
One thing and Bhagwat Gita on my list.
If he wants to do both programming and football in his career, it would make much more sense to pursue his football career now while he's young (it's a young man's game), and then once he retires, if he still has passion for programming he can go that route.
If he makes a lot of money as a footballer he'd also have the finances to hire the best programming teachers to get him up to speed in that world fast, and he'd be able to finance his own programming projects as well.
Hey, maybe while playing football he gathers a list of ideas for apps / technology that he could produce and sell to the football marketplace (which is huge) - and there's your direct carry-over from football to programming. His football experience would give him a huge advantage when it comes to creating software products for that particular market.
I totally agree.
With all due respect I must disagree about football. If at 19 you are still not a pro you better leave it as a recreation. Players start from the age of 4-6 regularly training and Germany as the cream of the crop it doesn't happen unless it's a Hollywood movie. Kudos to the guy with so many ambitions but I believe programming is the way to go.
Wow. I mean, I'm not into neither of the above but similar things here, and I think you just helped me out too ! haha
there is no advice anyone can give anyone at this point. With the direction society is headed with AI we may all be obsolete soon
The risk with focusing on only one is what scares me bro help me out
This video pretty much told me what I needed to know: Focus on one thing, either at a time, or at all times. Thank you for this.
My goals are animation (traditional),cinematography, photography, foley, writing, exercising, playing guitar and piano and sing... I have too many 0-0 I even want to be a puppet maker and costume maker/cosplayer. I even want to do electronics and idk..... MAN I HAVE TOO MANY GOALS.....
But I’m going well in them all by being self taught. I even give each topic a week worth of studying and researching each.
Pls help I want to shorten my list, life is too short to learn all of those 😞
Dude why do we have the same goals :(
Pieyman idk ;0;
@@itsjustkip108 🙂🙂 we should keep in contact 😏 I have a dream 🙃that even I'm going to find someone like ye 🙂... 😉U wanna talk private
Pieyman yeah sure, I would like to keep in contact
@@itsjustkip108 here is my link to my youtube messge we can chat there 😁
youtu.be/join/ct-giL2HNvk1Uo
I have found my people!
I am working at an IoT company , I do Front end backend blockchain plus,.... I am also trying for govt. jobs continuously studying 3 hrs daily and also doing Masters online program in cyber security.
I sometimes act different due to these various goals. I am so much taken , I dont get time to go out like others
Big difference in the way that you deliver your message (then and now)
There is no such thing as "realistic goals"
If someone tells u that, its because it's not an ideal goal for them. People aren't supposed to "see" your vision.
Do what u want, do care what anyone says🎯
💯💯💯
John Sonmez is giving really good advice to here. If the questioner decides that he will only work on programming if Football doesn’t workout and has a detailed plan of where and how he will study if he needs it, than he can let that go for now and do football, and vice versa. I’m sure the questioner feels a hint that he won’t have both careers and is riding the fence.
Good reminder, FOCUS! 🏆🎉👏
Like how you advise to focus on one area at a time.
If something comes in the future, leave it for later.
I would love to meet this boy. We are the same a age a share this “mind diversificacatiln problem”. Just as him, I have a lot of goals outside what my primary care goals, eh hock is becoming a physician in this case, and the other goals sometimes feel as luring and important as the first one, ant it makes me feel overwhelmed. I hope this kid and I manage to find a nice balance and archive our goals eventually. ☺️
@paula did you find any solution? I'm in same situation.
This is my problem too, a big problem, and I had this problem for a long time, now I just decide to concentrate on writing and become an author.
How did it go?
Hi John, you've said "Focus in one thing at a time" but time is not instantaneous in this context, not an hour, not a week, not a month and sometimes not even a year. Here time means time where you spend one interest specifically all the time in that period. Imagine if someone wants to learn Python from beginning. He would definitely take more than months. Focus in Python at a time. He can do for 1 week, may be two week but law of diminishing interest soon kicks in and you lose your focus. Either you get frustrated that you haven't accomplished much and give up or you develop some other interest or a combination of both. This is tough. So many times I started Python but soon something like this would happen. What do you suggest?
Im interested to know the same thing too. So have you found your answer to that question yet?
Have u got the answer
👁👁?
Attending school. That's why people go to gyms, exercise classes, university... so that you are not solely controlled by your own will. Having other people and goals to achieve (better marks, assessments, doing some school work) and other activities helps you keep focused on that. I could have never self-teach myself classical music. School is what got me here. I don't have enough focus to do it myself.
In just 30 minutes I will have studied Spanish, Italian, data analytics, IT, video production, watched UFC content, maps, etc. It's crazy. This goes on pretty much every waking hour.
I'm 19 right now and I dont know how to focus because my goals or passions are completely independent. Like I'm an engineer major student, but I want to learn piano, and be polyglot, and learn to dance, also to play volleyball. And I'm ignoring that i want to study philosophy because I put that on the side some time ago. Anyway I think I'll just pick up one hobby and focus on it and some years later I'll switch o something like that.
I'd say take piano and/or dance classes (or dance sessions). For piano, depending on what you want to play, in 3 years time you will be able to comfortably play things that you like!
Try to play here and then (weekends) in volleyball teams.
Don't specifically work for the languages, let them come to you through music and movies. Choose one of the ones you know less and watch a movie per week in that language.
You will eventually drop some of these goals in time, or some will become hobbies. For Philosophy do you want a degree or just reading on your own?
To be honest all of that is achievable, in time. Just being patient and focus on one thing at a time.
If you are still studying and like your degree I'd say maybe keep going for now and take one or two of the above. None of your goals have to be achieved this soon in your life, you are very young. Prioritize the physical ones maybe, for it gives some variety I think :)
Cheers
One things is to tell yourself you're going to work harder and another thing is to actually make yourself do it.
Chickens invaded your mind for 2 seconds at 3:08
This is the best advice I got in my whole life.
this is a bummer as a computer science student, aspiring artist, aspiring japanese speaker, aspiring poet, weightlifter, and philosophy/ history book reader. Lol what was I thinking. I think I wasted this past year juggling all of these goals only to make minimal progress in all but one of them. I'll probably just focus on my degree and my art skills first. I could be a much better programmer and artist if I had the nuance to consider this earlier. Other goals after I graduate.
Man this is what i needed to hear today so thankful for this video !
I have so many goals but one in each area of my life. Love life, carear + money ( that goes together at least for now) parenting , health. Self worth. It's difficult to chose what is most important right now because i feel deep in my heart all of that. I am greatful now because I know what I want in every area of life which I didn't few months ago. It's going to be a challenge which one I feel strongly about the most ☺️ Thanks for video 💜🤗
I know also when I chose one I am not supposed to focus on the goal itself but on feeling already being true, already being done☺️
Congrats on taking that next step Jelena. Remember, focus on 1 is key. If you want help on how, let's chat on the Bulldog Mindset Membership live stream (Oct 8, 10am PT / 1pm ET), $7 first month: bulldogmindset.com/yt-bdmm-trial
Thank you for this video ! I really struggle with this too. There are so many things I want to do as a career and I find it so hard to just pick one !
I will give you some different advice: Specialization is for insects, like Robert Heinlein said. look up famous polymaths through history, like Leonardo Davinci and if you want practical advice for following in their footsteps read the book refuse to choose by Barbara sher.
yea but even he mastered one thing at a time
if only i could have the talent to become a polymath like leonardo da vinci lmao
I’m from India 🇮🇳 and lives in New Delhi right now my age is 28 and next month i will be 29 till 29 i have done almost 10 courses and 30 courses i think 🤔 for carrier option below is my list of interests :-
After 12th from arts
1-B.com pass fail taken tuition classes ( Money waste )
2-Job in yoko high for 1 month after 10th
3-Events jobs
4-Engg in digital electronics fail ( Money waste)
5-Interior design fail ( Money waste )
6-CAD in interior design fail ( Money waste)
7-NIIT fail Java course ( Money waste )
8-Hotel management (Form waste ) pusa & pvt Gr. noida
9-Job in sun direct D2H one week
10-English speaking 2 times fail ( Money waste)
11-SSC fail classes taken but left after few weeks ( Money waste )
12- UPSE IPS dream but low passion
13-BTS pass
14-Guitar 🎸 fail ( few money waste )
15-Singing 🎤 still Passion
16- Modelling
17-Job in tourism 2.5 years
18-Digital marketing fail ( money waste)
19-Share marketing new course
20-Gym again and again but fail ( Money waste) wanna join again
21-Yoga 🧘♂️ course
22-Spirituality path
23-Acting new
24-Photography
25- indian Army very imp for me still
26- Delhi police & J&K police (Fail)
27- bartender course (Never joined)
28-
And many fields search for career on google which i never joined
Still continue........... 😞
Businesses i think 🤔
1-Engg 5-10 years solved previous year paper 📖 not started
2-Interior design fail
3-CCTV 🎥
4-FRUITS 🍇
5-DRY FRUITS 🍈
6-Solar panels (very interested)
7-Chinese van
8-Restaurant takeaway 🥡
9-Bakery 🧁 shop by Rohit suggestion
10-Water Business
11- kashmiri packed food (ready to eat )
12- Mens star saloon like women’s ( Makeup studio for mens )
Many more....... I’m seriously 😐 done with myself
BHAI IDHAR AA TERE SE KUCH BAAT KRNI HY 🙁
@@badb0y302 😁😁😆
What I needed to hear. Thanks.
I struggle with this as well, but since I started watching your videos I'm MUCH better about it.
Cool
I wonder what he's doing now at 24
Same, he is 27 now
Can someone please tell me HOW ?
On the one hand I WANT to focus on just my fitness for example and get BIG and eat right,
But then if I only do that it's like 1 hour workout and maybe another 1-2 hours preparing food,
So even with a full time job it leaves SO much time for doing other stuff, am I supposed to waste that extra time ?
Or should I keep doing what I do now which is Workout, Read a chapter in a book, take notes and apply knowledge that day or for multiple days,
Eat and prepare meal for later, then work on creating online course and STILL have about 1-2 hours to play a video game before work ?
I really don't know WHAT people can do focusing on just 1 thing at a time the whole day, feels like a waste for me
If that's many goals, then I'm fucked
Thank u I am from India love the way you talk...keep inspiring people...
Great advice really thank you. we are in the Middle of the year and I'm gonna Foucs more on one goal rather than many goals and not achieving any thing from it.
Thank you, John.
*Hey John, I do feel the same as James.
I'm actually very confused about picking up my career
my goals are like to become a musician and actor to pursue my career as RUclipsr
but I did mechanical engineering and also finished a course in java
during the period of java course, I don't have interest in java but now I'm confused.
so, this makes me depressed and I couldn't able to concentrate and do well in any of these. So my parents and relatives are judging me as a looser and they are telling me to do my dad's pharmacy business.*
Thanks for the video advice
Same problem...
I'm 15, from Germany.
Really have to focus on school to get my a-levels soon, but also want to make sport and learn programming.
Solved it with forgetting about sport for a long time for having more time with programming (tried a lot of HTML, CSS and Ruby of rails => website, but decided to try programming software with swift right now)
problem is, that I need sport...need smt to balance myself..!
Can't handle this 3 things...;(
Am into learning hardware and currently learning HTML and thinking of going into crypto trading how do you see it sir.
My buddy had already accomplished his goals by age 24, he's now 28 and retired for real, the down side is, his health is poor, he met his goals early, but he never dated, and his health isn't good.
How did his health deteriorate as an athlete?
So his goal was to keep his grandfather alive, which he was successful at for 15 years, this man had COPD, congestive heart failure, diabetes, mobility issues, poor eating habits, and it just got worse after his wife passed, so my buddy said my grandfather will not die, when doctors gave him 8 months to live, and so began his quest to learn and apply everything he needed to do to keep him alive, round the clock care, meal preparation, administering meds, finances, bathing, butt wiping, wound care, insulin management, he never left his side, he studied on line, and became a nurse, an electronics engineer, and a computer programmer, he also studied law and psychology, granted he is very smart, he never dated, and now his health suffers, primarily his back which he permanently injured while taking care of his grandfather, numbers don't lie, if he was making 10 dollars hourly 24 hours a day for 15 years, his accumulated income would've been 1,314,000 dollars before taxes, he is living on much less and is now disabled, does he deserve to be a millionaire, yes, did he himself pay the price, hell yes.
Why do you want to know
One learns something about the world and that means learning about oneself and that means being open to many possibilities. Unfortunately we need to persevere even if we do not succeed. I have had this experience with programming. By the way I focus mostly on C++ and C# as they are very similar but even so they have quite a large difference the way they are used.
Maybe one way is to have some three areas , possibly four areas that get some of the attention.. And then one area most likely gets the most attention possible. The reason being that we cannot totally just do one thing. We need to exercise, and need to have some ability to develop some social skills (that involves language but is not limited to) and also some technical skills .
Technical skills are mostly one type. Although they easily can fall into some categories like physical, (maybe martial arts and or yoga for example) , maybe academic(like some contact with maths and or science) , spiritual (that involves also some interaction with others and meditation for example) .. Still the most important thing that will make a progress is focus on one single aspect for a specific time ..
Then it is possibly the best to create "internal modules of skills and application".
That means you look at some specific task you can categorize and make it easily findable for your future reference and be able to do it at least right. Wow. At least right? I mean doing something right is not the same as doing it in a outstanding way.
That is possibly very advanced as most things done well are already excellent. There are many people who have done things fantastically well.
We can look at two aspects very easily .. Software development, like "perfect" libraries , that is very hard to make them better than already are and nearly impossible without spending lots of time. Reinventing the wheel that is. Also mastering something like jujitsu, hapkido, or chi na.. or maybe even wing chun. That is hard to do if you do not have time and right equipment ..
So you end up doing what you can and shifting others by bits for the future to do when you can.
Ideally you would focus on one primary goal and then have secondary goal with room for your health and family .. That you should connect with previous goals as much as you can because this way you can create synergy.
Odd moments for extra things but focus on primary goal without making you feel you are a loser because you did not do something ..
You need to have that winning mindset. This way even if you lose you will win at the end.
We learn constantly just some people are more ahead for some reason.
Nice video John.
Thanks.
just to add, think about your Time line. Like you should try football now that you have the youth and energy required, if you dothis at 40 I don't think you really have a chance. But you can be a programmer at 40. What im saying is, do now what you can't do later. This should help you out with some clarity.
Great vid!!! needed this. I'm spreading myself too thin too. 1 step at a time!
+Kevin Chinn Awesome!
Don't do IT unless you are bad at football. It sucks. Over the time you loose interest. I am learning piano and I love it.
Great video John. I fully second what you said. Just one caveat. If he already speaks a germanic occidental language like English, Dutch or Afrikaans then learning German to a pragmatic level does not consume much time. For everyone else it is gonna be anything from tough to extreme.
Don’t put all eggs into one basket.
Wish i woujdve saw this in 2016 and even when i was 19
Around one year back I decided I’m gonna be a data scientist so I applied for masters and was supposed to go to abroad for masters but couldn’t go due to corona , now I’m not getting job in that field cuz I’m self taught now trying since 3 months I couldn’t get a job so everyone is like get a job in civil engineering for that I have to study something and it’s driving me mad
Hey John. I'm curious how you spend your entire day and fit in these videos with your schedule?
I am curious as well.
Thanku very much... I got a same kind of problem nd wn i ws searching 4 solution.. thank god... I saw this video...
I think it'll surely help...
I wanted to become a doctor. .but I am interested in physics too.... when someone ask me what do you wanted to be I said doctor but in mind. ..I say what about physics what about the stars what about cosmology. ......I love both profession.................................................................I really want clear goal. ..............
You r not alone bro 🖐🏻
But focusing on just one thing is boring
Did James achieve all his goals??
my problem exactly the moment I am free I will watch it :D
What about people with full time jobs
Thanks for the advice! But wouldn't you say that for some time one should try out as many things as possible, because who knows whether this one thing you think you want to do will actually be right for you? This is what I'm struggling with atm, I want to keep my options open so that I can experience all kinds of things before choosing my main goal. Thoughts on that?
Yes but that doesn't seem the place where this James is at. He already has it veery clear.
I need an honest advice also. Can anyone help.
I attended to write an Compiler but which is the best way writing it by hand or use yacc ? So i have done the automatic way and also tried the handwriting what is an better parsing strategy LL(1) or LARL(1) ?
Have you seen ANTLR?
We people are multipotentialite
For those who don't like reading books you can buy Anthony Robbins CDs on iTunes ☺️ awesome mentor right there, thanks for mentioning him
Yep. Great point.
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@ 2 May 2024
# 1:37 AM
i watched 1 video about this kind of similar question and you both answer the same thing in different words.
I have the same thing? I have been searching for this question many times. Finally, the best answer is that we have to pick the most important goal up and keep focusing on it till we make it, then we move to the next goal.
@@akramalshuhary2640 but some goals, especially health goals require to be done all the time
@@zYuL05 I believe that our habits which we grew up with have played a significant role in terms of our concentration in achieving our goals. For those who were trained since the childhood to Focus on Thier abjectives are able to be more organised than those who were undirected incorrectly.
@@akramalshuhary2640 I agree
what about school in software development different subjects (different programming languages)? Not good idea to schedule studying ? like all different practical assignments . Thanks .
Jorge Saraiva
Hi John, can you change you intro?
One thing!
Hey dude! Your advise sucks to this dude except “Focus one thing at a time” - He is only 19, don’t you think he’s not even sure which of those goals are going to be his main professional career? I think he should not stop doing programing and he should even try more things in order to find his actual taste towards his professional career. As Steve Jobs says “ If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.
Yeah you don’t know jack.
Big problem
I got this @16
6:45. :)
LOL
4:10
Did you ever have any plastic surgery? Your appearance has changed so much