Some people think bisexuals are like Schrodinger's cat: both straight AND gay at once, UNTIL in a relationship, when the quantum state collapses into either straight or gay. I may be studying physics at university, but that does not make my sexuality subject to quantum states lol.
I think it's predicated on this really weird and pervasive myth that when you're in a relationship, you lose the ability to be attracted to any other human being. Like.. that ain't it, chief
Imagine if we applied this to hands “You say you’re ambidextrous, but you write with your left hand so you’re left handed!” All the dexterity in my right hand: *adios*
Exactly. When I try something that is one handed, I have to try it both ways to see what is most natural. Like bowling, I waste my first balls trying to remember what was the best hand, because I don't do it often enough.
You can write with both hand? I do not see you must prove to I- a stranger. You are writing with left hand why also not right? Writing with right? Change of heart hmmmm. Must be right handed then.
You're ambidextrous? That's awesome! I really wish I could be! My dominant hand is my left hand, but I play sports and throw things with my right hand. The only thing I can do equally well with both hands is ping pong and I trained myself to do that
People who say "more teenagers and young people claim to be bisexual then ever before" maybe, just maybe, there is the same amount but more people feel comfortable coming out and being in a homosexual relationship, so they don't pretend to be straight and only gave heterosexual relationships
Exactly. I was born in 1961. I knew from age 11 that I was bisexual, but was I going to come out while living in a small town with a highly religious, homophobic mother? Not bloody likely.
Also if there genuinely are more bisexual people than before, why is that an issue? If there were more people being born with green eyes, or more young people liking anime, people wouldn’t say “this can’t possibly be true because it wasn’t before”.
“Why are so many young people calling themselves bisexual” Because nowadays young people know it’s a thing. Instead of just awkwardly trying to pretend they don’t have crushes on their friends. Which is what I did because I knew lesbian was a thing but I definitely liked guys so I thought there was something wrong with me.
Same here! I didn't know bisexuality was a thing and I was sure that I liked boys so I just pretended to not have an attraction to girls and be straight 😂 (because that was the """preferable"""" option in my homophobic environment)
One of my bestfriend once told me "but you've been with your boyfriend for so long and you never cheated on him, so you're not a REAL bisexual" and i felt ready to push her out a window
Lol why do I feel that on a spiritual level even tho that's never happened to me? Mostly cuz I've never dated and I have a bestie that's my biggest supporter and I'm lesbian 🙃🙃🙃
"I'm a werewolf" "So when you're in human form you're a human?" "No I'm still a werewolf" "But when you're in wolf form you're a wolf?" "No I'm still a werewolf"
Because it's thought that a large amount of people are bi but previous generations were even more heteronormativity than ours so they didn't realize they were bi
I think they're making the, "back in my day, we didn't have all this LGBT mumbo jumbo" dumbass argument. Now, more people are able to not only able to find but express themselves too! Back in the day, probably just had to shut all non-straight feelings down. Edit: What cheshire said
they act as if there haven't always been people who are bi/like multiple genders/have dated different genders/etc. like for example some of my idols like Janis Joplin dated both men and women and so did Joan Baez and both of them were most famous in the 60s. ppl like this have always been around and the label of bisexual has also been around for a long time although maybe less people labeled themselves as such.
@@rageagainstthemicrowave1313 yes and not to mention literally everyone in Rome or whichever one of those places were what we call now pansexual. since they cared more about personality. they didn't give a shit about gender
Imagine people did this with everything. Me: So, I like pancakes and I like pasta. People: Okay cool. Me: *eats pancakes* People: So you never liked pasta then.
My analogy for the preference problem Me: "I love both star wars and star trek but I prefer star wars by a lot" A-hole: "oh so I guess you hate star trek and just don't want to tell people because you're afraid"
Me: "I dated a girl-" Them: "Oh. Lesbian." Me: I've also dated a boy too-" Them: "Wait you're straight, I thought you were gay?" Me: ... "I'm gonna give them a minute." Them: :| Me: BRUH I'M BI Them: :o
@@oliviawolcott8351 enbies: I'm not a girl Cishets: hey bro Enbies: I'm also not a boy Cishets: wait you're a girl? I thought you weren't a girl Enbies: stop perceiving me This post was made by a binary trans girl
I'm a straight woman dating a bi man. His bisexuality is one of the many things I love about him! It means we get to fawn over cute guys together. I wouldn't change that for the world.
I'm a bi woman dating a straight man, and at the beginning of our relationship I would point out cute women, and he got so confused and was worried it was some sort of trap. It wasn't, they were just cute. But now we get to enjoy them together. That's awesome that you and your partner get to share that 🙂
I remember I was having a conversation with my dad about sexualities, and he expressed in passing some skepticism about bisexuality. I immediately looked him in the eyes and asked, "So you genuinely believe that anyone who claims they're bi is either an attention-seeking straight or a gay in denail?" And he was like, "Okay, fair, that can't be right, I guess bisexuality is real."
There's nothing wrong with people thinking they are bisexual and later realising they're not, but don't call it phase please. Also you're not going questioning people who say they're straight stop doing it to lgbt+ people.
@@user-hy5jy7sf9j ad an asexual myself thats perfectly fine of you, sometimes you try labels and get it wrong and that doesn't invalidate the identities it just means your one step closer to actually figuring it out
"Bisexuals don't exist" Jean's uncuff Attracted to one gender Loses ability to make awkward hand gestures Stoppes listening to sweater weather Sits properly in chair Iced coffee tuns back into beans and milk
It's really stupid. Imagine that: I like drawing and baking, and right now I'm drawing something. Someone comes to me and saying: "so, drawing is your hobby." I answer: "yes, but I also like cooking." And he's saying: "no, It's impossible, you can't have two hobbies. What is your real hobby?"
As a bisexual person in a “straight passing relationship”, I have received a lot of criticism from the LGBTQ+ community discrediting my identity as bisexual. I have felt very scared to be part of a community that usually ostracizes me and questions my authenticity in regards to my sexuality and that is very emotionally draining to me. I wish that more open conversations could be had in regards to bisexual erasure in our community.
I feel for you. Sometimes it feels like the LGBTQ+ community can be more outwardly biphobic than anybody. Please don’t be afraid to take up space in a community that you belong to- your relationship doesn’t invalidate your identity. Hopefully one day it won’t be this hard x
Im pan and I've experienced the same thing, I was made feel like because Im dating my boyfriend Im not actually part of the community cause Im not "gay" enough.
Bi people don't have "straight passing privelege." saying that they do perpetuates the idea that they automatically become straight/gay once in a monogomous relationship with someone. Heck, if you're bi but have only ever dated people of the opposite sex you're still bi and still apart of the lgbtq+ community.
I’m pan and used to use bi, I get it. But I’m here to tell you that lgBtq spaces are for you as well. I’m sorry people have made you feel unwelcome and “not gay enough.”
I'm a bi girl and I deadass worry about not alternating who I date enough. I've been in 4 relationships ever. My first one was with a woman and my last three have been men and now I'm talking to another bloke but part of the reason I'm not going for it yet is because people will further question how much of a 'phase' it was and despite the fact I still think "damnnnnn" everytime a hot girl expresses herself confidently (honestly the most attractive thing ever) my own brain will send me into an identity crisis too.
I hate how when someone identifies as bi they’re just seen as “deciding” or “doing it for attention” like if it WAS for attention surely they’d pick something else that doesn’t result in potential harassment and bullying.
@@bluecannibaleyes ah, makes sense. But I don’t think any bi people are seeking attention, they’re all just attracted to more than 1 gender, and people can’t mind their business so they make it seem like bi people are attention seeking or greedy.
@@sexhaver6953 Well, it’s mainly because bi people feel the need to constantly complain about ‘bi erasure’ and feel the need to constantly tell everyone that they are ‘bi’. I can think of no other reason for going out of your way to remind everyone that you’re ‘still bisexual’ while in a committed monogamous relationship with one gender other than attention-seeking or to express your desire to cheat on your partner. Neither are a good look.
@@Ultimate_Dadzawa don't worry, it's fine. Omnisexual means being attracted to all genders but it takes a role when chosing your partner unlike pan. Yeah, bisexual and omnisexual overlap, and the label it's just a prefernce. You can like all genders and still identify ass bi. They overlap because when the bisexual manifesto was made the official defination of bi, there were already pan and omni, but they were less known. Fell free to ask any other questions❤️
Being trans and ace is real fun too. It's either "ace isn't real" or "ace isn't lgbt because you don't face discrimination" Even though telling ace people that they aren't lgbt is..... *ahem*.... d i s c r i m i n a t o r y
@@neuroatypicalkirby2 I can relate lol, I'm not trans but I'm Demisexual and when people aren't saying that it isn't a real thing or part of the lgbtq community they don't know what it is. You are valid 🖤💜🤍
That's soooo stupid, if someone is gonna cheat on you their orientation doesn't matter. Like the whole thing about the law only deterring people that wouldn't break it in the first place, an agreement of exclusivity would only mean something if the person wants exclusivity in the first place.
@@RITCH232 ikr... it goes with the whole "bisexuals are confused" thing, so they supposedly can't be sure to be in a relationship without cheating. And of course with the fact that if a bi person is attracted to both males and females (and all genders in between), they're attracted to 2x more people and therefore they're 2x more likely to cheat. I fucking hate all of this, I mean, you're either a cheating person or not.
Sadly, the first person I heard this from was a lesbian friend of mine who outright said she didn't trust bisexuals and called them "too fickle", citing the possibility that she'd be involved with a woman and then get dumped in favour of some bloke. Frankly, I couldn't see how this was supposed to be in some way "worse" than her dating a lesbian woman and being dumped for another woman or me dating a heterosexual woman and being dumped for another man. I've dated more than one bisexual woman and the reasons the relationships didn't last had nothing to do with infidelity on anyone's part. Relationships sometimes (often?) end.
"If u go with someone with the same sex as yours you are gay, if you go with the opposite sex you are straight." Me in a poly relationship with a boy and a girl: "oh well guess I'm still Bi"
Congratulations! You are the dreaded "Greedy Bisexual" who can't possibly be sated by one gender and therefore can't be trusted in a monogamous relationship! At least your sexual orientation is valid! For the entire duration of your current relationship! Lucky you!
@@gh0st_b0yfriend Can't tell whether you're kidding. It's obviously a difference, whether she is dating these people at once with them knowing that they're not the only one or with them not knowing! If they know about it and don't care, what's the issue? Even straight or gay people can be polyamorous. So I really don't see your point unless you were joking.
@@solar0wind Oh 100% joking. The idea that bisexuality is inherently greedy and we're all hedonists who can't be sated by one gender or trusted in monogamous relationships is right up there with "she's only doing it for attention," "it's probably just a phase," and "why doesn't he just admit he's gay," for horrible ignorant things you hear people say all the time when they don't know there's a bi person in the room
My kid recently came out as trans. I've been watching your videos to learn more about what their going thru. Thank you for all of the information and for your perspective. She saw I had been watching your videos and I think she was pleasantly surprised.
Wish my parents would do more like that... Instead when I came out to them my mom was like "You're probably just confused between what admiration and attraction are" and then like "As long as you don't actually get in a relationship with a woman" after I explained to her that I do indeed know the differences between my own feelings. She still loves me and I know she won't abandon me as her daughter but like... I still wish she made an effort to understand instead of complaining about other lgbt things like people being trans while in the car or at the dinner table. I had told her before about being ace (I'm demi-ace) as well and she just responded with "You'll grow out of it". Like... that's not how that works... She's a psych nurse even, and it took years for her to actually understand how she was hurting me as someone neurally divergent. This isn't all to say she's bad all around, no. She's learned a lot when it comes to my mental health and I'm proud of her for that. I love my mom. I just wish she'd do the same when it comes to understanding my sexuality and not... being phobic about it. I can't be open about many things with who I am to the people I share the same living space with and it hurts. And now I'm getting carried away here. I need to stop turning what was supposed to be a comment into a personal rambling in places like the replies to a comment on RUclips.
My mom came out to me as bi in her late 50s, having been married to my dad for over 40 years. That relationship did not invalidate the fact she was bisexual. And she was my greatest ally and supporter (I had come out many years earlier). I miss her every day.
I remember after coming out as lgbt and hearing everyone is a little gay and hearing my friend say their parents were bi I asked my parents if they ever had a relationship with the same sex or were attracted to the same sex but nope, they are very straight. I was disappointed. My parents are just really boring, I think they have sex in the missionary position and they don’t have any sex toys. They’re boring but they’re very open to other people not being boring, just because you’re boring doesn’t mean you got to be closed minded.
"Bisexuality doesn't exist" Me: *phases out of existence* All you other bi folks are valid. You're still bi if you're in a straight relationship. You're bi if you're in a gay relationship. You're bi if you're dating a man, you're bi if you're dating a woman, you're bi if you're dating someone who's nb. Love from you're local (mostly) closeted biromantic asexual.
@@bibule i don't think there's much of a difference, probably only the fact that bi people tend to have preferences, like i for example can get attracted to any gender, but mostly prefer men.
Domi's drawings that’s actually omnisexual. Omnisexual is liking all genders with a preference. Bi is liking two or more genders with no preference (ie: women and men but not nb) would be bi but you can be bi and like nb. Pan is liking everyone with no preference, we pay attention to personality more. Of course, sexuality is fluid so take it with a pinch of salt but those are the “definitions”
so one of my bffs is bisexual, but for some time, she was questioning whether she was lesbian or bisexual because ppl were telling her she isn't ACTUALLY appart of the community since she apparently is "partially" straight. ppl were making her think that her sexuality is not valid. and another thing that she told me once was, "what if i'm actually straight? and i am just lying to myself?" it literally broke my heart. bisexuals go through so much shit so moral of the story believe bisexuals when they say they are bisexual and go on with your day.
I'm very comfortable with being bisexual the label fit what I feel but I still haven't had a serious relationship with either gender so that "what if I'm gay/what if I'm straight" thing swings back and forth like every day 😅😅
the "what if I'm lying to myself" and "what if I'm faking it" hits so hard. So many bisexuals deal with that it's like we all have some mild form of imposter syndrome or something
That's suprer relatable. The constant "what ifs" of bisexuality. Especially when you have time never been in a relationship with anyone. In my case, I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum so figuring out my sexuality is a double trouble.
Feel that. I was in a relationship with a guy once (at the time I thought I was a girl but turns out I'm nonbinary) and people from inside of the community told me that I wasn't really pan, that I had "chosen" to be straight so I wasn't part of the community anymore
Imagine if thanos snapped every LGBT person into another dimension. Like they're not harmed, they just end up in their own world. Now imagine a large amount of people who didn't know they were lgbt yet or didn't come out. How long do you think it would take for everyone to discover what happened? How do you think all those closeted people would react?
@It is what it Is. Huh? That's like saying that a person will eat so much more than they want to even if they're not hungry just because there is more food available?
@It is what it Is. That doesn't make any sense though. If someone you are dating might cheat, they'll do so regardless of their sexual orientation. And if you're insecure about being cheated by your partner, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship with them because you cannot trust them. That is some weird conditional probability that you have used which doesn't even stand ground mathematically.
Oh god one time she fake dated someone else because she wasn't attracted to him but didn't wanna say no because he was nagging. She was texting me the whole time like LOGAN WANTS TO BE MY BOYFRIEND AND BE MY PARTNER TO THE PANTS *PANTS NO I MEAN PANTS PANTOMIME SO SHOULD I LIKE FAKE DATE HIM ORR? BC I DON'T WANNA SAY YES BUT I DON'T WANNA SAY NO AND ALSO DON'T WANNA CHEAT ON U on the way back from the 'pants' on the coach, logan said they were dating but nobody believed it, so he asked me (because he thinks we're really close friends. we haven't come out to the school yet) if it was true. For a second I forgot she was fake dating and said she was single. (She was on a different coach so she couldn't answer herself) I remembered and tried to cover for myself saying she hasn't updated me but they were arguing about whether he was lying or not so they couldn't hear me Sorry not sorry Logan
True story coming. One time I was chatting with someone and the topic of sexualities came up. They said that only girls can be bi. I responded with a confused look and just pointed at myself and said “Errr, hello. Allow me to introduce myself.”. They didn’t get what I was talking about and asked what I meant so I clarified that I am indeed a (very) bisexual male. They then had THE AUDACITY to say “No, you’re not. Men can only be gay or straight. That’s just how it works.”. At this point im just done with the conversation so finish it with “Well my thoughts about both Richard Madden and Emilia Clarke would firmly disagree with you on that.” and walk off. I don’t understand why some people feel the need to tell people how they feel about things, especially such personal things as sexuality and gender. Makes no sense
Exactly, I am dating A bi men and I got comments Like “I’M not not homophobic but Like you know you are dating A gay men Who is in the closet Right?” “Are you afraid he’s gonna figure out that he is actually gay?” Like it’s so stupid, I always Just face Palm and walk off most of the time.
@@HeidiSholl we are known to be found in forests, on snowy mountain tops or in Scottish lochs. It's even said that ships that go missing in the Bermuda triangle run aground on an island populated exclusively by bi demisexuals.
Fun Fact: I went to school before I saw this video We we’re doing this project called Adopt A Element I went to the periodic table and I saw Bismuth and it’s symbol is Bi and I found that when exposed to oxygen and light it’s colors turns to rainbow Bi is very real backed by Elements
I am a cis female who has only had relationships with cis males. However, I am starting to think I am a bisexual based on how celebrity types make me feel. However, since I am married to a man that I love deeply, I will not be exploring any further. I hope the younger generations hear these terms and understand that they exist and can truly find themselves.
i mean you can "explore" lol ;'-; just, you know, don't cheat on anyone, you can maybe explore more with that celebrity crushes you have, I would personally feel bad not knowing my sexuality lol :'CI ((maybe just me though lol xD), you know you don't have to date a girl to know you're bi, but also at the end of the day you do you and if you don't feel comfortable with exploring that's okay too :'), and you know, i was just saying, so anyway, after all - good luck with figuring it out! (if you want to do that of course, I'm just saying it's ok even when you're in a relashionship))
I have a boyfriend now and mostly had crushes on boys growing up (which I blame on my dad being emotionally non-existent from my life for the most part but that's a whole other story) but I had a crush on two girls (not at once ofc lol) and I definitely felt more-than-friendly attraction to a girl I met on a beach once, in 2017, but back than I had lots of internal homophobia and repressed the feelings. so yeah, eventually I got a crush on an accepting person who's pan, and they're now my best friend. I got over them eventually and met my now bf. he's also very accepting. through having a crush on my bff, I learned to accept myself the way I was. the girl I liked before them was the "rude awakening", I'd say lol. (for context, this was back when my enby best friend still identified as a girl, or at least before they came out to me.) my point is, even though I've never dated a girl, I'm still bisexual and I'm attracted to all genders.
People trying to say that bisexuality is fake an doesn't exist makes me feel like I'm invalid af. :(( Edit: Thank you so much for you kind comments, they made me feel so loved and appreciated. you're all loved, thank you 💕
Can’t we all just be valid 🥺 I believe that everyone is valid no matter who the heck they are, and that if people learned to shut their mouths and not have an opinion on other people’s lives that aren’t affecting anyone else, then the world would be a much better place haha! Just remember: the only person that can take away how valid you are is you. As long as you believe you’re valid, you are 😌 have a wonderful day my dudes
Im a bi woman who is in a long term relationship with a bi man. When we wear rainbows or I mention we are LGBT or not straight everyone gets really mad and calls us imposters... it hurts
im a girl and my boyfriend and me are both bi. told my friend that at lunch the other day and he said "in a relationship like that, someone has to be cheating"
Me: “I’m bi.” Biphobes: “No.” Me: “Yes I am...?” Biphobes: “No you’re not.” Me: “Guys are hot. Girls are hot. I also identify as bisexual. How am I bi?” Biphobes: “It doesn’t exist.” Me: *(Visible confusion)*
“Bi doesn’t exist” My bisexual friends: *phases out of existence* My bilingual teacher: *jumps out of the window* My bipolar family history: *goes back to Narnia* My biodegradable bag: *bed bed night night*
Someone literally told me this (I’m pan) “bisexual is only a placeholder until you find someone to date” I had no idea how to respond to them I just kinda said think what you want I’m attracted to both not one gender at a time
So basically bisexuality is like the Boggarts in Harry potter, no one knows our true bisexual form, as soon as someone sees us we magically turn gay or straight depending on who we're dating
Jamie, a lovely sweet patient bisexual man: “I’m not mad at any of these people” Me, an angry impatient bisexual person: I am But genuinely, the amount of patience you have for comments and people like this as astounding. Love you and your videos 💖
I can kinda understand the “I wish guys could just be honest and say they’re gay, but we gotta do the bisexual in between step first.” As I have a friend that came out as bisexual only to come out as gay 2 weeks later. I would change the statement though to “I wish gay people could feel secure enough to be honest and say they’re gay, instead of coming out as bisexual first.”
As I do feel that someone that is gay coming out as bisexual first when they know what they are does nothing but make others think that bisexuality doesn’t exist, and it’s just someone being to scared to come out as gay. Which for the most part isn’t the case
hey everyone, i just wanted to say that i really appreciate jaime talking about this with this bi erasure. this is such a massive problem for me as i’ve identified as bisexual since 12 (now 17) but due to me never having a girlfriend i felt scared that i’m not big enough and even feel like i was being a fraud and was just straight . Like i am definitely attracted to all genders but due to never having the experience i start to have my ✨internalised biphobia✨ just wanna say much love to jamie and all you reading as well have a lovely day :)))
You’re so young! I too (but later in life) went through this journey of feeling like an imposter because I never had same sex relationships. Always remember that everyone has a sexuality, regardless of the way they decide to express it.
I have identified as bi for as long as I can remember (24 now) and also never had a same-sex relationship. We are still valid! Don't let the world make you believe you're not!
38 and never had a girlfriend :). Now in a friendship group with mainly lesbians (some of which tried out some biphobia with me- we got over that when they realised it wasn't going to fly)- and was last seen waving my goddamn huge bi flag at pride last year. Got totally fed up of people trying to erase me which led to me closeting myself.
I'm turning 49 this month and just realized that I'm bi a few days ago. Because I've only dated men, and was married to one. And hope to one day marry another man. Whatever we feel, however we live, we are valid!
I often feel a bit alone and isolated when I personally face bi erasure. It just feels so good to be actively reminded that I’m not the only constantly annoyed pigeon 😅
Speaking of things that don't exist. I just came out to my parents as asexual. Rollercoaster that has lasted for months is finally over. I did it quite badly but I think it worked out alright. Everything else was almost perfect considering the conditions, but I left a lot of room for misunderstanding. Luckily no misunderstandings happened. They accepted me for who I am. Couple years ago I had no clue how hard and complicated coming out can be. I wish all the strength for people still waiting for a chance, right moment, or courage to do it. Do it, it's worth doing if it's safe.
@bolt2395 ikr? Just because they aren't geting biological grandchildren from their child doesnt mean they can be a jerk. I think most peiple just don't think aces exist and we either "haven't found _the one_ yet" are "looking for attention" or just innocent/confused.
Welcome! Cake and garlic bread for all. My parents didn't care. They probably guessed before I did. Three of my friends are in the asexual family. So yeah your not alone. If you want some more wholesomeness one topic here one RUclips is great. He is like the proud dad of everyone. Its so sweet.
"Hey, we don't do labels here, so just be you." "Okay! So I'm bisexual-" "No you're not." ".....But-" "No. Ugh, you can't like two genders at once that's impossible."
@UltimateCheetah3000 I say I don't use labels because I don't care about the other person's sexuality but if they are a decent human being. And I use labels but sexuality wouldn't be the first thing I think/say about someone.
I’m curious about dating bisexual people because they’re attracted to more than one gender so wouldn’t that affect them later on down in a relationship? Like your married to a man, and you’re bi but don’t you ever want to be with a woman again or sleep with a woman? Or do you just suppress those feelings?
Well, as a bi person also married to a man here's the easiest way to explain it. If you get married to a man, and you are gay, what will happen later on down the road when you find someone attractive? Will you resist the urge to cheat? The question you are asking is literally the exact same as asking and married person how they plan to control themselves when they see someone who is attractive. Bisexuality doesn't have anything to do with having a weaker sense of loyalty to one's partner. It only has to do with the number of genders we happen to find attractive people in. If I was straight, I wouldn't suddenly not find other men attractive just because I got married. Cheating is a personal decision people make, it is not a consequence of any sexuality.
@@Bekins88 I’m not saying bisexuality means you are less loyal to your partner I don’t believe that at all. My issue is yeah straight people can finds people they’re aren’t dating attractive but the difference is “bits” of the person. -A straight man married to a woman who finds another woman attractive is still attracted to a person with the same genitalia (assuming everyone is vis) -A bi man married to a woman who then finds another man attractive is attracted to an individual with different genitalia (assuming cis) *Thats the difference, you are married to a male but haven’t you had the sexual desire since your marriage to sleep with a woman who has a vagina and breasts? How would you cope with that?
@@tripledigit4835 I think I've been a bit aloof unintentionally. Are you asking if I was struggling with the fact that I couldn't sleep with a woman I was attracted to, and it became a problem in my marriage, how would I deal with that situation? Again,sorry for not getting what you were saying.
“Bisexuality doesn’t exist” Me: well guess I’m stuck as lesbian then. Just to clear any confusion: I’m a lesbian but I’m thinking about if I’m bisexual. Anyway thanks for reading my comment, have a nice day ❤️
Fun fact: when a straight person enters into a relationship, they stop being straight and are monogamous instead. They are then unable to feel attraction to any other people. If they still do it means the relationship was just a stepping stone to being poly.
Some of these people want bisexuals to be byesexuals, and that’s so rude.
one of my friends call ace bi people byesexuals, random fact, no hate and if any ace bi's dont like it im sorry(jinx theythem)
@@corvid4562 I like it (not sure if I'm panromantic or biromantic)
(Jori or Carbon, he/they)
@@corvid4562 woah you’re me
ngl, when I meet some of those people I want to be byesexual too, sometimes. just nope out of the conversation.
@@eviest3vie nah its my deadname bc this acc is managed by my mom
people: bisexuality doesn’t exist
me: *casually phases out of existence*
Yes me too
me: snaps my fingers and watches the homophobic cishets disappear
change da world
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this is stolen lol
Some people think bisexuals are like Schrodinger's cat: both straight AND gay at once, UNTIL in a relationship, when the quantum state collapses into either straight or gay. I may be studying physics at university, but that does not make my sexuality subject to quantum states lol.
I think it's predicated on this really weird and pervasive myth that when you're in a relationship, you lose the ability to be attracted to any other human being. Like.. that ain't it, chief
I'm stealing that comparison
laughed so much at this
This is why I love physicists
Gonna steal this to impress my colleagues :D
Can I use this?
Imagine if we applied this to hands
“You say you’re ambidextrous, but you write with your left hand so you’re left handed!”
All the dexterity in my right hand: *adios*
Exactly. When I try something that is one handed, I have to try it both ways to see what is most natural. Like bowling, I waste my first balls trying to remember what was the best hand, because I don't do it often enough.
You can write with both hand? I do not see you must prove to I- a stranger. You are writing with left hand why also not right? Writing with right? Change of heart hmmmm. Must be right handed then.
You're ambidextrous? That's awesome! I really wish I could be! My dominant hand is my left hand, but I play sports and throw things with my right hand. The only thing I can do equally well with both hands is ping pong and I trained myself to do that
*me who uses my left hand to play the ukulele:*
@@RowanArk well I'm currently training myself to be ambidextrous, so I can be everything at once; bisexual, ambivert, ambidextrous.
"Asexual doesn't exist" - my partner disappears
"Bisexual doesn't exist" - I disappear and meet him on the other side.
rip
What a moving love story 😭
What a bittersweet tale of two souls
See you there! As an ace, I can confirm that the void is a lovely place!
Let's have a party on the other side! 💐🥂🎉
I guess there are people who think bi is Schrödinger's sexuality
i’m stealing that lol
*joke about single pansexual people existing in a state of superposition*
@@benny_lemon5123
Me, an autosexual:
S u p e r t a s k
@@theblandcharlie822 hey pardon me, but I’ve never heard of autosexuals, could you explain to me? Not tryna be mean I’m so sorry!
@@soumiu.8264
Ah, so basically, I'm attracted to myself
I am ace and bi, so I am erased twice which cancels itself out, thus allowing me to still exist.
hello from another biromantic ace 🙂👋
I will be stealing this thanks
And polysexuals. Everyone ignores the polysexuals T-T
Wait what's ace?
@@camiladaya5698 asexual, it's someone that doesn't experience any sexual attraction but may or may not experience romantic attraction
People who say "more teenagers and young people claim to be bisexual then ever before" maybe, just maybe, there is the same amount but more people feel comfortable coming out and being in a homosexual relationship, so they don't pretend to be straight and only gave heterosexual relationships
Exactly. I was born in 1961. I knew from age 11 that I was bisexual, but was I going to come out while living in a small town with a highly religious, homophobic mother? Not bloody likely.
This.
Also if there genuinely are more bisexual people than before, why is that an issue? If there were more people being born with green eyes, or more young people liking anime, people wouldn’t say “this can’t possibly be true because it wasn’t before”.
@@amazon4662 there are more PEOPLE then before anyways
For sure. Like I bought a Prius, and now Prius is literally every second car I notice.
I'm a bisexual woman dating a man. That doesn't make me straight. I'm STILL BI
i’m a bi trans man dating an enby and i’m still bi because bi is 2 or more :)
Heck yeah very valid
YAS QUEEN
I see that you are still valid~
PERIODT
Famous person: "I'm bisexual, I'm attracted to all genders."
Too many people: "Are they gay? Are they straight? We'll never know"
Whenever a person I follow/ sub to comes out, if their bi I try to guess the gender of the person they date next lmao
David bowie sighing in his grave
@@noellemarie1450 David Bowie is an icon
@Bruh I did not mean to imply that. Making the edit now
@Bruh exacrly
“Why are so many young people calling themselves bisexual”
Because nowadays young people know it’s a thing. Instead of just awkwardly trying to pretend they don’t have crushes on their friends. Which is what I did because I knew lesbian was a thing but I definitely liked guys so I thought there was something wrong with me.
You're just fine as you are! ❤️
this, holy shit
Yes Sophie, me too!
Exact same here!
Same here! I didn't know bisexuality was a thing and I was sure that I liked boys so I just pretended to not have an attraction to girls and be straight 😂 (because that was the """preferable"""" option in my homophobic environment)
One of my bestfriend once told me "but you've been with your boyfriend for so long and you never cheated on him, so you're not a REAL bisexual" and i felt ready to push her out a window
girl- that friend needs to learn how bisexuality works
do it
Lol why do I feel that on a spiritual level even tho that's never happened to me?
Mostly cuz I've never dated and I have a bestie that's my biggest supporter and I'm lesbian 🙃🙃🙃
Wow, that's messed up. Bisexuality isnt cheating
But did you push her out of a window though? Still waiting on an update.
"I'm a werewolf"
"So when you're in human form you're a human?"
"No I'm still a werewolf"
"But when you're in wolf form you're a wolf?"
"No I'm still a werewolf"
Perfect analogy!🙌
Bro, I thought you were a panda! O.o xD
@@yeon_kimin_tongue_technolo9993 I'm a were panda!
@@supimpanda2312 Would that logic also work for biracial people? Obama isn't seen as biracial, just black.
@@paitynnicolosi8907 I'm mean sure but I'm not really to be the judge of that as I'm not biracial
“Bisexuality doesn’t exist”
Bi People: *Mr Stark, I don’t feel so good.*
NicknameThe1st this! this comment wins
*fades into nothingness*
*turns to dust and blows with the wind*
Byeee
Too soon
“Bisexuality doesn’t exist”
*slowly turns down Sweater Weather*
*uncuffs jeans and stops doing finger guns*
wait hold on ive heard this song so many times its bi?? yayyaaya (ig ill have to listen more closely lmao)
@@lillyabelson3992 I think the song itself isn’t inherently bi, the bisexuals just claimed it
@@lillyabelson3992 I think the bisexuals claimed it because the song doesnt specify a gender, but im pan so im claiming as my pan pride song 😂
@@Lacxin everybody talks is a good song to vibe to
My friend has a bi dad, and his mum thought she had "turned him straight". Like, no sis, that's not how it works
Just cause he's with her doesn't mean he won't find guys attractive.
My husband and I are both bi. Marking each other didn't suddenly change us to straight either lol
*marrying
@@Bekins88 😆 My husband and me are bi too 😆
“Why do so many young people say they’re bisexual?”
Me a young person: because I like more than one gender 👁👄👁
Because it's thought that a large amount of people are bi but previous generations were even more heteronormativity than ours so they didn't realize they were bi
I think they're making the, "back in my day, we didn't have all this LGBT mumbo jumbo" dumbass argument. Now, more people are able to not only able to find but express themselves too! Back in the day, probably just had to shut all non-straight feelings down.
Edit: What cheshire said
they act as if there haven't always been people who are bi/like multiple genders/have dated different genders/etc. like for example some of my idols like Janis Joplin dated both men and women and so did Joan Baez and both of them were most famous in the 60s. ppl like this have always been around and the label of bisexual has also been around for a long time although maybe less people labeled themselves as such.
@@tei4724 exactly. even though we have always existed.
@@rageagainstthemicrowave1313 yes and not to mention literally everyone in Rome or whichever one of those places were what we call now pansexual. since they cared more about personality. they didn't give a shit about gender
As an asexual, I thought everyone knew LGBTIA stood for Lesbian Gay Bacon Tomato Italian seasonings Avocado. Nothing else makes any sense.
✨food ✨
(´﹃｀)
LGBTQIA+ as you know it:
Lasagna
Granola
Bubblegum
Tofu
Quiche
Ice Cream
Apple Pie
+ and more fun foods ✨
Dammit, I'm hungry now. Can I get that on wheat?
nah it's Lost Gray Bacon and Tomato with Italian Avacado
LGBTQIA: Lettuce, Guacamole, Bacon, Turkey, Quinua, Italian dressing, Avocado (yes you have avocados AND guac!) Sandwich
@@reneep4269 don’t put avos or gauc or quinua you act like this would be edible when it’d actually be disrespect
Ah yes, the three sexual orientarions: straight, gay and bee
Edit: I know there are more, it was just a joke
It's pronounced Bees? Like the card from cah
"bee" is how it's pronounced in Russian :D
the word is "би"
@@larsswig912, оп, наши люди :D
i know your making a joke but uh asexuality is still a sexual orientation.
@@SaviourInDistress i mean, i didn't say lesbian either. But yeah i see your point, asexuals are totally valid! :)
Omnivore:
*eats meat* - "Oh, so they are a carnivore!"
*eats vegetables* - "Oh, so they are a vegetarian!"
Me, who is bi: *Whomst hath summoned the ancient one*
All bow down to the ancient one!
oops sorry you dont exist /s 🤧
I apologize for summoning you ancient one, but I heard you have my car keys?
A shiny Flapple!! You have good taste (although I prefer Appletun by a bit)
@@RuneDrageon *Mayhaps*
Schrödinger's bi: Simultaneously gay and straight until in a relationship, at which point it stabalises.
To all of you wonderful and beautiful people out there: You are valid, you are special and you are loved! Stay safe out there! ❤
Hope you stay safe too!
Bold of you to assume I’m wonderful and beautiful
@@annoyingperson Everyone IS wonderful and beautiful in their special way. Atleast some part of them and their personality 😊
@@annoyingperson Bold of you to assume you're not
Thanks so much. I feel kinda dsyphoric tbh but thanks
Jamie: *says he isn't straight*
Shaaba: *continues existing happily because being bi is a real thing*
And also because Shaaba is bi too;)
Imagine people did this with everything.
Me: So, I like pancakes and I like pasta.
People: Okay cool.
Me: *eats pancakes*
People: So you never liked pasta then.
Preach 🙌🏻
that's why i eat both at the same time 😎
Me: I like the colors teal and purple.
Person: Ok.
Me: *Paints my room teal*
Person: So you only like teal.
@@moved.6963 purple is a very overpowering colour for a room, especially if it's a small room
My analogy for the preference problem
Me: "I love both star wars and star trek but I prefer star wars by a lot"
A-hole: "oh so I guess you hate star trek and just don't want to tell people because you're afraid"
Me: "I dated a girl-"
Them: "Oh. Lesbian."
Me: I've also dated a boy too-"
Them: "Wait you're straight, I thought you were gay?"
Me: ...
"I'm gonna give them a minute."
Them: :|
Me: BRUH I'M BI
Them: :o
their binary either or thinking has them confused.
@@oliviawolcott8351 enbies: I'm not a girl
Cishets: hey bro
Enbies: I'm also not a boy
Cishets: wait you're a girl? I thought you weren't a girl
Enbies: stop perceiving me
This post was made by a binary trans girl
@@sixela6 all time! should i be beckett
I love this my dad were the same and now he knows he is bisexual too
@@sixela6 wtf is an enbie....?
I'm a straight woman dating a bi man. His bisexuality is one of the many things I love about him! It means we get to fawn over cute guys together. I wouldn't change that for the world.
aww, that's sweet
r/thestraightsbeingok
this is adorable and wholesome🥺
I'm a bi woman dating a straight man, and at the beginning of our relationship I would point out cute women, and he got so confused and was worried it was some sort of trap. It wasn't, they were just cute. But now we get to enjoy them together. That's awesome that you and your partner get to share that 🙂
AWW :D
I remember I was having a conversation with my dad about sexualities, and he expressed in passing some skepticism about bisexuality. I immediately looked him in the eyes and asked, "So you genuinely believe that anyone who claims they're bi is either an attention-seeking straight or a gay in denail?" And he was like, "Okay, fair, that can't be right, I guess bisexuality is real."
Wow, I can’t believe he admitted he was wrong so easily. That’s cool.
I no longer identify as Bisexual, I shall now identify as "Bees?"
**swarm of angry bees busts from my body**
We are all just swarms of bees in the shape of humans
Aaaaaaarrrghh it's Candyman!!!
guess i'll go make some honey then
HAHA
Reminds me of the "The NB for nonbinary actually stands for Numerous Bees"
There's nothing wrong with people thinking they are bisexual and later realising they're not, but don't call it phase please. Also you're not going questioning people who say they're straight stop doing it to lgbt+ people.
Exactly. Doing some self-discovery isnt shameful and unvalid!
this applys the other way too! someone gay realizeing theyre actually bi isnt a downgrade
I thought I was bisexual in 8th grade and turns out I'm asexual and biROMANTIC
does that mean that bisexuality doesn't exist? nO
First I thought I was bisexual, then pansexual and now I realized I'm a lesbian... I think I'm sure I only like women and non binary people-
@@user-hy5jy7sf9j ad an asexual myself thats perfectly fine of you, sometimes you try labels and get it wrong and that doesn't invalidate the identities it just means your one step closer to actually figuring it out
"Bisexuals don't exist"
Jean's uncuff
Attracted to one gender
Loses ability to make awkward hand gestures
Stoppes listening to sweater weather
Sits properly in chair
Iced coffee tuns back into beans and milk
Sits properly in chair
@@DavidCruickshank I will never be able to sit comfortably again!! 😢
Lemon bars disappear
Sweater Weather is a vibe tho-
jeans uncuff i can’t- 💀💀💀
It's really stupid. Imagine that: I like drawing and baking, and right now I'm drawing something. Someone comes to me and saying: "so, drawing is your hobby." I answer: "yes, but I also like cooking." And he's saying: "no, It's impossible, you can't have two hobbies. What is your real hobby?"
Me having like 10 different hobbies, trying to decide between one of them.........
Unrelated but I read that as “barking”
As a bisexual person in a “straight passing relationship”, I have received a lot of criticism from the LGBTQ+ community discrediting my identity as bisexual. I have felt very scared to be part of a community that usually ostracizes me and questions my authenticity in regards to my sexuality and that is very emotionally draining to me. I wish that more open conversations could be had in regards to bisexual erasure in our community.
I feel for you. Sometimes it feels like the LGBTQ+ community can be more outwardly biphobic than anybody. Please don’t be afraid to take up space in a community that you belong to- your relationship doesn’t invalidate your identity. Hopefully one day it won’t be this hard x
Im pan and I've experienced the same thing, I was made feel like because Im dating my boyfriend Im not actually part of the community cause Im not "gay" enough.
Bi people don't have "straight passing privelege."
saying that they do perpetuates the idea that they automatically become straight/gay once in a monogomous relationship with someone. Heck, if you're bi but have only ever dated people of the opposite sex you're still bi and still apart of the lgbtq+ community.
I’m pan and used to use bi, I get it. But I’m here to tell you that lgBtq spaces are for you as well. I’m sorry people have made you feel unwelcome and “not gay enough.”
I'm a bi girl and I deadass worry about not alternating who I date enough. I've been in 4 relationships ever. My first one was with a woman and my last three have been men and now I'm talking to another bloke but part of the reason I'm not going for it yet is because people will further question how much of a 'phase' it was and despite the fact I still think "damnnnnn" everytime a hot girl expresses herself confidently (honestly the most attractive thing ever) my own brain will send me into an identity crisis too.
I hate how when someone identifies as bi they’re just seen as “deciding” or “doing it for attention” like if it WAS for attention surely they’d pick something else that doesn’t result in potential harassment and bullying.
On the contrary, harassment and bullying are a form of attention, so it actually makes sense even from that angle.
@@bluecannibaleyes yea but that’s more negative attention and if you were seeking attention you’d most likely want more positive attention, right?
@@sexhaver6953 Ah, of course it deletes my comment...
We’re not talking about normal sane people here, we’re talking about narcissists..
@@bluecannibaleyes ah, makes sense. But I don’t think any bi people are seeking attention, they’re all just attracted to more than 1 gender, and people can’t mind their business so they make it seem like bi people are attention seeking or greedy.
@@sexhaver6953 Well, it’s mainly because bi people feel the need to constantly complain about ‘bi erasure’ and feel the need to constantly tell everyone that they are ‘bi’. I can think of no other reason for going out of your way to remind everyone that you’re ‘still bisexual’ while in a committed monogamous relationship with one gender other than attention-seeking or to express your desire to cheat on your partner. Neither are a good look.
"bisexuals don't exist"
I don *[this comment is unavailable as the commenter doesn't exist. Sorry for the inconvenience]*
I actually thought something happened LOL
What you said tastes like a whiteboard marker
... i wish i could explain why i feel this way
@@jurassicsmackdown6359 do you have synesthesia or something
@@jurassicsmackdown6359 wHaT
@@omnical6135 I wish i knew, too
*My parents: “you aren’t bi, you’re either lesbian or straight”*
*Me: has boyfriend*
*My parents: you’re straight*
*Me: also likes girls*
*My parents: no*
I feel this so much 🥲
someone: bi people aren't real
me: laughs in omnisexual
my brain: omnisexual falls under the umbrella term of bi
me: *phases out of existence*
and that's why i'm scared to come out as omni.
Hello there, fellow omni people
@@kwiatkowykwiatek9614 hello my dear😌
sorry if it sounds stupid but whats omni >.>
@@Ultimate_Dadzawa don't worry, it's fine. Omnisexual means being attracted to all genders but it takes a role when chosing your partner unlike pan. Yeah, bisexual and omnisexual overlap, and the label it's just a prefernce. You can like all genders and still identify ass bi. They overlap because when the bisexual manifesto was made the official defination of bi, there were already pan and omni, but they were less known. Fell free to ask any other questions❤️
“Bisexuality doesn’t exist”
**slowly un-cuffs jeans**
Damn now I feel the urge to cuff my jeans
@@sixela6 wait why did I as well
Its time we shall retire...
**stops playing sweater weather**
@@missterious711 *stops listening to cavetown and girl in red*
"Lesbians Gays Basicallystraight T-Rex"
Obviously
This comment is accurate and underrated.
Get this to the top!
ok strawman
Hilarious lol
"Bisexuality doesn't exist"
Me: laughs in bi romantic
Hii a Heathers fan
Eyo a Heathers fan
*laughs in pyromantic* 🔥🥰🔥
Me too
Me, a transgender person and a bisexual: Hey I’ve seen this one before!
You are valid!
Being trans and ace is real fun too. It's either "ace isn't real" or "ace isn't lgbt because you don't face discrimination"
Even though telling ace people that they aren't lgbt is..... *ahem*.... d i s c r i m i n a t o r y
Same lol, btw love that pfp
@@neuroatypicalkirby2 I can relate lol, I'm not trans but I'm Demisexual and when people aren't saying that it isn't a real thing or part of the lgbtq community they don't know what it is. You are valid 🖤💜🤍
Another transgender bi person heree
People: "Bisexuality doesn't exist"
Me: "Oh no I don't exist"
haha same
"Bisexuality doesnt exist"
Bisexual people: Bi Bi
This is the best wording of this joke
🤣
You missed a great opportunity for an NSYNC reference here should have said Bi Bi Bi 😂
Lmao😅😂🤣
PFFT- I LAUGHED WAY TOO HARD AT THISSSS
As a cis bi woman....finding this content was very refreshing....thank you
Do we need to talk about the fact that A LOT of people think dating a bisexual equals to more chances of being cheated on
That's soooo stupid, if someone is gonna cheat on you their orientation doesn't matter. Like the whole thing about the law only deterring people that wouldn't break it in the first place, an agreement of exclusivity would only mean something if the person wants exclusivity in the first place.
@@RITCH232 ikr... it goes with the whole "bisexuals are confused" thing, so they supposedly can't be sure to be in a relationship without cheating. And of course with the fact that if a bi person is attracted to both males and females (and all genders in between), they're attracted to 2x more people and therefore they're 2x more likely to cheat. I fucking hate all of this, I mean, you're either a cheating person or not.
It's so stupid!
more like "they had double the options and still picked you" 😂 it should be a confidence booster, not a cause for mistrust
Sadly, the first person I heard this from was a lesbian friend of mine who outright said she didn't trust bisexuals and called them "too fickle", citing the possibility that she'd be involved with a woman and then get dumped in favour of some bloke.
Frankly, I couldn't see how this was supposed to be in some way "worse" than her dating a lesbian woman and being dumped for another woman or me dating a heterosexual woman and being dumped for another man.
I've dated more than one bisexual woman and the reasons the relationships didn't last had nothing to do with infidelity on anyone's part. Relationships sometimes (often?) end.
“The B in LGBT stands for Bees”
Me: morphs into a bee
Beesexual?
Ferdinand von Aegir really is a bee icon after all.
🐝
@@mxwhite97 🐝 🐝 🐝
Le bee has arrived. 🐝
"Bisexuality does not exist"
Me, a bisexual: Mr. Stark I don't feel so good
Sorry, I made a very similar comment before I saw yours, I was not trying to plagiarise
@@lornabaker4079 No it's fine, I do not care about this stuff at all. Keep the comment up if you want
@@feyasatos thank you!
Well now I got reminded of that movie and I’m just sad
Real funny reference tho 👍
@@lornabaker4079 same here
"If u go with someone with the same sex as yours you are gay, if you go with the opposite sex you are straight."
Me in a poly relationship with a boy and a girl: "oh well guess I'm still Bi"
Iconic line ✨👏
You're just fence sitting,you need to pick a side! 😤
Congratulations! You are the dreaded "Greedy Bisexual" who can't possibly be sated by one gender and therefore can't be trusted in a monogamous relationship! At least your sexual orientation is valid! For the entire duration of your current relationship! Lucky you!
@@gh0st_b0yfriend Can't tell whether you're kidding. It's obviously a difference, whether she is dating these people at once with them knowing that they're not the only one or with them not knowing! If they know about it and don't care, what's the issue? Even straight or gay people can be polyamorous. So I really don't see your point unless you were joking.
@@solar0wind Oh 100% joking. The idea that bisexuality is inherently greedy and we're all hedonists who can't be sated by one gender or trusted in monogamous relationships is right up there with "she's only doing it for attention," "it's probably just a phase," and "why doesn't he just admit he's gay," for horrible ignorant things you hear people say all the time when they don't know there's a bi person in the room
My kid recently came out as trans. I've been watching your videos to learn more about what their going thru. Thank you for all of the information and for your perspective. She saw I had been watching your videos and I think she was pleasantly surprised.
Your username is Angry Mom but you seem lovely. I feel lied to.
Wish my parents would do more like that... Instead when I came out to them my mom was like "You're probably just confused between what admiration and attraction are" and then like "As long as you don't actually get in a relationship with a woman" after I explained to her that I do indeed know the differences between my own feelings. She still loves me and I know she won't abandon me as her daughter but like... I still wish she made an effort to understand instead of complaining about other lgbt things like people being trans while in the car or at the dinner table.
I had told her before about being ace (I'm demi-ace) as well and she just responded with "You'll grow out of it". Like... that's not how that works...
She's a psych nurse even, and it took years for her to actually understand how she was hurting me as someone neurally divergent.
This isn't all to say she's bad all around, no. She's learned a lot when it comes to my mental health and I'm proud of her for that. I love my mom. I just wish she'd do the same when it comes to understanding my sexuality and not... being phobic about it. I can't be open about many things with who I am to the people I share the same living space with and it hurts.
And now I'm getting carried away here. I need to stop turning what was supposed to be a comment into a personal rambling in places like the replies to a comment on RUclips.
*Came out to them as bi
I didn't clarify that oops
Awww I love this, thank you for trying to learn more and having a open mind&heart💙
WOOHOO
Moral of the story: *WE EXIST. US BISEXUALS FREAKING EXIST.*
*WE DO.*
YES WE DO.
My mom came out to me as bi in her late 50s, having been married to my dad for over 40 years. That relationship did not invalidate the fact she was bisexual. And she was my greatest ally and supporter (I had come out many years earlier). I miss her every day.
I’m so sorry she sounds really cool 😎
I remember after coming out as lgbt and hearing everyone is a little gay and hearing my friend say their parents were bi I asked my parents if they ever had a relationship with the same sex or were attracted to the same sex but nope, they are very straight. I was disappointed. My parents are just really boring, I think they have sex in the missionary position and they don’t have any sex toys. They’re boring but they’re very open to other people not being boring, just because you’re boring doesn’t mean you got to be closed minded.
When your Bi-romantic and Asexual:
“I am the true invisible man”
I see you :3
"Bisexuality doesn't exist"
Me: *phases out of existence*
All you other bi folks are valid. You're still bi if you're in a straight relationship. You're bi if you're in a gay relationship. You're bi if you're dating a man, you're bi if you're dating a woman, you're bi if you're dating someone who's nb. Love from you're local (mostly) closeted biromantic asexual.
Hum if they date nb ppl they’re pan 😂
@@bibule bi means being attracted to two or more genders, actually. i'm tired of people telling me i'm pan because i find enbies attractive too.
@@dommosmd but bi means two 😐 what’s the difference with pan then ?
@@bibule i don't think there's much of a difference, probably only the fact that bi people tend to have preferences, like i for example can get attracted to any gender, but mostly prefer men.
Domi's drawings that’s actually omnisexual. Omnisexual is liking all genders with a preference. Bi is liking two or more genders with no preference (ie: women and men but not nb) would be bi but you can be bi and like nb. Pan is liking everyone with no preference, we pay attention to personality more. Of course, sexuality is fluid so take it with a pinch of salt but those are the “definitions”
so one of my bffs is bisexual, but for some time, she was questioning whether she was lesbian or bisexual because ppl were telling her she isn't ACTUALLY appart of the community since she apparently is "partially" straight. ppl were making her think that her sexuality is not valid. and another thing that she told me once was, "what if i'm actually straight? and i am just lying to myself?" it literally broke my heart. bisexuals go through so much shit so moral of the story believe bisexuals when they say they are bisexual and go on with your day.
Even though I've accepted that I'm bi for a while now, and I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality, I sometimes still get those thoughts.
I'm very comfortable with being bisexual the label fit what I feel but I still haven't had a serious relationship with either gender so that "what if I'm gay/what if I'm straight" thing swings back and forth like every day 😅😅
the "what if I'm lying to myself" and "what if I'm faking it" hits so hard. So many bisexuals deal with that it's like we all have some mild form of imposter syndrome or something
That's suprer relatable. The constant "what ifs" of bisexuality. Especially when you have time never been in a relationship with anyone. In my case, I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum so figuring out my sexuality is a double trouble.
Feel that. I was in a relationship with a guy once (at the time I thought I was a girl but turns out I'm nonbinary) and people from inside of the community told me that I wasn't really pan, that I had "chosen" to be straight so I wasn't part of the community anymore
“ITS NOBODY’S PLACE TO SIGN SOMEONE ELSE A LABEL. “
Say it louder for the people in the back!!!
Thank you Jamie. You put that into words so well.
I recently turned 60. If it's a phase it's a damn long one.
"Bisexuality doesnt exist"
NEWS: it is suspected that Thanos has snapped his fingers
I don't know why but I'm laughing hysterically😂😂😂
Tea
Imagine if thanos snapped every LGBT person into another dimension. Like they're not harmed, they just end up in their own world. Now imagine a large amount of people who didn't know they were lgbt yet or didn't come out. How long do you think it would take for everyone to discover what happened? How do you think all those closeted people would react?
@@purplep0tamus452 idk but I think I would be one of those people. I just don't know wot to do.
@@OfficialMahirShah well I guess live peacefully because you're surrounded by people who understand you
"Bisexuality doesn't exist"
Me: *turns into bees*
every comment on this video is golden
This is it, this is the best one.
Bisexuality: doesn't exist
My girlfriend: *adios!*
@It is what it Is. Huh? That's like saying that a person will eat so much more than they want to even if they're not hungry just because there is more food available?
@It is what it Is. That doesn't make any sense though. If someone you are dating might cheat, they'll do so regardless of their sexual orientation. And if you're insecure about being cheated by your partner, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship with them because you cannot trust them. That is some weird conditional probability that you have used which doesn't even stand ground mathematically.
Oh god one time she fake dated someone else because she wasn't attracted to him but didn't wanna say no because he was nagging. She was texting me the whole time like
LOGAN WANTS TO BE MY BOYFRIEND AND BE MY PARTNER TO THE PANTS
*PANTS
NO I MEAN PANTS
PANTOMIME
SO SHOULD I LIKE FAKE DATE HIM ORR?
BC I DON'T WANNA SAY YES BUT I DON'T WANNA SAY NO AND ALSO DON'T WANNA CHEAT ON U
on the way back from the 'pants' on the coach, logan said they were dating but nobody believed it, so he asked me (because he thinks we're really close friends. we haven't come out to the school yet) if it was true. For a second I forgot she was fake dating and said she was single. (She was on a different coach so she couldn't answer herself) I remembered and tried to cover for myself saying she hasn't updated me but they were arguing about whether he was lying or not so they couldn't hear me
Sorry not sorry Logan
Is this why I haven't heard from some of my best friends for a couple of days? They just doesn't exist anymore...
@It is what it Is. This joke was so good I almost choked on my drink 😂
Me: *comes out as bi*
Random person: "Bisexuality doesn't exist"
Me: "ight imma head out" *randomly disappears bc Bisexuality isn't real*
*mr stark I don’t feel so good*
ahh yes hate it when we randomly disappear
True story coming. One time I was chatting with someone and the topic of sexualities came up. They said that only girls can be bi. I responded with a confused look and just pointed at myself and said “Errr, hello. Allow me to introduce myself.”. They didn’t get what I was talking about and asked what I meant so I clarified that I am indeed a (very) bisexual male. They then had THE AUDACITY to say “No, you’re not. Men can only be gay or straight. That’s just how it works.”.
At this point im just done with the conversation so finish it with “Well my thoughts about both Richard Madden and Emilia Clarke would firmly disagree with you on that.” and walk off.
I don’t understand why some people feel the need to tell people how they feel about things, especially such personal things as sexuality and gender. Makes no sense
Richard and Emilia. *chef's kiss* You have excellent taste, my dude.
@@linnyliza Haha cheers my friend!
"Bisexual males don't exist" Bisexual males: 🙎♂️🤦♂️🙍♂️🤦♂️🙋♂️
Exactly, I am dating A bi men and I got comments Like “I’M not not homophobic but Like you know you are dating A gay men Who is in the closet Right?” “Are you afraid he’s gonna figure out that he is actually gay?” Like it’s so stupid, I always Just face Palm and walk off most of the time.
ahahaha bi men don't exist? someone could have told me
"bi people dont exist"
me: literally goes missing
*evaporates*
@It is what it Is. Shut up
@It is what it Is. Shut up
Ah, at least I won't have to go to school anymore
@It is what it Is. lmao I know you’re just being a troll but this is still so dumb
"Bisexuality does not exist. A-sexuality is not a thing."
Me, a Bi-romantic demi-sexual - "Literally teetering on the edge of existance here."
We're cryptids. Only seen as blurry figures in photos taken by conspiracy theorists.
@@glitterberserker1029 Sometimes, if you blink super quickly, you might think you've seen us in a shadow somewhere!
@@HeidiSholl we are known to be found in forests, on snowy mountain tops or in Scottish lochs. It's even said that ships that go missing in the Bermuda triangle run aground on an island populated exclusively by bi demisexuals.
Bro this made me happy stim I’m bi-romantic too and your replies are hilarious
Aye,I'm a Bi and demisexual too
"If you're bi you're not or red or yellow, you're orange". Like to think we're neither pink nor blue but constantly purple =^^=
My boyfriend just sent me this and said "have you been imaginary this whole time?". Can't stop laughing 😂
'bisexuality doesn't exist"
me: this is my free ticket too leave this universe
Person: Bisexuality doesn’t exist
Bisexuals: disappear
People: NO ONE DESERVES TO DISAPPEAR
THEATRE FOLLOWS ME EVERYWHERE XD
Ok I love that one
NO ONE DESERVES TO FADE AWAYYYYY
DEAR EVAN HANSEN AAAAAA
AHHHH DEAR EVAN HANSEN ANDJODKENFJFR
Fun Fact: I went to school before I saw this video We we’re doing this project called Adopt A Element I went to the periodic table and I saw Bismuth and it’s symbol is Bi and I found that when exposed to oxygen and light it’s colors turns to rainbow
Bi is very real backed by Elements
I am a cis female who has only had relationships with cis males. However, I am starting to think I am a bisexual based on how celebrity types make me feel. However, since I am married to a man that I love deeply, I will not be exploring any further. I hope the younger generations hear these terms and understand that they exist and can truly find themselves.
i mean you can "explore" lol ;'-; just, you know, don't cheat on anyone, you can maybe explore more with that celebrity crushes you have, I would personally feel bad not knowing my sexuality lol :'CI ((maybe just me though lol xD), you know you don't have to date a girl to know you're bi, but also at the end of the day you do you and if you don't feel comfortable with exploring that's okay too :'), and you know, i was just saying, so anyway, after all - good luck with figuring it out! (if you want to do that of course, I'm just saying it's ok even when you're in a relashionship))
I have a boyfriend now and mostly had crushes on boys growing up (which I blame on my dad being emotionally non-existent from my life for the most part but that's a whole other story) but I had a crush on two girls (not at once ofc lol) and I definitely felt more-than-friendly attraction to a girl I met on a beach once, in 2017, but back than I had lots of internal homophobia and repressed the feelings.
so yeah, eventually I got a crush on an accepting person who's pan, and they're now my best friend. I got over them eventually and met my now bf. he's also very accepting.
through having a crush on my bff, I learned to accept myself the way I was. the girl I liked before them was the "rude awakening", I'd say lol. (for context, this was back when my enby best friend still identified as a girl, or at least before they came out to me.)
my point is, even though I've never dated a girl, I'm still bisexual and I'm attracted to all genders.
People trying to say that bisexuality is fake an doesn't exist makes me feel like I'm invalid af. :((
Edit: Thank you so much for you kind comments, they made me feel so loved and appreciated. you're all loved, thank you 💕
I'm ace,so I totally understand how you feel. You're valid, I am valid,we are valid, screw what uneducated people say.
Everyone who sees this is valid af. Forget about what other people say, because it's what you know that matters.
You're valid.
Can’t we all just be valid 🥺
I believe that everyone is valid no matter who the heck they are, and that if people learned to shut their mouths and not have an opinion on other people’s lives that aren’t affecting anyone else, then the world would be a much better place haha!
Just remember: the only person that can take away how valid you are is you. As long as you believe you’re valid, you are 😌 have a wonderful day my dudes
fellow bi here- and screw the uneducated, the only people who are invalid are the ones invalidating the valid.
some biphobe: bisexuality doesn't exist
bisexual people: adios
pansexual people: nervous sweating
breaking: pansexual knocks out biphobe who claimed "bisexuals do not exist" with a frying pan.
Some *biphobe
Ace + Aro's: *fades into the night*
biphobe*
@RuralGayBoy I love this headcanon
Im a bi woman who is in a long term relationship with a bi man. When we wear rainbows or I mention we are LGBT or not straight everyone gets really mad and calls us imposters... it hurts
When a person wears rainbow it makes us gays indentify our people.
im a girl and my boyfriend and me are both bi. told my friend that at lunch the other day and he said "in a relationship like that, someone has to be cheating"
@@inkedge1519 yeah, so what? They are bi, therefore LGBTIQ*
I don't know what's the point from your comment.
@@mindworms5181 I facepalmed so hard at this...
@@schokoloko2092 so? I said it helps us to identify other gays in middle of heteros
Me: “I’m bi.”
Biphobes: “No.”
Me: “Yes I am...?”
Biphobes: “No you’re not.”
Me: “Guys are hot. Girls are hot. I also identify as bisexual. How am I bi?”
Biphobes: “It doesn’t exist.”
Me: *(Visible confusion)*
do you like vanilla ice cream? - yes
do you like strawberry ice cream? - yes
NOPE! you can't like 2 things at once. ONLY ONE right?
@@chrisbuttonshaw2088 is this hate or agreeing i can’t tell
@@jacenothing5456 it's sarcasm towards the idea that you can't like guys AND girls at the same time. so agreeing by using an analogy and sarcasm.
“Bi doesn’t exist”
My bisexual friends: *phases out of existence*
My bilingual teacher: *jumps out of the window*
My bipolar family history: *goes back to Narnia*
My biodegradable bag: *bed bed night night*
Big lol
Jamie : I’m not straight
People: *forgets bisexuality and pansexual are things*
Yes pan👏 pride👏
@@awstinevans9093 yassss
@@amberdawnmitchell310 💖💛💙
@@awstinevans9093 me, a pansexual genderfluid:finally! Some representation! :>
@@amberdawnmitchell310 Oh my god another Pansexual Genderfluid person!!! 😲😃 hello fellow Pan GF!!!
Someone literally told me this (I’m pan) “bisexual is only a placeholder until you find someone to date” I had no idea how to respond to them I just kinda said think what you want I’m attracted to both not one gender at a time
“Kristen Stewart open to dating men again.”
She’s still not going to date you, though, random cishet man.
So basically bisexuality is like the Boggarts in Harry potter, no one knows our true bisexual form, as soon as someone sees us we magically turn gay or straight depending on who we're dating
Have rarely seen more accurate words strung together.
Jamie needs to see this.
And you can make us disappear by screaming ‘RIDICULOUS’ at us
@@kateemma22 tHiS cLaSs iS riDdiKuLuS
let's rob a bank, they can't arrest us if we don't exist
Keep it down, they might hear us
Oh wait they can't
Let's gooooo
I'm pansexual can I join?
@@aubanana absolutely everyone can join expect for the homophobes 😾
“It’s nobody else’s place to assume someone else a label.”
Yes. YES! Thank you. I’m keeping this.
“Bisexuality doesn’t exist.”
LGBTQ+: *LGTQ+*
I-
Jamie, a lovely sweet patient bisexual man: “I’m not mad at any of these people”
Me, an angry impatient bisexual person: I am
But genuinely, the amount of patience you have for comments and people like this as astounding. Love you and your videos 💖
Me too, I long ago lost patience for those people
"The only way to be a true bisexual is to date 2 people at once"
Me, a polyamorous bi person dating a man and a woman at the same time: *sweats*
THE ONE TRUE BI
YOU ARE THE CHOSEN ONE
wait until they find out about pansexuals lol
that's why it's called bisexual duh
Wth-
I can kinda understand the “I wish guys could just be honest and say they’re gay, but we gotta do the bisexual in between step first.” As I have a friend that came out as bisexual only to come out as gay 2 weeks later. I would change the statement though to “I wish gay people could feel secure enough to be honest and say they’re gay, instead of coming out as bisexual first.”
As I do feel that someone that is gay coming out as bisexual first when they know what they are does nothing but make others think that bisexuality doesn’t exist, and it’s just someone being to scared to come out as gay. Which for the most part isn’t the case
His fiancé is also bi, so yeah I’m pretty sure she knows.
hey everyone,
i just wanted to say that i really appreciate jaime talking about this with this bi erasure. this is such a massive problem for me as i’ve identified as bisexual since 12 (now 17) but due to me never having a girlfriend i felt scared that i’m not big enough and even feel like i was being a fraud and was just straight . Like i am definitely attracted to all genders but due to never having the experience i start to have my ✨internalised biphobia✨
just wanna say much love to jamie and all you reading as well have a lovely day :)))
You’re so young! I too (but later in life) went through this journey of feeling like an imposter because I never had same sex relationships. Always remember that everyone has a sexuality, regardless of the way they decide to express it.
I have identified as bi for as long as I can remember (24 now) and also never had a same-sex relationship. We are still valid! Don't let the world make you believe you're not!
38 and never had a girlfriend :). Now in a friendship group with mainly lesbians (some of which tried out some biphobia with me- we got over that when they realised it wasn't going to fly)- and was last seen waving my goddamn huge bi flag at pride last year. Got totally fed up of people trying to erase me which led to me closeting myself.
I'm turning 49 this month and just realized that I'm bi a few days ago. Because I've only dated men, and was married to one. And hope to one day marry another man. Whatever we feel, however we live, we are valid!
The way you say "That is rude" is the most wholesome way you can say it.
There was my favourite part 😂😂
I often feel a bit alone and isolated when I personally face bi erasure. It just feels so good to be actively reminded that I’m not the only constantly annoyed pigeon 😅
Speaking of things that don't exist. I just came out to my parents as asexual. Rollercoaster that has lasted for months is finally over. I did it quite badly but I think it worked out alright. Everything else was almost perfect considering the conditions, but I left a lot of room for misunderstanding. Luckily no misunderstandings happened. They accepted me for who I am.
Couple years ago I had no clue how hard and complicated coming out can be. I wish all the strength for people still waiting for a chance, right moment, or courage to do it. Do it, it's worth doing if it's safe.
@bolt2395 ikr? Just because they aren't geting biological grandchildren from their child doesnt mean they can be a jerk. I think most peiple just don't think aces exist and we either "haven't found _the one_ yet" are "looking for attention" or just innocent/confused.
I'm so proud of you! Welcome to our Ace-Family 🥰
@@catifirefly2159 cheers
Welcome! Cake and garlic bread for all. My parents didn't care. They probably guessed before I did. Three of my friends are in the asexual family. So yeah your not alone. If you want some more wholesomeness one topic here one RUclips is great. He is like the proud dad of everyone. Its so sweet.
Congrats!!
Me: a bisexual who recently stumbled upon your channel, seeing your multiple videos on bisexuality
*validation levels are increasing*
"Hey, we don't do labels here, so just be you."
"Okay! So I'm bisexual-"
"No you're not."
".....But-"
"No. Ugh, you can't like two genders at once that's impossible."
@UltimateCheetah3000 I say I don't use labels because I don't care about the other person's sexuality but if they are a decent human being. And I use labels but sexuality wouldn't be the first thing I think/say about someone.
As a bi woman who's been married to a man for 7 years I feel this so hard.
I’m curious about dating bisexual people because they’re attracted to more than one gender so wouldn’t that affect them later on down in a relationship? Like your married to a man, and you’re bi but don’t you ever want to be with a woman again or sleep with a woman? Or do you just suppress those feelings?
Well, as a bi person also married to a man here's the easiest way to explain it.
If you get married to a man, and you are gay, what will happen later on down the road when you find someone attractive? Will you resist the urge to cheat?
The question you are asking is literally the exact same as asking and married person how they plan to control themselves when they see someone who is attractive.
Bisexuality doesn't have anything to do with having a weaker sense of loyalty to one's partner. It only has to do with the number of genders we happen to find attractive people in.
If I was straight, I wouldn't suddenly not find other men attractive just because I got married. Cheating is a personal decision people make, it is not a consequence of any sexuality.
@@Bekins88 I’m not saying bisexuality means you are less loyal to your partner I don’t believe that at all. My issue is yeah straight people can finds people they’re aren’t dating attractive but the difference is “bits” of the person.
-A straight man married to a woman who finds another woman attractive is still attracted to a person with the same genitalia (assuming everyone is vis)
-A bi man married to a woman who then finds another man attractive is attracted to an individual with different genitalia (assuming cis)
*Thats the difference, you are married to a male but haven’t you had the sexual desire since your marriage to sleep with a woman who has a vagina and breasts?
How would you cope with that?
Sure, but why would that cause a problem if I'm happy in my marriage?
@@tripledigit4835 I think I've been a bit aloof unintentionally. Are you asking if I was struggling with the fact that I couldn't sleep with a woman I was attracted to, and it became a problem in my marriage, how would I deal with that situation?
Again,sorry for not getting what you were saying.
Erasers:
“You’re either straight or gay, nothing else.”
Me, a not straight chick dating a straight dude:
**surprised pikachu face**
“Bisexuality doesn’t exist”
Bi people: *aight, imma head out*
“Bisexuality doesn’t exist”
Me: well guess I’m stuck as lesbian then.
Just to clear any confusion:
I’m a lesbian but I’m thinking about if I’m bisexual.
Anyway thanks for reading my comment, have a nice day ❤️
Hope you have a nice day too! And, whoever you may be, just know people support you.
I'm a Bi girl with a preference for girls so I understand questioning yourself but just do whatever you feel comfortable with
Bi erasers “You have a girlfriend so you can’t be bi”
Me “You’re eating meat so you can’t be an omnivore”
I’m bi and eating a burrito, and READY to watch
Same... without the burrito bit
I’m bi and just ate a burrito, and READY to watch
I’m bi and I just ate breakfast ready to watch-
BIrrito
I'm bi and eating some good old Halloween candy
"i feel like bi people are permamently exhausted pigeons"
I’m can confirm that we are
I’m a permanently exhausted pigeon
I’m a permanently exhausted penguin.
"The B in LGBT stands for... Bees?"
Me, who's called Bee in Discord: Well, no, but also, yes.
Fun fact: when a straight person enters into a relationship, they stop being straight and are monogamous instead. They are then unable to feel attraction to any other people. If they still do it means the relationship was just a stepping stone to being poly.
Omg this 😂 i need to start using that