OMG!!!!! WOW Fumi, I thought thiis was a platform where we could discuss things,as Sister to sisters do.I ment no disrespect to your husband or ADRIAN...I TRULY APOLOGIZE....
Sure, it’s a platform to discuss and comment on whatever you want. But Ms. Fumi is (respectfully) telling you and everyone else to MIND YOUR BUSINESS when it comes to her marriage and what goes on in HER house. You don’t even know her outside of RUclips. 😂😂😂
Hi girl don't apologise because it does happen for real some men take advantage of the woman's vulnerability. Moral of the story is there's temptation out there so why bring it in your home
Apology accepted sis, I know it came from a good place so no offenece taken. I love you and I want to come as a special guest to my next event. God bless you, lot's of love from Adrian, Ole, myself and Maria. 🥰
I don't think you are being rude, I can tell you were coming from a place of concern. Because unfortunately, the stats reflect the truth to your words whether we like it or not. But that's more of a concern with younger couples. Older couples are more wiser and there are much less opportunities to be unfaithful. The best part of being older and in relationships is you run into less games, people are more direct with what they need.
Ten years ago, I was walking to a restaurant to buy lunch and a car slowed down beside me. A man rolled down his window and said "My wife said to tell you that you have beautiful legs". I was surprised and incredulous at first but a second later his wife, who was reclining in the passenger seat, sat up and said she had seen me a distance away and had made the remark to her husband that if he passed by me as he was driving, he should let me know. She was that secure in her relationship
Growing up my parents had a stunning maid. She lives with our family for 7yrs. Let me tell u my dad was n still remains a stand up loyal man. Similarly my brother n his wife have a hot aupair who travels with them and has been caring for their kids for years. No scandal. Marry a decent man so u can trust him
Pretty much all of us think that we are marrying a decent man, however, after the wedding, men/women sometimes show their true colors. Believe me when I say that, unless we’re perverse, the majority of us marry that ONE person to love and to cherish forever till death us do part. What a wonderful world it would be if all marriages could last? But, sadly, some women and men cannot control themselves around the opposite sex. Such a shame 😔🙏🏾
I appreciate you for sharing this. It is nice to see that you come from such a wholesome family to where you can proudly talk about your father and brother being men of good character.
Men don’t just cheat based on looks, look at Arnold and Mildred the maid. Gwen Stefani’s husband did the same, the list goes on. The point being, a cheater is going to cheat, it’s not always based on looks, but opportunity. Fumi seems to have a good husband and a solid foundation, may GOD continue to bless and strengthen their union.
yes, opportunists do things like this! And they will cheat in other departments as well, like money/ fraud. These are ppl who will destroy everything when opportuity arises; friendships, employment etc.
I’m with Lola. I’m 64 years old. My motto “Trust but verify”. I would never trust another woman living in my house while I was away from home. Men will get their egos stroked one way or another and some women are envious of what you have. Why take the chance?
Uncle Ole didn't touch aunty Fumi before marriage. Means he respect aunty Fumi boundaries. For me if men don't respect my boundaries and principal, why would they respect me after the wedding.
That’s a sad relationship if you don’t trust your husband around women . I’m assuming he doesn’t go to work, hang out with friends, run errands… the list goes on. I don’t have the energy for that. I’ve been married for 17 years to a great man, and I agree with Fumi,it is so disrespectful to my husband to believe he has no restraint or self control around women. I also believe if a man is no good he will cheat no matter how many women you keep from your home.
This right here is exactly how I feel. If he can’t control himself he’s not worth keeping. Now I do know there are women out there who will pursue a taken man but if he is capable of falling for it, then he’s not a keeper, so glad I’ve never had to worry about mine, even the way he carries himself around other women has always been respectful to our union.
Awww y’all being harsh on the comment lady… if she’s Nigerian or west African especially she’s speaking from a mindset that has been engraved in culture for many years. Not just the mindset, but it’s still happening a lot in that part of the world. So like aunty Funmi said she knows she meant no harm but it really comes from toxic cultural concept. It’s a shame really.
It comes from reality. That is the truth. Why did Gwen Stefani divorced her former husband? Because he cheated with the nanny. Why did Maria divorced Arnold Schwarzenegger? Because he cheated with the nanny. It's not a simple cultural concept. It's the harsh reality!
When I was 18 I use to babysit for this lady in my home not hers mine. I admired her so much, I wanted to be like her. One day she can to me and told me that she don't need me to babysit any more. I asked why. She told me that I was to young and to pretty and she didn't want me around her husband because she feared something would happen. It felt like she had punched me in the stomach I told her I would never do that. She said she was just being careful. After she left I cried because I was so hurt.
I am so sorry that you had that experience, but understand that you didn't do anything wrong. She couldn't handle her own insecurities, and that's not your fault. She will live in misery because she can't eliminate everyone in his life for her own comfort. He will eventually get tired of her trying to control his interactions with other people. He is who he is, and he will do what he does. She has the greatest power and control but doesn't realize it. because she thinks her power lies in controlling him and she feels powerless if she can't. She doesn't know that her power is self power, to control herself , she can accept or not accept anything he does. That's what she has 100% power to do .She borrows trouble from tomorrow and she's trying to fix what 's not broken. God gave us all freewill , but she is waiting and anticipating trouble, that may or may not ever come. That can't be comfortable. No one is going to take him, she's going to drive him away.
I totally agree. If a woman has to worry about her husband like that, it is not worth it. Definitely the mentality needs changing. Know what you have.❤
What a gift that you had that experience yourself as a young, beautiful woman, to know how unfairly we treat our sisters because they happen to be beautiful. I was in a meeting (years ago) and a new team member got up in the middle of the meeting to get a cup of coffee off te credenza and when she started walking toward the coffee I watched the men at the table because I was SURE they would break their necks to get a look at her perfectly shaped backside and would you believe, Fumi, not a single man turned but every woman in the room practially snapped their necks to look her up and down and shoot daggers at her all the way to and from the coffee. I decided to make friends with her right there and she is as lovely inside as she is on the outside. For her it is a struggle.
Women can be so cruel to one another, when they are led by their own insecurities and pin the tail on the 'donkey' they deem as a threat, as too beautiful and it is disgusting. No loyalty, no female solidarity when they behave like this. I'm so glad Fumi discussed this topic so people can think through their prejudices against other women and how they inadvertently make a rod for their own backs by propagating distrust, needless enmity and paranoia amongst themselves. This is why I laugh at the concept of pretty privilege. Unless a pretty woman is in an occupation that specifically capitalised on her looks such as working in media, fashion or even adult work be assured that so called pretty privilege can be a significant burden or a barrier when amongst groups of women who feel their own insecurities triggered and their jealousy and even hatred starts to run the show. In this way women can become spiteful creatures to others and do the most awful things to tear another down. Women can be terrible bullies, overt attacks of aggression and hostility or covert ones where Bad-mouthing, smearing and isolation tactics are used to bring their target down and it is a disgrace. When people say women would do a better job of running the world compared with men the thought makes me laugh because women can be too vicious to one another 'on sight' and are too easily triggered. If all women treated pangs of jealousy as fleeting experiences rather than an overwhelming experience that dictates how they treat others we would be better off. So what if another women is deemed 'more beautiful' by some, what happened to respecting and valuing yourself and understanding that you have everything to offer this world, not only looks but a whole personality, good conduct, good morals, being a productive and capable human being. Women complain the world is cruel yet enact a lot of cruelty onto their sisters and it needs to stop. Fumi covered so much in this video and I'm glad of it. Hopefully it is a wake up call to perpetrators of this kind of needless hate and division. The commentator claimed she was giving good advice/warning but really she got lost in her own projections and diminished the dignity of Fumi, her family including the nanny as well as herself. She saw darkness where there is none and attempted to insert doubt into the peace of a woman living her life, running her YT and who gives out lessons for free on how to develop yourself and go for the life you want. Of all the things to comment for a hair video you see what the commentator chose to focus on? Hopefully she looks within after this wakeup call and starts to walk towards the light instead of fouling up the airwaves with needless negativity. Some women do not realise the state their mind is in. How good of Fumi to deliver a wakeup call with such compassion and understanding while asserting her boundaries! Good on Fumi!
This happens with women who stay in relationships with men who don't respect them and don't make sure the babysitters or other employees they hire have good values. Women who tear down others who are younger or prettier... are a pain to be around and make the workplace miserable for other women.
I was getting dinner two days ago I had ordered my food a woman was looking at me when I grabbed my plate she came over and said you are really beautiful I said thank you it really made me feel good women need to support each other more now days.
I get hit on by classic "good" married men pretty frequently. Most women don't know how their husbands behave when they're not around. Don't fool yourself.
I live in Florida and I’m a single empty nester caring for my elderly mom. If ever she wants to come with her children and need a sponsor I’d open my home because of you Fumi. I believe in empowering each other. I agree, we must change our mindset to win as a community. There is strength in support and love.❤️
Hi @MandaSONshine, my name is Eva from Kenya, owing to the fact that Aunty Fumi has shown us how to be bold, i read your comment and i was thinking to myself "you get help when you speak up" and it's either a yes or no. In that regard would you be willing or any sister from Fumination be willing to sponsor a 28 year old who is a graduate, no kids and would be willing to start anywhere to better her life and that of her generations to come..?
Big sis Fumi That message offended me as a former live in nanny to the people that could afford to have me as they’re children’s caregiver when they are handling their business. I was doing that job to make a living & help support my family back then. That statement really reminded me of how other women think horrible of other women without even knowing. I am happy that the way you addressed it was with positivity. Thank you from a former nanny
Well, men age like wine and remain “desirable”. The ratio of younger men desiring older women is definitely lower. Women will never support each other. The way I see it, a woman should have the decency to say no to another woman’s man…that is support. But no, humans can be selfish. My friend’s boyfriend asked me out many years back while he was still with my friend. I had the decency and loyalty to say NO. Imagine if everyone was like that.
I understand. But sometimes younger and beautiful women do things to make us feel threatened. Would you agree? They try to seduce other men and use their beauty power. I think it’s on older women to be strong and walk away when needed.
Just watched your post. We must support and uplift each other. I support that member for feeling free to express herself. She meant no harm as you said but we all have different life experiences. My cousin came to stay briefly with me through a difficult pregnancy. Her friends warned me that she was sleeping with my husband and I strongly defended family and told them to mind their own business. Needless to say we both gave birth to two beautiful girls and guess who was the dad? Her unsolicited advice was coming from a good place. I think she was just saying be aware that these things do happen. ❤
I will never again put too much temptation & opportunity in front of my man because I did it & it was not wise. I can’t say I know what a person would or would not do. You speak truth, however. I’m enjoying my life as a grandmother. My youth was fabulous. I read something Maya Angelou wrote where she also expressed that her youth & beauty had served her well. Same goes for me. I have valuable insight in my elder years that was not there in my youth. To me, nothing is more rewarding than mentoring & cheering on younger women. I love you Fumi❤
You take too much responsibility. A man is an adult he has the responsibility to have integrity. His bad decisions are not your fault. Girls are born everyday and you can never control an adult so why worry yourself. Trust him till he gives you a reason not to.
I agree Darling. You do not want to be a New York winter visitor. Im in Minneapolis and the cold snow is NOT worth the visit. Come when you can walk, be outside, patio dinning etc.. . God bless your calendar, I know you are planning awesomeness for you and crew. Merry Christmas and a Blessed, Fortunate,Prosperous and Healthy New Year to you and your precious family. GG from Mpls.
If a man wants to stay with you and you alone, nobody can make him stray. And if a man does not want you, nobody can make him stay. If he wants to replace you with someone else, he will. It doesn't have to be someone living in your house, it could be anywhere.
I’m definitely old school, and a wise soul esp when it come to people. I think this lady was looking out for you, based on her own knowledge and experience. I lost the love of my life 2yrs ago now, he had a housekeeper when I met him. A wonderful woman of God, held him in the upmost respect. When I came into the picture everything he thought, wanted, needed he showed not only to her but everyone around us was ME! She and I loved each other other. I never thought that she would disrespect either of us! He is gone and she is that same person. Not all men cheat. I wouldn’t never want anyone I thought would either.
It doesn’t even have to be the hired help. It could be your own blood relative, best friend, bridesmaid, literally any woman can behave treacherously towards you and stay smiling in your face. It takes two to tango, but sometimes the hired help is at a disadvantage economically and feels pressured to submit in order to survive, especially with children to feed. These things do happen, but each woman has to decide for herself if she is comfortable with having a young, beautiful woman in her home as the hired help.🤔
This says something about the man you chose to spend your life with. Plus it is not the woman who is behaving treacherously, it is the person who took a vow to be faithful to you. So don't blame the women
Pressured to submit in order to survive... so the husband is comfortable taking advantage of a person who is in financial need to suit himself... doesn't sound like a husband of worth to me.
Such a wholesome response! You’re the gift that never stops giving. I’ve been a silent supporter/‘watcher’ even though I won’t shut up about you at home. I felt highly compelled to say I love how you correct/respond with love nearly all the time and how you very articulately restated your purpose on this channel, all in one fell swoop! Keep shining, mama!
❤❤❤I knew many were thinking that. Low self esteem.....when she came out I know the were thinking she too attractive or I wouldn't leave her around my husband. Like these cheaters getting sa'd. It's his job to protect his marriage and son. Her problems are not yours. Why are they always looking at other women as a threat. Only the two married are responsible for fidelity in the union.
My God continue to bless you and give you the desires of your heart. I am 51 years old, from South Africa. I used to hate being beautiful as people used use that against me. Now I have a 22 and 18 year old baby girls. I don't want them to go through what I went through . Thanks a lot😭
Some of us were open minded till we were hit ,sensitive topic .Stay in your lane with things like this .When I got hit it was unbelievable,i didn’t even talk out like Aunty Fumi .I trusted him though and when it hit home ,it’s a reminder don’t talk for anyone or defend them
Thank you, Fumi, on how you address this issue. The person who made that comment is not wrong at all because this is happening all the time. Very few men are disciplined, God fearing and with class. Congratulations on everything Fumi ❤❤❤
She certainly is not wrong, and it happens all the time. I don’t see it as judging the young lady. Anyone’s husband can do such because he is human. I am sure a good person but human.
Just keep an open mind most of us want to do what’s right but because of circumstances and imperfections we can windup doing something we did not intend to do ,our feelings also can get in the way like loneliness on both sides the attention from the opposite sex especially when both parties are attractive also if the opportunity presents itself and catch you when you’re weak. Sometimes it has nothing to do with character or morals but with good judgment and wisdom. Like someone putting your favorite cake on the table when you’re on a diet you may not give in to the cake right away but over time and depending on what happened that day and your feelings and emotions you eventually will give in, it doesn’t make it right, it makes it human. So because of your wisdom and understanding knowing that others have found it hard to live with the cake on the table. So in order to stick to the diet you probably would get rid of the cake! However this doesn’t mean the people can’t control themselves but certain circumstances can make it hard depending on what’s going on at the time. I’d like to share a couple of scripture with you. One is found at ecclesiastics 7:12 and the other at proverbs 11:2 just a little something to think about.
Oh Fumi I have lost all my childhood my friends because I was that beautiful single friend😢 still single at 41 and usually get shunned for my looks and i don't even want their husbands I'm a fulmination. thank you for this. thank you
Same here. Im now almost 70. Kept myself together and guess what, they never let up. I have a hard time having friends. But, I've noticed that secure, professional, women who live with real purpose, not phony, fake, superficial objectives, do not push me away. It took me a long time to understand this, and to stop wanting friendships with women who could only compare themselves against me and other women. While I love Fumi's response to this, I would've added, IF my man cheats, Id let him go. When men betray you, it's not about you at all. I watched my father and 4 brothers treat women poorly. I felt sorry for my mother and my brothers girlfriends
Oh wow, I’ve experienced something similar. I needed a place to stay when I was in college, went to stay with a relative (the wife being the relative), and for the rest of my stay there she was incredibly mean to me. She didn’t like that I was cool with everyone else in the house, people visiting would take to me, whatever I tried to do, she would be so mean about it to me that I was constantly on guard around her. I was there for about two months, then finally left. I wasn’t really bothered , just weirded out and exhausted that she was that way with me. Later I found out that she would call my mom and tell lies and weird suspicions about me, things that really affected my mom cos she knows the type of person I am, that I absolutely didn’t like. Now, it’s been years since I have seen her, she is always asking about me at family gatherings I’m told, later on, a lady who knows her said to my mom that there was no way I could have lived there cos the wife is like that (insecure) , and “I’m very beautiful”. I’ve never been back to the house, she likes to host and is now wondering why my mom isn’t mean to her and wonders if I shared with my mom how she was with me , my mom said, she knows what she did to you, she is living with that now, that’s why she’s always asking about you and wanting you to come over but doesn’t know how to go about it. All this to say, I am very inspired by your approach to matters, and your wisdom and grace, it’s very commendable and I know the lady looking after your son appreciates it too because it’s no an easy job, I know, I’ve worked it twice for different families when I was younger, and the women were absolutely wonderful to me, never made me feel off , supported me in anyway I needed, so I know she appreciates it too. Lovely channel, ❤.
Well said Sis. We need to be more confident in self and realistic in your approach to life. ‘Misery seeks company’ is a statement my mom would say to me when these type of statements are made. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾♥️
This was a well needed lesson 🎉 coming from a place of love and concern by both ladies ... the reality of our present day kind of validates both the initial commentor's concern and also the response from Aunty Fumi and she didn't bully the commentor in your response. Thank you.
Ms Fumi : As always, you handled this topic with class, we are the public. We don’t know the ins and outs of your personal life. We only see a very small portion of your life. We are here to support your channel ,receive the advice you give us , and support your products thank you.CONFIDENCE beats out INSECURITY & INTIMIDATION every time.We love you Fumi ! Show em how it’s done!!!!!!!
Keep your head up sis Fumy did not take it the wrong way. In this page she helps us and advice us, and other celebrities. She doesn't get mad when we advice her. I for once agree with you. ❤
Hello Fumi, you said what you had to say with such a beautiful and pure heart and the beauty of that far outshines any beautiful woman near or far. I wouldn't be surprise, despite your outter beauty, if this inner beauty is what ole sees whenever he looks at you which in it's rare and pure form can't be outshine by no other. Fumi, please trust my words, I am not being kind, I speak truth. Sometimes God send people to be a blessing to us and if you in turn want to bless Maria in areas that is necessary for the fulfillment and uplifting of her life, then by all means do as God will lead you to do.
We need to understand that a lot of women have not experienced love and they cannot phathom the thought of another women nor them experiencing it, they are used to chaos and we should look at it from an angle of them projecting their fears and hurt! It is sad but iys real! I wish her healing, love and peace ❤ All we can do is to send her sprinkles of love and hugs 🫂 It is not an old school thing for sure, it's a mentality & projection.
Well, my parents only had eyes for eachother. However my mum's cousin loved my dad too. My dad wasn't aware at all until my mum mentioned it. All my dad said was - I would never go near, let alone marry anyone whose teeth don't fit in their mouth. That subject was never mentioned again. 😂😂
Well, I must applaud the way you handled this, Funmi! Just like you have mentioned, I am sure there is a background reason for why she said all of that. We are a product of our experiences and sometimes we tend to project even if we don't mean to. I learnt a lot from what you have said today, thank you😊
As someone who gets approached by a lot of married men, I think married women just don't want to believe that their husbands will risk their marriage over a woman they don't even know.
I agree with you! Unfortunately, some women are not girls, girls. They want other women to suffer for a “man”. I’m so happy you’re not like that! Stay blessed. 😇
That's Right FUMI....Amen Amen and Amen....Just because someone else is insecure and are experiencing issues in their marriage does not mean you have too Fumi!
Thank you Fumi for speaking it out . Our mentality, especially we Africans really needs to change . Am so glad I have been able to gain more exposure from the different nationalities i have met and hence , try to understand our ways of thinking . Africans need to learn
Fumi !!!!! You are one of the best to inform/ Teach people about respect. Self worth. And Boundaries. ❤❤ I hope young woman like me listening to this video understand that confidence is what makes you successful. Happy and blessed. If you cannot trust your husband well there no need for the marriage in the first place. I loveee how you explain ( like the queen you are) to this lady to stop projecting her own insecurities onto others.. More blessings to you aunty Fumi!!!❤❤
Hmmmm. This is so true. Thanks aunty Fumi. As much as it is real that there are men who aren't trustworthy around younger women, it is in no way correct for us as women to witch-hunt every other woman. I confess to having made this mistake earlier in my marriage. But the older I get and the more secure I become in who I am and the value that I carry, the less concerned I am about being hyper-vigilant with my man. That is his responsibility not mine. These days I enjoy complimenting other women (especially older ones). It's fun to watch a woman glow when I tell her that she is beautiful. Let's do that more for each other.
Yes!! It’s crazy how a lot of married women are so INSECURE about their relationships. Had a “friend” who was a coworker who was throwing a party. We were separated by a curtain and I heard another coworker asked her if she was inviting certain people to her party and she replied that she’s “not inviting any single woman to” her party. I was taken aback at first, but then realized that she had a relationship and a husband that she didn’t trust at all and how miserable that must have made her feel throughout her life. It’s really sad that a whole lot of women feel that way.
These are the type of motivational stories I have watched and appreciated with you over the years, my dear Fumi! Thank you. I pulled back from watching the reviews you share of the 'movie stars' and their shenanigans; I don't care for that, but I recognize the variety you have created on your platform. However, this valid interpretation and commentary on the everyday contemplations of several individuals are more immediately applicable and needed. Thank you. Get those bras out my Texan babies need them. All my love! muah
I changed my comment after listening to the whole video because I agree with you. Basically women/men cannot nor should we force anyone to be with us. We cannot control anyone really. We also should not rob people from opportunities based on our fears or insecurities. We just have to choose to do what’s right daily and the rest will take care of itself. People who are meant to be in our lives will stay in our lives 😊 Thank you Fumi for reminding me of that Edited: your words are gold and I truly believe the world would be positively different if 1/2 of us would think like that😘
If you know who you are from the inside, nobody can touch you from outside! The confidence. Thank you for lifting my spirit. You're so full of love Funmi. I'm encouraged ❤🎉
Fumi I did not come here to cry but you dug into my soul where pain was hidden for years. Perhaps therapy is calling me or perhaps the good tears were my therapy. I had to collect myself in order to leave this comment. Your experience with the response from auntie not wanting you to spend the few weeks in her home because of your beauty brought up old wounds. I was told in an interview when I initially came to this country that I was too pretty to work for an attorney group. That catapult a continuous physical discrimination I felt through out my career but I soon realized that was their insecure issues and not mine. Your sanctuary is secure and no one can penetrate it. Much love!
Newsflash, if your 'man' is sleeping with the housemaid/aupair he's sleeping around anyway. About putting temptation in front of your husband!??? He does not need you to do so. He knows where to look. Get some self love. Jesus.
Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective Fumi. Many people would say to me when I was young, "When I first saw you, I thought you were stuck up." My self esteem wasn't even close to where it should have been. Yes, many women judge and reject other women, because they feel instantly threatened. It's something few want to acknowledge.
This comment it’s proof that our society is so messed up . We know your husband will never but most of us project a lot and that’s why we here . Mummy Fumi educate us we are listening 👂 ❤🙏🏼
We are the writers of our life stories. Write it the way you want it to turn out and you won’t live in fear. Change the script if it doesn’t please you. Always remember, one hand washes the other. Continue helping others.
Fumi! Ran across this vlog, my second time seeing you. I had subscribed and it came up on my feed. I just wanna tell you that this blessed me and I don’t take that lightly. I am 65 and I have so much knowledge like you to give to our young sisters so they can carry the torch! I have much more to say, but I am just taken aback. You are beautiful. You are wonderful and you stand like the Statue of Liberty. ITHANK you and I love you girl. Keep in touch. ❤
If anyone has ever seen your husband and the way he looks at you they would know better. The love and the depth are in his eyes. He is so fully present you can see it. ❤
Thank you for addressing this the way you did. We have to stop holding women accountable for the actions of men. I agree with Fumi 100% and i am someone who grew up in a home where my dad cheated on my mom/his wife with the helpers who were hired to help. Fumi is saying free yourselves from the shackles of other people's thoughts and opinions. Know and trust yourselves, respect each human in their own essence with respect.
I don’t watch you much but I was laying in bed and came across this topic and I love how you explained this whole situation not to lash out at the person who made statement but just expressing how you felt about it. I loved the last part of it: you tolerate what you encourage, this is so true.
I am not through the video, but am really impressed by the response FUMI is giving. We should learn to appreciate ourselves and increase in self confidence. ❤
Happy 15th Anniversary. Continued best of health and happiness to you, your other half/your soul mate and Adrian. Exactly! Watching & laughing my head off from Kingston 🇯🇲
You are such a graceful, classy, beautiful, beam of light, full of experience and wisdom Fumi. Thank you for always sharing jewels and much needed positivity. You remind me so much of my mom! Love your channel 💕💕
I am a Dutch and I lived and worked with my Dutch husband of 24 years (30 years together) in Ethiopia. Never EVER thought that our (much younger and a single mum) secretary would take my husband. But it happened. Ruined a family with 5 kids (of which 3 are adopted). My staff tried to warn me. I didn't believe them. Not MY husband! A christian. a family man. But I was the one who was wrong... He DID cheat and distroyed our lives.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that the loss of a marriage and the future you imagined is devastating. Not to mention how it affects your kids and other aspects of your life. God bless you and your family.
And that was his choice. You don't think he would have done the same with someone else? Proximity gives opportunity yes - but people of character keep their character regardless of the situation
Whewww! Preach Fumi! I applaud you for using this as a teachable moment and pointing out how to lean into our feminine strength NOT old societal ideas that just feed insecurities. I'm wishing long life, happiness and prosperity to you,Ulla and Adrian.❤
I think every household is different. Some men and women have integrity and some do not. Know your spouse. Also attempt to know the people you bring in your household. Every situation is different. And it's definitely unfortunate that some men are not trustworthy and also that some women are not trustworthy. We should all use discernment in our own households. God bless your beautiful household Fumi.
Fumi, all I can say is WOW!!! You just spoke SO Much WISDOM, OMG - I can only hope the people seeing this episode have the ears to hear what you’ve shared. I have much Love & Respect for YOU ✅❤️✅
OMG!!!!! WOW Fumi, I thought thiis was a platform where we could discuss things,as Sister to sisters do.I ment no disrespect to your husband or ADRIAN...I TRULY APOLOGIZE....
Sure, it’s a platform to discuss and comment on whatever you want. But Ms. Fumi is (respectfully) telling you and everyone else to MIND YOUR BUSINESS when it comes to her marriage and what goes on in HER house. You don’t even know her outside of RUclips. 😂😂😂
Awww no dont take it wrongly Sis, she knows you meant well. It gave her opportunity to share some things. ❤
Hi girl don't apologise because it does happen for real some men take advantage of the woman's vulnerability. Moral of the story is there's temptation out there so why bring it in your home
Apology accepted sis, I know it came from a good place so no offenece taken. I love you and I want to come as a special guest to my next event. God bless you, lot's of love from Adrian, Ole, myself and Maria. 🥰
I don't think you are being rude, I can tell you were coming from a place of concern. Because unfortunately, the stats reflect the truth to your words whether we like it or not. But that's more of a concern with younger couples. Older couples are more wiser and there are much less opportunities to be unfaithful. The best part of being older and in relationships is you run into less games, people are more direct with what they need.
Ten years ago, I was walking to a restaurant to buy lunch and a car slowed down beside me. A man rolled down his window and said "My wife said to tell you that you have beautiful legs". I was surprised and incredulous at first but a second later his wife, who was reclining in the passenger seat, sat up and said she had seen me a distance away and had made the remark to her husband that if he passed by me as he was driving, he should let me know. She was that secure in her relationship
Nothing to do being secure or insecure. It depends on their culture and education or how comfortable their conversation is.
How does feeling secure prevents temptation??
Or they love to swing or she has lesbian tendency.
Women don't typically tell their husbands to do things like that sounds like both of them were interested.
It's stupid of her to make him Focus on another womans beauty instead of his wifes
Growing up my parents had a stunning maid. She lives with our family for 7yrs. Let me tell u my dad was n still remains a stand up loyal man. Similarly my brother n his wife have a hot aupair who travels with them and has been caring for their kids for years. No scandal. Marry a decent man so u can trust him
Pretty much all of us think that we are marrying a decent man, however, after the wedding, men/women sometimes show their true colors. Believe me when I say that, unless we’re perverse, the majority of us marry that ONE person to love and to cherish forever till death us do part. What a wonderful world it would be if all marriages could last? But, sadly, some women and men cannot control themselves around the opposite sex. Such a shame 😔🙏🏾
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Exactly! This is the point I was trying to make
It doesn’t have to be scandalous and can last for many years undetected unless pregnancy. California mayor Arnold scandal only caused by pregnancy☝️
I appreciate you for sharing this. It is nice to see that you come from such a wholesome family to where you can proudly talk about your father and brother being men of good character.
The Bar from Auntie Fumi
"There are no threats from somebody who is confident from within"
Yes!!!! Fumi 🙏🏾 is aware and we don't need to project or "warn" Fumi 😢❤
That part!
Men can cheat with older women also. Fumi is the epitome of class.Confidence is everything.
Men don’t just cheat based on looks, look at Arnold and Mildred the maid. Gwen Stefani’s husband did the same, the list goes on. The point being, a cheater is going to cheat, it’s not always based on looks, but opportunity. Fumi seems to have a good husband and a solid foundation, may GOD continue to bless and strengthen their union.
yes, opportunists do things like this! And they will cheat in other departments as well, like money/ fraud. These are ppl who will destroy everything when opportuity arises; friendships, employment etc.
I’m with Lola. I’m 64 years old. My motto “Trust but verify”. I would never trust another woman living in my house while I was away from home. Men will get their egos stroked one way or another and some women are envious of what you have. Why take the chance?
Uncle Ole didn't touch aunty Fumi before marriage. Means he respect aunty Fumi boundaries.
For me if men don't respect my boundaries and principal, why would they respect me after the wedding.
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That’s a sad relationship if you don’t trust your husband around women . I’m assuming he doesn’t go to work, hang out with friends, run errands… the list goes on. I don’t have the energy for that. I’ve been married for 17 years to a great man, and I agree with Fumi,it is so disrespectful to my husband to believe he has no restraint or self control around women. I also believe if a man is no good he will cheat no matter how many women you keep from your home.
This right here is exactly how I feel. If he can’t control himself he’s not worth keeping. Now I do know there are women out there who will pursue a taken man but if he is capable of falling for it, then he’s not a keeper, so glad I’ve never had to worry about mine, even the way he carries himself around other women has always been respectful to our union.
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agree, lots of women act like thier husbands don't have minds of thier own....
Well said!
I've worked in people's homes a few times. People very rarely maintain professional boundaries with people who work in their homes.
Awww y’all being harsh on the comment lady… if she’s Nigerian or west African especially she’s speaking from a mindset that has been engraved in culture for many years. Not just the mindset, but it’s still happening a lot in that part of the world. So like aunty Funmi said she knows she meant no harm but it really comes from toxic cultural concept. It’s a shame really.
I agree i hope this lady is not sad crying some where.
I agree. I hope she is ok.
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It comes from reality. That is the truth. Why did Gwen Stefani divorced her former husband? Because he cheated with the nanny. Why did Maria divorced Arnold Schwarzenegger? Because he cheated with the nanny. It's not a simple cultural concept. It's the harsh reality!
It happens everywhere and not specific to a culture.
"Ola, he black too" 😂 Aunt Fumi you crack me up.
That took me out, too😂😂
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When I was 18 I use to babysit for this lady in my home not hers mine. I admired her so much, I wanted to be like her. One day she can to me and told me that she don't need me to babysit any more. I asked why. She told me that I was to young and to pretty and she didn't want me around her husband because she feared something would happen. It felt like she had punched me in the stomach I told her I would never do that. She said she was just being careful. After she left I cried because I was so hurt.
I am so very sorry to read this my love. Sending you the BIGGEST HUG.
I am so sorry that you had that experience, but understand that you didn't do anything wrong. She couldn't handle her own insecurities, and that's not your fault. She will live in misery because she can't eliminate everyone in his life for her own comfort.
He will eventually get tired of her trying to control his interactions with other people. He is who he is, and he will do what he does. She has the greatest power and control but doesn't realize it. because she thinks her power lies in controlling him and she feels powerless if she can't. She doesn't know that her power is self power, to control herself , she can accept or not accept anything he does. That's what she has 100% power to do .She borrows trouble from tomorrow and she's trying to fix what 's not broken. God gave us all freewill , but she is waiting and anticipating trouble, that may or may not ever come. That can't be comfortable. No one is going to take him, she's going to drive him away.
I totally agree. If a woman has to worry about her husband like that, it is not worth it. Definitely the mentality needs changing. Know what you have.❤
What a gift that you had that experience yourself as a young, beautiful woman, to know how unfairly we treat our sisters because they happen to be beautiful. I was in a meeting (years ago) and a new team member got up in the middle of the meeting to get a cup of coffee off te credenza and when she started walking toward the coffee I watched the men at the table because I was SURE they would break their necks to get a look at her perfectly shaped backside and would you believe, Fumi, not a single man turned but every woman in the room practially snapped their necks to look her up and down and shoot daggers at her all the way to and from the coffee. I decided to make friends with her right there and she is as lovely inside as she is on the outside. For her it is a struggle.
God bless you for doing that. Beauty is subjective, but I can assure you that women who are perceived to be beautiful, catch utter hell.
I can believe that, sis. Some women are truly judgemental, rude, and honestly so mean. I'm glad she has u now ❤❤
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Women can be so cruel to one another, when they are led by their own insecurities and pin the tail on the 'donkey' they deem as a threat, as too beautiful and it is disgusting. No loyalty, no female solidarity when they behave like this. I'm so glad Fumi discussed this topic so people can think through their prejudices against other women and how they inadvertently make a rod for their own backs by propagating distrust, needless enmity and paranoia amongst themselves. This is why I laugh at the concept of pretty privilege. Unless a pretty woman is in an occupation that specifically capitalised on her looks such as working in media, fashion or even adult work be assured that so called pretty privilege can be a significant burden or a barrier when amongst groups of women who feel their own insecurities triggered and their jealousy and even hatred starts to run the show. In this way women can become spiteful creatures to others and do the most awful things to tear another down. Women can be terrible bullies, overt attacks of aggression and hostility or covert ones where Bad-mouthing, smearing and isolation tactics are used to bring their target down and it is a disgrace. When people say women would do a better job of running the world compared with men the thought makes me laugh because women can be too vicious to one another 'on sight' and are too easily triggered. If all women treated pangs of jealousy as fleeting experiences rather than an overwhelming experience that dictates how they treat others we would be better off. So what if another women is deemed 'more beautiful' by some, what happened to respecting and valuing yourself and understanding that you have everything to offer this world, not only looks but a whole personality, good conduct, good morals, being a productive and capable human being. Women complain the world is cruel yet enact a lot of cruelty onto their sisters and it needs to stop.
Fumi covered so much in this video and I'm glad of it. Hopefully it is a wake up call to perpetrators of this kind of needless hate and division. The commentator claimed she was giving good advice/warning but really she got lost in her own projections and diminished the dignity of Fumi, her family including the nanny as well as herself. She saw darkness where there is none and attempted to insert doubt into the peace of a woman living her life, running her YT and who gives out lessons for free on how to develop yourself and go for the life you want. Of all the things to comment for a hair video you see what the commentator chose to focus on? Hopefully she looks within after this wakeup call and starts to walk towards the light instead of fouling up the airwaves with needless negativity. Some women do not realise the state their mind is in. How good of Fumi to deliver a wakeup call with such compassion and understanding while asserting her boundaries! Good on Fumi!
I can relate
"He black too" 🤣😂 Thank you Fumi, I needed that laugh today 💓
It was a beautiful statement from her
Lol... YES, I laughed too.
Me too
This happens with women who stay in relationships with men who don't respect them and don't make sure the babysitters or other employees they hire have good values. Women who tear down others who are younger or prettier... are a pain to be around and make the workplace miserable for other women.
I was getting dinner two days ago I had ordered my food a woman was looking at me when I grabbed my plate she came over and said you are really beautiful I said thank you it really made me feel good women need to support each other more now days.
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I get hit on by classic "good" married men pretty frequently. Most women don't know how their husbands behave when they're not around. Don't fool yourself.
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Thank you sis. Fumi for having Mariah’s back, for appreciating her and for SEEING HER😍💖
I live in Florida and I’m a single empty nester caring for my elderly mom. If ever she wants to come with her children and need a sponsor I’d open my home because of you Fumi. I believe in empowering each other. I agree, we must change our mindset to win as a community. There is strength in support and love.❤️
Hi @MandaSONshine, my name is Eva from Kenya, owing to the fact that Aunty Fumi has shown us how to be bold, i read your comment and i was thinking to myself "you get help when you speak up" and it's either a yes or no. In that regard would you be willing or any sister from Fumination be willing to sponsor a 28 year old who is a graduate, no kids and would be willing to start anywhere to better her life and that of her generations to come..?
Heey. If she never reaches out,, may I? 🙏
@evewambui122 Look into masters in europe and I believe German still has some free and I think Denmark is planning to train own nurses in Kenya.
@@graciouslyloved10 alright i appreciate your concern, I'll definitely be on the look out. ❤❤
“Uncle who” got me cracking up so bad🤣🤣
Congratulations to you and Olé on your Wedding Anniversary🥳🎉💖
Me to auntie fumi is hilarious 😂 and she don’t even realize it many many videos 😂😂
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Aunty fumni snatched her wig and handed it to jesus for safekeeping
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Big sis Fumi
That message offended me as a former live in nanny to the people that could afford to have me as they’re children’s caregiver when they are handling their business.
I was doing that job to make a living & help support my family back then.
That statement really reminded me of how other women think horrible of other women without even knowing. I am happy that the way you addressed it was with positivity.
Thank you from a former nanny
If it doesn’t apply, let it fly. However, it certainly does happen.
I Am LOVING your hair!!! It is just growing like a Beautiful Tree 🖤
Fumi inspired me to purchase and try the Healthy Hair Studios by Enitan hair products. I am going to refill up on some more, they smell heavenly too!❤
Well said Fumi. Too many women are threatened by younger beautiful women. We have to support each other. 😊
Well, men age like wine and remain “desirable”. The ratio of younger men desiring older women is definitely lower.
Women will never support each other. The way I see it, a woman should have the decency to say no to another woman’s man…that is support. But no, humans can be selfish.
My friend’s boyfriend asked me out many years back while he was still with my friend. I had the decency and loyalty to say NO. Imagine if everyone was like that.
I understand. But sometimes younger and beautiful women do things to make us feel threatened. Would you agree? They try to seduce other men and use their beauty power. I think it’s on older women to be strong and walk away when needed.
Why do you think that is though??
It’s a waste of time. Why be threatened by them? I don’t understand.
Just watched your post. We must support and uplift each other. I support that member for feeling free to express herself. She meant no harm as you said but we all have different life experiences. My cousin came to stay briefly with me through a difficult pregnancy. Her friends warned me that she was sleeping with my husband and I strongly defended family and told them to mind their own business. Needless to say we both gave birth to two beautiful girls and guess who was the dad? Her unsolicited advice was coming from a good place. I think she was just saying be aware that these things do happen. ❤
CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND 🎉 ENJOY YOUR BEAUTIFUL LIFE! 🙏🏾💋
I will never again put too much temptation & opportunity in front of my man because I did it & it was not wise. I can’t say I know what a person would or would not do. You speak truth, however. I’m enjoying my life as a grandmother. My youth was fabulous. I read something Maya Angelou wrote where she also expressed that her youth & beauty had served her well. Same goes for me. I have valuable insight in my elder years that was not there in my youth. To me, nothing is more rewarding than mentoring & cheering on younger women. I love you Fumi❤
You take too much responsibility. A man is an adult he has the responsibility to have integrity. His bad decisions are not your fault. Girls are born everyday and you can never control an adult so why worry yourself. Trust him till he gives you a reason not to.
It's never the nanny fault....it's always the husband he's the married not the nanny🤬we don't talk about that part enough
I agree Darling. You do not want to be a New York winter visitor. Im in Minneapolis and the cold snow is NOT worth the visit. Come when you can walk, be outside, patio dinning etc.. . God bless your calendar, I know you are planning awesomeness for you and crew. Merry Christmas and a Blessed, Fortunate,Prosperous and Healthy New Year to you and your precious family. GG from Mpls.
If a man wants to stay with you and you alone, nobody can make him stray. And if a man does not want you, nobody can make him stay.
If he wants to replace you with someone else, he will. It doesn't have to be someone living in your house, it could be anywhere.
Facts.
Thank you for this message. We should encourage other women instead of making negative assumptions.
I’m definitely old school, and a wise soul esp when it come to people. I think this lady was looking out for you, based on her own knowledge and experience. I lost the love of my life 2yrs ago now, he had a housekeeper when I met him. A wonderful woman of God, held him in the upmost respect. When I came into the picture everything he thought, wanted, needed he showed not only to her but everyone around us was ME! She and I loved each other other. I never thought that she would disrespect either of us! He is gone and she is that same person. Not all men cheat. I wouldn’t never want anyone I thought would either.
It doesn’t even have to be the hired help. It could be your own blood relative, best friend, bridesmaid, literally any woman can behave treacherously towards you and stay smiling in your face. It takes two to tango, but sometimes the hired help is at a disadvantage economically and feels pressured to submit in order to survive, especially with children to feed.
These things do happen, but each woman has to decide for herself if she is comfortable with having a young, beautiful woman in her home as the hired help.🤔
This says something about the man you chose to spend your life with. Plus it is not the woman who is behaving treacherously, it is the person who took a vow to be faithful to you. So don't blame the women
Pressured to submit in order to survive... so the husband is comfortable taking advantage of a person who is in financial need to suit himself... doesn't sound like a husband of worth to me.
Such a wholesome response! You’re the gift that never stops giving.
I’ve been a silent supporter/‘watcher’ even though I won’t shut up about you at home. I felt highly compelled to say I love how you correct/respond with love nearly all the time and how you very articulately restated your purpose on this channel, all in one fell swoop! Keep shining, mama!
❤❤❤I knew many were thinking that. Low self esteem.....when she came out I know the were thinking she too attractive or I wouldn't leave her around my husband. Like these cheaters getting sa'd. It's his job to protect his marriage and son. Her problems are not yours. Why are they always looking at other women as a threat. Only the two married are responsible for fidelity in the union.
My God continue to bless you and give you the desires of your heart. I am 51 years old, from South Africa. I used to hate being beautiful as people used use that against me. Now I have a 22 and 18 year old baby girls. I don't want them to go through what I went through . Thanks a lot😭
Your hair is looking lovely Sis Fumi.
You are so positive, Wow...many other women are not so open minded... thank you for showing us how this should be done .......clapping 👏 🙌
Some of us were open minded till we were hit ,sensitive topic .Stay in your lane with things like this .When I got hit it was unbelievable,i didn’t even talk out like Aunty Fumi .I trusted him though and when it hit home ,it’s a reminder don’t talk for anyone or defend them
Thank you, Fumi, on how you address this issue. The person who made that comment is not wrong at all because this is happening all the time. Very few men are disciplined, God fearing and with class. Congratulations on everything Fumi ❤❤❤
She certainly is not wrong, and it happens all the time. I don’t see it as judging the young lady. Anyone’s husband can do such because he is human. I am sure a good person but human.
im like this at 31 i truly desire to age gracefully not bitter
That's right age well
Just keep an open mind most of us want to do what’s right but because of circumstances and imperfections we can windup doing something we did not intend to do ,our feelings also can get in the way like loneliness on both sides the attention from the opposite sex especially when both parties are attractive also if the opportunity presents itself and catch you when you’re weak. Sometimes it has nothing to do with character or morals but with good judgment and wisdom. Like someone putting your favorite cake on the table when you’re on a diet you may not give in to the cake right away but over time and depending on what happened that day and your feelings and emotions you eventually will give in, it doesn’t make it right, it makes it human. So because of your wisdom and understanding knowing that others have found it hard to live with the cake on the table. So in order to stick to the diet you probably would get rid of the cake! However this doesn’t mean the people can’t control themselves but certain circumstances can make it hard depending on what’s going on at the time. I’d like to share a couple of scripture with you. One is found at ecclesiastics 7:12 and the other at proverbs 11:2 just a little something to think about.
This video reminded me of why I subscribed to this channel. You couldn't have said it better.
Oh Fumi I have lost all my childhood my friends because I was that beautiful single friend😢 still single at 41 and usually get shunned for my looks and i don't even want their husbands I'm a fulmination. thank you for this. thank you
You are not alone, I have had similar experiences!
If they couldn't get past your looks, they weren't really your true friends. Love is not jealous. I hope you find real friends that love you for you.
Same here. Im now almost 70. Kept myself together and guess what, they never let up. I have a hard time having friends. But, I've noticed that secure, professional, women who live with real purpose, not phony, fake, superficial objectives, do not push me away. It took me a long time to understand this, and to stop wanting friendships with women who could only compare themselves against me and other women.
While I love Fumi's response to this, I would've added, IF my man cheats, Id let him go. When men betray you, it's not about you at all. I watched my father and 4 brothers treat women poorly. I felt sorry for my mother and my brothers girlfriends
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If their husbands want someone else they shouldn’t want their own husbands neither
Oh wow, I’ve experienced something similar. I needed a place to stay when I was in college, went to stay with a relative (the wife being the relative), and for the rest of my stay there she was incredibly mean to me. She didn’t like that I was cool with everyone else in the house, people visiting would take to me, whatever I tried to do, she would be so mean about it to me that I was constantly on guard around her. I was there for about two months, then finally left. I wasn’t really bothered , just weirded out and exhausted that she was that way with me. Later I found out that she would call my mom and tell lies and weird suspicions about me, things that really affected my mom cos she knows the type of person I am, that I absolutely didn’t like. Now, it’s been years since I have seen her, she is always asking about me at family gatherings I’m told, later on, a lady who knows her said to my mom that there was no way I could have lived there cos the wife is like that (insecure) , and “I’m very beautiful”. I’ve never been back to the house, she likes to host and is now wondering why my mom isn’t mean to her and wonders if I shared with my mom how she was with me , my mom said, she knows what she did to you, she is living with that now, that’s why she’s always asking about you and wanting you to come over but doesn’t know how to go about it. All this to say, I am very inspired by your approach to matters, and your wisdom and grace, it’s very commendable and I know the lady looking after your son appreciates it too because it’s no an easy job, I know, I’ve worked it twice for different families when I was younger, and the women were absolutely wonderful to me, never made me feel off , supported me in anyway I needed, so I know she appreciates it too. Lovely channel, ❤.
Well said Sis. We need to be more confident in self and realistic in your approach to life. ‘Misery seeks company’ is a statement my mom would say to me when these type of statements are made. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾♥️
This was a well needed lesson 🎉 coming from a place of love and concern by both ladies ... the reality of our present day kind of validates both the initial commentor's concern and also the response from Aunty Fumi and she didn't bully the commentor in your response. Thank you.
Ms Fumi : As always, you handled this topic with class, we are the public. We don’t know the ins and outs of your personal life. We only see a very small portion of your life. We are here to support your channel ,receive the advice you give us , and support your products thank you.CONFIDENCE beats out INSECURITY & INTIMIDATION every time.We love you Fumi ! Show em how it’s done!!!!!!!
Keep your head up sis Fumy did not take it the wrong way. In this page she helps us and advice us, and other celebrities. She doesn't get mad when we advice her. I for once agree with you. ❤
Hello Fumi, you said what you had to say with such a beautiful and pure heart and the beauty of that far outshines any beautiful woman near or far. I wouldn't be surprise, despite your outter beauty, if this inner beauty is what ole sees whenever he looks at you which in it's rare and pure form can't be outshine by no other. Fumi, please trust my words, I am not being kind, I speak truth. Sometimes God send people to be a blessing to us and if you in turn want to bless Maria in areas that is necessary for the fulfillment and uplifting of her life, then by all means do as God will lead you to do.
We need to understand that a lot of women have not experienced love and they cannot phathom the thought of another women nor them experiencing it, they are used to chaos and we should look at it from an angle of them projecting their fears and hurt! It is sad but iys real! I wish her healing, love and peace ❤ All we can do is to send her sprinkles of love and hugs 🫂
It is not an old school thing for sure, it's a mentality & projection.
Well, my parents only had eyes for eachother. However my mum's cousin loved my dad too. My dad wasn't aware at all until my mum mentioned it. All my dad said was - I would never go near, let alone marry anyone whose teeth don't fit in their mouth. That subject was never mentioned again. 😂😂
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Well, I must applaud the way you handled this, Funmi! Just like you have mentioned, I am sure there is a background reason for why she said all of that. We are a product of our experiences and sometimes we tend to project even if we don't mean to. I learnt a lot from what you have said today, thank you😊
As someone who gets approached by a lot of married men, I think married women just don't want to believe that their husbands will risk their marriage over a woman they don't even know.
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Someone who can light up your day when you feel down and probably sad, should be honored every day.
I love you Fumi🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
I think that the lady may have had a bad experience 😢😢😢 I love you so much for being such a wonderful wise woman ❤❤❤❤
I agree with you! Unfortunately, some women are not girls, girls. They want other women to suffer for a “man”. I’m so happy you’re not like that! Stay blessed. 😇
Beautifully said!!!!!! And this is why I follow you. Humble and confident!!!!!
Thank you Fumi for the beautiful message. I truly appreciate what you said concerning this matter. Love from Papua New Guinea 🇵🇬 😊❤❤❤❤❤❤
That's Right FUMI....Amen Amen and Amen....Just because someone else is insecure and are experiencing issues in their marriage does not mean you have too Fumi!
Well said Mrs Fumi ! I love how she puts her points across without malice and rudeness.
Thank you Fumi for speaking it out . Our mentality, especially we Africans really needs to change . Am so glad I have been able to gain more exposure from the different nationalities i have met and hence , try to understand our ways of thinking . Africans need to learn
Fumi !!!!! You are one of the best to inform/ Teach people about respect. Self worth. And Boundaries. ❤❤ I hope young woman like me listening to this video understand that confidence is what makes you successful. Happy and blessed. If you cannot trust your husband well there no need for the marriage in the first place.
I loveee how you explain ( like the queen you are) to this lady to stop projecting her own insecurities onto others..
More blessings to you aunty Fumi!!!❤❤
Hmmmm. This is so true. Thanks aunty Fumi.
As much as it is real that there are men who aren't trustworthy around younger women, it is in no way correct for us as women to witch-hunt every other woman. I confess to having made this mistake earlier in my marriage.
But the older I get and the more secure I become in who I am and the value that I carry, the less concerned I am about being hyper-vigilant with my man. That is his responsibility not mine.
These days I enjoy complimenting other women (especially older ones). It's fun to watch a woman glow when I tell her that she is beautiful. Let's do that more for each other.
A cheater is a cheater REGARDLESS. Soo pick wisely before choosing a partner is my advice
Yes!! It’s crazy how a lot of married women are so INSECURE about their relationships.
Had a “friend” who was a coworker who was throwing a party. We were separated by a curtain and I heard another coworker asked her if she was inviting certain people to her party and she replied that she’s “not inviting any single woman to” her party. I was taken aback at first, but then realized that she had a relationship and a husband that she didn’t trust at all and how miserable that must have made her feel throughout her life. It’s really sad that a whole lot of women feel that way.
Sometimes people don't find things out until years later, unfortunately
These are the type of motivational stories I have watched and appreciated with you over the years, my dear Fumi! Thank you. I pulled back from watching the reviews you share of the 'movie stars' and their shenanigans; I don't care for that, but I recognize the variety you have created on your platform. However, this valid interpretation and commentary on the everyday contemplations of several individuals are more immediately applicable and needed. Thank you. Get those bras out my Texan babies need them. All my love! muah
Thank you sis.. Your husband just enjoying his life..He just have enough energy for Adrian..Power to youI...
I changed my comment after listening to the whole video because I agree with you.
Basically women/men cannot nor should we force anyone to be with us. We cannot control anyone really. We also should not rob people from opportunities based on our fears or insecurities.
We just have to choose to do what’s right daily and the rest will take care of itself. People who are meant to be in our lives will stay in our lives 😊
Thank you Fumi for reminding me of that
Edited: your words are gold and I truly believe the world would be positively different if 1/2 of us would think like that😘
Fumi you’re one elegant, wise, classy lady. God bless you ❤
If you know who you are from the inside, nobody can touch you from outside! The confidence. Thank you for lifting my spirit. You're so full of love Funmi. I'm encouraged ❤🎉
Congratulations on your 15 year wedding anniversary!!❤️ We are living and loving!❤️❤️❤️
Fumi I did not come here to cry but you dug into my soul where pain was hidden for years. Perhaps therapy is calling me or perhaps the good tears were my therapy. I had to collect myself in order to leave this comment. Your experience with the response from auntie not wanting you to spend the few weeks in her home because of your beauty brought up old wounds. I was told in an interview when I initially came to this country that I was too pretty to work for an attorney group. That catapult a continuous physical discrimination I felt through out my career but I soon realized that was their insecure issues and not mine. Your sanctuary is secure and no one can penetrate it. Much love!
Fumi explained that you were looking out for her and no shade towards you. It was a good topic and I loved the dialogue
❤❤❤❤ Well said Fumi....we need to be supporting each other, not tearing down.
Newsflash, if your 'man' is sleeping with the housemaid/aupair he's sleeping around anyway. About putting temptation in front of your husband!??? He does not need you to do so. He knows where to look. Get some self love. Jesus.
Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective Fumi. Many people would say to me when I was young, "When I first saw you, I thought you were stuck up." My self esteem wasn't even close to where it should have been. Yes, many women judge and reject other women, because they feel instantly threatened. It's something few want to acknowledge.
This comment it’s proof that our society is so messed up . We know your husband will never but most of us project a lot and that’s why we here . Mummy Fumi educate us we are listening 👂 ❤🙏🏼
I get hit on by married men frequently. Married women can be very naive.
We don’t know what anyone will or won’t do. We can only assume
My sista Fumi what a blessing I came across your channel!! You give soooo much of what we as black women need. Keep giving us wisdom, love and joy!!!
We are the writers of our life stories. Write it the way you want it to turn out and you won’t live in fear. Change the script if it doesn’t please you.
Always remember, one hand washes the other. Continue helping others.
Fumi! Ran across this vlog, my second time seeing you. I had subscribed and it came up on my feed. I just wanna tell you that this blessed me and I don’t take that lightly. I am 65 and I have so much knowledge like you to give to our young sisters so they can carry the torch! I have much more to say, but I am just taken aback. You are beautiful. You are wonderful and you stand like the Statue of Liberty. ITHANK you and I love you girl. Keep in touch. ❤
This is why we LOVE you Fumi. I'm so glad to call you sister!
If anyone has ever seen your husband and the way he looks at you they would know better. The love and the depth are in his eyes. He is so fully present you can see it. ❤
Trevor Noah said it best."Black women are the best"
Thank you for addressing this the way you did. We have to stop holding women accountable for the actions of men.
I agree with Fumi 100% and i am someone who grew up in a home where my dad cheated on my mom/his wife with the helpers who were hired to help. Fumi is saying free yourselves from the shackles of other people's thoughts and opinions. Know and trust yourselves, respect each human in their own essence with respect.
Powerful ...love from Kenya 🇰🇪
I don’t watch you much but I was laying in bed and came across this topic and I love how you explained this whole situation not to lash out at the person who made statement but just expressing how you felt about it. I loved the last part of it: you tolerate what you encourage, this is so true.
Always appreciate your perspective Fumi ❤ wise words
I am not through the video, but am really impressed by the response FUMI is giving. We should learn to appreciate ourselves and increase in self confidence. ❤
Thanks!
In Trinidad.... Yes Fumi...well said, spoken,well done....❤
To be fair, that suggestion is probably a reflection of lived experience.
Or reality. Some Humans do cheat. But as the poster said she wasn’t suggesting that fun is husband would cheat:
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💋💋 thank you your positive message. Hate need to stop amongst women. I don’t understand why women don’t blame their husbands who cheat
Happy 15th Anniversary. Continued best of health and happiness to you, your other half/your soul mate and Adrian. Exactly! Watching & laughing my head off from Kingston 🇯🇲
You are such a graceful, classy, beautiful, beam of light, full of experience and wisdom Fumi. Thank you for always sharing jewels and much needed positivity. You remind me so much of my mom! Love your channel 💕💕
I am a Dutch and I lived and worked with my Dutch husband of 24 years (30 years together) in Ethiopia. Never EVER thought that our (much younger and a single mum) secretary would take my husband. But it happened. Ruined a family with 5 kids (of which 3 are adopted). My staff tried to warn me. I didn't believe them. Not MY husband! A christian. a family man. But I was the one who was wrong... He DID cheat and distroyed our lives.
Ouch 🤕
Verschrikkelijk.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that the loss of a marriage and the future you imagined is devastating. Not to mention how it affects your kids and other aspects of your life. God bless you and your family.
HORRIBLE but better off without him
And that was his choice. You don't think he would have done the same with someone else? Proximity gives opportunity yes - but people of character keep their character regardless of the situation
Whewww! Preach Fumi! I applaud you for using this as a teachable moment and pointing out how to lean into our feminine strength NOT old societal ideas that just feed insecurities. I'm wishing long life, happiness and prosperity to you,Ulla and Adrian.❤
Beautiful Fumi, respecting other women like that, thank you
FUMI! I absolutely live and love the fact that you walk in Godly confidence and respond with grace and class with a lesson! All of my love!❤❤
I think every household is different.
Some men and women have integrity and some do not.
Know your spouse.
Also attempt to know the people you bring in your household.
Every situation is different.
And it's definitely unfortunate that some men are not trustworthy and also that some women are not trustworthy.
We should all use discernment in our own households.
God bless your beautiful household Fumi.
Fumi, all I can say is WOW!!! You just spoke SO Much WISDOM, OMG - I can only hope the people seeing this episode have the ears to hear what you’ve shared. I have much Love & Respect for YOU ✅❤️✅
5/12/24 Shalom Fumi WOW WOW WOW Father Yah Protect and Bless this household HalleluYah 🙏🏾💕
Thank you so much aunty Fumi for addressing this insecurities. I have suffered because of my beauty,am not welcome in many tables, it's painful!!!