Insomnia is a paradox and the solution to it is paradoxical too (watch until the end)
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I tell my brain that sleep will come. I don’t concentrate on my fear of not falling asleep because as per your teachings sleep is a passive process, sleep happens when sleep decides it will happen so it is out of my hands. Thank you so much for helping me understand that Alina.
It truly is so, so important that people struggling with sleep can be helped by seeing and understanding this bigger picture. You are helping many people so much.
❤ thank you. Its been a looong journey for me getting back to "normal" sleep. "Letting go" is amazing in all aspects of life.
I'm crying tears of relief finding your channel after only 2 months of insomnia as a result of a couple acutely stressful life events.
Thank you so much, this is the first content I've found that speaks to the psychological fear and anxiety that feeds this without teaching CBTi which only feeds my anxiety.
I will you existed 8 years ago when I started to have insomnia… I realize that everything I tried since actually made the problem worse and created sleep OCDs
I've never thought about it like this, thank you so much
this has to be best video i have seen about the topic especially about bringing awareness to sleep. P.S : very pretty eyes.
Your channel is by far the most helpful I've found. You bring actual understanding of the issue. Amazing!
Thank you so much! Im glad that you found it helpful ❤️
just watching your videos helps me feel calmer
Wow, this was the smartest and the most insightful explanation on insomnia I've encountered so far. Haven't "resolved" my insomnia yet but this was refreshing, thank you.
how are u now?
Thanks! Alina
Your a great coach!
Hi Ali, Thank you for your valuable thoughts.
I have been going through this fear for decades. My outdoor plan canceled many times because if i don't sleep a night my fear and dread will occur.
Thanks so much you analysed so well :) Hope you will help me get through the journey
Suscribed with hopefullness and thank you
What type of insomnia do you have? Onset or maintenance
Had a traumatic event in October,.. changed my life.
.... i don't sleep anymore. I go for days without now, if I get 1-2 hrs im lucky. I don't have my career job anymore. I have anxiety, insomnia,.... and depression. Life no longer is enjoyable. It's just suffering 24/7
Hi! I'm going on a trip and I have to sleep with my mom. She snores and wakes up earlier. I feel somewhat afraid but more sad I won't get the sleep I want or need. Do you have a video on snoring or sleeping with others in general especially on trips?
Hi alina. Could you do a video goi g on holiday or a trip away from home during insomnia recovery journey? I'm going on holiday in in a few months. Although I'm starting to do a little better it's always in my mind that I have this upcoming holiday. I don't want it to be ruined. I know that it's this way of thinking that will keep me stuck but it's just so hard. I've been thinking of cancelling but I don't want to let this insomnia control my life. I would really appreciate your input ❤
So the key is to not get a mindset of "this is a crisis because I woke up" and relax. I think watching an easy movie might help.
Hi Coach,
So I read someones comment somewhere where they were stuck in a loop of insomnia. 4-5 days of no sleep followed by a day or two of sleep and then no sleep again. This had been going on for a while. In this situation, the person has had sufficient exposure to wakefulness. As per him, the first two days weren’t anxiety driven but the nights that followed after were. In such a situation how does one tackle the situation.
Long term insomnia that has dealt some damage will need additional trauma therapy instead of just treating the anxiety behind it. Which mean exposure with the fear will be needed.
The most difficult thing for the mind, the consciousness is to letting go and at The end I really that shall not fight insomnia. One day, one moment it will be eliminated Alone as no one will take care of it….
I'm really struggling with sleep recently.. waking up every hour. I am less anxious though, which is amazing in itself!
I am not sleeping since it's already morning time and I want to stay up longer until my body is calmer and I could sleep more than an hour haha... so I'm gonna attempt to simply live my life and show my brain it is safe.
It is safe but I m scared because of the health issues which are caused by insomnia 😢😢😢
Anxiety going away is a sign of recovery. You’ll be sleeping soon.
@@Thebaron666your comment gave mw so much hope🥰😭🤣
i feel foggy and drowsy during the day all the time and i feel derealized what can i do?
Thank you again for providing wonderful content. I have had chronic insomnia for 3 years. I gave up the whole sleep hygiene, sleepy teas, melatonin. They never helped. I gave up worrying about it, but the insomnia will not go away. I deal with generalized anxiety. My Dr wants me to give anxiety medication a chance. Do you feel that living with generalized anxiety can cause the chronic anxiety?
God Bless you
Hi Michael, you know, I was always wondering where was the line between generalized anxiety and chronic anxiety and all other anxiety disorders. I thought before I had generalized anxiety and what I discovered was that I was using the same coping strategies on all life events. What if all types of anxieties are just uninvestigated beliefs and fears that need to be uncovered and faced? 🤔 Can't say much about the medication and - but as far as I know there hasn't been invented a pill that would disable our safety mechanism (i.e. fear)
The researchers watch people sleep, the pills do not do much. Sometimes people are sleeping, but they think they are not asleep.
I am really struggling with sleeping for last 8 years ....fully dependent on pills..
Without pills i have to put on so many efforts but failed every time which results in all day long tiredness...so frustrating it is .. i cannot describe in words😔...
For me night passes so fast...whenever it is 12 pm or 1 am then my fear for next day tiredness builds up..
Please help me 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I have the same problem the last five years , did ypu find a splution?😊
I am from Bangladesh.big fan of you😊
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I can’t play the video? Gives an error message…..
In the stuck in the loop video, you show us that breaking the vicious circle by accepting that awake fullness is not the right way to do. But in this video you emphasize that accepting awake fullness is the solution to insomnia.
Could you elaborate more on this point?
Thanks
Thanks for your comment! I will try to clarify this because I think that my "loop" video was misunderstood. In the video i was talking about how trying to break the cycle is what keeps us in the cycle. And when we try hard to accept or try hard to feel at peace in oder to break the cycle, we sre actually adding more pressure. Because we are using the acceptance as an effort to escape unpleasant emotions instead of showing the brain that it is okay to experience any outcome. The key word here is "trying hard" and that's what I said in relation to acceptance in that video. Acceptance can't be forced, because then it is more likely to turn out to become resistance. So when it is impossible to accept something at the moment, it can be more helpful to let go of trying hard to accept. That is the path to the real acceptance we are talking about here :) Hope this makes sense! I was explaining this more in depth in my blog post www.sleepcoach.sk/how-to-practice-acceptance/ i hope it will bring more clarity!
Thanks! It’s very clear to me now! By the way , I just try paradoxical intensional and I truly feel much less anxiety! Your comment on awake fullness is great?
Hey Alina.. I don't feel any twitches n jerkings now anymore bt I still can't fall asleep. What can I do should I just ignore n rest my body?
I think the problem is in thinking that lack of twitching would produce sleep. But it can’t! Sleep comes from no expectations whatsoever!
Hi i got to a point wea I’d wake up at night and fall back asleep within a minute,, but I’ve lost that again wake up and can’t fall back to sleep,, should i just continue what i was doing waking up and befriending wakefulness?? Sleep window 11pm to 7:30
You didn’t lose it, you began to feel scared of losing it. Work with that fear and you will discover that that experience has never left you but it just got covered up with a layer of hyperarousal.
Hi, did you have maintenance insomnia because I’m struggling with that currently
Quick question, how much sleep per night on average do these people with insomnia get?? Because I seen some people say they barely get 5 hours which is more than enough in my opinion. I get on average 0 hours of sleep per night and never feel sleepy at all. I literally get minutes of sleep per night and never get “huge” chunks like many people claim after going multiple nights of not sleeping.
I'm going through the same thing bro.... It's been more than a month and I don't remember the last time I fell asleep.. I'm surprised I haven't went crazy. My body feels it tho
@mrfernandog123 how are u now?
How R you now?
So essentially, authentic outcome independence?
Hi Daniel, not sure I understood the question but authenticity/honesty is important for the journey too
The solution you are talking about is exactly the intent bof cognitive behaviour therapy so that confirms that CBT could be effective if done by the right therapist. All you are saying is to twist your beliefs and fear about insomnia and wakefulness so the brain would perceive it as less danger. Changing an automatic mindset or an unconscious belief is the hardest thing a human being can do… the solution itself is frightening and induce a lot of fear cause how are you gonna master that giant automatic system that is out of your control! I might sound negative sorry but this is where my thoughts are, any advice ?
Hello dear, i have question , I really depressed about my situation, Have you ever been in a situation where when you wake up you feel like you haven't slept for a minute? This feeling is very bad and very tired and makes me depressed.
Unfortunately now I can’t sleep , I really depressed .I’m exhausted And felling fatigue, my brain feel like forgot sleeping, i have black circle under my eyes, zero sleep , After days with zero sleep , i sleep just sleep for 5 minutes with awake mind , I don’t know what I should do i loosing everything
i also have this
yesterday i slept 4 houres but it feels like i slept nothing
Good approach to the problem with insomnia
Does this apply as well to "terminal insomnia"? This seems like more of a physiological outcome of aging which may require other measures?
Do you talk to people like 1-1 your a really good person to listen to
Hi! In the description to this video there is a link to contact me :)
@@FearlessSleephey alina, I tried the 1 - 1 but it said Page not found
@@vladradu8875 Hi Vlad, sorry for the inconvenience! It is currently under reconstruction but hopefully soon it will be up and running 🤞In the meantime, feel free to get in touch via DM on my instagram: instagram.com/sleeptalks.ali/
@@FearlessSleep thank you
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