Video just came up on my RUclips feed...looking to get married, but I'm a motor mouth and I want my wife to be able to know she can come to me and share her heart...I do believe that God has put this video in my face, so I can practice listening skills instead of talking 😄
I remember someone asking me for help dealing with their severely depressed relative. They had already jumped to the "correct the facts" stage so they asked me, "Should I compliment him?" To which I immediately responded, "No! First, listen. He may not be in a space where he'll be able to accept the compliment. Many people going through a depressive episode will reject all compliments out of hand. So, no, don't compliment. Start by listening and exploring their pain. You can pay close attention throughout that conversation to determine when the right time to compliment is but it may not be now. Listen first!" Apparently that was really helpful :) I honestly don't know why lessons like these aren't taught in schools.
Simon's insights on creating a 'listening space' always resonates with me. As someone who works with industry experts, I've seen firsthand how powerful it can be to simply let someone feel heard before jumping into problem-solving mode. Great food for thought!
I achieved something I really wanted yesterday. I told my friend about it, and he almost immediately talked about something he wasn't happy with me. I don't feel that good anymore. I'd appreciate if he had waited at least after a day. Thanks Simon
May you keep living a beautiful life. 🕊 This whole part has reminded me of a saying by Teal Swan that goes like the following "Intimacy can be broken down as Into-Me-See. It is to see into, to feel into, to listen to, so as to innerstand someone else, aswell as yourself". Thank you so much for being an inspiration!
Thanks for sharing these video insights on youtube. They are quite excellent & very helpful. This one reminds me of the book "How to Make Friends and Influence People", by Andrew Carnegie. He spoke of when someone calls who is very angry & they just want to unload. He said don't start correcting or arguing with them. Let them voice all of their anger and whatever feelings they have. After they have let it all out, then you can speak with them in more rational fashion. I was amazed at how well that worked.
As an international student at Kent Business School, University of kent,I would like to thank the secretary of state Bridget Philipson for her unwavering support and commitment to international students.Your vision of an inclusive and welcoming Britain inspires and reassures both current and new international students as we contribute to the global community and the development of UK Universities.
I am a very emotional listener if someone tells me something they went through I typically take that unto me we just had an education on that it’s called vicarious trauma where worker gets affected by listening. If you listen for the sake of listening that’s easy but if you absorb that is harmful to one’s health.
Jordan Peterson says you cannot steal other people's problems. I think that's a great way of framing that tendency so that it sounds just as destructive as it is.
@@mickeyconnor830 verse in the bible says all who have come before me are thieves and robbers. If you steal speak for yourself I don’t need anybody problems if I do get involved if I choose to do it than that means you are special otherwise I don’t waste my time in vain for joy stealers and energy vampires 😊
Letting the other person say how they feel is a good start. However, this usually also is the end. Just because you let somebody tell you how they feel, does not mean that things don't have to change somehow. If nothing is changed, you don't tell them to their face that their feelings don't matter, but you tell them with actions. If you do that people will withdraw, quite-quit or maybe even turn against the company and seek how to do the most damage until they found a new job.
Well yeah basicly when someone in emotional state anything you said wont enter their head. And the worst part of it is if they cant control their ego... man
I just want to be able to at least talk the way he talks (which i know of course is a big thing to ask) let alone the way he pulls the attention of the audience or listener
Video just came up on my RUclips feed...looking to get married, but I'm a motor mouth and I want my wife to be able to know she can come to me and share her heart...I do believe that God has put this video in my face, so I can practice listening skills instead of talking 😄
god did nothing, the algorythm did
Its algoritm who pushed on you.God sent Bible and you rejected it😅
I remember someone asking me for help dealing with their severely depressed relative. They had already jumped to the "correct the facts" stage so they asked me, "Should I compliment him?"
To which I immediately responded, "No! First, listen. He may not be in a space where he'll be able to accept the compliment. Many people going through a depressive episode will reject all compliments out of hand. So, no, don't compliment. Start by listening and exploring their pain. You can pay close attention throughout that conversation to determine when the right time to compliment is but it may not be now. Listen first!"
Apparently that was really helpful :)
I honestly don't know why lessons like these aren't taught in schools.
Simon's insights on creating a 'listening space' always resonates with me. As someone who works with industry experts, I've seen firsthand how powerful it can be to simply let someone feel heard before jumping into problem-solving mode. Great food for thought!
I achieved something I really wanted yesterday. I told my friend about it, and he almost immediately talked about something he wasn't happy with me. I don't feel that good anymore. I'd appreciate if he had waited at least after a day. Thanks Simon
Always good. Always worthwhile. Thank you.
May you keep living a beautiful life. 🕊
This whole part has reminded me of a saying by Teal Swan that goes like the following "Intimacy can be broken down as Into-Me-See. It is to see into, to feel into, to listen to, so as to innerstand someone else, aswell as yourself".
Thank you so much for being an inspiration!
There is power in the pause. 👍🏾👍🏾
☕️🥇
I Love this Man. Always giving value like no other. Keep them coming Simon.
Thank you!
This is an awesome reminder! I love the easy recommendations and will practice them!
Thanks for sharing these video insights on youtube. They are quite excellent & very helpful.
This one reminds me of the book "How to Make Friends and Influence People", by Andrew Carnegie. He spoke of when someone calls who is very angry & they just want to unload. He said don't start correcting or arguing with them. Let them voice all of their anger and whatever feelings they have. After they have let it all out, then you can speak with them in more rational fashion. I was amazed at how well that worked.
Absolutely amazing
As an international student at Kent Business School, University of kent,I would like to thank the secretary of state Bridget Philipson for her unwavering support and commitment to international students.Your vision of an inclusive and welcoming Britain inspires and reassures both current and new international students as we contribute to the global community and the development of UK Universities.
I am a very emotional listener if someone tells me something they went through I typically take that unto me we just had an education on that it’s called vicarious trauma where worker gets affected by listening. If you listen for the sake of listening that’s easy but if you absorb that is harmful to one’s health.
Jordan Peterson says you cannot steal other people's problems. I think that's a great way of framing that tendency so that it sounds just as destructive as it is.
@@mickeyconnor830 verse in the bible says all who have come before me are thieves and robbers. If you steal speak for yourself I don’t need anybody problems if I do get involved if I choose to do it than that means you are special otherwise I don’t waste my time in vain for joy stealers and energy vampires 😊
Going through this issue right now. So glad I watched this.
So true👍 So many times we don't remember about a right timing for listening or responding.🙏
Literally perfect timing.
Active listening.
Yes, true!
Very true. Listening is one of the basics that most people get wrong.
I love this!
it is a time for everything. yes
you have to learn it.
It is one the best strategy that helps every person who are in need of emotional support...
Man I need this!!!
So very valuable..takes some patience also 😅
Letting the other person say how they feel is a good start. However, this usually also is the end.
Just because you let somebody tell you how they feel, does not mean that things don't have to change somehow. If nothing is changed, you don't tell them to their face that their feelings don't matter, but you tell them with actions. If you do that people will withdraw, quite-quit or maybe even turn against the company and seek how to do the most damage until they found a new job.
if we live like that we will change the society for good
Absolutely ❤ it!! I'm in HR 😂
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The audio around 3:00. 'I cant lie' is messed up. Please dont use AI to audio correct or adjust. It sounds horrible.
Sounds like, in this example, the coworker needed someone to vent to. Believe me, not everyone just wants to be heard.
Well yeah basicly when someone in emotional state anything you said wont enter their head. And the worst part of it is if they cant control their ego... man
I just want to be able to at least talk the way he talks (which i know of course is a big thing to ask) let alone the way he pulls the attention of the audience or listener