To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life.
If you’re reading this comment, it’s too late, you’ve already been immensely blessed with an abundance of love, wealth, luck, health, joy, and whatever else your heart desires!! I’m so proud of you for surviving everything you’ve been through. This is your sign to go after what your heart most desires for the highest good, it’s your time....
After surviving a negative relationship with a narcissist for 19 years, I know deep in my heart and soul I'm ready to leave and move on. I finally realize that I love myself too much to keep allowing someone to verbally abuse me on a daily basis. I just want peace of mind for my well being as a person. I'm not the horrible names he calls me every single day. God will guide me from now on
you will make it!!! There is a fire burning deep down in you that will help you out. Connect with it on a daily basis, you made the first step, recognizing your situation. Once you breath freedom, the fear will leave
First of all I want to let my family know that I love them. They make sure to let me know when I am getting lost. I trust them. They trusted me cooking in all my social discomfort conditions. I am socially awkward. With other conditions. If we can share, maybe nobody will ever regret that night. Shout out to my youngest brother. Love you kid.
My struggle has always been that I worried what others think of me. My worries of not belonging. I have lived in the us for over 30 years but always feel alone. Once I heard not to place too much in your feelings. Not sure if that is correct. However Brene Brown is so talking to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
This video has been a blessing to everyone in here i will also like you to know without you working on what you learnt nothing will work out please try and read this and see how i put my faith to work and everything workout cool through the help of research.
I feel incredibly fortunate for having made wise financial choices that have had a life-altering impact. As a single mother resied in Toronto, Canada, I successfully purchased my second home in September. If everything continues to progress positively, my aspiration is to retire next year at the age of 50.
"I have experienced significant returns since I started engaging in financial transactions with .Jenny Pamogas Canaya Her approach to financial management is truly outstanding, offering remarkable insights and tactics that have greatly contributed to my success."
Jenny Pamogas Canaya is the coach that guides, you probably might've come across her before I found her through a Newsweek report, she's quite known in her field, look-her up.!!!
Dear Lord, as we rise to meet each new day, please let us be filled with Your spirit. Let us spread love, joy, peace, goodness, and faithfulness wherever we go. Let us desire to become more like you and to worship you in all we do. Help us desire these things so much more than the sin that entices us. Thank you for always going before us. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
For most of my life, I had believed that my worth and value was based on what others thought of me. I have finally learned to have faith in myself, and although I have always been single and have lived alone, I am no longer lonely and am happy to let go of all else, to trust myself and my own feelings. This is a lovely talk. Thank you. Yes, going through the wilderness, the fears and tears that brought me here, has been my healing. Best wishes to all! 🙂
I am single too, I am happy that I found this video which told me that I am not selfish IF During this time I never really care what people's opinions are about me. I am free, financially Independent and I always decide things for myself. No one can control me. So, I got support n validation from video. Lm not arrogant or selfish😂😂😂
Even happy couples need to have their own time. Two people dont come togeather to be a single person. They compliment eachother. However, you dont need to be complimented because you can always build yourself to meet that want or need.
My thoughts: • Standing alone is easier than standing with the wrong people • Being logistically close to someone, does not mean you're not standing alone • Standing alone at the right time builds strength, resolve, and may attract the people you need
I think you mean standing alone is BETTER than standing with the wrong people. But it's also less extrinsically rewarding in my experience. The idea that it will "attract the people you need" seems like a slight bit of wishful thinking.
However much we find ourselves in a circumstance of being part of a cozy, all-trusting group, a cosmic mind as some people call it, as we grow older we will find invariably that there are reasons that make us different in some way or the other, from those that are our innermost circle. These could be lifestyle choices, a greater preference for solitude and reflection, or, the saddest of them all, a health issue that makes us less and less a desirable person to have close, or that even family find tiresome, irritating, or a sheer nuisance. If these don't form the state of being alone, then the most inevitable of all truths - death - does it in the bluntest way possible.
“Don’t walk through the world looking for evidence that you’re not enough because you’ll always find it. Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry those things in the our hearts. I will negotiate a contract with you but I’m not going to negotiate who I am with you because then I am fit in for you but I will not belong to myself. That is a betrayal I’m not willing to do. Love this.
Yes, this explains exactly what Jesus taught us. When I feel the wilderness it is hard and question why why why....but it's my time of reflection without all the noise of what others expect from me. To find myself again! So grateful that toxic people were weeded out but it wasn't easy. Thank you for this beautiful message.
I love her SO MUCH! And this is what I needed to hear today as I've been bummed out about something my manager said to me yesterday. I felt underestimated and misunderstood, like she didn't see all my devotion to the work. But I'm not going to let it get to me. I also saw a video from Abraham Hicks before this one that said, just be who you are and change for nobody. Then when people try to get you to be someone different (so they can feel better), just step back and watch the show. In other words, allow them to have their opinion but don't engage with it. I love these two ladies so much. 🥰🙏
she's a multimillionaire now and she doesn't. give. a. rat's. ass about you. She's an insider and the lizard brains in charge of industry pay her to delude people like you. Wake up - there's no hope for your working life. Unless you have wealthy parents, you'll work until you can no longer work, then "retire" (work a job in supermarket or hardware store, shuffling on old sore feet because the BS artists that make you need the balls that brenee BS brown is selling have milked the country, company, tax-base dry. They're retire to tropical paradises or Jackson Hole, Switzerland .. . . and leave you (and me) shuffling around a supermarket with a long stare, imagining life after work - greasy TV dinner, blurry TV, and knowing that come 6am tomorrow you have to go and shuffle around on the supermarket floor stocking shelves.
"Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated by other people". To those of us,who have been made to feel less than by other people...remember that sentiment...make it your mantra.The last comment,brought tears to my eyes for so many reasons. Thank you..this discussion was beautifully meaningful to me.🙏💖🐺
I love Brené. Anytime I am having a hard time, she has answers for me. It helps me remember that when I am not fighting a battle, someone else is, and to remember how that felt. Remain kind. This too shall pass.
rubbish. YOu want to believe that there's a fix, and brown and her acolytes are happy to hawk their kool aid to you. There's nothing there. It's repackaged garbage; she's an insider siphoning money off companies who rely on hucksters like her to keep the proles deluded and hopeful.
Brené Brown leaves us speechless, in awe, With wisdom that strikes like a thunderous draw. Her words ignite fires, deep within the soul, Leaving us inspired, with a newfound goal. In her speech, echoes of courage ring clear, Dispelling doubts, banishing fear. For in vulnerability, we find our might, Brené Brown's speech, an illuminating light. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
This poem eloquently praises Brené Brown's ability to captivate and inspire her audience, emphasizing the profound impact of her message on vulnerability and courage. Many thanks for your creativity 😘
Not being willing to share other peoples stories with your boss makes them realise that you are unable to be manipulated. Listening to Brené speak about Braving has helped me understand certain aspects of those I refuse to negotiate with. I’m understanding that I refuse to negotiate my values, integrity and my soul
Had a dream years ago Where a scripture was given to me out of a dead sleep. When I opened the bible and went to the page , it was the scripture that said do not be conformed to this world. I knew God was speaking to me directly. It was pretty humbling ❤
@hbkkashleyy1685 This happens to me with Oracle cards, synchronicity is everywhere when one is open to it. Like all the seemingly random hearts in everything that keeps showing up for me, puddles, food, etc., literally everywhere. Unity consciousness, we are all connected.
I was once peed off with life and went to bed ranting at the sky that night. God definitely heard every word because I woke the following day and my head kept automatically turning to face a Bible lying on the bedroom floor. In irritation at having to get up I picked up the Bible, held the spine on my palm and let it fall open. I found myself staring at Isiah 45.9.....“Woe to those who quarrel with their Maker, those who are nothing but potsherds among the potsherds on the ground. Does the clay say to the potter, ‘What are you making?’ Does your work say, ‘The potter has no hands’? I threw the duvet over my head, curled up in a ball and just kept repeating 'No no no, I'm sorry'. LOL
Wow! I am true to myself! I never gave myself credit for being brave enough to leave and go out on my own. I just knew I could not live the way I was or I would suffocate. I need to rethink some things that I thought were negatives but are not. Thank you.
I know I belong I am who Ive been looking for But on a grander scale, I am a manifestation of the Divine and Everything I will ever Love...will pass, includung myself...Are We Precious...is this Life Precious...Hell Yes
Thank you for this! Wasn't looking for it - it popped up while watching something else. God brought it my way to help me process someone close to me recently asking me to talk less about God. Mind you, it's not ever telling other people if I think they should do this or that. When I talk about God, it's on my own behalf, and what He's doing in MY life! And yet this family member is offended and wants me to leave God out of my stories/situations, etc when talking with them. This video was such a blessed reminder to remain me. In my case, it's not FOR me, it's for God. That said, God uses keeping me who I am, as a way to not have me snuffed out. I do it for Him, and He loves me, and holds me up when others would shut me down. It is beautiful. It IS scary to stand alone! But thank you for reminding me that it's brave. And what I have to remember is that really I am never alone, as God my Father is always with me. This video was such a pleasant surprise. Thank you 🙂
Her synthetesation of Ms. Angelou's work changed my life. I'm sitting next to The Gifts of Imperfection right now. It's still one of my favorite Brene pieces of work and a very healing book. Highly recommend.
Same! Best decision I ever made. I’ve actually done this a few times throughout my life especially in my career. If my values don’t align with the culture of the organization or the people, I’m out.
and some of us have been truly blessed to be coming from the wilderness. We resisted that pier pressure & urge to 'fit in & comply'. We listened to what was feeding our soul by being comfortably to sit alone and absorb nature's energy. To many we looked like the outsider as we stayed 'isolated' from conforming to what is their normal. When Covid hit and everyone panicked because they didn't know how to sit with themselves, we didn't miss a beat and embraced the qualities and lifestyles that are our normal. It is more than okay to be different, be independent from those that are sadly crippled to feel ralled into a corporate way to be accepted. We have battled it from the opposite direction and as you grow through the seasons of life, you enter the final one of being carried and cared for because you honored that time of being content by yourself ❤
the transformative wisdom of Brené Brown. Renowned for her groundbreaking work on vulnerability, courage, and empathy, Brené's teachings have touched countless lives.
I commend your bravery and I think this is a time in history when people realize they have to stop swallowing what is out there because we are at the mercy of toxicity
Gosh, I miss Maya. What a gift she has been to my life. If only she knew..... Her memory is so precious. I'm so glad that she shared her gifts with the world. She's now a part of us...I understand this topic at a soul level. Brene Brown is a phenomenal woman as well! This topic blessed me today. Thank you. 💜💜💜💜 6:58
the word you're looking for is "numbing", "deluding" "misdirecting". come on - be realistic. your a-hole boss is still going to press down on your and brenee will be nowhere near to help. She travels first class, is out of your league
I've never experienced a truly loving, reciprocal romantic relationship. I do have my parents and friendships... but 'my crew'? Someone who voluntarily has my back? This is something I've never really experienced. So for some of us, we have the blessing of having to find a sense of belonging that isn't dependant on a spouse or our children. We have to dig so frickin deep... to find a sense of belonging that is cosmic. Because we really have no choice. I would love to find my person... but I'm 46 and it just doesn't seem to be my destiny in this lifetime. Try being vulnerable in the face of repeated rejection, whenever you allowed yourself to be vulnerable in the past. I do still have the courage, amazingly, to keep showing up however, and speaking my truth. In the meantime, anchoring into self love and a connection with spirit is what is sustaining me.
Keep showing up. Please. I ‘think’ the lesson, at least for me, is falling in love with myself. I couldn’t attract genuine love until I gave it to myself. IOW - I couldn’t give something away that I didn’t have…. still working on it. You are worth it. It’s hardest when it matters the most. XOXO
Thank you Brenee Brown!!! At long last someone is describing me in a way that makes my soul feel peaceful! Thank you Brenee for being so honest and courageous! That’s about the only way to inner peace and happiness!
she's a multi millionaire - you know that, right? She doesn't give a crap about you. You want to know who cares about you, really? Your family, true friends, children (if you have any). this is garbage
Belonging to oneself is indeed crucial for a healthy and fulfilling life. When we prioritize our self-worth over external validation and societal expectations, we can truly embrace our authentic selves and live a life that aligns with our values and goals. However, it is also important to acknowledge that humans are social creatures and need a sense of belonging and connection with others. Striking a balance between individuality and social connection is key. We can belong to ourselves while forming meaningful relationships and communities supporting and empowering us.
I will negotiate contracts with you but I will not negotiate my worth and my belonging with you. If I did I might fit in with you, but I would no longer belong to myself and I am not going to take that risk and betray myself. Braving - boundaries, reliability, accountability, vault, integrity, non-judgement and generosity- those are the foundations of TRUST without which there is no safe and healthy relationship. Brilliantly said. Thank you Brene Brown. God bless you ❤
As pointed out We fill in the blanks creatively, our minds make it up. Please remember that, and thats what the sages have always done and we believe them because we cant stand not knowing
I saw Brene last month in Austin, Texas and she is her authentic self ALL THE TIME. I learned so much during her Keynote speech and then this one is HUGE. ❤
lemme guess . . . you lap up the mcconaughy motivational horse manure too. brown and mattie-boy are both multi millionaires and they DON'T CARE ABOUT YOU OR ME.
This makes a great deal of sense! It is amazing how far people will go to make you "not" belong to yourself for a good laugh, power, etc. but you must remember "I am the wilderness" and you can not have my part unless I choose to share it with you. People that are false, lie, cheat, etc. are the one's that drive me to anger because I have worked so hard to be the opposite of that. However, it is not MY choice what other's should strive to be. If they want to be that, then I should be quiet and not argue it. Assuming positive intent keeps you in line even when it is not, that is the beauty of it.
I try to live by the only reason you should be looking down on someone is when you're helping them up. You taught me that Brene and I must admit I do have a generous assumption of people however people have broken that over and over again with me and I find it hard to accept and have been treated like a doormat several times because of asserting myself and then having others gaslight me and push me to a point where I then have acted in a way that is not living up to my morals and values or in my integrity and then I have to find forgiveness for myself all over again. Do what is easy life will become hard, Do what is hard life will become easy. 'Read that again'
garbage. She's selling pie-in-the-sky. Paid to make worker-bees thing there's hope (there isn't). Your and my future has been sold to the highest bidder, and there's nothing at the end for oyu. The boss took it all
If you ever listen to anything while reading comments, let it be this - go to borlest and read the book whispers of manifestation, then come back and thank me
I must echo your sentiments & particularly the "tone of your voice" comment. The tone, diction, and cadence with which she speaks, for me, is so comforting, if not mesmerizing. It's so disarming and nonathoratative that it allows the content of her message to be received and processed in such a productive way. It comes across as unscripted and completely genuine; not as her 'teaching', but rather as 'sharing'. Beautifully done and a wonderful transfer of her message.
nonsense - she's a huckster and this is flimflam, repackaged garbage from every self-help noise the world has had inflicted on it for the last 50 years. Snake oil, kool aid
Love this video. Brene speaks authentically from her heart. Beautiful and true. Wonderful to hear. Love you Brene. Thank you Nils Welham in referencing Brene to me.
I belong everywhere and no where. :::Goosebumps:::: :::tears:::: Going through it with a tyrant of a boss and voicing my opinion and if they decide I don't belong just because I have a different opinion, then that's on them.
This is good. "I am the wilderness", as well. And some of us, hopefully most of us will not feel we belong here because we don't. In fact, we belong to God and we are not home yet. We are passing through this wilderness albeit with His spirit in us I believe.
I want to tell you about a time when I took your book “Wilderness” that I purchased. I put the book in the trash, put the can on the street for pickup the night before. The next morning I was running down the street after that book. Yes, I retrieved, and walked through the wilderness literally with the book in my wilderness pack.❤
that's what my boss said to me. He's a brenee groupie. Then he stabbed me in the back to cover for his serial mistakes. SO much for assuming positive intent. she's a huckster
There will be times when standing alone feels too hard, too scary, and we'll doubt our ability to make our way through the uncertainty. Someone somewhere will say 'don't do it. You don't have what it takes to survive the wilderness. This is when you reach deep into your wild heart and remind yourself, I am the wildness.
Same..... I appreciate Angelou for sharing all that she had to say to the world, because of the situations, and circumstances that her one unique human spirit has undergone, lived through, & transformed because of. Brene Brown's work is great at a soul level.... Also, I can never forget Oprah Winfrey. She, who has given a stage to so many gifted/driven individuals through her life's work. Some people walk through life, and heal people/situations almost by default, by learning to first heal themselves through determination/necessity. 💓💓💗💓💓
So amazing and inspiring. When we begin to have faith in ourselves the challenges that we face actually become easier to accept. They may seem greater in sense of difficulty but faith allows us to accept and with this we may find the way to overcome or resolve the issue more gracefully. ❤️
you, and your the addicts you're counseling etc. are worth 10 of brenee and her crap. Repeat that 10 times. Your and their grit, and the will to keep going despite everything. . . . infinitely more valuable and real than her self-help garbage.
I’ve told people since as long as I can recall “I believe in everything and nothing” and people were always so confused by that. But to me it was about not choosing a side. I was about belonging to me. In the best ways.
This is inspiring and thought provoking and divinely guided to see this only moments after achieving what I thought never possible. Thank you for sharing this inspiration and encouragement.
Believe in your vision of what you want to accomplish in your life. Don;t let anyone bully you, you have a voice and continue to use it. The tools that you are learning either positive or negative will help you in your future to make the right choice for your life. Believe me you might feel that you are in the dark right now, but the light will be seen, Just have faith, and remember that this too shall pass.
I don't belong anywhere, but I feel loved and accepted because the same conception that conceived nature also conceived me. Everything is connected, so we all belong. We suffer when we refuse to let go of our grief and our heartbreaks. Let go, forgive, and go on. As the lady says, "It's a new dawn; it's a new day". When you take a deep breath, hold it in as you gather all your blues together and release them in a long, slow exhale into the atmosphere. Wave your troubles goodbye because you won't live another minute longer holding on to them.
To Love God, To serve God an to know God. Do that, you will love yourself, help others. Always be smiling. Yes still be yourself. Hard to do raised blue collar, rancher, farmer, cowboy.. We eat barb wire an spit out staples. But yes, Love is key. I think we do that in my background but its hidden deeply an seen as weakness. Just now Learning it is a Strength. God Bless!
Brene, you are my Maya Angelou. Every time I revisit your work, I embed it deeper and deeper until it's in my bones. (I love Maya Angelou too though 😊)
Wow!!!! I wish I could communicate my thoughts as eloquently as you!! My inside feelings and thoughts don’t resonate with what I try to say outwardly. The only good part of this is I still have some confidence that I am true to myself at least 99.96 % of my time!!!! Sometimes I must back down especially at work. But I rationalize my behavior with it’s not that important and is it my ego getting into the act!!!😂
That makes sense now. When I rest/meditate I say to myself, "I am exactly where I need to be. I don't need to believe it, but I need to feel it." Then I will have an internal dialogue with myself between disbelief and belief. It doesn't take long to feel it, then I just sit there with it and breathe. Then just passively listen to yourself. But pretend to listen, don't get lost in the thoughts and just familiarize yourself with the feeling of being exactly where you need to be. I belong to me. I am responsible for me, first because then I can be responsible for others. Sometimes it's okay to ask where the oxygen mask is and how it works. Because you are more important than what makes you vulnerable. But, that's okay because we all belong to the earth. We were born through the choices of others, not by our own. You didn't have a choice in being born, but you do choose how you live. Be kinder to yourself than you are to others. And remember that if it can't be measured, it doesn't exist.
I love the positive atmosphere you create in your videos. It's a breath of fresh air in the mental health space. Looking forward to more uplifting content!
You are the tree and the tree is you. The limitless infinite self that connects us all at the end and the beginning. Don't look away from anything, until you see it clearly and find yourself. Look into the physiological sacred oil processes. The trees speak to us all the time. We just pushed ourselves so far away we forgot, but we can remember.
Thank you for articulating that which I was unable to , describing my own current journey. God bless you. I felt so alone and isolated and was beginning to entertain thoughts of uniqueness, with what I was experiencing. Again thank you for helping me not feel so alone.
Wow! what an interesting subject got me lost in my thoughts; I never belong anywhere, or to a group of people but i always felt being part of something bigger, i feel safer alone (as survival sort of speech) but this never altered my love for humanity and my soul purpose of empowering others. Thank you for this.
I have a hard times with people who really needs others to confirm, have the same opinion, people who don't want to take accountability. I don't have a problem with being along I have a problem with others that don't want to be alone.
To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life.
Thank you! I needed this!
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Not always pain, but authentication, you can't buy. It's earned
Thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you!!!
If you’re reading this comment, it’s too late, you’ve already been immensely blessed with an abundance of love, wealth, luck, health, joy, and whatever else your heart desires!! I’m so proud of you for surviving everything you’ve been through. This is your sign to go after what your heart most desires for the highest good, it’s your time....
Thank you and Amen❤🙏
Thank you❤
Thank you. I'm not as eloquent with words as you, but I wish all good things come your way.
Wow!!!
Amazing!
This is my sign 🙏🏾
After surviving a negative relationship with a narcissist for 19 years, I know deep in my heart and soul I'm ready to leave and move on. I finally realize that I love myself too much to keep allowing someone to verbally abuse me on a daily basis. I just want peace of mind for my well being as a person. I'm not the horrible names he calls me every single day. God will guide me from now on
you will make it!!! There is a fire burning deep down in you that will help you out. Connect with it on a daily basis, you made the first step, recognizing your situation. Once you breath freedom, the fear will leave
You’re never going to get it while still there. Leave and run fast now.
Amen
Please GO, please LEAVE, you are worthy of freedom and joy 🩵🩵🩵
Someone once asked me, "If someone calls you a chair, does that mean you are a chair?" Puts it into perspective about people that call you names.
First of all I want to let my family know that I love them. They make sure to let me know when I am getting lost. I trust them. They trusted me cooking in all my social discomfort conditions. I am socially awkward. With other conditions. If we can share, maybe nobody will ever regret that night. Shout out to my youngest brother. Love you kid.
My struggle has always been that I worried what others think of me. My worries of not belonging. I have lived in the us for over 30 years but always feel alone. Once I heard not to place too much in your feelings. Not sure if that is correct. However Brene Brown is so talking to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
This video has been a blessing to everyone in here i will also like you to know without you working on what you learnt nothing will work out please try and read this and see how i put my faith to work and everything workout cool through the help of research.
I feel incredibly fortunate for having made wise financial choices that have had a life-altering impact. As a single mother resied in Toronto, Canada, I successfully purchased my second home in September. If everything continues to progress positively, my aspiration is to retire next year at the age of 50.
"I have experienced significant returns since I started engaging in financial transactions with .Jenny Pamogas Canaya Her approach to financial management is truly outstanding, offering remarkable insights and tactics that have greatly contributed to my success."
Jenny Pamogas Canaya is the coach that guides, you probably might've come across her before I found her through a Newsweek report, she's quite known in her field, look-her up.!!!
This is wonderful please i will also like to be part of this movement so tell me is Jenny Pamogas Canaya on youtube? please how do i reach her!
OMG - My jaw just hit the table - this is the exact thing I am working through in life - The Universe continues to amaze me.
@coachmark9537 Exactly, exactly!!
Dear Lord, as we rise to meet each new day, please let us be filled with Your spirit. Let us spread love, joy, peace, goodness, and faithfulness wherever we go. Let us desire to become more like you and to worship you in all we do. Help us desire these things so much more than the sin that entices us. Thank you for always going before us. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
For most of my life, I had believed that my worth and value was based on what others thought of me. I have finally learned to have faith in myself, and although I have always been single and have lived alone, I am no longer lonely and am happy to let go of all else, to trust myself and my own feelings.
This is a lovely talk. Thank you. Yes, going through the wilderness, the fears and tears that brought me here, has been my healing. Best wishes to all! 🙂
I am single too, I am happy that I found this video which told me that I am not selfish IF During this time I never really care what people's opinions are about me. I am free, financially Independent and I always decide things for myself. No one can control me. So, I got support n validation from video. Lm not arrogant or selfish😂😂😂
Do feel the same.
Brene Brown has a book titled: Making the Journey from What Will They Think to I am Enough.
Also hitting age 50 will put you in this state of mind.
Even happy couples need to have their own time. Two people dont come togeather to be a single person. They compliment eachother.
However, you dont need to be complimented because you can always build yourself to meet that want or need.
My thoughts:
• Standing alone is easier than standing with the wrong people
• Being logistically close to someone, does not mean you're not standing alone
• Standing alone at the right time builds strength, resolve, and may attract the people you need
I think you mean standing alone is BETTER than standing with the wrong people. But it's also less extrinsically rewarding in my experience.
The idea that it will "attract the people you need" seems like a slight bit of wishful thinking.
That is for damn sure! Thank you.
However much we find ourselves in a circumstance of being part of a cozy, all-trusting group, a cosmic mind as some people call it, as we grow older we will find invariably that there are reasons that make us different in some way or the other, from those that are our innermost circle. These could be lifestyle choices, a greater preference for solitude and reflection, or, the saddest of them all, a health issue that makes us less and less a desirable person to have close, or that even family find tiresome, irritating, or a sheer nuisance. If these don't form the state of being alone, then the most inevitable of all truths - death - does it in the bluntest way possible.
@@TheDionysianFields I've told relatives - "I'm not going to put my brain into a plastic bag to get along with you!" A boundary to set!
Being an outsider - allows one to build better conceptions!
I am so grateful I came across Brené Brown... She is so REAL, so GENUINE. I absolutely love listening to her outlook on life. Thank you Brené.
“Don’t walk through the world looking for evidence that you’re not enough because you’ll always find it.
Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry those things in the our hearts.
I will negotiate a contract with you but I’m not going to negotiate who I am with you because then I am fit in for you but I will not belong to myself. That is a betrayal I’m not willing to do.
Love this.
Yes, this explains exactly what Jesus taught us. When I feel the wilderness it is hard and question why why why....but it's my time of reflection without all the noise of what others expect from me. To find myself again! So grateful that toxic people were weeded out but it wasn't easy. Thank you for this beautiful message.
the difference is brown gets paid $50K for her motivations speeches (which your bosses use to give you false hope).
I love her SO MUCH! And this is what I needed to hear today as I've been bummed out about something my manager said to me yesterday. I felt underestimated and misunderstood, like she didn't see all my devotion to the work. But I'm not going to let it get to me. I also saw a video from Abraham Hicks before this one that said, just be who you are and change for nobody. Then when people try to get you to be someone different (so they can feel better), just step back and watch the show. In other words, allow them to have their opinion but don't engage with it. I love these two ladies so much. 🥰🙏
she's a multimillionaire now and she doesn't. give. a. rat's. ass about you. She's an insider and the lizard brains in charge of industry pay her to delude people like you.
Wake up - there's no hope for your working life. Unless you have wealthy parents, you'll work until you can no longer work, then "retire" (work a job in supermarket or hardware store, shuffling on old sore feet because the BS artists that make you need the balls that brenee BS brown is selling have milked the country, company, tax-base dry.
They're retire to tropical paradises or Jackson Hole, Switzerland .. . . and leave you (and me) shuffling around a supermarket with a long stare, imagining life after work - greasy TV dinner, blurry TV, and knowing that come 6am tomorrow you have to go and shuffle around on the supermarket floor stocking shelves.
"Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated by other people". To those of us,who have been made to feel less than by other people...remember that sentiment...make it your mantra.The last comment,brought tears to my eyes for so many reasons. Thank you..this discussion was beautifully meaningful to me.🙏💖🐺
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I love Brené. Anytime I am having a hard time, she has answers for me. It helps me remember that when I am not fighting a battle, someone else is, and to remember how that felt. Remain kind. This too shall pass.
Thank you!
rubbish. YOu want to believe that there's a fix, and brown and her acolytes are happy to hawk their kool aid to you. There's nothing there. It's repackaged garbage; she's an insider siphoning money off companies who rely on hucksters like her to keep the proles deluded and hopeful.
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"I'm clear who I am and I'm not going to negotiate that with you"
Very profound statement!💞💞✌
For sure. I got goosebumps.
@@tinydanceryoutube Never negotiate who you're, if they don't appreciate you, indeed, it's on them not you.
Giving yourself a place to belong is very powerful.
Adulting .... hard. Adulting with integrity... much harder!!
Brené Brown leaves us speechless, in awe,
With wisdom that strikes like a thunderous draw.
Her words ignite fires, deep within the soul,
Leaving us inspired, with a newfound goal.
In her speech, echoes of courage ring clear,
Dispelling doubts, banishing fear.
For in vulnerability, we find our might,
Brené Brown's speech, an illuminating light. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
This poem eloquently praises Brené Brown's ability to captivate and inspire her audience, emphasizing the profound impact of her message on vulnerability and courage. Many thanks for your creativity 😘
Not being willing to share other peoples stories with your boss makes them realise that you are unable to be manipulated. Listening to Brené speak about Braving has helped me understand certain aspects of those I refuse to negotiate with. I’m understanding that I refuse to negotiate my values, integrity and my soul
well say...never negotiate who you are, your values, integrity and your soul to matter what....rule to be happy.
Make sure you keep that in mind when it comes to family members as well.
Had a dream years ago
Where a scripture was given to me out of a dead sleep.
When I opened the bible and went to the page , it was the scripture that said do not be conformed to this world.
I knew God was speaking to me directly.
It was pretty humbling ❤
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@hbkkashleyy1685 This happens to me with Oracle cards, synchronicity is everywhere when one is open to it. Like all the seemingly random hearts in everything that keeps showing up for me, puddles, food, etc., literally everywhere. Unity consciousness, we are all connected.
I was once peed off with life and went to bed ranting at the sky that night. God definitely heard every word because I woke the following day and my head kept automatically turning to face a Bible lying on the bedroom floor. In irritation at having to get up I picked up the Bible, held the spine on my palm and let it fall open. I found myself staring at Isiah 45.9.....“Woe to those who quarrel with their Maker, those who are nothing but potsherds among the potsherds on the ground. Does the clay say to the potter, ‘What are you making?’ Does your work say, ‘The potter has no hands’? I threw the duvet over my head, curled up in a ball and just kept repeating 'No no no, I'm sorry'. LOL
@@lesleyelalami2562 oh p.p.
@@jimm9009 Lesson learned. LOL I now know who's boss . LOL
BRAVING is the tool to help us manage the wilderness. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Wow! I am true to myself! I never gave myself credit for being brave enough to leave and go out on my own. I just knew I could not live the way I was or I would suffocate. I need to rethink some things that I thought were negatives but are not. Thank you.
I know I belong
I am who Ive been looking for
But on a grander scale, I am a manifestation of the Divine and
Everything I will ever Love...will pass, includung myself...Are We Precious...is this Life Precious...Hell Yes
Wow. I have to sit in silence for a bit to take this in. I am the wilderness. I AM the wilderness!! Thank you both for this. 🙏
Much needed today: "I belong to me." Thank you for the reminder and for putting it in simple yet profound terms.
I love listening to you.
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Belonging is an inside job.....a true spiritual experience
Powerful words to remember. "I AM THE Wilderness". Thank you Brene
4:30 "I may fit in with you but then I no longer belong to myself, and that is a betrayal I'm not willing to do anymore"...Wow!!!! ❤
Where inner strength and confidence are found. 💜❄️💎
Guidance comes when the wisdom of this opening allows for gentle strength 🌾🌻🧡
Thank you for this! Wasn't looking for it - it popped up while watching something else. God brought it my way to help me process someone close to me recently asking me to talk less about God. Mind you, it's not ever telling other people if I think they should do this or that. When I talk about God, it's on my own behalf, and what He's doing in MY life! And yet this family member is offended and wants me to leave God out of my stories/situations, etc when talking with them. This video was such a blessed reminder to remain me. In my case, it's not FOR me, it's for God. That said, God uses keeping me who I am, as a way to not have me snuffed out. I do it for Him, and He loves me, and holds me up when others would shut me down. It is beautiful. It IS scary to stand alone! But thank you for reminding me that it's brave. And what I have to remember is that really I am never alone, as God my Father is always with me. This video was such a pleasant surprise. Thank you 🙂
Her synthetesation of Ms. Angelou's work changed my life. I'm sitting next to The Gifts of Imperfection right now. It's still one of my favorite Brene pieces of work and a very healing book. Highly recommend.
I strongly recommend reading Maya Angelou’s work. I especially recommend her works of poetry.
Stand up for yourself and never change to fit in or to just want him to love you move🤠🥲🥴only one who will love u more is urself………………………2023
this is why I left my last job ... wanting to be able to be true to myself 🙂
Same! Best decision I ever made. I’ve actually done this a few times throughout my life especially in my career. If my values don’t align with the culture of the organization or the people, I’m out.
I never felt of belonging, that's why I've always felt free [of tides]. Thank You Brené, I've just realised this while watching this video 🙏
and some of us have been truly blessed to be coming from the wilderness. We resisted that pier pressure & urge to 'fit in & comply'. We listened to what was feeding our soul by being comfortably to sit alone and absorb nature's energy. To many we looked like the outsider as we stayed 'isolated' from conforming to what is their normal. When Covid hit and everyone panicked because they didn't know how to sit with themselves, we didn't miss a beat and embraced the qualities and lifestyles that are our normal. It is more than okay to be different, be independent from those that are sadly crippled to feel ralled into a corporate way to be accepted. We have battled it from the opposite direction and as you grow through the seasons of life, you enter the final one of being carried and cared for because you honored that time of being content by yourself ❤
the transformative wisdom of Brené Brown. Renowned for her groundbreaking work on vulnerability, courage, and empathy, Brené's teachings have touched countless lives.
Not just unimpressive intellectually, but impressively shallow
I quit a job that was sucking the life out of me because I wasn’t willing to not choose me anymore ❤❤❤
Fantastic comment
I commend your bravery and I think this is a time in history when people realize they have to stop swallowing what is out there because we are at the mercy of toxicity
You melt a heart with your compassion and wisdom…to believe and belong in yourself….it’s Freedom , it’s your self love ….I’m so Grateful …
It can take a lifetime to know oneself
Its better to just be human and kind
Gosh, I miss Maya. What a gift she has been to my life. If only she knew..... Her memory is so precious. I'm so glad that she shared her gifts with the world. She's now a part of us...I understand this topic at a soul level. Brene Brown is a phenomenal woman as well! This topic blessed me today. Thank you. 💜💜💜💜 6:58
i love brene. She's so calming.
the word you're looking for is "numbing", "deluding" "misdirecting".
come on - be realistic. your a-hole boss is still going to press down on your and brenee will be nowhere near to help. She travels first class, is out of your league
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I've never experienced a truly loving, reciprocal romantic relationship. I do have my parents and friendships... but 'my crew'? Someone who voluntarily has my back? This is something I've never really experienced. So for some of us, we have the blessing of having to find a sense of belonging that isn't dependant on a spouse or our children. We have to dig so frickin deep... to find a sense of belonging that is cosmic. Because we really have no choice. I would love to find my person... but I'm 46 and it just doesn't seem to be my destiny in this lifetime. Try being vulnerable in the face of repeated rejection, whenever you allowed yourself to be vulnerable in the past. I do still have the courage, amazingly, to keep showing up however, and speaking my truth. In the meantime, anchoring into self love and a connection with spirit is what is sustaining me.
Lydiea don't cont yourself out that person is out there for you..
You are a Sigma woman!!
Maybe, you need to travel.
Keep showing up. Please. I ‘think’ the lesson, at least for me, is falling in love with myself. I couldn’t attract genuine love until I gave it to myself. IOW - I couldn’t give something away that I didn’t have…. still working on it. You are worth it. It’s hardest when it matters the most.
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@@andrew.gardiner How did you fall in love with yourself?
"I am the wilderness." Profound.
I WILL NO LONGER
HAVE MY VOICE SILENCED.
I WILL ROAR!!!
Roar with love buddy!
psycho babble. You can roar all you want. People have to be willing to listen. You can't make them.
@@jakearnouse5267 Agapeic love!
@@wordswordswords8203 Take up the best of assumptions about the future, and share these!
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It is difficult to feel that you are worthy, until you find one person in ur life who treats you that way. For me, you are that person.
Thank you, Brene'. I needed the reinforcement of this right now!
Thank you, through your own courage, for helping the rest of us find our own.
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Thank you Brenee Brown!!! At long last someone is describing me in a way that makes my soul feel peaceful! Thank you Brenee for being so honest and courageous! That’s about the only way to inner peace and happiness!
she's a multi millionaire - you know that, right? She doesn't give a crap about you. You want to know who cares about you, really? Your family, true friends, children (if you have any). this is garbage
I love Brene Brown. She's so beautiful and smart❤
I've been a huge fan of Brene Brown for a long time but this is the best I've seen from her so far.
When you stand with God you are never alone and have the best company you could ever have
Belonging to oneself is indeed crucial for a healthy and fulfilling life. When we prioritize our self-worth over external validation and societal expectations, we can truly embrace our authentic selves and live a life that aligns with our values and goals. However, it is also important to acknowledge that humans are social creatures and need a sense of belonging and connection with others. Striking a balance between individuality and social connection is key. We can belong to ourselves while forming meaningful relationships and communities supporting and empowering us.
I will negotiate contracts with you but I will not negotiate my worth and my belonging with you. If I did I might fit in with you, but I would no longer belong to myself and I am not going to take that risk and betray myself. Braving - boundaries, reliability, accountability, vault, integrity, non-judgement and generosity- those are the foundations of TRUST without which there is no safe and healthy relationship. Brilliantly said. Thank you Brene Brown. God bless you ❤
As pointed out We fill in the blanks creatively, our minds make it up. Please remember that, and thats what the sages have always done and we believe them because we cant stand not knowing
"My two personal values Faith & Courage". Our culture and our times, so much brighter with Brene Brown, so grateful for you! Thank you 🙏 😊 ☺ .
I saw Brene last month in Austin, Texas and she is her authentic self ALL THE TIME.
I learned so much during her Keynote speech and then this one is HUGE.
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lemme guess . . . you lap up the mcconaughy motivational horse manure too. brown and mattie-boy are both multi millionaires and they DON'T CARE ABOUT YOU OR ME.
This makes a great deal of sense! It is amazing how far people will go to make you "not" belong to yourself for a good laugh, power, etc. but you must remember "I am the wilderness" and you can not have my part unless I choose to share it with you. People that are false, lie, cheat, etc. are the one's that drive me to anger because I have worked so hard to be the opposite of that. However, it is not MY choice what other's should strive to be. If they want to be that, then I should be quiet and not argue it. Assuming positive intent keeps you in line even when it is not, that is the beauty of it.
There is a greater world out there no problem. It is love. And it's sometimes painful to know yourself as best you can and know others.
I try to live by the only reason you should be looking down on someone is when you're helping them up. You taught me that Brene and I must admit I do have a generous assumption of people however people have broken that over and over again with me and I find it hard to accept and have been treated like a doormat several times because of asserting myself and then having others gaslight me and push me to a point where I then have acted in a way that is not living up to my morals and values or in my integrity and then I have to find forgiveness for myself all over again. Do what is easy life will become hard, Do what is hard life will become easy. 'Read that again'
I belong to God because of Yeshua.
What a true and beautiful speech! We are never alone. God is always with us.
garbage. She's selling pie-in-the-sky. Paid to make worker-bees thing there's hope (there isn't). Your and my future has been sold to the highest bidder, and there's nothing at the end for oyu. The boss took it all
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This quote was never troubling to me. It was the most logic thing I’ve ever heard when I heard it first time because I’ve already lived it.
This is so right on and a solution to follow with "Braving". I am the wilderness. I Stand Alone.
If you ever listen to anything while reading comments, let it be this - go to borlest and read the book whispers of manifestation, then come back and thank me
Your voice and way of speaking is awesome, I sense truthfulness, boldness and genuineness, some how I liked listening to you. Thanks
Beautifully spoken message - and I love your photos, music and tone of your voice. Well done Brene
I must echo your sentiments & particularly the "tone of your voice" comment.
The tone, diction, and cadence with which she speaks, for me, is so comforting, if not mesmerizing. It's so disarming and nonathoratative that it allows the content of her message to be received and processed in such a productive way. It comes across as unscripted and completely genuine; not as her 'teaching', but rather as 'sharing'.
Beautifully done and a wonderful transfer of her message.
nonsense - she's a huckster and this is flimflam, repackaged garbage from every self-help noise the world has had inflicted on it for the last 50 years.
Snake oil, kool aid
Love this video. Brene speaks authentically from her heart. Beautiful and true. Wonderful to hear. Love you Brene. Thank you Nils Welham in referencing Brene to me.
I belong everywhere and no where. :::Goosebumps:::: :::tears:::: Going through it with a tyrant of a boss and voicing my opinion and if they decide I don't belong just because I have a different opinion, then that's on them.
This is good. "I am the wilderness", as well. And some of us, hopefully most of us will not feel we belong here because we don't. In fact, we belong to God and we are not home yet. We are passing through this wilderness albeit with His spirit in us I believe.
I want to tell you about a time when I took your book “Wilderness” that I purchased. I put the book in the trash, put the can on the street for pickup the night before. The next morning I was running down the street after that book. Yes, I retrieved, and walked through the wilderness literally with the book in my wilderness pack.❤
I love you Brene. keep truth going to grow and develop as being humans!!!
Brilliantly said. Assuming Positive Intent is the best definition I have ever heard of the word Generosity ❤
that's what my boss said to me. He's a brenee groupie. Then he stabbed me in the back to cover for his serial mistakes. SO much for assuming positive intent.
she's a huckster
Loved this. "I am the Wilderness" - such a powerful 10 minute video. TY
I am this kind of soul belonging everywhere and nowhere for obvious reasons 😊
There will be times when standing alone feels too hard, too scary, and we'll doubt our ability to make our way through the uncertainty. Someone somewhere will say 'don't do it. You don't have what it takes to survive the wilderness. This is when you reach deep into your wild heart and remind yourself, I am the wildness.
Same..... I appreciate Angelou for sharing all that she had to say to the world, because of the situations, and circumstances that her one unique human spirit has undergone, lived through, & transformed because of. Brene Brown's work is great at a soul level.... Also, I can never forget Oprah Winfrey. She, who has given a stage to so many gifted/driven individuals through her life's work. Some people walk through life, and heal people/situations almost by default, by learning to first heal themselves through determination/necessity. 💓💓💗💓💓
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Thank you for the story about gossip. I never looked at it that way.
So amazing and inspiring. When we begin to have faith in ourselves the challenges that we face actually become easier to accept. They may seem greater in sense of difficulty but faith allows us to accept and with this we may find the way to overcome or resolve the issue more gracefully. ❤️
I use this for my addiction classes... amazing motivation
you, and your the addicts you're counseling etc. are worth 10 of brenee and her crap. Repeat that 10 times.
Your and their grit, and the will to keep going despite everything. . . . infinitely more valuable and real than her self-help garbage.
this is so good. I dont normally appreciate this person so much
I’ve told people since as long as I can recall “I believe in everything and nothing” and people were always so confused by that. But to me it was about not choosing a side. I was about belonging to me. In the best ways.
If one has risen above certain things in life one does not attach any more importance to them💞💞✌
This is inspiring and thought provoking and divinely guided to see this only moments after achieving what I thought never possible. Thank you for sharing this inspiration and encouragement.
Would love to see Brené and Jordan Peterson talk.
Believe in your vision of what you want to accomplish in your life. Don;t let anyone bully you, you have a voice and continue to use it. The tools that you are learning either positive or negative will help you in your future to make the right choice for your life. Believe me you might feel that you are in the dark right now, but the light will be seen, Just have faith, and remember that this too shall pass.
I don't belong anywhere, but I feel loved and accepted because the same conception that conceived nature also conceived me. Everything is connected, so we all belong. We suffer when we refuse to let go of our grief and our heartbreaks. Let go, forgive, and go on. As the lady says, "It's a new dawn; it's a new day". When you take a deep breath, hold it in as you gather all your blues together and release them in a long, slow exhale into the atmosphere. Wave your troubles goodbye because you won't live another minute longer holding on to them.
Amazing Reminder to be aware to pay attention to be present and. Connected to yourself always . Thank you 🤩
Yes! It is on them!
I personally don't lose people.
They lose me!! ❤
To Love God, To serve God an to know God. Do that, you will love yourself, help others. Always be smiling. Yes still be yourself. Hard to do raised blue collar, rancher, farmer, cowboy.. We eat barb wire an spit out staples. But yes, Love is key. I think we do that in my background but its hidden deeply an seen as weakness. Just now Learning it is a Strength. God Bless!
Brene, you are my Maya Angelou. Every time I revisit your work, I embed it deeper and deeper until it's in my bones. (I love Maya Angelou too though 😊)
Wow exactly what needed hear today, yes dear I am the wilderness. Great closing 1000 percent agree. GOD BLESS
Wow!!!! I wish I could communicate my thoughts as eloquently as you!! My inside feelings and thoughts don’t resonate with what I try to say outwardly. The only good part of this is I still have some confidence that I am true to myself at least 99.96 % of my time!!!! Sometimes I must back down especially at work. But I rationalize my behavior with it’s not that important and is it my ego getting into the act!!!😂
That makes sense now. When I rest/meditate I say to myself, "I am exactly where I need to be. I don't need to believe it, but I need to feel it." Then I will have an internal dialogue with myself between disbelief and belief. It doesn't take long to feel it, then I just sit there with it and breathe. Then just passively listen to yourself. But pretend to listen, don't get lost in the thoughts and just familiarize yourself with the feeling of being exactly where you need to be. I belong to me. I am responsible for me, first because then I can be responsible for others. Sometimes it's okay to ask where the oxygen mask is and how it works. Because you are more important than what makes you vulnerable. But, that's okay because we all belong to the earth. We were born through the choices of others, not by our own. You didn't have a choice in being born, but you do choose how you live. Be kinder to yourself than you are to others. And remember that if it can't be measured, it doesn't exist.
I love the positive atmosphere you create in your videos. It's a breath of fresh air in the mental health space. Looking forward to more uplifting content!
You are the tree and the tree is you.
The limitless infinite self that connects us all at the end and the beginning.
Don't look away from anything, until you see it clearly and find yourself.
Look into the physiological sacred oil processes.
The trees speak to us all the time.
We just pushed ourselves so far away we forgot,
but we can remember.
Thank you for articulating that which I was unable to , describing my own current journey. God bless you. I felt so alone and isolated and was beginning to entertain thoughts of uniqueness, with what I was experiencing. Again thank you for helping me not feel so alone.
Wonderful..I will use this. I am the wilderness and I belong to me. I needed to hear this today.TY
Wow! what an interesting subject got me lost in my thoughts; I never belong anywhere, or to a group of people but i always felt being part of something bigger, i feel safer alone (as survival sort of speech) but this never altered my love for humanity and my soul purpose of empowering others. Thank you for this.
I have a hard times with people who really needs others to confirm, have the same opinion, people who don't want to take accountability. I don't have a problem with being along I have a problem with others that don't want to be alone.