Our Dreams Have Changed (and that's okay)
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- Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2023
- Welcome to another episode of Tangents with Tyler and Todd! This week, things are getting real as we open up about why we made the difficult decision to move away from our property. We share our original vision for "The Land" and how our plans have evolved over time, the struggles we went through to maintain our vision, and important life lessons we learned along the way as we embrace the idea that it’s okay to shift gears from your original dream on the pursuit of happiness.
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Chapters:
2:30 - The original dream for our land
5:50 - How the pandemic affected our plans
10:00 - How our plans of the property have evolved
18:00 - Why we decided to build a shipping container home
21:00 - Living in an RV in a Canadian winter
26:00 - Why we built the dome as a temporary home
32:00 - Why the dome isn’t working anymore
42:00 - Why we bought a new cottage
51:00 - How we’re using the dome moving forward
54:00 - Tea time
Podcast Production By: Paige Cuthbert & Colin Steingard
The last 4 years have been an absolutely wild ride and we both don't have a single regret...but the reality is; we just are not the same guys who were traveling around North America in an RV, or the ones who spent years living in a tent. Being able to let you into our thought process and pulling back the curtain on what life has REALLY been like these last few years was incredibly therapeutic for us. Life is just too short to not chase your dreams, even if they seem like a huge pivot or a risk..if there was anything at all that we didn't answer, don't hesitate to let us know in the comment section down below. Looking forward to chatting with you all! ❤
Don't forget the great sales this week on Christmas Trees, mine is hot pink!
I think it’s exciting to see what the next chapter of your lives bring. People love you and whether it’s following your travels, your adventures building on The Land or finding out what comes next at your fabulous new home, it doesn’t matter, we just are enjoying the journey and love being part of it ❤️
It's amazing to see so many people caring about you that they comment both pro and con. Already 3000 comments on your sunday house-showing vlog! And always a lot of thumbs up even before having viewed the vlogs and tangents. That's a quality marker.
I wish you all the best, and I hope that you will keep both this cabin and The Land. / CS ❤🐾🐾🐾👀
Got my eye on an extra special one!!@@ginamonroe9659
Thanks for this Carol!@@CP01024
Dear boys, go and buy lots of gorgeous furniture, get it delivered and make your cabin your home and then decorate for Christmas and relax for a few weeks, walk the dogs, cuddle with Squirrel and rest, regroup and we’ll all be here with you xxx
Thanks for the reminder (and permission) that it’s okay to rest ❤
Yes, this! ❤
Lovely words 🙏🏻🇬🇧
May I suggest, if you are feeling old at your age, you will spend most of your life worrying about that. I’m 76, and age better not be an issue. In your 30’s, comparatively, you’re still in your teens. Your 40’s, it seems to me, is when you finally start, to become, an adult. All my kids are in their 50’s and they said the same thing. RELAX!! You are doing GREAT!! What you are doing, is super fun to watch, and, the only people who get in a tizzy, are not people like you. They are NOT adventurers, NOT risk takers,and NOT interesting!!
By the way, they don’t have a successful content industry, which you have, in SPADES! And…THANK YOU, for that!❤️❤️
@@todddarbyshire7944i feel I never aged after 30, I’m 63 now but still feel like I’m not that old.
You don’t have to worry about losing me as a listener as you pivot. It’s your personalities that I’m here for, and I know those won’t change, even when you’re creating content from the nursing home. 😊
Hahaha the nursing home is gunna be LIT 😂
@@tangentswithtylerandtodd I’m here for it…wait, I’m 25 years older than you. I better start living my best life so I’m still here for it.
I totally agree.
Yup! 100%!
Exactly ❣️🙏🥰
I can’t wait to see Tod turning the cabin into a Christmas heaven 😂❤
Hahah, it's coming! 🎄
@@tangentswithtylerandtodd 🎄💃💃💃
YES! And the cabin is MADE for Christmas decorating - it's going to be glorious once he's done with the decorating, especially a huge tree - going to be FABULOUS. Seriously cannot wait, it's actually making me look forward to my decorating this year :-)
I am 78 years old and i need to tell you that you 2 have give me so much hope for your generation. You really deserve to take a break and relax and be proud of what you did from notHing. Bravo. Please be proud….you are an inspiration. Please take good care of yourself
Todd, you made me cry. It broke my heart to hear you say you felt like you failed. You are so far from a failure. Look at everything you've endured and continued to endure. Most people would have said f@#$ this bs and move on. Not you, you and Tyler continued to push thru all the mishaps and others wrong doings. You never quit and your decision to move to the cottage is not a sign of giving up its a sign of moving forward! It's the entrance to another adventure. Those walls will hold for you and Tyler so many great memories just wait. I have always loved and admired your grit and ability to keep going but I am happy you guys stopped to smell the roses and realized they were 25 minutes away. Even tho times were hard on the land you're able to talk about it with smiles and laughter so how's that bad? Ya'll need to give each other big tight hugs and remind yourselves how successful you've been. As dumb as it may sound I am proud of you two for doing you.
Dear Tyler and Todd, loved this podcast as I do all you're Sunday posts. I had the feeling during this one you had a problem with some people's comments to your move from the land. I for one didn't have a problem. He'll it's your life not mine and where you live or how doesn't make a difference to me. The reason I watch all your stuff is that I'm in love with WHO you both are: two wonderful and delightful young men, so obviously in love,and working at each other's personal growth as well as your own. I was glad you made the move as it would give you more time to do more than work, see more family and friends, and socialize. I'm a good bit older than you both and have done my fair share of counseling. I firmly believe your both on the right path. Also know that I stand behind you both as I'm sure many out here do. I only had one problem with the move. You dropped a bomb at the end of one post that you had done it and said "More on this next Sunday." I was worried that something was seriously wrong. So glad it turned out all to be good. BTW you are in no sense of the world failure.
Peace and all good,
Jim
You are victors
Boys - never stop dreaming…. Nothing wrong in changing direction towards happiness 😊
Obviously they will never be happy. This have been going on for how many yrs now ? I got bored with them quick. Sorry but that is just my opinions.
@@Fabulopolis1 - And you have that right (to be bored), but why are you here?? Move along!!!!!
@@jandj9325 It popped up on my feed and I did. 👍😂
Are you truly bored????? You watched and commented:))))))) @@Fabulopolis1
I don`t understand why you felt the need to make that comment . It served no useful purpose whatsoever . Unless your point was to telegraph what a dick you are . In which case , mission accomplished . @@Fabulopolis1
💛 1. Yes, we are taking notes. 2. You are loved. 3. Those with critical opinions are caring fans who want the best for you. 4. Your next chapter will be your best chapter. 5. What you do here is priceless. THANK YOU. ❤
My father is a wise 95-year-old man who has always told me "always have options...." and I think when we allow ourselves to not get "stuck" in life, it is such a relief. Then it is much easier to live in [and more fully enjoy] the moment. Live for yourselves in the moment and enjoy it, always. Thank you for being vulnerable -- I will keep watching what is next! I hope it is a restful and renewing winter for you and your fur babies!
Honestly I am more excited to watch you remodel and decorate the new place. Unlike the other property, you start with a stable base so projects can be planned in an orderly fashion. Construction delays, required changes, and harsh weather contributed to the often confusing order of projects. So glad you have a solid roof over your head, power, and plumbing!
Thanks for saying this ❤. Todd especially has a spark in him that I haven’t seen in a few years…give that boy a paint brush and a glass of wine and he’s in his happy place 😂
@@tangentswithtylerandtodd Better budget for fuses...😁💖
So true ❣️🙏🥰
I am your grandpa's age and I can tell you, life happens. I have no idea why anyone else watches you, don't care. I also do not care if you stick to a script of building the land or not. Yeah, it is interesting but it is both of you, the interaction that is what I tune in for. So you can do anything. Live your lives for you, not us.
Beautifully put.
Exactly ❣️🙏🥰
Never give anyone permission to judge your life. You are amazing humans with beautiful furry children sharing your very personal lives with strangers. Be you, love, live and enjoy! You are loved!
Just do what makes you happy! You have lots of options. Your current home would make a great vacation rental for extra income. You both are young and take advantage of that, enjoy your life. You both have done just great! 😊
I’m a divorce lawyer and your advice to Sandy was hilarious😘
You boys should be so proud of yourselves. Thank you for allowing us to be part of your journey
Thanks so much for following along Trish!!
You two are the reason that I follow on RUclips and Patreon - whether you are making lunch, sitting with a coffee, pulling off the incorrectly installed sidings to your container house, taking one of C,E or S to the vet, chatting, cutting down trees, setting up batteries, sitting in a tote - I don’t care !
❤ Enjoy the pivot ❤
Exactly!
Yes exactly ❤
I think it’d be fun to have a tangent count in the corner for us on RUclips 😂
You will find that life is a journey and there are steps forward , sideways and backwards. The one thing I have learned in my 78 years on this planet is that the steps in our lives lead us to where we were meant ti be. So don't be discouraged ,it will all work out in the end .you are going on this trip that we call life and just enjoy and treasure the good stuff and treasure the bad stuff too because that teaches us not to go in that direction and puts us back where we are spposed to be going. You guys are incredible people and I really enjoy listening to your podcast . I feel privileged to be watching and listening to you two . Take care Hope Charlie is healing well Give him a pet from me, you can pet Eddie and squirell too LOL!!!
Thanks so much for this, Gloria. Beautiful perspective and insights on what really matters in life ❤️
Gloria, I could not agree more with what you said.
100% agree. Beautifully expressed.
Life is a Cha Cha :-)
It's been a privilege watching you two become self sufficient / meet head-on the problems with such a "can do" attitude ! As you grow old together... I can envision a Large Family of little ones running wild.. up & down the stairs.. excited over what Santa brought :)
🥹❤️
You can't tackle your big projects and big dreams without self-care; giving yourself permission to pivot, having a comfortable place to rest and recharge and as you mentioned, giving yourself grace. Life is what happens when we are making other plans. You both got this!
I wait all week for Tangents. You could teach the world how to respect each other in a relationship. Carl and Sandy advice was spot on.
Aw thanks makes us to glad to hear, thanks Kathleen 🙂
Wow, I think their advice to Sandy was great!! I can't wait for her to implement it and report back!
I love knowing that you will not be pooping in the woods wrapped in a blanket wearing knee-high boots for yet another winter. Your logic about this course-correction is on point, as usual, and in addition - you guys deserve a BREAK and some comfort. Best of everything to you, as always, and I look forward to peaking in on your new adventure as it unfolds.
I agree with majority of followers
ITS BEEN A PRIVILEGE following you on THE LAND
It will be just as joyous & exciting to follow you in the cabin & guys WHAT A CABIN 👍❤❤
So happy to hear that, thanks Sue ❤️❤️
Who among us could be as courageous, candid and vulnerable as you two are and have been for years now? Letting us see into your souls is such a privilege. Live your lives, share what you will when you choose. Love you both!
You guys are true role models, not because your perfect and got it all figured out, but because your keep trying, keep learning, make mistakes, have set backs, change course, reevaluate, and talk it out. All while having a great sense of humor and humanity. Thanks for giving us insight. I have confidence you two will continue to figure it out in your own uniquely Todd & Tyler way. ❤ So happy about your new space, it's BEAUTIFUL 😍
Thanks so much for saying this, Nadia. means more than you know xoxo
If I were your mom I would advise, live your lives for yourselves. As much as I enjoy watching your projects on the land, it’s really your energy I follow. It’s your energy that you will take to the cottage, so I will follow that too. It’s gorgeous! Also if I were your mom, I would say ignore negative comments. They aren’t your people, and probably spread negativity in their own lives.
good side of things: you have strengthened and deepened your relationship by going through all this together.
“To improve is to change ; to be perfect is to change often” - Winston Churchill. Unless one is in the trenches and experience it’s very hard to understand what you guys have been through. Yet through it all look at the magnificence you have created. When you are snuggling up next to the fire in your new cottage you will have time to reflect on how perfect everything really is in the way it’s worked out. The gruelling hardships and setbacks were all worth it. You have made such a great decision buying that beautiful cottage and lakeside land. Just be yourselves and do what you love that’s what will keep you being successful. Ignore the negative comments. You are amazing.
Live whatever your current dream happens to be. No one has the right to judge you and please don’t be so hard on yourselves. You have accomplished amazing things and you adapt and pivot so well. Thank you for sharing your lives with us.
Fellas, it’s ok to change directions !! You still have the Land, to develop- a getaway in summer /fall or a rental if you want … and a new cottage . You are in a great position to have your cake 🎂 and eat it too 👍👍. Four years of roughing it can take a mental toll … and I respect you for realizing that some aspects of life has passed by while focusing on the land …. Sometimes we learn the biggest lessons while we are’ chasing butterflies’ 😳. Again , it’s ok !! Your journey together has twists and turns. I believe your next journey will be parenthood ❤. And what a wonderful road indeed ! Y’all will smash it - you’ll be fantastic dads . You’re grounded, motivated and have so much love to give a child: plus with grandparents to support you…… awwww 🥰 you got this ! May I comment that you do NOT have to please your audience… you just have to be your authentic self. Haters will hate … but supporters will still be watching the content you give us ❤ I’m looking forward to seeing your life continue to evolve !!!
Have a good week, Tyler and Todd - I’m rooting for you 🎉 😘
I took away something I did not expect from this.
You very articulately described the fears that have held me back from embarking on my own RUclips journey, here on our 16 acres of Muskoka heaven. What if my “life” gets in the way of delivering content, week after week? What if I burn out or decide to pivot? Shit gets crazy around here on a regular basis and I know I’m only human.
I dipped my toe into RUclips, maybe 10 years ago, and it went reasonably well. But I couldn’t commit.
And yet, here I am, watching the two of you pivot and I ask myself, “am I any less interested in tuning in to Tyler and Todd twice a week? Not at all! Huh? Why is that? Because I’m over here soaking up everything the two of you choose to share because of YOU. Not the subject matter, but I’m interested in you two and what you’re up to. I’m attracted to your authenticity, your relatability, your dynamic and who you are.
So, my unexpected takeaway is this. People may find you because they’re looking for information, but they STAY with you because of who you are. You have nothing to worry about guys. Everything you’ve done over the past several years has served a purpose. When that pernicious thought bubbles up, and you wonder if you let something important pass you by, simply wave that thought away and say, with confidence, “I’m going to look back, cherish these moments, and say, I wouldn’t have changed a thing.”
With love, Jason, Ron and Morgan❤
As we grow, we get a little wiser. I don’t think you failed. I think you learned a lot, not just in physical skills but in perspective. Here an opportunity presented itself. One not available 4 years ago. Same dream, just years ahead of where you are now. You can do many things, summer on the land, continue the build out. Retire to it eventually. Sell off the dome, sheds, storage and keep the land and it’s infrastructure as an investment. Sell the land outright, kit & caboodle (there are many people who would love to live that journey, use the funds to combine the two dreams. You can add off grid solar, (with grid backup, (which is what we did) add your own well, etc. to this land, with a warm child friendly home. Nearer I assume to your families, schools and other children. Room to grow other projects. For now, winterize the land, (to keep your options open) move your must haves (including Christmas), be warm, cozy and have a think on it. The land will still be there.
You two could give lessons on the art of having a conversation. I don't know anyone who explore their relationship better than you both. Kudos on moving your dreams forward.
I'm an adoptive mother, and I think you will make great parents, whichever route you choose. I think any birth mother who is given the chance to learn about who you are will see the love, warmth, kindness, fun, and wisdom shine through, and who wouldn't want that for their child?
Wow! Today was SO relatable. 5 years of living off grid, composting toilets, frozen water lines, broken generators, etc. All your stress, fatigue, and frustrations are not something anyone else should judge you on. Take care of yourselves. Thanks for sharing your lives with us. I think I have a lot of unpacking of feelings after listening today.❤
You're not leaving the land though. The land is still being developed but you wont have to be on site living with the challenges (difficulties) of building and living simultaneously. The stress of that, as you both are recognizing and articulating, has become too much. Do not worry about us viewers because we will always be here. We support you no matter what you both do. Congrats on the new cottage, it's beautiful but realize it too will come with challenges and you both will handle them with ease.
I LOOOOVE that Tyler mentioned Maslow's hierarchy of needs. That's LITERALLY my Roman Empire. I admire you guys for your resilience and for putting up with all of what you want through in order to fulfill what looked like a dream and that, having sacrificed so much over so long, you were strong and clear-headed enough as to sit down and say "hey, this is not the dream anymore, what do we want?". I loved this episode and I'm loving all the episodes so far.
P.S.: I feel like you could have one episode every once in a while that is just different Spill the Tea scenarios and you guys giving advice 😂
We don’t judge, we admire! We don’t think you failed, we praise you for learning. Just please no decisions before Spring when we all will be refreshed. Sending Love, 👍🏼♥️🇨🇦
You two have one of the most seamless communication styles I've ever seen/heard between two people. You are genuine story tellers. I'm sure you will look back on this course correction favorably. I'm excited to be along with you on this journey. You entertain us. You educate us. You inspire us. You challenge us. You two are the best!
the intro where you say you're a mess, that's how i know i'm in the right place. i love the humility, honesty, and sweet humor.
As John Lennon said , “ Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.” As you grow and change, so should your dreams. I think your new adventure is fun and exciting!
Just want to eco what everyone else is saying - please don't worry about us as fans / viewers each Sunday - we adore you and many of us truly kind of have been living thru you past 3 years as we have navigated change in our lives as well during / after covid and change is a great thing. My two cents: If you receive negative feedback from (likely a very small percentage of viewers) - see it as any other relationship that has run its course. If no longer on the same page - they can go look for other channels for off grid content - and new viewers will find you for 'cabin by the lake'. The rest of us will be here - please know how much we appreciate your authenticity and taking us on the ride with you. 💕🥰
Hey Tyler and Todd!! I thoroughly enjoy watching your journey and sometimes in life our paths change and it takes us in a completely different direction than where we thought we were headed and that's totally ok. It's like being on a job you may have liked in the beginning but, over time you realize that even going into the office is consuming you and it's more of a chore, it just changes your mood and you find yourself dreading it which, is a sure sign that it's time to go! So, I look forward to seeing this new journey and I can't wait to see the changes that you make to your new home. It's already beautiful and the view of the lake is breathtaking. So I know it will be spectacular when you're done.
I'm so happy that you two and the furbabies are going to be cozy and warm this winter. ❤🐈⬛🦮🐕🦺
Thanks Christine, us too ❤️❤️
You two have NOT failed. You both are amazing people ❤ I am so happy you now have a home that will meet all your needs for comfort, good sleep, less stress and comfort for your furry children! I love watching these videos. Go for your current dream and screw what others think. I will continue to watch because of you two. Can’t wait for you to settle in🥰
We really appreciate that ❤️
I almost cried when I saw that you bought a house, my daughter was worried something was wrong with me. I'm so happy that you guys will be able to actually LIVE now, this will be such a game changer for you. Love listening to this podcast format, you are both amazing and inspiring
Guys, you two have been through hell. Do you realize how many people would have bailed long before now? Regardless whether you keep the land and finish the container house or sell and cut your losses that choice is yours alone. We watch because you two have this incredible relationship! You teach others just by being together and being yourselves what a healthy relationship is supposed to be. You shared that there may be a child in your future, that in itself is a whole new adventure and I believe you two will make incredible parents. I feel privileged to be allowed to follow along and get a peek into your lives. Thanks for the honesty and thanks for this additional podcast. Whatever you do going forward is going to be exciting!
Too true...desperation, stress, anxiety - there goes rationality! I am just recovering from a nervous breakdown (freeze syndrome) where overload and overwhelm got the best of me. I had just bought a house...lost my job...felt pressure from every side. Four months later and I am now regaining my composure and clarity of purpose. Getting back on track with my own dream is now happeneing; and I pray that I am not too late! Let's all remember to recharge our spirits, minds and bodies on a regular basis, for only then will we have the energy reserves to go forward. You can't start/drive a car with a dead battery!
We have been watching you guys for the last 4 years and we appreciate the vulnerability and openness you two give. Don’t ever feel like you failed or like dreams can’t be put on hold. Remember it’s not broken, just bent. You’ll get there and we are happy for your success and journey.
You are an amazing couple. I was in a relationship for 33 years with a wonderful man. Anthony+ died 10 years ago and my life will never be the same. Remember, it’s not about houses, properties, possessions it is essentially about your love and commitment for each other. Best wishes, Barry 🏴🏴🇬🇧
You know, I only started watching you guys this year while you had already been in the throes of building the shipping container for years, and I often wondered “are they really happy?” Don’t get me wrong, I can see a natural joy in both of you and you have amazing personalities that are very go-with-the-flow.. but I was EXHAUSTED watching you guys shovel snow off the solar panels, while helping the contractors and cooking for them (!) and then living in a geodesic dome! Having camped in the early spring in my home of CALIFORNIA I truly wondered where you guys got the grit to live and work daily in that kind of climate all while FILMING. I gave you guys SO MANY props and even considered I must just be a p*ssy for thinking I could never. But hearing this makes it all make sense. You guys STRUGGLED like I thought any normal human would under those conditions. You are actually really human lol and not little cute robots. I guess it’s nice to hear the real of it.
I have been in a similar position since 2019, constantly telling myself “it’s ok!” through my failures just so I could keep myself motivated to achieve my dream. And I recently GAVE UP TOO. It was unnecessary suffering I was putting myself through and it just wasn’t fair to me.
I guess what I’m saying is SAME GIRL, SAME.
I wish you both the best with the new cabin. I know you’re going to enjoy the break and eventually making that place all you.
Just please, rest a bit first. (I’m also taking this advice.)
Soooo much love to you both 😘
This was a hard listen because I don’t think any of us realized just how hard this has been on you. So while I’m sad to see the familiar change I am excited to see how things evolve for you guys! Cant wait to see what you do with the new house but also eager to see everything at the land come to completion!
Guys you shouldn’t take the bad contractors as being your fault. We have had the same bad experiences and the frustration is real. I feel your frustration and let down unfortunately they mess up and we suffer the consequences of extra time and money to fix all the problems. My heart goes out to you.
You're able to do this, and I don't blame you. Seems like a wise decision to me. I'm extremely jealous, but you've worked hard for it, so why not? It wasn't down to you that things didn't go to plan.
You've weighed everything up and made the right move 😊
We’ll be with you as long as you allow us in. My husband and I watch you for you and have learned so much about love and communication and resolve and having fun. You have done so much and I admire the pivot you are doing. Life is short! Great job guys. ❤❤
Wow that really means a lot to us, thank you!! 🥰
I'm glad you're doing what you feel you need to do. You're building your lives, not ours. I have learned so much from your successes and your mistakes, so thanks for all of it.
Life is a journey and not a destination. You two approach your journey with love and perseverance. And that's infectious. ❤️
You two don't need to apologize for anything. I am a loyal viewer because of you two, not because of your property. I enjoyed your RV traveling content, I've enjoyed the Land, and now I will enjoy content about your new home and your family. Dreams change and life changes as we grow and that's OK. For people who are griping about you leaving the Land, they can kick rocks. You are not content machines; you are two young people making a life and you need to be happy. Love you guys both! PS. Carl is a dirty dog.
I'm so impressed with you two. It's unusual to see such young people so grounded and practical. I love the way you think things through and aren't impulsive as many young people are. I love your tangents and look forward to it every Wednesday. I'm a 79 year young woman living in Las Vegas and have so much respect and warm feelings for both you.
My husband is fond of saying, fail your way to success. Failure shouldn't always be viewed as a negative. If viewed properly, you make the changes necessary to be able to move forward. Your viewers will be here for whatever comes next. You are loved!
I really admire your candidness here. I'm a big believer in being given the latitude to change our minds, *especially* on big loud opinions/feelings. Your feelings are totally valid. I can't wait to see what you do with BOTH spaces, even if that is selling "the land" and settling down in the cabin forever ;)
Guys - I love you, and follow your journeys, because of who you are… Wherever you choose to live, as long as you’re both happy, I’m happy! You remind me so much of my son and his husband - you’re the same age, also together for 15 years - and I’ve pointed them to you for such a great example of addressing mental health differences/challenges, communicating as a couple, etc. Conflict, properly addressed, can lead to such great strength. “Dreams change”, that’s so important to grasp. I’ll follow you to the ends of the earth (virtually) from right here in Southern California! Keep up the good work! We all love you! ❤️❤️
Love this comment. I hope you have a beautiful day maryelizabethwing
Thank you so much! I wish you the same - a Thanksgiving filled with much to be thankful for! ❤
@@maryelizabethwing8250 indeed 😊
Distance and space will help make everything clearer. You both are amazing people with loads of creativity energy. As soon as you have sleep and comfort, everything will get clearer no matter which direction you all go. Enjoy the ride. Can’t wait to see the decorations this year.
Hello again,
As an addendum to my previous post, I am 71 years old now and if I had been so self-aware at 33 as you two are, I am sure that things would have been different in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy in my life now. I am just praising you BOTH how wise you have are and you are so young!!! Elizabeth Clark Goodrich, Texas
It’s you that I care about, and continue to watch. Not the house, not the land (as wonderful as they are) it’s you guys . Live, love and continue to keep us in the loop. Can’t wait to see the new home decorated and you settled in.
It’s your life, we have been there invited along. But ultimately it’s you who has to live it and be true to yourselves.
Hugs and support. You have not failed. This is life -- a bit different than most -- but life is change and your story is really a lovely one. Can't wait too see the new place roll out
THANK YOU for this conversation. I’m currently living off grid in almost the exact same situation as your early years (rv, no hookups, bucket toilet, 600w solar generator, using a cooler as a fridge, etc). I’m trans & disabled & I’m currently only making ~10-12k per year, so sometimes it’s frustrating to watch you guys putting in all this infrastructure that is clearly a relatively large investment. It’s easy for my brain to get caught up in the whole “living off grid must be so much easier when you have that kind of money” mindset but I need to constantly remind myself that we’re all on our own journeys. I especially liked the part about pivoting & changing your mind too, because I originally moved out here with the intention of building a tiny house to live in, then I was considering a school bus (my dream for literally as long as I can remember), and now I’m back to the tiny house idea, except designing it as an airbnb instead, and then I’ll convert my 94 suburban to a little off-roading / overlanding rig to live out of part time so I can travel around and live in intentional communities when I need more human interaction. Anyway, all of this is to say thank you for not wrapping it all up in a neat little bow & instead embracing the mystery & nuance & ambiguity of life. Follow your hearts & you can’t go wrong ✨
This is such an important message. Hanging onto one plan instead of adapting to inevitable changes and priorities makes for
a small and rigid life. Wishing you a cozy and comfortable Christmas and 2024. Love you guys!
PIVOT! Everyone has to at some point. So happy for you both.
Hahaha so true ❤️
I was beginning to think you two were superhuman, the way you negotiate on-going series of obstacles. Optimism has its limits. I’m appreciating your authenticity (not that you’ve ever sugar-coated anything) and decisions to take care of yourself. Commitment doesn’t mean rigidly clinging to dreams that no longer work. One of the qualities of mental health is flexibility, as you know. You guys are a model for too many other influencers who believe they have to stay the course to please their viewers.
Sweet guys, I am so ashamed of myself. I'm afraid I'm one of your followers who have been putting pressure on you without it ever being my intention. I am a tremendous fan of your inventiveness, your adaptability and your work attitude and I admire you so, so much for the things you choose to share with us. We, your followers, don't "own" your lives. I'm rooting for you all the way and I'm so glad you're open about your plans and motivations. But again, the are YOUR plans and YOUR motivations. I'm sorry if my reactions ever added to put pressure on you. Please be deliriously happy with your gorgeous cabin and I wish Eddie all the best with his recuperation. I'm keeping on following you because your posts and podcasts make me happy.
I am saddened to hear your viewers would be so judgmental, these are your lives and you get to live them your way. You both have shown passion for life and proven change is inevitable. I commend you for keeping on keeping. You go guys!!
You guys are so young, you can change plans as often as you want. That’s what makes life interesting. Can’t wait to see the new property in spring and summer. 🙋🏻♀️
Something i learnt as a suffer of insomnia. Its important to not have distractions in your bedroom, such as TVs, the Office desk, a kitchen, a stove needing to be constantly fed, Bedroom is just a place to go and sleep, it makes your brain and body shut down when you walk in because it knows even if you dont. your new place will be great and restful. Congrats guys. keep sharing its always wonderful to glimpse your take on things.
When I was young, I saw life as a highway. Looking back over my 70 years, I've realized it's more like bumper cars. Bump and react, bump and pivot, bump and completely change direction. Don't regret change or beat yourselves up over what you can't control. You are both smart, passionate, and talented and, though you're reacting to another bump, things will work out.
Not that you need my approval or my opinion, but you never need to feel that because you're changing your direction and moving to that gorgeous house instead of freezing in the dome, that you failed in any way. And you are both amazing and have accomplished so much! Your viewers adore you and I'm excited to see all your adventures. Plus I want ALL of you to be warm and comfortable this winter. Even though this was a heavy topic you still made me laugh out loud again. Sending love.
I first came to your RUclips channel because the “living off the grid” idea fascinated me (not that I would EVER do it myself!). But as I watched this video I realized that I keep watching your channel because of the two of you. I am kind of over the “off the grid” stuff but I am not over you guys! I will keep watching and can’t wait to see the next chapters of your adventures in life!
I just can't tell you how much I love the two of you. You are premiere story tellers. You are so honest and interesting and caring. Anyways of course, when Todd got emotional I started to cry (as usual). You are so right, things have been terribly hard and quite honestly, I don't think your followers realize just how hard it has been. Most of these ppl come from temperate climates. I bet if you had any followers from the Scandanavian countries they would not be giving you such a hard time. Canadian winters are hard af, if you don't come from here, you don't get it. I am thrilled you have a new home. I am so excited to see where all this is going to take you. I am along for the journey. Also if you are interested, I would love to hear the shipping container story, not only because the two of you will slay that conversation but also because I think ppl need to realize what you have been through and also the drawbacks of these types of homes in this climate. Sorry about the long comment but I also agree about the children thing. If you are going to have them, you don't want to put that on hold indefinitely. I am also reminded of Simply Living Alaska channel, they moved to a better place for their old dogs to live out their senior years in comfort, I really admire them for it.
Bless you guys. Not a failure or disappointment. Dreams change. Your life is yours to do what you want. I think we all live with a “wish I had”. I’m 85 and didn’t reach many of my dreams so I’m pulling for you.
You definitely didn’t share how rough your winters were on your weekly vlogs. As I’ve watched your journey I always wondered if you guys were too isolated just working on the land. It’s a tribute to how strong your relationship is that you got as far as you did. I’m super happy to see your new home with plumbing and heat. Enjoy!
I think what you’re doing is fabulous! There is no need to suffer through another winter at the construction site. Normal people will understand. You’ve been so tough and brave and deserve a break. ❤
I love the fact that you are doing what is right for you guys! Follow whatever dreams may come up. The Universe is sending you amazing opportunities! Seize the day!!!
Agreed, thanks so much Glenda!
I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, the RUclips that I enjoy is about story. Good stories have ups, downs, twists, turns, and *I* don’t write/make them. This is YOUR story. I love your story, with all of its wanderings. Wherever you guys go, I will follow your story, because it’s YOU that I value.
When a dream becomes an anvil around your neck, the key is to know when to pivot. That is not failure. You've gained the skillsets to positively maneuver what life throws at you. The success of your relationship during those times is the trophy!
I just want to say that I admire you that you were able to manage for so long in the forest under these conditions. I am keeping my fingers crossed and will be watching you remodel and decorate the new home :) Lots of love from Poland :*
Bottom line… you just have to do what is right for you. If you have kids the priorities will shift again, and, as soon as they can talk, they weigh in with their own opinions. It is real life. Enjoy the journey whatever you decide.
I love that one cute sprig of Todd's hair venturing out like a tiny antennae. Sorry guys couldn't keep my eye off it.
I laughed and cried listening to this video, always on your side whatever direction you decide!! Ok, I think one thing I would definitely tune in for is an hour of your tea time. When Todd said he'd burn the woman's house down, I burst out laughing. You two are a great comedy duo! Anyway, live your life however you please, you certainly didn't fail, think of all the lessons learned, now take a breath and move forward...decorate the new place, reconnect with friends, vacation with your boys, head back to Palm Springs for a weekend. Whatever, ENJOY LIFE!! Love you two always!!💙💚💛🧡
I think this is great! You can take a break from the land and when you go back to it you can actually enjoy it! You guys are great! Love riding along with your adventures!❤
Thank you for coming along for the ride!! ❤️
"We blow out the kitchen on day 1!" - ahahhahaha YES! Totally with you Todd on the infatuation of new surroundings and the beautiful, all-consuming energy of the infinite possibilities. ❤ It's interesting what you say about potential birth mothers and your current surroundings - honestly, apart from a few basics, I think a 'forest school' life is 100x more nourishing and potent to a child's well-being and evolution than having 'perfect on paper' parents. Every time you mention children I can so picture you both guiding, educating and loving them in so many rich ways. I'm really looking forward to seeing you navigate this next step of your journey and watching you give the most amazing upbringing to one or more little children. (Can't wait for the episodes: 'Baby's first hard hat (Todd bought one in every colour)' and 'Baby tries AG1 - not what you expected' 😉)
I see the container house being a family project. You and the kids working to finish it, having the cottage gives you time to do it right and reduce the stress and pressure on you. The dome will be a camp out home for the family. Instead of feeling overwhelmed you can now enjoy making it work for you.
Every posting by Tyler and Todd is a treat:
Tyler: Nothing we can't tackle!
Todd: Meditation space! Build a boat! Cut a hole and put a door in!
And the absolute confidence when Tyler says "we can handle this".
You guys are absolutely not failures. Sure, life is hard sometimes, but you cope and learn. There is a reason why so many of us have you as role models.
And btw: I just realized: Once you have kids, you can no longer have as much 6. (And no, dont ask. (It is pronounced the same way in swedish.).)
cheers! / CS😁💖😁
Hey guys, wow - this was a lot to digest, but I'm glad you let us know your struggles. I felt especially bad that your viewers were giving you a hard time for buying the cottage. I think part of it was that throughout these past few years, you never let on the depth of the struggles of living on the land. I also think that we were all so wrapped up in your projects and what was coming next, we never took into account what it was like on a day to day basis to do basic human functions like going to the bathroom and taking a shower. Honestly, I'm surprised you lasted this long. It shows your true passion and commitment to The Land. I'm so happy for both of you that you decided to take this step back and hopefully enjoy life more than always working on a project. I love your new cabin and am looking forward to your adventures there. I wish you all the health, happiness and love there. I'll be tuning in each week for the updates! 💙John
I follow a channel called Foxes Afloat which was 2 English guys taking a narrow boat around England. Really enjoyable and added bonus of some brilliant photography. Then they planned to change to a new purpose built narrow boat but life changed and they are now living in a croft in the highlands of Scotland, keeping bees, chickens, providing a special home to an owl called Sherlock...
They worried they would lose many of their followers but whilst a few may have gone, they have gained more in the time they have been in Scotland.
As many of us said we may have started following because of the narrow boat link but we stayed because we liked Colin and Shaun and enjoyed their videos and keeping up with their various activities.
I'm sure you will find the same, its who you are as people and how you film / share that matters as much if not more than what you are doing or where you are living. Just keep it real and be happy.
Take care
Celia
(Solent coast UK)
Omg I love Foxes Afloat, they are the most wonderful couple. They have made many big changes in their lives as well.
After losing both of my parents, divorce and other heartbreak, I spend my life trying to be a good person and being as absolutely cozy and comfortable as I can be! I wish the same for you both. I totally understand this life pivot, it's not strange at all and I'll still be tuning in.
I haven't even watched the video yet and I'm here to tell you that your subscribers, your friends, will stay with you no matter where you roam, no matter where you live. You two are the most motivated, energetic, can do people ever!!! I mean just look at what you grow in a season! Just one small part of what you've created has flourished, which I feel is representative of everything you do. Your water filtration system, your outdoor shower, your fire pit your deck(s) - so many accomplishments! It's people who can't pivot who end up unhappy 🙂
I think through COVID we all wanted to escape reality and used your adventures to do so. We lived vicariously through you while we sat on the couch. Your mental health is much more important than our inability to do what you did/doing. Live the life you need to live. I will continue to watch your videos and podcasts.
Well said Nancyk❤
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I am sure that whatever you will take on or do or dream about will be for the best of both (shall I say the 5) of you. It is your life and not anyone else’s. Stay strong and move on. I am eager to see where life will take you. Stay safe. Stéphane
Dearest Tyler & Todd… You both have grown in so many ways thru the experiences and journey you shared with all of us. I can only dream of such an adventure. The risks that you took from the very beginning, traveling USA amongst a global pandemic, then in building the The Land…as difficult as it has been, it also has made you who you are today. Look what you learned and created! It made me giggle, sorry you were in tears, but it was empowering to wittness! In life, we have Stepping Stones, lessons to be learned, and that’s where our growth lies thru Life’s Storms & Sunshine Moments! Our Family has a Cabin in the Pines. It is Heaven on Earth; but to live there, full-time, during the harsh Winter? No Way, it would be near to horrific. I completely understand your dilemma. I hope that once you have time to relax, go shopping please 😂 I can’t wait to decorate for Christmas with you! Enjoy your new place on the water🤍 Maybe you’ll be able to continue your endeavors in the Spring. If not, it is OK! Our cabin sits on the water. The two of you are going to thoroughly have beautiful life-changing and exhilarating moments as a couple with your family snd friends. PS.. Let’s get building again! A Deck, A Hot Tub & a Dock! 😂☃️🤍🎄With lots of Love xo
Wow! Thank you for being so open and honest. I’m excited to see the cabin decorated. Having a place with running water and facilities to keep yourselves and your fur babies safe and warm sounds so peaceful. Loving the podcast!!