I Had A Mental Breakdown At The Hospital
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Oh my goodness, I was going to be buying a new toothbrush from them today - it’s even on my to do list - and now it’s your sponsor! So weird haha
@@DiannaCarney omg hahaha, what a coincidence, I love that!
Hee Romee! Mijn moeder is nu aan het herstellen van kanker. Was (en is) allemaal mega heftig, en vooral de emoties en rare gedachten die daarop volgen. Waarom heeft niemand het over de naklap? Kan me het helemaal voorstellen, nou ja soort van in ieder geval. Mocht je er ooit over willen kletsen met een mede Dutchie, laat maar weten :)
Romee it took me along time to learn how to crochet until I watched a 8 Yr old crochet 😁 yes I learned from a child lol..give jonas hands a watch on utube .. look up on his channel crocheting for beginners..you will get little raffee done in no time 😊..hopefully your feeling a little better soon.
I appreciate your being supported by a brand and assume/know they give you money to talk about their product. But it REALLY bothered me that, there you are, being treated for cancer and in the hospital for a stem cell transplant - in the bathroom doing essentially a commercial. I saw in Instagram that you are out of the hospital now. I truly hope your spirits are better. We are all thinking of you and sending our most since wishes for your recovery and health and happiness. (sorry for the incomplete sentences and terrible punctuation)
Awww, sweet Romee. Survivors guilt is a real thing and you are doing unbelievably awesome on processing your thoughts/emotions. Shower cry, write those letters, Vlog your tears and feelings...whatever helps you process.
If you haven’t been seeing a therapist during your illness, you should be and need to be. It is a significant life change and it’s easier to have therapy ongoing to manage fires rather than waiting till the fire gets out of control and trying to have a therapist help put it out. I have a life-threatening disease I will never be rid of and I can’t say how important it is to get therapy.
It is lovely of you to share this important advice. I hope that you continue to do well.
I absolutely support this. Romee, find a therapist, there should be special services available to you. It is a major life event
@Holly Daugherty Yes, definitely. Especially with cancer...your hair grows back, you’re able to do (if you’re lucky) most of the things you used to be able to do and people treat you like someone who’s never been sick. Because you look “normal”. But others don’t see the exhaustion and the massive impact it had on you emotionally. And some people will expect you to feel “normal” again, too. So I think you are absolutely right, seeing a therapist is so beneficial, because you get to talk to someone who is able to help you navigate through all those emotions.
@@marnies6381 this is so true. Great advice.
@@laurelowens8162 I'm sorry you got such a bad experience with therapy. It sounds frustrating for putting faith in something that ends up not going well and I can relate to an extent. But there are a lot of people who have great success with therapy and I find it a bit irresponsible to discourage them from seeking help. For a while I was getting fed up with my therapy but thanks to me continuing and to my therapist for being patient, I was able to curb my panic disorder for years until I got it back recently. So I say I suggest everyone at least try to do it and even try a few different therapists. It's not a lost cause and the field of psychology is always evolving! You'll learn something new. Just open your mind and give it a chance.
I swear you are just too cute of a hot mess. You had me laughing and tearing up back to laughing. Hugs from far away. Dying is an absolute part of living, no one gets out alive. Don't feel guilty because your time frame is different than others.
Too cute of a hot mess is the perfect way to put it 😅 love her.
Well put👍
She’s looks very far from dying. A friend of mine had a stem cell transplant and she looked terrible at this point in her treatment. Romee you looks wonderful and beautiful. I’m so glad you’re doing SO well.
@@janerainsford8996 ... She wasn't saying she looked like she was dying lol did you watch the video??
By the person saying "your time frame is different than others" implying that she doesn't have much time left. Otherwise why say that? No one knows how much time she has left or what her timeframe will be.
What you're going through is called survivors guilt. I went through the very same thing right before my liver transplant. You go between, "I'm a good person, why did this happen to me" and "Why do I get to live, and others will die". Hang in there, it does get better
Glad you got your transplant, hope things continue to go well for you.
I have MS and am disabled so I found art. It's my therapy. I love to paint and color in adult coloring books - using shiny gel pens might help because they are so pretty and shiny.
About to watch fully now, but by the title I just wanted to say you’re not alone, and tbh I’m surprised it took this long for a mental breakdown! My first few nights at the hospital the nurses had to give me panic attack meds to get me to stop crying lol. Everyone is entitled to breakdown sometimes, it’s part of being human.
Thank you for saying this, I need to hear this today too
Romee you should consider been a writer, you have talent in expression of thoughts and feelings. Maybe when all this is over, you could write a book to inspire others with your personal cancer experience❤️
I would certainly buy that book.
@@jeaniejbutler4911 me too, definetely:)
What a fantastic idea! Romee please consider this idea as I believe it will help others. You are an inspiration to us all. I would buy this book.. But of course we would understand if you are not comfortable with this idea.. lots of love xx
“Ziggy didn’t really get a chance to shine…” 😂😂😂😂
Romee, I would NEVER be able to learn crochet from a tiny book like that. You are absolutely not stupid for not being able to do it! There are tons of great videos on youtube teaching the basics of crochet that would be much more helpful. That is how I learned and even then it did take some time, so it does require some patience
I also got a kit for a cute little fox and oh my word...it was a disaster. I will try some squares while following a RUclips tutorial first😆
Yes! I was just about to suggest watching RUclips Tutorials. I learned how to crochet with RUclips. And If I can do it, you can do it, too Romee 👍🏻☺️
I was thinking the same thing. You can learn anything on RUclips! I’m a knitter but a dear friend of mine that had lost her hair from chemo sent me a picture of a cute little crocheted hat she wanted. Since I couldn’t tell her no, I don’t crochet, I found videos to help me. If I can do it, you can too. Just start with something easy like a granny square. Go easy on yourself trying and learning new things. You have to be in the right place with plenty of patience also… good luck.
I watched thet movie while my mother was batteling breastcancer. Wasn't smart move me. Because I couldn't stop crying. Both my parents are cancer survivors which I'm very grateful for
You have been very strong. Trust me everyone has the breaking point. Hang in there.
Ride the emotions like waves, its normal to have such big emotions after having so much happening to you physically- I’m healing from a hysterectomy and had a huge surprise break down after, youre just managing through what youre going through and its ok ❤️ love you so much
Crikey what happened with your hysterectomy to make you so ill? Mine was a breeze and I was only in hospital 1 night and went back to work a week later, I had a full hysterectomy, cut hip to hip type.
@@janeevans4758 maybe the realisation of its finality not the physicality
It's an important and meaningful part of your body. A breakdown is warrented.
@@janeevans4758 I don't think you meant to be callous but this did come off pretty ableist. One person's experience is not another's. Additionally, I'm pretty sure OP was talking about emotionally. Hysters can be emotion-free for some, but others may mourn the loss of a special part of their body. I had a hyster at 28 without being able to have wanted children (stage 4 endo) and it was a grueling recovery physically and mentally.
@@janeevans4758 I had a 746g tumor in between the walls of my uterus, the hyst was not exactly my choice but more the thing I needed to do to stay healthy. I’m 28 and have no children, and thought I was pregnant when in reality had a giant quick growing tumor. My doctor encouraged me to recover for 6 weeks so I did so.
Romee being emotional and shedding tears is totally understandable you've been through so much. You need to take care of your mental health as well. Sending you comforting hugs 🤗xx
Romee you're here because your story isn't over. You're such a huge inspiration to ppl all over the world. All ages and races. You are a beautiful, positive, upbeat girl!! I know in your situation you have to be, but you're doing an amazing job at it!!!! I know I'll be right here during your journey. Yes watching sad movies really mess with a person's emotions. Love you Romee, from Dayton Pennsylvania in the United states
Awww don't ever apologise for your emotions. It probably helps people to know you are going through the same emotional journey also. There has to be ups and downs. It's our human response to the tragedies of life. You are doing great girl x
There are crochet videos on youtube to teach you how to do everything in that cute giraffe kit- but it is very ambitious for a first project! Don't get discouraged, start with a scarf, move to a hat, learn to read a pattern and then try the giraffe! It sounds like a lot but it uses up a lot of time for something productive. I taught myself crochet and can make all sorts of things now!
I learned to crochet when I was nine. I’m now 64. Everyone I have taught the first thing I had them do ( before attempting a pattern) was to learn the stitches and get comfortable doing them… rows of single crochet, double crochet, etc.. As many have said there are some great tutorials on RUclips. You can do it! I like it because I don’t have to think too hard about it. For me it is relaxing.
Therapy mental health meds and friend and family support goes a long ways. Wishing you the very best. My heart goes out to you..
You’re dealing with so MUCH. Hang in there.
yes i agree with you lorraine x
I feel ya Romee!!! I'm 68 years old - when I was around 14ish I learned how to crochet; I think my maternal grandmother taught me. I crocheted a beautiful large doily out of variegated yarn and gave it to my grandmother. From that time on (she lived to be 91) she had that doily on a little table in the living room underneath a small table lamp and later placed my high school graduation photo next to it. I brought the doily home after her funeral but I have no earthly idea how to crochet now!! I also knew how to knit and in my early 20's I learned to needlepoint and made quite a few things doing that. I'd like to crochet again so I purchased a book at a used book store as well as some yarn & crochet hooks at Walmart. Still haven't gotten around to trying to learn again.
Romee,
I believe that each of us enter into a soul contract that we make before our birth. In this contract we have what lessons we are to learn, what challenges we are going to have to over come to learn those lessons, who we choose to be our parents, when and how we are going to live and when and how we are going to die. Each of us have our own unique journey in life and in death, unfortunately most of us don't remember entering into these contracts and it is hard to accept the illness / death / heart ache /suffering of those we know and love and those we see on TV/ you tube / on the news and third world countries because we have empathy and we want so badly to take the pain / grief away and replace it with comfort and love.
I have cried watching your journey and I have so so badly wanted to remove your illness and fill your life with nothing but rainbows, fairy floss, endless days of sunshine for you, your family and friends. It's completely natural. Sending you lots of healing energy and positive vibes, you are such a strong woman. a role model to all that are facing struggles in their lives, that they too can follow their dreams and accomplishments.
How absolutely human you are!! I don’t necessarily think you need therapy( I do believe in therapy when needed!!) I think under the circumstances, you are totally human. I remember when my girls were young, we decided to watch Black Beauty. Me, and my older daughter were inconsolable!! I will never watch the movie again! I think your idea of writing a letter to get closure is a wonderful idea! ! Whoever it is that you will be writing will be very grateful, I am sure. Best wishes from Georgia, USA!!💕
When my mum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer I flied home to take care of her. We spend the whole first night after my arrival talking. I asked her how she manage to stay strong after the diagnosis and she said that every person has their own path to walk in this world, and her life is exactly the way it supposed to be. Romee this is your life, your story and I strongly believe that our energy, our consciousness never disappear and there is some place where we some day meet with people whose "path" is shorter then ours.
I just got out of the hospital after a double lung transplant. I was in for a month, and started to get really depressed, literally having a mental breakdown. I met with the hospital psychiatrist and he helped to ease my hospital depression. It takes a toll on your mental health being stuck in a room , the same walls, the same window view ....I get it. I even started hating the greenish grey paint on the walls.! You’re doing great. You got this, you’re a warrior. Soon this will all be behind you.
Timer I love your videos! You’re so sweet and honest! I have leukemia and have had the same questions and feelings as you. I’m thankful but I feel guilty. I hate cancer but I don’t want pity. There are things we will never understand! I pray a lot and it really helps. God really helps. I need a lot of peace to go through this chemo thing and sickness so I pray and God helps me , gives me peace. I’ve written letters before to people who have hurt me. I never sent them but writing it out on paper helped me tremendously! Also there’s great satisfaction in scrunching the paper up after and throwing it away!! Lol Hang in there! You’ve been given a gift- LIFE. Live it. Squeeze every oz you can from it for yourself and for those who weren’t so fortunate as you and I. I just love you!💖💖
We are all so so proud of you Romee, you’re such a real, honest and brave person… we’re all allowed a down day
Romee you have no idea how watching you inspires me and comforts me. My 27 year old daughter passed away during a dialysis treatment she was waiting for a kidney transplant. It been a hard two years and then i come across you. You have such a big heart and a strong young woman.
Oh sweetie, I am so in tune with you it hurts. I am a 2-time cancer survivor and so is my daughter, and we have both discussed feelings like yours so often. I love that you are so open and honest about your feelings because too many of us hide those away with the shame they rode in on and leave them there, unresolved. But I have also found (and I see this in your videos as well) that so many of my inner gifts became much more visible during treatment. I have always loved to laugh, and my grown children and I share a gift for "dark" humor :) and I found myself laughing at the most unusual things during treatment. My gift of compassion rose to new heights with others. My gift of calling things as I see them, rather than how I imagine them, served me very well and kept me from believing the lies we tend to tell ourselves about that future we had carved out that might not be there. You keep doing you and you will come out of this intact. People like to call us warriors and then we feel we have to live up to that by soldering on when we should be in the sick bay. You are allowed to cry. I used to cry in the shower so I could watch those tears wash down the drain, never to return. Each day has it's onw individual tears. Many a good sleep has been birthed by a well of tears. Sending love and grandmotherly hugs to you.
Survivor’s guilt is real, sometimes you are here for a greater purpose. You are special and deserve all goodness that comes your way. 💕💕
Thank you for visiting with us... appreciate you much🌻
Survivors guilt is so real. I just want to give you a big hug! Love you girl!
you havent fulfilled your purpose in life, babes. you are meant for great things and this is just the beginning. i cant wait to see what life has in store for you next. you helped me get through these rough times and for that, i cant thank you enough. bless up, romee.
Having a mental breakdown is a natural part of long hospitalizations. I have had a hospital admission for over a month and my poor nurse had watch me go insane and lose my mind and start laughing at everything one minute and then cry the next. Drugs are your friend. At least they were for me. Just got out of the hospital again after 2 weeks and this time learned things like pranking nurses and going for long walks or as my nurse called it getting lost on purpose!
You are completely allowed to have a breakdown, you show so much patients and grace with what you are experiencing. I'm praying for you that you will be encouraged by the positive effects of the treatment you are getting. You are blessed to have an intelligent and creative mind. Thank God for His presence in the room with you. I'm sure that many people are praying for you every day. May God continue to be with you every step of the way through your illness and treatment.
Hang in there girl!!! its ok to not be ok sometimes...i find crying some times very healing! much much love from wounded Greece (we have multiple fires here)
I'm so sorry about the fires! Hope you and your family and friends are in safety!
@@RomeeDussenbroek Thank you so much girl means a lot! so far we are all ok for now! Much love and a big hug!
Romee, I find it easier to watch you tube videos on crocheting. I learn better by watching than a booklet. You are in my prayers sweet girl! 🙏🌸💕🇺🇸
Journal- If you need to get things off your mind or just ramble. Journals really helped me. When I was done I'd run the pages through the paper feeder. No one else needed to see what I wrote. They were my personal feelings. Yep, helped everytime.
Your doing amazing Romee.
You are loved💗
Dear Romee I just lost my mum so when you said ‘why do some ppl have to die’ I cried with you. I sobbed uncontrollably actually for ages. Please don’t ever feel guilty that your journey is to live. It’s life and some ppl have long journeys and some short. You are never boring to watch and I thank you for your strength resilience and ability to comfort others during this time xx
I am so sorry about you loss.
So sorry for your loss Sonia ❤️
Watching you learn to crochet was very entertaining, because I remember trying to learn last year earlier in the pandemic, and i was so frustrated 😂 but I just sat there out of stubbornness and kept trying, and eventually got better at it. I hope your friend will help! RUclips tutorials are also great
I think these paper booklets aren't really helpful especially when you start from zero. I recommend looking the stitches up on RUclips, there are a lot of short, helpful videos and after repeating it a bit it's very calming... :)
Crochet crowd, happy Berry, bella crochet all very helpful in learning. Easy to follow visual instructions:)
Go to UTube to learn- you might really like it. To me it is relaxing. I just made my 18 yr. old Granddaughter a crop top-1st. Time doing clothing n I’m 63 years old😉😜😬
You're smarter than I then...I gave up. 🤪
When i was in hospital removing my shitty cancer i became besties with a young girl ten years my junior sadly she died and i always felt guilty i survived
But now i realize cancer research needs me as a guinea piggy to help save others xxxxx dont cry !
You are so strong and a inspiration to us all! Just hang on ! We are all here for you, your never alone! I love crafting... I love to color it is a great way to unwind and just get into your own element. ❤️👳🏻♀️❤️
Sometimes a good cry is the best thing you can do! When my daughter was growing up and one of us had had a tough day we would pick out a “crybaby movie” and watch it together. The whole point of the movie was to let out the bottled up emotions by using the movie as a jumping off place. There were times that we didn’t even finish the movie because as soon as we were able to talk about our rough day we would just talk and talk. We had some of our best conversations after those movies. But I love your cry in the shower approach! I can see how you could feel refreshed after one of those outpourings. However you deal with this journey, Romee, it is the right way! Your entire purpose right now is to just “be”. Crying, laughing, crocheting, or writing letters, all of it is good! I love just listening to you! I get so excited to see that you have posted. You are brave and you are strong! And you are not alone!!!
Survivor's guilt is real as I am sure you know. I think writing the letters is a wonderful idea and I like someone's idea about burning them if you want.
I am not sure you want to hear this, but I also agree with those bringing up the idea of talking to a therapist. I hate feeling like I am overstepping boundaries, I just know from my personal experince that there are major misconceptions about therapy in the NL.
I support you and I hope that you are feeling better!
It's okay to be upset and cry. No one is, or should be, judging you. I love how real you are in your vlogs. You don't act. You show yourself. That is admirable. Keep fighting! God bless!
hi Romee I hope you are doing better. I've been watching your videos but I never commented until now. I too am fighting cancer. I'm Stage 4 Metastatic Breast Cancer. Basically terminal. This is my 2nd time fighting. I was first diagnosed with cancer back in 2015. I beat then but I found out a year ago it came back and spread to my bones. My left femur and left clavical spontaneously broke. Had emergency surgery and found out through scans that the demon was back. I as well wondered why some lived and some die. All I can tell you is there is no rhyme or reason to this disease. It doesn't discriminate. We all have our path and we all have our journey. I could die at anytime. Doesn't have to be cancer. It could be a plane crash or car accident. You never know. We are chosen to tell a story about survival and what we go through. And hope it may help someone. Or make someone feel they are not alone. Don't think about why me, why do some get to live longer. We all don't get out of this life alive. Thinking about that stuff just robs us of going on with life. It's survivors guilt. Completely normal to feel that way. It's ok not to be ok. Just don't get complacent with it. We are going to have our bad days and good days. Just know you are not alone in feeling this way. Just live life the best you can. Listen to that song from Tim McGraw " Live like you are dying". It gets me through a rough patch.
Hey Rommee, I’m not sure you will ever see this, but that’s okay. You are loving and kind and so relatable. What you were feeling after, wondering why you, is called survivors guilt ( this is of course in no way excluding other things that you have in your mind).You are going through something that most find traumatic, and you are being so brave and open and navigating it in ways I’m not sure I ever could. Thank you for sharing your journey with such honesty and integrity. I hope you get all the closure you need.
Romee , survival guilt with cancer is a very real hard thing , Idk if your offered counseling for everything you’ve been going through but I could not go through my cancer journey without it . Your such a beautiful soul praying for you , much love from Canada
Also my sisters keeper is so sad! I watched it pre cancer diagnosis with my mum and we both bawled our eyes out! I wouldn’t dream of watching it again now.
The movie is the saddest ,, your life and work is not finished on this earth love , and no one will ever go a minute before their time xxx
I know how hard it is Romee, being stuck in a hospital , seeing the hours pass so slowly and feeling trapped. I was hospitalized for a year and I thought about suicide many times, I was depressed , desperate and angry. Don't feel guilty to be alive, you have suffered and fought so hard and despite many people too and still died is not our fault to be here . I hope your treatments work and you never deal with cancer ever again .
Search the crochet stitches on your laptop. They will show how to do the stitches. First up find out if the pattern is UK or US. Stitches are done differently in those countries. Once you know that, the rest is easy to follow on the Internet. You just say UK, or US after your stitch request. I hope that helps.
Romee, you are an artist , look at all the nice colors you took ..... full of love and life .... meditate on that painting , focus on the light all around the giraffe and let the light .. in ... the light is around you ... it is normal to cry , let it out ... every day I watch your post on RUclips , I like you very much ... don't forget to focus on the light ... from Canada 🇨🇦
Hey Romee i understand. My mother in law is currently in her last phase of her live. She has colon cancer. It is unfair that some people have to die. And again, you are a strong person Romee. Heads up hun, you can do this. 💜💜💜
You with the crocheting is so relatable. I can crochet (somewhat), but I cannot read the patterns/instructions for toffee!
Edit: That cardigan when you are doing the puzzle, looks so comfy! Always start with the corners and edges of a puzzle.
Another edit: Hugs to you! It's ok to cry. It's pretty cathartic. It gets it out. I think you're doing so well, and I promise I'm not being patronising! I love that you're being real.
Having a mental breakdown in your position? Id say you earned that. Youre a hero in my book, you beautiful soul. Im 27 and 2y ago I had my third open heart surgery. Im looking at at least one more to go. I know what it feels like wishing for only to br healthy in your life. Keep smiling and stay strong, and you will beat this cancer. I trully belive we are stronger then our missfortunes ❤
I am glad you're showing us both the ups and the downs. You're on a wild and difficult journey.
Also, you're allowed to say what you need to say to the people who need to hear it. You're allowed to seek closure. You're allowed to tell people they've hurt you or let you down. You don't have to write the letter and never send it - you can send it. The only thing you have to be prepared for is that they are also allowed to respond, and it might not be what you want to hear (or maybe it will be something good that will make room for healing, either together or apart).
I do a lot of chrocheting. And I did expect you to fail with only pictures instructing you how to do the stiches (it is so hard to understand with only pictures!!!). So not worries! I think you can make the giraffe, I would advice you on watching RUclips videos and practice chanis, and the basic stiches. You can use the yellow yarn to practice, because you can just remove the hook and then pull the thread to unwind the whole thing and then use it again! So practice if you are bored. It is quite frustrating in the beginning, but I promise you will get the gist quite fast if you watch tutorials😊and then you would soon freestyle small animals!
Ziggy's Mom turned out gorgeous!!! You have a real eye for color. And yeah, you started with a very difficult crochet project. What you should do is start with a scarf or pot holder to practice. YT has great tutorials. Sending love and prayers!!
Loved the video, laughed and cried with you!
Write the letters if you really don't feel like sending them when you can burn them and let that be the end of whatever is bothering you and move on to better things and better people ❤️
YES! This totally works - no matter how old you are or what you are going through!🥰
Well said, I am a member of a 12 step program and it taught me to do exactly that. It amazed me how just putting it down on paper relieved so much of what I had been feeling about certain people and a few I mailed but most I was able to just let go of. You will find afterwards that you no longer carry that baggage around with you. It also works on situations or events not just people.
Maybe start a project? Something you can work on most days..... Like a handstitched quilt or wall hanging or knitting something for Winter or something that interests you....
Also indoor exercise if you're up to moving a little. Like gentle stretching even can be so good for your wellbeing if you're having to stay in one spot. I live quite an isolated life so I vaguely map out each day with a loose plan so the day can be full and somewhat fruitful. A bit of movement, leisure, project, creating a good mix.
Ps... I always find in periods of confinement towards the middle is the hardest, then before you know it the end is in sight
Romee I felt the same way after my chemo / cancer experience. And when I felt better I had a fund raisers for a teenager that had cancer. And now I give money to St Jude’s which is a hospital that is free for children with cancer. I would like to go there and volunteer someday. When the pandemic is over. You’re a sweet sweet girl ❤️
Breakdown is necessary for breakthrough. Your honesty and openness to experience makes you more vulnerable than others, but it also makes you stronger. There are not many young people with your viewpoint, who live that truth every day. You are special, Romee, and not because you’re ill. Life has plans for you, and this part of your journey will prepare you for what’s to come.
Much love, sweet girl.
WOW!!! You're such a trooper! You have been through a whole whole lot, and you're still kicking strong! You now have a new subscriber, and a supporter! You're a HERO!!!
What you said about being in the hospital makes you feel safe really resonated with me, that's exactly how I felt while waiting for my brain surgery. I think one whole month alone could drive anyone crazy, you're doing so great! And, My Sister's Keeper is actually also a book, with a different ending than the movie, I highly recommend you to read it!! ^^
Something is bothering you is something you can talk to anyone you trust and privately talk about it, to vent and just to have company.. i dont know but i really hope you are doing okay!! like emotionally, mentally, spiritually and mostly physically well.. UwU *hugs through screens* there is no shame of reaching out to people out even therapist or social worker for mental health and well beings. I been through stuff before and i understood how this whole thing was a struggle... you are so strong and you shine through the dark time. I admire how you made things less scary and taught me things that I never thought of it before. You got this, I know it! with love from Minnesota, USA ~~
Thank you for sharing the bad moments along with the good. You are not one dimensional. We love the whole Romee, not just the smile.
It’s so terapeutic to write letters to people that hurt you, even if you don’t send them, i do it all the time too 😘
Survivors guilt is a beast! I have lost too many loved ones to cancer. People that had so much to still do, yet they died and I survived my cancer, yet am doing only a quarter of what they would be if they survived. Just be kind to yourself Romee.xx
WoW, you have a way with coloring, that picture of your mamma giraffe is awesome, its so lovely. My mom took up adult color books when she was doing chemo..she didnt like talking when she was there but she enjoyed coloring and find-a-word puzzle books, she said both things made the time go by so much faster for her..
Keep up the coloring, for me its mentally relaxing and I can step away from all the thoughts or problems that like to take up room in my head lol.
That is the most tear jerking movie you can see as a cancer patient. You are allowed to feel all those emotions. They're real and many people just don't understand.
Dear Romee: When my son was going through Chemo he had to have medication to calm him down before he started each chemo session. His anxiety was so great he couldn't cope without it. Not many people talk about the mental health aspects of having cancer and also when you are in remission, and it should be talked about. My son is cancer free, like you he had a stem cell transplant, but still gets very anxious when he has to see his oncologist for follow-up appointments. All I can say is stay positive, be strong. You have a whole life ahead of you Romee. I'm rooting for you! Big hugs from Toronto, Canada
Oh dear girl, that wasn't a good movie for you right now. I saw it and I cried for days. Keep up the coloring...
I did that when I was ill and it became great therapy. Sending love from the states. Ziggy will wait for you ! 💜
Romee everybody deserves to live unfornately not everybody live but those who do it’s just because they still have a lot of things to share, to teach and to learn. Thanks for fighting specially for those who can’t. Here in Mexico there are a lot of children and young adults like you fighting against cancer without medicines. Don’t be sad. You are wonderful
I just want to recommend a couple of You Tubers who have either remarkable journeys or beautiful drone footage that help me escape. My favorite is “Sailing Uma” -a couple who have spent the winter sailing the Norwegian fiords this past winter. Their boat is electric so no noise & their photography sensational. “Forestry Forest” -a very modest fellow who lives in a van in Western Canada. He goes on a couple of “hikes” every week to the top of mountains! His drone work is sensational, especially when you see him on the mountain top, a tiny speck on the top of rugged steep mountains. At the end of his 20+ km hike, he cooks a gourmet meal… Another is “Itchy Boots” a single woman on her motorcycle current biking through Namibia … this I just find interesting as I never plan on going there 🥴. Sometimes we just need to be distracted by the beauty of nature. 💝💕❤️
I understand you don’t know how to crochet but I am self taught off youtube! If you type in crochet stitches for beginner or sc or dc whatever stitch you would like to learn. Doing flat things is easier at first but that giraffe Is so cute!
There is never anything wrong with showing your true feelings! ❤️ You are on a rough road and only you truly know that journey. Sending love and strength to get you through the hard times! You are doing it!! ❤️
Sweet Romee, live every single day as if it’s your last, my wonderful sister did just that, she enjoyed her nieces and nephews, enjoyed Halloween, Christmas and every holiday as her last, sadly she passed at the age of 51from metastatic breast cancer after battling it for 8 years, cancer tends to show a person how strong they are or not, and I see a very strong young lady in you. Keep on trucking, you’re in my prayers.
Romee, you're here because you have more to do in your life! You're encouraging so many more people than you think and watching your videos, and journey, is helping their mentality too 💖 My dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer the day after my mum was told she was cancer free, then my uncle died unexpectedly and my dad felt guilty cos he said it should have been him and my mum felt guilty too, it was her brother. Survivors guilt is real and if you realise someone is going through it, please talk to them and make them understand that it's not their time and they have so much left to do. It's heartbreaking to watch someone go through that! Stay safe, you're almost home free!! 💖💖💖
Writing letter helped me loads.
Do it!! It doesn’t matter if you post them. You got it off your chest!
Watching you try to crochet is so relatable to every person whose learned how. It takes time and patience. Oh, lots of practice first. Always start by making pot holders using all the stitches. After the 6th one, your confidence and joy in the thought of making your projects is something you can envision. I love crocheting. 🌼
My life is filled with many sorrows. When the burden is too much I meditate for peace and for me there is this 1 movie that no matter how sad I may be always lifts my spirits. It’s the 1940 version of Pride and Prejudice. You can buy a copy on Amazon or rent it on RUclips.
Being emotional is ok and a big part of your healing journey. Remember your whole body has had a kickstart so this would be a normal process. If you feel like crying then let it all out but don’t feel bad for doing so. As for Ziggy the Giraffe you could learn how to do this by going onto RUclips. That’s the way I’ve been able to crochet things. Good idea to stay away from things that will trigger your emotions! You really rocked it with the colouring in and it didn’t effect your mood. You are a Warrior and Warriors are allowed to cry too. ❤️
Try Diamond Painting Romee. When I start a picture I can't stop. The pictures are so beautiful and hundreds if not thousands to choose from. I have anxiety and depression and It has helped me a lot. I love your videos and you are so sweet and beautiful. I rarely comment but felt the need. Prayers.
My daughter was diagnosed in April with Cancer. You are awesome
I have a bucket full of health problems I won’t list out. Sometimes crying is the only thing that centers us again in times of crisis. Squeeze something soft and let the tears out.
RUclips videos!! To learn to crochet! I learned to knit that way! Hope you feel better soon! As a cancer survivor, totally get the survivors guilt.
Diamond painting is a good craft too keeps hormones busy it's a colouring by numbers with coloured gems xxx
Survivor's guilt is real, and it does hurt. I have it too (fighting my own cancer atm) and I try my best to let those feelings go when I can and focus on the happier stuff. Its easy to spiral out of control and have mental breakdowns, I still get them myself, but then I try and do something that makes me happy so the darkness goes away. Stay strong Romee!
I feel like it's much easier to learn crocheting from a real human. Life is not fair in any way, and everyone has their crosses to bear. You have had a lot in your young life, so yes you are living but you have been through so much. Enjoy your healing and don't feel guilty for being alive!
Aww, hugs! I admire how much you tried to keep busy. I’m so sorry the movie got you feeling sad. I hope you are able to feel better soon.
I’m sure you’ve heard of ‘survivors guilt’ by now. I struggled with it too (and even now, 13 yrs cancer free, it will still hit out of nowhere sometimes). Even things like going to my oncologist’s office for follow ups, and being able to see into the room where patients were getting their chemo … that was rough. I even felt guilty for being there with [my own natural] hair! And heaven forbid someone should compliment my hair! I was undone for the rest of the day. Be gracious with yourself. You feel what you feel. Just let the emotions come and go. They’re natural and healthy. Just don’t get stuck in a bad place (
Romee it's okay to have a mental breakdown. What you are going through isn't easy at all. It is difficult how some people die from cancer and other illnesses. Life is cruel in these instances. There is nothing we can do and everything has been done to help them. It is awful. I feel for everyone going through terminal illness. Keep going Romee
You are allowed to have these feelings. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are a wonderful person. A huge CWTCH from me. That's Welsh for a hug with extras x
The movie My Sister's Keeper always makes me cry too, I watched it not knowing what it was about really and ended up sobbing for over an hour after
You Tube has great crochet tutorials!
Don't ever apologize for being vulnerable. It shows your humanity and empathy. What you have been through is hard and no one derives to go through it and feeling guilty about surviving is normal to have and its very good for your wellbeing to acknowledge them and feel them because we all go through thing some tougher and than others, but we all feel guilty about something and can't understand why some can overcome them while other don't.
Who is the one person that would unlike this video???? Romee you are a perfect mess sister! You have been so strong and I am so glad you shared these moments with us. Even with the tears this video was fun. You look amazing by the way.
Hey, Chica! I've never commented before but, I have to say, you are SO my girl right now. :) You are dealing with real issues and you're doing so in a such an inspiring way. Thank you for reminding me of the strength it has taken to get this far while you take everything in stride. Cheering for you from the U.S.! Stay strong. You're NOT alone. Breaking down is completely healthy and completely normal. If you weren't emotional about this, I wouldn't relate to you like I do. Have a wonderful day!
OK so I've been coloring for close to 7 years now, and girl.... you have an eye for color! You can color while listening to podcasts or movies or whatever. Keep at it, you're a natural!!!!
Silly girl!! That is crocheting!!! You have to know how to crochet!! It takes a lot of practice. Your so cute!! Wish I could be there to teach you. Crocheting is something you really can’t learn in a few hours and that giraffe would be a bit difficult for ultra beginners so don’t feel bad sweetie!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I’m sorry your having an emotional day. Some days are just like that. All the things we have been storing up inside and finally something triggers those emotions and they just have to be felt. So go and feel them, let your self cry, write those letters, purge all the feelings you’ve been pushing down. Hopefully you will feel better after you do this. Sending lots of love and comforting vibes your way!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️