I think the next topic should be called boundaries. Y’all should talk about the differences in boundaries when ur in a relationship versus when your in the “talking” stage
PSA: Let me school y’all on what a real relationship consists of. It clearly got lost between the BS content and the generational curses that are still being recycled in today’s society. A healthy relationship consists of self-love and individuality. meaning that you must first love yourself In order to love someone else. You must first get to know yourself before trying to get to know someone else who doesn't know you, let alone you not knowing who you are. A healthy relationship is between two people who have individually worked on themselves independently, filling their own cups. Therefore, they bring 100% to a relationship when they are both conjoined together. A healthy relationship consists of two people who are self-aware of their own flaws and toxic, un-evolved ways and actively work on those things while holding each other accountable for the things that they may fall short on. A healthy relationship continues to be healthy when you are able to communicate effectively about the things you would like your partner to improve on without listening to respond, but to listen to understand. A healthy relationship continues to be healthy when two people actively choose to want more out of themselves, striving to be the best version of themselves. As a result, it pushes your partner to also want more out of themselves and life in general. A healthy relationship consists of two people who are actively choosing to heal from the things that may have affected them during childhood, life experiences, and relationships in order to step out of the low vibrational energy that was born due to these traumas. These are the basic steps of going on a self-love journey: finding you, loving you, and being whole with you first. The mistake a lot of you make is that you’ve been raised by this anxious, avoidant, abandoned society to the point where you feel you need someone in order to be considered "normal." A lot of you don’t identify with self-love or being raised in an environment that consists of those things and energy. A lot of y’all have been raised around toxic, low-vibrational people and environments that you can’t help but mimic what you’ve been accustomed to all your life. The struggle that you all face is that you don’t allow yourself to "Think" for yourself. You let other people do it for you. If God wanted others to think for us, he wouldn’t have made us all different, and we would be under one mind, one soul, and one reality. We are spiritually connected as beings on this earth, but we are NOT the same. If y’all start using the gift God has given you, you will then see the blessings and the answers you’ve been looking for to a lot of questions you have asked yourself throughout this life. Most of you don’t heal from past situations and subconsciously bring that energy into new situations. I’m here to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with being single; there’s nothing wrong with taking the time to find you and love you first. There’s nothing wrong with not having friends just because you don’t want to seem like the oddball out. You should always strive to do better, be better, and break the spiritual chains that you have subconsciously created for yourself through your fear of being alone. Stop thinking you can’t be or find better. That is the lie you’ve been told. Pray for the strength, wisdom, and serenity to get yourself out of that bondage mindset in order to fight for the things that are truly on your heart. Understand that being alone doesn’t mean you are unhappy; being alone doesn’t mean you are miserable or not normal. Always remember that "Alone" is where you find peace, joy, abundance, and most importantly, God. 🥷
@@LilReese26 Nah, yall, just a generation that doesn’t value real sh*t. Y’all love that toxic, low-vibrational BS that people live in every day. I saw nothing but facts being spoken. It’s not even surprising that you low-IQ humans don’t take the time out to read valuable things such as a book, a long post, or something that is priceless anymore. Yall are too busy watching TikTok videos & shorts. Then wonder why you're ready to leave a relationship that’s probably healthier than the one you stayed so long in. We don’t need people like you in the world. Keep your worthless opinions to yourself. We value people who are still real out here & can have in-depth conversations that are not about surface-level sh*t.
I love that they have a couple podcast. I also love how their so honest they can agree to disagree without arguing or getting upset.Love that for them 👏🏾👏🏾
Idk as a woman coca was definitely speaking facts in this episode I understand what he was saying fr especially “money can control the narrative in relationships” and he’s absolutely right
Why I feel like when he be talking about his friends...he low key talking about how he be moving. Keisha be trying to be neutral but then them side eyes let's me know her Spidey senses be tingling
Not gone hold you coca wasn’t making sense😂😂 i see he tryna stand on his point but nahh dawg mfs gone be stuck in the cycle of dependency instead of having standards to know what they want and stand on it because the 5 niggas giving her money is literally gone make her greedy so when the right man comes around and real life want her she not even gone know how to move. Also … not all men cheat yo circle might be rolling bro but it’s niggas out here that only gone touch something when they see women that meet standards regardless even with money and ambition. Folks ain’t gotta settle for the bs because of the toxicity that social media put out. I know everybody ain’t perfect but mfs can’t just settle for bs and join the crew of chaos.
So Keisha and coca, y’all are both part of the top 5% of people who overall have it together such as looks, money, and intelligence. You guys are like in a different from us regular folks so you have to see it from our perspective because we regular people have to move certain ways and get different reactions then you guys would get if you understood what I mean. You both have pretty privilege, plus money and personality. You guys have to understand that the world for us as regular folks is unfair because that’s just life. Of course a lot has to do with the choices we make but a lot also has to do with other ppl and how we maneuver with them to be better and do better. Most of the time ppl do things based off of survival and that’s what’s really wrong with a lot of ppl and why things are temporary because we don’t have the luxury to date who we really want because we are all trying to survive on this planet in Amerika Ps Coca a Real one for being brutally honest about men. Also, you can date multiple men without having sex with all of them. I’m doing it now and having sex with none
You're on your own with this comment. I didn’t read past the second sentence because you already said a bunch of BS. Don’t ever in your life group people in a box and say "WE." You need to stick to "YOU" and only you. I get tired of y’all "Regular" MFs that claim "Regular" and want to group everyone else in that sh*t as if everyone sees themselves as that. These two are definitely not equipped to give healthy advice on sh*t. It’s only for people who play that game. That’s y'all's problem now: listening to folks that are in toxic situations, etc., and then wondering why you're still out here lost and didn't gain a thing. Y’all love to watch the wrong content on the questions that you should be watching healthy couples on. It’s crazy how y’all will sit here and defend a MF all day but won’t have the energy to think for yourself for less than 5 minutes. Yall, let other people tell you what you need to do, don’t do, etc., and don’t learn sh*t or try to. Y’all love to keep running back to those toxic MFs. When you are truly ready to grow, elevate, and evolve spiritually and not just in life. Your mindset will change just as much as your taste will. You won’t be indulging in content that isn’t teaching you anything other than "How to be a better player." FOH 🥷
2 things so far that ive learned and have accepted in life! 1 an old man told me in jail, different strokes different folks.. Basically every body different and got different circumstances in life period! Number 2 my mom told me this a long time ago and I'll always remember this and imo very true, YOU ARE WHO YOU HANG OUT WITH! Be a leader men, and women not every trend is cool and u don't have to follow other women because they cant be happy with just 1 man and be 40 to 50 single and miserable because at the time it was what everyone else was doing! God bless
@@timwhitten4179 single doesn’t equal miserable and unhappy though. I’m not sure who pushed that narrative but it’s not true especially nowadays. Now that women have more equality and are able to make their own money and have their own things without a man’s permission, we are more comfortable and secure being single if that’s what we choose. Having a man or woman doesn’t mean you’re happy lol I know plenty of couples who aren’t happy. Happiness should come within first and not be dependent on anyone including friends, family, or things. I get what you mean about the trend but you have to realize the difference between a trend and facts. The reason so many women are clinging to it is because what the women are speaking is facts and they are speaking life into them as well. Without typing too much, I’ll just say that there is a reason why women are flocking to these “trends.”
I agree but being lonely during certain times of the year or certain events and just going through so many different women cause I'm not gonna lie im in my prime as far as sex and im not gonna want to have to put in so much effort to make love to someone when she could be beside me safe and comfortable! Unlike women when yall could get laid within 30 minutes with just about any thirsty guy nowadays because yall have way more options! Idk if your cool with getting ran through or using toy's all the time.. Porn is killing relationships as well
I think the element that’s missing from the conversation is that a pick me only says buzz words and phrases or ideals that aligns with a man prospective to peak or keep a mans interest. Agreeing with a man is one thing but saying things to get applauds and seem better than other women.
Everything both of y’all are right to some extent . Like it really is the bold truth frfr on the women side and knowing your worth and for the men, like some really men think like that. It’s sad but it’s true. Love yall podcast.
There wasn’t one bit of good advice the whole time lol. Dating multiple people to use them for material gain is obviously awful advice. That is actually psychopathic
@@thecrow4597excatly smh......a lot of marriages are working because of sacrifice of ones feelings and it seems like human rights. There is a lot of psychological issues happening and manipulation going on. But I don't fall for it
23:44-24:41 Yassss!!! I 100% 100% agree with him!!! Just don't be sleeping with ALLLL of them niggaz tho, but get your bills paid and get your advice. That's real City Girl shyt!! I would be ABSOLUTELY DISTRAUGHT if I wasted the best years of my life, and he did not end up my husband. Like my son and daughter's father knows my entire family on my mother's side. I've been knowing him since I was a little girl, we've been together now since I was 18, he's older than me, I'm now 35, and we're still together. He been proposed to me, got on one knee, with a nice diamond ring and everything, but for some strange reason I'm extremely afraid. I'm afraid of failure, I'm afraid of getting married will ruin what we have, because we're really happy after all these years, I refuse to get a divorce, and I'm only getting married once. I don't want to have to take him out. 🤷🏾♀️💯 24:41-25:07 Not talking about you Keisha, but I don't know where everyone absolutely everyone gets this degenerate ideology from that your vagina is going to be worn out if you're sleeping with multiple men at once!! I'm a nurse, I've deliver multiple babies, about 6 months ago I helped deliver my step grandson. A big azz baby comes out of a woman's vagina, God himself designed our bodies to do, the vagina snaps back🥴 because of this thing called elasticity. 🧠 I say that to say a baby comes out of a woman's vagina, so a penis is not going to ruin your vagina, it's not going to make it to where you no longer have walls, 🥴 the vagina is extremely resilient, and I don't care if she's screwing 100 guy's a day that's not going to make her vagina huge. Your husband can have a huge penisand you've been having sex with him let's say every three days for 20-something years, and your vagina is not going to be ruined. so what's the difference in screwing multiple guys, and screwing one person everyday? It's not like your vagina it's going to know it's differentpenises, and be like oh nope too many penises I'm going to stretch and never snap back. That is st*pid as fuk!! Like I said I've been with my children's father since I was 18, I do my kegels to keep my elasticity good, and to keep that thing tight. It feels no different than it did when I was younger, because I do kegels. The vagina is a muscle people OMG!! There's something called muscle memory. So please stop saying that, because it's really ignorant. 🤷🏾♀️💯 Women sometimes 7 lb babies, 8 lb, 9 lb, 10 lb, 11 lb, and my uncle and aunt had a 12 lb daughter. My aunt and my first cousin/the baby made the paper, because that was the biggest baby girl delivered at that hospital. And guess what her vagina snapped back, because I'm a nurse like I stated before and I told her to do her kegels. Even if she didn't it was still going to snap back anyway, why because God designed our bodies to do so!!!
CHILHOOD PLAYS A BIG PART IN HOW WOMEN REACT AND ACT TOWARDS MEN OR JUST HOW THEY ARE OVERALL... THATS A BIG PART IN IT... BUT AS ADULTS GET HELP THERAPHY OR WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO... THIS FOR MEN AS WELL
I enjoyed this topic. I agree with you both thank goodness 😅 I’m in a secured relationship, because whew these streets are murky, the dating pool is definitely less than desirable. Because I have too much to loose being a small business owner, I’m dating a law student and we are both building together thank goodness he’s a good guy and within reason my speed my vibe for sure. I think it’s important that you find someone who likes you and wants you and let that remain your focus when dating someone. Being desirable is important and I agree wholeheartedly with Keisha about womanly duties and just innately being clean. Whew I’m so thankful that my man is picky and not so easy to please because I have a good one so I really agree it’s very rare. He’s a high value man and thank goodness I have his heart. I believe because I have my own things going on I don’t need to focus on what he has to offer so much but thank goodness he’s provides 70 percent and I cover my 30 percent but generally speaking we are teammates, and it’s not any stress or pressure financially thank goodness. This topic was awesome I would like to see you guys give some insight on how you all remain friends first and ideas on keeping things spicy. I’m trying to keep my boo obsessed with me. Keep dropping these gems 💎.
I understand what keisha was saying at the end but its easier said than done. Its hard to not attach to someone you’ve been dealing with sexually and emotionally
Not him at 13min deflecting that the married man is also at fault and flipping it back on the woman, yea they’re both wrong but why skip over talking about the man who made a commitment in the eyes of the lord AND the law that he wouldn’t betray his wife? He could talk about the women but the next episode better be about the ain’t sh*t men
26:57-27:45 That's so true and this secular world nothing lasts forever, you can be married, have children, in love deeply with one another, grow apart, fall out of love, and get divorced.
He don’t be listening the podcast be all over the place because when she say a topic he go all off of the topic talking about something different 😂😂‼️‼️‼️
I’m here to say that people love to pick sins and say what kind of karma people will face. Married man or not. Let’s not act like y’all aren’t shacking up BEFORE marriage! Having sex BEFORE marriage! & you’re gossiping which all thoroughlut proverbs says is a SIN! If that’s the case y’all bout got more karma coming than the person sleeping with a married man. All i have to say is worry about your own life before trying to say what other people will get. We all do wrong but i really believe in what are a persons motives when they are doing wrong! That to me determines the “karma” you’ll receive.
1:44-2:22 The ladies calling other ladies a pick me, male identified, they're for patriarchy, and into men that are misogynistic sometimes it's true. They are that way. Now MOST of the time the females that are saying that are usually extremely bitter, don't have a man, trying to shame you, or they're very very miserable. 🤷🏾♀️💯 BELIEVE DAT, and I ain't lying!! I said what I said!! Be in your feelings, and feel however you want hun.
We want GOOD men. A man who doesn’t just provide material things. Can he ACTUALLY feed you emotionally, spiritually, physically? Can HE eat the box right? Can he do adult duties? Like cook and clean too? Does he actually SEE you? Or are you just a sex piece that cooks and cleans and makes him look good? It’s such a disservice to yourself to not have what YOU actually NEED, too… just to not be lonely. Just to say, “I got a man.”
A good relationship is about two people with GOOD CHARACTER. Not how much money you have. A good person isn’t going to cheat because they just aren’t built like that. GOOD people don’t need options. They aren’t greedy and know the value of what they have. There is always going to be someone “better” out there. SMH
Coco definitely be talking from experience 😅 I appreciate this convo but I do feel it’s female bashing. Because men definitely do a lot of the same things they’re complaining about women doing but she’s supposed to tolerate, play her part cause we’re out numbered…naw lol
that’s exactly what modern day men are trying to advocate for, we have to fall in line because we outnumber men, so they have more options, it seems the only way woman can be happy or have that fake fairly tale is if they fall in line or get with the program even if that program comes with other women
The concept I think they’re both trying to point out is beautiful ….follow me they really are yin and Yang, money only means or have value to those that don’t have value while morals and values go out the door for some ,this is why getting to know some one in all their seasons both negative and positive is such an important thing, if all I value you is for is money then I’m going to seek other things else where this is why some women cheat not because the man isn’t providing but because of the lack of emotional communication and intellectual provision, do u check on her , do u make sure she is okay metaphysically,has she put herself on the back burner for you ,etc vice versa for the men , if I lose all my money and she leaves the only benefit she has was knowing that the money made the relationship not the time not the emotional support and growing etc a man has to be more than his wallet and credit card it’s values that I have that money can’t buy and same as a woman that’s knows her real worth
24:06 guys with money are way more rare than you think . your around them more so it’s different for you ,we’re literally like 5% of the population really less than that but . So them being wit 5 of them probably won’t happen unless she herself is Top notch getting her own shit done or are in those room most of the times
Feminism gave women rights not to break down the family structure. There’s much more nuance to why the family structure broke down, (mass incarceration, hookup culture, baby mama/baby daddy culture, misogyny, radical feminism (not to be confused with true feminism that helps both men and women)
A married person leave their home with intentions to cheat. If man giving you invested in your self just in case things go bad. I greed with Keisha n Cocoa ❤.
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I think the next topic should be called boundaries. Y’all should talk about the differences in boundaries when ur in a relationship versus when your in the “talking” stage
says “Okey period” 😳😩😆 in lightskinkeisha.
PSA: Let me school y’all on what a real relationship consists of. It clearly got lost between the BS content and the generational curses that are still being recycled in today’s society.
A healthy relationship consists of self-love and individuality. meaning that you must first love yourself In order to love someone else. You must first get to know yourself before trying to get to know someone else who doesn't know you, let alone you not knowing who you are.
A healthy relationship is between two people who have individually worked on themselves independently, filling their own cups. Therefore, they bring 100% to a relationship when they are both conjoined together.
A healthy relationship consists of two people who are self-aware of their own flaws and toxic, un-evolved ways and actively work on those things while holding each other accountable for the things that they may fall short on.
A healthy relationship continues to be healthy when you are able to communicate effectively about the things you would like your partner to improve on without listening to respond, but to listen to understand.
A healthy relationship continues to be healthy when two people actively choose to want more out of themselves, striving to be the best version of themselves. As a result, it pushes your partner to also want more out of themselves and life in general.
A healthy relationship consists of two people who are actively choosing to heal from the things that may have affected them during childhood, life experiences, and relationships in order to step out of the low vibrational energy that was born due to these traumas.
These are the basic steps of going on a self-love journey: finding you, loving you, and being whole with you first. The mistake a lot of you make is that you’ve been raised by this anxious, avoidant, abandoned society to the point where you feel you need someone in order to be considered "normal."
A lot of you don’t identify with self-love or being raised in an environment that consists of those things and energy. A lot of y’all have been raised around toxic, low-vibrational people and environments that you can’t help but mimic what you’ve been accustomed to all your life.
The struggle that you all face is that you don’t allow yourself to "Think" for yourself. You let other people do it for you. If God wanted others to think for us, he wouldn’t have made us all different, and we would be under one mind, one soul, and one reality.
We are spiritually connected as beings on this earth, but we are NOT the same. If y’all start using the gift God has given you, you will then see the blessings and the answers you’ve been looking for to a lot of questions you have asked yourself throughout this life.
Most of you don’t heal from past situations and subconsciously bring that energy into new situations. I’m here to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with being single; there’s nothing wrong with taking the time to find you and love you first.
There’s nothing wrong with not having friends just because you don’t want to seem like the oddball out. You should always strive to do better, be better, and break the spiritual chains that you have subconsciously created for yourself through your fear of being alone.
Stop thinking you can’t be or find better. That is the lie you’ve been told. Pray for the strength, wisdom, and serenity to get yourself out of that bondage mindset in order to fight for the things that are truly on your heart.
Understand that being alone doesn’t mean you are unhappy; being alone doesn’t mean you are miserable or not normal. Always remember that "Alone" is where you find peace, joy, abundance, and most importantly, God. 🥷
Mannnnnn ain’t nobody fina read all them paragraphs 🤡🤣🤣🤣
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@@tee6384I did, so gtfo illiterate!
You wrote wayyyyyyyyy too much
@@LilReese26 Nah, yall, just a generation that doesn’t value real sh*t. Y’all love that toxic, low-vibrational BS that people live in every day. I saw nothing but facts being spoken. It’s not even surprising that you low-IQ humans don’t take the time out to read valuable things such as a book, a long post, or something that is priceless anymore. Yall are too busy watching TikTok videos & shorts. Then wonder why you're ready to leave a relationship that’s probably healthier than the one you stayed so long in. We don’t need people like you in the world. Keep your worthless opinions to yourself. We value people who are still real out here & can have in-depth conversations that are not about surface-level sh*t.
I love that they have a couple podcast. I also love how their so honest they can agree to disagree without arguing or getting upset.Love that for them 👏🏾👏🏾
Yesssss
Idk as a woman coca was definitely speaking facts in this episode I understand what he was saying fr especially “money can control the narrative in relationships” and he’s absolutely right
When Coca said You only have control over you 🔥🔥🔥 let that sink in
Why I feel like when he be talking about his friends...he low key talking about how he be moving. Keisha be trying to be neutral but then them side eyes let's me know her Spidey senses be tingling
The dog is the funniest person on this episode 😂😂 like straight chilling and vibing.
I love that coca giving us females the game we really need. Shout out to him don’t stop giving out the game
The way honey just relaxing is so cute
Them together is so dope love this podcast🔥🔥🔥🔥
Not gone hold you coca wasn’t making sense😂😂 i see he tryna stand on his point but nahh dawg mfs gone be stuck in the cycle of dependency instead of having standards to know what they want and stand on it because the 5 niggas giving her money is literally gone make her greedy so when the right man comes around and real life want her she not even gone know how to move. Also … not all men cheat yo circle might be rolling bro but it’s niggas out here that only gone touch something when they see women that meet standards regardless even with money and ambition. Folks ain’t gotta settle for the bs because of the toxicity that social media put out. I know everybody ain’t perfect but mfs can’t just settle for bs and join the crew of chaos.
This man just gave out sooooo much free game!! I hear what Keisha saying but he right period
I’m definitely having fun in my 20’s . If this person isn’t doing anything right I’m on to the NEXT
You can tell Keisha was uncomfortable when said a man with money fucking hoes outta town watch right before the fake commercial break
Keisha’s friends are going to always dislike you after watching these videos Coca. 😂
He always talking negative about her friends lol weird.
Birds of a feather…
Hummm
His too 😂
Right lol 😅
So Keisha and coca, y’all are both part of the top 5% of people who overall have it together such as looks, money, and intelligence. You guys are like in a different from us regular folks so you have to see it from our perspective because we regular people have to move certain ways and get different reactions then you guys would get if you understood what I mean. You both have pretty privilege, plus money and personality. You guys have to understand that the world for us as regular folks is unfair because that’s just life. Of course a lot has to do with the choices we make but a lot also has to do with other ppl and how we maneuver with them to be better and do better. Most of the time ppl do things based off of survival and that’s what’s really wrong with a lot of ppl and why things are temporary because we don’t have the luxury to date who we really want because we are all trying to survive on this planet in Amerika
Ps Coca a Real one for being brutally honest about men. Also, you can date multiple men without having sex with all of them. I’m doing it now and having sex with none
You're on your own with this comment. I didn’t read past the second sentence because you already said a bunch of BS. Don’t ever in your life group people in a box and say "WE." You need to stick to "YOU" and only you. I get tired of y’all "Regular" MFs that claim "Regular" and want to group everyone else in that sh*t as if everyone sees themselves as that. These two are definitely not equipped to give healthy advice on sh*t. It’s only for people who play that game. That’s y'all's problem now: listening to folks that are in toxic situations, etc., and then wondering why you're still out here lost and didn't gain a thing. Y’all love to watch the wrong content on the questions that you should be watching healthy couples on. It’s crazy how y’all will sit here and defend a MF all day but won’t have the energy to think for yourself for less than 5 minutes. Yall, let other people tell you what you need to do, don’t do, etc., and don’t learn sh*t or try to. Y’all love to keep running back to those toxic MFs. When you are truly ready to grow, elevate, and evolve spiritually and not just in life. Your mindset will change just as much as your taste will. You won’t be indulging in content that isn’t teaching you anything other than "How to be a better player." FOH 🥷
I agree with everything you said 💯 percent
2 things so far that ive learned and have accepted in life! 1 an old man told me in jail, different strokes different folks.. Basically every body different and got different circumstances in life period! Number 2 my mom told me this a long time ago and I'll always remember this and imo very true, YOU ARE WHO YOU HANG OUT WITH! Be a leader men, and women not every trend is cool and u don't have to follow other women because they cant be happy with just 1 man and be 40 to 50 single and miserable because at the time it was what everyone else was doing! God bless
@@timwhitten4179 single doesn’t equal miserable and unhappy though. I’m not sure who pushed that narrative but it’s not true especially nowadays. Now that women have more equality and are able to make their own money and have their own things without a man’s permission, we are more comfortable and secure being single if that’s what we choose. Having a man or woman doesn’t mean you’re happy lol I know plenty of couples who aren’t happy. Happiness should come within first and not be dependent on anyone including friends, family, or things. I get what you mean about the trend but you have to realize the difference between a trend and facts. The reason so many women are clinging to it is because what the women are speaking is facts and they are speaking life into them as well. Without typing too much, I’ll just say that there is a reason why women are flocking to these “trends.”
I agree but being lonely during certain times of the year or certain events and just going through so many different women cause I'm not gonna lie im in my prime as far as sex and im not gonna want to have to put in so much effort to make love to someone when she could be beside me safe and comfortable! Unlike women when yall could get laid within 30 minutes with just about any thirsty guy nowadays because yall have way more options! Idk if your cool with getting ran through or using toy's all the time.. Porn is killing relationships as well
The thing about men having money and cheating tho is these broke men do it too.. 😂 and tbh it’s way more embarrassing! 🤷🏽♀️😭
That 😹 gone be roast beef baby! 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think the element that’s missing from the conversation is that a pick me only says buzz words and phrases or ideals that aligns with a man prospective to peak or keep a mans interest. Agreeing with a man is one thing but saying things to get applauds and seem better than other women.
Omggg Keisha and the dog are pregnant 🤰 at the same timeee🥺😂😂🥰🥰🙏🏽 that is so cute!
🥰 Awww! Honey is pregnant so she does deserves to be spoiled rotten right now, just like female human beings when we're pregnant. 🎯💙🤞🏾
Honey is sleeping peacefully, she love her mama lol
Everything both of y’all are right to some extent . Like it really is the bold truth frfr on the women side and knowing your worth and for the men, like some really men think like that. It’s sad but it’s true. Love yall podcast.
Coca real asf with what he saying .. most men will not tell you this type of game at allll 💙
There wasn’t one bit of good advice the whole time lol. Dating multiple people to use them for material gain is obviously awful advice. That is actually psychopathic
@@thecrow4597excatly smh......a lot of marriages are working because of sacrifice of ones feelings and it seems like human rights. There is a lot of psychological issues happening and manipulation going on. But I don't fall for it
But he’s being honest about it the main thing .
Shut uppp he said nothing of value
Yes!!! Men need to have standards and boundaries as well.. Know your worth as a man.
Great episode. You both had some good point of views from both perspectives. Might need a part two
23:44-24:41
Yassss!!! I 100% 100% agree with him!!! Just don't be sleeping with ALLLL of them niggaz tho, but get your bills paid and get your advice. That's real City Girl shyt!!
I would be ABSOLUTELY DISTRAUGHT if I wasted the best years of my life, and he did not end up my husband. Like my son and daughter's father knows my entire family on my mother's side. I've been knowing him since I was a little girl, we've been together now since I was 18, he's older than me, I'm now 35, and we're still together. He been proposed to me, got on one knee, with a nice diamond ring and everything, but for some strange reason I'm extremely afraid. I'm afraid of failure, I'm afraid of getting married will ruin what we have, because we're really happy after all these years, I refuse to get a divorce, and I'm only getting married once. I don't want to have to take him out. 🤷🏾♀️💯
24:41-25:07
Not talking about you Keisha, but I don't know where everyone absolutely everyone gets this degenerate ideology from that your vagina is going to be worn out if you're sleeping with multiple men at once!!
I'm a nurse, I've deliver multiple babies, about 6 months ago I helped deliver my step grandson. A big azz baby comes out of a woman's vagina, God himself designed our bodies to do, the vagina snaps back🥴 because of this thing called elasticity. 🧠 I say that to say a baby comes out of a woman's vagina, so a penis is not going to ruin your vagina, it's not going to make it to where you no longer have walls, 🥴 the vagina is extremely resilient, and I don't care if she's screwing 100 guy's a day that's not going to make her vagina huge. Your husband can have a huge penisand you've been having sex with him let's say every three days for 20-something years, and your vagina is not going to be ruined. so what's the difference in screwing multiple guys, and screwing one person everyday? It's not like your vagina it's going to know it's differentpenises, and be like oh nope too many penises I'm going to stretch and never snap back. That is st*pid as fuk!! Like I said I've been with my children's father since I was 18, I do my kegels to keep my elasticity good, and to keep that thing tight. It feels no different than it did when I was younger, because I do kegels. The vagina is a muscle people OMG!! There's something called muscle memory. So please stop saying that, because it's really ignorant. 🤷🏾♀️💯 Women sometimes 7 lb babies, 8 lb, 9 lb, 10 lb, 11 lb, and my uncle and aunt had a 12 lb daughter. My aunt and my first cousin/the baby made the paper, because that was the biggest baby girl delivered at that hospital. And guess what her vagina snapped back, because I'm a nurse like I stated before and I told her to do her kegels. Even if she didn't it was still going to snap back anyway, why because God designed our bodies to do so!!!
5 ninjas don’t make you ran through pooohhhh.
@@kennediii9392correct!
It do. Don't feel bad
@@camarymurray8966 I don’t feel bad girl. Stfu talking to me
@@kennediii9392 I can understand that
Coca really putting y’all on game he ain’t lyin ….
I’m sorry Kesh, and it pains me to agree, but Coca ate you up. Every woman needs a male figure in their lives like him. Real nigga.
36:55 I’m just as mind blown 😂😂😂 men are crazy. I loved both perspectives
Na but coca b dropping jewels fr 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I think a pick me is when other women put women down to make them seem a “better” option for a man.
Bingo
this was a great episode. love hearing both perspectives
CHILHOOD PLAYS A BIG PART IN HOW WOMEN REACT AND ACT TOWARDS MEN OR JUST HOW THEY ARE OVERALL... THATS A BIG PART IN IT... BUT AS ADULTS GET HELP THERAPHY OR WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO... THIS FOR MEN AS WELL
I enjoyed this topic. I agree with you both thank goodness 😅 I’m in a secured relationship, because whew these streets are murky, the dating pool is definitely less than desirable. Because I have too much to loose being a small business owner, I’m dating a law student and we are both building together thank goodness he’s a good guy and within reason my speed my vibe for sure. I think it’s important that you find someone who likes you and wants you and let that remain your focus when dating someone. Being desirable is important and I agree wholeheartedly with Keisha about womanly duties and just innately being clean. Whew I’m so thankful that my man is picky and not so easy to please because I have a good one so I really agree it’s very rare. He’s a high value man and thank goodness I have his heart. I believe because I have my own things going on I don’t need to focus on what he has to offer so much but thank goodness he’s provides 70 percent and I cover my 30 percent but generally speaking we are teammates, and it’s not any stress or pressure financially thank goodness. This topic was awesome I would like to see you guys give some insight on how you all remain friends first and ideas on keeping things spicy. I’m trying to keep my boo obsessed with me. Keep dropping these gems 💎.
I can’t stop looking at honey she so cute❤
I understand what keisha was saying at the end but its easier said than done. Its hard to not attach to someone you’ve been dealing with sexually and emotionally
Both of y’all made such good points I love it
Y’all friends gone eat y’all up for this lmao😭 loved the content though
This was a great topic and I can look at it from both perspectives and yes women and men should stay on top of their stuff
That Trouble bar was so real💯 R.I.P.
Not him at 13min deflecting that the married man is also at fault and flipping it back on the woman, yea they’re both wrong but why skip over talking about the man who made a commitment in the eyes of the lord AND the law that he wouldn’t betray his wife? He could talk about the women but the next episode better be about the ain’t sh*t men
26:57-27:45
That's so true and this secular world nothing lasts forever, you can be married, have children, in love deeply with one another, grow apart, fall out of love, and get divorced.
Heyy ya'll.PUT YA V'S UP!!❤ .love how ya'll can debate & all is well..This convo was GREAT!.smooches
Love how coco b telling woman to get that money from these men nd do them😂
So get that bread get that head and leave got it ✍🏾🤣🤣
I’ve been a subscriber but I def see why you are with Cocoa ❤❤❤ Love this podcast!
Vangos always keep it real!💯
a very smart and compatible couple.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 y’all did that!
I love their relationship. Keisha my girl love her ❤
Keisha your very pretty 😍 but speak on the broke ppl relationship we all don't have money 😂😂😂 i only make 40,000 a year
LightSkinKeisha you remind me of me so real and authentic keep being you don’t ever change💕
I appreciate Coca advice to the young women
He don’t be listening the podcast be all over the place because when she say a topic he go all off of the topic talking about something different 😂😂‼️‼️‼️
Men always say they know girls.. but the girl their with don’t act like that ANDDDD we are women ourselves lmao I think we know more about women.
yall be talkin some real shit
I agree with Keisha
Idk what coca was talking about
He made some good points at first after that he lost me
Love what she said giving a woman her props
Make these eps longerrrrrrr
Coca was speaking facts.
I agree. The only thing I can say is stop putting how much you can take a man from a woman in the music as well!
@3:35 literally, dont let us drinkin & smoking im cleaning making sure everyone’s phone is charged
Frrr😂😂😂
I don’t think “pick me” examples were used correctly
It definitely wasn’t it’s more like somebody that’s press and on dic* basically
Keisha what is you talking about I learned that messy with someone broke in order to help them.🙌 I can't do that to myself anymore.
I’ve never heard of being called a “pick me” for cleaning up. Lol where they doing that at 🤦🏾♀️
I’m here to say that people love to pick sins and say what kind of karma people will face. Married man or not. Let’s not act like y’all aren’t shacking up BEFORE marriage! Having sex BEFORE marriage! & you’re gossiping which all thoroughlut proverbs says is a SIN! If that’s the case y’all bout got more karma coming than the person sleeping with a married man. All i have to say is worry about your own life before trying to say what other people will get. We all do wrong but i really believe in what are a persons motives when they are doing wrong! That to me determines the “karma” you’ll receive.
this nigga is so mfn funny bra
Keisha got some damn sense! I like her esp the pick me topic she’s very sensible
1:44-2:22
The ladies calling other ladies a pick me, male identified, they're for patriarchy, and into men that are misogynistic sometimes it's true. They are that way. Now MOST of the time the females that are saying that are usually extremely bitter, don't have a man, trying to shame you, or they're very very miserable. 🤷🏾♀️💯 BELIEVE DAT, and I ain't lying!! I said what I said!! Be in your feelings, and feel however you want hun.
It’s not about taking accountability it’s about women feening to be picked by any man
Cocooo kills meee🤣🤣🤣😤😤😤
We want GOOD men. A man who doesn’t just provide material things. Can he ACTUALLY feed you emotionally, spiritually, physically? Can HE eat the box right? Can he do adult duties? Like cook and clean too? Does he actually SEE you? Or are you just a sex piece that cooks and cleans and makes him look good?
It’s such a disservice to yourself to not have what YOU actually NEED, too… just to not be lonely. Just to say, “I got a man.”
A good relationship is about two people with GOOD CHARACTER. Not how much money you have. A good person isn’t going to cheat because they just aren’t built like that. GOOD people don’t need options. They aren’t greedy and know the value of what they have. There is always going to be someone “better” out there. SMH
Talk about high stander people vs narcissistic people and who’s worse… a lot of people get it confused
5 multiplied by 5 😂😂😂
Coco is real … I fuck with him !
yall didnt describe a "pick me" girl correct
Coca be saying some crazy ass shit bro lmao
Keyshia not living in the real world lol if she had his advice when she was homeless , she wodda been living it up
KEISHA HOPE YOU COME OUT WITH A COOK BOOK# YOUR FOOD IS BUSTING💯
Coco definitely be talking from experience 😅 I appreciate this convo but I do feel it’s female bashing. Because men definitely do a lot of the same things they’re complaining about women doing but she’s supposed to tolerate, play her part cause we’re out numbered…naw lol
that’s exactly what modern day men are trying to advocate for, we have to fall in line because we outnumber men, so they have more options, it seems the only way woman can be happy or have that fake fairly tale is if they fall in line or get with the program even if that program comes with other women
Love y’all
To me a pick me is a groupie lol . That’s the only time I would use that term bc bds definitely got hella pick mes lol
The concept I think they’re both trying to point out is beautiful ….follow me they really are yin and Yang, money only means or have value to those that don’t have value while morals and values go out the door for some ,this is why getting to know some one in all their seasons both negative and positive is such an important thing, if all I value you is for is money then I’m going to seek other things else where this is why some women cheat not because the man isn’t providing but because of the lack of emotional communication and intellectual provision, do u check on her , do u make sure she is okay metaphysically,has she put herself on the back burner for you ,etc vice versa for the men , if I lose all my money and she leaves the only benefit she has was knowing that the money made the relationship not the time not the emotional support and growing etc a man has to be more than his wallet and credit card it’s values that I have that money can’t buy and same as a woman that’s knows her real worth
Because real women do start cleaning after a mess
Woman trust no one lol 🥰💅🙏🏾
Any good thing in a human relationship comes from trust. The less trust that is in a culture, the closer to hell the lives of the people involved are.
Put yo Vs up!!!! 🫶🏿🥰
24:06 guys with money are way more rare than you think . your around them more so it’s different for you ,we’re literally like 5% of the population really less than that but . So them being wit 5 of them probably won’t happen unless she herself is Top notch getting her own shit done or are in those room most of the times
Its like Big Bank got the masculine energy and Coca got the fem energy {no disrespect to homie} I guess thats why they work well together.
Hey y’all! It’s called FEMINISM!!! It was started back in the day!!! To break down the family structure!
Feminism gave women rights not to break down the family structure. There’s much more nuance to why the family structure broke down, (mass incarceration, hookup culture, baby mama/baby daddy culture, misogyny, radical feminism (not to be confused with true feminism that helps both men and women)
I like how cocoa think 😂😂😂
But I like how Keisha think more 🤣🤣
Can y’all talk about being with a baby daddy !!
Not only back women it be Hispanics too or all women
A pick me is the girl who says “All my best friends are guys, girls are too much drama”
Great episode!!!!!!
Girl you know he’s cheated on you right?!
Sometimes I be side eyeing him, like are you telling on yourself??! Are you cheatin/cheated on my girl?!!!
Either that or he knows a lot about what men do that he he’s close to 😅
Why is honey pregnant?!!!! 😂
Right 😂😂😂😂😂
A married person leave their home with intentions to cheat. If man giving you invested in your self just in case things go bad. I greed with Keisha n Cocoa ❤.
You don’t have any married friends 😂😂😂😂
pick me should literally only apply to ppl who are literally pick me as in saying or doing things for males attention.