Preventing Autism Meltdowns (Tips to Help)
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- Опубликовано: 24 окт 2024
- Ian and Connor were fighting for '1st place' on the trail.
They were tripping over each other, pushing each other
on the ground, etc. I put an end to it and Ian's tantrum
started transitioning into a meltdown. Although breathing
exercises and compression hugs don't always work,
it's best to try the simple measures first and
prevent the meltdown from occurring.
#autism #autismawareness #autistic #autismvlogs #meltdown
The father is a true Warrior Angel. Fantastic job dad!
Wow! Ian is so lucky to have wonderful, patient parents. It can't be easy on the parents. Hats off to you'll. Doing an excellent job!
Thanks so much!
This is a really touching video, seeing how loving/patient you are with him. Thanks for sharing!
I love how you remain calm but firm. Your son reminds me of my autistic friend Tyler from high school. He was what sparked my interest in pursuing a degree in working with children and young adults on the spectrum. Your son also reminds me of myself as I have Asperger Syndrome and try to calm myself at times like he does. I also sometimes hit my head in frustration.
Thank you. And thanks for working with people with ASD. That's wonderful.
I have Septo Optic Dysplasia. SOD has a lot of things that come with it. Blindness, autism ADHD, having trouble regulating body temperature, hunger or thirst. These are a few things caused by SOD. I also have complex PTSD along with SOD. I hit my head when I’m having flashbacks because I’m scared to ask for help, so I try to bottle things up and pretend that I’m not struggling. My SOD caused me to have a physical handicap, I’m also on the autism spectrum, I have no sense of smell, I have problems regulating my body temperature.
Thank you for helping those in need. We truly appreciate you.
he is an amazing kid and you are an amazing father, great inspiration, for those that give mean comments and stare ignore them, they don't understand why and how hard it's to deal autistic children.
children with learning disabilities and difficulties are the best kind of children, though they have issues like this wonderful child has, they share one thing that others take for granted and that is they pure of heart, they love you unconditionally and that's the best kind of gift any child can give.
never give up and God bless our little chosen ones, they give you heart warming love unconditionally and we should love them back, children with mild or severe conditions are a blessing from God and an inspiration to the world.
may God be beside our children to give them love and protect them AMEN!
Thank you. God bless!
Hello everyone! I'm a teacher for special children and I made an online fundraising for students with autism here in the Philippines. It's for the improvement of their classroom and educational toys. HELP US. Please please check out this link or you can simply share it on your Facebook (IT'S ALWAYS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS) Thank you so much! www.youcaring.com/autangelshelpus (sorry if im posting it here, i just wanna spread it out coz i know there are people who would like to help even through social media).
Mormon Family I love him soo much how old is he now
Als Muffet that's great stuff I hope you raise enough as it is a great cause, my warmest blessings go to the supporters that help with children with difficulties and to the children with difficulties, these children are simply amazing and very loving.
Als Muffet that's great stuff I hope you raise enough as it is a great cause, my warmest blessings go to the supporters that help with children with difficulties and to the children with difficulties, these children are simply amazing and very loving.
This video has me tearing up and crying. I am almost 47 in a few days, and I still have these moments each week, just like Ian. And I am also blessed to have a spouse who is as kind, compassionate and patient with me, as you both are with your little guys. I cry, because now, almost 3 years after being correctly diagnosed, I know I do not have to apologize for having meltdowns like I am a child. I don’t have to apologize for being overly emotional or overstimulated. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH ME. I mourn for the little me, the teenager me, and everyone else my age not diagnosed until middle age, who suffered through such a terrifying, dark, isolated period. But on the other side, I know have realized my worth, my purity, and the power of learning to heal and love myself, it is difficult NOT to forgive, and love others, even if I chose to play it safe and not interact with them. I am not a religious person, but I do know, without a doubt, choosing love and acceptance over rage, revenge, bullying, spiteful ness or neglect is a choice a beautiful human Soul has that nothing can take from that Soul. Whether you see God as Jehovah, Yeshua, Allah, the Almighty, Divine Father, Blessed Trinity, or as I now like to call it, the Divine, Beautiful, Sparkly Universe of Love and Awesomeness, we ARE all Devine. We are all perfect. Now, if only we could all begin to remember that! Please don’t take this as I am a weirdo, (well, okay. I am a weirdo, but I like being an overly emotional mushy head!) I love you both so much for gently and patiently trying to share such a healing message. You guys are angels. And I am so grateful I found you! Much love, namaste!
Same, but my parents see this as not a meltdown. Their usual response is to hit me when I cannot calm down
I wish my parents had your level of patience with me when I was ian's age.
Agreed, my dad was psychotic as hell. Very little patience. Even when I was choking once he got angry cos I was getting too loud. What a fucking bastard, no compassion at all
that's how my dad is .and I was normal . I got bit by a dog and had to go to the hospital and he was pissed . wow have so much hate towards him now
Snazzy M: Damn. o_o
Well, when your child is autistic, flying off the handle at them doesn't work.
agreed!
BEHOLD! The Power Of The HUG!!
jeff clark yup
Yess❤
He is lucky to have a dad like you. May God bless your family.
Thank you so much
Ian used to be such an innocent boy, now he’s turned into a mature and calm teenager.
It took many years before we found 'hug therapy' worked best for us too. Thank you Ian for letting us see how this can help others too. :)
Sure thing :)
I'm 19 and only just now getting properly diagnosed. I still have meltdowns almost daily and struggle to calm down the majority of the time. I'm living with my grandma who is very new and confused with caring for me and helping me when I have them. She has no idea what to do and your guy's videos have helped me have a better understanding of myself and give her some advice. I really appreciate all the effort you put into trying to help out people your doing a amazing job!
you are a GREAT dad! my four year old is autistic and it pains me to see how our children with autism have to deal with everyday issues that we can control. beautiful son you have! you are a GREAT dad!
Thanks Steven. Very kind of you to say.
Autism Family it's the truth, and thank you for showing me a way to help calm my 4 yr old little boy down.
Sure! Hope it helps many times over :)
I love that you shared the posting decision with Ian on this, and got his permission.
Sure, he's old enough and cognizant enough to choose now. If he ever wants me to take these vids down, we will ;)
My daughter just been diagnosed with ASD.I am really terrified and watching your videos makes my heart crushed. Anw, i subscribed to your channel and hopefully everything turn out well for you...
I hope the same for you. Thank you.
I so did the same thing (Matthew again), I use to hold my breath until I passed out.. I am 46 and have done so well and have written a book and everything and still to this day have meltdowns.. so glad he has you folks.. hope you get the support you need to! Blessings!
you handle these situations very well. my cousin has a son with autism and she handles these situations very poorly which leads to him getting whatever he wants and breaking things. these videos can help so many people!
We hope our videos get shared a lot and the education of autism is spread. There are still so many people who think it's a made-up condition. As if we wanted to make this up...yay, what fun.
He definitely listens a lot better than most neurotypical children.
He certainly has come a long way :)
Mormon Family Being on the spectrum myself, I know how it is when things upset us whether high functioning or severe. I wish the best for you and your family! And who knows what God has planned for us all? Except him of course.
Your an amazing patient father
SimplyBeth *you're
He's gorgeous!!! God bless you and your family
Thanks Ana, very kind of you.
You handle it wonderfully. .
meltdowns are a living hell. much love.
That's the best way to handle it.
thanks
+Mormon Family dose both the rest of the kids have atisum?
love how you handled this,, dealing with autism with anger is not the answer,, so heart warming,,parenting done right
@@FindingMyLight people have dealt with my CPTSD and my physical handicap with anger and hostility. I would get a lot of crap if I constantly explored everything, dropped things, spilled things, or ran into things. It was mainly my stepmom who was cross and hostile with me for these things. She’d even laugh if I ran into something headfirst. I even got told that I was using my handicap as an excuse for certain things and behaviors. Which may have been somewhat true at times, but not all the time. I also got the treatment of, “you need to be paying more attention to your surroundings. You need to have your hands out more often.” But if I did have my hands out, and if I touched her with one little finger, she’d still get angry at me. Well, I’m now living with my real mom, and she doesn’t do that to me. She truly understands my physical handicap, she doesn’t get mad or cross with me if I do things due to my handicap. I rely on my senses of touch and hearing, because that’s mainly what I have to work with.
Your patience is so amazing!
Man.....I hit my head just like that in meltdown. You are great with him.
I also do that when I have PTSD flashbacks. I do it because I’m afraid to ask for help. So I try to bottle it all up and pretend that I’m not struggling. I’m very hard on myself for struggling. People say that I shouldn’t shame myself for it, and I’m really working on it.
Such a sweet father 😭
It's beautiful to see how love and patience wins!!!
It will be ok Ian. You will learn how to control your bad feeling. Connor, thanks for being a good brother.
Great job Ian, I am proud of you! Thumbs up for Dad too!
my son had an assessment earlier this day. Although, my observations got me an idea of him having autism, but the doctor said, he almost had an autism. There are some specific observations but it doesn't meet the criteria of autism. But he had a Social communication disorder and that's need to be treated through some sort of therapies.
Through your videos, I was given an idea about autism, and it really helped me because I wouldn't bring my son to the doctor if I didn't watched this. So thank you, and may God bless your family always.
I know what Ian is feeling. As an autistic person, I’ve experienced a lot of these moments, and it isn’t fun. Just today I had one because I had to use American cheese instead of Provolone on my sandwich. I was very competitive with my sister just like Ian is with Connor. Ian is such a strong boy and I’m glad he’s getting better now :)
My son has signs of autism just like this and it's difficult most days but other than that his a wonderful and loving child and I love him dearly.
Good job Ian! He is trying so hard to control his emotions. You can see the struggle.
This is honestly one of the saddest things for me to see, as someone who has worked with children for the past 2 years, i have seen meltdowns like this. it breaks my heart, you are an amazing father for helping your son out.
such a wonderful father. I strive to be like him. What a great job he is doing.
Thanks William. What a nice compliment.
Autism Family my son is a mirror image of your little one. I am trying to do the best I can, but we just seem to hide inside the house.
I hear you. There are times we reluctantly go through another fast food drive-thru because we get so sick of taking the kids into a public place (mall food court or sit down diner). We could just stay at home and eat there all the time, but everyone (including my wife) goes stir crazy so sometimes that's the best compromise. It's a different way to live for sure. Hang in there ;)
Autism Family thank you. I am trying to.
:)
Well done . Nicely demonstrated
You’re doing so good Ian 😁
breathing and hug is nice way . thankyou for sharing
You are welcome :)
hes amazing, such a gorgeous creation and what an awesome daddy :)
good job I also heard that getting your child to count to ten can work too
Thanks for posting this 😊
Sure thing :)
+Mormon Family he has austim right
Yes, you can watch our other videos to see more details.
my 4 year old son does the exact same things. the growling and hair pulling that scream. It kind of a good feeling to know we are not alone in this. Thank you for sharing very encouraging and educational videos.
You are most welcome. And please never feel ashamed or embarrassed for your situation. It's not your fault, we really do experience the same thing.
yup. ur a good father. it's. a bit hard with autistic children
I'm 14 with autism and adhd, it was interesting to see what it looks like on the outside.
;)
Awww I hope he’s ok
But sometimes, I was meltdown and shutdown when I was in the “The Learning Center”, I was upsetting a lot when I was 7-8 years old in 7-6 years ago. That’s a long time ago.
that makes me want to cry.
Are you saying "No Kirby" at the beginning? Does this boy like Kirby?
Thanks for getting his permission.
I responded to a comment saying he was a brat with this message And I think it'll help everybody To hear this... Dude I think I'm speaking for the autistic community immediately when I say Respectfully shut up autism is a spectrum I have twin brothers who are 5 they are completely different I'm a triplet both of my twins also have autism even me and my identical twin are completely different so before you go calling A helpless boy in his fragilist moments a brat do your research
Amen! As a fellow member of the ASD community j greatly appreciate your comment. I would also like to add that bratty children who are not on the spectrum are just kids who don't get enough attention from mom or dad. But that lack of attention can definitely lead to developmental disorders. It's scary to see how much research backs environmental variables as being the cause for disorders. We all need to be more attentative and patient with our loved ones.
@@babyTOY-YODA777 thank you we just adopted my sixth sibbling he's a little boy named knox he has albinism he is so sweet and he was also diagnosed with autism so now 8/9 people in my house have autism
@@Froggyzz05 You guys are saints. It gives me so much hope for the future that we have wonderful families like you to help guide those of us who struggle. Living with ASD is difficult but with an incredible support system like your family provides, normal life isn't so far away. I wish you all the best of luck and I look forward to watching more of your videos. It helps me to understand how I was as a child. Now that I'm 31 and just figuring out I'm Autistic, it's very comforting. Helps me tk understand I was not a troubled or angry child. Just misunderstood. Thank you! Much love!
@@babyTOY-YODA777 good luck with your journey
Wouldn't hugging a child during a meltdown actually "reward" him for having more, therefore encouraging to have more meltdowns in the future for the attention he gets whhen he has a meltdown?
Hugging a child during a tantrum might…a meltdown is different and not rooted in bad behavior, but sensory overload and/or extreme anxiety or distress. This is not apples to apples 😉👍
WoW! Poor kid, he really looks like he is struggling. I was wondering if your 3rd child has displayed any signs of autism or not? Do you have an idea of what could have caused your children's autism or is it a complete mystery? Hope its okay to ask these questions. You guys seem to be doing the best you can with every situation! Best of luck!
Thanks so much.
Our youngest has displayed signs of autism, but also much more progress at the same age his brothers were at, so it's hard to say for certain at this moment ;)
I really appreciate you replying. I am assuming if your third child has autism that it is a genetic thing. Your boys are adorable.
You are welcome. We don't know about our 3rd son yet but he definitely shows signs of ASD.
+Autism Family hello, I have a severely autistic son and he almost seems to be a mirror image of your child. Do you know if any medications are available to help with these tantrum's? I would really appreciate it. The only thing that has been prescribed is respadil (sic) thanks for the upload.
It's good to see how calm you are with him but I think it's kinda funny how he waves his arms
I think you mean it looks funny right? I don't think you find the situation funny because if you say it like that it seems like you find the situation funny.
Can this adult not be so clinical but be more compassionate?
I'll work on that ;)
Wonderful, Children who can't communicate, lower spectrum we must find ways to help them to. It is great who you handle this.
I hug my son tight and it helps also :) he is seven and has aspergers with severe meltdowns and we hug alot :) it's gets him through alot of times
what a handsome young man ur a good dad he is lucky to have u
"Don't let Connor win."
He's so competitive it almost caused extreme stress for the parents.
Videos like these make me question weather I actually have autism
Do you still have the harness at all
I want a father like that... mine only tried to kill me 😥
Sorry to hear that. Look for positive male role models. There are still many good men in this world...our media chooses to only focus on the bad ones.
I am watching this because there I a girl in my class with atisumn
Ian wanted to defeat Connor in a race on the trail.
ok
Ian really wants to rage over something he wants
you cant say that. that kid is a warrior
@@maradona3607 My son uses this account and makes his videos. I just want to clarify that he knows he is a warrior. I also have a son who is Autistic and non verbal and he goes through the same things. He sees his brother do the same...he wasn't trying to be disrespectful.
I never behaved like that but when I got bullied not only I was biting the bullies also they made have an angry meltdown
Oh no Ian don't panic it's ok !
I would not be able to handle a kid line that
So you wouldn’t be able to handle a kid like this. Would you be able to handle a kid who is blind? Would you not be able to handle a kid who has PTSD? I’m not mad at you, I’m just curious.
I don't have autism and autism it's weird to me no offense if autism would not exist there would be too many loud thing's I hope you work hard on
your video's we are all different that make's us unique the world has lot's of weird behavior's you're son is awesome but mostly he has meltdown's that mean's he's hungry, thirsty and hear's loud sound's if he argues if you leave him alone he might stop but anyway I subed and liked.
Thank you very much :)
I also have autism,so,i can relate
Wait so what causes these meltdowns?
Sensory overload, tantrums leading to meltdowns, things that upset their routine, not getting enough sleep, etc. Autism effects all aspects of life and tempers and/or meltdowns can ensue.
I had a meltdown last night because I had a headache.
Bummer :/
Autism Family I take deep breathes to calm. I don't throw things or really act out during meltdowns I breathe heavily and swear.
I usually have meltdowns when I have a hard time with something or when someone is being a jerk with me
I'm honest I couldn't cope
lan and connor were fighting for 1st place on the trail. they were tripping over ech other, pushing each other on the ground etc i put an end to it and lans tantrum
It breaks my heart every time I see your son cries, but good job for handling him and calming home down. But don’t feel bad. I have autism myself and I go through the same behaviors anxieties, but thank God counseling helps me.
is the harness red or orange
It's red, and I believe you can get them in other colors like black and blue...maybe there is an orange option.
in some of the videos it looks red and in others it looks orange
Welcome to the wacky world of video color science on multiple cameras. ;)
i have a 2yrd with autism can u give me so atvice on how to discipline hem im a little lost .
you are the best
do you have 2 sons? if so do both of them have Autism?
yes they both do
I love your family and i hope Ian is better too...
I know it may be non of my buisness but is you'r second name Norman or are you religous... You dont need to tell me... It was just a thing i was thinking... Bye xxxxx
this was literally me last night but no hug
why is he tied to a tree???
To prevent him from running into the road, which he used to do ALL THE TIME. Not so much anymore, so we don't use the harness now.
Autism Family oh do you know your videos are educational for real i love your videos
I wish Connor was my cousin
There was no such thing like AUTISM existing 30 years before. Parents - pls. join hands and help to prevent the further outbreak, think when and for how many times your children were exposed to vaccinations.
Dietmar Döring the whole idea of autism being caused by vaccines is so ridiculous. and for your information, autism didn't just suddenly come into existence 30 years ago. It's just been grabbed more attention and better care than before.
The fact is.
you're either born with autism or you're not.
So I assume you think this way about PTSD? That there wasn’t a thing called PTSD back then, and that blindness is only caused by certain things. People weren’t just born blind? Wow, how ignorant can people be? This is so crazy to me lol.
I wish my mum could get this calm
Why is he on a leash?
You're answer is right here :) ruclips.net/video/7QmS_o_FWfA/видео.html
Mormon Family thanks
No preventions exist for autism.
I came here because I was on the verge of a meltdown and I didn't know how to stop it
bravo to the parents with great patience, it truly helps autistic kids. Here's more tips on what I've learned from working with autistic kids
ruclips.net/video/UZU4DP6TFjE/видео.html
Ian's red harness smells cheesy 🧀
Hi i love you video
Amazing kid
You must had a lot of training or something
hi how are you all and is lan ok now and was coner stop to and put in a harness as its a bit unfair if he's not got one to as he was doing it as will
Sorry Shannon, not sure I understand what you are saying. Can you re-phrase the sentence?
+Mormon Family hi it's not fair if you just had lan on a harness as it may upset him
We have him in a harness because he runs away and gets lost...classic autism.
+Mormon Family hi do his brother have one to as he needs one as then it's fair as he was pushing and running to
+Mormon Family so what do you do if he runs off and how do you use it
Your boys are beautiful.
ummm where is alister! 😕
We do the 1 2 3 calllmmmm while rubbing his head.
What is it like I don't understand
great dad. adorable boy
Meltdowns stem from sensory overload,too much will throw them into a meltdown..all the green was probably bothersome to him.They black out and loose control..
Damn