Yes, she probably had good reason to want to escape him especially since she disconnected her phone. We have no idea what her side of this story is, so I'm glad the caller didn't track her down and harass her from her front porch like Jon encouraged him to do. How despicable. .
I heard a Pastor say the other day "Take a look at your life and be grateful because it could ALWAYS be worse." So when I feel myself going to a low place I think on that thought.👍🏽
Lmao. The kind of weak cU ck who would call in to hear John Deloney’ s..imp advice, is the exact kind of guy who women are going to leave. Don’t these guys get it?
Bro, you need to buy a motorcycle, go on a road trip, drink fine spirits, learn to dance, up your game, become the best version of yourself, bang strippers, and have the time of your life! You do that and women will follow.
My cousin did this to her husband. They had two beautiful girls together. She met a guy on a girl’s trip to Florida, brought him back home, and told her husband she was leaving. Btw she was pregnant with the bum’s kid. He fell off the wagon and ended up drinking himself to death. I haven’t spoken to her in 17 years. Three years ago, she contacted my husband on Facebook and then sent me a message too. She said she missed me and my sister and wanted to reconnect and that the family’s fallout (an entirely different dumpster fire of a story on their part) didn’t involve us because we were kids and we should move past it. I slept on it for a few days and talked to my parents and decided to say nothing and block her. Regardless of family issues between my dad and her mom (siblings) and their mother (my grandma), she’s still a POS for what she did to her husband and her kids. I refuse to associate with that. Let her stay gone. She’s not worth the dogsht on your shoe.
Pretty sure this is not the first guy she hooked up with. She can't claim she was lonely, because he invited her to go on the road with him. She just wanted to hook up with guys.
God, my heart breaks for this man. It sounds like he gave a ton in this relationship. Being a trucker is sacrificial especially when you do long runs, but it sounds like she was never in this. But to just leave your marriage to sleep with another man before even getting divorced is garbage.
I worked two jobs and travelled six hours everyday just to provide for my family with this POS woman. And what she do? Cheats and sleeps around with other men and eventually leaves me for one of her ex lovers. Blaming me the entire way and time.
And she expects him to bring in all the money that’s the reality for most men who work long hours I’ve seen it happen to several people even though they are in the 1% they have to work to get the money can’t be in the house all the time
my now husband the man of my wildest dream went through this with his first wife. not sure why she could leave him . he is an open heart loving man . i never understood that. i thank God everyday for that man ❤
@@klopcodez…but men want their women to stay home and rely on them for life’s needs. Of course how much a man makes monetarily matters to a woman who is expected to be the “woman” and reliant upon the “man”.
@@bluetickbeagles116 Not all men want there woman to stay at home…expect to a woman because of what a guy makes is a laughable statement what exactly makes you more or less?..what has changed about you?..it’s 2024 not every guy wants that even if he makes lots of money
His wife is definitely an immatured girl not a woman. She handled the situation like a child would. Until she accepts accountability she will continue to act like a child and a brat. What's awesome about this guy Is that he doesn't have to stoop to her level. He has a bright future ahead of him. She has a lot of turmoil and crap ahead of her And no future. Just a future of convincing herself she did the right thing by acting childish.
Closure is bs. I personally think it’s not needed, the best is to heal through this and move on. You don’t need to get her explanation she showed you who she is.
Absolutely. He doesn't know the guy at all and the guy probably thinks all sorts of bad things about him due to his wife. So it doesn't do the caller any good to focus on him at all. The wife is the one who owed him her loyalty and she failed in that
If I may give you one more piece of advice that backs John too. Do not let her back into your life again. My dad gave me this when my fiancée left. “Don’t let her back into your life, Not even if she shows up naked on high heels in the artic blast of a Winter snowstorm with apologies on her lips, those same lips are kissing another man and probably [more that just his lips]” (the end was cleaned up for RUclips)
Wonderful advice per usual. Man I really wish I would’ve seen this video over a year ago when I was in a similar situation. Luckily, I ended up coming out on the other side eventually, but this definitely would’ve sped up that process. I spent the first 3-4 months drinking myself to sleep and feeling sorry for myself. It was until I finally allowed myself to grieve that I was able to start the process of moving on
Dear men, this is what real “being blindsided” looks like. Not the rest of your stories where the woman was telling you she was unhappy and you ignored her!
I'm pretty sure she was telling him she was unhappy and he failed to listen, which would be very hard being home only 2-3 days at a time. He was absent from the marriage, let's be honest!
You will eventually get your closure when you realize they did you a favor and you have moved on and lived your best life. I caught my fiancée of 4 years cheating on me and I was devastated. I moved on and married a wonderful man - we have been happily married for 35 years. The dude did me a HUGE favor showing his character before we got married.
My ex spouse left me and our two children for another man earlier this year. Out of the blue, just ended it abruptly and without warning. Blamed me for everything and jumped ship, living her “best” life the entire time. I was angry, confused, lost, heartbroken, destroyed. I lost my identity as a loyal husband and caring father literally overnight. With no one to talk to about the experience. I had an existential crisis and was completely forced to look at everything in my life. Anyways, fast forward 10 months later and I’m nearly fully healed. Anything my ex spouse does these days no longer triggers me. She buys me or the kids food, brings stuff over from her trips and while I used to throw it away out of anger, i just accept it and let it be. I’m Indifferent, I’m “healed” from the betrayal. I no longer wish her bad luck. All that matters now is the children and the new life that I have as a single father. And you know what, it’s been awesome so far. You may not see it yet, but having this person out of the way is actually a blessing in disguise. Life truly does move on.
I went through this 26 years ago. The wife left me with out two young children and a new mortgage. She was having an affair with the building supervisor of our new home. Fortunately, our new home was based on my income alone. I soon realized that I had been alone in the marriage for years. She refused to help me with our kids and the daily/weekly chores. Intimacy was rare between us and most of the time I got yelled at for trying. She tried in her own manipulative way to come back after two months. There was no remorse or an apology. I said No. I got the divorce done in 5 months. Good luck to you.
@@kiddytube3915 The ex married her boyfriend. He was on dialysis for years. He got a kidney transplant but he still drinks alcohol. I saw them a few years ago at a graduation event. I almost did not recognize her. She looked awful. She had a scarf on her neck to hide her turkey neck. Her husband looked like a stick. I am still surprised he is alive. Weird stuff.
Sweetie, women never leave out of the blue. I hear this excuse from men all the time. She probably spent years telling you what was wrong and how to fix it, and you did nothing. She probably did the vast majority of cleaning, cooking, raising children and a thousand other tasks, whilst you did nothing but sit on your fat ass and fart all day.
You will one day thank god that she did this because you will find yourself in a much better life with someone who loves you and wants to be with you. Wishing you strength and serenity
I'm 42 yo and I'm facing the exact same situation with my ex-wife. She left for someone else last year and for the last 3 years I couldn't see it comming. I felt miserable at first, but my family, friends and God have helped me to put myself up and runnig during the past 5 months so I would be here to my three kids. I hope it helps anybody who is facing the same sh!t: Things will get better! And if you have the right support, it will get better faster. Never be alone. Get God at your side and openly talk to your family and friends (what you feel right) so they can help you get up and hold you whenever you need. You are not the first, and surely won't be the last one facing this kind of thing. Remember that you are not alone. God Bless!
Let her be GONE! Wanna bet, she will regret her choice. That grass is not greener. It's brown, dry and thirsty. She failed to realize that someone has to water that grass. She did you a favor.
I went through the same thing with my ex husband. Let me tell you this, the grass is never greener and she will realize it when its too late. I thought to myself, it will never be too late. But it was. When youre finally healed and moved on, she will regret it.
I agree with the man.. this was his wife’s choice, not the other guy. She chose to leave him. The other guy didn’t make a vow to her husband, she made that vow and she broke it.
Friends. When you meet regularly with friends it needs to be single/divorced friends. Happily Married people are not good to lean on, they can’t relate. Someone that’s been down this road is your rock. Make sure to listen to what they’re going through too. Watch something on tv or RUclips you know will make you laugh. I watched 3 stooges to get me through. I only watched for 10 min every 3 days. It gave me something to look forward to and my mind learned to take a break from the stress.
It really takes a special kind of woman to be ok with a husband who is gone all the time. It's a reality. He'll be lucky to find such a woman. However she's a piece of crap to use him til someone else came up for her.
@@BarnzTT a woman in this arrangement has to set aside her own needs frequently and day after day handle most things herself. Some women can do it, yes. Some.
Five years ago my girlfriend left me for another guy. The guy even slid into my DMs and gloated to me. That was the best thing that ever happened to me. I used it to motivate myself to get in the best shape, worked hard played hard and went up in my career. Fixed my mindset. My life cannot be better now. I hope this guy also can get out of it and can achieve a better life. You can do this!
Wow. Guys can be asses, too, for sure. But most guys I know wouldn’t do this. Many would sleep with her no doubt. But most aren’t interested in gloating or tormenting you. They just want to have sex with her and move along.
I wonder if she did try to tell him for awhile. When hard conversations dont happen, & one or more partners is avoidant personality, things inevitably fall apart.
Sometimes things happen for a reason, and please trucker if you are reading this you are worth way more than that woman. You sound like a kind hearted man, and a hard worker and trust me another woman will come into your life that will love you to the ends of the earth. Your wife is the one who lost because the man she got will end in disaster in most cases because it was built on being untruthful and deceit
It is very odd that someone would leave in the middle of the day. I wonder if she tried communicating anything before making these plans. That said, closure would have been a better approach. I wish him the best.
Sir, I am totally so sorry for where you're going through. Been there myself my friend. I wish you all the luck in the world every day. You'll get a little bit better. It took me lower over 2 years to finally feel good, but you'll get there. Good luck to you
Soo Sorry Logan for your heartache! Stay True to Yourself! Keep Close to God! 🙏🏻 IN time to come, Try to meet and connect with a Committed Christian ONLY lady !
Going through this right now caught my husband cheating four days before my birthday and didn’t tell him. I moved out the day after my birthday and told him that after the six month separation that our state requires if he didn’t get help and change, we were getting a divorce. He claims that he wants to save our marriage but he has still not told me the truth about everything he was doing and everything that he did I found out on my own and that for some reason is really bothering me whether we are together or not I just want to get past this and for it to be over I just turned 42, and I can’t believe I’m having to start over again, but I refuse to waste any more days of my life not truly living purposefully, and if it takes leaving the situation behind, I am more than willing to do that I just wish he gave me the respect of closure, but if he could cheat on me, he didn’t respect me anyway.
Its hard to be in a relationship with an over the road trucker. My dad was one and his being gone was so trying. We only saw him 3 times a week and when he was home he was beat to crap tired. We asked him to get a local job and he refused because he wanted to make more money, but my dad was an independent, so we never really had much money because he would pour his proceeds back into the truck. Too bad this woman didn't see that this wasn't the life for her earlier. Because I know I will NEVER be with one.
No, men always choose better no matter. It’s only the women who need accountability for their crappy choices in partners. Dude’s choice is fantastic. 😂😂😅
It's good that he's at least not expecting any closure, it's worse when you want closure and she's denying you the closure you need to move on. Just get on with your life and eventually it'll become a more and more distant memory and you'll become able to live with it.
If you can’t give a woman time it’s not going to work. I never recommend marrying anyone if you are in the military or a truck driver like this guy when you have to leave home for long periods of time. I found this out the hard way I feel bad for this guy I know the pain he’s going through. I hope he realizes in the future if he doesn’t change his job then this will most likely happen again with the next woman he is with.
Dam this one hit home cause im also a truck driver, this happens to alot of drivers especially since we can be out 2 weeks even a month without coming home. Hope he can get over all that 🥲
I've heard and seen stories about infidelity with Truckers. Either the wife/girlfriend feels lonely and cheats or the guy, having affairs with different women on the road. I think the lifestyle isn't for people who are wanting a family because if they have children, those kids will feel like their dad is always absent.
@@nene7-o1v Agreed. I would want my husband home with me and active with the kids every night. Being a married single mother does not sound fun. Do that while you're single. There are plenty of other trades/careers to choose from.
@@SarahConnor562 Of course, I don't want abject poverty but I don't seek luxury either. Not every woman wants that. I want my family together, healthy, and content. That is priority. I want my kids to actually know their dad, not just his money. If my future husband ends up getting a job that requires travel, then it would need to be something that allows us to travel together where he could still be home every night and I could home school the kids if necessary. For example, my bf spoke of possible missionary work, which we agree that the whole family would go. That is the only way I would agree to that. My bf and I both grew up in 2 parent homes, where our dads were technically home but weren't present. And if they had something to say or more likely yell, it was mostly negative. Bf grew up poor. I grew up middle class. We are shooting for middle class, but if the Lord blesses us with more, then great. But our vision is a God-led marriage, a comfortable living, and a house filled with love in action and word, and appreciation for even the little things. We're both frugal. He saves tons because he is very handy and can handle a lot of house and car maintenance himself. I'm a pro at saving, budgeting, meal prepping, etc. You'd be surprised what people spend excessively on (e.g. Starbucks every day, eating out multiple days a week, doordashing and instacarting everything, excessive or expensive shopping, etc). It's usually different for everyone. Without self control, it would be easy for me to eat out several days a week, and it would be easy for him to buy tons of expensive clothes. Solution: Set a reasonable budget for each category where we can still do those things, just on a budget that enforces a limit. So even on a bad year, I'm confident we'll still be able to afford road trips for hiking and camping trips. If we can afford one modest vacation a year that requires a flight, then we'll take it. If we can afford more, even better. Fyi: We both appreciate SAHMs. His mom was one and my sister became one after working the first several years of their marriage. My parents have always both worked. I'd say my mom overworked to afford more expensive things. So we have first hand knowledge of what all sides look like. We're taking lessons learned from the good and the bad and creating the future we want. But we also recognize that income and life circumstances do change and often unexpectedly. You have to truly be in it for richer, for poorer. And keep communicating and respecting each other through the changes. Being a SAHM isn't my dream, but if we come to a point where that's just what makes the most sense at the time, then I am fully capable and ready to give it my best.
I've been over the road for 24 years. It's hard dating a trucker, stay strong, she did you a favor by leaving. She could have stayed and continued to cheat on you.
Very wise, and mature man. You are absolutely right it was her choice, and I'm glad you're blaming her and not the dude. You're better off without her. Now it's his problem, lol
My wife told me that I needed to move out because the guy she was seeing on the side felt weird that I was still living in the house. There was children involved, so I moved out. He dumped her after I was gone. I guess it wasn’t exciting for him anymore because he was now sleeping with a single woman.
Women will stay with a guy until their feelings completely disappear. Then they will blindside you by monkey branching to another guy they set up behind your back. She has no integrity…..if she left you for another guy chances are she will leave the next guy for someone else.
Letting go is a decision to set yourself free. You don't need permission from the person who walks away. Closure is not a necessary condition for taking your life back from the jaws of deception and utter disrespect!
I LOVED John's advice on this one. When he told the guy when he's home from his runs to go out with the guys. Do your laundry, go to the bank, get a haircut. If you sit around & sulk it will kill you. She's gone, now live. Also: Don't think every woman is like her. And take time before you get into another relationship.
Life as an over the road truckers is tough as it. Sacrifices so much time away from the family in order to provide. I’m a truck driver and find it really hard to sustain a healthy relationship.
I'm 42 , single, never married, no kids, involved in my church, financially secure and responsible. It gets lonely for sure but the more I listen to shows like this the more I realize it could be so much worse and the more I want to stay single.
Even if you hear closure, it won’t matter because she’ll either lie, or say something that will hurt you. Closure isn’t anything that will resolve a thing. The closure is…that she’s gone.
I have never been able to relate to the mind state of weak men like this. If any woman of mine EVER so much as entertained being with some other man, she and I are D-O-N-E. What man with any self-esteem watches his woman betray him and go sleep with another man, and then even considers continuing a relationship with her?? Insane!
I am so sorry to hear this because the world is ranting about there not being any good men but Here is this Man trying his best to live in integrity and then we have a woman who doesn't value him. The balancing scale is soooo off in this age and time.
I used to be an investigator in the military, so I've seen what can happen when someone's marriage falls apart. I know everyone feels really sorry for this guy, but for someone like me who was trained to really listen to what people say, all i see is red flags with this guy. The first red flag was her up and leaving while he was gone without saying a word to anyone. The only women I've ever seen do that are abuse victims. Wives who are not being abused will usually try to work things out for well over a year before they call it quits. Not this woman. She ran off to her family, then secretly moved out without ending things. Another one is how he said he was worried about getting arrested because the new guy thinks he's crazy. First off, cops don't arrest people who dont break the law. Second, why would this guy think he's crazy? The next is when he was asked if he's still in contact with her, and he said no, but not because hes not contacting her, but because she disconnected her phone. Why would she need to disconnect her phone or get a new number? Probably because she doesn't want him contacting her. The only women I've seen do this are women who are being harassed. It's not normal to change your number after a breakup. The last thing is his own tone and demeanor. He doesn't sound like a man whose marriage just ended. He sounds like a little boy who's angry that another kid is playing with his toy. He is so quick to throw the woman he claimed to have loved under the bus, but at the same time lift himself up by talking about what a great provider he is. Well, the guy was gone a few weeks at a time and only home for a few days, so i dont see how this makes a good marriage. He did this for two years, but he is framing it like he is such a great husband for never being home. I get that sometimes you have to do what you have to do to make money, but most people are willing to recognize when something is bad for the marriage, but not this guy. This guy sketches me out, and i promise that if we got his ex's side, we might see some things about this guy that horrify us.
Dang, thanks for this comment. My mind is blown. I never considered any of what you said but I respect it and feel you might even be right and even if you are not, it's amazing that I never considered this angle at all.
Hang in there Logan... Been there, I gave my ex 7 days to get your Sh** out! BEST BEST thing i could of ever done. No tears, No sorrow, The line in the sand was crossed in my belief system. Lucky i had a speedy divorce, and met someone else 10 times better. Body like a coke bottle, awesome personality, Of the chart sense of humor.. When 1 fish goes bad, ya just get another fish. You can't and will not see this now, But you will. Some things are out of your control. Wash your hands and move on. Good things will come your way.
My ex husband left me in the beginning of our marriage for another married woman, he left with zero explanation for 2 months. I moved out and divorced him immediately. This has been one of the biggest blessings… I no longer needed to be with someone who disrespected me and hurt me like he did. To anyone in a situation like this- please understand that you deserve so much better than this… You will never get closure from a cheater, their disrespect is your closure.
there is really no good way to break up relationships and sometimes the less said the better. dialogue can lead to things being said which may be better off left unsaid. Not easy but as hard as it is one does tend to heal.
In Missouri if a spouse leaves and is gone for 6 months it is considered abandonment. My attorney asked if she was requesting a divorce and answer was no so he said wait. After one year I filed and got everything. Gave her some cash but it was nothing in comparison. Stupid is stupid does and good riddance
I wish you healing. I’m So sorry. I hope you can give all of your energy to yourself. ❤ I hope you can get support. But if this happens I think there’s a gift for you in it, all the things you will realize about yourself to know how this happened. You’re very articulate. ❤
Please let this woman stay gone. Your best life ever is on the other side of this pain.
Love this comment.
Facts. She thinks it’s greener on the other side, she will find out the hard way and she will be the one crying 😭
Yes, she probably had good reason to want to escape him especially since she disconnected her phone. We have no idea what her side of this story is, so I'm glad the caller didn't track her down and harass her from her front porch like Jon encouraged him to do. How despicable. .
@SarahG16925
You're saying then it's ok to track someone down and harass them? Yikes.
She’s going get back for the Alimony or pension
Sometimes the trash takes itself out
Whole facts!
lol
Amen!
But it’s hard letting go at times
good point
Sometimes I think I’m having a bad day and then I listen to Dr. John’s show and I feel like I’m doing ok.
I heard a Pastor say the other day "Take a look at your life and be grateful because it could ALWAYS be worse." So when I feel myself going to a low place I think on that thought.👍🏽
Same!
Lmao. The kind of weak cU ck who would call in to hear John Deloney’ s..imp advice, is the exact kind of guy who women are going to leave. Don’t these guys get it?
same here...
For real! 😂
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You dodged a bullet.
The same ❤
Bro, you need to buy a motorcycle, go on a road trip, drink fine spirits, learn to dance, up your game, become the best version of yourself, bang strippers, and have the time of your life! You do that and women will follow.
Sorry bro. Stay strong.
Good. It takes time, but it gets easier.
So many people will never get closure. When someone leaves you without a word, you have to see THAT as closure.
Closure is something you create for yourself
It all boils down to whose bed she decides to sleep in. If she’s gonna pick someone else…
Then I’m gonna pick someone else too 😂❤
that's next to impossible.
@@roboneil408 not impossible, just a lot of hard work and time
Closure is a bs story made up of trickle truths so you can feel better with the break up or betrayal. Basically useless.
My cousin did this to her husband. They had two beautiful girls together. She met a guy on a girl’s trip to Florida, brought him back home, and told her husband she was leaving. Btw she was pregnant with the bum’s kid. He fell off the wagon and ended up drinking himself to death. I haven’t spoken to her in 17 years. Three years ago, she contacted my husband on Facebook and then sent me a message too. She said she missed me and my sister and wanted to reconnect and that the family’s fallout (an entirely different dumpster fire of a story on their part) didn’t involve us because we were kids and we should move past it. I slept on it for a few days and talked to my parents and decided to say nothing and block her. Regardless of family issues between my dad and her mom (siblings) and their mother (my grandma), she’s still a POS for what she did to her husband and her kids. I refuse to associate with that.
Let her stay gone. She’s not worth the dogsht on your shoe.
You should at least see if they want to repent.
@@SpeedfreakUKthats for Christ not her.
"Girls trip" equals trouble.
You really told your entire life story huh....
That was a long time ago. Dont you make mistakes ? She sure did Maybe she repented and changed and wants a new page
110% guarantee she’ll be back and you can tell her to “kick rocks”.
Yup most likely. Might be a year later maybe more or less, gotta protect yourself and not get sucked back in
He is a simp. He will take her back. Mostly losers that are on the call.
Why would you think that? Trucking is a hard life.
@@mouzziewouzzie2305 on the contrary, this guy seems like he has character. He'll do better once he's over the trash that took itself out.
Pretty sure this is not the first guy she hooked up with. She can't claim she was lonely, because he invited her to go on the road with him. She just wanted to hook up with guys.
Nobody deserves to be treated that way. He deserves a real loyal woman. She is a child.
probably why he didn’t mention her age😎
She blindsided him . He can and will do better .❤ Do not take her back buddy .
a Liberty at its best.
She was cheating for a long time. He asked her to come on the road with him. Why would she turn that down? Oh yeah, she was having more fun at home.
You are so lucky she left, imagine if you had kids with a woman with that quality ! Congratulations 👍
God, my heart breaks for this man. It sounds like he gave a ton in this relationship. Being a trucker is sacrificial especially when you do long runs, but it sounds like she was never in this. But to just leave your marriage to sleep with another man before even getting divorced is garbage.
I worked two jobs and travelled six hours everyday just to provide for my family with this POS woman.
And what she do? Cheats and sleeps around with other men and eventually leaves me for one of her ex lovers.
Blaming me the entire way and time.
And she expects him to bring in all the money that’s the reality for most men who work long hours I’ve seen it happen to several people even though they are in the 1% they have to work to get the money can’t be in the house all the time
my now husband the man of my wildest dream went through this with his first wife. not sure why she could leave him . he is an open heart loving man . i never understood that. i thank God everyday for that man ❤
@@klopcodez…but men want their women to stay home and rely on them for life’s needs. Of course how much a man makes monetarily matters to a woman who is expected to be the “woman” and reliant upon the “man”.
@@bluetickbeagles116 Not all men want there woman to stay at home…expect to a woman because of what a guy makes is a laughable statement what exactly makes you more or less?..what has changed about you?..it’s 2024 not every guy wants that even if he makes lots of money
His wife is definitely an immatured girl not a woman. She handled the situation like a child would. Until she accepts accountability she will continue to act like a child and a brat. What's awesome about this guy Is that he doesn't have to stoop to her level. He has a bright future ahead of him. She has a lot of turmoil and crap ahead of her And no future. Just a future of convincing herself she did the right thing by acting childish.
My son is a trucker... she cheated...he took her back!!!! He's so stupid!!
It happens, he loves her, it is what it is
@@mblake0420no he's stupid lol. She gonna do it again esp knowing he will be gone long hours and days. All by herself?? Ofc she gonna cheat.
That's what's knownin the Hispanic community as a benajooo, cabronnnnn, pendejooo or coje cuernooo... that's what's your son is now.😂😂😂😂
@Tom10288 I'm a truck driver, my wife has done the same, she straightened up 15 years now. Just depends
@@mblake0420Until she does not. It may worked well for you but according to statistics cheaters are likely to cheat again. Go look it up.
This guy will be fine. He has a strong and good character. He'll recover sooner than you think.
On her front porch? WTH?
Never chase after a woman that left. Never give a person a second opportunity to betray you.
I am glad for him that there are no children of the marriage. When there are children, another dimension of intense emotional pain is added.
So true
Praying for this man. He deserves so much more.🙏🏻
All men deserve better
@danerichards7280 all women deserve better too. So where does that leave us.
Closure is bs. I personally think it’s not needed, the best is to heal through this and move on. You don’t need to get her explanation she showed you who she is.
SHE is the one who broke her commitment with him, not the guy. The caller was SO right.
Absolutely. He doesn't know the guy at all and the guy probably thinks all sorts of bad things about him due to his wife. So it doesn't do the caller any good to focus on him at all. The wife is the one who owed him her loyalty and she failed in that
Yup if anything the side dude should be cautious because he might be the next victim after the honeymoon phase is over
If I may give you one more piece of advice that backs John too. Do not let her back into your life again. My dad gave me this when my fiancée left. “Don’t let her back into your life, Not even if she shows up naked on high heels in the artic blast of a Winter snowstorm with apologies on her lips, those same lips are kissing another man and probably [more that just his lips]” (the end was cleaned up for RUclips)
Your dad seems to be a cool guy
🤣🤣🤣
I promise you that this is a blessing disguise...you deserve infinitely better.
Let her go, move on and NEVER look back on the tramp
Wonderful advice per usual. Man I really wish I would’ve seen this video over a year ago when I was in a similar situation. Luckily, I ended up coming out on the other side eventually, but this definitely would’ve sped up that process. I spent the first 3-4 months drinking myself to sleep and feeling sorry for myself. It was until I finally allowed myself to grieve that I was able to start the process of moving on
I'm sorry Logan. You seem a understanding and good man. Hope you find a positive beginning.
Dear men, this is what real “being blindsided” looks like. Not the rest of your stories where the woman was telling you she was unhappy and you ignored her!
Nope
I'm pretty sure she was telling him she was unhappy and he failed to listen, which would be very hard being home only 2-3 days at a time. He was absent from the marriage, let's be honest!
@@bettysmith4527tf are you talking about she cheated. Lol men can never win
@@bettysmith4527 Yeah let's be honest. She is an adulture trash can. Karma will get to the lying cheatin trash
@@pswizzle6616 Why do women feel the need to constantly defend other women’s bad behavior.
You will eventually get your closure when you realize they did you a favor and you have moved on and lived your best life. I caught my fiancée of 4 years cheating on me and I was devastated. I moved on and married a wonderful man - we have been happily married for 35 years. The dude did me a HUGE favor showing his character before we got married.
Good for you. Best wishes.😊
Sorry, fiancé of four years means zero commitment.
@@carylhalfwassen8555 We were college students wanted to finish our degrees before getting married.
My ex spouse left me and our two children for another man earlier this year.
Out of the blue, just ended it abruptly and without warning. Blamed me for everything and jumped ship, living her “best” life the entire time.
I was angry, confused, lost, heartbroken, destroyed. I lost my identity as a loyal husband and caring father literally overnight. With no one to talk to about the experience. I had an existential crisis and was completely forced to look at everything in my life.
Anyways, fast forward 10 months later and I’m nearly fully healed. Anything my ex spouse does these days no longer triggers me. She buys me or the kids food, brings stuff over from her trips and while I used to throw it away out of anger, i just accept it and let it be. I’m Indifferent, I’m “healed” from the betrayal. I no longer wish her bad luck.
All that matters now is the children and the new life that I have as a single father. And you know what, it’s been awesome so far.
You may not see it yet, but having this person out of the way is actually a blessing in disguise. Life truly does move on.
I went through this 26 years ago. The wife left me with out two young children and a new mortgage. She was having an affair with the building supervisor of our new home. Fortunately, our new home was based on my income alone. I soon realized that I had been alone in the marriage for years. She refused to help me with our kids and the daily/weekly chores. Intimacy was rare between us and most of the time I got yelled at for trying. She tried in her own manipulative way to come back after two months. There was no remorse or an apology. I said No. I got the divorce done in 5 months. Good luck to you.
@@racebannon96 hope the kids turned out fine. And any idea what happened between your ex and her affair..
These people are so broken.
@@kiddytube3915 The ex married her boyfriend. He was on dialysis for years. He got a kidney transplant but he still drinks alcohol. I saw them a few years ago at a graduation event. I almost did not recognize her. She looked awful. She had a scarf on her neck to hide her turkey neck. Her husband looked like a stick. I am still surprised he is alive. Weird stuff.
I hope he sees this comment
Sweetie, women never leave out of the blue. I hear this excuse from men all the time. She probably spent years telling you what was wrong and how to fix it, and you did nothing. She probably did the vast majority of cleaning, cooking, raising children and a thousand other tasks, whilst you did nothing but sit on your fat ass and fart all day.
“Why aren’t you on her front porch right now” are you blipping serious John ?
The only person I'd send to her front porch is someone from a law firm with a notice of divorce.
He is a Beta Simp. Please honey can you stop giving him a BJ and come back? Awful.
To be fair he didn’t hear that she was cheating yet
John is a simp.
You will one day thank god that she did this because you will find yourself in a much better life with someone who loves you and wants to be with you. Wishing you strength and serenity
If a person is happier with someone else, then it wasn't love.
She did him a huge favor. Doesn’t hurt any less but this is as the best outcome.
I'm 42 yo and I'm facing the exact same situation with my ex-wife. She left for someone else last year and for the last 3 years I couldn't see it comming. I felt miserable at first, but my family, friends and God have helped me to put myself up and runnig during the past 5 months so I would be here to my three kids. I hope it helps anybody who is facing the same sh!t: Things will get better! And if you have the right support, it will get better faster. Never be alone. Get God at your side and openly talk to your family and friends (what you feel right) so they can help you get up and hold you whenever you need. You are not the first, and surely won't be the last one facing this kind of thing. Remember that you are not alone. God Bless!
She cheated, straight up, to say she's not happy and just leave means she cheated long ago.
Let her be GONE! Wanna bet, she will regret her choice. That grass is not greener. It's brown, dry and thirsty. She failed to realize that someone has to water that grass. She did you a favor.
First thing he needs to do is to protect his assets and get a divorce lawyer. Make sure if she comes back that she has no legal hold on you
Logan, move forward and never look back. I'm sorry brother.
I went through the same thing with my ex husband. Let me tell you this, the grass is never greener and she will realize it when its too late. I thought to myself, it will never be too late. But it was. When youre finally healed and moved on, she will regret it.
The grass is greener where it is watered. Sounds like he wasn't watering it at all. He was working 24/7 instead.
I agree with the man.. this was his wife’s choice, not the other guy. She chose to leave him. The other guy didn’t make a vow to her husband, she made that vow and she broke it.
She will be back and I hope he does not take her back.
Yup
More of this will continue to happen...
The world is falling apart. The love of many is waxing cold.
Just happened to me Saturday. This exact same thing. It’s scary accurate.
Me three.
Nahh... it's a tale as old as time. Hundreds of blues songs have been written about this exact kind of situation.
@@GixxerRider1991open your eyes man. No one said it never happened before….
@@JbkwoohooyeehaI think you’re the one missing the revelation (book in the Bible about the end of time) reference
Friends. When you meet regularly with friends it needs to be single/divorced friends. Happily Married people are not good to lean on, they can’t relate. Someone that’s been down this road is your rock. Make sure to listen to what they’re going through too.
Watch something on tv or RUclips you know will make you laugh. I watched 3 stooges to get me through. I only watched for 10 min every 3 days. It gave me something to look forward to and my mind learned to take a break from the stress.
It really takes a special kind of woman to be ok with a husband who is gone all the time. It's a reality. He'll be lucky to find such a woman. However she's a piece of crap to use him til someone else came up for her.
Wow I did not know that a woman needs to be "special" to expect loyalty and fidelity from her..........
@@BarnzTT a woman in this arrangement has to set aside her own needs frequently and day after day handle most things herself. Some women can do it, yes. Some.
They have no problem spending the money tho... Sounds like women are overgrown children
“Dude why are you not on her front porch?” He did nothing wrong why would he go running after her?
I'm sorry, but you're totally wrong. What she did was wrong. This guy worked and worked and worked for his wife. She is wrong.
@@williamdacosta9026you have basic reading comprehension issues. Sort it out.
@@williamdacosta9026mate are you so obsessed with correcting people that you hallucinate peoples opinions?
@@wideningcarrot6 Or there was a deleted comment he was replying to 😂
He didn't know about the other guy when he said that.
This is so crazy, I’m from Jeff City and hearing this happening in Hermann is like 🤯 praying for this man 🙏🏼
Five years ago my girlfriend left me for another guy. The guy even slid into my DMs and gloated to me. That was the best thing that ever happened to me. I used it to motivate myself to get in the best shape, worked hard played hard and went up in my career. Fixed my mindset. My life cannot be better now.
I hope this guy also can get out of it and can achieve a better life. You can do this!
Wow. Guys can be asses, too, for sure. But most guys I know wouldn’t do this. Many would sleep with her no doubt. But most aren’t interested in gloating or tormenting you. They just want to have sex with her and move along.
I feel for this guy. Hope he's able to move forward. And hope she gets what she deserves. It'll come back on her eventually.
A relationship is over long before it’s officially over.
Only for a woman.
All the more reason to never trust or put a woman at the forefront of your life.
@@futurefunk88eddins96 unless it’s your wife.
Never trust your wife. Ever. @@rebeccaoprea9917
What. Actually especially your wife. Kings its your kingdom. She is invited into your world.
@@rebeccaoprea9917
If you’re struggling wanting to go back to someone who cheated just picture that person being railed by someone else and screaming their name
Gone are the days of growing old together. People are just looking for the next high.
I wonder if she did try to tell him for awhile. When hard conversations dont happen, & one or more partners is avoidant personality, things inevitably fall apart.
Stop defending a cheater
Never let someone they don’t want you more than once……
Huh?
@@Stanley_954, ditto.
Preach
I feel for you man. You’ll get through this and will be a stronger man.
Sometimes things happen for a reason, and please trucker if you are reading this you are worth way more than that woman. You sound like a kind hearted man, and a hard worker and trust me another woman will come into your life that will love you to the ends of the earth. Your wife is the one who lost because the man she got will end in disaster in most cases because it was built on being untruthful and deceit
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Make your own peace. Accept that you are better off now.
Thank God there is no child involved!!!! ❤
The comment he made about “ no conversation will make you feel better” is so true
That closure thing is never good
It is very odd that someone would leave in the middle of the day. I wonder if she tried communicating anything before making these plans. That said, closure would have been a better approach. I wish him the best.
I’m so sorry. Glad you called John. I hope you can get support. ❤
Sir, I am totally so sorry for where you're going through. Been there myself my friend. I wish you all the luck in the world every day. You'll get a little bit better. It took me lower over 2 years to finally feel good, but you'll get there. Good luck to you
One needs to grieve the death of a dream.
And also remember, ALWAYS a LIAR is always a LIAR and a CHEATER is always a CHEATER!
Yup
Soo Sorry Logan for your heartache!
Stay True to Yourself!
Keep Close to God! 🙏🏻
IN time to come, Try to meet and connect with a Committed Christian ONLY lady !
Going through this right now caught my husband cheating four days before my birthday and didn’t tell him. I moved out the day after my birthday and told him that after the six month separation that our state requires if he didn’t get help and change, we were getting a divorce. He claims that he wants to save our marriage but he has still not told me the truth about everything he was doing and everything that he did I found out on my own and that for some reason is really bothering me whether we are together or not I just want to get past this and for it to be over I just turned 42, and I can’t believe I’m having to start over again, but I refuse to waste any more days of my life not truly living purposefully, and if it takes leaving the situation behind, I am more than willing to do that I just wish he gave me the respect of closure, but if he could cheat on me, he didn’t respect me anyway.
Did you file?
Its hard to be in a relationship with an over the road trucker.
My dad was one and his being gone was so trying. We only saw him 3 times a week and when he was home he was beat to crap tired.
We asked him to get a local job and he refused because he wanted to make more money, but my dad was an independent, so we never really had much money because he would pour his proceeds back into the truck.
Too bad this woman didn't see that this wasn't the life for her earlier. Because I know I will NEVER be with one.
Cheaters do not need an excuse to cheat. I know plenty of overseas workers whose marriages are just fine.
@@SarahConnor562Wow. Kudos on you for having these beliefs. Very rare these days.
Then when he's at home all the time you'll whine about that too... Women are full of 💩
He said he only worked as a trucker for 1.5 years. I'm not sure how long he was married.
She had to be cheating.
@@BarnzTT How can you possibly know that there isn't any infidelity in those marriages? Are you monitoring those spouses 24/7?
If they stupid enough to leave a good person be smart enough to let them go. Im sorry for your pain mr big hug from scotland xx
@1:36 "she told me that she was going down to see the family for a couple of days..."
Well, the first part was true.
Now I know what this means because this exact thing just happened to me. Like exactly this.
She went down for sure lmao😂
He should have chosen better. With that said, he should just move on, what closure does he need from someone who treated him so poorly?
No, men always choose better no matter. It’s only the women who need accountability for their crappy choices in partners. Dude’s choice is fantastic. 😂😂😅
I’m know plenty of men that have chosen low quality women. Both genders are capable of making poor choices.
@@Emptytopflooryes acc to these men, their decision making doesn’t matter at all. No matter what they are all right 😂
It's good that he's at least not expecting any closure, it's worse when you want closure and she's denying you the closure you need to move on. Just get on with your life and eventually it'll become a more and more distant memory and you'll become able to live with it.
Unfortunately, there is nothing left to do, other than move on.
If you can’t give a woman time it’s not going to work. I never recommend marrying anyone if you are in the military or a truck driver like this guy when you have to leave home for long periods of time. I found this out the hard way I feel bad for this guy I know the pain he’s going through. I hope he realizes in the future if he doesn’t change his job then this will most likely happen again with the next woman he is with.
Wait until he dumps her.
Dam this one hit home cause im also a truck driver, this happens to alot of drivers especially since we can be out 2 weeks even a month without coming home. Hope he can get over all that 🥲
I've heard and seen stories about infidelity with Truckers. Either the wife/girlfriend feels lonely and cheats or the guy, having affairs with different women on the road. I think the lifestyle isn't for people who are wanting a family because if they have children, those kids will feel like their dad is always absent.
@@nene7-o1v Agreed. I would want my husband home with me and active with the kids every night. Being a married single mother does not sound fun. Do that while you're single. There are plenty of other trades/careers to choose from.
My ex husband was a truck driver but HE was the one with the triple lives while I was at home with the kids.
I should have cheated had I known he would betray me.
@@SarahConnor562 Of course, I don't want abject poverty but I don't seek luxury either. Not every woman wants that. I want my family together, healthy, and content. That is priority. I want my kids to actually know their dad, not just his money. If my future husband ends up getting a job that requires travel, then it would need to be something that allows us to travel together where he could still be home every night and I could home school the kids if necessary. For example, my bf spoke of possible missionary work, which we agree that the whole family would go. That is the only way I would agree to that.
My bf and I both grew up in 2 parent homes, where our dads were technically home but weren't present. And if they had something to say or more likely yell, it was mostly negative. Bf grew up poor. I grew up middle class. We are shooting for middle class, but if the Lord blesses us with more, then great. But our vision is a God-led marriage, a comfortable living, and a house filled with love in action and word, and appreciation for even the little things.
We're both frugal. He saves tons because he is very handy and can handle a lot of house and car maintenance himself. I'm a pro at saving, budgeting, meal prepping, etc. You'd be surprised what people spend excessively on (e.g. Starbucks every day, eating out multiple days a week, doordashing and instacarting everything, excessive or expensive shopping, etc). It's usually different for everyone. Without self control, it would be easy for me to eat out several days a week, and it would be easy for him to buy tons of expensive clothes. Solution: Set a reasonable budget for each category where we can still do those things, just on a budget that enforces a limit.
So even on a bad year, I'm confident we'll still be able to afford road trips for hiking and camping trips. If we can afford one modest vacation a year that requires a flight, then we'll take it. If we can afford more, even better.
Fyi: We both appreciate SAHMs. His mom was one and my sister became one after working the first several years of their marriage. My parents have always both worked. I'd say my mom overworked to afford more expensive things. So we have first hand knowledge of what all sides look like. We're taking lessons learned from the good and the bad and creating the future we want. But we also recognize that income and life circumstances do change and often unexpectedly. You have to truly be in it for richer, for poorer. And keep communicating and respecting each other through the changes. Being a SAHM isn't my dream, but if we come to a point where that's just what makes the most sense at the time, then I am fully capable and ready to give it my best.
I've been over the road for 24 years. It's hard dating a trucker, stay strong, she did you a favor by leaving. She could have stayed and continued to cheat on you.
How terrible to do to someone. Wondering how she can live with herself after this. I could never do this to someone I loved. Feel bad for him.
Question, would you cheat on someone you love? Of course not, they never loved you, that’s the hardest part
Very wise, and mature man. You are absolutely right it was her choice, and I'm glad you're blaming her and not the dude. You're better off without her. Now it's his problem, lol
My wife told me that I needed to move out because the guy she was seeing on the side felt weird that I was still living in the house.
There was children involved, so I moved out.
He dumped her after I was gone. I guess it wasn’t exciting for him anymore because he was now sleeping with a single woman.
Crazzzyyy😭
Women will stay with a guy until their feelings completely disappear. Then they will blindside you by monkey branching to another guy they set up behind your back. She has no integrity…..if she left you for another guy chances are she will leave the next guy for someone else.
Letting go is a decision to set yourself free. You don't need permission from the person who walks away.
Closure is not a necessary condition for taking your life back from the jaws of deception and utter disrespect!
I LOVED John's advice on this one. When he told the guy when he's home from his runs to go out with the guys. Do your laundry, go to the bank, get a haircut.
If you sit around & sulk it will kill you.
She's gone, now live.
Also: Don't think every woman is like her.
And take time before you get into another relationship.
It's someone else's turn. You are free. you are past your first step to healing. It takes time, but you'll be a better person.
Life as an over the road truckers is tough as it. Sacrifices so much time away from the family in order to provide. I’m a truck driver and find it really hard to sustain a healthy relationship.
You should be happy now you are free my dude. Count your blessings my boy
I'm 42 , single, never married, no kids, involved in my church, financially secure and responsible. It gets lonely for sure but the more I listen to shows like this the more I realize it could be so much worse and the more I want to stay single.
Even if you hear closure, it won’t matter because she’ll either lie, or say something that will hurt you. Closure isn’t anything that will resolve a thing. The closure is…that she’s gone.
She did you a favor. Let her go, don’t re marry, and focus on your dreams
I have never been able to relate to the mind state of weak men like this. If any woman of mine EVER so much as entertained being with some other man, she and I are D-O-N-E. What man with any self-esteem watches his woman betray him and go sleep with another man, and then even considers continuing a relationship with her?? Insane!
You might be mistaken thinking this man is weak.
I am so sorry to hear this because the world is ranting about there not being any good men but Here is this Man trying his best to live in integrity and then we have a woman who doesn't value him. The balancing scale is soooo off in this age and time.
I used to be an investigator in the military, so I've seen what can happen when someone's marriage falls apart. I know everyone feels really sorry for this guy, but for someone like me who was trained to really listen to what people say, all i see is red flags with this guy. The first red flag was her up and leaving while he was gone without saying a word to anyone. The only women I've ever seen do that are abuse victims. Wives who are not being abused will usually try to work things out for well over a year before they call it quits. Not this woman. She ran off to her family, then secretly moved out without ending things. Another one is how he said he was worried about getting arrested because the new guy thinks he's crazy. First off, cops don't arrest people who dont break the law. Second, why would this guy think he's crazy? The next is when he was asked if he's still in contact with her, and he said no, but not because hes not contacting her, but because she disconnected her phone. Why would she need to disconnect her phone or get a new number? Probably because she doesn't want him contacting her. The only women I've seen do this are women who are being harassed. It's not normal to change your number after a breakup. The last thing is his own tone and demeanor. He doesn't sound like a man whose marriage just ended. He sounds like a little boy who's angry that another kid is playing with his toy. He is so quick to throw the woman he claimed to have loved under the bus, but at the same time lift himself up by talking about what a great provider he is. Well, the guy was gone a few weeks at a time and only home for a few days, so i dont see how this makes a good marriage. He did this for two years, but he is framing it like he is such a great husband for never being home. I get that sometimes you have to do what you have to do to make money, but most people are willing to recognize when something is bad for the marriage, but not this guy. This guy sketches me out, and i promise that if we got his ex's side, we might see some things about this guy that horrify us.
I saw those red flags too.
Wow ….. ur mind!! So cool all wounds true
Dang, thanks for this comment. My mind is blown. I never considered any of what you said but I respect it and feel you might even be right and even if you are not, it's amazing that I never considered this angle at all.
Brilliant observations, I agree.
Whether its true or not, this legit sounds play by play like an abuse victims escape not gonna lie...
This woman lacks character and she actually did you a favor. She is the one with the problem, not you.
Three sides to every story. 💡
Fact!
You sound like a great guy, I pray that you find someone worthy of you 🙏
Hang in there Logan... Been there, I gave my ex 7 days to get your Sh** out! BEST BEST thing i could of ever done. No tears, No sorrow, The line in the sand was crossed in my belief system.
Lucky i had a speedy divorce, and met someone else 10 times better. Body like a coke bottle, awesome personality, Of the chart sense of humor.. When 1 fish goes bad, ya just get another fish.
You can't and will not see this now, But you will. Some things are out of your control. Wash your hands and move on. Good things will come your way.
I get a feeling this guy was oblivious to a lot.
Feel like I’m having whiplash right now!
You’ll make it through my man!
My ex husband left me in the beginning of our marriage for another married woman, he left with zero explanation for 2 months. I moved out and divorced him immediately. This has been one of the biggest blessings… I no longer needed to be with someone who disrespected me and hurt me like he did. To anyone in a situation like this- please understand that you deserve so much better than this…
You will never get closure from a cheater, their disrespect is your closure.
there is really no good way to break up relationships and sometimes the less said the better. dialogue can lead to things being said which may be better off left unsaid. Not easy but as hard as it is one does tend to heal.
And to top it off, no fault divorce.
Let her go. Do the work you need to do for your self. Then get back out there and find someone that wants to be with you.
You dont need her. Youre amazing ❤❤❤
There are always two sides to the story.
In Missouri if a spouse leaves and is gone for 6 months it is considered abandonment. My attorney asked if she was requesting a divorce and answer was no so he said wait. After one year I filed and got everything. Gave her some cash but it was nothing in comparison. Stupid is stupid does and good riddance
I wish you healing. I’m
So sorry. I hope you can give all of your energy to yourself. ❤ I hope you can get support. But if this happens I think there’s a gift for you in it, all the things you will realize about yourself to know how this happened. You’re very articulate. ❤