I actually gasped at the first story when it was mentioned that the niece is fifteen. Running out into the road without paying attention seems like such a little kid move. I definitely don't think he's the asshole, I'd say he needs therapy not just because of how he feels about his niece, but because of what he's been through and how his life has changed.
Somehow I feel like she hasn’t learned though and next time OP won’t be there to save her. I hope he gets the physical and mental therapy he needs and that he recovers quickly.
I learned this once i started walking especially when i was young my mom didn't have a car we walked everywhere so i think its something parents should teach their kids this
As an Indian woman, i grew up on spicy food, all my family did from a really young age, but we usually put things like (savory) yogurt, milk, coconut in them so the younger kids can build a tolerance but not have too many gastric issues... and most of my family's in the medical field, nobody had an issue with it. If someone didnt like it or couldn't take it, we just adjusted it for them. Plus, I've seen a lot nonspice ppl confusing seasoning spice and color in food with capsaicin hot spicy which is another mess 🤦🏻♀️ a lot of Asian food can be seasoned and spiced well without it being "spicy," ppl are wild. I've also seen and experienced too much food related racism to give the husband the benefit of the doubt on this one, esp with defensiveness and immediately taking the kid to his parents.
Story #3: If that kid didn’t like the food, he’s plenty old enough to speak up & young enough to get away with spitting it out.😂 Telling him to not trust the food his MOTHER is giving him could set him up for serious trust issues.💔 I wasn’t raised with spicy foods and my ⚪️ mama didn’t even add salt/pepper.🤦🏽♀️ She did buy things like bell peppers, tho. My parents thought I was lying when I said bell peppers ARE spicy to me. I was 43yo when I learned that bell peppers actually AREN’T spicy & that I’m just allergic to capsicum (not capsaicin)…which is apparently rare.🙃
Spicy food story - YTA for sure. We don't even actually know what the doctor said. It's highly likely OP 'took the opportunity' to tell the doctor about it in a biased way. And the doctor could have said anything that OP might have also taken out of context. Doctor could have said something as basic as 'really spicey food isnt recommended' - and with someone who's baseline spice is pepper that could have been enough for OP to run with it. They just sound like someone who was looking for an excuse to do what they preferred, regardless of what the wife wants.
Hearing that story, the doctor was probably not thinking of kimchi lol. Doctor was probably thinking of those trendy spicy challenges that people insist on doing
Tbh if she's 15 ........am I devil for saying she should have learned the hard way to stay out the dang street ?.. Because that's way to damn old to be running into the busy street I don't really like the concept of physical punishment for kids but if I got a spinal injury I'd be so pissed
Texan and Hispanic here, I started eating really spicy food around 8 and have never had a problem lmao. Kimchi isn't that crazy. I think he must've been overexaggerating at the doctor.
I'm Hispanic but never really ate spicy food because it made me nauseous if it was super spicy. I freaking love kimchi!! At least the ones I've eaten have ever been crazy spicy and i have the spice tolerance of a toddler.
I've had spicy kimchi before. Not very common, but I got some at a farmer's market that gave me a run for my money, and I have pretty high spice tolerance. Still really yummy!
If we want to get into statistics. Kimchi is less than 1000 on the Scoville scale. For reference, that is 1/4th the spiciness of a jalapeño and 1/40th of a cayenne pepper. And 1/50th the scoville of a bag of hot flaming Cheetos. Boy was probably claiming it was ghost pepper spicy or something.
it's not good for kids to over consume spicy foods, the doctor was absolutely right, just because you didn't have problems doesn't mean it's healthy also east asian countries have a high number of gastric ulcer/cancer cases among young people and it's because of smoked/spicy food
@@rimmahjoubi8375 thanks for the whitesplanation, but the OP said it was kimchi that the kid was eating, which is very much mildly spicy and not something likely to hurt a child over 3.
I asked my pediatrician when my daughter was 1yr if spice was ok. She’s also southern but not white and she said it’s fine as long as it’s not super ghost pepper stuff. Edit to say: dad sucks for undermining mom and both parents need to communicate better. Dad is acting like mom is trying to poison their child.
Last month I went to a baby led weaning class as my child was 5 months. In that class, they encouraged us to give our babies what we eat, spice and everything. This is for BABIES. So a 5 year old is fine.
The guy who doesn't like spicy food is probably more worried that if both his wife and child like spicy food, he'll be left out... maybe being worried that he'll have to cook and eat his own food when they choose to eat something spicy.
what are they doing ABT the niece’s problem w running in the road tho? bc he risked his life to save hers.. she better not be still walking around like that! i don’t blame them for how they feel at all. it kinda WAS the nieces fault & im surprised the family isn’t coming down on her for how badly she screwed up..
My pediatrician was Indian. He told me that young children as old as 18 months can handle spice just fine. If they dont like it they wont eat it. Indian children eat curry and other spice just fine.
As a woman who is decently heavily tattooed I will just say the amount of people (typically men) who give their unsolicited opinions about what I do with my body and my skin is truly ridiculous. And then you also have on the otherside of it the guys that almost fetishize me for the tattoos. "Oh you must like pain, huh?" That kind of bs.
Story 4: Most people that want to "pray for you" want you to hold hands and pray WITH them, and can often be their way of trying to bring you to their church/religion
This is so true! But in a way i prefer people who want to pray for me to say it to my face, like i don't know if i want a god who thinks i sin for existing and is so shitty to have me in his thoughts.
Story 1 - I feel like he should talk to his wife about his complicated feelings about his niece. Be honest with her, express his frustration and say that for him right now, having her be around isn't healthy. He's in a very low place, and I know that the girl probably feels bad and will want reassurance that everything is okay and... it's not. It might never be again, and it would be a lot of mental anguish to be in the position where you have to look someone in the eye that caused you to be badly, badly hurt and to swallow your anger and grief at that. I think for both of them it would be better to get help from someone else. Story 2 - the thing is, that circle of people is so sexist and toxic. I would feel so betrayed if my partner posted pictures of me with lies that uplift an ideology to a group of people KNOWN for being toxic to people who live how I actually live. Those kinds of groups cause real life harm - Josh is right. To be clear - one can want to be a stay at home partner/parent, as long as both partners can support that and are comfortable with it. You can even want to express yourself and live your life with traditional gender roles. I say this as a transnonbinary masc person - expressing your gender in a way that makes you happy is fine, just don't belittle or demean others and their identity expression in the process. My issue is that the vocal majority of the trad wife group is EXTREMELY misogynistic and openly DOES demean people expressing themselves or living their lives in a specific way that is not their own. Story 3 - lol, I have a friend who thinks ketchup is too spicy. KETCHUP. I can't help but chuckle about it. With the kiddo I would more be worried about something much hotter. Story 4 - This reminds me of the one time a lady asked if she could include me in her prayer when I was scheduling a doctor's visit for her over the phone. I said yes mostly because I grew up Catholic and I'm used to the question, little weird to ask for a stranger but whatever. She then asked my name and I told her and lady straight up goes; "Dear lord, uplift Merlin oh lord. Let you shine your light on Merlin lord, who has helped us to find an appointment..." She meant like. Right then. At that very moment. I have never had a more uncomfortable phone call in my life. Story 5 - How is that a compliment like fuck off lmfaoooo I'm so baffled by her family. Are they against tattoos maybe? Wild, wild, wild. Story 6 - it feels a lot like this needs to have more conversation lmao - wait how did Sean say a fantastic joke without anyone calling attention to it? She SHOULD be Jesse's Girl [distant rock music playing]
Yeah, that last guy knew what he was doing. He was Purposely vague. I hope she breaks up with him, dates Jesse (who then is no longer friends with him) and the co-worker says no. May he sit in the ruins of his hubris for months on end.😅
kids can eat spicy food brah, u just shouldnt give them extremely spicy stuff and regulate how much of a spicy food they have. like having too many hot cheetos can upset my stomach bc i ate so much, so dont let them do that 😭😭
Story 2? I'll say it again, jokes are supposed to be funny. Not only is he posting pics of op and their daughter for random strangers, its to people who don't view women as people but as objects. He's also lying to these people about some fantasy he wants; if he can lie to them about his life what else has he lied about or would eventually lie about to his wife
For the spicy food story: as a first time parent, I was really paranoid about food. We didn’t even give the baby foods with salt way after he was allowed to have it. One day, I’m eating McDonald’s around him. As soon as I’m not looking, he’s got his hands covered in the buffalo sauce for my nuggets and he’s going HAM. Now he’s 4, likes hot Cheetos when the occasion allows for it, and eats raw lemons 😂
The "can I pray for you?" Story really scorns me, As a now non-religious pansexual person who can't really come out and say I'm not religious to my family that's been shoving it down my throat since childhood the ONLY place I can EVER see someone putting a physical hand on you to pray is if A) you think you are possessed B) are in church praying at the front of an alter or podium . They had every right to tell the staff which thankfully listened they were being homophobic, because every dang time a person such as this says they weren't being homophobic Their version of that sounds realistically like this " oh I know your gay and all and that makes you go to hell but I know you have religious trauma with it soooo can I pray for you tho about your broken bone" I bet on it, as I never see how reminding someone even if you KNOW they have trauma with religion trying to force that stuff on them, I to this day say if a pastor puts a hand on me in a church without my permission and talks about responsibility I will break down into tears and have an anxiety attack because church has so many bad memories including one's of a girl who was the daughter of the teacher who was in charge of our class bullying me and making fun of me with her friends .
My toddler loves spicy food. 2 years old and she loves spicy Doritos, Buffalo chicken, spicy ramen, salsa, as well as the most sour foods she can find. All I craved in pregnancy was spicy food and she is living up to the cravings! Her pediatrician has no concerns. Wild of the dad to undermine his wife like that.
Kimchi, like the vegetable dish? It's made with gochugaru so it depends on how much of it you put in that could make the difference between spicy to super spicy. It also has lots of garlic.
@heyyats386 ah thanks kimchi not kimchee. Correcting that now. Also, I've had it a few times, but never made it, and I don't remember it being spicy but maybe that was because my daughter already knew my tastes. 😊
For the praying one: I’m a Christian and I’m still hesitant about others praying over me that I don’t know because you don’t know that person’s true intentions. I do believe in the whole “touch and AGREE” and if I’m not certain about what is being prayed over for me, I’m going to decline.
34:17 but we’re also getting his side of the story about her reaction so she could’ve been totally open to what he was saying, but he wrote she rolled her eyes she dismissed me blah, blah blah and yeah, he probably made it seem like she was feeding him the hottest food
Lots of cultures eat some kind of spice from a young age. I’m Mexican and I’ve always loved my chamoy, tajin, tamarindos, salsa, everything!!!! As long as I can eat it I will continue doing so 😋😋
I’m sorry but he is the AH bc he had already his own mind made up about spicy is bad and already dismissed any reason based off culture . Then he automatically went to that doctor searching for someone to agree . His reaction and saying idc what your parents did we doing things diff but it seems racially motivated . Then to double down and make your kid feel like whatever food his mom gives him is bad is setting up poor eating habits and a strain against his mom .
Hot take for the spicy food story: the asshole is the doctor honestly. He should'nt have automatically told him that spicy foods are dangerous for small children and he needs to take action to be culturally appropriate. Children of other countries/ethnicities eat spicy food all the time. The doctor should know this. If he doesnt, he definitely needs some cultural awareness training as he is a trusted professional in health. Perpetuating stereotypes like this is how our healthcare in America becomes so dangerous for POC
AM I THE ASSHOLE for being offended that you call the 50 year old an old man? I’m 54 and have stood up for strangers getting bullied in public. His attitude towards the human with the tattoos had NOTHING to do with age and everything to do with his shitty opinions. Please don’t shove all of us second half century people in an “old people” bucket. I work for wildfire and play roller derby. Age is a state of mind. Love the podcast. Cheers!
You are not the AH for being offended. But it sure is weird.. 50 is not young and „old“ is not an insult. Also the comment isn’t about you or everyone else over 50.. if the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it.
Story 1: She’s 15 she should know better and she should feel guilty for the rest of her life. She stole your health and hasn’t expressed any outward remorse. If I was that girl I would be bawling and throwing myself at my uncle with a thousand apologies.
Tbh the trad wife story i'd be worried for the three year old special needs daughter because there are weirdos out there and yeah the internet is forever but yeah he definitely needs therapy for himself that's for sure.
I’ve introduced spicy food to my daughter early on. Just like any foods, she’d tell me if she liked it or not. If she didn’t like it, I wouldnt press. The dad in that story is ridiculous. 4 is old enough to communicate if he didn’t like it.
Bruh ppl who ASK “can I pray for you” are the worst 😹😹like you could’ve just done that…. You gotta come up n MAKE SURE I know you’re doing a “good deed” for me that basically is saying “I see something wrong with you” which in any circuses could actually make ppl uncomfortable (especially if you make them do the prayer WITH YOU 😩) but yeah my family used to do this to ppl and I’ve been prayed over by random strangers when I stayed at their house whenever I had to 🙃
I can't stand spicy food. On the one hand, I think that's ok and my taste buds are more sensitive and can appreciate "bland" food more. On the other hand I sometimes wish my parents would have tried harder (they did try a bit) to have me build some tolerance as a kid, because I'm missing out on many Asian, Mexican, African, etc dishes.
As a Christian myself, if I ask someone if I can pray for them and they say no, that’s where that conversation ends. And even when I ask and they say yes, I pray for them on my own time, not right then and there
Spicy story: one time my mom left me in my high chair at a friends house for a second. When they came back i was monching on their decorative spicy peppers with tears running down my face. The friend was very concerned hahahha.
Spicy story guy is such a little ah 😂 I bet he totally misled that doctor into thinking it was intense spices and was being culturally insensitive. “Sorry, your entire culture, and over half of those around the world, is wrong and I want us to be better than them and make our kid just like me.” I hope Reddit ripped into him on how ridiculous he is.
Trad wife can be used as a dirogitory term by people who look down on the life style. But from what I've seen its mostly used by the people who identify with it as a positive label to describe their lifestyle.
For the trad wife thing: that account was legit non consentual p*rn. Same as making a feet pics account without her consent but her feet. And honestly he isnt sorry he is sorry he got caught. Divorce him because he showed what was behind the mask. He was getting off on larping that he "tamed"/domesticated a feminist/career woman. Girl get out.
That one family needs a new pediatrician 😂 had to be a very white old dude cause theres no way a literal doctor would say a 5 year old cant handle spicy foods😂😂😂
regarding the 3rd story. i don’t think the guy was the asshole at all. you shouldn’t just assume the husband phrased his concerns incorrectly to the doctor because you don’t know. he could have phrased it wrong. but to just assume for no reason makes no sense. also, not everything is racist. the dude sad just concerned for his child’s health. i’m struggling to see how that’s racist? if he was racist. why would he marry and have a chile with her? you shouldn’t just throw buzz words around to appease people. it’s just fake.
He needs to realize HE MADE A CHOICE to run out there and save her. He needs to take some responsibility. He did not have to do that. Is she stupid? Sure. But she didn't ask him to run out there.
@@tommyrandall3489 they’re afraid to stand up for men. They’re more feminist than the feminist. Yes there are some misogynistic men, but not all of them. Feminism has been corrupted to a point where if a man is proud of having a traditional wife that bakes and takes care of their children, it’s considered bad. And to encourage a divorce? Really? That’s not how marriage is supposed to be. You’re supposed to resolve problems. But yes, divorce your husband that provides a comfortable life for you and your children, go get a job because you will need one, and neglect your children and leave them in day care for a stranger to raise. Great idea guys.
Josh is the epitome of a "Pick me" and it's so cringe. He reminds me of men I've had in my life I can't stand them, they are still misogynist and tell me my life choices are wrong just as much as the men he tears down. He's cut from the same cloth.
Josh is 100% a pick me and it drives me insane. He's just as much a misogynist as the men he tears down, his type shit on women like me because of my choices. He's just as narrow minded.
She is a traditional wife! The fact that you let society make you feel less than for taking care of your family is insane. She should be proud and grateful that she has that privilege to stay home with her children. A lot of women don’t have that. A career will never give you the fulfillment that your family and children do.
That is very narrow-minded of you. I think everyone has the right to live the life they want. She doesn't get that fulfillment and her husband is a prick!
@@carolhowker7069 they are equal. They each contribute to the family. He works and provides and she takes care of the family. So you would prefer leaving your children at daycare all day so they can be neglected and have a stranger raise them? I mean if you do, that’s your life and you have absolutely all the right to live how you choose. But that’s not their life. She is a traditional wife. And she’s been brainwashed to think it’s an insult to be called one. Which was my point in the first place.
Trad wife isn't an offensive term, or at least I haven't seen it used in a negative context. Kinda hate how close minded Josh is, he seems judgy over other people's choices, he's rubbed me the wrong way in several of these. As a woman, he's a man I'd feel uncomfortable to be around 😔
1000000% disagree. He is the most on the ball. Maybe some are proud of being Trad, but check out what happened to them later. There are accounts run by ex trad wives, whose husbands left them for younger women etc etc. These women have no financial control over their lives, which is inherent in Trad. That's the problem. Even if you want to bake gender roles into the way you live your lives, it's ok, but always and every time *stay at home spouses need to control their own money, in their own accounts.*
@@hcf4kd1992 You're selecting some negative outcomes online and acting like it's inevitable just like Josh. Nah I'm sick of Josh judging my life style, he always says something negative about women being housewives, doesn't talk about the pros children and relationships experience. He's sexist, and I wish he'd see that because he doesn't seem to make comments about men's relationship dynamics or decisions like he does with women. I have been both the career driven workaholic and a stay at home mother, I love the latter and understand it isn't for everyone. Feminism is supposed to give us that choice and I'm sick of being shit on over my choices in my relationship. The fact that you are only going by things you see on Tiktok shows me you lack life experiences.
@indigocrayon520 I highly encourage you to do research on choice feminism. Feminism has nothing to do with what choices you make, it's not about making choices, it's about liberating women from systems of oppression and ensuring our human rights are not violated. There's absolutely nothing sexist about being critical of misogynistic and racist propaganda (which tradwife content is!). Also your lifestyle comes with a very high risk, men are socialized to not see women as people and it's not uncommon for them to abuse their wives. You can choose to do whatever you want, but if you don't get what Josh is criticizing then this conversation is above your pay grade and that's okay! Go educate yourself and we can have this conversation then.
@@morphinpink Every single woman I know who's been beat, including myself with my first bf, were working women at the time. I've had 4 friends who's fiance or husband attempt murder, one actually was killed. All working women. My husband is a great man, 15yrs and he's never abused me. Real talk, are you under 25?
@@indigocrayon520I'm well above 25 lmao. I never said working makes women immune to abuse, dating men always comes with the risk of abuse. Being financially dependant on them makes it even harder to leave an abusive relationship.
I actually gasped at the first story when it was mentioned that the niece is fifteen. Running out into the road without paying attention seems like such a little kid move. I definitely don't think he's the asshole, I'd say he needs therapy not just because of how he feels about his niece, but because of what he's been through and how his life has changed.
Story 1... she's old enough to know better. She's 15!
Somehow I feel like she hasn’t learned though and next time OP won’t be there to save her.
I hope he gets the physical and mental therapy he needs and that he recovers quickly.
I learned this once i started walking especially when i was young my mom didn't have a car we walked everywhere so i think its something parents should teach their kids this
As an Indian woman, i grew up on spicy food, all my family did from a really young age, but we usually put things like (savory) yogurt, milk, coconut in them so the younger kids can build a tolerance but not have too many gastric issues... and most of my family's in the medical field, nobody had an issue with it. If someone didnt like it or couldn't take it, we just adjusted it for them. Plus, I've seen a lot nonspice ppl confusing seasoning spice and color in food with capsaicin hot spicy which is another mess 🤦🏻♀️ a lot of Asian food can be seasoned and spiced well without it being "spicy," ppl are wild. I've also seen and experienced too much food related racism to give the husband the benefit of the doubt on this one, esp with defensiveness and immediately taking the kid to his parents.
Story #3: If that kid didn’t like the food, he’s plenty old enough to speak up & young enough to get away with spitting it out.😂 Telling him to not trust the food his MOTHER is giving him could set him up for serious trust issues.💔
I wasn’t raised with spicy foods and my ⚪️ mama didn’t even add salt/pepper.🤦🏽♀️ She did buy things like bell peppers, tho. My parents thought I was lying when I said bell peppers ARE spicy to me. I was 43yo when I learned that bell peppers actually AREN’T spicy & that I’m just allergic to capsicum (not capsaicin)…which is apparently rare.🙃
"Feel free to hate whoever you want to hate" on a t-shirt is what I'm voting on. Sean always drops the best anti-social wisdom
Spicy food story - YTA for sure. We don't even actually know what the doctor said. It's highly likely OP 'took the opportunity' to tell the doctor about it in a biased way. And the doctor could have said anything that OP might have also taken out of context. Doctor could have said something as basic as 'really spicey food isnt recommended' - and with someone who's baseline spice is pepper that could have been enough for OP to run with it. They just sound like someone who was looking for an excuse to do what they preferred, regardless of what the wife wants.
Hearing that story, the doctor was probably not thinking of kimchi lol. Doctor was probably thinking of those trendy spicy challenges that people insist on doing
Tbh if she's 15 ........am I devil for saying she should have learned the hard way to stay out the dang street ?..
Because that's way to damn old to be running into the busy street I don't really like the concept of physical punishment for kids but if I got a spinal injury I'd be so pissed
that’s crazy actually😭
the spiciness story reminds me of somebody who told me that ranch was spicy and got mad when i just stared at her.
Im a certified ranch hater and I have never thought it was spicy lmao. Im white as paper too, what did that person eat???
Could be they are allergic to it without knowing. I know a guy who thought ketchup was spicy. Turns out he is allergic
@@Sienisota ouh no viddu näyttää silt et oon allergine ketsupille xd onneks en tykkää siit oikeestaa ollenkaa mut aina ku oon syöny on polttanu suuta
Texan and Hispanic here, I started eating really spicy food around 8 and have never had a problem lmao. Kimchi isn't that crazy. I think he must've been overexaggerating at the doctor.
I'm Hispanic but never really ate spicy food because it made me nauseous if it was super spicy. I freaking love kimchi!! At least the ones I've eaten have ever been crazy spicy and i have the spice tolerance of a toddler.
I've had spicy kimchi before. Not very common, but I got some at a farmer's market that gave me a run for my money, and I have pretty high spice tolerance. Still really yummy!
If we want to get into statistics. Kimchi is less than 1000 on the Scoville scale. For reference, that is 1/4th the spiciness of a jalapeño and 1/40th of a cayenne pepper. And 1/50th the scoville of a bag of hot flaming Cheetos. Boy was probably claiming it was ghost pepper spicy or something.
it's not good for kids to over consume spicy foods, the doctor was absolutely right, just because you didn't have problems doesn't mean it's healthy also east asian countries have a high number of gastric ulcer/cancer cases among young people and it's because of smoked/spicy food
@@rimmahjoubi8375 thanks for the whitesplanation, but the OP said it was kimchi that the kid was eating, which is very much mildly spicy and not something likely to hurt a child over 3.
I asked my pediatrician when my daughter was 1yr if spice was ok. She’s also southern but not white and she said it’s fine as long as it’s not super ghost pepper stuff.
Edit to say: dad sucks for undermining mom and both parents need to communicate better. Dad is acting like mom is trying to poison their child.
Last month I went to a baby led weaning class as my child was 5 months. In that class, they encouraged us to give our babies what we eat, spice and everything. This is for BABIES. So a 5 year old is fine.
Why do people think that we are so obligated to accept and be grateful for a stranger's opinion of them?
Right? And he literally wasn't even complementing her! He was putting her down, and the family is like no no you should be grateful???
Misogyny.
@@AlxMar5yep women have to be “polite” but men can say the most out of pocket shit and no one bats an eye
The guy who doesn't like spicy food is probably more worried that if both his wife and child like spicy food, he'll be left out... maybe being worried that he'll have to cook and eat his own food when they choose to eat something spicy.
what are they doing ABT the niece’s problem w running in the road tho? bc he risked his life to save hers.. she better not be still walking around like that! i don’t blame them for how they feel at all. it kinda WAS the nieces fault & im surprised the family isn’t coming down on her for how badly she screwed up..
My pediatrician was Indian. He told me that young children as old as 18 months can handle spice just fine. If they dont like it they wont eat it. Indian children eat curry and other spice just fine.
When my younger cousin was 3 years old she LOVED Red Hot sauce. She would literally scream at us if we tried to just give her just a little bit 😂
As a woman who is decently heavily tattooed I will just say the amount of people (typically men) who give their unsolicited opinions about what I do with my body and my skin is truly ridiculous. And then you also have on the otherside of it the guys that almost fetishize me for the tattoos. "Oh you must like pain, huh?" That kind of bs.
Story 4: Most people that want to "pray for you" want you to hold hands and pray WITH them, and can often be their way of trying to bring you to their church/religion
This is so true! But in a way i prefer people who want to pray for me to say it to my face, like i don't know if i want a god who thinks i sin for existing and is so shitty to have me in his thoughts.
Story 1 - I feel like he should talk to his wife about his complicated feelings about his niece. Be honest with her, express his frustration and say that for him right now, having her be around isn't healthy. He's in a very low place, and I know that the girl probably feels bad and will want reassurance that everything is okay and... it's not. It might never be again, and it would be a lot of mental anguish to be in the position where you have to look someone in the eye that caused you to be badly, badly hurt and to swallow your anger and grief at that. I think for both of them it would be better to get help from someone else.
Story 2 - the thing is, that circle of people is so sexist and toxic. I would feel so betrayed if my partner posted pictures of me with lies that uplift an ideology to a group of people KNOWN for being toxic to people who live how I actually live. Those kinds of groups cause real life harm - Josh is right. To be clear - one can want to be a stay at home partner/parent, as long as both partners can support that and are comfortable with it. You can even want to express yourself and live your life with traditional gender roles. I say this as a transnonbinary masc person - expressing your gender in a way that makes you happy is fine, just don't belittle or demean others and their identity expression in the process. My issue is that the vocal majority of the trad wife group is EXTREMELY misogynistic and openly DOES demean people expressing themselves or living their lives in a specific way that is not their own.
Story 3 - lol, I have a friend who thinks ketchup is too spicy. KETCHUP. I can't help but chuckle about it. With the kiddo I would more be worried about something much hotter.
Story 4 - This reminds me of the one time a lady asked if she could include me in her prayer when I was scheduling a doctor's visit for her over the phone. I said yes mostly because I grew up Catholic and I'm used to the question, little weird to ask for a stranger but whatever. She then asked my name and I told her and lady straight up goes; "Dear lord, uplift Merlin oh lord. Let you shine your light on Merlin lord, who has helped us to find an appointment..."
She meant like. Right then. At that very moment. I have never had a more uncomfortable phone call in my life.
Story 5 - How is that a compliment like fuck off lmfaoooo I'm so baffled by her family. Are they against tattoos maybe? Wild, wild, wild.
Story 6 - it feels a lot like this needs to have more conversation lmao - wait how did Sean say a fantastic joke without anyone calling attention to it? She SHOULD be Jesse's Girl [distant rock music playing]
Yeah, that last guy knew what he was doing. He was Purposely vague. I hope she breaks up with him, dates Jesse (who then is no longer friends with him) and the co-worker says no. May he sit in the ruins of his hubris for months on end.😅
My first solid food was 4/5 spicy pumpkin curry. The guy worried about his 4yo eating spicy food is being ridiculous ngl.
kids can eat spicy food brah, u just shouldnt give them extremely spicy stuff and regulate how much of a spicy food they have. like having too many hot cheetos can upset my stomach bc i ate so much, so dont let them do that 😭😭
Any time a compliment or an apology contains the word “but”, then it’s not.
Story 2? I'll say it again, jokes are supposed to be funny. Not only is he posting pics of op and their daughter for random strangers, its to people who don't view women as people but as objects. He's also lying to these people about some fantasy he wants; if he can lie to them about his life what else has he lied about or would eventually lie about to his wife
For the spicy food story: as a first time parent, I was really paranoid about food. We didn’t even give the baby foods with salt way after he was allowed to have it. One day, I’m eating McDonald’s around him. As soon as I’m not looking, he’s got his hands covered in the buffalo sauce for my nuggets and he’s going HAM. Now he’s 4, likes hot Cheetos when the occasion allows for it, and eats raw lemons 😂
As a mexican, I eat spicy candy since I can remembeeer! also, all the kids fight for the spicy ones, the sweet is always for the moms
The "can I pray for you?"
Story really scorns me,
As a now non-religious pansexual person who can't really come out and say I'm not religious to my family that's been shoving it down my throat since childhood the ONLY place I can EVER see someone putting a physical hand on you to pray is if
A) you think you are possessed
B) are in church praying at the front of an alter or podium .
They had every right to tell the staff which thankfully listened they were being homophobic, because every dang time a person such as this says they weren't being homophobic
Their version of that sounds realistically like this
" oh I know your gay and all and that makes you go to hell but I know you have religious trauma with it soooo can I pray for you tho about your broken bone"
I bet on it, as I never see how reminding someone even if you KNOW they have trauma with religion trying to force that stuff on them, I to this day say if a pastor puts a hand on me in a church without my permission and talks about responsibility I will break down into tears and have an anxiety attack because church has so many bad memories including one's of a girl who was the daughter of the teacher who was in charge of our class bullying me and making fun of me with her friends .
My toddler loves spicy food. 2 years old and she loves spicy Doritos, Buffalo chicken, spicy ramen, salsa, as well as the most sour foods she can find. All I craved in pregnancy was spicy food and she is living up to the cravings! Her pediatrician has no concerns. Wild of the dad to undermine his wife like that.
Kimchi is only spicy if you *MAKE* it spicy, isn't it?
Kimchi, like the vegetable dish? It's made with gochugaru so it depends on how much of it you put in that could make the difference between spicy to super spicy. It also has lots of garlic.
@heyyats386 ah thanks kimchi not kimchee. Correcting that now. Also, I've had it a few times, but never made it, and I don't remember it being spicy but maybe that was because my daughter already knew my tastes. 😊
Story #2: No, just no. DIVORCE! But first, she should make him dinner... filled with sawdust.
For the praying one: I’m a Christian and I’m still hesitant about others praying over me that I don’t know because you don’t know that person’s true intentions. I do believe in the whole “touch and AGREE” and if I’m not certain about what is being prayed over for me, I’m going to decline.
Spicy food isn’t going to make your kid sick, 😂
34:17 but we’re also getting his side of the story about her reaction so she could’ve been totally open to what he was saying, but he wrote she rolled her eyes she dismissed me blah, blah blah and yeah, he probably made it seem like she was feeding him the hottest food
Lots of cultures eat some kind of spice from a young age. I’m Mexican and I’ve always loved my chamoy, tajin, tamarindos, salsa, everything!!!! As long as I can eat it I will continue doing so 😋😋
I started off with eating scotch bonnets for lunch from a young age soo its fine. Also the doctor and op might have different definitions of spicy 😂😂
That niece is delulu if she thinks people aren’t texting and driving and won’t see her.
Happy birthday Sheaughn!
I’m sorry but he is the AH bc he had already his own mind made up about spicy is bad and already dismissed any reason based off culture . Then he automatically went to that doctor searching for someone to agree . His reaction and saying idc what your parents did we doing things diff but it seems racially motivated . Then to double down and make your kid feel like whatever food his mom gives him is bad is setting up poor eating habits and a strain against his mom .
When are you boys planning on doing these on the daily??!! Need MORE!! :D
Hot take for the spicy food story: the asshole is the doctor honestly. He should'nt have automatically told him that spicy foods are dangerous for small children and he needs to take action to be culturally appropriate. Children of other countries/ethnicities eat spicy food all the time. The doctor should know this. If he doesnt, he definitely needs some cultural awareness training as he is a trusted professional in health. Perpetuating stereotypes like this is how our healthcare in America becomes so dangerous for POC
Happy birthday Sean !! Also, I laughed at "Jessie's Girl"
I even ask my husband if any picture of him or us is okay to post on my personal Facebook or Instagram. Like huh????
It’s the best season of the year! Taurus season! Happy birthday weekend Sean!
#taurusgang ♉️
happy birthday cianne 🎉🎂
happy birthday seahawn!!!!
AM I THE ASSHOLE for being offended that you call the 50 year old an old man? I’m 54 and have stood up for strangers getting bullied in public. His attitude towards the human with the tattoos had NOTHING to do with age and everything to do with his shitty opinions.
Please don’t shove all of us second half century people in an “old people” bucket. I work for wildfire and play roller derby. Age is a state of mind.
Love the podcast. Cheers!
You are not the AH for being offended. But it sure is weird.. 50 is not young and „old“ is not an insult. Also the comment isn’t about you or everyone else over 50.. if the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it.
Story 1: She’s 15 she should know better and she should feel guilty for the rest of her life. She stole your health and hasn’t expressed any outward remorse. If I was that girl I would be bawling and throwing myself at my uncle with a thousand apologies.
Happy Birthday Sean 💐💐💐
Tbh the trad wife story i'd be worried for the three year old special needs daughter because there are weirdos out there and yeah the internet is forever but yeah he definitely needs therapy for himself that's for sure.
I’ve introduced spicy food to my daughter early on. Just like any foods, she’d tell me if she liked it or not. If she didn’t like it, I wouldnt press. The dad in that story is ridiculous. 4 is old enough to communicate if he didn’t like it.
Great episode!
Bruh ppl who ASK “can I pray for you” are the worst 😹😹like you could’ve just done that…. You gotta come up n MAKE SURE I know you’re doing a “good deed” for me that basically is saying “I see something wrong with you” which in any circuses could actually make ppl uncomfortable (especially if you make them do the prayer WITH YOU 😩) but yeah my family used to do this to ppl and I’ve been prayed over by random strangers when I stayed at their house whenever I had to 🙃
Also Josh is 100% correct. Don't listen to the weirdos in the comments.
I can't stand spicy food. On the one hand, I think that's ok and my taste buds are more sensitive and can appreciate "bland" food more. On the other hand I sometimes wish my parents would have tried harder (they did try a bit) to have me build some tolerance as a kid, because I'm missing out on many Asian, Mexican, African, etc dishes.
Happy birthday Schon.....I'm one of the poors, so no dono, but i hope you enjoy it anyway
As a Christian myself, if I ask someone if I can pray for them and they say no, that’s where that conversation ends. And even when I ask and they say yes, I pray for them on my own time, not right then and there
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SEAN!
Year 2 of greeting my birthday twin! It’s a day early on my end tho but Happy Happy Birthday Sean!! 🥳🥳
Happy Birthday Sean!!!
Idk how people are taking the Tradwife take so bad lmao, just ignore them guys, you just know by the way they write how close-minded they are.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SEAN🫶🏼🥳🥳
I venmoed Sean $4 😂😂 Happy Birthday Sean!!! 💙🩵💙🩵
Spicy story: one time my mom left me in my high chair at a friends house for a second. When they came back i was monching on their decorative spicy peppers with tears running down my face. The friend was very concerned hahahha.
46:40 aw i also love the example of friendship y’all set
Happiest of birthdays Shenanigan!! 🎉🥳
happy birthday Sean :)
Also the husband can cook!
Happy Birthday Sean 🎉❤
Happy birthday Sean
Happy birthday! I would send $5 but im saving up rn
Why was there a Rogan ad before your video 😩
Belated Happy B’day💜
Happy birthday!
Happy bIRTHDAYYY
Happy Birthday!!!!!
Spicy story guy is such a little ah 😂 I bet he totally misled that doctor into thinking it was intense spices and was being culturally insensitive. “Sorry, your entire culture, and over half of those around the world, is wrong and I want us to be better than them and make our kid just like me.” I hope Reddit ripped into him on how ridiculous he is.
Trad wife can be used as a dirogitory term by people who look down on the life style. But from what I've seen its mostly used by the people who identify with it as a positive label to describe their lifestyle.
For the trad wife thing: that account was legit non consentual p*rn. Same as making a feet pics account without her consent but her feet.
And honestly he isnt sorry he is sorry he got caught. Divorce him because he showed what was behind the mask. He was getting off on larping that he "tamed"/domesticated a feminist/career woman. Girl get out.
Tattoo story ...let me guess all the men found her comments an issue?
I feel sorry for op in story 1.
That one family needs a new pediatrician 😂 had to be a very white old dude cause theres no way a literal doctor would say a 5 year old cant handle spicy foods😂😂😂
T wolves up 3-0
regarding the 3rd story. i don’t think the guy was the asshole at all. you shouldn’t just assume the husband phrased his concerns incorrectly to the doctor because you don’t know. he could have phrased it wrong. but to just assume for no reason makes no sense. also, not everything is racist. the dude sad just concerned for his child’s health. i’m struggling to see how that’s racist? if he was racist. why would he marry and have a chile with her? you shouldn’t just throw buzz words around to appease people. it’s just fake.
He needs to realize HE MADE A CHOICE to run out there and save her. He needs to take some responsibility. He did not have to do that. Is she stupid? Sure. But she didn't ask him to run out there.
Trad wife is not a derogatory term. Don’t be such pick me’s please. Every relationship chooses roles that best work for their life.
They're not being pick-me's though. They've clearly heard the term referrenced in a derogrtory manner and inferred it was an insult.
@@tommyrandall3489 they’re afraid to stand up for men. They’re more feminist than the feminist. Yes there are some misogynistic men, but not all of them. Feminism has been corrupted to a point where if a man is proud of having a traditional wife that bakes and takes care of their children, it’s considered bad. And to encourage a divorce? Really? That’s not how marriage is supposed to be. You’re supposed to resolve problems. But yes, divorce your husband that provides a comfortable life for you and your children, go get a job because you will need one, and neglect your children and leave them in day care for a stranger to raise. Great idea guys.
Josh is the epitome of a "Pick me" and it's so cringe. He reminds me of men I've had in my life I can't stand them, they are still misogynist and tell me my life choices are wrong just as much as the men he tears down. He's cut from the same cloth.
Josh is 100% a pick me and it drives me insane. He's just as much a misogynist as the men he tears down, his type shit on women like me because of my choices. He's just as narrow minded.
@@tommyrandall3489it's derogatory to them because they don't accept traditional gender roles as a lifestyle some of us enjoy.
She is a traditional wife! The fact that you let society make you feel less than for taking care of your family is insane. She should be proud and grateful that she has that privilege to stay home with her children. A lot of women don’t have that. A career will never give you the fulfillment that your family and children do.
That is very narrow-minded of you. I think everyone has the right to live the life they want. She doesn't get that fulfillment and her husband is a prick!
@@carolhowker7069 then sacrifice your life to a corporation that doesn’t care about you and will replace you in a split second. So full-filling.
@@carolhowker7069 If her husband was a prick he’d make her work and split the bills.
@@gsantibanez12 What is wrong with that? Don't you believe in equality?
@@carolhowker7069 they are equal. They each contribute to the family. He works and provides and she takes care of the family. So you would prefer leaving your children at daycare all day so they can be neglected and have a stranger raise them? I mean if you do, that’s your life and you have absolutely all the right to live how you choose. But that’s not their life. She is a traditional wife. And she’s been brainwashed to think it’s an insult to be called one. Which was my point in the first place.
Trad wife isn't an offensive term, or at least I haven't seen it used in a negative context. Kinda hate how close minded Josh is, he seems judgy over other people's choices, he's rubbed me the wrong way in several of these. As a woman, he's a man I'd feel uncomfortable to be around 😔
1000000% disagree. He is the most on the ball. Maybe some are proud of being Trad, but check out what happened to them later. There are accounts run by ex trad wives, whose husbands left them for younger women etc etc.
These women have no financial control over their lives, which is inherent in Trad. That's the problem.
Even if you want to bake gender roles into the way you live your lives, it's ok, but always and every time *stay at home spouses need to control their own money, in their own accounts.*
@@hcf4kd1992 You're selecting some negative outcomes online and acting like it's inevitable just like Josh. Nah I'm sick of Josh judging my life style, he always says something negative about women being housewives, doesn't talk about the pros children and relationships experience. He's sexist, and I wish he'd see that because he doesn't seem to make comments about men's relationship dynamics or decisions like he does with women. I have been both the career driven workaholic and a stay at home mother, I love the latter and understand it isn't for everyone. Feminism is supposed to give us that choice and I'm sick of being shit on over my choices in my relationship. The fact that you are only going by things you see on Tiktok shows me you lack life experiences.
@indigocrayon520 I highly encourage you to do research on choice feminism. Feminism has nothing to do with what choices you make, it's not about making choices, it's about liberating women from systems of oppression and ensuring our human rights are not violated. There's absolutely nothing sexist about being critical of misogynistic and racist propaganda (which tradwife content is!). Also your lifestyle comes with a very high risk, men are socialized to not see women as people and it's not uncommon for them to abuse their wives. You can choose to do whatever you want, but if you don't get what Josh is criticizing then this conversation is above your pay grade and that's okay! Go educate yourself and we can have this conversation then.
@@morphinpink Every single woman I know who's been beat, including myself with my first bf, were working women at the time. I've had 4 friends who's fiance or husband attempt murder, one actually was killed. All working women. My husband is a great man, 15yrs and he's never abused me. Real talk, are you under 25?
@@indigocrayon520I'm well above 25 lmao. I never said working makes women immune to abuse, dating men always comes with the risk of abuse. Being financially dependant on them makes it even harder to leave an abusive relationship.