Crippling Perfectionism: Why I Wish I Didn't Get All A*s at GCSE & A Level?
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- Опубликовано: 27 авг 2024
- I hope this video kinda somehow makes sense. (& please watch it before commenting! I know it's a mad title haha). ✨ Of course, I value all the time and effort and everything that went into the grades I'm SUPER proud of, but having only ever achieved the "top", having gained that reputation of a 'high achiever' at school... it cultivated a perfectionistic mindset which can be so crippling. I tried to portray some of my honest experience in this video. Enjoy. ❤️ x
If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, school pressures or the weight of expectations, hi hello I feel you! 🌻 Genuinely, doing your BEST is the most anyone can ask of you. I wish I could give my past self the perspective I now have. Work hard, have your goals and dreams and grades to aim for, but don't feel tied to the expectations of others. Lots of love x
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Hi my name is Jade and welcome to UnJaded Jade! I post every Wednesday about varying topics I truly care about, from self confidence and veganism, to academic help and motivation 💛
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How old are you? - 18
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P.S i love you. so much. thank you for finding me and for being here and for gifting me your time. you are so loved.
I’d much rather be a perfectionist than be crippingly lazy like I am sorry
moooood
Idk man. It seems about even to me. Seeing as I am lazy af, imagining myself as a perfectionist already just feels so tiring. I personally do not do well under pressure and so I imagine I'd just crumble if I set my standards so high.
mooodd
Same!
Many people would rather be something they're not
Try being a high achieving perfectionist who DIDN’T get A*’s. Crippling self deprecation and disappointment yay. Every time someone says they got an A* it kills me because I put in so much effort and didn’t get the results to reflect that. I know my results were good but they weren’t the best, and I will never forgive myself for that
Rachel Munday YES
Me too.
@@khadijafayyaz6184 Thank you. You are a wonderful human
First world problems
Jade!!! I think this is my favourite video you’ve ever uploaded. It is just SO IMPORTANT and I can relate with what you said very much (as can so many people on this platform!). Obviously I didn’t get all A*s at A Level but what you said on the debilitating effect of perfectionism, and the continual pressure and fear surrounding the comparison of others to yourself is very much relatable. You articulated this *perfectly*. Thank you for sharing xxx
Surprised u watched a 5 minute video. Thought u always studying
@@smokerx6291 she has a life too u know. she obviously doesn't study 24/7. that's unhealthy
@@smokerx6291 😂😂
llxoyd's Hip oh yeah yeah
It's really not important at all when you think about it
At the start of the video I didn't think I would find this that relatable because I've always been pretty average with my grades, but the moment you started talking about perfectionism and procrastination... Gurrrl so relatable!
rather get all a* than fail soz
Pretty sure everyone would rather have that XD
but it’s hard to maintain... i mean, when you start getting all A*s, you are pressured to always achieve that thing. Then you get disappointed when you got grades lower than expected. When I was in elementary school, I don’t really pressure myself even tho most of the people around me keeps on comparing my *lazy* behavior to their *successful* children. Then high school came (we don’t have middle school thingy). I started to try and achieve for something higher. It’s great because I can achieve my goals... however, the higher my achievements are, the higher my next goals will be aaaand the higher the pressure.
so for me, i’d rather go back to my old state (if that’s what u call it) and don’t let anyone put so much burden to me...
*in the end maybe it’s just me*
thanks for reading if u reach this part...
People think getting A* ‘s sets them up for life, that they’ll have it easy for the rest of their life. It isn’t. I know someone who got A* in all their GCSEs and A-Levels, yet is unemployed.
Weird flex but ok
My thoughts exactly.
@Supun Fernando u both have the same acc pic
Oh my gosh Jade! I relate to this so much, especially putting things off until the "perfect time," which never comes. I'm already such an insane perfectionist - I couldn't even imagine having the expectations of being a "perfect student" because of StudyTube on top of that! I'm so happy you made this video and that your gap year has helped ease some of that pressure 🌻
Zoe!! Thank you so much for sharing this. 💛 I genuinely thought I was the only one for so long. It's also so nice that you can relate to and understand the pressures of the internet (even from a different niche!). The gap year has definitely been so worth it. Lots of love ✨ x x
Jade, you have no idea how relatable this video is to me. When you were talking about how those annoying people say: 'Oh my god, I got higher than the smartest girl' and feeling embarrassed in class when you answer a question incorrectly, I could relate and understand the struggle. I am a perfectionist and there is no doubt of it. I am very proud of my achievements, but sometimes getting one result which is lower that my expectations clouds all my past achievements and makes me question my abilities. Thank you for making this video and letting me know that I am NOT the only student who feels this way. x
Wow, thank you so much for sharing. 💛 Yes yes! It's such a small thing that I don't think others always realise the effects of, but it always made me feel low. 🤷♀️ I'm so glad you can understand and kinda relate to how I often feel. SO much love! x
@@UnJadedJade Thank you so much for the lovely reply!
Ah soooooo relatable.
Shut up u sweat
Marko Van Capo
Go back to playing fortnite.
Something I've always said is,
_'It's not hard to get the grade, it's hard to maintain it.'_
And I stand by that. Consistency is the real silent killer.
I’d pay to have that problem. I have the same obsession with grades but they’re all very average and I just disappoint everybody no matter what 🤷🏻♀️
a yellow paper crown SAMEE
Same 😞
You're not disappointing as long as you try your best and don't become idle and complacent you are far from average
Just buy a motorbike
Ikr I try so hard at Alevel and I still get the shittiest grades
THIS!!! Thank you, just thank you so so much for sharing your thoughts (and experience) on perfectionsim. I already know that I'm going to watch this over and over again. Not because it is "perfect", but because it is real. I read some comments on this video and was stupidly suprised about how many people can relate to this. On some days I feel like everyone around me can handle things easily. That I may be the only person, not working hard enough. But we all work hard enough. Our happiness, effort, productivity, selflove, motivation. We as a human being are our own full-time job. Juggling all that and at the same time dealing with the struggles we face along with it, makes us more than "perfect". It makes us strong and understanding. I think we all should take a step back and be proud of ourselves once in a while. Appreciate the effort we put in things that we love and things that we don't. So again, thank you for inspiring me (and others). Thank you for being honest and most importantly thank you for being you.
Lots of love, Sophia.
Someone finally gets it!! It is so hard to be good student. Everyone thinks everyrhing is easy for us, guess what, it's not. Thank you for telling this. This is I think the only video I could fully relate. You are the best and I love you so much💝💝💝💗💓💞
Yeah I agree with you so much.
It's really hard u know, meeting up to people's expectations ALWAYS. It's so tiring. People just try to overlook the huge amounts of effort that goes into being a good student, it's not something one suddenly wakes up to someday morning..
Jelena Tomic ikr people hate on grade 9 students for no good reason
‘It is so hard to be a good student’ listen to yourself, being smart doesn’t make life harder, it makes life a lot easier and it’s pathetic to think that you’re worse off because you’re smarter than average, the amount of people that would want to be like that
@@SandDune11 thank you so much for your answer, I needed that💖💖😂
Christian Burgess I don’t think they were trying to saying it’s worse off. I think they’re trying to same that it’s the same because whoever you are if you personal goals for yourself and you don’t make them it can be crippling to your confidence. Good students have it just as hard (especially if they don’t understand everything at first) to get the top grades every time.
On the surface, the video could be seen as six minutes of you being ungrateful. But it really is just the opposite. This video is about being grateful for every achievement. This is such an important video. Thank you for making it, Jade!
This means SO much, thank you! ❤️ x
EXACTLY!
I had no idea that there were people who felt the same way I did, but this video captures my feelings completely. And this entire comment section was so refreshing to see.
I honestly didn't realise just how much other people would relate. 🙈 Thank you so much for sharing! x
Omg Jade, your tan is EVERYTHING!!!!
haha THANK YOUUU!! The Australian sun kissed my skin eeek 🌻✨
Jeevie P ikrrrrrrrr i love it to heaven gyalll
How has she retained it? This is England 😂
Thanks (i know ur not talking 2 me but let me have my moment)
Totally agree with your little skit about others comparing themselves to you - exact reason I’ve never told anybody a grade. Success only needs to be seen and appreciated by me 😌✨
Totally right.😊
I think we can often forget that our lives are very much a personal journey and so we often compare ourselves to other people rather than to our own previous achievements. It is key to remember that life is not just about competing with other people but about bettering ourselves and so if someone beats you in a test and everyone starts talking about how someone has beaten you, it is important to stay grounded and remember it is not all about what other people get. Jade, your video points that out very well so thank you for giving us the reminder that I'm sure many of us need. We are all on a personal journey and sometimes that 'you have to do better than other people mentality' can hinder us and our personal development. Once again thank you Jade for reminding us all!
not to be like "ooh look at me" but I literally agreed with *everything* you said. It was like you actually read out everything in my mind. It's so weird. Ev-ery-THING!! I love the fact that I have someone to relate to who doesn't just assume that we're robots and we don't work for what we achieve xxx
as a ‘high achiever’, this is so relatable! it’s really inspiring and reassuring to see someone with a platform like yours coming forward not only to be honest about the struggles that come with perfectionism and high grades, but also the positives & self journey that can come from it 💕 thank you so much for making this video x
(also, LOVED the funky editing!)
You're so brave for sharing this! Having a constant pressure can impact so negatively in our lives. Thank you creating this channel and sharing your views. You inspire so many people. 💓
Woow I relate to this so much, it is such a debilitating feeling, having a fear of failure constantly breathing down your neck. It makes you feel bad and guilty for anything you do - forgetting its the effort you put in that is important.
So well-said. ❤️ x
I feel the same I feel so much pressure to do really well because I’m the ‘smart’ person. I don’t hate it though, it gives me motivation edit: but when you do badly it makes you feel bad because everyone is expecting you to do really well
this!! video!! omg!!! preach the truth sister
you are so right about "invisible standards", that those standards are placed there by you and not anybody else. I realized this after I was accepted into university, my parents were proud, my teachers approved, and yet I STILL felt like I couldn't get any less than an A. It was never about any practical thing like "I need these grades for university." It was always about seeming good enough for myself, and those invisible standards that I'd built up for myself. Those standards never stayed the same, either- once I had all 90s in my classes I would begin thinking they needed to be 95s. You're chasing an unattainable goal because you will never reach true perfectionism.
Thank you for making this haha I'll get off my soapbox, I just have so many feelings about this-
yes yes YES! Thank you so much for sharing so honestly! x
(permission to stay on that soapbox and keep preachin')
I’m 27 years old and listen to your videos at work. As someone who is almost a decade older than you, I didn’t go to uni (out of choice), I was super lazy at school (and therefore got very average grades most of the time when I was capable of As and A*s) and went straight into full time work at 18, I find you so inspiring. And I so badly wish that your videos were around when I was doing my GCSE’s and a levels. Perhaps then I could have reached my full potential! You’re bloody lovely and adorable. Keep doing you girlfrienddd! Enjoy life and the moment you’re in- you won’t get it back!!
I'm 27 and im back into education so I can go to uni in September! it's never too late 😄
Keep doing your girlfriend?????😂😂
@@ayubosman3288 keep doing you, girl friend
This video was honestly what I needed right now. I'm in the middle of my year 12 mocks, and I've been getting super stressed about results! I'm 100% a perfectionist and it can be so hard sometimes. I put a lot of pressure on myself, even though I wish I wouldn't ugh! 😂 I really find our education system so toxic and stressful sometimes, but this video reminded me that I'm doing my very best and at the end of the day, that's all I can do. Sorry for all of the rambling haha, but I just wanted to say a massive THANK YOU! You are truly inspiring Jade, and such a kind and humble human being. This was exactly what I needed to hear 💛💛
I've never related so much to a video in my life. Thank you so much, Jade, for putting my feelings into words for others to understand. It's always hard for everyone going through the process and there are no exceptions!. Love you so much Jade x
*don’t think you can get anyone more inspirational and amazing as Jade. I love you so much!💛*
I relate so hard! Unfortunately I cracked under the pressure for my exams and ended up getting decent grades, although not what I wanted. It was so awful. I spent the weeks going up to results days having reoccurring nightmares about failing. I ended up getting SO stressed that I ended up having health problems and it was ridiculous.
The “what did you get?” question is so annoying sometimes, I had amazing friends who also got great grades (through so much hard work), which led to me always feeling like I wasn’t doing enough etc. I’m also taking time away from education and I’ve realised this lesson too.
Thank you for being so honest about all of this, it’s really a mindset I find hard to break! :)
I think this video has been uploaded at the perfect time. I didn’t know I needed it but I did. Thanks
DJ Khaled - Suffering From Success
Shubhanshu Kumar 😂😂😂😂😂 heheeee
@@hidom3755 😂😂
I’ve never related more to a video in my entire life. I constantly compare myself and if I don’t get above 90% I will literally redo the whole exam, essay ect. I really needed this, especially as a level exams are coming up, thank you💛
can’t wait for the Australia travel vlogs !!
Sameee
This is so eye-opening Jade. I'm year 11 and, as more and more tests and exams take place, the more results I get - ready to be compared to others. I only shared my mock results with my family and one friend for fear of people boasting that they got higher than me despite doing less revision or not liking the class unlike me. I'm slowly learning not to care about what other people get and about what grade/percentage I achieve as I know I try my best and put in hard work. Thanks Jade (and I can't wait for the Australia vlogs!) xx
Hey feeling the same and it's even worse knowing that GCSEs come ever closer. (I'm in yr 11 too). It's kinda good to know you're not the only one who feels the same but im getting so stressed even though it's February but I want the grades so badly. Idk I just saw you in the comments and you seemed to be in a similar situation....
@@charliewilliamson8360 yeah it's made even more difficult with the new grading system... I never seem happy with a 7 even though I know that is good. It makes it so competitive now forcing me to compare myself to other people's grades all the time
@@freyakemp4650 I know! I was literally talking to someone yesterday how the numbers just don't seem as good. I'm just so worried that when I get my results they're not going to be what I hope...
@@freyakemp4650
And what you said about not sharing results. I was the same but now I just focus on the fact that GCSEs are 3 months away so even though I don't do that well on a milestone or whatever, it's not my actual grade so I'm not too worried about that. Maybe just focusing on the final grade will help with the self-consciousness with grades x
I also felt like I couldn’t tell anyone my mock grades. I didn’t want to boost but i wanted to be proud of my hard work. Idk if that makes sense
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sfgh lol wow 😂
omg i fell for that 😢😢
Totally fell for that 😒😒😒😒
gonwawy
Seen that before
as a fellow ~perfectionist~ I’m so glad you shared this. I relate so hard to not wanting to do things because it’s not the right time, I’m not in the right mood, I haven’t had enough sleep, my brain isn’t working well enough... it sucks
I am so happy that somebody speaks about these sorts of pressuring feelings that come with being academic. It can become a weird standard to always have good grades that it can be such a disappointment if things don't turn out perfectly. Thank you for this video, Jade!😊🌻
I LOVE how this was filmed!
I get this too. Thank you Jade for having the confidence to post about this, knowing that even people with the highest grades struggle with this helps me realise that we are all human, and that people putting too much pressure on themselves is more common than I think xx
I understand :) people sometimes think it’s easy to get those grades and underestimate the huge amount of work that goes in. You shouldn’t wish u weren’t as successful, because you DESERVE it. You also look so tanned and beautiful in this xo
I honestly look up to you so much, Jade. I’m about to do my GCSEs, I’m also aiming for all 8/9s!!
Currently getting ready to go study to my maths test! This is it! Thank you for this! “I got higher than you” , this is honestly the sentence that always destroyed me the more, that and the all not understanding something everyone else is understanding! Ughhh! Exactly 🙌 thank you for speaking for all of us that life through this and really can’t share it without the all “you are bragging”! Thank you babe ❤️
This is so true and honest, Jade and I appreciate you talking about it. I have been in the same situation and I have always dealt with it, but when I went to uni, I caught myself kinda hoping to fail an exam, just so people would stop judging me and I could live my life without everyone taking particular interest in my academic achievements. I think - as you said - that one can learn to care less about the expectations of others, but it takes time and is so exhausting sometimes.
I just bloody adore you Jade x
Same
I WILL NEVER EVER REGRET HITTING THAT SUB BUTTON, I AM SO GRATEFUL THAT I HIT IT... you are an absolute angel!!! 💜💜💜
I love seeing u growing up, mentally and understanding the world around u more and more...
this is exactly what i needed, after a bad set of a level mock results comparing them to what i deem to be 'successful' and 'enough'. thank you so much! x
This is the most amazing and relatable video I have ever watched (bar the rejection ones you put up) you are such an inspiration but in such a real down to earth way! Xx
Oh Jade! Thank you for this video. Everything you have just said sums up my entire thoughts, feelings and emotions in 5 short minutes. I feel so ready after watching this to just DO. Because, like you, I’m always waiting for the perfect conditions until I can start something or hand something in. For example, I remember last year I took my geography end of topic test home and never handed it in because I was so afraid of not getting the highest, as I am known as the master of geography and earth sciences. Which although i knew was counter productive, maintaining the reputation of knowing everything geography related (and I don’t know everything anyway!) took over. Thank you. I truly love your videos - they never fail to make my heart glow and a smile to spread across my face!! 💛☀️☘️
I am so happy for you that your gap year has allowed you to feel a different way and gain alternate perspectives!! ❤️❤️
This video is the most relatable video ever but the fact that you worked hard to get amazing grades shows that I could improve too! Thanks jade, you’re like the relatable yet wise elder sister I never had!
Totally irrelevant: you look gorgeous 🥰🥰
Edit: ❤️ for the heart
hate how relatable this is😔
omg this video is everything i needed. thank you.
thank you for this. it’s so important and it takes a long time to come to terms with the concept that one must not be perfect in everything. perfectionism can be wonderful and a great asset in many areas, but it can easily become dangerous and crippling as you mentioned. lots of love from russia❤️
This made my cry ughh I feel this so much! Thanks for inspiring everyone and being able to talk so openly
Jade, I can relate to this so much, and the fact that you made this video honestly means a lot to me! I have always had good grades and worked hard for them, but everyone acts like it just comes naturally to me. The fact that I´ 'm terrified of failure doesn't help at all, and it´s so scary to feel all of those invisible standards and expectations, like you are not ever allowed to make a mistake. And I get it when you talked about people saying "I´ve got a higher grade than a studytuber?!", since when some people get a higher grade than me make that statement, like it´s getting a higher grade than me that is amazing, not their grade itself.
I’ve missed your videos so much 😭😭😭 this video is another amazing one form you, you’ve been such an inspiration to me lately , while going through ups and downs at uni 😔 your channel is one that has definitely helped me and inspired me through my own journey 💗
Awhhhh Anna! 🙈 Thank you so much for your kind words!! Genuinely, thank you. I hope uni life is going well and that you're staying afloat. 🌟 xx
UnJaded Jade 💖💖💖
That is SO relatable ! There is so much pressure coming from ourselves and the others that it not always is the healthiest way to live. But somehow, it is so hard for me to take all of those 'negative' thoughts away even though I know it is okay not to get everything done perfectly... I guess it's a work in progress 😂 Thank you for your video Jade, I am relieved to see that I am not alone !
I TOTALLY get the thing you said about not understanding things in class hahaha. When I don’t understand something and other people do I feel so embarrassed. Glad someone else feels the same way x
Oof I can relate to this so much... I dread mini tests because I know if I don’t get close to full marks people will act so shocked, sometimes I even add a few marks to my score when people ask me or try to put off telling them. I also hate asking for help in class since everyone expects me to understand everything straight away 🙃
Wow couldn't be said better. So grateful for this video jade. Loving the artsyness of the video
Never related to anything more, thank you so much! 🥰
Oh my days. I appreciate your truth on the videos you always make. Thank you for such amazing content and your truth ❤️❤️
I got 12 A*s at GCSE and 4 As at AS (taking A Levels in summer) and I do kind of relate to this- everyone expects you to do the best, but they don’t expect you to need any time to learn and revise in order to do so! I feel like people assume you just naturally get top grades with no real effort, which is frustrating because (at least for me) it requires a huge amount of organisation and hard work over a long period of time.
Biggest piece of advice would be to try and stop taking yourself so seriously and appreciate academic failure as something you can always learn from. Get motivated by “bad” results to find out exactly where you went wrong and how to not do it again (and learn to laugh at a horrendous score)! It’s hard when you’ve put a lot of effort into something but trying to remember that in the big picture it doesn’t actually matter is much better for your mental wellbeing.
This vocalises exactly what I think often. I'm studying medicine at university now, and I wish I'd learned earlier that I can't be perfect in everything I do. It was bad timing on my part, as right when things got busy I'd be finding it hard to start projects for fear of not doing them correctly!
This was really great, Jade - the time and effort you spent making it definitely paid off! The inspirational vibes are contagious ⭐⭐⭐
Bless you and everything you do Jade. I dont look up to anyone like I do with you. Thank you for your honesty it honestly makes my life so much better. You make more of an impact than you think. ❤
Thank you so much, I have never been able to explain this and I thought I was alone. This video is so good, I have had this for years. Thankyou.
I needed this video more than I thought. Thank you, I love you for doing this!💛
You are amazing jade!! As you were speaking I was nodding my head and agreeing with you! What a great role model❤️
I totally agree with what you said because in my classes if anyone gets a mark higher than me it is rubbed in my face which makes me feel like i let myself down even though it was just that it took me more time to understand. Thank you sm for the video as it puts how i feel into words and it was a great video ❤️
That title... This is the type of person I'd hate at school
You needed to write this comment?
Erin Earl same
Erin Earl cheer up...you’ll get good grades one day
@@namjoo8592 I already do A levels the comment just comes off as snobby
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never related to a video more in my whole entire life. thank you💖
I have exams right now and this really makes me happy cause i do base myself on my grades and i do feel immense pressure but now i think i know that it is whatever it is and i shouldn't put so much pressure on myself to achieve the perfect grade lr gpa.Thank you jade for the reminder 💗
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i especially hate this:
student: "i think im not doing the best ever, but im getting by"
teacher: "you cant just "get by" you always have to try your best"
i know they're trying to "motivate" you to do better, but (atleast in my case) it really doesn't, it makes me hate the teacher, the subject and school in general more
Tbh this video kinda annoyed me Jade and normally I like watching your videos - they have really helped me in the past. And before anyone says anything, I understand what you're saying - constant stress and pressure from yourself to live up to the standards can't be easy. But, saying that you 'wish' you hadn't got all A*'s for a clickbaited title, I kinda took offense to. Some people will never have that opportunity to even get close to those grades or like myself physically can't for other reasons. Please don't take this as some personal attack, just someone who took offense.
work harder
@@veryfatkid1063 good one
@@elliewarman6049 don't fucking complain she worked hard for it so she can say that she regrets a few things don't compare yourself with her there is no way you put as much effort and work into your subjects in comparison
@@veryfatkid1063 Actually I struggle everyday to get into school because of a long-term medical condition, that is why I said that some people will never get the opportunity to get the grades she does. I wasn't criticising Jade and I am certainly not jealous, she worked hard. No need to take offense my friend, and certainly no reason to swear at me haha.
@@elliewarman6049 didn't swear at you was for emphasis
I was hoping there’d be some kind of follow up or explanation to this video based on the different views people put forward in this comment section.
Kind of sad to see you’re only liking positive comments, none that challenge your viewpoint. I hate seeing people grow to be close-minded, rather than taking on feedback and improving or at least explaining yourself, so I hope that changes soon. :(
I obviously am happy I got all A* but I get why it’s hard. Like if you get amazing grades it’s seen as satisfactory and if not you’re a complete failure and don’t maintain your reputation. I suppose it’s much harder for you though cos of RUclips and your audience. I also have really bad confidence issues which fluctuate almost entirely based on my last test result. You’re advice and perspective was useful to hear tho :)
I relate so much to your perfectionism. I think that’s the problem I have with getting my GCSE results in 2020 (in 3 days time ahhh). I was aiming for all 9s, but now I’m getting predicted grades based off of mocks that I revised for the night before (I’m a high achiever and massive perfectionist but I have an awful procrastination problem). I won’t get all 9s so I don’t think I’ll be happy with my results :(
Oh I feel so bad for your year; I was predicted (mostly) 7s, 8s and a couple of 9s but got all 8s+9s. My school wasn’t very good which meant we were all predicted lower. I’m so sorry you didn’t get to sit the exam and get the grades you deserve. I would’ve been gutted. There are still A-Levels! I’m sure unis will understand the extenuating circumstances.
Best of luck❤️❤️❤️
I wish I was like you Jade, I’m not really that academic but I always try my best, I never get the grade I want to and my biggest fear is probably failure
MeghanIsBored same :(
Really reallllyyyy needed that♥️♥️
thank you jade, this really needs to be said 🙌🏻
This was so relatable and encouraging! You look absolutely glowing btw!!!
I love your videos so much Jade! Can’t wait for the Australia vlogs!
Extreme level of relatable-ness 😂 gorgeous tan btw xx
Thanks for the 💕💕
Really brave of you to talk about this. Thank you, Jade.
I really appreciate this. Thank YOU, Soph. 🌟 xx
@@UnJadedJade Omg! Thank you SO much for replying, I'd like to take this chance to thank you for always being a big inspiration for me (I'm in Year 11 currently). You seem so lovely! 💗
Jade, I actually totally understand where you're coming from, and ngl, I feel like this A LOT! When I get a test back, if I haven't done as well as others, even if it's a topic that I struggled a bit on, I still face the continuous 'Wow, I beat ...'. Although I know that I shouldn't have to, I've had to kind of get used to it as much as I can, but then I face the problem of being in competition with myself, and of course that too comes with all of i's own problems. The important part is that we need to rise above it Jade. It's extremely hard, but as a study community sharing many of the same issues, we will at lest get through it, even if it takes a little time to reach the brighter side.
I'm laughing at how relatable I am!
When I find out someone gets like one mark above me, I feel so angry at myself, thinking I could have done better.
I have a reputation of achieving the highest grades as well and it defo feels awful when I get a C/B in a test. I only feel satisfied when I get an A* 😥
Yay! Love double uploads! You have inspired me to go for head prefect at my school and have been reading the applications from other students today. I’m thinking of doing my speech on the inspiration the studytube community have had on me. (If I do would I be able to ask you a couple of questions about it?) ❤️
Ellie Nixon Good luck!!❤️
Sophie Good thank you so much ❤️
I love this video Jade!! I can relate so much about striving for perfection constantly and I’m glad that I’m not the only one, I can’t imagine what it must have been like with such a large online following! Thank you for sharing something so personal ❤️❤️
PS loving the tan and I cannot wait for the Australia vlogs!!
that made me feel better about my mediocre grades
I don't understand what mediocre means?? Like are As and Bs mediocre?
Tae Lover No, I’d say C is average (like 4/5 for you new GCSE kids), as that’s around a middle grade. High-achieving schools sometimes make it seem like it’s higher, A and B are great grades!
@@anonsecondname5810 oh thank you😊😊😊
@@norahayder5139 for me, I get mostly 7's (obviously a few 8s and 9s) and that's mediocre to me but it's different for everyone depending on your target grades and the goals you set yourself I guess
@@rebeccacucumber6611 how much is 7 as a grade?
Whilst I do respect that this in itself is a personal challenge, due to the pressure that building expectations will exhibit, at the same time the sheer notion of making a video about this is really inconsiderate and closed minded.
Lots of people would try extremely hard in their exams, and still could only dream of getting the grades you managed to procure both at GCSE and A-Level. In my opinion its not helpful to then say 'you wish you hadn't' gotten these grades because frankly, it *does* come across as ungrateful despite you saying you're not being it. Saying you're not being ungrateful doesn't mean that the exogenous view other people have isn't that of gratitude lack thereof in the big picture. Personally I do find it a bit snobbish to sit there and 'wish' you hadn't gotten these grades. No. That's not helpful for anyone.
I understand the message of the video but the title completely contradicts that and yes, is ungrateful. You should change the title to 'the challenges of being a high achiever', rather than the obviously click-bait and ungrateful, snobbish title of 'I wish I didn't get these grades'. Your choice of lexis really contradicts the message you put across and really makes me question the authenticity of what you say - I used to respect what you say but now I feel you have given into the fame and success of you-tube that you choose to title your videos in such a way that elicits nothing but ungratefulness.
It’s not “ungrateful” of her to say this because these grades were not handed to her, she worked her arse off for them so she can choose how she feels about them. I understand that some people work hard and would have loved to achieve the grades that she did, but they don’t have more of a right than jade does to feel upset about their grades.
I was looking for a comment like this. You share my views exactly - over time jade has began humble bragging a lot and I hate to meanly criticise her but she’s not authentic anymore.
The title is pointless. It comes across as a rub in ur face.... “Oh I WISH I didn’t get such perfect A* grades!!😩”
I never wanna be a mean internet hater to her. I just dont like the humble bragging. It’s not just in the title, it’s also in the content of the video.
Change the title and thumbnail.
She does that a lot like “oh at THIS age I did this!! What r youuu doing with ur life????!” And “I was ONLY 17!!! When I did THIS!!!” And when u open the video it’s like “HIII PEACEFUL HAPPY VIBES:))))”
I don’t see it as authentic anymore
hu da hu da this seems like a problem you have with yourself. She’s merely stating what she has achieved and you are the one who’s feeling insecure.
Emrys also, I really don’t think this is an inconsiderate video to make. this girl is running her own channel, talking about her own problems. She doesn’t owe it to somebody else’s feelings to be considerate and helpful all the time. If she feels pressured and wants to talk about her experience, she’s going to.
sol kai insecurity???? What r u talking about? I SUPPORT her achievements and I think she deserves all of it. I’m not gonna be a fan of someone who seems to only be bragging though, that’s not ideal and not authentic / sincere. It’s the way you PRESENT ur achievements that matters. Did You even read what I wrote? It’s off putting when ur fav RUclipsr comes across as a humble bragger
im so glad to have watched this video ! thank u xxx
this makes me uncomfortable. just from the title. I don’t even want to hear you out. there are people who want to go far in life who genuinely struggle to even pass their exams but try their absolute hardest. Yes, it’s “hard” having expectations, but it’s even harder not reaching the standards set by others like you, and being someone who struggles deeply with mental health issues because they don’t think they’re good enough. “Crippling perfectionism” - there are people who have it so much worse and perfectionism has its benefits, a lot more than what it would be like to not give a fuck and to fail everything. So please, even if you’re feeling hard done by or you’re struggling (we all struggle from time to time), we don’t need a video about it.
M x “we don’t need a video about it” - not true just read the comments as this has helped so many people. I personally struggle with mental health and crippling perfectionism from trying to get top grades and videos like this are helpful in making me realise that grades aren’t everything and I don’t have to be perfect
studying season just because I didn’t want to it doesn’t mean I didn’t watch the video
El M yh like this video solved all your problems. People with OCD have “crippling perfectionism”. CRIPPLING in this title bothers me; it is much more serious of a word than she is making out. People actually have crippling conditions which mean they can’t function properly. This girl herself has everything she could ever need to prosper. Being intelligent has its drawbacks but far more positives.
studying season and, by calling me “dumb”, you have submitted to your own problem (if you relate to this video); you think you are superior and must constantly be superior and that having a lesser mind is negative, for you must be the best in every aspect.
M x please stop being so judgemental.Jade may have everything she needs to achieve good grades and get a good job but that’s not what this video is about, it’s about realising that not everything has to be perfect. You claim to care so much about mental health yet you fail to accept the fact that videos like these can help people suffering with mental health problems and you get angry that Jade put the word “crippling” when describing her perfectionism. It’s not your place to decide wether she finds her perfectionism “crippling” or not.
I’m a high-achieving student, and like ... I get what you’re saying. I agree there’s too much pressure on students. I’m just not sure about the statement I guess, something about it sounds wrong but I’m struggling to explain it. My cousin goes to a bad school and has autism, so although has potential, can’t get the grades to get into the same secondary school as his brother, he’s working well below his age because apparently no one knows how to teach autistic kids. Like, pressure sucks, I know, but I hope you know you’re incredibly privileged, like it or not. So am I, even if I doubt to the same extent, based on your videos. Making the statement you wish you hadn’t gotten those grades because it made you a perfectionist ... just gives me the impression you don’t understand how horrible it is to have real barriers - not laziness, not pressure, those are in a different category - in the way of you achieving what you deserve. I’m not sure if there are flaws in this example because I haven’t analysed it, but to me it sounds a little like a wealthy person saying “I wish I didn’t have all this money, everyone expects me to buy the nicest things and makes jokes when they buy something more expensive, it’s so much pressure!”
I don’t know if I make sense.
Just my thoughts. I don’t mean this like, “you should feel bad for saying this!!!!”, I’m more hoping it’ll make you think about people in other situations, show a different perspective :) I’m not saying it’s wrong for you to feel this way, it’s okay to have these emotions and I’m not saying you didn’t work hard for your grades, I just think the statement shows naivety, idk
Anon SecondName I don’t think you understand how crippling perfectionism is. It makes you think that you‘re going to fail, and no one ever sympathizes with you and everyone is annoyed by you, like so many people in the comments, because they all hate your guts because you always have perfect grades and they don’t. But they never understand how much of an emotional toll it takes on you.
hitchinaride94 I know this wasn’t stated in my original post so I get the misunderstanding, but ...
You’re talking to an autistic kid with OCD who has been in top school groups since age 7. Whether regarding grades or obsessive rituals ... perfectionism is and always has been my unwelcome room mate. Been there, had the therapy, done that. I get perfectionism and the effects it has, trust me.
And I’m not saying it doesn’t suck.
However, to wish high grades away because they come with it suggests the person has a lot of privilege, to me. Perfectionism may suck, all the things you listed are not nice, but for you to consider it bad enough that you wish you didn’t have high grades? You probably don’t know what it’s like to have a real, physical barrier between you and those grades, unable to achieve your potential because of circumstance. If perfectionism is high on your list of problems, you are pretty damn lucky. Which isn’t a bad thing, once identified privilege people can use their voices to defend people in less lucky positions. None of that progress can happen if we don’t remember to acknowledge it though, or even in the case of this video, possibly don’t understand we have it in the first place.
Anon SecondName Read my post again. I never said it’s acceptable to wish your good grades away or that I do. I don’t understand why a person is in a privileged position when they have something that is so upsetting to them that they wish they didn’t have it, even if it‘s something nice. Who are you to judge anyone based on what they wish they didn’t have. How is it totally appropriate for underachievers to wish they had something and totally rude and condescending for overachievers to wish they didn’t have the same thing. I have never claimed that I wish I never had good grades. believe me when I say that I have chronic illnesses that you have never even heard about and it’s appalling that you just assume that my biggest worry is having good grades because that is far from the truth, however, it is quite high up there and that should say enough. You said that people are lucky and privileged if they have good grades, both of these terms have very positive connotations, does Jade look happy and positive and privileged about having good grades? Will having good grades help anyone if they crack under the pressure? no it won‘t. People that don’t crack under pressure and have solid but not perfect scores are way better job applicants. The education system should take better care of those that are physically unable to get good grades. But in all honesty, having good grades is not a privilege, it‘s putting hours and hours of solid hard work in and getting the results of your hard work. It’s not always about being born intelligent and having a special gift.
hitchinaride94 First of all, there are different kinds of privilege, which is why people can have “something so upsetting to them they wish they didn’t have it” and still be privileged. Take both of us for example: we have chronic illnesses. I’m disabled and not born into a wealthy family. Those are examples of areas where we don’t have privilege. But, we are still in a position of power because we may have other advantages. I’m white. I go to a really good school. You get the picture, hopefully.
I think overall you’ve misinterpreted my comment slightly.
Good grades does not automatically mean I think a person is lucky and privileged. They may have worked extremely hard for those and managed to overcome those privilege barriers, and even if they have everything in the world handed to them, it was probably still their work to some degree that got them the grades. What I’m saying is, in the majority of cases such as Jade’s, it’s important to acknowledge that you had the opportunity to achieve those grades thanks to the circumstances you were born into, to publicly say you want to throw that gift away just because it comes with some different downsides is pretty gross, because other people would kill to be in her position, and have pressure form perfectionism high on their list of problems. The video comes across as ungrateful and ignorant.
I agree with your hard work point, but I think you’re oversimplifying, it’s a mix of hard work and circumstances. You can work as hard as you like, but if you aren’t given the opportunity to progress and have no resources to create that opportunity yourself ... it becomes incredibly difficult to get to the same point others can easily reach. In a perfect world, you’d be right, but unfortunately that’s not the case, your views are very idealistic.
And finally, on the “who are you to judge” point ... I’m allowed to express an opinion, observation or make an argument. I can easily counter you with, who are you to say I shouldn’t?
I hope I addressed most of the points in your comment, there was only a few I missed if I didn’t really understand what you were saying :)
Jade you really make me aspire to be a better person and so you're a massive role model to me we all make mistakes and I will always have the same respect for you no matter what ❤️
This is genuinely so kind of you, thank you for such supportive words!! 🙈❤️✨ I wish I didn't put SO MUCH PRESSURE on myself all the time :( lots of love xx
@@UnJadedJade you're sooo welcome I'm only in year 9 and I just chose my GCSEs :)
Ah, that's so cool! Did you find it hard to choose? I can remember being so indecisive! (& I still am... 🙈) x
@@sophialoweland___ Oh, so did I! I chose Computing, History, Geography and French. In my school, we had to do a language and a humanity with two other options. We also have to do Maths, English Language and Literature and Triple Science. What about you?
@@maryouuuumma Hi I chose Art Music History and Business studies that's cool we don't have to do a language 😁
Not wanting all A*
Ill be lucky to pass.....
That Aussie glow, come back soon 😍😍
Strangely this motivated me to do my homework
Yay early! Currently wearing your merch and trying to be as productive as possible!❤️
WE LOVE A ~MOTIVATED~ LEGEND! ❤️ thank you so much for even owning my merch!! Good luck with everything xx
The fact that you think merely getting all A*'s is perfectionism itself shows you have a lot to learn. And no, I don't mean in some philosophical terms about life experiences etc. Even in the academic domain. Even compared to students your age. A*'s is NOT high-achieving. On the contrary, it's quite low-achieving.
Counter-intuitive ? Ok. Here's a test (not the only way to test)
Did you ever sit for the Math Olympiad ? Did you manage to crack it ?The Chemistry Olympiad (since you say like you Chem) ? Physics ? Biology ? Informatics ? Astronomy ?etc ..Did you represent your country at the International level in any of these competitions ? That's where you meet and battle it out with the best brains from all over the world. The REAL perfectionists! Challenge: Go try any of the past IMO problems. Forget solving, if you understand a single one of them (they are all school level syllabus, Infact, all Olympiads are meant only for school kids..so no advanced knowledge required) you're golden. Merely UNDERSTAND, NOT even inviting you to solve.
If not, forget perfectionism, you're at the bottom of the pyramid. A*'s don't mean a thing there. Core concepts, problem-solving skills, imagination, and application of your knowledge taken to the PERRRRFECT level! Even the last ranked student selected for the Olympiad can reduce the best A* topper to dust. (provided the two sets don't intersect). How do I know that ? Been an integral part of the journey.
Why am I saying this ? Not to demean you ( I really admire you!), not to disrespect the hard-work, effort you've put into acquire those frivolous grades that are not a reflection of true mastery. There's only one reason for me to bring this to light - PERSPECTIVE! yes. You lack perspective! You are setting a wrong notion that A*'s is perfectionism. A* is child's play if you just set your butt working at it. Also it's not a great goal to pursue. Olympiad problems are a true test of your understanding- neither is that a great goal to pursuit. But all I'm saying is it's ridiculous all you've got is A* and you're thinking yourself to be a high-achiever. It's like the frog in the well who took that to be the extent of the world. Again, no offence. Really. Just ridiculous, that's all. I mean it in a good way. Mostly this comment is gonna get ignored, but if you do read, I'd appreciate your take on it through a response. Much love.
Her: "Oh I wish i wasn't a genius"
Me:" still having trouble understanding what she said"
I went through this. And I didn’t know what is was. This made it so clear... damn...
Hi Jade nice to see you're back missed ur videos xx ly
’No way, I got higher than you’ is so true!