If the narcissist is guilty, he/she will be mad, not because of their wrong doing, but cause you're close to figure out, they don't care if they hurt you.
also some ppl use ANGER to intimidate you to the point where u shut down - their reaction is the reaction you should be having considering the fact that your victim.
what is also crazy is that they don’t have a problem bullshitting you, lying or telling what u want to hear..yet MOST of them find it impossible to muster a fake apology to finesse you. i know 1 tho who is so quick to say sorry that u can’t even finish saying what is upsetting you lol him: im sorry you: i haven’t told u what im mad at yet before und cut u off him: im sorry for doing that i’m just sorry for whatever it is that *you feel* that i di LOL pay attention how ppl phrase things. “my bad" is not am apology either.. It just a perdon statIng the obvious. an apology needs to be accompanied with remorse and a changE in behavior at the miminum. authentic ppl will make ammends.
My husband repeatedly told me one day that I looked trashy in a dress that was down to my ankles which I had worn to church. He conveniently forgot about it and when I reminded him about it he got so angry at me and screamed at me and called me a liar. This man is 60 years old and refuses to assume responsibility for his actions. He has a grandiose sense of self. Everyone around him is wrong he’s always right
They don't feel shame until after the fact. They justify what they're doing in the moment. They explain away any wrongdoing and make excuses in their minds for it so they can convince themselves that what they're doing isn't wrong or bad. They only begin to feel the shame once we call them out or someone tells them that what they did was wrong.
RIGHT??!!... I always asked myself the same thing. They have bigger shame from their childhood or past, then do more things that bring on more shame... Even them blaming you becomes shameful if you know how to control your emotions and question them in an organized way.... They're some silly people 😂😂😂
I've got a real winner.. he had a camera setup to record me, but only got footage of me doing my nails, and recorded himself cheating on me.. when i discovered the 18 months worth of footage i made several copies and when i confronted him he deleted the original as expected, then stole all of my flash drives and sd cards and deleted a copy off my laptop and erased literally all of my photos and videos off my phone including family photos. He got even angrier when i told him there are copies outside of our home that he cannot access, he can deny it but the initial reactions on his face are priceless 🤣 aaand a wise man has told me a few times "you do not need a confession from a narcissist" 🙌
This literally just happens to me this weekend. He was asked repeatedly not to smoke weed on my property but he could smoke in his car just not in my driveway. Saw him standing in front of my house just chiefing away and when I said something about it, he raged out on me. What are you doing watching me?? Blah blah blah. Cussed me out and he had to go. Was moved out 30 min later. Praise the Lord!
This is very validating. It's hard to comprehend this behaviour when it is happening. It gets flip turned around so fast. The rage is a deflection from the truth. So damaging. Thank you Lee.
Ugh, whenever I’d confront the ex-narc about something he said that may have hurt my feelings, he’d give me the coldest look. Then he’d say, sorry YOU took it that way. Now let’s move on. Just like that….No empathy, no compassion whatsoever. smh
The bottom line is with a narcissist they will never let you feel comfortable in your own skin. They will always try to control ever aspect of your life. The words I LOVE YOU, dont exist. They are loveless liars and have no conscience or morals. Mine told on himself many many times. The gas lighting wore me out. Im never returning and 1 year later its the greatest decision i ever made to save myself.
I wish I understood this when I was way younger. I always thought if I was undeniably correct, if I had my mother nailed, than she would have no choice but to apologize and take accountability. The opposite is true. The more I had her figured out, the worse she was. This is why I tell my friends dealing with narcs to switch off that compulsion to be a lawyer and prove to them they're wrong. It has the opposite of the desired effect.
Lee missed his calling. I swear, he supposed to be doing stand-up. His re-enactments always have me cracking up. Lol! I am 5 years post Narcissistic relationship free. However, I do occasionally binge watch some Narc videos to stay sharp. I can now spot a Narc a mile away, thanks to what I went thru and all the videos I have watched over the years. If you are going thru recovery from a Narc, take it from me ...life gets better again. take each day at a time. I suffered from PTSD, severely, afterwards. I was with my Narc for 7 years, on and off. I finally gray rocked him and cut off all contact. It took 4 years before I could start back dating. But with determination, prayer, and healing, I found myself again. I am now back to being my happy-go-lucky self that I was. And you will be that person again, too! Take the first step and cut all contact. You don't have to announce you're doing it. Just do it! Block them completely out of your life. Find positive, productive things to engage in. Surround yourself with friends that will speak life into you. Start on a task that you been putting off because you were so engaged with your toxic Narc. And you will find that as each day passes, you get stronger and feel better. As each day passes, you start to feel happier. As each day passes, you feel yourself growing and learning to trust people again. And you take this awful experience and learn from it. You keep all the signs and red flags logged in the back of your mind ... so as you start dating again, you catch them off the rip. And you cut Narcs off as soon as they present themselves. God Speed. ❤
Its sad they are not understanding about how love works, that they can’t be vulnerable to you knowing the real them. It would be nice if they can allow people in for real connection.
I experienced this irrational rage. I was not trying to hold my accountable cousin for not visiting a very close relative in a nursing home but I was puzzled why he wouldn't visit her. So I asked him why he never went to see her. He immediately said, " F "#k you!" I was stunned. I don't live in the town where this had occurred so I was just trying to get a feel of what was going on. We aren't speaking today in part because of that. I called him out and I got the silent treatment!
It’s my opinion: ~The Narcissist does not realize how silly they appear to a sound mind….For a true apology is usually all is needed for their wrongs to keep moving forward~
@@MentalHealness it’s my opinion: I will Sharpen you every chance I get….😇 For woman were created to help the broken man…. who in the beginning of it all had everything wanted for nothing even all the animals obeyed him and yet he was lonely……..
I exposed my ex to his other 2 main supplies. Emails with proof of everything he was doing. And I think they are both still with him. They’re problem now. NOT MINE!! 6 MONTHS NO CONTACT!!!
I said this before. He said I started “the fight” so I need to apologize. I would say I’m just asking you a question. Now answer it! He would start “the fight”…I just asked the question. Let me say it was not a physical fight it words versus words fight. They are fast on the their toes to answer.
@@MentalHealness if I say I'm on ur team, if I say I love you and I prove that over and over and over and yet it never matters I kept it solid never switched up not once and I get blind sided of years of lies but it was nothing for me to have kept it real I ain't perfect I done yelled, screamed, cussed but all I out of pain. Never did it for a sport didn't cheat cause I was ok no matter what but it was never reciprocated. But I'm still genuine I never switched up. But thank you for answering that question
@@katiemiller4187 maybe it's me cause I can keep it real. And I got to remember everybody is not like me. Going to keep it real but there's not much that can be done about that.
Man if this isn't the truth.. when talking to family about the crap they did ha ha didn't go over very well.. so angry.. kicked me out of the house too.. I guess the truth hurts.. 😅😅
My Ex Narc absolutely hates the fact that I am a private investigator and he swears that I investigate everything he is doing. There was no need for me to investigate him because he always told on his own self😂 All I had to do was hold him accountable and he would absolutely act a doggone fool. It became so hilarious to me that I would not even trip off his foolishness. So glad that I have moved on. He thought because of his future millionaire status ( civil suit) that I was gonna stick around and stay connected to him. Nope!!! im good financial challenges and all I am good, Narc free and got my peace back in Jesus name.
Girl. Therapist here. Mine scouted me out, hence “Looked me up” or something at some point per them and testing my empathy. No sir, exit stage left. I don’t care what ties bond us. Neerrp. He discredit the mental health field, but of course, narcissists “Have all the answers,” are “Conquerors,” “Always right,” entitled, and never make mistakes. They’re the most perfect (😂), low self-esteem having persons on the planet IMO. I help many people recover.
Mine did the same thing. Start recording y'alls conversation and then listen later and take notes if need be. I did that and after 6 months I got the courage to file for divorce. They reveal themselves through their lies and manipulation. Sending love
My ex narc had dreams i was cheating on her all the time. And one of the last things she said to me, when we broke up. " i wish you would have cheated on me, it would make this break up easier" all i thought was the smear campaign😂 havent spoke to her in almost a month. Dont think ill ever EVER hear fron her again
I love watching your videos was just wondering why they rage so much then you put up a video about it😃 and congratulations to your book gonna help so many and your work helps me a lot to understand, thank you🙂
They will still lie even if confronted with the truth. They will deny, deflect and say they are busy and can't be bothered with the situation. It's infuriating.
My husband was like that he really wanted to look better than what he was. He come from real trash. He didn't meat his real moma until he was eleven or twelve. She was such a big LIER l hated being around her. MY husband stole money from our children our home he was always ready to explode about anything. I was out today and ran into a old friend she was sooooo happy to see me. She knew what I was going through for 56YRS. I am tired just thinking about him
What about the narcissistic person who always says sorry only when called out. But then you don't call them out they don't on their own volition say sorry??
is there something called fake rage too- mine doesn’t feel like he is genuinely angry but its a childish way to just disable n throw you off- he just raises his volume a tiny bit but acts like a hurt toddler rambling
All of a sudden the other partner is too sensitive , not making sense...and all over the place. when said partner is going with the programming, both know each other has and knows. Aw man , and when all this is with a person your feelings grew so deep,for.. man what a heart n brain fudge. Best Ive heard is LEARN FROM EVERYTHING YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE... IM Sure we are full of potential and not all great possibilities are out of reach
Mine blames me for everything nothing js his fault !!!! Nothing!!!!! And when I say to him you never admit when your wrong and he says I ALWAYS ADMIT WHEN IM WRONG hahaahaha
So basically narcissist are emotionally stunted to a 9 year old? How insecure and childish can you be to not be able to stomach accountability?? The most successful people failed thousands of times before success. This proves children need to be taught its okay to be wrong because being an adult and being terrified of being wrong is very pathetic ngl.
Oh no, my partner rages at me over questions and tells me it is because they hate being asked questions. Even questions I don't think of as a big deal. They act like I plan it. But then their apologies come across so genuine and insightful. I'm so confused. The behavior never changes. I'm scared.
He don't care that I've caught him as long as I don't have proof. When I did have proof. He laughed out ln such rage it was scary and then he stole my phone and deleted the whole thing I mean he done a factory reset on my phone.
Next phone, lock the dam thing. I gotta lock code on mine. And I got tons of proof. Use a cloud account also. Saves room on your phone. Good luck to you.
@amandapope9925 let me know if it was on an sd card, I'll tell you how to recover it! Data recovery and digital forensics need to be added to the list of their most hated things 🤣
@@MentalHealness Lee I like what you are doing to help others that are suffering through this type of stuff. I am who I am I fight everyday to become successful in my career and I'm doing that but no matter how I kept it real and hung in there it got me nowhere in the end I took a whole year to heal from what I went through and I'm just thriving to not get myself caught up getting hurt by others. I always knew I wasn't loved I kinda knew it and later on they had a whole nother life and I respect that. But there r no hard feelings. Out of showing real love I never was told that and I saw the signs I ignored them silly of me. But I saw everything for what it was. Til this day it b said I did care or I was grateful for everything u did and I accept that now. I just don't hold on to it anymore
My Nex mother was extremely disrespectful to me along with his sister completely unprovoked bc there angry withy nex( her son / brother ) the mother admitted to having treated me badly and never apologised to me in over 1 year I was no contact with her .
Why is shame so problematic for them? You simply have to say "Yes, it's my fault" and do better in the future. I don't understand why it's such a big deal!
Lee, thank you for your insight, without your videos I wouldn’t have never known who I was actually dealing with. A lot of times my narcissistic husband would just give me the silent treatment when I would bring evidence of his wrongdoing. Or he would deflect and try to turn it around on me. Then I notice if I said said certain things to him, he would become enraged and attack me physically 😢. I recently finally got away from him and his last message to me was I was psychotic, bipolar, and schizophrenic!
Thanks lee,,mine ex.narc,allways lost his mind when i eben touch his phone,not looked ,but touch it.he broke his laptop when i wanted to check his facebook messanger yall,and then he cryied telling me is my foult ,all i did is open the laptop😂
It just makes me wonder how i lasted 42 years with the insanity i experienced with my narcissist husband im in shock still i think we've been no contact for 18 months and im stil in shock.
I have a burning question! My husband has been involved in porn for decades, despite presenting himself as an upstanding Christian man. He attended Christian schools and even went to a Christian college. My children and I have confronted him and pulled him out of it multiple times, and there were periods when he could have stopped without any shame. Why didn’t he? If shame is such a powerful motivator for narcissists, why don’t they stop when they have the chance to get out of a situation without facing shame? There were moments when I confronted him directly. I told him, "I know what you're doing, just stop so we can move on." And I meant it - if he had stopped, I would’ve been fine with that. I know people will caution me, but I’m fully aware of the situation, and I understand that they rarely change. My question is simply: when they have a way to avoid shame, why don’t they take it? ---
i been married 9 years and last month i told my husband i had a yeast infection, last time i had on was when we were dating , this told me he was cheating so i asked him about it and he had a huge Rage fix, that was the last straw, i left him last month and dont plan on going back.
Anytime i asked about money because how can he mever have money when he made what he did and i was sick of paying for everything and everytime..hed lie about what amounts he said then would get mad and panic when i said he keeps changing his stories.
I would like to mention my own story... I met a past classmate of mine via social after 20 years .. he wanted for a week to spend time with me, he was intensely and immediately sexually attracted to me (he kissed me immediately after he saw me in the second date) , she called me to his work and during the week I understood that ... He was married !!! Then I sent a picture with the ring in his hand on social . He emotionally abused me and he blocked me. Even though he said that I am very clever and wanted to know who told me that . Then I answered I have nothing to gain and I don't tell you . A month has passed and I am still blocked. Lee please could you tell me your thoughts and conclusions?? It's the first time in my life that someone tries to fool me .. personally I respect clever people. Do you think that narcissists do not respect clever women? Thank you very much in advance for your response !! I wish you the best in your healing process!!
If the narcissist is guilty, he/she will be mad, not because of their wrong doing, but cause you're close to figure out, they don't care if they hurt you.
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Bing-mofo-go!
also some ppl use ANGER to intimidate you to the point where u shut down - their reaction is the reaction you should be having considering the fact that your victim.
what is also crazy is that they don’t have a problem bullshitting you, lying or telling what u want to hear..yet MOST of them find it impossible to muster a fake apology to finesse you. i know 1 tho who is so quick to say sorry that u can’t even finish saying what is upsetting you lol
him: im sorry
you: i haven’t told u what im mad at yet before und cut u off
him: im sorry for doing that i’m just sorry for whatever it is that *you feel* that i di
LOL pay attention how ppl phrase things. “my bad" is not am apology either.. It just a perdon statIng the obvious.
an apology needs to be accompanied with remorse and a changE in behavior at the miminum. authentic ppl will make ammends.
My "apology" from the narcissist: "Sincerely, I apologize for any unintended hurt you feel I caused."
Unbelievable. Run!
My husband repeatedly told me one day that I looked trashy in a dress that was down to my ankles which I had worn to church. He conveniently forgot about it and when I reminded him about it he got so angry at me and screamed at me and called me a liar. This man is 60 years old and refuses to assume responsibility for his actions. He has a grandiose sense of self. Everyone around him is wrong he’s always right
So why do narcissists do shameful things if they’re trying to avoid shame at all costs? That’s such an oxymoronic existence to be in smh.
They don't feel shame until after the fact. They justify what they're doing in the moment. They explain away any wrongdoing and make excuses in their minds for it so they can convince themselves that what they're doing isn't wrong or bad. They only begin to feel the shame once we call them out or someone tells them that what they did was wrong.
NOTHING matters UNTIL it negatively affects them.
@@sharongomes7219 exactly!
Because most of them are narcissist/ psychopaths. The psychopath part of them wants to have the advantage. Their minds work that way automatically.
RIGHT??!!... I always asked myself the same thing. They have bigger shame from their childhood or past, then do more things that bring on more shame... Even them blaming you becomes shameful if you know how to control your emotions and question them in an organized way.... They're some silly people 😂😂😂
I've got a real winner.. he had a camera setup to record me, but only got footage of me doing my nails, and recorded himself cheating on me.. when i discovered the 18 months worth of footage i made several copies and when i confronted him he deleted the original as expected, then stole all of my flash drives and sd cards and deleted a copy off my laptop and erased literally all of my photos and videos off my phone including family photos. He got even angrier when i told him there are copies outside of our home that he cannot access, he can deny it but the initial reactions on his face are priceless 🤣 aaand a wise man has told me a few times "you do not need a confession from a narcissist" 🙌
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Way to go!!
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The word apologize is not in a narcissist vocabulary.
You'd be surprised. some will use it as a weapon
I have had well I apologized. No you didn't lol.
Never had an apology , unless under duress and reluctantly you get an insincere apology
Mine apologizes regularly, but he always negates it.
But they are always sorry 🎉
“They will do everything BUT apologize. “
“They would rather lose their minds and go crazy!!”
So annoyance! 🙄🤦🏽♀️
In narcissists Eyes, they are never wrong. I had two of them in my life.
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🙋♀️same
This literally just happens to me this weekend. He was asked repeatedly not to smoke weed on my property but he could smoke in his car just not in my driveway. Saw him standing in front of my house just chiefing away and when I said something about it, he raged out on me. What are you doing watching me?? Blah blah blah. Cussed me out and he had to go. Was moved out 30 min later. Praise the Lord!
This is very validating. It's hard to comprehend this behaviour when it is happening.
It gets flip turned around so fast. The rage is a deflection from the truth. So damaging.
Thank you Lee.
I'm going through this right now 😔
Ugh, whenever I’d confront the ex-narc about something he said that may have hurt my feelings, he’d give me the coldest look. Then he’d say, sorry YOU took it that way. Now let’s move on. Just like that….No empathy, no compassion whatsoever. smh
The bottom line is with a narcissist they will never let you feel comfortable in your own skin. They will always try to control ever aspect of your life. The words I LOVE YOU, dont exist. They are loveless liars and have no conscience or morals. Mine told on himself many many times. The gas lighting wore me out. Im never returning and 1 year later its the greatest decision i ever made to save myself.
I wish I understood this when I was way younger. I always thought if I was undeniably correct, if I had my mother nailed, than she would have no choice but to apologize and take accountability. The opposite is true. The more I had her figured out, the worse she was. This is why I tell my friends dealing with narcs to switch off that compulsion to be a lawyer and prove to them they're wrong. It has the opposite of the desired effect.
So true you figure them out n they get cray!!!
It's not just anger Lee it's rage ! I can only explain it like a volcano erupting ! They can't spell sorry let alone say it !
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Lee missed his calling. I swear, he supposed to be doing stand-up. His re-enactments always have me cracking up. Lol! I am 5 years post Narcissistic relationship free. However, I do occasionally binge watch some Narc videos to stay sharp. I can now spot a Narc a mile away, thanks to what I went thru and all the videos I have watched over the years. If you are going thru recovery from a Narc, take it from me ...life gets better again. take each day at a time. I suffered from PTSD, severely, afterwards. I was with my Narc for 7 years, on and off. I finally gray rocked him and cut off all contact. It took 4 years before I could start back dating. But with determination, prayer, and healing, I found myself again. I am now back to being my happy-go-lucky self that I was. And you will be that person again, too! Take the first step and cut all contact. You don't have to announce you're doing it. Just do it! Block them completely out of your life. Find positive, productive things to engage in. Surround yourself with friends that will speak life into you. Start on a task that you been putting off because you were so engaged with your toxic Narc. And you will find that as each day passes, you get stronger and feel better. As each day passes, you start to feel happier. As each day passes, you feel yourself growing and learning to trust people again. And you take this awful experience and learn from it. You keep all the signs and red flags logged in the back of your mind ... so as you start dating again, you catch them off the rip. And you cut Narcs off as soon as they present themselves. God Speed. ❤
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I told him just the other day the fact he is funny as well as serious is such a great trait.
Bless you for this encouragement ❤🙏🏾
Its sad they are not understanding about how love works, that they can’t be vulnerable to you knowing the real them. It would be nice if they can allow people in for real connection.
Yes but their freaking weird 😔
I experienced this irrational rage. I was not trying to hold my accountable cousin for not visiting a very close relative in a nursing home but I was puzzled why he wouldn't visit her. So I asked him why he never went to see her. He immediately said, " F "#k you!"
I was stunned. I don't live in the town where this had occurred so I was just trying to get a feel of what was going on.
We aren't speaking today in part because of that. I called him out and I got the silent treatment!
It’s my opinion:
~The Narcissist does not realize how silly they appear to a sound mind….For a true apology is usually all is needed for their wrongs to keep moving forward~
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@@MentalHealness it’s my opinion: I will Sharpen you every chance I get….😇 For woman were created to help the broken man….
who in the beginning of it all had everything wanted for nothing even all the animals obeyed him and yet he was lonely……..
Will NEVER ADMIT ,,,BUT COME HOME N GETS ANGRY WITH ME.. I'M OVER THIS BULLSHIT
I exposed my ex to his other 2 main supplies. Emails with proof of everything he was doing. And I think they are both still with him. They’re problem now. NOT MINE!! 6 MONTHS NO CONTACT!!!
I said this before. He said I started “the fight” so I need to apologize. I would say I’m just asking you a question. Now answer it! He would start “the fight”…I just asked the question. Let me say it was not a physical fight it words versus words fight. They are fast on the their toes to answer.
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Very true. They practice being deceitful their whole life!
Like lieing when it was unnecessary never being honest. Its not hard to keep it real
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@@MentalHealness if I say I'm on ur team, if I say I love you and I prove that over and over and over and yet it never matters I kept it solid never switched up not once and I get blind sided of years of lies but it was nothing for me to have kept it real I ain't perfect I done yelled, screamed, cussed but all I out of pain. Never did it for a sport didn't cheat cause I was ok no matter what but it was never reciprocated. But I'm still genuine I never switched up. But thank you for answering that question
They cany keep it real..because they are so fake.. I just smile and walk away.. they are not worth it.
@@katiemiller4187 maybe it's me cause I can keep it real. And I got to remember everybody is not like me. Going to keep it real but there's not much that can be done about that.
Man if this isn't the truth.. when talking to family about the crap they did ha ha didn't go over very well.. so angry.. kicked me out of the house too.. I guess the truth hurts.. 😅😅
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My Ex Narc absolutely hates the fact that I am a private investigator and he swears that I investigate everything he is doing. There was no need for me to investigate him because he always told on his own self😂
All I had to do was hold him accountable and he would absolutely act a doggone fool. It became so hilarious to me that I would not even trip off his foolishness. So glad that I have moved on. He thought because of his future millionaire status ( civil suit) that I was gonna stick around and stay connected to him.
Nope!!! im good financial challenges and all I am good, Narc free and got my peace back in Jesus name.
Girl. Therapist here. Mine scouted me out, hence “Looked me up” or something at some point per them and testing my empathy. No sir, exit stage left. I don’t care what ties bond us. Neerrp. He discredit the mental health field, but of course, narcissists “Have all the answers,” are “Conquerors,” “Always right,” entitled, and never make mistakes. They’re the most perfect (😂), low self-esteem having persons on the planet IMO. I help many people recover.
@@eecoachgirl 😂😂😂😂
Yep! I ask mine stuff and wow he explodes and then tell me I am projecting and accuses me for everything.
Mine did the same thing. Start recording y'alls conversation and then listen later and take notes if need be. I did that and after 6 months I got the courage to file for divorce. They reveal themselves through their lies and manipulation. Sending love
My ex narc had dreams i was cheating on her all the time. And one of the last things she said to me, when we broke up. " i wish you would have cheated on me, it would make this break up easier" all i thought was the smear campaign😂 havent spoke to her in almost a month. Dont think ill ever EVER hear fron her again
I love watching your videos was just wondering why they rage so much then you put up a video about it😃 and congratulations to your book gonna help so many and your work helps me a lot to understand, thank you🙂
Thank you so much 😁
Smoke n mirrors type of person....
And a woman knows if a man has been unfaithful.. but won't admit at all.
I'm gonna get this book for my daughter Miracle 💖
They will still lie even if confronted with the truth. They will deny, deflect and say they are busy and can't be bothered with the situation. It's infuriating.
Thank you for your channel!
Welcome!
My husband was like that he really wanted to look better than what he was. He come from real trash. He didn't meat his real moma until he was eleven or twelve. She was such a big LIER l hated being around her. MY husband stole money from our children our home he was always ready to explode about anything. I was out today and ran into a old friend she was sooooo happy to see me. She knew what I was going through for 56YRS. I am tired just thinking about him
No one gets angrier… mmm mmm mmm. You ain’t lying
Is it typical of a narcissist to not get back in contact with you? When they Ghost you?
yea, some disappear for good
What about the narcissistic person who always says sorry only when called out. But then you don't call them out they don't on their own volition say sorry??
is there something called fake rage too- mine doesn’t feel like he is genuinely angry but its a childish way to just disable n throw you off- he just raises his volume a tiny bit but acts like a hurt toddler rambling
Oh you’re so right!
Spot on.
Thank you
The glasses could also be the super victim glasses 😂 put them on and watch them be the biggest victim you ever did see
All of a sudden the other partner is too sensitive , not making sense...and all over the place. when said partner is going with the programming, both know each other has and knows. Aw man , and when all this is with a person your feelings grew so deep,for.. man what a heart n brain fudge. Best Ive heard is LEARN FROM EVERYTHING YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE... IM Sure we are full of potential and not all great possibilities are out of reach
YESSSSS the reactions 😂👍❤❤❤❤
Mine blames me for everything nothing js his fault !!!! Nothing!!!!! And when I say to him you never admit when your wrong and he says I ALWAYS ADMIT WHEN IM WRONG hahaahaha
So basically narcissist are emotionally stunted to a 9 year old? How insecure and childish can you be to not be able to stomach accountability?? The most successful people failed thousands of times before success. This proves children need to be taught its okay to be wrong because being an adult and being terrified of being wrong is very pathetic ngl.
no lies told
Oh no, my partner rages at me over questions and tells me it is because they hate being asked questions. Even questions I don't think of as a big deal. They act like I plan it. But then their apologies come across so genuine and insightful. I'm so confused. The behavior never changes. I'm scared.
Facts! Everything you said! So damn childish
He don't care that I've caught him as long as I don't have proof. When I did have proof. He laughed out ln such rage it was scary and then he stole my phone and deleted the whole thing I mean he done a factory reset on my phone.
Was the evidence on an sd card in your phone by chance? 🤞
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Next phone, lock the dam thing. I gotta lock code on mine. And I got tons of proof. Use a cloud account also. Saves room on your phone. Good luck to you.
@amandapope9925 let me know if it was on an sd card, I'll tell you how to recover it! Data recovery and digital forensics need to be added to the list of their most hated things 🤣
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Stop trying to figure out trash and simply discard it.
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@@MentalHealness Lee I like what you are doing to help others that are suffering through this type of stuff. I am who I am I fight everyday to become successful in my career and I'm doing that but no matter how I kept it real and hung in there it got me nowhere in the end I took a whole year to heal from what I went through and I'm just thriving to not get myself caught up getting hurt by others. I always knew I wasn't loved I kinda knew it and later on they had a whole nother life and I respect that. But there r no hard feelings. Out of showing real love I never was told that and I saw the signs I ignored them silly of me. But I saw everything for what it was. Til this day it b said I did care or I was grateful for everything u did and I accept that now. I just don't hold on to it anymore
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My Nex mother was extremely disrespectful to me along with his sister completely unprovoked bc there angry withy nex( her son / brother ) the mother admitted to having treated me badly and never apologised to me in over 1 year I was no contact with her .
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Why is shame so problematic for them? You simply have to say "Yes, it's my fault" and do better in the future. I don't understand why it's such a big deal!
Because they are weak and fragile,an incomplete human
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Lee, thank you for your insight, without your videos I wouldn’t have never known who I was actually dealing with. A lot of times my narcissistic husband would just give me the silent treatment when I would bring evidence of his wrongdoing. Or he would deflect and try to turn it around on me. Then I notice if I said said certain things to him, he would become enraged and attack me physically 😢. I recently finally got away from him and his last message to me was I was psychotic, bipolar, and schizophrenic!
Thanks lee,,mine ex.narc,allways lost his mind when i eben touch his phone,not looked ,but touch it.he broke his laptop when i wanted to check his facebook messanger yall,and then he cryied telling me is my foult ,all i did is open the laptop😂
Man child 🤣🤣
you are describing domestic abuse.
They are literally 12 in age emotionally
It just makes me wonder how i lasted 42 years with the insanity i experienced with my narcissist husband im in shock still i think we've been no contact for 18 months and im stil in shock.
Instead of getting angry he just smiles and looks dumb….wont say a word
I have a burning question! My husband has been involved in porn for decades, despite presenting himself as an upstanding Christian man. He attended Christian schools and even went to a Christian college. My children and I have confronted him and pulled him out of it multiple times, and there were periods when he could have stopped without any shame.
Why didn’t he? If shame is such a powerful motivator for narcissists, why don’t they stop when they have the chance to get out of a situation without facing shame?
There were moments when I confronted him directly. I told him, "I know what you're doing, just stop so we can move on." And I meant it - if he had stopped, I would’ve been fine with that. I know people will caution me, but I’m fully aware of the situation, and I understand that they rarely change. My question is simply: when they have a way to avoid shame, why don’t they take it?
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i been married 9 years and last month i told my husband i had a yeast infection, last time i had on was when we were dating , this told me he was cheating so i asked him about it and he had a huge Rage fix, that was the last straw, i left him last month and dont plan on going back.
I recalled each of those incidents
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Dude . . do you ever get tired ? Well I don't so keep on going. Please. 😏
The sex is good but they punch you in the mouth took me out LOL
Anytime i asked about money because how can he mever have money when he made what he did and i was sick of paying for everything and everytime..hed lie about what amounts he said then would get mad and panic when i said he keeps changing his stories.
wow the lying can get really out of hand
I would like to mention my own story... I met a past classmate of mine via social after 20 years .. he wanted for a week to spend time with me, he was intensely and immediately sexually attracted to me (he kissed me immediately after he saw me in the second date) , she called me to his work and during the week I understood that ... He was married !!! Then I sent a picture with the ring in his hand on social . He emotionally abused me and he blocked me. Even though he said that I am very clever and wanted to know who told me that . Then I answered I have nothing to gain and I don't tell you . A month has passed and I am still blocked. Lee please could you tell me your thoughts and conclusions?? It's the first time in my life that someone tries to fool me .. personally I respect clever people. Do you think that narcissists do not respect clever women? Thank you very much in advance for your response !! I wish you the best in your healing process!!
It doesn't matter 😂
Bingo tiny things become huge things and insanely giant blow ups.
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LOL face mask does work I know who he is
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Hell no his mask isn't going to work