Dealing With the Pain of Loss
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- Опубликовано: 7 июн 2024
- One of the unfortunate realities of living a life with horses is that sometimes you’re going to lose one. We lost one of the horses this week and we are dealing with that loss. I made this video in order to maybe help somebody else who has gone through the same thing, or will go through the same thing in the future.
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“Anybody that has the ability to bring us great grief when they’re gone, that was somebody who had the strength to bring us great joy when they were here, and so embrace the joy” loved that.❤️
So true
As I sat at my mothers grave sobbing, I get the notification that you posted this. Your timing couldn’t have been better. Thank you
Sorry for your loss. All the love and best wishes to you and your loved ones.
I'm thoroughly convinced that he has a direct line to God and puts these videos out exactly when the viewers need it. Many prayers for your mother and you.
God bless you friend
I'm so sorry
God bless you and give you peace.
The price we pay for the ability to love is the excruciating pain we experience when that love is lost.
Beautifully said. To be able to love is a great privilege that has the inevitable cost of pain.
My husband dropped dead in front of me 2018. The pain I've been in since has pushed me almost to the point of insanity. My heart goes out to anyone here who is currently suffering the grief of any kind of loss. ❤
I'm sorry for your loss its hard to hear that. I wish that he is resting in peace right now I'm saying it from the bottom of my heart. I know that losing someone who was living and sharing life with you is not that easy to forget about it, but you got to know that you are not lonely.
You are a great woman, I wish that many men can have women like you who appreciated and cared for their man where it is kinda hard to get a woman to care and love these days
I’m sorry to hear of your loss, he would want you to be finding joy out of every little thing. Don’t let this destroy you
God bless you✝️☦️❤️
Grief changes us. The pain sculpts us into someone who understands more deeply, hurts more often, appreciates more quickly, cries more easily, loves more openly.
~Unknown
I lost my Grandfather 12 hrs ago, he was my everything. It was my highest honor to serve him in his final years. It hurts in an unbelievable way but I find solitude in standing strong for my family. People are depending on me, I would go through hell a thousand times for them. So we must move forward - if you're going through something similar I'm praying for you. Thank you for posting this video, it found me - not the other way around.
I'm so proud of you, Keith, for tending your Grandfather. You did him proud.
@paularaegram9965 Thank you Paula, I'm sending love and light your direction.
I feel for you, hope you find peace knowing he is free now.
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Good man and he is lucky to have u his son . ✊🏼
Dwayne, although I'm 49 and my father just passed in June of 2023; (I miss him sooo much beyond what I can explain), I receive your words as gold. Had I taken his advice when I was 19 I'd be retired now, enjoying my wife and children on the land with our animals. I'm a business owner and although I am thankful, I am non-stop going and wish I could just be on the land with them.
I always loved talking with him and listening to him in the latter part of my life. Now that I will receive it better, he's unfortunately no longer with us.... I turn to your videos to fulfill what I still needed to hear from my father 😢
"only something capable of bringing us such great joy, can bring us great pain" 😢😢
Thank you sir
I lost my mom on February 25th she was 68 and been battling cancer since past year, this last year was typically hard . I miss her soo much , I don’t want to do anything , just doing my duties for my kids and wife, but God, this hurts my heart so much 😢
I just lost my mom February 12th she was 67. It hurts so bad. Your not alone.
Lost my mom Feb 13, 1978 to brain cancer. I was nine. I hope to be reunited one day if God is willing.
Make her pleased and proud. It will get better over time.
All of our life is a classroom. The word of God our lamp and Jesus is our teacher. Thank you for speaking the hard truths. God is worth all our trust and worship. We are eternal❤…. And it’s good when words of truth and experience fall on our ears.
So sorry for your loss.
Lost my Mom 3 years ago and it is still hard dealing with her loss. She was my best friend and my greatest mentor.
My condolences
Just lost my good boy Nugget a black German Shepard this week. Only 6 months old but the best friend a man could ask for. This was a timely, comforting and wise message to receive. Peace and Blessings to you and all at your homestead sir.
My little fuzzy buddy Mr. Lewis had a seizure about a year ago and left for the great kennel in the sky. He liked to hop up in my lap and get belly rubbies while he fell asleep with me holding him like you hold a baby. He was a little white mutt that occasionally went psychotic because he did a line of my ex-wifes speed while he was hanging out with her but he was the sweetest goodest boy when he wasn't being a tweaker. I miss my dog, bro.
Just learned yesterday that my dad has 4 to 6 months to live. 1 year at most. This will help. Thank you
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Peace Love And Blessings To Your Dad And Your Family 🙏💐
@donnacain9692 thank you. Christ is Lord. Amen
Αmen! @@roadking.118 i will pray for your loved ones❤
My grandfather was riding his bike yesterday and was killed when he was T boned by a pick up truck who wasn’t paying attention. This helps me so much thank you so much I’ve watched you for years and you remind me a lot of him and other respectable men I’ve had in my life. Thank you sir best wishes
Thank you. Lost a treasured animal monday, and it's hard. Sorry for your loss.
I'd hoped I wouldn't need this video so soon, but... I've lost another Great Uncle. The other day, he passed in the morning. I've tried to keep my mind off of it.
It hasn't been easy.
Thank you, Dewayne. Your words have had a lasting impact on me and many others.
Thanks for loving your horse enough to put her down when you heard she'd never heal and be in misery. That is the kindest thing you can do for your beloved pets.
Lost my pops 3 weeks ago. I can honestly say he was my best friend, and I loved him dearly, but he left a mess behind. I've had to take on a lot of responsibility, and be stronger than ever. Looking forward to this well timed video. Thank you, Dewayne.
I watched this when it came out a couple weeks ago. It actually really helped me with the loss of my 18 year old cat. Thank you.
RIP Tigger 2006-2024
Face them fears.
I feared being alone
So isolated from everything
I feared hunger
So I fasted
I feared death because of my chronic illness
So I contemplated it since childhood
I feared weakness because I was the youngest and called "the baby"
So I prayed for a hard life to make me stronger and give praise to the most high for all trials and tribulations I have undertaken and pray for some more
I refuse to break under any circumstances.
I am so sorry you had to put your horse down. Some pets and animals feel like your kids. It hurts when they die.
Dwayne thanks so much for the story you shared about having to deliver devastating news to your son. The lowest point in my life was sitting my 4 children down in 2021 and telling them their mother had passed and was in heaven. It was deeply traumatic and still is. I watch your videos on a regular basis and I find strength,comfort, and knowledge.
Had to do the same in Aug. 2021 with my two boys, we all miss her dearly.
Prayers for your family
@@MikeJonessmn Prayers for you all ❤️
So sorry to hear about the loss of your horse. I respect you for making this video, I believe it will help others. Mercy and kindness are virtues. You have shown us both by your actions of your guidance on this difficult subject. May God Continue to guide you. Thank You.
I'm so sorry, prayers for comfort. I lost my husband to cancer in '22, still doesn't seem real.
The timing of this video, wow I can’t even explain.
We put our 10 year old German shepherd down last November. Oh man it was tough. He was a different dog. We've had many shepherds and he was just so full of love and loyal, More than any other dog we have had. He loved his family. Hope yous are doing well Dwayne. Its hard losing an animal.
Thank you for posting this I needed to hear this, this video was uploaded 2 days before my grandpa's funeral. He lost his fight with cancer and was a strong good man. I was thankful for me and my brothers to be given the honor to be the urn bearers at his funeral service.
I've lost a few horses over the years. First one I lost was Thunder. Quarab. Bad to the bone horse.
I was riding beside the road, heading back home because it started raining. A tractor trailer drove by and blew his air horn (peckerhead). Thunder reared up and when he came back down, he snapped his front ankle on the wet hillside. I then fell off and he ran across the road and then back towards me, but hit the guardrail and basically ripped his leg off on it.
Sad day. My boy's mom told me they were shocked when they saw me crying because they'd never seen me cry.
Of course the tractor was not working at the time, so I buried that horse with a shovel.
I miss ol Thunder.
Good to see ya Dewayne
I’m 20, I’m about to lose my friend Mr C, 86. He only has a few days left and I’ve been non stop balling my eyes out since I found out. Today I spent the whole day driving around listening to Frank Sinatra (his favorite), singing along, thinking about all the good memories I’ve shared with him, all the lessons that he taught me, all the stories he’s told. He’s the happiest most fulfilled person I’ve ever met in my life. Never complained, always had a smile on his face, a story or joke to tell. Just a ray of sunshine, an undeniably beautiful soul and an absolute joy to be around.
Embrace the Joy ❤
I pray that the lord has mercy on your soul Mr C. I will never forget you. I will see you in heaven my friend ❤🕊️
My mom passed in 2018, and I held her hand as she took her last breath. It hurt like hell. I didn't want to see her go, but in a way, I was happy for her. She was in a lot of pain and was very sick. I didnt want to see her suffer like that and she didn't deserve to.
There's something that changes you when you see the person that gave birth to you die.
❤ amen to that.
Animals might possibly be in heaven. I used to doubt it until I discovered the last words of Roy Rogers. 🤔 I believe he's with Trigger, Bullet, Buttermilk, and Dale. Just a thought, sir. My condolences and all the best to y'all.
Drugs are taking so many young people! Very sad times in America! The drugs are flooding our Beautiful country! People need to pay attention to the young people in their families! God Bless America
I just lost my long term relationship of 3 years and I’ve been more lost than I ever been in my entire life and this video happened to show in my feed. I’ve followed you a long time but I needed this thank you
Horses, men, women, family, etc with it not mattering what they are, but it is what they represented. My Dad passed last year unexpectedly and I still can't believe that he is gone. There are days where I see him walking with other families metaphorically around parks or towns. There are days where I swear I can hear his voice coming from somewhere else.
It is crazy the hole that they leave once they are gone. To those who recently lost a loved one, talking about it helps significantly. It still hurts and it forever will, but at least time helps play a role in mitigating that pain as you get used to it. Honor their memory.
You are right. I lost 47 mares and 2 stallions. I miss them a lot… but they still alive in my heart and memory… I miss them a lot…
Grateful for good horses...we need to be good stewards of our animals , care for them, and love them....
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I really needed this. For several years I road a beautiful Percheron horse. The owner sold her and I have been grieving ever since. Loss comes in many forms... I am blessed with all the beautiful memories! Thank you for your kind words and helping me process the loss.
Beautiful message from a beautiful human. Sorry to hear about your mare, sir.
Thank you for doing this. Perfect timing for me, having lost my gelding less than two weeks ago. His passing was a lot easier on me than my mare’s. He was gone by the time I got out to the pasture. My mare was down and wouldn’t get up even to get into the trailer. My vet didn’t make house calls on Sundays, so I had to shoot her. I don’t remember feeling recoil or hearing the shot, just seeing the muzzle flash.
😢 praying for you, friend. That took a lot of courage and compassion. May the Lord Jesus bless you and encourage you in this time of loss and pain.
@@TamShar, thank you.
Golly - I'm so SO very sorry you had to go through that 😢 💔 good thing you were able to give your friend that final act of kindness, although I know all too well how hard that is.
@@nholbrook1682, that mare raised me, practically. Saved my life more than once. She deserved the best I could give her.
I lost my dog, Leroy from when I was still in school, he was the best friend I could've asked for, he was injured by an irresponsible dog owner who couldn't leash his dog. I took down the other dog, but not in time. Poor guy passed soon after. I miss him greatly.
I’ve been following you for a while now.
I’m just a 32 year old female in Kentucky.
But when I woke up this morning scrolling on Facebook , a dear friend and ex of mine passed away last night. He wasn’t even 35 years old…..I literally just found out, then I go on here to find a video to listen to while I get ready for work and this is the first video on my feed.
No such thing as a coincidence
Thank you.
I'm sorry to hear for your loss, friend, family, it doesn't matter when you know someone that passes, it always hits hard. I hope you have a good day at work and can process all the emotions and feelings that comes with a loss. Work was often the catalyst for my grieving process when I lost my family member last year.
@@thelifewithnate funny you said that because my friend earlier said “ I’m sorry you have to go to work and pretend everything is okay” and I said you know what, I think it’s actually going to help to keep my mind busy during this time. I’ve been a bit foggy today mentally but im here. I’m a bartender so I have to smile and be social.
I’m doing my best. Thank you for your words 💚
Thank you Dewayne
My wife and I have been together for 34 years and we have always had dogs, cats and sometimes horses as well as a multitude of other things. Early on we agreed that we would always honor our animals by making hard decisions with the thought of quality over quantity.
We have had dogs that have gotten old and maybe weren't living their best life but they still enjoyed being part of our pack. In those cases we always let them tell us when it was time and every single one of them did. We could just read in them when it was time, when they just weren't having fun anymore.
Loss is hard, it just is. I agree with you that the way to deal with loss is to remember the more positive times.
I know everyone has heard this probably hundreds of times but I'm going to say it again. Don't put off clearing the air or letting people know how you feel about them. Your time for doing and saying what you should will run out faster than you think it will. My Dad and I rarely saw eye to eye, both hard headed and neither going to be the one that took the initiative and started the process of healing the past. After he died, I hurt more because of things not said then I actually did from his death. He lived into his 80s and every bit of his life was lived his way. I think he felt like he had a good life and when it was over, I was at peace with his passing but I still deal with the fact that neither of us ever really told each other how we felt about each other. I love my Dad. I just wasn't wired the same way as him.
Anyway, tell those you love how you feel and put those hurt feeling to rest while you still have time.
Thank you for sharing this. I really like that you are mentoring, that doesn't happen much anymore. I could have used someone that would teach me some of these things when I was coming up.
That’s was your dad’s responsibility to mend things not yours. I am estranged from my dad for the past 12 years and I hate him bc of it. My dad well I don’t call him that anymore is a narcissistic addicted gambler I completely despise he ruined a lot of things and also stole my brother and my baby bonds that would be cashed in r 30s and also signed over power of attorney and liquified my inheritance. He’s a pos
Your exhortation is so true.
“The price we pay for love is grief.”
-Queen Elizabeth
A true man, smoking a genuine cigar beside the old good fire. Best regards from Spain.
Thank you, Duanne. I lost my first wife back in the early 90s. I knew what the end result was going to be. That was a little bit comforting but not much. I had a decision to make either sit there and more about it or carry on with my life, raising my young son. I had to choosebetween those two choices. Today I’m still kicking. Thanks. The father and my son has grown up now. It’s all about a mindset. It’s all up to you. God bless brother.
I'm so glad you decided to do this video, your words have helped this grieving widow. Thank you💔
I'm sorry for your loss :( Was this recent, it sounds like it was?
October, thank you@@thelifewithnate
That really, really, really sucks to have to had to put her down!! Life is so unfair!! Poor, poor Horse! At least she's not suffering. May she Rest in Peace.
Talk about loss. I've lost a lot. My Biological Mom at 8 years old and my Step Mom at 23 and the last 5 years my Dad. During the 5 years I lost my Aunt and Uncle too. It's been a very tough 5 years losing so many lose ones. I understand that now I'm 60 years old, I have lost many Aunts and Uncles along the way. It doesn't make life any easier but so much harder to try to live on without loved ones. It's all about the loneliness now. Even though I have a wife and daughter, we are not close at all. There is nothing there and after 31 years one would think a bond would be formed but it wasn't. They are more about themselves. Even over 31 years is half my life, I honestly think it's time to go our own way. It's a damn shame though but if it brings happiness then it should be done. I want the rest of my life to be happy, no drama. I hope it's out there!
Thanks Dwayne for the eye opener!
NICELY DONE.ALWAYS ENJOY YOUR WISDOM.
Thank you for your effort. No one on RUclips brings as much hurtful truth as you. God bless Dwayne.
There's a Cormac McCarthy quote that was introduced to me at a time when I was overcome with grief:
“It was the nature of his profession that his experience with death should be greater than for most and he said that while it was true that time heals bereavement it does so only at the cost of the slow extinction of those loved ones from the heart's memory which is the sole place of their abode then or now. Faces fade, voices dim. Seize them back, whispered the sepulturero [gravedigger]. Speak with them. Call their names. Do this and do not let sorrow die for it is the sweetening of every gift.”
― Cormac McCarthy, The Crossing
So very sorry for your loss. I have next to zero horse experience, but one thing that has always hit me hard is how one could have a dog or other pet and it suffer an injury and there is a lot you can do to help that dog recover. But the size and the nature of horses makes those recoveries essentially impossible. Such a hard pill to swallow.
Zero horse experience here, but I just wanted to comment on that quote from Cormac McCarthy. They say that time heals most wounds, it does but damn does it still hurt as the passage of time goes forward. Thanks for that, cheers!
I just lost my mother in law. When she became a Christian there was no doubting. A totally different person. Especially the language. No more searing. She was in a wheelchair and when I got a chance to push her I knew I was pushing LOVE. Her funeral is the 26th and 100+ Bahamians will be coming. That whole country grieves for Cynthia Collins. Your video was Spirit chosen for me. God bless you Dwayne. I'm Wayne...
Sad story about your son's horse. Totally out of our control. Never easy to lose an animal that has been a companion.
Your words about loss and regret resonate deeply. I wish I had less regret. My condolences for your loss.
I am so sorry to hear about Ray. What great words of wisdom come through the pain. ❤
Thank you Dwayne. Sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss.🥺💔 Losing an animal is never ever easy. And my heart goes out to you and your family at this very difficult time. Sending you all my love prayers for strength and courage to get through this difficult time. Respect to you.
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Thank you for posting this, Sir.
Thank you. Just what I needed to watch tonight. I appreciate your wisdom and words as always. Preparing for the future.
Sorry to hear what happened. Very sad. Thank you for your wisdom and perspective how to deal with the pain of loss.
Sincere condolences on this loss.
This was a good one Dewayne.. thank you for deciding to share it with us. I hope you and your family are doing well🤝🏻
I’m glad that you made this video, it makes good sense and is very helpful. Thank you Dewayne.
Your advice always helps thx for all you do to give us advice and understanding, so sorry for you and your families loss. ❤
I needed to hear this. Thank you Dry Creek.
I am always greatful for your insight, Dwayne. Thank you for doing this channel.
My fella passed just over a year ago now. I nursed him up till the end. And loved him threw it. His x wife inherited most of his estate and his family kicked me to the curb. Not only do I morn for the loss of my guy of 23 years but the hurt from the treatment of others.
One perfect reason to love my horses and other animals in my care. Maybe animals don't have a soal like humans but I do believe they have a soal. I know Christians all have to share their beliefs on that but it doesn't change anything. Some people say animals don't love but that dosnt change anything eather.
If a person feels it and want to believe , it's lovely and fine. Didn't hurt anyone or take away anything from anyone.
First of all, I'm sorry for your loss, Ry sounds like a great horse may she rest in peace. And at the same time I want to thank you so much, you were right, probably this video will help someone. It really helped me. I have lost many around me, but never had anyone who could properly help me through my sadness, my regret. I feel more hopeful for my future, that I will be able to deal with my loss. Grandma was my best friend. so, thanks for being here on RUclips. 🙏🏼💛
I am so deeply sorry Dewayne and Deanna for this accident and loss of your beautiful horse… well done for getting through the video without becoming too choked, not an easy thing to have done for us… (silent tears trickled here) thank you for this very much needed poignant and extraordinarily timed message today… much gratitude to you both as always🙏❤️
Sorry for your loss, thank you and God bless y'all.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of us. Your time and wisdom is much appreciated.
🙋So sorry for your loss. 😢Bless her heart 🐎 and yours as well. Thank you for sharing. God Bless.
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your horse. I know how hard that can be. Two weeks ago, I had to put a horse down who had been a personal friend of ours for many years. Ol' Tom was one of those rare horses; a friend, a teacher, curious and always into something. But finally, part of loving that old horse was to look after him when it was obvious that he was ready to go. It's part of having these magnificent creatures, I guess, but it's not easy.
Great chat today. There is a lot in life that causes us pain. You are so correct to remember the good times and joy of what someone or something that gives us that joy cause it allows you to let go easier. Reflecting on the trauma of the loss go only take you to a dark place.
Dewayne I am sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on dealing with loss.
I lost my grandmother last month, in the day of my wedding... And these words really help
I really appreciate this video. Loss on a farm is hard to deal with, and not many people talk about it. Thank you
Very well said and helps a lot of people including myself.
Thank you so much for this video...I needed this.
Thanks for your help!
Just buried my 16 year old black lab last year and I can tell I’m gonna have to burry my going to be 16 year old yellow lab this year! All that matters is they lived their best life’s!!!💪🦅💯🇺🇸
That's a great way to look at things. Goodness I know it's so hard to lose your companions but the way you talk I'm sure they had a great life with you and they wouldn't want you to be sad. Sending love
Thank you, for this very touching and thoughtful post. The choice of words; the emphasis and inflection are so heartfelt. I'll only add to your words...they strike close to home in many ways...and provide consolation to how a life should be reflected on and well lived.
Thank you for this video. It’s helping a lot of us who silently suffer with excruciating grief ❤
Thanks, this is what I come for when I visit your channel.
I, too, lost my father last year. I appreciate your words and your perspective. Peace to you as well.
Same, my friend! I lost Dad last year with the wound being still fresh, I hope your pain eases with time, it can be tough bearing it but they would have wanted us to go on.
God bless you, Dwayne. So sorry to hear about her, sir.
Sorry to hear about your horse , wish you always all the best ❤
The parallels here are profound. This man gives us out wisdom for free; keep an open ear. Thank you.
thank you, and God bless y'all.
Well said ...
My sincerest condolences on the loss of Ray . Do not carry the weight of sorrow , or regret . Only remember and carry the positive memeory of having experienced such a wonderful animal , or person . And you did the right thing to alleviate her pain . It is a Test of our "character" , to do the right thing . Remember ? The Test is not he test .
Beautiful reflection, Dewayne.
I saw the title and immediately clicked. HOW are you this on time? I just lost a very close friend of mine a week ago and the grief has been eating me up. I know this is going to be a great watch so thank you in advance, Dwayne 🙏❤️
Oh, that was sad, just a great and wise talk! BLESS YOU!
Thanks again for sharing your wisdom sir
Thank you Dwayne.
This really helped me.♥️🙏🏾
Hey Dwayne. I’m sorry for your loss. Not sure what I can do for you seeing as how we’ve never met and we live many miles apart. So, I’ll pray for you and your family.
Funny how God works. The timing of this video is nothing short of divine. Just last night I typed into the search, “dry creek wrangler school loss”. And just now I see this video. I’m learning to live without now. It’s hard, man. Thank you, Dwayne.
I lost my best riding horse on new years day to colic (intestinal twist) and boy did it tear me apart- but healing comes much faster and more completely with no regrets ♥️ I loved that mare, and she knew it beyond the shadow of a doubt.
Itshe had a wonderful albeit too short a time here with my family and I - and now I'm redirecting that love and dedication to another rehabilitation horse who I hope will be just as wonderful.
Thank you for this message Dewayne 🤠 it is much appreciated.
As a person named Ray… I am sorry for your loss. Great message.
i’m dealing with a bad loss right now, not only a breakup but both my grandfathers are dealing with very serious health issues that are severely limiting the amount of time we have left with them, you have been an absolute shining star in my life during this time…. I have been watching all of your videos recently and they have helped me tremendously, they really are helping me get out of this dark hole that i have been in for a long while… for that I will always appreciate you and I will always be a great supporter of your videos, they are a bright star in a world full of darkness….
Thank you Dewayne for this message.
I’m very happy you posted this. My mother was very recently given between 3 months and a year to live, so she most likely won’t even make it to see me graduate highschool. But for some reason now, I personally don’t feel that much loss. I’m losing one person. She’s the most important person in the world to me, but she’s just one person. But she’s gonna be losing everyone, her mom, me, her husband, her dog, everyone and everything and every dream she ever had or knew. I’m just not sure what to do. I feel like the guilt is gonna destroy me, especially as a young man who’s already been experiencing lots of stress with highschool and adjusting into being a fully grown and emotionally hardened man. I’ll finish this video when that time comes, and hopefully it will help in some way.