What It's Like To Be Married To An Abusive, Active JW.

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  • Опубликовано: 26 ноя 2024

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  • @paradisefound3536
    @paradisefound3536 3 года назад +16

    The parallels in some elements of your story to mine are bordering on spooky. And yes, there was a drunken woman who tried to warn me in a bathroom. Whatever creates these monsters, for sure the cult enables and emboldens them and simultaneously raises us to be the perfect little punching bag that will stay quiet. Can't wait to read your book. You're my hero.

    • @aisforapostate2740
      @aisforapostate2740  3 года назад +6

      Awww this is extremely kind of you to say, I am glad that I can be a voice for so many of us. I am heartbroken that I have to be, because there is/was such rampant abuse of women and girls within the confines of the cult.
      Took a long time to realize I was not alone, and now I just want others to know they are not either. We are incredibly strong and I am confident we are the ones that will bring an end to this organization!! Appreciate your support very much!

    • @cozettetyler149
      @cozettetyler149 2 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your story, I grew up with an abusive father. He was not a witness. He was mostly abusive towards my mom. Cursing arguing at her. He was not an alcoholic. He had mental issues and personality disorders with dealing with people. My mom is a very dedicated Jehovah's witnesses since 1971. She stayed with this abusive man since from 1958-2003. My dad moved to Indianapolis Indiana in 2003. My parents later divorce in 2010. My dad raped my sister who was handicap couldn't talk before he moved. After they divorce both of my parents stayed in contact with each other as if they were dating. They would call each other on the phone go out to dinner. My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer he died March 17 2021. When I was a witness your taught I believe that in God's new world there will be no wickedness . But because the way Jehovah's witnesses organization deals with abuse. A peaceful new world is a question mark to me ?. I be honest with you, I see both of my parents being together in God's kingdom like dating each other. Just like it was when they both divorced. This has taught me a lesson about my dad and sister who was abusive stay out of business that isn't yours. Because your family and the Jehovah's witnesses organization will not support you your fighting a loosing battle.

    • @vusimngomezulu2500
      @vusimngomezulu2500 Год назад

      Jesus sent you to preach about the JW's????????‽

    • @vusimngomezulu2500
      @vusimngomezulu2500 Год назад

      ​@@aisforapostate2740 Jesus sent you to preach about the JW's??????????

  • @catmeow333
    @catmeow333 3 года назад +5

    God. Your story sounds so familiar. Being young I hoped for change but the roller coaster ride was insane. A guy who is nice one minute then punching out windows during the night, no memory of the awful things said, the stabbing, getting up in your face, emptying the bank account. The one I was married to wasn’t a witness. When we split up I deserved support from the congregation instead of soft shunning. Nothing soft about it. The fact that you and I tried doesn’t make us stupid, it just makes us very wise. My family was the Waltons growing up, I didn’t even know how to recognize domestic abuse. Years ago I was too ashamed to tell anyone.

  • @rachelortiz147
    @rachelortiz147 3 года назад +6

    You are so strong and I’m so happy that you’re out of both the cult and the marriage.

  • @LJDavisfamily6
    @LJDavisfamily6 3 года назад +5

    Damn, girl, interesting story. I feel you in every way with your marriage. Looking forward to more videos!

  • @slicgonochickhunt4722
    @slicgonochickhunt4722 3 года назад +11

    WOW! Thank you for sharing.
    You dodged a bullet. Your ex sounds extremely jealous of your stability to stay focused and hold down a job. He belittled , humiliated you even in public so he could feel better about himself.
    This is a very insecure person bordering on narcissist.

  • @scarletapostate618
    @scarletapostate618 3 года назад +3

    💜💜💜 - Thank you for your courage, vulnerability, & integrity. I'm going to continue to "reach for the happiness". 😌

  • @jamiewasserman5585
    @jamiewasserman5585 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for being so open and honest, JoHannah

  • @adrianagomezdeknott6616
    @adrianagomezdeknott6616 3 года назад +6

    You are an amazing, intelligent, strong and very charismatic woman. I am so pleased for you. Well done for getting away from all this bs. I totally agree that the JW cult enables narcissistic men with a lack of self confidence to abuse women. Looking forward to reading your book. Good luck with the writing! x

  • @brianblake9428
    @brianblake9428 3 года назад +3

    You are such a strong and positive lady after all that you have gone through in life. I am pleased that you have escaped that terrible cult and have now found happiness. Congratulations. Brian, Welwyn, England.

  • @houmanshirvani4961
    @houmanshirvani4961 3 года назад +7

    All JW women who have already awoken are are on the verge of being awake, but your husband is still loyal to organisation, do not hesitate divorce your husbands you definitely will find a better husband out of this cult

  • @grammawpayton
    @grammawpayton 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for an extremely interesting and very well-done video. Impressive and so intelligent. I'm happy you are free now! Also looking forward to your book♥

  • @mistimbida4040
    @mistimbida4040 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing that story. I’m an ex-JW, disassociated since 2015, and I know that what you’re saying is absolutely true. There’s so many people at the Hall stuck in these marriages. Thank goodness you left (the marriage and the cult). I never married in the cult (my husband has never been a JW) and I’m so glad. I did study with an older woman and she was so protective of me, thank goodness. She’s was an elder’s wife and she had alllll the dirt, of course. If she even saw me talking to a guy she would swoop in and give him a hard stare. She would often tell me about women who didn’t marry well at the Hall.

  • @joejacobs3537
    @joejacobs3537 11 месяцев назад +1

    I was verbally abused by a Ministerial Servant throughout my membership...I hate that mother fu****

  • @janiececooper6758
    @janiececooper6758 3 года назад +4

    OMG manipulative carbon copy cut out, I was only in 4 years after being pursued by an active witness @ work, marrying him and you are literally speaking my words verbatim, so glad to have found this on IG, other ex jw are sharing you, I am faded! Can I share my story as I am still trying to escape, I married the same exact person, I went to elders about the same exact behavior and physical abuse, can't keep a job, lascivious everywhere but it's ok I am the problem not him, nothing he does is wrong, apparently I am not submissive enough! 😑

    • @aisforapostate2740
      @aisforapostate2740  3 года назад +1

      It’s been healing to know I’m not alone but also difficult to know so many fellow, beautiful women went through such pain.
      Thank you for sharing!!!

    • @janiececooper6758
      @janiececooper6758 3 года назад

      @@aisforapostate2740 It is sad any of us can relate to this at all but as someone who is still enduring it, trying my best to get away your content is a lifesaver! ⚘

  • @TheMommakitkat
    @TheMommakitkat 3 года назад +3

    I'm glad you got out of that, you're a survivor ❤️

  • @laymanphil8513
    @laymanphil8513 3 года назад +2

    Always more testimonials, always more activism, always more videos, always more voluntary withdrawals.

  • @aloramermaidful
    @aloramermaidful Год назад

    It's normal to delay grieving, especially so young. I didn't really fully grieve my mom's passing until I was in my early 20s.
    My mom had cancer, knew she was dying. I dated a witness boy at 16 to make her happy. She had my marriage, trade school all planned out. She left me some insurance $, my "fiance" was going to buy a motorcycle with my $. When she died, I broke up with him 😅 So glad I didn't ignore the 1st red flag.
    Blessings to you ❤

  • @rogerfrazier4240
    @rogerfrazier4240 3 года назад +3

    Im sorry you went through that

  • @michellejarvis7878
    @michellejarvis7878 3 года назад +3

    Horrendous. Just get over it? This is evil. You were a child. Families where this happens want to pretend nothing happened. Nobody wants to deal with the crime- the trauma, the victim, the abuser, it's a mess. But the right thing to do is to stand up for the victim. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. You are a wonderful survivor.

  • @JuanPerez-qg5pp
    @JuanPerez-qg5pp 3 года назад +3

    Hola, bendiciones, im glad to knpw about you

  • @janiececooper6758
    @janiececooper6758 3 года назад +4

    I think they give the brothers a book of excuses because that was the only thing mine is good at, lying and excusing his behavior.

  • @monicalinson3682
    @monicalinson3682 3 года назад +5

    So many flags that you were married to a covert narcissist. I was raised by one, then married one.
    I’d love to chat sometime.
    EDIT: also JW apostate 👍🏽

    • @aisforapostate2740
      @aisforapostate2740  3 года назад +1

      I just keep being astounded at the number of women reaching out w/such similar stories. I feel like a broken record saying that we feel like we're alone through the trauma events, but its just INSANE to realize we were anything but (sadly).
      And yes, would love to connect! Feel free to send an email anytime: aisforapostate@gmail.com
      And/or follow me on IG. :)

  • @cozettetyler149
    @cozettetyler149 2 года назад +1

    Happiness is always waiting I grew up with a abusive father. But he was n a witness

  • @patricialawson-df4wo
    @patricialawson-df4wo Год назад +1

    It wouldn't have made a difference if the elders had understood the levity of your abuse. This point needs to be accelerated for the public and the viewers.

  • @sharongarner7806
    @sharongarner7806 3 года назад +3

    They do have brother's love but the sisters are throwing under the bus they don't really care about us as sisters.

  • @sharongarner7806
    @sharongarner7806 3 года назад +3

    Your storey sounds so similar to what I went through what the JW teach is true they do have

  • @hudsonchalmers6504
    @hudsonchalmers6504 3 года назад +2

    My sister in law did not realise it either

  • @WendiRenay
    @WendiRenay 3 года назад +5

    When I got dfd I was the same. Super “studier” 🙄

  • @elenajones3287
    @elenajones3287 3 года назад +2

    I can see similarities between your situation and mine. I would love to message with you to exchange stories.

    • @aisforapostate2740
      @aisforapostate2740  3 года назад +1

      Hi!
      Feel free to shoot me an email!
      Aisforapostate@gmail.com

  • @JuanPerez-qg5pp
    @JuanPerez-qg5pp 3 года назад +1

    Lets raise pur voice
    NEVER FORGET BETHSARIM
    ALWAYS REMEMBER MALAWY

  • @patricialawson-df4wo
    @patricialawson-df4wo Год назад +1

    I hope you're involved in therapy. I feel it made a major shift in my jw experience.

    • @aisforapostate2740
      @aisforapostate2740  Год назад

      Thanks! I have been, most of my videos are simply retelling of my experiences. I am in a great place in life & headspace. This is just to let others know they’re not alone 🥰

  • @MobileMedia-y7i
    @MobileMedia-y7i Год назад

    Did you date the guy at work who told you that you were funny?

  • @Doris1888
    @Doris1888 Год назад

    None of this is funny but I can't help thinking he probably misses you supporting him. Now he will have to get a job and pay his own bills.🤣

  • @Goonapachamoothoo
    @Goonapachamoothoo Год назад

    I am a good Jw marry me.

  • @vusimngomezulu2500
    @vusimngomezulu2500 Год назад

    Jesus sent you to preach about the JW's??????????

    • @marwatson7408
      @marwatson7408 Год назад +1

      Hi Vusi 👋missed you babe how are you doing???? This video has nothing to do with that she is talking about being in a abusive relationship and the elders don’t care.

    • @vusimngomezulu2500
      @vusimngomezulu2500 Год назад

      @@marwatson7408 But you ignored my simple question 🤣

    • @marwatson7408
      @marwatson7408 Год назад +1

      @@vusimngomezulu2500 She talking about domestic violence which has nothing to do with your question and by the way what is the answer seeing that you ask the same question all the time.