LONELY IN THE PHILIPPINES. EXPATS BEING LONELY
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- I SAW SOME EXPATS ALONE ON THE BLVD IN DUMAGUETE THIS CHRISTMAS EVE AND WAS THINKING HOW LONELY IT CAN BE HERE IN THE PHILIPPINES IF YOUR ALONE NO FRIENDS NO GIRLFRIEND AND NO FAMILY.
I TALK ABOUT MAKING A FEW FRIENDS CALLING HOME AND JUST HOW HARD IT IS WHEN YOUR ALONE IN THE PHILIPPINES
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Living in the Philippines has made many changes to my life.
Money,Health, my outlook on life and my happiness
I retired to the Philippines in Feb. 2022.
First lived in Panglao Bohol moved to Dumaguete May 2022.
So blessed to have found Janet
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Remember being alone doesn’t equate to feeling lonely. I’ve spent the past 28 years on my own at Xmas.
I’m in the Phils now and get along very well with Filipinos daily but have no need to be always in a group to be happy 👍
Oh yeah I agree. Being ALONE is. not the same as being LONELY. Getting married and becoming an ATM machine for her family - I’m rather be ALONE. No doubt about that!
Alone, but not lonely is more common than most think these days. Even when I was married, I was always working throughout the holidays, and the few times I was able to get a holiday off, it was still returning to an empty house, as the wife and her kid would go to her family's home without mentioning it. I think that was more difficult to deal with than the empty house. I think the last time I spent a holiday with family was... ah, Thanksgiving 1983, just before heading out to start my military career.
I think I'd be more stressed if I had to spend time with others, aside from a work environment, these days. Now, during World Cup - that's a time to share the experiences with others who share that experience! Not that I've ever turned anyone away, and have brought others into my home to share some time and a good meal. Just sharing some time to talk and listen can make it a bit easier, especially during the holidays. Enjoying time alone isn't the same as being uncaring.
I agree. I've been solo for ten years and I am perfectly happy. I'm alone but not lonely. Respectfully, I think Mike may be projecting how HE would feel being alone.
Agree with you. I enjoy the peace and freedom of being alone. But having a really good friend is always good.
Agree
From what I've seen, there's a big difference between Christmas in the U.S. and in the Philippines. Here in the states for the most part it's just a huge commercialized high pressured event where you're required to spend more than you should to please people that don't really need the gift. The Philippines seems to be more of pure joy for the season and family, I'm glad for you Mike that you finally found the happiness you missed out on for so long
Thank you Carter
Well said!
Mike, an honest, heartfelt example of being alone anywhere. In many cases, as we get older, we develop ways of hiding, who and what we are. Many of us are shadows behind objects that stand out. Your true, compassion and honesty makes great content.
Thank you keep up the good work!
thanks for sharing
We are all made different. When I'm with someone, it can be a bit too much, and I have the need to be alone.
Yes everybody is different. Do what makes you happy
Indeed! Sometimes I only need conversations with the voice's in my head! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Mike, you are correct. I’m a single guy. Divorced after 38 years. All my kids are grown and live far away. Lonely is a common feeling for me. I met a Filipina on line in September, visited her in Manila in October, and have talked with her everyday since. I just spent Christmas with her family in the province on-line over messenger. Such a way better feeling to be connected to her, her kids and her mom and dad. I’m looking forward to relocating to the Philippines in a few years. Thanks for your videos and happy holidays to you and Janet.
thanks for sharing
You flew all the way to the Philippines and only met one girl? I would of met many while I was there, you cheated yourself. Fly back and meet others.
@@mikejones5364 actually I like the girl, she’s beautiful and has a great personality. She has 2 great kids that I adore. Next trips will be to scout places to live when I relocate. She’ll meet me at these locations to learn what’s important to each of us. Heading back mid April for a 3 week stay
@@PapaDougsAdventures01 I am sure you like her, and I am sure she is beautiful with great personality. But you can find the same girl without the kids and baggage anywhere in the Philippines. Once a female in the Philippines has a kid out of wedlock they are considered no good. The local men will laugh at you behind your back since you hooked up in public with a female with illegitmate kids. It's ok to hit it and quit it with them ,but look for virgin to long term with. That's my 2 cents worth, I have dated, married, etc many girls in the Philippine, made over 20 trips.
@@mikejones5364 how could you marry many Filipino girls when there is no divorce in the Philippines? Thanks. Just wondering
It's now Monday morning here in the States. After not talking to my sister for 8 years she lives 40 minutes south of me.
She called and asked me if I would like to come for Thanksgiving dinner? I excepted her offer and the 9 of us had a great time.
So the other day she called and invited me for Christmas eve get-together. I excepted the offer and the 13 of us had a great time.
I by my self and 4 of her 5 girls her husband's sister lives next door with her husband and 10 yr old son. The 4 girls are from around 20 to 30's the oldest are twins. I thought with dad gone in 06 and mom gone in 14 and oldest brother gone in 2019 or 2020. I just couldn't pass up getting together with my sister again. We were always close and the passing of my mom and the squabble over her few belongings just wasn't worth it.
Thanks Mike for sharing your sentiments this time of year.
God has blessed you with a very good life. It's up to use to recognize it.
Hope you and all yours a great new year.
great story thanks for sharing
It's important to know your personality type. Extroverts need a lot of people around to feel happy and energized. Introverts are just the opposite. Introverts gain energy by being alone. Introverts only need 1 or 2 quality people that understand them to be happy. Holidays alone or just shorter gatherings is preferred for Introverts.
So know your personality and live for you because you deserve to be happy. You will only live once. Don't waste it.
Happy New Year everyone.
Check out personality type (Sigma male)
@@jamesmarco6914 Yes. Out of 16 personality types, that's me.
Thanks, I enjoy being alone, despite the fact that I have a big family and my own family of 3 young adult kids. I am for sure an introvert, have been all my life. I always thought of it as being a loner type guy.
@@armandodemichele1420 And there is nothing wrong with that. There are more extroverts in the world and extroverts tend to go into media for the attention so they like to frame all us introverts as future school shooters. Nothing could be further from the truth.
A good women can help fill that void make us happy however she can be a pain at time Tampo lol
Mike, you are such an empathetic soul! Thanks for all that you do. Janet is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have Janet. Cherish every moment 💗
Thanks so much
I actually love my me time... I'm too nice of a guy and most people in the Philippines are looking to gain if they are in your presence. Been traveling for over 40 plus years and thoroughly love my me time. Early exercise, nice walk, nice lunch and great peace of mind.. Don't think of any day more special than another, if you are alive, treat each day as a blessing, don't focus on anyone else to make your day! My why in the Philippines is to have a nice environment and to have my resources outlast me without needing to stress about anything... Great videos! Thanks
Thank you for sharing
Great comment. Wise man is this.
Nice, great input
i was a loner back home and im a loner here im actually glad there are no other xpats near me
as long as your happy..thanks for watching James
#metoo... Love it... Stress free life..
*Crap Game*
Hey mike. You have no idea how mind blowing was for me to was your video in the 1st time.
I am 41 years old African refugee in Germany disappointed and hopeless. I don't like the language and system but no option (am stateless refugee) specially to build family i was abut to give it up.but after i saw your video I started to deep and learned there is hope if i warked hard most of future Christmas times i can be surrounded by family. Thank you so much and happy Christmas&new year.
Keep working hard, I'm sure eventually your life will be exactly as you want it to be
God be with you
go back to africa then
Well spoken Mike
As a guy that moved in Australia from the east coast to perth for a promised better life,
job (empty promises it the most isolated city in Australia) with a community that’s dysfunctional completely and downright unwelcoming to people from out side
I’ve had 20 + years alone and really think getting out is what’s needed
I’ve really learned self reliance
At a significant financial emotional cost and many other things too
However I keep trying to improve myself on my meagre tradesmen’s wage (here the women regardless of if your a good guy or not are shallow and drawn to the wealth status and other shallow things
I have nothing to offer an Australian women regardless of race once they come here you see the challenges caused mostly by the endless pursuit of the predator types with money
I long for a simple life
thank you for sharing
i been to perth its a nice place too…
I am from the UK and I found the women the same as you describe. 8 years ago I met a wonderful filipina who is now my wife. Filipinos have an old fashioned view and appreciate what you bring to the table. Try FilipinaCupid.
Hi Mike, I came over from Ann's Channel. I appreciate your honesty and compassion for others.
Thanks for your support Craig
Hey Mike/Janet, very nicely said, I agree, you make it what it is, be social, and live, good intentions around the right people will always result in a positive and good outcome, thanks for the nice words, Mike.
Well said!
Very accurate video. The 1st time I arrived in the Philippines alone in the hotel on New Year's Eve, it was the saddest loneliest feeling in my life. Listening to the fireworks and trying to sleep so I could wake up and start a new adventure.
thanks for sharing
I love being alone,but not lonely, I can always think of something to do or take a nap, watch TV or email my relatives and friends. There is one Expat who is married, have their home built and he is busy all the time tending their garden with variety of tropical fruits, he is always joyful, I think he is one happy man.
thanks for sharing
I live now and have lived like a hermit for years and that is by choice. My Appalachian family does really try to draw me out of my cocoon but I've managed to maintain my peace and quiet which is why I ride my motorcycles. That provides me with a privacy cushion outside of the confines of the house. Now, I'm 30 plus months into a relationship with my Filipina and we use Messenger everyday and when I visited there in April-May we were around a lot of her family and friends. The food is wonderful and so was the company. I'm coming back in less than 30 days now and hopefully we will get married in February ( Valentine's Day) and I plan on staying a while. Love your vlog. Her family is encouraging me(us) to create a vlog. God Bless, catch ya over there. We're BOTH in our 60's so we enjoy the same things. We both love to cook.
thanks for sharing
@@mikesphilippineretirement I'm happiest there Mike.
Glen,most of these guys which are older seem to be with much younger women. You are the exception.
@@richspurlock24 I know and I swear I'm blessed because we met on line through Filipina Cupid but she was in the first 8 matches they sent me and we've never looked back. Thanks Rich. There are a lot of Spurlocks in Eastern Kentucky and Southwest Virginia.
@Glen Osborne yes seems like it's a common name there. I was on a bike trip and came into a small town called Spurlockville..guess if you have your own post office you can name it..
Just stumbled across your channel Mike. Beautiful messge. Resonated with me. I left Canada because I was feeling alone while living around family. Been in Thailand for the last two months and it’s the same here. Guess it starts with being outgoing and going to meet people’s make that first step to introduce yourself to others and get busy doing what you enjoy.
Thank you for that wise reminder! Will take that advice to heart!
Happy new year and god bless my friend!
Lorenzo.
As a fellow 🇨🇦been retired 10yrs now..just turned 65 active fit .. your comment to mike resonated with me.Off to Philippines/SEA in 2023 😎
Welcome! and Thank you for your support
Hi Mike, Nice empathetic very caring video. Thanks for thinking of others. That’s a rare quality
Holidays by yourself is so lonely!!!!!!! Ya hit the nail on the head!!! It sucks.
yes it does
Believe me being around a bunch of family members during the holidays can be far worse than being alone! So be careful for what you wish for, It's not difficult to be around a lot of people and still feel lonely.
Wonderful advice and from the heart Mike. Your a good Man and appreciate all the help from your videos for us guys planning to follow your footsteps soon. Thank you 😊
I appreciate that!
I might not always agree what you say, but man , what a improvement with video and audio quality this time. Keep that up. Here another thing you can improve: posture. Keep you body straight and that would make a very good impact in what you say.
Thank you for the Advice..I need all the help I can get hahaha...we got a camara nikon z 30 and some new mic's....
I'm speechless, good video Mike 👍👍👍👍👍
Wow, thanks!
@@mikesphilippineretirement sir yes sir you're welcome, you have me shouldn't tears over here
Nice video Mike - good and timely advice! (PS - I’m the guy who commented upon ‘bored’ ex-pats in PH - some weeks ago.) 12:20
Thanks for watching. Thank you for taking the time to make a comment
I have a summer mountain home off grid and long away. Up there with the bears and the wolves. Go there myself. Been doing it 30 years now. I also live alone. People ask me don't you get lonely up there by yourself? My response is I'm with nature. And they say But don't you get lonely? Tell them again I'm with nature. They just don't get it. How can I be alone when I'm with nature? Happy, content and comfortable. I don't need someone to be happy. I came into this world without anyone or anything and will leave the same way. You will too. I didn't make that rule. Just the way it is. I'm ok. Hope you are too.
thanks for your insight William
The best holidays I ever had were in the Philippines in my wife's province. Filipinos are the best at having a great time with little resources.
music food and family
When you are in the Philippines try to reach out to people. Start a conversation to Filipinos and expats but be selective with people. However, when you found a friend treasure them and they will be with you all the way. It's a matter of knowing people and don't be a stranger!! Filipinos are very friendly and will treasure you in return. Takes time but reaching out is a good start!! Goodluck!!
thanks for sharing
Hi Mike. This video really touched me so much about loneliness. I have just spent this Christmas alone since my kids left this year. Got married to a fabulous filipina this year who has been my long distance partner for 10 years. Waiting for her visa application to be approved to join me in NZ. It's really tough being newly married to an amazing woman yet still be apart. Hope one day to visit Dumaguete and possibly get a home their in the future, looks a great place to live and settle and make good friends. Happy new year to you and thanks for the videos, nice work. Regards
Thanks for sharing and if you make it to Dumaguete look me up
Makes me miss the Philippines 🇵🇭 as here in the States it ain’t festive either. Family text each other Merry Christmas and don’t even call or visit and exchange gifts. All my friends and family are in heaven.
Times have changed, God Bless Charles
@@mikesphilippineretirement yes the certainly have. Worst mistake of our lives was to come to the states to raise our daughter. We are unhappy here, she’s a High Honors student excelling so what’s one to do? I or we decided to sacrifice until she’s out of college and grounded. Thanks for bringing us home through your vlogs. 🙏🏻❤️☝🏻🇵🇭💪🏻
Lovely video Mike. I’m sure you gave many people a lift in their spirits. Greetings from New Zealand!
thank you for watching
Hey Bud hope your doing well and have a great holiday and 2023 take care
Happy Holidays
Mike , your sincerity touched my heart in a huge way ! I am very very happy for you , that you met Janet ! I’ll be over this year to start over ! Cheers
THANK YOU Cheers
To be honest, I’ve been through hell in the US for decades. I have invited my brother who lives in the same city for holidays and he doesn’t even respond. Instead he drinks. I took care of my elderly parents for decades and my siblings never even called. I have no family. I have spent my life helping others and my family. I just spent a year caring for my wonderful partner until she died and no one, NO ONE, friends or family ever called or helped. Not having someone to be with on holidays is nothing compared to what I’ve been through. I have been there twice and other SE Asian counties by myself and I was NEVER lonely. I found more smiles, hugs, genuine connections on my delicious journeys. American is not what it used to be. I am moving abroad to give myself a real chance. I am a very good man and smart and friendly. I’ll be ok. I love myself. I have always spent the holiday’s volunteering. That’s the way to spend the holidays. Thanks Mike
thanks for sharing....
Being lonely can have adverse effects on the mind even here in Australia we live so far away from family and we still had no reply or contact with our kids it's the first time that happened it was sad but we're now planning to move out to sth East Asia to start a new life and enjoy a retired life with new friends hopefully . keep safe there be happy enjoy your new life there mike
thanks for sharing
You are a great guy with a good heart and I hope I get to meet you after I arrive.. I love being alone and I have never been lonely in my life.. after I got divorced and after I went through about 10 girlfriends I decided I needed some alone time and the last 6 years I have lived in a place where nobody knows where I'm at and I have loved it.. about 3 years ago I met a province girl from Cebu Island and after I arrive we will be together for the rest of our lives.. I'm sure I'm going to like it because Filipino girls I think make the best wives in the world.. keep up the great videos👍👍👍
great point, i was living in thailand, been an expat i did feel lonely, was hard to find & make genuine friends
thanks for sharing
You are a good man! Your words are right! I wish you and Janet a long life together!
I appreciate that
Ive been on The Fence with Mike.... That was ... I believe So Genuine... Sinecere.... Im thinking of Retiring in The Philippines....
Simply..... Your Candid Talk Here just Resonated.... and I appreciate it So Much!!!!
Happiest of New Years... and Healthiest too... to you Mike... Beautiful Janet.... and your Friends and Family.... that was So Heartfelt....
and....................... I Needed That....... I Think(Hope) Ill be a good Fit there.....
Thank You
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Great comments. As a widower and in the same situation now as you talk in the Philippines. I agree and understand. Many of these single individuals living in the Philippines should try and be part of church or civic groups and help the children in buying Christmas gifts. Providing financial assistance to struggling families in the Philippines. Even, in America too. Me, I am not the type that get hung up on being lonely. Just venture out and do something. Thanks for your concerns. I hope those in the Philippines being single and lonely help more less fortunate there. GOD speed.
thanks for sharing
Nothing like helping others to take the mind off yourself, good comment David
Agree👍
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You are right. Service to others is the best way to make yourself happy which is God’s way. Even just talking to people who seem to be lonely makes the giver and the receiver happy.
Thank for this video, the spirit of the video was true and real! Mike if and when my wife get the chance to visit Dumageti, would you mind if we visited you and Janet as well?
love to meet both of you
Thanks Mike. I really appreciate your message here. Simple and from the heart. Happy New Year to you and yours.
Happy new year!
Being lonely is a state of mind one can be surrounded by lots of people and be the loneliest person on earth 🌎
Trying to make friends or find a relationship when you feel lonely in my opinion is not the best way to do things a lot of the time we will end up running
into the wrong kind of people.
One has to learn to make themselves their best friend.
We shouldn't put our happiness and contentment into the hands of other people.
Finding genuine friends takes time its best to go about our day to day business and other things such as finding friends will fall into place.
Thanks for sharing
thank you for sharing also
Mike you have a good heart. It's nice to see someone recognizing having good fortune with friends and family.
When you live alone for too long it's not easy to cross back over. Some lone wolves are born and others are made by their environment.
Well said
First off Merry Christmas everyone! I'm lonely but don't feel bad for me, it's the way the Lord made me. I've alway been an introvert right in the middle of a big crowd. Grew up in a big family in a small house, then served on Submarines for 11 years. Then I had my own family that ended in divorce after 21 years. I like events and crowds, get togethers, love a bench and people watching, but I have a short endurance interacting with people. I want to get away as soon as I lose interest, I want to be by myself. When I was a kid I would go to my room. When I was on Subs I would go to my bunk. When I was married I would get on the computer. People (my Ex-Wife especially) think I'm being rude. But for me it's like an addict who needs to sneak away and have a smoke.
For me the worry I have about loneliness isn't that I will be unhappy I'm happiest by myself. It's what other people think of me that I fear. I've spent a whole life with people asking "Where did he go?". There's a lot of shaming that goes along with those inquiries. 99 percent of the people are showing actual concern because it's not their normal. They don't intend shame, it's in my head not their's. The difficult part is the people who love you learn to leave you alone and start assuming you don't want to come to the party and they stop asking.
I know who I am and I'm not going to change. I want the same things as everyone else but I'm only good for a couple of hours and I have to retreat to my solitude. I have a lot of reservations about getting involved with someone ever again because no one ever understood me. I just can't see a scenerio where the same pattern doesn't replay wherever I go. I make friends easily and I can catch women, but my mind aways says "Then what?" Do I want to put someone through having to learn what a weirdo I am?
U not weird at all....1 or 2 quality people is all I need.
I must have open space outdoors, dogs, trees, air...
ctsmith and Terry thanks for sharing
@@ajw9377 I've considered a lot of things. The conclusion I've come to is it doesn't matter what type of women because it's all in my head. I have expectations of how I should act in any particular gathering. What the social norm is. It might not even be the correct expectation but it doesn't matter, I'll grade myself regardless. I'll assume they think something because I'm thinking it.
And there's a lot of things that just feel like a burden to me with relationships. I don't want any burdens. I don't want to think if it's okay to do this or that weighed against what someone else might want to do.
I don't see retirement as starting over, or building anything. I see retirement as an escape from years of burden where it was my duty to care for family. The marraige ended, the kids are grown. I want to take care of me because when I look around I don't see anyone volunteering to pay Dad back.
@Mike, I really like your content sir. I also live in Vegas and am planning on coming to the Philippines. What part of Vegas did you live in? I live in Henderson. Thanks for sharing your stories.
across from the Sounthpoint casino
After living in and experiencing Las Vegas, you know there's tons of unsavory people living in short term rentals and apartments there and I would never want to be around them. Vegas isn't easy to find quality friends because it's so transient and touristy.
I'm a U.S. expat currently living in Costa Rica, I have lived all over the world my entire life. There is a difference in being alone, and being lonely! I enjoy being alone, with an occasional female lover. Being alone offers you the ability to get to know yourself, your strengths and your weaknesses! My next country to reside in will be the Phillipines.
thanks for sharing
Nie video. Nice to see an expat who looks objectively at the expat situation.
thank you Dude
Excellent points & an excellent video. I believe If you see someone alone, try to to give them company. You both might be happier.
Well said!
Mike, great advice.
Hi Mike I understand exactly what you talking about Happy New year 2023
Happy new year!
I appreciate your deep concern. God truly bless you brother!
Thanks for listening
You are correct, I am alone, the Christmas and New Years holidays are just extra days off and I’m just waiting to go back to work tomorrow.
Take care buddy. Thanks for watching
The festive season is always when loneliness is highlighted, especially in the west where it is so commercial. I’ve got used to it.
thanks for sharing
This really hit me cause I met my ex gf on fb for 3 yrs and went out there last year everything was great with us until her kid moved in with us he wasn't anything my ex told me he was said he was learning english so we could talk and I was suppose to be his step dad there turned out he knew no english at all and the gf lied to me told me to cater to him and taglog I can't speak that too old to learn yes I'm probley one of the young guys on your channel 46 yrs old my ex was 28 when I met her anyways we didn't get along in person she was trying to spend all my cash on dumb stuff for her and her kid and I put my foot down and she left me I was broke when she decided to up and leave me I reached out to a good friend there I knew for a year on fb and she came over and bought me food and helped me find my way around until the next month I could get my check to buy a plane ticket back home to california..... She wanted to be boss of everything so she put everything in her name so when I left she got stuck with the bills ect way I see it since she blew all my money on dumb crap and wouldn't pay bills with it she got stuck with the back bills after I left Even though she burned me there I Miss Her still and knowing I'll never see her again hurts me so yeah christmas was rough with out her but least I had my family here from ireland and the states here with me so greatful about that I do plan on maybe living there in 2024 after I pay off all my debt here in the states and having that friend of mine be a room mate with me so everything will be 50/50 there with us but can't seem to find a real girl there they all want to use me for money and stuff its gonna be hard finding a gf there cause most there use us f guys for money only its sad but true. I just hope I can handle it my 2nd time around there if I do move back was in angles city. nice video mike enjoyed it. Merry Christmas to u and Janet.
Only men control his own wallet in the Philippines.
Ive been there a number of times and met quite a few women that i got to know online before meeting in person. Have never met a Gold digger amongst them. I never give money to someone ive never met, but living with a girl over there, i look after her but dont let her take advantage of me. I think thats the key to success over there.
U quickly find out if she only wants ur money or is greedy.
I met a lady in Manila ( now 50, but looks about 16) i can put on to someone whose looking for a faithful loving affectionate lady. Shes quiet and a homebody. Shes really wants to live in Aust or NZ.
But im planning to live over there and wont live in Manila where she is.
Im going to stay in Leyte with a woman of 35 and see how that goes and if it doesnt pan out go to Davao. Im 64, almost of pension age, born in NZ, lived in the US and now Aust.
Hardest thing ive found to adapting to the philippines is boredom, theres no libraries to go to, to read newspapers from abroad, theres no sport to watch other than on Satellite TV, luckily im happy to ride a M/C all day to help pass the time.🏍️
Sorry dude but , learn how to create a sentence in english, very hard read.
Thanks for sharing Michael
Hello from America - I dated a Chinese woman here in America - No Christmas Tree - No Big Family dinner - They go Skiing for Christmas - I wasted 2 years with her - All she was interested in was how big my pension and social check will be when I retire - I will NEVER date another Asian woman in America again - I'm 60 years old - I need someone who truly cares about me as a person - Maybe go to the Philippines one day and rent a house for a month or two ?
thanks for sharing
There are those who can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. And then there are those who never go any where, yet never feel lonely.
thanks for sharing
I also lived in Las Vegas for years and unless you have the money to eat out, gamble, or drink there's really nothing in Vegas to do. In fact it's gotten so much more expensive than it was when I lived there. A lot of crime, pedestrian hit and runs, homeless, it's really become a toxic place. I would much prefer to be alone than to be with someone I can't stand whether it be a friend or a girlfriend.
thanks for sharing
A really good video Mike
Thank you
Shakespear said solitude is man's best friend..further..Christian men never walk alone...
Being on your own doesnt mean your lonely.
Most of guys i met on mindinao and negros on their own, liked their own space.
your right alone and lonely are 2 different things...Thanks Paul
Awesome video thanks.
Glad you liked it!
LOL @ u might not like the food but you got a family! I liked that comment!!!
Yes
Hi Mike Merry Christmas, yes I can understand but it is difficult to understand that some young guys choose to be alone in the Phillipines, in the case they are older, better having a girlfriend ard marry. I m 23 years married with my Filipina wife and love my wife and her familie. Greetings, 😀
thanks for sharing
You are the first you tuber that talks about loneliness in the Philippines with such empathy( others that talk about it you can hear a little defensives and edge in their voice like it’s uncomfortable to talk about)I could hear the emotion in your voice especially when you talked about spending holidays alone and Im glad that’s no longer the case for you. I’m a introvert so the best Christmas and thanksgiving for me is when it’s just my two daughters and granddaughter and I’m totally happy and content.
thanks for sharing
Mike, great advice no matter where you live. Happy New Year to you and Janet.
Thanks 👍
I remember being alone during Christmas in the US back in the 80s. That was tough!
It can be very hard on some people
Lonely in Panama. Newly retired. Thanks.
i am coming there in june im gonna need someone to show me the ropes when i get there you seem like a good guy look forward to meeting you take care
keep in touch..see you in June... Check out my Facebook page Mikes Philippine Retirement
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That's about the best video I have seen fir some time now about life in the Philippines.
Yes it can be lonely and particularly very much if you aren't a fool. When I am feeling lonely I have this trick.
I offer my self a very good lunch, then close my eyes and remember my self spending Christmas in cold London where nobody would talk to you .Then I feel better .🙂
Glad you shared.
Good video Mike
thank you my friends
That will be me Mike, all alone. I do not trust people easily.. With that said, thanks for the video as always
I understand
Next Christmas you're welcome to join us in our family Christmas tradition so you won't be lonely, Mike. Hang in there, you'll have the best Christmas 2023 in my hometown Iloilo City. God bless and don't be sad. New Year, new adcventures. God bless!
God Bless
Thanks Mike 😊
Happy Holidays Billy
Maayong Pasko Mike…salamat for another good video topic…im alone here in the usa but my fiancée there keeps me included twice a day and connected with friends there and here at home….hope we can meet when im back in July …God bless and keep you healthy and happy
looking forward to meeting you
one thing that you said stands out: keep busy, find something to do.
good advice my friend
Alone here even with family. Hopefully even I arrive things will be different but got to tell ya been talking too serval Flipinas ladies (Date In Asia) and it has not been a good interaction so far. After the word HI the entire conversation has been me and having a hard time getting ANY information from them.
Maybe just go back to my orginal plan and just wait till I get there!
Have a BLESSED New Year, thanks for all your videos and information over the past months!
Thats right. Most of them are really uneducated...and dim to be honest😂
thanks for sharing and God Bless
Yes... Getting the balance right Mike, is the real Key.
We are all very different in many ways, Men must understand who they are, strengths & weaknesses, what it is that they need or are looking for...coming to the Philippines is not going to solve your Issues if you yourself have not worked through what needs to be done, if your looking for the Cavalry to save your ass or a young Filipina, sadly you will be very miserable both at home or in the Philippines, people are not interested in Miserable Bastards...Get the balance right with-in first, you just may fine Life changers for the better.
We all have the Ability to Change what we are not happy with...it starts simply with expecting answers to why... Stay Strong, work hard... cheers
Thanks for sharing Kevin
I have been alone for 20 years. I have come to see life for what it really is. Enjoy everything nature,weather and the people. I am content if living alone because I choose to be alone. Without god you will always be alone. I am never alone.
thanks for sharing
i was content being alone over 20 yr i will never get married again I'm headed to a second wife
Hi sir mike good morning dont be lonely someday you can find a good friend in your neighbor stay smile always i know you missed your family out there take care and stay healthy always advance Happy new Year mike regards to your girlfriend good day
thank you
I live in Dumaguete and it's very lonely. I have a girlfriend but we don't know anyone. It's the loneliest country I've ever been too. I'm so heartbroken because I wanted to live in the Philippines since I was a kid.
Mike enjoy your travel Godbless 🙏🙏🙏
God Bless Thank you
By nature, I am an introvert. Finding a trustworthy woman would be great.
Wish you all the best
As we know from experience, life is uncertain and not always the way we want it to be. We have had some good years in our lives and some not so good, but we are still alive, and that brings hope with every new year. Most of us have already had families and are now looking for a new chapter in our lives as the book has closed on our past . The philippines or any other countries are a good way to start again, and perhaps for some, it may be just relocating in their own country. It truly takes a leap of faith to sell everything you have and move to another country, but us western men come from pioneering stock, and the new west for us lies in the far east. The passport bro or Joe is not a new thing and many before us have ventured out for new horizons . Some have succeeded, and others have failed, but to say you actually tried to do it says something about yourself. If you have nothing to lose, then you have everything to gain, so why not put that bucket list to work and take a chance on potential happiness . You only live once, so make it count . Do your research and recon mission to see potential places you could be happy. Check your financial portfolio and make a budget based on facts and needs from your research. Your age and health will be a factor along with your minimum amenities requirements like air conditioning, hot showers, flushing toilets and access to Western foods and restaurants that caiter to foreign cuisine. Transportation and parking should you choose to have your own vehicle also will dictate your home. Renting is very affordable and as you can't own property in the philippines beyond a condominium I would suggest just renting for at least 2 years before thinking about an investment and remember 50k dollars goes a long way in renting and you can't take a condo to the grave with you. Just some simple things I have picked up doing my research and always remember that this is your retirement and hard earned money, not anyone else's. Don't let anyone dictate your life or where you decide to hang your hat .
Thanks for sharing
The holidays always highlight everything
very true Michael
Just Subscribed as your a sincere man..
thank you
Moving to South Cebu in March. Good advice.
thanks for watching
Sounds like you are talking about me in the USA. They're everywhere!
yes it can happen anyplace
@Mike's Philippine Retirement
Only faith in Christ can fill that "void.". Hope you will find time to get to know him. Blessings. ❤️ I am 70, alone, but not feeling lonely.
I live outside my home country by myself. I have lived alone, and been single, for 13 years......and I love it. Not lonely at all. I have a job I enjoy, friends, hobbies and am in contact regularly with family back home. You cannot equate being alone with loneliness - two different things. You know when I felt most lonely? When I was stuck in a loveless marriage.
Thank for sharing
For many individuals, being alone is a choice. I've known many guys over the years who would have it no other way. Are they happy? You would have to ask each one individually. One shouldn't ever make suppositions about people's lifestyle choices.
Mike, check out a channel called Steve Ram on RUclips.
He covers all the latest on SS.👍
I will
Great advice my friend 🤗
Glad you think so!
Prior to Covid I was always travelling during the Christmas and New Year break and never felt lonely. But sometimes get lonely at home when I'm doing nothing. Going for a long bicycle ride normally sort that out though.
thanks for sharing
OMG...
IT IS A CHOICE
IF YOUR IN THE STATES OR ANY COUNTRY IT A DECISION YOU MAKE.
I CHOOSE TO BE ALONE THAT DOES NOT MEAN I AM DEPRESSED OR LONELY..
GOOD FOR YOU THAT YOU FOUND SOMEONE TO HELP YOU .
OBVIOUSLY YOU NEED PEOPLE NOT EVERYONE HAS YOUR NEEDS
thanks for sharing
I spent most of my younger life in the military and didn't marry until 35 so I spent plenty of Christmas by myself. The best remedy is to find people to hang out with and if that's not possible benge watch TV, you tube, go for a walk, if you can find an open restaurant dine in, alsoyoucan plan youritineraryfor upcoming trips which always makes me feel good. Just keep yourself occupied but the last thing you should do is to drink. Tomorrow is a new day. As far as those that mooch without contribution get a no and then no until they leave me alone. I don't mind making the first contribution but I expect reciprocity if not then bye bye baby.
Thanks for sharing
I was there at the boulevard a few times being alone just enjoying the sunset and seeing things and people around me. I used to work abroad for long 9 years I am originally from Iloilo but settled here in negros oriental. I don't have friends here but I kept busy myself here at home with my family since I returned home 2 months ago. Kinda hard for me but to avoid boredom just keep busy myself and focus on things in life daily basis and travel to nearby islands.
you still in Dumaguete
@@mikesphilippineretirement just got back here in Tanjay from traveling to Masbate and Iloilo for Dinagyang.
Great TRUE video, I hope to be back in Cebu late January 2023..never been to Dumaguete, my lady is a great singer from Leyte, I mean really good, she use to be lead singer in a band , but since Covid and Typhoons the band split up...Ray in the UK...INGAT
Hope everything works out. If you come to Duma stop by and say hi
@@mikesphilippineretirement Thank you I will do that...My old friend "Bill Girdlestone" lived there for many years, but had to come back to the UK as he unfortunately got dementia, so came back to Norwich city UK, but also the low British UK pension he was struggling to live in Duma as well.
When I moved to NYC in 1970, I was lonely. I made the mistake of getting married because I was lonely.
Thanks for sharing
it hits me at times Your so right
Thanks for sharing
Hello new to your channel and we hit the Bell.. we are friends on FB also..
Awesome! Thank you!
You are very welcome
Thats why the best to go to Cebu and not province because in Cebu you never ever feel lonely. Anytime you can meet a new girl in Cebu. To be honest a gf creates more problem than good in the long run because any filipina will most likely be with you for the money. You actually buy them and you buy the problems with them. So the best expat to the Philippines is like myself who never feels lonely as I like myself to be with.
thanks for sharing