I was pregnant for 9 months, and only once did it happen where he held being intimate. I felt so unloved. Yet I found the courage to set aside all of that. And find ways to be happy with my 1st son in my belly. It was the most beautiful and wonderful moment of my life. And also bitter to be with someone like him by my side, which now he is my ex-husband.
She withheld sex from me and used it as a weapon, a punishment and as a reward. Physical touch is my love language and she stripped it away from me. I found myself at night wondering why? Was I good enough? Was she attracted to me? After I started to open my eyes behind the scenes, then I learned that it was devaluation and a tool to control. After 5 years, I ended it all, told her to get out. Unfortunately, the abuse takes awhile to “reset” and it’s important not to jump into a relationship immediately after. We must find ourselves. Keep pushing forward folks!
It's not just the sex, plays an important part, but also the emotional connection. You can literally crave it at times, and they know it, that bond you want to make, pyschically and mentally, but it's just a feeling they can't realy give back, they just use it against you instead. Something wrong with these people, well that's obvious, but your really just clutching onto a something that isn't there, just took you some time to realize it, while they were sucking away at you like a leech.
@@zappamann I gotta say though, when you go past how they make you feel, thinking about it clearly, they're incredibly dull and shallow people. Once I realized what she was up to, trying to hurt me, and all those lies, I realized I had nothing in common with her, she's literally a vacuous moron - they all are, empty, dull people, just angry and messed up inside.
Add, has anybody else noticed that after hooking up with these narcissist, that all of a sudden you get all these illnesses and auto immune issues? Ever since I left it all went away..
This was my ex-wife. At first she couldn't keep her hands off of me. Months later, she'd hug and kiss on my dog that was sitting right next to me. I even told her "if you did that to me instead of the dog, things would be a lot different". She didn't care. Wound up leaving her a few months later.
Thank you so much Anoushka. You’re so right about how they behave and it is hurtful. Thank you for the education on this, your kindness and reassurance.
I'm really really suffering BADLY. I got into a relationship with someone a bit younger than me, I'm old, 68, I now realise it was totally toxic. I feel such an ass!! I was so gullible. I'm suffering , married, but marriage was loveless, no passion, no contact. She was so beautiful, why would someone, say they loved you, and in the next breath, tell you I'm off, don't want to continue. Our world needs people with empathy. ?????? It doesn't work without it.
It's awful waiting for crumbs of affection. It's had a really negative effect when considering relationships again. Suppose it causes insecure avoidant attachment styles. It's enough to feel like part of you has been deleted.
This topic hits home. I was married for twenty years and I’d ask how to make her feel connected. She’d withhold but would tell me she can’t put into words how I could make her feel connected to me. I was never good enough. She’d even complain when we eventually did have it during it.
Mine would go the other way and use it as a manipulation tactic to get me back onside after she'd been moron. I suspect its just cos I'd pretend I was more annoyed than I was and id also make out i didn't like being manipulated physically in that way. Which was a fucking lie on my part 😂😂😂 I wonder if that's what it is though. They'll go whichever way with it they feel they can get control. It's always control. I guess that's the worst part about all this. Turns you into someone you don't like.
Yep. Almost 12 months to the day from when I met him everything changed. We went from a very passionate loving relationship to nothing at all over the space of a weekend 😮 he told me there was no problem or reason and wouldn’t talk about it.
Married to one for thirty three years. Did not realise until we became married, believe it or not. By then too late. A year ago I discovered the concept of “grey rock”. She hasn’t changed much but I am now able to cope with her.
I never got that far, it was entirely pyschological for me, she was so nice to me at first then turned cold. Made me feel good, but I soon realized she was trying to hurt me, even make me jealous, and those excuses, lies and stories were so feeble, that was when it clicked on me. Happened a few times, but when this one kept leaving it open, so I'd just chase again - that's when I really felt their was something seriously wrong with her. I like to compare them to sleazy salemens really, tell you what you what to hear, give you all these promises, but never deliver, act like they're your best friend, the objective is to get you to sign on, but you're really being screw over - they couldn't care less about you, that's just the way they are, completely arrogant.
Anoushka its a fantastic video again! Thank you for that!❤ Could you pls make video about what kind of professions narcissists do mostly occupy...and also about they eyes how they look (dead eyes) and how they laugh...Its also special at them...Thank you!❤
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist I know a little bit about what you're asking. I've been meaning to make a video on that very subject- but it appears there's a high percentage of doctors that are narcissist. It also appears there's an extremely high percentage of law enforcement officers that are narcissist. And also appears there's a high percentage of politicians that are narcissist. As far as the dead eyes go, that's a really good question. I can't answer that. But I have noticed that with a lot of narcissist, {I haven't even researched it yet} but I hear that when the narcissist changes or The Mask drops, their eye colors change, the color is dull..Also, when they rage and get angry the color is black like a demon. So a lot of people think that maybe there's something to be said for possession by demons.
My ex female covert narcissist wants sex all the time at first and then she shut down emotionally but not sexually and and after awhile I would feel empty and drained after sex because there was no connection and intimacy and I can't just have sex and not feel the connection. I don't understand why or how anyone can go from 100 to 0 like it's nothing and not care about the person's feelings that they are supposed to be in love with and it was very painful when I realized she never cared about me at all and I was just a sexual object for her to use when she felt like a. At the end of the relationship she started to withhold sex so I got used to not having sex and I stopped initiating when I started to feel unwanted and if she wanted sex she wouldn't communicate with me and would explode on me because I didn't try to have sex with her. On November 2nd she wanted to have sex and I don't know so I went to sleep and she went into a. Narcissistic rage that lasted until the next morning. She was screaming and throwing things in the bedroom while I was still sleeping and asked me for my bank card because she knew that I had enough and was ready to leave her and when I didn't give it to her she got physically abusive so I walked away literally from my home and left my truck there that I never got back and I never went back to her. Yesterday was a year exactly since I left and my mental, emotional and physical health are better but I'm a long way from being healed but at least I have more inner peace than I've had in years. Thank you so much for your helpful videos. You and others that make videos on narcissistic abuse have really helped me to understand why I went through so much hell that it's not my fault and I didn't deserve it so thanks to you and others from the bottom of my heart
Mine said all we had was good sex bc we were basically fwb for the last 5 years after 11 years off and on. Then a couple years ago he started withholding sex, turning down spontaneous booty calls, stopped flirting with me, then told me to stop sending sexy pics and flirty texts. Then he told me to date other people if I wanted sex so bad. Caught him cheating online again every time he’d cause a fight. Insanity.
This was the most hurtful, damaging thing, to me!!!! He was the one to initiate sex. At first he wud use excuses, " Oh my hernia hurts", oh my shoulder hurts. There r sum things he did to me that r too personal to say here.
There was a time when we both lost our jobs and in search for new. She had to study for a test. While I help watch our child ect. For a whole week we stood together and had sex once. She did nothing but sit with her laptop. Or kept our son home from daycare a couple times. She even said she may dress sexy after a shower and she didn’t. To mess with my head. One day we had a great time taking kids out to play. Later in the night she kicks me out of her apartment. I try to communicate asking why what’s going on. No explanation. Stuff like this happened a lot. She can brag our sex is good yet she will withhold it. It’s only convenience for them. And sometimes it’s because they are having sex and attention from someone else. Which I found out she was.
oh yes, ma’am this did happen to me for some Reason my ex was blaming me for hurting them and that they just could not have sex with me anymore so my response was OK. I won’t ask again and I didn’t because in the first place it wasn’t all that to begin with and I can do better than they could do I know that’s too much information that I just had to put that in there thank you.
I was pregnant for 9 months, and only once did it happen where he held being intimate. I felt so unloved. Yet I found the courage to set aside all of that. And find ways to be happy with my 1st son in my belly. It was the most beautiful and wonderful moment of my life. And also bitter to be with someone like him by my side, which now he is my ex-husband.
She withheld sex from me and used it as a weapon, a punishment and as a reward. Physical touch is my love language and she stripped it away from me. I found myself at night wondering why? Was I good enough? Was she attracted to me?
After I started to open my eyes behind the scenes, then I learned that it was devaluation and a tool to control. After 5 years, I ended it all, told her to get out.
Unfortunately, the abuse takes awhile to “reset” and it’s important not to jump into a relationship immediately after. We must find ourselves. Keep pushing forward folks!
It's not just the sex, plays an important part, but also the emotional connection. You can literally crave it at times, and they know it, that bond you want to make, pyschically and mentally, but it's just a feeling they can't realy give back, they just use it against you instead. Something wrong with these people, well that's obvious, but your really just clutching onto a something that isn't there, just took you some time to realize it, while they were sucking away at you like a leech.
@@dcikaruga yes absolutely. The lack of sex resulted in the lack of connection between 2 people. It damaged the entire relationship
@@zappamann I gotta say though, when you go past how they make you feel, thinking about it clearly, they're incredibly dull and shallow people. Once I realized what she was up to, trying to hurt me, and all those lies, I realized I had nothing in common with her, she's literally a vacuous moron - they all are, empty, dull people, just angry and messed up inside.
Exactly Anoushka. They want you to beg for it. So sad. Nothing is ever enough with narcissists. Great video Anoushka!
They want you to beg so they can laugh behind your back as they are getting s*x elsewhere!
It also makes it easier to manipulate n control you!
Add, has anybody else noticed that after hooking up with these narcissist, that all of a sudden you get all these illnesses and auto immune issues? Ever since I left it all went away..
There's a book about this called When The Body Says No.
Also, withholding _"I love you."_ If only I could turn back time - wish I knew then what I know now...
This was my ex-wife. At first she couldn't keep her hands off of me. Months later, she'd hug and kiss on my dog that was sitting right next to me. I even told her "if you did that to me instead of the dog, things would be a lot different". She didn't care. Wound up leaving her a few months later.
Thank you so much Anoushka. You’re so right about how they behave and it is hurtful. Thank you for the education on this, your kindness and reassurance.
Probably because they have too much supply going on.
I'm really really suffering BADLY. I got into a relationship with someone a bit younger than me, I'm old, 68, I now realise it was totally toxic. I feel such an ass!! I was so gullible. I'm suffering , married, but marriage was loveless, no passion, no contact. She was so beautiful, why would
someone, say they loved you, and in the next breath, tell you I'm off, don't want to continue. Our world needs people with empathy. ?????? It doesn't work without it.
It's awful waiting for crumbs of affection. It's had a really negative effect when considering relationships again. Suppose it causes insecure avoidant attachment styles. It's enough to feel like part of you has been deleted.
It's intended to make you feel insecure.😢💔 Eighteen years and two alienated adult children later...
This topic hits home. I was married for twenty years and I’d ask how to make her feel connected. She’d withhold but would tell me she can’t put into words how I could make her feel connected to me. I was never good enough. She’d even complain when we eventually did have it during it.
Yep. Happened to me exactly like that
Mine would go the other way and use it as a manipulation tactic to get me back onside after she'd been moron. I suspect its just cos I'd pretend I was more annoyed than I was and id also make out i didn't like being manipulated physically in that way.
Which was a fucking lie on my part 😂😂😂
I wonder if that's what it is though. They'll go whichever way with it they feel they can get control. It's always control.
I guess that's the worst part about all this. Turns you into someone you don't like.
Yep. Almost 12 months to the day from when I met him everything changed. We went from a very passionate loving relationship to nothing at all over the space of a weekend 😮 he told me there was no problem or reason and wouldn’t talk about it.
Me too 😢
They’re cheating
Bang on again! Cheers fro LA.
this clarified a lot of things about my relationship. Thank you so much
Thank you for everything ❤❤
Your very welcome 🙏
Thank you Anoushka for all you do!!!❤❤
THANK YOU ANOUSHKA!!!!! I KNOW, RIGHT? WHO DOES THAT?!?
Would like to have known this years ago . Thank you .
Thank you Anushka 🎉🎉🎉
Married to one for thirty three years. Did not realise until we became married, believe it or not. By then too late. A year ago I discovered the concept of “grey rock”. She hasn’t changed much but I am now able to cope with her.
OMG, YES!! I WILL ENJOY IT AGAIN ONE DAY 😢😊
I never got that far, it was entirely pyschological for me, she was so nice to me at first then turned cold. Made me feel good, but I soon realized she was trying to hurt me, even make me jealous, and those excuses, lies and stories were so feeble, that was when it clicked on me. Happened a few times, but when this one kept leaving it open, so I'd just chase again - that's when I really felt their was something seriously wrong with her. I like to compare them to sleazy salemens really, tell you what you what to hear, give you all these promises, but never deliver, act like they're your best friend, the objective is to get you to sign on, but you're really being screw over - they couldn't care less about you, that's just the way they are, completely arrogant.
Thank you my ex is just like this and it broke me😢 Still trying to pick up the pieces.
Anoushka its a fantastic video again! Thank you for that!❤ Could you pls make video about what kind of professions narcissists do mostly occupy...and also about they eyes how they look (dead eyes) and how they laugh...Its also special at them...Thank you!❤
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist I know a little bit about what you're asking. I've been meaning to make a video on that very subject- but it appears there's a high percentage of doctors that are narcissist. It also appears there's an extremely high percentage of law enforcement officers that are narcissist. And also appears there's a high percentage of politicians that are narcissist. As far as the dead eyes go, that's a really good question. I can't answer that. But I have noticed that with a lot of narcissist, {I haven't even researched it yet} but I hear that when the narcissist changes or The Mask drops, their eye colors change, the color is dull..Also, when they rage and get angry the color is black like a demon. So a lot of people think that maybe there's something to be said for possession by demons.
My ex female covert narcissist wants sex all the time at first and then she shut down emotionally but not sexually and and after awhile I would feel empty and drained after sex because there was no connection and intimacy and I can't just have sex and not feel the connection. I don't understand why or how anyone can go from 100 to 0 like it's nothing and not care about the person's feelings that they are supposed to be in love with and it was very painful when I realized she never cared about me at all and I was just a sexual object for her to use when she felt like a. At the end of the relationship she started to withhold sex so I got used to not having sex and I stopped initiating when I started to feel unwanted and if she wanted sex she wouldn't communicate with me and would explode on me because I didn't try to have sex with her. On November 2nd she wanted to have sex and I don't know so I went to sleep and she went into a. Narcissistic rage that lasted until the next morning. She was screaming and throwing things in the bedroom while I was still sleeping and asked me for my bank card because she knew that I had enough and was ready to leave her and when I didn't give it to her she got physically abusive so I walked away literally from my home and left my truck there that I never got back and I never went back to her. Yesterday was a year exactly since I left and my mental, emotional and physical health are better but I'm a long way from being healed but at least I have more inner peace than I've had in years. Thank you so much for your helpful videos. You and others that make videos on narcissistic abuse have really helped me to understand why I went through so much hell that it's not my fault and I didn't deserve it so thanks to you and others from the bottom of my heart
Mine said all we had was good sex bc we were basically fwb for the last 5 years after 11 years off and on. Then a couple years ago he started withholding sex, turning down spontaneous booty calls, stopped flirting with me, then told me to stop sending sexy pics and flirty texts. Then he told me to date other people if I wanted sex so bad. Caught him cheating online again every time he’d cause a fight. Insanity.
This was the most hurtful, damaging thing, to me!!!! He was the one to initiate sex. At first he wud use excuses, " Oh my hernia hurts", oh my shoulder hurts. There r sum things he did to me that r too personal to say here.
There was a time when we both lost our jobs and in search for new. She had to study for a test. While I help watch our child ect. For a whole week we stood together and had sex once. She did nothing but sit with her laptop. Or kept our son home from daycare a couple times. She even said she may dress sexy after a shower and she didn’t. To mess with my head. One day we had a great time taking kids out to play. Later in the night she kicks me out of her apartment. I try to communicate asking why what’s going on. No explanation. Stuff like this happened a lot. She can brag our sex is good yet she will withhold it. It’s only convenience for them. And sometimes it’s because they are having sex and attention from someone else. Which I found out she was.
oh yes, ma’am this did happen to me for some Reason my ex was blaming me for hurting them and that they just could not have sex with me anymore so my response was OK. I won’t ask again and I didn’t because in the first place it wasn’t all that to begin with and I can do better than they could do I know that’s too much information that I just had to put that in there thank you.
Same...my intuition already said something was up, so I also said ok...left it at that
Should have invested in mussels 🙈🙈🙈😂
I think the narc. copied Joe Rogan's personality for a short time among others. Sigh.
Love the plant in the background
Is it true that all narcissists have diseases down there?
This video made me reevaluate my life and realize that I need a cat in my frame too👅