This conversation reminded me that the only reason I've ever thought having a couple channel on any social media platform would be a good thing would for the couple's own development - to see different sides of each other and to have conversations that might ordinarily be difficult or charged off camera. When Skhu said he enjoys these conversations with you because he sees a different side of you bendifun'ukumxhawula. What a union 🙏🏾🙌🏾 Of course we learn from these videos as the public, but I hope these chats edify and grow your relationship as much as, if not more than, how much they impact us. Your friendship is my biggest takeaway from every video - serious or funny - that you record. May God bless you guys a hundredfold on this journey of marriage . ❤️
I absolutely loooove love this and this is how I see and feel about couple channels as well. Its a good sit down and way of having conversation that are often not adressed.
If kuthwa kukho abantu abandiphilisayo naba.. ❤️❤️ Skhu noNozi touch my heart everytime because the authenticity and the depth at which you guys as a couple engage is an eye-opener for me. I enjoy and admire your union and what it teaches us. Benza umona maan😘🤩
This is so refreshing see a couple having honest conversation on difficult subject and still able to remain close after it. There are so many nuggets here. I pray God continue strengthen your relationship. I'm inspired to work on my relationship with my partner as well. I like the fact that it is important that you become best friends in a relationship as well.
As a therapist, I was very impacted by how self reflective this conversation was. Parentification of children is traumatic and unresolved trauma can impact our emotional ‘banks’ and self expression ❤️ Thanks guys, so brave of you.
Shuuu. You guys are brave. This made me to reflect on my childhood and the type of parent I have become. This conversation is so intense. Thank you guys so much💞💞
Skhu should definitely be in the marriage counseling team at church. He goes into those uncomfortable corners of your soul. Hope you get all the answers you need about being a mom Nozi ❤️❤️❤️
💔he touched a topic that she never wanted to go deep on and hearing him tell her the facts opened wounds that were closed and i salute him for that cause now she has to face the truth head on and his willing to help her by showing her a mirror. Hope you guys went even deeper after this video ❤️❤️.
I think when someone has been hurt over and over again , they block out the pain. The truth is the abortion did cause a sort of resentment towards wanting kids and thats okay to admit that it is still a sore area per say, she needs time to accept that and heal slowly firstly by acceptance. Sku did a good thing by open a would that had been closed when it was not yet cleaned, helping her realise it and opening it up again so they clean it together
Seeking professional help privately would be the best way to go from here ♥️... Even our strongest warriors are allowed to be vulnerable sometimes they are human after all. She’s going to be an excellent mother she already is to the other beautiful girl ♥️
I also picked that sku also was running from the trauma of being a parent at a young age. They both need to face thier demons.. I love the honesty of these two ♥️💞
Such an interesting topic Nozi dear forgive yourself. You need to be physically, financially, emotionally and mentally ready to hv a child. It's a huge decision to make. Heal first take your time. Skhu u were spot on
Skhu is Nozi's safe place. For Nozi to keep referring to that story, voluntarily around her husband means security is assured, i can be safe to talk about this with this person and it is okay...i saw Security in love in another light.
Skhu is so aware of himself. I like the way he thinks and how he communicates . I also loved seeing this side of Nozi. She’s a strong force to be reckoned with and she is a human being with scars that even she wasn’t aware of perhaps. Nozi we need you and skhu to do more of these discussions. You don’t know how much of an impact this is. Thank you for this❤️❤️
A lesson learned from this conversation is that God will give you a person along your journey that you can trust with your emotions. A person that will remind you that when you make decisions, put yourself first. A person that will protect you when you are vulnerable by drawing a line , knowing when not to go deep. I am happy for your union, you compliment each other beautifully. I admire you guys.
If anything this conversation emphasised how much we shouldn’t be asking anyone when they’re having kids. We don’t know the scars the next person is carrying.. Uncle Skhu with the wisdom👏🏾👏🏾 sicela abuye!!
Yes we shouldn’t ask anyone when they are going to have kids whether they are married or single or off a certain age. Coz we don’t know their reasons and they might also like Nozi and so many of us, have scars that they are dealing with and are struggling with the idea of being a parent and what it entails
I think Nozi wants a child of her own she's just scared and at times feels she doesn't deserve one because of what she did in the past. you didn't know better back then love but now you do and you have a good man to get you through it. please believe that you deserve all the happiness you give to others.
I dont agree, i relate so much with what Nozi said and just the fear of having kids because I had the same responsibility that Nozi had toward her family. But I never had to terminate. Though i have to say ke that it does seem as though she does need to deal with the emotions she suppressed from her termination.
The maturity and emotional intelligence of this man is on another level. He is very supportive and chose his words right throughout this conversation. I must say, every time Skhu is part of your videos sis Nozi, I make sure to watch and like.
"There are people that are very good in hiding certain scars" I love how Uncle Skhu is a therapist and a husband. I love your union, I love how he visits parts of your past you're not ready to revisit. I enjoyed this video❤❤
I had my first born last year at 31 years old and for a long time i was concerned about the well-being of the child, finances, emotions etc but I've found things tend to put themselves in their place. To be honest as humans we can never be fully prepared but God is the one that ultimately raises the kids he entrust us with.
I applaud Skhu for handling and seeking the Real truth & this conversation was so emotional and I hope Nozi heals... I genuinely love this channel and how authentic it is. ❤️
The way the communication unfolded and how she was so honest in her truth because she felt safe.. How he was not scared to reap the bandage but at the same time assured her? This was beautiful to watch
uSkhu bethuna. Yhoo the God that lives in him ninani. Sis Nozi you are blessed. Its how he reads and understands your emotions without you saying much.❤💯
I think Sis Nozi needs to allow herself to be vulnerable when discussing this particular topic about babies and all. I shed a tear 😢 at the end, I like how Skhu created a safe space for her
I really love how brave you are when it comes to sensitive topics, really there's a lot that young married couples can learn from you guys. UThixo anisikelele marn nina!❤❤❤
A partner that doesn't just challenge you but that taps into who you are, all that you carry, your scars in order to help YOU get to know you in the most honest ways . THIS ! Ai hats off man .
The end of this Video, for me, was the most touching part. I totally understand every emotion that Nozi felt when Skhu said "there are people who are very good at hidding certain scars in them"... A tear dropped out of my eye as I am one of those people, and often it's because "WHAT OTHER CHOICE DO WE HAVE"... I have just realised watching this that I have so many things I need to overcome,before they overcome me.
We need Skhu Wisdom. We got to see the other side of Nozi, when Skhu " there are people that are good in hiding certain scars". That hit home. Thank you.
I'm 35, raised by a single parent. Also had to help raise my baby brothers. Picked them up at creche and had to help look after them until my mom came back from work. And also had to look after them on weekends. I loved them but felt forced in taking care of them. I still am struggling to figure out why I don't have kids yet. But emotionally I'm not ready for that role and I'm running out of time. I guess I need a lot of therapy.
💕💕this couple is showing us that age difference is key in a relationship and that God does keep His promises,that each one of us has a someone suitable made for us.uyabo loMnaketfu Sikhu is suitable made for Sisiwami and my Sister is suitable made for Sikhu.🥰
Nozi thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. You didn't have to but you did. This is quite a sensitive topic but you chose to share it with us and it has created a space for us to have better conversations around readiness for parenthood especially in marriage. There are many factors to take into consideration before embarking on being a parent and you narrated how each of these factors are valid. You are a beautiful person.
When uBhuti SG said your decisions shouldn't be based on someone else but you... I felt that jonga la Bhuti uphuma into ngomlomo wambetha wa locka uNozie kwa phela undweba oh maan ❤️may God bless this union even more 🙏
I love the way you guys allow her to ask questions. When I was younger my uncle and his partner tried their best to explain things to me and I took that in so much because I had an explanation. When I did anything wrong, I would get asked if I knew why I was called and if I knew I would explain, if not it would be explained to me, I would be asked if I thought what I did was right-(in honesty not as a trap) and then it would be explained to me why what I did was wrong or not acceptable in public. If they felt it sera enough to discipline me physically I would be, but it was never extreme. If my uncle was too mad at what I did, he called a mediator. He was very young when he was left with us, under 20, so I think that influenced the way he went on to discipline us. I learnt my lessons definitely. I learnt well with clear reasoning and instructions and that type of parenting helped me feel loved and better understood in the home. I learnt to reflect and reason young and I cherish that dearly.
This was actually a very interesting conversation. I'd also like to commend Skhu's bravery for being brave enough to bring up a very uncomfortable conversation , I know it is hard to engage in uncomfortable conversations but they allow you to be well informed. Thanks Nozi and Skhu for this.♥️
Skhu is so strong 🙆🏽♀️, and I thought I was a strong person, I now realise nope! Loved the convo, helping me face my life issues that I didn't know how to tackle as well...
Wooow buti Good man now I understand why you always introduce yourself as Goodman Mayaba. Your emotional intelligence is out of this world , I love how articulate and sensitive you are I such topics. UNozi umvezela indlela ebengakhange ayicinge In a very smart way. Wishing you all the best guys.... Nozi siyafana nam sendilila ngk yile topic Uta Skhu wants us to face our skeletons🤣🤣🤣. Love you guys
These are necessary conversations. It's great that there are people willing to share themselves with other like this. Sisendleleni e right as a black community and I am here for it.
I see your pain cc Nozi, from your body language to your responses. This topic is eating at you whether you choose to deal with it or not. I relate to your traumas and I honestly see myself in you, I have been fortunate enough to have a partner than unpacks everything the good and the bad. I run away from emotional conversations all the time, I make excuses, I lie my way out of such conversations but having a person that creates a safe space for me to just break down and be honest without judging has been so helpful!
Ey bethuna it's how Skhu is making Nozi open up. This is very emotional and it's deep, one thing about this video is intense. Thank you bethuna for this. It made me think as well. Yey. Nozi is kind of running away from the questions and I understand mna. Sometimes we don't want to face our fears head on kuba we are afraid of what they have in store for us. Yeeeey!!!!
When Skhu said “The people we offen think are strong, are not always strong. There’s people who are very good at hiding their scars” andagixa kanje, ingathi uthetha ngam directly. We thank God for Skhu’s wisdom and empathy. The display of emotional intelligence between you guys is astounding. This is my favourite episode by far. Enkosi ninani❤️
I related too and like Nozi; I held my trears. Bhuti Skhu; may God keep adding more wisdom to you siyafunda nathi. Nozi; take it on estep at a time cc. Blessings 🙏🏻💞💗❤💝
The way I adore you guys it's out of this world...every time I receive a notification for your video I always scream in joy if am in a crowded place I will have a very beautiful smile that everyone will notice.... I love you so much Nozi all the way from Namibia
This couple is blessed with such a level of emotional intelligence that's beyond their age. May God bless you both with clarity and peace of mind with whatever decision you end up making on how and when you raise children. It's been true that God doesn't call the qualified but qualifies those He calls. He will give you both provision in all ways!!! Hang in there!
This was one of your best episodes. I know it touched a nerve for a lot of us who hide our scars and are are still scared to confront certain issues. Thank you guys for this . I too need to reflect and deal with izinto that I have been in denial about.
Lo "I don't know" ka sis Nozi actually hits home because at most times, we do know but we're just not ready to talk, avoiding the topic or are scared to open that can of worms. Vulnerability is something that we should practice & embrace which is something I learned from another couple (Mpoomy Ledwaba's channel). I like these types of conversations because a person is learning about marriage before getting married and while in the marriage. It's beautiful to watch!
Jonga healing of the nation/s is taking place right here. I'm here for all of it. Thank you for authenticity living vulnerable during the people. I love you Nozi and Skhu 😘😘
This is beautiful to watch, marriage with substance and having meaningful conversations. I have to add that Skhu opened a door Nozi has kept closed, all the best guys continuing with this conversation, we need a follow up I am sure this conversation will continue after the camera go off and will give Nozi time to reflect on this baby journey further. Ubuye ne feedback ke Nozi :)
What he meant about being the woman and her being the man, is that he tapped into his emotional, vulnerable and truthful part while she was being vague and logical like men do. This was by far the most unexpected vulnerable conversation online. Knowing usisNozi she loves being authentic. I love that about her. She would breakdown and still post the video but she was just not ready to go that far with us as yet. I love your heart. I admire both of you. I pray that you will find healing that will bring forth the fruits that only God blesses us with, no mistake can take that away His goodness from us. You are made in perfect love sisNozi. "Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love." 1 John 4:18 May you both experience His perfect love.🤗I'll be your babysitter🙋♀️Hopefully I qualify
I couldn't help myself but cry with you Nozi. You are blessed to have a lifetime partner like Skhu who touches on the uncomfortable conversations we tend to avoid sometimes. This is a person who will understand your vulnerability and the intimacy between the two of you is something no one else can break. The outcome of this is beautiful, you will see ❤️ May God continue to bless you both. Communication is key
I really enjoyed watching this and I love how emotionally and spiritually attached or connected skhum Is to nozi. It’s inspiring to see men concerned about the emotions of their wives rather than responsibilities ❤️… I actually cried while watching . God bless you
There is a level of emotional aloofness that comes with women being independent. Women start to rationalise their emotions below what is logical and that is what I feel from most of them. Women are also raised to think about other people more than themselves. Its hard going through the emottional work to recalibrate because you are changing all that you know
What a needed conversation by some of us who are in the same situation. It’s crazy how Nozi is stating my exact concerns. Sometimes being in a relationship with that much age difference has it’s down sides and this has always been my stress from a long time back. Skhu is truly a blessing because you truly need a partner who will remind you that you need to put yourself first and make decisions for yourself first before bringing the next person in. Wisdom from this man is truly impeccable. I learn so much from you two and usually Skhu is that voice I constantly need to hear from a male perspective. Shuuu my mind is already partaking in a marathon of deep thoughts
This is one of the best videos of The Mayaba's I've watched. So emotional and yet so informative. I love you so much you are indeed a match made in heaven ❤️
I think this is how a healthy relationship should look like ☺️. Thank you for sharing your personal lives with us like this 🙏🏾. We’re learning from you 🌸
An honest and raw conversation between people who love each other. May God be with you and help you deal and face your struggles head on. His grace is sufficient.
I salute you Bhuti Skhu You touched a topic that she never wanted to go deep on or talk about and I guess we saw another side of her 😭 "the people that we think are strong are not strong in some other topics and there are people that are very good at hiding certain scars" that hit home 💔 Hanga uThixo angawapholisa lo mangxeba 👏
In this case in order for amanxeba akhe aphile kfuneka Athethe more, athunukwe lamanxeba to initiate her wound healing. It’s easy to file things and keep them hidden away in our minds than facing them and acknowledging them.
“Your reasons must never be attached to anyone else”. I felt that. I love these raw and unfiltered conversations 🙌. Skhu is so wise and gentle. Conversations about having babies can be so sensitive and people take them lightly. The expectations and opinions from people can be tiring too. Each to their own bethuna 🙌❤️.
Here’s to having those difficult conversations. Here’s to the “hard-work” part of marriage. Thanks for your vulnerability, so brave. We appreciate you both. 🙌
Ngaske ngiyiphinde ngiyibuke futhi 😭so much wisdom! Imagine if all couples before they become parents baba na-such conversations, this world would be a better place 👏🏾
This conversation reminded me that the only reason I've ever thought having a couple channel on any social media platform would be a good thing would for the couple's own development - to see different sides of each other and to have conversations that might ordinarily be difficult or charged off camera. When Skhu said he enjoys these conversations with you because he sees a different side of you bendifun'ukumxhawula. What a union 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Of course we learn from these videos as the public, but I hope these chats edify and grow your relationship as much as, if not more than, how much they impact us.
Your friendship is my biggest takeaway from every video - serious or funny - that you record. May God bless you guys a hundredfold on this journey of marriage . ❤️
I love this comment so much ❤
I absolutely loooove love this and this is how I see and feel about couple channels as well. Its a good sit down and way of having conversation that are often not adressed.
If kuthwa kukho abantu abandiphilisayo naba.. ❤️❤️
Skhu noNozi touch my heart everytime because the authenticity and the depth at which you guys as a couple engage is an eye-opener for me. I enjoy and admire your union and what it teaches us. Benza umona maan😘🤩
This is so refreshing see a couple having honest conversation on difficult subject and still able to remain close after it. There are so many nuggets here. I pray God continue strengthen your relationship. I'm inspired to work on my relationship with my partner as well. I like the fact that it is important that you become best friends in a relationship as well.
As a therapist, I was very impacted by how self reflective this conversation was. Parentification of children is traumatic and unresolved trauma can impact our emotional ‘banks’ and self expression ❤️ Thanks guys, so brave of you.
Shuuu. You guys are brave. This made me to reflect on my childhood and the type of parent I have become. This conversation is so intense. Thank you guys so much💞💞
Very brave!
Yes I was touched deeply by that too and to actually say that this conversation of self reflection made me see myself.
I'm moved in so many ways.
Yho i related so much in this, it made me aware of why i dont want kids of my own.
These two are good friends.
Very good friends. Most older married couples can't even go this deep
@@timbawangu3038 that is true
@Chaumba so true. Good friends even.
Skhu should definitely be in the marriage counseling team at church. He goes into those uncomfortable corners of your soul. Hope you get all the answers you need about being a mom Nozi ❤️❤️❤️
💔he touched a topic that she never wanted to go deep on and hearing him tell her the facts opened wounds that were closed and i salute him for that cause now she has to face the truth head on and his willing to help her by showing her a mirror. Hope you guys went even deeper after this video ❤️❤️.
She even became emotional about it but avoided it by wanting "to play like uImi" shuuu!
I think when someone has been hurt over and over again , they block out the pain. The truth is the abortion did cause a sort of resentment towards wanting kids and thats okay to admit that it is still a sore area per say, she needs time to accept that and heal slowly firstly by acceptance. Sku did a good thing by open a would that had been closed when it was not yet cleaned, helping her realise it and opening it up again so they clean it together
Seeking professional help privately would be the best way to go from here ♥️...
Even our strongest warriors are allowed to be vulnerable sometimes they are human after all.
She’s going to be an excellent mother she already is to the other beautiful girl ♥️
I also picked that sku also was running from the trauma of being a parent at a young age. They both need to face thier demons.. I love the honesty of these two ♥️💞
Such an interesting topic Nozi dear forgive yourself. You need to be physically, financially, emotionally and mentally ready to hv a child. It's a huge decision to make. Heal first take your time. Skhu u were spot on
" The people that we think are strong are really not strong in reality There are people that are very good at hiding certain scars" this touched me😢
Feels😭😭😪
This was very deep
I found myself in there😏😥
And it also touched her, she just had to roll that chair to hide tears.....😥
Don’t we all?
Long Live, Skhu, we are represented as men. Wisdom
Skhu is Nozi's safe place. For Nozi to keep referring to that story, voluntarily around her husband means security is assured, i can be safe to talk about this with this person and it is okay...i saw Security in love in another light.
Skhu is so aware of himself. I like the way he thinks and how he communicates . I also loved seeing this side of Nozi. She’s a strong force to be reckoned with and she is a human being with scars that even she wasn’t aware of perhaps. Nozi we need you and skhu to do more of these discussions. You don’t know how much of an impact this is. Thank you for this❤️❤️
A lesson learned from this conversation is that God will give you a person along your journey that you can trust with your emotions. A person that will remind you that when you make decisions, put yourself first. A person that will protect you when you are vulnerable by drawing a line , knowing when not to go deep. I am happy for your union, you compliment each other beautifully. I admire you guys.
YES YES YES TO THIS COMMMENT! THOSE WERE MY VERY THOUGHTS & ALSO CONFIRMATION AT THE SAME TIME. WOW!!!!!!!!
Best friends👌💕
"You reasons must never be attached to somebody else" ~SG 👏❤
I loved that🥺
There is a truth and then there’s an Honest Truth
If anything this conversation emphasised how much we shouldn’t be asking anyone when they’re having kids. We don’t know the scars the next person is carrying.. Uncle Skhu with the wisdom👏🏾👏🏾 sicela abuye!!
Yes we shouldn’t ask anyone when they are going to have kids whether they are married or single or off a certain age. Coz we don’t know their reasons and they might also like Nozi and so many of us, have scars that they are dealing with and are struggling with the idea of being a parent and what it entails
He is so gentle with the questions... Sibone Skhu... You were not talking down but talked with. I respect that alot
You Guys Didn't Have To. And Thank You For That❤
True ♥️
Indeed❤💖This is appreciated👐
Indeed ❤️
🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾 These guys really love us 😭😭😭. This is a ministry...
I think Nozi wants a child of her own she's just scared and at times feels she doesn't deserve one because of what she did in the past. you didn't know better back then love but now you do and you have a good man to get you through it. please believe that you deserve all the happiness you give to others.
Same 💔
I agree.
I dont agree, i relate so much with what Nozi said and just the fear of having kids because I had the same responsibility that Nozi had toward her family. But I never had to terminate. Though i have to say ke that it does seem as though she does need to deal with the emotions she suppressed from her termination.
This is so true
One can only pray to have a relationship with such rawness and is yet so gentle at the same time
If anyone is looking for a practical example of emotional intelligence, they need to watch and listen to this conversation. Amazing stuff 👌👌
The maturity and emotional intelligence of this man is on another level. He is very supportive and chose his words right throughout this conversation. I must say, every time Skhu is part of your videos sis Nozi, I make sure to watch and like.
"There are people that are very good in hiding certain scars" I love how Uncle Skhu is a therapist and a husband. I love your union, I love how he visits parts of your past you're not ready to revisit. I enjoyed this video❤❤
I had my first born last year at 31 years old and for a long time i was concerned about the well-being of the child, finances, emotions etc but I've found things tend to put themselves in their place. To be honest as humans we can never be fully prepared but God is the one that ultimately raises the kids he entrust us with.
SKHU MUST DEFINITELY BE ON THE NEXT VIDEO. ALL VIDEOS KALOKU‼️
I second this
This video was so tough , emotional, serious , and difficult conversation . Wish you guys the best on this journey of having kids when you both ready
I applaud Skhu for handling and seeking the Real truth & this conversation was so emotional and I hope Nozi heals... I genuinely love this channel and how authentic it is. ❤️
The way the communication unfolded and how she was so honest in her truth because she felt safe.. How he was not scared to reap the bandage but at the same time assured her? This was beautiful to watch
Tjooo this conversation took a turn quickly to a very serious one
uSkhu bethuna. Yhoo the God that lives in him ninani. Sis Nozi you are blessed. Its how he reads and understands your emotions without you saying much.❤💯
I feel we need a part 2 on this topic guys.
I love Imi’s shenanigans 😂😂😂
🤣🙈
I think Sis Nozi needs to allow herself to be vulnerable when discussing this particular topic about babies and all. I shed a tear 😢 at the end, I like how Skhu created a safe space for her
I really love how brave you are when it comes to sensitive topics, really there's a lot that young married couples can learn from you guys. UThixo anisikelele marn nina!❤❤❤
The last part had Nozi so emotional bethuna❤️. Skhu knows his wife so well. It’s beautiful to watch.
A partner that doesn't just challenge you but that taps into who you are, all that you carry, your scars in order to help YOU get to know you in the most honest ways . THIS !
Ai hats off man .
Tjoooo this video is sooooo deep it started off as a lighthearted conversation 🥲
Very deep
Yes, I appreciate their openness especially with these kind of topics.
Bhut'Skhu is matured and I like how he unburdens the scars to find the root cause.#TeamSG makabuye next vid please...:):):)My people
If I should remarry, then I also want a Skhu, he’s so matured, open and understanding, it’s so heart warming.
Bhuti skhu needs to always be in the videos...his perspective is interesting
The end of this Video, for me, was the most touching part. I totally understand every emotion that Nozi felt when Skhu said "there are people who are very good at hidding certain scars in them"... A tear dropped out of my eye as I am one of those people, and often it's because "WHAT OTHER CHOICE DO WE HAVE"... I have just realised watching this that I have so many things I need to overcome,before they overcome me.
Ewu, sibaninzi Sisipho...I also cried when Skhu said that line because it applied to me directly.
I love that your relationship so obviously has a strong underlying friendship. It’s such a joy watching the two of you.
We need Skhu Wisdom. We got to see the other side of Nozi, when Skhu " there are people that are good in hiding certain scars". That hit home. Thank you.
I'm 35, raised by a single parent. Also had to help raise my baby brothers. Picked them up at creche and had to help look after them until my mom came back from work.
And also had to look after them on weekends. I loved them but felt forced in taking care of them.
I still am struggling to figure out why I don't have kids yet. But emotionally I'm not ready for that role and I'm running out of time.
I guess I need a lot of therapy.
Skhu though... The way he can just say the most important things. Like men don't even think the way he does... This was very powerful conversation
You know!!💯We really need more men like him
Skhu is always dishing pearls of wisdom. Your union is beautiful to witness, i really need this type of love.
💕💕this couple is showing us that age difference is key in a relationship and that God does keep His promises,that each one of us has a someone suitable made for us.uyabo loMnaketfu Sikhu is suitable made for Sisiwami and my Sister is suitable made for Sikhu.🥰
Death by "Where is your dad?"💀💀😭😭
My boyfriend is 11 years older than me and went grey quite early in life. If I tell you now, I'm afraid to meet Imi, she'll ask me where my dad is 😭
Nozi thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. You didn't have to but you did. This is quite a sensitive topic but you chose to share it with us and it has created a space for us to have better conversations around readiness for parenthood especially in marriage. There are many factors to take into consideration before embarking on being a parent and you narrated how each of these factors are valid. You are a beautiful person.
The level of emotional intelligence here🙌🏾🙌🏾
When uBhuti SG said your decisions shouldn't be based on someone else but you... I felt that jonga la Bhuti uphuma into ngomlomo wambetha wa locka uNozie kwa phela undweba oh maan ❤️may God bless this union even more 🙏
I love how Skhu was so honest with uNozi. Now she'll deal with underlying issues she's been brushing away.
Your reasons should never be attached to anyone but yourself. Sundicingela mna. Beautiful words by bhuti Skhu
Wise words.indeed
Skhu has great insight and asks Nozi really critical questions
Yhoo hai I really like how ya'll can talk about almost anything 😀❤️ ndiyanithanda
We want Skhu back hle Nozi 😅😅
I love the way you guys allow her to ask questions. When I was younger my uncle and his partner tried their best to explain things to me and I took that in so much because I had an explanation. When I did anything wrong, I would get asked if I knew why I was called and if I knew I would explain, if not it would be explained to me, I would be asked if I thought what I did was right-(in honesty not as a trap) and then it would be explained to me why what I did was wrong or not acceptable in public. If they felt it sera enough to discipline me physically I would be, but it was never extreme. If my uncle was too mad at what I did, he called a mediator. He was very young when he was left with us, under 20, so I think that influenced the way he went on to discipline us. I learnt my lessons definitely. I learnt well with clear reasoning and instructions and that type of parenting helped me feel loved and better understood in the home. I learnt to reflect and reason young and I cherish that dearly.
This was actually a very interesting conversation. I'd also like to commend Skhu's bravery for being brave enough to bring up a very uncomfortable conversation , I know it is hard to engage in uncomfortable conversations but they allow you to be well informed. Thanks Nozi and Skhu for this.♥️
Skhu is so strong 🙆🏽♀️, and I thought I was a strong person, I now realise nope! Loved the convo, helping me face my life issues that I didn't know how to tackle as well...
These two are just goals really. The thought put into every word they utter, I just can't deal. I pray for this kind of partner
Wooow buti Good man now I understand why you always introduce yourself as Goodman Mayaba. Your emotional intelligence is out of this world , I love how articulate and sensitive you are I such topics. UNozi umvezela indlela ebengakhange ayicinge In a very smart way.
Wishing you all the best guys.... Nozi siyafana nam sendilila ngk yile topic Uta Skhu wants us to face our skeletons🤣🤣🤣. Love you guys
😰This convo hit home!
Bhuti Skhu umelubayi counselor maarn❤
Totally agree. He needs to be back!!
These are necessary conversations. It's great that there are people willing to share themselves with other like this. Sisendleleni e right as a black community and I am here for it.
I see your pain cc Nozi, from your body language to your responses. This topic is eating at you whether you choose to deal with it or not. I relate to your traumas and I honestly see myself in you, I have been fortunate enough to have a partner than unpacks everything the good and the bad. I run away from emotional conversations all the time, I make excuses, I lie my way out of such conversations but having a person that creates a safe space for me to just break down and be honest without judging has been so helpful!
Heish, I even ran away from this video when it got deep 😭
Ey bethuna it's how Skhu is making Nozi open up. This is very emotional and it's deep, one thing about this video is intense. Thank you bethuna for this. It made me think as well. Yey. Nozi is kind of running away from the questions and I understand mna. Sometimes we don't want to face our fears head on kuba we are afraid of what they have in store for us. Yeeeey!!!!
The honesty, the transparency, the openness. I love this. 😘
When Skhu said “The people we offen think are strong, are not always strong. There’s people who are very good at hiding their scars” andagixa kanje, ingathi uthetha ngam directly. We thank God for Skhu’s wisdom and empathy. The display of emotional intelligence between you guys is astounding. This is my favourite episode by far. Enkosi ninani❤️
I related too and like Nozi; I held my trears. Bhuti Skhu; may God keep adding more wisdom to you siyafunda nathi.
Nozi; take it on estep at a time cc. Blessings 🙏🏻💞💗❤💝
Hi Nez. How nice to meet you in these street. 😘😘😘 love you
How I Love Nozi and Uncle Skhu😂😂😂😂
The way I adore you guys it's out of this world...every time I receive a notification for your video I always scream in joy if am in a crowded place I will have a very beautiful smile that everyone will notice....
I love you so much Nozi all the way from Namibia
This couple is blessed with such a level of emotional intelligence that's beyond their age. May God bless you both with clarity and peace of mind with whatever decision you end up making on how and when you raise children. It's been true that God doesn't call the qualified but qualifies those He calls. He will give you both provision in all ways!!! Hang in there!
This was one of your best episodes. I know it touched a nerve for a lot of us who hide our scars and are are still scared to confront certain issues. Thank you guys for this . I too need to reflect and deal with izinto that I have been in denial about.
The emotional intelligence (EQ) is what I stayed for. This is how growth happens in marriage.
Lo "I don't know" ka sis Nozi actually hits home because at most times, we do know but we're just not ready to talk, avoiding the topic or are scared to open that can of worms. Vulnerability is something that we should practice & embrace which is something I learned from another couple (Mpoomy Ledwaba's channel). I like these types of conversations because a person is learning about marriage before getting married and while in the marriage. It's beautiful to watch!
Nozi you have a man right there!!!Skhu, I have no words for you but siyabulela aingabalandeli benu sifunda lukhulu 🙏
i love Skhu for Nozi...Skhu is a Safe place, Security defined. When a man says i will protect you, this is it.
Jonga healing of the nation/s is taking place right here. I'm here for all of it. Thank you for authenticity living vulnerable during the people. I love you Nozi and Skhu 😘😘
This is beautiful to watch, marriage with substance and having meaningful conversations.
I have to add that Skhu opened a door Nozi has kept closed, all the best guys continuing with this conversation, we need a follow up I am sure this conversation will continue after the camera go off and will give Nozi time to reflect on this baby journey further. Ubuye ne feedback ke Nozi :)
Yes I agree with you and I’d love that feedback
What he meant about being the woman and her being the man, is that he tapped into his emotional, vulnerable and truthful part while she was being vague and logical like men do.
This was by far the most unexpected vulnerable conversation online. Knowing usisNozi she loves being authentic. I love that about her. She would breakdown and still post the video but she was just not ready to go that far with us as yet.
I love your heart. I admire both of you. I pray that you will find healing that will bring forth the fruits that only God blesses us with, no mistake can take that away His goodness from us.
You are made in perfect love sisNozi. "Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love."
1 John 4:18
May you both experience His perfect love.🤗I'll be your babysitter🙋♀️Hopefully I qualify
My heart feels sore after watching this. I pray you heal Nozi, you have a great supportive husband, a few get to experience that.
💔feeling all sorts of emotions,I pray for God's mercy to never leave your house.
I love how mature and intelligent her hubby is,I wish to find a man like him . U are blessed girl
I couldn't help myself but cry with you Nozi. You are blessed to have a lifetime partner like Skhu who touches on the uncomfortable conversations we tend to avoid sometimes. This is a person who will understand your vulnerability and the intimacy between the two of you is something no one else can break. The outcome of this is beautiful, you will see ❤️ May God continue to bless you both. Communication is key
Ooohhh buti Skhu iwisdom yakho is one of a kind... God bless your union 🙏❤️
I really enjoyed watching this and I love how emotionally and spiritually attached or connected skhum Is to nozi. It’s inspiring to see men concerned about the emotions of their wives rather than responsibilities ❤️… I actually cried while watching . God bless you
😂 That's our parents you don't feel anything, who are you to feel 😂😂
Oooh Buti Skhu iwisdom yakho is one of a kind I tell you 👏... God bless your union 🙏
Powerful, honest, raw, heavy conversation guys. I love how you are and how open you are with each other.
There is a level of emotional aloofness that comes with women being independent. Women start to rationalise their emotions below what is logical and that is what I feel from most of them.
Women are also raised to think about other people more than themselves.
Its hard going through the emottional work to recalibrate because you are changing all that you know
What a needed conversation by some of us who are in the same situation. It’s crazy how Nozi is stating my exact concerns. Sometimes being in a relationship with that much age difference has it’s down sides and this has always been my stress from a long time back. Skhu is truly a blessing because you truly need a partner who will remind you that you need to put yourself first and make decisions for yourself first before bringing the next person in. Wisdom from this man is truly impeccable. I learn so much from you two and usually Skhu is that voice I constantly need to hear from a male perspective. Shuuu my mind is already partaking in a marathon of deep thoughts
Vulnerability, honesty and transparency ❤ The ending was everything.
This is one of the best videos of The Mayaba's I've watched. So emotional and yet so informative. I love you so much you are indeed a match made in heaven ❤️
I think this is how a healthy relationship should look like ☺️. Thank you for sharing your personal lives with us like this 🙏🏾. We’re learning from you 🌸
The conversation was so profound 🙁 thank you 🙏🏼
It is Skhu's wisdom for me, and how he gets Nozi to open up
I love Skhu! He’s so gentle, calm, and peaceful. Aaah, mature men…
The wisdom from these two!!!!!! I love it!
An honest and raw conversation between people who love each other. May God be with you and help you deal and face your struggles head on. His grace is sufficient.
The conversation turned around real quick to becoming deep...Love y'all❤❤❤❤❤🤗🤗
I salute you Bhuti Skhu
You touched a topic that she never wanted to go deep on or talk about and I guess we saw another side of her 😭 "the people that we think are strong are not strong in some other topics and there are people that are very good at hiding certain scars" that hit home 💔
Hanga uThixo angawapholisa lo mangxeba 👏
In this case in order for amanxeba akhe aphile kfuneka Athethe more, athunukwe lamanxeba to initiate her wound healing. It’s easy to file things and keep them hidden away in our minds than facing them and acknowledging them.
“Your reasons must never be attached to anyone else”. I felt that.
I love these raw and unfiltered conversations 🙌. Skhu is so wise and gentle. Conversations about having babies can be so sensitive and people take them lightly. The expectations and opinions from people can be tiring too.
Each to their own bethuna 🙌❤️.
Jonga It is such an important topic. People will ask the most tiring yet sensitive questions like "walekelisa nini?"
@@naedamahle and apho they don’t even know your reasons for waiting. What if you just want one child. What if anisakwazi uphinde nibe nabanye?
Askies Nozi... strengths! As I watched I wished I could just hug you, especially when you would say: "I don't know."❤❤❤
This was such a powerful conversation. Thank you for being raw and letting us in like this. ❤️
Here’s to having those difficult conversations. Here’s to the “hard-work” part of marriage. Thanks for your vulnerability, so brave. We appreciate you both.
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Ngaske ngiyiphinde ngiyibuke futhi 😭so much wisdom! Imagine if all couples before they become parents baba na-such conversations, this world would be a better place 👏🏾
Salute to ubuti uSkhu and Nozi. 🙌 Speechless
This video got me so emotional😔😢, its so amazing to have partner that appreciate who you are and not be judgemental.
Thank you for having such a candid conversation with us. It was thought provoking and we could feel the emotion. Xx