I don't care how nice people are, if I feel like they're being a creep even the tiniest bit, I will do everything in my power to keep them away from my kids. The horrible truth is kids are very easy targets and victims to abuse/crime so there is ZERO room for error. Do what you must to protect your kids.
Blatant favouritism is cruel especially to children. Sasha having such an unhealthy obsession with the girl is something the children should be shielded from.
NTA. I was this little girl for a woman my parents were close friends with. She obsessed over me and it always made me uncomfortable. Sometimes she would make comments that genuinely horrified me. After so many years it got to the point that I genuinely thought she might try and kidnap me. Finally my mother saw one of my reactions to that woman and realized how it had gone on too long and way too far and put her foot down. The woman and her family ended up moving later and I was the happiest I could be about that.
It's not just that stepgrandmother seems a bit obsessed with your daughter, she's not actually seeing your daughter at all. She's completely disregarding what your daughter likes, wants & enjoys. She's trying to force your daughter into a harmful fantasy of who she wants her to be.
She wants your kid for the aesthetic. Alot of people do this. They raise their kids by prefernces and not by actually parenting eg when she wanted her to wear the tiara even when she saod she doesnt like it. One of the worst types of parents
I don't trust ANYONE that crosses boundaries to be mega close with a child. Children don't have the means of sticking up for themselves or defending themselves that is strong enough to fend off a grown-up. I don't care if it seems like just a mild annoyance, the kids need to be protected
Have watched the full story..no NTA. U were advocating for ur daughters boundaries...tha kyou for advocating for ur 4yr old wishes against the wishes of an adult woman who fixated on rolling over ur child's wishes fears and wants in some creepy fixated child makeover thing. Keep ur kids away from Sasha
From early on it sounded like Sasha wanted a daughter and is trying to live out this idea through OP's daughter. She has repeatedly tried to push her will onto OP's daughter and OP's son most likely doesn't like her because he can sense the favoritism. It just seems to get progressively more extreme, makes me think she's delusional and feels entitled to access. My mother is like that too, growing up I was less her child and more en extension of herself. I was pushed to do things she wanted to do as a child, given gifts I didn't like because she wanted me to have things (clothes, toys, etc) she wanted as a kid. I was a tomboy but was forced to wear frilly pink dresses and wasn't allowed to cut my hair because she always wanted long hair. I hated pink (favorite color even now is blue). It felt like I was just an object for her to live out what she wanted for herself. She troes to do the same with my kids, who hate arguing. I've also had to set firm boundaries, it's difficult but when it's with people like that, it's what you have to do and good on OP for standing her ground and protecting her kids.
More like "Sasha" wants to have the fun of being a parent without actually parenting. She doesn't actually consider either child's feelings, yet insists that they "would have so much fun doing xyz" Even with favoritism towards the daughter, she doesn't actually seem to care what the poor girl actually likes or wants.
NTA The little girl is not her kid as much as she wants her to be I understand she wants to get closer to them, but the woman can't force her to be her daughter
Are we seriously ignoring the fact that OP's daughter admitted to being afraid of Ursula from The Little Mermaid, and Sasha thought it would be a wonderful idea to bring a FOUR YEAR OLD onto a ride with an Ursula animatronic? I was bloody terrified of the Chernabog from Fantasia when I was little and would've fought to stay away from anything related to him. Sasha needs help because she's obsessed with OP's daughter. It's fucking weird. Edit: Thank God that OP doesn't leave her kids alone with Sasha. I'm convinced that if that happened, Sasha would run away with the daughter and try to play her off as her own kid. Sasha neglecting OP's son is just absolutely shitty on her part too. These kids aren't shopping bags that Sasha can show off. They might be children, but they have feelings too, and if they don't like Sasha, it's for good reason. Props on OP for not pressuring her kids to be polite around people they don't like.
I listened to the whole story and ive heard storiws like this before, grandmothers or some usualy femaly relitive who sint related or cant have kids trys to steal someone elsea child and push the parents boundaries to see how far they can get with the kid. Sasha wanted a little gi ans ahe made that comment a few times and how she was childless and her actions even qfter you triwd to go no contract she got obssessed with your daughter. Its the first fea stages before she goes insane and trues to take the kid ans claim it to be hers. All the signs are showing and its been proven to hapoen alot with peopke who join families and where child free before
My stepdads mom is very similar in that she doted on my younger brother for 15 years before remembering that I exist. Which only happened because my brother passed away and she realized she has no idea what I like or who I am as a person. I was already 20 by then and have had little to no interested in forming a relationship over the past 6 years. When we did try to take a small shopping trip together, it was clear that she didn’t like anything I picked out for myself and kept trying to get me to choose other, more feminine things and other things that she liked better. The only reason she backed off then was because I told her that I likely wouldn’t end up wearing them.
I(11 f) went through a similar situation. A few days ago my grandma(70s f) came over a few days ago for her birthday. She sat close to me on my bed, and because i was uncomfortable, I moved away. She didn't take that well and gave me a face that said, "Wtf? Why did u move?" She then started to caress my thigh, which i didn't like. So i moved my thigh away, and she said, "Why'd u move away? I like touching you." That comment made my skin crawl. She's done other stuff like this before, squeezing my @ss when hugging her, even though I clearly didn't like it. Forcing me into a hug. Sliding her hand up my sleeve and touching my shoulder, which I hated. This was the first time i actually did something about it though, and im still being forced to see her if i don't want a metal rod put in my back(i have scoliosis). What should i do?
As my mom always says, If it costs you your mental health, it’s too expensive. If the kids are uncomfortable around Sasha, don’t make them see her. My mom’s cousins and their kids have always made me uncomfortable. My dad is insistent on my going to every event they are at. My “cousins” Ella and Tiffany (fake names) are my age and have ALWAYS been mean to me. I gave up trying to have a relationship with them years ago and my grandpa hasn’t realized why I don’t talk to them and he tries to get me to talk to them. Ella and Tiffany started this behavior when we were about 4-6 years old before my grandparents moved to their house. The old house had a huge hill in the backyard and they would have annual slip n slide parties. When we were about 4-6, I was at one of these parties and I got tired and it was hot outside and since it was MY grandparents house, I knew I could go downstairs in the play room whenever I wanted. I told my parents where I went because the yard wasn’t fenced and the house was huge and not easy to find people in. I went downstairs and Ella and Tiffany told me to leave because I didn’t ask if I could go downstairs and to trust them because it was their like 10th time there and when I said I had been there way more because it was my grandmas house, they flipped out and accused me of lying. Right after that, my aunt got a new step daughter that we called cousin and they barely knew her yet insisted she hang out with them and she would ask if I could come and they said no but wouldn’t let Tara (fake name for the step daughter) hang out with me and not them. Tara’s dad and my aunt separated a few years ago so Ella and Tiffany couldn’t do that anymore. My grandma has told them they need to be nice and they just roll their eyes but my dad still makes me see them.
To announce your pregnancy get their own shirts with I'm a big brother and I'm a big sister. They'll love it, and have them wear it some where in public school out to eat, family, they will love it. Congratulations
My parents didn’t really care about me seeing the The Little Mermaid or any other Disney movie that had a scary villain. It wasn’t until I watched the other and original Little Mermaid. I think I was three and I was in the hospital because I had cancer, the child hospital I was at had a lot of movies including Disney, I wanted to watch Disney The Little Mermaid however at the time some other kid was watching it. But since I was a three year old I started crying and instead of showing me other Disney movies while I wait to see Little Mermaid they fished out (no pun attended) the original Little Mermaid in old anime style. At the end of the movie I was ugly crying with screams and stressing out so much it was effecting my health. The medical machines I was attached to where beeping like crazy. My parents where clearly pissed at the people who put the movie in. It had bothered me so much that I had to talk to my therapist who I was already seeing because I was cancer kid who wasn’t going to make it. Had the Make Wish to Disney World too. But I’ve been cancer free since 1996 when I was 6 years old and that movie still bothers me. It had some disturbing imagery as well as the depressing ending. We could not turn it off because we didn’t have control over it. And we couldn’t get them turn it off. They weren’t nurses at least I don’t think so because they weren’t wearing the uniforms and the original person in charge of this wasn’t around. So I’m not sure what happened to those two people after my parents and nurses chewed them out. Though I kind of remember seeing them again, but I’m not sure.
Here’s the thing, this person is dangerous. Adult fixation on a child especially specific a child can have grave consequences! it could be sexual or it could be some other pathology. But whatever it is NEVER let your guard down around this woman! Also you need to put barriers in place at schools at daycare’s at anywhere where you are not in direct contact with your children! This woman will find a way to take advantage of Say an emergency situation! You let whom ever is in charge of your children, under threat of lawsuit, that by no means are any of your children ever to be given to that woman. I don’t care if the sun fell from the sky, I don’t care what false papers she shows, she is never allowed to pick up the children, especially your daughter!😢
It seemed very obvious to me since the first post that the fathers wife had ulterior motives for how she was acting. At the least she sees her as an accessory for her to dress up. At most it's sinister. Your gut is right 75% of the time. I'd rather be sorry for being a bit rude later, rather than being sorry to your daughter for being abused in some way.
what they were trying to say is that the reason Sasha is overstepping her boundaries is because she wants to be the little girl's mother and take op place
Something tells me Sasha couldn't have kids and wants ops kid as her daughter. Hope ops dad gets his wife some tharpy because she needs it. Or she might do something crazy
i didnt finish listening yet so dont attack me. but maybe she never had kids and thats why shes going nuts for yours. especially a girl. dam i feel bad for her
Girl I know what's like in your daughter shoed during the disnye trip you said about Shasa taking her on the little mermaid rideand she saw uresula ok I'm scared and terrified of mother gothel and won't see the movie tangled but shasa should not have pushed your limits she went across the line and your are right for what you did for your kids❤❤❤❤
Sasha should have her own daughter and what's the deal with scaring your daughter when she knew the child was afraid. Many people do these things to try to help others get over their fears. But don't discuss it in front of the children, forgive the lady and move on.
Calling her a creep is not how you handle things. She sounds like she missed out on having kids of her own amd just really loves being around your daughter. I agree taking her on the Little Mermaid ride was not right. And she does overstep boundaries. But calling her a creep is a huge and ugly accusation.
Somehow, I feel she is looking at this with a bias. Sasha was never alone with the kids so why is she the only one being blamed? It was SASHA and her FATHER with them who took the kids on the Little Mermaid ride and most likely the other incidents too? Sasha has apologized, but I don't think the OP heard what she really said. Sasha maybe trying to reach out now so she could salvage her relationship with her husband because the OP is causing friction in her marriage. I think the OP fails to notice is Sasha and Grandpa is a package deal. AND it was BOTH who made those judgement calls.... although Sasha was the most vocal of the pair. The OP disliked the woman, and I feel it is just brewing when these issues happened.
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She’s a great mom. She’s teaching her daughter to trust her intuition and set clear boundaries with people she doesn’t feel good about.
I don't care how nice people are, if I feel like they're being a creep even the tiniest bit, I will do everything in my power to keep them away from my kids. The horrible truth is kids are very easy targets and victims to abuse/crime so there is ZERO room for error. Do what you must to protect your kids.
She did the right thing. Stand your ground. Explain to family your reasoning.
Blatant favouritism is cruel especially to children. Sasha having such an unhealthy obsession with the girl is something the children should be shielded from.
NTA. I was this little girl for a woman my parents were close friends with. She obsessed over me and it always made me uncomfortable. Sometimes she would make comments that genuinely horrified me. After so many years it got to the point that I genuinely thought she might try and kidnap me. Finally my mother saw one of my reactions to that woman and realized how it had gone on too long and way too far and put her foot down. The woman and her family ended up moving later and I was the happiest I could be about that.
I'm curious, if it's not too invasive/triggering to ask, but what kind of comments did she make?
It's not just that stepgrandmother seems a bit obsessed with your daughter, she's not actually seeing your daughter at all. She's completely disregarding what your daughter likes, wants & enjoys. She's trying to force your daughter into a harmful fantasy of who she wants her to be.
How much you want to bet that little girl has red hair
$20
@@Olivia_love218 looool
What you mean?
@@Idgjfho Ariel had red hair and the grandma was obsessed with having her in the little mermaid ride and stuff.
1 billion
She wants your kid for the aesthetic. Alot of people do this. They raise their kids by prefernces and not by actually parenting eg when she wanted her to wear the tiara even when she saod she doesnt like it. One of the worst types of parents
I don't trust ANYONE that crosses boundaries to be mega close with a child. Children don't have the means of sticking up for themselves or defending themselves that is strong enough to fend off a grown-up.
I don't care if it seems like just a mild annoyance, the kids need to be protected
Nta, your kids your boundaries. She needs to respect it period!
Have watched the full story..no NTA. U were advocating for ur daughters boundaries...tha kyou for advocating for ur 4yr old wishes against the wishes of an adult woman who fixated on rolling over ur child's wishes fears and wants in some creepy fixated child makeover thing. Keep ur kids away from Sasha
The son not liking her, seals it!
From early on it sounded like Sasha wanted a daughter and is trying to live out this idea through OP's daughter. She has repeatedly tried to push her will onto OP's daughter and OP's son most likely doesn't like her because he can sense the favoritism. It just seems to get progressively more extreme, makes me think she's delusional and feels entitled to access. My mother is like that too, growing up I was less her child and more en extension of herself. I was pushed to do things she wanted to do as a child, given gifts I didn't like because she wanted me to have things (clothes, toys, etc) she wanted as a kid. I was a tomboy but was forced to wear frilly pink dresses and wasn't allowed to cut my hair because she always wanted long hair. I hated pink (favorite color even now is blue). It felt like I was just an object for her to live out what she wanted for herself. She troes to do the same with my kids, who hate arguing. I've also had to set firm boundaries, it's difficult but when it's with people like that, it's what you have to do and good on OP for standing her ground and protecting her kids.
Also I feel like the kids are so optimistic. The ops daughter wanted to hang photos of the occasion and the son said it was the best birthday ever
The way I taught my kids stranger danger, is that if they feel creepy come to us.
It sounds like “Sasha” wants her own daughter so she’s using your daughter as a replacement
More like "Sasha" wants to have the fun of being a parent without actually parenting. She doesn't actually consider either child's feelings, yet insists that they "would have so much fun doing xyz" Even with favoritism towards the daughter, she doesn't actually seem to care what the poor girl actually likes or wants.
Sasha is a groomer
NTA
The little girl is not her kid as much as she wants her to be
I understand she wants to get closer to them, but the woman can't force her to be her daughter
Are we seriously ignoring the fact that OP's daughter admitted to being afraid of Ursula from The Little Mermaid, and Sasha thought it would be a wonderful idea to bring a FOUR YEAR OLD onto a ride with an Ursula animatronic? I was bloody terrified of the Chernabog from Fantasia when I was little and would've fought to stay away from anything related to him. Sasha needs help because she's obsessed with OP's daughter. It's fucking weird.
Edit: Thank God that OP doesn't leave her kids alone with Sasha. I'm convinced that if that happened, Sasha would run away with the daughter and try to play her off as her own kid. Sasha neglecting OP's son is just absolutely shitty on her part too. These kids aren't shopping bags that Sasha can show off. They might be children, but they have feelings too, and if they don't like Sasha, it's for good reason. Props on OP for not pressuring her kids to be polite around people they don't like.
Never let Sasha meet the new baby. That woman gives me bad vibes. She clearly just wants to use your daughter. Keep up what you're doing op.
I listened to the whole story and ive heard storiws like this before, grandmothers or some usualy femaly relitive who sint related or cant have kids trys to steal someone elsea child and push the parents boundaries to see how far they can get with the kid. Sasha wanted a little gi ans ahe made that comment a few times and how she was childless and her actions even qfter you triwd to go no contract she got obssessed with your daughter. Its the first fea stages before she goes insane and trues to take the kid ans claim it to be hers. All the signs are showing and its been proven to hapoen alot with peopke who join families and where child free before
Please turn your autocorrect back on
We ignoring the age gap between "Sasha" and the dad???? How old was she when they were dating, hello????
She said for nearly a decade so she would have been in her 30's and him in his 50's
What are you so Fixated, on people's lives if she wants to date an older man that's her business not yours
She was already in her 30s when they started dating, so a whole functional adult with another adult.
My stepdads mom is very similar in that she doted on my younger brother for 15 years before remembering that I exist. Which only happened because my brother passed away and she realized she has no idea what I like or who I am as a person. I was already 20 by then and have had little to no interested in forming a relationship over the past 6 years.
When we did try to take a small shopping trip together, it was clear that she didn’t like anything I picked out for myself and kept trying to get me to choose other, more feminine things and other things that she liked better. The only reason she backed off then was because I told her that I likely wouldn’t end up wearing them.
I(11 f) went through a similar situation. A few days ago my grandma(70s f) came over a few days ago for her birthday. She sat close to me on my bed, and because i was uncomfortable, I moved away. She didn't take that well and gave me a face that said, "Wtf? Why did u move?" She then started to caress my thigh, which i didn't like. So i moved my thigh away, and she said, "Why'd u move away? I like touching you." That comment made my skin crawl. She's done other stuff like this before, squeezing my @ss when hugging her, even though I clearly didn't like it. Forcing me into a hug. Sliding her hand up my sleeve and touching my shoulder, which I hated. This was the first time i actually did something about it though, and im still being forced to see her if i don't want a metal rod put in my back(i have scoliosis). What should i do?
Tell a trusted adult dear, maybe mum or dad.
So Sasha is creepy obsessed with your daughter. She should never be left alone with her.
You should keep the third baby away from Sasha and tell your kids to never mention Sasha to the third and to forget about her
That woman needs therapy.
1:50 I think Sasha is a groomer 😬
NTA she sounds like a church aunt/grandma who doesn’t understand boundaries. And as a kid I hated them😂
how the hell was she controlling she was just making sure her daughter and son were safe
As my mom always says,
If it costs you your mental health, it’s too expensive.
If the kids are uncomfortable around Sasha, don’t make them see her. My mom’s cousins and their kids have always made me uncomfortable. My dad is insistent on my going to every event they are at. My “cousins” Ella and Tiffany (fake names) are my age and have ALWAYS been mean to me. I gave up trying to have a relationship with them years ago and my grandpa hasn’t realized why I don’t talk to them and he tries to get me to talk to them. Ella and Tiffany started this behavior when we were about 4-6 years old before my grandparents moved to their house. The old house had a huge hill in the backyard and they would have annual slip n slide parties. When we were about 4-6, I was at one of these parties and I got tired and it was hot outside and since it was MY grandparents house, I knew I could go downstairs in the play room whenever I wanted. I told my parents where I went because the yard wasn’t fenced and the house was huge and not easy to find people in. I went downstairs and Ella and Tiffany told me to leave because I didn’t ask if I could go downstairs and to trust them because it was their like 10th time there and when I said I had been there way more because it was my grandmas house, they flipped out and accused me of lying. Right after that, my aunt got a new step daughter that we called cousin and they barely knew her yet insisted she hang out with them and she would ask if I could come and they said no but wouldn’t let Tara (fake name for the step daughter) hang out with me and not them. Tara’s dad and my aunt separated a few years ago so Ella and Tiffany couldn’t do that anymore. My grandma has told them they need to be nice and they just roll their eyes but my dad still makes me see them.
I agree with the steps you’re taking. Please update once the third child is born ❤
To announce your pregnancy get their own shirts with I'm a big brother and I'm a big sister. They'll love it, and have them wear it some where in public school out to eat, family, they will love it. Congratulations
My parents didn’t really care about me seeing the The Little Mermaid or any other Disney movie that had a scary villain. It wasn’t until I watched the other and original Little Mermaid. I think I was three and I was in the hospital because I had cancer, the child hospital I was at had a lot of movies including Disney, I wanted to watch Disney The Little Mermaid however at the time some other kid was watching it. But since I was a three year old I started crying and instead of showing me other Disney movies while I wait to see Little Mermaid they fished out (no pun attended) the original Little Mermaid in old anime style. At the end of the movie I was ugly crying with screams and stressing out so much it was effecting my health. The medical machines I was attached to where beeping like crazy. My parents where clearly pissed at the people who put the movie in. It had bothered me so much that I had to talk to my therapist who I was already seeing because I was cancer kid who wasn’t going to make it. Had the Make Wish to Disney World too. But I’ve been cancer free since 1996 when I was 6 years old and that movie still bothers me. It had some disturbing imagery as well as the depressing ending. We could not turn it off because we didn’t have control over it. And we couldn’t get them turn it off. They weren’t nurses at least I don’t think so because they weren’t wearing the uniforms and the original person in charge of this wasn’t around. So I’m not sure what happened to those two people after my parents and nurses chewed them out. Though I kind of remember seeing them again, but I’m not sure.
Thank God that you are now cancer free. You were still tough to have been so stressed and still recover. Keep on going. God bless.
Here’s the thing, this person is dangerous. Adult fixation on a child especially specific a child can have grave consequences! it could be sexual or it could be some other pathology. But whatever it is NEVER let your guard down around this woman! Also you need to put barriers in place at schools at daycare’s at anywhere where you are not in direct contact with your children! This woman will find a way to take advantage of Say an emergency situation! You let whom ever is in charge of your children, under threat of lawsuit, that by no means are any of your children ever to be given to that woman. I don’t care if the sun fell from the sky, I don’t care what false papers she shows, she is never allowed to pick up the children, especially your daughter!😢
It seemed very obvious to me since the first post that the fathers wife had ulterior motives for how she was acting. At the least she sees her as an accessory for her to dress up. At most it's sinister. Your gut is right 75% of the time. I'd rather be sorry for being a bit rude later, rather than being sorry to your daughter for being abused in some way.
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Yuck that’s so creepy
She sounds selfish and you are a great mom
Sounds like she want to the parents to her daughter
Ith Sasha tried to be the little girls mother
Wtf is that first word? I have no idea what you’re trying to say…
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what they were trying to say is that the reason Sasha is overstepping her boundaries is because she wants to be the little girl's mother and take op place
If it were a man 😂
Something tells me Sasha couldn't have kids and wants ops kid as her daughter. Hope ops dad gets his wife some tharpy because she needs it. Or she might do something crazy
Yea not the ass.
i didnt finish listening yet so dont attack me. but maybe she never had kids and thats why shes going nuts for yours. especially a girl. dam i feel bad for her
Girl I know what's like in your daughter shoed during the disnye trip you said about Shasa taking her on the little mermaid rideand she saw uresula ok I'm scared and terrified of mother gothel and won't see the movie tangled but shasa should not have pushed your limits she went across the line and your are right for what you did for your kids❤❤❤❤
What why focus on daughters boys are just as important just because women are supposedly superior don’t mean it’s true
What date cuz i,m 22nd of may
No your not
What the heck was the "Little mermaid incident"??? I waited all video hoping for an explanation of that one lol.
I feel like Sasha meant week but did cross boundaries but you also did act a little rude calling her the F word not saying you or Sasha are right
Sasha should have her own daughter and what's the deal with scaring your daughter when she knew the child was afraid. Many people do these things to try to help others get over their fears. But don't discuss it in front of the children, forgive the lady and move on.
This voice is terrible
Calling her a creep is not how you handle things. She sounds like she missed out on having kids of her own amd just really loves being around your daughter.
I agree taking her on the Little Mermaid ride was not right. And she does overstep boundaries. But calling her a creep is a huge and ugly accusation.
Somehow, I feel she is looking at this with a bias. Sasha was never alone with the kids so why is she the only one being blamed? It was SASHA and her FATHER with them who took the kids on the Little Mermaid ride and most likely the other incidents too? Sasha has apologized, but I don't think the OP heard what she really said.
Sasha maybe trying to reach out now so she could salvage her relationship with her husband because the OP is causing friction in her marriage. I think the OP fails to notice is Sasha and Grandpa is a package deal. AND it was BOTH who made those judgement calls.... although Sasha was the most vocal of the pair.
The OP disliked the woman, and I feel it is just brewing when these issues happened.
2:52 for short users cuz why not