5 Signs You Don't Love Yourself

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  • Опубликовано: 2 авг 2024
  • Have you ever found it hard to take a step back and evaluate how much you love yourself? Here are a few markers to help determine if you may need to increase the self-love in your life:
    If you struggle to love yourself and need some tips, watch this video: • How To Practice Self Love
    Writer: Kristina Orrego
    Script Editor: Morgan Franz
    Script Manager: Kelly Soong
    Voice: Amanda Silvera
    Animator: Annie Wu
    RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
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Комментарии • 1,4 тыс.

  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  2 года назад +981

    As the year is coming to end, what are you thinking about?

  • @tsucake
    @tsucake 2 года назад +3872

    1. You feel bad when you take time for yourself
    2. You keep falling for toxic people
    3. You apologize for things even when you don’t need to
    4. You beat yourself over your past failures and mistakes
    5. You second guess yourself and struggle to trust your own intuition

    • @gamer22ftw
      @gamer22ftw 2 года назад +145

      "4. You beat yourself over your past failures and mistakes"
      Your god damn right.

    • @Sky_Dragon_OwO
      @Sky_Dragon_OwO 2 года назад +72

      Oh, I really don't love myself. I never did.

    • @Minorin_Chan
      @Minorin_Chan 2 года назад +35

      I guess i don't love myself . Not some new news

    • @yourfavoritespartan8841
      @yourfavoritespartan8841 2 года назад +19

      This hurts to hear, because my girlfriend has all of these behavioral traits, and as someone who completely and emphatically. I am afraid that this difference is separating us and it won't last much longer

    • @dishakaira1683
      @dishakaira1683 2 года назад +21

      Had all these qualities. Hopefully past them now. And hope the same for everyone too❤️

  • @ranieldicardo
    @ranieldicardo 2 года назад +2373

    The fact I clicked so fast in the notification means something.

  • @D.M.S.
    @D.M.S. 2 года назад +541

    I always have to say to me "You need the time, you deserve it."
    "Your decision is good, commit to it. Even if it is not, at least you made one."

    • @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse
      @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад +2

      >stares at chalky heart candy< What is this feeling..WUV?! It both angers and infuriates me!!

    • @Deadcheese12
      @Deadcheese12 2 года назад +3

      That second one, I feel is definitely crucial to helping yourself feel adequate and worthy (even though I believe we're all inherently worthy of all good things) and helps to build responsibility and practice accountability. It's helped me a lot to be mindful of this and just say "f*** it" and go with a decision (one I've thought of and considered, among others) and deal with the outcome as it may come.

    • @Natymxca
      @Natymxca 2 года назад +2

      I think I have depression, and I do say sorry a lot and feel just bad at things like I'm a piece of shit at everything and I think its because of child trauma

    • @OperationIce
      @OperationIce 2 года назад

      @@Natymxca I feel the same way I tend to say sorry a lot also. I also feel like people talk shit about me it’s a fear of mine sometimes it fears me so much I’ll ask a co worker of mine that i trust a lot if they ever hear anything rather than me probably just blowing it off and not caring what people think about me it’s a long process to get through. Especially since I’ve been going through a breakup for the past 4 months with a girl I was so ready to commit the rest of my life to when we were dating for about 9 1/2 months. It’s very damaging it hurts to just even talk about it.

    • @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse
      @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад

      @@Natymxca If the world was ending tomorrow, who would you go to or call first?

  • @kat-he2rj
    @kat-he2rj 2 года назад +225

    1. You feel bad when you take time out for yourself 0:45
    2. You keep falling for toxic people 1:30
    3. You apologize for things even when you don't need to 2:15
    4. You beat yourself up over past failures and mistakes 3:10
    5. You second guess yourself and struggle to follow your own intuition 4:05

  • @c_dorado
    @c_dorado 2 года назад +163

    I think there's another big sign of lack of self-love: "You don't take care of yourself": why aren't you taking proper care of your health, your nutrition, your emotional well-being? Love is an action. Let's take care of ourselves as we would take care of a loved one.

    • @scorpion9063
      @scorpion9063 2 года назад +3

      Eating problems, parents problems, low self esteem, etc
      My reasons for forgetting about myself

    • @perpetuallyfavored201
      @perpetuallyfavored201 2 года назад

      Aaaaaamen

    • @Jack-ny4vu
      @Jack-ny4vu 2 года назад +4

      I’m having issues with personal hygiene and self care and it all feels too hard to shower wash my face brush my teeth and wear clean clothes

    • @ravenstillwaters5195
      @ravenstillwaters5195 2 года назад +1

      @@Jack-ny4vu Your so brave to Express and share this, your not alone I'm a therapist and know for certain that most of my clients struggle with this. You deserve to nurture yourself because you are worthy.

    • @lruisi01
      @lruisi01 2 года назад

      Your Comment is Exactly what I'm questioning about myself. Thank posting your comment.

  • @emilie_doudou
    @emilie_doudou 2 года назад +705

    I feel like she read in my mind. She exactly pointed out all my struggles and exactly said the words I need to hear. The one point which I really didn't realize is the way I feel so egoistic when I take care of myself. I feel like I should help someone else, or study and I'm just procrastinating... and sometimes, when I see myself in the mirror and I actually like my face, I'm like "no non, you're being selfish, stop always think about yourself and you don't actually look good anyways, you're just in a good mood today..."

  • @GibranEscobell
    @GibranEscobell 2 года назад +582

    *TIMESTAMPS comment to keep them up.*
    0:45 = You feel bad when you take time out
    1:30 = You keep falling for toxic people.
    2:15 = You apologize for things even when you don't need to.
    3:10 = You beat yourself up over past failures and mistakes.
    4:01 = You second guess yourself and struggle to follow your own intuition.
    To the person reading this, the man sign that you do not love yourself "enough" is the story you keep telling yourself everyday as to why you are not good enough or under deserving, it does not matter who you are, you are a valuable person, the moment you change what you tell yourself every day, that is the moment you will begin to embrace a whole new person and life.

    • @Marwa-xg8ds
      @Marwa-xg8ds 2 года назад +1

      Thanks for the time stamps, But I might not love myself bc once in a football match I did something stupid and my teammates kept blaming me

    • @Marwa-xg8ds
      @Marwa-xg8ds 2 года назад

      And I keep hating myself for that lol

    • @GibranEscobell
      @GibranEscobell 2 года назад +1

      @@Marwa-xg8ds It is normal to mess up sometimes, but that does not define you, your past mistakes should not define your future.

    • @minerxen
      @minerxen 2 года назад +1

      I have to second guess myself because my intuition is EXTREMELY sharp. Like I am always almost (tragic I know) correct.

    • @Bookwormtalksabout
      @Bookwormtalksabout 2 года назад

      Thank you

  • @herexcellency4304
    @herexcellency4304 2 года назад +281

    i struggled with self loathing my entire 22 years and I have no friends at all. so i wanted to make myself my own companion by learning how to love myself no matter what, and trust me it's the best thing I've achieved.
    loving yourself don't make your life sunshine and rainbows but it make it less heavy and more tolerable, that compassion you give yourself is what always keep you going.
    I know this is not easy but please learn how to love yourselves little by little cuz no one will love u more than yourself.

    • @ReflexShow
      @ReflexShow 2 года назад +6

      May I ask how? (:

    • @senfayy
      @senfayy 2 года назад +2

      I know someone who loves me more than i could ever love myself, so bro don't confuse people

    • @animechildofgod1580
      @animechildofgod1580 2 года назад +13

      It's okay to have no friends,but I can always be your friend,I know that you're A complete stranger,but you're still an amazing and beautiful person,I just know It!UwU!😋❤

    • @sixbren2158
      @sixbren2158 2 года назад +5

      Yep. I can understand the self-loathing part. I kept beating myself up because of my past mistakes, but eventually, I realized I had to try pushing myself hard to become a better person so that I don't make the same mistakes again. Deciding to pick myself up and push myself harder made me feel so much better :)

    • @theprotagonist926
      @theprotagonist926 2 года назад +1

      22 years self loathing?Bruh.

  • @Broken024
    @Broken024 2 года назад +228

    "The whole reason we hate ourselves is because we can only see the parts we hate. I think it's only when someone says they love you, that's when you're able to start loving yourself, I think when someone accepts you, that's when you start feeling like you can forgive yourself a little and start to love yourself" Fruit Basket anime - Yuki Soma

    • @supermonk3y07
      @supermonk3y07 2 года назад +10

      a lot of people go live their lives without ever being loved. Well unless you mean like your mom, dad, siblings, grandparents etc.

    • @MugwumptheGrand
      @MugwumptheGrand 2 года назад +16

      I was going to say this isn't right, but I think it is upon further reflection. I had no self love when I left home, but when people praised me for doing an excellent job, being quick on my feet and staying strong when stuff happens, I started to realize that yes, I am actually a competent, strong and intelligent person. And it wouldn't have happened had others never said that to me. My self confidence took a massive boost and I was able to start healing from my past. Even if it isn't love, honest praise of others and yourself goes a long ways.

    • @iamavoidtrippergutterslush666
      @iamavoidtrippergutterslush666 2 года назад +3

      If your not happy with yourself, you'll never be happy....

    • @dial522
      @dial522 2 года назад +1

      I hate when people complement me, I feel like they are mocking me, like they're playing games and I cannot find the clarity to believe it, I just go harder on myself after someone says good things about me

    • @supermonk3y07
      @supermonk3y07 2 года назад

      @@dial522 are you a girl?

  • @muhashevliw8111
    @muhashevliw8111 2 года назад +10

    Number 4 is the most real reason to make someone hate themselves , failures and past things you are not proud of .

  • @dantepepper
    @dantepepper 2 года назад +15

    Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you

  • @reddragonlegacy
    @reddragonlegacy 2 года назад +109

    Definitely struggling with self-love. Always struggled with low self-esteem. Being the youngest and smallest of 5, introverted, HSP and growing up constantly being asked "why can't you be like your brothers?" or "So and So is doing this, why aren't you?" and questions like that can take their toll a bit

    • @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse
      @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад +5

      Have you managed to forgive them? Understand why they said it and that it might not have been intentionally aimed to hurt you? Even the most horrible human behavior becomes a tragedy if you uncover enough of the events that lead up to it.

    • @thunderblossom8114
      @thunderblossom8114 2 года назад +2

      Can be the same if you’re eldest. I have one sibling and know she’s the favorite. I have no resentment towards her

    • @Wittyx
      @Wittyx 2 года назад +2

      Take it one day at a time. I hope you find comfort in knowing that you're not alone in how you feel. Your feelings are valid, and taking time to do things that bring you comfort is too.

    • @jdbruiser
      @jdbruiser 2 года назад +1

      If the people in your environment belittle you then you should get out of that situation. Perhaps you struggle with low-self esteem because the people you live and associate yourself with make you feel that way. You need to be around people who represent the best parts of who you are.

    • @pavanguru5174
      @pavanguru5174 2 года назад +3

      This is hard!! You cannot be compared to other. You are different and that's great! In our society, we tend to valorise extroverted people because they seems to take action, but we dont see all the work an introverted is doing because its inside. We may not look like it, but introverted work a lot on themself because we are inside ourself if I can say so.

  • @kbee8517
    @kbee8517 2 года назад +23

    What sucks is that a lack of self-love can and often stems from an abusive childhood in which you either got blamed for things and were constantly guilt-tripped, or being held accountable for things outside of your control. Ofc it can come from many more examples, but nothing gets you to the lowest low of self-esteem than an abusive family.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 года назад

      Understanding the narrative of our childhood is the first step to healing from it!

  • @ToniWellons
    @ToniWellons 2 года назад +58

    I’ve struggled with the fear of failure, low self esteem, lack of self love for years and still struggle today. Believing in myself and my abilities has been difficult because I constantly over analyze and second guess myself because I feel like anything I do is never good enough and that I should be much more. Being insecure is real 😔

    • @SC20_
      @SC20_ 2 года назад +4

      I feel you! I hope it gets better for both of us!

    • @AwesomeLaggy
      @AwesomeLaggy 2 года назад +2

      I feel this🥺🥺🥺

    • @ciaratambongco8406
      @ciaratambongco8406 2 года назад +2

      same..

    • @Tweetyresm
      @Tweetyresm 2 года назад +1

      Same... imposter syndrome is a mf

  • @yesha3306
    @yesha3306 2 года назад +134

    As a person who is insecure this video help alot!. I've told myself I was going to lose weight, and I didn't
    I blame myself, for not being right for him. I will always punish myself for things I didn't do right. I don't do it often now ty for posting this❤

    • @Kyumifun
      @Kyumifun 2 года назад +8

      Keep trying then. It's better than punishing yourself over a failed promise.

    • @yesha3306
      @yesha3306 2 года назад +2

      @@Kyumifun ty❤

    • @yesha3306
      @yesha3306 2 года назад

      @@kathybarry2765 you are so sweet I can't 🥺❤

    • @saramariasdotter3681
      @saramariasdotter3681 2 года назад

      @@kathybarry2765 Thanks for your advice You're not just sweet - you're damn right! ! ❤️🤗

    • @kimmiet.8962
      @kimmiet.8962 2 года назад

      Don’t say I will “always”. You need help saying things in past tense. Change your mindset. You need to be right for you no one else. We all have insecurities, but don’t relish in failures. Get a life and support coach. Keep watching these.

  • @justmegumi34
    @justmegumi34 2 года назад +78

    If u’re having this problem just remember that u’re special and u’re important and most importantly u’re loved u shouldn’t hate urself and u should be proud of who u r don’t let others pull u down

    • @Kyumifun
      @Kyumifun 2 года назад +9

      I'm already at the point where comments like this do not work on me 💀

    • @justmegumi34
      @justmegumi34 2 года назад

      @@Kyumifun Well do u mind telling me why u hate urself?

    • @bettymoser4323
      @bettymoser4323 2 года назад

      You are suppose to tell tell yourself that you are loved, but it feels good when someone tells you, even someone you don't know. Thank you The entire population of Australia.

    • @Kokkofish
      @Kokkofish 2 года назад

      @@Kyumifun lol same

    • @justmegumi34
      @justmegumi34 2 года назад

      @@bettymoser4323 Lol did u just thank an entire country

  • @foxyloon
    @foxyloon 2 года назад +33

    I've struggled with every point made in this video. It's taken a lot of work on my part, but I'm on the path of learning to love and be more accepting of myself.
    If there's anything to take away from my experience, is that perfectionism is a very unhealthy mindset to have. There's nothing wrong with striving for better, but it becomes detrimental when your inner critic is constantly picking apart every little thing you do or have done in the past.

  • @threekeysmusic
    @threekeysmusic 2 года назад +14

    I’m slowly learning to love myself more. It is taking some time but I’m definitely trying!

  • @warmthsplash3795
    @warmthsplash3795 2 года назад +191

    Your videos always help me when I’m going through problems . Love your videos, keep it up!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 года назад +31

      We're happy to help :) Did you relate to this video?

    • @MenacingVegito
      @MenacingVegito 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go thanks for help I use to watch in 2020 but I 9 now my first video to watch this fake friend in your channel

    • @MenacingVegito
      @MenacingVegito 2 года назад +1

      @@kathybarry2765 getting school to end this a hard time

  • @loneyhearts
    @loneyhearts 2 года назад +9

    I am learning self-love. I know it has been problematic for me.
    I stopped bringing toxic people into my life, searching for good friends.
    Coming from a toxic environment of narcissistic people, I chose a different path.
    Life doesn't always teach you it's best lessons, but recognizing it and staying true to yourself helps you through it.
    We are the most loved people, we need to love ourselves. Spend time with yourself. Your best friend should be you.

  • @joban4963
    @joban4963 2 года назад +8

    I spent my whole childhood being told I was selfish while almost never actually getting my needs met. Got this sort of thing drilled into me

  • @JRob594
    @JRob594 2 года назад +9

    My biggest problem is trying to live up to everybody's impossible expectations of me it seems like I can't do anything right no matter how hard I try

  • @dreamtoonfamily
    @dreamtoonfamily 2 года назад +47

    Hey, you. whoever’s reading this, this is your sign. everything’s gonna be okay. you did not come this far to give up. I believe in you ❤️ Stay connected 🙏🙏🙏

  • @ZeeS07
    @ZeeS07 2 года назад +21

    I can relate to all five of them
    I've realised it a while ago
    I used to think I'll never be good enough
    So now, I'm trying to understand myself, accepting the way I am and
    I've stopped trying to be perfect.

    • @downhomesunset
      @downhomesunset 2 года назад +2

      You are perfect because you are special. You don’t need to show your perfection to everyone. Just knowing you are will make you shine!

  • @reaperX779
    @reaperX779 2 года назад +57

    Hi Psych2go,
    I have been struggling with my SAD and I have to say this, your videos are helping me identify and get my thought patterns into the right track.

    • @BingoRazar
      @BingoRazar 2 года назад +13

      @cyika you guys are ruthless have some sympathy for this guy

    • @stardust942
      @stardust942 2 года назад +5

      I have SAD my whole life and i know how hard it is to live every single day with the suffering inside. I am glad you are getting in the right track. You are so strong and I wish you an amazing life:)

    • @downhomesunset
      @downhomesunset 2 года назад +2

      @@stardust942 it really sucks having SAD. Worse when you live where it’s -40 for a lot of the winter!

    • @stardust942
      @stardust942 2 года назад

      @@downhomesunset oh i am so sorry. It must be really hard for you. Please take care❤

    • @stupidbread
      @stupidbread 6 месяцев назад

      empathy>>sympathy

  • @proudblink27
    @proudblink27 2 года назад +51

    You can't stop me loving myself 💜
    Love yourself!

  • @thechancellor-
    @thechancellor- 2 года назад +6

    To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Find yourself.

  • @meelsg
    @meelsg 2 года назад +13

    points made:
    1. you feel bad when you take time out for yourself
    2. you keep falling for toxic people
    3. you apologise when you don’t need to
    4. you beat yourself up over past mistakes
    5. you second guess yourself and struggle to trust your own intuition

  • @HannahRainbow88
    @HannahRainbow88 2 года назад +13

    As a recovering perfectionist I can tell you that starting something imperfectly is always better than perfectly doing nothing. You have to learn to REFRAME situations as if advising/cheering on a friend. Eg hey that's great you've started a new project instead of saying what do you mean you haven't completed this perfectly yet? ... Hope that's helpful :)

    • @Ibukisenpai
      @Ibukisenpai 2 года назад +2

      I like this a lot, thanks Hannah, I would like to add the expectation level we put on us while doing something on the first place, that paralyzed the s***t out of me. Setting high expectations leads to unsatisfaction when you don't achieve your goals, and in fact that is something we can't control. So it is better totake things less seriously, enjoy the process, have fun while doing and don't overthink the result.

    • @beebeemotsumi
      @beebeemotsumi 2 года назад +1

      This is very true

    • @danas5846
      @danas5846 2 года назад +1

      thanks !! hope ur doing better

  • @khruoizukowolf
    @khruoizukowolf 2 года назад +2

    This video speaks to me so deeply, every last one of these things are exactly what I feel, the feeling of self love is non-existent, my biggest thing is apologizing needlessly, I get told to stop apologizing only to almost instinctively do it again, I have to make the effort to stop myself, I'm in a stage of recovery for my psychological issues and self love, self esteem, anything to do with myself, I subconsciously end up pushing aside, doing things for my own time makes me feel terrible, like I need to focus on my friends rather than myself, I grt antsy and feel like I have to dive back in. You got me this time you guys.

  • @montanosegaming7011
    @montanosegaming7011 2 года назад +1

    Just seeing a new video from this channel it means that i am going on one of the best adventures of self education

  • @ayanm1867
    @ayanm1867 2 года назад +15

    I love your animations. It’s very colorful and each character looks different in a cool way . I used to do those things but I slowly started to love myself .

    • @annie7580
      @annie7580 2 года назад

      your insight means a lot, ty!!☺

  • @oconaddify
    @oconaddify 2 года назад +4

    I used to struggle with self love. I was born male and being praised as a handsome boy never sat well with me. I wanted to be a girl from the time I was five. But I was in denial about being trans and just sucked up male puberty. I still never loved myself nor thought I was attractive. It affected how I interacted in relationships. Eventually, after suffering a really bad heart break, I expressed to a friend that I want someone to love me. She told me I need to be able to love myself. Eventually, I realized I don’t love myself as a guy. So I began HRT and am finally living full time as a girl. For the first time in my life, I genuinely love myself.

  • @nope.260
    @nope.260 2 года назад +1

    Oh definitely.for me the most important thing to do was getting myself busy and ignoring what other people say, including my friends whenever they dislike something that I really like or enjoy.

  • @tiaglassbutterfly
    @tiaglassbutterfly 2 года назад +1

    I remember watching the same topic's vid on this channel and how I literally matched with every single point almost 3 years ago. It's beautiful to look back and see how far I've grown into loving myself, I honestly never thought I would get here and I'm so grateful

  • @stayhappylittlemermaid
    @stayhappylittlemermaid 2 года назад +3

    It is not how we live, but out of gratitude and love how we live for others.

  • @umayanganee4645
    @umayanganee4645 2 года назад +13

    I think when I discovered the love yourself series is when I realised that I needed to start loving myself💜

    • @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse
      @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад +1

      Your comment reminded me of South Park. When butters asks his dad why he was having wet dreams, he said it was all his happy feelings lol

  • @loujew8973
    @loujew8973 2 года назад +2

    This is me, even the toxic relationships. It was an abusive ex who still to this day puts me down, nothing I do is ever right, we have kids together so I can't escape. I am taking 2022 to focus on myself and to hopefully learn to love myself again. Thank you for your videos they have helped me understand myself alot.

  • @Momin_Azam
    @Momin_Azam 2 года назад +2

    This video really hit home 😔. I struggle with depression, which comes with low self-esteem and low self-love, so I related to a lot of these. Thank you for making really good videos that are educational and relatable ❤!

  • @khhthuiting
    @khhthuiting 2 года назад +8

    Thank you so much for making this video!! Resonated a lot to it! Sending love to everyone who is struggling with this!:) 💖

  • @M1N1Munchies
    @M1N1Munchies 2 года назад +3

    This is perfect timing! I just started learning about self-esteem and loving yourself.

  • @SourPop93
    @SourPop93 2 года назад +2

    I got 4/5
    I love how she has such a soft voice, it's so relaxing you know😌

  • @tammy6452
    @tammy6452 2 года назад +2

    3:35 you feel past mistakes are the equivalent of a real life danger.
    First time I ever actually let this sink in when it was put this way. I have probably heard it on different occasions but it didn't take hold. Keeping this appropriate to the situation is a struggle when I hear this topic.
    I put up walls as a kid to protect myself from chaos in my family of origin. If I made a mistake, the first assualt was emotional, if that didn't get to me, it escalated from there. We eventually fell into a pattern of me not getting dinner.
    I literally put those walls up to this day as if I am fighting for my life when I am in survival mode. On top of the abnormal two years there has been other issues going on that had to be dealt with. I have been in recovery for many years, I always find a new way to climb up the spiral of getting better. I just pray these walls have not cost current connections with people.

  • @eimandiambangan5750
    @eimandiambangan5750 2 года назад +4

    I had all these signs 2 years ago. I never knew that I didn't love myself. But I knew that I didn't like me. 2021 is truly a remarkable year for me because I was able to achieve inner peace and truly be in love with myself. Just being able to see my growth through my journals is astonishing - from a girl who was so hard on herself and could never tell herself that she loves her to someone who believes and loves herself through and through. Grateful for ending 2021 and entering 2022 with a different outlook on myself and on life. Your channel is wonderful! Thank you for all the things you share 😊

  • @Skemati
    @Skemati 2 года назад +4

    Hey Psych2Go. I just wanna say that. This video that you made. Has reassured me a lot that I'm not the only one going through this kind of problems and. You are probably the closes to actually understanding the struggles I deal with. Unlike other people in my life. Thank you so much

  • @samanthagreen8054
    @samanthagreen8054 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for your videos. They TRULY have saved my Life. I've been triggered by MASS media in general lately. 😣😨😖😢😡😵 BUT YOUR RUclips channel videos ALWAYS make me smile, even when I sometimes get my feelings hurt or outright disagree, lol. 😋😘 The soothing narrator VOICE, the endearing animation, the scripts and style in which you communicate ideas and concepts- learned, wise yet still relatable and easy to understand. THANK YOU!!!!!!!! 😍😎😍😎😍😎😍😎😍😎

  • @fireinthefreezer
    @fireinthefreezer 2 года назад +2

    The fact that she knows exactly what I'm thinking in these videos..

  • @yourspace3877
    @yourspace3877 2 года назад +36

    I relate so much to this video. Thank you psych2go!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 года назад +8

      No problem :) How many signs did you relate to?

    • @tw_venter0e787
      @tw_venter0e787 2 года назад +1

      @@Psych2go all of them

    • @ausrine_vin
      @ausrine_vin 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go 2🙃

    • @yourspace3877
      @yourspace3877 2 года назад +1

      @@Psych2go all of them

    • @downhomesunset
      @downhomesunset 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go All of them-I’m scared of my ex husband

  • @joban4963
    @joban4963 2 года назад +2

    I was always taught that giving myself any sort of consideration at all was selfish and tearing the family apart. This went all the way down to expressing an emotion my mother decided I shouldn't have. I was coerced into doing things that effectively destroyed my life, and any hint of pushback was taken as me being violent and aggressive. Apparently when I got punched in the face that was because I deserved it, but when I pulled a face that was me being intimidating and trying to manipulate people.
    As far as I am aware the only thing I really did 'wrong' as a child is outsmart my father, and not be the same personality as my mother who considered me to be her pet.

  • @SamPings
    @SamPings 2 года назад +2

    The first one hit me straight away. Even when I'm doing something productive, I still feel I wasn't at some point..😓😓

  • @Minorin_Chan
    @Minorin_Chan 2 года назад +3

    Your videos always help me on bad days . Love your videos so much !!

  • @user-oi3bk7iv4d
    @user-oi3bk7iv4d 2 года назад +4

    thank you for making these videos I understand all types of meanings that I experience.

  • @DrJustininJapan
    @DrJustininJapan 2 года назад +2

    TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF is a key aspect of building and maintaining your mental health!! 😊 ❤️ ☀️ WITHOUT HAVING TIME TO REFLECT ON YOUR OWN GROWTH, i don't think you can give fully to others .. you will always just get drained a little more every day 😔

  • @stilldomi
    @stilldomi Год назад

    I'm glad to see that this information is so readily available in a simple format such as this, thank you

  • @ThePochiGamerPochi622
    @ThePochiGamerPochi622 2 года назад +8

    YOU’RE RIGHT! I HATE MYSELF! :D

  • @catatoulli
    @catatoulli 2 года назад +3

    I actually acknowledged the fact that when I take time for atleast 20-30 minutes after an entire month or atleast after a hard week, and I spend time with myself maybe in the balcony listening to soft music on loop and looking back on everything that has happened that month/week and process it and actually ask myself how I felt about it at that time and how would l deal with it if it were present in front of me now, and how that particular problem affected me, I tend to know more about myself and each time you know more about yourself, it's a step closer to self love💜💜

    • @trappart9209
      @trappart9209 2 года назад +1

      Thank you so much, I find your practise helpful and going to try it c:

    • @catatoulli
      @catatoulli 2 года назад +1

      @@trappart9209 💜

  • @thunderblossom8114
    @thunderblossom8114 2 года назад +1

    Definitely struggle with self love. Deal with depression and I’ve endured a lot alone and without support

  • @bettymoser4323
    @bettymoser4323 2 года назад

    Number 3 and 4 really hit home, as the new year approaches, I am thinking of ways I can be more happy with myself than I am now.

  • @lordmaul7904
    @lordmaul7904 2 года назад +3

    Ouch I've fallen for 4 out of 5. Toxic love Is one I've avoided. Thanks for the helpful Info although thanks for every video even if I am still a sad Morbid wreck. You help me Explain this state I'm in to other people

  • @imrishika6477
    @imrishika6477 2 года назад +3

    This is the most relatable video i have ever seen for me

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 года назад +2

      We hope this helps :) How many signs did you relate to?

    • @imrishika6477
      @imrishika6477 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go almost all

    • @imrishika6477
      @imrishika6477 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go and one more thing is that i feel hurt , left out when i don't get attention and i often feel less productive like i am useless and i am having anxiety and burn out often what should I do 🥺

    • @imrishika6477
      @imrishika6477 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go i am scared and shy so i can't be my real self in front of other people it's like i am a fake person but i was not like this before

  • @dailydoseofmedicinee
    @dailydoseofmedicinee 2 года назад +2

    Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.👍

  • @shimmy1366
    @shimmy1366 2 года назад

    i knew this is for me definitely… the two essential components of confidence is having self trust and self respect… still learning to love myself have been struggling with self love since i was 20… but i’m still learning up till now i’m 26.. and i do see a little progress in me but still i want to reach a point where i feel so comfortable being alone and doesn’t envy when people around me having partners

  • @xii5452
    @xii5452 2 года назад +4

    I love your videos so much!

  • @Angelik_
    @Angelik_ 2 года назад +11

    Perfect timing,I'm totally learning to how to love myself too and this is kinda help me to aware to understand or manage things on this :DD

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 года назад +3

      We hope this video helps :) How many signs did you relate to?

    • @varshanalokesh3303
      @varshanalokesh3303 2 года назад +2

      @@Psych2go all

    • @Angelik_
      @Angelik_ 2 года назад +1

      @@Psych2go 4 of them actually that mostly related on the mistakes of the past for some reason that haunts me but I'm trying to make my self keep forward and becaming better rn (I hope I can do it)

    • @Angelik_
      @Angelik_ 2 года назад +2

      @@varshanalokesh3303
      Your not alone too,Almost same somehow :((

  • @Sarah-ez6qo
    @Sarah-ez6qo 2 года назад

    Thank for this… it really hit me hard… thank you so much for every video you post. Your constant loving videos help me so much❤️. Healing is hard and reaching out is even harder. What your doing on this channel is amazing and I hope you know how helpful you are to me and sooo many other! Thank you for what you are doing.

  • @vivianingram7566
    @vivianingram7566 2 года назад

    This video deserves a golden like! I doubted and struggled to love myself all the time!

  • @yuwi.6180
    @yuwi.6180 2 года назад +3

    5 signs you don't love yourself :
    1. You feel bad when you take time out for yourself.
    2. You keep falling for toxic people.
    3. You apologize for things even when you don't need to.
    4. You beat yourself up over your past failures and mistakes.
    5. You second guess yourself and struggle to trust your own intuition.

  • @your.l0cal._.sleepyhead449
    @your.l0cal._.sleepyhead449 2 года назад +3

    Love your videos 💕I also really need to work on loving myself lol

  • @jedfuentes3305
    @jedfuentes3305 2 года назад

    Watching ur videos is the best time to watch to start a new life next year.

  • @cmscalvert
    @cmscalvert 2 года назад +2

    My girlfriend sent this to me, because she knows these are my struggles. She is right. All of these are problems I have all the time.

  • @vintage.8288
    @vintage.8288 2 года назад +3

    0:45 = You feel bad when you take time out for yourself.
    1:30 = You keep falling for toxic people.
    2:15 = You apologize for things even when you don't need to.
    3:10 = You beat yourself up over past failures and mistakes.
    4:01 = You second guess yourself and struggle to follow your own intuition.
    *SENDING HUGS WHOEVER SEES MY COMMENT! KNOW YOUR WORTH. TREAT YOURSELF WITH KINDNESS LIKE HOW YOU ALSO TREAT OTHERS!* 💕

    • @haileytheschizo7893
      @haileytheschizo7893 2 года назад

      My girlfriend is amazing she grounds me when I'm losing my grip on reality she has a family emergency to take care of or so she says she's probably cheating on me I know her type I've fell for women and men like her before

  • @businessisboomin7252
    @businessisboomin7252 2 года назад +4

    Love the drawing style of this video haha

    • @annie7580
      @annie7580 2 года назад

      ahh thank you so much!!☺

  • @zinebnachily1849
    @zinebnachily1849 2 года назад +1

    I use to blame my self whenever there's a problem in our house... even though i didn't cause it , and apologize a lot , feel guilty while resting during the day.... but after a loooot of trying to love and forgetting my self , i stop all of those bad things, and i get self confident also .... hope everyone in this world find the better version of themselves 💕 ... keep going on your videos are really helpful 👌

  • @vivianbrand4845
    @vivianbrand4845 Год назад +1

    I definetly didn't loved myself.
    After I watched this video, I can see, that I am making very good progress in loving myself. Now I can see, that this things were a part of me, but mostly not anymore now.
    In most times it's hard for me to see that I am successful in my therapy.
    A video like this let me see clear, that I am "growing".

  • @ReaperEnd
    @ReaperEnd 2 года назад +7

    I definitely struggled with self love at one point and still do to a point. I constantly threw myself down for everything and if we go off the list (which I know isn't the universal know all for everyone) I've hit all the points at the same time for awhile. Thankfully I'm a lot better at self love now even with occasional struggles. If there was anything that I could say to people who felt the way I did, I'd say that with as hard as self love seems now it does get better eventually. If you struggle with that voice in you that's beating ya with the past mistakes and memories fight back. All those mistakes and things in the past taught lessons right?

  • @samuelrivadenera9910
    @samuelrivadenera9910 2 года назад +20

    1.Do
    2.You
    3.Know
    4.Who
    5.Is
    6.The
    7.Most
    8.Beautiful
    9.Girl
    10.In
    11.The
    12.World
    13.Look at number 2

    • @Simplifried
      @Simplifried 2 года назад

      * le epicly trolls in not girl *

  • @AlexaThinks
    @AlexaThinks 2 года назад +1

    I got most of them, but you got me with number five 4:05. I second guess myself and struggle to follow my own intuition. I'm confident in saying i dont think it's because I don't love myself - but because i was raised on a rocky structure, and i know it.
    Just integrating another point of view - absolutely great video!!

  • @bearddpirat7774
    @bearddpirat7774 2 года назад

    I do all of these!! I have gotten better at not saying sorry for every little thing especially if it's something minor or something unnecessary to apologize for.

  • @briannadrawsstuff-4745
    @briannadrawsstuff-4745 2 года назад +5

    Love the content you make! :) Keep making the wonderful videos :D

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 года назад +2

      Thank you! No problem :) How many signs did you relate to?

    • @ImHere-4
      @ImHere-4 2 года назад

      I related to 4 of them

    • @briannadrawsstuff-4745
      @briannadrawsstuff-4745 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go I related to most of them. I have always had self-esteem issues, specially with my weight. I have always weighed more than most people around my age and I have been insecure about it for years to the point where even my own family starts to pick at me for it or make jokes about how much I can eat. Your videos help me get through tough times and I appreciate the positivity :)

  • @YourNickIsTaken
    @YourNickIsTaken 2 года назад +6

    Self love is overrated.
    I can work and make GDP w/o loving myself.
    Usually I've got criticism for everything I do. And people have the same issue that and they don't know solutions but they criticizing mine solutions all the time.
    So I cut myself from society and I'm rather better alone.
    But there is the constant criticizm from the society. It makes impossible to love myself.

    • @lonewolfgamingplus379
      @lonewolfgamingplus379 2 года назад

      Man.. you literally described my life.

    • @upbestsalt1551
      @upbestsalt1551 2 года назад +1

      How do you "cut yourself from society ?"

    • @YourNickIsTaken
      @YourNickIsTaken 2 года назад

      @@upbestsalt1551 It is not possible to do it without the society. Because I go shopping and I go to work I use public transport. But I try to make as many things as possible by myself.

  • @Ladyhoneybee606
    @Ladyhoneybee606 2 года назад +1

    You made me realise ive been hurting myself and beating myself up mentally, thank you! Ill try to do better

  • @Mommy2Amaya
    @Mommy2Amaya 2 года назад

    Why is her voice so soothing? Omg I might start falling asleep to this channel at night

  • @bastionsea2829
    @bastionsea2829 2 года назад +3

    When I'm doing 'nothing' I feel bad, but when I'm taking time for myself, I feel fine
    It's quite a distinction

  • @justsmile4610
    @justsmile4610 2 года назад +3

    💜as an army, I always love myself
    🎶🎶you can't stop me loving myself🎶🎶

  • @nate2759
    @nate2759 2 года назад

    This means I’m definitely starting to love myself as I used to do all these things but now only a couple. Being compassionate to yourself instead of beating yourself up is strong one that I’ve learnt, it’s really changed my life for the better.

  • @h0m3st4r
    @h0m3st4r 2 года назад +1

    This video points out exactly what I've been struggling with all my life.

  • @kittykatja5143
    @kittykatja5143 2 года назад +3

    Ugh…self love. The enemy of all perfectionists’ heart.

  • @sam-nf4vi
    @sam-nf4vi 2 года назад +3

    Be being insecure
    This channel:

  • @bernaqui112
    @bernaqui112 2 года назад

    Yeah I do struggle - and the way I seem to find help is with my therapist which I encourage to do. My advice is to make an effort for unfiltered conversation with your doctor, that yes, life is messed up and you are asking for help to figure things out. The past can easily cloud the future if left unchecked. Dealing with this issue made me realize that I struggle to attune to the present, leading to bad habits and excessive procrastination. That triggers the inherit paranoia that nothing and no one in life is a fall back. I struggle to trust myself, but I trust that the effort in changing this sate of mind will lead me somewhere better. Happy New Year x

  • @Unknown-kg9tg
    @Unknown-kg9tg 2 года назад

    Thank you once again I have been going threw sad times and problems now and I always watch your vids to help me a little because I don’t talk with my parents about this kind of stuff

  • @wolfie-_-ranger7932
    @wolfie-_-ranger7932 2 года назад +3

    I still have a lack of self love, but I’m learning how to be a little more selfish about my health. But I’ll tell you the experience with not loving yourself.
    Looking back at it, you really don’t care for yourself, you don’t care what happens to yourself, so you try to help others as much as you can while you secretly suffer. There’s also a fear of anything you say or do will make people judge you, and for me, I didn’t want to be judged the wrong way. In the end, it was because my friends were selfless to me that I actually learned how much I was pleading for help. And for others who lack self love, don’t be afraid to embrace who you are.

  • @Rose-gy1cc
    @Rose-gy1cc 2 года назад +2

    Yes. I’m tired of saying sorry. It’s something I do too much. I’ve been through all of this but am taking more time to care for me. It’s just self love is viewed as being lazy in my home.

    • @cherylsmith4826
      @cherylsmith4826 2 года назад

      I sorry for your home situation. It's difficult enough to figure out how to overcome the things you realize about yourself but to not have any support is heavy. Stay strong & realize you are special- I send you strength

  • @justaguy1738
    @justaguy1738 2 года назад

    I really appreciate that you can make 2 videos daily, that's amazing.
    Keep it up 👍

  • @laurachavez800
    @laurachavez800 2 года назад

    I love you person who writes the titles in the comments ❣️ thank you

  • @SuckerPunch92
    @SuckerPunch92 2 года назад

    I use to be this way until I worked through my unresolved trauma. It was exhausting. Happy to be on the other side. Keep pushing. It gets better.

  • @bloverfrompvz
    @bloverfrompvz 2 года назад

    Oh man... this was actually useful. I behaved weirdly at school and I have problems on being serious... I have a funny nature, but I can't stop making jokes, staying with friends or near cousins. I sometimes think I'm giving them discomfort. I just wanna be the world's friend, and to have a normal nature again. You ABSOLUTELY deserve a new subscriber.

  • @cameragirlwithheels2940
    @cameragirlwithheels2940 2 года назад

    thank you so much, this is totally me and this is great because i watched it on 1st january and started to love my self from this year

  • @phuongngan1987
    @phuongngan1987 2 года назад

    Thank you for letting me know these signs! These made me realize that I actually did not love myself. I've said sorry whenever I felt I was wrong or I wanted to cry. Additionally, I punished myself a lot just simply because I got a C in my exams, did not study hard enough or I wasn't well-informed about these fields such as science and technology. If I didn't watch this video, I would never change my thought and never treat myself properly. Thank you so much!!!

  • @drinasun6984
    @drinasun6984 2 года назад

    I had all of these things in my past, but I'm doing better now. I love myself more now.