Holy hell. This hit me like a ton of bricks. I really needed to see myself in this way. Thank you ladies. I have barely left my house in 3 months. All I do is lie in bed and sleep. I've pushed everyone away. Life is very "serious" and I won't let anyone see me. Finally tears. Thank you.
CharChar me too I am in the same situation.... this makes sense. I have not let anyone in in a while....now I wonder how to. I WILL FIGURE THIS OUT AND SO WILL YOU💛 Sending Love I hope you feel better
Savannah Love After replying to your comment last night I watched the video by teal titled 'I can't feel love'. I woke up this morning with you on my mind and the words from teal "celebrate your victories" You reached out to me and I'm grateful. I bet you have a lot of victories in letting people in (as do I). Celebrate 💛 build on tiny successes. I think you're amazing. Much love beauty
I have chronic fatigue, hypothyroidism, and perfectionism, and I think this might be the first time "letting go" was adequately explained in 20 years of spiritual life. Thank you, Teal.
U ain't gotta let go u gotta want it. Let it go. Don't care about let it go and allow the universe to bring it to u so just be ready to receive and allow and strive to be better everyday a better you. And to be urself
@Rebecca The Great Thankyou for letting me know this. I have had ME/CFS for 25 years and no amount of mind therapy has cured my body. How long have you had chronic fatigue?. I sometimes feel all these kinds of videos do more damage to people who suffer and dismiss other causes such as adrenal fatigue or chronic infections etc.
@@RebeccaPemberton that's okay. Alerts for RUclips comments are non existent in my APP. It's frustrating. I am eating meat based mostly now and it's helping me. Apart from that not much else. I'm so sorry you suffer so much. I can relate to how you feel completely. 🥺
I have been suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome for at least the past thirteen years and chronic pain for almost three years. This is the third or fourth time that I've watched the video because I've been at different stages with my healing. For me it stems from not feeling like I'm good enough/ unworthiness, having low self-esteem/ low confidence, having a high standard for myself, putting too much pressure on myself, feeling like I have to work extra hard to keep up with everyone else. I have this trauma from not being unconditionally loved as a child, being constantly rejected or disapproved of, not being encouraged or emotionally supported, needing to be a certain way to behave, fit in or be good, and being overly controlled/ bossed around and made to feel that I always should be doing things that I don't want to do in order to be loved and accepted and survive. So there is this feeling of "have to" do things instead of "want to". And, at the same time, not being told "good job" or "I'm proud of you" or the things I do want to do not being approved of, which caused me to not be able to be or express myself to the extent that I should be able to. All of this caused me to be a perfectionist, be overly committed or devoted to things (overdrive state), be very self-critical, take things way too seriously, not be decisive or sure about myself or my decisions, not be as joyful, lighthearted, and carefree as I would be otherwise, care way too much what others think about me, want other people's approval and be defensive when others take issue with something I'm doing, be a do gooder people pleaser at the commands/ direction of others. Some of those things are more apparent with where I'm at now and others I feel like I'm pretty much past. I didn't used to have this level of awareness and I've come along way from where I've been. I'm also sensitive to other people's energy and that in combination with all of the emotional abuse, negativity from others (anger, worrying, complaining, toxicity) is a recipe for disaster (or expansion if I want to say it from a higher perspective). What I'm working on now is unconditionally loving myself, being non-judgmental towards myself, accepting myself as I am, loosening up, being cool, chill and calm/ easy with myself, not trying too hard or too fast to heal, being with myself/ not instantly trying to feel different if I feel bad or overwhelmed, letting things go since everything doesn't have to be perfect, reminding myself to be patient since healing and life-improvement takes time/ not everything can happen all at once. Generally I'm good at staying afloat and continuing to move forward. 👍 Right now I'm actually excited about my future because I'm doing a lot better than I was in the past and I know my life will get even better in time. Connection is the underlying component because I've pushed people away/ lost friendships due to not feeling good enough or worthy of being with them. I know I spun in circles with what I typed, but once I started typing, I just kept adding and adding. 😉 Awareness can be fun. 🙌
Thank you for expressing yourself, many people including myself had similar childhood experiences that lead to chronic fatigue for many many long years, which was a catalyst to my awakening process . 🪔🥰🙏
@@Servant_of_1111 Thank you. I appreciate your message expressing that you can relate and I'm glad you had that awakening process. There is a drudgery that comes along with trauma and chronic fatigue. I'm definitely doing better than I used to, but I'm not completely out of the woods yet. Healing is an evolution. 🙏
18:07 - Timestamp for when Teal begins to the answer how to Heal Chronic Fatigue... Here she explains the process of relaxing/resting to get in touch with authenticity, by "no longer identifying with the guilt of Conditioning." Up to this point we just see the diagnosis of the cause (anxiety/obligation to "never feeling good enough" focused into obsessively working to be "good"). I have lots of compassion for all empaths, because I have struggled with this myself (a lot) and it has been a long recovery. Societal conditioning has made most of us a pile of raw nerves. God bless everyone that struggles with the conditioning of bypassing our authenticity
Here is a wonderful Root Chakra meditation (that I personally do reguarly and love).... "Root Chakra Healing Guided Meditation | Healing Camp #1" ruclips.net/video/JTqktSAmG30/видео.html&feature=share&ab_channel=MeditativeMind
....and this is a great Sacral Chakra meditation (that I personally do reguarly and love).... "Sacral Chakra Healing Guided Meditation | Healing Camp #2" ruclips.net/video/VRGs0GiR-QY/видео.html&feature=share&ab_channel=MeditativeMind
This is an additional meditation that I do for integrating connection between my lower self & higher self. It really helps to get one's self: grounded, cultivating inner body awareness, and connected between grounding into the Earth and connecting with Source Consciousness. It also cultivates awareness of the 7 body chakras, with the outer body chakras, and the higher dimmensional heart chakras (the "One-Heart" & Christ-Consciousness-Heart centers). It's really beautiful!! Enjoy :-) "13 CHAKRA ACTIVATION Meditation by Solara An Ra" ruclips.net/video/B7K0xr9CqjY/видео.html&feature=share&ab_channel=SolaraAnRa
Teal was being authentic. a lot of people down in the comments are having a hard time accepting a part of who she is because its not always the same nurturing, warm fuzzy feel good teal we often perceive in her other videos. i respect her for coming into her true self knowing the spiritual community would embrace every aspect of her even if its the aggressive and the perceived less empathetic version. A lot of you guys are forgetting she's just a person like you and me.
e kang accepting Teal however she is is one thing, but if someone is giving advice to someone suffering and is not centred enough to do so with compassion and empathy, then perhaps they could just 'pass' on being the 'teacher' for a little while and realise maybe they need time out too. Our words are powerful.
@@lifesong8484 With her it's clearly not that shes not centered enough. when you look behind what happens in this Video it's obvious that her aggressive aproach is as much part of her compassion as the loving and Kind is. You sometimes have to shake People a Little rougher so they can grasp what you are saying and reflecting to them. And yes absolutely words are powerful and she uses them to shake peoples belief Systems so they can recognize them and Change it. It wouldn't be as powerful and emotionaly triggering if she just smiled all the time and present herself in this blissful Guiding light. What the Woman there needed was genuine understanding from another human. Teal wasn't the spirit guide that you can not touch. She does make herself touchable and I feel like that's the greatest way of aproaching a Client I have ever seen.
I just found this video after searching what EMPATHS can do that are totally drained. It wasn’t what I thought I was looking for but I watched it anyway. She brought me to tears. I could identify with everything she said. I always give my all for others but never get it back. I push myself so hard people say I’m a machine. I have slowly lost every personal connection I’ve ever had. My mother, my ex, my stepkids, my father, my daughter, my sister, my other daughter, years of no contact with old friends. Then I met a Narcissist who I still cohabitate with. What’s left of me is all but gone. But I know I’m here for a reason and I won’t let go. I have a higher purpose! Teal made me realize something I guess I always knew, yet put off.... way off into the future. A “build it and they will come” sort of attitude. I realize I can’t wait. I must do it now. I need to connect to the people in my life NOW. This chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia/narcolepsy BULL SHIT will end! I will allow people in. I’m 54! If they don’t want to hear it I don’t need them in my life. I MATTER. ❤️
Teal is stressing the importance of vulnerability and in a sense getting the lady to break the glass of protection she's built around her. I have major depression so I'm always tired but if I shared that burden for more and more people, I would feel lighter. This is why support groups are so important. I am only learning how to be okay with not being okay with a person who is also okay with me not being okay. But yes she should give herself permission first. ❤
Thats powerful stuff you just expressed here, really amazing awareness. I too struggle with depression and the fatigue which is definitely in part due - I gotta heal bc of my trauma. I need to get well now...the narrative that I was not aware of. Also abandonment and distrust play a factor...crazy how the dots start connecting !
@@Cv_224 thank you for your comment, just want to pay my insights forward and try to make someone else's life easier rather than harder because you don't win that way anyway
I have Chronic Fatigue but getting better. I watched this 2 years ago and was angry but watching it now I see that Teal is SPOT ON. I believe that many people with CFS are in a cycle of addiction with toxic relationships, ie validation.
I have been a serious person since I was like 3 years old. I remember looking at myself, other adults and even children with this tension in my mind, heart, and body. I can really relate to her, it makes me tear up to see her on stage because I'm looking right at that exhausted aspect of myself. When Teal said the story about reaching out and needing to hold onto something, I cried. Yes, I want to be liked and loved for who I am. All of it.
I think everyone here is of the consensus that the information and wisdom Teal is providing here is accurate and true for the person on stage, but that it is being delivered in a manner that is not compassionate, yes? As a friend of Teal, something you may not know is that she is a Reflector personality type, which means she is a more intense mirror for what is going on in your internal world. She was accurately portraying the subconscious mind of the woman on stage and bringing the light of consciousness to it on a greater level so she could witness it and see it. This was as authentic as it gets, which isn't always easy for a lot of people to conceive of, especially when there is a held expectation of how Teal is supposed to be on stage, and when that expectation isn't met, she is met with quick judgments and criticisms. If you truly want to understand where Teal was coming from during this session, please consider attuning to her or using something such as the octopus technique and insert yourself into her perspective. Chronic fatigue is no walk in the park; it's my wish that this woman and anyone else watching that has struggled with it find a buried treasure within this video that will catalyze your recovery. :)
No. The information is not accurate or true for the woman on the stage in relation to her Neuro-Immune disease Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It is somewhat applicable to us all in a way and I think that is why "healthy" people are not more outspoken about the abuse (albeit innocent and well intentioned) they are witnessing - because they are too busy self referencing and the audience is too busy laughing.
@@thecrueltyfreechurch8238 u spoke for yourself here, you were clinging to a belief that me/cfs is solely biological/physical. HAVING me/cfs is in and of itself a trauma. a psychological and emotional trauma which will need addressing. I hope u already got to this phase in ur recovery, as well as started on meditation as the core part of ur ANS dysautonomia retraining
Yep I totally get it now I had a counsellor like this years ago and I didn't understand what she was doing. 30 years later I have the same issues coming up and Teals stuff is brill. Really helping. If you are desperate you need something to wake you up. People want relief in therapy. But a cure is what you need and a cure is painful.
This was just like a real therapy session. I can completely identify with this woman, so I could imagine myself saying the same things and getting the answers. Thank you, Teal! Thank you, brave woman who went up there! And thank you, Claris Sinclair for posting the video!
It was incredible. I think what's happening is that the lady's denyal was so strong that it litterally warped what teal said and people watching this video got their minds filled with this notion that teal was saying she was doing it wrong when in actuality teal was saying you are right to feel bad.
Wow! This resonates with me more than most things I have ever watched on here. I really identify with the girl on the right, and feel that if it was me on stage in her place, the conversation with Teal would have been very very similar. I can see so many aspects of myself in her, and that feels uncomfortable but also that I am not alone! :) I understand where she is coming from. I have been diagnosed with ME/CFS in the past few months, but have been experiencing symptoms for a long time now. I knew there was more to it than some random medical condition, a genetic susceptibility, back luck etc., and have been searching for answers. I know I overthink/worry a lot, and suspected that was the cause, but to start healing, you need to know why you do those things and nurture/caretake that aspect of yourself, instead of saying "I have to get better" over and over, putting pressure on yourself, feeling guilty, trying meditation/other things with good intentions, but they don't work because of all the resistance, pressure etc. I totally get that now. Feeling inspired!
I really related to this. I didn't think she was "too harsh" its honesty, its clarity, if it seems to harsh for others I can only say its only because you are in the space of being a "good" person. We don't need to sugar coat to learn about our selves we need truth. Thank you teal. I am going to ask for support here; if I do offer my real vulnerable self to family or others and they shame me, or try to change my state of feeling what do I do from there. Example: my dad asks how I am today and I say well I feel depressed and don't understand my purpose in life and he responds whats wrong with you, you have a wonderful life, or lacey you have so many gifts and are such an amazing person you have no reason to feel that way.. or my sister in law asks how i feel and I tell her not so good today i laid in bed all day crying she says ill help pay for therapy or why are you crying and I tell her from feeling abandoned as a child and she says well our parents did the best they could.... this is what i am hiding my feelings from others. Thank you for your support.
I get it. I hide from my small ( parents / brother) family I have because they don't think of me as a human , just some machine that is supposed to work and cook and be a caretaker. I'm not allowed to have feelings, or a grieving process. I married a man like that and now we are divorced. I won't answer any phone calls or text because he doesn't allow me to have feelings. He is trying to be amicable but I can't.
Burst of laughing and crying at the same time at the very first words of the answer "What causes chronic fatigue? Chronically doing things you don't want to do." and Bam! Just like that!!! How does this woman surprise me every time?!!
I think what’s happening here was teal being really concerned for her wellbeing. While she seems really harsh this is meant to get her fastest out of her destructive pattern which will send her into the most miserable life. This is an opportunity of a lifetime. Out of all these people she is there. Teal honors it and is committed to helping the best and most she can.
I actually had it backwards until she explained it. I thought that holding space for their emotions WAS giving myself to them...but now that just seems laughable
Very much disagree with some of the negative comments here. Maybe it's the difference of US culture, needing to be PC and always coddling people. No. The straight truth is what is necessary sometimes. These people are on stage because they invited and needed truth. Why such disrespect for that authenticity? There is more compassion in that, in certain situations, it's all individual. There was a lot of love and opening to understanding here.
Respected maybe not right word, but yeah it has its place and time, but i think it can be counter-productive also. Especially working with people with special needs and trauma... Or as with myself high-functioning autism. Provocation can evoke emotions wich can be good but the therapist must be sensitive for the emotions that come up also, so there is space for expression in a safe way... But with autism i think the rule is not to use provocation and instead the opposite in fact...
wow i have chronic fatigue and listening to this video when yu got to the part where yu said i couldnt hive myself to people it made me emotional and cry and thats amazing but i knew i cant connect i cant talk but i didnt know it causing me to be sick ....i listen to others but i dont talk cuz noone listens anyways etc.. i dont trust people ...and i think its ok to stay alone but its not ...
I think the entire message is retarded. "SUBMIT! ACCEPT YOUR TERRIBLE HEALTH!" Sorry, but I can't sign off on that. Let my body choose for me. Fuck my body. I would never give up. She's suffering every single second. She is losing her ability to function correctly. These aren't mental deficiencies that she's experiencing. These are natural reactions. As Teal has said, all healing follows a pattern change. People heal all the time without giving up. Teal says she's telling her not to run away. She's a liar. True empowerment comes in battle; in triumph. Not this pussified, entitled shit.
Parts of this were hard to watch, but ultimately she took it to place that really made sense. I so needed to hear this message. Sometimes it takes getting uncomfortable in order to make a break through. And I really felt a break through happen today. Thank you.
Haven't finished, but that's terrible, it's quite abusive towards the girl, I don't like it at all. Not the content, but you can bring it across in a much nicer, more caring way. Then actually the girl wouldn't have felt high stress, but would have opened her heart from the beginning. And using the audience for confirmation is quite mean, too. The girl came with an open, loving heart and is being 'ridiculed' (yeah, of course she's looking for approval, but I think it is better to first give the approval so the person can feel safe and then talk about etc.). Feels like Teal Swans' shadow is acting here, she needs to be cool and all-knowing. I feel the woman was courageous, because she was being authentic and true, even when Teal made the audience confirm her. And yes, Teal is right about the conditional love etc. but she doesn't address it the right way at all. The woman would be better off with a kind, empathetic psychologist giving her the warmth and safety she needs, so she can relearn, not somebody showing her off as an example of tension.
Nope. Its the most compassionate thing she could have done. I suffered from Chronic Fatigue and what Teal is leading her through is EXACTLY the process I had to go through in order to heal. I can tell by watching that the girl doesnt, and indeed, CANT get it. I couldnt have gotten it. The illness had to break me to the point where I was, as Teal said, unconditionally present with myself. Teal is mirroring to the girl what the girl is doing to herself on the inside. What is compassion? Compassion for a drug addict in the process of healing looks like a lack of compassion. Compassion from a doctor treating someone with colon cancer looks like taking a knife, shoving your hand deep inside their body, and using sharp objects to remove, and restructure, a part of their body system.
Again, I'm not against what Teal says, I think she is right. It's HOW she says it. After all, the girl doesn't get it also because she gets instantly very very stressed. Now from learning theory (and own experience) we know that people don't learn well in high stress situation. The girl pours her heart out to someone she trusts and admires and then she gets showed off, being told she is very underdeveloped (like the other woman is further in the development etc.). I do agree on the content, but not on the form. Teal tries to tell that if you try to connect and share your problems with other people, that actually some will stay. But in this case she herself doesn't do that with the girl, she isn't present with her, instead she puts her down. And again, I'm not at all against the message, I like to watch Teals' videos and I am pretty sure that she would have said differently in a video, I am pretty sure that she would have said be present, try to create a connection, try to reach the person and be kind.
I agree with jubee. Teal was not being heart-centered. It was as if she was disgusted by this woman's need for approval (which is common) from the beginning. It was painful to watch someone being made to feel stupid. I agree with the content of what Teal said. But the negativity was too much. Perhaps she is demonstrating hatred for her aspect of self that needs approval. Who knows. But she could have just as easily done it in a kind or neutral way. I don't know what was up with her here. If i was on that stage i would have told her either be respectful or we are not going to have this interaction. Seems she is nicer to males. Bc she is still wanting for male approval. No one's perfect. But this was too much.
+jubee jay Have you ever seen Caroline Myss in action? She's very blunt and down the line. She delivers her message with aggression because sometimes it's the most effective way to communicate.
This needs to blast shared among the chronic fatigue community and with doctors. That being said, has anyone else developed this condition as a result of being authentic and in return being only conditionally loved/unaccepted/rejected by others 100% of the time?
yes and then trying again is paralyzing with fear and pushing through it either really works or REALLY makes it even worse. So it is trying to find a balance. Baby steps I guess. Accept that you may be moving slowly and yet, when you do that nothing bad happens. It's okay. Even if it feels like you went backwards, you didn't. It's called learning and growing.
I have the exact same problem as the woman in the video and i bursted into tears several times during the talk, because teal revealed such a profound truth, as if she was talking directly to me and i have never seen this from this perspective and it is so eyeopening. thank you so much teal!
SizzlinMind Why are you watching her whole video? Why are you so angry that she is helping other people? She did help me. Why do you spend so much time bashing her?
I tend to agree that most other people won't be able to empathise or not on an ongoing basis and THAT may be why sufferers become reluctant to talk about it- not the other way round. Plus when you have something like a middle stage of chronic fatigue, before you get to the needing a carer stage, it is already too exhausting to chat even on facebook to people who may understand but be too far away to hug!
It is not depression, that is a misconception. A lot of viruses are implicated in the development of CF: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2776035/ and emedicine.medscape.com/article/235980-overview
I've been rewatching this video for 2 years and I'm really thankful to whoever posted it. It's so brilliant and insightful, best advice on cf out there ❤
I know Ms Swan sounds Hard Hash No No She is THEE most important Realistic, Genuine Helper you can or will find. She is teaching me Teaching us Telling us We Have The Power From Within Within ourselves Its reachable Its doable The energy to heal from any chronic diseases is Within our own power. Thanks Ms Swan.
THE TEXAS TURN-NADO no why would i ? Did you watch the whole thing the part when she told her story what was it like to have invincible friends when no one was there got me ;(
Love & light Look God bless you, but only you can save you. When you wake up everyday you have two choices. Will I let the world rule me or Will I rule the world. Look life is hard, it's full of shitty choices and the only easy day was yesterday. You have to decide whether you are going to be aggressive or passive. Aggressive means you stand up for yourself and take control of your life. Passive means you are going to let everyone and everything take a turn raping you. The choice is and always has been yours. So when I see hucksters and charlatans like this new age fucking fantasy land, invincible, invisible, bullshit taking advantage of people I want to knock their teeth out. Somewhere along the line they are going to ask for money. Now if you believe this claptrap and it helps you (not very much I'm sure) good for you. I wish you the best, love is good, but that light you see is life getting ready to run your ass over in the middle of the night. So get up, get ready, and rip it a new asshole.
For 25 years of my life, I have chronically worried over the smallest of stuff. Constantly analyzing everything and worrying is fucking tiresome. ‘Throw’ in repeated childhood trauma and being told one day at 9 years old that my father is dead. Constantly shutting your mouth when your 6ft1 200+ pounds and you’re being took for a c**t. Being bullied by short kids in school when I favored physical strength and height all because of that trembling fear inside. Even to this day I continue to shut my mouth when I disagree with a lot of the shit that comes out of the people’s mouths around me. And I wonder sometimes how I can be unwell with ME/CFS? Jesus. In this beautiful woman’s situation, even in her attempt to “let go” she’s holding. I do it myself. This woman is just ❤️. And just to clarify, I’ve been bed-bound, house-bound in pure silence because of my brain is unable to tolerate sensory stimuli. Loneliness has been my closest. The fatigue is not tiredness. Working a 12 hour shift is tiring. Having to live in a ground floor apartment because of your body’s lack of ability to climb the stairs because of fatigue. I hope this woman is in a healthy place inside. ⭐️
i totally relate with u, borning as indigo child, never been 'seen', yes 'we do too much', it's not 'the only things' that wonderful Teal teaches (it's very rich & helping), there is more, and what u say is so correct (to me) as well
My psychologist used to confront me in this kind of way. Now I can really see my resistance, anger, denial, elusiveness and lack of awareness. Once I accepted what she was telling me I finally felt release. I can see this exactly right now.
Thank You to both ladies for getting up on that stage. As someone that’s suffered from Narcolepsy & has been alone their entire adult life, it’s a brave thing to have done what they did. I don’t know if I could allow myself to be that vulnerable.
I'm only at the beginning but an observation - Teal said a tension existed in the two audience member stemming from: " I have to get everything correct." My fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue was triggered by domestic violence in the form of a physical attack and acute narcissistic abuse. When that person put me through three years of life threatening litigation (hard to explain the details but my son's and my life were threatened) it was imperative that I "got everything correct" in terms of strategizing to reach the life sustaining end goal with this malignant narcissist. We won but I still suffer physically. Hoping to find out some interesting healing information on this video..
what Teal said in the end about what she witnessed at the age of 8 is pure bravery. And it also illustrates the point. She shows how to be vulnerable authentic and share her reality. And her unique way of doing things: on stage even.
This poor woman was so uncomfortable when teal was making fun of her and Teal was completely inconsiderate. Teal doesn’t validate things she doesn’t relate to, believe in or understand clearly. This made me lose so much respect for her. Of course she’s serious! She’s suffering immensely.
I think doing stuff you don't want to do is only part of it. A lot of it has to to do with the energy system not working properly because of abuse - being smacked and shouted at, constantly having to defend yourself during your childhood. Also the state of mind where other people's feelings matter but your own feelings don't. If you feel like it is your responsibility to fix everyone but don't believe you deserve anything yourself, then fatigue will result. Heartbreak and repressed crying from all kinds of sadness. These things lead to one doing things they don't want to do because the heart gets closed down so you can't do your heart's desire, therefore you do things you don't want to do. A combination of all these factors cause the energy system to get weaker, then the poisons in the water and bad food will not be flushed out very easily and really serious illness results. So far what I've seen in this video is a cop out. I think Teal Swan gets a lot of credit for saying very little.
This video bothers me also. . Teal comes off as callous at times. . But I agree with your summary to a point. CFS has multiple facets to it just like types of cancer.. there are so many kinds! Like cancer there are numerous reasons a human body might develop some type of autoimmune disorder The autoimmune system is complicated since its tied so closely with our liver, brain, pineal gland, thyroid, diet, environment, and emotional health..I think even genetic dna malfunction is suspect but point is...it’s not just you being too uptight and being resistant. There are so many factors at play in our life and physical health. it is very hard to diagnose..even harder to treat. menopause, viruses, toxins, mold, viruses, parasites vitamin deficiencies and gut imbalances are all believed to impact energy imbalances and cell malfunction and those women are of the age that make me suspect it may be part of their problem...menopausal fatigue is a sensible deduction in their cases... maybe other imbalances at work?? Who knows... not Teal that’s for sure!! the menopause factor, mold exposure, hormone and/or vitamin imbalances are likely mine because as soon as I hit menopause my body said screw you. I’ve had major energy issues. I am desperate to slap a label and instant cure in it!!. Probably why I watched this. Teals approach to their answers and questions directs them to them and their mental and emotional tension only. It’s definitely not the sole factor in their fatigue issues.none of this is as simple as some would wish it to be. Our tension and resistance might contribute to a perfect storm. I am a truth seeker but this video which so directly related to my own health left me baffled and worried that people would think their lack of energy is just them being a tight ass. And all they need is to stop being resistant in their thinking.....recipe for more frustration and depression; which is a byproduct of cfs
elioli81 you are invalidating other people’s perspective and Teal is completely against that. That’s not even her practice, she teaches us to validate everything.
Kate Warburton I agree with this so much. It’s weird because she’s all about validating people but she doesn’t validate conditions that she can’t relate to .
Oh God she is so desperate to get better. I could feel her pain. She is in so much pain. Teal swan has the guts to do it . Hats off to her. Teal demonstrated it well about how this lady was not letting go off her desperation to be different. I know Teal was " apparently" hard here but the point is " Truth" sets us free. We all have to go through the pain to come out of it . There is light at the end of the tunnel. But we have to cross the tunnel how long it may be with patience.
I just realised I was the initial cause of my daughters chronic fatigue. Understanding is healthy for me . I am also understanding how she is pulling herself out of it. Now I can see and support. This is life changing especially for the next generation
As someone with CFS I am in two minds about this. I did get a very bad gut feeling at the beginning with the way she was speaking to the woman. I do not like how she belittled her and shut her down. I feel like she could have got her message across in a much kinder way. However, her actual message was, in some ways, a breath of fresh air. People with my illness are constantly made out to be lazy. I wont even say stereotyped because no one with cfs is a lazy person. We are contanty being told we just need to get out more and do more by people with very little understanding. As you can see from this video Teal is challenging her for doing too much which does show a better understanding of cfs than the majority of the population. People with cfs do too much, worry too much, pressure themselves too much and Teal has a good understanding of this and it is a breath of fresh air to hear someone telling a person with cfs that they need to just stop and be with their pain rather than they should be doing xyz that they probably tried years ago. I feel like in some ways this message was probably lost on the poor woman as she probably retraumatised her by being what was actually quite abusive. its such a shame she couldnt have got what was actually a good message across in a kinder way
Hey there, 2 years late, but I see what you mean. Teal doesn't realise that the woman might be getting pissed off by the way she's being treated, which further causes her to lock up. I get the impression that if she did allow herself to be authentic, it would come out as "I don't like the way you're treating me, I don't think you realise how you're hurting me. Oh you did realise, you're just a bitxh like that, oh fuck me haha, ok I love you" but it's that first step of "fuck you teal", she didn't wanna take, cos she could feel the social pressure of the audience (who obviously put teal on a pedestal). Understandable. In teals defence, I think that's just part of her personality (probably a result of growing up smarter than everyone), and I imagine that it's the black coat lady's shadow or something. I dunno tho, just my perspective
@@Mancub2b and teal 100% knows shes pissing her off. If you notice the giggles shes always doing as if theres an inside joke. That's her reacting to how predictable people are to her that's all. Everyone there k ow she is ASD as well.
This is NOT Tough Love! This borders on ABUSE! The reason so many people are reacting with “this bothers me. . . . . this doesn’t feel like love. . . . . this is not right,” is because Teal Swan is NOT being compassionate and accepting. She is putting on a show for the audience. She is NOT joining the woman where she is and accepting her. Humans who are tuned into their own innate goodness get uncomfortable when they see a fellow human being treated in this callous manner. Teal Swan is giving the woman more of what she already has experienced throughout her whole life, a sense of “I’m wrong, there’s something wrong with me, I’m not good enough.” When a healer gives true compassion the receiver (and the audience) does not laugh nervously. They become quiet and perhaps a little teary-eyed, as they feel the love flowing, unconditionally. Although Teal has good knowledge and is correct in her intellectual assessment of chronic fatigue, this method is harsh and unlikely to create permanent change. I admit I did not watch the video all the way through. When Teal gets up and plays God, telling the other woman to lie down on the floor, I had enough. Teal is re-playing what likely happened to her as a child, except now she is playing the role of perpetrator. Unless Teal ends the session by lying on the floor and inviting the other two women to yell at her, it’s doubtful woman number one will become more self-compassionate and self-accepting, or that her chronic fatigue will improve. If you want real healing and good spiritual guidance, I invite you to check out Kristin Neff at self-compassion.org, Brene Brown at brenebrown.com or Tara Brach at www.tarabrach.com. All humble and compassionate women, who know their stuff AND practice it. . . . . . . but don’t go to their workshops or read their books to improve yourself. Do it because you love learning and want discover all there is!
I watched this video 2 years ago, 1 year ago, half a year ago and again now. I have changed a lot since then. I have tried to heal for years. Whenever I traveled the world I was never really enjoying myself, always trying to either fix myself or achieve something. Nothing seemed to help until I started to open up to people about my pain. Since I did, I can go for walks again. I have more energy. Less pain. I also practice Nervous System Regulation and Somatic Tracking which definitely was an aid. If you don't have friends to reach out to, try to get a somatic therapist. Healing is very much possible. I still need some more time but I know that I can fully heal as soon as I give up on trying to be something beyond myself to prove my worth and become loveable. I'll update on this if someone comments and asks for tips.
@@anrika2024oh hi! This is actually amazing to read back on :’) completely forgot this comment. Well, I can positively say that I am fully healed. What I meant by that was that I was always striving to be “better” which came from a state of self hate. I never felt good enough. But I have come to find that there are already people who love me and want to be with me as I am :) It’s been a long journey! Also in hindsight it was a lot about boundaries, only doing things I really wanna do and find the people who want to do those things with me and are okay with me having boundaries. If you wanna know more let me know, would love to help in any way I can. All the best on your journey! ❤
@@cececat thanks so much for sharing and congrats on that amazing journey!! I would love to hear HOW you found those people. Were they already in your life and you just didnt "see" them because you could not imagine being loved the way you are? Also: how did your self hate affect your work (probably striving to be better all the time?) and how did you change it?
Hmm so one was already in my life a bit and to my surprise when I started to share more and be authentic they wanted to hang out even more lol. Others just came as I started to be more bold and almost radical about being myself and establishing boundaries. I feel like the first step really was the decision to show up as myself even if that meant losing some people maybe or being alone. It still felt better than keeping up a mask. Which is exhausting as fuck.. or well at least for me it was. And yes the self hate was driving me to do things I didn’t want to do to become loveable or be accepted. This could be as simple as hanging out with someone even though I felt like I wanted to be home, or picking up and committing to a weird hobby I actually have 0 interest in, to changing my whole personality. I guess I changed that by realizing it wouldn’t get me anywhere. I couldn’t keep it up because of the energy I had to put into it. And even if people liked that version of me I tried to sell them, that wasn’t me. They never really liked me because I never even gave them the chance to. I also did a lot of work on self-acceptance, and then really getting to know myself. How do boundaries feel in my body.. and so on. Also, when I started what really helped me were online friendships because it was easier. This has now transitioned to in-person but just wanted to mention. Lmk if there is anything else you wanna know :)
20,000 likes. Thank you so much Teal. I really related. Every second was like I myself was sitting up there in place of the invitees. Brought me to tears. Extremely grateful for the opportunity to watch and learn. Big warm hug.
You totally rocked this Teal!!!!!! I cannot thank you and these ladies enough. Perfect timing for me. This topic has been my core issue. Love you!!!!!!!
Woooooooaah. I had 'CFS' and though it's harshly executed it's exactly what's needed to break through the stubbornness of CFS thinking. Trying to constantly be and feel good enough through work that we don't want to do or trying to push away feelings, constantly exhausting ourselves and not being true to others around us for fear of not being perfect - masks that tire us out. We can exhaust ourselves through trying to be 'perfect', just because subconsciously we're trying to draw people closer to us through exhaustion and needing to be cared for. It really is a disease of lack of connection, taking things too seriously, hiding truth, and constantly trying to do/mask and not be. Thanks for making me see this so clearly...
Wow, ok, so this really hit home. I used to watch Teal in 2013-15 but after I stopped resonating with her videos. Now I felt that I need to watch this one because I also struggle with exhaustion, basically I'm unable to work since last year, though I kept telling myself that I could, I just chose to take a break. But the honest truth it, I am exhausted and have no energy. I have to admit this. So I really admire these two women on the stage and want to thank them for being brave and playing out this "game of torture" with Teal, because it is an eyeopening for many of us out there. So,thank you! It was like I was watching myself, totally scary. Teal is really good at this, taking you back on track, or at least showing you the reality. And this is love too! This really requires courage, to be open, "give yourself to others". To stop sugar coating. I kept telling out things like "look at the bright side", but as Teal said, that just makes one feel invalidated. Wow. I have a strong emotional guidance system, but also a strong mind and am good at forcing myself to do stuff. But there is only so far... I would like now to stop and courageously be open, be honest, be there. Feel the fear and be open about it. Feel like shit and tell others. Stop trying to be "oh so spiritual". Just be and feel the uncomfortable. And see who stays, who leaves, who comes to my life. Feel a bit disoriented. But i feel like this is it.
Right around 32:00 where this woman is asking for specific advice..."as if she were a five year old"...I was feeling like she really needed Teal to make a simple statement of advice, rather than point out what she's doing to herself over and over again.... I love ya Teal, but this felt like torture to me. Instead of JUST STOP!!!!, I felt like the only way she was going to understand and actually be ABLE to do what's necessary...was to hear....calmly, compassionately and in a non-judgmental tone, that she DESERVES the care that she needs....That there is nothing wrong with that part of her that needs that care.....that she should stick up for that part of her and ignore any and all thoughts that suggest otherwise. It almost felt like her own pattern of feeling like she's not "perfect" was unconsciously triggering a judgmental attitude from you. As a result, I feel like she was falling more deeply into her dysfunctional thinking and therefore less able to actually grasp the meaning of what you were saying. Ouch!
But she already gave her a lot of advice - just not so directly. She told her she needs to give herself love, she told her she needs to let go from worrying and researching and trying to fix herself. She suggested practicing mindefulness, and being present in her pain.
Yes, I realize that....I'm not in any way bashing Teal...I just feel that keeping in mind the fact that a person has patterns literally wired into them by a lifetime of repetitive experiences should be remembered. People need time to absorb and assimilate and it just felt like Teal's frustration was pushing the exact "buttons" that trigger the problem she was attempting to shed light on....which only makes it less likely that the woman is going to grasp the message....(like a dysfunctional loop)....of course this is just the way I was experiencing an perceiving the thing. I don't claim to be an expert...only a feeling observer...
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Thanks you very much, I am suffering with chronic fatigue right now and I felt some reliefs seeings others peope suffering from that and having also difficulty to share their negatives émotions and problems. It was so eyey opening and I recognise myself as this guys who like to show the cool partf of himself, the happy face, and scared to talk about his problem because, yes I am thinking " If I am too negatie people will be bored, scared and get away from me. Wouah, it motivated me to share more authenticaly with others about thoses aspects of who DOESN'T FEEL GOOD.
This happened to me after my divorce. My son’s father screwed us over in every way. My son was only five, so he wasn’t aware of the bad things. I tried so hard to shield him from it. I tried to carry on like nothing was wrong, tried to be the perfect single mom for him even though I was heartbroken, in shock, and with no resources. After 6 weeks of staying with people, no calls from his dad, (heartbreaking to know) my son and I finally moved into an apartment. My body just gave out and I’ve not been the same since.
Wonderful, Teal....thank you for the snort giggles and I am letting go of conditions now, there is no thing to struggle for....nothing. I am so worth loving just as I am in every given moment. Nothing to prove, nothing to earn.
Asking for help. Opening up. Even though you are terrified they will hate you or leave you. It’s too exhausting not to be at some point. OMG. This is how I feel. And like you said I had to literally collapse and that was my body saying: STOP AND ASK FOR HELP. Did they run away. Yes! 99 per cent of them did. But then people who I didn’t even know, or barely know, somehow came out of the woodwork. That was when my guides helped me. They went and got those people and sent them to me. Trust me that the rejection of people who I asked for help not help was the most terrifying part. I knew my friends were going to abandon me and not be there for me. I knew my family were going to be abandon me and not be there for me. And then just going through that pain was such a relief and because my worst fears were confirmed but I was in a better place to move forward
the girl in black and me are so similar - mannerisms, speech, acting serious all the time, everything. I watched this video a few hours ago and since then I tried to give less shits, tried to act and express the way I feel instead of “let’s pretend everything is dandy and walk on eggshells so that nobody gets upset with me”. and it feels liberating, its like a chunk of pressure fell off. I’m probably not going to become a completely different person overnight, but if I manage to live my life more like this even after coming off the influence of the video (like 2-3 days), then I can already tell Id become much less stressed and nuts and much happier in life. Thanks for the video
I'm seeing a lot of comments about how the woman needed Teal to be hard on her because she was in denial and just wouldn't "get it" otherwise. This really bothers me. First of all, that's bullshit. The woman could hardly get a sentence out without teal interrupting her and laughing at her, so we know next to nothing about her perspective on her own illness. She was very patient and tried to be receptive to Teal even when she was obviously hurt and frustrated. Second of all, the whole problem according to Teal was that this woman was too serious and too hard on herself, so the argument the she just needed "tough love" (in quotes because that was not love) makes NO SENSE. "Oh dear. It looks like this person feels hopeless and desperate. I better mock and belittle her until she cheers up!"
celestial-vapor I feel like as a sufferer of fibromyalgia teal is actually right with what she said and if I was that lady I would take this on board u need need to get rid of tention to cure illness
indeed! it's not as if you would dream of saying to someone who is desperately trying to heal from a severe illness or traumatic event to 'stop being so serious'. I think maybe Teal doesn't quite understand the symptoms, physiology & process of chronic fatigue. It is especially frightening for sufferers who not only have mysterious & severe symptoms to deal with but are left alone and in limbo from doctors who cannot see or understand what is wrong.
I think Teal was to harsh with her... It's good to be tough so another person can understand more the situation... but on the other hand helping people require just more love... I felt that this is missing here.
well maybe this will push her further on the spiritual path? I don't think she is doing this to be mean it will do her more good the path of enlightenment isn't about all unicorns and kindness there is self discovery involved she seems a young soul isn't always about kindness sometimes the most helpful medicine leaves a bitter taste in your mouth we've all been put down at some point which is what led us to this spiritual route I have my own issues with losing a very dear friend cos of my condition he blamed me for going home during a flare up this video comforted me alot. But I'm entitled to my opinion
+Ka Ma I completely agree. I know people need a kick in the pants, I do it as a wellness coach helping other to heal Psoriasis naturally and remove pain from their lives, but love and self-empowerment is ALWAYS first and foremost, and to do it in a forum in front of an audience that is pressured to agree with Teal, is really rough on the poor soul. She needs a healing protocol to rid herself of the virus that is causing her CFS, this will improve her mood and handle Teal's assertion that she is simply "too serious"
I did lose some close friends by opening up about my issues but maybe I those were ppl who were close to me based on the fact that I was there for them and not being open about what I needed. I couldn't open up to the person I love and she asked me to and she is gone far away now. I guess I have to make myself filled with integrity and become transparent & Finn who would be there for me to be open about my openness. Thanks for this. Darn. I wish I found this 5 years ago..
Thanks for sharing this has really helped me. I've followed a lot of personal development and have been putting pressure on myself to achieve and had pushed a lot of things and people away and didn't allow myself to have fun as I had felt guilty for not achieving more. Thanks again :)
It could be productive, yes. But it could also be just not feeling like you're good enough/ unworthiness. Having low self-esteem/ low confidence can tie into it. Having a high standard for yourself, putting too much pressure on yourself, feeling like you have to work extra hard to keep up with everyone else. I have this trauma from not being unconditionally loved as a child, being constantly rejected or disapproved of, not being encouraged or emotionally supported, needing to be a certain way to behave, fit in or be good, and being overly controlled/ bossed around and made to feel that I always should be doing things that I don't want to do in order to be loved and accepted and survive. So there is this feeling of "have to" do things instead of "want to". And, at the same time, not being told "good job" or "I'm proud of you" or the things I do want to do not being approved of, which caused me to not be able to be or express myself to the extent that I should be able to. All of this caused me to be a perfectionist, be overly committed or devoted to things (overdrive state), be very self-critical, take things way too seriously, not be decisive or sure about myself or my decisions, not be as joyful, lighthearted, and carefree as I would be otherwise, care way too much what others think about me, want other people's approval and be defensive when others take issue with something I'm doing, be a do gooder people pleaser at the commands/ direction of others. Some of those things are more apparent with where I'm at now and others I feel like I'm pretty much past. And all of this leads to feeling so drained/ exhaustion/ chronic fatigue and TMS/ chronic pain, which I'm working on healing. I didn't used to have this level of awareness and I've come along way from where I've been. I'm also sensitive to other people's energy and that in combination with all of the emotional abuse, negativity from others (anger, worrying, complaining, toxicity) is a recipe for disaster (or expansion if I want to say it from a higher perspective). What I'm working on now is unconditionally loving myself, being non-judgmental towards myself, accepting myself as I am, loosening up, being cool, chill and calm/ easy with myself, not trying too hard or too fast to heal, being with myself/ not instantly trying to feel different if I feel bad or overwhelmed, letting things go since everything doesn't have to be perfect, reminding myself to be patient since healing and life-improvement takes time/ not everything can happen all at once. Generally I'm good at staying afloat and continuing to move forward. Right now I'm actually excited about my future because I'm doing a lot better than I was in the past and I know my life will get even better in time. Connection is the underlying component because I've pushed people away/ lost friendships due to not feeling good enough or worthy of being with them. I know you didn't ask for all of that info and I spun in circles with what I typed, but once I started typing, I just kept adding and adding. 😉 Awareness can be fun. 🙌
The cry of my heart - I'm hurting. I need help. I have nothing left to give. Can you see me? Are you with me? Will you love me? And one by one they walked away. Lazy. Feeling sorry for yourself. I need things, and you don't have my supply. Worthless. So I chance everything it feels like - will you help me? Can you tell me it's going to be ok? That you believe in me? The responses I got were - if I was you. If you would just. Where's your faith. You're going downhill. Everybody's sick of your shit. Is that the best you can do? I don't Have time to. You must have done something wrong. You're crazy. Why can't you... Whats the hurry to heal? So I can do. So I'm worth something. So people want something from me. So.i can take care of myself.. So even if they don't love me, they will still seek my presence for their personal benefit before abandoning me again. But then the gift is the perception that there's the value of me. The only thing desirable. Nobody picked.me. after decades of pouring out = nobody ever saw me. Only what I did for them. If they acknowledged that. It became common currency. Their deserts. Not recognized as a gift or sacrifice or even special. Worthless. Everything I gave was nothing but it was all of me. Now I must scrape myself together for parts. Tell myself the truth no matter how bad it hurts. I spent myself in the wrong way. Wasted. I could have chosen something eise. Someone else. They didn't like me as a door mat. I don't give 2 shits if they like what I'm bringing forward. It's what I have and it's my gift to.myself. All of the rejected parts are beautiful and I love them. I'm going to bring them out and enjoy them. How much of myself did i try to leave behind? A whole self for. These parts my family may not want, but I do! I love me. I can work with them. I know someone will enjoy me. There are people who.want to give me gifts without expecting anything in return. People that fins me funny, smart and beautiful. People that want me to call them. Love me just as I am. Flaws and all. Not looking for a reason to put me down. I don't have to be afraid. I did this and the lesson is that I taught these people that my presence meant supply at no cost. No matter how they treat me, there will be no consequence. No cost = free=of debatable value because it was never negotiated. I attracted those takers. I never gave them a reason to see ME. I wouldn't even let me see me. I've always known thar any need on my part was rejected abd scorned. As my body cried out, 8 manifested my belief into.this world. If I'm not pleasing....I am reviled. I am alone. Nobody's coming. I'll show them, they should have known I'd have something they wanted once again. I'll give it to.someone else! No. No I won't. The time of me seeing these traits as the ones worthwhile are over. Can u learn to live out of what i have left? Will I have the courage to show myself in all of my nakedness? Can I believe this is beautiful? This pain? This sorrow? This brokenness. This truth. I was never a faulty being when I came in. I was perfect. Wonderful with no changes. Wild and free. All of those parts that I was taught to reject. I take them back! They're mine! These may not work for anyone else. But they work for me! I like them! I will! I won't! And who's going to make me? I'm not going to shut up. I want to hear what I have to say! Pp I'm important. How I feel about things matters. More than anything else, more than anyone else, I AM! I choose me. I will learn who.i am and never apologize for who that is again. I'm not wrong. I'm perfect, just the way i am.
Listen people. Teal withheld approval because these people are approval junkies and that's what is ruining their lives. She has to make a big change for them in a short amount of time. This is a time honored teaching method. To the coaches here who say "I'd never do that" maybe you won't go to certain places that could help your clients because you need THEIR approval. There is more than one way to teach and show and guide.
Wow. I have had chronic fatigue syndrome for five years and I do think she might have hit the nail on the head, but her delivery was horrifying. She was mean, condescending and totally devoid of compassion in the way the delivered the message. I kept trying to ask this question at a different workshop, and now I'm so grateful I didn't get picked. If she spoke to me that way I would have told her to go bleep herself and walked off of that stage. I really hope the woman feels better and isn't too damaged by that callous behavior.
I agree lol. I've had CFS for 10 and half years. If this had been me in the beginning stages of my illness I definitely would have flipped, but I understand Teal's message.
Totally agree. I am also recovering from chronic fatigue and wouldn’t have been able to take this. She is totally correct but there is a way of getting a point across, especially when someone is feeling vulnerable and and scared and frustrated and in pain etc and all of the rest of it and that is definitely not it.
Not everything will resonate with you while you have CFS. I agree with her message & delivery. When this woman with CFS watches this later on she will understand the message on a deeper level outside the brain fog. This is only 1 aspect of the healing process of CFS/ME though.
I genuinely wouldn’t be surprised if the woman on the right ended up taking her own life after this (I really hope she didn’t, of course). You could tell how deep her pain is when she spoke of wanting to end her life, and I think this kind of delivery from Teal was very risky and could easily send someone in that fragile of a state of mind over the edge I love Teal and some of her content has helped me immensely, but I think the way she approached this interaction was truly horrific
And so much more, check out many of her other interviews and seminars in the czech speaking places etc. She has went on this amazing radio show quite a few times that spoke English and... I believe it was Czech or something like Slovenian, or Slovakian or something like that. And she went into much detail about other things in her life too. Her handlers and others were grooming her to basically become a super soldier that was supposed to groom other kids but she broke free of that and took as many kids with her. Watch Cathy O Brian with Laura EISENHOWER and Kerry Kassidy, Kerry literally challenges all sides and has been a citizen journalist for many decades and the plethora of guests from all walks of life is actually pretty crazy and will challenge every single guest with tough questions.
Wow Teal. I was going to say you have no idea how much you just helped me with this (by "chance") viewing, but I know that you do. And I don't even have chronic fatigue, but so much of it fit. Thank you once again. (I SO LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU, baby girl!)
This is really like hearing Jesus Christ say to the lame man, "Take up your bed and walk!" Teal is such an amazing healer. I need this teaching and was almost in tears over the statement that when you want to (force yourself to) improve yourself (in order to fit in better) that you are abandoning yourself.
Kelpy seriously? like Jesus? Nah....not so. I admit she is a deliverer of nuggets of resonating truths and her delivery is authentic but so have the other gurus who she has appropriated some of her spiritual truths from .... Some even claim plagiarism but I don’t know for certain that’s the case. I like her delivery though! Don’t agree or even understand it all but then I’m a Christian so some of this stuff is easy outside my experience and tolerance when it comes to certain identifications (alien, multidimensional, paranormal...all get me feeling the heebie-jeebies) I am not interested in dabbling in occultism and letting satanic influence in...demonic beings are real. but I’m a curious human so I read and I put perspectives to the test. People love to throw shade around before they have the facts but that’s juvenile. Teal has definitely captured my interest but she is not on the same level as the Lion of Judea...the Lamb of God.
I have no idea how I feel about this video. Part of me totally connects with Teal's advice, and another part of me ended up feeling so much empathy and embarrassment for the woman, that I ended up being tired. I feel like Teal could have DEFINITELY handled this better, with kindness and compassion. Jheez.
Maybe just different wording...this is my only problem with teal...She is the only person I follow any more..and stupid I am not...however I really have to strain my brain to understand her point some times.. Truly I have to take a dictionary out to understand a word she might use..she is like a college professor teaching 11th grade....soome will get it but a lot won't.......for me, that is the problem...nothing else....I respect her and will back her any day...
My God that's me. I always feel like I have to make myself better before I can connect with anyone but in reality trying to make myself better is only pushing everyone else away and that is the direct mirror into what's going on inside. I am so far away from me because I'm not letting myself hurt. Instead I run away from that hurt. Just when I thought I was doing a great job in being there for myself. Makes complete sense way I was on the fence about helping other people emotionally. The more I help others the farther I feel from myself. I need people to be there for me no matter how I'm feeling. At this moment I can't be there for others. Not until I stop running from myself! I freaking hate that people treat my emotions like they would a bug. They just want them to go away.
When we start seeing from higher perspectives, and have been thoroughly informed enough on human behavioural patterns, we can only be ADORATION AND AWE for Teal and this video - it truly has been one of the most helpful in 60 years of learning about who I am .. Bless you and thank you SO much..Teal !
Man i can relate to this alot feeling like i need to feel better before i deserve connection with people.. Teal says you gotta let that go but i think it's just not possible.. when your an adult love and connection with people IS in fact highly conditional upon you providing value to other people or feeling good etc.. especially the case when you want to be succesful with girls.. so i don't see how to solve this issue really..
for me it was like i kept myself a blank canvas for the opposite sex. Now im gunna do all those 'weirdo' hobbies cos they want I WANT to do, not what i should do to 'win' someone, to be in the right place at right time to meet suitable candidates etc .. makes sense? Do the things u want to do simply cos u want to do them, no 2ndry gains, simply for fun n make connections through those things where u ARE ur authentic intrinsic self
Love Teal, but I can tell she's getting burned out. I think she's getting frustrated with explaining the same things over and over, but she can only give the information. She shouldn't try so hard to make them understand. You get those points in your life in your own time. Took me 25 years to finally figure out that all of our emotions are valid even the hateful, shameful ones. Our emotions don't define us. They are reactions to what we've been taught.
I disagree, she’s not burnt out, she’s trying to help. If she never really tried to make people understand her teachings then she wouldn’t be nearly as successful as she is. If Teal didn’t try to make the woman understand how she’s participating in her own chronic fatigue, what good would that have been leaving the woman still unclear about her condition. Teal is simply really making an effort to help this woman, because if she didn’t make herself clear to her, the woman would’ve been headed down the path of suicide.
Yeah I get that sense too. Esp. if you compare her interviews from 5-7 years ago to the ones now. If she needs to take a break she can. There’s always ayahuasca.
I love you very much, Teal! Thank you for being this honest, super and loveable! thank you for your great help! Your smile is shining in my mind and in my heart, makes me happy!
I love watching teal explain these concepts to people who can hear the message. It’s a layer type message. She can only give what we are able to receive. She only scratched the surface with the first question.
A lot of people experienced conditional love, were traumatized and do things they absolutely don't want to do, yet they don't get chronic fatigue and they are mostly still happy with their lives. But only some get chronic fatigue. Can someone explain this to me? What needs to be understood in order to overcome fatigue?
People are different energetically . Our energy bodies also carry unresolved trauma from past lives and ancestral lives . There are also empaths and highly sensitive people that actually absorb negative energy around them . If they see some horrific documentary about let's say human trafficking , they will absorb the hopelessness and despair of the victim . This will eventually lead to adrenal depletion and chronic fatigue . Watch Belinda Davidson on youtube , she is an energy healer who explains the chakras really well.
I think it depends on your life purpose or life path like how soon your higher self wants to integrate that aspect of you in order to evolve or expand into something that's beneficial for you in that point in time
And honestly what helped me overcome chronic fatigue was disidentifying with the thoughts of "I need to go to work I need to make money I'm going to lose my job I'm going to lose my safety" or whatever thoughts you're having about it. It's really just recognizing the PRESSURES people have put on you in your past and present especially the pressures you give yourself now. And releasing them once you have sat with them and realized where they stem from. But make sure the resistance is released in order for you to detach effectively. Allow yourself to rest. With the mindset of "I am allowed to rest for as long as my body needs. It is okay for things to be messy. I am allowed to be messy. I am allowed to be wrong and make mistakes. I love myself in this space" That released the resistance "I am valuable without having to do anything" If these concepts scare you that is the resistance in your body that you ALSO have to send love and compassion to Emphasis on love and compassion because everyone has given you the opposite so you are conditioned to torture yourself when you're in that position but this is all just conditioning and when you take the step to deprogram yourself out of self love not to fix yourself then you will learn what you need to learn or release the emotions and trauma and release the resistance to the actual condition itself as a byproduct because then you realize that it's not about the fatigue it's about how the fatigue makes you feel. Weak. Hopeless. Alone and not feeling deserving of someone being with you. Powerless. Wanting to control. Wanting to fix. The judging.
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@@naileaolivas2788 ABSOLUTELY. The 2 last senteances resonates particulary in my heart and my personnal experience. I just start to be aware of the desperation, the loneliness, the weakness, the despair that I am feeling due to my condition. I feel a bit lighter to have gone through thoses unconfortable emotions. It's like Life telling you "You need to go trough that RIGHT NOW. I'll put you in a situation where you are even most likely to be aware of thoses hidden emotions.
Thank you for that Teal you helped me understand why I feel chronic fatigue and chronic pain and tension within myself and showed me how to understand my feelings and that the reason I feel this and also how to remedy this by accepting my fatigue and accepting myself and by seeing and telling myself I have the right to feel this way and I fully understand why I feel this way. I am fully with myself! I will never abandon myself every again now I am slightly understanding more about why I am me. xxxx
I am so thankful for finding this video. I have suffered due to the taught conditional love crap my whole life, & so had ME/CFS since my teens (turn 36 next wk). I think a few years ago I may have seen this video very differently, condidering I hated myself more then, and so would have had very foggy filtering glasses on. Teal was not being harsh. She wasn't judging. She was showing cause & effect of what we do when we are scared to just be ourselves, due to trauma etc. I know from experience that there are ppl who will abandon you if you are real & reveal any suffering, but now I realise that why would I want those kinds of ppl in my life anyway? I needed the msg in this video & feel a sense of freedom to let go of ever trying to earn love from anyone. If it is real it isn't conditional anyway. Thank you for your courage in sharing 😊👌💗💗
Haven't laughed so hard in a while...its good to laugh at one self when identified with another sufferer...Thanks guys love and peace to you all...x Teal for real
Holy hell. This hit me like a ton of bricks. I really needed to see myself in this way. Thank you ladies. I have barely left my house in 3 months. All I do is lie in bed and sleep. I've pushed everyone away. Life is very "serious" and I won't let anyone see me. Finally tears. Thank you.
CharChar me too I am in the same situation.... this makes sense. I have not let anyone in in a while....now I wonder how to. I WILL FIGURE THIS OUT AND SO WILL YOU💛
Sending Love I hope you feel better
Savannah Love thank you beauty!! Sending love right back attcha!! Indeed we will overcome and be stronger on the other side. 💛💚💙💞
CharChar 😘
Savannah Love After replying to your comment last night I watched the video by teal titled 'I can't feel love'. I woke up this morning with you on my mind and the words from teal "celebrate your victories" You reached out to me and I'm grateful. I bet you have a lot of victories in letting people in (as do I). Celebrate 💛 build on tiny successes. I think you're amazing. Much love beauty
CharChar so proud of you!
I have chronic fatigue, hypothyroidism, and perfectionism, and I think this might be the first time "letting go" was adequately explained in 20 years of spiritual life. Thank you, Teal.
U ain't gotta let go u gotta want it. Let it go. Don't care about let it go and allow the universe to bring it to u so just be ready to receive and allow and strive to be better everyday a better you. And to be urself
Are you any better now?
@Rebecca The Great Thankyou for letting me know this. I have had ME/CFS for 25 years and no amount of mind therapy has cured my body. How long have you had chronic fatigue?.
I sometimes feel all these kinds of videos do more damage to people who suffer and dismiss other causes such as adrenal fatigue or chronic infections etc.
@@RebeccaPemberton that's okay. Alerts for RUclips comments are non existent in my APP. It's frustrating. I am eating meat based mostly now and it's helping me. Apart from that not much else. I'm so sorry you suffer so much. I can relate to how you feel completely. 🥺
Sometimes it really is medical. I started taking vitamin B along with my multivitamin and I feel so much better. 🎉
I watch Teal Swan videos every chance I get and I swear this woman has helped me more than 20 years of therapy and self analysis.
"you want connection, and your exhausted because you keep trying to earn it." 🥺
"I am done doing jobs I don't want to do...but now I feel there is nothing I can do at the moment until I have the energy." - Exactly how I feel.
Same!
I have been suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome for at least the past thirteen years and chronic pain for almost three years. This is the third or fourth time that I've watched the video because I've been at different stages with my healing. For me it stems from not feeling like I'm good enough/ unworthiness, having low self-esteem/ low confidence, having a high standard for myself, putting too much pressure on myself, feeling like I have to work extra hard to keep up with everyone else. I have this trauma from not being unconditionally loved as a child, being constantly rejected or disapproved of, not being encouraged or emotionally supported, needing to be a certain way to behave, fit in or be good, and being overly controlled/ bossed around and made to feel that I always should be doing things that I don't want to do in order to be loved and accepted and survive. So there is this feeling of "have to" do things instead of "want to". And, at the same time, not being told "good job" or "I'm proud of you" or the things I do want to do not being approved of, which caused me to not be able to be or express myself to the extent that I should be able to. All of this caused me to be a perfectionist, be overly committed or devoted to things (overdrive state), be very self-critical, take things way too seriously, not be decisive or sure about myself or my decisions, not be as joyful, lighthearted, and carefree as I would be otherwise, care way too much what others think about me, want other people's approval and be defensive when others take issue with something I'm doing, be a do gooder people pleaser at the commands/ direction of others. Some of those things are more apparent with where I'm at now and others I feel like I'm pretty much past. I didn't used to have this level of awareness and I've come along way from where I've been. I'm also sensitive to other people's energy and that in combination with all of the emotional abuse, negativity from others (anger, worrying, complaining, toxicity) is a recipe for disaster (or expansion if I want to say it from a higher perspective). What I'm working on now is unconditionally loving myself, being non-judgmental towards myself, accepting myself as I am, loosening up, being cool, chill and calm/ easy with myself, not trying too hard or too fast to heal, being with myself/ not instantly trying to feel different if I feel bad or overwhelmed, letting things go since everything doesn't have to be perfect, reminding myself to be patient since healing and life-improvement takes time/ not everything can happen all at once. Generally I'm good at staying afloat and continuing to move forward. 👍 Right now I'm actually excited about my future because I'm doing a lot better than I was in the past and I know my life will get even better in time. Connection is the underlying component because I've pushed people away/ lost friendships due to not feeling good enough or worthy of being with them. I know I spun in circles with what I typed, but once I started typing, I just kept adding and adding. 😉 Awareness can be fun. 🙌
Thank you for expressing yourself, many people including myself had similar childhood experiences that lead to chronic fatigue for many many long years, which was a catalyst to my awakening process . 🪔🥰🙏
@@Servant_of_1111 Thank you. I appreciate your message expressing that you can relate and I'm glad you had that awakening process. There is a drudgery that comes along with trauma and chronic fatigue. I'm definitely doing better than I used to, but I'm not completely out of the woods yet. Healing is an evolution. 🙏
Thank you. I can relate
why did you just describe my life :O
18:07 - Timestamp for when Teal begins to the answer how to Heal Chronic Fatigue... Here she explains the process of relaxing/resting to get in touch with authenticity, by "no longer identifying with the guilt of Conditioning." Up to this point we just see the diagnosis of the cause (anxiety/obligation to "never feeling good enough" focused into obsessively working to be "good").
I have lots of compassion for all empaths, because I have struggled with this myself (a lot) and it has been a long recovery. Societal conditioning has made most of us a pile of raw nerves. God bless everyone that struggles with the conditioning of bypassing our authenticity
Here is a wonderful Root Chakra meditation (that I personally do reguarly and love)....
"Root Chakra Healing Guided Meditation | Healing Camp #1"
ruclips.net/video/JTqktSAmG30/видео.html&feature=share&ab_channel=MeditativeMind
....and this is a great Sacral Chakra meditation (that I personally do reguarly and love)....
"Sacral Chakra Healing Guided Meditation | Healing Camp #2"
ruclips.net/video/VRGs0GiR-QY/видео.html&feature=share&ab_channel=MeditativeMind
This is an additional meditation that I do for integrating connection between my lower self & higher self. It really helps to get one's self: grounded, cultivating inner body awareness, and connected between grounding into the Earth and connecting with Source Consciousness. It also cultivates awareness of the 7 body chakras, with the outer body chakras, and the higher dimmensional heart chakras (the "One-Heart" & Christ-Consciousness-Heart centers). It's really beautiful!! Enjoy :-)
"13 CHAKRA ACTIVATION Meditation by Solara An Ra"
ruclips.net/video/B7K0xr9CqjY/видео.html&feature=share&ab_channel=SolaraAnRa
As an empath.. I needed this. Thank you so much 🙏🏽
Omg thank you so much, ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It hurts to watch the denial of pain and defensiveness and it's hard to recognize so much of this in me. Very helpful video
Teal was being authentic. a lot of people down in the comments are having a hard time accepting a part of who she is because its not always the same nurturing, warm fuzzy feel good teal we often perceive in her other videos. i respect her for coming into her true self knowing the spiritual community would embrace every aspect of her even if its the aggressive and the perceived less empathetic version. A lot of you guys are forgetting she's just a person like you and me.
e kang accepting Teal however she is is one thing, but if someone is giving advice to someone suffering and is not centred enough to do so with compassion and empathy, then perhaps they could just 'pass' on being the 'teacher' for a little while and realise maybe they need time out too. Our words are powerful.
Life song your bang on!!!
@@lifesong8484 With her it's clearly not that shes not centered enough. when you look behind what happens in this Video it's obvious that her aggressive aproach is as much part of her compassion as the loving and Kind is. You sometimes have to shake People a Little rougher so they can grasp what you are saying and reflecting to them. And yes absolutely words are powerful and she uses them to shake peoples belief Systems so they can recognize them and Change it. It wouldn't be as powerful and emotionaly triggering if she just smiled all the time and present herself in this blissful Guiding light. What the Woman there needed was genuine understanding from another human. Teal wasn't the spirit guide that you can not touch. She does make herself touchable and I feel like that's the greatest way of aproaching a Client I have ever seen.
Lmao when has Teak ever felt nurturing and warm and fuzzy? I can see more of that in Ralph Smart. I appreciate Teal for the straight shooter she is
“We often prevent the very thing we want”
"Stop telling me that I need to be different."
Yes! That is the solution. A difficult concept to convey but Teal handles this very well.
I literally broke down crying. This is SO ME. I am SO SERIOUS.
SAME
You’re not alone!
@@sabrina.saldana sending rest! 💕
@@elinmansson5535 I know how you feel 😓
You're not alone.❤️
I just found this video after searching what EMPATHS can do that are totally drained.
It wasn’t what I thought I was looking for but I watched it anyway.
She brought me to tears. I could identify with everything she said.
I always give my all for others but never get it back. I push myself so hard people say I’m a machine. I have slowly lost every personal connection I’ve ever had. My mother, my ex, my stepkids, my father, my daughter, my sister, my other daughter, years of no contact with old friends.
Then I met a Narcissist who I still cohabitate with. What’s left of me is all but gone. But I know I’m here for a reason and I won’t let go. I have a higher purpose!
Teal made me realize something I guess I always knew, yet put off.... way off into the future. A “build it and they will come” sort of attitude. I realize I can’t wait. I must do it now. I need to connect to the people in my life NOW. This chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia/narcolepsy BULL SHIT will end! I will allow people in. I’m 54! If they don’t want to hear it I don’t need them in my life. I MATTER. ❤️
Teal is stressing the importance of vulnerability and in a sense getting the lady to break the glass of protection she's built around her. I have major depression so I'm always tired but if I shared that burden for more and more people, I would feel lighter. This is why support groups are so important. I am only learning how to be okay with not being okay with a person who is also okay with me not being okay. But yes she should give herself permission first. ❤
Thats powerful stuff you just expressed here, really amazing awareness. I too struggle with depression and the fatigue which is definitely in part due - I gotta heal bc of my trauma. I need to get well now...the narrative that I was not aware of. Also abandonment and distrust play a factor...crazy how the dots start connecting !
@@Cv_224 thank you for your comment, just want to pay my insights forward and try to make someone else's life easier rather than harder because you don't win that way anyway
I have Chronic Fatigue but getting better. I watched this 2 years ago and was angry but watching it now I see that Teal is SPOT ON. I believe that many people with CFS are in a cycle of addiction with toxic relationships, ie validation.
I have been a serious person since I was like 3 years old. I remember looking at myself, other adults and even children with this tension in my mind, heart, and body. I can really relate to her, it makes me tear up to see her on stage because I'm looking right at that exhausted aspect of myself.
When Teal said the story about reaching out and needing to hold onto something, I cried. Yes, I want to be liked and loved for who I am. All of it.
I think everyone here is of the consensus that the information and wisdom Teal is providing here is accurate and true for the person on stage, but that it is being delivered in a manner that is not compassionate, yes? As a friend of Teal, something you may not know is that she is a Reflector personality type, which means she is a more intense mirror for what is going on in your internal world. She was accurately portraying the subconscious mind of the woman on stage and bringing the light of consciousness to it on a greater level so she could witness it and see it.
This was as authentic as it gets, which isn't always easy for a lot of people to conceive of, especially when there is a held expectation of how Teal is supposed to be on stage, and when that expectation isn't met, she is met with quick judgments and criticisms. If you truly want to understand where Teal was coming from during this session, please consider attuning to her or using something such as the octopus technique and insert yourself into her perspective. Chronic fatigue is no walk in the park; it's my wish that this woman and anyone else watching that has struggled with it find a buried treasure within this video that will catalyze your recovery. :)
No. The information is not accurate or true for the woman on the stage in relation to her Neuro-Immune disease Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It is somewhat applicable to us all in a way and I think that is why "healthy" people are not more outspoken about the abuse (albeit innocent and well intentioned) they are witnessing - because they are too busy self referencing and the audience is too busy laughing.
Angelo Lima its both
@@thecrueltyfreechurch8238 u spoke for yourself here, you were clinging to a belief that me/cfs is solely biological/physical. HAVING me/cfs is in and of itself a trauma. a psychological and emotional trauma which will need addressing. I hope u already got to this phase in ur recovery, as well as started on meditation as the core part of ur ANS dysautonomia retraining
Yep I totally get it now
I had a counsellor like this years ago and I didn't understand what she was doing. 30 years later I have the same issues coming up and Teals stuff is brill. Really helping. If you are desperate you need something to wake you up. People want relief in therapy. But a cure is what you need and a cure is painful.
The fact that alot of people think teal is attacking her, because she’s fighting that woman’s resistance to help her, is truly laughable.
Exactly. She is not attacking her but just illustrating a point.
This was just like a real therapy session. I can completely identify with this woman, so I could imagine myself saying the same things and getting the answers. Thank you, Teal! Thank you, brave woman who went up there! And thank you, Claris Sinclair for posting the video!
This was AMAZING! I'm so glad I ignored the negative critiques and watched this anyway.
agreed!
It was incredible. I think what's happening is that the lady's denyal was so strong that it litterally warped what teal said and people watching this video got their minds filled with this notion that teal was saying she was doing it wrong when in actuality teal was saying you are right to feel bad.
same, if i didn't watch this heavens above know what would have happened to my exhausted self
Wow! This resonates with me more than most things I have ever watched on here. I really identify with the girl on the right, and feel that if it was me on stage in her place, the conversation with Teal would have been very very similar. I can see so many aspects of myself in her, and that feels uncomfortable but also that I am not alone! :) I understand where she is coming from. I have been diagnosed with ME/CFS in the past few months, but have been experiencing symptoms for a long time now. I knew there was more to it than some random medical condition, a genetic susceptibility, back luck etc., and have been searching for answers. I know I overthink/worry a lot, and suspected that was the cause, but to start healing, you need to know why you do those things and nurture/caretake that aspect of yourself, instead of saying "I have to get better" over and over, putting pressure on yourself, feeling guilty, trying meditation/other things with good intentions, but they don't work because of all the resistance, pressure etc. I totally get that now. Feeling inspired!
I know this comment is very old, but you nailed it and I was wondering how you are doing nowadays
How are you now?
I really related to this. I didn't think she was "too harsh" its honesty, its clarity, if it seems to harsh for others I can only say its only because you are in the space of being a "good" person. We don't need to sugar coat to learn about our selves we need truth. Thank you teal. I am going to ask for support here; if I do offer my real vulnerable self to family or others and they shame me, or try to change my state of feeling what do I do from there. Example: my dad asks how I am today and I say well I feel depressed and don't understand my purpose in life and he responds whats wrong with you, you have a wonderful life, or lacey you have so many gifts and are such an amazing person you have no reason to feel that way.. or my sister in law asks how i feel and I tell her not so good today i laid in bed all day crying she says ill help pay for therapy or why are you crying and I tell her from feeling abandoned as a child and she says well our parents did the best they could.... this is what i am hiding my feelings from others. Thank you for your support.
I get it. I hide from my small ( parents / brother) family I have because they don't think of me as a human , just some machine that is supposed to work and cook and be a caretaker. I'm not allowed to have feelings, or a grieving process. I married a man like that and now we are divorced. I won't answer any phone calls or text because he doesn't allow me to have feelings. He is trying to be amicable but I can't.
Burst of laughing and crying at the same time at the very first words of the answer "What causes chronic fatigue? Chronically doing things you don't want to do." and Bam! Just like that!!! How does this woman surprise me every time?!!
I don't think that applies to all cases. Many people get it who loved every minute of their active life.
me too lol. crying and laughing at the same time
This helped me understand so much. I am also tense and serious.
Same here
I think what’s happening here was teal being really concerned for her wellbeing. While she seems really harsh this is meant to get her fastest out of her destructive pattern which will send her into the most miserable life. This is an opportunity of a lifetime. Out of all these people she is there. Teal honors it and is committed to helping the best and most she can.
"You connect with them, they don't connect with you" Wow. Had not thought about that distinction.
I actually had it backwards until she explained it. I thought that holding space for their emotions WAS giving myself to them...but now that just seems laughable
@@kailamotz901 Truly important distinction, isn't it.
Very much disagree with some of the negative comments here. Maybe it's the difference of US culture, needing to be PC and always coddling people. No. The straight truth is what is necessary sometimes. These people are on stage because they invited and needed truth. Why such disrespect for that authenticity? There is more compassion in that, in certain situations, it's all individual. There was a lot of love and opening to understanding here.
Teal is provoking her - Provocation is a respected tool in councelling/therapy, especially for those where nothing else is working! ;)
Respected maybe not right word, but yeah it has its place and time, but i think it can be counter-productive also. Especially working with people with special needs and trauma... Or as with myself high-functioning autism. Provocation can evoke emotions wich can be good but the therapist must be sensitive for the emotions that come up also, so there is space for expression in a safe way... But with autism i think the rule is not to use provocation and instead the opposite in fact...
wow i have chronic fatigue and listening to this video when yu got to the part where yu said i couldnt hive myself to people it made me emotional and cry and thats amazing but i knew i cant connect i cant talk but i didnt know it causing me to be sick ....i listen to others but i dont talk cuz noone listens anyways etc.. i dont trust people ...and i think its ok to stay alone but its not ...
yeh same, you expressed that very well 🌷🌼🌷🌼
This poor lady is so so programmed. It will take more than this session to break her through
natural tendencies you can see how much more relaxed she is though, both of them compared to the beginning and the end and even Teal is more relaxed.
I think the entire message is retarded. "SUBMIT! ACCEPT YOUR TERRIBLE HEALTH!" Sorry, but I can't sign off on that. Let my body choose for me. Fuck my body. I would never give up. She's suffering every single second. She is losing her ability to function correctly. These aren't mental deficiencies that she's experiencing. These are natural reactions. As Teal has said, all healing follows a pattern change. People heal all the time without giving up. Teal says she's telling her not to run away. She's a liar. True empowerment comes in battle; in triumph. Not this pussified, entitled shit.
Dirky Doop
Exactly, I’m disgusted
@@fazeamber9123 bullpoop
Dirky Doop “Your being is speaking through your body”
this is one of the most needed messages that I will ever hear
Parts of this were hard to watch, but ultimately she took it to place that really made sense. I so needed to hear this message. Sometimes it takes getting uncomfortable in order to make a break through. And I really felt a break through happen today. Thank you.
Teal : "Can you notice the thoughts you're thinking?"
Me : "I'm tired."
Haven't finished, but that's terrible, it's quite abusive towards the girl, I don't like it at all.
Not the content, but you can bring it across in a much nicer, more caring way. Then actually the girl wouldn't have felt high stress, but would have opened her heart from the beginning. And using the audience for confirmation is quite mean, too. The girl came with an open, loving heart and is being 'ridiculed' (yeah, of course she's looking for approval, but I think it is better to first give the approval so the person can feel safe and then talk about etc.). Feels like Teal Swans' shadow is acting here, she needs to be cool and all-knowing.
I feel the woman was courageous, because she was being authentic and true, even when Teal made the audience confirm her.
And yes, Teal is right about the conditional love etc. but she doesn't address it the right way at all. The woman would be better off with a kind, empathetic psychologist giving her the warmth and safety she needs, so she can relearn, not somebody showing her off as an example of tension.
Nope. Its the most compassionate thing she could have done. I suffered from Chronic Fatigue and what Teal is leading her through is EXACTLY the process I had to go through in order to heal. I can tell by watching that the girl doesnt, and indeed, CANT get it. I couldnt have gotten it. The illness had to break me to the point where I was, as Teal said, unconditionally present with myself.
Teal is mirroring to the girl what the girl is doing to herself on the inside. What is compassion? Compassion for a drug addict in the process of healing looks like a lack of compassion. Compassion from a doctor treating someone with colon cancer looks like taking a knife, shoving your hand deep inside their body, and using sharp objects to remove, and restructure, a part of their body system.
Again, I'm not against what Teal says, I think she is right. It's HOW she says it. After all, the girl doesn't get it also because she gets instantly very very stressed. Now from learning theory (and own experience) we know that people don't learn well in high stress situation.
The girl pours her heart out to someone she trusts and admires and then she gets showed off, being told she is very underdeveloped (like the other woman is further in the development etc.).
I do agree on the content, but not on the form. Teal tries to tell that if you try to connect and share your problems with other people, that actually some will stay. But in this case she herself doesn't do that with the girl, she isn't present with her, instead she puts her down.
And again, I'm not at all against the message, I like to watch Teals' videos and I am pretty sure that she would have said differently in a video, I am pretty sure that she would have said be present, try to create a connection, try to reach the person and be kind.
I agree with jubee. Teal was not being heart-centered. It was as if she was disgusted by this woman's need for approval (which is common) from the beginning. It was painful to watch someone being made to feel stupid. I agree with the content of what Teal said. But the negativity was too much. Perhaps she is demonstrating hatred for her aspect of self that needs approval. Who knows. But she could have just as easily done it in a kind or neutral way. I don't know what was up with her here. If i was on that stage i would have told her either be respectful or we are not going to have this interaction. Seems she is nicer to males. Bc she is still wanting for male approval. No one's perfect. But this was too much.
+jubee jay Have you ever seen Caroline Myss in action? She's very blunt and down the line. She delivers her message with aggression because sometimes it's the most effective way to communicate.
This needs to blast shared among the chronic fatigue community and with doctors.
That being said, has anyone else developed this condition as a result of being authentic and in return being only conditionally loved/unaccepted/rejected by others 100% of the time?
Yes.
yes and then trying again is paralyzing with fear and pushing through it either really works or REALLY makes it even worse. So it is trying to find a balance. Baby steps I guess. Accept that you may be moving slowly and yet, when you do that nothing bad happens. It's okay. Even if it feels like you went backwards, you didn't. It's called learning and growing.
I have the exact same problem as the woman in the video and i bursted into tears several times during the talk, because teal revealed such a profound truth, as if she was talking directly to me and i have never seen this from this perspective and it is so eyeopening. thank you so much teal!
SizzlinMind Why are you watching her whole video? Why are you so angry that she is helping other people? She did help me. Why do you spend so much time bashing her?
I tend to agree that most other people won't be able to empathise or not on an ongoing basis and THAT may be why sufferers become reluctant to talk about it- not the other way round. Plus when you have something like a middle stage of chronic fatigue, before you get to the needing a carer stage, it is already too exhausting to chat even on facebook to people who may understand but be too far away to hug!
It is not depression, that is a misconception. A lot of viruses are implicated in the development of CF: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2776035/ and emedicine.medscape.com/article/235980-overview
umm.edu/health/medical/reports/articles/chronic-fatigue-syndrome
jid.oxfordjournals.org/content/196/1/4.full
I feel like I can learn way more from Teal's videos than I can in my college success class.
Well said.🙏🌞
I've been rewatching this video for 2 years and I'm really thankful to whoever posted it. It's so brilliant and insightful, best advice on cf out there ❤
I know Ms Swan sounds
Hard
Hash
No
No
She is THEE most important
Realistic, Genuine Helper you can or will find.
She is teaching me
Teaching us
Telling us
We Have The Power From Within
Within ourselves
Its reachable
Its doable
The energy to heal from any chronic diseases is Within our own power.
Thanks Ms Swan.
This one was the best of all it got me so emotional :x Teal is the best spiritual teacher ever
Love & light good lord you're kidding right?
THE TEXAS TURN-NADO no why would i ? Did you watch the whole thing the part when she told her story what was it like to have invincible friends when no one was there got me ;(
Love & light Look God bless you, but only you can save you. When you wake up everyday you have two choices. Will I let the world rule me or Will I rule the world.
Look life is hard, it's full of shitty choices and the only easy day was yesterday. You have to decide whether you are going to be aggressive or passive. Aggressive means you stand up for yourself and take control of your life. Passive means you are going to let everyone and everything take a turn raping you. The choice is and always has been yours.
So when I see hucksters and charlatans like this new age fucking fantasy land, invincible, invisible, bullshit taking advantage of people I want to knock their teeth out. Somewhere along the line they are going to ask for money.
Now if you believe this claptrap and it helps you (not very much I'm sure) good for you.
I wish you the best, love is good, but that light you see is life getting ready to run your ass over in the middle of the night. So get up, get ready, and rip it a new asshole.
THE TEXAS TURN-NADO awww thanks ❤ but i don't always believe her and she doesn't say always believe me follow me 😂
She has helped me, and she is very clear and it is very accurate. It is not bullshit, or new age. It is psychology, pure and simple.
For 25 years of my life, I have chronically worried over the smallest of stuff. Constantly analyzing everything and worrying is fucking tiresome. ‘Throw’ in repeated childhood trauma and being told one day at 9 years old that my father is dead. Constantly shutting your mouth when your 6ft1 200+ pounds and you’re being took for a c**t. Being bullied by short kids in school when I favored physical strength and height all because of that trembling fear inside. Even to this day I continue to shut my mouth when I disagree with a lot of the shit that comes out of the people’s mouths around me. And I wonder sometimes how I can be unwell with ME/CFS? Jesus.
In this beautiful woman’s situation, even in her attempt to “let go” she’s holding. I do it myself. This woman is just ❤️.
And just to clarify, I’ve been bed-bound, house-bound in pure silence because of my brain is unable to tolerate sensory stimuli. Loneliness has been my closest. The fatigue is not tiredness. Working a 12 hour shift is tiring. Having to live in a ground floor apartment because of your body’s lack of ability to climb the stairs because of fatigue.
I hope this woman is in a healthy place inside. ⭐️
i totally relate with u, borning as indigo child, never been 'seen', yes 'we do too much', it's not 'the only things' that wonderful Teal teaches (it's very rich & helping), there is more, and what u say is so correct (to me) as well
An eye-opening experience watching that! Thanks from the bottom of my soul for sharing!
My psychologist used to confront me in this kind of way. Now I can really see my resistance, anger, denial, elusiveness and lack of awareness. Once I accepted what she was telling me I finally felt release. I can see this exactly right now.
Same ... It's a little embarrassing :v but helpful
Teal! With no exaggeration this was the best video I have ever watched. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with the world.
this video was life changing for me ...thank you ❤
Thank You to both ladies for getting up on that stage. As someone that’s suffered from Narcolepsy & has been alone their entire adult life, it’s a brave thing to have done what they did. I don’t know if I could allow myself to be that vulnerable.
I'm only at the beginning but an observation - Teal said a tension existed in the two audience member stemming from: " I have to get everything correct." My fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue was triggered by domestic violence in the form of a physical attack and acute narcissistic abuse. When that person put me through three years of life threatening litigation (hard to explain the details but my son's and my life were threatened) it was imperative that I "got everything correct" in terms of strategizing to reach the life sustaining end goal with this malignant narcissist. We won but I still suffer physically. Hoping to find out some interesting healing information on this video..
what Teal said in the end about what she witnessed at the age of 8 is pure bravery. And it also illustrates the point. She shows how to be vulnerable authentic and share her reality. And her unique way of doing things: on stage even.
This poor woman was so uncomfortable when teal was making fun of her and Teal was completely inconsiderate. Teal doesn’t validate things she doesn’t relate to, believe in or understand clearly. This made me lose so much respect for her. Of course she’s serious! She’s suffering immensely.
She says at the beginning "I should cry". That's her key.
I think doing stuff you don't want to do is only part of it. A lot of it has to to do with the energy system not working properly because of abuse - being smacked and shouted at, constantly having to defend yourself during your childhood. Also the state of mind where other people's feelings matter but your own feelings don't. If you feel like it is your responsibility to fix everyone but don't believe you deserve anything yourself, then fatigue will result. Heartbreak and repressed crying from all kinds of sadness. These things lead to one doing things they don't want to do because the heart gets closed down so you can't do your heart's desire, therefore you do things you don't want to do. A combination of all these factors cause the energy system to get weaker, then the poisons in the water and bad food will not be flushed out very easily and really serious illness results. So far what I've seen in this video is a cop out. I think Teal Swan gets a lot of credit for saying very little.
Kate Warburton thanks for writing this
This video bothers me also. . Teal comes off as callous at times. . But I agree with your summary to a point. CFS has multiple facets to it just like types of cancer.. there are so many kinds! Like cancer there are numerous reasons a human body might develop some type of autoimmune disorder The autoimmune system is complicated since its tied so closely with our liver, brain, pineal gland, thyroid, diet, environment, and emotional health..I think even genetic dna malfunction is suspect but point is...it’s not just you being too uptight and being resistant. There are so many factors at play in our life and physical health. it is very hard to diagnose..even harder to treat. menopause, viruses, toxins, mold, viruses, parasites vitamin deficiencies and gut imbalances are all believed to impact energy imbalances and cell malfunction and those women are of the age that make me suspect it may be part of their problem...menopausal fatigue is a sensible deduction in their cases... maybe other imbalances at work?? Who knows... not Teal that’s for sure!! the menopause factor, mold exposure, hormone and/or vitamin imbalances are likely mine because as soon as I hit menopause my body said screw you. I’ve had major energy issues. I am desperate to slap a label and instant cure in it!!. Probably why I watched this. Teals approach to their answers and questions directs them to them and their mental and emotional tension only. It’s definitely not the sole factor in their fatigue issues.none of this is as simple as some would wish it to be. Our tension and resistance might contribute to a perfect storm. I am a truth seeker but this video which so directly related to my own health left me baffled and worried that people would think their lack of energy is just them being a tight ass. And all they need is to stop being resistant in their thinking.....recipe for more frustration and depression; which is a byproduct of cfs
She was giving her the ugly reality she needed.. you guys not understanding what she’s doing.. you guys are too sensitive 🤦🏻♀️
elioli81 you are invalidating other people’s perspective and Teal is completely against that. That’s not even her practice, she teaches us to validate everything.
Kate Warburton I agree with this so much. It’s weird because she’s all about validating people but she doesn’t validate conditions that she can’t relate to .
A true teacher in my perception is one willing to go through and be a part of the growth that we are asking for and need.
Oh God she is so desperate to get better. I could feel her pain. She is in so much pain. Teal swan has the guts to do it . Hats off to her. Teal demonstrated it well about how this lady was not letting go off her desperation to be different.
I know Teal was " apparently" hard here but the point is " Truth" sets us free. We all have to go through the pain to come out of it . There is light at the end of the tunnel. But we have to cross the tunnel how long it may be with patience.
I just realised I was the initial cause of my daughters chronic fatigue. Understanding is healthy for me . I am also understanding how she is pulling herself out of it. Now I can see and support. This is life changing especially for the next generation
As someone with CFS I am in two minds about this. I did get a very bad gut feeling at the beginning with the way she was speaking to the woman. I do not like how she belittled her and shut her down. I feel like she could have got her message across in a much kinder way. However, her actual message was, in some ways, a breath of fresh air. People with my illness are constantly made out to be lazy. I wont even say stereotyped because no one with cfs is a lazy person. We are contanty being told we just need to get out more and do more by people with very little understanding. As you can see from this video Teal is challenging her for doing too much which does show a better understanding of cfs than the majority of the population. People with cfs do too much, worry too much, pressure themselves too much and Teal has a good understanding of this and it is a breath of fresh air to hear someone telling a person with cfs that they need to just stop and be with their pain rather than they should be doing xyz that they probably tried years ago. I feel like in some ways this message was probably lost on the poor woman as she probably retraumatised her by being what was actually quite abusive. its such a shame she couldnt have got what was actually a good message across in a kinder way
Hey there, 2 years late, but I see what you mean. Teal doesn't realise that the woman might be getting pissed off by the way she's being treated, which further causes her to lock up. I get the impression that if she did allow herself to be authentic, it would come out as "I don't like the way you're treating me, I don't think you realise how you're hurting me. Oh you did realise, you're just a bitxh like that, oh fuck me haha, ok I love you" but it's that first step of "fuck you teal", she didn't wanna take, cos she could feel the social pressure of the audience (who obviously put teal on a pedestal). Understandable.
In teals defence, I think that's just part of her personality (probably a result of growing up smarter than everyone), and I imagine that it's the black coat lady's shadow or something.
I dunno tho, just my perspective
@@Mancub2b and teal 100% knows shes pissing her off. If you notice the giggles shes always doing as if theres an inside joke. That's her reacting to how predictable people are to her that's all. Everyone there k ow she is ASD as well.
This is NOT Tough Love! This borders on ABUSE! The reason so many people are reacting with “this bothers me. . . . . this doesn’t feel like love. . . . . this is not right,” is because Teal Swan is NOT being compassionate and accepting. She is putting on a show for the audience. She is NOT joining the woman where she is and accepting her. Humans who are tuned into their own innate goodness get uncomfortable when they see a fellow human being treated in this callous manner.
Teal Swan is giving the woman more of what she already has experienced throughout her whole life, a sense of “I’m wrong, there’s something wrong with me, I’m not good enough.” When a healer gives true compassion the receiver (and the audience) does not laugh nervously. They become quiet and perhaps a little teary-eyed, as they feel the love flowing, unconditionally.
Although Teal has good knowledge and is correct in her intellectual assessment of chronic fatigue, this method is harsh and unlikely to create permanent change.
I admit I did not watch the video all the way through. When Teal gets up and plays God, telling the other woman to lie down on the floor, I had enough. Teal is re-playing what likely happened to her as a child, except now she is playing the role of perpetrator.
Unless Teal ends the session by lying on the floor and inviting the other two women to yell at her, it’s doubtful woman number one will become more self-compassionate and self-accepting, or that her chronic fatigue will improve.
If you want real healing and good spiritual guidance, I invite you to check out Kristin Neff at self-compassion.org, Brene Brown at brenebrown.com or Tara Brach at www.tarabrach.com. All humble and compassionate women, who know their stuff AND practice it. . . . . . . but don’t go to their workshops or read their books to improve yourself. Do it because you love learning and want discover all there is!
I think you missed the point of the video
I watched this video 2 years ago, 1 year ago, half a year ago and again now. I have changed a lot since then. I have tried to heal for years. Whenever I traveled the world I was never really enjoying myself, always trying to either fix myself or achieve something. Nothing seemed to help until I started to open up to people about my pain. Since I did, I can go for walks again. I have more energy. Less pain. I also practice Nervous System Regulation and Somatic Tracking which definitely was an aid. If you don't have friends to reach out to, try to get a somatic therapist. Healing is very much possible. I still need some more time but I know that I can fully heal as soon as I give up on trying to be something beyond myself to prove my worth and become loveable. I'll update on this if someone comments and asks for tips.
I would love to read an update and tips :-) what do you mean by "giving up on trying to be something beyond myself"?
@@anrika2024oh hi! This is actually amazing to read back on :’) completely forgot this comment. Well, I can positively say that I am fully healed. What I meant by that was that I was always striving to be “better” which came from a state of self hate. I never felt good enough. But I have come to find that there are already people who love me and want to be with me as I am :)
It’s been a long journey! Also in hindsight it was a lot about boundaries, only doing things I really wanna do and find the people who want to do those things with me and are okay with me having boundaries. If you wanna know more let me know, would love to help in any way I can.
All the best on your journey! ❤
@@cececat thanks so much for sharing and congrats on that amazing journey!! I would love to hear HOW you found those people. Were they already in your life and you just didnt "see" them because you could not imagine being loved the way you are? Also: how did your self hate affect your work (probably striving to be better all the time?) and how did you change it?
Hmm so one was already in my life a bit and to my surprise when I started to share more and be authentic they wanted to hang out even more lol. Others just came as I started to be more bold and almost radical about being myself and establishing boundaries. I feel like the first step really was the decision to show up as myself even if that meant losing some people maybe or being alone. It still felt better than keeping up a mask. Which is exhausting as fuck.. or well at least for me it was.
And yes the self hate was driving me to do things I didn’t want to do to become loveable or be accepted. This could be as simple as hanging out with someone even though I felt like I wanted to be home, or picking up and committing to a weird hobby I actually have 0 interest in, to changing my whole personality.
I guess I changed that by realizing it wouldn’t get me anywhere. I couldn’t keep it up because of the energy I had to put into it. And even if people liked that version of me I tried to sell them, that wasn’t me. They never really liked me because I never even gave them the chance to. I also did a lot of work on self-acceptance, and then really getting to know myself. How do boundaries feel in my body.. and so on.
Also, when I started what really helped me were online friendships because it was easier. This has now transitioned to in-person but just wanted to mention.
Lmk if there is anything else you wanna know :)
20,000 likes. Thank you so much Teal. I really related. Every second was like I myself was sitting up there in place of the invitees. Brought me to tears. Extremely grateful for the opportunity to watch and learn. Big warm hug.
You totally rocked this Teal!!!!!! I cannot thank you and these ladies enough. Perfect timing for me. This topic has been my core issue. Love you!!!!!!!
Woooooooaah. I had 'CFS' and though it's harshly executed it's exactly what's needed to break through the stubbornness of CFS thinking. Trying to constantly be and feel good enough through work that we don't want to do or trying to push away feelings, constantly exhausting ourselves and not being true to others around us for fear of not being perfect - masks that tire us out. We can exhaust ourselves through trying to be 'perfect', just because subconsciously we're trying to draw people closer to us through exhaustion and needing to be cared for. It really is a disease of lack of connection, taking things too seriously, hiding truth, and constantly trying to do/mask and not be. Thanks for making me see this so clearly...
When I think of Teal,I feel Universe loVe💗
No words can express my gratitude.
You are helping Big time many people.
Keep doing🙏🏿💙🙏🏿
Wow, ok, so this really hit home. I used to watch Teal in 2013-15 but after I stopped resonating with her videos. Now I felt that I need to watch this one because I also struggle with exhaustion, basically I'm unable to work since last year, though I kept telling myself that I could, I just chose to take a break. But the honest truth it, I am exhausted and have no energy. I have to admit this.
So I really admire these two women on the stage and want to thank them for being brave and playing out this "game of torture" with Teal, because it is an eyeopening for many of us out there. So,thank you!
It was like I was watching myself, totally scary. Teal is really good at this, taking you back on track, or at least showing you the reality. And this is love too!
This really requires courage, to be open, "give yourself to others". To stop sugar coating. I kept telling out things like "look at the bright side", but as Teal said, that just makes one feel invalidated. Wow. I have a strong emotional guidance system, but also a strong mind and am good at forcing myself to do stuff. But there is only so far...
I would like now to stop and courageously be open, be honest, be there. Feel the fear and be open about it. Feel like shit and tell others. Stop trying to be "oh so spiritual". Just be and feel the uncomfortable. And see who stays, who leaves, who comes to my life. Feel a bit disoriented. But i feel like this is it.
Right around 32:00 where this woman is asking for specific advice..."as if she were a five year old"...I was feeling like she really needed Teal to make a simple statement of advice, rather than point out what she's doing to herself over and over again.... I love ya Teal, but this felt like torture to me. Instead of JUST STOP!!!!, I felt like the only way she was going to understand and actually be ABLE to do what's necessary...was to hear....calmly, compassionately and in a non-judgmental tone, that she DESERVES the care that she needs....That there is nothing wrong with that part of her that needs that care.....that she should stick up for that part of her and ignore any and all thoughts that suggest otherwise. It almost felt like her own pattern of feeling like she's not "perfect" was unconsciously triggering a judgmental attitude from you. As a result, I feel like she was falling more deeply into her dysfunctional thinking and therefore less able to actually grasp the meaning of what you were saying. Ouch!
But she already gave her a lot of advice - just not so directly. She told her she needs to give herself love, she told her she needs to let go from worrying and researching and trying to fix herself. She suggested practicing mindefulness, and being present in her pain.
Yes, I realize that....I'm not in any way bashing Teal...I just feel that keeping in mind the fact that a person has patterns literally wired into them by a lifetime of repetitive experiences should be remembered. People need time to absorb and assimilate and it just felt like Teal's frustration was pushing the exact "buttons" that trigger the problem she was attempting to shed light on....which only makes it less likely that the woman is going to grasp the message....(like a dysfunctional loop)....of course this is just the way I was experiencing an perceiving the thing. I don't claim to be an expert...only a feeling observer...
Thanks you very much, I am suffering with chronic fatigue right now and I felt some reliefs seeings others peope suffering from that and having also difficulty to share their negatives émotions and problems. It was so eyey opening and I recognise myself as this guys who like to show the cool partf of himself, the happy face, and scared to talk about his problem because, yes I am thinking " If I am too negatie people will be bored, scared and get away from me. Wouah, it motivated me to share more authenticaly with others about thoses aspects of who DOESN'T FEEL GOOD.
Omg Im crying so hard after 10 min!! Thank you Teal for this!!
This happened to me after my divorce. My son’s father screwed us over in every way. My son was only five, so he wasn’t aware of the bad things. I tried so hard to shield him from it. I tried to carry on like nothing was wrong, tried to be the perfect single mom for him even though I was heartbroken, in shock, and with no resources. After 6 weeks of staying with people, no calls from his dad, (heartbreaking to know) my son and I finally moved into an apartment. My body just gave out and I’ve not been the same since.
Wonderful, Teal....thank you for the snort giggles and I am letting go of conditions now, there is no thing to struggle for....nothing. I am so worth loving just as I am in every given moment. Nothing to prove, nothing to earn.
Asking for help. Opening up. Even though you are terrified they will hate you or leave you. It’s too exhausting not to be at some point. OMG. This is how I feel. And like you said I had to literally collapse and that was my body saying: STOP AND ASK FOR HELP. Did they run away. Yes! 99 per cent of them did. But then people who I didn’t even know, or barely know, somehow came out of the woodwork. That was when my guides helped me. They went and got those people and sent them to me. Trust me that the rejection of people who I asked for help not help was the most terrifying part. I knew my friends were going to abandon me and not be there for me. I knew my family were going to be abandon me and not be there for me. And then just going through that pain was such a relief and because my worst fears were confirmed but I was in a better place to move forward
exquisite message Teal - truly exquisite!
the girl in black and me are so similar - mannerisms, speech, acting serious all the time, everything. I watched this video a few hours ago and since then I tried to give less shits, tried to act and express the way I feel instead of “let’s pretend everything is dandy and walk on eggshells so that nobody gets upset with me”. and it feels liberating, its like a chunk of pressure fell off. I’m probably not going to become a completely different person overnight, but if I manage to live my life more like this even after coming off the influence of the video (like 2-3 days), then I can already tell Id become much less stressed and nuts and much happier in life. Thanks for the video
I'm seeing a lot of comments about how the woman needed Teal to be hard on her because she was in denial and just wouldn't "get it" otherwise. This really bothers me.
First of all, that's bullshit. The woman could hardly get a sentence out without teal interrupting her and laughing at her, so we know next to nothing about her perspective on her own illness. She was very patient and tried to be receptive to Teal even when she was obviously hurt and frustrated.
Second of all, the whole problem according to Teal was that this woman was too serious and too hard on herself, so the argument the she just needed "tough love" (in quotes because that was not love) makes NO SENSE.
"Oh dear. It looks like this person feels hopeless and desperate. I better mock and belittle her until she cheers up!"
celestial-vapor I feel like as a sufferer of fibromyalgia teal is actually right with what she said and if I was that lady I would take this on board u need need to get rid of tention to cure illness
indeed! it's not as if you would dream of saying to someone who is desperately trying to heal from a severe illness or traumatic event to 'stop being so serious'. I think maybe Teal doesn't quite understand the symptoms, physiology & process of chronic fatigue. It is especially frightening for sufferers who not only have mysterious & severe symptoms to deal with but are left alone and in limbo from doctors who cannot see or understand what is wrong.
I think Teal was to harsh with her... It's good to be tough so another person can understand more the situation... but on the other hand helping people require just more love... I felt that this is missing here.
well maybe this will push her further on the spiritual path? I don't think she is doing this to be mean it will do her more good the path of enlightenment isn't about all unicorns and kindness there is self discovery involved she seems a young soul isn't always about kindness sometimes the most helpful medicine leaves a bitter taste in your mouth we've all been put down at some point which is what led us to this spiritual route I have my own issues with losing a very dear friend cos of my condition he blamed me for going home during a flare up this video comforted me alot. But I'm entitled to my opinion
+Ka Ma I completely agree. I know people need a kick in the pants, I do it as a wellness coach helping other to heal Psoriasis naturally and remove pain from their lives, but love and self-empowerment is ALWAYS first and foremost, and to do it in a forum in front of an audience that is pressured to agree with Teal, is really rough on the poor soul. She needs a healing protocol to rid herself of the virus that is causing her CFS, this will improve her mood and handle Teal's assertion that she is simply "too serious"
I did lose some close friends by opening up about my issues but maybe I those were ppl who were close to me based on the fact that I was there for them and not being open about what I needed. I couldn't open up to the person I love and she asked me to and she is gone far away now. I guess I have to make myself filled with integrity and become transparent & Finn who would be there for me to be open about my openness. Thanks for this. Darn. I wish I found this 5 years ago..
Thanks for sharing this has really helped me. I've followed a lot of personal development and have been putting pressure on myself to achieve and had pushed a lot of things and people away and didn't allow myself to have fun as I had felt guilty for not achieving more.
Thanks again :)
Wow, another brilliant workshop from Teal.
Ohhh, so is it like conditionally loving yourself only when you are productive.
It could be productive, yes. But it could also be just not feeling like you're good enough/ unworthiness. Having low self-esteem/ low confidence can tie into it. Having a high standard for yourself, putting too much pressure on yourself, feeling like you have to work extra hard to keep up with everyone else. I have this trauma from not being unconditionally loved as a child, being constantly rejected or disapproved of, not being encouraged or emotionally supported, needing to be a certain way to behave, fit in or be good, and being overly controlled/ bossed around and made to feel that I always should be doing things that I don't want to do in order to be loved and accepted and survive. So there is this feeling of "have to" do things instead of "want to". And, at the same time, not being told "good job" or "I'm proud of you" or the things I do want to do not being approved of, which caused me to not be able to be or express myself to the extent that I should be able to. All of this caused me to be a perfectionist, be overly committed or devoted to things (overdrive state), be very self-critical, take things way too seriously, not be decisive or sure about myself or my decisions, not be as joyful, lighthearted, and carefree as I would be otherwise, care way too much what others think about me, want other people's approval and be defensive when others take issue with something I'm doing, be a do gooder people pleaser at the commands/ direction of others. Some of those things are more apparent with where I'm at now and others I feel like I'm pretty much past. And all of this leads to feeling so drained/ exhaustion/ chronic fatigue and TMS/ chronic pain, which I'm working on healing. I didn't used to have this level of awareness and I've come along way from where I've been. I'm also sensitive to other people's energy and that in combination with all of the emotional abuse, negativity from others (anger, worrying, complaining, toxicity) is a recipe for disaster (or expansion if I want to say it from a higher perspective). What I'm working on now is unconditionally loving myself, being non-judgmental towards myself, accepting myself as I am, loosening up, being cool, chill and calm/ easy with myself, not trying too hard or too fast to heal, being with myself/ not instantly trying to feel different if I feel bad or overwhelmed, letting things go since everything doesn't have to be perfect, reminding myself to be patient since healing and life-improvement takes time/ not everything can happen all at once. Generally I'm good at staying afloat and continuing to move forward. Right now I'm actually excited about my future because I'm doing a lot better than I was in the past and I know my life will get even better in time. Connection is the underlying component because I've pushed people away/ lost friendships due to not feeling good enough or worthy of being with them. I know you didn't ask for all of that info and I spun in circles with what I typed, but once I started typing, I just kept adding and adding. 😉 Awareness can be fun. 🙌
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The cry of my heart - I'm hurting. I need help. I have nothing left to give. Can you see me? Are you with me? Will you love me?
And one by one they walked away. Lazy. Feeling sorry for yourself. I need things, and you don't have my supply. Worthless. So I chance everything it feels like - will you help me? Can you tell me it's going to be ok? That you believe in me? The responses I got were - if I was you. If you would just. Where's your faith. You're going downhill. Everybody's sick of your shit. Is that the best you can do? I don't Have time to. You must have done something wrong. You're crazy. Why can't you...
Whats the hurry to heal? So I can do. So I'm worth something. So people want something from me. So.i can take care of myself.. So even if they don't love me, they will still seek my presence for their personal benefit before abandoning me again. But then the gift is the perception that there's the value of me. The only thing desirable.
Nobody picked.me. after decades of pouring out = nobody ever saw me. Only what I did for them. If they acknowledged that. It became common currency. Their deserts. Not recognized as a gift or sacrifice or even special. Worthless. Everything I gave was nothing but it was all of me.
Now I must scrape myself together for parts. Tell myself the truth no matter how bad it hurts. I spent myself in the wrong way. Wasted. I could have chosen something eise. Someone else. They didn't like me as a door mat. I don't give 2 shits if they like what I'm bringing forward. It's what I have and it's my gift to.myself. All of the rejected parts are beautiful and I love them. I'm going to bring them out and enjoy them. How much of myself did i try to leave behind? A whole self for. These parts my family may not want, but I do! I love me. I can work with them. I know someone will enjoy me. There are people who.want to give me gifts without expecting anything in return. People that fins me funny, smart and beautiful. People that want me to call them. Love me just as I am. Flaws and all. Not looking for a reason to put me down. I don't have to be afraid. I did this and the lesson is that I taught these people that my presence meant supply at no cost. No matter how they treat me, there will be no consequence. No cost = free=of debatable value because it was never negotiated. I attracted those takers. I never gave them a reason to see ME. I wouldn't even let me see me. I've always known thar any need on my part was rejected abd scorned. As my body cried out, 8 manifested my belief into.this world. If I'm not pleasing....I am reviled. I am alone. Nobody's coming.
I'll show them, they should have known I'd have something they wanted once again. I'll give it to.someone else! No. No I won't. The time of me seeing these traits as the ones worthwhile are over. Can u learn to live out of what i have left? Will I have the courage to show myself in all of my nakedness? Can I believe this is beautiful? This pain? This sorrow? This brokenness. This truth. I was never a faulty being when I came in. I was perfect. Wonderful with no changes. Wild and free. All of those parts that I was taught to reject. I take them back! They're mine! These may not work for anyone else. But they work for me! I like them! I will! I won't! And who's going to make me? I'm not going to shut up. I want to hear what I have to say! Pp I'm important. How I feel about things matters. More than anything else, more than anyone else, I AM! I choose me. I will learn who.i am and never apologize for who that is again. I'm not wrong. I'm perfect, just the way i am.
Listen people. Teal withheld approval because these people are approval junkies and that's what is ruining their lives. She has to make a big change for them in a short amount of time. This is a time honored teaching method. To the coaches here who say "I'd never do that" maybe you won't go to certain places that could help your clients because you need THEIR approval. There is more than one way to teach and show and guide.
Wow. I have had chronic fatigue syndrome for five years and I do think she might have hit the nail on the head, but her delivery was horrifying. She was mean, condescending and totally devoid of compassion in the way the delivered the message. I kept trying to ask this question at a different workshop, and now I'm so grateful I didn't get picked. If she spoke to me that way I would have told her to go bleep herself and walked off of that stage. I really hope the woman feels better and isn't too damaged by that callous behavior.
I agree lol. I've had CFS for 10 and half years. If this had been me in the beginning stages of my illness I definitely would have flipped, but I understand Teal's message.
Totally agree. I am also recovering from chronic fatigue and wouldn’t have been able to take this. She is totally correct but there is a way of getting a point across, especially when someone is feeling vulnerable and and scared and frustrated and in pain etc and all of the rest of it and that is definitely not it.
Not everything will resonate with you while you have CFS. I agree with her message & delivery. When this woman with CFS watches this later on she will understand the message on a deeper level outside the brain fog. This is only 1 aspect of the healing process of CFS/ME though.
I genuinely wouldn’t be surprised if the woman on the right ended up taking her own life after this (I really hope she didn’t, of course). You could tell how deep her pain is when she spoke of wanting to end her life, and I think this kind of delivery from Teal was very risky and could easily send someone in that fragile of a state of mind over the edge
I love Teal and some of her content has helped me immensely, but I think the way she approached this interaction was truly horrific
I am sorry, Teal, for what you had to go through as a 8 year old
And so much more, check out many of her other interviews and seminars in the czech speaking places etc. She has went on this amazing radio show quite a few times that spoke English and... I believe it was Czech or something like Slovenian, or Slovakian or something like that. And she went into much detail about other things in her life too. Her handlers and others were grooming her to basically become a super soldier that was supposed to groom other kids but she broke free of that and took as many kids with her. Watch Cathy O Brian with Laura EISENHOWER and Kerry Kassidy, Kerry literally challenges all sides and has been a citizen journalist for many decades and the plethora of guests from all walks of life is actually pretty crazy and will challenge every single guest with tough questions.
SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS SHARE
Teal is just allowing herself to be a MIRROR to the lady.s lack of SELF approval ...
Trees For Life Ong yeah but who are u going to approve your self for ....for others to like u
I do this and make people uncomfortable and I know I'm doing it and I'm not trying to its weird
@@alexandranunez7542 because most people aren't authentic, sadly, ergo the hate for this woman, who is just trying to help
Wow Teal. I was going to say you have no idea how much you just helped me with this (by "chance") viewing, but I know that you do. And I don't even have chronic fatigue, but so much of it fit. Thank you once again. (I SO LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU, baby girl!)
This is really like hearing Jesus Christ say to the lame man, "Take up your bed and walk!" Teal is such an amazing healer. I need this teaching and was almost in tears over the statement that when you want to (force yourself to) improve yourself (in order to fit in better) that you are abandoning yourself.
Kelpy seriously? like Jesus? Nah....not so. I admit she is a deliverer of nuggets of resonating truths and her delivery is authentic but so have the other gurus who she has appropriated some of her spiritual truths from .... Some even claim plagiarism but I don’t know for certain that’s the case. I like her delivery though! Don’t agree or even understand it all but then I’m a Christian so some of this stuff is easy outside my experience and tolerance when it comes to certain identifications (alien, multidimensional, paranormal...all get me feeling the heebie-jeebies) I am not interested in dabbling in occultism and letting satanic influence in...demonic beings are real. but I’m a curious human so I read and I put perspectives to the test. People love to throw shade around before they have the facts but that’s juvenile. Teal has definitely captured my interest but she is not on the same level as the Lion of Judea...the Lamb of God.
Yet again, Teal has told me what I needed to hear, rather than what I wanted to hear.
I have no idea how I feel about this video. Part of me totally connects with Teal's advice, and another part of me ended up feeling so much empathy and embarrassment for the woman, that I ended up being tired. I feel like Teal could have DEFINITELY handled this better, with kindness and compassion. Jheez.
Maybe just different wording...this is my only problem with teal...She is the only person I follow any more..and stupid I am not...however I really have to strain my brain to understand her point some times.. Truly I have to take a dictionary out to understand a word she might use..she is like a college professor teaching 11th grade....soome will get it but a lot won't.......for me, that is the problem...nothing else....I respect her and will back her any day...
Watched this twice so far. Hits home.
My God that's me. I always feel like I have to make myself better before I can connect with anyone but in reality trying to make myself better is only pushing everyone else away and that is the direct mirror into what's going on inside. I am so far away from me because I'm not letting myself hurt. Instead I run away from that hurt. Just when I thought I was doing a great job in being there for myself. Makes complete sense way I was on the fence about helping other people emotionally. The more I help others the farther I feel from myself. I need people to be there for me no matter how I'm feeling. At this moment I can't be there for others. Not until I stop running from myself! I freaking hate that people treat my emotions like they would a bug. They just want them to go away.
This will go down as one of the greatest moments ever
Amazing material. thank you for sharing.
When we start seeing from higher perspectives, and have been thoroughly informed enough on human behavioural patterns, we can only be ADORATION AND AWE for Teal and this video - it truly has been one of the most helpful in 60 years of learning about who I am .. Bless you and thank you SO much..Teal !
Man i can relate to this alot feeling like i need to feel better before i deserve connection with people.. Teal says you gotta let that go but i think it's just not possible.. when your an adult love and connection with people IS in fact highly conditional upon you providing value to other people or feeling good etc.. especially the case when you want to be succesful with girls.. so i don't see how to solve this issue really..
for me it was like i kept myself a blank canvas for the opposite sex. Now im gunna do all those 'weirdo' hobbies cos they want I WANT to do, not what i should do to 'win' someone, to be in the right place at right time to meet suitable candidates etc .. makes sense? Do the things u want to do simply cos u want to do them, no 2ndry gains, simply for fun n make connections through those things where u ARE ur authentic intrinsic self
Teal, you're making me cryyyy. Thank you for this.
Love Teal, but I can tell she's getting burned out. I think she's getting frustrated with explaining the same things over and over, but she can only give the information. She shouldn't try so hard to make them understand. You get those points in your life in your own time. Took me 25 years to finally figure out that all of our emotions are valid even the hateful, shameful ones. Our emotions don't define us. They are reactions to what we've been taught.
Joshua Leonardo you're beautiful ♡
I disagree, she’s not burnt out, she’s trying to help. If she never really tried to make people understand her teachings then she wouldn’t be nearly as successful as she is. If Teal didn’t try to make the woman understand how she’s participating in her own chronic fatigue, what good would that have been leaving the woman still unclear about her condition. Teal is simply really making an effort to help this woman, because if she didn’t make herself clear to her, the woman would’ve been headed down the path of suicide.
@@AlexSmith-ct5rm I absolutely agree. I understand what Teal is doing here.
Yeah I get that sense too. Esp. if you compare her interviews from 5-7 years ago to the ones now. If she needs to take a break she can. There’s always ayahuasca.
I love you very much, Teal! Thank you for being this honest, super and loveable! thank you for your great help!
Your smile is shining in my mind and in my heart, makes me happy!
God bless this poor lady....to fnd strengh .self realisation.and self heal.
I love watching teal explain these concepts to people who can hear the message. It’s a layer type message. She can only give what we are able to receive. She only scratched the surface with the first question.
A lot of people experienced conditional love, were traumatized and do things they absolutely don't want to do, yet they don't get chronic fatigue and they are mostly still happy with their lives. But only some get chronic fatigue. Can someone explain this to me? What needs to be understood in order to overcome fatigue?
People are different energetically . Our energy bodies also carry unresolved trauma from past lives and ancestral lives . There are also empaths and highly sensitive people that actually absorb negative energy around them . If they see some horrific documentary about let's say human trafficking , they will absorb the hopelessness and despair of the victim . This will eventually lead to adrenal depletion and chronic fatigue . Watch Belinda Davidson on youtube , she is an energy healer who explains the chakras really well.
I think it depends on your life purpose or life path like how soon your higher self wants to integrate that aspect of you in order to evolve or expand into something that's beneficial for you in that point in time
And honestly what helped me overcome chronic fatigue was disidentifying with the thoughts of "I need to go to work I need to make money I'm going to lose my job I'm going to lose my safety" or whatever thoughts you're having about it. It's really just recognizing the PRESSURES people have put on you in your past and present especially the pressures you give yourself now. And releasing them once you have sat with them and realized where they stem from. But make sure the resistance is released in order for you to detach effectively. Allow yourself to rest. With the mindset of "I am allowed to rest for as long as my body needs. It is okay for things to be messy. I am allowed to be messy. I am allowed to be wrong and make mistakes. I love myself in this space"
That released the resistance
"I am valuable without having to do anything"
If these concepts scare you that is the resistance in your body that you ALSO have to send love and compassion to
Emphasis on love and compassion because everyone has given you the opposite so you are conditioned to torture yourself when you're in that position but this is all just conditioning and when you take the step to deprogram yourself out of self love not to fix yourself then you will learn what you need to learn or release the emotions and trauma and release the resistance to the actual condition itself as a byproduct because then you realize that it's not about the fatigue it's about how the fatigue makes you feel. Weak. Hopeless. Alone and not feeling deserving of someone being with you. Powerless. Wanting to control. Wanting to fix. The judging.
@@naileaolivas2788 ABSOLUTELY. The 2 last senteances resonates particulary in my heart and my personnal experience. I just start to be aware of the desperation, the loneliness, the weakness, the despair that I am feeling due to my condition. I feel a bit lighter to have gone through thoses unconfortable emotions. It's like Life telling you "You need to go trough that RIGHT NOW. I'll put you in a situation where you are even most likely to be aware of thoses hidden emotions.
@@naileaolivas2788 is there anyway I can contact you? I’ve suffered for so long. I’d love to be able to get some pointers from you.
Thank you for that Teal you helped me understand why I feel chronic fatigue and chronic pain and tension within myself and showed me how to understand my feelings and that the reason I feel this and also how to remedy this by accepting my fatigue and accepting myself and by seeing and telling myself I have the right to feel this way and I fully understand why I feel this way. I am fully with myself! I will never abandon myself every again now I am slightly understanding more about why I am me. xxxx
I am so thankful for finding this video. I have suffered due to the taught conditional love crap my whole life, & so had ME/CFS since my teens (turn 36 next wk).
I think a few years ago I may have seen this video very differently, condidering I hated myself more then, and so would have had very foggy filtering glasses on.
Teal was not being harsh. She wasn't judging. She was showing cause & effect of what we do when we are scared to just be ourselves, due to trauma etc. I know from experience that there are ppl who will abandon you if you are real & reveal any suffering, but now I realise that why would I want those kinds of ppl in my life anyway?
I needed the msg in this video & feel a sense of freedom to let go of ever trying to earn love from anyone. If it is real it isn't conditional anyway.
Thank you for your courage in sharing 😊👌💗💗
Haven't laughed so hard in a while...its good to laugh at one self when identified with another sufferer...Thanks guys love and peace to you all...x Teal for real