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Hi Geoffrey, tell me something. It's been 3 years that I left our home and my family. We never spoke for 3 years n now that she has a bf that Wana marry her, she feel it's OK to have a talk now. How do I get to the non verbal touch in this situation
In an interview with Shawn, you once mentioned that his partner seemed indifferent but still reached out to him in the end. Have you ever encountered someone who’s truly indifferent ? Someone who has no emotions left for you-not anger, not sadness, not even disappointment. Whether you improve or fall apart, they just don’t care anymore because all they associate with the relationship is hurt and exhaustion. I’ve been hurt by family members before, and when I face them now, I feel nothing-just calm. Even if they’ve changed for the better, it doesn’t affect me anymore. When there’s no emotion left, it seems like you stop wondering whether the other person has changed. Instead, you just think, “You didn't change ? That’s kind of sad." “Oh, you’ve really changed ? That’s great-good for you. But it has nothing to do with me.” I’d love to hear your thoughts on indifference. Thank you~
Im not Geoffrey, and this is just my hypothesis, but from what you’ve said, it sounds like they have changed but haven’t really seen how they hurt you. Like they haven’t really interacted with and healed your emotions. Would you say that’s similar to how you feel? Or would you describe it another way
@@theorangeofallahpbuh1840 You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings ! I agree with some of what you said and want to share a bit more. Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and it’s been like this for a long time (around two years). I don’t reach out unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they contact me, I reply politely but distantly, like responding to a stranger asking for directions. When it comes to healing emotions, based on my experience, I don’t think it’s needed or rather, I don’t care. Even if they try, it feels like a switch in my heart has been flipped off ,like a puppet with its strings cut. I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond like a machine, telling them I don’t feel anything at all. They try to manipulate the strings, but there’s no emotion on my end. (That's also why Geoff mentioned that falling outcome is the only way.) My guess is that when the pain becomes unbearable, people naturally shut down their senses.
@@theorangeofallahpbuh1840 You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings! I agree with some of your points and would like to share a bit more. Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and this has been the case for a long time-about two years. I don’t initiate contact unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they do reach out, I respond politely but distantly, like replying to a stranger asking for directions. When it comes to healing emotions, in my experience, I don’t think it’s necessary-or rather, I just don’t care. Even if they try, it feels like there’s a switch in my heart that’s been turned off-like a puppet whose strings have been cut. I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond mechanically, telling them I don’t feel anything at all. They try to pull the strings again, but there’s no reaction, no emotion left on my end. (That’s also why Geoff said that the “falling outcome” is the only way, and honestly, I think it’s the only possible way too.) My guess is that when the pain becomes too overwhelming, people naturally shut down their senses.
@@theorangeofallahpbuh1840 You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings! I agree with some of your points and would like to share a bit more. Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and this has been the case for a long time-about two years. I don’t initiate contact unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they do reach out, I respond politely but distantly, like replying to a stranger asking for directions. When it comes to healing emotions, in my experience, I don’t think it’s necessary-or rather, I just don’t care. Even if they try, it feels like there’s a switch in my heart that’s been turned off-like a puppet whose strings have been cut. I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond mechanically, telling them I don’t feel anything at all. They try to pull the strings again, but there’s no reaction, no emotion left on my end. (That’s also why Geoff said that the “falling outcome” is the only way, and honestly, I think it’s the only possible way too.) My guess is that when the pain becomes too overwhelming, people naturally shut down their senses.
You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings! I agree with some of your points and would like to share a bit more. Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and this has been the case for a long time-about two years. I don’t initiate contact unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they do reach out, I respond politely but distantly, like replying to a stranger asking for directions. When it comes to healing emotions, in my experience, I don’t think it’s necessary-or rather, I just don’t care. Even if they try, it feels like there’s a switch in my heart that’s been turned off-like a puppet whose strings have been cut. I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond mechanically, telling them I don’t feel anything at all. They try to pull the strings again, but there’s no reaction, no emotion left on my end. (That’s also why Geoff said that the “falling outcome” is the only way, and honestly, I think it’s the only possible way too.) My guess is that when the pain becomes too overwhelming, people naturally shut down their senses
I will say this, DO NOT use these frameworks until your internal shifts are genuine/permanent. They are not the “what to say” as come to find out that part actually comes very naturally. It will totally fuck you over to try and use this in anything but a purely genuine nature That said what a useful video! Seeing a more clear outline for the TTH is very very helpful. I myself am experiencing unreal resistance right now, when two weeks ago we were chatting for hours. I find that the PoC is definitely a huge downward spiral and have had to use the SoC and auto suggestions out the wahoo. Also Geoff, SoC is wild dude. It feels like I am third part to my own thoughts. I have never experienced anything like this
I'm in a position where i know what I have done, i know what I need to do, but she hasn't asked for space or said she wants to leave. I've been following this channel and applying the principles. My mindset is changing, and I am getting resistance from my partner. I believe some of the resistance is the paradox of change. I have not had any hard emotional conversations yet, I need to fully unteather first. I'm getting there one day at a time. Thanks Geoff for your vodeos. I hope that in time my situation becomes a healthy nurturing relationship. I believe even meeting resistance, being stonewalled here and there, and my partner has not asked to end things despite being emotionally disconnected that there's a good possibility that the relationship can grow and blossom. My question is when is a good time to have the jard conversations and face the hard truths?
Amazing i am in this situation, living with my Ex and i am will to repair and i have already made changes in myself that she has noticed and seen her acknowledge my work, now she is dating someone else which makes thing difficult but i know we can reconcile 🙌🏽
hi geoff just going thru a tough separation now and i wish i can join the program however 4k usd is not cheap nothing against your price point because i strongly believe the learnings and skillsets that i will acquire could benefit me a lifetime especially to get that reconciliation with my wife. how can we move forward if im willing to pay the fee but cant afford it as one time payment? hope you get to see this geoff
So my partner of 14 years moved out and had to move back in a few weeks later due to financial issues and I'm still supporting her. I'm trying to give her space as much as possible while working on my PIEs and internal shifts, but the big issues are one, we still share a bed. We aren't intimate, and she at times isn't happy with the arrangement, which I understand, but its the best we have since she isn't willing to sleep on the couch. Secondly, my trying to grow is a source of conflict. Particularly when it comes to religion. She thinks I'm shoving it in her face when I really don't mention it at all to her. She just sees me praying since we share a home and see sees my prayers as why she had to move back in for whatever reasons. Any advice on this situation?
Hi Geoff, my girlfriend and I are in long distance but recently broke up because of me. I have been talking and texting her trying to build safety, she had drunk texted me once saying she still loves me. I've asked her for a conversation about her feelings, she agreed, but she's been busy with her work and life. I've said that we can have the conversation when she feels ready and she agreed on that too. But she doesn't talk after that. This had happened a few days back also. I am patient and working on myself in the meantime not trying to establish contact as it might feel intruding. I hope this is not "no contact" or is it? Is there something I am doing wrong?
Finding that middle ground of no contact aloof and find smart ways to be able to contact and show changes is what is difficult for me at the moment. I feel I have been performing well and she has to have noticed my changes but she is still stonewalling. It’s 10 months now and I feel like the POC is getting worse. She has started pulling away more, no contact, removed photos off her social media. I’m seeing this as POC and that it is actually a good thing. What do you think? I’m I thinking correctly?
@@vanessayoga7522 geoffrey@relationshipsmastered.com. Be sure to let us know who you are and mention this comment so we do not miss it. We do get an overwhelming number of emails, and while I want to respond to everyone, it has become increasingly impossible to do so!
Could someone say the other program that he is referencing that is causing damage because I listen to a bunch of different RUclips channels for advice and don’t want to be going down a wrong road listening to one that everyone is talking about
What If your Partner have a middle grade depression take Anti depressiv tablets. refuse to go to doctor appointments, and Drink Alcohol infront of our child.
@@jordanjordan935 What about it? We have discussed this a lot in our interviews and other videos. Toxic behavior can either be due to character issues (very rarely in our experience) or a self-preservation mechanism due to a bad relationship culture or environment. We have currently worked with 5,000+ clients, and every single time they go through something similar, and create the 5 pillars, they are amazed at how much their partner blossoms and how much these toxic behaviors go away. But if you think that your partner is this way because she has some character issue and NOT due to the environment, then the ironic part you have to think about is - have you REALLY created the right environment in the first place? Up to you on how you want to see it! But remember, like we always say, your paradigms determine your reality. :) Why do you think your partner is behaving this way? Is this a character issue or a defense mechanism to a toxic culture or environment?
Geof what are campaign,s..im in the arc system now for ovr a year now,yet i,ve alway,s and still listen to you..(Bruce). 15 yr,s ..she,s done..not aloud any decision. Shoutiing at .e even though ew had good night,s..treat me and say like living with 2 boy,s..we have a son ..alway,s going out with her freind overnight..getting drunk very quick..after having great day..she decend,s on me with real toxic intent and anger which we ve talk about to resolve it got worse ..too which now um to blame i reaction(bad response i know)..2 yr,s now coming out house that she gave to me..bcus im a boy..is strange bcus she wanted this..i did not..she haz to be above..if i went against or for ,..she be say annoyed
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Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
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To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
Hi Geoffrey, tell me something. It's been 3 years that I left our home and my family. We never spoke for 3 years n now that she has a bf that Wana marry her, she feel it's OK to have a talk now. How do I get to the non verbal touch in this situation
If you have been watching these videos and on the fence, definitely do the masterclass. This program is life-changing.
In an interview with Shawn, you once mentioned that his partner seemed indifferent but still reached out to him in the end. Have you ever encountered someone who’s truly indifferent ?
Someone who has no emotions left for you-not anger, not sadness, not even disappointment. Whether you improve or fall apart, they just don’t care anymore because all they associate with the relationship is hurt and exhaustion.
I’ve been hurt by family members before, and when I face them now, I feel nothing-just calm. Even if they’ve changed for the better, it doesn’t affect me anymore.
When there’s no emotion left, it seems like you stop wondering whether the other person has changed. Instead, you just think,
“You didn't change ? That’s kind of sad."
“Oh, you’ve really changed ? That’s great-good for you. But it has nothing to do with me.”
I’d love to hear your thoughts on indifference. Thank you~
Im not Geoffrey, and this is just my hypothesis, but from what you’ve said, it sounds like they have changed but haven’t really seen how they hurt you. Like they haven’t really interacted with and healed your emotions. Would you say that’s similar to how you feel? Or would you describe it another way
@@theorangeofallahpbuh1840 You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings !
I agree with some of what you said and want to share a bit more.
Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and it’s been like this for a long time (around two years).
I don’t reach out unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they contact me, I reply politely but distantly, like responding to a stranger asking for directions.
When it comes to healing emotions, based on my experience, I don’t think it’s needed or rather, I don’t care.
Even if they try, it feels like a switch in my heart has been flipped off ,like a puppet with its strings cut.
I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond like a machine, telling them I don’t feel anything at all.
They try to manipulate the strings, but there’s no emotion on my end.
(That's also why Geoff mentioned that falling outcome is the only way.)
My guess is that when the pain becomes unbearable, people naturally shut down their senses.
@@theorangeofallahpbuh1840 You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings!
I agree with some of your points and would like to share a bit more.
Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and this has been the case for a long time-about two years.
I don’t initiate contact unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they do reach out, I respond politely but distantly, like replying to a stranger asking for directions.
When it comes to healing emotions, in my experience, I don’t think it’s necessary-or rather, I just don’t care.
Even if they try, it feels like there’s a switch in my heart that’s been turned off-like a puppet whose strings have been cut.
I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond mechanically, telling them I don’t feel anything at all.
They try to pull the strings again, but there’s no reaction, no emotion left on my end.
(That’s also why Geoff said that the “falling outcome” is the only way, and honestly, I think it’s the only possible way too.)
My guess is that when the pain becomes too overwhelming, people naturally shut down their senses.
@@theorangeofallahpbuh1840 You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings!
I agree with some of your points and would like to share a bit more.
Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and this has been the case for a long time-about two years.
I don’t initiate contact unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they do reach out, I respond politely but distantly, like replying to a stranger asking for directions.
When it comes to healing emotions, in my experience, I don’t think it’s necessary-or rather, I just don’t care.
Even if they try, it feels like there’s a switch in my heart that’s been turned off-like a puppet whose strings have been cut.
I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond mechanically, telling them I don’t feel anything at all.
They try to pull the strings again, but there’s no reaction, no emotion left on my end.
(That’s also why Geoff said that the “falling outcome” is the only way, and honestly, I think it’s the only possible way too.)
My guess is that when the pain becomes too overwhelming, people naturally shut down their senses.
You have such a thoughtful way of asking questions and genuinely caring about others’ feelings!
I agree with some of your points and would like to share a bit more.
Rationally, I can see that the other person has become a completely different person, and this has been the case for a long time-about two years.
I don’t initiate contact unless it’s absolutely necessary, and when they do reach out, I respond politely but distantly, like replying to a stranger asking for directions.
When it comes to healing emotions, in my experience, I don’t think it’s necessary-or rather, I just don’t care.
Even if they try, it feels like there’s a switch in my heart that’s been turned off-like a puppet whose strings have been cut.
I just sit there. When they show empathy and ask about my feelings, I respond mechanically, telling them I don’t feel anything at all.
They try to pull the strings again, but there’s no reaction, no emotion left on my end.
(That’s also why Geoff said that the “falling outcome” is the only way, and honestly, I think it’s the only possible way too.)
My guess is that when the pain becomes too overwhelming, people naturally shut down their senses
I will say this, DO NOT use these frameworks until your internal shifts are genuine/permanent. They are not the “what to say” as come to find out that part actually comes very naturally. It will totally fuck you over to try and use this in anything but a purely genuine nature
That said what a useful video! Seeing a more clear outline for the TTH is very very helpful. I myself am experiencing unreal resistance right now, when two weeks ago we were chatting for hours.
I find that the PoC is definitely a huge downward spiral and have had to use the SoC and auto suggestions out the wahoo.
Also Geoff, SoC is wild dude. It feels like I am third part to my own thoughts. I have never experienced anything like this
SOC is so underrated for sure! :)
Remind me, I'm drawing a blank what does TTH stand for again
Treat the hemorrhage
@@livewithinthedream ah yes. Thank you.
I'm in a position where i know what I have done, i know what I need to do, but she hasn't asked for space or said she wants to leave. I've been following this channel and applying the principles. My mindset is changing, and I am getting resistance from my partner. I believe some of the resistance is the paradox of change. I have not had any hard emotional conversations yet, I need to fully unteather first. I'm getting there one day at a time. Thanks Geoff for your vodeos. I hope that in time my situation becomes a healthy nurturing relationship. I believe even meeting resistance, being stonewalled here and there, and my partner has not asked to end things despite being emotionally disconnected that there's a good possibility that the relationship can grow and blossom. My question is when is a good time to have the jard conversations and face the hard truths?
Amazing i am in this situation, living with my Ex and i am will to repair and i have already made changes in myself that she has noticed and seen her acknowledge my work, now she is dating someone else which makes thing difficult but i know we can reconcile 🙌🏽
hi geoff just going thru a tough separation now and i wish i can join the program however 4k usd is not cheap nothing against your price point because i strongly believe the learnings and skillsets that i will acquire could benefit me a lifetime especially to get that reconciliation with my wife. how can we move forward if im willing to pay the fee but cant afford it as one time payment? hope you get to see this geoff
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So my partner of 14 years moved out and had to move back in a few weeks later due to financial issues and I'm still supporting her. I'm trying to give her space as much as possible while working on my PIEs and internal shifts, but the big issues are one, we still share a bed. We aren't intimate, and she at times isn't happy with the arrangement, which I understand, but its the best we have since she isn't willing to sleep on the couch. Secondly, my trying to grow is a source of conflict. Particularly when it comes to religion. She thinks I'm shoving it in her face when I really don't mention it at all to her. She just sees me praying since we share a home and see sees my prayers as why she had to move back in for whatever reasons. Any advice on this situation?
Hi Geoff, my girlfriend and I are in long distance but recently broke up because of me. I have been talking and texting her trying to build safety, she had drunk texted me once saying she still loves me. I've asked her for a conversation about her feelings, she agreed, but she's been busy with her work and life. I've said that we can have the conversation when she feels ready and she agreed on that too. But she doesn't talk after that. This had happened a few days back also. I am patient and working on myself in the meantime not trying to establish contact as it might feel intruding. I hope this is not "no contact" or is it? Is there something I am doing wrong?
Finding that middle ground of no contact aloof and find smart ways to be able to contact and show changes is what is difficult for me at the moment. I feel I have been performing well and she has to have noticed my changes but she is still stonewalling. It’s 10 months now and I feel like the POC is getting worse. She has started pulling away more, no contact, removed photos off her social media. I’m seeing this as POC and that it is actually a good thing. What do you think? I’m I thinking correctly?
Do you have a email to ask you a question thru there about joining program, motivated buyer
@@vanessayoga7522 geoffrey@relationshipsmastered.com. Be sure to let us know who you are and mention this comment so we do not miss it.
We do get an overwhelming number of emails, and while I want to respond to everyone, it has become increasingly impossible to do so!
Could someone say the other program that he is referencing that is causing damage because I listen to a bunch of different RUclips channels for advice and don’t want to be going down a wrong road listening to one that everyone is talking about
I believe he's referring to Marriage Helper. A very passive, religious oriented program that Geoffrey beats out of the water
What If your Partner have a middle grade depression take Anti depressiv tablets. refuse to go to doctor appointments, and Drink Alcohol infront of our child.
@@jordanjordan935 What about it? We have discussed this a lot in our interviews and other videos.
Toxic behavior can either be due to character issues (very rarely in our experience) or a self-preservation mechanism due to a bad relationship culture or environment.
We have currently worked with 5,000+ clients, and every single time they go through something similar, and create the 5 pillars, they are amazed at how much their partner blossoms and how much these toxic behaviors go away.
But if you think that your partner is this way because she has some character issue and NOT due to the environment, then the ironic part you have to think about is - have you REALLY created the right environment in the first place?
Up to you on how you want to see it!
But remember, like we always say, your paradigms determine your reality. :)
Why do you think your partner is behaving this way? Is this a character issue or a defense mechanism to a toxic culture or environment?
Made the mistakes now she want to clear the finances and move on I'm gutted
Geof what are campaign,s..im in the arc system now for ovr a year now,yet i,ve alway,s and still listen to you..(Bruce). 15 yr,s ..she,s done..not aloud any decision. Shoutiing at .e even though ew had good night,s..treat me and say like living with 2 boy,s..we have a son ..alway,s going out with her freind overnight..getting drunk very quick..after having great day..she decend,s on me with real toxic intent and anger which we ve talk about to resolve it got worse ..too which now um to blame i reaction(bad response i know)..2 yr,s now coming out house that she gave to me..bcus im a boy..is strange bcus she wanted this..i did not..she haz to be above..if i went against or for ,..she be say annoyed