The Stages of Marriage Reconciliation (No One Tells You This)

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  • Опубликовано: 21 дек 2024

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  • @GeoffreySetiawan
    @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +10

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    • @rafydeez2
      @rafydeez2 Год назад

      Yes geoffrey but if I can learn to be like water I will never be that one flavor of ice cream because I can change to whatever flavor she prefers!?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Год назад

      @@rafydeez2 And why is that bad?

    • @rafydeez2
      @rafydeez2 Год назад +1

      That's a good thing if she believes your changes.

  • @Gabester64
    @Gabester64 Год назад +18

    My wife and I are trying to reconcile. Man, she threw everything at me yesterday. It the hardest thing I've probably gone through. It was so intense that I had an anxiety attack. Still told her I wasn't going to give up.

    • @matthewcanfield6748
      @matthewcanfield6748 Год назад +3

      I totally understand

    • @Onelightoftheworld
      @Onelightoftheworld 7 месяцев назад +3

      I’m in the same boat right now. My husband hasn’t lived in the house for a year. He’s gone in and out of treatment. I think he’s pretty stable right now but it’s only been a couple months. He’s renting a room and I don’t wanna give up on us. I’ve had to set some boundaries to protect myself, but more importantly to save his life. At least that’s what I thought. I don’t know we’re talking today. I wish you all the best. I know that with God’s help all of us can get through this.

    • @samuelacosta2876
      @samuelacosta2876 2 месяца назад

      @gabester64 how are things now brother?

    • @Gabester64
      @Gabester64 2 месяца назад +1

      @samuelacosta2876 is going well. Brother. We did not reconcile. She wanted to try again, but after separation and her being with another man I felt I was better not going back to her. Sucks about the divorce. But i met a woman who treats me like a king. So I'm doing well brother. Thanks for asking. Things get better you just gotta keep fighting brother. Don't give up.

  • @rayorlandorassi2867
    @rayorlandorassi2867 Год назад +3

    I just have to say I’ve been listening to you for three years on RUclips and it never ceases to amaze me how on point you are.

  • @MrJeanpaul1988
    @MrJeanpaul1988 Год назад +3

    To fully get this it takes time, to view this pearl of information! This man is a legend! Still working on BPV, paradigms are stubborn in CPTSD recoverer

  • @TicketTW21
    @TicketTW21 2 года назад +9

    This has been the most pivotal influential video yet and I truly needed this to understand what I’m going through and where I am at currently because I didn’t understand what it was exactly thank you

  • @peterfichtner1
    @peterfichtner1 Год назад +2

    Geoffrey you are absolutely brilliant my man. I think your teachings are going to change my relationship with my wife, kids, work, myself, and everything

  • @ScaleAutoGarage
    @ScaleAutoGarage 2 года назад +5

    Your best video yet, no question. Awesome that you put it as episode 100. Quite fitting. I am eagerly waiting for the next one you promised. Thanks for everything you do.

  • @Hhbdr
    @Hhbdr Год назад +3

    You saved my marriage. Thank you

  • @leroymthulisindlovu
    @leroymthulisindlovu Год назад

    Thanks once again for an eye opening video! The best thing anyone can do really is to work on self before everything else. That truly makes all the difference. Also a moment to appreciate the free guide to leading conversations. I have found this so useful even in dealing with co-workers and just people in general!

  • @Aramakie98
    @Aramakie98 Год назад +1

    Depression ate awy at my mind and my relationships (not just the one with my partner). I would have mental conversations that I thought were real. Chronic depression is no joke. But, in spite of what we went through I'm working on building myself back better and stronger... i got this, you got this, and we got this together but it isn't going to be easy!

    • @rafydeez2
      @rafydeez2 Год назад +1

      I suffered the same kids didn't want to be around me might sound crazy but my vitamin d3 levels were very low started taking 10000 ius a day noticed a difference in a few days depression and negative thoughts were gone. I understand your pain be strong!

  • @jimdelvecchio2090
    @jimdelvecchio2090 Год назад +2

    Question? My wife left after a disagreement and 1 year later filed for divorce…during next year during sorting things out we still slept together texted frequently, talked etc.,she started getting really bitter, angry, down right cruel…but we even had lunch and spoke for hours after the divorce. Then about a month later she blocked me everywhere…haven’t spoken with her in 6 months. I email her- she reads my emails but doesn’t respond.
    Can you advise?
    Thanks!

  • @brittanybyrd1645
    @brittanybyrd1645 10 месяцев назад

    I apprecite your content. It affirmed that I needed professional assistance.

  • @michaelsmith1364
    @michaelsmith1364 2 года назад +16

    Haven’t been living with my wife and kids going on 7-8 months now…I don’t know what to do. I follow the videos and focusing on myself much as I can but everything seem lost still. Most examples I see couples still live together. What am I to do when we have no contact besides to pick up and drop off our children

    • @patrickmaez6658
      @patrickmaez6658 2 года назад +11

      I’m going on 11 months now not living in the same house we were together 21 years I’d like to think there’s still hope but it looks like it’s farther and farther away every day I know how you feel man just keep bettering ourselves because if there is a chance I want to be able to say you’ve done everything right hang in there brother

    • @michaelsmith1364
      @michaelsmith1364 2 года назад +8

      @@patrickmaez6658 thanks for the encouragement, always help to know we’re not alone but yeah at times things look grim. But again I try my best to just focus on myself because if it’s her I’m back with or I’m to move on and be with someone else I don’t want to be here again. Just a lot of mornings I get up feeling like a failure but I know our thoughts can lie to us. All isn’t lost…I’m still working on untethering myself as Georffrey speaks on in other videos. Easier said then done but I’m working on it

    • @ddcrush
      @ddcrush 2 года назад +7

      Hey Man, at least you have the right plan, which is to focus on yourself. Because either way it’s necessary. I feel all your pain. I hope you become sooo Great of a Man, A man that you can be proud of when you look in the mirror. And hopefully your wife can see it to and y’all truly live happily ever after🙏🏾

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +4

      First George - let's get something clear. After seeing all your comments, even if you did apply, not in a million years will we ever accept you with such an attitude.
      We currently only accept less than 10% of applicants. Who do we not accept?
      People who are impossible to coach.
      So the message below is not for you, but for others seeing this comment.
      Second, I challenge you to contact any & all of my clients :) We do not have any failures. If you don't even bother looking into this, that's a big massive shame!
      If you're wrong about us, you would have rejected a program that would change your life massively.
      If you're right, then all you get is you stroking your ego.
      We have nothing to hide because we aren't faking/hiding anything.
      But hey, you know what they say - your opinions do not really change facts. And the facts are that we drown in success, day in and day out.
      You can be jealous, skeptical, stubborn, or etc... all you want, it does not change the facts.
      Feel free to look at the boundless evidence below. If you want more, I can drown you in more :)
      This first video is a walkthrough of our program.
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      This second video is addressed to George. See for yourself how many people are raving about this program. This is an every-day occurrence.
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      This fourth video is another recent client story with Jason Newman. He quit his high paying job to come work for us, because we changes his life in ways un-imaginable through any other programs.
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    • @coupdegrace7176
      @coupdegrace7176 2 года назад +1

      13 months for me

  • @jonagonzalez4661
    @jonagonzalez4661 2 года назад +2

    These videos have been very helpful to me my wife and I have been together for eight years married for five she recently told me about two months ago that she still loves me but it’s no longer in love with me we are currently separated but living in the same house I have been watching your RUclips videos and getting as much as I can from them I’ve also been taking free master classes and they have been helping my wife and I are in a better place but there’s still some pushback but not as much as it was in the beginning I would really like to take some more in-depth classes but my funds at the moment are not looking great

    • @julioj.5655
      @julioj.5655 2 года назад +2

      She’s considering someone else.

    • @andreryan4903
      @andreryan4903 Год назад

      Agree. Move out. Go no contact. Get your power back.

    • @brittanybyrd1645
      @brittanybyrd1645 10 месяцев назад +1

      Do not listen to those incels.

    • @jonagonzalez4661
      @jonagonzalez4661 10 месяцев назад

      @@brittanybyrd1645 I did. We have worked things out and things are better than they were.

  • @michaelvega3669
    @michaelvega3669 Год назад

    I really wish I would have found your videos right after me and my fiancé broke up.

  • @Gorboduc
    @Gorboduc 2 года назад +1

    Would you ever do a video on how to start a relationship on the right foot, knowing what you now know, so as to avoid needing to reconcile later?
    I know it's a bit off brand...

  • @rohitnair3160
    @rohitnair3160 2 года назад

    Best video yet
    Waiting for the next episode!!!

  • @TaraHower
    @TaraHower Год назад +2

    My husband claims he wants to reconcile there was extreme
    emotional abuse.. but he in our separation continues to taunt disrespect and cause contention. So I haven’t seen change.. but he keeps saying I’ve changed and you just live in the past. He has so many friends at church and I get confused sometimes. So I’m not to blindly trust I do need to see changes right?

    • @archyology
      @archyology Год назад +1

      You deserve better than that. He does need to be better.

    • @christinaalexaaa
      @christinaalexaaa Год назад +1

      Unless he completely changes and confesses his wrongs then no

  • @davidthomspson9771
    @davidthomspson9771 2 года назад

    Excellent video thank you

  • @metalonmetal8536
    @metalonmetal8536 2 года назад +1

    Hi Geoffrey is this only for men and if so do you reccomend a course for my wife also so we can do this together thx

  • @truth10169
    @truth10169 2 года назад +1

    Also how do u allow them to explore .. Is that exploring other people and dating others .that's tuff to do

    • @Confessions089
      @Confessions089 Год назад

      No, you let them go and move forward with your life. That's not love and why would you put yourself through emotional torture? Why would you allow someone to emotionally torture you? We have to stop all of this fantasy stuff and acting like we're all going to live to be a hundred-plus years old. We only get one life and if you knew that you were going to pass away due to an illness or a car accident at fifty years old. Then why would you waste a decade or even a year moping around for someone who doesn't even take you seriously. Let alone the relationship seriously, that they say they want. The actions are not matching up with the words. You're allowing your own heartbreak and others if others are involved. Why do we do this to ourselves and others? Then in the same breath, we say that we value life and all this and that. Doesn't make sense, does it? However, to each their own, and hope you are not still stuck in the same situation.

  • @timn3424
    @timn3424 2 года назад

    Hey Geoffrey! Love your videos!
    I was wondering if you could make a video about moving forward after infidelity occurs?
    Or content about cheating and still wanting to be together and focus on the recovery of the relationship.

  • @LiaDuarteGoossen
    @LiaDuarteGoossen Год назад

    Can a couple reconcile after 8 yrs divorced?

  • @user-wn8cc8ob7p
    @user-wn8cc8ob7p 10 месяцев назад

    I just received my divorce papers and it is officially done. But I’m still in love with her . Our relationship was very toxic but I want to fix things can it be done

  • @lindamolyneux3536
    @lindamolyneux3536 Год назад

    Wow...such insight!
    Thank you!

  • @sestrada74she
    @sestrada74she 2 года назад

    Good morning Geo. How can I get a consultation with you by phone?

  • @Evilmm2world
    @Evilmm2world Год назад

    It's been 2 years since husband moved out. Denies having someone which I don't believe he's young 29. Of course he anit alone. We have no contact and he seems irritated being around me the times he has. He stopped seeing kids. I gave up .

    • @andreryan4903
      @andreryan4903 Год назад

      Hi. I’m sorry this is happening to you. I was in a similar situation myself. My wife moved out this year. She said she wanted to separate and see other people. 2 months in, I filed for divorce. I didn’t want to, and it was by no way clean, but I am now in the divorcing process. Im sure she had a guy or at least someone lined up. The truth is my wife like your husband stop loving and respecting us a long time ago. They stopped seeing the value in us. My advice is to file for divorce. He might contact you and reform, or he might not care. Either way you take your power back. God did not put you on this earth to be unloved. You’re worthy of love and affection. I hope you can heal and find peace and happiness within yourself. Live your best life, spend time with your wonderful children and before you know it someone who deserves you will walk into your life and complete you.

  • @thebirima91
    @thebirima91 Год назад

    Can it be successful if your wife has Asperger syndrome?

  • @truth10169
    @truth10169 2 года назад +2

    My wife moved out about 4 months ago she wants to venture out and says she doesn't love me and is not there emotionally or physically any more what should I do im lost.. i want my marriage to work as much as my lung needs air

  • @rhinaherrera1229
    @rhinaherrera1229 Год назад

    My wife just left with another female she is having an affair instead of working things out with me what can I do is she gonna come back

  • @vedigregorian4382
    @vedigregorian4382 Год назад

    You call it "surrendering" but I would say its more about resolve.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Год назад +2

      We chose that particular word for a reason. Surrender is a FALLING outcome, while resolve is a STRIVING outcome. Might look like a tiny semantic difference, but this difference is crucial - because they call it "FALL IN LOVE" for a reason.
      You cannot use resolve to FALL in love, the same way you cannot use resolve to FALL asleep.
      I've addressed this in my recent videos.
      The words we choose has been carefully thought out over helping 4,000+ clients in the past 2.5 years reconcile. We don't just throw out words for no reason :)

  • @MistaMagee
    @MistaMagee 3 месяца назад

    Looking for success stories gents

  • @stayphatthareala8425
    @stayphatthareala8425 9 месяцев назад

    I was on broad until the whole encouraging your partner to see other people. Nawl I'm good on the rest of this video.....

  • @bradcapps5684
    @bradcapps5684 Год назад

    Experienced a false reconciliation 9 months ago

  • @ahmedshah5922
    @ahmedshah5922 2 года назад

    sorry for spamming your clients geoffery :(