Toxic Parents Who Kicked Me Out at 18 and Cut Me Off, Showed Up at My Son's Birthday Party...
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- Toxic Parents Who Kicked Me Out at 18 and Cut Me Off, Showed Up at My Son's Birthday Party to Beg for Money and Later Tried to Take Me to Court for $50k I Never Stole.
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Inviting your estranged parents over to your house for your kid’s birthday is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard…
Exactly
Exactly.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
In my opinion, he should apologize to the guests, in the same tone he told the story at the party. He should be apologetic that it was on that event, but not about what he said, and they should know it
@@RoundShadeswow talking makes me need to say sorry
@@RoundShadesthat’s what everyone agrees on but yea your 3 year olds birthday party ??? Dude come on
Uncle Kevin is the type of relative all should strive to be
My uncle's name is Kevin 💀
Wife is litterly naive. She try to invalidate his feelings and the fact the she told the op that he's "self-invovled." SHE should be the one apologizing, shes sheltered.
No she is being obtuse. Intentionally pretending she doesn't understand. She is toxic
As I recall she DID apologize, on a couple of different levels, and then was 100% behind him when the lawsuit came up.
@@caffeinedelusions By then it was too late, also she moved out the the marital bed, I would have sent her some paperwork after that
@@19floyed you don’t do all that at your 3 year olds birthday party. A kids party should be about the kid he could’ve set them to the side after the kid went to bed. He’s not wrong for how he feels but nor is the wife. It’s not like she doesn’t love him it’s a disagreement. Reddit has everything thinking we can’t take upon our selves to have accountability, while also not invalidating how we feel. Being justified with your emotions does not always justify actions. That’s both his and his wife’s home. So him choosing to do that in front of everyone on his 3 year olds birthday is a reflection not only on him, but on his wife as well. He his right to feel that way towards his parents and I’m pretty sure the wife( because he did say) has and understanding as well. Now he’s accusing her of not understanding when she has valid reasons to be upset. He had an emotional response which I completely understand to her voicing her feelings. Made him feel invalidated. But you can’t not expect your wife you just understand( even tho it’s stated that she does understand) if you as an man and husband didn’t think about your family (wife and child) before doing that. Communication would’ve probably dissolved all of this.
@@19floyedwife beater behaviour.
Uncle Kevin is the best relative ever, may he rest in peace
He's the MVP in the story
Uncle Kevin was the definition of uncle:
Brilliant and kind
My uncle Kevin was super nice, unlike the rest of my aunts and uncles. I haven't seen him in 10 years, though, because he married my dad's sister, and they have a terrible relationship. He was going through cancer treatment last time i saw him, so he might have passed now 😢
Rest in peace uncle kevin
@@marshallm4551 so your uncle married his sister!?
It's not really your fault it's your parents fault for kicking you out and accusing you for stealing the money that you didn't steal in the first place they should pay for their actions and go to jail.
He should sue them for their actions
These people are scummy as hell
1. They kick their own kid out on their birthday then again they were 18 so it’s legal
2.As soon as they show up they demand money for stuff they don’t deserve
3.they sued their own kid for something that never even happened
His fake azz friends are no better either.
yeah it's easy to be as scummy as these people are when they're entirely fictional
wow, you listened to it, congratulations
@@muhrichard8634fictional? Honestly that’s believable
@@kimberlydanbom4937 Yeah this one is pretty tame compared to other stories and even my own experience. That reply must live a very sheltered life.
I'm absolutely pissed at the fact, that she realized she overreacted, but instead of taking action, accepting responsibility, opening up or literally doing ANYTHING she was ready to die on the hill she, by her own admission, climbed unjustly...
OPs parents are trash and I'm glad everyone will see it.
Honestly…knowing how these awful people treated Op, just wanting him to INVITE them is bad enough, but the gf actually thinking he should APOLOGIZE for how he acted is just…mindboggling.
Yes its good she saw sense but..still.
I mean he explained his traumatics life story at a 3 year olds birthday party 😂
@@Afrogirrl you didn't have to use that emoji it's giving off the wrong tone
@@ViyonaSankheno no, he’s trying to be condescending and is giving off exactly that tone, just sad he’s gone straight to being condescending rather than trying to explain his thoughts
She’s loco
Wasn't the time nor place. He dragged those guests into his family drama.
Nahh, wife saying he needs to apologise to parents. Red flag, she doesn't think his trauma is worth while and is invalidating it. She snaps at him but he gives same energy back and he's the bad guy. Rocky roads there
I was good that they talked but if her anger cooled off she realised her mistake as well she still waited for him to initiate that apology 🤔
Op's wife was very self-involved in this whole situation even to the point of ignoring op's explaining his abusers were trying to abuse him again. 15/100 wife!
15 is an overshot tbh
Wife is too sheltered, she dont know better, she just acts like a child. So immature
100 bucks that the wife has been talking to OP's parents behind his back
The wife sucks imo she’s not respecting boundaries
ya op should have not forgiven her so easy
🎯💯
Op shouldve traveled back to the 1950s to teach her a lesson
@@shortangel333damn right
@@shortangel333 what the fuck is wrong with you
Thank God i have good parents ❤️
Lucky you. Mine sucks.
Lucky you. My dad cared more about his girlfriend (also his cousin which I won’t get into) more than his own children and my mother loves her religion and faith more than her own daughter’s.
@@TDArulesclub4 Mormon or Evangelical? Also, sorry for your situation. Truly saddening
Goes to show that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... unless the tree yeets it a few states away
I choked on my drink at the second part, thank you, that made my day XDD
@@renadu30 glad it brought you some joy.
😂😂😂
That’s brilliant 😂😂
So true
The wife missing out on having her bio parents to natural causes and raised by her grandparents is NOT THE SAME as OP having been TOLERATED all his life then KICKED OUT soon as it was legal.
She still had people who loved and raised her. OP had NO ONE, and his own parents made clear they HATED him.
If anyone's selfish, besides OPs paerents, its her and her want for the "picture perfect" life instead of being happy with the present and ended up inviting drama when she blatantly ignored the warning of her husband who knew these people she DID NOT.
And she's to be trusted to lead their son correctly after stewing for days in the guest room when she knew she was wrong instead of taking accountability till later?? Nah
now this is just me but i dont think op should have forgiven the wife so easily form the sounds on it she was forcing op to bond with his family so she can have a family i get her past but trying to Make the op bond with people that ruined his life is not the way
Spot on. Absolutely flabbergasted how this story/comments are completely ignoring wifey's actions. That cold azz'd blanking of op would have drawn a sit-down about immediate separation, without therapy, at the very least
I think she should go to therapy. I don’t think the marriage is doomed or that this calls for divorce since she acknowledged she was wrong though
@cloudydays6374 she acknowledged. AFTER...forcing the situation...blanking op for a week...arguing/fighting with op...you are way more forgiving than me. Therapy at very minimum, and that would not guarantee continuation of the relationship
@@chrismccloskey2502 true
it’s almost like. that’s how arguments work. you acknowledge your mistakes. they’re going to therapy, that’s actually not the minimum. the minimum is saying sorry. actively going to couples consuming is important. none of yall ever get married please because you couldn’t handle it
Once u bring them in they will never leave
Like bed bugs
This OP and his wife (when they have the time), should consider 'adopting' grandparents for their son. There are a lot of lonely elderly people out there who would love to be close with a family- I know this from experience. I grew up with an additional 'adopted' grandmother, who was a childless, widowed neighbor and we all absolutely loved her.
God people can't just keep their bad parents away or tell their SO at the start of the relationship, "hey I have a bad relationship with my parents. Do not talk nor bring them up, this is a divorce-able thing and will result in loss of trust if you do, please respect this if you wish to continue this relationship"
Sometimes It’s not as simple as one may think. He probably didn’t think he’d ever hear from his parents again; what would the point be?
He had told her at least that they kicked him out with no support and they didn’t talk. He was also the one to bring it up with her that they contacted him. She just strongly encouraged it and was biased in her decisions.
Yes some spouses will go out of their way to contact their spouse’s estranged parents but this story is not that.
That's a slippery slope you are on. The SO could easily claim that you making such demands in that particular way. Threatening divorce just for bringing something up. Is controlling and could argue verbal abuse.
Anyone that expects you to apologise to abusive people are living in a delusion and it changes people view of them. The wife is pathetically desperate for a so called family.
His wife is someone who has always had people at her birthday, and always has plans on her birthday. Maybe one day, she will get a birthday that nobody shows up, nobody plans anything big, and it's generally just forgotten about, then we can see if she overreacts.
Nta sever ties with the parents frfr, they are some money leeching back stabber, and Ops wife need to get a grip and op doesn't need to Apologize to his wife, either she gets a grip or get a divorce
feel really sad you jump straight to divorce instead of communication after a fight. never get married.
These stories never make sense. My parents hated me and I hated them and they through me out but one email after a decade and I let them in. Then you have the wife, knew what she did was out of bounds but couldn't bring herself to speak or apologize without him doing it first. He either has horrible taste in people or the AI is just getting ridiculous.
Probably a fake story
They came to their sences when they found out you were rich.
The wife putting HER feelings about how she feels about HER relationship with HER parents ahead of his feelings, emotionally forcing him to make up with 10 yr estranged parents is a very not ok situation. The fact that she was so stubborn as to not apologize after 6 days, even though it only took 2 for her to realize her wrong doings makes me think that if he said no and stuck to it that she wouldve done the stupid thing of inviting them herself without his knowledge which wouldve nuked the marriage.
Dude, she doesn't love you. Who can go that long not speaking with their spouse if they really love them? Not only that, she was supposed to be on his side, but instead, she was letting her emotions, the fact that she no longer has any of her other family, overshadow her bring a good wife. I feel so bad for OP😢😢😢. OP really deserved better, it shouldn't have took her that long to apologize 😂
The wife is a real piece of work. Her emotions were not important in that moment, and she should have realized that. What mattered was the way the actual victim of parental neglect felt.
She pressured her husband to play nice with his abusers and then acted like her feelings on the matter were more than the feeling of the actual victim. Then she decided to do serious damage to the relationship when he stood up for himself.
He shouldn't have apologized at all. Instead he should have ordered her to immediately apologize to him, or sign divorce papers. There is no way I would remain married to somebody who would put me through that then have the nerve to treat me like the badguy.
Such a sheltered little wife. So naive.
She wants him to apologize for shattering the brief guise of them all being one big happy family, not the speech
8:35 the only birthday i remember from.my childhood was my 7th and that was because i didnt get a party that year (money was tight) and all i got was a pair of shoes i say this because getting mad at someone "ruining" a childs birthday is just stupid while yes kids have fun in that moment they ultimately forget the wife needs to be upset that two parasites just tried to force their way into her family's life
It's not just about the kids. It's also about the guests. She will remember how her husband trauma dumped on a whole bunch of ppl on what was supposed to be a happy celebration. Making everyone uncomfortable. It'll be know as the trauma dump party rather than a birthday party.
When trying to 'reconcile' or have a meeting with a long lost relative/friend, don't invite them to a party. Meet them privately where you can hash everything out in the open and not be distracted by other things happening or ruin the event they've attended.
The fact they expected to get away with such a lie and lawsuit just to get the money they wanted shows how greedy, stupid, entitled and vile they are. They didn't change at all. If anything they got worse in order to be dumb to lie for a lawsuit, let alone escalate things to get what they wanted after op denied them. I'm not surprised that they blocked op after getting op to take down the post that exposed them to everyone.
It’s kind of selfish for the wife to expect Op not to shame his parents after SHE invited them when Op didn’t want them at his party.
It paints a clear picture that the wife doesn’t care about past trauma and only cares about letting bygones be bygones, no matter how fake or estranged the relationship is.
They called you every name in the book but they can't call you a liar.
Do the parents honestly expect their son to lend them money after they kicked him out???
I would divorce that wife asap
You’re wife is annoying tf outta me and I hope she sees this! She wanted them at the party then she should give them money from her person bank account! And u should get a divorce if she doesn’t care abt you’re feelings
Divorce strait away
The OP of this story should have just told them to kick rocks as well as "you should have thought about wanting to know your grandkids before you threw me out like used cat litter ten years ago." Situation averted.
Wife needs to be divorced tbh she went days without talking to you WTF
Hey people need space sometimes.
NTA… it’s a shame that not only do you have AH parents but your wife is an AH who doesn’t support you or have your back. she’s a horrible excuse for a wife. i’m so sorry OP, it’s a shame you ended up marrying someone just as bad as the abusive parents you had.
These are the parents from Joe Dirt 🤦
Dude, inviting your estranged parents was your first mistake. Also, your wife was really siding with them in the beginning and thought you owed them an apology for telling everyone that they kicked you out when you turned 18. At least she understands now. Also, your parents really tried suing you? How dum or they? At least your told everyone in your family how they turned their backs on you when you needed them and now they are trying to get on your good side because of your money and job.
Someone let me know when the divorce update drops.
story 1: divorce the ex-wife....deal with the child support...but at least this will give op peace...
Sad you jump to divorce instead of talking it out. I will give you a quick advice, Never get married.
Bro liked his own comment.
Hell no .....she is totally overreacting b/c of her own sit. She should understand your feelings if she's on the same page as sticking to you for better or for worse.
Doesn't talk to him for a week what a fuckin child.
An uncle in Utah? This seems like they finna escape Amish.
The parents are horrible people for treating OP like garbage. Also I wouldn't trust the wife after she completely disregarded OP's feelings and invalidated his experience with his parents
Tbf Op should have discussed the stunt he was about to pull with his wife.
@@DukerGamerzAgreed
Kevin is his second cousin, not his uncle.
0:48 wtf would OP use the sons party to reconnect with the parents why would that make sense to them 🤨 I haven’t gotten through the whole story but whatever happened at the party is on OP
wtf 5 days without talking about the issue, that woman is terrible.
Op should have just stay no contact with his parents. Not drag everyone at a party in some drama presented as a stand up joke making everyone confused. Explain properly to his wife why those people will never be grandparents. And not post the whole drama on fb to just gain sympathy, just go no contact with those that disappointed you. Sometimes doing nothing and detaching yourself from drama brings more peace than confronting selfish people that already don't care.
The wife was tweaking too
Having a happy family is not all it's Crack up to be.
I can understand your wife being embarrassed about everyone else being dragged into it, even if they seemed to be laughing, they could've been just being polite. But her demanding you apologize to your parents is an absolute bitch move on her part.
They don't deserve an apology at all after what they did, and your wife demanding you apologize to them after everything is a massive red flag.
I know I've watched too much of these when the background minecraft video feels familiar now
Saaamee 😂😂😂
Tbh, your wife isn't that wrong... Maybe she exaggerated a little, but I think that it's true the fact that you didn't have to do it in your son's birthday... Both of you didn't take the best ways to do it, but well...
Divorce your wife
wholesome uncle i aspire to be
8:41 yes I do think he’s the AH for this part and no one can change my mind. He was selfish about this part and you are crazy if you say otherwise. He was self involved and then insulted her
No I wouldn't apologize. If you do it makes something that's not a problem into a huge problem
Even a 12 yo could tell that this reddit story is faker than Kim Kardashians body
Yeah the lawsuit gives it away
You should have never allowed them in your house or life ever!! They used you then and now they want to use you again.
I hope Op kept in contact with uncle.
Uh, the uncle kinda died, so unless OP can speak to the dead, he won't be in contact with the uncle.
@@TheAwkwardGamer uh he lived years before he died and after OP moved out. I know it’s very hard for you to realize that life does continue when you aren’t there. The people you know don’t just sit on their hands when you leave until you come back.
@@BeingMe-t6m I know, but the way you were phrasing it sounded like "I hope OP still keeps in contact". My bad for being unable to read the minds of commenters.
@@TheAwkwardGamer I said kept. Which is past tense of keep. Which means something done in the past.
W UNCLE KEVIN
Why would you ever want to make amends with your parents if they wanted to kick you out at 18
OP should have discussed this stunt with his wife
Why people invite estranged family members on birthdays, weddings , holidays etc and in their own home is beyond me.
*DIVORCE THE WIFE!!!*
Hiw are husband and wife going to ignore each other over this?!
Uncle Kevin is the epitome of a Gigachnad
is this even real?
Wife sounds like an AH as well as the parents.
You're confusing what she wants you to apologise for, she sees it that you ruined your son's bday, not that she agrees with or what your parents did to you. You think you're apologising for what your parents did. You should apologise for the party incident, not what you did to parents because they're dicks. Trust me, just do it because you did pick the wrong time to shit on your parents but you're not wrong for doing it, just not the right time to do it. Good luck bud!
Verbalese reference!? 🤨🤨🤨
Jeez what is it with parents kicking their kids out at 18?????
They assume these kids already know what to do in life.
I can't imagine doing that to my daughter. As a Filipino. We stick with our families longer. We're usually much more closer with our families too. No, we're not without our toxic family members. But at least most of us don't kick our kids out at 18. These shitty parents think they can come back and demand to be taken care of. Don't treat your kids like shit and then expect that of them. 😬😑🙄
What is wrong with you! You know they hate you & you let them come to your son's B Day. You did this All to your self.
Op's wife pretty much forced him to
Wife: What's that?
Husband: Ohhh nothing. Just a lawsuit from my estranged parents claiming I stole $50k before running away years ago. You know the same parents you want me to apologize! Poker Face :D
Wife: ...............
L wife
Hear me out, people in these comments should really consider other peoples veiw of things
1. People here are saying that the wife is a bad wife,
No she's not she was looking out for her child and the guests in the party, she understandably angry that her husband did that in their CHILD'S PARTY.
2. The husband was really petty for doing that to his parents in their child's party, imagine the awkward atmosphere that speech must have given to the guest in their CHILD'S PARTY, in my opinion they could've handled it privately or somewhere that wasn't a get together like a CHILD'S PARTY. I can agree with other people here that inviting his parents was stupid
3. The parents were ligit stupid for asking their child for money when they kicked him out, a low blow on their part but they didn't really deserve that kind of humiliation, yes they are butts for asking but c'mon really?
They could've at least picked another day or at least tried to mend their relationship with their child before asking for help.
My verdict here is.
Wife not ahole
Husband ahole
Parents aholes
If this is creative writing which im speculating, then it was great, seeing people in this comment section getting rattled up just to get their point was funny. If this is happening once you post one of your stories, then you know you better keep writing
@@pixel_max_6815 bruh how
I’d have a SERIOUS problem with my wife if she failed to back me like OP’s wife did. I can sort of understand her not liking OP using their son’s birthday to deliver his speech. I was horrified that their first meeting in 10 years was at OP’s son’s birthday. Both of these decisions were idiotic. So OP could have apologized to HER, but no one else.
I'm honestly more mad at OP's wife than his parents. She fully understood where OP was coming from, she just unilaterally decided that her need for do-over parents superceded the abuse her husband went through.
The wife is a bad wife. She was to self interested to relise what she was doing to OP, and OP had a ton of patients to deal with this. On top of that; when she calmed down from being angry, she waited for OP to come to her about it? My girl! You overlooked your in-law's abuse of OP! That's a very crapy thing! Put on your big girl pants and be an adult!
The Wife is the biggest AH.
SHE wanted the parents there even after knowing what they did to OP
SHE is the only one offended by OP standing up for himself
SHE is the self involved one
The Wife is a big ass baby 🙄😒
Somehow reddit seems to be a mean marketing machine for therapy and couples counceling. 90% of the stories mention that. It's like "Big Psycho" is sponsoring them 😅
That's really selfish of the wife to get mad at him over that. I mean you cannot ever Force somebody to reconcile with people who were horrible to them, I get it her grandparents were nice but that no way in hell means that every set of grandparents is going to be like hers, her logic is ridiculous.
What's good with having horrible people like that back in the family? And just for a 'complete family', its all lies. Family is what you make of it, not looks.
If your wife is gonna be like that, take full custody of your son and divorce her
Story was believable until the resolution. "and then I posted about it on facebook and sure, I shit talk most of my family and later they're going to side with my parents, but my parents go so embarrassed that they agreed to drop the 50,000 dollar lawsuit entirely."
OP's wife is a disappointment. But besides that the lesson from this is to always go NC with toxic people. They destroy everything they touch including other people's relationships.
while it wasnt the time or place to make the speech, it had to be done. I do however understand where your wife is coming from but expecting you to apologize to your parents is too far. yes you should apologize to the guest, but your parents don't deserve an apology, if anything THEY should be the ones apologizing to you
Story 1 here what OP should've done if you want my toxic money grubbing parents fine lets separate our finances and you give them money from yours because I fucking won't end of story.
10:36 I think she has a different perspective on family than you she never had a big chance to get to know her mom and dad but you did so she is probably saying what she wants and/or thinks to you
It is understable how you reacted emotionally. You are a humanbeing. Next time wait for her to calm down and explain her calmly. Write everything before to make sure not to forget what you want to say.
You did great. Good luck
Why do people like OPs parents have kids in the first place if they don’t want to take care of them!!! This is why abortion should be legal, or at the very least parents should be required by law to take a class on how to care for kids
your wife is clueless. what the hell
The reallity is that a lot of people who grew up in a loving situation don't really understand abuse. Neither the drivig factors for it nor the mental aspects of the victim.
OP fucked up by not telling his wife what they demanded emediatly.
Also it was a terrible idea to invited them to a child's birthday. If you re-establish contact you should always do it without kids in a neutral but safe space (and get there first so that you can sit somewhere that allows for a quick exit when shit hits the fan).
Divorce her
Thank god the wife did not overreact 💀
Underrated comment frfr
His wife romanticized his parents because she barely know them. Really stupid thing but a lot of people tend to do.