Thanks so much sir for this masterpiece lesson. I am going with this five points as definite solution to every problem of negative thoughts. (1) Is the thought true? (2) Is it absolutely true? (3) How do you feel with the thought? (4) How would you feel if you were not experiencing these thoughts? (5) State the opposite of the original thought
There is no absolute truth. Many people will move away from people who refuse to even try to get out of the rut of negative thinking. You can be your own ally or your prison guard. Energy flows where focus goes. Nobody can change life for you, they can only expose you to different ideas. If you negate everything- you won’t escape the mantra that ‘life just sucks’. Amen really does have some helpful information. He cares. Try it.
3:20 Where the thoughts came from (everywhere!) Thoughts lie You can absorb stuff as a child from your parent and it can be an absolute lie!! Specially negative thoughts so challenge them!!! You may thing them so heavily eg. You're ugly but it's as a result of eg. Your mum telling you when you were 7 even when you were perfectly beautiful! And because you never challenged it it manifested and grew in your life into a full fledged belief as you continued to justify it and let this lie grow!
i think you skipped the part of what to do when #1 and two are yes answers so this is really just for healthy people. Kinda knew basic things like that. i want to know what happens when im in a dark hole.
When 1 is yes, the second question is a question to make that sure. You can quickly say yes to the first question, because you have that negative thought in your head which you think is true. You can definitely say yes to question 1 en no to question 2
you accept what you can and cannot control, you can’t control what happened to you, but you can choose how you move forward! positively or negatively, you can shape your future, my dad doesn’t know how to emotionally support me and verbally abuses me, I’ve denied it for years and tried to lie to myself saying he’s always been there when I needed him and that his lack of presence and heartless words don’t hurt me but the truth is he’s emotionally unavailable and his words and lack of support he’s provided me throughout my life has hurt me. And so I choose not to let that hurt harm me anymore, I set boundaries, I heal, I create a better life for myself and seek partners who ARE emotionally available.
So that's why there's the second question... is it absolutely true. We aren't our thoughts, but our thoughts control our feelings and then our behaviors. You can do something one time and not be that thing. It doesn't make you a bad person absolutely because you hurt someone one time, for example.
Hola Amig@s. 🌻 Porfavor, de ser posible, me gustaría sus Videos séan traducidos en ESPAÑOL LATINO, O EN FRANCÉS, Ud. Tiene muy buen Material de Información ... Pero me gustaría escucharlo mientras trabajo, y compartirlo con mis Colegas ... La Francia 🇨🇵 🙋♀️ 💝 les envía un abrazo sincero. Saludos en la Distancia Felicidades para todos. Sinceramente, espero poder escucharlos con mucho gusto sus interesantes experiencias e investigaciones de trabajo Exitoso ... Gracias 🌻 ☕️ 👨👩👦👦 💪👌 🧚 🍀🌹🍀 👍🧸🙏 💡🌲⭐️ 🤗
From a more metaphysical/spiritual perspective, it's your thoughts that create reality. So, basically, negative thoughts and positive thoughts create the circumstances, events, and people in our lives. When you view it this way, you can make any thought come true. Choose the good ones from now on... And for past negative thoughts/events, do EFT for the emotional intensity and let it go. Don't ever beat yourself up for it. We have all been programmed to not understand that we create our own reality. So, in other words, it's okay and preferable to not face reality - instead, create it!
@@CoachSteve4u That’s a load of BS. When I was 8 my dad and 2 brothers were killed in an accident, devastating my family. Shame on me for making that happen with my negative thoughts, right? I did avoid the feelings I couldn’t handle, for about 5 years, but the time came to cope with reality. Escapism has its place in survival, but you can’t just live that way, pretending away negative realities, much less bear the weight of believing that negative circumstances are a result of your negative thoughts.
@@AlinaTowersbro, this is cbt. If thought is actually true, then one can accept the negative thoughts and the discomfort that thought brings is the way. Then you have the space to live a valued life. I think ACT(acceptance and commitment therapy) would be ideal for you.Its the new updated version(3rd wave) of this kind of 2 nd wave cbt.
Thanks so much sir for this masterpiece lesson. I am going with this five points as definite solution to every problem of negative thoughts.
(1) Is the thought true?
(2) Is it absolutely true?
(3) How do you feel with the thought?
(4) How would you feel if you were
not experiencing these thoughts?
(5) State the opposite of the original thought
2:35
"But when you don't challenge them, they expand."
Masterpiece
Please, just leave me be, brain, please. I'm so tired. Please, I want to have some peace. Let's be friends, brain
I feel you 😢
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Thank you Sir
After knowing you
I am stress free and always whether its food or thought I carefully intake
Looking into whats good for my brain 💖
Thank you Sir!
Thanks Doc!!!
The truth is life sucks for some people and others don’t wanna deal with us .
Some people will
There is no absolute truth. Many people will move away from people who refuse to even try to get out of the rut of negative thinking. You can be your own ally or your prison guard. Energy flows where focus goes. Nobody can change life for you, they can only expose you to different ideas. If you negate everything- you won’t escape the mantra that ‘life just sucks’. Amen really does have some helpful information. He cares. Try it.
Excellent résumé ❤
2nd greatest video in the world
This is working!
Please do you have any tips on repetitive thoughts
Thanks!!
What if your thoughts go too fast and you can’t remember them? That’s what a friend of mind experiences
what if ANTS are about another person and its hard to answer first 2 questions as they may not be telling the truth ?
i have a type of adhd called ring of fire and this has destroyed so many friendships of mine that i have literally given up
Thats the problem the what ifs stop doing thatc
Best video I have seen in years
credit to byron katie, right?
Thank god someone said it lol. Came to the comments looking for this, I was gonna say it if no one else did 😬
I thought the same until I heard "Katie." Maybe this is part of a larger segment.
3:20
Where the thoughts came from (everywhere!)
Thoughts lie
You can absorb stuff as a child from your parent and it can be an absolute lie!!
Specially negative thoughts so challenge them!!!
You may thing them so heavily eg. You're ugly but it's as a result of eg. Your mum telling you when you were 7 even when you were perfectly beautiful! And because you never challenged it it manifested and grew in your life into a full fledged belief as you continued to justify it and let this lie grow!
5. I hate my colleagues!
good
What if the answer to question "Is it true?" is yes?
i think you skipped the part of what to do when #1 and two are yes answers so this is really just for healthy people. Kinda knew basic things like that. i want to know what happens when im in a dark hole.
When 1 is yes, the second question is a question to make that sure. You can quickly say yes to the first question, because you have that negative thought in your head which you think is true. You can definitely say yes to question 1 en no to question 2
So true!!! I thought the same thing.
That makes sense for that. But what if it's absolutely true and there is nothing you can do to change the circumstance or make it better?
Stop saying what ifs
you accept what you can and cannot control, you can’t control what happened to you, but you can choose how you move forward! positively or negatively, you can shape your future, my dad doesn’t know how to emotionally support me and verbally abuses me, I’ve denied it for years and tried to lie to myself saying he’s always been there when I needed him and that his lack of presence and heartless words don’t hurt me but the truth is he’s emotionally unavailable and his words and lack of support he’s provided me throughout my life has hurt me. And so I choose not to let that hurt harm me anymore, I set boundaries, I heal, I create a better life for myself and seek partners who ARE emotionally available.
What if the thought is a memory from the past and its true?
Hypnosis
So that's why there's the second question... is it absolutely true. We aren't our thoughts, but our thoughts control our feelings and then our behaviors. You can do something one time and not be that thing. It doesn't make you a bad person absolutely because you hurt someone one time, for example.
Stop saying what if
Hola Amig@s. 🌻
Porfavor, de ser posible, me gustaría sus Videos séan traducidos en ESPAÑOL LATINO, O EN FRANCÉS, Ud. Tiene muy buen Material de Información ... Pero me gustaría escucharlo mientras trabajo, y compartirlo con mis Colegas ... La Francia 🇨🇵 🙋♀️ 💝 les envía un abrazo sincero. Saludos en la Distancia Felicidades para todos. Sinceramente, espero poder escucharlos con mucho gusto sus interesantes experiencias e investigaciones de trabajo Exitoso ... Gracias 🌻 ☕️ 👨👩👦👦 💪👌 🧚 🍀🌹🍀 👍🧸🙏 💡🌲⭐️ 🤗
Can we suppress our thoughts?
It’s difficult. But if you can focus 100 percent on the present moment you can get moments of freedom from the minds compulsive thinking.
Replace each negative thought with a positive thought and make practice of the same and it is not much difficult
He talks about negative thoughts. Positive thoughts are good.
did he say that when we have negative thoughts the brain releases chemicals that help us FEEL BETTER?
“Feel that”
What if the thought is true? Really true?
From a more metaphysical/spiritual perspective, it's your thoughts that create reality. So, basically, negative thoughts and positive thoughts create the circumstances, events, and people in our lives. When you view it this way, you can make any thought come true.
Choose the good ones from now on... And for past negative thoughts/events, do EFT for the emotional intensity and let it go. Don't ever beat yourself up for it. We have all been programmed to not understand that we create our own reality.
So, in other words, it's okay and preferable to not face reality - instead, create it!
@@CoachSteve4u That’s a load of BS. When I was 8 my dad and 2 brothers were killed in an accident, devastating my family. Shame on me for making that happen with my negative thoughts, right? I did avoid the feelings I couldn’t handle, for about 5 years, but the time came to cope with reality. Escapism has its place in survival, but you can’t just live that way, pretending away negative realities, much less bear the weight of believing that negative circumstances are a result of your negative thoughts.
@@AlinaTowerssorry for your losses. However when think about it try remember happy memories ❤
Stop saying what ifs
@@AlinaTowersbro, this is cbt. If thought is actually true, then one can accept the negative thoughts and the discomfort that thought brings is the way. Then you have the space to live a valued life.
I think ACT(acceptance and commitment therapy) would be ideal for you.Its the new updated version(3rd wave) of this kind of 2 nd wave cbt.
Why don't you give credit to Byron katie when you share her method?
I also have this question, Mr. Dr Daniel 🤔
Stolen from Byron Katie.
Write that down and write 5 things about it !