Gok Helps Bride After Mum Threatens To Not Attend The Wedding | Say Yes To The Dress: Lancashire
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- Temi has fallen in love with a dress but her mother is not a big fan of the dress' 'revealing' plunge. Will Gok find a way to keep both the bride and her mum happy?
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This bride's complexion is unreal, just glowing gorgeous. What a stunning beauty.
I totally agree. I can't get over her skin tone!!! She is a doll!!!!
She has the PERFECT complexion! Your right, it is unreal!
You are right. It is unreal. It's makeup!
I was just gonna say that. The contrast with that first gown was lovely
@@28105wsking I'm pretty sure that the melanin is very much real. She may have some concealer and foundation that the average woman wears but her Complexion is very much real and very much beautiful. She certainly doesn't have make up down her arms and whole body lol. I dont understand why women always find it necessary to pick at one another instead of just accepting the beauty of the woman standing before us
The way she hangs her head like she felt shamed (at least that was how I interpretted it) when her mother said she would not go - that was heart wrenching.
Same
I felt that too.
Religion and women who have been brainwashed by religion to feel shame for showing off their natural, beautiful bodies have gone hand and hand for centuries. I pity both for growing up in such an environment and wish her mom wouldn't perpetuate these misogynistic myths onto her beautiful daughter.
@@amm6569 This. I really hope we're the last generation to have gotten instinctively instilled shame and fear as a way to teach lessons.
@@cheesecakelasagna believe me you are. The last.
@@flamingpieherman9822 good
This is exactly why as a father that I went with my daughter and wife to pick out her wedding dress. Every dress my daughter tried on her mother had something negative to say, finally my daughter found the dress that put a smile on her face from California to New York, her mother didn’t like it, I excuse myself and took her mother outside and told her the wedding wasn’t about her and she needed to shut the hell up. When we returned my daughter was still standing there with the dress on I asked her was that the dress she said yes, when she left to change I went up to the cashier and paid for it. Mother do try to control but the daughters want to please their mothers but they aren’t the ones who’s getting married it’s their day and it should be what she wants not the mother.
W dad
F
Way to go Dad🙌🏾
Way to go Dad🙌🏾
Well done Dad!🙂
that first dress we saw her in was “distasteful” but the exact same dress without the plunge was “underwhelming”? MAKE UP YOUR MINDSSSSSSSS
That friend was pissing me off, she had a whole lot of negative to say but no positive whatsoever. It was giving judgemental with a hint of jealousy
@Linda: That’s why brides should leave their friends and bridesmaids at home. Make it a day for your parents after all they are sending their baby off to a new adventure.
@@robertdavis1217 parents can be just as bad sometimes! You really just need to pick the person or people who really have your best interests at heart. Who also have similar tastes to you or know your taste/style well enough to not let their own get in the way.
Couldn't you see the difference?
I think the dress was perfect with a small cover. It looked like it belonged there too. The princess shape dress is so her!
I thought the dress was drop dead gorgeous! Her boobs weren't falling out. But Gok knew what to do. He's a genius!
The first thing I thought was to add more material alterations. He probably thought that too but, you know, drama.
Mom was just jealous bc the brides so pretty
I’m loving how modestly he handled her too. And if they add some sequins and studs on material in the cleavage, it would match the beaded belt
@@ashleyhoward3333
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@Leonie This is a Nigerian mother, not a Western mother. Church congregations will not accept cleavage and things like that. Don't compare the two cultures. That insert made the dress acceptable. The bride herself knew, she was just chancing.
Imagine not going to your daughters wedding over a dress you didn’t like… What is wrong with people?
People criticizing the mother. You people don't get it, it's not simply about the parent not liking the dress or trying to control the child, it's about the culture and generation gap, that thought process is built into the mind of a lot of African and Asian parents culturally, they would find that plunging dress unbearably immodest, doesn't mean they are trying to manipulate the kid, they just find it very indecent and disrespectful specially in front of elders or the house of god to wear anything that revealing, so much that they couldn't bear to watch it.
It's similar to how a western parent would feel of their child was walking into the church in a bikini with a g string or even naked, a lot of western parents wouldn't want to be in that wedding, i know it's hard for you guys to wrap your head around the concept but that's how a south Asian or African parent would see that dress in their heads in a similar manner.
The mother in this episode clearly said if she wants to have the wedding anywhere other than the church, she would be sort of okay but she won't go to the church with her daughter looking like that. This was less about religion or about selfish intentions and more about culture.You have no idea how much internal battle it took for the mother to agree at the end, just for the love of her child. Sensibilities and modesty is subjective to different cultures.
@@harshitabhuyan8892 I’m asian and my family is actively going against such generational gaps. there was no excuse for the mother to be that rude to her own daughter on what she chooses to wear. both of my parents love me enough so much so they allow me to wear whatever makes ME comfortable and happy, not caring about how others may view them, me or my family. i’m glad the mother changed her mind at the end, but it’s concerning parents these days care more about their own reputation/ego rather than their child’s happiness. if they care that much to not go against the toxic “culture” and “gap” then they should not be raising a child in the first place.
@@harshitabhuyan8892 but to not go to your own daughter’s wedding, that’s too much
She never said that. She said only if she wore that in a church. The child wants the mom to go over her beliefs cause she wants to wear a dress. The mom doesn't. That's all
@@harshitabhuyan8892 It's even possible that the clergy of their church wouldn't allow that dress because of the neckline plunge. I've known of several priests and ministers who have vetoed very low cut or see through wedding dresses in their church and have refused to perform the ceremony if the bride wore a revealing dress. It's only been in about the last ten years some churches here in the middle of the US have allowed strapless wedding dresses-and only those that aren't cut too low-inside the church building. Each denomination and sometimes each priest/minister has the authority to set the rules for dress inside their own church. It hasn't been that long since any woman or girl over about the age of 5 could even enter a Roman Catholic church without having either a hat or at least a pretty scarf-usually a lace one, but that was mostly a fashion choice-covering her head. My family was Protestant, but a lot of our friends were Catholic, and I bought a lace scarf to wear to weddings, funerals, christenings, and other celebrations out of respect for their rules and traditions. We also wouldn't have dreamed of wearing any sort of trousers, even very fancy trousers or slacks, into a church service. Like a lot of small churches the one in which I grew up didn't have paid staff to clean the church and we were allowed to wear jeans or slacks if we were part of the volunteer crew cleaning the church because that was more practical than wearing a dress and actually covered the body better than a dress if someone were down on their hands and knees cleaning the bathrooms, dusting the low parts of the insides of the pew ends, and other cleaning of low down areas or up on a ladder cleaning the light fixtures or replacing light bulbs. Any time we attended a service, dresses, skirts and blouses, or even a dressy suit were the only acceptable clothing for a woman and the skirt had better at least go down to the tops of your knees and the blouse had better not show any cleavage. Spaghetti strap sun dresses were a no no.You could wear a hat, but as Protestants we weren't required to cover our heads. There are traditions for what is acceptable to wear inside a place of worship that show respect for the fact that it is a sacred place of worship and ceremony. The rules have become a lot more relaxed for many faiths, but there are still limits to what is acceptable in churches and other places of worship. It's a matter of faith and respect for one's faith and its standards of conduct and dress.
Before people get mad and say I have no respect for an individual's right to choose, I want to point out that I'm no longer a church member anywhere and practice Wicca. In my faith worshipping or having ceremonies skyclad (nude) is completely acceptable. Most of us choose *not* to go skyclad simply because of our background programming *and* very few of us have total body confidence because of that programming. Gravity also affects us all and even some of the leaders in the various traditions have admitted publicly they aren't as comfortable skyclad in middle age and into the elderly years as they were in their 20's and 30's. As someone who has the body of a goddess (in my case the Venus of Willendorf-Google her) I prefer to practice clothed except alone in my own home with the curtains drawn.
It amazes me how Gok always finds a way to touch everybody’s heart. He is the real star of this show and He has the best dresses. I wish I could buy my own wedding dress from him.
you can and one day you sure will! ill be waiting to watch your video💕
@@celinesalloum5678 thanks for the wishes. It is very nice of you to say that . But I am from Turkey and even the plane ticket probably will cost more than the gown so… But if that happens one day instead of watching the episode you can come and be one of my entourage. 😊
But
yes.. he is a lovely person.
@@celinesalloum5678 l
That “friend” reeks of jealousy and it’s totally disgusting, you could tell that she was just trying to bring down Temi’s energy. Temi looked so gorgeous! Gok is an angel! It’s sad how her mother was so quick to give her daughter such a heavy ultimatum as soon as she realised she might not get her way. She could of at least firstly suggested something so as to compromise cause it was clear that Temi loved the dress, however glad everything worked out in the end.
She was completely out of line and I said the same thing she seems like she's jealous only person that had her back was her sister but even she seemed scared to go against what their mum was saying
Totally agree with everything you wrote. She's one to watch.
I thought the same. She was bad vibes 😪
Right? She called the 2nd dress "trashy" because of the plunge. How offensive to the soon to be bride, the consultants who are standing RIGHT THERE and chose the dress, and the designer of the dress. Shameless. She couldn't see that her behavior is 1000x more trashy than any dress.
No her friend was being honest that's what I saw and I have friends like that too and I'm like that and I'm definitely not jealous of my friends that's what she felt and I'd rather my friend tell me the truth
This bride has quite literally the most beautiful skin, lucky girl.
how
Omg. I swear comments like these are so annoying. Whenever y'all see a black person everyone is all so quick to say "Their skin is so beautiful", etc. And it gives extreme "Look everyone I'm not racist" vibes.
@@KrabbyPattySecretForumla didnt you say this in another comment section complimenting a girls skin
@@ennuisolar Yep. Because it's true. The moment they see a black girl they compliment her skin, call her beautiful because her skin and skin only, and it really gives off those bad vibes.
@@KrabbyPattySecretForumla I understand your point but let's be real here. Whether someone's black, white, coloured, Asian at cetera, if they are beautiful, they are beautiful. I doubt the people commenting on her skin was trying to give off the effect you mentioned. Her skin IS beautiful in my opinion. If the girl was white and had beautiful skin, I'd say the same thing. I doubt most people here are saying this Just because she's black. Her skin is pretty.
Hate when parents use their children’s love for them as a tool to manipulate and get their way
I'd be so sad if my mom said she wouldn't come to my wedding because of what I want to wear. So manipulative.
They are Nigerian and most Nigeria churches will see the dress as indecent and some churches will not allow the marriage to take place because of the dress
@@ebunoluwaoyebanji6501 Took the words right out my mouth. I guess people missed the part where she said she would attend if it was anywhere else but that cannot be worn in the church. Its called cultural differences people.
Exactly! I felt so bad for Temi and I figured they were Nigerian but still it hurt her feelings when her mom said that.
True
I feel like most parents use "if you wear that I'm not coming" as blackmail. I personally would say okay then because if they really care about you they will come no matter what.
is this your way of going through life? Ignoring social conventions, blackmailing parents and choosing antisocial ignorant behaviour?
You don't expect many guests, do you?
@@reginakniprode246 Thats not blackmailing your parents. Its if your parents acculy love and care about you thy will respect your decision. From what you've said I can see your one of those parents.
@@reginakniprode246 no. it’s actually just not tolerating abusive and manipulative behavior from people in your life. If you so choose to keep negative people in your life then so be it. I for one will not be doing that and neither should anyone else.
@@Mr.And.Mrs.Wedding if you love me, you will respect my wishes. This isn't blackmail? How infantile.
@phoe3030 phoe3030 I see it, here. Narcissistic brats who put their own desires above everything and trample on social conventions and the feelings of others.
I would never marry such women. Simply has no value.
for a mother to threaten to not attend her daughter's biggest day in her life is so upsetting. She looked so beautiful in dress 2 and honestly it's heartbreaking to hear such a thing
id go no contact if my mother did that to me. i will not have ANY of that toxicity in my life.
@Ka chi yeah well, unfortunately this isn't the 1960s and a woman (or man) doesn't have to bend over backwards to please everyone when it's their wedding day to celebrate their love for each other. Threatening to not attend your flesh and bloods special day over your own beliefs that don't have anything to do with anyone else is the definition of being a self-centered, self-entitled, brat.
@Ka chi okay just because of you're okay with being disrespected and manipulated and controlled does not mean everybody else is😅
@Ka chi if your blood is disrespectful, manipulative, controlling, or just all around toxic there's no point in keeping them around 🤷🏾♀️ that goes for all ppl you meet in life anyway and if someone's spouse is treating them better than their own BLOOD family then they can get cut off tf you're mad a lot of ppl choose peace over bs nowadays instead of being spineless doormats? Sounds insane to me💀
@@kachi9293nah she wouldn't attend if she didn't get her way. No matter what you say not attending your child's wedding over a dress is the most toxic and insensitive thing ever.
It pisses me off so much that she had her head hung and was crying and the mom still wouldn’t shut up. She looked embarrassed, ashamed even, and all the mom was thinking about was her daughters chest and not her feelings. Ugh
Mom was thinking about what all the Christiany bitties would be saying about her as a mother. They would mirror her own words…cause she’s just like all of them!
@faze194 I've seen spoiled children cry like that. It is meant to manipulate.
The mom was paying for the dress. Why should she pay for something she knows will be worn in the church to disrespect her and her religion?
Her mom said that she could wear that dress anywhere but the church. So the bride said she wanted the church wedding AND the dress as it was. How petulant and disrespectful!
If the bride was independent and an adult, she'd buy the dress herself. If she was respectful and nice, she'd either change her venue or compromise on her dress choice. Only a spoiled narcisst would have tears to try to get all she wanted.
An adult compromises when they have desires that conflict with each other. Only a baby who is used to getting her way would expect her mom to pay for the dress as is, knowing she was going to disrespect the whole church. And you supporting her behavior says much more about you and your lack of values than anything else.
And by the way, I didn't feel the dress was inappropriate either. But I wasn't paying for the dress, and I don't go to their church. So I respect the mother and friend's opinions, understanding that they know more about it than I do.
I really hate that mothers feel their daughters weddings are about them. Let the girl where whatever she wants however, who gives a damn it’s her wedding
The living through your children method NEEDS TO STOP
I’m at a point in my life where if my mom pulls that stunt I’ll tell her “ok, see you at the reception” in the calmest most controlled voice, and keep the appointment moving.
I agree that it isn't the mom's day however I understand her standpoint on modesty
y'all gotta understand its a cultural thing and about respecting the church. she said she cant wear that int he church...it has to do about modesty. ofc she looks gorgeous its not that bad of a dress but its bigger than just looks.
@@febenkebede7080 well then that culture has to change.
it is INSANE how such a small part of a woman’s body is the LINE for some people.
Yeh exactly. I don't understand how that makes any difference?
Right it’s barely anything
Yeah...esp when 300 years ago dresses had boobs practically spilling out of them but people fainted when a woman showed an ankle...
@@shadanaljanabi2929 because some people's traditions won't allow it in church - and others cannot get past breasts as sexual objects.
It's crazy how some people think that a ceremony in which you swear eternal fidelity to each other would somehow be more beautiful in slutty clothes.
Ahh, the good Ole fashioned emotional blackmail. Temi is gorgeous and I'm glad she got the dress of her dreams. But I wish she didn't GAF about compromising. Makes me wonder what other aspect of her happiness she's had to compromise for the sake of her mother. Like Gok said the plunge is elegant.
Some PPL value their parents and their input in their lives, no matter how different from them they are. 🙄
Vibrant in most non western culture
I think the mother was only concerned about the church. The compromise fixed that and I am sure the mother did not care after the church
African mothers too often use emotional manipulation to get you to do what they want.
Wow the bride is gorgeous and I need about a thousand more Gok episodes lol
Me too
Same here!
I AGREE! Gok has a way of solving everyone’s concerns. 🤗
Indeed!
Facts....
One thing about most African communities is, when a daughter especially shows up in something people deem “inappropriate” , the first things most people say are “ where’s her mom, what was she thinking, did her mom not see her before she stepped out?” All the blame would go to her mom …. Awful but true
A true caring mother wouldn't give a shit what others think. Its their daughters day and she can wear whatever she feels the best in.
Yeah very true
@@lemongrenade1826 that’s just as judgmental as the guests that would blame the mother. A truly caring mother would find and agree to a compromise, which she did.
Well our parents thinking is different ,you can't do anything about this
I am African and I know what you are saying.
She is a grown woman, I can’t believe these parents still think they have control over every move there child takes!
Only a selfish person would make such a comment.
It might not be her mother's wedding, but you dont seem to understand is that, in most African communities, you don't question your mum, her words are final, that's first. Secondly anything you do in public reflects on your family name.
Nothing is just about you and you feel, only selfish and self centered people think that everything is about them.
It stake a village to raise a child.
The mom wasn't controlling anything. She just stuck by her beliefs. It's like someone forcing you to go see a pig getting killed when you are vegetarian, you have the right to not to attend. The mom said she could wear that anywhere, just not in the church, because she doesn't believe that's appropriate for a church. That's her belief. She shouldn't have to go against it because her daughter wants to
@Nonaya Bidness Go learn your history. For the most part of human history, there were never such thing as a child bride.
Once a girl has had her first period, that the way nature tells you that, the girl is ready to get maried and have children.
so i don't know what the hell you are talking about. i guess you are spewing some BS.
Was she PAYING for the dress?
Its called patenting from where we come from (AFRICA). No apologies. The level of indecency in the name of fashion is out of this world. And more so, as long as u are alive as a parent it is your duty to keep your children on the right path. ❤
African daughters go through so much💔 She’s so strong for even continuing with the appointment. Some would’ve been completely discouraged from that point
dont enable abusive behaviour then, like those girls sitting next to the mother. its obvious the daughter is desperate for her mothers approval and the mother knows that, she made her to be like that so she wont call her out for the abuse. if your crave the abuse you wont say shit to the abuser
@@namjoonie936 shut up
I CAN RELATE. That's the reason I decided that after the divorce, if I have the opportunity, I WILL ELOPE
I totally get this. On my wedding day was the ONLY time I saw approval on my mom's face. Eventually, after my divorce from the abusive man she chose for me, she was so judgemental that I literally ran away to a different country.
@@OO-be3jz wow! I am so sorry sweetheart
Gok is a gifted human being. He is so gracious and the most wonderful problem solver. Every bride should be able to buy her wedding dress from him. He is amazing.
All wedding dresses can be adjusted to please the needs of the bride.
@@haileyfields5190 It requires someone who has the talent to come up with a solution to the problem and the skills to go through with it without having to spend as much or more as the gown's original price to get the fix. It's not practical for a bride to basically have to buy her gown twice, once for the gown and another time for the fitting and fixing the issue.
I strongly agree!
wtf is gok i dont understand'
Yes.. he is so kind to people to. Always.
The fact that the mother seemed to care so little for what would make Temi happy is astounding. The plunge was delicate, made the dress feel classy without being too uptight and she loved it. It's HER wedding, why can't she wear something that makes her feel beautiful? I will never understand.
Only a selfish person would make such a comment.
It might not be her mother's wedding, but you dont seem to understand is that, in most African communities, you don't question your mum, her words are final, that's first. Secondly anything you do in public reflects on your family name.
Nothing is just about you and you feel, only selfish and self centered people think that everything is about them.
It stake a village to raise a child.
@@adamkofi5683 not on my wedding day sorry mum
@@chxrbb_dxllhouse5403 What can i say.
If you dont think that the person who brought you into this world, breast fed and raised you, so that one day you can wear your pretty dress and get married, and repeat the cycle of life, by raising your own children. IF YOU DON'T THINK THAT, YOUR MUM HAS THE RIGHT TO ASK YOU A AFAVOUR, then ..........i have no words for you.
The only reason why, this woman is healty, happy and ready to get married, is because of her mum who put in the work, day in day out.
If on this special day you can't make an effort to please your mum, put a smile on her face. Thank her to let her know that you are greatful, and that you understand that, it's because of her that you are the woman that you are today, Then there must be something wrong with.......
@@adamkofi5683 my mom would get an opinion on it. I would try on her favorite dress. But if im paying for it. I'm wearing it. It's my wedding then im wearing what I want. A mother bringing up how she raised me during the appointment would be emotional blackmail and abuse to me. Mothers decide whether or not to have children. Children don't have a choice on whether they can be born. You don't get points for doing the bare minimum of keeping me a life when that's your job.
@@adamkofi5683 and back to the 1800s it is
I think her friend is the perfect person to bring. Shes so honest and a middle ground between her mum and her, and can really see how she feels.
Nah her friend is a hater lowkey and her mum is just annoying there was nothing wrong with that dress I’ve watched more episodes and other dresses were so much more dramatic 😂🥸
@@giovannafoletto4911 not in church, the friend is right. I've been to a church for a Nigerian friend's wedding, even the guests were very classy, no boobs and butts hanging out.
@@jemmaj2919 it makes no difference how many wore what. It’s sexist to tell a woman what she can’t wear and to make a woman’s body shameful. I’m not going all woke but it really is
@@jemmaj2919 agree with you. For better or worse, many Nigerian churches are quite strict about wedding attire and that dress would be considered quite risque without the placquet. It's a different culture.
@@logiclanguagelearningFrench it is a two way street, if a man comes in to church topless, he'll be told to dress appropriately, this isn't a gender issue, so please don't divert the problem into a pointless gender argument
When the bride was describing the gown she wanted, it was like she was describing herself. She looks so regal and elegant
She looked like that dress was made specifically for her. So gorgeous.
If my mother said "If you wear that, I'm not coming." I'd say "I'll send you a postcard!"
It's your day, not your parents.
A_grape_in_space The girl knew it was the rules of the church, she could have got married somewhere else. It was not her mother.
BOOM
you right!
@@valerieosborne at what point did they say it was the rules of the church, it was her mother's personal opinion that it would not be appropriate for church not the church saying she can't wear it and why should she have to compromise on HER wedding its HER day not her mother's if she wants to get married in the church and the church has no issues then her mother needs to swallow her pride and let her daughter be happy culture or not
@@lindasamba4816 Well the mother did go with the dress as she was still showing some. My girls chose their won dresses and I am glad they did not show everything. They looked beautiful.
Does anyone else IMMEDIATELY HIT THE LIKE BUTTON FOR GOK before the video has even started or is that just me?
I see Gok i hit the button
If it would matter, I'd hit the Like repeatedly for Gok Wan. I can't decide whether he's a diplomat with a phenomenal sense of style, or a stylist with a knack for diplomacy.
I did the same thing
Nope, not just you. Gok is amazing!!
ALWAYS! Makes me so happy
She is STUNNING. I do hate the mom's manipulation regardless of her beliefs. Don't do that to that woman. Seriously.
Asian mom's,Black mom's and Latina Mom's war for the crown of the most emotional blackmailing and manipulative species is definitely on another level😔
no because youre right our moms only let sons get away w bs
Well coming from a black mother not all black mothers blackmail and manipulate our daughters. I want my daughter to be her very best and make her own decisions and I will stand by her regardless but I will teach her right from wrong. Also let’s be real you have these types of moms in all races but that’s my take on it
So true. 😭
@@lalalalalalalallaa-i2l So true. Just sad. Smdh and they never see the pattern of their destruction.
sad but this is so true .
Why does not EVERYONE just go to Gok?
true! gok was my favorite but then i met jo and al of the curvy brides boutique and shanelle of haute & co. four-way tie for favorite stylist! all of them are extraordinary in how gently they speak to the brides, get into the brides’ heads to know what the brides want, comfort the brides and guide the brides to the perfect and most beautiful gowns!
Gok doesn't work there - he's a well known tv personality and fashion stylist who was brought in for the tv series.
Going to Lancashire would destroy any semblance of a budget or I definitely would
He's about the only one I watch.
Literally!!
It’s so sad that a mother would care more about her daughters dress than her actual wedding
you missed the point, the mother is right. She is going to church not to the club and she told her you can wear it but not in the church
A woman's body is not sinful. Don't let any religion tell you otherwise!
@@George-rk3ii The Bride can decide what she wants to wear, even in church.
Also, the dress wasn’t even bad? A bit of tit, boohoo.
@@sadist8902 chile she’s african … african church is very hypocritical and you won’t imagine the backlash they would face
@@miriamyeboah6094 I understand that (my family in law) BUT “she is going to church not to the club” goes way too far? It was a tiny bit of cleavage, she didn’t look like she was going to a club.
Her “friend” was jealous asf!! How’re you gonna say the second dress is underwhelming and she didn’t seem happy after you literally tore her down when she had on a dress she did love ?!
This is not about God, this is about her mom putting the thoughts of other people over the happiness of her daughter.
I don't know if tearing down all cultural barriers and swearing allegiance in a slutty dress is really the great happiness.
@@reginakniprode246 u dont even know if the daughter wants a religious wedding or if shes just doing it to please her religious mother, yes ik weddings are usually a religious event but where i live people get married for love, not god. also how does her showing a little bit more of her body affect their love in any way? answer -it doesnt.
I fully agree. And this dress isn't even that revealing, and I'm a traditional Christian as well. If I could pull that off, I'd definitely wear that to my wedding! I don't believe that our wedding dresses are God's highest priority.
@@Emma-dp8lh I find it unbelievable what kind of war spoiled narcissists start when it comes to accepting the limits of others. Did the daughter renounce the church to wear her sexy dress? No, she wants the ceremony and the whole show including her mother. But the mother doesn't want her Christian values to be perverted. I respect and admire her for that. Not because she is very conservative or strong but because her values are not empty phrases. Something that mindless consumer girlies can't handle at all.
@@katemask3904 I don't know what God's priorities are, you seem to know more, but I do know that looking too deeply at a woman's secondary genitals definitely crosses a line in Christian culture. Your personal ones don't. But I don't think you have any other boundaries either.
The bride's smile and laugh is so contagious! Seeing her upset because of her family was so sad
It shows her willingness to compromise and a considerate and respectful attitude. Bridezillas còuld learn something from her
She looked absolutely stunning. I have PTSD from my own wedding. The dress was in no way distasteful. I felt a LOT of jealousy coming from some in her entourage.
It was an opinion which didn't read as jealousy to me..
@@nellyndinda8119 it read abusive family to me
I don’t know about jealousy. It felt more like abusive manipulation. And her entourage I feel like just went along with moms verbal abuse because they’re afraid to say anything.
“Ptsd” from your own wedding? Don’t call it ptsd unless it actually is
As someone who's actually experienced trauma, please don't throw around the term this way.
This is one of the best dresses I’ve ever seen, it’s sculpted, regal, just beautiful, the part around the arms makes all the difference plus the sculpted bodice. Superb.
Gok really is the best…has the best dresses, the best solutions, the most creative. Wish I could go to him, even though I’m 72 and already married…
You could always do a vow renewal and get the dress from him :)
You coul always go get a dress and organize a vows renewal!!!
She is so stunning. My heart broke when she put her head down in shame for even thinking of getting the dress.
Poor girl, all that disgust I could read from her mothers face was just terrible. I wouldn't be surprised if Temi is the scapegoat of the family and the mother loves to get her way with everything. The bride should be allowed to wear the dress that makes her happy.
Nah. That’s just how African mothers are. My mother to this day hears me complain about her wedding because it clearly wasn’t my wedding . I just happened to get married that day. Looking forward to my vow renewal where she just has a seat and has no say so in anything
On some level I understand her mother. It seems like she was fine with Temi removing the panel, just not in church. She also said she could get married somewhere other than a church if that's what she wants to wear I'm not Christian, but if you choose to enter a place of worship you should be mindful of respecting the religion. However, threatening not to come is not the way to get that point across. She could have calmly told her that she is beautiful and the dress is beautiful, but it needed to be modified for church
Gok to the rescue! Temi is absolutely gorgeous! I was brought up with the tenet of 'modesty' (in a traditional Jewish family), so I understand the mother's view. But to threaten not to attend her daughter's wedding was just cruel. Well done Gok for coming up with a sensible and frankly brilliant solution. Temi, you are beautiful!
The 1st dress was ab-solutely gorgeous on her..what a perfect figure 😩
I love how Gok isn’t scared to make alterations and come up with ideas to help a bride get the dress they want
This is wild- that’s my wedding dress! Getting married in a couple of weeks!
all the best xxx
Congrats!
How did everything go?!?!?!?! Congratulations!!!!💖💖💖💖
MUM you have to let your daughter be happy at her wedding, because it’s not about you, it’s about your bride’s amazing moment.. It’s one of the most special moment’s if her life.
It about showing respect in the house of God.
@@rosahacketts1668 she not wearing something that's shows them off at all not like some dress wear there very open and they look like they could fall out
@@rosahacketts1668 “God” made breasts for child feeding, not to be sexual objects. They aren’t sexual objects.
@@rosahacketts1668 not everyone is religious, and not all weddings happen in a church.
@autumnhall4449 Well, she wanted to get married in the church. The one she and her family go to.
The mom said that she could wear that if she WEREN'T getting married in the church. So apparently her only opposition to the dress was that it wasn't appropriate for the church they go to.
The bride can't have it both ways. And I bet she wasn't paying for the dress either. Only an entitled brat would expect her mom to pay for a dress for a wedding in the church where the mom (and the sister) both said were inappropriate.
So the bride could have had the dress exactly like she wanted if she paid for it and had the wedding in a nonreligious ceremony. How disrespectful of her to expect EVERYONE (including the pastor and the church members) to have to bow to her desire to be sexy.
Lancashire has THÈ BEST dresses for the most reasonable prices!!!🥰💝
I agree! out of all the other locations Lancashire has THE most stunning dressing hands down
I definitely would travel that far for those dresses ! Soooo stunning
If I ever get married I might have to make the trip to Lancashire 😂
Absolutely🙂✨
I agree but that’s a long expensive flight
She’s so pretty, it’s really sad to see her get so hurt by what her mother said. That was heartless on mom’s part, she should be able to wear the dress she loves as it is. It wasn’t even that revealing! It was still tasteful
I TOTALLY disagree! If a mom says something "reasonable and sensible- I repeat reasonable and sensible " one has to listen as the mom cares like NO OTHER ... Arrogance is a sign of stupidity..
Unfortunately, traditional moms can have an outdated sense of what is tasteful. It gets more complicated if they were raised in a conservative setting. My grandma would've flipped if I tried anything with a plunging neckline, but I would understand where she was coming from. I think the small compromise with the cover-up was the best solution in this case.
I love Gok’s determination to make the bride happy. He’s the best. And girl you are beautiful times 1000 on that dress. Great choice
Ikr..BTW How did you feel in your wedding dress?
@@netra7383 never married. Not even a boyfriend since birth. Im not pretty in my community. I am in my World though so please don’t pity on me
@@dardarmissesv I think ypu already know No one is born ugly we live in a judgemental society, I believe it a lot, even though sometimes I also think that I'm not so pretty, but I'm happy for who am I as a person .I think that's all matters. No i don't pity on you, and it's okay to live in your own world, ik that's better than to deal with people. Have a nice day or good night
He's that "hip grandma" personality type. He comforted her, and he let her know, "It's your day." Also, it's a plus that he has good taste.
Can we talk about this bride’s complexion! She is absolutely stunning. She could honestly wear a paper bag and still be the most beautiful person in the room. So happy for her, and her mother ❤️
Nuh-uh. Toxic mama. If she refuses to attend the wedding over a dress, that’s manipulative
If you start crying every time you can't have it your way, that's manipulative too darling
@@thesupergreenjudy I think she was mad because of what her mom said
@@thesupergreenjudy that’s her wedding. The mom can’t be saying “you wear the dress I like or I’m not going.” I’d cry too.
@@thesupergreenjudy Thank you! I see all these people failing to realize this is there religion, there beliefs, there culture, and seeing all these people saying how “toxic” the mother is growing up like this.
@@kamii_bugg me, me, me - that's what the problem is. If you want everything your way get married in a hotel in LasVegas without family. If you want to get married in a church with your family around you, you have to learn to compromise and take into account everybody's feelings - including those who grew up in a different era and culture. Imagine your bridesmaids turned up to your wedding in tracksuits just because they like it? This me first attitude really just makes a person look self-absorbed. You also forget it's also the grooms wedding. Not just hers. She isn't marrying herself is she?
the way he introduces his consultants 😍, they must love working with him
Such a beautiful bride. Gok is literally a fairy godmother.
The fairy Gok mother lol
I know this was kind of a mess but seriously Gok is incredible he needs to be in every episode ever. Not a soul alive could match him and the things he’s done for others to bring happiness and confidence
I love how he makes every bride feel special. And never shows dresses above the budget
As soon as the camera was on her, wow how stunningly beautiful she looked in that first gown. I am glad she got the dress she fell in love with 💜
This is the first time I’ve ever been angry with someone on this version of SYTTD. I’m so proud of the bride standing by her dress and for Gok making sure the bride got what she wanted.
Angry at the mom / entourage?
This one has been pretty tame compared to others though.
@@danielleking262 I use angry for lack of a better word. I’ve never been any form of mad at anyone in this version. It was the threatening not to go to the wedding that got me.
@@ndisfoshiz Ahh, that part. Yeah, that's pretty messed up.
@@danielleking262 she's using the bride's emotional attachment to her family and her culture to get her way.
The plunge is low but she’s not bustin out the top, the whole of the dress classes up the depth of the plunge and it’s just so elegant and gorgeous.
It's amazing how Gok never forces his ideas or let brides compromise their vision and always manages to let his brides have their dream dresses. Honestly, I have never been disappointed by final outcomes by Gok. Take a bow Gok, you are the BEST!
Her mother: " I'm not going to the church if you pick this dress"
Her Daughter: *head down in tears*
Me: it's ok if doesn't come one less person to worry about 😊
😂
Anyone who wants to go through the wall like a goat should not invite any guests at all.
I don't see her as a girl who will think her mum is one person less to worry about. She looks well brought up than that.
@@Surestart106 I see it the same way. No surprise with this mum who is a lady of firm principles. Of course she wants to make her wishes come true. But at least she doesn't trample everything in the process.
Sometimes you just have to let certain people go. Even your parents. At the end of the day it's supposed to be God first and foremost, and then you are to concentrate on your marriage. You can love your family, but they should never disrupt your life like that.
Gok has the best dresses on the planet. Every bride he fits looks truly, breathtaking, no matter what size or shape they are. I love watching his ability to instill confidence in every bride that walks into the store, and he does it with such sincerity.
I am so glad my husband and I eloped! We didn't care what any felt or thought. We didn't have to worry about our 👪 s opinions. We been happily married for 15 years!
My brother and his wife will have to elope when back in the UK as Indonesian marriages aren't legal in the UK.. Which is stupid, they have a wedding ceremony and speeches like we do as well as their own wedding clothing.
I know the mom was rude, but in her defense, I think she handled the compromise very well. I think she didn’t actually seem that happy with the dress even after the panel was put in, but she held her tongue and told her daughter it was beautiful because she wanted her daughter to be happy.
I also thought her feedback was fair, it was too much boob for a church...
@@alexandrachitty1287 Was it tho? What about her sinful shoulders? Why aren't those being shamed and covered up?
@@alexandrachitty1287 Her wedding, her dress. Besides churches allow all sorts of sins so a bit of what God gave her isn't going to hurt anyone
@@alexandrachitty1287 honestly tho it’s subjective, even her shoulders should be covered by that logic… but honestly it’s up to the church whether they would allow it, not the mom. In my opinion, if she wanted to be truly like Jesus, she would go, as hurting her daughters feelings so much would not make her out to be a very kind person
@@alexandrachitty1287 priests touching children is more sinful, but the church likes to keep that under wraps. Maybe don't talk about women's bodies being shameful when much worse things happen in the church.
Every other version of this program can be cancelled. This version with Gok is hands-down the absolute BEST. Gok is a treasure.
I could see that Mum gave serious thought to the dress after the alteration. I believe that she may not have been 100% in favor, but for her daughters happiness she said Yes.
I wish I could just select Gok in Yes to the Dress - he has an intuitive ability to select and study bride-to-be’s reactions so he truly helps in selecting the best style
I will never get tired of preaching the beauty of dark skin, y’all really be shining like jewels specially on a white dress 😍
I’m 100% with you. She looks absolutely stunning in all the dresses!
I hear you.
Thank you
I can agree w that!! She looks gorgeous
She has a beautiful complexion
Saying something so hurtful and making your daughter cry is far worse than putting up with some cleavage. As the mum, she's the one who makes sacrifices. Don't shame your daughter, no matter how strongly you feel.
“Do you like it, or you don’t like it” proper Nigerian. I couldn’t help but laugh.
And Gok not believing that the mum wouldn’t turn up is funny too. Mama isn’t showing up mate 😂😂
Lmaooo
if he had taken it so lightly, I don't think he would have suggested the alteration
Exactly! As a Nigerian, I can relate
Facts 😂😅
Oh well. Smh.
All this drama, stress and tears for nothing. This beautiful girl just wanted to be happy on her wedding day.
well that is one way that mothers get very manipulative, telling her I won't go in if you do this it is just almost terrifying and horrible for a girl who just found her dress. it was nice she agreed(it was clear she did not wanted to) but yeah ok.. please let your daughters have your moment it is their dress their day.. you had your moments on your day let your daughter have theirs
Slit until the belly button in church is a disgrace
@@ang5798 ooh a bride who is forced to wear something she don't like is not a disgrace right?
Some people have what's called standards, many for religious reasons. You don't have to compromise those standards for someone's "moment".
@@AS-yz2iz not her wedding so not her call. simple as that. her mother's standards are not the daughter's and it should be that way.
@@teaffeeblend Her daughter didn't have to change what she wanted. She could have held to her first choice unchanged. No one's forcing anyone.
Essence of Australia has some of the most beautiful dresses, better than y'all know who 😂
But have you seen this Dando London dress? It's only $1.5k over your budget. Let's put a veil on.
@@elise4026 LMAO HELP THIS SENT ME 😭 The shade fans throw at David is immaculate
@@elise4026 i don't even watch UK episodes anymore cause I'm sick and tired of seeing that one dando dress every single episode.
Yeah but they’re pretty itchy, I had a rash after trying them on, went for a smaller couture designer with an amazing fabric but it cost double
@@kara8892 the NYC one keeps shoving Pnina dresses on brides. Should have put one of those on this bride and when mom recovered then put her in the first dress
The bride’s face… she was glowing! For everyone to say what they did when the bride looked so amazing, that was just cruel.
Can we just drop everything for a moment and just acknowledge the fact that this girl is drop dead Gorgeous
The way her head hung broke me- n her (assuming) sister defended her saying "it's her wedding day" made me tear up-
This is my wedding dress, and I had basically the exact same experience as she did! My parents loved everything but the plunge. I asked the lady who made my veil to send an extra piece of the lace used in my veil, and my mom is going to lightly stitch it into the plunge before the wedding mass. Then I'll remove it for the reception. She looks so stunning, and if the beauty isn't enough, this dress has enormous pockets!
Was your wedding in a church?
That’s what I was going to say! Sew in a piece for the church!
@@sweetzs100 yes! I’m actually catholic!
@@nickis429 that’s exactly what I did! It worked perfectly and was beautiful!
It's a cycle and I think sometimes our mothers don't realize that they are doing what was done to them and just because they accepted it even though it hurt them, doesn't mean that their children should be put through the same thing.
My mom tried to pull this sort of thing with naming my baby. She was like, "the child's name is x, that boy(the father of my baby) isn't going to name that child... "
In my head, I said there is no way in hell I'm not naming my child, just because they took that from her and she accepted it, doesn't make it right and I won't let her do that to me. My son is using the name his father and I chose. 😏
I’m reading all these stories about women having similar experiences I’ve had with my own mother… and it does not make me feel any better about it. I just feel deep empathy for all of you that have also had the misfortune.
Every time I see this in my feed I watch it. I love how Gok truly cares for the brides he works with as well as their mums. Such a lovely human. Ding.
If you're African you weren't even shocked by her mother's reaction. African parents don't play lol
Darn right
@@bighaneul89 not necessarily, yes to some extent, but in addition to that they also take their Christianity very seriously. You must respect God and the church, there's no two ways about it. Also they don't negotiate with terrorists, the terrorists being their kids 🤣 from what I have heard Korean parents are more on the extreme side than even African parents but I'm not sure. However I wouldn't say African parents care more about their reputations than they do about their kids, they are just very stuck in their ways.
Right!😂
@@bighaneul89 African parents are VERY conservative and traditional. They care about your happiness, but they also care about their beliefs :)
I think the other comments in here are being too critical of the mother. In my culture too this would be seen as too revealing.
She has this… presence about her. She is so beautiful inside and out and she’s just… a doll! I get the family has their own beliefs and morals, but Mama needs to realize her daughter is a BEAUTIFUL woman and has an AMAZING figure and has the right to have her dress. To tell her she would not come… that was mind blowing! And to say it was distasteful 😱 love how Gok tried to make the dress lovable for everyone. He’s amazing… Congratulations beautiful on your wedding and GORGEOUS dress!! ❤️
Exactly, I fully understand the mother's religious restrictions but she could've gone about it differently. Something along the lines of "you look beautiful and that dress really suits you, but I don't think it's appropriate for church" would've gone over better and done wonders for the bride's happiness
@zohabaig6426 Apparently you don't understand. The mom only said that the dress was inappropriate for a church wedding. What is wrong with that? Do you know more about the morals of the church they go to than I do?
The mom said she could have that dress if she didn't marry in the church. But the bride wanted it both ways. And I bet she wasn't even paying for the dress either. So you support her not only making her mom pay for a dress she doesn't approve of AND the bride giving her middle finger to the pastor and all the church members. That definitely sounds like what a beautiful, respectful, independent woman does.
The bride looks absolutely stunning, and so does the dress, so elegant and classy, even with that drop.
He's come up with a good solution to keeping the bride happy and observing norms to avoid offending churchgoers. She's a lovely young woman, and she looks lovely in the dress she chose.
She is a showstopper herself😍
African mom are like that. No negotiation and if you don’t listen they will truly not appear on your wedding day. Too conservative
my asian mother's the same 🤦♀️
Indian parents too. But my dad is a narc and I don't get along with him. If he threatens to not come to my wedding, It's a win win for ne
She's not too conservative. She wants her daughter to be modest in the church and that's a good thing. Brides do not have to show everything they have on their wedding day.
@@lazyriver53 she's a woman, she can wear wtf she wants to at her own wedding. Cleavage isn't 'everything' 😐
@@lazyriver53 Shes a grown woman, not a child, her mom doesnt have control over everything now
I love the way they fit the dress all around her and not just clip all the excess at the back. It gives a much better idea of the "look".
This girl’s smile is like sunshine and to see them snatch that away from her like that was brutal to watch
What mum would blackmail their daughters into not attending their wedding, because they dislike the dress. This should be a happy occasion and support for the big day, unbelievable reaction from the mum. The first dress is beautiful on this gorgeous girlie, follow your heart darling, at the end of the day you are the bride and you are wearing it. Wish you well on your special day and hope mum comes round and make your day a happy and memorable occasion ❤
She's such a beautiful young lady. Very sweet, very demure, all that her mom should have been proud of, and yet she had such gall to say she wouldn't come if her daughter wore that beautiful dress! I love Gok!
She looks stunning, she’s so beautiful but the way she honors and respect her mom make her look gracious, impressive, awe-inspiring!
I was looking for a comment like this. I don’t think we should bash mom for having convictions necessarily, but it was great that they could work together and compromise and was very respectful for the daughter to do that.
But does her mother honor her happiness? Thats why some people at some point go mad or out of rails because some parents are too strict even where it is unnecessary like in fashion. Her attitude was unnecessary, she should have let her daughter be happy and she went too far by threatening to not attend her wedding because of a mere dress.
Awe inspiring ?
her skin is so beautiful. it looks so smooth and it almost looks like it’s glowing. such a beautiful bride. absolutely stunning
As a Nigerian with a Nigerian mum, I understand this mum's reaction.
As a Nigerian with a Nigerian mom, I understand but I’m still sad for ger
To me the dress wasn’t even showing much cleavage ?? just like the skin inbetween.
omg ikr, exactly!!! It was so classy and elegant, I first shouted out "ohh, that's so pretty!!" when I first saw her in it
If anyone threatened to not come to my wedding bc they didn't like my dress, they're getting uninvited. Parents included.
Purr
I feel you on that.
That is exactly how I feel, and I could care less too.
I get the sentiment, but I'm honestly shocked that in a choice between your mom and the dress, you would choose the dress. No matter what it was, a dress is a piece of fabric that's replaceable.
@@schreingeiss people that really love you won't give you an ultimatum. The mom would'vechosen to step her child's wedding bc she didn't like the dress. Why didn't the mom chose fabric over her daughter?
The mother was not bullying her daughter. She understood that with a church wedding proper respect needed to be shown. She said her problem was wearing the dress in church. I think this was an excellent compromise.
She’s stunning 😍 I’m so tired of moms imposing their esthetic on their daughters 🤦🏾
It was not her mother it was where she chose to be married and she knew that.
@Valerie Osborne she getting married in a church, like most people. That dress is no where near revealing enough for it to be shocking or inappropriate for a church. People wear way more revealing for church weddings all the time. The are acting like her whole breast is out over a very narrow plunge that had a piece of shear fabric in the middle. It could easily be a cultural thing but no one I have ever met would call that dress distasteful.
@@bluegirl278 exactly!
@@bluegirl278 Well said. The choice of wedding dress should be the brides not anyone elses, as soon as she put ot on I thought, that looks stunning on her it's the one. Her mother comes across as a bully used to getting her own way.
Dear Universe - Could we please have a cable channel featuring Gok curating wedding dresses, makeovers, and whatever genius he wants to share with the world? 🙏🤞
Who and what is this universe that you are praying to?
Got is famous already in UK before this show because he used to have his own show for several years called, “How To Look Good Naked”, where he took frumpy middle aged women with zero self-esteem and not only styled them but made them body positive and gave them the gok magic! In the end, they’d do a naked photo shoot because he had made them so body conscious!
I’m Nigerian, most of our moms express themselves like that, it doesn’t mean she's manipulating her daughter, is more like saving her from all the other church moms/people or the church will eventually give the bride a veil or scarf to cover up before she enters if it’s too revealing.
FYI! her mom said she’s not against her showing off curves and most of our traditional outfits have a similar neckline like that dress, which everyone is cool with it because it's a party outfit.
For us, there’s a difference between church or mosque outfits and party (traditional) outfits.
I'm happy Gok finds a great balance.😘
There's still some toxic energy in that. Everyone is too worried about what others say.
@@gigimarch7473 Welcome to African world, older generation shows their expression in a tough way, it’s might be harsh but that’s what shapes us into who we are today.
They are been careful because you don’t want some random stranger to come up to you adjusting your wedding dress for you or your wedding picture coming out with some ugly veil covering your beautiful dress. Then would say I should have listened to mom.
@@tawasdiaries So are they protecting you from the "mean society" or changing you into exactly that? If a stranger came to me and started touching me and adjusting my clothes, they would be punched in the face so hard they would never think of doing this again, end of story.
@@tawasdiaries why not say that then? The way you just explained it was nice and gentle and it wouldn't hurt her daughter's feelings.
@@martinatasevska6354 Well, I'm new generation lol...
The dress later on looked so stunning on her. I was literally screaming don't go out the store without the dress! It suited her so much.
I LOVE THIS BRIDE SO MUCH she's just so adorable. What's with parents and not cherishing their children damn
I'm not even her, and I felt heartbroken when the mother said she wouldn't go if she was gonna get married in that dress. In my opinion I think the dress looked absolutely lovely & it wasn't to showy at all!
I love my weird mum who never cared about her daughters getting married, what we wear or what we do.
Gok always does an amazing job with brides and their entourage. Take notes, Randy and David.