You are constantly give me the tools to allow me to become a better person. I truely believe this type of lessons should be part of kids school curriculum. How many kids go through all these hardships for years before they find someone like youself!
Thank you so much. I'm really grateful that these videos are helpful. I really agree with what you're saying about having this type of information as a school curriculum, because I know I certainly would have loved to have known these things when I was younger. Time and again, many of the people I work with who've been convicted of violent crimes say to me: "Why don't they teach this stuff in school?" That's really the heart of why I'm doing this RUclips channel. My hope is that people will share these videos so that we can all be a little more compassionate with each other; so thank you again very much for your kind words. They mean a lot. Much peace!
Thank you so much. I'm really grateful that these videos are helpful. I really agree with what you're saying about having this type of information as a school curriculum, because I know I certainly would have loved to have known these things when I was younger. Time and again, many of the people I work with who've been convicted of violent crimes say to me: "Why don't they teach this stuff in school?" That's really the heart of why I'm doing this RUclips channel. My hope is that people will share these videos so that we can all be a little more compassionate with each other; so thank you again very much for your kind words. They mean a lot. Much peace!
I would like to share your videos with ppl but i feel like i would be implying that the person needs help. I think this may start you off in wrong direction on first impression. It makes it hard to reach the ppl who need your videos most in my opinion. I think the best way i have found to share your knowledge is to use it. Teach it to our kids ourselves as i have started to and honestly have seen the results personally and is the reason i feel so strongly about your message.
I do appreciate all the hard work You put into helping people like Myself to make understanding of what's going on with Ourselves, but I just live as to whatever in life comes to Me now! No doubt it still feels painful, but when You've been through it a million times before, You get to the point where You just wait for it to wear off! 😌 If something happens, then it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't!
Thank you Dr Conte! Your advice to be compassionate is beautiful. Not easy to do....I battle judgement ....but compassion does make it easier all around and helps me to regulate myself when my partner sounds the crisis alarms 🚨🚨🚨
Thank you so much. And you are 100% right! It is not always easy to do. I just think about all the things in life that are worth it, and the majority of them take effort - the best things are rarely complex, but they do take tremendous effort. Sending you much gratitude and peace!
Bruh this guy is so amazing.. you made me cry because I work day and night until I can’t. I’m powerful I’m great thank you sir.. God bless your soul ❤❤
Dr Conte, your videos are a true treasure-trove of wisdom and understanding. I have a few crisis-prone folk around me, and i care for them immensely so this video really gave some light on it for me. I struggled myself with anxiety for years as a result of my being bed-bound due to chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, but have always tried to maintain as low as possible level of crisis. I need tranquility and these days i maintain that myself by doing just as you said - imagining im observing everything like a boat floating on by 😊 As always, your lessons speak from the heart and to the heart, but also get me in a a wise and logical way. your use of perspective i think is possibly one of the greatest tools. Always finds a way thru 🤙💯💪 Thanks for always showing us how to make human communication so much more effective and powerful 😊🙏
Very interesting, I can relate this to a family member who always seems in a constant state of crisis every little thing has to become a exaggerated drama with a made up story which if you try to question he becomes aggressive and tells more lies to top up his original lies - we do stay calm with him and try not to take it personally but he can become personal and nasty to us - it seems like a losing battle at times - but you vid has given me food for thought so I will keep it in mind for our next episode.
My heart definitely goes out to you, because yes, 100% is it difficult to not take personally, especially when someone is doing the kinds of things he's doing. In the end, ultimately, we can only ever control ourselves, so even though the situation will still be difficult when he acts that way, my hope is that you see that it's about what's going on inside of him. Thank you for taking time to comment and your kind words. Sending you all the best and much peace!
Avoid negative people if you can. Family requires duty but choose your friends wisely. Don’t invite drama into your life, your purpose is better than that.
Just realizing I may be crisis prone way of thinking. Especially in my relationship. I try to work on remaining present and calm. I don’t always have outbursts but definitely cause more harm mentally by the story I tell myself.
Would you please make a video on how to build true, healthy and realistic self esteem or self love which is an accurate assessment of who I really am and want to become, and not a selfish egocentric isolation?
Please do a video on ptsd i am a police officer injured critically in a suicide bombing in pakistan trying to arrest the bomber entering a mosque full of people he blew himself up 15feet away from me
Ali Javed Yes I definitely am doing that. Since your comment on my last video, that’s been my plan for the next video I make. I would love for you to reach out to me through email so that I can learn more about your story and help out however I can. Please reach out to me through my website and then I’ll personally respond to you. Sending you all my best thoughts and tons of peace.
Dr conte and Ali Javed. I am certified in EMDR as well as most of my professional career has been spent helping combat veterans with PTSD. Feel free to reach out to me as well.
It’s so tough. My friend is like this. She is so lovey and smart and compassionate, but she is ALWAYS in crisis mode, despite having very fortunate circumstances. It makes it hard to be around her because I feel like we can never appreciate what blessings we have. She also tends to lean toward attention seeking behaviour and it can be really embarrassing in public. It’s so tough.
Your insights are fantastic! I’ve improved much using your wisdom from these videos, and your Anger Management workbook, which I wholeheartedly recommend. Much peace!!
I am going to put this advice into practice. I am way too focused on the content and have never considered the process. I want to be more compassionate when someone I care about is struggling; however I am super reactive to the content. This video gives a completely different perspective to focus on
I am the crises prone person...I get so stressed out when I am driving , I can't go far from my house anymore where when I was young I would drive everywhere and not even think about it ,but now in my late 50's I am scared to drive anywhere ..It makes my husband so mad at me ..even if he is driving I am a nervous wreck and he gets so mad at me and yells if I make a move that emplies he doesn't see what I am seeing...and then in my mind sometimes I think he does things driving on purpose to scare me so he can fight or cause a argument ,if I was driving someone around and knew they were nervous I would do everything in my power to make them feel safe but he does the opposite,he does things to scare me ...How do I handle that??
I'm wondering if he gets angry because he believes in you, and he believes you're strong enough to get through the anxiety you're feeling, but he's not sure what he can to do to help "fix" the situation for you.... Sometimes people's inability to fix a situation or the pain their loved one is feeling is as scary as the anxiety that their loved ones are feeling. In any case, I'd definitely invite you two to sit down with a counselor in your area if that's possible. I'm certainly sending you both all the best and tons of peace!
hey dr. conte. what sources are you drawing from? I understand you are trying to model some pretty complex psychologyical and neurophysiological stuff. However my understanding of PTSD, it isn't that people are hanging around in the "grey" zone, but rather tend to make wild shifts, and small triggers and lead to big emotions.
Can you do a video on how to move a crisis-prone brain to a calm one? I was on an SSRI and though I had some anxiety before, it became much worse as well as angry outbursts. I'm off of them going on 2 years, but still dealing with anxiety and anger. Your videos are hope for me and I'm very thankful I ran across them! Anyways, i'm sure my husband would agree that i'm crisis-prone. Would love to hear your take on how to manage/move out of that.
Susannah francis Thank you for your kind comments and great question! Yes, I think it is. For many people who are crisis-prone, their brain is vibrating at that level, so it’s not a matter of who they’re around, but more a matter of what’s going on inside them. However, I do think that for some people, situations bring this “crisis-prone” mentality out of them. I hope this helps. Sending you all the best and much peace!
Your name comes up first for anger management, yet you have less than 8000 views in two years. You need a better delivery without the unnecessary word salad, that confuses and puts your audience to zzzzzzzzzzz.
my sister have this crisis-prone tendencies...
yes i understand the "compassion"....but to deal with this everyday is stressful
You are constantly give me the tools to allow me to become a better person. I truely believe this type of lessons should be part of kids school curriculum. How many kids go through all these hardships for years before they find someone like youself!
Thank you so much. I'm really grateful that these videos are helpful. I really agree with what you're saying about having this type of information as a school curriculum, because I know I certainly would have loved to have known these things when I was younger. Time and again, many of the people I work with who've been convicted of violent crimes say to me: "Why don't they teach this stuff in school?" That's really the heart of why I'm doing this RUclips channel. My hope is that people will share these videos so that we can all be a little more compassionate with each other; so thank you again very much for your kind words. They mean a lot. Much peace!
Thank you so much. I'm really grateful that these videos are helpful. I really agree with what you're saying about having this type of information as a school curriculum, because I know I certainly would have loved to have known these things when I was younger. Time and again, many of the people I work with who've been convicted of violent crimes say to me: "Why don't they teach this stuff in school?" That's really the heart of why I'm doing this RUclips channel. My hope is that people will share these videos so that we can all be a little more compassionate with each other; so thank you again very much for your kind words. They mean a lot. Much peace!
I would like to share your videos with ppl but i feel like i would be implying that the person needs help. I think this may start you off in wrong direction on first impression. It makes it hard to reach the ppl who need your videos most in my opinion. I think the best way i have found to share your knowledge is to use it. Teach it to our kids ourselves as i have started to and honestly have seen the results personally and is the reason i feel so strongly about your message.
Man I love that answer and 100% agree with it. That's awesome! I really appreciate you taking these messages to heart. Much peace for sure!
So helpful should be taught in school
I know entire police departments who should take notes.
I do appreciate all the hard work You put into helping people like Myself to make understanding of what's going on with Ourselves, but I just live as to whatever in life comes to Me now!
No doubt it still feels painful, but when You've been through it a million times before, You get to the point where You just wait for it to wear off! 😌
If something happens, then it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't!
Thank you Dr Conte! Your advice to be compassionate is beautiful. Not easy to do....I battle judgement ....but compassion does make it easier all around and helps me to regulate myself when my partner sounds the crisis alarms 🚨🚨🚨
Thank you so much. And you are 100% right! It is not always easy to do. I just think about all the things in life that are worth it, and the majority of them take effort - the best things are rarely complex, but they do take tremendous effort. Sending you much gratitude and peace!
You're the man Dr. C. Thank you for the guidance, you're certainly a blessing to many.
Bruh this guy is so amazing.. you made me cry because I work day and night until I can’t. I’m powerful I’m great thank you sir.. God bless your soul ❤❤
Thank you so much. Sending you much gratitude and peace!
The best way to be kind
Dr Conte, your videos are a true treasure-trove of wisdom and understanding. I have a few crisis-prone folk around me, and i care for them immensely so this video really gave some light on it for me.
I struggled myself with anxiety for years as a result of my being bed-bound due to chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, but have always tried to maintain as low as possible level of crisis. I need tranquility and these days i maintain that myself by doing just as you said - imagining im observing everything like a boat floating on by 😊 As always, your lessons speak from the heart and to the heart, but also get me in a a wise and logical way. your use of perspective i think is possibly one of the greatest tools. Always finds a way thru 🤙💯💪 Thanks for always showing us how to make human communication so much more effective and powerful 😊🙏
Very interesting, I can relate this to a family member who always seems in a constant state of crisis every little thing has to become a exaggerated drama with a made up story which if you try to question he becomes aggressive and tells more lies to top up his original lies - we do stay calm with him and try not to take it personally but he can become personal and nasty to us - it seems like a losing battle at times - but you vid has given me food for thought so I will keep it in mind for our next episode.
My heart definitely goes out to you, because yes, 100% is it difficult to not take personally, especially when someone is doing the kinds of things he's doing. In the end, ultimately, we can only ever control ourselves, so even though the situation will still be difficult when he acts that way, my hope is that you see that it's about what's going on inside of him. Thank you for taking time to comment and your kind words. Sending you all the best and much peace!
Your videos are amazing, Christian, a great resource. Thank you so much for sharing your skills and expertise with the world.
Avoid negative people if you can. Family requires duty but choose your friends wisely. Don’t invite drama into your life, your purpose is better than that.
Damn I needed this video in my last relationship. We both did.
Great stuff. Thanks Man. You rock.
Just realizing I may be crisis prone way of thinking. Especially in my relationship. I try to work on remaining present and calm. I don’t always have outbursts but definitely cause more harm mentally by the story I tell myself.
It has been a year. How is it going?
Would you please make a video on how to build true, healthy and realistic self esteem or self love which is an accurate assessment of who I really am and want to become, and not a selfish egocentric isolation?
Please do a video on ptsd i am a police officer injured critically in a suicide bombing in pakistan trying to arrest the bomber entering a mosque full of people he blew himself up 15feet away from me
Ali Javed Yes I definitely am doing that. Since your comment on my last video, that’s been my plan for the next video I make. I would love for you to reach out to me through email so that I can learn more about your story and help out however I can. Please reach out to me through my website and then I’ll personally respond to you. Sending you all my best thoughts and tons of peace.
@ Mr Javed:
Thank you for your braveness and hard work.
I'm very sorry you were not able to stop the bomber.
I wish you the very best, sir.
Dr conte and Ali Javed. I am certified in EMDR as well as most of my professional career has been spent helping combat veterans with PTSD. Feel free to reach out to me as well.
So beautifully explained!
God bless you!
A J _18 Thank you. Much peace!
It’s so tough. My friend is like this. She is so lovey and smart and compassionate, but she is ALWAYS in crisis mode, despite having very fortunate circumstances. It makes it hard to be around her because I feel like we can never appreciate what blessings we have. She also tends to lean toward attention seeking behaviour and it can be really embarrassing in public. It’s so tough.
Thank you for the video Dr. Conte.
Your insights are fantastic! I’ve improved much using your wisdom from these videos, and your Anger Management workbook, which I wholeheartedly recommend. Much peace!!
Thank you so much brother! I genuinely appreciate hearing that a ton. Definitely sending you all my best and tons of peace (and gratitude)!
Thank you for this very important info
I am going to put this advice into practice. I am way too focused on the content and have never considered the process. I want to be more compassionate when someone I care about is struggling; however I am super reactive to the content. This video gives a completely different perspective to focus on
I am the crises prone person...I get so stressed out when I am driving , I can't go far from my house anymore where when I was young I would drive everywhere and not even think about it ,but now in my late 50's I am scared to drive anywhere ..It makes my husband so mad at me ..even if he is driving I am a nervous wreck and he gets so mad at me and yells if I make a move that emplies he doesn't see what I am seeing...and then in my mind sometimes I think he does things driving on purpose to scare me so he can fight or cause a argument ,if I was driving someone around and knew they were nervous I would do everything in my power to make them feel safe but he does the opposite,he does things to scare me ...How do I handle that??
I'm wondering if he gets angry because he believes in you, and he believes you're strong enough to get through the anxiety you're feeling, but he's not sure what he can to do to help "fix" the situation for you.... Sometimes people's inability to fix a situation or the pain their loved one is feeling is as scary as the anxiety that their loved ones are feeling. In any case, I'd definitely invite you two to sit down with a counselor in your area if that's possible. I'm certainly sending you both all the best and tons of peace!
thank you ..
Thank you! Very helpful and eye opening.
You're definitely welcome! Thank you so much for your kind words! Sending you much peace for sure!
Thx for this video, it's the only one I could find on this specific topic.
hey dr. conte. what sources are you drawing from? I understand you are trying to model some pretty complex psychologyical and neurophysiological stuff. However my understanding of PTSD, it isn't that people are hanging around in the "grey" zone, but rather tend to make wild shifts, and small triggers and lead to big emotions.
Thank you doc
thank you for this
THANK YOU!! 😮
Thank you!!
Definitely! I hope it helps!
You should consider writing a book
I'm this way :(
Hi i have learnt so much. Just like to say BIG THANKS. Keep up the good work.
Can you do a video on how to move a crisis-prone brain to a calm one?
I was on an SSRI and though I had some anxiety before, it became much worse as well as angry outbursts. I'm off of them going on 2 years, but still dealing with anxiety and anger. Your videos are hope for me and I'm very thankful I ran across them! Anyways, i'm sure my husband would agree that i'm crisis-prone. Would love to hear your take on how to manage/move out of that.
Excellent! Thank you. Is it possible to be a crisis prone person only in certain relationships?
Susannah francis Thank you for your kind comments and great question! Yes, I think it is. For many people who are crisis-prone, their brain is vibrating at that level, so it’s not a matter of who they’re around, but more a matter of what’s going on inside them. However, I do think that for some people, situations bring this “crisis-prone” mentality out of them. I hope this helps. Sending you all the best and much peace!
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Where can buy your book online? Ill be leaving dubai soon, i need to have it before i go to my home country.
Should be able to get it easily on Amazon. Also, I have a couple in Barnes and Nobles too. Sending you much peace!
Process v Content
Caused by others
Your name comes up first for anger management, yet you have less than 8000 views in two years. You need a better delivery without the unnecessary word salad, that confuses and puts your audience to zzzzzzzzzzz.
I find angry people to be kind of stupid. And women are more easily angered than men. It’s childish.