You are one of the greatest people I have ever seen. You are a person in life, just like all of us, but you not only use the things you learn from life to help yourself, but you also help others. If your reeding this, just know that you're a good person, and like a few of us are, you're slowly changing the world.
10 years after this video was made & I am just now seeing it. Sometimes it really can be that bad or even worse. But be brave anyway. Bc it is always better to know the truth. And if people we believed loved us disappear? It will hurt terribly, but there will be room for others who truly do care. This is what I, as an old person, am continuing to learn.
I wonder if he checks his channel, or if he knows how much people really care about what he says, or about how much he impacts so many people, or how every like and comment and subscription is a person with feelings. I wonder if he knows that to me he is a genious, if u think the same then like this so that maybe he'll see it if he does check the this channel and for him to see that everyone else thinks he is a genious too
He has a degree in brain function I think. I can't remember what it is but it makes perfect sense. Isn't it nice to know there are intelligent, beautiful people out there. We only seem to ever hear of the evil few.
He IS a genius. But more importantly, he has a high "emotional quotient" - not just a high # for his "intelligence quotient" (IQ). His degree is in neuroscience, but somehow along the way he became very good at "psychology" and "philosophy." And when he puts it all together, he is a Multi-Faceted Genius. Like a multifaceted GEM stone!
How can it be that I am just discovering this beautiful human being? Even though I know I'm waaay late for the party, he always has been (and I suspect his videos always will be) very prescient. ❤️
i know what you mean - because found him a year ago, through the ostrich song on reddit, no less. While i can hope with all my heart I had found him 10 years ago when i needed someone like him, i'm happy I have now, so i can appreciate the strength he brings to others
I'm on about the same timeline as @@jubb1984 ...except a friend had sent me some of the stinkin hilarious nature show type stuff (& some of which is like...you wanna look, but you don't, but you have to? & why, why am I subjecting myself to this bc I KNOW What's Coming...but it's So Weirdly Funny...but noooooo..but I HAVE to...) so I knew about THAT aspect, but I didn't know about this stuff. What's really great is that each video is a reminder that there Are, in fact, decent, intelligent, funny, sweet people in the world. Sometimes that's what we need most :)☮
I have heard so many of these. They are beautiful and awesome and I love that they are part of the world. When I came out to my mom though... It was worse then I could put into words... She was screaming and I was crying and she wouldn't even look at me. I love my mom more then anyone else in the world and... She didn't even start looking at me again till I said it was a phase.
I am like some other people who have commented, in that I am very late to the party. But, my god, these videos, All of them make my heart sing and soul smile! They are So insightful i want the world to watch them all. It's important, good people thoughts. Morality, compassion, integrity, beauty, smarts, these videos are full of all of these qualities and so much more! I can't help but feel a little less helpless and a little less hopeless. At least while I watch the video. So eager to know all the stuff he's going to say. I smile ear to ear, I stare down at my tablet filled with a sense of awe. He touches, has been and will continue too for as long as you tube etc exists. I don't think he knows how profound his videos are. How connected we all clearly feel. He's so amazingly insightful, intelligent, enlightened, inspiring, uniting, funny, wity, charming, open..... I am really glad I have found him and his videos. I am so sad and jealous of others because I am late to the party. I want more. I want to see more of his warm smiles, hear more of his incredibly touching insights. More videos please. We all love you so much!
I know these are older videos, but I didn't know about these until recently and my husband and I have been mainlining them. And we both agree: You're like Mister Rogers for grown ups. These talking to us videos remind me that if growing older is hard for me sometimes, that's okay. If I'm still odd, or still don't quite fit in, that's okay too. If I have a hard day, it's okay. And while I love you for True Facts, I love you most of all for making me feel like I'm okay just the way I am, right now, in this moment. Thank you.
Mr. Rogers for grown ups. That's exactly what I thought when I saw the Mr Rogers movie. I wonder how many other people think the same thing of Ze. I wonder if he knows.
This morning I made a difficult decision while talking to the doctor who was monitoring my mother's rapid health decline. This afternoon I had to take my mom off life support in the ICU and hold her hand while she died. I cried very little while thanking her for all the good things she'd done for me during her difficult life. Then I had to come home to tell my kids their grandma had passed away. Worst day of my life. Does that count as brave? Thanks for videos like this one, zefrank.
10 years later… yes, that counts. I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you-and your kids-have had all the support and love needed to weather grief. It’s kind of a lifetime process. Much love to all of you.❤
The fact that there is someone like you who is so warm and willing to understand is reason to try to be brave. You are wonderful and an inspiration -- keep being strong!
So I'm watching this just before I have to go talk to someone I love who I feel doesn't love me back...this is the second time I've had to do this in 6 months but honestly this video is giving me what I need to get through this again.
Ze, if your listening, and I hope you do, I just wanted to tell you a story. A story of a confused, sad and messed up young woman who wrote to sometone she admired and looked up to, someone she had never met before but considerd an ally, if not a friend. She wrote her big and still growing heart out and told him a lot of sorrows of hers, on his website in his ask box as she remembers. You know, this young woman grew up to be a slightly, but only slightly, less younger young woman with a lot more love and hope in her heart. Her story hasnt ended, but she is happier right now than ever before. That friend has left her since, or so she feels. She isnt mad or anything, she knows he has his own life and when she listens carefully she sometimes heres his voice. She just hoped for a last good bye, is all. Ending that part of the relationshp with a big tush instead of a fading. She isn't mad though, cause his ask box was all she could turn to at the time, and know, as she is a little older, she knows just how horrible it can be to have young girl tears in your freaking ask boy without being responsible or being able to do anything about it. I like you very much Ze.
I believe Ze will be remembered as one the great communicators. Not just of our time, but of many generations to come. There will be college courses on his work.
We had a challenge day at school today. There was one game in which everyone was so brave, it's called 'cross the line', we all stood on one side of a line and a woman read off random statements, if those statements applied to you, you crossed over the line. It got pretty intense and emotional, for some people it took so much bravery to cross that line. But just because of that moment of bravery they realized that there was more to life, and that they weren't alone. It was beautiful to see.
This video relates so much to what I did this past couple of weeks. I finally built up the courage to tell someone how I felt about them, and they said they didn't feel the same way yet, short story, he broke my heart after we tried it out and then I had to have the talk with him about where we stand with friendship and stuff, it wasn't easy, because it was also my first time actually doing something like that, and having to deal with all those feels before, during and after the break up.
Duude! I know you don't get in here anymore but I still want to tell you! Last Friday 19 of January I had to make a presentation and act a monologue I made for 15 minutes in front of my high school peers and I did it amazingly well! I'm soo damn proud insecurities didn't hold me back! I still couldn't sleep from the anxiety that night but daaaaamn son. Everyone clapped so hard. And I thought I could be like you and get better, that I can climb up and up, that I actually have a chance of being an artist and everything I dream of. So thanks. That's the best I can explain how my success reminded me of you
What ever day you were able to be brave, yesterday or today,or tomorrow, I hope you keep this with you. All the great things you were before you came out are all still you. You're still you. All the things your parents loved are there. Hopefully they feel that, and know that you are just an even more whole you. That's how I felt when my daughter came out. I wish you joy, peace, and happiness.
To whomever was singing at the end, you have a beautiful voice. And I don't mean beautiful in the casual way that it gets thrown around. I mean it in the sense of a crisp autumn morning with the clouds parting and the sun shining on your face as the leaves gently crackle under your feet.
I used to listen to this before because it helped me when I wanted to be brave. Now that the time has passed, I listen to this when I feel alone. Either way, thank you Ze Frank, for helping me sleep at night.
You are literally the most beautiful man and I don't just mean those dashing good looks. It is so refreshing to hear someone talk so openly and so honestly and I appreciate that you have chosen to share your thoughts (& face) with the youtubes.
im trans, i remember when i came out to my mother i remember walking back and forth in my room muttering shivering shaking i had a 3 slot CD player "if metallica comes on ill come out if queen or soad i will keep it in" master of puppets clicks over the guitars give me confidence and i stormed for the door then sat back down stood up again muttered a bit crinkled my eyebrows the electric guitar kicks in and i bolt out the door and move my way to my mothers room i sit on her bed and ask her if she has a moment i mutter and shiver spilling miscellaneous syllables as my mother questions "whats wrong?" "did you eat something?" "are you sick?" i-uhgh-whu-im-t-t-transss.... silence oh god it burned for those few seconds "i kinda guessed something like that" she flicks her head back to her computer and keeps typing i go back to my room and put my headphones back on and cry a lot
Wow. The guy who is suffering from such crippling self hatred that he feels the need to spend his time trying to convince depressed strangers to commit suicide thinks that he's the NORMAL one. That's would be hilarious if I didn't feel bad for you. Honestly mate, I don't really care about your weird backward opinions on trans people or whatever, but if you need to start attacking emotionally vulnerable people in order to get off then you probably have some serious psychological issues and should probably have a good long look at yourself and what motivates this disturbing behaviour before you end up hurting yourself or someone else. Don't mistake this for aggression. I'm not trying to fight you. I regret calling you names off the bat but I was in a bad mood when I posted that last comment and I was worried that someone would come across your bullshit and have their day ruined because it went unchallenged. I genuinely hope you sort out whatever your issues are and go on to lead a happy fulfilling life. But until you do, try not to make it harder for other people. That's a dick move.
guys its fine i get comments like that alot im not vulnerable really my family has a saying if you dont laugh you cry so i try make their statements into jokes...
your video inspire me and give me self confidence..whenever i get depressed or upset from something, i listen to music and watch your videos...life has its ups and downs, thanks for being their for us when we're in a need!
I like the kindness in your humor-wit. While you try to find something funny to say about something that is so hard for so many of us, but you showed us you had heart and care about people. It made me cry. thank you.
I know! I have always loved this particular bye bye song...I just clicked the link in the description to check out her channel, but there is nothing there :/
This video has helped me be brave enough to have so many conversations in the last two years that I needed to have. Conversations that changed me, and made me more me, and a better me. I'm so thankful for these words. Thank you again and again.
Is this the guy that speaks in those really beautiful videos for BuzzFeed? Like "Dear Kitten" Or "A Cats Guide To Taking Care Of Your Human?" And a ton of other really awesome videos? Cuz I was watching a BuzzFeedVideo playlist and it directed me hear to this channel through "In a Shell." Is this the guy that speaks in BuzzFeed?
Aye. He's also executive vice president of video at Buzzfeed. Check out the rest of his videos, there's some great stuff in there, like his True Facts series.
I need to be brave in about 15 minutes and end a 2 year relationship, one that had her living with me for the last 9 months. I need to be brave, thanks for putting this out there so it could come across to me just at the time I needed it.
I just came back after talking to someone about the things that has been going on lately, and I seriously feel a lot better. A huge weight has been lifted off me, and I wouldn't have been brave enough to do it if I hadn't watched this. I felt comforted.
I've been a fan for a very long time, thank you for providing some sound advice for that 15 year old kid and still to this 26 year old navy sailor. Cheers.
The message here is both one I can use personally, and one I will sculpt and modify for transmission to my students, kids with learning disabilities who are often facing them in a real way for the first time when they come to work with me. "Any time your experience is different than the experience you share with other people, that can be really isolating." That's powerful, and the start of self compassion. Which we all need, to manage our fears and gain the relief that comes with disclosure.
I really needed this video. Not only to realize that everything will be okay, but to laugh a little at the ridiculousness of that chaos, even though it seems real to us at times. Thank you for these videos, not only do they bring me to terms on how real and scary life can be, but they also help me laugh at how amazing it can be at the same time.
amazing how i watched this video this morning and didn't think anything of it. now after a visit to the doctor's your words are all i needed to hear. thanks Ze.
I know you made/shared this with everyone a while ago Frank- but *thank you*. Your comments concerning conversations that "bring you in line with reality" and the idea that "your experience is different than the experience that you share with other people- that can be really isolating..." really hit home. The world around me has seemed unrelatable because I have not been relating to it; I've isolated myself by not letting other people experience *my* experience, and therefore isolating myself.
I suggest you show her this video. I think the ending line, "and if you need to be brave today, I hope you're brave" is very powerful, and it helped me a lot in a situation I was in... I continue to watch this regularly in the hopes that I will find the bravery I need to do what needs to be done. I wish your friend all the best in her endever to be extremely brave, I hope it goes well x
You are so incredibly amazing and I'm glad someone thinks and feels like so similarly to me. It's so relieving and your videos honestly make me feel better. I feel like I'm too weak right now to get the help I need, but I feel like one day I'll be brave enough to ask. Until then, I'll slowly build my bravery up. Thank you for being you.
I just rewatched this video. I miss these types of videos. I mean- I love all of you work, but there was just something so simple and true about these.
Your videos always put me at ease. It's so personable. In the middle of your video I realized that I had gotten closer to the screen and put my chin in my hand as if I were listening to my best friend instead of some stranger on a computer. Thanks for that.
Thank you for this. It's helped me to feel more certain that saying something difficult today was the right thing to do, and that having to do it again soon is something that I can handle. Just - thank you. This really meant a lot.
I am proud of you, Ze, for taking the time to help a fellow human being in her hour of need. Others may have ignored or glossed over that need. Your thoughts and words were touching.
That counts as utter bravery if I ever heard it; heart-wrenching, tear-inducing bravery. For a while it will be hard to live life as if it's still okay, but while it's not the same okay as before, I hope you know that a different sort of okay will take its place. Sorry for your loss, and well done on being so very strong.
I wish I could upvote this 300 times. Ze has helped me through so much in this past year. Thank you for beginning this show. Thank you community for continuing that lovely support. I am happy to call all you my brethren. Uuriana, welcome to the family.
Ze, Thank you for this, the girl I know her and I think this is the little push she needed. She has been telling me for the past weeks that every day she will say something but she never finds the right time she thinks she will wreck the moment. And I think you may have just helped her. The fact that you care so much to make this for her I just can not thank you enough you are a wonderful amazing man, Thank you x
I hadn't watched these videos for a fair while. To come and see this while going through something not big like this, but little things that make me nervous...best time to watch again. Thank you
I made myself be brave and tell my mom about the anxiety issues I've been hiding for the better part of 10 years. It was scary and caused a whole bunch of anxiety in itself, but as led to me seeing a therapist about it as well as some actual honest response when I say I'm anxious about something, instead of "well you just need to get used to it" like I'd always hear before. I'm only at the beginning of the journey but already it makes the bad reality easier to handle, until it gets not bad.
You're really great Ze. I like watching your vids. They always make me feel better. I'm feeling kinda lonely tonight and watching your vids doesnt' make me feel so bad.
I watch this one a lot. Downloaded it as soon as the app allowed. Thanks for being you Ze... made being me a little easier. Trying to be brave... and failing horribly.
I've just discovered your awesomeness six or seven hours ago. I decided to watch every video on this channel and this is the last video. I just wanted to say thank you for existing. You help give me hope and strength. Thank you.
I really needed this right now and it is a beautiful reflection on the bravery require to speak one's truth. Thank you, ze! Your genuinity and openness are inspiring. The reminder that it's always worse in one's imagination was especially helpful. Much love.
I've been scared ask someone certain questions, I've been avoiding it and it makes me sad but tonight I thought it's time I asked them and this video gives me some strength. Thank you.
This is exactly how I felt when telling my parents I was extremely unhappy with the school I was at and I wanted to move back to my home state. Thank you, Ze. You always know what to say.
I feel as though Ze's breath would smell of coffee and sunshine -- that crisp early-morning scent that rouses your senses to full wakefulness in preparation for a day that could be great or bad or bittersweet.
Thank you... this could not have been timed better. I'm about to leave to go see my doctor about a major surgery I just spent the last 3 years dealing with that I might now have to repeat, and while it isn't a discussion per se, hearing your words has set me a bit more at peace. It will work out, at the very least better than the worst I can imagine.
Ze, I have been on RUclips for over 5 years and I've never left a comment on any video. However, it just has to be said that your videos are (for lack of better words) fucking amazing. They are inspiring, and each one moves me. Thank you for speaking from the heart and saying things that need to be said. I believe you have an impact on a lot of peoples' lives and thats truly awesome. Thank you again Ze, we appreciate you.
I love this. Such a simple message that applies in so many situations as well as every living being. Love your voice as well, so soothing. If I could choose one person to narrate my life, it would either be you or Morgan Freeman.
The hardest thing is to start "we need to talk" conversation when you know already other side will not understand... once i wrote a letter to my dad instead. Sure, he was thinking my friend talk me into that and didn't buy a word. If I was trying to talk, there was always the way to shut me up and made me cry and I knew it. Later I've learned... the conversation is not so important as attitude you have... you must never show a fear, even if you have to act. You have your point, so be brave :)!
I think the reason I love his videos is because it's funny, he puts a good amount of humor into it, but he is serious too. He always has a point in his videos, not making up random crap to try to get famous. He helps people with their small, everyday problem and he treats it like a big one that's life changing. He tells a certain truth about everything, like in the video 'Be Yourself'. I love Ze Frank, and I can't believe it's taken me this long to figure that out.
Thank you so much for these simple yet profound thoughts on bravery and saying one's truth. I have shared this video with my readers and patients in order to make the point that hiding oneself in order to feel safe is one good way to remain in an addictive relationship with food. I was deeply touched.
Good work Ze, you always put so much of your (self) into the advice you give. Thank you for caring so much about others. I think that what you do is harder than most people know.
Ze, never change. I watched you back in 2006 (Hi Sports Racers!) and I'm so glad that you chose to take us all with you once again. You changed me seven years ago - you changed my sense of humour and my outlook on life. The internet is a much bigger, scarier place than it was back in 2006 but I'm so happy that others have the chance to discover you and your wonderful videos. Bye bye, it's the bye bye song.
That's probably the highest form of bravery. I don't think I would've been able to do that, or make that decision. You are truly brave, and I hope you're strong enough to handle the sorrow and the pain.
There's some sort of sadness in his eyes in every single one of his videos. He seems like such a strong person but you can tell he's experienced very much.
Found this channel way back in 2013 when the last “a show” videos were trickling in, and I still find myself coming back to them from time to time. I’m writing this as my yellow ducky motivational poster hangs above my head, duck stamp and signature and everything. I don’t know how, but I was fortunate enough to order one just months before ze’s website went down, took a few weeks for it to arrive to the point where I thought it would never come at all, but somehow, there it hangs. After watching all of these videos, I can’t help but feel closer to ze than I’ve ever felt with anyone else in my life, and I’ve never even met the guy. I still don’t know if that’s a compliment to him, or a flaw in my character. Probably a mix of both. Either way, I hope ze realizes how big of an impact he’s had on everyone here, and I hope with my entire being that one day he starts up something like this series again.
Something about his expressions reminds me of Jim Carrey when he sits down and 'real talks' with people. There's so much sincerity in his words it's like there's no screen at all... he's actually talking to us.
This made me cry. I know what that person is going through. I remember the first time I came out, and how sudden it was and how I hadn't prepared and maybe it would have been better if I had. I also remember getting out of a dangerous housing situation that went needing the "brave" talk. Thank you for encapsulating it so perfectly.
You are one of the greatest people I have ever seen. You are a person in life, just like all of us, but you not only use the things you learn from life to help yourself, but you also help others. If your reeding this, just know that you're a good person, and like a few of us are, you're slowly changing the world.
10 years after this video was made & I am just now seeing it. Sometimes it really can be that bad or even worse. But be brave anyway. Bc it is always better to know the truth. And if people we believed loved us disappear? It will hurt terribly, but there will be room for others who truly do care. This is what I, as an old person, am continuing to learn.
I wonder if he checks his channel, or if he knows how much people really care about what he says, or about how much he impacts so many people, or how every like and comment and subscription is a person with feelings. I wonder if he knows that to me he is a genious, if u think the same then like this so that maybe he'll see it if he does check the this channel and for him to see that everyone else thinks he is a genious too
He has a degree in brain function I think. I can't remember what it is but it makes perfect sense. Isn't it nice to know there are intelligent, beautiful people out there. We only seem to ever hear of the evil few.
He IS a genius. But more importantly, he has a high "emotional quotient" - not just a high # for his "intelligence quotient" (IQ).
His degree is in neuroscience, but somehow along the way he became very good at "psychology" and "philosophy." And when he puts it all together, he is a Multi-Faceted Genius. Like a multifaceted GEM stone!
I watched these years ago and now as an older woman I still find so much value in these videos. I miss these.
I check back at times just to see if you're back. One day......
does he have a Twitter?
+Francisco Jayjen yeah but he doesnt use it anymore
...idk why im telling u this its late
+Kobey Joe I think it's mutual. We miss eachother. One day we'll miss eachother so much he'll come back and hangout with us again. :,^)
Same i miss him
Today!!!
"And if you need to be brave today, I hope you're brave." That was so incredibly beautiful, thank you.
I accidentally clicked on this, but it's what I need to hear right now. Thank you
How can it be that I am just discovering this beautiful human being? Even though I know I'm waaay late for the party, he always has been (and I suspect his videos always will be) very prescient. ❤️
i know what you mean - because found him a year ago, through the ostrich song on reddit, no less. While i can hope with all my heart I had found him 10 years ago when i needed someone like him, i'm happy I have now, so i can appreciate the strength he brings to others
I just found him, watching everything backwards
I'm on about the same timeline as @@jubb1984 ...except a friend had sent me some of the stinkin hilarious nature show type stuff (& some of which is like...you wanna look, but you don't, but you have to? & why, why am I subjecting myself to this bc I KNOW What's Coming...but it's So Weirdly Funny...but noooooo..but I HAVE to...) so I knew about THAT aspect, but I didn't know about this stuff.
What's really great is that each video is a reminder that there Are, in fact, decent, intelligent, funny, sweet people in the world.
Sometimes that's what we need most :)☮
I watch this every time I need to be brave:')
I have heard so many of these. They are beautiful and awesome and I love that they are part of the world. When I came out to my mom though... It was worse then I could put into words... She was screaming and I was crying and she wouldn't even look at me. I love my mom more then anyone else in the world and... She didn't even start looking at me again till I said it was a phase.
I hope you come back, we all miss you :(
I am like some other people who have commented, in that I am very late to the party.
But, my god, these videos, All of them make my heart sing and soul smile! They are So insightful i want the world to watch them all. It's important, good people thoughts. Morality, compassion, integrity, beauty, smarts, these videos are full of all of these qualities and so much more! I can't help but feel a little less helpless and a little less hopeless. At least while I watch the video. So eager to know all the stuff he's going to say. I smile ear to ear, I stare down at my tablet filled with a sense of awe. He touches, has been and will continue too for as long as you tube etc exists. I don't think he knows how profound his videos are. How connected we all clearly feel. He's so amazingly insightful, intelligent, enlightened, inspiring, uniting, funny, wity, charming, open.....
I am really glad I have found him and his videos. I am so sad and jealous of others because I am late to the party. I want more. I want to see more of his warm smiles, hear more of his incredibly touching insights.
More videos please. We all love you so much!
I'd just like to let you know, nine years later, that this helped me get through a time I didn't think I would ever see the other side of. Thank you ❤
There's something about Ze's voice that just makes my soul take a deep breath
I come back to this video very often. You are really an incredible dude, hope to have the honor of shaking your hand one day.
despite the distance in time and space, you have helped me tonight.
thank you.
This little vignette seems very personal & speaks to all of us. Thanks.
I needed exactly this talk today but I didn't know the video would be about that
Guess there is some form of destiny there, thanks Mr frank!
I know these are older videos, but I didn't know about these until recently and my husband and I have been mainlining them. And we both agree: You're like Mister Rogers for grown ups.
These talking to us videos remind me that if growing older is hard for me sometimes, that's okay. If I'm still odd, or still don't quite fit in, that's okay too. If I have a hard day, it's okay.
And while I love you for True Facts, I love you most of all for making me feel like I'm okay just the way I am, right now, in this moment. Thank you.
Mr. Rogers for grown ups. That's exactly what I thought when I saw the Mr Rogers movie. I wonder how many other people think the same thing of Ze. I wonder if he knows.
I miss this, talk to us, this generation needs more to the point talking, I've always love you talking. Hope all is well with you
This morning I made a difficult decision while talking to the doctor who was monitoring my mother's rapid health decline. This afternoon I had to take my mom off life support in the ICU and hold her hand while she died. I cried very little while thanking her for all the good things she'd done for me during her difficult life. Then I had to come home to tell my kids their grandma had passed away. Worst day of my life. Does that count as brave?
Thanks for videos like this one, zefrank.
10 years later… yes, that counts. I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you-and your kids-have had all the support and love needed to weather grief. It’s kind of a lifetime process. Much love to all of you.❤
@ChipArgyle - It most definitely counted as bravery!
@NorseForse its like we are time traveling. RUclips is a modern day history book.
The fact that there is someone like you who is so warm and willing to understand is reason to try to be brave. You are wonderful and an inspiration -- keep being strong!
So I'm watching this just before I have to go talk to someone I love who I feel doesn't love me back...this is the second time I've had to do this in 6 months but honestly this video is giving me what I need to get through this again.
Crying. Crying really hard.
Just..thank you. Thank you so, so much.
Ze, if your listening, and I hope you do, I just wanted to tell you a story. A story of a confused, sad and messed up young woman who wrote to sometone she admired and looked up to, someone she had never met before but considerd an ally, if not a friend. She wrote her big and still growing heart out and told him a lot of sorrows of hers, on his website in his ask box as she remembers. You know, this young woman grew up to be a slightly, but only slightly, less younger young woman with a lot more love and hope in her heart. Her story hasnt ended, but she is happier right now than ever before.
That friend has left her since, or so she feels. She isnt mad or anything, she knows he has his own life and when she listens carefully she sometimes heres his voice. She just hoped for a last good bye, is all. Ending that part of the relationshp with a big tush instead of a fading. She isn't mad though, cause his ask box was all she could turn to at the time, and know, as she is a little older, she knows just how horrible it can be to have young girl tears in your freaking ask boy without being responsible or being able to do anything about it. I like you very much Ze.
I believe Ze will be remembered as one the great communicators. Not just of our time, but of many generations to come. There will be college courses on his work.
Just catching up with your channel. Thanks for not blowing this question off. I'm sure you have helped someone.
Bring these back!!! ❤️
This video always makes me smile. Just... yeah. Just smile. :-)
We had a challenge day at school today. There was one game in which everyone was so brave, it's called 'cross the line', we all stood on one side of a line and a woman read off random statements, if those statements applied to you, you crossed over the line. It got pretty intense and emotional, for some people it took so much bravery to cross that line. But just because of that moment of bravery they realized that there was more to life, and that they weren't alone. It was beautiful to see.
Do what you can, and allow for failure regardless. It is the only way to learn in this world.
This video relates so much to what I did this past couple of weeks. I finally built up the courage to tell someone how I felt about them, and they said they didn't feel the same way yet, short story, he broke my heart after we tried it out and then I had to have the talk with him about where we stand with friendship and stuff, it wasn't easy, because it was also my first time actually doing something like that, and having to deal with all those feels before, during and after the break up.
Duude! I know you don't get in here anymore but I still want to tell you! Last Friday 19 of January I had to make a presentation and act a monologue I made for 15 minutes in front of my high school peers and I did it amazingly well! I'm soo damn proud insecurities didn't hold me back! I still couldn't sleep from the anxiety that night but daaaaamn son. Everyone clapped so hard. And I thought I could be like you and get better, that I can climb up and up, that I actually have a chance of being an artist and everything I dream of. So thanks. That's the best I can explain how my success reminded me of you
What ever day you were able to be brave, yesterday or today,or tomorrow, I hope you keep this with you. All the great things you were before you came out are all still you. You're still you. All the things your parents loved are there. Hopefully they feel that, and know that you are just an even more whole you. That's how I felt when my daughter came out. I wish you joy, peace, and happiness.
Write a book! You got your first buyer!
To whomever was singing at the end, you have a beautiful voice. And I don't mean beautiful in the casual way that it gets thrown around. I mean it in the sense of a crisp autumn morning with the clouds parting and the sun shining on your face as the leaves gently crackle under your feet.
You're one of my favorite people. And thank you for this
I used to listen to this before because it helped me when I wanted to be brave. Now that the time has passed, I listen to this when I feel alone. Either way, thank you Ze Frank, for helping me sleep at night.
who's the girl singing at the end?? is there a link to her youtube channel?
I thought her voice amazing, too.
This video helped me 5 years ago and till this day i still come back and rewatch it when i most need it. Thank you zefrank
I miss these
You are literally the most beautiful man and I don't just mean those dashing good looks. It is so refreshing to hear someone talk so openly and so honestly and I appreciate that you have chosen to share your thoughts (& face) with the youtubes.
im trans, i remember when i came out to my mother
i remember walking back and forth in my room muttering shivering shaking
i had a 3 slot CD player
"if metallica comes on ill come out if queen or soad i will keep it in"
master of puppets clicks over the guitars give me confidence and i stormed for the door
then sat back down
stood up again muttered a bit crinkled my eyebrows the electric guitar kicks in and i bolt out the door and move my way to my mothers room
i sit on her bed and ask her if she has a moment
i mutter and shiver spilling miscellaneous syllables as my mother questions "whats wrong?" "did you eat something?"
"are you sick?"
i-uhgh-whu-im-t-t-transss....
silence oh god it burned for those few seconds
"i kinda guessed something like that" she flicks her head back to her computer and keeps typing
i go back to my room and put my headphones back on
and cry a lot
no u
memelord anakie well, ....i guess we can do it together. friends forever!
Don't listen to that other guy. I'm sure it must have been hard. Wish u all the best :)
Wow. The guy who is suffering from such crippling self hatred that he feels the need to spend his time trying to convince depressed strangers to commit suicide thinks that he's the NORMAL one. That's would be hilarious if I didn't feel bad for you.
Honestly mate, I don't really care about your weird backward opinions on trans people or whatever, but if you need to start attacking emotionally vulnerable people in order to get off then you probably have some serious psychological issues and should probably have a good long look at yourself and what motivates this disturbing behaviour before you end up hurting yourself or someone else.
Don't mistake this for aggression. I'm not trying to fight you. I regret calling you names off the bat but I was in a bad mood when I posted that last comment and I was worried that someone would come across your bullshit and have their day ruined because it went unchallenged. I genuinely hope you sort out whatever your issues are and go on to lead a happy fulfilling life. But until you do, try not to make it harder for other people. That's a dick move.
guys its fine i get comments like that alot im not vulnerable really
my family has a saying if you dont laugh you cry so i try make their statements into jokes...
your video inspire me and give me self confidence..whenever i get depressed or upset from something, i listen to music and watch your videos...life has its ups and downs, thanks for being their for us when we're in a need!
i have to be brave today ...
You made this post 6 years ago and it makes me very curious about what happened that day when you had to be brave. I hope it turned out well for you.
I like the kindness in your humor-wit. While you try to find something funny to say about something that is so hard for so many of us, but you showed us you had heart and care about people. It made me cry. thank you.
who is that girl! why would she just sing the bye bye song and leave... my heart needs more of that song an voice!
I know! I have always loved this particular bye bye song...I just clicked the link in the description to check out her channel, but there is nothing there :/
This video has helped me be brave enough to have so many conversations in the last two years that I needed to have. Conversations that changed me, and made me more me, and a better me. I'm so thankful for these words. Thank you again and again.
Is this the guy that speaks in those really beautiful videos for BuzzFeed? Like "Dear Kitten" Or "A Cats Guide To Taking Care Of Your Human?" And a ton of other really awesome videos? Cuz I was watching a BuzzFeedVideo playlist and it directed me hear to this channel through "In a Shell." Is this the guy that speaks in BuzzFeed?
Yep
Aye. He's also executive vice president of video at Buzzfeed. Check out the rest of his videos, there's some great stuff in there, like his True Facts series.
I need to be brave in about 15 minutes and end a 2 year relationship, one that had her living with me for the last 9 months. I need to be brave, thanks for putting this out there so it could come across to me just at the time I needed it.
I just came back after talking to someone about the things that has been going on lately, and I seriously feel a lot better. A huge weight has been lifted off me, and I wouldn't have been brave enough to do it if I hadn't watched this. I felt comforted.
I've been a fan for a very long time, thank you for providing some sound advice for that 15 year old kid and still to this 26 year old navy sailor.
Cheers.
The message here is both one I can use personally, and one I will sculpt and modify for transmission to my students, kids with learning disabilities who are often facing them in a real way for the first time when they come to work with me. "Any time your experience is different than the experience you share with other people, that can be really isolating." That's powerful, and the start of self compassion. Which we all need, to manage our fears and gain the relief that comes with disclosure.
I really needed this video. Not only to realize that everything will be okay, but to laugh a little at the ridiculousness of that chaos, even though it seems real to us at times. Thank you for these videos, not only do they bring me to terms on how real and scary life can be, but they also help me laugh at how amazing it can be at the same time.
Just found this. I like a lot of your recent stuff, but your older videos like this really hit home for me. Thank you for this. Thank you so much.
amazing how i watched this video this morning and didn't think anything of it. now after a visit to the doctor's your words are all i needed to hear. thanks Ze.
I know you made/shared this with everyone a while ago Frank- but *thank you*. Your comments concerning conversations that "bring you in line with reality" and the idea that "your experience is different than the experience that you share with other people- that can be really isolating..." really hit home. The world around me has seemed unrelatable because I have not been relating to it; I've isolated myself by not letting other people experience *my* experience, and therefore isolating myself.
I suggest you show her this video. I think the ending line, "and if you need to be brave today, I hope you're brave" is very powerful, and it helped me a lot in a situation I was in... I continue to watch this regularly in the hopes that I will find the bravery I need to do what needs to be done. I wish your friend all the best in her endever to be extremely brave, I hope it goes well x
I come back to this video every now and again, and every time it's still colossal.
Thank you Ze for your honesty and kindness. You make the world a better place.
You are so incredibly amazing and I'm glad someone thinks and feels like so similarly to me. It's so relieving and your videos honestly make me feel better. I feel like I'm too weak right now to get the help I need, but I feel like one day I'll be brave enough to ask. Until then, I'll slowly build my bravery up.
Thank you for being you.
I just rewatched this video. I miss these types of videos. I mean- I love all of you work, but there was just something so simple and true about these.
Your videos always put me at ease. It's so personable. In the middle of your video I realized that I had gotten closer to the screen and put my chin in my hand as if I were listening to my best friend instead of some stranger on a computer. Thanks for that.
Thank you for this. It's helped me to feel more certain that saying something difficult today was the right thing to do, and that having to do it again soon is something that I can handle. Just - thank you. This really meant a lot.
I am proud of you, Ze, for taking the time to help a fellow human being in her hour of need. Others may have ignored or glossed over that need. Your thoughts and words were touching.
That counts as utter bravery if I ever heard it; heart-wrenching, tear-inducing bravery. For a while it will be hard to live life as if it's still okay, but while it's not the same okay as before, I hope you know that a different sort of okay will take its place.
Sorry for your loss, and well done on being so very strong.
I'm glad someone else sees this. I always want to give him a hug, a glass of milk and a warm brownie. And then I wonder if I'm just projecting.
I wish I could upvote this 300 times. Ze has helped me through so much in this past year. Thank you for beginning this show. Thank you community for continuing that lovely support. I am happy to call all you my brethren. Uuriana, welcome to the family.
Ze,
Thank you for this, the girl I know her and I think this is the little push she needed. She has been telling me for the past weeks that every day she will say something but she never finds the right time she thinks she will wreck the moment. And I think you may have just helped her. The fact that you care so much to make this for her I just can not thank you enough you are a wonderful amazing man, Thank you x
I hadn't watched these videos for a fair while. To come and see this while going through something not big like this, but little things that make me nervous...best time to watch again. Thank you
I really miss these talk videos.
I made myself be brave and tell my mom about the anxiety issues I've been hiding for the better part of 10 years. It was scary and caused a whole bunch of anxiety in itself, but as led to me seeing a therapist about it as well as some actual honest response when I say I'm anxious about something, instead of "well you just need to get used to it" like I'd always hear before. I'm only at the beginning of the journey but already it makes the bad reality easier to handle, until it gets not bad.
You're really great Ze. I like watching your vids. They always make me feel better.
I'm feeling kinda lonely tonight and watching your vids doesnt' make me feel so bad.
In a rough place tonight, and this felt like I was pulled into the human family and given a verbal hug. Why are comedians so in touch with life?
I watch this one a lot.
Downloaded it as soon as the app allowed.
Thanks for being you Ze... made being me a little easier.
Trying to be brave... and failing horribly.
Dude who r u... so candid, open & honest... what a relief....thankyouuuuuuuuu
I've just discovered your awesomeness six or seven hours ago. I decided to watch every video on this channel and this is the last video. I just wanted to say thank you for existing. You help give me hope and strength. Thank you.
there is so much smile in you face throughout this video, I couldn't help but smile too.
I miss A Show. Hope you’re doing good, friend ❤️
I really needed this right now and it is a beautiful reflection on the bravery require to speak one's truth. Thank you, ze! Your genuinity and openness are inspiring. The reminder that it's always worse in one's imagination was especially helpful. Much love.
I've been scared ask someone certain questions, I've been avoiding it and it makes me sad but tonight I thought it's time I asked them and this video gives me some strength. Thank you.
This is exactly how I felt when telling my parents I was extremely unhappy with the school I was at and I wanted to move back to my home state. Thank you, Ze. You always know what to say.
I feel as though Ze's breath would smell of coffee and sunshine -- that crisp early-morning scent that rouses your senses to full wakefulness in preparation for a day that could be great or bad or bittersweet.
2:09 it’s called catastrophizing. I do it all the time
Thank you... this could not have been timed better. I'm about to leave to go see my doctor about a major surgery I just spent the last 3 years dealing with that I might now have to repeat, and while it isn't a discussion per se, hearing your words has set me a bit more at peace. It will work out, at the very least better than the worst I can imagine.
Ze,
I have been on RUclips for over 5 years and I've never left a comment on any video. However, it just has to be said that your videos are (for lack of better words) fucking amazing. They are inspiring, and each one moves me. Thank you for speaking from the heart and saying things that need to be said. I believe you have an impact on a lot of peoples' lives and thats truly awesome. Thank you again Ze, we appreciate you.
I love this. Such a simple message that applies in so many situations as well as every living being. Love your voice as well, so soothing. If I could choose one person to narrate my life, it would either be you or Morgan Freeman.
The hardest thing is to start "we need to talk" conversation when you know already other side will not understand... once i wrote a letter to my dad instead. Sure, he was thinking my friend talk me into that and didn't buy a word. If I was trying to talk, there was always the way to shut me up and made me cry and I knew it. Later I've learned... the conversation is not so important as attitude you have... you must never show a fear, even if you have to act. You have your point, so be brave :)!
I love how positive you are. The world needs more people like you.
I think the reason I love his videos is because it's funny, he puts a good amount of humor into it, but he is serious too. He always has a point in his videos, not making up random crap to try to get famous. He helps people with their small, everyday problem and he treats it like a big one that's life changing. He tells a certain truth about everything, like in the video 'Be Yourself'. I love Ze Frank, and I can't believe it's taken me this long to figure that out.
Thank you so much for these simple yet profound thoughts on bravery and saying one's truth. I have shared this video with my readers and patients in order to make the point that hiding oneself in order to feel safe is one good way to remain in an addictive relationship with food. I was deeply touched.
Good work Ze, you always put so much of your (self) into the advice you give.
Thank you for caring so much about others.
I think that what you do is harder than most people know.
Ze, never change. I watched you back in 2006 (Hi Sports Racers!) and I'm so glad that you chose to take us all with you once again. You changed me seven years ago - you changed my sense of humour and my outlook on life. The internet is a much bigger, scarier place than it was back in 2006 but I'm so happy that others have the chance to discover you and your wonderful videos.
Bye bye, it's the bye bye song.
That's probably the highest form of bravery. I don't think I would've been able to do that, or make that decision. You are truly brave, and I hope you're strong enough to handle the sorrow and the pain.
There's some sort of sadness in his eyes in every single one of his videos. He seems like such a strong person but you can tell he's experienced very much.
It's like you know...I don't know how or understand why, but these videos always come to me when I need them the most.
Found this channel way back in 2013 when the last “a show” videos were trickling in, and I still find myself coming back to them from time to time. I’m writing this as my yellow ducky motivational poster hangs above my head, duck stamp and signature and everything. I don’t know how, but I was fortunate enough to order one just months before ze’s website went down, took a few weeks for it to arrive to the point where I thought it would never come at all, but somehow, there it hangs. After watching all of these videos, I can’t help but feel closer to ze than I’ve ever felt with anyone else in my life, and I’ve never even met the guy. I still don’t know if that’s a compliment to him, or a flaw in my character. Probably a mix of both. Either way, I hope ze realizes how big of an impact he’s had on everyone here, and I hope with my entire being that one day he starts up something like this series again.
Something about his expressions reminds me of Jim Carrey when he sits down and 'real talks' with people. There's so much sincerity in his words it's like there's no screen at all... he's actually talking to us.
"A bad that you can handle. " is so profound and powerful
This made me cry. I know what that person is going through. I remember the first time I came out, and how sudden it was and how I hadn't prepared and maybe it would have been better if I had. I also remember getting out of a dangerous housing situation that went needing the "brave" talk. Thank you for encapsulating it so perfectly.