Quit Taking It Personally
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- Опубликовано: 17 фев 2024
- Does Adam Savage have advice for managing the aftermath of a bad job that you didn't have influence over? Have you ever had a client that's kinda annoying, but somehow doesn't annoy you enough to drop them? When you can't delivery on a deadline, how do you approach the client without it seeming like an excuse? Adam answers these questions from Tested members @ahuggingsam, ElZutterino and Xtafa. Join this channel to support Tested and get access to perks:
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That sounds more like the Norovirus than food poisoning.
Great attitude.
When stuff goes wrong at my work I always say "I'm not interested in pointing the finger at someone, I'm interested in solving the problem."
That's the ONLY correct approach and one I have been very vocal about for many years. If people think you're there to place the blame two things will happen:
- they'll lie about what happened to cover their asses and you'll never find out the real cause so you can't actually prevent it from happening again
- it causes mistrust & harms open communications meaning that if someone discovers they made a mistake, they won't warn you & will let it go through hoping it won't be noticed.
I'm totally the same ......👍👍👍👍
Absolutely, it does no good to show up with an excuse, whether it's true or not. What people will always appreciate far much more is showing up with a solution
Reason or excuse is where you find yourself and I have no time for an excuse, because the excuse gets in the way of getting to the solution.
@@redavatar So true. In my field (Medicine) both of those paths can result in patient deaths. As a result, in our hospital, we foster an atmosphere of full reporting of errors, even self-reporting, without recrimination (with some exceptions) so that errors are caught before reaching the patient AND that everyone can learn from the experience. When everyone shuts up and hides everything is when people die due to medical errors.
"we fucked up and we all need a break" If only more people could adopt this thought process.
Agreed. It bizarre how management is happy to tank morale just to have someone to point a finger and yell "get it done." Assuming someone doesn't get fired, tanking morale even more. (I keep getting censored for using the correct phrase) Some people are very happy to not only "pewpew" themselves in the foot, but the feet of an entire team.
A great solution. I do complex fault finding on (sometimes antiquated) electronic equipment. Sometimes, you simply cannot seem to make any headway, and frustration breeds bad decisions.
Sometimes, just leaving the room for 5 minutes, taking some air and clearing your mind makes all the difference.
Though, Murphy’s Law states that the exact moment you are standing about outside doing nothing, is the point at which your boss will turn up.
Luckily I have good bosses, most of whom have done my job, so know the pressures.
@@custos3249 You can do so very easily if, say, you treat people like tools and parts that are easily replaceable, aka 'management' that are so out of touch they don't actually know how to manage people, missing the fact that they are the backbone of any organisation, but hey, the tip of the pyramid also play a huge part, and all of these people who are toxic and people who are too passionate for their capabilities and credibility for the time being are both raised from our education system, as well as their parents, and the parents before theirs.
I've gotten pissed off at shit that refuses to let itself get fixed. I leave it aside for months, years even, come back to it later to clean up clutter and downsize junk sitting around, and then I'm like "lets try this" and what do you know, it gets fixed. Not even doing anything different, maybe just a different subconscious thought, and that's all it takes. @@badbob1982
Adam is that favorite Uncle of yours that is a walking living library with stories that never ends, he never disappoints.
Not just stories, but genuine, _useful_ wisdom. What a guy.
And then. There is me the odd uncle with an animal mascot costume in his closet....but also hates sports.
@@ryanclemons1Nothing wrong with being a furry. Enjoy yourself!
I worked in advertising for 25+ years and now am an art professor. I tell my students 2 things: design is done for somebody else because you are getting paid. It not and never was yours, so things will happen to the work that are beyond your control and you have to let it go. Find something at some point during that project that you love and make that yours. Keep files, or photos of that point and be proud of it. The other thing is "Success has many mothers. Failure is an orphan.," meaning others will take credit for your success, and you will be blamed for the failure whether it's your fault or not.
From the point of control, it's matters a lot more who is paying for the project, than it does the opinions of the engineers doing the work. It's tough to accept that, but learning it is the first step to being able to lead any engineering project. A smart and experienced engineer has not only the skill to know the correct way to go, but also how to explain it to the money guy.
well said....
I was also an advertising for 25+ years. Unfortunately, I was the head of the agency so everything was my responsibility and everything that happened was my fault. I remember working on a very complex brochure and got the company's phone number wrong. It was on the press and the client discovered the mistake. There was nothing I could do but admit the mistake, pay to get it fixed and move on. That mistake cost me $5,700. That was everything I was making on the brochure plus another $2,000. At that point I just had to suck it up, pay the bill and keep moving.
There was no way to determine who made the mistake but the thing is the client didn't care who made it. All he cared about was that the mistake got fixed and I paid for the fix.
Like Adam advised, we can change what already happened but we could analyze the situation and move ahead. From that point on we instituted a rigorous proofing system that required each person to sign off at each stage, including the client! Once we had that signature, we were gold. It was a "valuable" lesson in more ways than one.
Even if you think you are at the top of the food chain, you are always working for somebody else.
At one of the lowest point of Adam's life, he calls his father.. that really touch me, made my eyes watery. I lost my father a year ago and I miss him soon much, his advice was full of wisdom and 100% on my side, even when he told me I'm wrong
On the "Not taking it personally" point, I want to add one thought: This is a process, not a step. You can't just decide to not take it personally and be done. Human beings don't work that way. You will need to remind yourself repeatedly as you obsess about it, not to take it personally. You may need to actually plan out other things to think about when you catch yourself taking it personally and intentionally when you start obsessing. It may be the work of days, weeks, or months depending on you and all the other variables of the situation. But it is exactly what you need to do. Work at not taking it personally and grab what valuable knowledge you can from the experience.
Great advice. The thing I learned after many years, is if you are not initially aligned with the plan or design.. take a breath.. step away, think about it and think about what is in your best interests. Often you will find that it doesn't matter as much as you first thought it did in the grander scheme, especially when you get to the level that you understand how difficult it is to actually co-ordinate a group of expert individuals. If it does really matter, then you can think through the deeper reasons why, and how to best communicate that. Never knee-jerk! It's almost always the wrong thing to do.
@@technokicksyourass Spot on,
I agree in general, but I'd add that none of us know how any one individual experiences life. We can't have a categorical certainty for a sapient species, it tends towards outliers being forgotten, ignored, or hated.
Thank you. Your comment is 100% spot on. I used to beat myself up because I thought I should be able to move on quickly from a bad experience but I couldn't do it. Overtime I realized (like you said) it is a process and that I have to remind myself repeatedly to not take things personally as I obsess over a bad experience.
To make a coworker, subordinate or otherwise, feel better after messing up, I always find myself saying, “Today its you, tomorrow it’ll be me.”
This comes true all too often, and it’s nice to hear it being said back to me when I’m in the dumps.
Jamie's story is gold and universal, that can be used in almost anyone's daily life and business.
There is something so beautiful about Jamie. No bs, just utilitarian straightforwardness.
Get r done
“the prop self destructed.” IM DYING THIS IS HILARIOUS im just imagining his stoic face delivering that hehehe
I died when I heard that too. HAHA. It's just utterly FUBAR'd lol
I love the last story, because Jamie had it 100% right. Don't be the person with the problem, but the person with the solution. It's important to look forward, not back. Immediately, how are you going to proceed, and later how are you going to prevent it from recurring?
It ties back to focusing on what you can control.
And not dwelling on what’s already happened and can’t be changed.
Once, our company accepted a contract to build an assembly. Early in the project, my co-workers had a question about a design requirement, and scheduled a trip to the customer to ask basically, 'What does this mean?' Before they left, however, their boss told them to make up plans for their response. It looked much better to be proactive and already have solutions ready to implement, as opposed to 'OK, we'll work on it.'
My daughter became an engineer because of you. Now she's starting her career and your advice for her is so useful and practical. Your continue to mentor her.
From bitter personal experience of working for customers who thought they knew better, if they tell (they don't usually ask) you to do something you believe to be unwise - write down your advice that it's not a good idea and why, give them a copy and get them to sign off on it - a literal signature and if they won't sign, leave the job, if it does indeed go bad, show them the signature.
I've had to do that a couple of times and in both cases they threw me off the job for my "I told you so" moment - they didn't realise they were doing me a favour.
This is the way. Whether its a customer or a supervisor giving you these instructions, make sure you have those instructions, in incontrovertible form, as well as your objection.
Then, go ahead and take pride in delivering the best possible version of a stupid thing. Let everyone else lose time worrying about it.
"You want to pay me to do the dumbest possible version? Okay. You're signing the front of the check, I'll sign the back"
Yep. Get it in writing, and provide your reasoning (again in writing) as well. Keeping a paper trail of bad ideas saves you so much grief in the long run.
You should not do the classic "i told you so," you don't have to. Just provide the documentation and walk away.
This can save you from painful lawsuits. When a customer insists you take an approach that you've warned them not to, it's really difficult for them to blame you for the result. But you HAVE to document it and get them to sign off. In other words, C Y A !!!!
That's why I prefer to get most of the important stuff using email or some other traceable means of communication.
Once, in order to make sure there were some kind of traceability, I actually wrote my supervisor en email after a physical meeting, outlining what had occurred at the meeting, and asked her to return to me only if she wanted to correct anything, and telling her that the absence of an answer would be an acknowledgement of my interpretation of the decisions of the meeting.
Her answer? "I can neither confirm, nor deny..."
Really? What kind of boss is that?
@@CBDuRietz One that is trying to cover her a$$ no matter what. It's funny that she thought that her reply would help her from being held accountable.
When I was an apprentice sculptor/moldmaker at a statuary run by Italian immigrants I once humiliated myself by not listening carefully to the old guy’s advice on how I was approaching a project. Instead, I explained how smart I was and why my idea was better. When we got back from lunch, we discovered my project had literally shattered into 7 pieces. The old guys explained to me why…. But then they spent the rest of the afternoon ridiculing me and laughing about it. Being young and full of myself, I responded by acting resentful and moody. And that’s when the old Italian came over and said the thing that changed my life and gave me wisdom. He said, “hey, hard head… listen. For twenty-five years I have waited for My turn to laugh. Don’t you try to take that away from me.”
With every new crop of apprentices, I get to tell them the same.
In my studio, mistakes and disasters are not a cause for yelling or blaming… but for my turn to laugh. And I have always found that my apprentices learn the most from seeing the various inventive ways I recover from a disaster to bring in the project after all.
What more people need to do is to COVER THEIR ARSE! If you tell someone that their proposed action is gonna end badly, and they choose to proceed with it anyway, make sure you have it on record that you warned them so you can't get blamed.
Great advice, but having a bulletproof audit trail doesn't mean you won't get blamed. I got a ding on a performance review a few years back for "not completing a project quickly enough", despite the fact I had it finished and an approved technical review more than two weeks prior to the deadline (with the signature of the lead saying I was slow, no less), and an email trail indicating such. I sent the appropriate forms to HR formally disputing the performance review, complete with supporting evidence, and it made no difference. At another employer around 20 years ago, I got formally disciplined (and quit a few weeks later) because someone took some code that I had in the repository that I'd put in a special branch and very clearly marked "not finished due to customer [name] bankruptcy - it doesn't work and do not use as-is", used it verbatim in a production build for another customer (complete with those comments and the other customer's name), and that code repeatedly crashed that customer's production system, costing them hundreds of thousands of dollars and inconveniencing thousands of THEIR customers. Again, I had all the commit records and emails that proved I properly did everything I was responsible for (and incidentally showed whose fault it really was, although that wasn't my intent), and again, no one cared about that and the idiot that blindly put untested code into a customer deliverable saw no consequences. I've learned not to dwell on these things and to have confidence that I am in fact a competent engineer. Idiots are gonna idiot, nothing is going to change that, and fortunately I now have the luxury of being able to choose never again to work with leads/supervisors once they've proven to be untrustworthy or incompetent.
I agree with that perspective on letting stuff go. I've always called it stoicism: referring to the classical philosophy rather than the modern meaning of being stoic.
Modern stoicism is just emotional repression. Its a fkn plague.
After my first experience of my advice which predicted a problem which did occur not being listened to when I lacked authority, I resolved that such is only offered in written form: e-mail, software messenger, text, etc and not verbally. And then not brought up by me ever (I’m not out to “I told you so”) *unless* some blame came my way. Because *then* you whip out that written record and remind of your previous position. This has served to defend me at that moment but also made others start to listen to my future written “heads up” when offered.
The VERY first thing our Company Commander taught us was ALWAYS, ALWAYS cover your ass. Sound advice that kept me out of the brig several times.
I wanted to make this comment as well.
As mentioned, don't bring it up, unless you receive SERIOUS blowback, and even then, be contrite, and don't flaunt it.
I've gained more trust and understanding by failling on my sword, even if it wasn't necessarily my fault. One big point: I worked at a pretty good place with a good supervisor. The attitude of "let's spend time fixing, not finger pointing" was the usual paradigm in our department, which made this feasible.
I’ve heard this advice before, and it probably does work, but I’ve always avoided that approach in my career because it inherently positions your collaborators as your enemies. As people you need to defend yourself from. I’d rather embrace my team and try to make whatever we’re doing into a success as best I can. If it fails, y’know whatever maybe my thing would have failed too.
Maybe I’m just lucky to have worked at places that never scapegoated me for anything that was the opposite of my suggestion. I’d just hate to work somewhere where I felt like everyone was out to get me and I have to spend my time gathering evidence of my competency.
I came to say the same think. Written proof to cover your ass. I have been at the same company 21 years and this has saved me a few times. People tried pinning screw ups on me, but then I pull out an email either showing I pointed this out and was ignored, or atleast an email with someone higher up telling me to do it.
Never delete an email, I also make it a point to make sure everyone that I know who works with me knows that I record all of my phone calls. It has saved me so many times on scope creep by the customer. Also be very clear that scope creep is going to cost more and delay delivery.
I got called in to do a financial analysis of my company as, despite my junior position, I was good with spreadsheets. I showed them that the decision they were making - to change direction and bet the company on a new idea (directly competing with Amazon) had no road to profitability. Obviously they ignored me and chose the stupid path. 12 months later the company went into a death spiral and I got 3 months redundancy. Now I'm starting my own business and trying to make a similar company while learning from their stupid mistakes.
That story about Jamie.... wow. As a mechanical engineer who has to deal with situations like that a lot, all I can say is thank you thank you thank you. I literally wrote down that story so I remember to apply that wisdom in the future.
The best advice i ever got working with miniatures/props was "these arent your creations, dont get upset when they get trashed" and i remind myself of this every day
Stoics have a philosophy that helps in these sorts of situations. Base success by creating goals that you have control over. In a lot of cases all you can control is how you behave in the situation or the effort you bring to the table. If you do your best, consider it a success because you stayed true to your own purpose and work ethic.
You are lucky you work in a field that people move on after an error. My old work place was " As long as we can blame someone it's Ok". They can make the same error over and over.
Adam, thank you for being so open and so honest, especially about painful or difficult questions.
I grew up with essentially absentee role models. So so many of life’s lessons I had to learn on my own and had zero guidance; nobody with whom to bounce things off of. Nobody from whom to seek counsel. Nobody to let me know that these challenges are common and difficult and how to deal with them.
So thank you for being - in a distant way - that reassuring voice and provider of wisdom and guidance, along with serving as an example of how to be hoped and honest and forthright.
Grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to tell them off, and the wisdom to leave them alone.
Adam, the last time I had food poisoning like that I was in Chicago for Wired magazine's NextFest event in 2005. It was literally the day after press day, and on press day we met you and Jaime because you were there for Mythbusters checking all the cool new gadgets out including ours. We were riding high after press day, went out to eat somewhere on the pier, and the next morning I couldn't move - my father was so upset because I was the demo guy that showed off the thing we'd been working on, and he didn't believe I was actually sick either - at least not at first, and it was a horrible feeling. I didn't want to let him down but I couldn't move either! I did end up making it out there later in the day, caught a cab from the hotel feeling all woozy after most of the food poisoning had passed. Anyway, I thought I'd share that :]
This came at the perfect time. I just got dumped. I wanted her back so bad. She wasn’t just someone I fell in love with, I just loved having her in my life as a friend too. But I love her enough to do what’s best for her. I tried my best, but nothing I could have said would have changed her mind. She’s gone, and that’s okay.
If you loved yourself enough to do what’s best for yourself, would you want someone like that back?
@@jackthompson6296 i don’t know. Ill never know. It is what it is. I gotta keep moving forward.
@@MrSaiLikesPie That's a good way of looking at it. I had the same thing happen many years ago, and while it hurts losing someone from your life, it helps to understand that if she'd stayed even though she didn't want to, it likely would ended up, so, so much worse. Once I finally got that understanding locked into my head, things got a lot easier. I still think of her occasionally even now, but I know now that what happened was the best possible outcome even though it was devastating at the time.
Haha… clients that are annoying… we used to have a phrase for that at work “Some people’s money just isn’t worth it”!
I recently had a job go bad. I realized the client was absolutely crazy and didn't actually understand what they wanted, and kept defaulting to "Rinoa doesn't know how to do this" every time I'd spend time working instead of telling her I can do it. I had devoted two days a week to her project and she didn't have a capacity to manage what she said she wanted. I had to walk away. I made sure to get my money though.
Definitely one of the most important things Ive learned over the years in dealing with bosses, in any arena, is if something you are working on fails, have a couple of options on how to proceed when you break the news to them. They may not take up any of your suggestions, but it does give them a sense that you are of value to the project.
Tell them quickly as well. Dont let them find out and then have to explain it. Go directly to them and explain.
That accountability is worth a lot.
In my line of work I’m often under pressure from others in my organisation, many of which are “senior” but not necessarily more experienced.
Sometimes, stuff goes wrong and tasks don’t go to plan. I deal with those moments by assuring myself that I done the best with the details/equipment/resources I had available at the time. I take on board lessons learned and remain humble when being guided by those that are more experienced.
“Every day is a school day” is a personal mantra for my role. 17 years into my career with my company, I continue to learn and develop.
My advice to those in junior roles looking to progress to my level and beyond is “Always know that you’ve done your best. Don’t let control bully you, you know more than they do. Don’t take it personally when you are pulled aside. Don’t let bad working relationships fester.”
What I love about these videos is you can take the topic of the subject matter, plug and play your own kind of situation into it and still have things to take away from the experiences and advice Adam is giving
Some of the best career advice I’ve heard Adam. At 55, you are spot on correct about early days and no control or say, or luxury for when established to turn down clients, etc.
Whether or not I knew this stuff……it still feels REALLY good to hear this right now..
I bounce back and forth between different types of channels on here. I usually come back to Adam every month or two. And every time I come back. I’m blown away by his knowledge his life memories. And his incredible ability to remember things. He has probably forgotten more than I will ever know in this world of makers. I would love to sit in his shop and just watch, listen and soak it all in. He’s incredible!
I dont know if that story with Jamie is something that happened more than once, or it was the same story Adam has told before, but I love that lesson and its something i try to always remember
This video couldn't have come at a better time, as I have recently had a situation at work where I acted NOT as I should have, and affected a friendship. I've taken the same tack, resolving to see what I did wrong and never repeat it. Thanks for the wisdom and reassurance that we're all in this journey together.
I learned early on in my career as a Mechanical Engineer that you leave your ego at the door when you get to work and pick it up on your way out! I'll try to keep this short, but a perfect example was one Friday at almost 5:00 my boss called me in his office and told me there was an emergency and asked if I could stay and help the shop crew get a BIG Diesel engine ready to ship to a customer. Of course, I said yes!
What we had to do was take a basic V12 twin turbo engine and reconfigure it to the customer's spec. We spent the next several hours taking things off and putting things on (at least they ordered pizza and being a German company we had beer on hand, one of the perks of that job). So, midnight rolls around and I asked if there was anything else they needed me to do. They said no and I left.
Monday morning my boss called me again and said: "Why didn't that engine ship"? Apparently, THEY expected me to make the shipping arrangements, and nobody told me that! Shipping dept was long closed before we even got started! I didn't have any information as to the customer, how it was to be shipped, nothing. The semi showed up about a half hour after I left!
I explained all this to my boss, and he understood. 😁
Thanks Adam, I'm tried so many things and not giving up. This is what I needed as maker.
I appreciate you sharing your experiences and advices, Adam. These types of videos are priceless. More people should take the huge opportunity to listen to these.
The answer to the first question is lovely. So humble. Fair play to you fella.
I loved the thoughtful energy you poured into your answers this morning
This is just what I needed today. Been taking a lot of stuff personally that I simply have little to no control over. Back to practicing that skill set again. Thank you.
Thank you for this
I needed to hear this
Love when you get real with us! Can't believe how long ago its been since i was first introduced to you on mythbusters in my teens and how blessed we are to have continued access to your content long after the show. Hope to have a chance to actually meet in person someday and talk like normal people, completely unrelated to anything about your career or history.
Adam, it's beyond surreal to see these videos. seems like just a minute ago, i was a kid watching mythbusters. so much has changed, and words fail to express how much we needed this. thank you, adam. thank you for everything
Excellent insight. I've loved watching your project videos for a long time, but these talks have become one of my favorite parts of your channel. Always appreciate your thoughts and insights, and it helps a lot.
I really really really appreciate Adam’s advice for struggling artists in various circumstances
About the screw up blaming... Honestly there's an age you get to that being pedagogic is just a waste of time. The person knows they screwed up and by this point you know if the person is willing to do better or not...
Thanks Adam. That really helps
Truly inspiring for me to hear this morning! Thanks so much Adam! :)
Broadcast Radio is also notorious for this type of stuff. Of course, it occurs everywhere, but the stories Radio people have are... shall we say, very entertaining. Thanks Adam! 😊
Thank you. It’s advice that I know, but it still feels good to hear it.
Yup, I think I said it on one of your last stream videos. When something goes wrong, it's not who's to blame or anything else, it's what do we do now to fix it. Going to the customer and saying we can do x, y, or z and these are the pros/cons (to them, not to you) to each option always work out.
I really needed to hear this 20+ years ago. Good advice.
Thank you for this Adam.
Dude this is so real.
"The only thing you can do is resolve not to do it again."
Preach
All of your anecdotes and tales are incredible, but I really especially enjoyed today's. Thank you!
I have multiple Serenity Prayers around the house, kitchen counter, right by the front door, in my shop, in the lab, by my work computer. People that come over and about the time they find the second or third one say “this explains a lot about you”.
I found it in a fiction book and been toying with the idea of tattooing it or at least some part because how important it is to keept it in front of me anytime something not so great happens
Live. Laugh. Love.
Absolutely love these, thank you @adam savage!
OMG. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and anecdotal commiseration.
You are my biggest inspiration thank you for everything you have done
you bring so much wisdom and insight to this world
This video has so much wisdom packed into it. So much so that I'm sure give me 5yrs from now and I'll still find something new and relatable to pull from. A lot of what you're highlighting sounds simple but only because of your experience behind it - similar to how Olympians make their specific sport look easy, yet you know it's not. Damn... good stuff. Thanks Adam and team.
Adam has such a wonderful wealth of knowledge and experience. It can feel like a bottomless well of insight. I don't manage to catch these videos very much, but I'm so glad I caught this one. I took something big from every second. Thank you for making these. I look forward to more.
Fantastic advice, I needed to hear this!!
I just discovered your channel! I too worked in the entertainment industry for about 25 years and really appreciate your insights. I can relate to all of it. Thanks so much!
I love this video so very, very much. I've watched it multiple times. Thank you for posting it, Adam.
Dont miss the loadout!!!! So true. Excellent advice all around.
Really loving these insights! Thank you!
You are such a great man Adam. Truly a brilliant role model of our modern age.
Having passed 10 years in the same industry, I find more and more like Adam's advice is the kind if advice I would give. Lucky to have grown up watching this dude.
Great vid, again... as always, I would say.
And it is so good to hear about some Jamie moment.
I WISH I could read a book written by each one of you two, guys. 📖📚
Both Adam and Jamie have SO MUCH TO SHARE.
I needed this! Thank you
This is so applicable in so many professions. I was a customer service manager for several homebuilders over the span of 26 years. When you have eight or ten different subcontractors to manage, there were times when the wheels came off the wagon for one reason or another which left me facing the wrath of a homeowner. It was very tough to not take it personally and my very understanding boss had to talk me off the ledge a few times.
incredible advice that goes far far beyond making or art. Thanks Adam and crew
why is it when im at my worse, i always watch one of your videos and you mention the serenity prayer(this isnt the first time its happened), thank you Adam, needed to hear that today.
As someone who is self-employed along with my fiancee, this is INDISPENSABLE wisdom. Some, I'm already familiar with, but regardless it's just good to hear again and again.
Yes i have heard of and used the A, B, or C method to resolve problems in the past! And it works! When a customer wasn't happy with a product or service I used to apologies and that resulted in an unhappy customer with negative feedback. But if I offer options to the problem they will always pick one option A, B, or C as a resolution to the problem, it's truly amazing I think it's a brain trick or something...
Great stories and advice! I think more people need to hear this!
Didn't know I needed to hear this. Thanks
When your in charge in future, remember to be humble and listen to those around you and be able to admit in real time that you might be wrong.. might.
"never a problem, always a solution" that is a thing my dad would say when you had one of those bad days at work, sure it might take a tea break to think of the solution and overall cost a bit of money and time to get the job done but these things happen, you take the next best option and people that cant understand that should probably not be in business.
On the last one, I was reminded of a Tim Roth anecdote.
For some scene he's supposed to drive a car on a road next to a very steep slope, with two stars in the rear, that are bigger stars than himself - his words. He loses control, goes off the side and hits every rock on the way. When the car came to a halt, he thought his career was over. The stars in the back were laughing their asses off, the crew comes over and starts taking selfies and the director (i think) says to Roth: "Insurance will cover it"
Thank you Adam, you help me a lot!
Amazing advice Adam. You're a treasure and a mentor to millions
If you know you aren't at fault and you weren't the decision maker then just politely pass the buck towards the person making decisions and tell the person if you have a problem with the results take it up with the person in charge. If the person in charge comes at you then tell them I told you so and don't use them as a reference if fired. Once had a worker on a different shift who chewed me and my coworker out for not doing our part of a job. I was new and felt horrible about it. My coworker told him, "if you have a problem with our work then go talk to our supervisor or have your supervisor talk to ours." Turned out he wasn't doing his job at all and was just hiding out and hoping other people would do it for him. He later got fired after getting caught not doing multiple other jobs.
My boss has always said never go to the client with a problem without multiple solutions. It’s served me well for over 10 years now.
One of my best bosses must have been from the film indusstry. As a Junior designer in the mid 1980s, her response to anything that went wrong was, "It's my fault. Now how do we fix this." No finger pointing, no deflection whether it was design or production, just what will it take to deliver what the customer ordered.
So much wisdom here... ❤
Apropos of nothing in the video, but... I wanted to compliment how the recent rearrangement of the cave has positively impacted the lighting in videos like this. Not that the lighting was in any way bad before, but it is so nice to see some natural light coming in as you are talking. Gives the video a nice comfortable feel.
I've found (in my career as a CS teacher) that having a few backup solutions and suggestions ready is a great way to make bosses not explode when given bad news. Generally, bosses seem to like solution-oriented employees. Not all of them of course, a lot of bosses are assholes. But in general. "Here's a problem I've noticed and here are three possible solutions, would you like me to start implementing one of them or do you have another suggestion?" usually leads to me getting to do the option I wanted. Providing them with solutions means they don't have to think of solutions, win-win =)
Not just bosses I think, but people in general like it if you have thought about a solution already before you present them with a problem. That just shows you aren't lazy and expect them to fix it for you.
this was great - thanks Adam
The now what is next lesson you showcase is great. Thanks for the multi focuses of content.
TY Adam. This helps.
Hey! Wanted to say thank you. I had a rough day and this helped me.
Thank you Adam, I really needed to hear this today! I just recently had a performance review at work and for the most part everything I do in my role is going well there were a few things that were mentioned to me. As someone with ADHD, the work I had delivered I thought I did it well from a creative aspect and received positive feedback from peers but from a managers point of view I needed to improve on.
9:45 I love what Jamie said in this story, you always want to go to your boss or whoever with a solution, never just go to them with a problem. My dad's told me this before and he's so right.
I like the fact that Adam answered the first request for advice, but deftly framed it in such a way that it politely cut through the member's, let's call it "un-self-critical", presentation of the situation. I'm sure we all can feel victimized at times by management, but advice about honest self-awareness without being accusatory is always helpful.
Tu message I needed today. Thank you
Jamie's suggestion of a set of solutions is one that I've used (in a completely different industry) and it works. Your superiors obviously want what they asked for, but when things go wrong they don't want excuses, they want solutions.