I had a similar experience. True words 🎯 it’s best to walk away. I did 💯 it’s the best thing because he will be expecting the benefits of a wife /marriage with no commitment ❌
You mentioned that he said he witnessed traumatic experiences surrounding marriages growing up. That is a legitimate issue most persons grow up with (especially those that lived in households that ended up in divorce). It does have a mental impact on people's perceptions, especially if it goes unresolved. As his gf at the time, did you try enouraging him to seek help to overcome those experiences in the form of counseling for example, instead of trying to make him see why you were the chosen one? I gather from this video that you may not have done that (I could be wrong) and based on your upbringing, you were just unable to relate to his perspective and couldn't not see why he was unable to see things from your narrative. Trying to "convince" him (or anyone for that matter) that you are the "different" one most likely will never work unless they are able to work through those issues first. It doesn't sound like he was a bad person (yes, I know you made no mention of that in this vid), it just sounded like he had unresolved issues to work through. Who knows, maybe deep down that's exactly what he wanted too.. but because he didn't take steps to properly address the trauma he witnessed, he made other's people's reality guide what he may or may not have thought was the 'right' narrative of never wanting to get married.
Thanks so much for your comment. I did encourage him to seek help to work through some issues as I knew of the specific circumstances that led to his lack of belief in marriage. I encouraged him more so to ensure his mental well being than me trying to convince as I truly loved him. And though I understand what you are saying I also believe that if it is a case where he needs to seek help to resolve those issues, it is best he does that outside of the context of being in a relationship with someone who desires marriage. Because once he knows of the desire for marriage there will always be some level of pressure on him even if she isn't verbally pressuring him. He didn't have an issue with commitment. He just didn't want marriage. Hence my advice to ladies, to not stay. If after a break up he decides to seek help and resolves those issues (on his own accord without any pressure) and he reapproaches with the desire to marry then by all means work it out. But I don't believe in staying in a relationship where a fundamental core belief is different.
@@Ninabeana13 You've given him everything he can get from a marriage, what does he have to marry you for? This was why our forefathers came up with the marriage institution in the 1st place. This behaviour is not new. Allow a man to his devices and he will ride you to the fullest and discard you when he's done, and move on. Marriage made it very hard for men to move on, it also SEVERELY punishes them for leaving.You modern women think you're smarter or more sophisticated than your grandparents.
I walked away from a 15 month relationship. 3 years later we both realized nothing was out here and I left because I was 27 & wanted marriage & a baby. He already has 2 kids who he has full custody of with 2 different women who used him & are deadbeat mothers so he got with me and said “marriage is just a piece of baby” but was engaged to his 2nd bm and said he was trying something new. We both have grown in these 3 yrs but we are starting to debate again because my deal breakers remain the same except id sacrifice not having another child however he says he sees me in his future but doesn’t state as a WIFE!
Cause marriage don't mean nothing but inviting the government in your business if yall happy together why you need legal license to validate your relationship
It’s confusing for me because getting into a home and being on a mortgage is just as much as a financial contract as a marriage… I feel like it’s an excuse
Successful men already have their own homes. Getting married doesn't stop your partner from cheating or leaving you. women initiate over 70 percent of the divorces according to the ASA. With over 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, the risk is very real that you could end in financial ruin as a man especially if you are successful. Over 90 percent of alimony is awarded to women. Imagine your husband cheats on you and you have give him your house that you paid for and give her alimony while he has a new younger gf living in it? No fault divorce allows that to happen. Women break marriages more often and the data is very clear. Even lesbian relationships have higher divorce rates than heterosexual ones. How can we shame men for not wanting marriage when it is women on average who are breaking the majority of them? That makes no sense.
most millionaire are married and have kids in wedlock, they re then blessed by the most high as is their progeny... keep following the fools that want your seed to be in misery out of wedlock and to not obey god and live in sin thinking yourself smart
I’ll never get married long as the state is involved… I’ll stay a fucking bachelor . Or marry Islam women 😂. Y’all go ahead men marry a western girl & she can take u for everything u got . U don’t even have to cheat she can just get board & take it all
Wait, are you against the state or western women or both? I’m confused…but, if you don’t believe in marriage you shouldn’t believe in relationships and having a child with someone either ‘cause expending assets/resources are involved either way
Well said. The worst thing you can do is compromise your values to try and keep a relationship. It never works. You end up living in regret.
That is exactly it!
I had a similar experience. True words 🎯 it’s best to walk away. I did 💯 it’s the best thing because he will be expecting the benefits of a wife /marriage with no commitment ❌
Yessssssss. Girl you out here preaching!!!! Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?
He was no less committed to you than if you guys were married.
@@alex124241 Absolutely. Marriage does not always mean commitment.
@@NaturallyPaige876ur obsessed wit marriage and not love. Marriage doesn’t change anything u just want status
@@NaturallyPaige876you destroyed a good relationship over a piece of paper be honest what changes after you get married nothing
Omg I’ve heard so many channels that are wonderful but you have spoken to my heart .
He is a smart man like me. We all know women are in business for financial reasons when it comes to marriage. Please do not get married y'all 🙏🏽
You mentioned that he said he witnessed traumatic experiences surrounding marriages growing up. That is a legitimate issue most persons grow up with (especially those that lived in households that ended up in divorce). It does have a mental impact on people's perceptions, especially if it goes unresolved. As his gf at the time, did you try enouraging him to seek help to overcome those experiences in the form of counseling for example, instead of trying to make him see why you were the chosen one? I gather from this video that you may not have done that (I could be wrong) and based on your upbringing, you were just unable to relate to his perspective and couldn't not see why he was unable to see things from your narrative. Trying to "convince" him (or anyone for that matter) that you are the "different" one most likely will never work unless they are able to work through those issues first. It doesn't sound like he was a bad person (yes, I know you made no mention of that in this vid), it just sounded like he had unresolved issues to work through. Who knows, maybe deep down that's exactly what he wanted too.. but because he didn't take steps to properly address the trauma he witnessed, he made other's people's reality guide what he may or may not have thought was the 'right' narrative of never wanting to get married.
Thanks so much for your comment. I did encourage him to seek help to work through some issues as I knew of the specific circumstances that led to his lack of belief in marriage. I encouraged him more so to ensure his mental well being than me trying to convince as I truly loved him. And though I understand what you are saying I also believe that if it is a case where he needs to seek help to resolve those issues, it is best he does that outside of the context of being in a relationship with someone who desires marriage. Because once he knows of the desire for marriage there will always be some level of pressure on him even if she isn't verbally pressuring him. He didn't have an issue with commitment. He just didn't want marriage. Hence my advice to ladies, to not stay. If after a break up he decides to seek help and resolves those issues (on his own accord without any pressure) and he reapproaches with the desire to marry then by all means work it out. But I don't believe in staying in a relationship where a fundamental core belief is different.
@@NaturallyPaige876 did you put forward a prenup to ease some of the concerns regarding the marriage laws?
@@SwaeTech i sure did! Told him I'd be willing to sign anything as I was not in it for his money and surely wasn't looking at an exit strategy
@@NaturallyPaige876 he missed out on a rare thing.
@@Ninabeana13 You've given him everything he can get from a marriage, what does he have to marry you for? This was why our forefathers came up with the marriage institution in the 1st place. This behaviour is not new. Allow a man to his devices and he will ride you to the fullest and discard you when he's done, and move on. Marriage made it very hard for men to move on, it also SEVERELY punishes them for leaving.You modern women think you're smarter or more sophisticated than your grandparents.
I walked away from a 15 month relationship. 3 years later we both realized nothing was out here and I left because I was 27 & wanted marriage & a baby. He already has 2 kids who he has full custody of with 2 different women who used him & are deadbeat mothers so he got with me and said “marriage is just a piece of baby” but was engaged to his 2nd bm and said he was trying something new. We both have grown in these 3 yrs but we are starting to debate again because my deal breakers remain the same except id sacrifice not having another child however he says he sees me in his future but doesn’t state as a WIFE!
I wish you went into what he’d gain through the marriage
Trix are for kids keep it playah gentlemen
why do men do this? how can a man love you so much but doesn't want to marry you??? how???
That’s cuz some men don’t believe in marriage.
Cause marriage don't mean nothing but inviting the government in your business if yall happy together why you need legal license to validate your relationship
Because marriage has nothing to do with love
It’s confusing for me because getting into a home and being on a mortgage is just as much as a financial contract as a marriage… I feel like it’s an excuse
Successful men already have their own homes. Getting married doesn't stop your partner from cheating or leaving you.
women initiate over 70 percent of the divorces according to the ASA. With over 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, the risk is very real that you could end in financial ruin as a man especially if you are successful. Over 90 percent of alimony is awarded to women. Imagine your husband cheats on you and you have give him your house that you paid for and give her alimony while he has a new younger gf living in it? No fault divorce allows that to happen. Women break marriages more often and the data is very clear. Even lesbian relationships have higher divorce rates than heterosexual ones. How can we shame men for not wanting marriage when it is women on average who are breaking the majority of them? That makes no sense.
Very good content! Keep em coming Paige!
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It’s funny they don’t talk that way when they’re sitting next to their divorce lawyer across from unit at the table
It's better to never get married or get her pregnant.
most millionaire are married and have kids in wedlock, they re then blessed by the most high as is their progeny... keep following the fools that want your seed to be in misery out of wedlock and to not obey god and live in sin thinking yourself smart
I’ll never get married long as the state is involved… I’ll stay a fucking bachelor . Or marry Islam women 😂. Y’all go ahead men marry a western girl & she can take u for everything u got . U don’t even have to cheat she can just get board & take it all
But most of y’all don’t have anything.
I agree with you Michael 😊
@@foreverolly8864yall don't get it female really don't get it
Wait, are you against the state or western women or both? I’m confused…but, if you don’t believe in marriage you shouldn’t believe in relationships and having a child with someone either ‘cause expending assets/resources are involved either way
@@purplepride94 A gf is 10x better than a wife
Marriage is the stupidest thing a man can do. Waste of time and money.
As if women don't do most of the work