So many women have a huge list of demands for the man they want to marry. They'll bed tons of guys who don't make that list. So at 30, they reconsider the list, have two kids from "hot datable guys" and want a guy that will be a stepfather. No upside for the guy.
@Chandra Gupta Yes . Yes, exactly. The girl will usually choose a regular kind of guy with a house and good income. They need a good man to be stepfather to the two or three kids she has had from club scene guys
@@ravenswood118 I'm not complaining in the least. I have been married for 22 years to a remarkable woman whom I adore. But, God forbid, anything causes me that not be in this relationship, I would probably not date. I am very successful, due in a large part because of the support from my wonderful wife. So, if I were to be single again, what would be the upside of me getting married again. What is the upside of any successful man getting married?
@@jimwalker1242 I feel so bad for your wife. You don't know the upside to being married? Let me guess, you are only using her for her uterus and her value as a companion and friend means nothing to you. I hope she sees this and makes a better decision regarding staying married to you.
I guess Im asking the wrong place but does someone know of a tool to log back into an instagram account?? I stupidly lost the login password. I appreciate any assistance you can give me.
You see a hard working man. Good career, independent. Goes on a date gets turned down next thing you know you see that same woman in a relationship with a guy who looks like he hasn't showered in a week. I question the judgement of women. I know this from personal experience. Stay single and avoid relationships. Not worth the hassle glad I found out at 31.
Boi I found it at 25😎 ...wait a second im the boi there... whatever ;) jokes aside,well said mate. We have to bring to the table our best ...abd what we get in return?
@Alice Liddell you keep telling yourself that. Stay in shape and get a guy when you are in your mid 20’s or you will be overlooked by anyone with options
@Alice Liddell it depends on how old you are, but exceptions don’t make the rule. Mother Nature blesses women but then they get to the wall and meet the undefeated heavyweight champion of the world named Father Time.
That is right. In the 1960s women married before age 25 and probably had all of their children before age 35. Times have changed. Feminism told women they could wait and have it all. Women are waking up to the reality there are problems with this logic.
I'm one the rare few who are in their 30s. I want a woman to settle down with, I don't want to date anymore and constantly go through the talking stage, it gets old. I want my best friend.
Agree!!! I love friendship over relationships, the onky women im willing to chase and fight for is the one who wants a best friend to start a relationship, i knkw looks strange, but i want a friend who in addition can love me. (And take ny llve) but first of all she hadto be my FRIEND.
Ha. Maybe you just didn't learn to have fun with the talking stage all because you wanna settle down with life. If u wanna settle down, after all you made the rules. Don't come bitching to me if you can't settle down.
That's very sweet. The world needs more men like you. I hope you find your best friend! Remember though, you will still probably have to go on dates. But it is ok to straight up ask a woman if she's looking to settle down or what her timeline is (wait until the second convo though). If she can't be straight with you at that point, she isn't for you.
@@kittyfrog0 I should have been more clear on my post. I wouldn't mind taking my SO on dates, having date nights. They would be fun and joyous.:) thank you for thr sweet comment.
The real reason is because there are so many woman who have been making BAD CHOICES, now they think that men should accept that and men don’t believe that a woman who has been run through by every man in town is relationship material. The answer is simple, when you make BAD CHOICES it does matter, you want a good man then you should have been a good person.
Women, in reality, the wall doesn’t happen until you get in your 40’s but then you will have to be dating men in their 50s and 60s and most women won’t like dating someone that old and it could be difficult to find men in their 40’s wanting to date.
Ha. Maybe people just suck at life working 9-5 jobs, being stuck with their parents' dumb expectations because they're also afraid of looking bad. Better to raise your children in a town than a large city. At least, you can teach them the value of community.
Generally speaking, I think it’s best for women to date men 7-10 years older. Combine this with women seriously looking for a husband in their early to mid twenties would give them a much better chance of success! If women do find yourself in your 30’s and single, you’re either too career focused, you’re making terrible decisions when picking men or you’re too picky! When you’re in your 30’s, you competition are 20 year olds. Can’t have that same checklist you had in your 20’s!
@Shruti Tripathy ok, well India is a different culture. Over here in the States, people move different. The women here want guys to make 100k plus even when they are young in there early 20’s. The guys their age for the most part aren’t making anywhere near that, so ladies need to date older to find men that make the money they want!
🤣😂🤣😂🙄 lol, you chased the top 20% of guys for 15 years, and suddenly they're all gone in your 30s. Sorry you ghosted us for 15 years.. why would we pay attention? Its not about pressure, it's about donyou provide value to my life beyond sex?
Many reasons for the title of your video. One is- Men are very very convinced that a wedding ring kills the female sex drive. Marriage is absolutely where BJ's go to die. Men in their 30s would never sign up for that terrible deal. The modern 30 year old woman has bedded dozens of men. With each man she bedded- her chance of marriage dwindled. The affectionate warm soft spoken feminine woman is extremely rare in this modern era. Sad- those are the qualities that men find irresistible . Women with those qualities are all happily married. Her career, income, education level matter not a bit. Is she feminine and affectionate or is she a new hi-bred half male half female that will debate you over any and everything. Nonstop competition. Men have put up with nonstop competition since they were 5 years old. We will not put up with it the home. Men would rather live alone. And they are by the millions. You do not see endless videos on youtube of men desperate to find a marriage partner. Only females.
Men. I'm that rare women and I just come across players. What I see is there's not alot of men looking for a relationship. They can tell when things don't go as quickly as they like. I.e. jump into bed no thanks. FWB no not happening I value my time too much and I have more class than some other women plus I'm not trying to get an std. In my opinion if they know the girl well enough and not just trying to get a ring you should still want to do certain things. Just saying
@@candacehearn1771 Religious dating sites are full of men wanting marriage. You are dating f boys. You only have yourself to blame. Unfortunately religious women on religious dating sites in my experience don't want marriage.
I am exactly 30, and I can already see how hard it is. I wish I had met my soulmate in college. Now, seems like it's too late for me. I also wish I didn't focus to much in my degree and professional career.
There is no such a thing as a soulmate.. You women believe and repeat everything you hear on tv. Its a man with similar goals you have.. Soulmate what kinda bs is that. There is no career its a job. Find a man who has goals in life and if you like them support him. That is your 'career' in life.
@@mob2081 “you women believe and repeat everything you hear on tv” No, women don’t share the same brain. We don’t think the same or want the same in life. I used the word soulmate but I could just said “partner”. I agree with you with everything else you said, but still, somehow many single people in their 30’s carry a heavy baggage that make it hard to settle down.
Oke most women are followers you know that. Thats why you need a man who can lead and protect right.. So there wont be such a thing as a partner. Partners do almost everyrhing the same. Thats nr 1. Nr 2 baggage you also got yours. So accpt some baggage to find someone who accpt yours and move on. Your goals will distract you from the baggage of eachother. You both 'settle down'.
@@KaMi-gz1il reality is hard. Adapt or die. Cuz you didnt worked at relationship skills thats you find it hard. Its just like a job.. If you start working for a boss when you are 30 it will be hard. So what you gonna do. Complain about the bosses or adapt to job.
She failed to note that men in their 40's and 50's still choose women in their 20's. I see her trying to make herself appear better but no, she's done too.
Well maybe black men like you. Not every man in their 40s or 50s want woman in 20s. Yes maybe late 20s, but almost kid in their early 20s. Not everyone. Some men are looking for emotionally mature women and early 20s It's not like that. Don't forget that.
you should say that men in their 30's, 40's and even 50's have all the options because we have time. Time to get our financial house in order, time to travel, establish our careers and still have a family well into our 50's if we choose to. Older women should be going on a bus tour and telling these younger women that their 20's is the time to find a good man and build a solid relationship. Once they hit 25 the decline starts and by 35 it's really over if they are single. Hollywood and modern society has lied to them, they can't have it all.
@eman987 10 I think the point here is that your sexual attractiveness is defined by the other sex, regardless of whether it's "fair". Sure men get baldness (which is essentially curable now with surgeries, see Elon musk) and Ed (also usually highly treatable) but the real point is these are not significant hurdles to being attractive and tend to occur later in life. Men on the other hand statistically HIGHLY value youth and beauty in women, arguable it makes up the lion's share even of attractiveness, where as women just don't value youth the same and beauty is a more fluid concept to them. Therefore, men become the ones spoiled for choice as the dynamic shifts past 25 for women. It's like an attractive 18-22 year olds life experience for men at 30. And the very same desire to "discover themselves/not settle down too quick/taste the fruits of variety" is just as appealing for men as it was for women.
Answer: Their expectations are far too high and they all think they can tame the top 10% of men. The top 10% of men are not interested and the rest of us have learnt the hard way that women do not care about anything but themselves...and cats
Lol a woman in her 30’s has already given special experiences to a lot of men, ergo not bringing in anything unique so ….what she can expect is a partnership where she has to contribute equally that includes finances as well, it has to start with a prenup too.
Men in their 20s want practice. Young dumb and full of cumm. Women want staple man with resources what does a 20 yo man have accomplished? So its a win for men again.
Louanne, you have said it all yourself. In your subtext you say they "Don't need a man". Very true, they don't. So don't try and get one. Men are living things not the latest accessory for the woman who has everything.
I was in my 30s, had a great life, PhD, 100k income (circa 1995), 6 feet tall, full head of hair, and fit. All I wanted was a life partner to be the mother of my kids. She needed to be in the age range for this, i.e. under 32, No kids of her own yet Not crazy or addicted to something Physically fit, like me Not mired in debt There were no willing candidates. I looked for 10 years. Lots of women who didn't qualify. Lots of women who did, but didn't want to settle down just yet. I got a lot of action, but no one to marry. Where were all the good women?
If you really want an answer I’ll respectfully give you one. I fit your profile (and I just got my PhD), but I’m 32 (at the end of you range). I’d say you standards needed to be lowered. Women in their 20s do not want to date men in their 30s if they have two brain cells to run together. Women are not geriatric past 32 🙄. You probably missed out on a lot of great women by not looking for people your own age.
@@kittyfrog0 Stop lying. A 35 year old man that's good looking, tall, and has a good income could (and should) easily be able to marry a woman in her early 20s. The man said he wants children. And at 32 the majority of your eggs are depleted. Plus men are more attracted to younger women. That's just how men are wired. If he chooses to date a women his own age, then that's his choice. But it's not helpful to shame a man for going after what he wants.
1. Not sure what you think I’m lying about. 2. You really know nothing of female anatomy if your think eggs are “depleted” after 30 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 3. Why are SOME creepy men attracted to younger women? Because the young women often don’t know any better and he’s grooming her so he can control her (PhD in relationship science dude). 4. Y’all should be shamed for wanting to date children. The men who are “wired” that way are abusive predators. I would never be interested in anyone younger than 27. It would be like dating a child. I could easily control them. I would definelty have all the power in the relationship. But I’m not a gross creepy pedophile wannabee who wants to control my partner. I’m a grown woman who wants a adult man as my partner. 5. Seriously go learn more about female anatomy. 🤣😂🤣😂🤣
@@kittyfrog0 i started at 29. I more or less gave up in my early 40s. 32 was a little flexible, but one really ought to have ones first by 35. And I wanted some years as a childless couple, before going full nest. But nothing. It's as if American culture forgot how to raise daughters to be wives. This was 94-2005ish.
This is a fantastic video and speaks volumes of truth that reflects the current 2022 society. I know a 35 year old lawyer who runs her own business, earns over 6 figures, has her own penthouse in the City and is financially independent but she still can't find a suitable guy. She wants the man to be 6" tall, making a similar amount of money, also owns his home and is facially attractive yet all she gets are men that don't want a serious relationship. Well that's because men her age aren't looking for someone like her since they can date someone younger and more pretty...
@@pjjunior1402 there are good guys out there that dont think like that. i have friends with even 7-10 years younger men and kids with this men. doesnt matter if he is younger or older. is no money involved. this what you talking about i never seen here in europe. i also seen men say no to good looking young girl and choosed an older smarter girl even if he has more money. i think there are some scumbags here and there with that kind of mindset. but a real man he likes her for her. and he is not toxic. but if he has issues he might only want much younger girls. but that kind of men i would tell all girls to stay away from. and also if a girl asking for money i would tell guys the same. you can feel when someone are being mature. this you talked about i never seen here.
To be honest I don't know any girl in 30s that doesn't have some kind of financial debt or some kind of chronic disease or she is overweight to unhealthy level.
Women: why can't I find a nice guy like you. I'm a good woman. I'm not shallow. Women: your to short. Why are you not a ceo? You only make 60k a year? Wait I make more than you... gross. Are you loosing your hair. Your car it 15 years old? You never went to collage?
I m in my 39 and married for 14 years. He is 2 years older and we are very happy together. At that time I thought 25 was my best age so marry him in this age he would treat me nice when I got old since he would remember my best time. And yes he does, it worked. If one day I was divorced I can go for men 15 years older than me. When I was in my 20s I had no issue to date somebody 10 years+ . I think women with flexibility is easier to find somebody.
At 39, men of all ages are less likely to be into you Men 18 to 60 prefer women 18 to 24 Why would a man 15 years your age want you if he can get younger girls....
kenroy larmond Some yes but some not. I have quite a lot friends married same age women when they are in 30s. They want a life partner so age wasnt that important.
If women want to get married lock up a man for a husband by age 23. Successful men in their 30s are often dating women 10 years younger. So if a woman is over 30 it gets real difficult to find a man for marriage.
Ladies, don't worry too much about your biological clock. 😁 My family all the women had their kids age 38, 42, 39. If you're healthy and active, don't drink/don't smoke, you're going to be fertile. If you're family has a history of infertility than you should worry. But I'm seeing many older mothers and they look much younger than their age b/c of good lifestyle. Don't worry too much tbh 😉
Those women are already married and find someone in their 20s so you geving an advise but it's not relevant in this case. You are taking only about fertility but most men want youth and don't wanna lose time and effort in 30+ women it's like gambling on slot machine but a 20 years old women have a bigger chance of getting pregnant so0o0.
I've a close friend who's autistic that was caused by his mother having him at 43. He has the intellect of a 12 year old. He cannot learn job skills for more than most entry level jobs. He suffers from schizophrenia & depression. He's incapable of living on his own & must live with & be financially supported by his family for the rest of his life. This is what you're encouraging.
@@mob2081 i am sure there are women that like younger men too :D I had for most part younger men i am more drawn to them and i always been. but doesnt mean if you find the right person you love that he orshe has to be younger. so of men can have younger why cant a woman =P when i was 22 i was also with younger and not older than 3 years. so if men can choose like that we women can too :P i am 35 i would not want a 50 year old even if they can look great for thier age. we all have our preferences.
Point 1 4:00 is absolute truth. I prefer the maturity of girls mid 30s but the pressure is just too much. You can’t even have a normal progression because the biological clock is ticking like a jackhammer. They expect you to have a serious relationship and marriage within 6 months. I worked very hard to be successful and have a great life so that kind of aggressive timeframe is a huge turnoff.
By "mid 30s" the motherhood option should already be off the table, for a single childless woman. I'd want a childless couple life for 2-3 years before trying for a kid. So were I looking to be a dad, I'd rule out any candidate over 32.
@@michaelf7093 My mom had me and my sister at 38. Everyone in my family is really fertile. Everyone had kids in their late 30's. My Aunt had my cousin age 42. I don't think the biological clock applies to everyone.
Exactly. So many videos in my feed on dating are from so called "alpha" males. A lot of what they say is true, but overall is negative. It took me some time to dig, but finally coming across a female perspective is nice.
I think you should date whomever you want regardless of age. I don't know who came up with that women in their 20s want older men, I never did so ppl commenting lock them down makes no sense to me. I think it is important to be happy and that has to do with getting along and being attracted, not their age
@@Madanth0ny yes women can have babies into their 40s now but I already have a son so that isn't my point. I just never went out of my way to meet older or younger, it's about chemistry. If you are wanting a bunch of babies and get with someone solely for that purpose, I doubt it will last.
@Alice Liddell They are those kind of men whose women always found a reason to reject. They keep talking about women in 20's as if they can get one? Only goldiggers will date their kind. 😂 Let them say whatever in anger and frustrations. It is their only freedom of expression.😆
A females personal power is so high for a decade, say 15-25. But a mans is less powerful, but spread out for decades. In the end, its all fair. Womens preference for men are all over the place., but every man, from 15-100yo wants a 20yo. Peace
Majority of men have no power throughout his whole life if we are talking about relationships out of marriage, just sex with some romance. Women even at her 40th, 50th have better and more options if we are talking only having lovers and don't worry women also love young bodies, youthful and energetic people attract everyone not only men, and women are more successful at having young lovers than men; however, If we talking about marriage, yes here men have some power, but lets be realistic who really needs official marriage after 40th 50th? Everyone just need normal companionship without any burden of taking care of other person. Especially now family as an institute is falling apart .
@@primaprima9341 The truth is women have as much power as men give them. In western society, women are empowered their entire life. It's a form a social engineering and its keeping the population from growing too big. Women are not being sensible and having children when they are in their 20s anymore. Who knows what long term implications this will have for their children. America is certainly falling from "within".
@Chandra Gupta And what's your point, the same exact thing can be said for men. Maybe women should start ranking men based on how much longer they have before their d lcks start to go soft. Why choose a man over 30 when a younger guy can give me a harder d lck for longer.
@Chandra Gupta my wife and I were broke in our early 20s(21 & 23) got married, had a daughter in our late 20s(27 & 29). We are high income earners who plan to retire young. But even if we were flat broke we would still love each other. My family is everything.
Women in their 30s are more entitled & demanding. I’m approaching my 30s & would rather have fun with someone in their 20s than deal with the games & entitlement these feminists play. She had 10 years & chose to reject a lot of good men.
@@Username44666 a dinner date with an 18 year old costs as much as someone in their 30s. You make it sound like after these girls been wined & dined for the past 10 years they’ll be happy with less.
I found my SO in my 30s & so did lots of our my family/friends. We all lived & had fun in our 20s. I didn't even want to get married tbh. I had planned to live my best life & then eventually adopt, egg freeze, get a sperm donation or go through surrogacy to have a child. I met my guy when I least expected it. We're now married, I'm pregnant & we also plan to adopt.
That’s really awesome! I sadly got married in my 20s (no kids). I’m now reentering the dating pool due to leaving the abusive and grooming relationship (he was 9 years older). This gives me hope that I can still find a real connection and start a family.
@robert rulon ok. I don't know how not to be sarcastic in my response. So I will respond to the girls, keep your eyes wide for a man that loves you. You can see it in his eyes, his action and his smile.( But pay attention, look with your heart and be rational). And u wont be counting the summers you have seen. You will love, adore respect each each other and yes. .. those are the facts.
Why are you waiting till your 30s, If your an attractive women in their 20s want a husband, how hard is that your in your prime, men in their 30s are in their prime, so the answer is obvious find a man in your 20s and all your problems are solved.
Louanne , you missed the option, having the eggs sucked from the ovaries and frozen for future use, admittedly that women in their 30's are running out of eggs and don't gave many left, it is still an option
I'm 35 and I don't date men with children. I don't have children and a younger fairly established fella asked me out. I said yes. We shall see how this goes 🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥🔥🔥
Most honest video I've every watched on RUclips. I'm in my 30s, find it impossible to meet a man let alone date one and I'm not even looking for marriage just a long-term respectful partnership with someone whose not gonna switch up on me and marry someone else when they are done. Not all of us want marriage, we've seen what a disaster that can be. I just want a long term loyal companion
Most men want children.. and if a man doest want children he just wnna have fun.. so why stick with one. And why not a younger one?if you dont want marriage means you also just wanna have fun so why taking you serious aka long term. While paying for almost anything.. you mean you need a father to take care of you and love you just because you want that.
Haha yeah. Those younger bitcoin dudes marry them.. yeah sure. And those younger girls when they become your age they wonder why they been pumped and dumped and not married just like you when you were younger and dated dealer's and badboys and here you are...
@Andrew Cromartie Women in their 30's are past their prime and are more like a burden and an anchor to a man but you can do whatever you like... 'Gotta Catch ’em All', I've got different standards.
@Andrew Cromartie If you are happy with a girl then why are you spending your time on commenting here? Take her on a date, have a good time, good luck. BTW I'm 30+
It's because you treated this man like sh*t and played endless games with him when you ladies were in your teens and 20s. Call it baggage if you like, but now that I'm successful and established it's payback time.
And where are all the ones your dated? You didn't want older men becuz you weren't think long term you wanted to party and play around.. so here you are..... Still around.
Its now their play time. Like it was uours in your 20s simple. Men got more time. Its not that you dont want them they dont want you seriously to begin with. Enjoy the ride...
we the successful attractive men who could date these women are no lobger interested in fulfilling your disney/hollywood rom-com fantasies. We want the same as you but we want YOU WOMEN to start acring like YOU CARE. Lower your standards to more realistic ones, and you may find a man who is willing to have coffee with you
I got more attention as a 20 something year old, but I still had a hard time with men. The mostly just saw me as a sex object. Now that I'm in my 30s I think I have just got better at discerning faster. But still no man that has a good character
@@saltyhamslam7991 "you all act the same for the most part" you heard it straight from his mouth, we're nothing but reproductive factories, we're all the same and there's no such thing as love lmao. Get a life
@@saltyhamslam7991 Can't you see how you and all the other incels who comment on these videos look, how would it look if women grouped together to judge men on the value of when their d lcks start to not be able to stay hard anymore, and what does it matter cuz men are all the same anyway, so why would I choose a guy over 30 when a younger guy will give me a harder d lck for longer. there's more to life dude so yea get a life
Women in their 20's are fun, easygoing, naughty and beautiful unlike women in their 30's are boring, aging, weight gaining, losing their fertility and often angry and bitter, too high expectations still and they usually have kids for another man.
Cause he doesn't exist, lol. Guys like young women. If you waited for mr.right till 30s then I got news for you. If he didn't come already, he never will. High value men, want high value woman. If you are in your 30s your have to compete with women from 18-29 who would have an advantage over you. Good luck!
I hear all of what you're saying... a couple I know recently married and she's 11 years older than him. He's mature for his age, and a very kind guy, but I don't know if that sort of thing would work for me. I have been told I am an old soul by people once they get to know me. I am 30 but am often confused for someone much younger because of my baby face. I would like to find someone within a couple years of me because that's the age I am most attracted to. But I also don't want to limit myself if there's someone older or younger who would be a good match. As it is I have gotten attention from men my parents' age and older, and I just don't see these men like they see me. I like outdoorsy stuff, hiking, camping, etc. but a lot of men I meet aren't into that. I'm just frustrated because I have had so few relationships and the guys I have been with were just all Peter Pans and kind of childish. My last ex didn't hardly want to leave his place. I like the strong, silent type but if he's just not showing me a variety of interests, friends, hobbies and sense of adventure, I feel loss of attraction. I have lots of stamina, and would gladly have 4 kids tomorrow if I found the right person but guys just don't seem interested in what I'm interested in, or again, they are senior citizens! Maybe it kinda has to do with where I live? I'm not in a city.
I’m in my mid 30’s, no kids, college degree, own place and beautiful. However, it’s so hard to meet someone that’s not married, not gay, dates black women, wants kids, not afraid of a lady that has her own or wants to be in a relationship. 😔
if you are overweight lose it. i know its hard but you have to focus on being smaller to attract other races of men. being thick will attract broke blk men
Afraid? Thats one of the reasons you single.. thinking a man is afread bcuz you got a house and a degree. Do you even know afraid means? Women what are you talking about what are you trying to convince yourself of? Smdh. Ever heard a man who is single saying.. a woman who is not afraid Of the fact that i have my own place.. what kinda bs is that. Maybe bcuz you think you are hot stuff bcuz you got your degree.. so what men dont give a shot about your degree or your house so the things you been chasing the last 20 years does not afraid a man.. you shouldve chased other thing that benefit him, not only benefits you. A man who got his shit together and wants kids what does your degree and house gives his kids. He already got that. Smdh. Goodluck with scarring men with your house and degree.. 👻 hahah
@@christianburgos2736 one year. Because we both family orientated, I do not want to play a game so does he. He was 30 yo and I was 29 yo when we first met. I did not said having a relationship with someone so much older is not gonna work. But I think it will be easier if you have it with someone who is in the same stage of life as you are in. You need to find someone with mutual interest. If you want children find someone who also want it. If you do not want them find who also does not want them or at least communicate and be agreed on it. The more things in common the easier it will be.
She is speaking truth I love this. I'm 45 my girlfriend now is 27....the one before her was 23 years old. I have women over 30 as booty calls or sugar mamas. I'm in the gym for one reason to be more attractive to younger women. My advice is women should seek marriage in their 20s. Food for thought my ex wife was 18 when I met her. I was 30 years old. We was together for 6 years..my next wife will be 18 to 24 too. Ladies seek men 10+ years older.
If you were a mother you would've stayd with the father of your kid who also needs his father more than you need that older man but yet here you are acting like a little girl in highschool..
Honest advice to women in their 30s it's the hardest time for women seeking partners so yes they must take drastic steps in their own favour to get what they need. The only issue with doing an older mN is his libido which may tank in a decade just when a woman is hyped. Alternatively a younger man may not be financially secure. So women need to check both the readiness of potential partner financial and future sustainability of the relationship
Here's some dating advice stop playing the field in yr 20s and focus on finding a good man,when yr options r plenty ...this will ensure that as u hit yr 30s u will stop moaning about yr lack of options and blaming men for now playing the field as the average man needs to add value to his life.... career education assets before he attracts women....unfortunately the average women in her 30s valve will be linked to her age and fertility ...
This is a nice video that unfortunately has a rather limited view. Perhaps the demographic she is basing her theories on is to blame. Mostly I heard the reasoning of the urban, upper middle class. Even so, she missed some key points in my view. Many men, upon reaching the mid 40's, realize that they don't and never did want children. Other men in their 40s have already had children, been divorced and lost half their life, but still paying for the x and children. In today's society, America to be specific, women are often seen as a risk for men. Especially men who have built a successful career and life. Not all men are willing to risk losing everything just to have a companion/partner. Many men won't even put themselves into a dating situation for fear of inadvertently looking too long at the cleavage the woman deliberately displays on a daily basis and finding themselves slapped with a sexual harassment charge. By the time a man is 40, he learns that it is safer to stay on the job or home alone.
Females must look up Geriatric Pregnancy, then you'll know why 30+ is to late to start a family, to late to reproduce. Start dating a 20yr older than you, he will appreciate you more.
I’m a gay man and this video is so accurate… men don’t want the pressure sooo, dating younger is fun and dating older is fun and the older women also add value. They help build you up but by the time we are ready we are over 35+ and ready to settle down. Flaws and all… bc we can now provide and give like we want.
So many women have a huge list of demands for the man they want to marry. They'll bed tons of guys who don't make that list. So at 30, they reconsider the list, have two kids from "hot datable guys" and want a guy that will be a stepfather. No upside for the guy.
@Chandra Gupta Yes
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Yes, exactly. The girl will usually choose a regular kind of guy with a house and good income. They need a good man to be stepfather to the two or three kids she has had from club scene guys
Aw, poor you. Men are so disenfranchised in our society. Especially the white ones!
@@ravenswood118 I'm not complaining in the least. I have been married for 22 years to a remarkable woman whom I adore. But, God forbid, anything causes me that not be in this relationship, I would probably not date. I am very successful, due in a large part because of the support from my wonderful wife. So, if I were to be single again, what would be the upside of me getting married again. What is the upside of any successful man getting married?
@@jimwalker1242 blah blah blah shut up "jim" go cry somewhere else
@@jimwalker1242 I feel so bad for your wife. You don't know the upside to being married? Let me guess, you are only using her for her uterus and her value as a companion and friend means nothing to you. I hope she sees this and makes a better decision regarding staying married to you.
Women are going to hate this video 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Why women cant get married in their 30s? It's called the wall.
Lol
a woman's market value is off the shelf 30+.. high miles yeppppp
We’re gonna build a wall - Donald J. Trump
I guess Im asking the wrong place but does someone know of a tool to log back into an instagram account??
I stupidly lost the login password. I appreciate any assistance you can give me.
Nah. People become too stupid to be stuck with their "relaxing", yet unfulfilling 9-5 jobs.
You see a hard working man. Good career, independent. Goes on a date gets turned down next thing you know you see that same woman in a relationship with a guy who looks like he hasn't showered in a week. I question the judgement of women. I know this from personal experience. Stay single and avoid relationships. Not worth the hassle glad I found out at 31.
Boi I found it at 25😎 ...wait a second im the boi there... whatever ;) jokes aside,well said mate. We have to bring to the table our best ...abd what we get in return?
Not if the rich dude's a bad boy. After all, violent people finish first.
The red pill is spreading
@Alice Liddell you may have the watches, we have the time.
@Alice Liddell A man’s greatest asset is his productivity. Always has been always will be
@Alice Liddell You are a BIG LIAR! then why women choose matured guys than guys of their same age? that's the power of the deadly lies of Feminism!
@Alice Liddell you keep telling yourself that. Stay in shape and get a guy when you are in your mid 20’s or you will be overlooked by anyone with options
@Alice Liddell it depends on how old you are, but exceptions don’t make the rule. Mother Nature blesses women but then they get to the wall and meet the undefeated heavyweight champion of the world named Father Time.
LOL, that's the wall of hypergamy. Enjoy women!
😂😂😂
In the past, a woman got married from the age of 18-25 year old.
That is right. In the 1960s women married before age 25 and probably had all of their children before age 35. Times have changed. Feminism told women they could wait and have it all. Women are waking up to the reality there are problems with this logic.
I'm one the rare few who are in their 30s. I want a woman to settle down with, I don't want to date anymore and constantly go through the talking stage, it gets old. I want my best friend.
Agree!!! I love friendship over relationships, the onky women im willing to chase and fight for is the one who wants a best friend to start a relationship, i knkw looks strange, but i want a friend who in addition can love me. (And take ny llve) but first of all she hadto be my FRIEND.
Ha. Maybe you just didn't learn to have fun with the talking stage all because you wanna settle down with life. If u wanna settle down, after all you made the rules. Don't come bitching to me if you can't settle down.
That's very sweet. The world needs more men like you. I hope you find your best friend! Remember though, you will still probably have to go on dates. But it is ok to straight up ask a woman if she's looking to settle down or what her timeline is (wait until the second convo though). If she can't be straight with you at that point, she isn't for you.
@@kittyfrog0 I should have been more clear on my post. I wouldn't mind taking my SO on dates, having date nights. They would be fun and joyous.:) thank you for thr sweet comment.
Your best friend should always be another man. Or a dog. But definitely not a women that you're romantically involved with.
😂As a Man why would I want the 37 year old , when I can have the 27 year old.
What if she’s Beyonce or Kim Cardasian then？ hot and rich
Age does not matter. Compatability does. Men love to chase beauty and that is why so many end up miserable.
tf u saying mate
@@Sheisanangel0 The same could be said for women
@@ellie4103 I don't know any guys that have ever went out with a woman because of here status
Pro tip: lock a man down when you are young
Yup they wasted their time.
The real reason is because there are so many woman who have been making BAD CHOICES, now they think that men should accept that and men don’t believe that a woman who has been run through by every man in town is relationship material.
The answer is simple, when you make BAD CHOICES it does matter, you want a good man then you should have been a good person.
Having a lot of sexual partners doesn’t make you a bad person.
@@SukiPandaLove in marriage criteria, yes
@@SukiPandaLove it does actually, regardless of gender.
Women in their 30s are chad and tyrone leftovers
Women, in reality, the wall doesn’t happen until you get in your 40’s but then you will have to be dating men in their 50s and 60s and most women won’t like dating someone that old and it could be difficult to find men in their 40’s wanting to date.
You burnt them too many times when you were in your 20s
Bingo!
Ha. Maybe people just suck at life working 9-5 jobs, being stuck with their parents' dumb expectations because they're also afraid of looking bad. Better to raise your children in a town than a large city. At least, you can teach them the value of community.
Generally speaking, I think it’s best for women to date men 7-10 years older. Combine this with women seriously looking for a husband in their early to mid twenties would give them a much better chance of success! If women do find yourself in your 30’s and single, you’re either too career focused, you’re making terrible decisions when picking men or you’re too picky! When you’re in your 30’s, you competition are 20 year olds. Can’t have that same checklist you had in your 20’s!
on the contrary she needs to be in her 20s no children😎
not hard to the "alpha" male.. "low-miles" with DEsIRE to be led.. the rest are "side-piece" disposables !!!
Don't tell women what to do.
@Shruti Tripathy lol! No it’s not. A women 25 can easily date a 35 year old!
@Shruti Tripathy ok, well India is a different culture. Over here in the States, people move different. The women here want guys to make 100k plus even when they are young in there early 20’s. The guys their age for the most part aren’t making anywhere near that, so ladies need to date older to find men that make the money they want!
🤣😂🤣😂🙄 lol, you chased the top 20% of guys for 15 years, and suddenly they're all gone in your 30s. Sorry you ghosted us for 15 years.. why would we pay attention? Its not about pressure, it's about donyou provide value to my life beyond sex?
Um nobody ghosted anyone? I dated a guy for 6 yrs literally was most of my twenties but he didn't want kids I did
Many reasons for the title of your video. One is- Men are very very convinced that a wedding ring kills the female sex drive. Marriage is absolutely where BJ's go to die. Men in their 30s would never sign up for that terrible deal. The modern 30 year old woman has bedded dozens of men. With each man she bedded- her chance of marriage dwindled. The affectionate warm soft spoken feminine woman is extremely rare in this modern era. Sad- those are the qualities that men find irresistible . Women with those qualities are all happily married. Her career, income, education level matter not a bit. Is she feminine and affectionate or is she a new hi-bred half male half female that will debate you over any and everything. Nonstop competition. Men have put up with nonstop competition since they were 5 years old. We will not put up with it the home. Men would rather live alone. And they are by the millions.
You do not see endless videos on youtube of men desperate to find a marriage partner. Only females.
Oh my man you just nailed it up
👏👏👏♟️
Men. I'm that rare women and I just come across players. What I see is there's not alot of men looking for a relationship. They can tell when things don't go as quickly as they like. I.e. jump into bed no thanks. FWB no not happening I value my time too much and I have more class than some other women plus I'm not trying to get an std. In my opinion if they know the girl well enough and not just trying to get a ring you should still want to do certain things. Just saying
@@candacehearn1771 agree with you sister
Always maintain class
Advise from ethiopian brother in uganda
@@candacehearn1771 Religious dating sites are full of men wanting marriage. You are dating f boys. You only have yourself to blame. Unfortunately religious women on religious dating sites in my experience don't want marriage.
I am exactly 30, and I can already see how hard it is. I wish I had met my soulmate in college. Now, seems like it's too late for me. I also wish I didn't focus to much in my degree and professional career.
There is no such a thing as a soulmate.. You women believe and repeat everything you hear on tv. Its a man with similar goals you have.. Soulmate what kinda bs is that. There is no career its a job. Find a man who has goals in life and if you like them support him. That is your 'career' in life.
@@mob2081 “you women believe and repeat everything you hear on tv” No, women don’t share the same brain. We don’t think the same or want the same in life. I used the word soulmate but I could just said “partner”. I agree with you with everything else you said, but still, somehow many single people in their 30’s carry a heavy baggage that make it hard to settle down.
Oke most women are followers you know that. Thats why you need a man who can lead and protect right.. So there wont be such a thing as a partner. Partners do almost everyrhing the same. Thats nr 1. Nr 2 baggage you also got yours. So accpt some baggage to find someone who accpt yours and move on. Your goals will distract you from the baggage of eachother. You both 'settle down'.
@@mob2081 yeah, it’s always easier said than done
@@KaMi-gz1il reality is hard. Adapt or die. Cuz you didnt worked at relationship skills thats you find it hard. Its just like a job.. If you start working for a boss when you are 30 it will be hard. So what you gonna do. Complain about the bosses or adapt to job.
She failed to note that men in their 40's and 50's still choose women in their 20's. I see her trying to make herself appear better but no, she's done too.
Well maybe black men like you. Not every man in their 40s or 50s want woman in 20s. Yes maybe late 20s, but almost kid in their early 20s. Not everyone. Some men are looking for emotionally mature women and early 20s It's not like that. Don't forget that.
you should say that men in their 30's, 40's and even 50's have all the options because we have time. Time to get our financial house in order, time to travel, establish our careers and still have a family well into our 50's if we choose to. Older women should be going on a bus tour and telling these younger women that their 20's is the time to find a good man and build a solid relationship. Once they hit 25 the decline starts and by 35 it's really over if they are single. Hollywood and modern society has lied to them, they can't have it all.
@eman987 10 that's nothing. Men don't have biological clock.
@eman987 10 I think the point here is that your sexual attractiveness is defined by the other sex, regardless of whether it's "fair". Sure men get baldness (which is essentially curable now with surgeries, see Elon musk) and Ed (also usually highly treatable) but the real point is these are not significant hurdles to being attractive and tend to occur later in life. Men on the other hand statistically HIGHLY value youth and beauty in women, arguable it makes up the lion's share even of attractiveness, where as women just don't value youth the same and beauty is a more fluid concept to them. Therefore, men become the ones spoiled for choice as the dynamic shifts past 25 for women. It's like an attractive 18-22 year olds life experience for men at 30. And the very same desire to "discover themselves/not settle down too quick/taste the fruits of variety" is just as appealing for men as it was for women.
@eman987 10 do you know elon mush
He nerd beta guy when he in school
And now he is alpha
Women are not attracted to older men. They are attracted to material things. He will never be happy.
@@Sheisanangel0 man's happiness is not tied to woman's happiness. Woman is obidient subject to his authority is all a man needs.
Answer: Their expectations are far too high and they all think they can tame the top 10% of men. The top 10% of men are not interested and the rest of us have learnt the hard way that women do not care about anything but themselves...and cats
Lol a woman in her 30’s has already given special experiences to a lot of men, ergo not bringing in anything unique so ….what she can expect is a partnership where she has to contribute equally that includes finances as well, it has to start with a prenup too.
Not all women i their 30”s have had a lot of partners … who makes these things up lol … you can’t just go around generalizing everyone And everything
Women in their Thirties are very able to date men in their 20s. Trust me
Men in their 20s want practice. Young dumb and full of cumm. Women want staple man with resources what does a 20 yo man have accomplished? So its a win for men again.
Date? Yes but not marry
🤣🤣🤣 many got married and get divorced and we are back hanging🤣🤣🤣
Louanne, you have said it all yourself. In your subtext you say they "Don't need a man". Very true, they don't. So don't try and get one. Men are living things not the latest accessory for the woman who has everything.
I was in my 30s, had a great life, PhD, 100k income (circa 1995), 6 feet tall, full head of hair, and fit.
All I wanted was a life partner to be the mother of my kids.
She needed to be in the age range for this, i.e. under 32,
No kids of her own yet
Not crazy or addicted to something
Physically fit, like me
Not mired in debt
There were no willing candidates. I looked for 10 years. Lots of women who didn't qualify. Lots of women who did, but didn't want to settle down just yet. I got a lot of action, but no one to marry.
Where were all the good women?
If you really want an answer I’ll respectfully give you one. I fit your profile (and I just got my PhD), but I’m 32 (at the end of you range). I’d say you standards needed to be lowered. Women in their 20s do not want to date men in their 30s if they have two brain cells to run together. Women are not geriatric past 32 🙄. You probably missed out on a lot of great women by not looking for people your own age.
@@kittyfrog0 Stop lying. A 35 year old man that's good looking, tall, and has a good income could (and should) easily be able to marry a woman in her early 20s. The man said he wants children. And at 32 the majority of your eggs are depleted. Plus men are more attracted to younger women. That's just how men are wired. If he chooses to date a women his own age, then that's his choice. But it's not helpful to shame a man for going after what he wants.
1. Not sure what you think I’m lying about.
2. You really know nothing of female anatomy if your think eggs are “depleted” after 30 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
3. Why are SOME creepy men attracted to younger women? Because the young women often don’t know any better and he’s grooming her so he can control her (PhD in relationship science dude).
4. Y’all should be shamed for wanting to date children. The men who are “wired” that way are abusive predators. I would never be interested in anyone younger than 27. It would be like dating a child. I could easily control them. I would definelty have all the power in the relationship. But I’m not a gross creepy pedophile wannabee who wants to control my partner. I’m a grown woman who wants a adult man as my partner.
5. Seriously go learn more about female anatomy. 🤣😂🤣😂🤣
@@kittyfrog0 i started at 29. I more or less gave up in my early 40s.
32 was a little flexible, but one really ought to have ones first by 35. And I wanted some years as a childless couple, before going full nest. But nothing. It's as if American culture forgot how to raise daughters to be wives.
This was 94-2005ish.
@@michaelf7093 women dont want a husband these days, just your 401k does nicely thanks.
This is a fantastic video and speaks volumes of truth that reflects the current 2022 society. I know a 35 year old lawyer who runs her own business, earns over 6 figures, has her own penthouse in the City and is financially independent but she still can't find a suitable guy. She wants the man to be 6" tall, making a similar amount of money, also owns his home and is facially attractive yet all she gets are men that don't want a serious relationship. Well that's because men her age aren't looking for someone like her since they can date someone younger and more pretty...
So I heard women in them 20' want multi relationship without marriage,
@@pjjunior1402 there are good guys out there that dont think like that. i have friends with even 7-10 years younger men and kids with this men. doesnt matter if he is younger or older. is no money involved. this what you talking about i never seen here in europe. i also seen men say no to good looking young girl and choosed an older smarter girl even if he has more money. i think there are some scumbags here and there with that kind of mindset. but a real man he likes her for her. and he is not toxic. but if he has issues he might only want much younger girls. but that kind of men i would tell all girls to stay away from. and also if a girl asking for money i would tell guys the same. you can feel when someone are being mature. this you talked about i never seen here.
To be honest I don't know any girl in 30s that doesn't have some kind of financial debt or some kind of chronic disease or she is overweight to unhealthy level.
Yeah I don’t know any girls their 30s either. I do know lots of women in their 30s. 🤣
Women: why can't I find a nice guy like you. I'm a good woman. I'm not shallow.
Women: your to short. Why are you not a ceo? You only make 60k a year? Wait I make more than you... gross. Are you loosing your hair. Your car it 15 years old? You never went to collage?
I m in my 39 and married for 14 years. He is 2 years older and we are very happy together. At that time I thought 25 was my best age so marry him in this age he would treat me nice when I got old since he would remember my best time. And yes he does, it worked. If one day I was divorced I can go for men 15 years older than me. When I was in my 20s I had no issue to date somebody 10 years+ . I think women with flexibility is easier to find somebody.
At 39, men of all ages are less likely to be into you
Men 18 to 60 prefer women 18 to 24
Why would a man 15 years your age want you if he can get younger girls....
kenroy larmond Some yes but some not. I have quite a lot friends married same age women when they are in 30s. They want a life partner so age wasnt that important.
@@kenroylarmond7736 Young women don't want to fuck 60 year old men. Stop deluding yourself.
It's all newton law...first 30 your prime...our prime starts from 30 🎉
If women want to get married lock up a man for a husband by age 23. Successful men in their 30s are often dating women 10 years younger. So if a woman is over 30 it gets real difficult to find a man for marriage.
Ladies, don't worry too much about your biological clock. 😁
My family all the women had their kids age 38, 42, 39. If you're healthy and active, don't drink/don't smoke, you're going to be fertile.
If you're family has a history of infertility than you should worry. But I'm seeing many older mothers and they look much younger than their age b/c of good lifestyle. Don't worry too much tbh 😉
Those women are already married and find someone in their 20s so you geving an advise but it's not relevant in this case. You are taking only about fertility but most men want youth and don't wanna lose time and effort in 30+ women it's like gambling on slot machine but a 20 years old women have a bigger chance of getting pregnant so0o0.
I've a close friend who's autistic that was caused by his mother having him at 43. He has the intellect of a 12 year old. He cannot learn job skills for more than most entry level jobs. He suffers from schizophrenia & depression. He's incapable of living on his own & must live with & be financially supported by his family for the rest of his life. This is what you're encouraging.
@@mob2081 i am sure there are women that like younger men too :D I had for most part younger men i am more drawn to them and i always been. but doesnt mean if you find the right person you love that he orshe has to be younger. so of men can have younger why cant a woman =P when i was 22 i was also with younger and not older than 3 years. so if men can choose like that we women can too :P i am 35 i would not want a 50 year old even if they can look great for thier age. we all have our preferences.
@@annajoy2306 in general, for the most part.. women seem not to understand. Always argue about the exception. Its not ALWAYS about you...
@@mob2081 i seen both women and men do this.
Point 1 4:00 is absolute truth. I prefer the maturity of girls mid 30s but the pressure is just too much. You can’t even have a normal progression because the biological clock is ticking like a jackhammer. They expect you to have a serious relationship and marriage within 6 months. I worked very hard to be successful and have a great life so that kind of aggressive timeframe is a huge turnoff.
By "mid 30s" the motherhood option should already be off the table, for a single childless woman. I'd want a childless couple life for 2-3 years before trying for a kid. So were I looking to be a dad, I'd rule out any candidate over 32.
@@michaelf7093 my wife & I had a family mid 30s. It was not a big deal.
@@pb4ugo19 You are what is right in the world. Thanks for being a great person!
@@michaelf7093 My mom had me and my sister at 38. Everyone in my family is really fertile. Everyone had kids in their late 30's. My Aunt had my cousin age 42.
I don't think the biological clock applies to everyone.
The more I listen to these types of videos, more I understand Motivation of women in general.
Exactly. So many videos in my feed on dating are from so called "alpha" males. A lot of what they say is true, but overall is negative. It took me some time to dig, but finally coming across a female perspective is nice.
@Fires And Flowerstheir motivation is securing the bag. They want mens money.
I think you should date whomever you want regardless of age. I don't know who came up with that women in their 20s want older men, I never did so ppl commenting lock them down makes no sense to me. I think it is important to be happy and that has to do with getting along and being attracted, not their age
Wait until your 33 and single can’t find someone that wants you men want women that can have healthy children
@@Madanth0ny yes women can have babies into their 40s now but I already have a son so that isn't my point. I just never went out of my way to meet older or younger, it's about chemistry. If you are wanting a bunch of babies and get with someone solely for that purpose, I doubt it will last.
@@sheilag3456 I am a single young man 35 years old
@Alice Liddell what? How is that possible?
@Alice Liddell why is that do you think? 🥺
Men with options in their 30s-50s don’t pursue women over 30 for marriage. Why not just be honest with your female listeners?
She's making money selling dreams, not facilitating actual marriages.
Women at 30 are used, done, clock overtime, and more.
Why I shouldn't choose the 20s something, then an old bag with PTSD, STDs, and more?
@Alice Liddell I do this on their face, and clearly see how pathetic they look.
I did this a hot one, she kept messaging me on what is WRONG with her.
@Alice Liddell Keep coping lmao. Pathetic.
Agree 30-35 is used goods, fallopian tubes worn out and past expiry
@Alice Liddell They are those kind of men whose women always found a reason to reject. They keep talking about women in 20's as if they can get one? Only goldiggers will date their kind. 😂
Let them say whatever in anger and frustrations. It is their only freedom of expression.😆
@Alice Liddell Yes I agree, there's no need to be so nasty.
A females personal power is so high for a decade, say 15-25. But a mans is less powerful, but spread out for decades. In the end, its all fair. Womens preference for men are all over the place., but every man, from 15-100yo wants a 20yo. Peace
you genius you
Majority of men have no power throughout his whole life if we are talking about relationships out of marriage, just sex with some romance. Women even at her 40th, 50th have better and more options if we are talking only having lovers and don't worry women also love young bodies, youthful and energetic people attract everyone not only men, and women are more successful at having young lovers than men; however, If we talking about marriage, yes here men have some power, but lets be realistic who really needs official marriage after 40th 50th? Everyone just need normal companionship without any burden of taking care of other person. Especially now family as an institute is falling apart .
The real question is, will women willing to take older man? I don't think so...😂
@@primaprima9341 Agreed. Your comment is difficult to read though, as you have the longest run-on sentence I've seen in my life
@@primaprima9341 The truth is women have as much power as men give them. In western society, women are empowered their entire life. It's a form a social engineering and its keeping the population from growing too big. Women are not being sensible and having children when they are in their 20s anymore. Who knows what long term implications this will have for their children. America is certainly falling from "within".
dame I am turning 30 as a man I feel like I am at my prime looking at this video I got anxiety for all those women's at 30s
What is so wrong with getting married in your early to mid twenties?
@Chandra Gupta And what's your point, the same exact thing can be said for men. Maybe women should start ranking men based on how much longer they have before their d lcks start to go soft. Why choose a man over 30 when a younger guy can give me a harder d lck for longer.
@Chandra Gupta get married broke, you'll be happier.
@Chandra Gupta don't be so shallow
@Chandra Gupta my wife and I were broke in our early 20s(21 & 23) got married, had a daughter in our late 20s(27 & 29). We are high income earners who plan to retire young.
But even if we were flat broke we would still love each other. My family is everything.
There's nothing wrong with it and women should not give up!
The only reason I would date a woman in her 30s is if I'm 50 years old.
Women in their 30s are more entitled & demanding. I’m approaching my 30s & would rather have fun with someone in their 20s than deal with the games & entitlement these feminists play. She had 10 years & chose to reject a lot of good men.
@@Username44666 Lmao, women in 30 not? They are more materialistic due to seeking long term security.
@@Username44666 a dinner date with an 18 year old costs as much as someone in their 30s. You make it sound like after these girls been wined & dined for the past 10 years they’ll be happy with less.
Dinner date. 🤣
I found my SO in my 30s & so did lots of our my family/friends. We all lived & had fun in our 20s. I didn't even want to get married tbh. I had planned to live my best life & then eventually adopt, egg freeze, get a sperm donation or go through surrogacy to have a child. I met my guy when I least expected it. We're now married, I'm pregnant & we also plan to adopt.
That’s really awesome! I sadly got married in my 20s (no kids). I’m now reentering the dating pool due to leaving the abusive and grooming relationship (he was 9 years older). This gives me hope that I can still find a real connection and start a family.
@@kittyfrog0 hahaha, convinient feminist christian. The worst
'had fun in our 20s' - translation : you rode the carousel!
@robert rulon ok. I don't know how not to be sarcastic in my response. So I will respond to the girls, keep your eyes wide for a man that loves you. You can see it in his eyes, his action and his smile.( But pay attention, look with your heart and be rational). And u wont be counting the summers you have seen. You will love, adore respect each each other and yes. .. those are the facts.
Why are you waiting till your 30s, If your an attractive women in their 20s want a husband, how hard is that your in your prime, men in their 30s are in their prime, so the answer is obvious find a man in your 20s and all your problems are solved.
Louanne , you missed the option, having the eggs sucked from the ovaries and frozen for future use, admittedly that women in their 30's are running out of eggs and don't gave many left, it is still an option
I'm 35 and I don't date men with children. I don't have children and a younger fairly established fella asked me out. I said yes. We shall see how this goes 🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥🔥🔥
He is not into you. But why would he. In 5 years you will be 40 and he will be looking at 25 year olds
Most honest video I've every watched on RUclips. I'm in my 30s, find it impossible to meet a man let alone date one and I'm not even looking for marriage just a long-term respectful partnership with someone whose not gonna switch up on me and marry someone else when they are done. Not all of us want marriage, we've seen what a disaster that can be. I just want a long term loyal companion
Men are dating 20 years olds now
@@PabloEscobar-zd7re which will last about 5 minutes 🙄 might as well stick it in a freezer, might drop off quicker.
Most men want children.. and if a man doest want children he just wnna have fun.. so why stick with one. And why not a younger one?if you dont want marriage means you also just wanna have fun so why taking you serious aka long term. While paying for almost anything.. you mean you need a father to take care of you and love you just because you want that.
@@mob2081 because younger women can date younger crypto billionaires instead, that's why. Old men are not on their radar 😆😆
Haha yeah. Those younger bitcoin dudes marry them.. yeah sure. And those younger girls when they become your age they wonder why they been pumped and dumped and not married just like you when you were younger and dated dealer's and badboys and here you are...
DATING IN YOUR 30'S: My advice - don't do it
@Andrew Cromartie Women in their 30's are past their prime and are more like a burden and an anchor to a man but you can do whatever you like... 'Gotta Catch ’em All', I've got different standards.
@Andrew Cromartie If you are happy with a girl then why are you spending your time on commenting here? Take her on a date, have a good time, good luck. BTW I'm 30+
DATING IN YOU 30'S: My advice - get a fuckin real life. Stay committed with your goals, but don't settle.
SMV, value peaks for a woman in mid 20s then goes down, men go up in value in 30s up and up.
Marry by 26 ladies.
“When you’ve had the advantage/ all your life equality feels like oppression”
It's because you treated this man like sh*t and played endless games with him when you ladies were in your teens and 20s. Call it baggage if you like, but now that I'm successful and established it's payback time.
You ok man? I sense a lot of resentment.
That ain't healthy.
@@ChurlzVA Oddly enough, it was a major motivator for the success and wealth I've achieved.
@@nunayoorbidnez2119 hatred is far more powerful than love, if you know how to control it
I never wanted to date older men when I was in my 20ies. I always preferred someone my age...and so did all of my female friends...
What age did you met your man.. or are you single?
So how old is your husband?
And where are all the ones your dated? You didn't want older men becuz you weren't think long term you wanted to party and play around.. so here you are..... Still around.
I bet you are still single 😂
Why marry? 60% end in divorce and tve rest does not last over 15 years so?
Why would we want to date this type of men anyway who still search for flings in their 30s? I believe quality men are rare.
Its now their play time. Like it was uours in your 20s simple. Men got more time. Its not that you dont want them they dont want you seriously to begin with. Enjoy the ride...
we the successful attractive men who could date these women are no lobger interested in fulfilling your disney/hollywood rom-com fantasies. We want the same as you but we want YOU WOMEN to start acring like YOU CARE. Lower your standards to more realistic ones, and you may find a man who is willing to have coffee with you
Good word of advice, this women's advice is crap
Men and women under 30, watch the Fresh and Fit podcast
💯
1. Youth is meant to find a mate
2. It's career or family, not both
3. Refer to #s 1 & 2
I got more attention as a 20 something year old, but I still had a hard time with men. The mostly just saw me as a sex object. Now that I'm in my 30s I think I have just got better at discerning faster. But still no man that has a good character
i think age dont matter inless they love u for who u are
Yeah that is the reasoning of a women. Why would a man want an old lady when regardless of age you all act the same for the most part?
@@saltyhamslam7991 "you all act the same for the most part" you heard it straight from his mouth, we're nothing but reproductive factories, we're all the same and there's no such thing as love lmao. Get a life
@@jflsdknf you came here to argue with me and said "get a life" yeah ok.
@@saltyhamslam7991 Can't you see how you and all the other incels who comment on these videos look, how would it look if women grouped together to judge men on the value of when their d lcks start to not be able to stay hard anymore, and what does it matter cuz men are all the same anyway, so why would I choose a guy over 30 when a younger guy will give me a harder d lck for longer. there's more to life dude so yea get a life
Women in their 20's are fun, easygoing, naughty and beautiful unlike women in their 30's are boring, aging, weight gaining, losing their fertility and often angry and bitter, too high expectations still and they usually have kids for another man.
women like "milk" (20s) peak years "expire" are on a time clock EVERYONE KNOWS THIS.. anymore Qs mmmm
Expired milk is cheese so whats the deal?
@@Sheisanangel0 metaphor.. never mind
Easy for a man? Already this starts off as a myth. Dislike button smashed.
Younger men liking older women , like lion liking grass.
My husband in 3 years younger than me❤
Hope it last long.
Tip: Get real and stop thinking you're God's gift to men.
It is not preasure it is her clock ticking
Cause he doesn't exist, lol.
Guys like young women. If you waited for mr.right till 30s then I got news for you. If he didn't come already, he never will.
High value men, want high value woman. If you are in your 30s your have to compete with women from 18-29 who would have an advantage over you. Good luck!
This is a really bad video. Not that you’re totally wrong, you just don’t have a lot of good insight beyond a few tropes. This isn’t helpful.
Should have not wasted your 20s.
I'm a woman in my late 30s who has one child and does not want any more. Not trying to fast track anything. Just want to find something lasting.
05:25 starts
I hear all of what you're saying... a couple I know recently married and she's 11 years older than him. He's mature for his age, and a very kind guy, but I don't know if that sort of thing would work for me. I have been told I am an old soul by people once they get to know me. I am 30 but am often confused for someone much younger because of my baby face. I would like to find someone within a couple years of me because that's the age I am most attracted to. But I also don't want to limit myself if there's someone older or younger who would be a good match. As it is I have gotten attention from men my parents' age and older, and I just don't see these men like they see me. I like outdoorsy stuff, hiking, camping, etc. but a lot of men I meet aren't into that. I'm just frustrated because I have had so few relationships and the guys I have been with were just all Peter Pans and kind of childish. My last ex didn't hardly want to leave his place. I like the strong, silent type but if he's just not showing me a variety of interests, friends, hobbies and sense of adventure, I feel loss of attraction. I have lots of stamina, and would gladly have 4 kids tomorrow if I found the right person but guys just don't seem interested in what I'm interested in, or again, they are senior citizens! Maybe it kinda has to do with where I live? I'm not in a city.
It could be related to where you live but hey, I have a car and a lot of guys I know do too, so that's not an issue.
Realistic and helpful. Finally no spitualistic bullshit
Hello there k k, you look really amazing., Could we have a Lil convo tho
Women in their 30s want men in their 30s.
But men in their 30s search women in their 20s.
If everyone just lowers their standards just a little.
I’m in my mid 30’s, no kids, college degree, own place and beautiful. However, it’s so hard to meet someone that’s not married, not gay, dates black women, wants kids, not afraid of a lady that has her own or wants to be in a relationship. 😔
if you are overweight lose it. i know its hard but you have to focus on being smaller to attract other races of men. being thick will attract broke blk men
Your chances to find a guy a married him is lower than 5%.
Your best time to married someone with value was when you were 20.
Afraid? Thats one of the reasons you single.. thinking a man is afread bcuz you got a house and a degree. Do you even know afraid means? Women what are you talking about what are you trying to convince yourself of? Smdh. Ever heard a man who is single saying.. a woman who is not afraid Of the fact that i have my own place.. what kinda bs is that. Maybe bcuz you think you are hot stuff bcuz you got your degree.. so what men dont give a shot about your degree or your house so the things you been chasing the last 20 years does not afraid a man.. you shouldve chased other thing that benefit him, not only benefits you. A man who got his shit together and wants kids what does your degree and house gives his kids. He already got that. Smdh. Goodluck with scarring men with your house and degree.. 👻 hahah
Beauty is subjective. You can't call yourself beautiful. 😁
@@emergence8217they keep lying to themselves as long as it feels good they are vibin with it
Easy for men in they’re 30’s 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 not with these kind of women.
If you are 30+ the right man for you is 48+... Or some cats.
I've got married when I was 30 and my husband was 31...
Only goldiggers date a man in late 40's and 50's,..😂
@@tiac3589 but you been dating for how long before getting married? And congrats for your mutual happiness!!!
@@christianburgos2736 one year. Because we both family orientated, I do not want to play a game so does he. He was 30 yo and I was 29 yo when we first met.
I did not said having a relationship with someone so much older is not gonna work. But I think it will be easier if you have it with someone who is in the same stage of life as you are in. You need to find someone with mutual interest.
If you want children find someone who also want it. If you do not want them find who also does not want them or at least communicate and be agreed on it. The more things in common the easier it will be.
@@tiac3589 100% AGREE ... you are a very rational woman, something hard to find out there these days.
@@tiac3589 That's generalising about women who date men are gold diggers. They want a provider! All women want providers.
She is speaking truth I love this. I'm 45 my girlfriend now is 27....the one before her was 23 years old.
I have women over 30 as booty calls or sugar mamas.
I'm in the gym for one reason to be more attractive to younger women.
My advice is women should seek marriage in their 20s.
Food for thought my ex wife was 18 when I met her. I was 30 years old. We was together for 6 years..my next wife will be 18 to 24 too.
Ladies seek men 10+ years older.
I'm about to turn 30 and recently got broken up with from a long term relationship. I'm a good handsome man! Ladies!!
Why did she dump you?
But where do you even find a man? Step one? I don’t care if he’s 40.
You are just brilliant! Thank you!
because you're leftovers and past your prime. more manly and set in your ways
Men in there 30s do not want women in there 30s they want 20’s do if your 30 plus you need to date men that are in there 40s
50s actually. men in 40s also want 20s women
Nope men their 40's can still get women in their 20's.
i am 38 and a mother i love this guy hes in his 56
be nice
don't test him
do nice things for him
delusional
You love this wallet, not him Physically
If you were a mother you would've stayd with the father of your kid who also needs his father more than you need that older man but yet here you are acting like a little girl in highschool..
@@mob2081 what if her husband was a narcissist🙄
You still didn't tell them what men want from men besides sex
Honest advice to women in their 30s it's the hardest time for women seeking partners so yes they must take drastic steps in their own favour to get what they need. The only issue with doing an older mN is his libido which may tank in a decade just when a woman is hyped. Alternatively a younger man may not be financially secure. So women need to check both the readiness of potential partner financial and future sustainability of the relationship
Good vid but if you say you’re going to link a video please do.
because men in their 30 are in their prime . and get better .
and women in ther 30 are past their prime and get worse .
Here's some dating advice stop playing the field in yr 20s and focus on finding a good man,when yr options r plenty ...this will ensure that as u hit yr 30s u will stop moaning about yr lack of options and blaming men for now playing the field as the average man needs to add value to his life.... career education assets before he attracts women....unfortunately the average women in her 30s valve will be linked to her age and fertility ...
What if she was married in her 20's then divorced in her 30's???!
because youre entitled to chad tyrone who pump and dump yo. thats why. good bye
Man has last laugh 😂... single mom
This is a nice video that unfortunately has a rather limited view. Perhaps the demographic she is basing her theories on is to blame. Mostly I heard the reasoning of the urban, upper middle class. Even so, she missed some key points in my view. Many men, upon reaching the mid 40's, realize that they don't and never did want children. Other men in their 40s have already had children, been divorced and lost half their life, but still paying for the x and children. In today's society, America to be specific, women are often seen as a risk for men. Especially men who have built a successful career and life. Not all men are willing to risk losing everything just to have a companion/partner. Many men won't even put themselves into a dating situation for fear of inadvertently looking too long at the cleavage the woman deliberately displays on a daily basis and finding themselves slapped with a sexual harassment charge. By the time a man is 40, he learns that it is safer to stay on the job or home alone.
How are you am expert this and professional that for over so many years and your subscriber count is so low?
Too much sugar coat still getting this video dislikes
A woman in her 30's honestly has to WORK.....
that much harder to get a man to actually take her serious
Females must look up Geriatric Pregnancy, then you'll know why 30+ is to late to start a family, to late to reproduce. Start dating a 20yr older than you, he will appreciate you more.
This video gave me depression
Why elizabeth
I think why it’s easier for men in their 20s or 30s because they more opportunities to meet women
I’m a gay man and this video is so accurate… men don’t want the pressure sooo, dating younger is fun and dating older is fun and the older women also add value. They help build you up but by the time we are ready we are over 35+ and ready to settle down. Flaws and all… bc we can now provide and give like we want.
ehhmm ok