Thanks to you both for doing this chat. Sharing your experiences is a massive step forward in breaking down the stigma that surrounds mental health, especially for Men.
Think when you finally say 'I cant take this anymore' is your most honest and courageous act in life. I would encourage anyone with depression to take that painful first step to ask for help, you may have to fight for that help when you are least able but keep asking until you find the right program or therapist. There are great books out there as well, start there if you must and just keep going.
Ive been watching you Nic & Andrea quite a while over the last year and caught this `you tube` by chance, having suffered from anxiety for quite some time,its helped me so much listening to your journey with depression,so much of what you have said is true, not letting people know about it and struggling on ,my husband has been wonderful but I try not to let him see my bad days as I worry it takes its toll on him. Thank you so much for being there and being so open about this nasty condition, Im an immature 70 yr old :-) who was one of the first car booters forty odd years ago buying and then reselling when ebay started so get a real kick watching you all now.
Bless you Edward and Nic for having the courage to do this chat. I have nothing but massive respect and admiration for both of you and so much of what you said rings true to me. Like a lot of resellers...Nic is to blame for starting us on this path lol but for me it literally saved my life. I used to be a fairly outgoing, happy guy but changed into a hermit...someone who lost his job and friends because of depression, anxiety and panic attacks and i just hid myself away...despairing of the world and had gotten myself trapped in a dark place. Well then a wonderful thing happened...i somehow stumbled across some chaps channel who was banging on about buying and selling stuff! That day started the tiny buds of recovery and gave me the inspiration i needed to begin to claw my way back to a life with meaning, a life with hope...to turn myself into someone resembling a human being! I'm not saying i'm back to my old self...don't think i'll ever get there but i've gone from someone who dreaded going out to now actually looking forward to it with a spring in my step! I can't ever repay that chap who was banging on about tat but just wanted him to know that he has been my saviour. So Nic, be so so proud of the person you are, you are an incredible inspiration and after watching this and Edward's other vid on this life-changing subject i can echo these sentiments about Edward too...to turn your life around to such a degree shows incredible strength of character. So what i'm trying to say in my rambling way is a heartfelt thank you to both of you guys, you are wonderful peeps and you both rock!
Hi mickey. Thank you for sharing your story. It must have been so hard writing that. I am very sorry for all you have been through. So much of what you say I can relate too. I know nic will be touched when he reads your comments. The response from people saying that their channel has helped so many really found a good nerv and tbh I think he needed to hear it also. I hope you continue to improve. Should you ever need to talk feel free to message me on Facebook. Thank you
Thanks Mickey, it is so humbling to hear that our channel has helped you so profoundly, i only hope you can continue to improve and get back your quality of life, one of the reasons I want to share my story is to show that there can be a life after a long battle with depression.... I'm not saying it is easy, but there is hope... point yourself in the right direction and keep walking :)
Thank you so much Walter and Nic, this is such a powerful video and really humbling that you've found the courage to be so honest and open about your experiences. About a month ago I filmed a video talking about my anxiety and depression, but I haven't yet found the courage to upload it...maybe I will now. I hope you don't mind me making a suggestion, but I have found the treatment EMDR extremely helpful in helping me to overcome my difficulties. I've tried everything, anti-depressants, CBT, Tapping, psychotherapy, etc, etc and I even worked for Mind (mental health charity) for 5 years and have visited various mental health facilities and learnt all about good mental health, but wasn't able to apply it to myself. But the relief from my symptoms after starting the EMDR sessions has been life-changing. 6 months ago I lost my sister to an aggressive brain tumour and prior to that, I had been on anti-depressants for a year. For me to be able to get through the loss of my sister with the help of EMDR has been remarkable in my opinion. I'm now off the anti-depressants, and this morning I got up at 6.30am to have a morning run (something I haven't been able to do for years and years). The EMDR therapy is mainly used to treat PTSD but it's had profoundly beneficial effects on people who have experienced other types of trauma. We don't always believe that we've experienced trauma, if it seems like it's a small incident, but even the childhood bullying that you both talk about, can be enough to trigger depression and anxiety. Sorry for going on about it, but I'm a big fan and I just feel as though if only one person experiencing difficulties can get some help, then it's worth me waffling on! But, thanks again for such an important video, I hope that as my son gets older he is able to reach out, if he ever experiences depression or anxiety :O)
Hi hun. Thank you for your comment. And thank you very much for sharing. It isn’t easy to share our pains like this we somehow feel week but it’s the opposite we are so much stronger to share and help others. I hope many people read your comment and try emdr. I am very sorry for your loss. The pain never goes you just learn to live with it Your so brave If you can upload your struggles in your film I am sure it would help lots of people. The response we have had from these films letting us know we have helped so many actually helped us. Take care hun x
So many things here struck a chord, especially the comment about being a smiling depressed person. People don’t realise how things being said like “what have you got to be depressed about” show such a complete misunderstanding of the condition. As for those having a go at you saying ohh you bought that for £5 and are selling it for £30 or whatever, all I can think is they are jealous because they haven’t got the bottle to go look for things and do the same. Just plain jealousy. I think you’re right about having a thin outer shell of confidence that just one misplaced remark can penetrate and have a devastating effect. I was bullied as a child and although that was any years ago it never leaves you
A very inspiring video, to hear other peoples experiences and realise you are never alone is a huge thing for sufferers of anxiety and depression. A few months ago I opened up to my brother about how I had been feeling, only to realise he had been through it as well. It never goes away but knowing that there are people out there who truly understand made me more comfortable talking about it, which I think is the best help. Anxiety and depression has effected me since a small child, and the ebay reselling business ive just started has helped me conquer many fears, especially going out and talking to new people. Its like therapy! Thanks for the video :)
Hi Lindsey. Thank you very much for sharing your story. I hope both you and your brother are doing ok. You are welcome to message me on my Facebook group should you need to talk to someone
Hi Walter I am the same as yourself still battling it every day.You should be proud of yourself you have inspired me and others. I still self medicate to cope. But I can relate to yourself. I just cling on to hope.
Can’t believe each point made I can relate to at 70 never knew what I felt experienced, was a thing just basically muddled through life known as happy jaq yeah. Good jobs 3 wonderful children wth, no reason!,!
Thank you both - you are very inspirational, i have just started re-selling myself £287 for my first month, i am hoping to learn antiques and your videos are very helpful, thanks.
Thank you for your comment I appreciate it. Good luck on your journey of reselling. That is a start and the more you learn the more you will make. It is a wonderful life I wish you success
Thank you for your comment hun. Appreciate how hard it must have been for you so thank you for watching You know I am on end of text if you need to talk
Great video, well done both you guys for opening up and being brave enough to talk about your experiences. I’m sure it will help others out there who are going through it, so well done 👍
How the appearances can be deceptive !!! Both of you are intelligent, successful guys. Before I watched this video I would have believed you both are happy go lucky and very content. Me and my husband often watch your videos, especially Walter's, because we are interested in antiques, enjoy carboot sales, charity shops and I also sell lots of antique/vtg stuff online. Thank you for the great videos, we learned a lot from them !!! Please don't notice the negative people. They are always trying to knock down the better ones.
@@@AntiquesArena - I have to admit I suffer very badly from anxiety, it nearly made me a recluse. And my husband also has this problem, but now he feels much better. Nobody would ever have guessed this about him, not even his friends. He always looks and looked confident ( like you do) despite his crippling anxiety. Couple of months ago somebody advised him to take cold showers and he says it made a difference!!! The water really has to be cold and the water has to pummel your head and body for at least a minute or two - everyday! The stream of cold water acts as a electric shock to the brain and improves the mood. I haven't tried it yet, I just can't stand cold showers but maybe when the weather warms up I will give it a try.
Thank you very much for sharing I am going to try the cold shower thank you very much. Sending love should u ever need to text u can contact me on Facebook.
Thanks Martha, it is a valuable lesson that we can not judge a book by it's cover - so many of us hide what we have been through or are still going through, but the more we talk and share the more we can help and support each other.
Very good chat - i will say I am hiding a lot of emotion but i solve it with surrounding myself with happy people or thoughts. Last 4 years is very hard to discuss due to losing someone close that also put me into a depression state, but today I am driving to cheer on #teamste and little cheer for #teamcarla at the Bristol meet but it is for a moment of thanks to these people that we call friends who I never met. I try and use laughter and comedy to get me by, it works but sometimes i will go quiet and need space.... all part of being human sadly, I don't know how Vulcans do it ... thanks for sharing
I thought you were going to talk about Depression glass, Joking. I think when people tell a depressed person how lucky they are with having a good business and lovely family they think it will help and it does some, but depression is a mental unbalance that is a medical problem and not a character problem. Thank you for sharing.
This was so courageous of you both. I am genuinely pleased for anyone who doesn't understand how it feels to have mental health issues as it means they have never suffered. How do you possibly explain to someone who has not experienced it how it feels? I would say ' it feels like an absess in your head. Of festering puss. Even when the swelling subsidies, it is forever waiting for that little prod for it to erupt again. I purposely didn't watch before going to Bristol in case there were any triggers in there for me, but it is actually uplifting to see that despite everything you have come out the other side and achieving so much. Thank you so much for sharing this. And it was lovely to meet you in Bristol Walter. Take care. Xx
Wow guys what an amazing video, very brave of you both talking open about your experience of depression. Hopefully it will give others the courage to get help when it's needed. x
I am lucky enough to come from a family of "upbeats" so depression has not seemed to have touched me, however my husband is a sufferer of depression and stress and so have a small insight into you and Nic and how it can effect your everyday life. Interestingly I don't feel confident enough to start a RUclips channel so you are both an inspiration to me:0)
I hope your chat helps someone along the line, people need to realise there’s more to depression than just being told “To pull yourself together or sort yourself out”.May there always be light at the end of the tunnel for everyone.
Excellent video, very informative and emotional. Realising I am not alone! Thankyou for your candid sharing, very much appreciated. Subscribed to both channels, learning about ebay and hoping to develop and grow and move forward on a positive trajectory. Congratulations to you both for your success, very well deserved.
hi walter i too have been there i had a breakdown. not telling anyone .im a bloke and we aren't supposed to suffer depression. so i kept it bottled up .i had planned suicide last year .my wife found out what i had planned and got me some help depression lost me everything my house .my mind .job etc .i am on meds now but i just about make it through the day . im feeling very very low at the moment black dog never leaves me .i have nothing now .all i worked for has gone and i see my wife suffering because of my depression. its just such a weight
Hi Michael Hughes. Thank you for your comment. I am so sorry for all you have suffered and lost. I really don’t know what to say to what you have shared other than it couldn’t have been easy to come out and write it. I am more than happy to add you as a friend on Facebook and your welcome to text me if you need to chat. I can’t always talk but will get back to you when I can.
Thanks to you both for doing this chat. Sharing your experiences is a massive step forward in breaking down the stigma that surrounds mental health, especially for Men.
Thank you for your comment. It was hard. But glad we done it
Thanks Kelly x
Think when you finally say 'I cant take this anymore' is your most honest and courageous act in life.
I would encourage anyone with depression to take that painful first step to ask for help, you may have to fight for that help when you are least able but keep asking until you find the right program or therapist. There are great books out there as well, start there if you must and just keep going.
Hi Maggie. Thank you very much for your comment.
Ive been watching you Nic & Andrea quite a while over the last year and caught this `you tube` by chance, having suffered from anxiety for quite some time,its helped me so much listening to your journey with depression,so much of what you have said is true, not letting people know about it and struggling on ,my husband has been wonderful but I try not to let him see my bad days as I worry it takes its toll on him. Thank you so much for being there and being so open about this nasty condition, Im an immature 70 yr old :-) who was one of the first car booters forty odd years ago buying and then reselling when ebay started so get a real kick watching you all now.
Hi elly thank you very much for your comment and for sharing. My mam started the boots 40 years ago too like you I am glad you enjoy the films.
Bless you Edward and Nic for having the courage to do this chat.
I have nothing but massive respect and admiration for both of you and so much of what you said rings true to me.
Like a lot of resellers...Nic is to blame for starting us on this path lol but for me it literally saved my life.
I used to be a fairly outgoing, happy guy but changed into a hermit...someone who lost his job and friends because of depression, anxiety and panic attacks and i just hid myself away...despairing of the world and had gotten myself trapped in a dark place.
Well then a wonderful thing happened...i somehow stumbled across some chaps channel who was banging on about buying and selling stuff!
That day started the tiny buds of recovery and gave me the inspiration i needed to begin to claw my way back to a life with meaning, a life with hope...to turn myself into someone resembling a human being!
I'm not saying i'm back to my old self...don't think i'll ever get there but i've gone from someone who dreaded going out to now actually looking forward to it with a spring in my step!
I can't ever repay that chap who was banging on about tat but just wanted him to know that he has been my saviour.
So Nic, be so so proud of the person you are, you are an incredible inspiration and after watching this and Edward's other vid on this life-changing subject i can echo these sentiments about Edward too...to turn your life around to such a degree shows incredible strength of character.
So what i'm trying to say in my rambling way is a heartfelt thank you to both of you guys, you are wonderful peeps and you both rock!
Hi mickey. Thank you for sharing your story. It must have been so hard writing that. I am very sorry for all you have been through. So much of what you say I can relate too. I know nic will be touched when he reads your comments. The response from people saying that their channel has helped so many really found a good nerv and tbh I think he needed to hear it also. I hope you continue to improve. Should you ever need to talk feel free to message me on Facebook. Thank you
Thanks Mickey, it is so humbling to hear that our channel has helped you so profoundly, i only hope you can continue to improve and get back your quality of life, one of the reasons I want to share my story is to show that there can be a life after a long battle with depression.... I'm not saying it is easy, but there is hope... point yourself in the right direction and keep walking :)
Thank you so much Walter and Nic, this is such a powerful video and really humbling that you've found the courage to be so honest and open about your experiences. About a month ago I filmed a video talking about my anxiety and depression, but I haven't yet found the courage to upload it...maybe I will now. I hope you don't mind me making a suggestion, but I have found the treatment EMDR extremely helpful in helping me to overcome my difficulties. I've tried everything, anti-depressants, CBT, Tapping, psychotherapy, etc, etc and I even worked for Mind (mental health charity) for 5 years and have visited various mental health facilities and learnt all about good mental health, but wasn't able to apply it to myself. But the relief from my symptoms after starting the EMDR sessions has been life-changing. 6 months ago I lost my sister to an aggressive brain tumour and prior to that, I had been on anti-depressants for a year. For me to be able to get through the loss of my sister with the help of EMDR has been remarkable in my opinion. I'm now off the anti-depressants, and this morning I got up at 6.30am to have a morning run (something I haven't been able to do for years and years). The EMDR therapy is mainly used to treat PTSD but it's had profoundly beneficial effects on people who have experienced other types of trauma. We don't always believe that we've experienced trauma, if it seems like it's a small incident, but even the childhood bullying that you both talk about, can be enough to trigger depression and anxiety. Sorry for going on about it, but I'm a big fan and I just feel as though if only one person experiencing difficulties can get some help, then it's worth me waffling on! But, thanks again for such an important video, I hope that as my son gets older he is able to reach out, if he ever experiences depression or anxiety :O)
Hi hun. Thank you for your comment. And thank you very much for sharing. It isn’t easy to share our pains like this we somehow feel week but it’s the opposite we are so much stronger to share and help others. I hope many people read your comment and try emdr. I am very sorry for your loss. The pain never goes you just learn to live with it Your so brave If you can upload your struggles in your film I am sure it would help lots of people. The response we have had from these films letting us know we have helped so many actually helped us. Take care hun x
That was heartfelt and powerful
Thank you very much
Thanks Jeff
So many things here struck a chord, especially the comment about being a smiling depressed person. People don’t realise how things being said like “what have you got to be depressed about” show such a complete misunderstanding of the condition. As for those having a go at you saying ohh you bought that for £5 and are selling it for £30 or whatever, all I can think is they are jealous because they haven’t got the bottle to go look for things and do the same. Just plain jealousy. I think you’re right about having a thin outer shell of confidence that just one misplaced remark can penetrate and have a devastating effect. I was bullied as a child and although that was any years ago it never leaves you
Hi nanny pat. Thank you very much for your supportive comment. Means a lot
A very inspiring video, to hear other peoples experiences and realise you are never alone is a huge thing for sufferers of anxiety and depression. A few months ago I opened up to my brother about how I had been feeling, only to realise he had been through it as well. It never goes away but knowing that there are people out there who truly understand made me more comfortable talking about it, which I think is the best help. Anxiety and depression has effected me since a small child, and the ebay reselling business ive just started has helped me conquer many fears, especially going out and talking to new people. Its like therapy! Thanks for the video :)
Hi Lindsey. Thank you very much for sharing your story. I hope both you and your brother are doing ok. You are welcome to message me on my Facebook group should you need to talk to someone
Hi Walter I am the same as yourself still battling it every day.You should be proud of yourself you have inspired me and others. I still self medicate to cope. But I can relate to yourself. I just cling on to hope.
Hi mate. Thank you for your comment. Should u ever need to talk you can message me on Facebook
Can’t believe each point made I can relate to at 70 never knew what I felt experienced, was a thing just basically muddled through life known as happy jaq yeah. Good jobs 3 wonderful children wth, no reason!,!
Hi jaq I hope everything is good with your depression now and thank you for your comment.
Thank you both - you are very inspirational, i have just started re-selling myself £287 for my first month, i am hoping to learn antiques and your videos are very helpful, thanks.
Thank you for your comment I appreciate it. Good luck on your journey of reselling. That is a start and the more you learn the more you will make. It is a wonderful life I wish you success
Thank you for this video, hard to watch as it brought back some painful feelings.
Thank you for your comment hun. Appreciate how hard it must have been for you so thank you for watching You know I am on end of text if you need to talk
Great video, well done both you guys for opening up and being brave enough to talk about your experiences. I’m sure it will help others out there who are going through it, so well done 👍
Hi simon. Thank you very much for your comment and support.
Thanks Simon - I still find it hard to talk about but like you say it needs to be done... there is no shame in suffering mental health
How the appearances can be deceptive !!! Both of you are intelligent, successful guys. Before I watched this video I would have believed you both are happy go lucky and very content.
Me and my husband often watch your videos, especially Walter's, because we are interested in antiques, enjoy carboot sales, charity shops and I also sell lots of antique/vtg stuff online. Thank you for the great videos, we learned a lot from them !!!
Please don't notice the negative people. They are always trying to knock down the better ones.
Thank you very much Martha for your comment and support x
@@@AntiquesArena - I have to admit I suffer very badly from anxiety, it nearly made me a recluse. And my husband also has this problem, but now he feels much better. Nobody would ever have guessed this about him, not even his friends. He always looks and looked confident ( like you do) despite his crippling anxiety. Couple of months ago somebody advised him to take cold showers and he says it made a difference!!! The water really has to be cold and the water has to pummel your head and body for at least a minute or two - everyday! The stream of cold water acts as a electric shock to the brain and improves the mood.
I haven't tried it yet, I just can't stand cold showers but maybe when the weather warms up I will give it a try.
Thank you very much for sharing I am going to try the cold shower thank you very much. Sending love should u ever need to text u can contact me on Facebook.
Thanks Martha, it is a valuable lesson that we can not judge a book by it's cover - so many of us hide what we have been through or are still going through, but the more we talk and share the more we can help and support each other.
Very good chat - i will say I am hiding a lot of emotion but i solve it with surrounding myself with happy people or thoughts. Last 4 years is very hard to discuss due to losing someone close that also put me into a depression state, but today I am driving to cheer on #teamste and little cheer for #teamcarla at the Bristol meet but it is for a moment of thanks to these people that we call friends who I never met. I try and use laughter and comedy to get me by, it works but sometimes i will go quiet and need space.... all part of being human sadly, I don't know how Vulcans do it ... thanks for sharing
Hi Dave thank you for your comment I know what you mean about surrounding yourself with happy people. It does help. Was nice to meet you mate
Antiquesarena well I got back to hotel ok - great night with many happy faces
Good to hear it mate. I got back to Wales ok too lol
I thought you were going to talk about Depression glass, Joking. I think when people tell a depressed person how lucky they are with having a good business and lovely family they think it will help and it does some, but depression is a mental unbalance that is a medical problem and not a character problem. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you very much Brenda
This was so courageous of you both. I am genuinely pleased for anyone who doesn't understand how it feels to have mental health issues as it means they have never suffered. How do you possibly explain to someone who has not experienced it how it feels? I would say ' it feels like an absess in your head. Of festering puss. Even when the swelling subsidies, it is forever waiting for that little prod for it to erupt again. I purposely didn't watch before going to Bristol in case there were any triggers in there for me, but it is actually uplifting to see that despite everything you have come out the other side and achieving so much. Thank you so much for sharing this. And it was lovely to meet you in Bristol Walter. Take care. Xx
Hi sue. Thank you for your kind comments. And for sharing. It was very nice to meet you also
Wow guys what an amazing video, very brave of you both talking open about your experience of depression. Hopefully it will give others the courage to get help when it's needed. x
Thank you very much for your comment and support.
Very brave of you two guys to tackle this subject, it will help many people! xx
Thank you very much
I am lucky enough to come from a family of "upbeats" so depression has not seemed to have touched me, however my husband is a sufferer of depression and stress and so have a small insight into you and Nic and how it can effect your everyday life. Interestingly I don't feel confident enough to start a RUclips channel so you are both an inspiration to me:0)
Thank you very much for your comment. You have supported me on my films and journey so should u ever need to chat message me on facebook.
I hope your chat helps someone along the line, people need to realise there’s more to depression than just being told “To pull yourself together or sort yourself out”.May there always be light at the end of the tunnel for everyone.
Hi Steve. Thank you very much mate. I hope people find comfort in they arnt alone
Thanks Steve, I managed to find my light and hope others can find a better quality of life after depression....
Excellent video, very informative and emotional. Realising I am not alone! Thankyou for your candid sharing, very much appreciated. Subscribed to both channels, learning about ebay and hoping to develop and grow and move forward on a positive trajectory. Congratulations to you both for your success, very well deserved.
Yes, can see you both and hear you in the usa
Thank you Kathy
hi walter
i too have been there i had a breakdown. not telling anyone .im a bloke and we aren't supposed to suffer depression. so i kept it bottled up .i had planned suicide last year .my wife found out what i had planned and got me some help depression lost me everything my house .my mind .job etc .i am on meds now but i just about make it through the day .
im feeling very very low at the moment black dog never leaves me .i have nothing now .all i worked for has gone and i see my wife suffering because of my depression. its just such a weight
Hi Michael Hughes. Thank you for your comment. I am so sorry for all you have suffered and lost. I really don’t know what to say to what you have shared other than it couldn’t have been easy to come out and write it. I am more than happy to add you as a friend on Facebook and your welcome to text me if you need to chat. I can’t always talk but will get back to you when I can.
Hang in there Michael - I've been to a place I could see no way out of but there was light at the end of it all...
Benefits charity, do you mean shop's which are businesses or do you give some of your profit directly to a charity?
Hi
That feeling when you only realise you've mispelled your username on youtube when Nic Hills reads it out in front of hundreds of people... duh! :-p
Thank you for your comment. People will still find you don’t worry lol
LOL