This whole trend is giving a terrible message. No one is safe from traffickers, being assaulted, or creepy men just because of their looks. I was catcalled when I was an ugly 14 year old and as an average 20 year old who takes times to look decent. Women are targets regardless for their bodies and what some men think that can offer. I can’t believe they’re spreading the idea that the uglier you look the safer you are because it’s simply not true.
I'm glad you said this, i was thinking the same thing. I would have been considered the "duff" of my friend group when i was 14/15 years old. Guys and some rude girls wouldn't hesitate to make it known either, backhanded compliments were the majority of "compliments" i would receive from basically anyone that wasn't my 3 closest friends (they're still my best friends today). I was the butt of the "forever alone" joke when that meme was popular lol (ancient meme reference). Anyway, my point is, even though i was considered ugly, i still got harassed, and SA'd. In fact, i think some people take advantage of "ugly" people because they're seen as an "easy target", sometimes staying away from "pretty" people because they're perceived as intimidating (although that kind of thinking has lead to "pretty" people being assaulted because the other person is enraged by their feelings of inferiority, etc.). Basically, i word vomited all that to say i agree, and i'm glad you brought this up
My mother told me bc I was not attractive in the traditional sense so she said I’d never have to worry about men being creepy…… fast forward to 19 & I got date R🍇 ‘d😢 it’s a dangerous thing to believe
In 00:09 what she’s saying is SO SO wrong. Getting kidnapped/assaulted has nothing to do with the appearance of a person. Things like that can happen to anyone, no matter how pretty/“ugly” someone is.
She’s incredibly naive. Not being conventionally attractive doesn’t stop predators from doing what they want to do. And also, she’s really not ugly at all.
Everyone knows that lol, the reason girls say stuff like is to cope w being "ugly" (they're still heartwarmingly pleasing to the eye, just not fitting stupid overused standards who make a CERTAINN group of people stand out more.) I understood her joke and what my girlies r saying, because ITS COPING. Not one made to actually be believed or belittle others. It's a coping mechanism.
One thing is right, you get way less attention. You don't standout from the crowd because you're the crowd. Creepy guys don't tail a person like that. But alone in an ally is another story , looks don't apply there
“Ugly” doesn’t keep you safe. It means people won’t believe you if you report any type of assault. People will threaten and cat-call and assault and say you ought to thank them after they hurt you. Keep in minf, you can hop on a plane somewhere and land in a place where you could be eithet beautiful or ugly. When I lived a place where I was “ugly” I got a lot of harassment. One hour flight away and I’m on the other wnd of the spectrum. Remember SA has nothing to do with attraction. Please be safe!
this is such a stupid trend and perpetuates a very harmful idea, that only attractive people get assaulted and making the assault about attraction rather than power and control. Not only does this justify criminal behaviour towards women who are conventionally attractive, it also can be used to dismiss non conventional womens experiences and trauma.
So true. I have heard so many times of victims being called too ugly to be r-worded and that they had to be lying. It's fucked. No matter how you look, how much you weigh, it's all about power and control. These girls are spreading a false sense of security that can become really dangerous.
One tip for Gen Z: stop overanalyzing, overcategorizing, overlabeling and overthinking. I promise you, life will be better. Coming from an ignorant 40+ yo european millenial.
Ive been ugly my whole life. Ive recently truly accepted this in my 40s. I can see it being a privilege from someone whos constantly being approached because of what they look like. I can understand why its seen as a relief. If these same women get ugly privilege for lets say a month, they wouldnt want it and would want to switch back immediately. There's no flirty smiles or cute guys winking back. No upgrades or on the house anything just for existing. Men go out of their way to not look at me in an exaggerated way, doors have been let go of if they guy doesn't think Im pretty. Ive been ewwed at by groups in passing...and walking past a group of ppl who are silent only to hear loud laughter when I pass. Its like being catcalled but opposite. Acquaintances assume Im not interested in being loved because of what I look like. They're shocked when I reveal I want someone romantically. If I was attractive, they would be shocked that I didnt have anyone. Men assume you're easy because you're ugly. Try to eff you and if they do, deny it with disgust. Looks do matter. Yes I still care what ppl think of me. Im hypersensitive and still want to feel accepted by society. Life is easier when ppl like looking at you...
Hugs to you ♥ I'm going through the same thing, except im in my 20s and seeing people become surprised when i reveal my age just sucks. You see all those pretty people having social life and being creative on tiktok, having the best time of their life and then you remember you'd be laughed at for doing the same things. Like, imagine your youth happened exactly at the time when people are this obsessed with looks, look at kpop, tiktok and etc. It's just a miserable existence. And it doesn't get better with age because people aim to look younger and make their beauty last so more and more people look pretty good even among older generations
What is actually funny is none of these girls who claim to be “ugly” is actually ugly, they look fine, they think they’re ugly because they compare themselves to models who edit their own pictures and videos which is actually sad
Honey I've been called ugly, or funny looking all my life. I'm 40 and to be honest I don't give a s***. I was called an Iguana, Dino from The Flintstones because I have a big nose🤷🏾 I'm a beautiful person to me, because of the way I treat people. So my looks to people may not be everything to them, but I feel good about me and that's what matters. We are all wonderfully, and beautifully made. We're not going to be everybody's flavor, but we are someone's 🤷🏾
if that’s you in your pfp you are so pretty, i don’t even know how people could insult you. but your message is real and important thank you for saying it, we were all made different so there is no point trying to be like everyone else
But can we blame them? Listen, media always put that sight of "Prettier girls are treated better", and who knows what these girls went through to be that obsessed w it? I think its a problem like the global warming, doesnt matter if you dont throw trash on the floor, if you take care of plants and trees if the companies still chopping way more than 30 trees a day, but companies and media will change that? No, so the only option is try to not be so attatched with beauty and live your own truth
Ecclesiastes 1:2-4 KJV [2] Vanity of vanities, saith the Preacher, vanity of vanities; all is vanity. [3] What profit hath a man of all his labour which he taketh under the sun? [4] One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh: but the earth abideth for ever.
There rlly is smth wrong with people nowadays. My 13 year old sister was called 'fat' for being at a healthy weight, BY HER BEST FRIEND'S MOTHER. Like, what has happened to people??
I'm ugly to the extent that people have made whole accounts just to repost my photos and point out of every flaw. It has not protected me from gross people being gross. We're really just picking stupid new crap out of a hat now, aren't we?
One of many reasons I despise social media is that there is no spectrum. If one particular thing becomes popular, something opposite to that is trending pretty soon. There is NOTHING between them. Also, you have to belong somewhere. Therefore, if you're not X, then you have to be Y that stands to the opposition to X. You ain't pretty? Then you must be ugly! - this is how I see thaglt. The worst thing is the fact that everyone is only intrested in looks while people have so many other things to offer! In social media you can't be beautiful, you can't be ugly, yet you have to be something to feel that you matter
For the love of all that's holy, are we sinking this freaking low, now? Why aren't I surprised? People are so hyperfocused on looks. Just be the best you you can be. Not everyone likes the same thing! Diversity is the name of the game - tall, short, cut, curvy, brunette, blond, tan, fair, blue eyes, brown eyes, glasses or not... Stop looking at yourself as ugly just because you may have a different look than what ridiculous social media says is correct. Strut like you're the shit and everyone will think so too. Confidence is attractive AND attracting. Ugh 🙄
Not always true. If you are a woman, you get harassed pretty or ugly, skinny or chubby. I got hit on the most in college, overweight, bad diy haircuts, no makeup, ugly secondhand clothes clothes. I get hit on the least now and im way hotter by normal beauty standards. Do my hair and makeup every day better clothes, more confidence. Most of the compliments i get today are from women. More men look at me now but approach me way less than they used to. It really depends on several factors.
Privilege is something extra that you get . Being invisible because of ugliness isn't a privilege it's a disadvantage bcz together with creepy people you're also invisible to the normal ones
Girls, don't down your self confidence, nowadays everyone have same face, fox eyes big cheek bones, big lips, small noses bla bla. Please stay as you are. You are uniquely beautiful. I have seen girls bullying each other about beauty on social media and that hurts me.
When I was heavier, no one really bothered me. I’m not drop dead gorgeous but as a semi-attractive person I don’t get much benefit from it, other than men bothering me. You don’t even get a better chance at relationships
It definitely was not more real and raw before. If anything, it's more real and raw NOW because more people are being held accountable for their actions, people are being open about how they get the things they get, and then there are videos like this that we're watching! People are being called out for their bullcrap, as they should, ya know?
Asinine beyond compare because all these people who are supposedly raving about “ugly privilege” are either conventionally or objectively attractive (& there’s no way they aren’t aware of this)…’relatability baiting’ at play once again. Truly comical.
I was called ugly or average by some people but also called pretty or cute by others. But I leaned that being ugly or not fitting society standards. People will try to attack, harrass, or sexual abused by people. Everyone or anyone can be a victim.
Oh my gosh, I just realized I was the duff in my friend group. Guys used to approach me to ask about my friends all of the time and I never got asked out.
Honestly, I wouldnt even consider myself to be very pretty but people always find me less intelligent. I go to a college that is very academically rigorous so most of the times, people do not put much effort into their looks. I have really bad facial and body dysmorphia so I always try to be presentable in college. However, I have noticed this pattern that people have always treated me as this dumb bimbo. Even if I get a high grade (with my own hard work) people are quick to say that I must have 'done' something with the teacher to get that. At this point, I just try my best to take the most 'difficult' subjects in college, so that I prove others that I am not dumb.
As someone who grew up fat, blotchy, and no grooming taught to me this is pretty insulting. It was not a choice to look the way I did. I guess I should be happy I was left alone?
Hair styling was my dad ripping at my scalp with a pick, we'd get the belt if we didn't brush teeth, and skin care was my dad forcefully smearing lotion on my face. My mom would let me go weeks without bathing and refuse to teach me about tampons. Idk how I made it to adulthood.
well I agree, some people are blessed with genetics and are lucky enough to have features that fit in the current beauty standards (standards that change and shift every decade though) but plastic surgery has been so normalized because of social media and celebrities that it became "the norm" and what "you're supposed to look like" even though it's clearly unachievable
Someone below already made an amazing comment about how being "ugly" doesnt even prevent kidnapping and I'd like to to this also from the social view of this as well. This is such a rose tinted view of the treatment of being considered "ugly" is like. They think this sh*t is all nice and fun until they dont have dating options and you want to have conpanionship with someone and they'll turn valid suggestions/advise into excuses like well you should focus on yourself anyway. People seem to forget that people also pick victims based on whether or not they'll be noticed if they are gone. Saying word vomit that boils down to you want to be ignored is not it. Sure you don't want to be all about attention and just want exist but you don't want the opposite end either. I think these people don't understand the shere oscillation and depression people who are considered "ugly" can go through and thats not even getting to the bad treatment as well. They see being treated as ugly as "just" being ignored and completely ignore how "ugly" people are often the target of unwanted harassment and bullying. Like literally you could be minding your own business and people will drag your looks for no reason. Its such a slap in the face of many who have been hurt by people's treatment and to turn around and slap a label on "ugly" people's treatment as privilege. Its just yucky all around and just filled with an immense lack of sympathy and empathy just because they dont have the brain compacity to just say "I dont like being sexulized and wish people would sexulize me less" Instead they turn around and call it privilege without understanding "ugly" people don't have the "level of freedom" they perceive "ugly" people as having without pain and/or truama behind it. Its like its so hard for such self centered people to understand no one is free of any form of harrasment espcially one based one's looks.
Almost never been harassed. Only as a child by another child. So its true ugly privilege exists. And its safe and preferable to pretty privilege. The jerks go for pretty.
@@mittag983 but a good outfit and haircut makes a big difference have you tried that. I can't be bothered w hair. And I'm in the same boat just wondering
Can we please stop referring to normal, average people as ugly. And the reason all these "pretty" celebs and insta models ect look like that is, money, dietitians, fitness coaching, surgery, dermatologist, highend make up, hair salon, extentions, lashes, contacts and filters. And sometimes your seeing all that on one person. So if you ever see the newest "hot" girl on socail media and start feeling bad about yourself, just picture her as you start removing each of those things. You wont get through the whole list before you realise that without all that, she is no more all that you are really.
I think the funny thing about ugly privilege is that usually you’re ugly without makeup or when you’re working out. But when they’re all dolled up these people are still pretty or just pretty in general (even without the other things). Even when benefiting ugly people, pretty people still have a place in a given trend.
I've been ugly, I've been pretty. There are pros and cons to both. Some of these "ugly privilege" people are not even ugly. Lol, I remember once I was walking my dog early in the morning. I hadn't even brushed my teeth, I was wearing a hoodie and sweats and a man approached me. Ugly people will and can still be bothered. Even if you're "ugly" someone's going to find you attractive.
Just a reminder for these ladies that catcalling and kidnapping has more to do with intimidation and wanting power over you and not necessarily your looks.
I feel like plastic surgery would surge way more if “natural” beauty becomes essential (no makeup at ALL). Tho I don’t wear makeup I feel like my acne is my only (ugly privilege) lol
I feel like there has been a massive shift online. From people talking about pretty privilege. To then talking about problems of being pretty to then playing victim and saying how there isn't any pretty privileged because being pretty is so hard and ugly people don't expirence some things. I have even see people who said that ugly people are the bad bullies. And now this.... What next?
Nah man, when I was at my ugliest (I was 12 to be fair), literally full face of pimples, hair like a lions mane and my eyebrows unkept and messy, I was followed by a dude who kept whispering „pretty girl” and would just not leave me alone. This happened inside of a train, I kept going from one end to the other and he followed me, touched me and talked to me. NO ONE did anything to help. Not a single person looked up or said shit. Creeps and kidnappers don’t care what you look like, they just care about whether you’re vulnerable or not. Having people ignore you, especially in a moment like this, is nothing like privilege.
This is horrible but i was so happy to be ugly when i was younger because i thought that all the girls that show up in missing person reports were all pretty and young. But im older now and I think ive grown into my face and i get pretty privilege now. I got free rides, free meals, leniency and so on. I think i prefer ugly privilege because i can always make myself pretty
I do have pretty privilege in many aspects of my life, but, I have such horrible insecurities due to me having a traumatic childhood and grew up being berated about my appearance, so when I finally became beautiful, I easy to manipulate due to the trauma I suffered. I got really fucked up mentally from being taken advantage of, and I developed a deep self-hatred. I was eventually diagnosed with quiet borderline personality disorder, which is a very emotionally and physically painful illness, and it opened my eyes to how much hurt I’d experienced. Thankfully I’ve been working on my mental health and am so much better, and am enjoying the pretty privilege I have, but I still have deep insecurities from everything. So unfortunately, being beautiful can genuinely hurt you if you grew up and experienced these situations.
One day I was telling my mom that I didn't like the way I looked and that I wish I look like her, and she told me that I was lucky to not be because she would have preferred to not be pretty just so men would not harass her, and I get her point but could have said it differently🧍🏻♀️
Sidney Sweeney looks like teen girls whose bodies have developed. I was in junior high school with girls who were a C cup but you could tell they were young because they had baby faces.
Honestly predatores out there who are truly evil do in generall not care what someone looks like. All a predator is looking for is a victim , and god damn anyone could be a victim no matter how pretty you are. so i think this narrative is very wrong.
The title is intriguing so I clicked this. I'm a 40 yo guy but I was super obese and ugly in my 20s. Yes no one will talk to you, but then you also won't have any friend. Also, no one will disturb you? I've been SA'd in a crowded bus multiple times by old guys. I even got rpd in the gym (and became gymphobic, haven't touched the gym again since). SA is not about attractiveness. It's about exerting power. I guess my 20s obese ugly self was seen as easy target for those old men. SA and rpd then was done to establish superiority and hierarchy? Dunno. I became such an unsocial and distant depressed person in crowded place. Thankfully isolation in covid gave me a much needed alone time out of society and it somehow healed me. I made peace and moved on. Lost 30kg and became normal BMI. Right now I'm just enjoying what life has. Ironically, people now starting to say that I looked handsome. Eh, won't bother with all of that. I'm content with being forever alone 😄
this is so so damaging on so many levels? as people mentioned being "ugly" is not an invisibility cloak that protects you from assault or harassment, but also it just seems like the whole trend is just a thinly veiled excuse to self-hate. So many of the people in those tiktoks look like perfectly fine, normal people and majority of them I found really pretty. I can understand not wanting slimy attention from people (especially men), it's a big reason why I don't put a lot of effort into my appearance myself, but really I feel like that only worsens your self-esteem, plus as mentioned it's not a magical Man-Deterrent anyway
@@YOURBFF. All you need to do is look in the mirror and find what you love about yourself. You don’t need other’s approval to feel good in your own body, we all have imperfections.
@@MaraMummsy Im confused by your comment, I was saying that I thought all of them were pretty idk if you thought I meant something else when I said that I never said I thought I was ugly im just confused 😭
The girl with the two braids is so pretty!! Haha beauty is in the high of the beholder because I don’t think she’s ugly at all lol. I think the kidnapping fear could have more to do with size. I’m petite and someone might kidnap me just because I’d be easy to carry or shove in a van 😮 I’m not insanely pretty and I’m in my 30s!! But my body is small so I have kidnap fears tbh
as a kinda ugly teen my mom and her friends would frequently bully and slutshame me and bet on when i'd get SA'd. meanwhile at school people didnt approach me or made fun of my style. i can say, i've grown into my looks and have experienced being both really "ugly" and suddenly "pretty", but i can assure you, either way, you're never safe. ever.
7:36 Ngl this is kind of how majority of the girls in my school always looked and now with the new generation middle schoolers are starting to look like this😅
Notice how people are ENCOURAGING UGLY.. Like they're ENCOURAGING to be OVERWEIGHT and UNHEALTHY. If you're confident ( regardless of how you look), you wouldn't be bothered by beauty standards, so much.
5:10 WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIMMMMM??!! AND SHE'S REALLY BEAUTIFUL - U WOULD NOT MAKE A VIDEO LIKE THAT AND POST IT TO THE INTERNET, NO RESPECT AT ALL IM SO DISGUSTED SORRY
When i was in school there was a boy who was chatting on his insecurities and brought my name up as in " look at her," regarding my body type being skinny then at school it didn't come as a surprize to me but it stuck with me. I remember later feeling so uncomfortable abt it. He did feel bad cause he used to greet me and all and my friend kinda told him like how could he do that. But i realized then and there i was the DUFF at schl. I dont even care anymore lol.😂
Hmm... dangerous people will do what they do, doesnt matter how you look sis and btw you havent seen ugly. Dont fall into that false sense of security just because you think you're ugly.
I rarely get catcalled, but rather than I feel ugly. I know sure that I just have a scary face or bitchy face, my family always said that my face looks like I'm always ready to throw a punch
Can people stop doing this? I don't care what people look like. I don't call people ugly or pretty. As long as they are stylish, have a good heart, intelligence then i have my respect
The people you showed are just normal humans. They’re not ugly. I look very average and no women or man talked to me in ages. In one hand life is easy like that but on the other hand I don’t feel pretty or desired or seen. Being pretty, mid, ugly is not black and white. Everything has its downs and perks
I think this mindset like "iam ugly n nobody would't harass me " misogynistic it's giving i am not like other girls vibes. People will harassing n sexualize even "ugly" people cos its not only about your prettiness but of theirs desires to show their dominance as well
This whole trend is giving a terrible message. No one is safe from traffickers, being assaulted, or creepy men just because of their looks. I was catcalled when I was an ugly 14 year old and as an average 20 year old who takes times to look decent. Women are targets regardless for their bodies and what some men think that can offer. I can’t believe they’re spreading the idea that the uglier you look the safer you are because it’s simply not true.
You must look better than me then. Maybe 1 catcall entire life. Never in any danger. Look boyish i guess and not in any cute way.
"Omg, did you assault and kidnap me cause you... you think I'm hot? Flattered 💅. Mwah I like bad boys"
I'm glad you said this, i was thinking the same thing. I would have been considered the "duff" of my friend group when i was 14/15 years old. Guys and some rude girls wouldn't hesitate to make it known either, backhanded compliments were the majority of "compliments" i would receive from basically anyone that wasn't my 3 closest friends (they're still my best friends today). I was the butt of the "forever alone" joke when that meme was popular lol (ancient meme reference). Anyway, my point is, even though i was considered ugly, i still got harassed, and SA'd. In fact, i think some people take advantage of "ugly" people because they're seen as an "easy target", sometimes staying away from "pretty" people because they're perceived as intimidating (although that kind of thinking has lead to "pretty" people being assaulted because the other person is enraged by their feelings of inferiority, etc.). Basically, i word vomited all that to say i agree, and i'm glad you brought this up
My mother told me bc I was not attractive in the traditional sense so she said I’d never have to worry about men being creepy…… fast forward to 19 & I got date R🍇 ‘d😢 it’s a dangerous thing to believe
Literally
I wish for once the beauty standard was just being healthy
fr like what about having stable physical and mental health 😭i wish that was a trend??
@@zee0905_You would be labelled as ugly then 😂
i rather be ugly & happy then 😭😭
Or just being healthy and a good person
Physically & mentally healthy
In 00:09 what she’s saying is SO SO wrong. Getting kidnapped/assaulted has nothing to do with the appearance of a person. Things like that can happen to anyone, no matter how pretty/“ugly” someone is.
She’s incredibly naive. Not being conventionally attractive doesn’t stop predators from doing what they want to do. And also, she’s really not ugly at all.
Everyone knows that lol, the reason girls say stuff like is to cope w being "ugly" (they're still heartwarmingly pleasing to the eye, just not fitting stupid overused standards who make a CERTAINN group of people stand out more.) I understood her joke and what my girlies r saying, because ITS COPING. Not one made to actually be believed or belittle others. It's a coping mechanism.
@@dogzentraining agree w the last part!! but its an actual joking way of coping, not something she bielives in😭(i think)
One thing is right, you get way less attention. You don't standout from the crowd because you're the crowd. Creepy guys don't tail a person like that. But alone in an ally is another story , looks don't apply there
@@dogzentrainingexactly just fat 💀
Average does not equal ugliness. People should be honest and just admit that they are not satisfied with being average.
Someone once said im ok with being the side character and that changed my brain chemistry.
I think they forgot that bullying was smt especially ugly people experienced
true n most of the time theyre not ugly, just not pretty (average)
People also bully they think are prettier. Jealousy is a thing especially among women.
@@YurinanAcquiline we know but it happens rarely incomparison what happens to people who are less atractive
Fr being ugly could never be a privilege when people don't even treat you as a human being most of the time.
@@diegelmichelle2978 Not enough people do especially whenever it’s brought up everyone just ignores it.
“Ugly” doesn’t keep you safe. It means people won’t believe you if you report any type of assault. People will threaten and cat-call and assault and say you ought to thank them
after they hurt you.
Keep in minf, you can hop on a plane somewhere and land in a place where you could be eithet beautiful or ugly.
When I lived a place where I was “ugly” I got a lot of harassment. One hour flight away and I’m on the other wnd of the spectrum.
Remember SA has nothing to do with attraction. Please be safe!
this is such a stupid trend and perpetuates a very harmful idea, that only attractive people get assaulted and making the assault about attraction rather than power and control. Not only does this justify criminal behaviour towards women who are conventionally attractive, it also can be used to dismiss non conventional womens experiences and trauma.
So true. I have heard so many times of victims being called too ugly to be r-worded and that they had to be lying. It's fucked. No matter how you look, how much you weigh, it's all about power and control. These girls are spreading a false sense of security that can become really dangerous.
@@karofauskeI’m Indian and I’ve been told by multiple people that south Asian girls are too ugly to be r-worded.
One tip for Gen Z: stop overanalyzing, overcategorizing, overlabeling and overthinking. I promise you, life will be better. Coming from an ignorant 40+ yo european millenial.
Ive been ugly my whole life. Ive recently truly accepted this in my 40s. I can see it being a privilege from someone whos constantly being approached because of what they look like. I can understand why its seen as a relief.
If these same women get ugly privilege for lets say a month, they wouldnt want it and would want to switch back immediately. There's no flirty smiles or cute guys winking back. No upgrades or on the house anything just for existing.
Men go out of their way to not look at me in an exaggerated way, doors have been let go of if they guy doesn't think Im pretty. Ive been ewwed at by groups in passing...and walking past a group of ppl who are silent only to hear loud laughter when I pass. Its like being catcalled but opposite.
Acquaintances assume Im not interested in being loved because of what I look like. They're shocked when I reveal I want someone romantically. If I was attractive, they would be shocked that I didnt have anyone.
Men assume you're easy because you're ugly. Try to eff you and if they do, deny it with disgust. Looks do matter. Yes I still care what ppl think of me. Im hypersensitive and still want to feel accepted by society. Life is easier when ppl like looking at you...
Hugs to you ♥ I'm going through the same thing, except im in my 20s and seeing people become surprised when i reveal my age just sucks. You see all those pretty people having social life and being creative on tiktok, having the best time of their life and then you remember you'd be laughed at for doing the same things. Like, imagine your youth happened exactly at the time when people are this obsessed with looks, look at kpop, tiktok and etc. It's just a miserable existence. And it doesn't get better with age because people aim to look younger and make their beauty last so more and more people look pretty good even among older generations
As a 32 year old man I’d like to say I hope you find a nice boyfriend I’m sure you’ll find someone
@@이젠조금씩지쳐가네I’m a 32 year old man and I totally agree and understand
i definitely think that it’s “cope” to not having “pretty privilege.”
REAL
What is actually funny is none of these girls who claim to be “ugly” is actually ugly, they look fine, they think they’re ugly because they compare themselves to models who edit their own pictures and videos which is actually sad
Honey I've been called ugly, or funny looking all my life. I'm 40 and to be honest I don't give a s***. I was called an Iguana, Dino from The Flintstones because I have a big nose🤷🏾 I'm a beautiful person to me, because of the way I treat people. So my looks to people may not be everything to them, but I feel good about me and that's what matters. We are all wonderfully, and beautifully made. We're not going to be everybody's flavor, but we are someone's 🤷🏾
very true, from your pfp I think you look great but it's even better that YOU know you look great cause that's the most important
@@nayeongshin7377fr ❤
if that’s you in your pfp you are so pretty, i don’t even know how people could insult you. but your message is real and important thank you for saying it, we were all made different so there is no point trying to be like everyone else
@@nayeongshin7377 Thank you Lovie for the kind words. Thank you for compliment, I greatly appreciate it 🤗
@@nedraunique_mindset222 no worries ♥️
People are so obsessed with this life that they forget about death and what actually matters, its a sad and pathetic world
But can we blame them? Listen, media always put that sight of "Prettier girls are treated better", and who knows what these girls went through to be that obsessed w it? I think its a problem like the global warming, doesnt matter if you dont throw trash on the floor, if you take care of plants and trees if the companies still chopping way more than 30 trees a day, but companies and media will change that? No, so the only option is try to not be so attatched with beauty and live your own truth
tbh
Ecclesiastes 1:2-4 KJV
[2] Vanity of vanities, saith the Preacher, vanity of vanities; all is vanity. [3] What profit hath a man of all his labour which he taketh under the sun? [4] One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh: but the earth abideth for ever.
so i've been privileged all my life??? 😂
Yes
@@blub-tf6rt oy vey!
Same girl😂❤ I have the ugly privilege I guess
There rlly is smth wrong with people nowadays. My 13 year old sister was called 'fat' for being at a healthy weight, BY HER BEST FRIEND'S MOTHER. Like, what has happened to people??
The mother is jealous of your sister
I'm ugly to the extent that people have made whole accounts just to repost my photos and point out of every flaw. It has not protected me from gross people being gross. We're really just picking stupid new crap out of a hat now, aren't we?
One of many reasons I despise social media is that there is no spectrum. If one particular thing becomes popular, something opposite to that is trending pretty soon. There is NOTHING between them. Also, you have to belong somewhere. Therefore, if you're not X, then you have to be Y that stands to the opposition to X. You ain't pretty? Then you must be ugly! - this is how I see thaglt. The worst thing is the fact that everyone is only intrested in looks while people have so many other things to offer!
In social media you can't be beautiful, you can't be ugly, yet you have to be something to feel that you matter
For the love of all that's holy, are we sinking this freaking low, now? Why aren't I surprised? People are so hyperfocused on looks. Just be the best you you can be. Not everyone likes the same thing! Diversity is the name of the game - tall, short, cut, curvy, brunette, blond, tan, fair, blue eyes, brown eyes, glasses or not... Stop looking at yourself as ugly just because you may have a different look than what ridiculous social media says is correct. Strut like you're the shit and everyone will think so too. Confidence is attractive AND attracting. Ugh 🙄
I hate my generation 🤦♀️
Same everyone is so dum I'm not saying I'm the only smartass I'm dumass myself
Not always true. If you are a woman, you get harassed pretty or ugly, skinny or chubby. I got hit on the most in college, overweight, bad diy haircuts, no makeup, ugly secondhand clothes clothes. I get hit on the least now and im way hotter by normal beauty standards. Do my hair and makeup every day better clothes, more confidence. Most of the compliments i get today are from women. More men look at me now but approach me way less than they used to. It really depends on several factors.
Privilege is something extra that you get .
Being invisible because of ugliness isn't a privilege it's a disadvantage bcz together with creepy people you're also invisible to the normal ones
I don't get catcalled 😑
I don't consider myself ugly either
I have been called pretty my entire life and people leave me alone that I know of
Girls, don't down your self confidence, nowadays everyone have same face, fox eyes big cheek bones, big lips, small noses bla bla. Please stay as you are. You are uniquely beautiful. I have seen girls bullying each other about beauty on social media and that hurts me.
When I was heavier, no one really bothered me. I’m not drop dead gorgeous but as a semi-attractive person I don’t get much benefit from it, other than men bothering me. You don’t even get a better chance at relationships
is it just me or was the internet more raw and real before the pandemic, rn everyone is so fake like…
It's just you. The internet has ALWAYS been fake.
It definitely was not more real and raw before. If anything, it's more real and raw NOW because more people are being held accountable for their actions, people are being open about how they get the things they get, and then there are videos like this that we're watching! People are being called out for their bullcrap, as they should, ya know?
@@silververnallbells191oop girl CALM down
Nope since social media, everythings fake
not pretty enough to have pretty privilege, not ugly enough to have ugly privlege, I can never win bro
Asinine beyond compare because all these people who are supposedly raving about “ugly privilege” are either conventionally or objectively attractive (& there’s no way they aren’t aware of this)…’relatability baiting’ at play once again. Truly comical.
It's not relatability baiting it's low self-esteem. There are A LOT of attractive women who view themselves as ugly.
Compliment fishing is more like it
@@hannahgrapes1554 touché
@nomvuyomashile3373 I only know cuz I used to be like that 💀
I didn't think so at all. There were plenty of unattractive ppl in this video. A few were definitely attention seeking though.
I was called ugly or average by some people but also called pretty or cute by others. But I leaned that being ugly or not
fitting society standards.
People will try to attack, harrass, or sexual abused by people. Everyone or anyone can be a victim.
Oh my gosh, I just realized I was the duff in my friend group. Guys used to approach me to ask about my friends all of the time and I never got asked out.
Honestly, I wouldnt even consider myself to be very pretty but people always find me less intelligent. I go to a college that is very academically rigorous so most of the times, people do not put much effort into their looks. I have really bad facial and body dysmorphia so I always try to be presentable in college. However, I have noticed this pattern that people have always treated me as this dumb bimbo. Even if I get a high grade (with my own hard work) people are quick to say that I must have 'done' something with the teacher to get that. At this point, I just try my best to take the most 'difficult' subjects in college, so that I prove others that I am not dumb.
Right it’s a “privilege” to be alone
As someone who grew up fat, blotchy, and no grooming taught to me this is pretty insulting. It was not a choice to look the way I did. I guess I should be happy I was left alone?
Hair styling was my dad ripping at my scalp with a pick, we'd get the belt if we didn't brush teeth, and skin care was my dad forcefully smearing lotion on my face. My mom would let me go weeks without bathing and refuse to teach me about tampons. Idk how I made it to adulthood.
@@kolonarulez5222 I hope everything is better now. ❤
You can have pretty privilege and not have had any plastic surgery done to your face 🤷🏽♀️
well I agree, some people are blessed with genetics and are lucky enough to have features that fit in the current beauty standards (standards that change and shift every decade though) but plastic surgery has been so normalized because of social media and celebrities that it became "the norm" and what "you're supposed to look like" even though it's clearly unachievable
Why do women see the whole fillers,botox, bbl look as the "beauty standard"? Im a guy and i dont get it. 🤷🏾
Someone below already made an amazing comment about how being "ugly" doesnt even prevent kidnapping and I'd like to to this also from the social view of this as well.
This is such a rose tinted view of the treatment of being considered "ugly" is like.
They think this sh*t is all nice and fun until they dont have dating options and you want to have conpanionship with someone and they'll turn valid suggestions/advise into excuses like well you should focus on yourself anyway.
People seem to forget that people also pick victims based on whether or not they'll be noticed if they are gone. Saying word vomit that boils down to you want to be ignored is not it. Sure you don't want to be all about attention and just want exist but you don't want the opposite end either.
I think these people don't understand the shere oscillation and depression people who are considered "ugly" can go through and thats not even getting to the bad treatment as well.
They see being treated as ugly as "just" being ignored and completely ignore how "ugly" people are often the target of unwanted harassment and bullying.
Like literally you could be minding your own business and people will drag your looks for no reason.
Its such a slap in the face of many who have been hurt by people's treatment and to turn around and slap a label on "ugly" people's treatment as privilege.
Its just yucky all around and just filled with an immense lack of sympathy and empathy just because they dont have the brain compacity to just say
"I dont like being sexulized and wish people would sexulize me less"
Instead they turn around and call it privilege without understanding "ugly" people don't have the "level of freedom" they perceive "ugly" people as having without pain and/or truama behind it.
Its like its so hard for such self centered people to understand no one is free of any form of harrasment espcially one based one's looks.
Almost never been harassed. Only as a child by another child. So its true ugly privilege exists. And its safe and preferable to pretty privilege. The jerks go for pretty.
Very nicely written. Exactly!!!!
This is exactly it! I'm ugly and people are always rude to me, it's so depressing and not a "privilege"...
@@mittag983 but a good outfit and haircut makes a big difference have you tried that. I can't be bothered w hair. And I'm in the same boat just wondering
Can we please stop referring to normal, average people as ugly. And the reason all these "pretty" celebs and insta models ect look like that is, money, dietitians, fitness coaching, surgery, dermatologist, highend make up, hair salon, extentions, lashes, contacts and filters. And sometimes your seeing all that on one person. So if you ever see the newest "hot" girl on socail media and start feeling bad about yourself, just picture her as you start removing each of those things. You wont get through the whole list before you realise that without all that, she is no more all that you are really.
I think the funny thing about ugly privilege is that usually you’re ugly without makeup or when you’re working out. But when they’re all dolled up these people are still pretty or just pretty in general (even without the other things). Even when benefiting ugly people, pretty people still have a place in a given trend.
lmao this is the most ridiculous trend I have ever seen, how about people taking security measures to protect and defend themselves?
I've been ugly, I've been pretty. There are pros and cons to both. Some of these "ugly privilege" people are not even ugly.
Lol, I remember once I was walking my dog early in the morning. I hadn't even brushed my teeth, I was wearing a hoodie and sweats and a man approached me. Ugly people will and can still be bothered. Even if you're "ugly" someone's going to find you attractive.
all of these women aren't even ugly, idk how people can call themselves ugly when they're not.
There is a saying in Spanish:
La suerte de la fea, la bonita la desea
The ugly’s good luck, the pretty one wishes it
Just a reminder for these ladies that catcalling and kidnapping has more to do with intimidation and wanting power over you and not necessarily your looks.
I don't think most of these women are ugly. I just think they are not fake a f. But i barely seen anyone in this video i would really call ugly
Nobody in the video was ugly some were pretty and some were just average if u wanna know what "ugly" privilege is live my life LMAO🤣
Is am the only one that feels like you’re not a baddie if you have to wear makeup?
It shouldn't be that way, but there's people who think it should so🤷♀️
You got a pretty face in your pfp whatchyo talking about
yes
@@Favvlatinanot related. She has a good point though
I feel like plastic surgery would surge way more if “natural” beauty becomes essential (no makeup at ALL). Tho I don’t wear makeup I feel like my acne is my only (ugly privilege) lol
5:11 Dude, if she is ugly what I am?
the first girl wasn't even ugly she shouldn't be in this video.
the hefty black girl?????
@@zayinseven7923 ye
maybe the second one
LOL I think I accidentally fell into a sex trafficking ring last year but like if I was hot it would be way worse
I have the awkward Elliot Alderson privilege 💀
I feel like there has been a massive shift online.
From people talking about pretty privilege. To then talking about problems of being pretty to then playing victim and saying how there isn't any pretty privileged because being pretty is so hard and ugly people don't expirence some things. I have even see people who said that ugly people are the bad bullies. And now this....
What next?
Its just movements and countermovements.
🇲🇫 l'obsession des gens avec les privilèges et d'être unique est affolant.
hors sujet mais j'apprends le français et j'etais capable de comprendre ce commentaire! merci 😭😭
Nah man, when I was at my ugliest (I was 12 to be fair), literally full face of pimples, hair like a lions mane and my eyebrows unkept and messy, I was followed by a dude who kept whispering „pretty girl” and would just not leave me alone. This happened inside of a train, I kept going from one end to the other and he followed me, touched me and talked to me. NO ONE did anything to help. Not a single person looked up or said shit. Creeps and kidnappers don’t care what you look like, they just care about whether you’re vulnerable or not. Having people ignore you, especially in a moment like this, is nothing like privilege.
Thats scary, fk all those adults around letting creeps be creeps.
This is horrible but i was so happy to be ugly when i was younger because i thought that all the girls that show up in missing person reports were all pretty and young. But im older now and I think ive grown into my face and i get pretty privilege now. I got free rides, free meals, leniency and so on. I think i prefer ugly privilege because i can always make myself pretty
The ugly ppl just dont show up in missing reports... media will always have a beauty bias. Stop relying on it to inform you ffs
ig then it's not a pretty privilege but a makeup privilege
and some ugly people cannot make themselves pretty even with makeup
I'll be straight. This sounds like copium.
I do have pretty privilege in many aspects of my life, but, I have such horrible insecurities due to me having a traumatic childhood and grew up being berated about my appearance, so when I finally became beautiful, I easy to manipulate due to the trauma I suffered. I got really fucked up mentally from being taken advantage of, and I developed a deep self-hatred. I was eventually diagnosed with quiet borderline personality disorder, which is a very emotionally and physically painful illness, and it opened my eyes to how much hurt I’d experienced. Thankfully I’ve been working on my mental health and am so much better, and am enjoying the pretty privilege I have, but I still have deep insecurities from everything. So unfortunately, being beautiful can genuinely hurt you if you grew up and experienced these situations.
One day I was telling my mom that I didn't like the way I looked and that I wish I look like her, and she told me that I was lucky to not be because she would have preferred to not be pretty just so men would not harass her, and I get her point but could have said it differently🧍🏻♀️
Sidney Sweeney looks like teen girls whose bodies have developed. I was in junior high school with girls who were a C cup but you could tell they were young because they had baby faces.
I think she looke like 24 and not because of her body
I hate privilege 😭
acne ≠ ugly
😂😂😂😂😂 this is hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂
Honestly predatores out there who are truly evil do in generall not care what someone looks like. All a predator is looking for is a victim , and god damn anyone could be a victim no matter how pretty you are. so i think this narrative is very wrong.
Sadly, this “ugly privilege” trend extended over to the gaming industry mainly with Western devs😞😣
I have been called pretty my entire life and people tend to leave me alone that I know of
I have never been called pretty my entire life💀all compliments are out of pity but it's okay beauty is not my life
@@etherealmoonlight67 you have a pretty profile pic ✨️
@what.the.whatever that's not Me darling that's a indian influencer but thank u tho😘
Same
The title is intriguing so I clicked this. I'm a 40 yo guy but I was super obese and ugly in my 20s. Yes no one will talk to you, but then you also won't have any friend. Also, no one will disturb you? I've been SA'd in a crowded bus multiple times by old guys. I even got rpd in the gym (and became gymphobic, haven't touched the gym again since).
SA is not about attractiveness. It's about exerting power. I guess my 20s obese ugly self was seen as easy target for those old men. SA and rpd then was done to establish superiority and hierarchy? Dunno. I became such an unsocial and distant depressed person in crowded place.
Thankfully isolation in covid gave me a much needed alone time out of society and it somehow healed me. I made peace and moved on. Lost 30kg and became normal BMI. Right now I'm just enjoying what life has.
Ironically, people now starting to say that I looked handsome. Eh, won't bother with all of that. I'm content with being forever alone 😄
this is so so damaging on so many levels? as people mentioned being "ugly" is not an invisibility cloak that protects you from assault or harassment, but also it just seems like the whole trend is just a thinly veiled excuse to self-hate. So many of the people in those tiktoks look like perfectly fine, normal people and majority of them I found really pretty.
I can understand not wanting slimy attention from people (especially men), it's a big reason why I don't put a lot of effort into my appearance myself, but really I feel like that only worsens your self-esteem, plus as mentioned it's not a magical Man-Deterrent anyway
All those girls in the videos were so pretty. It’s sad they see themselves in this negative light.
real like I thought I was the only one who thought that
@@YOURBFF. All you need to do is look in the mirror and find what you love about yourself. You don’t need other’s approval to feel good in your own body, we all have imperfections.
They know that, i think they might be fishing for conpliments
@@Carry-on-my-wayward-son good point!
@@MaraMummsy Im confused by your comment, I was saying that I thought all of them were pretty idk if you thought I meant something else when I said that I never said I thought I was ugly im just confused 😭
The girl with the two braids is so pretty!! Haha beauty is in the high of the beholder because I don’t think she’s ugly at all lol.
I think the kidnapping fear could have more to do with size. I’m petite and someone might kidnap me just because I’d be easy to carry or shove in a van 😮 I’m not insanely pretty and I’m in my 30s!! But my body is small so I have kidnap fears tbh
as a kinda ugly teen my mom and her friends would frequently bully and slutshame me and bet on when i'd get SA'd. meanwhile at school people didnt approach me or made fun of my style. i can say, i've grown into my looks and have experienced being both really "ugly" and suddenly "pretty", but i can assure you, either way, you're never safe. ever.
your mom and her friends shaming you is wild. a mother should never do that to her daughter or son.
7:36 Ngl this is kind of how majority of the girls in my school always looked and now with the new generation middle schoolers are starting to look like this😅
Notice how people are ENCOURAGING UGLY.. Like they're ENCOURAGING to be OVERWEIGHT and UNHEALTHY. If you're confident ( regardless of how you look), you wouldn't be bothered by beauty standards, so much.
5:10 WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIMMMMM??!! AND SHE'S REALLY BEAUTIFUL - U WOULD NOT MAKE A VIDEO LIKE THAT AND POST IT TO THE INTERNET, NO RESPECT AT ALL IM SO DISGUSTED SORRY
When i was in school there was a boy who was chatting on his insecurities and brought my name up as in " look at her," regarding my body type being skinny then at school it didn't come as a surprize to me but it stuck with me. I remember later feeling so uncomfortable abt it. He did feel bad cause he used to greet me and all and my friend kinda told him like how could he do that. But i realized then and there i was the DUFF at schl. I dont even care anymore lol.😂
I dont think they want to be ugly, i think they want to be average/different
The grass is always greener....
I mentioned ugly maxxxing two yrs ago but it was just for men wanting to be left alone and not approached now women took it up ??? 😮
I definitely feel like ugly privilege means youre not being objectified.
I just love your videos Leilani! You’re so awesome ❤
Hmm... dangerous people will do what they do, doesnt matter how you look sis and btw you havent seen ugly. Dont fall into that false sense of security just because you think you're ugly.
I rarely get catcalled, but rather than I feel ugly. I know sure that I just have a scary face or bitchy face, my family always said that my face looks like I'm always ready to throw a punch
Can people stop doing this? I don't care what people look like. I don't call people ugly or pretty. As long as they are stylish, have a good heart, intelligence then i have my respect
at least they admit it lol. also definitely not cope
Wow, a galactic scale cloud of copium.
The thumbnail made me feel off for someone who has acne-
Great video 💞
The people you showed are just normal humans. They’re not ugly. I look very average and no women or man talked to me in ages. In one hand life is easy like that but on the other hand I don’t feel pretty or desired or seen.
Being pretty, mid, ugly is not black and white. Everything has its downs and perks
naw lowkey honestly I wish I was good looking..
Believe me being invisible is not it
isn’t this just coping
you guys are so obssessed with looks,including you ;the owner of the channel.
I agree. It pisses me off
@@theravenscout4569 love your profile pic
@@aminahabour5781 you keep coming back here ..??💀
Pretty soon, plastic surgeons will just punch you in the face and charge $150 for a makeunder.
What microphone do you use?
Zoom H4n Pro 4-Track Portable Recorder
I think this mindset like "iam ugly n nobody would't harass me " misogynistic it's giving i am not like other girls vibes.
People will harassing n sexualize even "ugly" people cos its not only about your prettiness but of theirs desires
to show their dominance as well
Girl what
What kinda privilege do I have then? I don't have any of them
Also im pretty but I get ugly privileges
Guys, do I have ugly privilege?😭🤣
Leilani i have a question, do you know Monica Bellucci? And do you think her success is solely based on beauty?
this trend is just straight up victimblaming
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This has to be the dumbest trend
You’re saying this is a new trend but I just looked it up on tik tok and a couple of the videos you showed are from years ago?….
umm i think this is called dark humour