Raised by Lesbian Moms (My experience 🌈❤️)
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- Опубликовано: 18 мар 2021
- A long overdue video sharing my story of being raised by 2 moms. 🌈
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Thank you for watching this video. It is always vulnerable sharing personal details of my life on a public platform but it is especially intimidating sharing things related to my family because I want to protect them and I anticipate getting weird comments either related to the topic of homosexuality or the topic of Christianity. Both tend to be polarizing and the internet is a strange place where people act like it is okay to be mean, though it is unlikely they would actually say anything at all in real life. After filming this video earlier in the week I had a few anxious nights where I considered not posting it at all because I feared what kind of response it would get. I also realized there is a lot more I would love to share but didn't have time. Maybe I can put more details in a second video. I suppose it depends on how much you guys care about this topic.
In the video I said that my parents separated in the 3rd grade, which is true-ish, but my other mom was in my life since the 1st grade. So for me she has been a maternal figure since I was 6 or 7 years old and my younger sister was 4. I am sharing that because sometimes people say I don't have full picture of being raised by two moms because I was "older" when my mom began living a gay lifestyle. I also have a dad because my mom was married to a man before she was with my other mom, and I have brothers because my other mom was married to a man before she began living as a homosexual. My moms are not my only gay family members, I have two aunts who are also lesbians and some distant cousins who are gay. I'm pretty sure one of my cousins is trans, though now that I am typing it I don't know if he is my real cousin or my half brothers cousin. I have a half brother too, who I did not mention in this video, but he is from my Dad's first marriage.
For those who are asking about my Christian beliefs and how they affect my view of my family or homosexuality in general here are some books, podcasts, videos and articles I have consumed in the last year. If we were alone over coffee and speaking from the heart I would invite you deeper into my story, but since this is public and not intimate I prefer to just share resources and allow you to form your own world-view. I hope more than anything that you take it upon yourself to love all people extravagantly. I can't think of a more Christ-like thing to do.
Resources (in no particular order) --
What does the Bible say about homosexuality:
• What the Bible says ab...
Christian sexuality with Jackie Hill Perry: • Christian Sexuality - ...
God and the Gay Christian / Matthew Vines: www.matthewvines.com/transcript/
Mike Winger -- Homosexuality series -- Part 1: • Homosexuality: The Old...
My Quest to find homosexual in the Bible
baptistnews.com/article/my-qu...
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www.bluebabiespink.com/home
Jen Hatmaker & her daughter Sydney "On Being Gay and Loved"
jenhatmaker.com/podcast/speci...
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Jess, you fill my heart. I am proud to be your mom and you turned out perfectly. I’m glad I was there to help that happen. When people ask me what my favorite memories are - they always include you, Meredith, Matt and Nick. My 88 year old mom will watch this and will cry just like I did. So proud of everything you do! ❤️
This is the cutest thing on the internet. ❤️
You raised the most wonderful woman ❤️ I look up to Jess so much
I don't know if you'll feel that this is appropriate, but I would really love to thank you as a new queer mom myself for the work you and your partners have put in over the years to push toward acceptance and love. I am very fortunate to be doing this in a more accepting time, but we wouldn't be here without families like yours promoting love, especially in conservative communities. Thank you ❤️
@@pokefreak102 Thank you!
@@HouseJug Thank you!
You turned out great. Thanks for sharing your story. Don't know if you remember me, but I am one of your mom's NON-drinking friends. LOL. So proud to see the woman you have become.
So sweet
You handled this topic so well. I also have certain topics about my life and beliefs that I will only discuss with people in person because I want them to KNOW my heart and that can't be done in a video. Thank you for being so honest while also setting healthy boundaries. Such a tough thing to do on a platform like this! 💜
Thank you so much ❤️❤️ i think that’s healthy and respect it a lot. Good job.
I am so happy you made this video! Since the first time I heard you saying that you have two mums, I was hoping to hear more about your experience! Also from that first moment I thought “Ok, but if she is so great, then I don’t need to worry about my future children having two mums!”
Thanks for being the wonderful person you are! 💕
As a lesbian mom this gives me hope ❤️ I appreciate hearing the child’s side of life in this situation. Thank you!
Im so glad ❤️ i had families like yours in mind as i made this. I appreciate your comment! Thank you for watching!
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AS A LESBIAN MOM THIS GIVES ME ♥️I
APPRECIATE HEARING THE SON'S SIDE OF LIFE IN THIS
JUSTIN AND JENNIFER LOPEZ .
I feel sorry for your kids
@@moreamour2869wdym?
jess! you speak on this so beautifully and mindfully!! your loving spirit is so evident throughout this whole video. and I applaud you for linking resources--that's a great approach. you're crushing it!!!!
You have such a loving heart, Jessica.
I love hearing and reading you. You always talk with so much tender, joy and love even when you've been through a lot.
Your kindness, the way you raise your kids, your sincerity... You're lucky to have an amazing family who support you but they are also incredibly lucky to have you!
Love is love, no matter what and that is the most important lesson in life.
Kisses from Spain!
ok so I LOVED this video and I'm so glad that you shared your experience! You 100% make the world lighter and brighter, in the most beautiful and encouraging way!!
I am only on RUclips, but appreciate your covering this here for the rest of us. You have a lot of mothers and a father. How wonderful to have so many parents who love you and are there for you and your family. No one needs fewer people to love and that they can count on. Thanks.
It’s really apparent that you’ve taken so much time and done the work to heal and embrace some of these things that probably were difficult as a little person, and I love that, super inspiring ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you :) if i was making the video 10 years ago it would have been different. My family has grown a lot in the last decade so it’s easier to share honestly now. I appreciate you watching! ❤️
This was a wonderful video! Thank you for sharing your experience! The message of spreading love and including others that do not look like you is a very important one! Also, really love your bedroom 😍
You speak with such true kindness and respect:) thank you for sharing your story. I know it’s SO encouraging for so many. Thank you for pursuing this important conversation. You’re the best 🧡
That’s the best advice ever, the strong loving role models part! ❤️😍 I feel like I’ve said this before but every time I watch your video you just come off as the truest, most down to earth, kind hearted mama ever!!!
You’re brave. You’re genuine and you’re totally awesome for this. I appreciate your vulnerability and genuine honesty. I wouldn’t typically watch this genre of video but the algorithm landed me here and I’m grateful for it. The world could use more Jessica Hovers. ✌🏾❤️
you are so incredible!! I feel like we are having a 1 on 1 conversation. Like I don’t have kids nor am I married, but I can’t wait to come back when I am to be encouraged by you and the kindness in your voice. ❤️
It is so refreshing to hear a message of love. Hearing you speak of the love and support you had from your blended family and friends who became family fills my heart with so much joy. Thank you for spreading your warmth and happiness.
Just wanted to pile on positivity here- I loved this video and thank you so much Jess for posting. As someone who doesn't have two lesbian mother's, and also is straight- I think this is still very important for all to hear to help remove some of the stigma and promote inclusivity.❤️💞❤️💞❤️ Also it's adorable that one of your mom's commented on this, love that.
Everything you talk about, you do it with so much love. Thankful for you and the way your share your heart and littles with us.💗
"If you are a follower of Christ then go out there and love like crazy." LOVE this 😊
I was a gay grandfather. Nothing is more pernicious.
@@gotdialog88nothing is more pernicious than bigotry 🦥
You handled this topic so beautifully and with so much grace. Thank you for sharing your story ♥️
You handled this very gracefully and thoughtfully. Thank you for sharing your story.
Loved this! Explaining that struggle happens regardless of the family dynamic. 👏👏👏💗
We'll Miss Jess it sounds like you were surrounded by a whole lotta love growing up and that it continues to this day. It shows so much in your videos that you know what love is and you want to share that with others it is so evident how much you care about people and it's what keeps me coming back excited for each new video! I'm so happy you have known such love in your life and that you have so much love in your heart that you feel compelled to share it with the world. Thank you thank you thank you! 💚
You have so much sweet calmness while speaking!
I think this is so great from a Christian perspective, you have such a kind, gentle heart💕!!
Thank you 💖💖💖
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You are so so well spoken! Biggest hugs!!
LUSCIOUS LESBIAN LADY MOMS I'M SCREAMING
As always I leave your channel feeling happy and loved. You have the best energy. I just love your content and personality!
Amen!! As a Christian I appreciate this, there’s so much hate in this world thank you for sharing, and promoting love!
I'm a follower of Jesus too. Am I a hater if I disagree with a gay life style?
@NG CYNN DEE Moe explain ur definition of respect...
@NG CYNN DEE Moe
As you said 'doesn't support doesn't mean, hate' As a follower of Jesus, I don't support/condone the life style. Jesus' Way has always been a source of offense. 'He is a Stone to stumble over, and a Rock to trip over. They stumble because they disobey the Word;... " I Peter 2--🌸
On the other hand, I don't hate anyone, we're all free 2make choices, even if those choices bring dire consequences. I certainly hv felt the weight of wrong choices in my own life.
@NG CYNN DEE Moe what part did u not understand?
@NG CYNN DEE Moe
uh-oh! that sounds more like a personal problem.
Let's leave it at that!
I just want to give you so much love for this video Jess ❤️ I love all the content that you make on motherhood, which is so supportive for my journey as a new mom. But I especially love everything that you do for loving other people, who may not look, think or act like you. I can tell there is so much love in your heart and I am so thankful that you are sharing that love with us and the world. Keep doing what you do, you are so worthy of all the love in your life.
Also, I so wish we could actually have coffee and talk about life. I think that would be so fun!
This is one of the most interesting and kind video on this subject I’ve ever seen. ❤️ It just fills my heart to see the love you have for your family and for others.
I just love this girl. She’s so relatable
This is amazing!! I’m here for it
I didn't know before and appreciated your videos and liked you as a person and it doesn't change now. Thanks for the video I do enjoy you sharing your cheeriness.
Thank you for your positivity and love!
This was an interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing your story
Love this❤️. I was afraid to click on the video. I don't know what I was afraid if. That you would say something that would make me like you less? Maybe. But, as always, you were so generous and thoughtful. You push me to be a better Christian and mom. So often we need to be reminded to step back and remove ourselves from the framework of dichotomies. Life is messy. Love one another.
Jess, you are so amazing! Thank you for this video!
Wow I thought my husband's family is complicated but yours is on a whole other level!! But I love how you are not embarrassed! Family is everything!
Your videos became such a great encouragement for me as a new mum! You gave me so much hope and I was feeling like I am not the only one who doesn't like being a mum. When I heard that you were brought up by lesbian mums, it didn't really occur to me to doubt your theology or question your morals, because I have watched your content and can see the fruit that you bring! It is wise that you didn't explain your personal views here, because you don't need to, you are responsible before God, not somebody on the internet. Also you can thank your mothers for raising you so compassionate and non-judgemental. we all feel accepted here and that what draws us to you.
Love love love this video! Thank you 💛
So diplomatic. Thanks for the perspective!
I love you and your family’s story. Thank you for sharing.
Such a great kind video 💕
Thank you! ❤️
I've been following you for a couple of years now and never knew this.
Awesome!
Sounds like it was an interesting childhood. My parents split when I was only a couple of years old and they weren't married together although my Mum got married to my step-dad who raised me and my Dad ended up married a few more times.
I remember some awkward times just from that, so can partially relate.
Thanks for letting us know and it's obvious you are a great, wholesome Woman. You've had some great parents and parental figures over the years!
I would just say phrasing it as ‘living a homosexual lifestyle’ is not really true- if your mom is a lesbian, chances are she was born like that. Being gay isn’t a lifestyle, trust me, I wouldn’t choose to be gay seeing how I am treated for it :)
I do believe Jess phrased it appropriately
@@rachelhenning2626 if you are not gay you really do not know how it works. A lifestyle is like what diet you eat, how you exercise, where you live, all of it is a choice. Being gay is NOT a choice, like i said in my earlier comment, which, by the way, did you even read it?. Choosing to come out of the closet? Well, sure, that is a choice. But actually being gay is an innate thing. If it was a choice no one would be gay. I sure wouldn’t. My life would be exponentially easier, being straight. But i literally cannot change that.
No one is born gay but in a fallen state. There's repentance and nothing that the blood of christ cannot correct.
@@candyluna2929 ewww yuck get out of here. Every child is born pure and in the image of God. Gay people are not ‘fallen’ nor do we need to be corrected.
@@candyluna2929 amen!
I love your video Jess. It's plenty of love and knowlage :) Sending you lots of love from Spain
Such a lovely video, thanks for sharing your perspective. I know it can’t all have been easy but it’s such a necessary thing to speak openly and without shame about all the shapes and sizes and styles of family. Gay or straight, we all get things right and wrong as parents. At the end of the day Love is Love 🌈❤️ and to accept and value people even if we don’t align with their beliefs is so important. The world would be one weird dystopian mess of we all believed the same things and acted the same way 😬
friend! You have so many freckles! I love it!
1. i want all the parts 2. liked it before watching cause how can this not be an awesome video 🏵️
I was also brought up by lesbian mums, and I found out my mum was gay in almost the same way, specifically with the book 'parenting for lebians' what a classic book. And my relationship with my dad is so similar too! This was so lovely to watch someone else who has had such a similar up bringing as myself 💖💖
Also I loved the video with the accent 😅 don't stop being you.
Beautifully said 🥰🙏
People are offended by their own farts. So glad you made this video! We are all waving bye to the small minded fellows who are offended 👋🏻 Love your vids Jess, you make me excited (in a realistic way) to become a mom sometime in the future! ♥
LOVE YOU! Fav mom on RUclips!
You r awesome , love your family. Don’t change your personality. As well as your husband. God bless you all!!!
I havent watched all this video yet but I knew there was a reason I think youre so awesome!! Love that you're sharing your experience as a wannabe luscious lesbian mama haha
Hahaha Becca (my friend who helps edit videos) and i keep joking together about “luscious lesbian ladies” because i said that randomly while filming 😆 thank you for watching!
@@jess_hover I have to say that made me laugh! Wish everyone referred to us as that!
Such a brave video to make ❤️❤️
the beer part is so funny
Seriously. Why give this a thumbs down within the first 4 mins. If you don’t like Jess then turn off the notifications and please leave this channel. Negative people are not welcome.
There are tons of people that dislike videos just to dislike them, it may not even be anyone that follows her :)
This is a hard topic for Christians. Even if you think they're bigoted or evil for not liking this discussion you must understand that so many christians have never been around gay people. They have never been able to talk about gay people in their circles. So this is an incredible foreign and uncomfortable topic for some people and I'm glad they're maybe getting a gentle introduction from this video.
@@sarahwarren4253 Why would they do that?
@@ivanai3795 🤷♀️ Not everyone makes sense lol
I appreciate you. I actually wondered the same thing 🥰 thank you for noticing.
Well done Jessica!
As a woman loving woman that hopes to have a baby one day, thank you 🙏🏼 give me so much hope
Jessica! Your content is amazeballs. Come up to the central coast with the fam so we can hang out and be friends! Haha
You are my absolute favorite, and I love your moms.
This is so good
Just love you and your spirit. Xoxo
Love you ❤️
Julies is absolutely adorable!
I grew up in a sort of similar dynamic. My parents (mom and dad) split up when I was really little and then my mom went on to come out as a lesbian (then way further down the line as bisexual) and we lived with her various girlfriends for most of my childhood. And I always find it weird when people ask me what it was like. We as a family had dysfunction but it was the same kind of dysfunction that lots traditional families have too. I dont think the dysfunction was ever exclusive to the fact that two women were raising me. (Just my personal opinion and experience not saying everyone's is that way of course) The only issue I ever had that was "unique" to being raised by 2 women was other peoples reactions to my family or the way people treated me becuase of it. Anyways long rambling response but thank you for sharing your story and being so positive while doing so!
Jess, you did this so graciously in a way I believe would honor Jesus, and radiates love.
I LOVE this! As a gay momma to be, this is such a wonderful thing to watch.
This was such a good video! No wonder you’re such a beautiful human! The fact that you were raised by people that reminded you of Jesus is so amazing. I feel that way about my dad too❤
My wife and I are about to welcome out first child together, a baby girl. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your perspective. But I also find it important to share that it would absolutely tear my heart to shreds if one day our baby girl grew up and couldn't make a statement in full and unconditional support of our love. That was really hurtful and I hope with time you can find the courage to reevaluate and support your moms fully and publicly.
Love. This. So. Much. 👏🏻❤️👏🏻❤️👏🏻❤️
I love that you shared YOUR story, struck such a good balance. The way you love your family is beautiful.
Two mothers will always surround the child with more love than a mixed couple, I don't know why, maybe it's probably strictly maternal instinct doubled. Some men can be good parents I can't deny it, but women have a special connection with the child, of course we have some exceptions too. My parents were disasters, he a bastard and she, maybe it could have been a little better if he didn't exist, but past is past I don't want to hear from them, no place in my life for misery, but I have meet children raise by two mothers, the love and security they received is fantastic, I never see the same capacity at mix couple children even if they have been good parents, it's just so much mother aura I don't know just fantastic. So ladies, don't be afraid to raise children because you don't like men, you give birth even to them, it's your nature to be caring and protective not in theirs, you don't a man to be a fantastic parent, one or two fantastic mothers.
I just want to praise you for your well rounded, calm, and positive thoughts. I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and this is one of the most helpful videos I have seen. There is just so much novelty and curiosity regarding this topic still and I think you express yourself so well without pressuring others views. Thank you 🙏🏼
And you’re a beautiful human!
I'm gay and I'm a Christian too, I also had views about faith and homosexuality as well but I can't talk about it too. The Church members are accepting of who I am they even miss me because I usually go to Church every Sunday. Suffice to say is whatever it is in my heart, I'm happy to choose to go there. God loves everyone in that matter. I'm happy and feeling blessed to be alive and I know that Lord wants me to be happy.
I never questioned my sexuality. So I don’t think everyone questions it.
Jess I’ve been following you since I got pregnant back in 2019! I have heard many of your stories of life seasons you’ve gone through and I am thankful you felt God calling you to share this as well. You’ve overcome so much girl, and you’re an inspiration to your family, friends, and all of us who don’t even know you. I know posting things like this is not easy at all and as a human you fight the people pleasing and hoping you don’t hurt someone by posting it. I totally get that!! I think you handled it gracefully. As a fellow sister in Christ, the only thing I want to share to hopefully edify and encourage you with, is that maybe bringing up how you’ve navigated life with your gay family members since you became a Christian? Maybe some hard conversations you’ve had to have? Of course loving them like Jesus would is a must, but I know loving them includes sparking conversations with others or with them that point them to scripture and what Gods word says. It would be great to hear from you on how it’s been over the years as you may have shared scripture with them. I say this, because I’ve been recently doing studies on topics like this and I’m finding great food for thought and truth we can share with others. It’s just hard to know how to begin those conversations. I want to know how we can share that doesn’t point them away from Jesus but brings them to Him slowly but surely. Anyways, thanks for sharing and I’m hoping more love and truth outpours from Jesus over your family. He is an amazing faithful God and I am glad your my fellow sister who’s transparent about her faith walk with the Lord!
thank you for your video. Its such a nice feeling hearing your story. I Live in Lithuania and we have a very homophobic society. Just now we try to get lgbtq+ people right to have civil union and its really sad situation. We didnt get an approval for pride march or some sort of pride month celebration. We had straight homophobic "traditional family" march in May and they vere anti-LGBTQ+ (telling that they need to "cure" themselves from being gay, to kill themselves or saying that lgbt+ ability to have civil union will transition straight kids to being gay). Im so happy that your mothers were able to have a some sort of union and i hope that one day we will be able to have non-straight people have a some sort of union in Lithuania too.
You will get to meet ur dad one day when you are older but respectfully in your own time, same with a child who’s estranged from a biological mum and dad
Just one of your lesbian sisters in Jesus saying, "Thanks for being you".
Someone cant be active in sin and go to heaven though, the bible speaks on this
Leviticus 18:22 KJV
"Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination."
@@illiah9784 God bless you, Friend. I wish we could feel one another's hearts. Then I think we would understand. I am sure you have a beautiful heart.
@@ja-ti2ub All love
I say it with no hate it my heart
I wish you well in life
why is Jules so cute she look like a mix of Willison and Eloise
Oh and Elouise is amazing
Thank you for taking the risk to tell your story. My wife and I are starting our family planning journey and there are people in our life who don’t support LGBT+ families. I truly believe that having positive, realistic stories like yours available will help to make a positive change for families like mine! Thank you for being a great ally.
I need help. My mom is just like this and she is probably a lesbian, i accidentaly walked in on them by accident... I hated it
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Also idk how ANYONE could be mean to you!
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I have two moms too
People are still not open about same-gender “parents.”
I can’t imagine the pressure you have faced growing up with lesbian parents and even more so when you became a Christian, but I am so glad that you have done what you needed to do to heal and grow to understand the situation your in💛 our pastor was just talking about loving the gay community because it’s not our job to judge them, it’s our job to love them like Jesus has loved us and go out there and share the Gospel with them!! You are so inspiring, and God has certainly blessed you with a gentle heart❤️ you would be perfect to walk along side younger teens that maybe struggling with this like you did then, you would bring such life and understanding to them, and maybe even save some souls along the way! What a ministry you have at the tips of your fingers!
You go girl!
It seems I can tell that kids grow up faster in a gay parenthood than the default parenthood and also they revert back to straight too.
I’m offended that you’d think I’d be offended... :P
Thank you for this. It's unfortunate that this message tends to fall on deaf ears when spoken from a regular gay parent. If this helps even just one hateful christian realize that we actually don't have an agenda and do have good relationships with God, then that's fantastic. My kids know God and pray daily. 🙏 I really hope those who think they've been outcast by God realize it wasn't true. Churches and people hurt people. Not God. There's a big difference.
Not trying to be confrontational, but the bible says such horrid things about gay people. Seems like to me, god and his followers hate us. How do you feel comfortable with your God and raise your kids with this God? I never understand. I'm very spiritual myself I just don't understand subscribing to the Christian god.
JULES IS SO BIG
You’re “proud of it?” Serious!? wow!