I can't even tell you how refreshing it is to see a fashion influencer express consideration for NOT shopping as much. It's the ethics while chic for me! 🔥🧡💯
People literally consume luxury like they're consuming fast fashion, let's talk about that too and let's talk about that next. This shopping and more shopping is a pure disease. Thank you so much for this video
@@mommyfree2bMe those people are regular people too pretending to have money. It's sad and they're leading young women astray. Making them think like that's how real life is. That's not how real life is a lot of people will be lucky to own a pre owned anything from Gucci.
I was JUST looking at a robe in a local store that was really pretty, but expensive. I looked at the tag for the fabric (which I usually never do, but I started watching your videos about 2 weeks ago) and saw that it was 100% polyester. I immediately put it back. I was like, "Shi would say that's too much money for a full polyester piece." We pickin' up what you puttin' down, you're helping us!!
I sew so I’m super picky about what type of fabrics are in the clothes I buy. I know what fabric costs. It’s ridiculous the amount of money a lot of these brands charge for polyester. I REFUSE, I could be wearing silk or wool for the same cost. It actually helps me buy less.
Never underestimate the power of a capsule wardrobe. It has saved me money. Been working on mine for 3 years. The cotton, the silk, the linen, the wool, the cashmere ALL make me so happy as I purchase elevated basics that last. No Shein clothes paired with a YSL ova here. I also ensure I keep a wishlist and try hard to stick to it and keep my luxury handbags at 8 or less. No need for all these handbags and nothing to put in em 💃🏾🤣🤣🤣. Loved the vid girl!
I'm embarrassed to admit that the doorbell rang as I watching this. For me spending has been a way to fill a void. The void of loneliness, imposter syndrome and the lack of fulfillment in my life. This video resonated so deeply with me. I appreciate you and thank you.
Great topic! I wanted to add my two cents about natural fibers; I used to stay away from cashmere, merino wool, silk and linen (and all the combos of each) because I was so busy, and knew that hand washing and/or frequent trips to the dry cleaners were not going to happen. But here is the thing - I thought you had to wash after each use because I usually wore polyester or other synthetics, and they trapped odors. It is literally like wrapping your arm pits in plastic. I am not particularly sweaty, but the synthetic knits will make you think you are. After finally investing in good quality, natural fibers, I find I can wear them multiple times, and there is no odor whatsoever. Natural fibers allow your body to breathe, and don’t trap odors like synthetics do. And to freshen them up, I just use my handy dandy garment steamer. You can get a handheld steamer on Amazon for around 40 dollars, and I just keep it under my bathroom sink. So it takes just minutes to give a quick steam to get out any wrinkles in linen, or freshen up any natural fibers garment. And finally, it is human nature to take better care of expensive things. Unlike my fast fashion clothes, I am careful with my quality knitwear. They get inspected, spot cleaned, steamed, and carefully stored. It becomes habit to take care of your items this way, and it instills an appreciation of fewer, but better things.
Thank you for this content. I’m realizing that as someone who grew up in a very working class family, I never knew how to shop for quality, all I knew was how to shop a bargain. I was taught to “make my money stretch”. If I had $100 to spend on shoes, I’d most likely get 2-3 pairs of cheap shoes instead of spending that $100 on one good pair. Now that I earn more I just find myself spending more in total on bargain clothes instead of spending that money on nicer quality clothes. Learning to shop quality over quantity is a whole journey for me.
I have never commented on any of your videos before sis, although lve long accepted that you are one of the realist and dopest content creators at the moment. This video is a master-class of self awareness and growth. Please give yourself a pat on the back for the journey you are on, and how you are changing lives. You had me in tears with your new years video, now you are cementing all my 2022 goals. As a black sis- l have to say, this is quality content. Please keep it coming❤🙌🏽
You preached to my soul today!!! I was in the process of figuring out my wardrobe for the work week, and this is turning into closet cleaning, decluttering, and just an overall cleansing! You are top of my content creators lately! Keep preaching sis, I am loving it!!!
This video hit home with me. It made me realized YES I have a shopping addition and unfortunately watching RUclips has not help the problem. Thank you I will be addressing this issue and doing what it take to get it under control..
It's easy for People Who have already travelled this Path, experienced it, have eaten lots of styles, designs, brands, made mistakes, activated certain aspects of their personality ect...yes, then it's easy & simple to stop Shopping & act wisely. For others, a Certain Amount of Time, Money & Experience is needed to Actually Travel the Path , then InsideOut , the Realisations about Self are taken place Naturally. Therefore...Your Hunger for whatever means there is Certain NEED for Certain Steps to be taken. It's Good to Listen to those who have actually made the Process , have already discovered Their Personal Aspects, Style, Preferences, Behaviours, it's ok! Great to Listen & Learn ..Incorporate ...yet, if there is this irrational NEED, then It's the Rational Speaking of the Wise Not Hungry one against an Irrational Personal Need of the Developing Personality. So, Stay Kind Towards Yourself & Listen 👂, Incorporate, Find Other Ways to Satiate the Irrational Hunger & Listen to Yourself...it's UNIQUE PATH & Development for Everyone 💞🥰💓
Amen! This was a great message. I love to see us enjoy luxury but too much emphasis on RUclips is about luxury hauls. If you can afford it, that's great but true style does not come from high end stores. Thanks for giving the masses a message that truly resonates.
This was the first time I have seen a fashion content creator actually explain why shopping for quality is more important than quantity. I got so much from this episode. Thanks for your heartfelt insight!
I so love this type of content in a space where consumerism is the space where RUclips has thrived. I am on a six month no buy for bags, shoes and clothes. I’ve seen myself utilize so much of my closet now that I’m not bringing clothes into it weekly. I would love to see a work from home wardrobe because that’s my life now but I have a closet that caters to business casual due to pre Covid life.
I was just on Saks shopping. I decided midway through was to just save and have a shopping trip for my BDay in May. That way I can have a set budget and enjoy a mini vacay that I need. Right after that I saw your video so this was right on time lol
Good idea that’s what I will try I will save from this day until may now I’m going to think about how much I will spend, my own birthday surprise, thank you that’s why I love reading the comments great idea
Girl...girl...girl! You hit the nail on the head! Being unhappy was my retail therapy. It's a good thing I noticed my issue before the 30 days return policy was up. I packaged up all those unwanted and useless items and sent them back. I saved myself 2k. Keep on with the fabulous videos!
You literally took the words out of my MOUTH! I have been talking to friends about this. When is enough, enough? I would rather have a simplistic wardrobe. I do not need 20 purses, 20 pairs of shoes, 20 parfums, like girl! lol Also, I 1000% agree with you with the fast fashion, buttons falling off! lol I do not need a walk-in closet full of stuff that is going to collect dust! This video would really help a lot of people because it is much needed. This video was so refreshing.
T! This In debt Church Announcement was everything I needed on this cold ass Sunday. Definitely relatable on so many levels. Thank you for the sermon today. These other YTubers could NEVA! This content checks all the boxes and that is why you are one of my Top Tier Content Creators. We all done did something strange for some change but definitely no judgment 🤦🏽♀️😂. We incorporating home improvements, travel self care luxury skin care and family and friend experiences into the 2022 mix . Plus we buying the bag , the good undergarments, accessories and the exercise all wrapped up into this thing called LIVIN!🙏🏾🤌🏾💅🏾🕺🏽👍🏾😘❤️😜
If I could thumbs this up ten times, it wouldn't be enough.This was everything and then some. This was church, school and my mommas lap. Thank you for breaking it down for us like you did. I realize definitively that my decision to drive to Tysons today and return the Prada and the Chloe boots was a great decision. There was no joy to be found by being unnecessarily 2k poorer. Run me my money Saks.
Awesome video. I live by a lot of what you're saying. Shopping with intention is my motto. Last year, I spent way too much money on retail trying to find joy and cope with the craziness of the world. Yes, my purchases were thought out, yes I love my wardrobe and I found some gems for a helluva good price; HOWEVER all these things add up! This year is about more experiences and memories cause lord knows I have a wardrobe to last me for a good minute!!
Wonderful video! That color looks stunning on you. 🌸 One tip for when you have the shopping itch is to head over to your public library and “treat yourself” to some books, movies, etc. The library has so many great books on fashion, decor, cooking, gardening, and beyond… You get to come home with a “score” or two without spending a dime. ❤️
Sisssssss!!! You are, in my humble opinion, one of the realest “influencers” on Social Media. Thank you for thinking of your viewers and not just a check that you will get from a partnership. You really speak to the people that we are and who we want to be. Thank you! Also, I love when you say something so funny that you start laughing out loud. Girl you be on here telling the truth.
You hit the nail on the head today! I was all kinds of uncomfortable and entertained as I watched this. The discomfort comes from knowing that I need to make some changes in my life especially around spending. The entertaining part is your humor and delivery!Thanks for the message and the push to seek happiness outside of my wallet!!!
Girl yes, I was a mess in my 20's when it came to spending. I'm embarrassed at how loosely I use to spend, but I was able to get back some money with poshmark and mercari. When I hit 30s I starting moving towards a minimalist lifestyle. I'm now almost where I need to be. Quality over quantity is the goal.
Marie Kondo who?? WE need messages that meet us where we are in a manner that directly gets our attention. Preeeeeach! Hold please…let me share this video. I’m back…. I’ve had to unsubscribe from many channels because it was an overdose of hauls and I’m just not that girl anymore. I think the hair on my arms stood up at the conclusion Sis. 👏🏾👏🏾❤️. I so appreciate you!
Blessings...Wednesday March 09,2022 @ 6:29 AM...You described me to the core of my soul. Everything you have said pertains exactly to the circumstances surrounding me, this is so on point. I truly appreciate all that was said and I thank you for being real. Definitely a new prospective. Continued success.
Whew sis, you broke me down to my core with this video! Over-shopping for fast fashion is something I’ve been struggling with for years, And it wasn’t until recently that I’ve made the decision to save more of my money for those quality and even luxury pieces that I really want and that will stand the test of time. I also recently watched that same video by Hello Catwalk City and decided that this was the year I was going to get it together, and after seeing your, I know that it’s time. I realize what my issues are and now it’s time to start addressing them. Like you said I’d rather walk in with my LV bag not just looking fly, but also being genuinely happy!
Last night I wanted buy a few pieces from a vintage shop online SO bad but I don't have it. And today, I'm just going over why I was so desperate to buy them and it really is because I'm unhappy with my everyday life. I'm working on changing that, but the in the meantime process and the patience to wait is easier in my dreams than doing it in real life. Even if I never get those pieces, when I accomplish my goal to revamp my life, I KNOW that will make me a trillion times happier AND more proud of myself than anything hanging in my closet. Thanks for this video, it was a good, on time confirmation.
You were preaching on this one, honey. I went through a shopping phase early in the pandemic because I felt out of control in general. Packages almost everyday. Meaningless buying! Did the same after a break up once before. I’ve noticed it’s my go to when I feel like something along my foundation has been shaken. I’m aware of it now and I catch it before I act.
Lol! “You told me you would take those bins out of your baby’s closet and I know you haven’t done it!” This was my life growing up. My Mom loved to shop, do you hear me?!
Holy handbag! You are exactly what I needed today... and frankly 25 years ago this would have changed my life! Keep saying these hard truths. Nothing I have bought has ever truly given me lasting happiness.
💃🏾🎯💃🏾🎯💃🏾 This message is needed. I find myself no longer liking fashion hauls. I definitely can relate to the decluttering. I hate a cluttered closet , home, etc. I clean so much that I’m not left with much lol. I like being able to see what I have. Your point on quality over quantity is so true. The mental health word was 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Clapped on "spiritual deficit". I'm on day 12 of a 100 day no buy. Reminding myself that life is wonderful and enough. Also hi from a DMV native! I so appreciate all of your content. So refreshing and fun!
Wheeeewww! I think you might have been speaking directly to me in this video…As a “mattafack” I might have to call you Pastor. You came with ALL the gems and then at the end gave us the true WORD to think about for the week. I mean I literally said AMEN at the end of this video! I will be cleaning the closets and purging ASAP!! Thank you sis. I needed this 🤗☺️
I’m telling you I got up and said “preach sister” at least 3 times! Now I’m going to hear this sermon in the back of my head whenever I think about buying something all 2022.
I have been on a downsizing journey for some years. Smaller home, less stuff and it takes time to unfold & rewrap. I feel less pressure to maintain “stuff” because I have a whole lot less. Curating the new items for my closet will take time, but right now all that is left in my closet are things that fit my lifestyle. Not the “fantasy lifestyle” (a term I heard RUclipsr Audrey Coyne use). This term hit me across the face like a pie 🥧. I feel even better about any beautiful new additions I will add along the way into my cute little closet. My physical well being has come into play at a higher level of importance (changed my diet completely) and it has improved my metal & emotional well being. When I put on my clothes I enjoy them so much more because they are things I really love. 💕 This was an incredible video and I’m sending you positive vibes it gets tons more views. 🙌🏼
This was SO good! I had a realization before Christmas that I was buying stuff because I didn’t feel good about myself. I stopped shopping for unnecessary stuff and made a wish list of what I wanted. I also got rid of clothes I didn’t wear. It’s been a process but feels so much better. Also I started therapy late last year. I have so much more awareness and I believe therapy helped me to stop shopping and wasting my money. Thank you so much for your content.
Gurl I wait for your vids every Sunday...you had me at the intro ...first with the laugh😂🤣 then the next with that truth!! I need to Stop the shopping madness and to get TF out of debt ...its my 2022 goal. I needed this one today!!! Thank you for spreading the facts and wisdom! Much love!!😍😘🥰
THIS!! You preached tuhday, my good sis!! All through my late twenties and early thirties, shopping WAS A SPORT! Coming home from the mall with allll thee bags was the intent. I was doing Saturday fashion "hauls" in my mirror before it was ever considered to be monetized video content for the Tube (hey, Payless 👋🏼). I will say I'm a recovering shopaholic now; I'm not quite there yet, because I have a wardrobe of great abundance, but I'm in the purging process and I'm more intentional about what I'm buying to curate my wardrobe. Fabrication and quality is uber important in a purchase. And so I'm slowly replacing lower quality shoes and clothes and keeping a list of pieces that will round out my wardrobe and more define the woman I've become today. Working from home for the last two years has challenged my perception of my personal style and I'm trying to evolve in that space. And you're wearing that pink!!! ❤
Thank you for this amazing video! The SERMON during the last section, wow, blew me away. Great job! I love your mantra of shopping with intention, and it's something I've also been practicing over the last two years. I like to wear my clothes until they really wear out. As I declutter my closet and replace worn-out items with better quality things, they must meet a specific need. Some stuff hasn't been replaced at all, either because I don't need it anymore, or because I haven't found a replacement that is good enough. There will be no settling for crappy clothes in 2022, no maam!
Thank you. You are out here changing minds and perspectives. I have been having these same feelings but couldn't put it in these words. Lord, let me go and ponder......
My toes are killing me! She stepped all over my feet. I am so guilty of a lot of what she has shared. I have heard it before but actually heard her. Thank you Sis.
you look so pretty in that pink color!! You are preaching today about style and trends their is a big difference for sure. I dress with style and not trends so much unless it can become friends with my wardrobe and it fits my unique classic style. Alot of people are shopping as part of a symptom of underlying issues. You are on point.
I realised I had an issue when I diverted packages from getting sent to my mum's place & Click and Collect, then I was like "omg I need to get a handle on this!!" 😫🤪 thanks girl for providing a judgement-free zone which also had me laughing out loud intermittently 😅😅😅 you're the best! 👑👌
This is definitely what my focus is this year. I consumed way too much these last few years and need to focus and prioritize in 2022 and beyond. Loved this video ❤️
Omg that’s me with the bracelet all the way, I can’t even Christmas shop with out my impulse buying it’s crazy, and it just makes me feel better for a few hours, but I’m getting a little control on it, Great video
Good day Tashira. I’m so excited to learn how to shop for less. C’mon help ya girl. Dang you stepped on my toes with the first sentence….I shop too much…lol. Sis you’re preaching. I so needed this. God bless you.
I really needed to hear this, I spend money needlessly then wonder where it all went. Recently I went through my wardrobe and saw that I had things I hadn't worn in years. Thanks for this video
Ooooweeeee you shaking the table!! This is exactly why we’re all a part of this community. Thank you for saying the things no one else will say. You transformed the way i approach my wardrobe and spending and I’m forever grateful. This was a sermon!
Last month, I vowed to purchase quality over quantity. Because I went to a few fast fashion stuffs, and it fit weird. I took it all back and what I did keep the button popped off, my time is just as valuable as I’m going to take it back. Now, less is more! This video has just honed in this point. 😍 thank you
It truly NEEDED to be said!! I was like how she know me lol, I'm on a no spending of WANTS journey so far so good. I agree with you when you said you have to find the ROOT of the spending, and I found my issues behind it having something NEW fulfilled that MOMENT but the issues were still there. So I'm working on my issues and excited to see how much I will SAVE!! Thank you for Sharing your testimony!!
Yessss ma'am 👏🏽 I just love this because it definitely resonated with me! I had to do this and it felt really good! I'm always down for a good deal but understand quality will cost more! I don't really carry the luxury bags much that I have now, so I won't purchase another until I'm positive it's what I want and will utilize it! In the meantime time i definitely will go on a trip and hang out or entertain in.
I agree with this video it’s so much better to have quality over quantity. A capitalist society and social media does not make it easy so definitely teachings on individual discipline abd what that should look like is key
Gurrrl I am the product of a Southern Pentecostal church and all I can say is I threw my handkerchief at the TV screen several times. If you know you know ! You “SHOWED” did preach today 💒!
6:40 To be honest, going for cashmere right away might be to much of a first step IMO. Either it might be too difficult financially, or you can end up buying "cheap cashmere", costing less but made with bad quality fibers that won't last long and hate being washed. I would recommend as a first step to aim for merino wool, which is less pricey (and trendy), but is great to regulate temperature and lightweight, you just won't get the extra softness of cashmere. But this WILL last and convince you to never go back to polyester ;) And aim for cashmere next !
@@kaishadufresne you should try other brands for your merino pieces, I wash all of mine on wool program in the washing machine and never had a problem! ;)
Hallelujah in the sanctuary! And on that note; I am going to get my coat and my bag because I have been read to the core! Now let the church say, "AAAAAAMEN!" 🙌💕🔥
Yessss girl, I don’t comment but baaaaaaby this one here had me looking deep in the mirror!!!! I knoooooow you talking to me sis, thank you for this vid
I hope you can feel me hugging you through this screen , I am speaking a word into your channel that the day will come when you will have thousands and thousands more followers, you are simply amazing
The biggest Stunt is Happiness Amen Amen! Yes I am struggling. My Shopping is out of control. Right now I had to restrict myself from going Into my trigger stores for the next 30 days. Hopefully, I can last much longer than that because I Really need to. Thank You So Much for sharing. You are Truly my favorite social media Cousin 😄
All of these things!!!!! Loved this! I have to stop myself from shopping because “I don’t need it” if I feel guilty about the purchase, I’ll return it. I also found that COVID has stopped me from spending because “where am I going”?! I also increased my savings and retirement savings because like you said, the more you make, the more you spend. I set goals and spend seasonally but only buying what’s missing.
Girl you are speaking to me. I just started decluttering my clothes. And the place I started was in my girls bedroom closet. They need the space and I'm never going to wear that stuff again.
You are such an amazing speaker! Had me nodding, and laughing and lifting praise hands. This is a great reality check. I'd love to see how you navigated spending after your first big job, but really just keep doing your thing!
Wow. This really impacted me. It’s so much of what I’ve been thinking about and being convicted about. I’m not a luxury person at all but the “little” things add up trying to fill those voids when I know full well they will not. They detract from my other goals and dreams for my family and myself. They make me feel worse and worry more. Thank you for this. I can do better. I will do better.
I LOVED this video!! Thank you for speaking truth to circumstances that are all to familiar to me. I am in the process of decluttering….real talk may need a supervisor to keep me on task!!… but it is liberating. Taking care of soul needs is key!! What you need today Sis? Affection, Appreciation, Attention, Affirmation, Acceptance, Safety, Security, Respect, Encouragement, Comfort… Answer that instead of shop.
You speak truth in this video.♥️👏🏾👏🏾🙋🏾♀️ A lot of material things can make you happy only for a few seconds. It's like getting on a rollercoaster ride, you are excited as you get to the top of that deep dive.. and when you hit the top and speed down that track the thrill is gone...now on to the next ride/material thing. And you may use it one time and throw it in the back of your closet...🧐🤔😐 Being happy vs content, are you content with the things you already have...
So motivational. I was a hsn qvc addict. It filled a loneliness boredom space. Gave that up replaced with learning to paint which I have a strong spiritual connection with. I realize I only wear 20% of my wardrobe. My goal is to keep pieces that r classics and best Quality
I can't even tell you how refreshing it is to see a fashion influencer express consideration for NOT shopping as much. It's the ethics while chic for me! 🔥🧡💯
Thank you Lia 🙏🏿❤️
Agreed, real boss to keep it 💯
Yasss , refreshing is a understatement!
Word to everybody’s mama!!! 💙
and she funny lol
People literally consume luxury like they're consuming fast fashion, let's talk about that too and let's talk about that next. This shopping and more shopping is a pure disease. Thank you so much for this video
@Evelyn D’ Haene yassss!!!! People are consuming luxury like fast fashion. It’s wild! Regular working people “should not try this at home” 😂
@@mommyfree2bMe those people are regular people too pretending to have money. It's sad and they're leading young women astray. Making them think like that's how real life is. That's not how real life is a lot of people will be lucky to own a pre owned anything from Gucci.
@@EveD123 Preach!!!! Keep it 💯
@@mommyfree2bMe Shall not, cause I know who I am & those names don't make me .. I'm fly in whatever I rock .... As I'm sure you are too👠💪💯🎉
Yassssssss
I was JUST looking at a robe in a local store that was really pretty, but expensive. I looked at the tag for the fabric (which I usually never do, but I started watching your videos about 2 weeks ago) and saw that it was 100% polyester. I immediately put it back. I was like, "Shi would say that's too much money for a full polyester piece." We pickin' up what you puttin' down, you're helping us!!
Thanks right boo! 😂❤️❤️❤️
I sew so I’m super picky about what type of fabrics are in the clothes I buy. I know what fabric costs. It’s ridiculous the amount of money a lot of these brands charge for polyester. I REFUSE, I could be wearing silk or wool for the same cost. It actually helps me buy less.
@@zua77 yes! I make it a habit to look at the material tag when I shop and behold it’s polyester 99% of the time. 🤦🏾♀️
Look for it on Ebay
Never underestimate the power of a capsule wardrobe. It has saved me money. Been working on mine for 3 years. The cotton, the silk, the linen, the wool, the cashmere ALL make me so happy as I purchase elevated basics that last. No Shein clothes paired with a YSL ova here.
I also ensure I keep a wishlist and try hard to stick to it and keep my luxury handbags at 8 or less. No need for all these handbags and nothing to put in em 💃🏾🤣🤣🤣. Loved the vid girl!
Yassssssss
Lovin' on YSL lately and am kicking off 2022 with a strong wishlist. My magic number of bags is 8 as well! Cheers and thanks for sharing xoxo D
You speaking truth! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm embarrassed to admit that the doorbell rang as I watching this. For me spending has been a way to fill a void. The void of loneliness, imposter syndrome and the lack of fulfillment in my life. This video resonated so deeply with me. I appreciate you and thank you.
Thats the term for it…imposter syndrome. Let me go ahead and rebuke that
Great topic! I wanted to add my two cents about natural fibers; I used to stay away from cashmere, merino wool, silk and linen (and all the combos of each) because I was so busy, and knew that hand washing and/or frequent trips to the dry cleaners were not going to happen. But here is the thing - I thought you had to wash after each use because I usually wore polyester or other synthetics, and they trapped odors. It is literally like wrapping your arm pits in plastic. I am not particularly sweaty, but the synthetic knits will make you think you are. After finally investing in good quality, natural fibers, I find I can wear them multiple times, and there is no odor whatsoever. Natural fibers allow your body to breathe, and don’t trap odors like synthetics do.
And to freshen them up, I just use my handy dandy garment steamer. You can get a handheld steamer on Amazon for around 40 dollars, and I just keep it under my bathroom sink. So it takes just minutes to give a quick steam to get out any wrinkles in linen, or freshen up any natural fibers garment.
And finally, it is human nature to take better care of expensive things. Unlike my fast fashion clothes, I am careful with my quality knitwear. They get inspected, spot cleaned, steamed, and carefully stored. It becomes habit to take care of your items this way, and it instills an appreciation of fewer, but better things.
Whew where’s YOUR RUclips CHANNEL?! I need more of this thoughtful commentary 🙏🏿❤️
Thank you for this content. I’m realizing that as someone who grew up in a very working class family, I never knew how to shop for quality, all I knew was how to shop a bargain. I was taught to “make my money stretch”. If I had $100 to spend on shoes, I’d most likely get 2-3 pairs of cheap shoes instead of spending that $100 on one good pair.
Now that I earn more I just find myself spending more in total on bargain clothes instead of spending that money on nicer quality clothes. Learning to shop quality over quantity is a whole journey for me.
Such a good point about the way we are raised especially as POC. Thank you for this reflection 🙏🏿
You must be my sister.
I have never commented on any of your videos before sis, although lve long accepted that you are one of the realist and dopest content creators at the moment. This video is a master-class of self awareness and growth. Please give yourself a pat on the back for the journey you are on, and how you are changing lives. You had me in tears with your new years video, now you are cementing all my 2022 goals. As a black sis- l have to say, this is quality content. Please keep it coming❤🙌🏽
Thank you so much sis. I’m grateful to have you be part of our tribe ❤️
You preached to my soul today!!! I was in the process of figuring out my wardrobe for the work week, and this is turning into closet cleaning, decluttering, and just an overall cleansing! You are top of my content creators lately! Keep preaching sis, I am loving it!!!
This video hit home with me. It made me realized YES I have a shopping addition and unfortunately watching RUclips has not help the problem. Thank you I will be addressing this issue and doing what it take to get it under control..
It's easy for People Who have already travelled this Path, experienced it, have eaten lots of styles, designs, brands, made mistakes, activated certain aspects of their personality ect...yes, then it's easy & simple to stop Shopping & act wisely. For others, a Certain Amount of Time, Money & Experience is needed to Actually Travel the Path , then InsideOut , the Realisations about Self are taken place Naturally. Therefore...Your Hunger for whatever means there is Certain NEED for Certain Steps to be taken. It's Good to Listen to those who have actually made the Process , have already discovered Their Personal Aspects, Style, Preferences, Behaviours, it's ok! Great to Listen & Learn ..Incorporate ...yet, if there is this irrational NEED, then It's the Rational Speaking of the Wise Not Hungry one against an Irrational Personal Need of the Developing Personality. So, Stay Kind Towards Yourself & Listen 👂, Incorporate, Find Other Ways to Satiate the Irrational Hunger & Listen to Yourself...it's UNIQUE PATH & Development for Everyone 💞🥰💓
Amen! This was a great message. I love to see us enjoy luxury but too much emphasis on RUclips is about luxury hauls. If you can afford it, that's great but true style does not come from high end stores. Thanks for giving the masses a message that truly resonates.
This was the first time I have seen a fashion content creator actually explain why shopping for quality is more important than quantity. I got so much from this episode. Thanks for your heartfelt insight!
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I so love this type of content in a space where consumerism is the space where RUclips has thrived. I am on a six month no buy for bags, shoes and clothes. I’ve seen myself utilize so much of my closet now that I’m not bringing clothes into it weekly. I would love to see a work from home wardrobe because that’s my life now but I have a closet that caters to business casual due to pre Covid life.
I was just on Saks shopping. I decided midway through was to just save and have a shopping trip for my BDay in May. That way I can have a set budget and enjoy a mini vacay that I need. Right after that I saw your video so this was right on time lol
Yupppp that’s what I’m taking about boo!
Good idea that’s what I will try I will save from this day until may now I’m going to think about how much I will spend, my own birthday surprise, thank you that’s why I love reading the comments great idea
Girl...girl...girl! You hit the nail on the head! Being unhappy was my retail therapy. It's a good thing I noticed my issue before the 30 days return policy was up. I packaged up all those unwanted and useless items and sent them back. I saved myself 2k. Keep on with the fabulous videos!
Buying quality jeans changed my life. I buy Levi's, Lucky Brand, American Eagle, etc. and those jeans last so long and fit so well.
You literally took the words out of my MOUTH! I have been talking to friends about this. When is enough, enough? I would rather have a simplistic wardrobe. I do not need 20 purses, 20 pairs of shoes, 20 parfums, like girl! lol Also, I 1000% agree with you with the fast fashion, buttons falling off! lol I do not need a walk-in closet full of stuff that is going to collect dust! This video would really help a lot of people because it is much needed. This video was so refreshing.
Please continue this series xx
Will do boo! Thanks for watching ❤️
T! This In debt Church Announcement was everything I needed on this cold ass Sunday. Definitely relatable on so many levels. Thank you for the sermon today. These other YTubers could NEVA! This content checks all the boxes and that is why you are one of my Top Tier Content Creators. We all done did something strange for some change but definitely no judgment 🤦🏽♀️😂. We incorporating home improvements, travel self care luxury skin care and family and friend experiences into the 2022 mix . Plus we buying the bag , the good undergarments, accessories and the exercise all wrapped up into this thing called LIVIN!🙏🏾🤌🏾💅🏾🕺🏽👍🏾😘❤️😜
Louder for the people in the back!!! No more 3k handbags and $5 bras in 2022!!! 🙏🏿
A WORD!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
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If I could thumbs this up ten times, it wouldn't be enough.This was everything and then some. This was church, school and my mommas lap. Thank you for breaking it down for us like you did. I realize definitively that my decision to drive to Tysons today and return the Prada and the Chloe boots was a great decision. There was no joy to be found by being unnecessarily 2k poorer. Run me my money Saks.
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I totally agree with you. You gotta invest in quality. I do that for my shoes especially
Awesome video. I live by a lot of what you're saying. Shopping with intention is my motto. Last year, I spent way too much money on retail trying to find joy and cope with the craziness of the world. Yes, my purchases were thought out, yes I love my wardrobe and I found some gems for a helluva good price; HOWEVER all these things add up! This year is about more experiences and memories cause lord knows I have a wardrobe to last me for a good minute!!
Wonderful video! That color looks stunning on you. 🌸 One tip for when you have the shopping itch is to head over to your public library and “treat yourself” to some books, movies, etc. The library has so many great books on fashion, decor, cooking, gardening, and beyond… You get to come home with a “score” or two without spending a dime. ❤️
Oh this tip is amazing! I “rediscovered” the library a few years ago and couldn’t believe I’d forgotten about such a magical place 😂
I used to do the same thing! It really is therapeutic.
Sisssssss!!! You are, in my humble opinion, one of the realest “influencers” on Social Media. Thank you for thinking of your viewers and not just a check that you will get from a partnership. You really speak to the people that we are and who we want to be. Thank you! Also, I love when you say something so funny that you start laughing out loud. Girl you be on here telling the truth.
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That she is!!!!
You hit the nail on the head today! I was all kinds of uncomfortable and entertained as I watched this. The discomfort comes from knowing that I need to make some changes in my life especially around spending. The entertaining part is your humor and delivery!Thanks for the message and the push to seek happiness outside of my wallet!!!
You’re welcome sis!
What a gift. I wish that every young girl and woman could hear this.
THE FIRST MINUTE CALLED ME OUTTTT. the neighbors…the ring notification…all of it
Girl yes, I was a mess in my 20's when it came to spending. I'm embarrassed at how loosely I use to spend, but I was able to get back some money with poshmark and mercari. When I hit 30s I starting moving towards a minimalist lifestyle. I'm now almost where I need to be. Quality over quantity is the goal.
Girl PREACH!!! Truer words…joy, authenticity, living your passion- best accessories one can have. And they’re FREE!
Marie Kondo who?? WE need messages that meet us where we are in a manner that directly gets our attention. Preeeeeach! Hold please…let me share this video. I’m back…. I’ve had to unsubscribe from many channels because it was an overdose of hauls and I’m just not that girl anymore. I think the hair on my arms stood up at the conclusion Sis. 👏🏾👏🏾❤️. I so appreciate you!
It’s the “I’m back…” 😂😂😂 thanks for watching and sharing sis!
Blessings...Wednesday March 09,2022 @ 6:29 AM...You described me to the core of my soul. Everything you have said pertains exactly to the circumstances surrounding me, this is so on point. I truly appreciate all that was said and I thank you for being real. Definitely a new prospective. Continued success.
Whew sis, you broke me down to my core with this video! Over-shopping for fast fashion is something I’ve been struggling with for years, And it wasn’t until recently that I’ve made the decision to save more of my money for those quality and even luxury pieces that I really want and that will stand the test of time. I also recently watched that same video by Hello Catwalk City and decided that this was the year I was going to get it together, and after seeing your, I know that it’s time. I realize what my issues are and now it’s time to start addressing them. Like you said I’d rather walk in with my LV bag not just looking fly, but also being genuinely happy!
Last night I wanted buy a few pieces from a vintage shop online SO bad but I don't have it. And today, I'm just going over why I was so desperate to buy them and it really is because I'm unhappy with my everyday life. I'm working on changing that, but the in the meantime process and the patience to wait is easier in my dreams than doing it in real life. Even if I never get those pieces, when I accomplish my goal to revamp my life, I KNOW that will make me a trillion times happier AND more proud of myself than anything hanging in my closet. Thanks for this video, it was a good, on time confirmation.
Yaaaasss sis! You get it. So proud of the work you’re getting ready to do to change your life.
You were preaching on this one, honey. I went through a shopping phase early in the pandemic because I felt out of control in general. Packages almost everyday. Meaningless buying! Did the same after a break up once before. I’ve noticed it’s my go to when I feel like something along my foundation has been shaken. I’m aware of it now and I catch it before I act.
Sis! Listening to you is a WHOLE therapy session!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Keep preaching Sis!
Lol! “You told me you would take those bins out of your baby’s closet and I know you haven’t done it!” This was my life growing up. My Mom loved to shop, do you hear me?!
Holy handbag! You are exactly what I needed today... and frankly 25 years ago this would have changed my life! Keep saying these hard truths. Nothing I have bought has ever truly given me lasting happiness.
💃🏾🎯💃🏾🎯💃🏾 This message is needed. I find myself no longer liking fashion hauls. I definitely can relate to the decluttering. I hate a cluttered closet , home, etc. I clean so much that I’m not left with much lol. I like being able to see what I have. Your point on quality over quantity is so true. The mental health word was 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Clapped on "spiritual deficit". I'm on day 12 of a 100 day no buy. Reminding myself that life is wonderful and enough. Also hi from a DMV native! I so appreciate all of your content. So refreshing and fun!
Wheeeewww! I think you might have been speaking directly to me in this video…As a “mattafack” I might have to call you Pastor. You came with ALL the gems and then at the end gave us the true WORD to think about for the week. I mean I literally said AMEN at the end of this video! I will be cleaning the closets and purging ASAP!! Thank you sis. I needed this 🤗☺️
Sister, Pastor, Girl! you gave us a sermon, I had to sit up and literally grab a notebook. Phew.. God bless you
I’m telling you I got up and said “preach sister” at least 3 times! Now I’m going to hear this sermon in the back of my head whenever I think about buying something all 2022.
When you said, "You missed your chance to shout." I almost hollered! I love your videos.
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Wearing trends Does Not make you fashionable. Sis, you just delivered me!!! Thank you!!!
I have been on a downsizing journey for some years. Smaller home, less stuff and it takes time to unfold & rewrap. I feel less pressure to maintain “stuff” because I have a whole lot less. Curating the new items for my closet will take time, but right now all that is left in my closet are things that fit my lifestyle. Not the “fantasy lifestyle” (a term I heard RUclipsr Audrey Coyne use). This term hit me across the face like a pie 🥧. I feel even better about any beautiful new additions I will add along the way into my cute little closet. My physical well being has come into play at a higher level of importance (changed my diet completely) and it has improved my metal & emotional well being. When I put on my clothes I enjoy them so much more because they are things I really love. 💕 This was an incredible video and I’m sending you positive vibes it gets tons more views. 🙌🏼
This was SO good! I had a realization before Christmas that I was buying stuff because I didn’t feel good about myself. I stopped shopping for unnecessary stuff and made a wish list of what I wanted. I also got rid of clothes I didn’t wear. It’s been a process but feels so much better. Also I started therapy late last year. I have so much more awareness and I believe therapy helped me to stop shopping and wasting my money. Thank you so much for your content.
Congrats on a new level of self-awareness!!!
This is where Im at. Im not buying or drinking til I address it
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this message. Hit WAY too close to home, but hit the mark! Recently discovered you. You are so refreshing!!
Gurl I wait for your vids every Sunday...you had me at the intro ...first with the laugh😂🤣 then the next with that truth!! I need to Stop the shopping madness and to get TF out of debt ...its my 2022 goal. I needed this one today!!! Thank you for spreading the facts and wisdom! Much love!!😍😘🥰
Chillleeeeeee I’m her! 🤭 PREACH! Woooooooo sis the sting! This is good stuff!!
THIS!! You preached tuhday, my good sis!! All through my late twenties and early thirties, shopping WAS A SPORT! Coming home from the mall with allll thee bags was the intent. I was doing Saturday fashion "hauls" in my mirror before it was ever considered to be monetized video content for the Tube (hey, Payless 👋🏼). I will say I'm a recovering shopaholic now; I'm not quite there yet, because I have a wardrobe of great abundance, but I'm in the purging process and I'm more intentional about what I'm buying to curate my wardrobe. Fabrication and quality is uber important in a purchase. And so I'm slowly replacing lower quality shoes and clothes and keeping a list of pieces that will round out my wardrobe and more define the woman I've become today. Working from home for the last two years has challenged my perception of my personal style and I'm trying to evolve in that space. And you're wearing that pink!!! ❤
Such great self reflection sis! ❤️❤️❤️
Lol the apple bottom jeans and the boots with the fur 🤣😆❤️ this was good. If it doesn’t spark joy it must go. Love this.
Thank you for this amazing video! The SERMON during the last section, wow, blew me away. Great job! I love your mantra of shopping with intention, and it's something I've also been practicing over the last two years. I like to wear my clothes until they really wear out. As I declutter my closet and replace worn-out items with better quality things, they must meet a specific need. Some stuff hasn't been replaced at all, either because I don't need it anymore, or because I haven't found a replacement that is good enough. There will be no settling for crappy clothes in 2022, no maam!
I feel seen... and refreshed all at the same time. I need a moment to digest it all. LOL!! "You missed your chance to shout" took me out!!! LOL!!
Thank you. You are out here changing minds and perspectives. I have been having these same feelings but couldn't put it in these words. Lord, let me go and ponder......
My toes are killing me! She stepped all over my feet. I am so guilty of a lot of what she has shared. I have heard it before but actually heard her. Thank you Sis.
you look so pretty in that pink color!!
You are preaching today about style and trends their is a big difference for sure.
I dress with style and not trends so much unless it can become friends with my wardrobe and it fits my unique classic style.
Alot of people are shopping as part of a symptom of underlying issues. You are on point.
You are simply captivating. From the gate. No clue why the algorithm brought me here. But here is where I will stay! I’m intrigued. 🙇🏾♀️
Welcome to the tribe!
I realised I had an issue when I diverted packages from getting sent to my mum's place & Click and Collect, then I was like "omg I need to get a handle on this!!" 😫🤪 thanks girl for providing a judgement-free zone which also had me laughing out loud intermittently 😅😅😅 you're the best! 👑👌
You too! 😏
Yes right up my new alley. ✨✨
This is definitely what my focus is this year. I consumed way too much these last few years and need to focus and prioritize in 2022 and beyond. Loved this video ❤️
Omg that’s me with the bracelet all the way, I can’t even Christmas shop with out my impulse buying it’s crazy, and it just makes me feel better for a few hours, but I’m getting a little control on it, Great video
I adore you so much, started following you on Instagram. 😊You're truly gorgeous! ❤❤❤❤
Good day Tashira. I’m so excited to learn how to shop for less. C’mon help ya girl. Dang you stepped on my toes with the first sentence….I shop too much…lol. Sis you’re preaching. I so needed this. God bless you.
I don't know how to explain it, but I TRUST this lady with my life....
I really needed to hear this, I spend money needlessly then wonder where it all went. Recently I went through my wardrobe and saw that I had things I hadn't worn in years. Thanks for this video
The way I hollered when you said get those totes out the kids closet!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ooooweeeee you shaking the table!! This is exactly why we’re all a part of this community. Thank you for saying the things no one else will say. You transformed the way i approach my wardrobe and spending and I’m forever grateful. This was a sermon!
You have inspired me to start bagging up things in my closet..I haven't worn it and doesn't speak my 2022 goals so..it's gone .
You hit it all on the head….love how you kick it to us… REAL to REAL. This was needed. Thank you for being a” Sis”👑.
I PURGED my closet before I came upon this video! Confirmation received.
You articulated everything I’ve been feeling these past few months. Great message!! Happy Sunday.
Last month, I vowed to purchase quality over quantity. Because I went to a few fast fashion stuffs, and it fit weird. I took it all back and what I did keep the button popped off, my time is just as valuable as I’m going to take it back.
Now, less is more! This video has just honed in this point. 😍 thank you
It truly NEEDED to be said!! I was like how she know me lol, I'm on a no spending of WANTS journey so far so good. I agree with you when you said you have to find the ROOT of the spending, and I found my issues behind it having something NEW fulfilled that MOMENT but the issues were still there. So I'm working on my issues and excited to see how much I will SAVE!! Thank you for Sharing your testimony!!
Wow! I never knew one could be served, helped, saved, preached to and guided in fashion! Yes! Thank you sis!
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Yessss ma'am 👏🏽
I just love this because it definitely resonated with me! I had to do this and it felt really good! I'm always down for a good deal but understand quality will cost more!
I don't really carry the luxury bags much that I have now, so I won't purchase another until I'm positive it's what I want and will utilize it! In the meantime time i definitely will go on a trip and hang out or entertain in.
I screamed when you said “your neighbors know it” 😂😂😂😂. I think this everyday when I pick up my packages from the front door 🤦🏾♀️
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Thank you girl for keeping it real and bringing us back to reality this was very helpful.
I agree with this video it’s so much better to have quality over quantity. A capitalist society and social media does not make it easy so definitely teachings on individual discipline abd what that should look like is key
Gurrrl I am the product of a Southern Pentecostal church and all I can say is I threw my handkerchief at the TV screen several times. If you know you know ! You “SHOWED” did preach today 💒!
Girl I let Him speak through me! 🙌🏿😭
A WHOLE word of truth and accountability, particularly in that final guidance on personal assessment 💯💚
6:40 To be honest, going for cashmere right away might be to much of a first step IMO. Either it might be too difficult financially, or you can end up buying "cheap cashmere", costing less but made with bad quality fibers that won't last long and hate being washed.
I would recommend as a first step to aim for merino wool, which is less pricey (and trendy), but is great to regulate temperature and lightweight, you just won't get the extra softness of cashmere. But this WILL last and convince you to never go back to polyester ;) And aim for cashmere next !
@@kaishadufresne you should try other brands for your merino pieces, I wash all of mine on wool program in the washing machine and never had a problem! ;)
Self actualization can’t be found at Net A Porter 😂 Girl you nailed it 🔥💖 Thank you for the much needed talk.
You better preach sis! You can trendy and not giving what you’re supposed to give baby
Hallelujah in the sanctuary! And on that note; I am going to get my coat and my bag because I have been read to the core! Now let the church say, "AAAAAAMEN!" 🙌💕🔥
Yessss girl, I don’t comment but baaaaaaby this one here had me looking deep in the mirror!!!! I knoooooow you talking to me sis, thank you for this vid
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I hope you can feel me hugging you through this screen , I am speaking a word into your channel that the day will come when you will have thousands and thousands more followers, you are simply amazing
Speak on it! Thank you for your affirmation 🙏🏿
I have always enjoyed your videos, and I have to say that hearing an influencer that speaks the truth about impulse shopping is very impressive.
Thank you Nikki!
The biggest Stunt is Happiness Amen Amen!
Yes I am struggling.
My Shopping is out of control.
Right now I had to restrict myself from going Into my trigger stores for the next 30 days.
Hopefully, I can last much longer than that because I Really need to. Thank You So Much for sharing.
You are Truly my favorite social media Cousin 😄
$3k bag, $2 inside…spirit broken! But God! Good nuggets my dear! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I definitely needed this reminder!! No more cheap ish and no more shopping for no reason!
All of these things!!!!! Loved this! I have to stop myself from shopping because “I don’t need it” if I feel guilty about the purchase, I’ll return it. I also found that COVID has stopped me from spending because “where am I going”?! I also increased my savings and retirement savings because like you said, the more you make, the more you spend. I set goals and spend seasonally but only buying what’s missing.
Girl you had me at the apple bottom jeans, boots with the fur😂Solid video darling👌🏾
Girl you are speaking to me. I just started decluttering my clothes. And the place I started was in my girls bedroom closet. They need the space and I'm never going to wear that stuff again.
You are such an amazing speaker! Had me nodding, and laughing and lifting praise hands. This is a great reality check. I'd love to see how you navigated spending after your first big job, but really just keep doing your thing!
Ahhhh yes! A good video suggestion!
Wow. This really impacted me. It’s so much of what I’ve been thinking about and being convicted about. I’m not a luxury person at all but the “little” things add up trying to fill those voids when I know full well they will not. They detract from my other goals and dreams for my family and myself. They make me feel worse and worry more. Thank you for this. I can do better. I will do better.
Yes!! This is grown folks conversation.🥰🥰🥰
I am so grateful to have found you! Thank you! You are like a pastor of fashion and it is SO refreshing and welcome ❤️🙏🏼
Girl leave me alone! Lol! Great vid and great message.
I LOVED this video!! Thank you for speaking truth to circumstances that are all to familiar to me. I am in the process of decluttering….real talk may need a supervisor to keep me on task!!… but it is liberating. Taking care of soul needs is key!!
What you need today Sis?
Affection, Appreciation, Attention, Affirmation, Acceptance, Safety, Security, Respect, Encouragement, Comfort…
Answer that instead of shop.
Come thru with this word!!!!
You speak truth in this video.♥️👏🏾👏🏾🙋🏾♀️ A lot of material things can make you happy only for a few seconds. It's like getting on a rollercoaster ride, you are excited as you get to the top of that deep dive.. and when you hit the top and speed down that track the thrill is gone...now on to the next ride/material thing. And you may use it one time and throw it in the back of your closet...🧐🤔😐 Being happy vs content, are you content with the things you already have...
So motivational. I was a hsn qvc addict. It filled a loneliness boredom space. Gave that up replaced with learning to paint which I have a strong spiritual connection with. I realize I only wear 20% of my wardrobe. My goal is to keep pieces that r classics and best Quality