You made such a great point on this topic. Because, I’m 69 so late in the game of getting my wardrobe together, and you are so right about having the basics, with accessories. I feel I’m making mistakes buying stuff that’s not needed or adding to what I already have. Funny that you mentioned folks life situations. Im retired and stay home taking care of my husband who had a stroke, but I don’t look my age nor feel my age and everyone thinks I should down play me. I have been focusing on clothes to wear for home, more to make me feel good. I think they should rise to look their best. Im mainly talking about the 65 and older folks in my community. Just because we have kids..become a grandmother and a great grandmother doesn’t mean we gotta look like Moms Mabley! Live and let live!
@@PoliticsFashion you think there’s room for me on RUclips as a caretaker who needs a life? 😂😂 seriously I needed to hear and witness this. Game changer! Keep doing you!
@@marilynt.70120 I think there is definitely a space for you on RUclips as I work in home care and am constantly checking on my caregivers bc without you guys taking care of yourselves, my patients will suffer. I think RUclips could be a creative experience and outlet for you and for those who need an outlet for relatability. You could come from the aspect of not losing yourself while being a great provider of care for your loved ones and doing it in style. GO FOR IT!
My fantasy wardrobe of fancy dinners in the city and weekends at wineries… when really I mostly go hiking, work from home and cook meals at home that I eat on my couch 😂
I think I speak for all us Nurses who only wear navy blue scrubs when I say, "Chi get out our closets!" Yes we have 17 ball gowns and the only place we going is to the hospital cafeteria. Now somebody pass the collection plate, cuz the prophetess is preaching. Lol
OMG 😆, I AM SO GUILTY OF THIS !!! . Wearing the same navy blue gets a bit old, so I overbuy on other clothing items thinking I’ll get to wear it sooner or later, 🫣. WELLL later never comes and now I have all this stuff …. . 😳😳😳.
Here I am listening you calling my name.... I am only comfortable in scrubs these days its makes me feel comfortable and free.... when am dressed up I feel strange
I know this is mostly for women/femmes but me as a bigger man, I relate to this so much. I have a closet full of nothing lol I’m trying to get into the habit of buying good solids and basics. I’ve gained a lot of weight and I’ve been relying on joggers and sweatpants and saying, “imma get back to this weight so I’m not buying anything.” Nah, I gotta dress for the size I’m at!
looking to lose weight, look into Intermittent Fasting. I was able to lose 90 pounds and I'm keeping it off. Fast Feast Repeat by Gin Stephens is a great book to check out. Free podcasts on Spotify too.
My partner swears by DXL and this thing called the Winston Box and always looks good in those clothes! Really quality basics (or basics with a pop) for your type of frame. Those could be good places to start!
As someone with a fantasy closet that screams "socialite" that goes to cocktail dinner every day but who in reality is a mom of little kids who wears mostly dark clothes this spoke to my soul, I need to dress for my best self in my current life and not the fantasy person that I am not .Thank you
The shopping for a fantasy lifestyle took me out 💀😂, for example: I recently bought an anckle-length oversized houndstooth coat that I probably will never wear but I bought it just because it strongly gave me Chanel runway 2019 A/W vibes... WHERE AM I GOING WITH A FULL HOUNDSTOOTH CRUELLA DE VIL COAT!??!?!? 💀😭😂😂
Please I wear mines around NYC often and get stopped and complimented every single time....4 and 5 times per day when I wear it. Wear the coat!!! It's fantastic!!
😂😂 Ion care! I decided long ago I was gonna be extra like Mariah Carey everyday! 🤣🤣 Fr, I LOVE gowns so I started finding galas to wear them to! What's the cause? 🤷🏽♀️ Ionno. What I do know is that SOMEBODY gon get these lewks!! I do use it as an excuse to network. A win/win!
Another factor which I've noticed that leads to the situation of having a wardrobe full of clothes but having nothing to wear is that for many people weight fluctuations are very hard to accept. Especially when you need to buy a bigger size than what you're used to, it can make you feel extremely uncomfortable. So a lot of people hold onto clothes they love but don't fit them. Especially women, most of us are guilty of having those "inspiration to get to that size" dresses in our wardrobes
Stop talking about me girl,am size 18 and still have my size 12 since 2009 my baby weight won't go she is 13 years old.. one day I will fit into them what you think youall
This video was soooo on point! Another thing is we can get caught up in other RUclipsrs “fashion inspirations” and keep purchasing items that will fall out of trend before we can get our wear out of them. Your videos put us in think mode. Thank you so much!
Not only are you funny as heck, you are always on point. You look like you should have your own tv show (with your style and personality). Anyway, I also think that there are too many people wear clothes that don't fit their body type and some styles that should not be worn by everyone. Thanks for sharing another enjoyable video. Take care.
Hey Girl Hey❤️ Your Preaching Was On Point Today, your sermon on outfits only was so true. The "Nothing But Death, Color Purple Analogy was deep, Buy with Intention. Help the sisters out. It's a Affliction to have missing Accessories. Love The Chic Maven, for Event Pieces. Blessing Sis.♥️♥️♥️
Tashira, your vids are truly in a league of their own! I'm starting law school his fall and the mental gears are definitely turning as I try to define what my sense of style will be like as I develop my new, professional wardrobe -- your tips have been helping me a lot!
Gosh! The amount of joke and fashion gold you give me is SOOO welcome in my life. Colour Purple references, the dramatic but needed pauses, so happy the RUclips algorithm introduced me to you. Buying your ebook next payday to say HEY GIRL HEY! AND THANKS!
This is such a good video. The point about not dressing for your lifestyle is 💯. I think many people, myself included, get caught up in what influencers are doing versus what we are living. Also, there’s comfort in the dysfunctional. It takes nerve to confront ourselves & say “let’s make a change.” I’ll be using this to reevaluate my wardrobe 😭
Love this content!! Love everything you said. This is helping me be more selective in my choices. I follow the Chic Maven as well, her collection of items are absolutely gorgeous 😍.
I thought the quiet luxury video was my favorite, but it is this one. I have circled back to this one often. I needed this about 20 years ago, but am thankful for it now. When you know better you do better. LOVE this!
You’re so right about this, that’s why, with a closet full of clothes, we say, we don’t have anything to wear. We just really don’t have enough things we’re comfortable wearing because we’re not dressing our true selves. Be true to who you are today, and always collect a few piece that elevate you and aspire to who you’d like to be. I had to figure out because I love shoes I was collecting them, but many of them didn’t fit my style so they weren’t being worn. It took me a lot of coin to learn this lesson and buy for the real ME. And that doesn’t mean we can’t be fabulous and reach for the high fashion pieces, just not a closet full of the. Learn your style and be true to it. Thanks for sharing, Teacher.
Good thanks I love to shop I love cloths I take them to an outreach that I’m a part of 🥰but u are telling the truth thanks shopping is like a therapy at times but I’m learning to cut back ur right🥰
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm on that list somewhere. Ooh with the hoarding... 🙋🏽♀ No worries though I picked up boxes this weekend and ready to visit GoodWill drop-offs. Too funny. Thanks!
Girrrl!!! This is right on time. I'm going to make my hubby watch this bc this is him. Was shopping for him this weekend, trying to get him on point and this man told me that he is tired of me picking only whites, blacks and grays for him. This dude be wanting prints and color and can't find anything to wear when we about to go somewhere. I have tried to educate him on BASICS first then the BANGERS. This man be buying whole royal blue outfits outchere.
FACTS. Can you hear me laughing? Another issue is thinking that you can’t repeat an outfit hence the closet full of stuff…when that’s not the life you live…your stage ain’t that big 😳 🤣🤣. I just love you Sis
This was on point! I need the ebook. And the sweater you are wearing. I’m ashamed at how many times I laughed out oud because you were talking to me. I started getting myself straight though. I definitely still have wayyy too many dream life items that I hardly use. But the closet is big enough to hold them so I can’t let go of my dreams just yet! One thing I added in 2021 that I saw was killing my style was lack of high quality shape wear items. I turned 50 last year and did some purging and repurchasing and upgraded those items as I needed a little snatching in some areas. Certain clothes look so much better too. Thanks for this reminded to get it together as I do a spring closet clean.
I don't know how I found you, but I needed to hear everything you had to say. My closet is is mismatch and it causes my stress to look at and I'm going to get it in order with classic things I like and will wear.
Loved every minute of this and I'm glad that my personality and lifestyle match my closet especially on the weekend lol cause I don't do trends I am a living breathing classic I got this hot pink moschino scarf 5 years ago that still turns heads for the right reasons till this day every designer bag I wear I get compliments same with shoes and less is more simple is stunning i think a lot of people do way too much sis but you made really great points and gave me more validation that I'm on point lol
Doblitz 2 minutes ago Can I just say how this video resonates with me to my core? I’m also the one who tends to gravitate towards the sundress/floral/feminine silhouette. Luckily, I don’t live in Maine and am in the Carolinas so I get more use out of it but lately, I found that much of my wardrobe did not reflect the reality of my everyday circumstances and simply wasn’t practical as a working mom of 2. I’m working on elevating my personal style, decluttering my wardrobe and getting back to basics. I want to get out of the, “I have so many clothes but don’t know what to wear” to being excited about what’s in my closet! Your videos are so helpful to me and I love your style, confidence, and personality!! Keep ‘em coming!! You have a new subscriber. 👌🏾
So good! Also, not buying the right pieces for your body type. This can be challenging if you don’t know what silhouettes look best on your frame (esp. if you don’t have a flat stomach! Lol)
The accessory tip was on time. I’ve been trying to figure this out. Girl, I’m shouting and have a “shondo” in my soul! Yassss, from “basic to buss down”. Love it!
I had SUCH a stressful day at work today, but when I saw you'd uploaded a new video, my heart sang! You're so funny, so full of great advice and just know how to cheer a girl right up. Thank you! Xx
I'm retired now and I keep buying clothes suitable for work. I guess you just get used to a mind set. But you have really made me think about basics and accessories and limiting buying habits. Also I live where the winters are long and sometimes we get a decent spring and sometimes it goes right into very warm winter. Same with fall. Sometimes it is lovely fall weather or it goes right into winter type weather. So I'm always figuring out what to wear because you never know what the weather is going to be but you feel you better be prepared and I end up with too much in my wardrobe that some years I never wear. I think I'm just making excuses for too many clothes lol. on.
Sis!! I'm sorry I didn't stumble across you sooner, cause I'm that person that has to have that outfit that everything matches and may only wear it for the occasion I bought it. Thank you for helping me realize how wrong I am about style, and maybe save myself some money. God bless you.
Thank you Sis. You said exactly what I needed to hear. Each and every topic you hit on I’m definitely guilty of. I need to declutter but don’t know exactly how or am afraid to detach myself from all of my unused items. At least now I have a starting point
I love your videos and keeping it real talk! My thought is SHOES! I think shoes kill a lot of looks. Find a few pairs that really speak to your lifestyle, personality/style, and that are comfortable. Then learn how to best style them. It has completely changed how I choose my clothing, and most of my outfits are ready for whatever comes my way.
No lies told here ! Damn- how am I just discovering your channel ? Girl - you preached and all points were so valid . I had a conversation about handbags with a friend and I told her ‘I don’t have a Hermes lifestyle ‘. That is just my truth and I will continue to admire them from far away while buying items that fit my life . Same with stilettos: gorgeous , but have not bought any in a long time because I found I hardly wore them - so I switched to mules (3.5 in heel height max). The lower heels and more casual look goes a lot more with my style vs stilettos. Ps: just subscribed ;)
When I tell you, you are right on the money; guuuuurrrrrl! I have friend that is the outfit queen! And she always says, "I have nothing to wear". The crazy part is she really does have more clothes in her closet, but she thinks I'm the one with all the clothes; not true. I just mix and match and restyle and add accessories and don't get me started on the shoes! I just laugh all the time. I have been shopping in pieces since I was in middle school-literally. I like having versatility especially with accessories, like scarves and broaches, and don't get me started on hats; LOL! When I get my E-zine and Podcast up and running- I would love for you grace the cover of my mag and have those conversations all about politics and fashion on my Podcast! Keep up the the good work and advice! Love It!
Sis all I know i live in New York city work in the health care field have most of those things you talk about but let's just say I have some work to do in my closet lolllll thank you sis very Educating for me I love this
Please know that I am here and accounted for! Everything you said was spot on! I mean Tashira you continually bestow gems on us. I think clothes that need to be ironed should be ironed, this makes a considerable impact on personal presentation. Thank you !
Just wow. You making these videos that teach me something. I am the girl with all the high heels but really don't go out. I work in corporate but the environment is business casual. Chile, I'm taking the tips and running with them. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Hey, thanks for being so transparent with this. I am all for fashion renewal... You are so funny, but seriously this was great! Good tips, I am going use my broaches, their on a hat. I only have two pair of Red Bottoms. Not interested in any more. The look is important and it's important to know how to look. 🌺🌺🌺
That happens got a lot of cloths I’m pretty good at matching up pretty trendy but u have to stop and declutter specially when u get confused about what ur gonna match up u get frustrated ugh 😣 but we learn from each other”
Hello Sis I so appreciate you and suggesting key wardrobe item..I am talking about me, everyone tells me you are always dressed, However I truly like dressing. Great tips today, I am in my closet getting rid of certain things now...Thank you
I enjoy watching you! The way you tell a story or share info with us is just the right messy, sarcastic “Ness” I need in my life. I love it! I love this topic because it makes so much sense. This really helped me to focus on what I need to buy. You just made it make sense!!!!
Tashira THAN YOU!!! I am thinking of my recent purge and all my friends and family HA!!!! Blessing Queen Love the brooch and hoops ...Everything really but those specifically. Smooches
You didn’t have to call me out!! You could have just DM’d me or sent me a note on the side!! 😂😂😂 This video put me in my feelings for sure!! THANK YOU!!! Because I showl did empty my Saks cart after watching this. That 25% off Friends and Family discount had me. But I am going to shame the Devil today and walk away!! Amen sis from a loyal tribe member! Amen🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I learned my lesson in not dressing for my fantasy life, like, last year. I started putting stuff up on Depop and Poshmark because I had to confront myself for buying (and keeping) things just because I like them, which was such a waste of money. Now I don't have TOO too many things that are a lifestyle mismatch (I'd say probably 10 things or less, including shoes and a coat I kept that're too small) but it's still a huge waste! I stay in my dressy casual lane. I still buy heels, but they're in the three-inch category or lower. If I can't walk in them all day, I don't buy it. If I can't dress it down, I don't buy it. This is the same reason why I kick myself whenever I think about all the makeup I have. I don't have nearly as much as most people (I peeped the collecting habit in 2016 or so), but I still have more than what one can wear before it all goes bad. And where the heck am I going with that cheap and ugly LaFemme blush, Technopagan Lip Tar and kelly green eyeshadow?!
Great video as always. I would add "You have a closet full of clothes that don't fit you right now." And what goes hand in hand, "You're waiting until you reach your goal weight to buy clothes." Also "You have two drawers full of crap clothes just in case you want to paint the walls."
I needed this talk ... laughing out loud the whole time. I’ve been working from home since 2020 and still shop like I’m going back lol. Definitely need to focus on the accessories. Thank you!
First, you giving out FREE keys, okay?!! I identified with a few of these and have tried to mitigate it with the very tips you mentioned! I would love to see you talk about wearing the correct undergarments cuz chiiiileeee, that drives me MAD! Lol. Thank you so much for sharing, reaching and teaching with love!
Great points Shi, When l started a mentoring program for Girls many years ago we (our mentors team) had a session on appropriate clothing items for specific occasions which turned out to be really fun for our tween mentees. On a similar note many years ago as well, while still working in corporate, one of my coworkers would wear "pretty clothes"vs. office attire...the majority of time she looked like she was going somewhere special such as a wedding or church Tea. One day I asked if she had plans after work and she said "no, I just like dressing like this"...from that point on I'd still complement her cuz she indeed looked pretty...and I kept it moving just as I should.☺️
Number one already fired all the shots 😂 being realistic about the lifestyle is so important! And YES to the basics. 👏🏾 Pieces that can be worn in multiple ways are wardrobe saviors! Great vídeo miss ma’am 🤎
Loved watching this video. Sis you gave me pure jokes. New sub from COLD UK. (Always shopping for warmer climates or Just in case I go partying). Nuff Blessings. Xx
I put on my basics with an additional beautiful scarf,jewelry or shoes and I’m ask where you going. Wear/rotate your clothes for every occasion. I once saw an elderly woman wearing her floor length mink fur coat to the grocery store shopping like the rest of us in dead winter while the majority of us was freezing wearing our north face or pea oats.
You are soooo funny! But seriously all valid points. That outfit shopping definitely had me searching the closet for something to wear. One thing I would also say is buying for the life you live also means the body you have right now. Nothing wrong with wanting to be your best self but you should still look good on your way there. Thank for this video!
This video connected with me on many levels i am the one who find it very, very difficult to split up the outfit😊 and i definightly need more basic pieces in my wardrobe even accessories like belts and hats, this is a very helpful video for me, plus you always make me laugh out loud 😅🤣😂
Tashira, you crack me UP!!! ok!!! 1000% facts. You are really a breath of fresh air. I am so glad that you speak about this kind of stuff on your channel. Quite a lot of people collect and I be like for what? If you are not going to wear it, why do you have it? When I like and buy something, I cannot WAIT to wear it. Those be the main ones saying they never have anything to wear. xx
This was good! The only thing for me is,if I find a good semi formal/formal piece, I like to pick it up as I find these pieces super hard to find when I actually need them.
You are so on point with having the basic pieces in our wardrobe. You can build a fabulous look just from having great basics to create styles. Excellent video as always!
You made such a great point on this topic. Because, I’m 69 so late in the game of getting my wardrobe together, and you are so right about having the basics, with accessories. I feel I’m making mistakes buying stuff that’s not needed or adding to what I already have. Funny that you mentioned folks life situations. Im retired and stay home taking care of my husband who had a stroke, but I don’t look my age nor feel my age and everyone thinks I should down play me. I have been focusing on clothes to wear for home, more to make me feel good.
I think they should rise to look their best. Im mainly talking about the 65 and older folks in my community. Just because we have kids..become a grandmother and a great grandmother doesn’t mean we gotta look like Moms Mabley! Live and let live!
Yaaasss love this!
@@PoliticsFashion you think there’s room for me on RUclips as a caretaker who needs a life? 😂😂 seriously I needed to hear and witness this. Game changer! Keep doing you!
@@marilynt.70120 I think there is definitely a space for you on RUclips as I work in home care and am constantly checking on my caregivers bc without you guys taking care of yourselves, my patients will suffer. I think RUclips could be a creative experience and outlet for you and for those who need an outlet for relatability. You could come from the aspect of not losing yourself while being a great provider of care for your loved ones and doing it in style. GO FOR IT!
@@comfychic6029 thanks, it’s nothing like support, when you are giving all to comfort someone else! Much appreciated!
This video is tooooo funny
Thx for helpin a sista out , lol
I literally laughed LOUDLY at “3 pairs of Chanel sneakers and no belt”
Right! ,,,and she said it with a smile!!! LOL
I subscribed off this comment and the ones thereafter 😅
My fantasy wardrobe of fancy dinners in the city and weekends at wineries… when really I mostly go hiking, work from home and cook meals at home that I eat on my couch 😂
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Same here!
I think I speak for all us Nurses who only wear navy blue scrubs when I say, "Chi get out our closets!" Yes we have 17 ball gowns and the only place we going is to the hospital cafeteria. Now somebody pass the collection plate, cuz the prophetess is preaching. Lol
Lmaoooo sis I’m so sorry!!!! But it had to be said 😂😂😂😂
💀 😂😂
As soon as she said nurses, I said lawd she's talking to me!!!!!
OMG 😆, I AM SO GUILTY OF THIS !!! . Wearing the same navy blue gets a bit old, so I overbuy on other clothing items thinking I’ll get to wear it sooner or later, 🫣. WELLL later never comes and now I have all this stuff …. . 😳😳😳.
Here I am listening you calling my name.... I am only comfortable in scrubs these days its makes me feel comfortable and free.... when am dressed up I feel strange
I know this is mostly for women/femmes but me as a bigger man, I relate to this so much. I have a closet full of nothing lol I’m trying to get into the habit of buying good solids and basics. I’ve gained a lot of weight and I’ve been relying on joggers and sweatpants and saying, “imma get back to this weight so I’m not buying anything.” Nah, I gotta dress for the size I’m at!
yes brother, be comfortable and do not punish yourself. You're fine as you are and can change what you like but you deserve nice now.
ALLADIS! You are in God's reflection just as you are. Celebrate yourself!
looking to lose weight, look into Intermittent Fasting. I was able to lose 90 pounds and I'm keeping it off. Fast Feast Repeat by Gin Stephens is a great book to check out. Free podcasts on Spotify too.
My partner swears by DXL and this thing called the Winston Box and always looks good in those clothes! Really quality basics (or basics with a pop) for your type of frame. Those could be good places to start!
As someone with a fantasy closet that screams "socialite" that goes to cocktail dinner every day but who in reality is a mom of little kids who wears mostly dark clothes this spoke to my soul, I need to dress for my best self in my current life and not the fantasy person that I am not .Thank you
"I don't cook, but somebody told me this" 😄 Thanks for the great tips! You're so right. I'm feeling the lack of basics in my closet right now.
The shopping for a fantasy lifestyle took me out 💀😂, for example: I recently bought an anckle-length oversized houndstooth coat that I probably will never wear but I bought it just because it strongly gave me Chanel runway 2019 A/W vibes... WHERE AM I GOING WITH A FULL HOUNDSTOOTH CRUELLA DE VIL COAT!??!?!? 💀😭😂😂
Girl, I stay shopping for date night and I don’t have a man.. smh
Please I wear mines around NYC often and get stopped and complimented every single time....4 and 5 times per day when I wear it. Wear the coat!!! It's fantastic!!
😂😂😂
You killed me😂
😂😂 Ion care! I decided long ago I was gonna be extra like Mariah Carey everyday! 🤣🤣 Fr, I LOVE gowns so I started finding galas to wear them to! What's the cause? 🤷🏽♀️ Ionno. What I do know is that SOMEBODY gon get these lewks!! I do use it as an excuse to network. A win/win!
ALL THE POINTS WERE MADE👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you sis 🙏🏿
Another factor which I've noticed that leads to the situation of having a wardrobe full of clothes but having nothing to wear is that for many people weight fluctuations are very hard to accept. Especially when you need to buy a bigger size than what you're used to, it can make you feel extremely uncomfortable. So a lot of people hold onto clothes they love but don't fit them. Especially women, most of us are guilty of having those "inspiration to get to that size" dresses in our wardrobes
This was so on point🙌🏽. I also think wearing clothes that don’t fit properly, either too big or too tight. Get your clothes tailored if needed.
THIS! This and This AGAIN
Specially if you are petite - critical rule
Stop talking about me girl,am size 18 and still have my size 12 since 2009 my baby weight won't go she is 13 years old.. one day I will fit into them what you think youall
This video was soooo on point! Another thing is we can get caught up in other RUclipsrs “fashion inspirations” and keep purchasing items that will fall out of trend before we can get our wear out of them. Your videos put us in think mode. Thank you so much!
Not only are you funny as heck, you are always on point. You look like you should have your own tv show (with your style and personality). Anyway, I also think that there are too many people wear clothes that don't fit their body type and some styles that should not be worn by everyone. Thanks for sharing another enjoyable video. Take care.
I agree lol
Hey Girl Hey❤️ Your Preaching Was On Point Today, your sermon on outfits only was so true. The "Nothing But Death, Color Purple Analogy was deep, Buy with Intention. Help the sisters out. It's a Affliction to have missing Accessories. Love The Chic Maven, for Event Pieces. Blessing Sis.♥️♥️♥️
Tashira, your vids are truly in a league of their own! I'm starting law school his fall and the mental gears are definitely turning as I try to define what my sense of style will be like as I develop my new, professional wardrobe -- your tips have been helping me a lot!
Congrats on law school friend!
Gosh! The amount of joke and fashion gold you give me is SOOO welcome in my life. Colour Purple references, the dramatic but needed pauses, so happy the RUclips algorithm introduced me to you. Buying your ebook next payday to say HEY GIRL HEY! AND THANKS!
hey girl heyyyy! thanks for being part of the tribe!
Fantastic, concise tips!! We elevating from basic to buss down all 2022! 🙌🏾
PERIODT!!!
This is such a good video. The point about not dressing for your lifestyle is 💯. I think many people, myself included, get caught up in what influencers are doing versus what we are living.
Also, there’s comfort in the dysfunctional. It takes nerve to confront ourselves & say “let’s make a change.”
I’ll be using this to reevaluate my wardrobe 😭
Love this content!! Love everything you said. This is helping me be more selective in my choices.
I follow the Chic Maven as well, her collection of items are absolutely gorgeous 😍.
Bars!! 📶Adding this to my playlist. Your interjection of humor and realism is what makes this sink in.
I thought the quiet luxury video was my favorite, but it is this one. I have circled back to this one often. I needed this about 20 years ago, but am thankful for it now. When you know better you do better. LOVE this!
You’re so right about this, that’s why, with a closet full of clothes, we say, we don’t have anything to wear. We just really don’t have enough things we’re comfortable wearing because we’re not dressing our true selves. Be true to who you are today, and always collect a few piece that elevate you and aspire to who you’d like to be. I had to figure out because I love shoes I was collecting them, but many of them didn’t fit my style so they weren’t being worn. It took me a lot of coin to learn this lesson and buy for the real ME. And that doesn’t mean we can’t be fabulous and reach for the high fashion pieces, just not a closet full of the. Learn your style and be true to it. Thanks for sharing, Teacher.
Good thanks I love to shop I love cloths I take them to an outreach that I’m a part of 🥰but u are telling the truth thanks shopping is like a therapy at times but I’m learning to cut back ur right🥰
Sis! You didn’t miss a thing!! Quite frankly, it was so on point that added declutter my closets on my calendar.
The Fantasy Wardrobe point is hurting my feelingsssss. I need to go lie down, lol
I love your chit chat info and all your expressions.
Girl, I feel like I just went to Fashun Chuch!! 🙏🏾 I felt this in my spirit! 💯
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm on that list somewhere. Ooh with the hoarding... 🙋🏽♀ No worries though I picked up boxes this weekend and ready to visit GoodWill drop-offs. Too funny. Thanks!
That orange coral is popping!!!
You are my family... for real. You are the blogger that tap into my actual thoughts. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
Girrrl!!! This is right on time. I'm going to make my hubby watch this bc this is him. Was shopping for him this weekend, trying to get him on point and this man told me that he is tired of me picking only whites, blacks and grays for him. This dude be wanting prints and color and can't find anything to wear when we about to go somewhere. I have tried to educate him on BASICS first then the BANGERS. This man be buying whole royal blue outfits outchere.
lololol I'm hollering!!!
Well said I know exactly what you're talking about. Buying things for those events you look forward to instead of building your now outfits
Where are the green boots behind you from?
FACTS. Can you hear me laughing? Another issue is thinking that you can’t repeat an outfit hence the closet full of stuff…when that’s not the life you live…your stage ain’t that big 😳 🤣🤣. I just love you Sis
The Celie and Nettie reference took me all the way out! I just adore you! Nail on the head as usual, sis! I am so glad I ran across your channel! 💕
This was on point! I need the ebook. And the sweater you are wearing.
I’m ashamed at how many times I laughed out oud because you were talking to me. I started getting myself straight though. I definitely still have wayyy too many dream life items that I hardly use. But the closet is big enough to hold them so I can’t let go of my dreams just yet!
One thing I added in 2021 that I saw was killing my style was lack of high quality shape wear items. I turned 50 last year and did some purging and repurchasing and upgraded those items as I needed a little snatching in some areas. Certain clothes look so much better too.
Thanks for this reminded to get it together as I do a spring closet clean.
Ohhh such a good tip!
I don't know how I found you, but I needed to hear everything you had to say. My closet is is mismatch and it causes my stress to look at and I'm going to get it in order with classic things I like and will wear.
Loved every minute of this and I'm glad that my personality and lifestyle match my closet especially on the weekend lol cause I don't do trends I am a living breathing classic I got this hot pink moschino scarf 5 years ago that still turns heads for the right reasons till this day every designer bag I wear I get compliments same with shoes and less is more simple is stunning i think a lot of people do way too much sis but you made really great points and gave me more validation that I'm on point lol
You are delightful! Truth, fun and tea delivered with style!!
You have given the clearest, most concise explanation why minimalism rules!
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Can I just say how this video resonates with me to my core? I’m also the one who tends to gravitate towards the sundress/floral/feminine silhouette. Luckily, I don’t live in Maine and am in the Carolinas so I get more use out of it but lately, I found that much of my wardrobe did not reflect the reality of my everyday circumstances and simply wasn’t practical as a working mom of 2. I’m working on elevating my personal style, decluttering my wardrobe and getting back to basics. I want to get out of the, “I have so many clothes but don’t know what to wear” to being excited about what’s in my closet! Your videos are so helpful to me and I love your style, confidence, and personality!! Keep ‘em coming!! You have a new subscriber. 👌🏾
Welcome Michele!
Exceptional thoughtful advice!
So good! Also, not buying the right pieces for your body type. This can be challenging if you don’t know what silhouettes look best on your frame (esp. if you don’t have a flat stomach! Lol)
So correct!! Going through my closet now.
The accessory tip was on time. I’ve been trying to figure this out. Girl, I’m shouting and have a “shondo” in my soul! Yassss, from “basic to buss down”. Love it!
I had SUCH a stressful day at work today, but when I saw you'd uploaded a new video, my heart sang! You're so funny, so full of great advice and just know how to cheer a girl right up. Thank you! Xx
Yes, I see you talking to me lol. The scrubs all week and high heels I don't wear.😬
I'm retired now and I keep buying clothes suitable for work. I guess you just get used to a mind set. But you have really made me think about basics and accessories and limiting buying habits. Also I live where the winters are long and sometimes we get a decent spring and sometimes it goes right into very warm winter. Same with fall. Sometimes it is lovely fall weather or it goes right into winter type weather. So I'm always figuring out what to wear because you never know what the weather is going to be but you feel you better be prepared and I end up with too much in my wardrobe that some years I never wear. I think I'm just making excuses for too many clothes lol.
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Love your personal, as well as you delivery, style.
Sis!! I'm sorry I didn't stumble across you sooner, cause I'm that person that has to have that outfit that everything matches and may only wear it for the occasion I bought it. Thank you for helping me realize how wrong I am about style, and maybe save myself some money. God bless you.
Not the 5 and a possible😂 that spades ref let me know you are truly my friend in my head😂. Thank you for this lesson! So on point💯
Thank you Sis. You said exactly what I needed to hear. Each and every topic you hit on I’m definitely guilty of. I need to declutter but don’t know exactly how or am afraid to detach myself from all of my unused items. At least now I have a starting point
I love your videos and keeping it real talk! My thought is SHOES! I think shoes kill a lot of looks. Find a few pairs that really speak to your lifestyle, personality/style, and that are comfortable. Then learn how to best style them. It has completely changed how I choose my clothing, and most of my outfits are ready for whatever comes my way.
No lies told here !
Damn- how am I just discovering your channel ?
Girl - you preached and all points were so valid .
I had a conversation about handbags with a friend and I told her ‘I don’t have a Hermes lifestyle ‘.
That is just my truth and I will continue to admire them from far away while buying items that fit my life .
Same with stilettos: gorgeous , but have not bought any in a long time because I found I hardly wore them - so I switched to mules (3.5 in heel height max).
The lower heels and more casual look goes a lot more with my style vs stilettos.
Ps: just subscribed ;)
When I tell you, you are right on the money; guuuuurrrrrl! I have friend that is the outfit queen! And she always says, "I have nothing to wear". The crazy part is she really does have more clothes in her closet, but she thinks I'm the one with all the clothes; not true. I just mix and match and restyle and add accessories and don't get me started on the shoes! I just laugh all the time. I have been shopping in pieces since I was in middle school-literally. I like having versatility especially with accessories, like scarves and broaches, and don't get me started on hats; LOL! When I get my E-zine and Podcast up and running- I would love for you grace the cover of my mag and have those conversations all about politics and fashion on my Podcast! Keep up the the good work and advice! Love It!
This is me. A closet full of coats and I live in Atlanta. But it's cold one week a year so I "need" them 😊
Sis all I know i live in New York city work in the health care field have most of those things you talk about but let's just say I have some work to do in my closet lolllll thank you sis very Educating for me I love this
Trying to get my basics game together.
Please know that I am here and accounted for! Everything you said was spot on! I mean Tashira you continually bestow gems on us.
I think clothes that need to be ironed should be ironed, this makes a considerable impact on personal presentation.
Thank you !
I LOVE YOUR HUMOR!! Never change ♥️
Just wow. You making these videos that teach me something. I am the girl with all the high heels but really don't go out. I work in corporate but the environment is business casual. Chile, I'm taking the tips and running with them. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
From BASIC to BUST DOWN! What an inspiration you are lady T! I am going to break out my accessories much more now! 😊😊❤❤😊😊
Loving those boots behind you girl❤️
Hey, thanks for being so transparent with this. I am all for fashion renewal... You are so funny, but seriously this was great! Good tips, I am going use my broaches, their on a hat. I only have two pair of Red Bottoms. Not interested in any more. The look is important and it's important to know how to look. 🌺🌺🌺
This vlog was 🎯. 👌🏾 🤞🏾 Thanks sincerely
That happens got a lot of cloths I’m pretty good at matching up pretty trendy but u have to stop and declutter specially when u get confused about what ur gonna match up u get frustrated ugh 😣 but we learn from each other”
Love your videos, and your outfits! To the point 😉 Many greetings from Greece
Hello Sis
I so appreciate you and suggesting key wardrobe item..I am talking about me, everyone tells me you are always dressed, However I truly like dressing. Great tips today, I am in my closet getting rid of certain things now...Thank you
I enjoy watching you! The way you tell a story or share info with us is just the right messy, sarcastic “Ness” I need in my life. I love it! I love this topic because it makes so much sense. This really helped me to focus on what I need to buy. You just made it make sense!!!!
Tashira THAN YOU!!! I am thinking of my recent purge and all my friends and family HA!!!! Blessing Queen Love the brooch and hoops ...Everything really but those specifically. Smooches
These are the videos we don’t see that we need. You gave amazing tips that we can all use. We have to stop buying, just to have. Buy with purpose.
You didn’t have to call me out!! You could have just DM’d me or sent me a note on the side!! 😂😂😂 This video put me in my feelings for sure!! THANK YOU!!! Because I showl did empty my Saks cart after watching this. That 25% off Friends and Family discount had me. But I am going to shame the Devil today and walk away!! Amen sis from a loyal tribe member! Amen🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I believe in you friend!!!
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Great tips sis! I agree!! I rate my need for an item based on how much I wear them. I wear sneakers a lot so I tend to invest in them more that heels.
I learned my lesson in not dressing for my fantasy life, like, last year. I started putting stuff up on Depop and Poshmark because I had to confront myself for buying (and keeping) things just because I like them, which was such a waste of money. Now I don't have TOO too many things that are a lifestyle mismatch (I'd say probably 10 things or less, including shoes and a coat I kept that're too small) but it's still a huge waste! I stay in my dressy casual lane. I still buy heels, but they're in the three-inch category or lower. If I can't walk in them all day, I don't buy it. If I can't dress it down, I don't buy it. This is the same reason why I kick myself whenever I think about all the makeup I have. I don't have nearly as much as most people (I peeped the collecting habit in 2016 or so), but I still have more than what one can wear before it all goes bad. And where the heck am I going with that cheap and ugly LaFemme blush, Technopagan Lip Tar and kelly green eyeshadow?!
Great video as always. I would add "You have a closet full of clothes that don't fit you right now." And what goes hand in hand, "You're waiting until you reach your goal weight to buy clothes." Also "You have two drawers full of crap clothes just in case you want to paint the walls."
This is such a great point! Thanks for watching!
I needed this talk ... laughing out loud the whole time. I’ve been working from home since 2020 and still shop like I’m going back lol. Definitely need to focus on the accessories. Thank you!
First, you giving out FREE keys, okay?!! I identified with a few of these and have tried to mitigate it with the very tips you mentioned! I would love to see you talk about wearing the correct undergarments cuz chiiiileeee, that drives me MAD! Lol. Thank you so much for sharing, reaching and teaching with love!
Great points Shi, When l started a mentoring program for Girls many years ago we (our mentors team) had a session on appropriate clothing items for specific occasions which turned out to be really fun for our tween mentees. On a similar note many years ago as well, while still working in corporate, one of my coworkers would wear "pretty clothes"vs. office attire...the majority of time she looked like she was going somewhere special such as a wedding or church Tea. One day I asked if she had plans after work and she said "no, I just like dressing like this"...from that point on I'd still complement her cuz she indeed looked pretty...and I kept it moving just as I should.☺️
This video is full of great wisdom. Thank you
Number one already fired all the shots 😂 being realistic about the lifestyle is so important! And YES to the basics. 👏🏾 Pieces that can be worn in multiple ways are wardrobe saviors! Great vídeo miss ma’am 🤎
Loved watching this video. Sis you gave me pure jokes. New sub from COLD UK. (Always shopping for warmer climates or Just in case I go partying). Nuff Blessings. Xx
Guilty as charged . U just started and I know my lifestyle has changed but my closet is not my current lifestyle. 👍🏾
Thank you for your work! Too embarrassed to share how much I purged and how much is still in my closet.
I put on my basics with an additional beautiful scarf,jewelry or shoes and I’m ask where you going. Wear/rotate your clothes for every occasion. I once saw an elderly woman wearing her floor length mink fur coat to the grocery store shopping like the rest of us in dead winter while the majority of us was freezing wearing our north face or pea oats.
oh lawd I fear I may just be 'that friend that can't dress' lol. Love this sooooo much I learnt and took notes lol thank you thank you!!!!
I literally laughed out loud throughout this, amazing video. You look fabulous, btw-loving that color in that fabric with the chunky gold!
Lady, you were all in my business, but with my permission!!
I needed this 🙌🏿
This must be essential learning. ESSENTIAL! Thank You!!
You are soooo funny! But seriously all valid points. That outfit shopping definitely had me searching the closet for something to wear. One thing I would also say is buying for the life you live also means the body you have right now. Nothing wrong with wanting to be your best self but you should still look good on your way there. Thank for this video!
I'm in undergrad hun, but following your preaching and teaching! Halumushundaaaa! Love your pop of red today! You're giving it!
So good I'm watching it again!
This video connected with me on many levels i am the one who find it very, very difficult to split up the outfit😊 and i definightly need more basic pieces in my wardrobe even accessories like belts and hats, this is a very helpful video for me, plus you always make me laugh out loud 😅🤣😂
This was amazing sis! Keep it coming.
Very helpful information! Thank you for sharing!
Wardrobe for my Fantasy Lifestyle!! Laughed out loud when you said this. Absolutely and unfortunately true for me
You are so right about the nurse career comment!! And with that said, this is why I only own ONE pair of Red Bottoms!!!,
Tashira, you crack me UP!!! ok!!! 1000% facts. You are really a breath of fresh air. I am so glad that you speak about this kind of stuff on your channel. Quite a lot of people collect and I be like for what? If you are not going to wear it, why do you have it? When I like and buy something, I cannot WAIT to wear it. Those be the main ones saying they never have anything to wear. xx
This was good! The only thing for me is,if I find a good semi formal/formal piece, I like to pick it up as I find these pieces super hard to find when I actually need them.
You are so on point with having the basic pieces in our wardrobe. You can build a fabulous look just from having great basics to create styles. Excellent video as always!
I just joined your channel. I Love Love Love your platform. Super informative and filled in the blanks in my wardrobe 👍🏾 😀 👌🏾 👏🏾
Welcome!!