When you drink and drive or live a risky life you are getting "second chances" every time you survive doing so. There was a French 30 year old that just died this past weekend because he was climbing skyscrapers and tall monuments just to make tik tok videos. He risked his own life EVERY TIME he did this until he eventually did not make it.
And sometimes death breaks the rules. What we're seeing here in this scene is called a "rally before death". There's a difference between a rally and a recovery. A recovery is when the person is actually getting better, and can therefore sit up in bed in the hospital and talk to you. A rally us when the person intuitively knows they are about to die. So they gather up all their adrenaline to sit up and say one last goodbye; because they might know it's the end. And then they do indeed die. A rally can often be mistaken for a recovery; which is what they're showing in this scene. This unfortunately does happen in real life.
I remember going out to dinner with my parents as a child. My dad would always drink with dinner. If he had gotten pulled over, I'm certain he would have failed a lot of breathalyzers. Fortunately he drove carefully and never aroused suspicion. I remember him driving a different route one night when he noticed there was a check point on the main road.
She fucking deserved it for driving drunk!!! I have zero sympathy for people out on the motherfucking road drunk because that’s why people END UP IN FUCKING JAIL ASSHOLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am-no lie-seeing this for the first time since it aired. I'm telling my 22 yr old that it still hits these years later. I'm 51, and was a fan of the show back then. I remember it being promoted, and a couple of years later recognized Matthew Perry from this episode when he was on "Second Chances". Yeah, I'm old.
@@cbennett196631 I don’t see what’s wrong with it. Honestly, it brings a sense of normalcy. We frequently tuck our hair behind our ears. Nothing too odd about it.
"I saw him! He looked good! He was laughing and joking!" This is actually incredibly realistic. Many times, a person will be full of energy, in good spirits and seem better than ever just before they die. It's one of the saddest things honestly, it gives everyone some shred of hope that the person will make it, when really it's a warning sign.
I know exactly what you mean. I went through this same thing back in October. My mom had been ill, then one day she was in superb shape and we thought she was on the mend. Then the next day, she was terrible. Two days later she was unresponsive and passed away three weeks later.
Pulling off dramatic scenes in a comedy is one thing--Tracey Gold here took it to a new level and schooled everyone on the art of acting. Absolute perfection.
Michael Dust Yeah great job, she was a very talented actress, not only in this episode but all of them, she was one of my first crushes as a kid growing up.
Imo, it was a super solid central cast trapped in an often not so strong script. What a great job tackling such a hard issue. How many lives might have been changed and possibly saved by the second thoughts prompted by such a scene?
I sometimes forget that from time-to-time, these 80s sitcoms would tackle some incredibly touchy subjects and, more oftentimes than not, would do an outstanding job with them.
Anti-leftist you’re a fucking idiot. And you can blame the constitution for that. It states clearly separation of church and state. But people like you hate the constitution
@@darth_kal-el Actually, you will not find the words "separation of church and state" anywhere in the Constitution. The Constitution forbids the establishment of a government sponsored religion (so the government cannot give preferential treatment to one religion over another), but nowhere do the words "separation of church and state" appear. I believe it was Jefferson who referred to "separation of church and state" in some of his writings, but again, not in the Constitution. Truthfully, there is a lot more to it than the school system simply removing God. It started in the home before it made its way into the schools. Morals and values have declined rapidly in the last 50 years. Some say we've become enlightened, but IMO it's hard to look at the state of the world today and call us anything resembling enlightened.
@@wallypalmer4704 Yeah that whole civil rights movement just threw a wrench in the works of the high vales of the times. *Eye roll*. Also morals are evolutionary tendencies in species, values are social priorities; don't conflate the two.
i've lived with the consequences of drunk driving for 51 years. I was in the hospital for pneumonia when I was three. My father was on his way to the hospital to see me when he was killed by a drunk driver. I remember when this episode aired and unfortunately my thoughts were "good for him, he got what he deserved." i was young, still full of anger for my father being taken from me and the guy driving was still walking the streets. Got older, a little wiser, and learned you cannot keep that anger and hatred burning in your heart. You have to let it go so you can live your life. I know it's what my father would have wanted.
22 years ago I crashed while drinking and driving. I crashed into a car with a lady that has just dropped off her baby girl. Thankfully no one was really hurt but that day it woke me up as what if her little girl was with her. Till this day I still think about it. Since then I never drank again.
I’ve suffered a dwi and crash years ago. Thankfully nobody other than me was hurt. Could not live with myself if I would’ve hurt someone for being stupid
I don't know if you believe in God, Ill be honest here, primarily i don't. Just a personal opinion after a very personal experience happened to me, sometimes God doesn't solve or help all instances of pain that shouldn't happen to a loved one. Especially a small young one. So in saying that I empathize with you and your grief.
Growing Pains was one of my favorite shows during the 80s.This is the first role seeing Matthew Perry in as a kid. This episode always stuck with me. It's sad seeing last night Matthew passed. I always liked him as an actor. R.I.P.
It's interesting how people have loved him so much, that a lot of us have come here because it totally relates. When we first heard, we had to make sure it wasn't true. I think we're kind of relating to Carol, knowing Matthew was keeping clean and opened up about his struggles. Carol's right- What happened to a second chance? Oh my goodness, we miss you, Matthew Perry (Sandy, Chandler, and much more...)
i felt so weird cause i had just watched this clip a month ago, and i remember thinking how sad it would be when this happens in real life, and now that it has, it doesn’t seem real 💔
This was so powerful because we (80’s teenagers) grew up under the first intensive drinking and driving awareness campaigns. When out with your friends it wasn’t something people were yet thinking about. The penalties weren’t as stiff back then and the legal BAL was higher than .08. When you’re a teenager you need things like this constantly drilled into your head, and this was a bold step by the producers to speak directly to us. I remember watching this episode and how quiet it was in our living room. My sister was crying and I was in shock, it was so unexpected. My parents and us kids had a very honest talk about it afterward. Definitely one of the more memorable moments in sitcom history.
I remember watching the first "Red Asphalt" film in high school back in the 1960s. None of it was staged - and it was very graphic, with blood, bodies, and twisted wrecks.
Another countries it is 0% alcohol should be in your body when driving. They shouldn't allow a single drop in your blood when you are driving in America. That's the problem.
@@lunarcorpse That’s interesting- but it won’t solve the problem. People drive drunk because they are drunk. Changing the limit is not going to stop drunk people from driving.
My little league baseball coach was hit and killed by a drunk driver (many years after I played). That drunk driver, who also died in the crash, was my childhood best friend. Take a nap, call an Uber, do whatever you've got to do instead of climbing behind the wheel when intoxicated. Not just for _your_ safety, but also for the safety of those you share the road with.
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You know it's good when it pulls you into the scene and you genuinely feel the emotions coming from her and them as well. Great talent and chemistry here
Jeremiah Wilder they did nothing if you think about it! You all taught ur kids NOTHING! Kids are now how they are because you assholes didn’t teach them a damn thing! 😡
RIP Matthew Perry. Just like the character on Growing Pains you are gone too soon. We should live each day with joy, hug those around us because life can change instantly.
Its sadder now that he's gone for real. He spent years battling alcoholism and drug abuse which caused him health problems in the long haul. He wanted to be remembered for being him and helping others with addiction and not as Chandler Bing. He had his second chance, but I wish he could have lived for another 20 to 30 years of that chance. Rest peace Matthew Perry and we love you 😢💔🕯️🌹
@@bentnkoda AMEN LINDA THEY THINK REALITY KARTRASHIANS AND REALITY TV IS REAL NOT FAKE AND MADE THESE PEOPLE RICH BUT WHEN I WAS GROWING UP PARENTS WATCH OR MONITOR WHAT WE WATCHED AND IT WAS NOT LIKE THE TRASH THEY HAVE ON EVERY CHANNEL TODAY. SOME PARENTS DON'T CARE EVEN WITH COMPUTER USE IN KIDS TODAY I THANK GOD I HAVE NIECES AND NEPHEWS THAT DO NOT WATCH REALITY TV TRASH EVEN COMMERCIALS ARE CRAP TODAY I WATCH EVERY THING I GEEW UP WITH NO REALITY TV NO MUSIC NO TV SHOWS FROM TODAY NONE OF IT I AM SO OLD SCHOOL ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY😘
Those shows DO exist. The 2 problems is no one’s looking for them and people think that it’s all “woke” culture and “PC” and all those stupid keywords that people keep throwing in everyone’s face like that they’re all hot shit and everything.
Very powerful scene. Amazing acting that as soon as you see Mike standing in the kitchen doorway, the face says everything. Apparently in the original broadcast instead of just putting up the "Growing Pains" title card at the end, a statistic was posted saying how many people had died in drinking/driving incidents during the length of the episode. Back then the numbers were staggeringly high.
"... as soon as you see Mike standing in the doorway the face says everything..." Reminds me of M*A*S*H when Radar walks into the operating room to tell everyone that Colonel Blake had been killed
I remember them days when these shows were aired. People were so casual about going to the bar, getting drunk and driving themselves home, they would actually know before they got drunk that they would be driving home drunk.
I was a kid when I saw this scene and it made such a huge impression on me. Same when Boner dies. Characters were not supposed to die in sitcoms. Many years later I would see "Sandy" again in Friends as Chandler. I immediately fell in love with the character because Matthew Perry was so good in that role. Now with Matthew Perry's passing, this scene really hits close to home. RIP Matthew! Thanks for bringing so much joy to the world.
I'm there with you man, I probably saw this in 4th to 6th grade, growing Paynes was my favorite show. Such good acting. Tracy Gold crushed this, everyone was great. Miss Matthew Perry and Alan Thicke
@SR-iy4gg I thought he dies off screen after he enlisted in the military. Maybe I'm conflating two different events. It's been over 30 years since I've seen Growing Pains.
RIP Matthew Perry - I still thought of him as Sandy all these years, cause that's how I first saw him on tv. Also saw him on an Empty Nest episode, he was getting a checkup before heading off to UT-Austin
This scene is probably the greatest acting I've ever seen in a sitcom. The parents not knowing how to react, Carol not knowing how to process the information. Even Mike having to deliver the news. All of it was spot on. Honestly this is the scene that hammered home "don't drink and drive" when I was a kid. I was crying watching all of this and it gave me chills. It's been something like 15 years since I first saw this... and I'm still teary eyed listening to the pain in her voice.
Gladly for you (and me) the lesson was learned from television. There's more than a few who learned only after they'd killed someone to not drive drunk. I remember hearing on the news that some girl had been driving drunk and had crashed into another car that contained a young couple who were driving to the hospital to have their first baby. Mom and baby were killed.
Am I the only one who watch this short clip in the last 2 days?????? My mind is blown because I remember this episode from way back. It showed up on you tube 2 days ago and I cried my eyes out. The news came out today that Matthew Perry actually died.
I’m in tears in watching this in 2019 and I’m positive I watched it when it originally aired. Was Tracey Gold nominated for an Emmy for this episode alone? If not, she should have been!!
Denial is usually the very first stage in the grieving process. Your entire body is in complete shock, Everything feels surreal, and your mind is having trouble gripping the new reality. They represented that in this scene pretty well.
Sometimes you don't get a second chance. It's a very painful thing losing someone you love. I lost my dad when I was 15 in 2003 and I lost my mom 3 years ago, neither by drunk driving but it still hurts just the same. Breaks my heart watching this
I’m not old enough to have remembered nor known this show, but damn, this scene hits. The young girls acting is incredible here. It almost seems real, especially when her family gathers around her. That doesn’t sound like acted crying - it sounds real. Compared to tv shows of today, this is heavy.
It's easy to get emotional when a fellow actor actually dies, but this... wow. Sandy was played by Matthew Perry, who went on to star in Friends, and obviously is still alive.
@@Jeff98177knowing what Perry actually went through during Friends and after. Put it in even more perspective. Dude really almost died multiple times that he even says he doesn’t know how he’s still alive today.
Scenes like this were precisely why I didn’t do drugs or drink and drive as a teenager. These days, shows seem to glorify terrible and toxic behavior. Back then, they tried to teach kids important lessons. For some of us who paid attention, it worked. I wonder how many lives shows like this ended up saving. Even if it was just one, it was worth it.
there is actually a reason for that. Drunk people have slower reflexes so they are mostly limp when they hit, sober people tense up when a car is about to hit them or hits them and thus causes more injury.
I wish shows today had this kind of honesty. Even though it was the 80s and this was a message episode, nowadays, everything is glossed over and minimized for fear of being too "preachy."
It's because right wingers get triggered too much when serious topics are introduced in shows. They don't like their antiquated world views being questioned. So they automatically whine and say to leave politics out of it, or some BS like that.
Actually it's because most sitcoms in the 80's and 90's that tackled this stuff did it heavy handid or too simplistically and people got tired of being preached too and not getting a realistic portrayal of issues (yeah ones like this one were done better but most "very special episodes" did not do it as well or as realistically, which is why ones like this are remembered and not the 30 other episodes of shows that didn't do a good job with it), it also didn't help that viewers started being turned off by watching something that was billed as being funny then spending a whole episode feeling bad. So ratings suffered and TV at the end of the day is a business. So when it started hurting ratings they moved away from them. It isn't because Right Wingers stopped it, and anyone who watches TV today would know that the vast majority of shows are clearly not trying to appeal to Right Wing views.
I started crying as soon as mike came in the room cuz he did not look very happy so you knew he was gonna deliver bad news here. Its like a doctor coming in the waiting room like that and telling the family bad news. Such a sad episode.
Back when TV shows tackled topics like drinking & driving, drugs, etc. Today TV shows put this stuff in as jokes to get laughs. My, how times have changed.
It didn't so much as "tackle" topics as bash you over the head with preachy messages. There were exceptions of course, but most of it was laughably awful (which is why it became a punchline).
Congresswoman Maxine Waters 1) Not even true 2) Dont be one of those idiots who daily pretend that dickhead in office is sooooo deserving of an outpour of love from the people everyday
This takes Growing Pains to another level. I must be the only one born in the 21st century to watch these like it's not just a Family show from the 80s and 90s..
This was very courageous by abc and growing pains and the cast, especially Tracy, gave us a timeless piece of TV. For a comedy to dig this deep is an enormous credit to the actors who delivered on the sensibilities of the time but also transcends generations into present day. Thank you to this channel for sharing it.
This was quite a blow. No one ever said how far the Seavers lived from the hospital. Nowadays they might have gotten a call or text on the way home. The look on Mike's face said it all. In a later episode Carol's grandmother tried to get her to date again. Yet Sandy's death still lingered. Now Matthew Perry is gone for real. RIP.
@@magicpumpkin3 Abbott Elementary, Big Bang Theory, Schitt’s Creek, Black-ish, Good Luck Charlie, The Simpsons, The Middle, The Conners, The Upshaws, Bob’s Burgers, My Wife and Kids, Girl Meets World, Mom, Parenthood, Lopez Vs Lopez, The Great North, Last Man Standing, Kim’s Convenience, Raising Hope, The Good Place, Young Sheldon, The Fosters, The Goldbergs, Modern Family, Monsters At Work, The Haunted Hathaways, Just Roll With It, Big City Greens, Lab Rats, Weekend Family, The Baby Sitters Club, The Proud Family, Everybody Hates Chris, Fresh Off The Boat, One Day At A Time, See Dad Run, Fuller House, The Really Loud House, etc, etc. All of these are either currently ongoing or have been made in the last 20ish years. And there are more of them. There is a diverse range of family dynamics and diverse casts of characters to get perspectives from all walks of life, even animated stuff and stuff made specifically for children that the adults can enjoy too. To say that there are no more family friendly sitcoms is frankly ignorant on your part.
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RIP Matthew Perry. This hits home even more today 😢
Tell me about it
@@justanadams9430I just got phone calls 📞
This scene truly shows one of the hardest lessons in life. Sometimes there really aren't second chances...😢
“I’m not asking for another chance, I just wanna know why?”
Too bad "Generation Tide Pod" didn't have programs like this
When you drink and drive or live a risky life you are getting "second chances" every time you survive doing so.
There was a French 30 year old that just died this past weekend because he was climbing skyscrapers and tall monuments just to make tik tok videos.
He risked his own life EVERY TIME he did this until he eventually did not make it.
This was a very special Growing Pains.
And sometimes death breaks the rules. What we're seeing here in this scene is called a "rally before death". There's a difference between a rally and a recovery. A recovery is when the person is actually getting better, and can therefore sit up in bed in the hospital and talk to you. A rally us when the person intuitively knows they are about to die. So they gather up all their adrenaline to sit up and say one last goodbye; because they might know it's the end. And then they do indeed die. A rally can often be mistaken for a recovery; which is what they're showing in this scene. This unfortunately does happen in real life.
Matthew Perry’s passing at such a young age is heartbreaking. He struggled with the very issues depicted in this episode. He will be missed. 😢
Yes - very odd how much this paralleled his real life.
She did too. She got a bunch of DUIs, one with her kids in the car.
@@MrMatt3046Many people drink and drive but just incorrectly assume they aren't drunk when they drive.
I remember going out to dinner with my parents as a child. My dad would always drink with dinner. If he had gotten pulled over, I'm certain he would have failed a lot of breathalyzers. Fortunately he drove carefully and never aroused suspicion. I remember him driving a different route one night when he noticed there was a check point on the main road.
54 isn’t even young.
33 years later and this scene still brings me to tears.
She fucking deserved it for driving drunk!!! I have zero sympathy for people out on the motherfucking road drunk because that’s why people END UP IN FUCKING JAIL ASSHOLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Same
Yes the great acting really sold it. 😂
I am-no lie-seeing this for the first time since it aired. I'm telling my 22 yr old that it still hits these years later. I'm 51, and was a fan of the show back then. I remember it being promoted, and a couple of years later recognized Matthew Perry from this episode when he was on "Second Chances". Yeah, I'm old.
@@tommyz9910 You are not old. You have lived.
Tracy ATE THIS UP. WHEW! Once she cut her mom off with that first “No!” I really felt that in my core.
Great acting Yes...only thing I would have changed is when Tracy keeps pushing her hair back away from her face...other than that, good job
@@cbennett196631 well how else is she going to show her beautiful face to the audience and fans? :p
@@Firan25 is that part of the episode I wouldn’t have worried about my hair makes it feel like it’s real
@@cbennett196631 I don’t see what’s wrong with it. Honestly, it brings a sense of normalcy. We frequently tuck our hair behind our ears. Nothing too odd about it.
Your sexy baby preston
Why am I crying? Man, the 80’s had some really good shows!
It really did... and the shows filled in the void that some had at their home and the lessons to learn in life.
Matthew Perry
1969-2023
We’ll really miss you, pal.
Yes ❤️🙏
"I saw him! He looked good! He was laughing and joking!" This is actually incredibly realistic. Many times, a person will be full of energy, in good spirits and seem better than ever just before they die. It's one of the saddest things honestly, it gives everyone some shred of hope that the person will make it, when really it's a warning sign.
I know exactly what you mean. I went through this same thing back in October. My mom had been ill, then one day she was in superb shape and we thought she was on the mend. Then the next day, she was terrible. Two days later she was unresponsive and passed away three weeks later.
They don’t make shows like this anymore
@@Tenchifan123 oh they do they just get cancelled after one season
So true
Well said
IF U DRINK AND DRIVE, SOMETIMES THERE IS NO SECOND CHANCE.
sadly true
Roger Richards I've had about 50 second chances.
48 more than u deserve
Enless
ess you live
Drink responsibly. Wear a seatbelt.
Pulling off dramatic scenes in a comedy is one thing--Tracey Gold here took it to a new level and schooled everyone on the art of acting. Absolute perfection.
Brad Byington , yeah this was some powerful stuff, now I know why I never drink and drive
Michael Dust Yeah great job, she was a very talented actress, not only in this episode but all of them, she was one of my first crushes as a kid growing up.
That was horrible acting lol
Very believable performance
Joey Lozado where sis?
Still one of the most heartbreaking scenes in a televison sitcom to this day.
Next to James Evans Death,Edith Bunker's death, and Penny getting burned with the iron by her abusive biological mother.
In all television history
@@justanadams9430 Can you tell me the name of these sitcoms you are referring to? Sorry for my bad English, I am Argentine.
@@FerGalvez10 Good Times, Archie Bunker's Place.
@@justanadams9430 Thanks very much my friend. Greetings from a distance.
Gold's acting here is incredible!!!
So is Kirk’s, that look on his face when they first come in and the way he breaks the news
Imo, it was a super solid central cast trapped in an often not so strong script. What a great job tackling such a hard issue. How many lives might have been changed and possibly saved by the second thoughts prompted by such a scene?
I sometimes forget that from time-to-time, these 80s sitcoms would tackle some incredibly touchy subjects and, more oftentimes than not, would do an outstanding job with them.
Started with 1950's tv shows and ended some time in the 90's or later as a result of the Public School System removing "God" from our schools.
Anti-leftist you’re a fucking idiot.
And you can blame the constitution for that. It states clearly separation of church and state. But people like you hate the constitution
@@darth_kal-el Actually, you will not find the words "separation of church and state" anywhere in the Constitution. The Constitution forbids the establishment of a government sponsored religion (so the government cannot give preferential treatment to one religion over another), but nowhere do the words "separation of church and state" appear. I believe it was Jefferson who referred to "separation of church and state" in some of his writings, but again, not in the Constitution. Truthfully, there is a lot more to it than the school system simply removing God. It started in the home before it made its way into the schools. Morals and values have declined rapidly in the last 50 years. Some say we've become enlightened, but IMO it's hard to look at the state of the world today and call us anything resembling enlightened.
I was watching Give me a break, different strokes,and Facts of life on antenna tv last night and most of the stuff most likely not be on today.
@@wallypalmer4704 Yeah that whole civil rights movement just threw a wrench in the works of the high vales of the times. *Eye roll*. Also morals are evolutionary tendencies in species, values are social priorities; don't conflate the two.
i've lived with the consequences of drunk driving for 51 years. I was in the hospital for pneumonia when I was three. My father was on his way to the hospital to see me when he was killed by a drunk driver. I remember when this episode aired and unfortunately my thoughts were "good for him, he got what he deserved." i was young, still full of anger for my father being taken from me and the guy driving was still walking the streets. Got older, a little wiser, and learned you cannot keep that anger and hatred burning in your heart. You have to let it go so you can live your life. I know it's what my father would have wanted.
I'm so sorry Michael.
I hope you have found peace in the years that have passed.
Sorry to hear that
It’s what your father would have wanted? Well, don’t you think your father would rather be alive? 🥴😩
Michael Clark. Amen brother. I let the angry go and it was like lifting the weight of the world off my shoulders. Living my best life because of that.
October 2023-- RIP, Matthew Perry. I just heard the sad news.
Taken way too damn soon. 💔
RIP Matthew Perry (1969-2023)
22 years ago I crashed while drinking and driving. I crashed into a car with a lady that has just dropped off her baby girl. Thankfully no one was really hurt but that day it woke me up as what if her little girl was with her. Till this day I still think about it. Since then I never drank again.
I’m glad you took that experience as a chance to change. Cheers to you!
I’ve suffered a dwi and crash years ago. Thankfully nobody other than me was hurt. Could not live with myself if I would’ve hurt someone for being stupid
Good for you, super 👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏
I don't know if you believe in God, Ill be honest here, primarily i don't. Just a personal opinion after a very personal experience happened to me, sometimes God doesn't solve or help all instances of pain that shouldn't happen to a loved one. Especially a small young one.
So in saying that I empathize with you and your grief.
Whatever you do, it's up to you to decide, either you drink or drive. You can't have it both ways!
Sandy was so scared of his father he faked his own death, and then he change his name to Chandler and moved to Manhattan.
+Cheatz321 LOL!
+Cheatz321 OH whatever
Lmaooooo
+Cheatz321 ROFL! Good one! :)
+Cheatz321 LOL
This scene hits deeper now more than ever because Matthew Perry died for real. Rest in Peace, and thanks for being a Friend
Growing Pains was one of my favorite shows during the 80s.This is the first role seeing Matthew Perry in as a kid. This episode always stuck with me. It's sad seeing last night Matthew passed. I always liked him as an actor. R.I.P.
Damn she was a GREAT ACTRESS!!!! She made it look VERY REAL
What an intense episode. The young lady's acting - she should've gotten an emmy for this performance.
You must be nuts.
Without question yes
I know bro.
I know.
The algorithm is cold blooded on this one
It's interesting how people have loved him so much, that a lot of us have come here because it totally relates. When we first heard, we had to make sure it wasn't true. I think we're kind of relating to Carol, knowing Matthew was keeping clean and opened up about his struggles. Carol's right- What happened to a second chance? Oh my goodness, we miss you, Matthew Perry (Sandy, Chandler, and much more...)
Sometimes one wishes that life did not imitate art. Thank you, Matthew, for the talent, the laughter, the magic.
RIP Matthew Perry 😭
R.I.P. Matthew Perry 😢😢😢😢
i felt so weird cause i had just watched this clip a month ago, and i remember thinking how sad it would be when this happens in real life, and now that it has, it doesn’t seem real 💔
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In loving memory of Alan Willis Thicke: 1947-2016.
Yep.
I was very highly upset when it came across that he died.
RIP never be forgotten
I wonder if we could get him back if we sent Robin to take his place.
Google Tyler Henry. Great reading about Alan Thick. His beloved wife in episode. Enlightening.
Andrew Koenig, the actor who played Boner on this show also had died
This was so powerful because we (80’s teenagers) grew up under the first intensive drinking and driving awareness campaigns. When out with your friends it wasn’t something people were yet thinking about. The penalties weren’t as stiff back then and the legal BAL was higher than .08. When you’re a teenager you need things like this constantly drilled into your head, and this was a bold step by the producers to speak directly to us. I remember watching this episode and how quiet it was in our living room. My sister was crying and I was in shock, it was so unexpected. My parents and us kids had a very honest talk about it afterward. Definitely one of the more memorable moments in sitcom history.
I remember watching the first "Red Asphalt" film in high school back in the 1960s. None of it was staged - and it was very graphic, with blood, bodies, and twisted wrecks.
Also don't forget, you could legally drink at 17 in most states in the 80s!
You have good parents.
Another countries it is 0% alcohol should be in your body when driving. They shouldn't allow a single drop in your blood when you are driving in America. That's the problem.
@@lunarcorpse That’s interesting- but it won’t solve the problem. People drive drunk because they are drunk. Changing the limit is not going to stop drunk people from driving.
Amazing how many people remember this scene and came to relive it on RUclips after hearing about Matthew Perry =( RIP...
I still remember this episode over 30 years later. It sticks with you.
You and me both. I was in the eighth grade when this aired on TV. One of my teachers even showed this same episode in homeroom one morning.
So true. I remember too after all this time.
I was one of the lucky ones ! Been clean for over 32 years !
Congratulations
Good for you.
"Same here ;"Amen on that one! "
keep it up! Great!
@@drosh413 Wow. What a stupid comment !!
Ironically, Matthew Perry starred in a sitcom called "Second Chance"
I found that on RUclips and I hated that it only lasted one season
That's not irony. You fucking moron.
@@RespiratoryDrive-vy9ih Calm down dude, it's not that serious. Damn.
@@Dubyah_B Dude calm the fuck down. Just because my post was harsh doesn't mean I'm not calm.
@@RespiratoryDrive-vy9ih I think it does Francis.
That was probably her strongest performance. Her sincerity in the pain really came through 200%
Not really.
Absolutely Josh. They were all great actors and actresses 😢
Tracey Gold overacted big time. Kirk Cameron was excellent.
That was so bad. I thought is this how bad they acted then? Over dramatic big time.
I'm seriously bawling my eyes out
My little league baseball coach was hit and killed by a drunk driver (many years after I played). That drunk driver, who also died in the crash, was my childhood best friend. Take a nap, call an Uber, do whatever you've got to do instead of climbing behind the wheel when intoxicated. Not just for _your_ safety, but also for the safety of those you share the road with.
That's what made Growing Pains such a good show. Real life lessons. Life hurts sometimes. Well done.
Honestly, many shows in the 80’s and early 90’s included life lessons and teaching kids and families about the hardships of life.
25 years later and I'm still not emotionally ready for that scene
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I was sitting here thing I remember this episode and cried as a kid...as an adult omg...
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Grow up
@@MondoMiami You need to grow up
You know it's good when it pulls you into the scene and you genuinely feel the emotions coming from her and them as well. Great talent and chemistry here
Scene hits even harder now that Matthew just passed away...RIP Matthew Perry. 😢
Why is Matthew Perry's death in my recommendations?
Carlos-Ricardo Chambers
Have you been watching old Mad TV videos? Or old SNL videos?
I have...
old snl..thanx. got it.
Doesn't explain why I got it tho. Lol
@@carlos-ricardochambers8486 you drink to damn much, its gods little warning to ya buddy!
Better yet why did we click on it
Back when tv shows had meaning and good life lessons
I agreed.. i was growing up watching it
We need more of that back on the air. Maybe Disney will start doing that
Jeremiah Wilder they did nothing if you think about it! You all taught ur kids NOTHING! Kids are now how they are because you assholes didn’t teach them a damn thing! 😡
True....so true..Those days are looooooooooooong gone. So sad
Now its all virtue signalling and PC culture preaching.
RIP Matthew Perry. Just like the character on Growing Pains you are gone too soon. We should live each day with joy, hug those around us because life can change instantly.
im here to pay my respects to Matthew Perry, RIP sir, thank you for teaching me how to laugh!
Sad reality is it’s usually the sober driver that dies.
I've noticed that.
Same happened to my uncle
True
@@vighneshbhat Condolences.
Yeah i lost a girlfriend to a drunk driver back in 1977, 42 years later it's sill painful.
"Tonight, on a very special Growing Pains..."
Its sadder now that he's gone for real. He spent years battling alcoholism and drug abuse which caused him health problems in the long haul. He wanted to be remembered for being him and helping others with addiction and not as Chandler Bing. He had his second chance, but I wish he could have lived for another 20 to 30 years of that chance. Rest peace Matthew Perry and we love you 😢💔🕯️🌹
I saw this shortly after Matthew Perry actually died and now I am crying.😢😭
I miss when shows taught morals and values.
And we wonder why kids are so screwed up
ME TO HONEY BUT THANK GOD FOR RERUNS IF I CAN GO BACK TO 1972 THE YEAR I WAS BORN TELEVISION I SOOOOOO WOULD😂
@@bentnkoda AMEN LINDA THEY THINK REALITY KARTRASHIANS AND REALITY TV IS REAL NOT FAKE AND MADE THESE PEOPLE RICH BUT WHEN I WAS GROWING UP PARENTS WATCH OR MONITOR WHAT WE WATCHED AND IT WAS NOT LIKE THE TRASH THEY HAVE ON EVERY CHANNEL TODAY. SOME PARENTS DON'T CARE EVEN WITH COMPUTER USE IN KIDS TODAY I THANK GOD I HAVE NIECES AND NEPHEWS THAT DO NOT WATCH REALITY TV TRASH EVEN COMMERCIALS ARE CRAP TODAY I WATCH EVERY THING I GEEW UP WITH NO REALITY TV NO MUSIC NO TV SHOWS FROM TODAY NONE OF IT I AM SO OLD SCHOOL ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY😘
Those shows DO exist. The 2 problems is no one’s looking for them and people think that it’s all “woke” culture and “PC” and all those stupid keywords that people keep throwing in everyone’s face like that they’re all hot shit and everything.
RoyalMasterpiece Nowadays TV is awful.
Very powerful scene. Amazing acting that as soon as you see Mike standing in the kitchen doorway, the face says everything.
Apparently in the original broadcast instead of just putting up the "Growing Pains" title card at the end, a statistic was posted saying how many people had died in drinking/driving incidents during the length of the episode. Back then the numbers were staggeringly high.
"... as soon as you see Mike standing in the doorway the face says everything..."
Reminds me of M*A*S*H when Radar walks into the operating room to tell everyone that Colonel Blake had been killed
Tuneman1984 n. V
@@PlumbPitiful i was just thinking that
I remember them days when these shows were aired. People were so casual about going to the bar, getting drunk and driving themselves home, they would actually know before they got drunk that they would be driving home drunk.
They should now make episodes and PSA's about "Texting and Driving".
I was a kid when I saw this scene and it made such a huge impression on me. Same when Boner dies. Characters were not supposed to die in sitcoms.
Many years later I would see "Sandy" again in Friends as Chandler. I immediately fell in love with the character because Matthew Perry was so good in that role.
Now with Matthew Perry's passing, this scene really hits close to home. RIP Matthew! Thanks for bringing so much joy to the world.
I'm there with you man, I probably saw this in 4th to 6th grade, growing Paynes was my favorite show. Such good acting. Tracy Gold crushed this, everyone was great. Miss Matthew Perry and Alan Thicke
Matthew Perry's death brought me here. RIP Matthew Perry. 🙏
Boner didn't die on the show. The actor did commit suicide in 2010, but his character on the show didn't die.
@SR-iy4gg I thought he dies off screen after he enlisted in the military. Maybe I'm conflating two different events. It's been over 30 years since I've seen Growing Pains.
RIP Matthew Perry - I still thought of him as Sandy all these years, cause that's how I first saw him on tv. Also saw him on an Empty Nest episode, he was getting a checkup before heading off to UT-Austin
This scene is probably the greatest acting I've ever seen in a sitcom. The parents not knowing how to react, Carol not knowing how to process the information. Even Mike having to deliver the news. All of it was spot on. Honestly this is the scene that hammered home "don't drink and drive" when I was a kid. I was crying watching all of this and it gave me chills. It's been something like 15 years since I first saw this... and I'm still teary eyed listening to the pain in her voice.
Mr thicke sounded like a real father even though he literally was RIP 😇you were the best
ChefForte Actually Michael J Fox had the best dramatic scene in Family Ties
Gladly for you (and me) the lesson was learned from television. There's more than a few who learned only after they'd killed someone to not drive drunk. I remember hearing on the news that some girl had been driving drunk and had crashed into another car that contained a young couple who were driving to the hospital to have their first baby. Mom and baby were killed.
@@tinaloveseddie You're both wrong. Will Smith in Fresh Prince, the episode where his estranged father visits.
Nick Riddle man or the scene in good times where Florida finally breaks down after James died?!? DAMN DAMN DAMN!
This video got recommended to me and knowing what happened a few months ago, it just hurts deep.
Not everyone gets a 2nd chance! RIP to Matthew Perry
The performances in this scene are outstanding.
She's gave me chills up and down my spine real tears. Fabulous actress.
wow-I don't remember seeing this episode but that acting by Tracey Gold is incredible.
its really good
Am I the only one who watch this short clip in the last 2 days?????? My mind is blown because I remember this episode from way back. It showed up on you tube 2 days ago and I cried my eyes out. The news came out today that Matthew Perry actually died.
Jesus christ what a time for this to be recommended to me
That face she makes when he says sandy dies.....gets me every time
I’m in tears in watching this in 2019 and I’m positive I watched it when it originally aired. Was Tracey Gold nominated for an Emmy for this episode alone? If not, she should have been!!
Rest in peace Alan Thicke, and now sadly Matthew Perry, as well. 🙏🏻♥️
Denial is usually the very first stage in the grieving process. Your entire body is in complete shock, Everything feels surreal, and your mind is having trouble gripping the new reality. They represented that in this scene pretty well.
Remarkably good acting.
Strong scene all around.
Without the damn laugh track a show can be good on its own.
😢😢😢
She was deep in her anorexia then .... depression was there already... a scene just brought about real emotion
sometimes you DON'T get a second chance...
Sad but true
Matt Denison that’s right.
But Matthew’s third chance was the charm!
@@tammymartinez7488 Don't joke, okay? Drunk driving is a serious thing. Google "Every 15 minutes".
Watching this after finding out Matthew Perry died today (apparent accidental drowning in a Jacuzzi at his home) makes this video even more sad.
Now Matthew Perry really has died. RIP Sandy and Matthew. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Please tell me that I was not the only one to tear up in this scene.
I had no feelings, I am evil.
I teared up too
I hate to admit it, but I did too
I didn’t...I see this shot every day.
I did! 😥😥😥😥
Mike Sever acting was really good right here...they way he was explaining how he died...
He was great in this!!!!
Sometimes you don't get a second chance. It's a very painful thing losing someone you love. I lost my dad when I was 15 in 2003 and I lost my mom 3 years ago, neither by drunk driving but it still hurts just the same. Breaks my heart watching this
I’m not old enough to have remembered nor known this show, but damn, this scene hits. The young girls acting is incredible here. It almost seems real, especially when her family gathers around her. That doesn’t sound like acted crying - it sounds real. Compared to tv shows of today, this is heavy.
It's easy to get emotional when a fellow actor actually dies, but this... wow. Sandy was played by Matthew Perry, who went on to star in Friends, and obviously is still alive.
@@Jeff98177knowing what Perry actually went through during Friends and after. Put it in even more perspective. Dude really almost died multiple times that he even says he doesn’t know how he’s still alive today.
@@urcookinby the grace of God.
@@Jeff98177r.i.p. Matthew Perry
@@Jeff98177he just passed away yesterday. 💔
RIP Alan Thicke.
This always made me cry. Tracy Gold was SO powerful
Couldn’t imagine bn a parent and my kid died or have my kids heart broken in the tragic way
Scenes like this were precisely why I didn’t do drugs or drink and drive as a teenager. These days, shows seem to glorify terrible and toxic behavior. Back then, they tried to teach kids important lessons. For some of us who paid attention, it worked. I wonder how many lives shows like this ended up saving. Even if it was just one, it was worth it.
RIP Matthew Perry (1969-2023)🛀😇🙏🕊😔💔
It's the harsh truth that when you drink and drive, most of the time, you never get a second chance
+Brian P How dare you sir (or ma'am)!! You should have said his peppery guts salted your hood. Laugh driving is no drunking matter.
+Vance Parks "Most of the time" nothing happens.
Most of the time nothing happens. But like anything in life, all it takes is one bad stroke of luck to ruin your life.
I find the drunk seems to always survive and it’s usually the people in the car they hit that die.
there is actually a reason for that. Drunk people have slower reflexes so they are mostly limp when they hit, sober people tense up when a car is about to hit them or hits them and thus causes more injury.
I wish shows today had this kind of honesty. Even though it was the 80s and this was a message episode, nowadays, everything is glossed over and minimized for fear of being too "preachy."
outinsider I think it's mainly because family sitcoms don't really exist anymore
outinsider so Damn true
It's because right wingers get triggered too much when serious topics are introduced in shows. They don't like their antiquated world views being questioned. So they automatically whine and say to leave politics out of it, or some BS like that.
Actually it's because most sitcoms in the 80's and 90's that tackled this stuff did it heavy handid or too simplistically and people got tired of being preached too and not getting a realistic portrayal of issues (yeah ones like this one were done better but most "very special episodes" did not do it as well or as realistically, which is why ones like this are remembered and not the 30 other episodes of shows that didn't do a good job with it), it also didn't help that viewers started being turned off by watching something that was billed as being funny then spending a whole episode feeling bad. So ratings suffered and TV at the end of the day is a business. So when it started hurting ratings they moved away from them. It isn't because Right Wingers stopped it, and anyone who watches TV today would know that the vast majority of shows are clearly not trying to appeal to Right Wing views.
DanTheMan you pretty much beat me to the punch; i was also going to say that there IS a such thing as too much of a good thing
RIP Matthew Perry. You were a solid actor!!
He was the best character ever. He was not ready to die. It’s too soon
Joanna Kern doesn’t get enough credit as an actress. The subtle “oh my god” was perfect.
She's an incredible actress.
This episode never fails to make me cry, no matter how many times I watch it.
The same thing goes for me with the Full House episode “The Last Dance” when the great grandfather came for a visit and passed away.
I started crying as soon as mike came in the room cuz he did not look very happy so you knew he was gonna deliver bad news here. Its like a doctor coming in the waiting room like that and telling the family bad news. Such a sad episode.
You will be missed Matthew Perry 😢
Back when TV shows tackled topics like drinking & driving, drugs, etc. Today TV shows put this stuff in as jokes to get laughs. My, how times have changed.
It didn't so much as "tackle" topics as bash you over the head with preachy messages. There were exceptions of course, but most of it was laughably awful (which is why it became a punchline).
May I suggest on of the greatest shows on tv right now? This Is Us
It's all Trump bashing nowadays. forget good writing or comedy
Congresswoman Maxine Waters 1) Not even true 2) Dont be one of those idiots who daily pretend that dickhead in office is sooooo deserving of an outpour of love from the people everyday
Aliyah Norman. This is Us gives me hope for television!
I'd forgotten about this episode. So weird RUclips recommended this the day before Matthew Perry actually died.
Sometimes when drinking and driving. You do not get a second chance. This episode was very touching and hit close to home.
My baby brother grew up, loving the show, he passed away a few years ago. It makes it really hard to watch this show but that ending hit me hard!
Could i BE more dead?
Could I BE any more dead? :)
BMeister22 LMFAO FUCK SAKES LOL
That was inappropriate.
😂 😂 😂
Oh ffs...😂😂
This hurts especially hard today. Rest In Peace Matthew Perry.
RIP Matthew Perry 😢🌹 Way too young to go.
*Oh, brother.*
This takes Growing Pains to another level. I must be the only one born in the 21st century to watch these like it's not just a Family show from the 80s and 90s..
This is one of the greatest life lesson moments in all of television history 😭❤️
This was very courageous by abc and growing pains and the cast, especially Tracy, gave us a timeless piece of TV. For a comedy to dig this deep is an enormous credit to the actors who delivered on the sensibilities of the time but also transcends generations into present day. Thank you to this channel for sharing it.
Surprise that this episode doesn't get any real praise over the years.
Here we are 34 years later and Matthew Perry really did die 💔😭
What a powerful scene. She nailed it and then some. Yes, what about second chances. Sigh Great job Tracey Gold. Loved this show
tv shows back in those days would give you a scared straight lesson.
This was quite a blow. No one ever said how far the Seavers lived from the hospital. Nowadays they might have gotten a call or text on the way home. The look on Mike's face said it all. In a later episode Carol's grandmother tried to get her to date again. Yet Sandy's death still lingered. Now Matthew Perry is gone for real. RIP.
Remember the days when we had wholesome sitcoms like this that the whole family could enjoy? This was a good show.
Now it is all fake reality and junk.
There are still wholesome family sitcoms you can watch
@@themethodofawesome Yeah they are called reruns.
@@magicpumpkin3 Abbott Elementary, Big Bang Theory, Schitt’s Creek, Black-ish, Good Luck Charlie, The Simpsons, The Middle, The Conners, The Upshaws, Bob’s Burgers, My Wife and Kids, Girl Meets World, Mom, Parenthood, Lopez Vs Lopez, The Great North, Last Man Standing, Kim’s Convenience, Raising Hope, The Good Place, Young Sheldon, The Fosters, The Goldbergs, Modern Family, Monsters At Work, The Haunted Hathaways, Just Roll With It, Big City Greens, Lab Rats, Weekend Family, The Baby Sitters Club, The Proud Family, Everybody Hates Chris, Fresh Off The Boat, One Day At A Time, See Dad Run, Fuller House, The Really Loud House, etc, etc.
All of these are either currently ongoing or have been made in the last 20ish years. And there are more of them. There is a diverse range of family dynamics and diverse casts of characters to get perspectives from all walks of life, even animated stuff and stuff made specifically for children that the adults can enjoy too. To say that there are no more family friendly sitcoms is frankly ignorant on your part.
Sadly this "content" would never air today, for being too wholesome, moral, & not woke enough
What makes this scene more devastating and horrible is that Matthew Perry's passing in real life was also unexpected and tragic.
Yes so sad 😢
I just mentioned that.😢
God rest his soul.
Definitely 😢😢😢😢❤❤❤
and so young.😢
Was it?
This scene always gets to me! Serious props to the actress. She gave it ALL in this scene and it shows!
This pops up in my feeds the same day/ 30 min after he died in real life. RIP Matthew Perry 10-28-23 😢🙏🏾💔
Who is here after he actually died?
This hurts after the news today.
You are at peace Matthew. So many generations loved you.
Thank you for everything. R.I.P.
Tracey Golds acting was superb
Is this sarcasm? A joke? This is clearly not good acting.
another dickhead .......nothing fails
you don't know real talent
you don't know real talent
Agree. She did a good job.