I really don't agree with the conclusion here. I don't think the answer to "I hate my job" is "Continue working your job, but don't think about how much you hate it." That sounds very counterintuitive.
I can relate... I work in the Records/Registration's Office at a local college and I feel the exact same way..... but the free tuition is not a option. I love our students but I'm ready to move on.... no growth, no raises, no appreciation, ....
I can relate. I started at my company when I was 23. I’ve been there for almost 14 years now and I dread going in almost every day. Over the years I’ve slowly watched my company go from a thriving workplace with opportunity and many different faces to a cutthroat survival island that is a shadow of its former self. Many good people have either jumped ship or have been laid off. The culture here is very negative and depressing. The only positives right now are the benefits, vacation time and the pay which isn’t even that good by today’s standards. The stability hooked me in and I’ve become very complacent. How does a man in his mid thirties make a complete career change, especially if it requires more education? I can’t afford to make the wrong choices at this point in my life. My bills still need to get paid.
Wow the fact that you have survived that long and even started at young age really amazed me. I cant even started my own since 25 and now lost at 33. Hardly even to stabilize and been jumping doing odd jobs. But I believe it is okay to make wrong choices. Maybe there are ways to get education that you want less expensive.
Im in the same boat. Worked at a company 15 years now and I am miserable. I have been paying off all my debt while going to grad school for a new career. It’s extremely difficult
There are many gurus who tell you that you shouldn't hate what you do. But does hating your job actually hurt your other planes in the physical, emotional and spiritual realm? As I told my own subscribers--yes it does. If you despise going to work that is eight hours of your day you are unhappy. Plus the getting up in the morning for it and getting back home is another two hours. Which would mean most of your day, most days of the week, most of your life--you hate doing what you do. This will affect the emotional plane and lead to the midlife crisis earlier than expected. It will drain your energy and then guess what? You stop taking care of your physical plane as well. Then your spiritual plane will fail as you see yourself as just another insignificant cog in the universe. So if that life in the high suburbs is destroying your planes my suggestion is to either laterally change careers or downsize so you can at least be content in what you do---most of your time. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles
I work in financial aid at a university. We have tons of different metrics we are judged by. Its stressful working for a school. You have thousands of people relying on you.
Sometimes it is good to re-frame your thinking about your job. What is something interesting or new that you could do at your current job? Could you transfer to another department? Could you develop any new hobbies outside of work, to make your life more enjoyable?
My two cents: sometimes reframing doesn’t work because a bad job at a bad company is bad. A company could be set in their ways, small enough to not have departments (or do not allow such switching), and/or be such a drain on you that you’re a zombie out of working hours and unable to pursue hobbies, which don’t do anything for your job in itself anyway. People should be made to feel way more comfortable with quitting. Again, my opinion.
@@klnmn3722 In my opinion, it is pretty easy to find a problem, or something you don't like, at any job. People who quit their job at the first sign of a problem usually don't do very well in the long run. It is usually better to expect a certain number of problems on a monthly basis, and find effective ways of dealing with them. Problems are just a part of life, you can run from them or deal with them.
@@deanalbertson7203 I didn't say to quit "at the first sign of a problem". I actually presented at least 3 crucial problems that can absolutely all be present at same time and said some situations are best left behind.
@@klnmn3722 Well, in the case of this caller, her child's reduced tuition is apparently tied to her working there. So, her options would be to re-frame her situation, or quit. If she quit, then she would likely be on the hook for thousands of extra dollars in tuition, not to mention out of a job. So, if you think that is a good option, well, it is probably not. It would seem to make more sense to focus on something new and interesting about her current job, or to change her job within the college. Colleges are usually large enough to have some lateral or even upward movement, which might help her feel better about her job over the next 4 years. Again, it is often good to expect that one will need to deal with a few problems each month, so when the problems show up, you are ready to deal with them.
I hate my job i go work everyday crying I work for a major store been there for 16 years and not getting better so I have 2 yeas to retire iam 60 years old
Dr John. This is that couple from ny that talked with you in the lobby about moving to TN. Currently working in IT and studying python to apply for a job at ramsey solutions. Sick of my current job situation and we love the mission at ramsey solutions!
Golden handcuffs..... I feel like I'm in the same position. I love what I do just not where I work. I'm scared to even go on an interview for fear of losing this job. I never thought I would be making or doing what I am doing and I guess the fear is in I don't think I would be taken seriously somewhere else. No degree and a GED I was hammered my whole life "need to go to college to be successful" which is untrue but I feel like my generation (millenial) was indoctrinated into thinking college equates to success.
I feel her pain. People in higher education are some of the dumbest alive. I work in it too (have for almost 10 years) and have developed some extremely unhealthy patterns, and I don't even recognize myself anymore. I love the students I work with, but it's not worth what it's done and is doing to me. I just don't know what else to do.
What should I do my job is making us stay late because the people in the morning show up 1 to 2 hours late our not showing up at all an they leave early and not picking.up the dishes from breakfast and lunch and they also us with 2 to cart fulls of dishes instead of us coming in and start delivering food to the people in the health and rehab.
Sounds like bad management to me. You said they let them show up one to two hours late, not 10-15 minutes. If it were me, I'd start planning my exit strategy. I'd hate to stay late on the daily. 😊
That's sad to hear 😔 Can you listen to podcasts, audiobooks, youtube vids or something to bedazzle your mind? 🤔 This part of the problem seems fixable 👍🏽
Honestly this whole scenario sounds very "first world problem." Like some people literally get assaulted and potentially die as part of their jobs. I am an introvert that hates office politics and government red tape as much as the next person, but I still have enough perspective to know I have to do my best with what I am given and/or create my own opportunities.
Lady, have you ever seen Shawshank Redemption? Andy crawled through sewage, so he could get to freedom. You can do this for a couple more years, then find another job.
Use your hate for your job to motivate you to find a new job or develop yourself so you are eligible for the types of jobs you want
I really don't agree with the conclusion here. I don't think the answer to "I hate my job" is "Continue working your job, but don't think about how much you hate it." That sounds very counterintuitive.
If you don’t enjoy something, you won’t stick with it.
If you don’t stick with it, it won’t compound.
Being interested precedes the results.
I can relate... I work in the Records/Registration's Office at a local college and I feel the exact same way..... but the free tuition is not a option. I love our students but I'm ready to move on.... no growth, no raises, no appreciation, ....
That’s like 99% of jobs, though.
I can relate. I started at my company when I was 23. I’ve been there for almost 14 years now and I dread going in almost every day. Over the years I’ve slowly watched my company go from a thriving workplace with opportunity and many different faces to a cutthroat survival island that is a shadow of its former self. Many good people have either jumped ship or have been laid off. The culture here is very negative and depressing. The only positives right now are the benefits, vacation time and the pay which isn’t even that good by today’s standards. The stability hooked me in and I’ve become very complacent.
How does a man in his mid thirties make a complete career change, especially if it requires more education? I can’t afford to make the wrong choices at this point in my life. My bills still need to get paid.
Wow the fact that you have survived that long and even started at young age really amazed me. I cant even started my own since 25 and now lost at 33. Hardly even to stabilize and been jumping doing odd jobs. But I believe it is okay to make wrong choices. Maybe there are ways to get education that you want less expensive.
Can I ask how much were you making when you started and till now
So relatable.
I'm in the exact same boat. I've even worked for the same company for 14 years and seen it go downhill the same way.
Im in the same boat. Worked at a company 15 years now and I am miserable. I have been paying off all my debt while going to grad school for a new career. It’s extremely difficult
There are many gurus who tell you that you shouldn't hate what you do. But does hating your job actually hurt your other planes in the physical, emotional and spiritual realm? As I told my own subscribers--yes it does. If you despise going to work that is eight hours of your day you are unhappy. Plus the getting up in the morning for it and getting back home is another two hours. Which would mean most of your day, most days of the week, most of your life--you hate doing what you do. This will affect the emotional plane and lead to the midlife crisis earlier than expected. It will drain your energy and then guess what? You stop taking care of your physical plane as well. Then your spiritual plane will fail as you see yourself as just another insignificant cog in the universe. So if that life in the high suburbs is destroying your planes my suggestion is to either laterally change careers or downsize so you can at least be content in what you do---most of your time. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles
I work in financial aid at a university. We have tons of different metrics we are judged by. Its stressful working for a school. You have thousands of people relying on you.
Sometimes it is good to re-frame your thinking about your job. What is something interesting or new that you could do at your current job? Could you transfer to another department? Could you develop any new hobbies outside of work, to make your life more enjoyable?
What if you just hate every job and all work?
My two cents: sometimes reframing doesn’t work because a bad job at a bad company is bad. A company could be set in their ways, small enough to not have departments (or do not allow such switching), and/or be such a drain on you that you’re a zombie out of working hours and unable to pursue hobbies, which don’t do anything for your job in itself anyway. People should be made to feel way more comfortable with quitting. Again, my opinion.
@@klnmn3722 In my opinion, it is pretty easy to find a problem, or something you don't like, at any job. People who quit their job at the first sign of a problem usually don't do very well in the long run. It is usually better to expect a certain number of problems on a monthly basis, and find effective ways of dealing with them. Problems are just a part of life, you can run from them or deal with them.
@@deanalbertson7203 I didn't say to quit "at the first sign of a problem". I actually presented at least 3 crucial problems that can absolutely all be present at same time and said some situations are best left behind.
@@klnmn3722 Well, in the case of this caller, her child's reduced tuition is apparently tied to her working there. So, her options would be to re-frame her situation, or quit. If she quit, then she would likely be on the hook for thousands of extra dollars in tuition, not to mention out of a job. So, if you think that is a good option, well, it is probably not. It would seem to make more sense to focus on something new and interesting about her current job, or to change her job within the college. Colleges are usually large enough to have some lateral or even upward movement, which might help her feel better about her job over the next 4 years. Again, it is often good to expect that one will need to deal with a few problems each month, so when the problems show up, you are ready to deal with them.
I hate my job i go work everyday crying I work for a major store been there for 16 years and not getting better so I have 2 yeas to retire iam 60 years old
Hang in there. I cry on the way to work too sometimes
2 more years will fly by! hang i there. I have 15 yrs more to go! 😭🙋🏻♀️🥰
Thanks 😊
Me to. Must be wal mart
It is 2 years now I hope everything is ok.
Dr John. This is that couple from ny that talked with you in the lobby about moving to TN. Currently working in IT and studying python to apply for a job at ramsey solutions. Sick of my current job situation and we love the mission at ramsey solutions!
Your son didn't want to go to school. LOL. Keep doing what you do. You're helping alot of people.
John you really a wise man
We love you 👍🏻❤️
Keep up the good work Dr D
Golden handcuffs..... I feel like I'm in the same position. I love what I do just not where I work. I'm scared to even go on an interview for fear of losing this job. I never thought I would be making or doing what I am doing and I guess the fear is in I don't think I would be taken seriously somewhere else. No degree and a GED I was hammered my whole life "need to go to college to be successful" which is untrue but I feel like my generation (millenial) was indoctrinated into thinking college equates to success.
I don't think young people are like that. Most I know are not work shy! There very creative. But I am from the UK....
If you didn’t need the money, what would you do?
Most people can't answer that question because they have never been fortunate enough to be in that situation.
Travel, sleep, workout, enjoy the spices of life with friends and family. Good drink good food Work sucks!!!!!
@@Not-Ap oh no! wow
@@margaritacruz7232is that surprising to you?? Lmao
I feel her pain. People in higher education are some of the dumbest alive. I work in it too (have for almost 10 years) and have developed some extremely unhealthy patterns, and I don't even recognize myself anymore. I love the students I work with, but it's not worth what it's done and is doing to me. I just don't know what else to do.
Man the career service from the college I used to work for must be dreading her job with about 1% placement on the game design degree.
lol... Those schools are generally such scams... Full Sail, Academy of Art University, etc.
“I agree” 💀😂
What should I do my job is making us stay late because the people in the morning show up 1 to 2 hours late our not showing up at all an they leave early and not picking.up the dishes from breakfast and lunch and they also us with 2 to cart fulls of dishes instead of us coming in and start delivering food to the people in the health and rehab.
Sounds like bad management to me. You said they let them show up one to two hours late, not 10-15 minutes. If it were me, I'd start planning my exit strategy. I'd hate to stay late on the daily. 😊
I’m a janitor and it’s so mind numbing I hate it
That's sad to hear 😔 Can you listen to podcasts, audiobooks, youtube vids or something to bedazzle your mind? 🤔 This part of the problem seems fixable 👍🏽
After 20 years in corporate America I feel like I would love being a janitor 😢
@@heslind it’s not all it’s cracked up to be
Don’t quit your job. Let them fire you. Then collect unemployment. 👍
Another time, send a taxi driver with the keys!
Oh my gosh, speak up, please!
Lol what's with all the bots in the comments?
😭
Honestly this whole scenario sounds very "first world problem." Like some people literally get assaulted and potentially die as part of their jobs. I am an introvert that hates office politics and government red tape as much as the next person, but I still have enough perspective to know I have to do my best with what I am given and/or create my own opportunities.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️
Lady, have you ever seen Shawshank Redemption? Andy crawled through sewage, so he could get to freedom. You can do this for a couple more years, then find another job.
Sometimes you can’t though. Although she doesn’t seem at the end of her rope yet.
@@emmarose6590 point well taken.
Bruh you need a new thumbnail design to fit your keywords
What it's just a title m8
CROSSFIT: you're doing it wrong! [picture of christ on the cross]
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