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I actually use uh and um when texting! sometimes it's for emphasis on something I'm unsure about, other times I'm writing out what I'm thinking as I'm thinking it. so I don't think it's entirely odd, just not very common!
Thank you so much introducing me to this book :D
"first of all thios book gave me emotional whiplash" me: *adds to summer reading list*
Sameeeee
ok so about "jumping at a lgbt therapist" thing, I did jump at it the first time, and turns out she was only good with the first 3 letters, she would not use my pronouns or name. so now I have issues with getting a therapist cus I don't feel that I can trust somebody like that. so ya there are folks who feel unsure or unsafe speaking with someone, but yes I think this is a more rare thing.
Ummm, I sometimes use "umm" in text, but that's in a jokey or sarcastic way
Also, I'm dyslexic and read real slow so like books with small chapters make me feel like I'm making progress
I feel like the hesitance towards therapy makes sense especially if you're early into accepting your trans identity. I haven't read the book so I don't know how it's handled but I personally struggle with opening up to therapists a lot even if I know they're supportive. To me it's just a vulnerable state to be in regardless of acceptance and that's something I'm working through but it's still a thing I and likely other trans people experience.
”but first i’m going to force my boyfriend to read this because i want to be gay with him” i have never in my life heard anything more relatable
I personally write "uhm" a lot. To show to people that im thinking about what im going to write and that's why i saw their text but i'm not instantly answering. Idk. And like most of my friends do that too. But i get how unrealistic it can look.
ya I usually do "mmm" or "sjsjsd hang on" to show when im thinking n still actively texting but I need a second but I don't do it a lot bc mt friends have learned not to expect many responses on time from me wkjdsjkds
@@n.c.435 yeah i do those a lot as well and i think my friends understand that i need time to answer but my anxiety kinda force me to reply as soon as i see the text lmao so yee yee
@@stephantyrone8678 djdhdhxf im the opposite I wait for a few minutes to make sure I don't seem clingy or weird before I respond /screams
@@n.c.435 aaaw! I understand that as well. But im personally too anxious about looking irrespectful, impolite or like i don't care so i just instantly go sicko mode with my answers
@@stephantyrone8678 sjhdskjds whenever I try to hold a conversation im like "ok gotta respond at the Exact Same Time Frame every time" so I;ll type out my response and then wait and thEn forget about it but ya thats a big mood
can you make a full video on the complexities of "enby"? ive never met a nonbinary person who takes issue w/ it, but i have used it as a term to blanket all nonbinary ppl, nd i don't want to make anyone uncomfortable.
I will say that with the therapy part, I’ve been very unsure about seeing therapists because I have a really hard time talking about and expressing my emotions, even when I did see a therapist for a while. My anxiety is so bad that the thought of seeing a therapist kinda makes my anxiety spike up really high even though I know therapy is a good and healthy thing.
Idk, thats just my thoughts and experiences.
Me tooo
It actually took me over a year to be able to even consider going to therapy for real, 'cause just the thought of going made me anxious
I am a trans kid, and I am very unsure about seeing a therapist, I don't know a lot of other people who are like me on this, but it can be a really scary thing and I don't think it is all that odd.
DUDE my name is Ben, im also nonbinary, and i read this book and it was.... so nice to read and i related to the character a TON,,, Ben (the main character, not me) is such a nice character and i just related alot to their experiences,,,,
every time the title says “spoiler free” i’m just like “oooh yay a new book to add to my to-read list”
did you ever look into berlin queer history and how it was intertwined with anarchist movements? there was a gay magazine called "der eigene" (possibly the first of its kind) which is a direct reference to max stirners dialectical egoist work. (it might have been what inspired emma goldmans egoism too) i figured it might bring you some joy and new insights, as most political philosophy classic stuff on your goodreads so far seems to be marx and lenin.
ive read a little about it but it was a while ago and not much! thank you !!!
Just noticed that the yellow and purple color scheme for the cover is a nod to the non binary flag! I love when publishers do that - its subtle but a real nod to the community (really like these reviews by the way!)
I JUST READ THIS BOOK AND LOVED IT SO MUCH!!!!!!! I’m non-binary and I freaking loved this ohmygods. I gave it to my sister to read, she’s getting used to calling me they them and such
Hey Ashton, you should check out the podcast The Two Princes by Gimlet. All seven episodes are available now on Spotify, I think they are uploading them to RUclips (slowly but surely) as well. It's absolutely adorable and I think it's right up your alley.
I got this book at Barnes and Noble a few days ago and it's so wonderful!! Everything about the characters is amazing, I'm so glad you're talking about it 💛
This was such a great review!! I want to read this book asap 😄
I'm really glad you mentioned about the Q slur - I don't know if this is a UK / US thing but I'd never really heard the word being reclaimed until I went to uni. Then I met some LGBT+ Americans who described themself using that word and it sort of shocked me.
That doggie looks and acts like my doggie!!! Only difference is Scottie is black and white :)
Same! Except my doggo is slightly skinnier and black and white 😁
Ahhhh what a beautiful doggo and beautiful human!!
OMG THAT DOG IN THE BACKGROUND IS SO CUTE!! :) your pet sitting job sounds awesome, haha. this book sounds really good -- i've been intending to read it for a long time, and i've been really wanting to read more books with nonbinary main characters (especially since there aren't a lot out there) -- anyway, just found your channel and just subscribed!! let's be booktube friends :)
I read this book a little while ago and it was adorable.
I just started this book today, and I love it. I’m also from NC, so I was so excited to read a book written by another non-binary person in my state
I LOVED THIS BOOK SO MUCH I'VE READ IT SO MANY TIMES
wrt to Ben being unsure about therapy, yeah, that was me for sure. I got the opportunity to go to an LGBT support group and it took a mental breakdown for me to get myself to that support group. Therapy is something that really scared me and I really relate to Ben's fear around it (also that support group did end up being a little bit of a wash bc I was one of the only poc and my therapists were not equipped to speak well to a Black and Mexican nonbinary person). At this point I would love a gender therapist and I totally understand why people would want therapy so much, but it felt very real for me to see Ben's reluctance
Love the sound of this book must check it out also I thought you'd got another dog in the thumbnail haha hope your safe and well Ashton
I always love your book reviews! I always add most the books to my reading list. I've started reading something like gravity by amber smith and am taking notes to do a review like yours to my finsta followers. It's about a trans guy and just recently was released!
I looove this series ❤ Pls continue to review lgbtq+ books bc there arent any from an lgbtq+ person or really any at all!!!
I have very bad anxiety around therapists so I really relate to not being sure about going to a therapist. In a community where so many people are very very pro-therapy it can be hard to not feel like it's right for you.
Thank you for blessing us with a cute dogo things in this video 🙏🏼 I really want to read this book ! It’s on my list ! Thanks for giving us your review of it !
i say “um” in texts 🙈🙈🙈
I finished this book today. Finished it in less than two days faster than I've ever read before. Thanks for putting me on this. I literally cried from the moment they were addressed by the right pronouns to the final page :)
This video is from a while ago but Masons other book “The Ghosts We Keep” is also so good! I love the author of these books and “I wish you all the best” is SO GOOD
It made me feel so good as an enby person tk finally see myself in a book represented well
Just ordered this book!!
I’ve read this book twice, and I can’t express how wonderful it is to see somebody like me represented within YA fiction.
I just have a bad experience with therapists so I wouldnt really jump at that opportunity even if they specialized in lgbtq ppl
In my experience, having shorter chapters make it easy for the reader to not intimidated by the book. I have stop reading a book cause the chapters were too long and i felt like i wasn't getting the story.
Idk how you feel about Broadway in general, but i’d be really interested in hearing your thoughts (or Jack’s) on the musical Hadestown, that just won a Tony. (In a nutshell it’s a Greek myth but socialist?)
The word in the title (i can’t write it out but it starts with a w) is my biggest trigger for my ocd, but you better believe i’m still going to read this book
it only shows up a couple times in the book, if that helps. if you think it’ll be too difficult don’t bother reading it 💜💜💜
I understand the apprehension to seeing a therapist, even if they 'specialised' in LGBTQIA people. Ive had many experiences with people who claim to be supportive, but arent really, and it can be difficult to trust that they will be
I LOVED this book and related to the main character so much.
ahh okay i have a lot to say so:
i personally dont like "enby" as a descriptor for myself however i didnt mind the use of it in the book as it was a fellow nonbinary person using it. (i do have a problem when someone *specifically* addresses me though. esp used by the cis)
i do actually use "uh" and "um" through text, for me it makes the conversation feel more real, even through a screen. but thats just me asdfljgk
and, for me having short chapters helps my reading experience. mainly because of my adhd, but also because i get more of a sense of accomplishment. like "hell yeah, i read 11 chapters already" which keeps me motivated to finish the book.
also, as someone on the ace and aro spectrum, i didnt like that comment either and wished it was just phrased differently as to not blanket statement the whole of ace and aro people. however i doubt that was the authors intention, mainly bc i hear shit like that from well meaning allo people all the time.
all in all this book was absolutely brilliant. i felt so so represented, through ben and miriam. i saw myself through ben and their struggles like ive never seen myself through media before. i cannot rave about this enough but ill just say that its by far my favourite book buy
my ninth grade english teacher has my copy of this book, please ms. bajema
i- i want it back
I say um in texts all the time, but only to deliberately express hesitation.
i literally don’t even notice chapter breaks once i’m immersed im immersed
I read this book. I liked it, but I wasn't in love with it. I know that using the word "enby" is such a small thing, but it did make me enjoy the book less because, as an older person, I do feel like the term is cutesy and it comes off as feminine to me. I'm ok with younger - or any age - people using it for themselves, but I would not use it for myself and I had an "ugh" moment when I read that. However, that's a gut reaction, and, rationally, I know that someone in high school, like Ben, might use that word without thinking. I also used to work very close to Raleigh (RTP), so that part was kind of cool. I also thought it was realistic that there was racial diversity at Ben's school because that area of NC is about 30% Black which is a lot of people. I wonder, did you ever meet the author?
Yeah aroace doesn't have anything to do with touch aversion. I am aroace and I happen to have touch aversion due to anxiety and trauma and sensory issues. But it doesn't have to do with my aroace-ness
I do understand the therapy hesitance, though I dont have context so take it with a grain of salt, when I was first offered therapy after coming out to my parents, I was very scared that it was going to be conversion therapy and that it was sort of a trap, idk though again, havent read it yet
i use "uh" or "hmm" a lot in text so "um" didn't seem too contrived for me
I’m super sad I can’t find your good reads this book sounds amazing
goodreads.com/ashtondaniel 💜 it’s a great book, hope you get the chance to read it!
You are super fast about it, but you're talkin about Demi sexuality and touch preference for you personally, can you explain this or directly to a video in which you already have? I'm trying to figure this aspect for myself and I have found some of your videos and insights helpful.
this is the only book my friend recommended that i actually liked
Not on topic but did anybody else notice all the kids toys in the background
Could you put the title and author of the book in the video title or description so I can look at it instead of just waiting for you to say it in the video?
ok but to the texting critique of the book pahaha. I use thigns like uhm, ehhh, ehm, uhhh, ahh,..... aaall the time xD. like sometimes like every second word, bcs i kinda just write it how i would say it ig
ashton what’s your goodreads?
Yes people do type out "um" and other hesitations. I know I do, and so do a lot of my friends.
As a regular reader of YA, I was a bit put off by you saying that the writing is "good enough for a YA book" as if the age category should have any baring on the prose style. I've read YA with simplistic prose, YA with beautiful prose, YA with pretentious purple prose, and more besides. And I've read a similar range of prose in adult novels, including quite a few that are very simplistic. So I suppose what I'm really asking is: what did you mean by that?
ah yeah i should’ve explained that better I’m sorry!! i mean that bc what i usually read is political philosophy/science and memoirs, I’m used to writing styles that’re a lot more formal or complex. “good enough” probably wasn’t the best description of it.
I'm confused about what you said about enby, isn't is just short for non-binary (NB)? I didn't know some non-binary people were uncomfortable with it
Im very confused too. I get not using it to refer to yourself but actively not liking people using a common shorthand? I've never heard of this before. The critique that enby was used as a umbrella term was odd too... it literally is a shorthand of a umbrella term.
Hi, can you explain why enby is infanilization? I'm not nonbinary, I'm ftm, so I would like to know more about nonbinary people.
as i said in the video not all nonbinary ppl see it that way, but because it’s essentially a nonbinary equivalent to “boy” or “girl,” some find it uncomfortable when they’re referred to that way.
The author looks just like Riley from Riley's little space or is it just me?
People don't like the word enby? I don't understand this isn't it just the phonetics of NB? Which is just shorthand for nonbinary? Like not using the term seems normal but actively not liking it? Idk that's odd to me. Anyone have any insights into what makes this icky for them?
Also yes enby literally is a shorthand for a common umbrella term so of course it was used in an umbrella way... that was a very odd critique.
FYI I always type er and uh but maybe it’s just me
I say "um" when I text lol
Now I wanna dog sit 😂