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I was reading some of the other comments here, and this is very saddening that these Bosses today who act so hateful and evil, they don't realize the true source of their wealth, comforts and luxuries they get to enjoy because they have Staff. But it is only for so long that You can mistreat and abuse your Staff til one day you may end up with no Staff. These are some really sad stories I been reading here in the comment section and you can add my terrible experiences in along with these because there is evil where I work at and one of these Bosses are just the most arrogant and a bully.
@@selenarobinson1493 Hi Selena, I am sorry to read that you are going through such moment at work. It is definitely demotivating and makes one doubt their own capabilities. Hope you are already looking into an exit strategy. I think through the past years we've started calling out these behaviors more often and some companies are now working a lot harder on their employer's brand, making sure that there is a healthy leadership within the company. But it's all a process and it's going to take a while until the change can be seen in all industries.
@@myemmotion right now I'm still working at my place while working I keep finding other job...I feel mixed emotional cause I being sincerely help her but what I'll get in returned disrespect manner. I believe in karma and karma will come...I can't say much things as for now but a few of my friends noticed it the way how she react toward me. Hopefully I get a better job n pay in future. Since SHE Gave me full of excuses when I for my increment pay. I been working so hard n I been working for my company 5years. No one speak up for me n put a good words for me.
Well, according to one of the replies we had in these videos, this manager just enjoys feeling the employee's fear, some bosses consider that it makes the employee's productive. It is indeed a very destructive way of thinking.
It is good to talk about it on here as I find issues like this get good replies on YT. I once started a thread about bad bosses on a forum and I got met with silence.
I think people try staying away from such topics until it happens to them. Once it does, the level of empathy makes a drastic change. I think most of us, who had been in a similar situation before, know what a tough and delicate moment it is, and know that there are not many options to get away from the awfully toxic environment and boss. I actually enjoyed reading the opinions from the bosses’ perspective too. It seems some indeed have no idea what an impact such treatement causes over the employee’s life in general.
@dodongai I agree. Managers who work in rich White neighborhoods are the worst. They favor others while targeting the rest. Never trust rich and privileged people in power! They don't care about you, costumers, or clients, they care about money and their reputation as
Toxic behavior from a boss is usually the result of insecurity. They are insecure in their own competence so they go out of their way to sabotage and demoralize their team. They don't want people on their team to grow or possibly outshine them. A toxic boss's only priority is self preservation.
Self preservtation actualy makes a perfect sense. And it could definitely be the case for many toxic management situations. They are bitter and arrogant with their team in general, but they demoralize those who stand out, who could potentially outshine them, especially if they are not easily manipulated.
Bosses that abuse their power have serious issues with themselves, it's them that's the problem, no solid person feels the need to belittle, demoralize and suck the life out of people,
I absolutely agree. I am not exactly sure if a person like that has always been abusive to others or they become corrupted and intoxicated by power as the time goes by? It could be an interesting topic to investigate.
+RandomVideoCircus Bosses like this only speak abusive to subordinates. They tend to grin & smile in the faces of their superiors. I'm skeptical of people who act like this and I only interact with them about business-related matters. Never trust them with any personal information.
That is 100% truth. Even if you don't trust them any personal information, they will still find things to bring up about you behind your back and try cause damage just for the sake of it. Toxic boss and toxic subordinates go hand in hand.
Glad you escaped, having experienced something similar, it drains you completely- emotionally and physically...but once I was no longer subjecting myself to unhappiness, my life finally made a happy turn
Glad you escaped, having experienced something similar, it drains you completely- emotionally and physically...but once I was no longer subjecting myself to unhappiness, my life finally made a happy turn
This describes my situation with 100% accuracy. I wake up with anxiety every day, and even when I work extra without pay it’s met with criticism. Every conversation feels demoralizing no matter how much I work and my mental health has taken a nosedive.
I am really sorry you are going through this right now. Your mental health is definitely not worth taking on toll on, no job is worth making such sacrifices. How long have you been working there for? I made a few videos on how to deal with a toxic situation at work, just in case if you need a further advice. Best of luck!
I just left a job like that as well. When I was asked why I was leaving and I disclosed that I felt that the work culture was toxic and abusive, they became more toxic and abusive.
Great decision! You could feel sensitive at first, but believe me it is a huge relief and soon the confidence is back to you 100%. Take it one step at a time, you are on a right track!
I know exactly how it feels like. Try keeping it positive, not letting it ruin everything else, but at the same time do your best to make a change (area, department, job). Don’t stay in a toxic environment for a long time.
Spot on! I am quitting tomorrow for these exact reasons. Such a drain and anxiety all the time! Someone who wasnt qualified enough was put into this position and shes making all of the team want to leave with her dictatorial and dismissive manners. Pitty that shes a product of the company and gets support from above.
That is the thing. These unqualified employees eventually damage companies with their terrible management skills by demotivating everyone so they can’t enjoy their job anymore, generating constant turnover and so much more. However the companies are actually the ones responsible of giving such power to awful managers, they might eventually realise their mistake but usually when it’s too late. Courage, Eugenia. I am glad you are off for a new start. It will also make you appreciate many aspects on your future professional life. Good luck!
This video is SPOT ON. I quit after 46 days. Anytime somebody is condescending in voice tone coupled with disrespectful body language (ie. think shoulder shrugging, eye-rolling, etc., while they speak down to you) that makes you feel belittled, constantly and daily, it's time to go. Verbal/emotional abuse on any level is not acceptable from any supervisor(s). When you start to feel everyday stress, the physical aches and pains that go along with it and you dread going to work, there's your sign. Always give two weeks notice unless, you feel so stressed that physically and emotionally you hurt, it's time to go. Save yourself. Stress can kill you.
You did the right thing and I completely agree with "saving yourself". The more you stay, the more damage is being done to your physical and emotional health. I am sorry about the experience you had to go through, the good thing is that you managed to get out of there relatively fast!
My god. I worked 6 months at a place that felt like this every freaking day. Once I had a dream that I was on the train and heard some gunshots nearby. Every passenger started running as the doors opened but I stayed as is. When I woke up, I was not "relieved" but more scared of the possible day to come.
I was a nervous wreck on account of a toxic boss!! And I am so glad that I don't work there anymore!!! I quit working there a long time ago and I feel better healthwise!!!!
I know how it feels very well. When your boss is toxic, it becomes a NO WIN situation, no matter what you do, you'd be the one to lose. And of course, forget about any longevity within the company while this person is around. The best thing is to make the toxic period as short as possible. It also takes time to remember and to talk about it, to recognise how certain things affected us.
Hi MasterYumi. I apologize, I've missed your post. I hope things have gotten easier already. Not sure if you are still at the same company or you've already changed, but the whole experience should be a learning experience which serves us for the rest of our lives.
MasterYumi, I am very happy to hear that. As long as you can manage tolerating it for a while, without getting too envolved on the emotional level. And 4 years is more than enough to learn everything you need at the job, once you have your degree it is going to do you well to start a new experience. To continue growing and to be in a healthier environment. Thanks for your kind words! Wishing you best of luck and keep us updated :)
Happening to mine as we speak 8 people have left within 1 1/2 months...I'm next I can feel it coming and she is gonna hear what grandma died for before I walk out of that door
@Tom Jardine Also, never trust a boss/employer from a rich white neighborhood. Rich and privileged people in power don't care about you, costumers, or clients: they just care about their wallets being full.
I once had a toxic boss...a terrible experience. It is better to switch the job because your life turns very complicated. And true, sometimes you don't even see it or notice it. Thank you my friend.
@@emmsummer7811 They always make their best to make it look like "the problem is yours". When you do your job, complete your tasks in a responsible way, no one has a right to bully and belittle you.
Tom Jardine - That was exactly what happened at my job and at our company. Thankfully I am now out of there, I am in contact with my previous manager, we've even managed to become friends and share an office. Each of us doing our own thing, of course. I say karma exists!
I can relate that's is one of the main reasons people are becoming entrepreneurs and working for themselves i personally can not stand those who abuse their power/authority being around people like that makes me cringe tip for people who have a boss like this try to get out as quickly as you can be around someone like that will lower your energy and kill your spirit no amount of money is worth dignity and self respect
Seems like we are on the same page with this subject. I have always thought the same way and after such energy and life draining experience of sharing an office space with a toxic boss, I decided to go for entrepreneurship.
It is also extremely sad how some people need to feed their ego and make themselves feel good by bringing others down, downgrading their work and their skills, treating them like trash. I do believe that karma will bite them right back. In my ex-manager's case it already did and it seems like just the beginning.
I agree 100% that behavior comes from insecurity and fear if they feel like they gotta degrade others to make themselves feel better either they were bullied from a strict environment or their just power hungry self centered A**holes
It could be a reason for that. Maybe some bullied people feel like they need a revenge once they get to power, you would think going through tough times makes people more human.
EMMOTION by Marat yes it's ridiculous but a leader would never degrade his/her employees they encourage motivate and enspire them that is someone i want to work with not someone who bullies their workers and talk down on them those are what we call narcissists things are changing it won't be like this forever.
My boss displays every characteristic in this video. He is a narcissistic and cold bastard. At first I thought I was doing something wrong until I realized that there was nothing I could do to get his approval. I work in the automotive field and he has made me feel like I have no influence in the company. Every week he takes away more and more of my hours, and will not allow me to take on any jobs where I can demonstrate my skill set. He doesn't know anything about cars and yet he tries to tell me how to do my job. Whenever I suggest something he dismisses it. I work as fast as I possibly can and he says I'm not productive enough. In his mind, everything I do is wrong, and its his mission to criticize me even when I haven't done anything wrong. It's people like him that ruin the automotive field as well as other markets. I can see now why many people are looking into entrepreneurship. People are tired of having horrible bosses screw them over.
Everything that you have mentioned are the tools of how bad and toxic managers make themselves feel better and more important. I know exactly how you feel like, I know how it feels like going from a top performer into someone who, according to his boss, "never gets anything right". It is such a huge emotional abuse and a self esteem destroyer. There is not a lot you can do except for planning your exit and making it happen. Because even if you accept the situation and continue working, eventually your mental health will be suffering, you might end up questioning your own abilities. And that is the last thing we want. You have done nothing wrong, don't fill your thoughts with negativeness or self-defeating! It is curious you mention entrepreneurship, having gone through this experience made me put the corporate life aside. Have you gone through possible options of other jobs or of becoming a freelancer?
EMMOTION I admit, I've thought about it. I've come to the conclusion that if an individual like myself has dealt with bad bosses day in and day out, maybe it's time to become my own boss
Of course it is never black or white, there are so many bosses that can make one grow, be supportive and empowering. However once you get across to someone so corrupt by power and toxicity, our personal vision of career values and goals changes a lot. Good luck, Daniel. Deal with this situation with a lot of patience, this experience could also serve you as an eye opener, to make the right moves.
my boss would pretend to be nice and cool. but he does not give a crap, he puts on a act as this cool boss but would always avoid performance analysis by lying over and over. he said I would receive a raise or at least a performance review every six months during the interview. but when the time comes, he would just tell me that he is very busy. sure I can have a beer with him but when I work for him I feel like a slave. I quit this morning.
Good decision. It’s pointless to continue when you have been lied to over and over, especially if you are feeling “like a slave” at work. Being nice and cool is not about grabbing a beer after work, it’s about listening to the team and helping them grow. Best of luck!
It’s really curious how their pattern works. No matter where in the world, no matter which company we are talking about, toxic behavior is very similar! It poisons all your plans and goals within the company. It is surely for the best that you are leaving. Stay strong during these 2 months :)
Walked out of my job of 5 years today. My boss would watch on the cameras excessively and micro manage to the point of no end. Calling throughout the day and brow beating people despite tasks being completed and always closing in the money. Many small business owners have a bit of a god complex. Left today and already have a new job. This video was great to watch after today! Much love. Dont kill yourself to live.
I loved reading your story. So glad that you made it out and with a new job already. Sometimes we are caught in a place, desperately trying to please our destructive management, that we indeed forget to live.
Just a few days into the new job and couldnt be happier. The money is equal to the last but the respect, gratitude, and appreciation alreasy shown is such a breath of fresh air. Thanks again! :)
@@kylemcquillan8917 That is great! Having been under a toxic leadership makes us value a healthy environment so much more. I hope it keeps getting better and you feel more comfortable with all the aspects of the new job. Best of luck!
I still haven't exactly figured out how it works. Some are toxic from the start, some become toxic with managerial responsibilities. Each case is a new story, but one thing which is in common, all those toxic managers cause a lot of damage in people's professional and even personal lives.
@@myemmotion sometimes it is HR who is more toxic than the head supervisor and most of them are known to throw a good worker under the bus just to save their own hides.
I had a boss that purposely left me out of meetings and some gatherings. I was the new person and she played favorites with this one guy that I disliked. When my team had lunch without me my boss bragged how good the food was. She often went to lunch with her favorite manager while leaving us behind. She also gossiped right in front me as if I wasn't there. I'm glad I left and started my own business.
You are definitely so much better off from that place. Such type of toxic behavior will not change, she probably still is just as toxic. But you have moved on :)
I am currently going through the same, when I complain she says I have a victim mentality and it’s my fault I’m not included. I’ve been with the company 20 yrs, she’s been in our facility one year. I’m at a loss.
@@deniselee7290 that's such a warning sign them turning your concern around as if you are to blame then invalidating your feelings. These types love to gaslight and manipulate yet preach to others how they/place of employment should take accountability and grow though!!!!
High turnover is another sign - it's not the employees it's the boss. i had a section manager who hated another section manager. We had a meeting to resolve a situation between both areas, which turned into a shouting match between the two managers, quite embarrassing for all in attendance. I was stunned their minor differences turned into a screaming fest. Not surprised she got passed up twice because of this and her reputation preceded her. She was mean and abusive to me but that's another story. Worst boss ever but I've also had some great ones too.
High turnover is a clear red flag. Sometimes we hear about a reputation of certain companies but many times you are not aware of what is going on inside of the structure. Department managers who compete and openly dislike each other is definitely very toxic for the teams. No wonder that she was an abusive boss towards her subordinates.
@@stepinside My only solace is knowing she will die bitter and alone. This same boss yelled at me and pounded her fist on the table, after I missed one transaction out of over one hundred and twenty, which everyone including her knew took 2 days to process. Course that one transaction cleared without a problem the next day. She was also proud that she made everyone cry in the office, irked her to no end that she couldn't get that from me.
So unprofessional, cold and even heartless. I am not surprised that the turnover is high. I am glad you are doing your job and not letting this affect you!
Your boss can also make your work life unbearable and be abusive and even swear at you but if you said just one thing back to defend yourself they will say "Speak to me like that again I will have you in the office in front of the manager, and he will fire you". 99.9% of times the manager will take your boss's side over yours even if you are in the right and wanted to speak up about it. Being mistreated at work can make your life as a whole miserable.
What you are saying is absolutely true. In fact this is what happens in most of the cases, the chances of getting the company involved are close to zero. CEO/Directors Board will always put your boss first. After having worked in HR for year, I've seen many examples of this to happen, in fact it happened to me as well. So the best thing is to either leave the department, or leave the company.
Sometimes you wonder if the directors ask your boss to be like that to people, be forceful and pushy, they ask them to be hard on workers, meaning your boss has the full support of the management. Also toxic bosses can appear as good as gold to their bosses or to workers who dont work in their department. Others annoyingly say "he is a top bloke". Try working for them, you will soon disagree. That is why many people are going self employed, or they want to work in a job where they dont have to interact with people. I once worked for a boss who was OK at first but he started ignoring me for no reason, one comfort is he was like that to one or 2 others. One worker got on really well with that boss but that suddenly subsided and he began ignoring him. It is also annoying when bosses let their faves get away with things yet are harsh on the ones who are not his faves.
That’s why you should always record any conversations you have with your boss. Also try to become friends with their manager. I’m good friends with my boss’s manager and he knows my boss is an asshole. Hell, he even warned me about my boss when I first started.
I have since found out that usually, promotion of people who then become toxic bosses usually brings out traits that were always there before they got promoted. Psychologists say that success does not change personality, more that it brings out their true self. The people who get promoted probably did always have intolerance issues and were impatient, just they never had much chance to use it before. So when they become a boss, their arrogance is more noticeable, and was always there.
You described my current boss exactly...every point. I would question my bias, but he has lost 40% of his experienced workers in only a year. He acts like people are replaceable, but the company is small...so everyone takes a hit when someone leaves. Planning on leaving soon for more pay, less overtime, and less work. :)
I hope you do that and eventually people like that get what they deserve. There is no need to invest your efforts into a company which has zero appreciation for its employees. Best of luck!
Take it from me, leave asap!!! Unfortunately, I stayed...almost 11 years and then suffered a breakdown. I have been out of work due to symptoms of anxiety and depression for 6 months now. I left one night almost unable to drive home! That was it as I could not take it anymore! It's a government career and I'm fighting against him and his supporters for their abuse on me and others. I hope to save my career and move on but it may turn out that I will be fired. I have a government investigator looking at my case and I sent out emails to politicians since this witch hunt started from me being a whistle-blower after being forced to testify against my boss and his "crew" Very painful and I am highly emotional. Not worth it so run like hell instead of staying like I did!!!!
I am so sorry to hear about it. It definitely seems like a very complicated and deeply emotional situation to go through. Toxic bosses are actually being fed by the employees' anxiety, stress and depression. It takes a lot of courage to stand up against this type of abuse at work, and I am very happy that you are making the right steps now. It will take time to detox from this but you will make it, you will also save your career and put it back on the track! Believe me, I am telling you this from experience. Keep being brave and remember it is never too late to make the right choices. Your quality of life and well being comes first!
Tee, God bless you. Hope things are going much better for you now. I am on the verge of a breakdown myself because my job and boss both are too overwhelming. Never had to deal with so much stress in all the years I've worked. Micromanagement, a boss who is mentally unbalanced (in a bad way)..I will be on my way out as soon as I find something else believe me.
Reminds me of my old boss from my previous job. I thought I was the only one she could bullied, but realized she did this to other workers just before I left my job
Sadly some people are really nice and reasonable..until they get promoted. Success often brings out the worst in people. One workmate of mine was a union convenor and was on our side and a nice chap. He then got made an area controller and he used bullying and blackmailing tactics to get what he wanted, also he threatened to sack half the people. He also said things like "Go faster OK, dont like it, you can piss off" to vulnerable workers. Another workmate who was a laugh got promoted and really threw his weight around and spoke to people like dirt.
I definitely know what you mean. I have seen it many times also, majority of people can’t handle success and promotion. We need to admit that more responsibility is bond to bring an attitude change in some aspects, on professional level, but becoming rude, agressive and disrespectful is absolutely unnecessary for a better professional performance. I think the ones that act like that had always had these issues deep inside. Just as you mentioned, power brings out the worst in people.
I think people can remain good but I have seen good people turn bad. Often they get sudden authority, the sudden success turns them into a nasty person. Especially if it is one of your own colleagues.
I think deep down they know they are not acting the right way. However constant need of pleasing the management turns them into someone very different.
You'd think the government jobs are not as competitive and more flexible, but seems like it isn't true at all. Was it one after another? I am sure there is a right project with a right team for you. Make sure to "desintoxícate", build back your confidence and positive spirit.
EMMOTION by Marat I worked full time as a child welfare Case Worker in a Human Services Department - mostly females; nasty bitches. 2nd job was police in a small town. Chief of Police was a bully. Wanted to punch him in the nose - went to a lawyer then quit ---- but where I live many places are toxic. There were other places I experienced but those 2 were bad
That’s awful, I really don’t understand the need of creating tensions and bad vibes in such environments. Especially at the Human Services Department. Some people just love to hate.
My last boss was like this. I was one of the few people that would say something to her if she was treating me unfairly and that's probably why I was on her bad side. I was working with one girl for my entire shift one day. She was putting clothes away from the fitting room and I was in the back of the store hanging the clothes. The girl I had been working with all day was putting the last clothes away but there was still a lot to hang. I said over the walkie talkie that once shes done putting the last clothes away maybe we could hang clothes together in the back. One of my managers came to the back and said something along the lines of "before you make suggestions I'll need you to run it by me first" she seemed pretty irritated and I never tried to disrespect her. My head boss who really didnt like me was on vacation at the time. The day she got back from vacation she called me to an area of the store and basically started accusing me of "disrespecting managers" I told her I talked to my other manager about it and I thought the issue was resolved to which she replied "well now I'M talking to YOU about it." Another day one of my managers told me to just change the price for customers at the register if they thought the cost of an item was within 10 dollars of a difference. One customer claimed he saw a sign for an item that was $50 less than what it was coming up as. I asked if I could get someone to check the sign and the same manager who told me to change the price of an item was within a $10 difference told me to change the price for him. I told her I didn't think I could do that because it was such a drastic difference. Later the same boss called me to the back office and said "you know when I talked to you about disrespecting my managers?" Another day at work there were very few shopping bags in the front of the store for customers to use. Normally if clothes are returned we put those clothes in the bags so we can bring them to the back of the store later. Because we were low on the bags I asked my manager over the walkie talkie what she'd like me to do with the piles of clothes on the ground because I knew we were low on the bags and assumed she didn't want me using them to put the returned clothes in. She said "by the way can you not say those types of things in front of the customers? I got pretty irritated and said.. "um sorry? I was asking for the customers." Later she tried to say "I just don't want you saying those things out loud because maybe customers don't know it's that bad but by you saying it you might be putting those thought into their head". Another incident happened at work as well. I'm normally the only cashier up front for the first five hours the store is open so I help a LOT of people during the day. My manager called me to the back randomly and told me to sit down. I sat in the chair beside her and she said "you're a little too close to me" with a very disgusted look on her face. I asked what she needed and she said "So I got a phone call a couple of hours ago from a customer saying that you made her extremely uncomfortable." I immediately was like sorry but I have literally zero idea what incident you're talking about. I asked her if she could describe what happened and she gave me no good answer. She just said "whether you remember or not it happened and that's all that matters". I told her "ok well it's kind of hard for me to prevent it from happening again if you can't even tell me what happened." She just said "I need you to be appropriate at work and not ask people about personal stuff such as their age etc". Once again, I could recall anything that happened similar to that during the day. My best advice to anybody who has a manager like this is to leave as quick as possible. There will be somebody who appreciates you as an employee. I was tempted to write a letter of my experience working there to corporate but decided not to. How she treated me directly shows what kind of person she is.
You are right, it only gets worse and worse. Getting out of the toxic environment as soon as possible is the best possible solution. Glad you've already put that behind!
That is why i quit. He tried to treat me different. Then when i confronted him about it he tried to say he didn't think he treated me different. He only respects those who he benefits from and even when they walk away he talks a lot of crap
Such a toxic behavior! Of course he’d say that he wasn’t treating you different. Did you give him the specific cases when you felt so? I am so glad you managed to get out of there!
@@myemmotion yup. He asked me if i was quitting because if I thought he treated me different. I told him yea. He asked her though it was the job he had me do. But he had issues with everyone and always popped pills and i witnessed him do drops of cbd oil. So yea. He had just got that position. He's no good
@@Carlos-ms8zh If he already managed to spoil the professional environment and doesn't get along with anyone, he won't be lasting long in there. But the damage is done!
@@myemmotion update... I have found a job with a positive environment... Glad i made the decision to leave... People shouldn't be afraid of change because i am happy now
@@Carlos-ms8zh These are great news. I am happy for you Carlos, you deserve to be in a positive and respectful environment. And it's so important sharing this with others, so many people who suffer daily but are still undecided and are afraid of making the change.
I was very lucky. I dealt with an abusive boss for least 5 years. I did everything to report what she was doing and how she was treating everyone. But the upper echelons kept dragging their feet. We have three buildings in our campus and I had no choice except to remove myself from the position and go next door. But the abuse left scars. I'm now being treated like an adult and not being micromanaged. I'm spooked still and am trying to get used to being treated right. Sometimes you have no choice but to quit. We had a huge turnover in our building for the last 4 or 5 years. The revolving door is going at top speed because of her. AS far as I'm concerned she's a psycho. I wrote a letter to the Administrator and told him what was going on. I stood up for everybody. Just yesterday another person walked out. HELLO UPPER MANAGEMENT, WAKE UP!!!!!
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. The thing is when it comes to an issue like this, no matter how psycho the manager/boss is, it’s a no win situation. You can complain about it to top management but the manager will always be favoured! In my case, the whole department wrote a letter to the company owner, on how abusive and unprofessional our manager was and NOTHING was done. I don’t mean to be pessimistic, it’s just a very realistic approach. You did right by leaving as soon as possible!
My favorite type of toxic boss is the one that acts like they listen to feedback then proceed to ignore any possible criticism and or suggestion to improve the workplace. Because they don't do anything problems arise and they are not only confused but angry there were any problems with the work given to begin with...
Lol I just left my job and it’s the best feeling ever. Honestly the most toxic environment and every employee would leave after a one week. Especially some of my coworkers would projects their frustrations and belittle you.
People tend to get sucked into toxic work environments and the more they stay, the harder is getting out of it. I am so glad you managed to do so. I can definitely relate to the feeling :)
I have a boss that talks down to everyone and nobody is better than him. Emails are beyond disrespectful and unprofessional but hey he’s the boss and he knows everything. He speaks over you, never lets you talk and even tells you “I already know what you’re going to say”. It’s amazing how the false presentation of bringing you on the team soon becomes a reality of running for the hills.
I can definitely relate to everything you are describing. It is very clear that you are not going to be happy in the position under his management. The best idea is leaving as soon as you find another option because things tend to get worse and more intense.
I'd been out of the workplace for a long time, and had the worst time attracting horrible bosses of late. I've had to walk away from a job today because the female boss was a mean spirited, downright nasty cow, who made me feel like crap in front of another lass working there. I'm too old to put up with that, so I just let her have it...LOL
Hi Jane, I honestly think you've made the right decision. Being belittled and ridiculed should not be put up with, it isn't good for our emotional health. Best of luck!
Thanks my dear. It really upset me that I had to give her a telling off, but in the end, I realized if I'd put up with another shoddy excuse for a boss, it would've finished me off.
Cheers :) I'm determined to stay my happy, upbeat self, as I'm usually the kind of person who always smile, even in the dourest of situations. Thanks for being so kind as to answer back as well, you're obviously committed to making a positive difference, and this is wonderful. Hugz. Xxx
Thank you, I just put my 2 week notice at my job. It was killing my soul, the bosses were horrible and had anger issues, guess what I’m not dealing with their bs. I’m out before the ship sinks!
I’ve worked at a company for 3 years and I’ve had positive reviews from multiple Managers. Manager now says passive aggressive comments about me in meetings, micromanages and literally freaks out whenever an issue comes up. I work in fast paced job where things are constantly changing, but whenever anything goes wrong she freaks. I had employees come up to me and warn me when they heard I was being moved to her team. I have to fight tooth and nail to prevent it from getting to me.
Your manager seems to be intimidated by you (and your capabilities). Does she only act like this towards you? Is there a chance to get a transfer to any of your previous teams?
Watch out for performance reviews posted on the companies computer without your knowledge or consent without your feedback or ability to make comments on the review for items or statements made a out you. I was leaving a job due to a toxic manager. Before leaving, I went into my corporate H/R information I had access to where the reviews were, and found one. When contacting human resources, it was discovered the review was posted after giving my two week notice. The review was an attempt to smear me by a toxic, and insecure leader.
Was there a manager during her transfer? What happened to this person? It always strikes me how the companies fall into the trap and keep these most awful managers, but let go real leaders and professionals.
EMMOTION by Marat the other guy was great. He told me one night they wanted someone who would be like her. Then he gets fired not long after that and they bring her back.
I am really glad for you also, very smart decision, because toxic environment only destroys you emotionally! It probably felt good giving your notice :)
I work with a lawyer, everything I say to her gets twisted into something I didn't say and her making me out to be a bad person like nothing I do is good enough. I transformed the whole unit, organized and created databases because the department was not functioning properly (not part of my job). Everyone else is so amazed by all the things I do for the company but she treats me shit and talks down to me. I tried talking to her about a work assignment last week and again she twisted my words. It's easy for people to say leave and trust me, I can't wait to, but I have a family to feed and bills to pay. This video is very helpful.
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. Leaving is not an option unless you have another job lined up. Stick to being as professional as you can, focus on everything you do daily and on surviving. Sooner or later things will start changing or another opportunity comes up!
Having experienced a toxic boss myself makes me easily empathize and understand others in similar situations. It's not an easy period of time to go through, sometimes it takes a while to recover from such awful treatment. I am honestly grateful for an opportunity to contribute and help, even if just a tiny bit.
@@Carlos-ms8zh There is the video on How to Deal With a Toxic Boss. This one is about Staying Happy and Positive no matter what: ruclips.net/video/dhrHUlTqI5U/видео.html. Perhaps I should make a follow up on how to handle the toxic environment or toxic people.
You should definitely have a certain strategy of dealing with it and looking for a job at the same time. You are very welcome! Thank you for your kind and motivating feedback, it inspires me to do more videos!
This is explaining literally my previous manager, they were so professional and caring that when I put my two weeks in, they told me to just pack my stuff and leave on the spot.
I just started a job with a company and my boss is like this. He has noooooo idea what he is doing when it comes to management of his people. On top of that he’s so busy he misses things constantly.
I’m not sure because I just started here. I’m working for a contracting agency I’m in Ohio, my boss is in MD, his bosses are in Florida. By the 3rd day I could tell I was working in a toxic company (contracting employees to another toxic company). So I have already submitted my resumes elsewhere. I have 14 years experience in my profession and can’t do my job successfully without a good working relationship. My boss told me to not talk to my partners at our customer company.
@@SK22000 I can definitely relate to what you are saying, there is no reason to keep going back to a place where you are not being treated well. You've already experienced the signs of a toxic environment, but the next days should be giving you more information on everything. Meanwhile keep applying for other roles and stay positive!
Very good informative video ecperienced this with boss and the allied coworkers. I quit that job, they wanted to belittle me, stress me../ nightmare/ got depression and suicidal. Now trying to heal
I am so sorry to hear that, Sofia. Sometime I feel like those angry, bitter and toxic people do not even realise how horrible their actions can be, and how deep is the impact on other people's lives. I am glad you are in a better place. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself, that is the first step in a recovery. Soon the pieces will fall back into place. I am wishing you the best of luck!
@@myemmotion Thank you so much Marat. Yes, they are probably too caught up in their own agendas to think how deep the consequences can be, it was infected like a game of ludo, so there were people leaving before me, bad leadership and letting kids run the place. Yes I'm safe now. I will do my best to be kind to myself and take care TY for kind wishes, I'm on my way to be whole and me☆ great channel glad I found it!
I am very happy to hear that. You will definitely do well and this experience will serve you in the future. Keep me updated on how everything is going and thank you for your warm words!
First they take some time to learn things about you, to be able to influence on you better. Then once the nightmare starts your priority should be getting out of there because such bosses do not change. Best of luck!
I'm a seafarer on profession, I have a master just like this. All the qualities that was mentioned was on him. They are type of person who only think of himself always perfect w/o flaws. He always said he had enough money if he stop working,but at the age of 60 still making life of co-workers on board miserable. Not just toxic,I think also a narcissist.
I definitely know what you are saying, it's this constant need of acting superior to others, making them feel like they do everything wrong and keeping work environment tense at all times. My theory is that they are really unhappy, no matter what they say, they are.
I don't have a "bad" manager, per say- she isn't mean or manipulative, and she helps out when its needed. But whenever I talk to her, I never feel she's looking at me as a person- rather, a mere asset to be worked to death that has no life outside the workplace and nothing else going on in their life.
That is very common. Some of these people are impossible to be with through their lives in general, hence they tend to have very little personal life and the expect others live to work as well.
@@myemmotion Right now, my biggest problem is school. I'm a full-time college student, and I gave my managers a schedule with the days and times, but every week I'm scheduled to work during at least one class, and every time I try to change it, it's an issue with them. I would understand if it wasn't for the fact that one of the reasons I applied for that job was that they told me they were very flexible and easy to work with college students, and so far its been anything but.
@@wd3185 You are not asking something impossible. They made it clear they are flexible before you started the job, they can't do completely the opposite once you are working there.
Spot on Marat ! I worked for a inexperienced power tripped boss who reflected all these characteristics and many more. He played mental mind games by never communicating clearly, was technically clueless and didn't provide any direction or clarity, withheld information for power and to look good in meetings, yet nerve failed to steal credit for my independent work efforts. He was toxic and made me hate going to work and do the job that I once loved dearly. Approaching my manager for help was even more tragic as he was very manipulative in convincing her that I was wrong and that he provided all support. The gaslighting that followed was the worst part and made me realize that it is impossible to win against toxic bosses who have power as they thrive in being manipulative and snake like. I was soo relieved the day I was let go and was finally able to breathe properly after 8 horrific months. I have clear conscience and zero regrets despite being made the scapegoatz, as I was very honest and dedicated to my job. I hope and pray that karma will do it's job.
I am so sorry you had to go through such a toxic and traumatic experience. These people ruin not just careers but personal lives as well. Glad you are out of that toxicity, as you said, there is NO win situation EVER. So the less time you spend there, the better! Let karma do the rest!
I worked for a family owned gym for 3 years. The owners moved to California “last minute” from New York and left the team leader in charge who only became increasingly condescending and petty as time went on. The owners are only partially in the pic now and do other projects. I was working 52 hour weeks and anytime I said no I was told I didn’t do enough. This is only the tip of the iceberg. I finally left but the mental and physical fatigue as well as getting micromanaged left it’s mark.
It is indeed so frustrating going from a good place to work to a completely toxic surrounding, but it happens each time toxic management takes over. The good thing is that you are out of that place and it all going to get better, give it time. After having rested and regained your confidence, you'll be working with motivation again.
Oh believe me, I definitely know what it feels like. One feels helpless and it takes guts to actually identify what's going on and do something about it.
My boss at the hardware store. He had taught me stuff and nearly smacked my hand with a tool for fixing the wheel barrel which I did not build. Once I fixed it or once I did something for them, no complements were given from him. The next encounter that I met him is when I was walking around the aisles to check if customers needed help within the store, he walks up and said I didn’t do anything, I told him that I was walking around to assist the customers, but he didn’t believe me. He gave me a job with the nuts and bolts aisle where I have to find them one out of a million places which most of them were impossible to find since people leave their originals here. The other day I had nothing to do but multitask with stocking and going outside to help customers and fill propane. He walks up to me and says that I didn’t do anything. He even said I had to be certified to do propane while he was cool with others, and yet they weren’t certified either. Then he kept making a death stare at me when he came back on break, I was walking to put the nuts and bolts back, he followed me there. I was having a hard time finding the bolts to where they belong, then I put one back. My boss was not satisfied one bit, and I said I costed him 8 cents a minute. He then told me that I had to be fast as possible at stocking which he or his sons should’ve told me about once I got hired. He then terminated me after this and had no use for me while his sons did have place for me, it wasn’t enough for him. And the guy was 83 years old too.
I really do not understand people who hire someone just to put them on a constant watchlist and constantly blaming them for every single thing they do, without teaching them how to do it. Of course, we can never get along and understand everyone, but there is no need to make someone's life miserable. I am glad you are out of there!
In many cases all that toxic attitude is their way to compensate for all the insecurity, lack of leadership and knowledge. Putting down others makes them feel better with themselves.
Don't give them the satisfaction. Play the same game they're playing with you if they're not being honest. Trust this. Don't be immature, the more mature they see you the more they have to do next time to catch you. Then just laugh about how much effort they put into catching you rather than doing their Job. Managing the Store? I don't think so lol
I absolutely love this advice! And I completely agree, the best thing is not giving them even more power by constantly seeming affected. However, we both know that the positions are not equal and that it isn't a fair game! As the time goes by, the employee gets more worn out and eventually the stress and pressure make it a hell. And that's when the exit strategy is a must!
How long do you think it takes to ... 'feel normal' after you leave a terrible, toxic, and demeaning work environment? Any resources to recommend? Thank you
There is no exact “getting over” timing, however when you start letting it go, when the bitterness, sad and negative memories are replaced with some self-love and forgiveness, it means you are already over the “sensitive” period. I’d recommend doing things which make you feel happy and good about yourself, watching or reading some self-help material. Building back your confidence and leaving “your fears” behind. Best of luck and let me know if you need any other advice!
I used to think that it was my problem, that I couldn't find a way to handle this situation now I know that there is nothing I could do about this evil person!
Lara O'neal, Thank you so much for your kind words! I've been there, I know how it feels like, so the least I can do is to try helping others going through the same. Have a wonderful start of the week and best of luck!
I am suffering with a toxic boss right now... It's a terrible situation. If I leave, I'll be unemployed. Only choice is suffer super, super high stress at work all day every day.
I am sorry to hear that and I really hope the situation gets better soon. There is a piece of advice in this video, maybe it could help: ruclips.net/video/xowzSUKLuag/видео.html
Which is why it is so important to choose a new job according to how you feel about your future manager. Otherwise it eventually gets emotionally draining, aside from not feeling motivated at the job. Are you still under toxic management?
@@myemmotion yes very much so but I dont have access to a good job market without moving to another state and that's nearly impossible to do on minimum wage. It's gotten so bad I've ended up in therapists offices. I've been abused very badly by boss's supervisors, managers. I've been called names, belittled, harassed. When your a minimum wage employee. You're invisible.
@@teeny700 There is always an option, nothing is worth going through something like that. While you continue working there, you should go through all the possible exit options. And if you have to move, you should. Your happiness and well being is above it all. Best of luck and hope things get much better soon!
Toxic is very danger. I became toxic like my boss and just think it's just normal critic until I found this video. and I realize oh my God, what I've done to my family.
How to Spot a Toxic Boss (Signs of a Bad Manager) - Thanks a lot for watching my video! What has been YOUR experience with toxic management and toxic work environment?
SharePoint Developer, believe me I tried different methods. There is nothing which would work 100%, each case is quite different. But it all comes down to doing anything to not be in touch with "the toxicity" anymore.
Yes, I have toxic boss and currently in search for new job. How can I identify toxic boss from interview stage? I am a big fan of your videos, thanks for the amazing content.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I think you are doing the right think by working on your exit strategy. It's very complex knowing what to expect for sure, but I mention some of the red flags in this video: ruclips.net/video/VUK_AK-YKtg/видео.html Best of luck and keep me update how the job search goes!
@@myemmotion thanks for the advice, I am here to inform you that I found a new job 😊, I do agree it may be difficult to identify the toxic boss, however this time the expectations from the interview stage are clear and workable, thanks a lot 💐😘😘 you are amazingly helpful, you may also post in LinkedIn, lot of people will benifit from your wealth of knowledge 😊
I am not surprised at all, trust me, all of us who experienced toxic management and know how it feels like, know all the signs and symptoms very well. Thanks a lot for your feedback! When are you planning to quit? I am wishing you best of luck my friend!
My boss from a thrift store I worked at was so inconsistent. She told me it was a laid back workplace, but when she saw I was a hard and good worker, she pushed me to reach goals she didn't care about when I hired in. I quit after two weeks because of her inconsistency. A contract becomes null and void to me when someone goes back on their word, so I quit. She would also ask questions and when I gave answers say she wasn't asking all of a sudden.
Atleast u know when u gotta work. My boss is like "no work today" every second time and then doesnt even tell me when i gotta work except 2h before that shift
Congratulations on being featured in one of the questions on Tellwut.com. Sadly, a lot of the qualities you mentioned are what my coworkers are doing towards me and our department. I'm not sure how to proceed as the bosses don't really seem to care (they just focus on the numbers). I have high stress, anxiety, and loathe working with them. *Sigh*
Thank you, I had no idea about the Tellwut feature. Regarding your situation, it's very clear that toxic places have a very little solution. You should follow your gut and leave that place until your health is seriously in danger. Best of luck and keep me updated!
@@myemmotion - I am on a medical leave currently. Sadly, I love the company and many of the bosses. It's just the coworkers and customers that make it dreadful. I have been thinking about transferring to a different department.
Kaushik Mukundan Most bosses are horrible people unfortunately, I don’t think they are nasty people really but a bit of power goes to their head and boom.
@@myemmotion There "favorites" are the dullard lemmings who are paid less than the long time, loyal workers and don't "outshine" the narcissist manager (who probably got the job with a fake BS degree).
I currently work at a Lowes as a cashier/customer service associate. I had planned to work my way up but the work culture is so toxic that that plan has been thrown out the window a d I spend my nights applying for new jobs. The managers have horrible attitudes. This isn’t my opinion. Lowe’s requires that items that are being sold on clearance significantly below original value to be screened by a manager. We are not trusted to process the transactions ourselves. This would be fine, but it is routine for managers to stroll up to our station fifteen to twenty minutes after we have called for their help. I had one customer who waited thirty minutes to buy a potted plamt. This store is losing business because of the horrible attitudes of management. I no longer apologize to customers on behalf of the store. I usually laugh together with the customer at how horrible the customer service is.
That is so awful. Eventually toxic management is slowly killing the business. Is there anyone to talk about this or to report this to? And it's completely understandable that you've switched into survival mode, unless these people are removed from the management positions, nothing is going to chance around there. So the sooner you find another job, the better!
This was very helpful, thank you for posting. When you stop and think about it employers pay US for OUR TIME, should they really spent it in toxicity? certainly not.
That's absolutely true. There is no reason of putting up with it, unless it's really necessary for a certain amount of time. You are very welcome, hope things at work improve very soon!
I resigned as a Trustee because the chair was running the Charity corrupt with no Treasurer no Vice Chair and no proof of financial records of their 2021 accounts. I reported it to the Charity Commission in London .
Even when you seek medical attention, they treat you as though you committed a crime. They think they have any legal right to penalize you when you are legitimately on medical leave.
Thank you for sharing it and I am really happy that you are quitting. Keep me updated on how it goes. Hope you are in a healthier and happier environment very soon!
Yesterday i got yelled at by my boss in front of 15 ppl and threatened to check the cameras all cuz I accidentally forgot to clock in for break. Also its my first week of this job.
Personally speaking how someone speaks and treats others shows you their home education. I hope people who are experiencing these toxic bosses go through the right channels. No matter how angry you get verbally or physically never touch your boss even at times it’s tempting to do so. Never break the law. If you are going though the right channels and nothing is getting done then it’s time to turn other the page (look for a new job) it’s very important to look after your mental health and always remember you’re not your job. If you happen to be reading this, don’t let the world change your smile. You know your value 🙏🏻❤️
Leads 'witch hunts' ...I was targeted not long ago in a meeting, and my manager just sat there and watched it...it's called passive participation...he could have stopped it...but he didn't
Thanks for sharing this- but how long can one wait to know if boss is willing to change his character or not? What is the practical waiting time before quitting job for such reasons?
Bosses like that won't change. They might appear different from time to time but only when it's necessary to them. It's all down to how you feel about it and how long you can put up with it while looking for another job!
I have a new leader, that tried to tell myself and another employee that we were chatting. I said, I was explaining to the new person that they need to lock up an item in their cart and it was important, not chit chat. I tried to say it as firmly as possible hey, I am doing my job and you are mis understanding what is going on as politely as possible. I have learned to stand my ground and be respectful in those kind of situations. I never let a boss treat me like I am not doing what I am supposed to.
You have done the right thing. Every relationship is based on respect, if you respect you should be respected back. Otherwise it's not a place for you to stay at.
I work at a small variety store and I was once told to dust some shelves. Well, I started at the bottom to give my legs a break (I have horrible feet and legs), not thinking it would be too much of a problem. Well, one of the managers started laughing at me, because she said that all the dust would go to the shelves below. She even asked me if I knew how gravity worked. And here's the thing, I was using Windex, so the dust was sticking to the paper towel.
I'm living this nightmare now. I actually felt suicidal because of this boss. I have been with this company for 17 years and may have to leave because she wrights me up for EVERYTHING. she takes screenshots of all of my Emails. and pops me for private conversations. in the break room I might add. I received my first Disciplinary discussion ever from this boss.
It's been a long time and seems like this person knows exactly what buttons to push to hurt you and to destabilize you the most. The best thing you can do is keeping it all business and working your way out of there. Hope things get better very soon!
My coworker just quit and all of the employees at my job but me left. Guess what happened when my coworker quit ? My boss blamed EVERYTHING on my coworker. Also my boss goes from praising to criticizing me for everything. My boss use to be cool and we got along but not anymore. He also is losing customers too and is trying to get more customers.
Oh that's so common! Always blaming people who are not in the company. I see it at every other workplace. Why? Because it's comfortable and because there are so many who enjoy a "blame game" and would never acknowledge their mistakes!
EMMOTION by Marat My boyfriend told me to quit but I need money for bills and of course my boss gave me a raise to do almost everything myself and take his shit.
@@TheLeah2344 I understand what you mean. It is very clear that this isn't the place you should be at on a long term. But you need the money and so you have to survive while searching for a new role. I've given a few more advice on dealing with a toxic boss on this "newer" video : ruclips.net/video/xowzSUKLuag/видео.html Hope it is more bearable once you set your mind to it and keep me updated on how it goes!
Do you have a Toxic Boss? To deal with a toxic management and to get out of a toxic work environment check this playlist out: ruclips.net/video/4TFkwsBA9Ws/видео.html
I was reading some of the other comments here, and this is very saddening that these Bosses today who act so hateful and evil, they don't realize the true source of their wealth, comforts and luxuries they get to enjoy because they have Staff. But it is only for so long that You can mistreat and abuse your Staff til one day you may end up with no Staff. These are some really sad stories I been reading here in the comment section and you can add my terrible experiences in along with these because there is evil where I work at and one of these Bosses are just the most arrogant and a bully.
@@selenarobinson1493 Hi Selena, I am sorry to read that you are going through such moment at work. It is definitely demotivating and makes one doubt their own capabilities. Hope you are already looking into an exit strategy.
I think through the past years we've started calling out these behaviors more often and some companies are now working a lot harder on their employer's brand, making sure that there is a healthy leadership within the company. But it's all a process and it's going to take a while until the change can be seen in all industries.
Yes... My like to embarrassed me Infront of my friends and like to put a high volume tone on me. I'm being used by her.i feel so workedup ...
@@shehulkgreen833 I hope you manage to take the right steps and eventually get out of there!
@@myemmotion right now I'm still working at my place while working I keep finding other job...I feel mixed emotional cause I being sincerely help her but what I'll get in returned disrespect manner. I believe in karma and karma will come...I can't say much things as for now but a few of my friends noticed it the way how she react toward me. Hopefully I get a better job n pay in future. Since SHE Gave me full of excuses when I for my increment pay. I been working so hard n I been working for my company 5years. No one speak up for me n put a good words for me.
The worst toxic bosses are small business owners who think they own you and have godlike power over your life!
That's very true, but it happens in huge enterprises also. When too much responsibility is given to an incompetent "professional".
I think the family run ones are the worst - you know they're talking about you at their dinner table.
Preach brother! So true
they think u need them to survive and must submit to there awful and cruel torture without u saying or doing anything
Lord Forlorn omg yeeeeeees !!!!!!!!!
WHY is it so hard to be a normal person and treat people with respect? I think people change in a really bad way once they have access to POWER
It does influence many people, unfortunately.
Well, according to one of the replies we had in these videos, this manager just enjoys feeling the employee's fear, some bosses consider that it makes the employee's productive. It is indeed a very destructive way of thinking.
It is good to talk about it on here as I find issues like this get good replies on YT. I once started a thread about bad bosses on a forum and I got met with silence.
I think people try staying away from such topics until it happens to them. Once it does, the level of empathy makes a drastic change. I think most of us, who had been in a similar situation before, know what a tough and delicate moment it is, and know that there are not many options to get away from the awfully toxic environment and boss.
I actually enjoyed reading the opinions from the bosses’ perspective too. It seems some indeed have no idea what an impact such treatement causes over the employee’s life in general.
there are nice people in charge too sometimes
They manipulate the team against each other too
That too, very true. I should have added it to the list as well. Thanks :)
true they don't like when people get along!
Marcos Perez accurate! 🎯🎯🎯
YES!!!
Its hard for them to see the team getting along
Guys I am so proud of myself! I just quit, my boss is toxic
Congratulations! That is indeed something to be proud of, you made it out and I am sure you'll be seeing the positive changes in no time :)
I'm happy for you! I'm trying to figure out my work future.
Congrats!
@dodongai
I agree. Managers who work in rich White neighborhoods are the worst. They favor others while targeting the rest. Never trust rich and privileged people in power! They don't care about you, costumers, or clients, they care about money and their reputation as
That a way!. Did you realize it was okay?.
Toxic behavior from a boss is usually the result of insecurity. They are insecure in their own competence so they go out of their way to sabotage and demoralize their team. They don't want people on their team to grow or possibly outshine them. A toxic boss's only priority is self preservation.
Self preservtation actualy makes a perfect sense. And it could definitely be the case for many toxic management situations. They are bitter and arrogant with their team in general, but they demoralize those who stand out, who could potentially outshine them, especially if they are not easily manipulated.
absolutely true
they are very insecure I do agree
This is so true
sounds like the goblin
Bosses that abuse their power have serious issues with themselves, it's them that's the problem, no solid person feels the need to belittle, demoralize and suck the life out of people,
I absolutely agree. I am not exactly sure if a person like that has always been abusive to others or they become corrupted and intoxicated by power as the time goes by? It could be an interesting topic to investigate.
Really? How did you find out? It's like he's been trying to make the employees pay for the past traumas.
I have seen nice people turn bad due to gaining power over people.
+RandomVideoCircus Bosses like this only speak abusive to subordinates. They tend to grin & smile in the faces of their superiors. I'm skeptical of people who act like this and I only interact with them about business-related matters. Never trust them with any personal information.
That is 100% truth. Even if you don't trust them any personal information, they will still find things to bring up about you behind your back and try cause damage just for the sake of it. Toxic boss and toxic subordinates go hand in hand.
I quit my job a week ago. Now moving on. I used to cry on a Sunday evening. Not a good sign...
I am so glad you quit! There is so much more to life rather than feeling miserable at work during most of the time!
Me too
Glad you escaped, having experienced something similar, it drains you completely- emotionally and physically...but once I was no longer subjecting myself to unhappiness, my life finally made a happy turn
Glad you escaped, having experienced something similar, it drains you completely- emotionally and physically...but once I was no longer subjecting myself to unhappiness, my life finally made a happy turn
France Clémence Fradet same for me, I finally resigned
This describes my situation with 100% accuracy. I wake up with anxiety every day, and even when I work extra without pay it’s met with criticism. Every conversation feels demoralizing no matter how much I work and my mental health has taken a nosedive.
I am really sorry you are going through this right now. Your mental health is definitely not worth taking on toll on, no job is worth making such sacrifices. How long have you been working there for?
I made a few videos on how to deal with a toxic situation at work, just in case if you need a further advice. Best of luck!
I just left a job like that as well. When I was asked why I was leaving and I disclosed that I felt that the work culture was toxic and abusive, they became more toxic and abusive.
Happened to me. Developed major depression because of it. Don't get to that point.
I just quit my job Friday. Cant wait until my 2 weeks are up. I have a nasty boss who micro manages me!
Great decision! You could feel sensitive at first, but believe me it is a huge relief and soon the confidence is back to you 100%. Take it one step at a time, you are on a right track!
This is happening to me currently. She is a bitch.
I know exactly how it feels like. Try keeping it positive, not letting it ruin everything else, but at the same time do your best to make a change (area, department, job). Don’t stay in a toxic environment for a long time.
It must feel terrible
MichelleVa 77 omg same here
I am tired of toxic people
I can imagine.
who's not? but we still have to deal with them.
But its just so unnecessary what is a point of making other people’s life miserable?
I assume some people actually enjoy it.
I'm thinking that they're gaining confidence somehow
My boss... never tells you when you're working hard and doing well yet make one small mishap and they're on you like a flash!
That is so typical. You never hear anything positive or motivating coming from them.
So true.
Spot on! I am quitting tomorrow for these exact reasons. Such a drain and anxiety all the time! Someone who wasnt qualified enough was put into this position and shes making all of the team want to leave with her dictatorial and dismissive manners. Pitty that shes a product of the company and gets support from above.
That is the thing. These unqualified employees eventually damage companies with their terrible management skills by demotivating everyone so they can’t enjoy their job anymore, generating constant turnover and so much more.
However the companies are actually the ones responsible of giving such power to awful managers, they might eventually realise their mistake but usually when it’s too late.
Courage, Eugenia. I am glad you are off for a new start. It will also make you appreciate many aspects on your future professional life. Good luck!
so emotionally draining
best decision to finally quit
I hope you are doing well now and have prospered
This video is SPOT ON. I quit after 46 days. Anytime somebody is condescending in voice tone coupled with disrespectful body language (ie. think shoulder shrugging, eye-rolling, etc., while they speak down to you) that makes you feel belittled, constantly and daily, it's time to go. Verbal/emotional abuse on any level is not acceptable from any supervisor(s). When you start to feel everyday stress, the physical aches and pains that go along with it and you dread going to work, there's your sign. Always give two weeks notice unless, you feel so stressed that physically and emotionally you hurt, it's time to go. Save yourself. Stress can kill you.
You did the right thing and I completely agree with "saving yourself". The more you stay, the more damage is being done to your physical and emotional health.
I am sorry about the experience you had to go through, the good thing is that you managed to get out of there relatively fast!
My god. I worked 6 months at a place that felt like this every freaking day. Once I had a dream that I was on the train and heard some gunshots nearby. Every passenger started running as the doors opened but I stayed as is. When I woke up, I was not "relieved" but more scared of the possible day to come.
I can't believe I went through it for 6 months.
I was a nervous wreck on account of a toxic boss!! And I am so glad that I don't work there anymore!!! I quit working there a long time ago and I feel better healthwise!!!!
I know how it feels very well. When your boss is toxic, it becomes a NO WIN situation, no matter what you do, you'd be the one to lose. And of course, forget about any longevity within the company while this person is around. The best thing is to make the toxic period as short as possible.
It also takes time to remember and to talk about it, to recognise how certain things affected us.
It is like taking a big weight off your shoulders
Marcos Perez Exactly!!
Hi MasterYumi. I apologize, I've missed your post. I hope things have gotten easier already. Not sure if you are still at the same company or you've already changed, but the whole experience should be a learning experience which serves us for the rest of our lives.
MasterYumi, I am very happy to hear that. As long as you can manage tolerating it for a while, without getting too envolved on the emotional level. And 4 years is more than enough to learn everything you need at the job, once you have your degree it is going to do you well to start a new experience. To continue growing and to be in a healthier environment.
Thanks for your kind words! Wishing you best of luck and keep us updated :)
Bad management and bad bosses, can ruin a workplace and turn it into a sinking ship
That's very true. I have seen some brilliant professionals leaving the company due to toxic management and environment.
Happening to mine as we speak 8 people have left within 1 1/2 months...I'm next I can feel it coming and she is gonna hear what grandma died for before I walk out of that door
@Tom Jardine
Also, never trust a boss/employer from a rich white neighborhood. Rich and privileged people in power don't care about you, costumers, or clients: they just care about their wallets being full.
You got that right 😂
I once had a toxic boss...a terrible experience. It is better to switch the job because your life turns very complicated. And true, sometimes you don't even see it or notice it. Thank you my friend.
I am sorry to hear that. Such experiences, just like all others, change us and make us think different. Thanks for your feedback, I appreciate it!
yeah sometimes the pressure is so bad that you can't even understand why it feels so bad
good luck
My boss is exactly all mentioned in the video, thank you so much for the eye-opener.
You are very welcome! I definitely know what you are going through, stay positive!
they are all the same, aren't they
Yes
I have thought sometimes that it was my problem but it wasn't
true words indeed
@@emmsummer7811 They always make their best to make it look like "the problem is yours". When you do your job, complete your tasks in a responsible way, no one has a right to bully and belittle you.
The boss who creates toxic work environment is a worst thing to happen for the team and the company
Hopefully they will get what they deserve
I absolutely agree!
90sFan I remember our old boss, who was a pleasure to work with. He got demoted, and new manager took over and made the place a sinking ship
Tom Jardine - That was exactly what happened at my job and at our company. Thankfully I am now out of there, I am in contact with my previous manager, we've even managed to become friends and share an office. Each of us doing our own thing, of course. I say karma exists!
Agree
Amin
I can relate that's is one of the main reasons people are becoming entrepreneurs and working for themselves i personally can not stand those who abuse their power/authority being around people like that makes me cringe tip for people who have a boss like this try to get out as quickly as you can be around someone like that will lower your energy and kill your spirit no amount of money is worth dignity and self respect
Seems like we are on the same page with this subject. I have always thought the same way and after such energy and life draining experience of sharing an office space with a toxic boss, I decided to go for entrepreneurship.
It is also extremely sad how some people need to feed their ego and make themselves feel good by bringing others down, downgrading their work and their skills, treating them like trash. I do believe that karma will bite them right back. In my ex-manager's case it already did and it seems like just the beginning.
I agree 100% that behavior comes from insecurity and fear if they feel like they gotta degrade others to make themselves feel better either they were bullied from a strict environment or their just power hungry self centered A**holes
It could be a reason for that. Maybe some bullied people feel like they need a revenge once they get to power, you would think going through tough times makes people more human.
EMMOTION by Marat yes it's ridiculous but a leader would never degrade his/her employees they encourage motivate and enspire them that is someone i want to work with not someone who bullies their workers and talk down on them those are what we call narcissists things are changing it won't be like this forever.
My boss displays every characteristic in this video. He is a narcissistic and cold bastard. At first I thought I was doing something wrong until I realized that there was nothing I could do to get his approval. I work in the automotive field and he has made me feel like I have no influence in the company. Every week he takes away more and more of my hours, and will not allow me to take on any jobs where I can demonstrate my skill set. He doesn't know anything about cars and yet he tries to tell me how to do my job. Whenever I suggest something he dismisses it. I work as fast as I possibly can and he says I'm not productive enough. In his mind, everything I do is wrong, and its his mission to criticize me even when I haven't done anything wrong. It's people like him that ruin the automotive field as well as other markets. I can see now why many people are looking into entrepreneurship. People are tired of having horrible bosses screw them over.
Everything that you have mentioned are the tools of how bad and toxic managers make themselves feel better and more important. I know exactly how you feel like, I know how it feels like going from a top performer into someone who, according to his boss, "never gets anything right". It is such a huge emotional abuse and a self esteem destroyer.
There is not a lot you can do except for planning your exit and making it happen. Because even if you accept the situation and continue working, eventually your mental health will be suffering, you might end up questioning your own abilities. And that is the last thing we want. You have done nothing wrong, don't fill your thoughts with negativeness or self-defeating!
It is curious you mention entrepreneurship, having gone through this experience made me put the corporate life aside. Have you gone through possible options of other jobs or of becoming a freelancer?
EMMOTION I admit, I've thought about it. I've come to the conclusion that if an individual like myself has dealt with bad bosses day in and day out, maybe it's time to become my own boss
Of course it is never black or white, there are so many bosses that can make one grow, be supportive and empowering. However once you get across to someone so corrupt by power and toxicity, our personal vision of career values and goals changes a lot.
Good luck, Daniel. Deal with this situation with a lot of patience, this experience could also serve you as an eye opener, to make the right moves.
my boss would pretend to be nice and cool. but he does not give a crap, he puts on a act as this cool boss but would always avoid performance analysis by lying over and over. he said I would receive a raise or at least a performance review every six months during the interview. but when the time comes, he would just tell me that he is very busy. sure I can have a beer with him but when I work for him I feel like a slave. I quit this morning.
Good decision. It’s pointless to continue when you have been lied to over and over, especially if you are feeling “like a slave” at work. Being nice and cool is not about grabbing a beer after work, it’s about listening to the team and helping them grow. Best of luck!
best decision
@@emmsummer7811 Except when that decision would leave you homeless and unable to pay bills.
Yeah because when you fall sick and depressed someone shows up to pay for your house and bills.
They are everywhere.. Change the job and you find them..Go anywhere we find them all over..
Wish we had some glasses to foresee and avoid..
so easy to go from being the best to being the worst thanks to a toxic manager and a bad work environment!
That’s very true!
idk. i think people who become bad bosses were always shit. they just flex it with the cover of their stupid titles.
Everything ur saying is true about the place I worked. You can feel the negative energy as soon as she enters the building. I’m gone as of Jan 31.
It’s really curious how their pattern works. No matter where in the world, no matter which company we are talking about, toxic behavior is very similar! It poisons all your plans and goals within the company. It is surely for the best that you are leaving. Stay strong during these 2 months :)
hope it's all in the past
I am sure she has moved on already! :)
i wonder if you got out
Walked out of my job of 5 years today. My boss would watch on the cameras excessively and micro manage to the point of no end. Calling throughout the day and brow beating people despite tasks being completed and always closing in the money. Many small business owners have a bit of a god complex. Left today and already have a new job. This video was great to watch after today! Much love. Dont kill yourself to live.
I loved reading your story. So glad that you made it out and with a new job already. Sometimes we are caught in a place, desperately trying to please our destructive management, that we indeed forget to live.
Hope you like the new job!
Just a few days into the new job and couldnt be happier. The money is equal to the last but the respect, gratitude, and appreciation alreasy shown is such a breath of fresh air. Thanks again! :)
@@kylemcquillan8917 That is great! Having been under a toxic leadership makes us value a healthy environment so much more. I hope it keeps getting better and you feel more comfortable with all the aspects of the new job. Best of luck!
Nice Video , good job
Warning Signs of a Toxic Boss
Passive Aggressive & Micro Managing
Thanks a lot! Micro management is a huge issue. With the next video I will be addressing ways of dealing with it.
EMMOTION Thank you so much 😍😍
You are very welcome!
Unfortunately we often meet toxic people in general and some of them can become bosses. So grateful for excellent advice.
I still haven't exactly figured out how it works. Some are toxic from the start, some become toxic with managerial responsibilities. Each case is a new story, but one thing which is in common, all those toxic managers cause a lot of damage in people's professional and even personal lives.
@@myemmotion sometimes it is HR who is more toxic than the head supervisor and most of them are known to throw a good worker under the bus just to save their own hides.
@@steveboone1498 HR has a lot of pressure from the top management and many times they do end up becoming completely biased and unfair.
My boss's favorite line......"I'm not trying to be an asshole, BUT..."
Haha! So he knows very well that he is being an asshole!
😂
My old boss said, am not petty but! My guess is you are petty and nasty but can’t admit it
@@forza223bowe5 so true they say exactly what they are
@@myemmotion exactly
I had a boss that purposely left me out of meetings and some gatherings. I was the new person and she played favorites with this one guy that I disliked. When my team had lunch without me my boss bragged how good the food was. She often went to lunch with her favorite manager while leaving us behind. She also gossiped right in front me as if I wasn't there. I'm glad I left and started my own business.
You are definitely so much better off from that place. Such type of toxic behavior will not change, she probably still is just as toxic. But you have moved on :)
I am currently going through the same, when I complain she says I have a victim mentality and it’s my fault I’m not included. I’ve been with the company 20 yrs, she’s been in our facility one year. I’m at a loss.
@@deniselee7290 that's such a warning sign them turning your concern around as if you are to blame then invalidating your feelings. These types love to gaslight and manipulate yet preach to others how they/place of employment should take accountability and grow though!!!!
High turnover is another sign - it's not the employees it's the boss. i had a section manager who hated another section manager. We had a meeting to resolve a situation between both areas, which turned into a shouting match between the two managers, quite embarrassing for all in attendance. I was stunned their minor differences turned into a screaming fest. Not surprised she got passed up twice because of this and her reputation preceded her. She was mean and abusive to me but that's another story. Worst boss ever but I've also had some great ones too.
High turnover is a clear red flag. Sometimes we hear about a reputation of certain companies but many times you are not aware of what is going on inside of the structure. Department managers who compete and openly dislike each other is definitely very toxic for the teams. No wonder that she was an abusive boss towards her subordinates.
turnover = toxic it's indeed confirmed!
@@stepinside My only solace is knowing she will die bitter and alone. This same boss yelled at me and pounded her fist on the table, after I missed one transaction out of over one hundred and twenty, which everyone including her knew took 2 days to process. Course that one transaction cleared without a problem the next day. She was also proud that she made everyone cry in the office, irked her to no end that she couldn't get that from me.
So unprofessional, cold and even heartless. I am not surprised that the turnover is high. I am glad you are doing your job and not letting this affect you!
Your boss can also make your work life unbearable and be abusive and even swear at you but if you said just one thing back to defend yourself they will say "Speak to me like that again I will have you in the office in front of the manager, and he will fire you". 99.9% of times the manager will take your boss's side over yours even if you are in the right and wanted to speak up about it. Being mistreated at work can make your life as a whole miserable.
What you are saying is absolutely true. In fact this is what happens in most of the cases, the chances of getting the company involved are close to zero. CEO/Directors Board will always put your boss first. After having worked in HR for year, I've seen many examples of this to happen, in fact it happened to me as well. So the best thing is to either leave the department, or leave the company.
Sometimes you wonder if the directors ask your boss to be like that to people, be forceful and pushy, they ask them to be hard on workers, meaning your boss has the full support of the management. Also toxic bosses can appear as good as gold to their bosses or to workers who dont work in their department. Others annoyingly say "he is a top bloke". Try working for them, you will soon disagree. That is why many people are going self employed, or they want to work in a job where they dont have to interact with people. I once worked for a boss who was OK at first but he started ignoring me for no reason, one comfort is he was like that to one or 2 others. One worker got on really well with that boss but that suddenly subsided and he began ignoring him. It is also annoying when bosses let their faves get away with things yet are harsh on the ones who are not his faves.
This is why toxic bosses usually do their best to get on with the CEO or other directors. However the truth always comes up and karma is a bitch!
That’s why you should always record any conversations you have with your boss. Also try to become friends with their manager. I’m good friends with my boss’s manager and he knows my boss is an asshole. Hell, he even warned me about my boss when I first started.
I have since found out that usually, promotion of people who then become toxic bosses usually brings out traits that were always there before they got promoted. Psychologists say that success does not change personality, more that it brings out their true self. The people who get promoted probably did always have intolerance issues and were impatient, just they never had much chance to use it before. So when they become a boss, their arrogance is more noticeable, and was always there.
You described my current boss exactly...every point. I would question my bias, but he has lost 40% of his experienced workers in only a year. He acts like people are replaceable, but the company is small...so everyone takes a hit when someone leaves.
Planning on leaving soon for more pay, less overtime, and less work. :)
I hope you do that and eventually people like that get what they deserve. There is no need to invest your efforts into a company which has zero appreciation for its employees. Best of luck!
Take it from me, leave asap!!! Unfortunately, I stayed...almost 11 years and then suffered a breakdown. I have been out of work due to symptoms of anxiety and depression for 6 months now. I left one night almost unable to drive home! That was it as I could not take it anymore! It's a government career and I'm fighting against him and his supporters for their abuse on me and others. I hope to save my career and move on but it may turn out that I will be fired. I have a government investigator looking at my case and I sent out emails to politicians since this witch hunt started from me being a whistle-blower after being forced to testify against my boss and his "crew"
Very painful and I am highly emotional. Not worth it so run like hell instead of staying like I did!!!!
I am so sorry to hear about it. It definitely seems like a very complicated and deeply emotional situation to go through. Toxic bosses are actually being fed by the employees' anxiety, stress and depression. It takes a lot of courage to stand up against this type of abuse at work, and I am very happy that you are making the right steps now. It will take time to detox from this but you will make it, you will also save your career and put it back on the track! Believe me, I am telling you this from experience.
Keep being brave and remember it is never too late to make the right choices. Your quality of life and well being comes first!
hope you are better now
Tee, God bless you. Hope things are going much better for you now. I am on the verge of a breakdown myself because my job and boss both are too overwhelming. Never had to deal with so much stress in all the years I've worked. Micromanagement, a boss who is mentally unbalanced (in a bad way)..I will be on my way out as soon as I find something else believe me.
My toxic boss fired me and it was one of the best days of my life!
Haha, that is definitely a great way of seeing it. I think there are a lot of people who would agree with you on this :)
Love it
@@emmsummer7811 It is indeed very motivating to read :)
I was laid off by a toxic boss, and had to hide my excitement at the prospect of leaving and collecting unemployment while looking for another job.
@@theresa78201 I feel you. I was so glad I could breath again, so glad I never had to see him
Reminds me of my old boss from my previous job. I thought I was the only one she could bullied, but realized she did this to other workers just before I left my job
Yes, they usually do it to many!
Sadly some people are really nice and reasonable..until they get promoted. Success often brings out the worst in people. One workmate of mine was a union convenor and was on our side and a nice chap. He then got made an area controller and he used bullying and blackmailing tactics to get what he wanted, also he threatened to sack half the people. He also said things like "Go faster OK, dont like it, you can piss off" to vulnerable workers. Another workmate who was a laugh got promoted and really threw his weight around and spoke to people like dirt.
I definitely know what you mean. I have seen it many times also, majority of people can’t handle success and promotion.
We need to admit that more responsibility is bond to bring an attitude change in some aspects, on professional level, but becoming rude, agressive and disrespectful is absolutely unnecessary for a better professional performance. I think the ones that act like that had always had these issues deep inside. Just as you mentioned, power brings out the worst in people.
I think good people stay good no matter what
I agree, but everyone goes through different phases.
I think people can remain good but I have seen good people turn bad. Often they get sudden authority, the sudden success turns them into a nasty person. Especially if it is one of your own colleagues.
I think deep down they know they are not acting the right way. However constant need of pleasing the management turns them into someone very different.
I've quit 2 jobs due to toxic boss. 1 job was full time with benefits. Both government jobs. Lots of assholes out there.
You'd think the government jobs are not as competitive and more flexible, but seems like it isn't true at all. Was it one after another?
I am sure there is a right project with a right team for you. Make sure to "desintoxícate", build back your confidence and positive spirit.
EMMOTION by Marat I worked full time as a child welfare Case Worker in a Human Services Department - mostly females; nasty bitches. 2nd job was police in a small town. Chief of Police was a bully. Wanted to punch him in the nose - went to a lawyer then quit ---- but where I live many places are toxic. There were other places I experienced but those 2 were bad
That’s awful, I really don’t understand the need of creating tensions and bad vibes in such environments. Especially at the Human Services Department. Some people just love to hate.
Same here ... I work for the government and hate my bosses. Makes it difficult to go to work, but have to stay so I won't lose my benefits😖
Solaprose, as long as you can prevent it from affecting your health. Because no money or benefits will get you a new one. Best of luck!
My last boss was like this. I was one of the few people that would say something to her if she was treating me unfairly and that's probably why I was on her bad side. I was working with one girl for my entire shift one day. She was putting clothes away from the fitting room and I was in the back of the store hanging the clothes. The girl I had been working with all day was putting the last clothes away but there was still a lot to hang. I said over the walkie talkie that once shes done putting the last clothes away maybe we could hang clothes together in the back. One of my managers came to the back and said something along the lines of "before you make suggestions I'll need you to run it by me first" she seemed pretty irritated and I never tried to disrespect her. My head boss who really didnt like me was on vacation at the time. The day she got back from vacation she called me to an area of the store and basically started accusing me of "disrespecting managers" I told her I talked to my other manager about it and I thought the issue was resolved to which she replied "well now I'M talking to YOU about it." Another day one of my managers told me to just change the price for customers at the register if they thought the cost of an item was within 10 dollars of a difference. One customer claimed he saw a sign for an item that was $50 less than what it was coming up as. I asked if I could get someone to check the sign and the same manager who told me to change the price of an item was within a $10 difference told me to change the price for him. I told her I didn't think I could do that because it was such a drastic difference. Later the same boss called me to the back office and said "you know when I talked to you about disrespecting my managers?" Another day at work there were very few shopping bags in the front of the store for customers to use. Normally if clothes are returned we put those clothes in the bags so we can bring them to the back of the store later. Because we were low on the bags I asked my manager over the walkie talkie what she'd like me to do with the piles of clothes on the ground because I knew we were low on the bags and assumed she didn't want me using them to put the returned clothes in. She said "by the way can you not say those types of things in front of the customers? I got pretty irritated and said.. "um sorry? I was asking for the customers." Later she tried to say "I just don't want you saying those things out loud because maybe customers don't know it's that bad but by you saying it you might be putting those thought into their head". Another incident happened at work as well. I'm normally the only cashier up front for the first five hours the store is open so I help a LOT of people during the day. My manager called me to the back randomly and told me to sit down. I sat in the chair beside her and she said "you're a little too close to me" with a very disgusted look on her face. I asked what she needed and she said "So I got a phone call a couple of hours ago from a customer saying that you made her extremely uncomfortable." I immediately was like sorry but I have literally zero idea what incident you're talking about. I asked her if she could describe what happened and she gave me no good answer. She just said "whether you remember or not it happened and that's all that matters". I told her "ok well it's kind of hard for me to prevent it from happening again if you can't even tell me what happened." She just said "I need you to be appropriate at work and not ask people about personal stuff such as their age etc". Once again, I could recall anything that happened similar to that during the day. My best advice to anybody who has a manager like this is to leave as quick as possible. There will be somebody who appreciates you as an employee. I was tempted to write a letter of my experience working there to corporate but decided not to. How she treated me directly shows what kind of person she is.
You are right, it only gets worse and worse. Getting out of the toxic environment as soon as possible is the best possible solution. Glad you've already put that behind!
That is why i quit. He tried to treat me different. Then when i confronted him about it he tried to say he didn't think he treated me different. He only respects those who he benefits from and even when they walk away he talks a lot of crap
Such a toxic behavior! Of course he’d say that he wasn’t treating you different. Did you give him the specific cases when you felt so? I am so glad you managed to get out of there!
@@myemmotion yup. He asked me if i was quitting because if I thought he treated me different. I told him yea. He asked her though it was the job he had me do. But he had issues with everyone and always popped pills and i witnessed him do drops of cbd oil. So yea. He had just got that position. He's no good
@@Carlos-ms8zh If he already managed to spoil the professional environment and doesn't get along with anyone, he won't be lasting long in there. But the damage is done!
@@myemmotion update... I have found a job with a positive environment... Glad i made the decision to leave... People shouldn't be afraid of change because i am happy now
@@Carlos-ms8zh These are great news. I am happy for you Carlos, you deserve to be in a positive and respectful environment. And it's so important sharing this with others, so many people who suffer daily but are still undecided and are afraid of making the change.
I was very lucky. I dealt with an abusive boss for least 5 years. I did everything to report what she was doing and how she was treating everyone. But the upper echelons kept dragging their feet. We have three buildings in our campus and I had no choice except to remove myself from the position and go next door. But the abuse left scars. I'm now being treated like an adult and not being micromanaged. I'm spooked still and am trying to get used to being treated right. Sometimes you have no choice but to quit. We had a huge turnover in our building for the last 4 or 5 years. The revolving door is going at top speed because of her. AS far as I'm concerned she's a psycho. I wrote a letter to the Administrator and told him what was going on. I stood up for everybody. Just yesterday another person walked out. HELLO UPPER MANAGEMENT, WAKE UP!!!!!
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. The thing is when it comes to an issue like this, no matter how psycho the manager/boss is, it’s a no win situation. You can complain about it to top management but the manager will always be favoured! In my case, the whole department wrote a letter to the company owner, on how abusive and unprofessional our manager was and NOTHING was done. I don’t mean to be pessimistic, it’s just a very realistic approach. You did right by leaving as soon as possible!
My favorite type of toxic boss is the one that acts like they listen to feedback then proceed to ignore any possible criticism and or suggestion to improve the workplace. Because they don't do anything problems arise and they are not only confused but angry there were any problems with the work given to begin with...
Lol I just left my job and it’s the best feeling ever. Honestly the most toxic environment and every employee would leave after a one week. Especially some of my coworkers would projects their frustrations and belittle you.
People tend to get sucked into toxic work environments and the more they stay, the harder is getting out of it. I am so glad you managed to do so. I can definitely relate to the feeling :)
I have a boss that talks down to everyone and nobody is better than him. Emails are beyond disrespectful and unprofessional but hey he’s the boss and he knows everything. He speaks over you, never lets you talk and even tells you “I already know what you’re going to say”. It’s amazing how the false presentation of bringing you on the team soon becomes a reality of running for the hills.
I can definitely relate to everything you are describing. It is very clear that you are not going to be happy in the position under his management. The best idea is leaving as soon as you find another option because things tend to get worse and more intense.
I'd been out of the workplace for a long time, and had the worst time attracting horrible bosses of late. I've had to walk away from a job today because the female boss was a mean spirited, downright nasty cow, who made me feel like crap in front of another lass working there. I'm too old to put up with that, so I just let her have it...LOL
Hi Jane, I honestly think you've made the right decision. Being belittled and ridiculed should not be put up with, it isn't good for our emotional health. Best of luck!
And stay positive and motivated, it makes a huge difference. An interesting and suitable opportunity will come along! :)
Thanks my dear. It really upset me that I had to give her a telling off, but in the end, I realized if I'd put up with another shoddy excuse for a boss, it would've finished me off.
Cheers :) I'm determined to stay my happy, upbeat self, as I'm usually the kind of person who always smile, even in the dourest of situations. Thanks for being so kind as to answer back as well, you're obviously committed to making a positive difference, and this is wonderful. Hugz. Xxx
And you were absolutely right! No money is worth damaging our mental and physical health by coping with such a toxic person.
Thank you, I just put my 2 week notice at my job. It was killing my soul, the bosses were horrible and had anger issues, guess what I’m not dealing with their bs. I’m out before the ship sinks!
I am really glad you are putting this behind. You are very welcome and hope things get bright very soon!
I’ve worked at a company for 3 years and I’ve had positive reviews from multiple Managers. Manager now says passive aggressive comments about me in meetings, micromanages and literally freaks out whenever an issue comes up. I work in fast paced job where things are constantly changing, but whenever anything goes wrong she freaks. I had employees come up to me and warn me when they heard I was being moved to her team. I have to fight tooth and nail to prevent it from getting to me.
Your manager seems to be intimidated by you (and your capabilities). Does she only act like this towards you? Is there a chance to get a transfer to any of your previous teams?
Watch out for performance reviews posted on the companies computer without your knowledge or consent without your feedback or ability to make comments on the review for items or statements made a out you. I was leaving a job due to a toxic manager. Before leaving, I went into my corporate H/R information I had access to where the reviews were, and found one. When contacting human resources, it was discovered the review was posted after giving my two week notice. The review was an attempt to smear me by a toxic, and insecure leader.
one of the best videos on toxicity at work
thank you so much for the eye opener
You are very welcome! I am glad it served the purpose!
I hate my boss. She had several harassment complaints/grievances before she transferred . Then they hire her right back! Crazy...
Was there a manager during her transfer? What happened to this person? It always strikes me how the companies fall into the trap and keep these most awful managers, but let go real leaders and professionals.
EMMOTION by Marat the other guy was great. He told me one night they wanted someone who would be like her. Then he gets fired not long after that and they bring her back.
It's all about corporate politics and toxic company "culture" based on treating employees like numbers and nothing else!
This is exactly how my supervisor is. I’m so glad I put my two weeks in yesterday.
I am really glad for you also, very smart decision, because toxic environment only destroys you emotionally! It probably felt good giving your notice :)
thats great
I work with a lawyer, everything I say to her gets twisted into something I didn't say and her making me out to be a bad person like nothing I do is good enough. I transformed the whole unit, organized and created databases because the department was not functioning properly (not part of my job). Everyone else is so amazed by all the things I do for the company but she treats me shit and talks down to me. I tried talking to her about a work assignment last week and again she twisted my words. It's easy for people to say leave and trust me, I can't wait to, but I have a family to feed and bills to pay. This video is very helpful.
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. Leaving is not an option unless you have another job lined up. Stick to being as professional as you can, focus on everything you do daily and on surviving. Sooner or later things will start changing or another opportunity comes up!
I highly respect how you interact and replay to your subscribers/comments and hear them out....
Having experienced a toxic boss myself makes me easily empathize and understand others in similar situations. It's not an easy period of time to go through, sometimes it takes a while to recover from such awful treatment. I am honestly grateful for an opportunity to contribute and help, even if just a tiny bit.
And thank you so much for such kind words and this comment! I am completely positive that great things are coming your way!
@@myemmotion thank you ... Any video on your toxic experience at work?
@@Carlos-ms8zh There is the video on How to Deal With a Toxic Boss. This one is about Staying Happy and Positive no matter what: ruclips.net/video/dhrHUlTqI5U/видео.html. Perhaps I should make a follow up on how to handle the toxic environment or toxic people.
Thank you for helping opening my eyes, my boss literally makes me want to quit everyday
You should definitely have a certain strategy of dealing with it and looking for a job at the same time. You are very welcome! Thank you for your kind and motivating feedback, it inspires me to do more videos!
This is explaining literally my previous manager, they were so professional and caring that when I put my two weeks in, they told me to just pack my stuff and leave on the spot.
Typical of toxic places. The bright side of it is that you managed to leave! Such places are a huge damage for your career and mental health.
I just started a job with a company and my boss is like this. He has noooooo idea what he is doing when it comes to management of his people. On top of that he’s so busy he misses things constantly.
How long has he been there? I am surprised he’d lasted a long time there unless he has a support from above!
I’m not sure because I just started here. I’m working for a contracting agency I’m in Ohio, my boss is in MD, his bosses are in Florida. By the 3rd day I could tell I was working in a toxic company (contracting employees to another toxic company). So I have already submitted my resumes elsewhere. I have 14 years experience in my profession and can’t do my job successfully without a good working relationship. My boss told me to not talk to my partners at our customer company.
@@SK22000 I can definitely relate to what you are saying, there is no reason to keep going back to a place where you are not being treated well. You've already experienced the signs of a toxic environment, but the next days should be giving you more information on everything. Meanwhile keep applying for other roles and stay positive!
Very good informative video ecperienced this with boss and the allied coworkers. I quit that job, they wanted to belittle me, stress me../ nightmare/ got depression and suicidal. Now trying to heal
I am so sorry to hear that, Sofia. Sometime I feel like those angry, bitter and toxic people do not even realise how horrible their actions can be, and how deep is the impact on other people's lives. I am glad you are in a better place. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself, that is the first step in a recovery. Soon the pieces will fall back into place. I am wishing you the best of luck!
@@myemmotion Thank you so much Marat. Yes, they are probably too caught up in their own agendas to think how deep the consequences can be, it was infected like a game of ludo, so there were people leaving before me, bad leadership and letting kids run the place. Yes I'm safe now. I will do my best to be kind to myself and take care TY for kind wishes, I'm on my way to be whole and me☆ great channel glad I found it!
I am very happy to hear that. You will definitely do well and this experience will serve you in the future. Keep me updated on how everything is going and thank you for your warm words!
sounds really bad
@@myemmotion oh I will all the best to you🌈
Oh yeah, I’ve got one. It was so good at first, but now I feel terrible everyday. What a rollercoaster!
First they take some time to learn things about you, to be able to influence on you better. Then once the nightmare starts your priority should be getting out of there because such bosses do not change. Best of luck!
lol, my boss freezes the air, she also "prefers" the team doesn't talk to colleagues from other department. Often brags about who is afraid of her.
Wow, bragging about people being afraid of them is really hitting the new low.
@@myemmotion is all a game to them. It makes them feel powerful & Superior.
@@richradtylr4 Yes, they feed off other people's fears and sadness, unfortunately.
Disgusting
@@ComoDibujarTodo I agree.
I'm a seafarer on profession, I have a master just like this. All the qualities that was mentioned was on him. They are type of person who only think of himself always perfect w/o flaws. He always said he had enough money if he stop working,but at the age of 60 still making life of co-workers on board miserable. Not just toxic,I think also a narcissist.
I definitely know what you are saying, it's this constant need of acting superior to others, making them feel like they do everything wrong and keeping work environment tense at all times. My theory is that they are really unhappy, no matter what they say, they are.
these people are usually so insecure
just people who dont care if they hurt others
I don't have a "bad" manager, per say- she isn't mean or manipulative, and she helps out when its needed. But whenever I talk to her, I never feel she's looking at me as a person- rather, a mere asset to be worked to death that has no life outside the workplace and nothing else going on in their life.
That is very common. Some of these people are impossible to be with through their lives in general, hence they tend to have very little personal life and the expect others live to work as well.
@@myemmotion Right now, my biggest problem is school. I'm a full-time college student, and I gave my managers a schedule with the days and times, but every week I'm scheduled to work during at least one class, and every time I try to change it, it's an issue with them. I would understand if it wasn't for the fact that one of the reasons I applied for that job was that they told me they were very flexible and easy to work with college students, and so far its been anything but.
@@wd3185 You are not asking something impossible. They made it clear they are flexible before you started the job, they can't do completely the opposite once you are working there.
A toxic manager will always push the blame onto their team & avoid accountability
Always. That's what makes them keep going.
Spot on Marat ! I worked for a inexperienced power tripped boss who reflected all these characteristics and many more. He played mental mind games by never communicating clearly, was technically clueless and didn't provide any direction or clarity, withheld information for power and to look good in meetings, yet nerve failed to steal credit for my independent work efforts. He was toxic and made me hate going to work and do the job that I once loved dearly. Approaching my manager for help was even more tragic as he was very manipulative in convincing her that I was wrong and that he provided all support. The gaslighting that followed was the worst part and made me realize that it is impossible to win against toxic bosses who have power as they thrive in being manipulative and snake like. I was soo relieved the day I was let go and was finally able to breathe properly after 8 horrific months. I have clear conscience and zero regrets despite being made the scapegoatz, as I was very honest and dedicated to my job. I hope and pray that karma will do it's job.
I am so sorry you had to go through such a toxic and traumatic experience. These people ruin not just careers but personal lives as well. Glad you are out of that toxicity, as you said, there is NO win situation EVER. So the less time you spend there, the better! Let karma do the rest!
Honestly I'm tired of being belittled and bullied and sworn at. I really am
I am so sorry you are going through that. It's important for you to distance yourself from such a toxic place.
I quit a job because my old boss harbored all the qualities you listed.
Good you had the courage to leave! It isn't always easy, but the best decision for sure.
I worked for a family owned gym for 3 years. The owners moved to California “last minute” from New York and left the team leader in charge who only became increasingly condescending and petty as time went on. The owners are only partially in the pic now and do other projects. I was working 52 hour weeks and anytime I said no I was told I didn’t do enough. This is only the tip of the iceberg.
I finally left but the mental and physical fatigue as well as getting micromanaged left it’s mark.
It is indeed so frustrating going from a good place to work to a completely toxic surrounding, but it happens each time toxic management takes over. The good thing is that you are out of that place and it all going to get better, give it time. After having rested and regained your confidence, you'll be working with motivation again.
This is an excellent video and spot on! It's like you're at my company working in my department. Scary.
Oh believe me, I definitely know what it feels like. One feels helpless and it takes guts to actually identify what's going on and do something about it.
so many managers like that
Yes, that is true unfortunately.
it's like there is a toxic boss factory
We can call it a competitive corporate life with a lot of pressure!
My boss at the hardware store. He had taught me stuff and nearly smacked my hand with a tool for fixing the wheel barrel which I did not build. Once I fixed it or once I did something for them, no complements were given from him. The next encounter that I met him is when I was walking around the aisles to check if customers needed help within the store, he walks up and said I didn’t do anything, I told him that I was walking around to assist the customers, but he didn’t believe me. He gave me a job with the nuts and bolts aisle where I have to find them one out of a million places which most of them were impossible to find since people leave their originals here. The other day I had nothing to do but multitask with stocking and going outside to help customers and fill propane. He walks up to me and says that I didn’t do anything. He even said I had to be certified to do propane while he was cool with others, and yet they weren’t certified either. Then he kept making a death stare at me when he came back on break, I was walking to put the nuts and bolts back, he followed me there. I was having a hard time finding the bolts to where they belong, then I put one back. My boss was not satisfied one bit, and I said I costed him 8 cents a minute. He then told me that I had to be fast as possible at stocking which he or his sons should’ve told me about once I got hired. He then terminated me after this and had no use for me while his sons did have place for me, it wasn’t enough for him. And the guy was 83 years old too.
I really do not understand people who hire someone just to put them on a constant watchlist and constantly blaming them for every single thing they do, without teaching them how to do it. Of course, we can never get along and understand everyone, but there is no need to make someone's life miserable. I am glad you are out of there!
Bosses need to be born leaders, far too many managers are not fit for the role, hence why they are toxic and snap
In many cases all that toxic attitude is their way to compensate for all the insecurity, lack of leadership and knowledge. Putting down others makes them feel better with themselves.
Don't give them the satisfaction. Play the same game they're playing with you if they're not being honest. Trust this. Don't be immature, the more mature they see you the more they have to do next time to catch you. Then just laugh about how much effort they put into catching you rather than doing their Job. Managing the Store? I don't think so lol
I absolutely love this advice! And I completely agree, the best thing is not giving them even more power by constantly seeming affected. However, we both know that the positions are not equal and that it isn't a fair game! As the time goes by, the employee gets more worn out and eventually the stress and pressure make it a hell. And that's when the exit strategy is a must!
How long do you think it takes to ... 'feel normal' after you leave a terrible, toxic, and demeaning work environment? Any resources to recommend? Thank you
There is no exact “getting over” timing, however when you start letting it go, when the bitterness, sad and negative memories are replaced with some self-love and forgiveness, it means you are already over the “sensitive” period.
I’d recommend doing things which make you feel happy and good about yourself, watching or reading some self-help material. Building back your confidence and leaving “your fears” behind. Best of luck and let me know if you need any other advice!
@Arianna, I'm looking for temporary work. Staying busy and a new set of coworkers will keep me from dwelling on negative memories.
I used to think that it was my problem, that I couldn't find a way to handle this situation
now I know that there is nothing I could do about this evil person!
It was never your problem. If it weren’t you, it would have been someone else!
EMMOTION. You are excellent the way you relate to us. So uplifting. God bless you.
Lara O'neal, Thank you so much for your kind words! I've been there, I know how it feels like, so the least I can do is to try helping others going through the same. Have a wonderful start of the week and best of luck!
I agree with this
Thanks EMMOTION by Marat
Story of my life. One micromanaging asshole after another. Grateful I am permanently off the workforce.
I am sorry to hear that you had to go through that. These experiences do make us appreciate life and good people around us much more.
And feel free to share if there was one particular boss which you are happy to never have to see again!
yeah im curious to hear about this
Hehe, I hope she is currently happy with not having to report to micromanagers!
so true
I am suffering with a toxic boss right now... It's a terrible situation. If I leave, I'll be unemployed. Only choice is suffer super, super high stress at work all day every day.
I am sorry to hear that and I really hope the situation gets better soon. There is a piece of advice in this video, maybe it could help: ruclips.net/video/xowzSUKLuag/видео.html
Im thinking about writing these signs and printing them out onto a piece of paper and hanging it up in the staff lunch room.
That would go completely viral 😂 I bet many would enjoy, but one in particular won’t find it funny!
best idea ever
😂😅😅
That is not a good idea you’ll just add Fuel to the fire,the idea is not to give them more power.
So sick of toxic bosses and toxic colleagues....
I hear you!
I wish someone would expose the amount of these people. That's what's scary. 9 out of 10 of my jobs were run by toxic bosses
Which is why it is so important to choose a new job according to how you feel about your future manager. Otherwise it eventually gets emotionally draining, aside from not feeling motivated at the job. Are you still under toxic management?
@@myemmotion yes very much so but I dont have access to a good job market without moving to another state and that's nearly impossible to do on minimum wage. It's gotten so bad I've ended up in therapists offices. I've been abused very badly by boss's supervisors, managers. I've been called names, belittled, harassed. When your a minimum wage employee. You're invisible.
@@teeny700 There is always an option, nothing is worth going through something like that. While you continue working there, you should go through all the possible exit options. And if you have to move, you should. Your happiness and well being is above it all. Best of luck and hope things get much better soon!
@@myemmotion thank you. :) your advice is much appreciated.
@@teeny700 You are very welcome! Keep us updated on how everything goes.
Toxic is very danger. I became toxic like my boss and just think it's just normal critic until I found this video.
and I realize oh my God, what I've done to my family.
It's good that you've been reconsidering the situation and hope you take all the right steps. Treating people with respect is so important!
How to Spot a Toxic Boss (Signs of a Bad Manager) - Thanks a lot for watching my video! What has been YOUR experience with toxic management and toxic work environment?
what I dislike the most is people who are ass lickers for bad and rude bosses
I know exactly what you mean. Many times they are just worried about keeping their jobs and want to produce the best impression on their managers.
or they are just not good people
making them quit instead
SharePoint Developer, believe me I tried different methods. There is nothing which would work 100%, each case is quite different. But it all comes down to doing anything to not be in touch with "the toxicity" anymore.
Yes, I have toxic boss and currently in search for new job. How can I identify toxic boss from interview stage? I am a big fan of your videos, thanks for the amazing content.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I think you are doing the right think by working on your exit strategy.
It's very complex knowing what to expect for sure, but I mention some of the red flags in this video: ruclips.net/video/VUK_AK-YKtg/видео.html
Best of luck and keep me update how the job search goes!
@@myemmotion thanks for the advice, I am here to inform you that I found a new job 😊, I do agree it may be difficult to identify the toxic boss, however this time the expectations from the interview stage are clear and workable, thanks a lot 💐😘😘 you are amazingly helpful, you may also post in LinkedIn, lot of people will benifit from your wealth of knowledge 😊
Wow!!! everything you mention on this topic is really exactly my boss now. thank you for this i definetely quit my job :(
I am not surprised at all, trust me, all of us who experienced toxic management and know how it feels like, know all the signs and symptoms very well. Thanks a lot for your feedback! When are you planning to quit? I am wishing you best of luck my friend!
they are everywher
i hope you can do it
Toxic bosses think they are "god"
they are total losers without their "status" at work
My boss from a thrift store I worked at was so inconsistent. She told me it was a laid back workplace, but when she saw I was a hard and good worker, she pushed me to reach goals she didn't care about when I hired in. I quit after two weeks because of her inconsistency. A contract becomes null and void to me when someone goes back on their word, so I quit. She would also ask questions and when I gave answers say she wasn't asking all of a sudden.
You did the right thing by quitting. I hope your next job is a positive experience with a professional and approachable management.
Sounds just like my boss
But when the clock strikes 4 im outta the damned place
Way to go! That's the best you can do to survive in such place.
Atleast u know when u gotta work. My boss is like "no work today" every second time and then doesnt even tell me when i gotta work except 2h before that shift
Congratulations on being featured in one of the questions on Tellwut.com. Sadly, a lot of the qualities you mentioned are what my coworkers are doing towards me and our department. I'm not sure how to proceed as the bosses don't really seem to care (they just focus on the numbers). I have high stress, anxiety, and loathe working with them. *Sigh*
Thank you, I had no idea about the Tellwut feature. Regarding your situation, it's very clear that toxic places have a very little solution. You should follow your gut and leave that place until your health is seriously in danger. Best of luck and keep me updated!
@@myemmotion - I am on a medical leave currently. Sadly, I love the company and many of the bosses. It's just the coworkers and customers that make it dreadful. I have been thinking about transferring to a different department.
This is very true, thanks. Also add that they have favourites
Very true! And most of the times they bring those "favourites" with them.
yes
Kaushik Mukundan Most bosses are horrible people unfortunately, I don’t think they are nasty people really but a bit of power goes to their head and boom.
@@myemmotion There "favorites" are the dullard lemmings who are paid less than the long time, loyal workers and don't "outshine" the narcissist manager (who probably got the job with a fake BS degree).
I currently work at a Lowes as a cashier/customer service associate. I had planned to work my way up but the work culture is so toxic that that plan has been thrown out the window a d I spend my nights applying for new jobs. The managers have horrible attitudes. This isn’t my opinion. Lowe’s requires that items that are being sold on clearance significantly below original value to be screened by a manager. We are not trusted to process the transactions ourselves. This would be fine, but it is routine for managers to stroll up to our station fifteen to twenty minutes after we have called for their help. I had one customer who waited thirty minutes to buy a potted plamt. This store is losing business because of the horrible attitudes of management. I no longer apologize to customers on behalf of the store. I usually laugh together with the customer at how horrible the customer service is.
That is so awful. Eventually toxic management is slowly killing the business. Is there anyone to talk about this or to report this to?
And it's completely understandable that you've switched into survival mode, unless these people are removed from the management positions, nothing is going to chance around there. So the sooner you find another job, the better!
My stupid fake boss is so negative to the point that he said he didn’t like my shoes
How very professional of him. Has he been like that for a long time?
EMMOTION by Marat not really why
@@hollysaga Because he has no right to constantly tell you how to dress. At least it was a one off.
This was very helpful, thank you for posting.
When you stop and think about it employers pay US for OUR TIME, should they really spent it in toxicity? certainly not.
That's absolutely true. There is no reason of putting up with it, unless it's really necessary for a certain amount of time.
You are very welcome, hope things at work improve very soon!
My boss totally fits the bill. Sometimes after he's done talking to me, he'll just say "ok, now get the fuck out of my office".
That's indeed so out of line and disrespectful!
I resigned as a Trustee because the chair was running the Charity corrupt with no Treasurer no Vice Chair and no proof of financial records of their 2021 accounts. I reported it to the Charity Commission in London .
And you did the right thing. I hope it gets a proper investigation.
Even when you seek medical attention, they treat you as though you committed a crime. They think they have any legal right to penalize you when you are legitimately on medical leave.
Definitely a sign of a toxic place.
Thanks Maray I identity with all of your toxic boss signs, I too am working for one, and I'm quiting the job this month
Thank you for sharing it and I am really happy that you are quitting. Keep me updated on how it goes. Hope you are in a healthier and happier environment very soon!
Yesterday i got yelled at by my boss in front of 15 ppl and threatened to check the cameras all cuz I accidentally forgot to clock in for break. Also its my first week of this job.
It's definitely not a good sign. I hope this isn't going to turn into something common at this place.
Personally speaking how someone speaks and treats others shows you their home education. I hope people who are experiencing these toxic bosses go through the right channels. No matter how angry you get verbally or physically never touch your boss even at times it’s tempting to do so. Never break the law. If you are going though the right channels and nothing is getting done then it’s time to turn other the page (look for a new job) it’s very important to look after your mental health and always remember you’re not your job.
If you happen to be reading this, don’t let the world change your smile. You know your value 🙏🏻❤️
Leads 'witch hunts' ...I was targeted not long ago in a meeting, and my manager just sat there and watched it...it's called passive participation...he could have stopped it...but he didn't
What were they accusing you of during the meeting?
Thanks for sharing this- but how long can one wait to know if boss is willing to change his character or not? What is the practical waiting time before quitting job for such reasons?
Bosses like that won't change. They might appear different from time to time but only when it's necessary to them. It's all down to how you feel about it and how long you can put up with it while looking for another job!
This video ICONIC!
Everything mentioned about a TOXIC BOSS is true!
Thank you so much! I am glad you liked the video and I hope you are already away from that person!
I have a new leader, that tried to tell myself and another employee that we were chatting. I said, I was explaining to the new person that they need to lock up an item in their cart and it was important, not chit chat. I tried to say it as firmly as possible hey, I am doing my job and you are mis understanding what is going on as politely as possible. I have learned to stand my ground and be respectful in those kind of situations. I never let a boss treat me like I am not doing what I am supposed to.
You have done the right thing. Every relationship is based on respect, if you respect you should be respected back. Otherwise it's not a place for you to stay at.
I work at a small variety store and I was once told to dust some shelves. Well, I started at the bottom to give my legs a break (I have horrible feet and legs), not thinking it would be too much of a problem. Well, one of the managers started laughing at me, because she said that all the dust would go to the shelves below. She even asked me if I knew how gravity worked. And here's the thing, I was using Windex, so the dust was sticking to the paper towel.
It's basically finding any small detail to pick at, sometimes it does sound like a bad joke, then you realize that this is indeed happening.
I really hope it doesn't go further and that eventually your relationship with your manager would improve.
EMMOTION by Marat thank you!
You are very welcome!
some people are insane
I'm living this nightmare now. I actually felt suicidal because of this boss. I have been with this company for 17 years and may have to leave because she wrights me up for EVERYTHING. she takes screenshots of all of my Emails. and pops me for private conversations. in the break room I might add. I received my first Disciplinary discussion ever from this boss.
It's been a long time and seems like this person knows exactly what buttons to push to hurt you and to destabilize you the most. The best thing you can do is keeping it all business and working your way out of there. Hope things get better very soon!
My coworker just quit and all of the employees at my job but me left. Guess what happened when my coworker quit ? My boss blamed EVERYTHING on my coworker. Also my boss goes from praising to criticizing me for everything. My boss use to be cool and we got along but not anymore. He also is losing customers too and is trying to get more customers.
Oh that's so common! Always blaming people who are not in the company. I see it at every other workplace. Why? Because it's comfortable and because there are so many who enjoy a "blame game" and would never acknowledge their mistakes!
EMMOTION by Marat My boyfriend told me to quit but I need money for bills and of course my boss gave me a raise to do almost everything myself and take his shit.
@@TheLeah2344 I understand what you mean. It is very clear that this isn't the place you should be at on a long term. But you need the money and so you have to survive while searching for a new role. I've given a few more advice on dealing with a toxic boss on this "newer" video : ruclips.net/video/xowzSUKLuag/видео.html
Hope it is more bearable once you set your mind to it and keep me updated on how it goes!