My Sexual Abuse Story - Touched By Pastor 10 Years
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I was molested as a young child, by two different men, and then raped by a family friend, all 3 men were family friends, all three men had wives and children of their own. If it wasn't for my younger brother saying something to my Mom I probably would of never told her about the 2 molestations, and then the rape was unfortunately very much public knowledge. It had taken years for me to get to a comfortable place in my mind and body. I still have, and probably always will have intimacy issues. To be honest it has nothing to do with being molested, they were more kind, if that's even a thing, but being raped was a complete invasion of my body and soul. I was starting puberty and knew what was happening was wrong and it was made all the worse because I knew the person. He pretty much ruined me for a long time, I never really had a boyfriend in my youth, then when I was in a relationship it was a 7 year secret with a closeted idiot, because I didn't think I was worth more than that. I'm in a better place in my head and I trust men again, I'm 39 now and that happened when I was 13. I am glad that you made it through your ordeal with your amazing spirit, sense of humor and your warm heart. I love watching your videos. Keep up the good work and keep being amazing!!!!!!!
I am so sorry to hear that. Hope your okay
jason Shores, LIFE is ALWAYS gonna be hard but just stay strong cuz that what you are STRONG....
Rape is very bad.. It could lead to suicide but I was raped by a closet case he was like 30 something and I was only 14 but it happened at a house party... He took me to his room but his wife probably knew what he did. Cause the next day she didn't want me at her place to see my ex GF who was her sister in law. 😔 I was so sad and broken. But I stayed alive for me.. Just like how I got drunk for me...
THAT PROBABLY MADE YOU GAY...
@@syobsyotsec2919 That’s not how it works. He could be straight still, if he was straight before it all. By coincidence he happened to start as gay.
You are honestly so brave. Not many people can really say this. It can honestly happen at any age to any woman or man.
Normally with sexual abuse we become attached to our abuser. We also take on a set of personality disorders. This is how we cope with our abuse. Sorry you had to deal with this. I too was abused by a family member and I loved him. Know one will understand why we are confused about our feelings. Have a great life sugar and may God bless you😘😘
Do not think you can actually forget things. It is still affecting you subconsciously. It is imperative to get them out and deal with them. Take it from a counselor.
I was molested by a priest as a child. When my son was 5. I brought him to this place where it happened. Fell on my knees and wept. Promised my Son would never go thru what I went thru.
Thankyou for sharing your personal story of being touched by an adult as a child!! My life mirrors yours in many ways... And I felt as you did... an realized it wasn't our fault it happened!! And we're Not Alone ! & IS Not the reason we're Gay !! I admire your courage !!
Dennis, child abuse by members of the Church has been a big thing in my part of the world. I'm glad you shared your story. It will certainly help others to do the same. Let us hope times have changed but at the same time, let us be realists. You a good man, I'm very glad I got to know you. I love you too.
+bert_m_aerts Thank you very much.
This video might just save a life, so glad you put this video up, and I know how hard it is to admit something like this, especially in a video, but this video is very powerful, you should be proud of yourself for this, no one deserves to go through that!
I was sexually assaulted when I was 13, i knew I couldn't let them get away with it, the moment I walked in the door I burst out in tears, and the guy was arrested, but the pain was still inside for a long time, I just swept it to the back of my mind, and when ever I thought about it, I would self harm to stop myself from thinking about it, I've stopped self harming now, and living a happy life, hope everything's going alright in LA 😊
+Adam Cook Hey Adam! Thank you so much for your comment. I really appreciate what you wrote. I'm so sorry that happened to you :( I'm really glad that you've been able to overcome most of the negative feelings, and I hope you can overcome it completely someday. LA is going wonderfully, thank you very much for asking. And if you like you can write me on Facebook if you want someone to talk to. Hope to hear from you.
+danielxmiller thank you, and sure, I'll probably inbox you at some time 😊
In the year 2016, the victims are still blaming themselves and society tries to blame them. If a woman she was a slut or dressed inappropriately! Most of this is, in my view, is the refusal to accept the fact that many of the closest people to ourselves might be pedophiles. The same for gays and coming out. It is very sad. A 13-year-old guy, could never be the cause of this sexual abuse under any circumstances! But, saying that and believing it in your heart, is another matter. You are not alone that is for sure. It happened to me twice and I still remember it 50 years later!
I wish my son would have believed that what happened to him wasn't his fault. And even when he told his father what had happened at the hands of. his fathers nephew he didn't believe him and when it caused our marriage to break up because I believed him and I tried to get him help and no matter what I said telling him that he wasn't to blame and how proud I was for him telling me, he turned everything in on himself blaming himself for our marriage ending and the fact the criminal courts did nothing to give him justice I ended up losing him to suicide when he was 18. So feel very proud of yourself for making this video because I would never want another mother to have to cut their child down knowing there is nothing she can do besides hold him till the authorities come. And I believed you just helped a lot of kids so thank you.
+Marilyn Simmons This made me very sad to read, and I'm truly so sorry. :( I honestly don't have any words to write to describe what I would like to. When I came forward in the beginning I often thought it was my fault that their family was broken, and has been broken ever since...in what was such a great family together. After this happened both of our families were torn apart from each other, and theirs became much worse. They had to move out of town, and I heard stories that kids would make fun of, or do mean things to the other kids in their family, which caused me a lot of sadness. But I soon realized that it wasn't me who brought this upon them, it was their father. But it still doesn't change the fact that it happened. You are such a strong mother, and I really appreciate what you wrote.
+danielxmiller thanks again for your response. Your video was very well made and if by chance it can save a very scared kid going through this and trying to figure out how to tell someone stressing the fact that it wasn't their fault is more important and the fact that someone believes them is ultimately the most important it's the validation so thanks again and I hope this reaches a lot of kids and parents for that matter cause no mom should ever have to see what I saw that day.
+Marilyn Simmons Thanks for sharing YOUR story, too, it could help parents deal with their children and save lives. There are people who care and many ways to seek help. I've not had abuse as your son or Daniel did, but behavioral guidance saved my life.
Omg. I am crying. Im so sorry love
This just crushed me. I've contemplated that so many times. I am so sorry you went through that & I'm so sorry your son had so much pain. Poor thing. Didnt know where else to turn. Hes flying high now dont worry. His soul is finally free & out of this harsh cold reality.
I had the same experience from ages 4-12 years. It was a brother-in-law. I "compartimentalized" it all too. It was not a good thing. Then years later it all came out, only my parents believed me. Others suspected something could have happened. It was only through therapy that I could stop thinking it was my fault. All the years of not dealing with it did great harm to me. Now I've dealt with it - it was wrong - he was wrong to take advantage of a child. All the memories I supresses came flooding out. It was a rough time, but I finally could forgive him. What he did to me took a toll in many facets of my life. BUT - it is much better now.
Daniel, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry this person abused you and hurt you in one of the worst ways a person can hurt another. Thank you for speaking up and speaking out~ you are a part of the new wave of awareness 🥰💕🙏🏻 This person was a part of your families church? Was he the pastor or a pastor? 😖 That person was a fraud....
May God show you your worth, help you deal with the wounds and pain, and continue to do what you're doing: helping empower others!
You are a light in a very dark place.
Spiritual abuse, sexual abuse, SRA is coming out of the woodworks....it's rampant and we _need_ people to speak up~ it's also a part of your healing! Bringing it to light, letting go of the shame and guilt.
My heart breaks with yours....you're not alone!
You are a far more deep and beautiful person than I ever realized. You are amazingly strong and an inspiration and hope to many. Thank you for sharing.
+James Rios thank you so much
Damn....im so sorry for what happened to you...this is crazy. 10 years! thanks god you dont have any issues or whatever. I started crying when I was watching the video. I got touched by my brother friends. Nobody actually know and the boy that was touching me just stopped and i never see him. Its about lke 5 years ago..Love you,and thanks for sharing this video
It Takes A lot To Be Able To Talk About A Situation Like This, But You Made A Video, Im So Thankful You Shared Your Story, You Had To Be Very Strong, It's Very Hard For ME To Talk About My Experience. One Day Hopefully I Can Have The Strength You Have And Be Able To Talk About It. You Said About Making More Of These Videos, Only Do So If You're Comfortable
+Yazmeen Hudson You can always private message me on Facebook. Thank you for being so supportive since I crossed paths with you several months ago. I appreciate everything you do. Much love.
I'm thankful for people like you.
Thank you so much for sharing, and so sorry for what happened to you. You did the right thing to tell, keeping it in would only hurt you instead of set things right. Hurting that family is never your intention nor your fault, it was all that monster's wrong doing. BIG hugs!
thank you brother , I love you for sharing this. I have similar experience. It needs to be spoken of and dealt with by all society. I love you again. healing to us all.
thank you so much for this 😢.. i too have gone through this.. thank you so much ❤ your little piece of Advice and story affected me greatly.. thank you. i never felt more alone and Misunderstood without seeing this video😢❤
It's took SO much strength to even tell my mom about what happened so I understand what he's talking about and the fact that he is saying what happened is very brave of him
In tears as I read this , we need more men to come forward and speak on their abuse as you did. I'm a young female but this means so much to me on a personal level.
My mind works the same way you describe yours. However, I haven't yet allowed myself to bring back childhood memories and heal. I have blocked the pain, forgotten my childhood, impeded it affecting my life and "moved on". It is only now, after watching your video, that I question whether such a blockage might have to do with traces of abuse. So, my mind is not as strong as yours because I don't yet want to remember. It was hard even writing this comment
Anyhow, I admire you, Daniel. You earned a loyal subscriber.
Daniel, thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming out and telling your story about your molestation. I was molested as a child myself and to hear someone else put words to how I feel really helps a lot!!!! I appreciate your offering to talk via your e-mail, but I did not see an e-mail attached. But, thank you so much for your story and to know that I am not alone!!!!!
I was sexually abused when I was younger by two different men. One was my grandfather and the other was the son of the women who watched me when my mother took my very sickly brother to doctors. My grandfather just touched me but, when I was ten years old I was raped by the woman's son and that is why I have difficulty trusting men but, in 2005 I met a wonderful man that I would trust and would be the love of my life. like they say all good things come to an end he died of a heart attack in 2008 and I have never found another man like him.
+Chris Chambers I'm so sorry! Please stay strong! You deserve so much more. I hope you're okay xx
+Dan Frederiksen dan people dont become homosexual thoough there seems to be a small number of bisexual people
+Dan Frederiksen you are sick and telling others to be sick is life threatening.
+Donnie Raveling, you mean you don't like how true it is and you are threatening to hurt me?
Dan Frederiksen it's a fact people being sick causes disease and diseases causes death. Your telling someone they are sick is your doings
Although I was never sexually abused as a child, I know people who were, so I know how difficult it is to talk about. Thank you for sharing your story.... There is a stigma where male victims are shamed, but this needn't be.... Thank you....
My heart goes out to you Daniel and I want you to know, that even thought we don't know each other, you have a friend.- here. We are all one unified soul. We all have gone through challenging experiences, in one form or another in our youth, and we are all here to help each other and give each other support. I just saw this post today (Feb. 19, 2023, which is several years after you originally posted it). Nonetheless, I'll send (long distance) healing energy vibes your way from the San Diego area.
Thank you for being strong enough to make this video. You are right it does need to be talked about more. Sorry you had to go through something like that for so long.
+zenny smada Thank you Zenny. I appreciate your comment.
This is a very brave video, Daniel. I cannot realize on all you went through, and still I feel very empathetic with you. This video shall be very helpful. By sharing your story, you give hope and strength for all those boys and girls that may have lived a similar experience. And most importantly, it is the fact that it did not defined you (in a negative way) for the longer run.
You were brave to share. I was molested at 15 and told no one. Like you, I compartmentalized the pain. That was not the end of it, because the pain still existed. I held it together until I was 50, then it all fell apart. I learned it is ok to be angry. it is ok to hold accountable those people who did not support you when they learned. It is ok to learn to trust, but to create boundaries that must be respected.
I hope you will be able to face the pain, then afterwards be stronger on the other side. I believe in you.
I am 65 and experienced similar abuse at 8 years of age. Kudos and love to you for your strength and openness. For it only ended in my case at 21 years of age. I honour and respect you. Thank you for being so brave. Few people know my story . It gives me hope that your statements will open eyes and hearts. love and blessings.
Wow listening to this made my stomach turn and my skin burn... I had similar things happen to me... Kind of made me cry a little... It sucks to be that person, a victim, a target, and a outcast because everything was taken from you because the innocent kid was literally ripped from you, and cast out and never to feel like you're apart of the childhood as anybody else... :(
It's ok to talk about this. Thank you for trusting us.
Blessed Be.
Thanks for sharing! I was in a similar situation when I was younger. I haven't told anyone. Keeping this in is very hard for me. Especially when I see the person who did it to me. It just sucks.
This is so courageous of you to share. Victims need to hear this to know they can come forward and get help and healing. I grew up around many priests and they were all very good men and faithful - and would never have hurt me or my brothers. But pastors like this make them all look bad. So being honest and bringing them into the light is a good thing for all religious people.
You are so real and so wonderful when you talk about something important to you. You are a trailblazer and a wonderful role model. Thank you! So many people love you!
After watching this I really feel for you, I was sitting with sweatty palms and goosebumps all over as well. In one aspect I emvie you; you are able to forget, not everyone is so lucky even though I would like that to be true. I can tell you all one thing though, there is light at the end of the tunnel, as time passes by, it does get better, you will, eventually, learn how to cope with the memmories... Even though i have to admit that some days are harder than others... But, I appreciate that someone is putting focus on the subject, thanks a lot.
You're really Brave Daniel!! I went through something like this as akid(7yearold). It's hard to speak about it and explain what happended. It took me over 16 years to get over it. now im 22
Thanks for telling your story. It happened to me too..
+Rick27X
+danielxmiller much luv bro. every race should speak up of gettin touched as a child
+danielxmiller Thank you for sharing your story, I can see in your face how difficult this was for you. Big hugs! 💜
Sir Andrew look sad homie
Good morning... Sorry to here that.. Actually, i love to watch your videos because i got more inspirational stories about your life.. This video tells me that i had also a same experience when i was 12.. He is my classmate and trusted friend since elementary... For what he did to me.. I can say that life is change and we've learn from what they did to us..
I want you to know that I think you (and others commenting, who've gone through similar circumstances), are all very brave people.
I want to encourage men (women as well), but especially men to continue to be open and honest.
Unfortunately, I have found that men often face more ridicule and are revictimized if they admit they have been raped by other men or women.
There seems to be a lot of stereotyping in society and stigmatization of men. Some men are treated as though they wanted it simply because they are male.
I have known men who were raped by both men or women and treated this way. Violation is violation regardless of what sex you are. Unwanted touch, is still unwanted touch regardless of what sexual orientation you are.
Society at large really has to change their attitudes regarding these issues towards men in particular in such matters!
My heartfelt respect to you and others for your honesty, openness, and bravery on these issues!
Daniel, you are very courageous and strong to make this video. I am sure you have helped many people, especially young men, to come forward and talk about their situation. All too often, these situations are dismissed as fantasy, but they are very real to those who have suffered. You have many people who support and love you. The pain will never go away, but we will be able to help you through it.
I felt you, I just want to hug you. Wish you all the best.
It is so sad to hear such devastating stories; but so brave of you to share it on the internet.
DanielXmiller!! I'm Lhiak Ali from Oxford City, UK, England i am proud of you being strong on what i understand how you're hopping on what happened and what not you went throughout you're childhood, i do pray for your well being as us humans we should lookout for each other and that.. Thanks
Holy moly the thing that you said during first two mins, I am exactly like that. There's a name for this phenomenon which I am forgetting where you have this visual memory asociated with a song or a smell.
I was sexually assaulted between the ages of 11 and 13. I'm 46 now and I'm struggling with my past. Every day is a struggle to stay alive. Thank you for sharing your story. It made me not feel so alone.
I was sexually molested by women who were close to me when I was a child. For most of my childhood I can't remember shit. A psychologist would tell me later it was my mind's way of protecting me. The psychologist will go on to tell me the constant uncontrollable dirty thoughts I have about everyone is normal for someone who's been in my position, even the thoughts that make me sick to my stomach. It is later that I develop the techniques that allow me to live my life not bound by my thoughts and to accept myself and what had happened.
My experience does not make me gay, my attraction to men makes me gay. My experience is the reason why I am socially awkward and why I have trouble being close to or trust women.
Thank you so much for sharing!! I have a question if you don't mind me asking?
+Renzo Ataahua OK. Are you Maori?
Congrats! You would be the first person to guess the correct origin of my last name, but sadly no. Is there an e-mail I can send the question to concerning your response. Better yet, My email is as follows: Renzojataahua@gmail.com
Kia ora whanau. Maori but light skin
I haven't heard of female pedophiles before. What would they do? touching? kissing? force oral?
Were they related to you?
Very brave of you to make this video which I'm sure will be most helpful to young people who have been or still are being abused. Stay strong and believe in yourself.
One thing I would like to say as I am a survivor of sexual abuse as an 8 yr old child-IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF.
Tks Dan for making this video. If you keep quiet about it, the abuser wins.
How brave of you to tell your story Daniel. And to hear other people talk about you not knowing the little boy they were referring to was you. I'm sorry you went through that. You're obviously helping bring this never talked about subject to light.
I admire you from being so brave to talk this kind of issue you've been gone through. I know how hard it is and still you tried you're best to share it with us. Thank you so much.
Bless you man. You are a really great guy so I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I can testify for what you say about the number of children who are abused. I work within Social Services and the number of cases that involve sexual abuse and the amount the goes on in what may seem like a quiet and peaceful neighbourhood is horrifying, and that's just the cases that we know about, there are so many more that go undetected until later in life.
Just Believe making
Hepzi Ravindran did your comment post before you finished?
Your story is heartbreaking in so many ways and I’m so sorry you had to endure all that pain! Just know that the family probably separated themselves from you out of shame, not because they didn’t love you anymore. I’m sure this video will help so many people who are struggling, including me. But I got most out of it was Your optimism. It makes me hopeful for the future. God bless
I've been following you now for a couple of months and I'm slowly working through your old vlogs. This one just blew me away. You're a brave guy to share this with the world. I'm sorry you had to suffer this way. I'm glad things have so greatly improved for you.
BTW, I just watched your Alaskan adventure. There was a pic of you, lounging in the sun in just your swimsuit and I realized how super good looking you are. Added to the
warmth of your personality, you're a RUclips Star!! How I wish I could know you in person. Lots of others feel the same way. I'm thankful I get to know you on RUclips. Your
vlogs are really interesting and sincere. Keep up the good work, please. Thanks for the effort it takes to make there. I appreciate it.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was molested when I was little. It was very hard emotionally. I've healed from this experience. Being molested didn't "make" me gay. It's sadly very common. I love you for sharing your story. You can help others heal.
Great Message. Also, if that person is a family member and no repercussions took place, you are allowed to make your own family. If your blood relatives haven't attempted to address or acknowledge the trauma you suffered, they have placed other priorities above your own making them toxic people. Get away from them and save yourself the years of hurt.
I would've had a full blown, all out, running out of the room, crying uncontrollably, panic attack. Uuuugh!! So sorry man!! Much love and God speed. Everything has a way of making us stronger if we allow it to. I don't mean that lightly.
Daniel, I think you're very brave for putting this out of your chest. I haven't been sexually abused, but I suffered a good deal with domestic violence from my father until I was 19. And he's also a pastor... At first, he'd hit me when I didn't want to go to the church. Then he started to suspect I was gay and would find any reason at all to hit me almost daily. My teenages were a very hard time, because I used to be bullied in school for being gay as well.
So I kind of relate to you, because only people who've been abused in some way know what it feels like. I also don't remember most of the negative things, like when he hit me or when I felt ashamed for having to go to school with my face swollen up and bruised. It's just like my mind has hidden most of it in some box, like you said happened to you, but sometimes I have terrible nightmares with scenes of his harassing me and I feel depressed for days in a row. I'm currently seeing a therapist, and I believe it'll help me get over it all. But the scars are deep, lad, so it may take a while until I can deal with it in a better way.
I admire you a lot for being who you are! All the best, Daniel! We love you! xoxo
Oh Daniel, I love you soo much! This video was so difficult for me to watch, so I can only imagine how difficult it was for you to make. I came across a student at a middle school where I worked as a tutor a few years ago and the student confided in me that he was being touched by a relative. It absolutely tore me up. I applaud your strength and courage to put this out there because people, particularly the youth, need to be able to recognize sexual abuse and know that it is not ok.
+justme07111 Thank you so much. You have always been such a wonderful supporter. I do appreciate every comment I read from you. I hope this helps many people. love you
Hey Daniel. Thank you so much for sharing your story and I'm so sorry that you had to experience this. But I appreciate that you are getting the message out there so that people become aware. I'm also really glad that you were able to get through this because I love watching your videos so, so much! Again, thanks for sharing!!
😢 i was 7 til 11 when my parents close friends son who was in his teens touched me. Also Christians going to church. Bullied at school & hated it. Youre lovely. Genuine. Well done for sharing. His parents were also lovely... He told me not to say anything and its between him n me. At 7 u don't understand things. Confused on sexuality due to this. Im 48 and just come out as bi. Thanks for sharing. It will help others im sure❤ x
Meetings at the church is what meant I was abused for 8+ years, I completely understand you're story. Wish I had the courage to report. Well done
I'm so sorry to hear that :( I hope you have been able to overcome this. For me reporting wasn't the part that brought peace to me, it was overcoming the fact that it happened and that I could move on with my life. In fact to be honest, reporting it made it much much harder for me (during that time).
Oh dude, thank you so much for sharing. Yes a way to cope is to separate from the memories and being able to do that easily is a good skill. You are so right that it is never the victims fault.
You should be so proud of yourself and how you have overcome so much
Love you and have even more respect for you then ever.
Hugs and loves a real fan from Canada
+Niklos1ASMR Thank you so much for your kind words. I really appreciate everything you said. Canada, and the people, is such a wonderful place to visit.
It's courageous for you to share this. Bad things happen to good people and good people do some bad things -- it helps everyone to bring this into the open. It hurts doing so, but it change things in the future when situations like this are known. Thank you for your honesty, bravery and persistence to remake the vid several times.
+PD D thank you so much for your comment and support. I really appreciate it.
I could relate with you specially the stressful part of filling reports, having to tell every detail and have people write it down or record it, etc. I had a similar situation during high school and everyone found out, it was terrible but the worst part was the people who said I was making up for attention. Who on their right mind wants this kind of attention? specially for a boy on a all boy school... :\
It was a rough time for me and my parents, I won't ever forget that was the first time I ever saw my mother cry.
*hugs* I am sorry
If I had RUclips and the internet was around when I was young I think my life would have been very different because I let that stuff consume me. That was kind of a choice but without this kind of perspective I just didn't know. So if a kid hears this it may help him.... or her. Thank you.
I hope so! Thank you
+Stephen L Force I so agree with you. I also think today culture calls out to speak of the pain whereas in my time NO ONE talked about it. I think it is great (Daniel I am thinking by looking at the pic) is able to speak of the pain he experienced. I know several survivors of pastor abuse as this man experienced who kept quiet so much longer.
thanks for sharing. I never shared my story before until a recent checkup with the doctor I broke down in tears right there and then. felt so good to share even to a stranger
It does feel great to share the things we have kept hidden for so long.
Amazing video, Daniel. Thank you for sharing, and let's hope that someone going through the same experience hears this!
Thank you for posting this difficult video. It's makes me so sad to know how many of us were hurt and damaged as children.
Something will always remember me about bad or good things. Then it all starts flashing back to me.
Thank u so much 4 sharing ur private story with us!! I can relate 2 ur story bcuz, like u, I was also abused as a child. I'm so sorry u went thr all ths!! I went thr all ths by myself also with nobody 2 talk 2 about it!! U knw thinking back I try 2 remember about things that happened & some things I can't remember but I think that's the brains mechanism of blocking the bad things out!! I truly hope ur ok now!! I struggle with it sometimes but 4 the most part I'm doing good!! Once again thnx 4 being brave& sharing ths with us!! Sending u lots of hugs& hoping it helps comfort u @ least a bit!! Take care always!!! ((=
+TXMXnPDX I'm so glad to hear you're doing well for the most part these days. Yes I am 100% okay with everything now in my life. Your mind is just protecting you, so let it do its thing. Focus on the future ahead and creating a wonderful life for yourself. Thank you for your support, I really appreciate it.
Sorry that you had to endure those things in your past Daniel, thanks for sharing your experiences and its good to hear that you are dealing with it all in a very positive way. I'm sure that your wise words will help so many people who have had similar traumatic times in their formulative years. All best wishes for a brighter future. Take good care. 😊
you are so brave Daniel. thank you for sharing. love you.
I was molested at least three times and it took away my childhood and incest with my two brothers for 7 years. They either don't remember or refuse to talk about it. I have been able to forgive them all because I am also a recovering addict alcoholic. I also got brave an made a video about this pain.. I keep telling everyone that it was not your fault. I have already cancelled the upcoming holidays because I don't need anything to remind me that I am alone and in the fight of my life. Thanks for sharing
Daniel, I applaud you for your courage to take such a deep risk by sharing such a personal life impacting experience. Each person who unfortunately goes through such a thing has their own path to recovery. You are 200% correct when you state that none of you are alone. I do encourage you to be cautious when telling others what they should do to deal with this situation. You took a path for survival that supported you to put those awful moments in a box and compartmentalize them. That keep you alive and going. That's amazing and inspiring that you are able to do this and it works for you. However, that style of handling such a situation, may not be as successful for others. Just you sharing your story is great. You are a dynamic presenter and those that watch your videos will hear your words and be affected by them and there within lies the responsibility to be cautious of what you tell others what they "should" do. Keep up your good work!
I've past for something similar... I was sexually assaulted when I was 12 by a guy with 28... That was very traumatic fort my and causes PTSD...
I'm really sorry to hear it. It takes a lot for a person to share experiences like you did. I could never share my past to anyone. I have blocked that part of my memory for a very long time. You are sooo brave. Thank you for letting me know i was not the only one.
+Shiyang Li thank you so much
As a abduction and rape survivor (I have made a video regarding this on my channel) my heart breaks. We need to raise awareness to sexual assault and/or rape - it is not limited to the constrains of gender, age, sexuality, or ethnic background. The louder the voice, the more we are heard.
thanks for your bravery, Internet stranger.
Daniel, what a brave guy. I haven't had to deal with anything like that, but I do know the feeling of depression. I have done several sessions with counselors and I am not sure they were useful to me. I do love the fact that you are making these videos for people. All the best for you. And keep asking Boxers or Briefs.
Thank you for sharing your story. It takes amazing courage to share this type of experience with others and to be able to use what you've been through to help others. I'm thankful that you have been able overcome what you have been through and that your ok today. Hugs!!!
Very brave- Thanks for sharing this with others. Every day will be easier and I believe that as you share it, you embrace it... and as you do this you will digest it better.
You are so strong for doing this Daniel!!
Thank you for sharing your story. Abuse is abuse, it is wrong and there are no excuses. It gets better, it really does.
I know exactly this feeling where you don’t want people to know something but they are finding out.
Daniel, such a moving story!!! I too was abused by someone for a long time. You are brave to do this video. If you feel able, yes, would like to hear about your life growing up and what all you went through. Are you still living in FL??? Has the pastor gotten out of prison?? And how does his family feel about this??? Courious.
yeah, i was molested as a younger boy. i suppressed this episode for many a years. I always thought me being gay had something to do with those experiences. I ended up dating women, and had some bi experiences...and thinking it had to do with being molested. Ended up getting married and thinking that would finally shake off the attraction to men. I confessed to a group of men some time back, and it was the greatest healing experience for me. Daniel, thanks for being brave again, and letting us all know, it wasn't just us, it isn't anything we did, and that we should push 'telling' so that molesters are not so free to causing irreparable harm to so many young minds....
You are such a brave, courageous, strong young man for sharing your story.
You have my respect and gratitude for coming forward and sharing your story with everyone!!!:)
Thank you so much!!!:)
Thank you for the video. It kind of help me understand what people who I know that lived that situation feel. I still can't get through a really close case, it's great to know you're happy now, it gives me hope
Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss other people. There are a lot of weak-minded people in this world. Thanks for telling your story, Daniel. Like you, I am 1in6.
Thanks for sharing. My dad passed away in November 1969 when I was 13 and in January 1970 I was raped for about a year
I don't know how I got out of it but I didn't tell anyone till I was 50 and it still hurts because of what happened to me I tell parents to tell their children that they can say anything to them. Thanks again for sharing
Thank you for having the courage to share this video Daniel! :)
I did what you did many times, write it down and tear it up. I came out this year at 47 and I'm never going back in that closet!
Thank you for sharing your story and for being the person you are. I honestly think the fact that you're able to shut things away probably comes from this happening to you in some way. I am glad that you opened up and have thought about it, because it's important to process. Thank you.
I'm gay, and I'm a practicing Christian who has suffered abuse (though not sexual abuse) at the hands of people who self-identify as Christians. Somehow -- and I'm not even sure how -- I kept my faith; but I also know that a LOT of people who call themselves Christian have done a LOT of damage to other people in the name of Christianity.
It's why I truly believe in "karmic justice": perpetrators, regardless of who they are or how they have perpetrated, might receive justice for what they have done to people in this life; but they will assuredly receive justice for their actions in the next life.
This is an incredibly brave video for you to have made; and that you have been able to move on from this horrible experience with your faith and integrity intact speaks volumes about the strengths you have as a person. You're an inspiration to a LOT of people, Daniel.
Thank you for sharing. It is difficult. I read some of the other posts, and I feel for them, too. I, along with my younger brother, was molested for a long period of time by my dad. I pleaded with mom to make him stop, but she had her own set of problems and wouldn't believe me. So, I grew up afraid of everyone and trusting no one. Because of this, I acted differently and predators recognized my predicament. My childhood doctor and a police officer got me next. I was so scared I thought my pastor was going to molest me, but he just wanted to talk to me to find out what was going on. I couldn't tell him because I didn't know myself. For years, I thought my brain just stuffed all the memories into a little box and shoved it into a remote corner of my mind. My dad got remarried and later my stepmother informed me that my dad molested her three daughters. Everything came flooding back with a vengeance. I was a big, blubbering mess for quite sometime. With the help of therapists trained in these matters, I healed and healed some more. Much later, I had an epiphany that these memories were not hiding away somewhere in some dark recess; I truly believed that Jesus took those memories from me and held onto them because, as a little guy, I could not deal with the pain and would have killed myself. He gave them back when I was able to constructively deal with them. Now, as a teacher, I can see in others their pain. With courage, I calmly talk and start the ball rolling for their healing, too. All of you who write these posts have a special key to helping others. It is hard and gut-wrenching at times, but you can do it. You are not alone.
The bravery you showed in sharing this story, I applaud you, it's something you grow from and don't let define you, I am so happy to hear that you are doing better. Never let the bad thoughts cloud your head, just let them fade away, you have so much going for you and it is amazing to watch how you have healed from this traumatic experience
Thank you so much for your comment. It means a lot
danielxmiller you're welcome, thanks for sharing again
Thank you for sharing a difficult time in your life. We can all learn from how you coped with this situation. No child deserves to have this done to them. We must all be the person a child feels safe to approach and tell about being abused. None of us are as alone as we think we are.
I was sexually and physically abused as a child. I have horrible insomnia and ptsd from it. You're not alone!
Well done for coming out and sharing something so personal to yourself you have a really amazing light and strength.....i hope the person in question who has effected you gets what they deserve. Im sure it has been a difficult journey. I have suffered very much the same as in blocking out things which needed to be remembered and delt with. You are a beautiful human being.
Daniel, it takes a man to be able to talk about the abuse that happened to you. I commend you for this video and feel horrible for you. If you want to talk about it just ask anyone and I would think anyone would. Continue to be who you are and I wish for nothing but the best for you. Also I love your videos, keep up the good work young man.
You probably will never see this comment, but I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart because your story has inspired me so much, and I feel like now, after almost 11 years I can tell my parents what happened to me. ❤️
All i gotta say is brave of you. And 1/6 guys and 1/4 girls...
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS HEARTFELT TALK.. I CAN RELATE
Thank you Kenneth