What has helped me the most is making a wish list, and reviewing it every few months. If an item is on the list 6 months to 1 year later, only then will I buy it. A lot of times an item I was so excited over, I lost interest in , and end up crossing it off of my list. This has kept me from making expensive impulse mistakes.
I feel like social media makes us want more. When I scroll on my feed, everyone's unboxing Chanel almost every week. Birthdays or other occasions are consist of having a huge shopping haul. It always seems like everyone is living the life of a millionnaire on an employee salary (non-exec level). And for people who aren't living that kind of life, it feels like you are the outcast because you don't do it. It seems weird. And yet, you read the news with lots of people in debt, jobless or does not have enough savings. 😕
My shopping increased during COVID. I use to travel and sheer boredom set in and I filled it in with shopping. I also spent more time watching influencers and found myself caught up in the luxury lifestyle. I like these videos, it brings me back to earth.
I’m definitely in a stage of my life where I just want, want, want! To a certain extent, I feel like it’s okay because I am so young and I want to be carefree and selfish for as long as I can💕 But I also want to know how to be more disciplined with certain desires. Sometimes I’ll hold off on buying something to see if I still desire it weeks/months later.
I feel like it's nowadays mostly a problem of influencers and social media. This flex culture is incredibly damaging. Overconsumption and shopping addiction shouldn't be portrayed as normal, yet it often is. Influencers buying 8 luxury bags at once are considered goals. They can literally deduct those costs as business expenses, while their viewers try to emulate them and go into debt trying to keep up...
Tips from the video: 3 Steps To Wanting Less and Finding Joy From Doing It 1. Identify the reasons you keep wanting more and more -Distraction? Coping mechanism? Need for validation? -What is affecting your relationship with material things? -Seek professional counseling/help if necessary to find out why. 2. Identify your “Why” or motivation -Why do you want to own less or spend less? To save money? Flexibility to travel, career break? Have more space in your home? More freedom of your time? -What is your mission? 3. Declutter -Curate your items. Only keep items you use -Protect your clear space Don’t give in to instant gratification. Reprogram and train your mind. Be intentional with your spending. It’s empowering to be mindful, balance is key.
I love the feeling when I decide not to buy anything and the joy I get out of it 🤗 Ten years ago that wasn't the case at all. I'm happy that I've managed to train my mind to want less and be totally content with that.
I’m always shocked by the fact that I declutter my wardrobe and bring a big garbage bag filled with clothes to charities and still… my wardrobe isn’t “empty”, it still feels full 😅 Really puts into perspective how much stuff I own
I love your idea of spending time in Malaysia with your family; your little boy would truly benefit from this experience. Make it happen Eileen; I know you'll find a way! This year your channel (and career) have changed direction.......and grown.....all positive steps and the right decision (in my opinion). Let's hope 2022 is as kind and prosperous to you. Wishing you and your family all the very best ❤️ Keep up the good work Eileen!
I love your content. I’m at a point in my life where the idea of luxury minimalism is very appealing to me. And I have to say, there isn’t a lot of information around this topic online. I guess that’s because many people think that “luxury” and “minimalism” cannot go hand in hand, but you’re a perfect example of how to make this work. Thank you for your wonderful, inspiring and very informative videos. Have a great day!
I really like the concept of “wanting to” have less. But there’s an internal battle going on. I love, love, love all my things. I also love getting new things, yet my space is overflowing, it cannot contain all that I own. My dilemma is real. I have decluttered so much already, the charity shops are doing very well out of me lol!!
Every time you want to buy a luxury item, double the amount it costs by making a donation to a local charity for the same amount. That makes the item twice as valuable to you and you will automatically use better judgment before you buy anything.
Absolutely I agree with you. I am on my journey to stopping spending money. I cut my credit cards. I am planning to start therapy. I am spending to escape from my deppression and anxiety
I love your channel bc it makes me more mindful of spending. My low buy challenge start in 2018-2019. Now, I’m more mindful of buying items, but when it comes to handbags it doesn’t work. I have been waiting to see this video, bc I bought a couple of handbags this month. I will most likely return many as I have figured out which ones I like.
There Are so many things I've seen recently that I must have. I placed some of them in my cart.... shopped around. At the end, I returned all the things. I don't know why I enjoy buying things, so all I can do is take one day at a time. Thanks Eileen for your helpful videos.🌺
Thank you for sharing your wisdom! I always feel like I toggle between wanting to sell everything and then wanting to buy just one more luxury item. I aspire to be more intentional with what I own and appreciate your recommendations on how to truly want less, for good. Keep the videos coming!!
Love the Wear what makes you feel great. At the end of the day, it is still you who's wearing the clothes so whatever it is your wearing, as long as your comfortable in it and it makes you feel great, it will give you that vibrant look that not only you the wearer will feel good about it but also those who can see you will be able to feel that same good vibes, as it radiates your positivity to those around you. What a great content and video as always. 🙂
Your videos have helped me so much. I have only a voucher of items on my wishlist for 2022. It will be pretty much a low buy year for me next year. Love your soothing voice.
Just the right video I needed right now. TY Eileen for posting this. I’m struggling with being a compulsive shopper. I’m doing the “inner work” of trying to save-and only shopping once a year or Mother’s Day lol and it’s really the hardest thing I ever had to do. 😩 sigh.
I Greed and since I have stopped buying so much I feel free. I am no longer a prisoner of my closet. I can find items and my closet is organized. I didn't use half of the luxury items I purchased.
I know a lady whom has 300k worth of bags. When she got pregnant as a single mother, she gave up all these nonsense. Childcare is expensive. Yes intentional spending is the way to go but trust me, all these interest in luxury items will plateau once u reach a certain stage.
Hello dear i have missed you so much.. i watched all the videos to keep up with all the topics . The way you present is great i enjoy every video .. i wish you a happy new year in advance with your beautiful family. I have spent so much this year on gold .. i have a soft spot for gold sets and I can't seem to control it .. sometimes i feel like a dworf from the hobbit movie where they love and collect gold in their mountains 😂 ! I stopped purchasing bags for now.
Greetings from Malaysia too Eileen. Glad that someone is doing well overseas and is from this country. Yeah is really not easy after staying abroad for so long to return if you have commitment there to fulfill. But hopefully one day you can. Thanks for sharing.
I want a lot and buy a lot more than I have the chance to actually wear or carry them. I have bought a lot less than in the recent years. Still.. some work need to be done here too 😆
Word of wisdom, social media need more ppl like you 🤩
You're too kind, thank you xx
What has helped me the most is making a wish list, and reviewing it every few months. If an item is on the list 6 months to 1 year later, only then will I buy it. A lot of times an item I was so excited over, I lost interest in , and end up crossing it off of my list. This has kept me from making expensive impulse mistakes.
I agree! Sometimes simply being patient is all we need xx
I feel like social media makes us want more. When I scroll on my feed, everyone's unboxing Chanel almost every week. Birthdays or other occasions are consist of having a huge shopping haul. It always seems like everyone is living the life of a millionnaire on an employee salary (non-exec level). And for people who aren't living that kind of life, it feels like you are the outcast because you don't do it. It seems weird. And yet, you read the news with lots of people in debt, jobless or does not have enough savings. 😕
My shopping increased during COVID. I use to travel and sheer boredom set in and I filled it in with shopping. I also spent more time watching influencers and found myself caught up in the luxury lifestyle. I like these videos, it brings me back to earth.
Thanks for your support xx
I’m definitely in a stage of my life where I just want, want, want! To a certain extent, I feel like it’s okay because I am so young and I want to be carefree and selfish for as long as I can💕 But I also want to know how to be more disciplined with certain desires. Sometimes I’ll hold off on buying something to see if I still desire it weeks/months later.
It's nice to have the option to acquire, but it's also empowering to be mindful-- I think balance is the key xx
I feel like it's nowadays mostly a problem of influencers and social media. This flex culture is incredibly damaging. Overconsumption and shopping addiction shouldn't be portrayed as normal, yet it often is. Influencers buying 8 luxury bags at once are considered goals. They can literally deduct those costs as business expenses, while their viewers try to emulate them and go into debt trying to keep up...
Tips from the video:
3 Steps To Wanting Less and Finding Joy From Doing It
1. Identify the reasons you keep wanting more and more
-Distraction? Coping mechanism? Need for validation?
-What is affecting your relationship with material things?
-Seek professional counseling/help if necessary to find out why.
2. Identify your “Why” or motivation
-Why do you want to own less or spend less?
To save money? Flexibility to travel, career break? Have more space in your home? More freedom of your time?
-What is your mission?
3. Declutter
-Curate your items. Only keep items you use
-Protect your clear space
Don’t give in to instant gratification. Reprogram and train your mind.
Be intentional with your spending.
It’s empowering to be mindful, balance is key.
I love the feeling when I decide not to buy anything and the joy I get out of it 🤗 Ten years ago that wasn't the case at all. I'm happy that I've managed to train my mind to want less and be totally content with that.
I feel you! It's so liberating to desire less xx
I’m always shocked by the fact that I declutter my wardrobe and bring a big garbage bag filled with clothes to charities and still… my wardrobe isn’t “empty”, it still feels full 😅 Really puts into perspective how much stuff I own
I'm still curating my wardrobe but each time i let go of something, the less I feel I need xx
Lol same! No matter how much I take out there is still so much left!
I love your idea of spending time in Malaysia with your family; your little boy would truly benefit from this experience. Make it happen Eileen; I know you'll find a way! This year your channel (and career) have changed direction.......and grown.....all positive steps and the right decision (in my opinion). Let's hope 2022 is as kind and prosperous to you. Wishing you and your family all the very best ❤️ Keep up the good work Eileen!
That's the plan! Thank you so much for your continuing support and well wishes, have a wonderful 2022 xx
I love your content. I’m at a point in my life where the idea of luxury minimalism is very appealing to me. And I have to say, there isn’t a lot of information around this topic online. I guess that’s because many people think that “luxury” and “minimalism” cannot go hand in hand, but you’re a perfect example of how to make this work.
Thank you for your wonderful, inspiring and very informative videos.
Have a great day!
I really like the concept of “wanting to” have less. But there’s an internal battle going on. I love, love, love all my things. I also love getting new things, yet my space is overflowing, it cannot contain all that I own. My dilemma is real. I have decluttered so much already, the charity shops are doing very well out of me lol!!
Nice things can be so tempting sometimes! I hope this video has helped you in the slightest way xx
Every time you want to buy a luxury item, double the amount it costs by making a donation to a local charity for the same amount. That makes the item twice as valuable to you and you will automatically use better judgment before you buy anything.
That sounds like a great suggestion xx
Thank u for keeping us grounded ❤️🤗
Thank you for your support xx
Absolutely I agree with you. I am on my journey to stopping spending money. I cut my credit cards. I am planning to start therapy. I am spending to escape from my deppression and anxiety
That resonates with me too. I hope you are able to get to the root of it all.
Thank you for sharing xx
I love your channel bc it makes me more mindful of spending. My low buy challenge start in 2018-2019. Now, I’m more mindful of buying items, but when it comes to handbags it doesn’t work. I have been waiting to see this video, bc I bought a couple of handbags this month. I will most likely return many as I have figured out which ones I like.
Sending you a lot of positive energy xx
I love your videos so much, Eileen. I have become much more intentional, because of your channel. Thank you
That's so lovely to hear, thank you! xx
There Are so many things I've seen recently that I must have. I placed some of them in my cart.... shopped around. At the end, I returned all the things. I don't know why I enjoy buying things, so all I can do is take one day at a time. Thanks Eileen for your helpful videos.🌺
thank you for your support xx
Thank you for sharing your wisdom! I always feel like I toggle between wanting to sell everything and then wanting to buy just one more luxury item. I aspire to be more intentional with what I own and appreciate your recommendations on how to truly want less, for good. Keep the videos coming!!
Always appreciate your content, Eileen. Pulls me back little by little. 💕
I'm so glad! Thank you xx
Love the Wear what makes you feel great. At the end of the day, it is still you who's wearing the clothes so whatever it is your wearing, as long as your comfortable in it and it makes you feel great, it will give you that vibrant look that not only you the wearer will feel good about it but also those who can see you will be able to feel that same good vibes, as it radiates your positivity to those around you. What a great content and video as always. 🙂
Your videos have helped me so much. I have only a voucher of items on my wishlist for 2022. It will be pretty much a low buy year for me next year. Love your soothing voice.
I'm joining you for low-buy in 2022 too xx
Always good words of wisdom.
Thank you so much, Renee xx
Just the right video I needed right now. TY Eileen for posting this. I’m struggling with being a compulsive shopper. I’m doing the “inner work” of trying to save-and only shopping once a year or Mother’s Day lol and it’s really the hardest thing I ever had to do. 😩 sigh.
Sending you lots of positive energy xx
Know your why! Great point, for many things in lifw
Love Malaysia! 💕
Me too 😇
History of my life, wish you give workshops
I Greed and since I have stopped buying so much I feel free. I am no longer a prisoner of my closet. I can find items and my closet is organized. I didn't use half of the luxury items I purchased.
What exactly you did not use?For me personally, I got some scarves from Hermès and don’t wear them.🤷♀️
Thanks for sharing!! It's liberating to want less for sure xx
Hi Eileen! I’m from Malaysia too :D Thank u for ur wise advice!
Hello fellow Malaysian ❤️
This was outstanding👏👏👏If we all stay clear on our WHY of just about everything, we can find the possible faulty belief & we can change❣️✌️
100% agree! xx
Great topic and helpful tips. Declutter is another great option into becoming minimalist.
Absolutely!! xx
I know a lady whom has 300k worth of bags. When she got pregnant as a single mother, she gave up all these nonsense. Childcare is expensive. Yes intentional spending is the way to go but trust me, all these interest in luxury items will plateau once u reach a certain stage.
That sounds like quite a collection of bags! Glad to hear she's on the path of intentional shopping now xx
Hello dear i have missed you so much.. i watched all the videos to keep up with all the topics . The way you present is great i enjoy every video .. i wish you a happy new year in advance with your beautiful family.
I have spent so much this year on gold .. i have a soft spot for gold sets and I can't seem to control it .. sometimes i feel like a dworf from the hobbit movie where they love and collect gold in their mountains 😂 ! I stopped purchasing bags for now.
Wishing you a lovely Christmas and a wonderful 2022 xx
Greetings from Malaysia too Eileen. Glad that someone is doing well overseas and is from this country. Yeah is really not easy after staying abroad for so long to return if you have commitment there to fulfill. But hopefully one day you can. Thanks for sharing.
Hello fellow Malaysian 🧚♀️ I'm really missing the Malaysian food especially xx
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Welcome to our amazing community xx
I want a lot and buy a lot more than I have the chance to actually wear or carry them. I have bought a lot less than in the recent years. Still.. some work need to be done here too 😆
You can do it! Sending you a lot of positive energy xx
I need this
I am getting out of Home things I don't use much...so much stuff! lol But worth it. Good advice dear Eileen👑 Terima Kasih ✍🏻🛡️🅿️rince
Love that! xx
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Hi from Kuala Lumpur 👋 Hopefully you can bring your son to Malaysia soon ❤
Hopefully soon! xx