Wow! Well that answers a lot of questions. Also allows me to see and act on red flags in the future. “you will never heal that longing in a romantic relationship because you're not looking for romantic love you're looking for parental love to fill an empty hole that either mom or dad or both didn't fill and that can be healed.”
When we attract toxic people into our lives, we have got to take a close at ourselves. When we works on ourselves and deal with our own stuff. We will clearly be able discern healthy and unhealthy people. True genuine change starts with us.
I pray this young girl gets the support you mentioned. I suffered those longings in relationships almost my whole life. It's sad. I didn't have the resources she had when I was young. Not one ever turned out good. Now I'm closer to 60 and happy single. Took me awhile to learn.
Thanks for sharing this Brittany. I’m going through something kinda similar… 6 years on and off and I cut it off for good… it’s not easy so thank you for sharing babe, you sound like a wonderful woman, You can find someone better who will love you and have a healthy relationship if you just get right with the Lord. 🙏🏼
'And it can be healed.' This statement gives me hope and reminds me that my hope is in Jesus. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. He is able to heal the hurting.
Amen! Thank you again Dr. Cloud. I needed to hear that because that has been one of my problems, along with not having self esteem and feeling guilty if I " so called complain" ; when I only need to voice my feelings.
I really hope that girl gets a grip on herself, she is allowing herself to be stuck in this hurtful pattern she’s in and she’s the only one suffering because of it….
He doesn’t love you if this stops with him and move on. There is someone out this who is dying to be with you and loves you. Get out and look for that guy instead of wining about a looser!!
I was bound to toxic relationships for 10 years too like her (Just released from it this year) just not with one guy ! Jesus has been repairing my heart with your book Dr. Cloud, the bible and prayer and worship. 🙌🏾 I gave God a yes! And said no to fantasizes, sexual immorality, obsessive thoughts, longing, emotional abuse, manipulation, demons agendas overall. It wasn’t easy and hasn’t been easy but God is so faithful and good and she can get out of this cycle too in Jesus name!
omg if this lady was my friend i would've hung up the phone at ''the baby wasn't planned''.......really and who cares, he's some else's problem now not yours. omg you want to have a child with a moron....
Hahahaha.... Back when I was a caring good man, no one wanted me. NOW I am happily married with 2 kids. Women are funny. "Indifference makes the difference"
where do u find healing communities. ne oklahoma, churches here do not do outside the church groups, CR and UR recovery groups are not relevant to, i saw your group video from 10 years ago , is that still functioning? i am willing to host in my home but how do u find ppl authentic, safe, and willing to commit to one another, like u said ladies groups dont heal manliness gaps, thanks,
12:10 "We repeat the class until we learn the lesson the class is trying to teach us. And the class shows up in human skin."
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Wow! Well that answers a lot of questions. Also allows me to see and act on red flags in the future. “you will never heal that longing
in a romantic relationship
because you're not looking for romantic
love you're looking for parental love
to fill an empty hole
that either mom or dad or both didn't
fill
and that can be healed.”
When we attract toxic people into our lives, we have got to take a close at ourselves. When we works on ourselves and deal with our own stuff. We will clearly be able discern healthy and unhealthy people. True genuine change starts with us.
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I'm glad I'm not a therapist - I think I'd cry day and night just listening to some of these things ...
Self confidence issue. Get counseling and break it once for all the toxic relationship. Believe me people don’t change!!!
I pray this young girl gets the support you mentioned. I suffered those longings in relationships almost my whole life. It's sad. I didn't have the resources she had when I was young. Not one ever turned out good. Now I'm closer to 60 and happy single. Took me awhile to learn.
Me too 😢
I’m right there with you….no more excuses to be in relationships that make me feel terrible about myself
Thank God for giving Dr. Cloud this wisdom..
So good! I feel like I'm sitting in a counseling session. This is something I am learning to heal from as well ❤
Fantastic info! Thank you Dr. Cloud.
Thanks for sharing this Brittany. I’m going through something kinda similar… 6 years on and off and I cut it off for good… it’s not easy so thank you for sharing babe, you sound like a wonderful woman, You can find someone better who will love you and have a healthy relationship if you just get right with the Lord. 🙏🏼
🔥 Eye opening!!! So true. will be 67 this summer and just now learning how to identify and deal with the root cause of multiple toxic marriages. 😢
Wow. Introspection really is key. I’m so glad she was strong enough to move on and miss out on the toxicity!
'And it can be healed.' This statement gives me hope and reminds me that
my hope is in Jesus. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. He is able to heal the hurting.
Amen! Thank you again Dr. Cloud. I needed to hear that because that has been one of my problems, along with not having self esteem and feeling guilty if I " so called complain" ; when I only need to voice my feelings.
This was brilliant!!!
This was so helpful Dr. Cloud ⛅️
This is a very very good message- I needed this. I am taking this into my therapy
I really hope that girl gets a grip on herself, she is allowing herself to be stuck in this hurtful pattern she’s in and she’s the only one suffering because of it….
The guy isn't suffering he's moved on. So can she!
This is an example of the pearls I want to share with someone in a similar situation.
I need to heal my parental wounds.
Thank you Dr. Cloud!
Attracted to this problem. WOW, yes. A great question I will be asking myself.
Nicely done!
He doesn’t love you if this stops with him and move on. There is someone out this who is dying to be with you and loves you. Get out and look for that guy instead of wining about a looser!!
I was bound to toxic relationships for 10 years too like her (Just released from it this year) just not with one guy !
Jesus has been repairing my heart with your book Dr. Cloud, the bible and prayer and worship. 🙌🏾
I gave God a yes! And said no to fantasizes, sexual immorality, obsessive thoughts, longing, emotional abuse, manipulation, demons agendas overall. It wasn’t easy and hasn’t been easy but God is so faithful and good and she can get out of this cycle too in Jesus name!
Amen
What an amazing testimony!
I’m still living my nightmare can’t wait to I get the strength to leave
So very helpful. Thank you.
👏👏👏 For this doctor!
This is amazing 😢
Good luck prayers going out to you.
Where can you find a healing community?
Celebrate Recovery seems to be one
Thank you!!
Excellent.
Girl, you dodged a bullet ! End of story
Similar to my situation, but my dad wasnt the trigger.
How do I heal from a mother that was needy. I keep repeating the pattern, accepting needy men.
Wow!
Wonderful!
Where would you suggest that Brittany should go?
How do I walk awaý from a toxic person when I am 70 years old and dependant on his finances. I cannot support myself..
You look so good! Is knee surgery done??
Amen amen🎉
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omg if this lady was my friend i would've hung up the phone at ''the baby wasn't planned''.......really and who cares, he's some else's problem now not yours. omg you want to have a child with a moron....
Those dang magnetic waves……..
Hahahaha.... Back when I was a caring good man, no one wanted me. NOW I am happily married with 2 kids.
Women are funny.
"Indifference makes the difference"
where do u find healing communities. ne oklahoma, churches here do not do outside the church groups, CR and UR recovery groups are not relevant to, i saw your group video from 10 years ago , is that still functioning?
i am willing to host in my home but how do u find ppl authentic, safe, and willing to commit to one another, like u said ladies groups dont heal manliness gaps, thanks,
If it applies, Al-Anon, CODA, Divorce Care and Grief Share are great resources. Lina Abujamra has a good online group also.
Church communities with small groups can be a solace also.