@@uptoolate2793 43 years next September. First 22 were before we were allowed to marry. A relative commented:"You're taking a big step." I replied "No, we're not. It's been two decades already, we're just being acknowledged for the first time."
I’m a travel nurse that moved from SC to St. Louis two years ago. I’ve been through a lot of heartbreak throughout that time and I resonated a lot with this video. You truly don’t know what a man’s intentions are until it’s too late.
Congratulations on finding yourself without the drinks, and happy for you that you see the whole marriage exp like you do now. Im 100% sure a good guy like you, are gonna end up in a good and happy mariage. ☺️ Hugs from Norway 🇳🇴🏳️🌈
Dylan I respect you & admire you for your truthfully honest, kind and REAL explanation of what you felt and experienced after your divorce. ✨✌️✨ & 💛 always to you and all of those who helped you know and realize that you’re the winner⚡️💪🏻 in this situation.
I'm very blessed, my X husband and I love each other as family. He is 30 years younger than I am, and our "needs" were incompatible. I couldn't give him the physicality that he needed, so I blessed him to find someone else, and they finally moved in together. We divorced mostly for financial reasons (mine) but own our home together (I have no one else to leave it to and he shared in the expenses). The most important thing is to not get caught up in the "blame game" because we are all Children of God. We come into each others lives to learn things from our "othes" and if it sticks, great, and if not, that person was just a steppingt stone to our next "love." PS, I am from central Florida, have family in NE Georgia, North Carolina and Alabama. My X husband's partner is from Mobile, we all live in LA.
What a rollercoaster ride. I sure hope you can keep the threads you're pulling back together again. Sometimes we take things for granted and that result may be the outcome.
Nobody's perfect, Dylan (I myself am many thousand miles away from perfection). We just try to be a bit better every day and that's enough. Ìn my view, the best way to move on is just to help other people.
Getting ready to go through one of my own after three years. One day he decides he wants to explore. I’m not opposed to getting married again at a later time, but it’s gonna take awhile.
I don't think he suddenly decided one day that he wanted to explore. He probably had it on his mind for a long time. At least he decided to be honest with you (or so I'm assuming). Many unfortunately go exploring and keep quiet about it.
I was in a 20 yr relationship, he was cheating on me the last 5 and I absolutely didn't believe it and had to see proof, he admitted it. I never once cheated on him, no drugs, alcohol, etc...a very clean and simple life...the guy he decided to leave me for dumped him immediately and he wanted me back and I said no.... yes, they can be cheating on you and you won't know it and I'm very smart.
Wooooooow what an interesting story..... could you share more with us?It's interesting and shocking at the same time how everything changes in such a short time, and of course you didn't have time to adapt and you grieved in your own way. I mean, I live in Europe and we have gay marriage here (it's called a little differently and even though we're a 90% Catholic country, there are differences between the straight and gay community) But you're a wonderful guy, you seem positive through the video and you'll definitely find a new love story soon. 😊
Thank you for sharing and being so open. Be safe in that South Carolina snow. I know no one knows what to do in it when they’re driving in it. So be careful.
Hi Dylan. I am very sorry to hear about your divorce but am happy about your attitude and positive outlook. I want you to know that gay marriages do work. I have been lucky to have my best friend as my husband. We have been together for 17 years and married for 15. It is not always easy but takes a lot of patience on understanding on both sides. I’m not criticizing you and your experiences just thinking about me and mine. I have faith that you will find that someone for you because you sound like a really great guy. Stay positive and happy. Hope to hear more from you. Just subscribed.
So powerful and lovely is your positivity,emotion and realness in talking about your experiences and how you look at life. I enjoy listening to you and wish you continued success in all your journeys. Keep your loving and caring personality always.
You have the right attitude. I’ve been there, done that and survived. Furniture and stuff are just things and can be replaced. In a way it’s a good thing, as you don’t take those memories with you. Good on you for getting some mental health support. It’s when you have resolved the last relationship and have fully moved on. That is when you’re ready to start dating again. This time you know what are red flags and green flags. Good luck and all the best from Melbourne Australia
The process was exhausting and horrible because of domestic abuse. It took us 22 months and the Marshall to get him out of house. I walked away from a three bedroom fully furnished home. To get out of the domestic violence. In the house which my family owned. Brutal brutal brutal I honestly don’t think I will ever ever ever get involved with anyone again. I don’t trust anyone after being involved with that narcissistic abuser. I made the judge laugh during my divorce proceeding. Because my husband did not respond or show up to anything. When the judge signed off on the documents, I just kind of giggled and he asked what so funny, I said your honor my family has donated obscene amounts to marriage equality. But mostly I’m free and now I know what everybody else was talking about, honestly, during that entire time I’ve not once seen the #GayDivorce. He laughed and said, it looks like money well spent, I think it will be just fine be just fine.
@@Kenneth-p6j I suspect he did get bored, that part is correct. The 20 year age difference, 46 and 26, probably didn’t help. He has a lot of growing up to do.
Hi Dylan. I hate that it did not work out for you. I am in a marriage right now. Came out to her and wanted a divorce. Little over four years later she still does not want to divorce me. She is in a nursing home, bed ridden, can not walk. I am told if we divorce she can take everything that I got. I have decided to move on with my life now without a divorce. I am gay, loneily, and not in love with her anymore. Her family has passed and she is scared to let me go. She is two hours from our hometown. She married me to get out of her mothers and dads house is the main reason. I have met someone and their work is taking him to South Africa it maybe 6 months to two years that I will be waiting on him. He leaves tomorrow on a company jet. I wish I could go with him. I have so many doctors to see every few months. I just can not go. Even though I feel for you getting a divorce, I feel worse for me being in a marriage that I can not get out of to be with someone I love.😭😭😭😭😭
Hey Dylan me and my husband are possibly divorcing after 15 yrs We were married and living in Canada . How did you go about the divorce? and how long did it take you to get a divorce .
My guess is that he was cheating on you. a very similar thing happened to me, and that's what was going on. he was hooking up and got depressed because he was hiding it and lying.
I was married 25 years and 2 kids I filed for divorce cost me $33,000 and ended up with 70% of our assets because she didn’t want to pay me support. I came out met a man right away my first and only and been together 23 years now
I understand where you’re coming from. But now that it has been a little bit wanting closure is natural, it’s up to him but try to reach out to him now and see if he will meet you at a mutual location and just talk hopefully now he will be able to tell you why he was unhappy,even though it sounds like you have gotten your life together now listen to the tone of your voice in this video. You both this meeting for final closure.
Bottom line is gay guys can be so shallow. I've seen many guys dump a great guy bx they want a guy with a bigger tool, it's the never ending fantasy to find that masculine, hot, "Pringle can" size guy. I was in a 20 yr relationship and he was searching the last 5 and finally found one bigger and that's when we ended, but the other one dumped him immediately, he has been trying to get me back for 5 years, but it won't happen. I'm happier now than ever being single 5 years. The two need to be similar size wise and on the looks scale...live together 5 years minimum before marriage. Life with someone needs to focus on sharing dogs, hobbies, stability, security, etc, not size hungry, cheating, lack of trust and no integrity... also both need to equally contribute to the bills, or one will start to resent the other one.. Also absolutely no drugs and no alcohol...share a clean happy life...
Dude I love your teeth, I had to get crowns for my 2 front teeth years ago and I asked my Dnst to make them just a little longer then they should be, not bucked teeth, but just a little. He said no I’d look like bugs bunny and to trust him. They’re fine now…perfect. But I wish I would have stuck to my guns. I’d luv to have teeth just like yours….not perfect but sexy as hell on a guy.
The downfall of the relationship was him not being able to speak up? Interesting choice of phrasing. Isn't it possible that he did try to communicate, but you weren't very receptive? Or that you fostered an environment that made communication with you difficult? I'm not accusing you (I've never even seen any of your other videos), but the sureness in your voice that he was the one completely at fault is, to me, a red flag.
There are so many gay married men in my city that are going thru rough patches and even opening their marriage up, and it seems to me that it is due to sexuall compatibilty more than anything. Like two tops or two bottoms. I feel like sexual compatibility for gay men is pretty important i suppose
@@eusaboston oh I'm the one being rude? That's why I'm not part the community any more. God forbid any one else have different opinion. And god forbid if anyone is rude or hurts someones feelings. My comment wasnt directed to anyone other than the creator of the video. Ive never been married but I wanted to know how much sexual compatibility played a role in his relationship. This is a serious discussion amongst adults. Perhaps you kids should go find a safe space or something while we talk and discuss about serious matters. Thanks.
@ sexual compatibility plays no role when there’s love involved , many couples split and comparability has zero to do with it . Many people are comparable and still get divorced , I think it’s something bigger than just being sexually compatible
Marriages ought to have expiry dates that couples mutually agree on. They may extend it when it expires and agree on a new expiry date. Or they may end it at expiry. An expiry date will motivate those who want to extend the marriage to be a good partner. An expiry date allows couples who don’t want an extension to plan ahead of the time and exit from the relationship in an orderly manner, according to terms that have been mutually agreed on.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 33 years next month (February 2025). We don’t believe in same sex marriage and aren’t interested in a civil union. So far it’s worked out for us... We live in New Jersey and are moving to Florida for retirement.
I would never marry another guy. I've turned my life around. I'm Christian now. And i have dropped the gay label from myself. I my life is better with a faith in the good lord. I'm not lonely anymore with God in my life.
Just stumbled across this video/channel tonight. I'm 52 years old. I've seen a huge change in the gay lifestyle/culture. I have not identified with the rainbow culture since 2008. The gay culture is some of the most toxic, narcissistic, judgmental and racist that I have ever encountered.
fwb is so much better.relationships never work out. being in touch or around someone 24/7 is too much. fwb's is the way to be and meet lots of people. i enjoy it a lot.😘
Dylan you and your ex I think needed some type of counseling. All couples go through sht, so I feel you guys needed a counseling to sort things out. Seems like you two rushed to divorce.....bad. Your suppose to work things out before quiting try working it out.
I'm ten days sober today.
#NewYearNewMe
Congrats on your 10 days achievement. Give yourself credit for it and just build on that everyday and you will be doing great. Blessings and love.
@samuelworley7300 thank you!
GOOD JOB. That's awesome.
Keep da plug n da jug ...😮la Jolla CA..
Not all marriages fail. Many gay couples stay together after many years. ❤
Yup, 23 years and counting. It's not always easy.
Yes many but mass majority dont
@@uptoolate2793 43 years next September. First 22 were before we were allowed to marry. A relative commented:"You're taking a big step." I replied "No, we're not. It's been two decades already, we're just being acknowledged for the first time."
I’m a travel nurse that moved from SC to St. Louis two years ago. I’ve been through a lot of heartbreak throughout that time and I resonated a lot with this video. You truly don’t know what a man’s intentions are until it’s too late.
Congratulations on finding yourself without the drinks, and happy for you that you see the whole marriage exp like you do now.
Im 100% sure a good guy like you, are gonna end up in a good and happy mariage. ☺️
Hugs from Norway 🇳🇴🏳️🌈
Thank you for shareing, it made my day with those deep reflections.
Dylan I respect you & admire you for your truthfully honest, kind and REAL explanation of what you felt and experienced after your divorce. ✨✌️✨ & 💛 always to you and all of those who helped you know and realize that you’re the winner⚡️💪🏻 in this situation.
I'm very blessed, my X husband and I love each other as family. He is 30 years younger than I am, and our "needs" were incompatible. I couldn't give him the physicality that he needed, so I blessed him to find someone else, and they finally moved in together. We divorced mostly for financial reasons (mine) but own our home together (I have no one else to leave it to and he shared in the expenses). The most important thing is to not get caught up in the "blame game" because we are all Children of God. We come into each others lives to learn things from our "othes" and if it sticks, great, and if not, that person was just a steppingt stone to our next "love."
PS, I am from central Florida, have family in NE Georgia, North Carolina and Alabama. My X husband's partner is from Mobile, we all live in LA.
What a rollercoaster ride. I sure hope you can keep the threads you're pulling back together again. Sometimes we take things for granted and that result may be the outcome.
Nobody's perfect, Dylan (I myself am many thousand miles away from perfection). We just try to be a bit better every day and that's enough. Ìn my view, the best way to move on is just to help other people.
I love your honesty dylan. You're the best! Love your personality.❤
Getting ready to go through one of my own after three years. One day he decides he wants to explore. I’m not opposed to getting married again at a later time, but it’s gonna take awhile.
Trust me he already was exploring
@ while I don’t have hard evidence of that I wouldn’t be surprised.
I don't think he suddenly decided one day that he wanted to explore. He probably had it on his mind for a long time. At least he decided to be honest with you (or so I'm assuming). Many unfortunately go exploring and keep quiet about it.
@ I feel certain he’d been “exploring” for awhile. Only came clean when he got caught with an app on his phone.
I was in a 20 yr relationship, he was cheating on me the last 5 and I absolutely didn't believe it and had to see proof, he admitted it. I never once cheated on him, no drugs, alcohol, etc...a very clean and simple life...the guy he decided to leave me for dumped him immediately and he wanted me back and I said no.... yes, they can be cheating on you and you won't know it and I'm very smart.
Wooooooow what an interesting story..... could you share more with us?It's interesting and shocking at the same time how everything changes in such a short time, and of course you didn't have time to adapt and you grieved in your own way.
I mean, I live in Europe and we have gay marriage here (it's called a little differently and even though we're a 90% Catholic country, there are differences between the straight and gay community)
But you're a wonderful guy, you seem positive through the video and you'll definitely find a new love story soon. 😊
Thank you for sharing and being so open.
Be safe in that South Carolina snow. I know no one knows what to do in it when they’re driving in it. So be careful.
hi Dylan . hope your snow day is a good one. stay warm.
You will be okay! You are a gift from God and may many blessings come your way. Much ❤
Hi Dylan. I am very sorry to hear about your divorce but am happy about your attitude and positive outlook. I want you to know that gay marriages do work. I have been lucky to have my best friend as my husband. We have been together for 17 years and married for 15. It is not always easy but takes a lot of patience on understanding on both sides. I’m not criticizing you and your experiences just thinking about me and mine. I have faith that you will find that someone for you because you sound like a really great guy. Stay positive and happy. Hope to hear more from you. Just subscribed.
So powerful and lovely is your positivity,emotion and realness in talking about your experiences and how you look at life. I enjoy listening to you and wish you continued success in all your journeys. Keep your loving and caring personality always.
You have the right attitude. I’ve been there, done that and survived. Furniture and stuff are just things and can be replaced. In a way it’s a good thing, as you don’t take those memories with you. Good on you for getting some mental health support. It’s when you have resolved the last relationship and have fully moved on. That is when you’re ready to start dating again. This time you know what are red flags and green flags. Good luck and all the best from Melbourne Australia
I believe you'll find happiness , I found mine at 40 since then 30 years have passed and it flows as smoothly as a stream.
Awh brother, I know EXACTLY what you're saying. I'm not even lying, my story is so similar. Wow, brother! I feel you!
Hey buddy I’m in SC too. Love your videos
That breaks my heart. 😭 But as you said, you learned lessons for the next try. 😉And i strongly believe, that you will find the right gentleman 😜
Thanks for sharing your truth...its great ...that you have learned si much about yourself and others as a result...❤😊🎉...I thonk you are awesome..!@
Thank you for all the information. Great video.
This is really sad-but keep trying. I have been with my husband for 28 going on 29 years. Some tough times but keep trying; it is worth it imho
The process was exhausting and horrible because of domestic abuse. It took us 22 months and the Marshall to get him out of house. I walked away from a three bedroom fully furnished home. To get out of the domestic violence. In the house which my family owned. Brutal brutal brutal I honestly don’t think I will ever ever ever get involved with anyone again. I don’t trust anyone after being involved with that narcissistic abuser.
I made the judge laugh during my divorce proceeding. Because my husband did not respond or show up to anything. When the judge signed off on the documents, I just kind of giggled and he asked what so funny, I said your honor my family has donated obscene amounts to marriage equality. But mostly I’m free and now I know what everybody else was talking about, honestly, during that entire time I’ve not once seen the #GayDivorce. He laughed and said, it looks like money well spent, I think it will be just fine be just fine.
He got bored after the honeymoon stage. That’s why it’s not best to marry within three years.
@@themagickalmermaid we were married for 3 years when he left, just after our anniversary
@@governorblackwhy did he leave? Their is two sides to the story, but not all gay marriages fail.
@@Kenneth-p6j I suspect he did get bored, that part is correct. The 20 year age difference, 46 and 26, probably didn’t help. He has a lot of growing up to do.
To be fair, he said he was drinking and saying “hateful things”. That probably had more to do with it.
Most of my ex's we are separated by six feet of dirt .😊
Feel for you my man 😥 Pleased ure off the alcohol. All the best.
This find someone that has the same soul and energy as you for you to enjoy life in peace
Blesss your Heart ❤❤❤❤
Y'all getting the snow we got here in Atlanta Friday morning
Virginia is definitely getting it.
Hi Dylan. I hate that it did not work out for you. I am in a marriage right now. Came out to her and wanted a divorce. Little over four years later she still does not want to divorce me. She is in a nursing home, bed ridden, can not walk. I am told if we divorce she can take everything that I got.
I have decided to move on with my life now without a divorce. I am gay, loneily, and not in love with her anymore. Her family has passed and she is scared to let me go. She is two hours from our hometown. She married me to get out of her mothers and dads house is the main reason.
I have met someone and their work is taking him to South Africa it maybe 6 months to two years that I will be waiting on him. He leaves tomorrow on a company jet. I wish I could go with him. I have so many doctors to see every few months. I just can not go.
Even though I feel for you getting a divorce, I feel worse for me being in a marriage that I can not get out of to be with someone I love.😭😭😭😭😭
Try to love your wife. She needs you and you will be happy later.
How old is your new lover and how old are you?
Oh my God, you are so sweet. Totally in love with you 💖
Your eyes are amazing
Sunshine and green grass in Maine. The weather is crazy.
Hey Dylan me and my husband are possibly divorcing after 15 yrs
We were married and living in Canada .
How did you go about the divorce?
and how long did it take you to get a divorce .
I will be single for life, mostly because no one seems to want me, but also because after you pass 50, dating just doesn't seem to happen. 🤷♂️
My guess is that he was cheating on you. a very similar thing happened to me, and that's what was going on. he was hooking up and got depressed because he was hiding it and lying.
I was surprised by my divorce too. It was horrible.
It took me a long time to process things.
@@davidwoodford1814apologies
Nothing lasts forever. Or rather, nothing good lasts forever. Don't cry because it ended; smile because it happened.
anxious and avoidant attachment styles? been there myself and it's not good for either partner.
I was married 25 years and 2 kids
I filed for divorce cost me $33,000 and ended up with 70% of our assets because she didn’t want to pay me support. I came out met a man right away my first and only and been together 23 years now
I watch a lot of American bloggers, I have never heard your accent before.
I understand where you’re coming from. But now that it has been a little bit wanting closure is natural, it’s up to him but try to reach out to him now and see if he will meet you at a mutual location and just talk hopefully now he will be able to tell you why he was unhappy,even though it sounds like you have gotten your life together now listen to the tone of your voice in this video. You both this meeting for final closure.
You left your pets? Did you rehome them? They are your family!
It sounds like the ex made out like a bandit on possessions.
Bottom line is gay guys can be so shallow. I've seen many guys dump a great guy bx they want a guy with a bigger tool, it's the never ending fantasy to find that masculine, hot, "Pringle can" size guy. I was in a 20 yr relationship and he was searching the last 5 and finally found one bigger and that's when we ended, but the other one dumped him immediately, he has been trying to get me back for 5 years, but it won't happen.
I'm happier now than ever being single 5 years. The two need to be similar size wise and on the looks scale...live together 5 years minimum before marriage.
Life with someone needs to focus on sharing dogs, hobbies, stability, security, etc, not size hungry, cheating, lack of trust and no integrity... also both need to equally contribute to the bills, or one will start to resent the other one..
Also absolutely no drugs and no alcohol...share a clean happy life...
Live and learn. Maybe you will be wiser in your future choices.
❤❤
He sounded like he was a non-confrontational type which sadly they bottle it up. Poor thing
Dude I love your teeth, I had to get crowns for my 2 front teeth years ago and I asked my Dnst to make them just a little longer then they should be, not bucked teeth, but just a little. He said no I’d look like bugs bunny and to trust him. They’re fine now…perfect. But I wish I would have stuck to my guns. I’d luv to have teeth just like yours….not perfect but sexy as hell on a guy.
The downfall of the relationship was him not being able to speak up? Interesting choice of phrasing. Isn't it possible that he did try to communicate, but you weren't very receptive? Or that you fostered an environment that made communication with you difficult? I'm not accusing you (I've never even seen any of your other videos), but the sureness in your voice that he was the one completely at fault is, to me, a red flag.
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This is so full of contradictions. Two sides to every story as well.
Very cute
There are so many gay married men in my city that are going thru rough patches and even opening their marriage up, and it seems to me that it is due to sexuall compatibilty more than anything. Like two tops or two bottoms. I feel like sexual compatibility for gay men is pretty important i suppose
You are wrong, sex is not the main factor for every gay couple. Case by case pal.
@Kenneth-p6j oh I had no idea you lived in my city too.....pal
@@whbjoestop being rude
@@eusaboston oh I'm the one being rude? That's why I'm not part the community any more. God forbid any one else have different opinion. And god forbid if anyone is rude or hurts someones feelings. My comment wasnt directed to anyone other than the creator of the video. Ive never been married but I wanted to know how much sexual compatibility played a role in his relationship. This is a serious discussion amongst adults. Perhaps you kids should go find a safe space or something while we talk and discuss about serious matters. Thanks.
@ sexual compatibility plays no role when there’s love involved , many couples split and comparability has zero to do with it . Many people are comparable and still get divorced , I think it’s something bigger than just being sexually compatible
Sitting home drinking is a no-no. That's how alcoholics are born.
No closure. Sucks.
Marriages ought to have expiry dates that couples mutually agree on. They may extend it when it expires and agree on a new expiry date. Or they may end it at expiry.
An expiry date will motivate those who want to extend the marriage to be a good partner.
An expiry date allows couples who don’t want an extension to plan ahead of the time and exit from the relationship in an orderly manner, according to terms that have been mutually agreed on.
Nice idea.
There's nothing stopping you from implementing that. It may catch on. Or the shortcomings in the idea will come to the surface.
Of course, he's handsome. That voice, his accent, makes him adorable. I can't see him single for long.
I told him I'm available...😮
My boyfriend and I have been together for 33 years next month (February 2025). We don’t believe in same sex marriage and aren’t interested in a civil union. So far it’s worked out for us...
We live in New Jersey and are moving to Florida for retirement.
🙄 Who cares.
Obviously you do or you wouldn’t have responded, hunty!
You're gay and don't believe in gay marriage? Jesus, give me a break
Not every queer person believes in same sex marriage, especially if they are people of the Book.
You left your animals behind?
I’m sorry you divorced but if you’d like, I would like to take you on a date
Nothings up , why did you ask ?
Sounds like crap …….. bud just move on ! You can not move across country without really knowing someone! It never works .
have you thought about seeing a christian counselor
A Christian counselor is not safe for a gay person
A Christian counselor is not safe for a gay person
I would never marry another guy. I've turned my life around. I'm Christian now. And i have dropped the gay label from myself. I my life is better with a faith in the good lord. I'm not lonely anymore with God in my life.
Ok Felicia
😂@@mossion
@@mossionIs that the best of you?
Just stumbled across this video/channel tonight. I'm 52 years old. I've seen a huge change in the gay lifestyle/culture. I have not identified with the rainbow culture since 2008. The gay culture is some of the most toxic, narcissistic, judgmental and racist that I have ever encountered.
@@mossion Hhahahaha................
fwb is so much better.relationships never work out. being in touch or around someone 24/7 is too much. fwb's is the way to be and meet lots of people. i enjoy it a lot.😘
Dylan you and your ex I think needed some type of counseling. All couples go through sht, so I feel you guys needed a counseling to sort things out. Seems like you two rushed to divorce.....bad. Your suppose to work things out before quiting try working it out.